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<v Speaker 1>Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rat An iHeartRadio podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in grub a dub dub

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<v Speaker 2>first scrub of twenty twenty four. That's right, yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>First one, first one. It's a lucky year. Do you

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<v Speaker 1>know that?

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<v Speaker 2>In what way?

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<v Speaker 1>It's a leap year?

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<v Speaker 2>Mmm? So that means people who have leapier birthdays are

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<v Speaker 2>like having a birthday, that they actually have a birthday

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<v Speaker 2>this year. Correct. That's exciting for that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. And it's a lucky year to get married. I

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<v Speaker 1>know this because everybody sent me. There was like a

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<v Speaker 1>meme going around and everybody was sending it to me.

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<v Speaker 1>What did it say that this coming year is a

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<v Speaker 1>lucky year to get married.

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<v Speaker 2>What is a lucky year to get married?

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<v Speaker 1>I think no?

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<v Speaker 2>But what does that mean? Like luck is in like

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<v Speaker 2>you're married, Mary, lucky, blessed?

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<v Speaker 1>Wow?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you and Ali just lucking out and looking out in.

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<v Speaker 1>The blessed life. Wow. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, Happy New Year, everybody. Yes, I feel like this

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<v Speaker 2>year a lot of people. So there's always the excitement

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<v Speaker 2>of like new year.

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<v Speaker 1>Knew me.

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<v Speaker 2>You know why am I gonna change?

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<v Speaker 1>What?

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<v Speaker 2>Am I gonna strive for? This?

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<v Speaker 1>Year.

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<v Speaker 2>But then there's people who are like I get very

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<v Speaker 2>anxious about that pressure of like having to come up

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<v Speaker 2>with new things, Like you know when you're just content

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<v Speaker 2>and you're like, it can just be another day. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>it can just be a great day. No, no, no, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>saying like I saw more people talking about that side

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<v Speaker 2>of it, which I feel like normally it's all like

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<v Speaker 2>all the things we're gonna do and not do and

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<v Speaker 2>blah blah blah. Yeah, but I was like, oh, this

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<v Speaker 2>is interesting because there is this like that in between

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<v Speaker 2>time of Christmas and New Year's there is like that

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<v Speaker 2>you're like, what day is it? I love that personally,

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<v Speaker 2>Like I love the rotting of Like, tell.

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<v Speaker 1>You, I discovered so much about myself in the last

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<v Speaker 1>eight days.

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<v Speaker 2>What'd you discover?

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<v Speaker 1>A lot that I feel like we can get into

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<v Speaker 1>because I know later, you know, a lot and a

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<v Speaker 1>detox that I'm doing great that I think is very interesting.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay maybe to some so, but I feel like we

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<v Speaker 1>should do New Year's a little bit later because don't

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<v Speaker 1>you want to talk about your Christmas?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, we can talk about Christmas. It's great. I

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<v Speaker 2>went to Florida and then to ended up in Louisiana,

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<v Speaker 2>so I got to go see my parents. I love

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<v Speaker 2>seeing my mom's house during Christmas because I normally spend

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<v Speaker 2>Christmas at my sister's house in Louisiana. So I flew

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<v Speaker 2>into Florida to see my parents and it was nicely

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<v Speaker 2>went and had like the lovely dinner, and then my

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<v Speaker 2>two younger sisters flew in. And then the next day

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<v Speaker 2>we drove to another city in Florida, Pensacola, to see

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<v Speaker 2>my brother because he had a new baby in November,

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<v Speaker 2>so they weren't gonna be able to make the drive

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<v Speaker 2>to Louisiana. So we went got to see everybody. My

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<v Speaker 2>dad fell ill and it was very stressful, Like didn't

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<v Speaker 2>fell ill.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like everybody in my life has been sick

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<v Speaker 1>within the last two weeks. I know at some point.

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<v Speaker 2>But let me tell you something. I was researching like

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<v Speaker 2>health smoothies, and I made him this like pineapple, ginger,

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<v Speaker 2>cayenne pepper, like spicy smoothie that's supposed to help with

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<v Speaker 2>like uh if you get the like flim build up.

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<v Speaker 2>Because a lot of people were having this like cough

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<v Speaker 2>that was getting in the lungs. It was really bad.

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<v Speaker 2>Then I was like, we can't have that, and I

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<v Speaker 2>got him to drink it. My dad is not someone

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<v Speaker 2>who would ever drink like a like a shot, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>a health shot. Never, but he was desperate, so he

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<v Speaker 2>started making you know, it lasted about twenty four hours

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<v Speaker 2>and then he was able to you know, power through persevere.

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<v Speaker 2>Persevere drove to Louisiana. Chaos, but so much fun. Got

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<v Speaker 2>to see all my little nieces and nephews and there's

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<v Speaker 2>so many of them, and it's we were saying, like

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<v Speaker 2>it's jarring to go from like a very quiet home,

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<v Speaker 2>you know it's just me, Haley and Phoebe to a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of things happening all at once. It's so fun.

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<v Speaker 2>But it is like I got home and I just

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<v Speaker 2>sat and stared at the TV without it. Yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 2>just in silence.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I get that. It was like that for me

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<v Speaker 1>when I first started dating Robbie, because I went to

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<v Speaker 1>went from like my house was a museum. Everything was

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<v Speaker 1>perfect in its spot, it was quiet, I had background

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<v Speaker 1>music on to my TV like it was.

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<v Speaker 2>Like a spa. Didn't feel lived in.

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<v Speaker 1>Did not feel lived in just the way I like it.

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<v Speaker 1>And I went from that to having two little ones

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<v Speaker 1>running around and it was very jarring at first. But

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<v Speaker 1>now I'm now, I think I'm more used to it.

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<v Speaker 1>And also they're getting to the age where they're really

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<v Speaker 1>into like theirs stuff they're doing on the computer, so

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<v Speaker 1>it's like a little bit different now. But yeah, it

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<v Speaker 1>was very jarring at first.

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<v Speaker 2>Like they had a little a mini basketball goal, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>in one of their rooms, and so the youngest Memphis

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to play basketball, which I mean, I'm huge compared

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<v Speaker 2>to him, so I was like, I'll play on my knees.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm on my knees on the carpet playing basketball

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<v Speaker 2>and I was so sore my knees were Like I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, shoot, I'm getting to that age where like

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sorry, I didn't have need baths to whip out

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<v Speaker 2>just in the midst of the eve. Yeah, but yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>it was. It was really fun. But I do notice

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<v Speaker 2>that my body goes through a shock of I got

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<v Speaker 2>another canker so I think the last podcast we did

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<v Speaker 2>out of canker stor I got another canker store in

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<v Speaker 2>the same place.

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<v Speaker 1>What is up with that?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, so you know, I had discovered that it could

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<v Speaker 2>be caused by sugar, because you remember the last time I

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<v Speaker 2>had one, I was like, I'm not stressed, and typically

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<v Speaker 2>it's caused by stressed or lack of sleep, and I

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<v Speaker 2>wasn't having those. But I did definitely have a lack

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<v Speaker 2>of sleep while I was gone, because I I basically

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<v Speaker 2>woke up at three point thirty to go to the

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<v Speaker 2>airport when I left, and I never really had a

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<v Speaker 2>great night ever. Bound never bounced back, but the knkerstore

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<v Speaker 2>bounced back. It did, and uh, it's just like today

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<v Speaker 2>is probably the day first day since then that I

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<v Speaker 2>don't feel it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yikes.

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<v Speaker 2>And I made it dentist appointment for myself, not knowing

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<v Speaker 2>I was gonna get a kinker sore. I was very

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<v Speaker 2>nervous about that. So I've been to I'm sure they

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<v Speaker 2>know how to, you know, I keep trying. What I

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<v Speaker 2>do is I go to the dentist and then because

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<v Speaker 2>I just hate the process of going to I hate

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<v Speaker 2>just being at the dentist because it's painful to me.

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<v Speaker 2>I never go back to the same dentist because I

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<v Speaker 2>just think that there's gonna be a dentist that can

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<v Speaker 2>do like well that doesn't hurt me.

