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Speaker 1: Tom buckled On Tight is today's Strawberry Letter. Thank you,

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Speaker 1: my girl, calling as you did is always subject. At

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Speaker 1: least my fiance is honest, all right. Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I'm getting married soon, and I need your advice. My

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Speaker 1: we quickly fell in love. Within six months, he proposed,

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Speaker 1: I called up my bestie and asked her to be

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Speaker 1: and she moved to another state. We've been friends since

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Speaker 1: we were five, and she was dying to meet my fiance.

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Speaker 1: Two weeks ago, she came to town and I decided

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Speaker 1: that my fiance and I would get premarital counseling. The

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Speaker 1: She accused him of flirting with her all night. I

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Speaker 1: it all. I asked my fiance about it, and he

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Speaker 1: but I'm relieved that he's such an honest person. My

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Speaker 1: this has ruined our friendship. Is there any way for

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Speaker 1: me to fix this? Wow, that's what you don't need

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Speaker 1: far as that's concerned. You do have to fix your

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Speaker 1: need to rethink this relationship with your so called man.

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Speaker 1: And your best friend who's been your bestie forever. I'm

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Speaker 1: that's all. He did, all of this behind your back. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: At least, I'm relieved that he's such an honest person.

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Speaker 1: Charley's right. The only reason he being honest is because

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Speaker 1: just relieved that he's such an honest person. Are you crazy? Yeah? Shit?

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