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<v Speaker 3>Just run through every dentist in.

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<v Speaker 2>Town, like they all do the same thing, and they're

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<v Speaker 2>all like wonderful. But in my mind, I'm like, maybe

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<v Speaker 2>I'll find someone where it doesn't hurt. But it just

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<v Speaker 2>it's just uncomfortable.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, the scraping, the sound, you know, but you might

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<v Speaker 1>be surprised by this.

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<v Speaker 2>You love it.

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<v Speaker 1>No, Oh, I have not gotten my teeth cleaned in

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<v Speaker 1>over a year.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, I am shocked by that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. My dentist is far away. He is in Redondo Beach,

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<v Speaker 1>and if you do not live in Los Angeles, it's

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<v Speaker 1>a far jaunt in traffic, and I just never make

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<v Speaker 1>the time.

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<v Speaker 2>It's important. I know, I hadn't been in over a year.

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<v Speaker 2>It's been a long time. And because I genuinely get so,

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<v Speaker 2>I build it up so much in my head and

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<v Speaker 2>I make it so much worse than it is. Like

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<v Speaker 2>it's not comfortable, but it's doable. I'm not like I'm

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<v Speaker 2>gonna be fine.

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<v Speaker 1>I've lost twice a day, so I know you. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you're a really good I'm really good Foster, Thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>He was great today. It's Ali's dentist. Ali goes every

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<v Speaker 2>three months.

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<v Speaker 1>That seems a little excessive.

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<v Speaker 2>Why he told me I need to come every four months?

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<v Speaker 2>Why I think, but the way my teeth are shaped, basically,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm either I'm either I feel like I foss more

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<v Speaker 2>than ever this year, which wasn't like every single day,

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<v Speaker 2>but I f lost like pretty consistently. And he said

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<v Speaker 2>my gums like waiting really bad. So he was like,

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<v Speaker 2>you should come every four months and just to be consistent.

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<v Speaker 2>So I said my appointment.

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<v Speaker 1>I did. You're one of those people. What that makes

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<v Speaker 1>your appointment for the next dental visit before you?

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<v Speaker 2>Otherwise I will not do it.

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<v Speaker 3>It's just I do that too.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh you do. Yeah, I don't because I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>how my schedule in like six months.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's just on there though. It's more like a reminder,

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<v Speaker 2>like I can cancel if I need to, but it's

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<v Speaker 2>there for me to know that in this general vicinity

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<v Speaker 2>of time, I need to get my teeth.

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<v Speaker 1>Doe got it? Okay, cool? Nice.

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<v Speaker 2>So anyways, I didn't cry. I didn't have any cavities. No,

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<v Speaker 2>I've literally.

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<v Speaker 1>Cried the dentist. This is a real.

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<v Speaker 2>And the receptionist told me she was really proud of me.

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<v Speaker 2>So it was it was great.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, no, no, notes great, great, I'm proud of you.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you. So much.

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<v Speaker 2>How was your Christmas?

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<v Speaker 1>Uh? My Christmas was really really, really nice. So I

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<v Speaker 1>went to Robbie and I went to the Bahamas for

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<v Speaker 1>a few days before Christmas, and then we came back

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<v Speaker 1>the day before Christmas Eve, Christmas Eve Eve, went down

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<v Speaker 1>to San Diego and spent just like forty eight uninterrupted

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<v Speaker 1>hours with like my family, my niece, my my nephew.

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<v Speaker 1>So it was really cute. Did nothing but like eat

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<v Speaker 1>and sit and just like whatever bedrot or whatever, but

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<v Speaker 1>not in the bed in my sister's house, okay, but

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<v Speaker 1>just like rotten. And it was amazing. But my sister

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<v Speaker 1>got me this book for Christmas, and like, so my

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<v Speaker 1>sister is a psychologist, so everything, so I know this

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<v Speaker 1>is done with love and a good heart. And she

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<v Speaker 1>said it's one of her favorite books of all time.

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<v Speaker 1>This is one of my favorite books. A lot of

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<v Speaker 1>good lessons in here. I open it up and says,

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<v Speaker 1>act with love, stop struggling, reconcile differences, and strengthen your

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<v Speaker 1>relationship with acceptance and commitment therapy. And I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>should I be concerned that you were giving me this book?

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<v Speaker 1>But apparently it's like a book that she thinks every

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<v Speaker 1>couple should read it before they get married or like

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<v Speaker 1>during their marriage, like a good couple's therapy book. But

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<v Speaker 1>I just thought it was so funny because it's like

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<v Speaker 1>so like, open up and be fully present with your partner,

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<v Speaker 1>increase intimacy, connection and caring, and reduce conflicts and resolve differences,

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<v Speaker 1>build a rich and meaningful relationship. I was like, that's

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<v Speaker 1>so thoughtful. Yeah, I love that.

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<v Speaker 3>Let me see I would have the same reaction.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, the first chapter two, should I stay

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<v Speaker 1>or should I go? I'm like, that's a great gift.

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<v Speaker 2>And this is a fully revised and updated second edition,

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<v Speaker 2>And so.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what she said. She goes, I love the first edition.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if they made any changes to the

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<v Speaker 1>second edition, but it was it was given with good intent.

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<v Speaker 1>But I was laughing so hard reading the chapter names

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<v Speaker 1>and stuff, because I'm like, is this like an SOS.

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<v Speaker 3>There's a drawing on the cover of two people hugging

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<v Speaker 3>each other, look like they're getting over a major conflict.

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<v Speaker 2>The dramatic books I bought when Haley was on tour

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<v Speaker 2>and I was having a hard time.

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<v Speaker 1>It was like, and you would send them to her? No.

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<v Speaker 2>I bought them for yourself, but I never read them

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<v Speaker 2>because then she got home and every we've been over

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<v Speaker 2>saying okay, we started therapy again.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, so I am going to read this and

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<v Speaker 1>I will, you know, give any nuggets that I find,

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<v Speaker 1>I will bring them to the podcast to share.

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<v Speaker 2>I think you are going to love it, and I

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<v Speaker 2>think you're going to be able to be like this

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<v Speaker 2>changed a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, do you feel do you feel is there a

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<v Speaker 1>feeling as though.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't need as much relationship tidbits now that you

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<v Speaker 2>have a ring? Do you feel like No?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think so, because I feel like there's always

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<v Speaker 1>stuff that you can be better at in your relationship,

0:11:30.720 --> 0:11:32.480
<v Speaker 1>Like there's always stuff that's coming up. But I do

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<v Speaker 1>feel like a major source of conflict in our relationship

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<v Speaker 1>was waiting, So like, when are we getting engaged? Oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god. I never told this story on the podcast

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<v Speaker 1>about the president he gave me last year because it

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<v Speaker 1>was triggering so us. Yeah, but now that we're in

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<v Speaker 1>the clear, I feel like I can share it. Should

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<v Speaker 1>we Oh, take a break, break, We'll be right back.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, we're back.

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<v Speaker 2>So you you before you got the ring, before y'all

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<v Speaker 2>got engaged, before Robbie proposed. Yes, you had been waiting

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<v Speaker 2>for over a year. Yeah, that to happen. Yes, And

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<v Speaker 2>we've never talked about this because it was a trigger.

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<v Speaker 2>It was so as a trigger event. Yeah, and you're

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<v Speaker 2>ready to tell your truth.

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<v Speaker 1>Share I'm trying to share the truth. Yeah, okay, So

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<v Speaker 1>this was so this was Christmas twenty twenty three that

0:12:42.080 --> 0:12:44.800
<v Speaker 1>we just had So Christmas twenty twenty two. Yeah, we

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<v Speaker 1>had been having conversations and I've always been honest about this.

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<v Speaker 1>This is the push and pull of our relationship was

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<v Speaker 1>I was ready to get engaged after like nine months

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<v Speaker 1>of dating and he was not. So meeting in the

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<v Speaker 1>middle was like always are uh, I don't know what

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<v Speaker 1>the word is. Meeting in the middle was always our

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<v Speaker 1>biggest compromise. Yeah, like what is the middle exactly? You

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<v Speaker 1>know he's not ready? I am, so where does that

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<v Speaker 1>take you? So I feel like around my birthday, So

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<v Speaker 1>it was July of that year, twenty twenty two, I

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<v Speaker 1>started really feeling like, Okay, I'm gonna basically give him

0:13:21.400 --> 0:13:23.880
<v Speaker 1>some sort of not timeline, but say like okay, let's

0:13:23.920 --> 0:13:26.200
<v Speaker 1>I want really want to get engaged within this like

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<v Speaker 1>this year, like this is this is it? Like let's

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<v Speaker 1>You've told me you're ready to make this commitment, so

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<v Speaker 1>like let's do it. So, without getting into too much detail,

0:13:36.240 --> 0:13:41.319
<v Speaker 1>there was we had a uh, we had a sickness

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<v Speaker 1>in the family come up, and so that really kind

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<v Speaker 1>of put and I understood it put like a dark

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<v Speaker 1>cloud over just our lives in general. And so for

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<v Speaker 1>Christmas that year, he I have to like set the

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<v Speaker 1>scene because it was so it was Christmas morning and

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<v Speaker 1>we're waking up Christmas morning and he goes, I want

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<v Speaker 1>to give your gift now, and I was like okay,

0:14:08.400 --> 0:14:11.040
<v Speaker 1>and he pulls out this box and I'm like, oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god, Like this is not how I envisioned this happening,

0:14:13.640 --> 0:14:16.320
<v Speaker 1>but like okay, and I'm like alert and like fixing

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<v Speaker 1>myself up like first thing in the morning, you know,

0:14:18.440 --> 0:14:21.080
<v Speaker 1>put my robe on and I'm like getting yourself up

0:14:21.120 --> 0:14:24.320
<v Speaker 1>with the rope, yeah, sitting up straight. And I was like,

0:14:24.360 --> 0:14:25.680
<v Speaker 1>oh my god, it is happening. And he was like,

0:14:26.520 --> 0:14:28.880
<v Speaker 1>I just want you, you know, to know, like this

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<v Speaker 1>is so I open it and it's a ring, but

0:14:32.080 --> 0:14:36.120
<v Speaker 1>it's not a ring ring. It's like a band and

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<v Speaker 1>he was like, I just want you to know, like

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<v Speaker 1>this is a sign of my commitment, like commitment to you,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm ready to take the next step. And he'd

0:14:46.640 --> 0:14:49.239
<v Speaker 1>gotten it engraved with like the pillars of our relationship,

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<v Speaker 1>things I always talk about and it was really meaningful

0:14:51.720 --> 0:14:55.080
<v Speaker 1>and sweet, and I just lost it. I started crying

0:14:55.080 --> 0:14:57.280
<v Speaker 1>because I was like, this is not what I wanted.

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<v Speaker 3>You got me a promise ring, yeah, basically.

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<v Speaker 1>Like a promise It wasn't a promise ring, but like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>essentially a promise ring. And I put it on and

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<v Speaker 1>it was like three sizes too big and I was

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<v Speaker 1>just like, what am I gonna wear this on my thumb?

0:15:10.280 --> 0:15:13.080
<v Speaker 1>It wouldn't even fit my thumb. And I was just like,

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<v Speaker 1>and he goes, are you upset? And I was like, no, no,

0:15:15.920 --> 0:15:18.040
<v Speaker 1>it's really sweet and I understand and I get it.

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<v Speaker 1>I know why, you know through tears through tears. And

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<v Speaker 1>it's so funny because I look back at photos from

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<v Speaker 1>Christmas of last year and like, you can tell, like

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<v Speaker 1>I can, I can tell in myself that my eyes

0:15:29.760 --> 0:15:35.080
<v Speaker 1>were like puffy because but like I was trying to

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<v Speaker 1>hide it because it was a really sweet gesture and

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<v Speaker 1>it was meant all meant well, but I was just

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<v Speaker 1>not it. It was a nice. Meaning I have to

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<v Speaker 1>find the pictures from Christmas of last year because I'm

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<v Speaker 1>curious if you saw this and could tell that I had, like.

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<v Speaker 2>I can see you just hear that you look very

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<v Speaker 2>swollen and plate and fresh tears.

0:16:08.760 --> 0:16:09.320
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, here's the photo I got. Said what I asked

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<v Speaker 2>for a picture of it to try to make her

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<v Speaker 2>hand look as like masculine as possible.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's very funny because I put it back in

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<v Speaker 1>the box and I just like left it like in

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<v Speaker 1>the bathroom like I never wore itized. No, I didn't

0:16:29.600 --> 0:16:31.360
<v Speaker 1>get it sized like, I just never wore it. I

0:16:31.440 --> 0:16:34.800
<v Speaker 1>kept it in the in the thing. And after we

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<v Speaker 1>got aged, Robbie was like, can I wear it? Do

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<v Speaker 1>you mind if I take it put it on like

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<v Speaker 1>a like a chain and wear it around my neck?

0:16:44.520 --> 0:16:46.160
<v Speaker 1>And I was like, oh, I love that idea. Are

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<v Speaker 1>you kidding me? So now he wears it a lot,

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<v Speaker 1>like it's like his everyday necklace. It's like a chain

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<v Speaker 1>with that ring around it.

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<v Speaker 2>That's really nice.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we've come full circle.

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<v Speaker 2>Literally and figuratively, literally.

0:16:58.720 --> 0:17:03.720
<v Speaker 1>And figuratively, but yeah, that was that was that was something.

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<v Speaker 2>There were many moments where we were like, it's it's

0:17:08.080 --> 0:17:10.439
<v Speaker 2>gonna happen like that was.

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<v Speaker 1>It though, Like Christmas last year. I was like, yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>my gosh, I can't believe it. The boss bring, I know.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, and I know what he meant, Like

0:17:20.640 --> 0:17:24.159
<v Speaker 1>he meant well obviously, like it was good intentions, but

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<v Speaker 1>like if.

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<v Speaker 2>It was anyone but you, it would have been like

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<v Speaker 2>very well received, very well received, right right right?

0:17:30.960 --> 0:17:33.920
<v Speaker 1>You were looking for something else, a rock a rock

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<v Speaker 1>on that on that band and it was songs, Yeah, yeah, sons. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So now we've come full circle and uh, it's beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a beautiful ring. Maybe we might use it as

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<v Speaker 1>his wedding band. Actually, oh wow.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just a little bit him like for him, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>like but this is just so funny, is he?

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<v Speaker 1>It was the ring size that I thought I was,

0:17:58.320 --> 0:18:00.720
<v Speaker 1>so he did get me the right side and men's

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<v Speaker 1>and men I don't know. Definitely looked like.

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<v Speaker 2>Like ring size the same as men of like shoe

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<v Speaker 2>sizes for men and women.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but yeah, we might use it as his wedding band. TVD.

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<v Speaker 2>Speaking of jewelry shopping, I'm shopping before Christmas and I

0:18:15.760 --> 0:18:21.480
<v Speaker 2>run into Sophia Bush. Oh wow, we're just keep crossing paths. Yeah,

0:18:21.600 --> 0:18:23.159
<v Speaker 2>she was so nice because I didn't see her. She

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<v Speaker 2>had a mask on, so she like tapped me. I

0:18:25.640 --> 0:18:30.159
<v Speaker 2>was like hey, and like hold she did. I know,

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<v Speaker 2>she's so sweet.

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<v Speaker 1>We're in what are you? Are you embarrassed to ask

0:18:37.160 --> 0:18:39.199
<v Speaker 1>her to come on? No? Not all.

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<v Speaker 2>I remember when Easter kind of lightly brought it up

0:18:41.359 --> 0:18:43.680
<v Speaker 2>and she's like, oh, that's so cute.

0:18:44.440 --> 0:18:46.440
<v Speaker 1>So what's what is it? What's stopping you?

0:18:46.520 --> 0:18:48.520
<v Speaker 2>Well, I don't see her, like I know she has

0:18:48.520 --> 0:18:50.320
<v Speaker 2>her own podcast, but I don't see her on a

0:18:50.320 --> 0:18:53.520
<v Speaker 2>lot of podcasts like that are like ours.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, she doesn't like do guest stuff.

0:18:56.480 --> 0:18:59.440
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but often so I just start to everything.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. I just want our podcast to be like in

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<v Speaker 2>its highest form when we have her on.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, nothing better than a new Year yeah, but maybe

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<v Speaker 1>like a cool studio space, you know. Okay, yeah, so

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<v Speaker 1>wait till we elevate.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah yeah, right sure, speaking of I was listening to

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<v Speaker 2>our podcast from our first podcast of the year in

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<v Speaker 2>twenty twenty three.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know it was supposed to be a scrub Aissance?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Did it happen? No, don't work. So I got all

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<v Speaker 1>this applies to make a new vision board for us

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<v Speaker 1>this year. Oh yeah, I made a vision board. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>no I met for the podcast. Oh this is this

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<v Speaker 1>is not for me nor for you. Oh you and

0:19:39.280 --> 0:19:40.280
<v Speaker 1>I were going to do this together.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah when.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know later great, but I know we didn't

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<v Speaker 1>have a scrub assance. But I did have a renaissance

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<v Speaker 1>that year. That was my word last year, and it like,

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<v Speaker 1>really stuck.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't remember my word last year.

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<v Speaker 1>Well what's the point making one? I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>But I also didn't make a vision board last year,

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<v Speaker 2>so maybe that's where it ran a while. Just went

0:20:04.760 --> 0:20:07.000
<v Speaker 2>off the rails.

0:20:06.200 --> 0:20:11.720
<v Speaker 1>Rogue, rogue? What'd you do without a vision? Just came

0:20:11.800 --> 0:20:13.600
<v Speaker 1>up with it? Just winged it, yeah, just winged it,

0:20:13.640 --> 0:20:14.479
<v Speaker 1>all winged it.

0:20:16.000 --> 0:20:17.879
<v Speaker 2>But I was trying to think of my word for

0:20:17.960 --> 0:20:19.720
<v Speaker 2>this year. But I was like, was this my word

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<v Speaker 2>last year? I can't remember.

0:20:23.000 --> 0:20:24.360
<v Speaker 3>Impactful word? It sounds like.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, hard to say. So your word this year's try yes,

0:20:30.240 --> 0:20:33.119
<v Speaker 2>which was a hint before we left for Christmas. There

0:20:33.160 --> 0:20:35.560
<v Speaker 2>was a little nod to that because you got your necklace,

0:20:35.560 --> 0:20:36.640
<v Speaker 2>you have your initials on it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, he did good this year. This was my Christmas

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<v Speaker 1>this year.

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<v Speaker 2>Good job, Robbie.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, good job, Robbie.

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<v Speaker 2>My new initials and your new initials are try Tanya

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<v Speaker 2>rad Yadagar.

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<v Speaker 1>Which is like the most Tanya thing ever. Yeah. The

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<v Speaker 1>fact that my initials are the word try feels so

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<v Speaker 1>meant to be.

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<v Speaker 2>And I find it interesting that you chose This is

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<v Speaker 2>Me Trying as your song as a host to mirror Ball.

0:21:01.960 --> 0:21:04.160
<v Speaker 1>So it was a play on the word try. Yeah.

0:21:04.160 --> 0:21:06.920
<v Speaker 2>But in miraball she goes I've never been in natural.

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<v Speaker 2>All I do is.

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<v Speaker 1>Try, try, try, yeah. So it was more for like

0:21:11.760 --> 0:21:15.439
<v Speaker 1>people that don't know Taylor, you know, like if I

0:21:15.440 --> 0:21:17.679
<v Speaker 1>put mirror Ball, people wouldn't get it. They'd be like that,

0:21:17.680 --> 0:21:19.720
<v Speaker 1>what does mirable have to do with try? You know

0:21:19.760 --> 0:21:22.120
<v Speaker 1>what I mean? But This is Me Trying is quite

0:21:22.160 --> 0:21:23.440
<v Speaker 1>a sad song. It's so sad.

0:21:23.480 --> 0:21:27.200
<v Speaker 2>It's about it's literally about it's about like addiction.

0:21:27.560 --> 0:21:30.600
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so that's not the theme of the song. Is

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<v Speaker 1>not quite what I want my ear to look like.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like the name of the song, this is Me Trying.

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<v Speaker 2>You could have gone with Macy Gray try what is that?

0:21:40.119 --> 0:21:44.600
<v Speaker 1>Try to say goodbye? And that choke try to walk

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<v Speaker 1>away and I stumble no, I try to have it.

0:21:48.600 --> 0:21:52.880
<v Speaker 1>It's clear my world crumbles when you are not there.

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<v Speaker 1>Used change, Yeah, not quite the vibe I was going

0:21:58.080 --> 0:21:58.520
<v Speaker 1>twenty four.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe I've been away from me al for too long,

0:22:01.440 --> 0:22:02.600
<v Speaker 2>but that kind of sounded good.

0:22:03.280 --> 0:22:03.679
<v Speaker 3>Thank you.

0:22:03.840 --> 0:22:06.679
<v Speaker 1>It's the tone in her voice. It's easy to mimic.

0:22:07.920 --> 0:22:12.280
<v Speaker 2>Easton's harmony really came through anyways.

0:22:12.359 --> 0:22:14.600
<v Speaker 1>Anyways, to try, Yeah, what is that?

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<v Speaker 2>Encompass? Like, what what does it look like for you?

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<v Speaker 1>So when you define the word try, it's like to oh,

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<v Speaker 1>what is it? It's like to attempt, to attempt to accomplish,

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<v Speaker 1>to attempt to accomplish. And to me, there is no

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<v Speaker 1>more defining term of a modern woman than to try

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<v Speaker 1>or what did I say again? To attempt to accomplish.

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<v Speaker 1>That is the definition of a modern woman. To attempt

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<v Speaker 1>to accomplish. So this year I'm going to attempt to

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<v Speaker 1>accomplish many different things. So it does such as well

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<v Speaker 1>for starters. I mean, it's only the second day of

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<v Speaker 1>the year, so it's brand new. But I really want

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<v Speaker 1>to start my days off with warm water and lemon

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<v Speaker 1>instead of coffee, and so I've been doing that, and

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<v Speaker 1>it's gonna be interesting when I'm waking up at four

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<v Speaker 1>in the morning and trying to make my warm water

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<v Speaker 1>with lemon before my coffee.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh it makes me nauseous when I try to do it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's the this acid with the warmth. It didn't do it.

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<v Speaker 1>Just a little lemon. I don't like squeeze a whole lot.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh there. Yeah, just like a pinch of lemon. Ye

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<v Speaker 1>warm water.

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<v Speaker 2>It's really good.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's what I'm trying to do this week year. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'm going to do new stuff. I'm gonna try

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<v Speaker 1>new stuff every week. I love that. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you make an ends and outs list?

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<v Speaker 1>I did not?

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<v Speaker 2>Did you? Yeah? Did you have a word for this year?

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<v Speaker 3>In twenty twenty three? My word was harmony. I was

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<v Speaker 3>trying to find better harmony in my life.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you that?

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<v Speaker 3>Kind of not?

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<v Speaker 1>Really?

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<v Speaker 3>This year my word is Cocomo.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow?

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<v Speaker 1>What is that's?

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<v Speaker 3>It's a club, It's a place in Indiana. It's also

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<v Speaker 3>a fictional island that the Beach Boys sing about. But

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<v Speaker 3>I want to relax more and do more stuff that's

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<v Speaker 3>not work. Twenty four Yeah that's Michael.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because here's the thing. I feel like you do

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<v Speaker 2>so much, but you're always working, Like you're always doing

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<v Speaker 2>it because you're working.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, exactly, and I'm lucky that my work is cool

0:24:12.240 --> 0:24:15.040
<v Speaker 3>and interesting, but also it's it's work, so it's annoying,

0:24:15.119 --> 0:24:17.240
<v Speaker 3>and I want to spend more time with my wife

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<v Speaker 3>and just doing fun stuff like you would do on

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<v Speaker 3>the island of Kokomo.

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<v Speaker 1>So I tell you I love the intent behind it,

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<v Speaker 1>the symbolism. Symbolism.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, my word for this year is well, I have

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<v Speaker 2>two because.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't remember.

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<v Speaker 2>That's I can't remember last year, so I'm making up

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<v Speaker 2>for it. I am curious what my word was because

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<v Speaker 2>I'm wondering if.

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<v Speaker 1>I obviously I wouldn't work on it.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, my word for this year. One of them is relinquished,

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<v Speaker 2>because I want to let go of like meeting your

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<v Speaker 2>word last year. No, no, no. But the other one's completion,

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<v Speaker 2>because I find that I start things, or I have

0:25:00.960 --> 0:25:03.680
<v Speaker 2>ideas of things, and I never follow through, whether it's

0:25:03.680 --> 0:25:06.720
<v Speaker 2>like fear of failure or fear of it not working out,

0:25:06.840 --> 0:25:09.920
<v Speaker 2>or just like becoming bored by it. And I really

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<v Speaker 2>want to be able to like start things and complete

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<v Speaker 2>them in a way where even if it wasn't the

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<v Speaker 2>best thing I ever did, just like being able to say,

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<v Speaker 2>like I started this and then I finished it having

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<v Speaker 2>that like sense of pride and like completing something.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So it started with the vision board, because I gotta

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<v Speaker 2>be honest. We did it on New Year's Eve and

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<v Speaker 2>I took an.

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<v Speaker 1>Edible and I got I didn't finish it.

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<v Speaker 2>No, everyone else was like really into theirs getting them glued,

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<v Speaker 2>and I hadn't even like I had ripped out things.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, phase one hmmm.

0:25:44.480 --> 0:25:46.800
<v Speaker 2>I gone through phase one and then I just was

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<v Speaker 2>like in the kitchen eating, like watching everyone, giggling to myself.

0:25:50.760 --> 0:25:53.440
<v Speaker 2>And then I was like, heyley, guys, are you gonna

0:25:53.440 --> 0:25:55.679
<v Speaker 2>do your vision board? And I thought I should do

0:25:55.720 --> 0:25:58.040
<v Speaker 2>this because I want my My word's gonna be completion.

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<v Speaker 2>So I want to start on this and I finished it.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, you know what you should do? Tell me? We

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<v Speaker 1>should make you something that says the word completion and

0:26:08.359 --> 0:26:10.199
<v Speaker 1>put it up somewhere that you see it daily, so

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<v Speaker 1>that you can know that that's your focus for the

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<v Speaker 1>year and not only not forget, but also gear your

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<v Speaker 1>decisions through that lens.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, it feels like something I'm gonna have daily where

0:26:21.200 --> 0:26:23.480
<v Speaker 2>I think about it because it's like even a small

0:26:23.520 --> 0:26:27.719
<v Speaker 2>as like choosing to declutter a space instead of just

0:26:27.760 --> 0:26:30.840
<v Speaker 2>like starting and then stopping because I get distracted by

0:26:30.880 --> 0:26:34.000
<v Speaker 2>something else, being like, no, you gotta this is like

0:26:34.200 --> 0:26:35.959
<v Speaker 2>you know what you're striving to do. So I think

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<v Speaker 2>it's gonna hit me in the face, like every day nice,

0:26:38.920 --> 0:26:39.520
<v Speaker 2>thanks so much.

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<v Speaker 3>So I try to find your word from twenty twenty

0:26:42.000 --> 0:26:44.000
<v Speaker 3>three and I found I did not, but I found

0:26:44.000 --> 0:26:46.520
<v Speaker 3>this interesting thing on a Hayley Kyoko fan message board.

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<v Speaker 3>So someone said, someone said Becca's cousin is so sweet

0:26:52.160 --> 0:26:54.720
<v Speaker 3>in her recent Instagram post. Harmony is indeed the word

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<v Speaker 3>for twenty twenty three for Becca.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh okay, so it was harmony?

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<v Speaker 3>No, I mean, harmony was my word. I said that

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<v Speaker 3>on the podcast last year. So I mean, but maybe

0:27:04.040 --> 0:27:06.399
<v Speaker 3>your cousin posted about harmony too. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like that could have been your word last

0:27:09.240 --> 0:27:10.800
<v Speaker 1>year because it does sound.

0:27:12.480 --> 0:27:14.720
<v Speaker 2>You gave me a bracelet with the word harmony, But

0:27:14.760 --> 0:27:15.760
<v Speaker 2>that wasn't my words.

0:27:16.000 --> 0:27:18.920
<v Speaker 1>It was I gave you a bracelet with the word

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<v Speaker 1>you chose for me. Yes, yes, yes, okay, this is

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<v Speaker 1>all coming.

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<v Speaker 2>Together all right.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, that took a term, right right. I assigned all

0:27:32.359 --> 0:27:37.040
<v Speaker 1>my friends up sign. I assigned all my friends words

0:27:37.040 --> 0:27:38.200
<v Speaker 1>that I wanted.

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<v Speaker 2>For them for the new Year. Yeah, yeah, yeah hard.

0:27:41.640 --> 0:27:45.480
<v Speaker 2>I didn't have a harmonious year. I think that's good in.

0:27:45.400 --> 0:27:48.200
<v Speaker 1>A lot of ways, the fact that I assigned you

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<v Speaker 1>all words.

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<v Speaker 2>So do you want to know some of my outs

0:27:54.440 --> 0:27:54.879
<v Speaker 2>and ins?

0:27:55.080 --> 0:27:55.280
<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

0:27:55.280 --> 0:27:59.200
<v Speaker 2>I do, so out these are some of my outs

0:28:00.200 --> 0:28:03.920
<v Speaker 2>talking mean about my body, Yeah, I said, unless it's

0:28:03.960 --> 0:28:08.639
<v Speaker 2>Salley or Ali, because sometimes it's like funny. It's like

0:28:08.680 --> 0:28:10.840
<v Speaker 2>we go back and forth and it's not like funny,

0:28:10.920 --> 0:28:11.760
<v Speaker 2>it's kind of funny.

0:28:11.800 --> 0:28:12.560
<v Speaker 1>It's not funny.

0:28:12.920 --> 0:28:14.639
<v Speaker 2>Well it's not funny to Hailey, but Ali and I

0:28:14.680 --> 0:28:15.440
<v Speaker 2>do go back and forth.

0:28:15.480 --> 0:28:17.800
<v Speaker 1>It's kind of funny, but it's not funny. But you

0:28:17.880 --> 0:28:20.280
<v Speaker 1>know why you're putting that energy into the universe and

0:28:20.320 --> 0:28:20.679
<v Speaker 1>we want to.

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<v Speaker 2>Stay Okay, this is my list? Is my list talking

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<v Speaker 2>about age because I feel like I've like gotten to

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<v Speaker 2>this habit where all of a sudden, I turned thirty

0:28:27.720 --> 0:28:29.320
<v Speaker 2>five and I'm like, oh, I feel so old. I

0:28:29.320 --> 0:28:31.000
<v Speaker 2>feel blah blah blah, and I like don't want to

0:28:31.040 --> 0:28:31.600
<v Speaker 2>be that person.

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<v Speaker 1>I hate.

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<v Speaker 2>I've always hated when people do that, when they talk

0:28:33.880 --> 0:28:36.119
<v Speaker 2>about we're so young. I know, but like I've always

0:28:36.160 --> 0:28:38.760
<v Speaker 2>been like, I mean, you do thirty five? Is that

0:28:38.960 --> 0:28:40.880
<v Speaker 2>It's kind of that weird age because I've never thought

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<v Speaker 2>about the number of the age I'm turning, and thirty

0:28:42.840 --> 0:28:44.880
<v Speaker 2>five is the first year where I was like, hmm,

0:28:44.880 --> 0:28:48.360
<v Speaker 2>that's interesting, mm hmm. But I don't want to talk

0:28:48.400 --> 0:28:52.720
<v Speaker 2>about that anymore. So go back to that cluttered spaces.

0:28:52.880 --> 0:28:56.440
<v Speaker 2>I want to have like clean, open spaces. Feeling guilt

0:28:56.480 --> 0:28:59.040
<v Speaker 2>for being lazy, because sometimes you just gotta be lazy,

0:28:59.480 --> 0:29:03.440
<v Speaker 2>not finish task. Bad sleep and staying up late.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh wow, what's in.

0:29:06.520 --> 0:29:10.240
<v Speaker 2>Having a sleep routine, a healthy sleep routine, being outside more,

0:29:11.200 --> 0:29:15.440
<v Speaker 2>less screen time, more conversations with strangers.

0:29:16.720 --> 0:29:20.960
<v Speaker 1>Like safely wait, pause for one second. Do you want

0:29:21.000 --> 0:29:25.640
<v Speaker 1>to hear the craziest thing? Yes, maybe I'm flying out.

0:29:25.680 --> 0:29:28.320
<v Speaker 1>I flew out to the Bahamas by myself, without Robbie.

0:29:28.320 --> 0:29:31.000
<v Speaker 1>He came out a day after me. So the person

0:29:31.040 --> 0:29:32.840
<v Speaker 1>I was sitting next to me on the plane was like,

0:29:32.920 --> 0:29:35.280
<v Speaker 1>this man, I don't know how old he was, let's see,

0:29:35.360 --> 0:29:37.080
<v Speaker 1>it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter, but we end up

0:29:37.120 --> 0:29:39.120
<v Speaker 1>chumming it up, talking the whole like a good amount

0:29:39.160 --> 0:29:41.640
<v Speaker 1>of the flight, got his backstory, talked about his kids

0:29:41.680 --> 0:29:44.160
<v Speaker 1>and da dah. So like, right, I like know this

0:29:44.240 --> 0:29:47.400
<v Speaker 1>man depart the plane, goodbye, I have a nice vacation.

0:29:48.000 --> 0:29:49.680
<v Speaker 1>We're getting back on the plane to go home. And

0:29:49.720 --> 0:29:54.280
<v Speaker 1>guess who's sitting next to Robbie. O guy, the same man. Yeah,

0:29:55.040 --> 0:29:56.719
<v Speaker 1>and this time he was with his family and I

0:29:56.760 --> 0:29:58.120
<v Speaker 1>was with Robbie, and so I was like, oh my gosh,

0:29:58.160 --> 0:30:00.240
<v Speaker 1>I got to meet his sons and his wife. Even

0:30:00.280 --> 0:30:01.920
<v Speaker 1>he got to me Robbie. And then I switched seats

0:30:01.920 --> 0:30:04.120
<v Speaker 1>with him so that I could sit next to Robbie.

0:30:04.440 --> 0:30:08.479
<v Speaker 1>He said, here's my wedding gift to you. Probably was like, shoot,

0:30:08.680 --> 0:30:10.040
<v Speaker 1>He's like, who is this guy?

0:30:11.200 --> 0:30:13.080
<v Speaker 2>That's crazy? Like what are the chance of.

0:30:13.120 --> 0:30:16.239
<v Speaker 1>All the people I know? Thank you? Anyways, back to

0:30:16.280 --> 0:30:17.880
<v Speaker 1>your strangers, But.

0:30:17.920 --> 0:30:20.560
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, having more conversations with strangers.

0:30:20.080 --> 0:30:22.480
<v Speaker 1>I learned from this man. Yeah.

0:30:22.840 --> 0:30:25.120
<v Speaker 2>I actually was like open to having a conversation with

0:30:25.160 --> 0:30:28.680
<v Speaker 2>my flight buddy on the way back, but she didn't

0:30:28.680 --> 0:30:31.520
<v Speaker 2>seem interested, so I didn't force it, but I was

0:30:31.560 --> 0:30:32.400
<v Speaker 2>like open to it.

0:30:33.000 --> 0:30:34.400
<v Speaker 1>That's step number one.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you, more cooking, less food delivery. Nice decluttering. I said,

0:30:40.040 --> 0:30:43.400
<v Speaker 2>intentional time, as in like having intentional time with people

0:30:43.440 --> 0:30:48.880
<v Speaker 2>where it's not work based, it's not anything, my phone's

0:30:48.920 --> 0:30:51.160
<v Speaker 2>not on the table, It's just like intentional one on

0:30:51.160 --> 0:30:54.320
<v Speaker 2>one time doing things that the people that I love

0:30:54.400 --> 0:30:58.520
<v Speaker 2>love phones, staying in my purse at dinner out or

0:30:58.560 --> 0:31:02.880
<v Speaker 2>just out of sight, traveling to new places, trying new

0:31:02.880 --> 0:31:07.040
<v Speaker 2>things even when scared, completing projects, and hosting dinner parties.

0:31:07.520 --> 0:31:13.640
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's cute. So I watched this thing on Instagram.

0:31:13.680 --> 0:31:15.320
<v Speaker 1>I don't know it was this guy, but he was

0:31:15.320 --> 0:31:17.840
<v Speaker 1>talking about the power of the phone.

0:31:18.880 --> 0:31:19.400
<v Speaker 3>Did you post it?

0:31:19.480 --> 0:31:21.760
<v Speaker 1>I posted it, but I got so many dms about it.

0:31:21.800 --> 0:31:23.520
<v Speaker 1>I was like, Wow, this really struck a chord with me.

0:31:23.560 --> 0:31:25.080
<v Speaker 1>So I was like, obviously it's striking a card with

0:31:25.080 --> 0:31:27.400
<v Speaker 1>a bunch of other people. But he was like giving

0:31:27.400 --> 0:31:30.000
<v Speaker 1>this ted talk and he goes, he was talking, he

0:31:30.040 --> 0:31:32.640
<v Speaker 1>didn't have his phone. He goes, do you feel differently

0:31:32.680 --> 0:31:34.760
<v Speaker 1>now if I bring my phone out and I'm holding

0:31:34.760 --> 0:31:36.440
<v Speaker 1>my phone like this, just holding it here. I'm not

0:31:36.440 --> 0:31:38.440
<v Speaker 1>looking at it, but I'm just holding it. And I

0:31:38.480 --> 0:31:41.240
<v Speaker 1>was like, yeah, I actually do feel different like I do.

0:31:41.360 --> 0:31:43.160
<v Speaker 1>And he goes, so, what do you think when you're

0:31:43.200 --> 0:31:45.200
<v Speaker 1>out to lunch or dinner with somebody and your phone

0:31:45.640 --> 0:31:47.440
<v Speaker 1>is on the table And he goes, oh, you know,

0:31:47.560 --> 0:31:49.560
<v Speaker 1>you think you're being courteous and you flip it over

0:31:49.640 --> 0:31:51.280
<v Speaker 1>so you can't see it. And I was like, that's me,

0:31:51.560 --> 0:31:53.320
<v Speaker 1>Like I'm the girl with the phone flipped over on

0:31:53.360 --> 0:31:54.720
<v Speaker 1>the table. And I was like, i don't want to

0:31:54.760 --> 0:31:57.360
<v Speaker 1>do that anymore because I'm not looking at it. I

0:31:57.680 --> 0:31:59.680
<v Speaker 1>don't know why I have it there. It's not necessary

0:32:00.040 --> 0:32:02.040
<v Speaker 1>to start putting it in my purse when I'm out

0:32:02.040 --> 0:32:02.880
<v Speaker 1>to eat. Yeah.

0:32:03.400 --> 0:32:05.200
<v Speaker 2>Done, I'm with you.

0:32:05.400 --> 0:32:06.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm over it.

0:32:06.680 --> 0:32:07.239
<v Speaker 2>I'm with you.

0:32:07.440 --> 0:32:10.640
<v Speaker 1>I'm tired of being rude, tired of being rude. Rude

0:32:10.680 --> 0:32:14.000
<v Speaker 1>is out. Yeah, rude is out present. You know what

0:32:14.120 --> 0:32:14.880
<v Speaker 1>else is out?

0:32:15.080 --> 0:32:20.760
<v Speaker 2>Is uh commenting mean things on public platforms, which it's

0:32:20.760 --> 0:32:23.280
<v Speaker 2>always been out, But in my mind, I'm like, if

0:32:23.280 --> 0:32:26.040
<v Speaker 2>someone does something shocking, okay, if I see someone in

0:32:26.080 --> 0:32:28.840
<v Speaker 2>there dating someone, or it's something I don't like, or

0:32:28.840 --> 0:32:31.680
<v Speaker 2>it's a celebrity information where I'm like, what is this?

0:32:31.800 --> 0:32:35.400
<v Speaker 2>I have a reaction to it. At the very most,

0:32:35.800 --> 0:32:37.680
<v Speaker 2>I'll send it to a friend and have a private

0:32:37.720 --> 0:32:40.880
<v Speaker 2>conversation about it and be like, what this is crazy?

0:32:41.720 --> 0:32:46.240
<v Speaker 2>But commenting a rude, hurtful things on a public platform

0:32:46.600 --> 0:32:52.560
<v Speaker 2>or public person's social media is out. Yeah, do it

0:32:52.600 --> 0:32:53.160
<v Speaker 2>with your friends.

0:32:53.160 --> 0:32:55.400
<v Speaker 1>That's always been outfying.

0:32:57.920 --> 0:33:01.000
<v Speaker 2>It's just crazy. I just am like, I can't imagine

0:33:01.040 --> 0:33:03.800
<v Speaker 2>going on and saying I'm not someone who's like I

0:33:03.840 --> 0:33:07.520
<v Speaker 2>never gossip, Like I have private conversations about things, but

0:33:07.600 --> 0:33:10.240
<v Speaker 2>it's like to hurt go on someone's page and say

0:33:10.280 --> 0:33:16.640
<v Speaker 2>something that's like hurtful to someone's heart. I don't get it. Yeah, personally,

0:33:17.520 --> 0:33:18.240
<v Speaker 2>So that's out.

0:33:18.640 --> 0:33:28.800
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that bold stands the new stands. Yeah, so that's

0:33:28.840 --> 0:33:30.640
<v Speaker 1>that for me.

0:33:31.600 --> 0:33:32.720
<v Speaker 2>You don't have any off the top of.

0:33:32.640 --> 0:33:35.000
<v Speaker 1>Your head, ins and outs, No, but I will tell

0:33:35.040 --> 0:33:38.120
<v Speaker 1>you that I totally started off the year with a

0:33:38.160 --> 0:33:40.720
<v Speaker 1>major bucket list moment because I was a part of

0:33:40.800 --> 0:33:44.680
<v Speaker 1>Dick Clark's New Year's Rocket Eve with Ryan Seacrest. Hold On, yeah,

0:33:44.760 --> 0:33:48.680
<v Speaker 1>I mean, let's give it up for the name.

0:33:49.000 --> 0:33:51.600
<v Speaker 2>No, can we just talk about how what is.

0:33:51.520 --> 0:33:53.720
<v Speaker 1>It just gonna be Ryan Seacrest New Year's Eve?

0:33:53.880 --> 0:33:56.680
<v Speaker 2>You did not? You were like, oh, yeah, I have

0:33:56.720 --> 0:33:59.280
<v Speaker 2>to do this like New Year's Eve thing, Like you

0:33:59.680 --> 0:34:02.320
<v Speaker 2>under sold it. So I literally had no idea what

0:34:02.320 --> 0:34:03.400
<v Speaker 2>she was doing. She was like, do you have a

0:34:03.440 --> 0:34:05.320
<v Speaker 2>dress second borrow or do you have any outfit ex

0:34:05.360 --> 0:34:07.080
<v Speaker 2>and borrow? I was like, oh yeah, She's like I

0:34:07.200 --> 0:34:09.239
<v Speaker 2>just she came over the day before, just like very

0:34:09.320 --> 0:34:11.040
<v Speaker 2>much casual, let me see what you have.

0:34:11.160 --> 0:34:14.680
<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, this will work. She's like literally on the

0:34:14.719 --> 0:34:18.120
<v Speaker 1>biggest New Year's evening. Ever, why did you do that?

0:34:18.680 --> 0:34:20.120
<v Speaker 2>What do you mean? Why did I did you under like?

0:34:20.120 --> 0:34:21.719
<v Speaker 2>Why did you just act like it was just this

0:34:21.800 --> 0:34:23.840
<v Speaker 2>weird thing that they were having you do locally?

0:34:24.000 --> 0:34:26.359
<v Speaker 1>That's how you sold it to me? Because well, first

0:34:26.400 --> 0:34:28.919
<v Speaker 1>of all, I didn't know. I don't know. I don't

0:34:28.960 --> 0:34:30.760
<v Speaker 1>like to get to hype because I'm like there's always

0:34:31.080 --> 0:34:32.919
<v Speaker 1>I feel like you don't know if you're doing something

0:34:33.000 --> 0:34:34.839
<v Speaker 1>until like you've done it, you know what I mean.

0:34:34.920 --> 0:34:38.239
<v Speaker 1>So I think I was just like cautioning myself of

0:34:38.440 --> 0:34:39.200
<v Speaker 1>to be excited.

0:34:39.520 --> 0:34:42.239
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think that should be out for twenty twenty four.

0:34:42.440 --> 0:34:45.760
<v Speaker 2>I think you should celebrate big when you get opportunities

0:34:45.760 --> 0:34:48.719
<v Speaker 2>that are exciting. Yeah, and I under sell yourself.

0:34:48.880 --> 0:34:51.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm with you. But yeah, it was the craziest thing,

0:34:51.760 --> 0:34:54.439
<v Speaker 1>and like, I don't know, it's just really really really

0:34:54.480 --> 0:34:56.759
<v Speaker 1>really cool. And I'm obsessed with Genie. So Genie I

0:34:56.800 --> 0:34:58.640
<v Speaker 1>was the host of the LA portion of New Year's

0:34:58.680 --> 0:35:01.239
<v Speaker 1>Rock and Eve. So she's the how that I was

0:35:01.280 --> 0:35:04.600
<v Speaker 1>with and she was just the coolest. I've always just

0:35:04.600 --> 0:35:07.600
<v Speaker 1>been such a big fan of hers. She's like, honestly

0:35:07.640 --> 0:35:10.840
<v Speaker 1>just so. But I'd love to have her back.

0:35:10.640 --> 0:35:11.680
<v Speaker 3>If she's she's great.

0:35:11.800 --> 0:35:13.000
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, she's great.

0:35:13.560 --> 0:35:16.719
<v Speaker 1>And now she's a mom. Wow going through a divorce.

0:35:16.960 --> 0:35:19.120
<v Speaker 1>Oh man, I know it actually doesn't seem so good

0:35:19.120 --> 0:35:20.799
<v Speaker 1>because I feel like all the things I see about

0:35:20.800 --> 0:35:23.360
<v Speaker 1>it online are just like always popping up. But she

0:35:23.440 --> 0:35:25.680
<v Speaker 1>seems she seems like when I saw her to be

0:35:25.719 --> 0:35:29.160
<v Speaker 1>in really good spirits and like just really really thriving.

0:35:29.360 --> 0:35:30.200
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, love her.

0:35:30.400 --> 0:35:32.319
<v Speaker 1>Yeah. It was funny because someone's like, did you do

0:35:32.360 --> 0:35:35.359
<v Speaker 1>the routine? You know, like the Ross and Rachel routine.

0:35:35.040 --> 0:35:37.040
<v Speaker 2>I we did on New Year's Eve we watch Friends.

0:35:37.120 --> 0:35:40.400
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, I did not do the routine. My airtime

0:35:40.520 --> 0:35:43.240
<v Speaker 1>was probably forty five seconds, but it was an impactful

0:35:43.280 --> 0:35:44.080
<v Speaker 1>forty five seconds.

0:35:44.160 --> 0:35:48.360
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you probably should learn the routine. That's a good real.

0:35:48.880 --> 0:35:50.440
<v Speaker 1>That is a good reel. Although I don't know if

0:35:50.440 --> 0:35:50.920
<v Speaker 1>he'd be down.

0:35:51.320 --> 0:35:55.080
<v Speaker 2>He is so down. Remember when we did the fancy dance,

0:35:55.400 --> 0:35:58.279
<v Speaker 2>he was so into it. Yeah, Yeah, you were the

0:35:58.320 --> 0:36:00.239
<v Speaker 2>one we were having to drag onto the dance for.

0:36:00.680 --> 0:36:02.799
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'm not so good at the synchronized dancing, but

0:36:02.840 --> 0:36:06.439
<v Speaker 1>the the routine seems doable. Yeah.

0:36:06.520 --> 0:36:09.080
<v Speaker 2>Do you remember long? It's long, Yeah, but it's it's

0:36:09.160 --> 0:36:13.000
<v Speaker 2>easy movements that I think you can learn, just some five, six, seven,

0:36:13.040 --> 0:36:13.640
<v Speaker 2>eight movements.

0:36:13.719 --> 0:36:14.360
<v Speaker 1>Yeah exactly.

0:36:17.560 --> 0:36:20.160
<v Speaker 2>Was there something there was something else that you said, Yeah,

0:36:20.520 --> 0:36:21.640
<v Speaker 2>we can do it with my detalks.

0:36:21.760 --> 0:36:23.359
<v Speaker 1>Oh we come back, Okay, We'll be right back.

0:36:23.440 --> 0:36:47.359
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, all right, So Tanya, you have started a new detox. Yes,

0:36:48.200 --> 0:36:49.279
<v Speaker 2>what is it? So?

0:36:50.520 --> 0:36:56.719
<v Speaker 1>I have come to realize that I am addicted to Survivor,

0:36:57.480 --> 0:36:59.919
<v Speaker 1>like in a not healthy way. I'm in the middle

0:36:59.920 --> 0:37:01.200
<v Speaker 1>of three different seasons.

0:37:02.360 --> 0:37:03.600
<v Speaker 2>How do you keep up? Like?

0:37:03.640 --> 0:37:04.080
<v Speaker 1>How do you?

0:37:04.640 --> 0:37:08.120
<v Speaker 2>I don't know why three different seasons? Instead of just watching.

0:37:08.040 --> 0:37:12.120
<v Speaker 1>Just one, we watch one as a family, we watch

0:37:12.360 --> 0:37:14.880
<v Speaker 1>one that's currently airing live but it's only once a

0:37:14.880 --> 0:37:18.080
<v Speaker 1>week so it's not that much. And then we watched

0:37:18.120 --> 0:37:19.440
<v Speaker 1>one just Robbie and I.

0:37:19.480 --> 0:37:21.400
<v Speaker 2>Why do I feel like the one that is alive

0:37:21.520 --> 0:37:23.080
<v Speaker 2>has aired? The finale?

0:37:23.200 --> 0:37:24.080
<v Speaker 1>Like they did it did?

0:37:24.239 --> 0:37:24.960
<v Speaker 2>It just ended?

0:37:25.200 --> 0:37:31.200
<v Speaker 1>So that so now it's just two Who won? Her

0:37:31.280 --> 0:37:36.040
<v Speaker 1>name is d and who won? All over one? I

0:37:36.080 --> 0:37:36.880
<v Speaker 1>got second place?

0:37:37.080 --> 0:37:37.319
<v Speaker 2>Ye?

0:37:37.400 --> 0:37:38.279
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, thank you so much.

0:37:38.400 --> 0:37:38.600
<v Speaker 2>Nice.

0:37:39.400 --> 0:37:40.880
<v Speaker 1>But it's weird because, like I don't know if you

0:37:40.880 --> 0:37:44.279
<v Speaker 1>guys do fantasy football, but every player gets like points.

0:37:44.040 --> 0:37:44.359
<v Speaker 2>I don't.

0:37:45.600 --> 0:37:47.440
<v Speaker 1>So Robbie did it the same way he does fantasy football.

0:37:47.480 --> 0:37:51.239
<v Speaker 1>So my player didn't win. She got fourth place, but

0:37:51.320 --> 0:37:53.600
<v Speaker 1>somehow I got second place because all my players lasted

0:37:53.640 --> 0:37:54.120
<v Speaker 1>pretty long.

0:37:54.200 --> 0:37:58.799
<v Speaker 2>Oh I see yeah, okay, so you are doing a

0:37:59.000 --> 0:37:59.879
<v Speaker 2>detox of Survi.

0:38:00.360 --> 0:38:04.160
<v Speaker 1>Yes, so I decided that I want to do a

0:38:04.280 --> 0:38:07.920
<v Speaker 1>detox of Survivor at least until the next season starts

0:38:07.920 --> 0:38:08.840
<v Speaker 1>to air in February.

0:38:09.160 --> 0:38:11.719
<v Speaker 2>Okay, So it's going to be about season in February.

0:38:11.719 --> 0:38:15.160
<v Speaker 1>Correct forty six, Season forty six. Okay, So for the

0:38:15.160 --> 0:38:19.879
<v Speaker 1>next month, I'm not going dry, fully dry, but it's

0:38:19.880 --> 0:38:21.840
<v Speaker 1>not going to be a daily occurrence in my life anymore.

0:38:23.760 --> 0:38:26.960
<v Speaker 1>So if anybody has any show recommendations that they would

0:38:27.000 --> 0:38:30.640
<v Speaker 1>like to give me, that would be very much appreciated

0:38:31.480 --> 0:38:35.399
<v Speaker 1>and help with my detox. Did you watch Saltburn? No,

0:38:35.480 --> 0:38:37.520
<v Speaker 1>because you gave it the worst review of all times.

0:38:38.160 --> 0:38:39.680
<v Speaker 2>I didn't mean to give it the worst review.

0:38:39.760 --> 0:38:41.680
<v Speaker 1>You did. You were like, I think you'd hate it.

0:38:41.680 --> 0:38:44.160
<v Speaker 1>It's dark, And then I'm like, it's dark.

0:38:43.960 --> 0:38:45.600
<v Speaker 2>At that, Like, did you watch it?

0:38:45.640 --> 0:38:46.279
<v Speaker 3>I did watch it.

0:38:46.280 --> 0:38:49.520
<v Speaker 2>It's so it was like so engaging. I don't know,

0:38:49.800 --> 0:38:51.840
<v Speaker 2>it wasn't it wasn't a bad movie.

0:38:51.960 --> 0:38:54.200
<v Speaker 3>No, it's it's a good movie. I really dug it.

0:38:54.200 --> 0:38:57.680
<v Speaker 2>It's just dark and twisted. Yeah, it's a psychological thriller.

0:38:58.719 --> 0:39:01.000
<v Speaker 2>But I never would have thought you'd be is having

0:39:01.000 --> 0:39:03.479
<v Speaker 2>to de talk from survivors. So I don't know what

0:39:03.520 --> 0:39:04.600
<v Speaker 2>you like at this point.

0:39:04.760 --> 0:39:08.200
<v Speaker 1>Well, it's interesting because I do like Yellow Jackets, which

0:39:08.239 --> 0:39:11.479
<v Speaker 1>is a very dark show as well. Have you seen that? No,

0:39:11.600 --> 0:39:14.440
<v Speaker 1>I think you would like it too. Okay, it's a

0:39:14.520 --> 0:39:17.759
<v Speaker 1>dark show, but I like it because the story is

0:39:17.800 --> 0:39:19.560
<v Speaker 1>like very interesting, it's compelling.

0:39:19.640 --> 0:39:21.479
<v Speaker 3>I think you would like Saltburn if you like Yellow Jets.

0:39:21.520 --> 0:39:23.239
<v Speaker 2>Really, I think so too. And I think if you

0:39:23.280 --> 0:39:25.839
<v Speaker 2>can go into it being like there's some moments where

0:39:25.840 --> 0:39:28.399
<v Speaker 2>you're just like, what the movie not a show?

0:39:28.600 --> 0:39:31.920
<v Speaker 3>Maybe the moments in Yellow Jackets personally, I think that

0:39:32.000 --> 0:39:34.640
<v Speaker 3>are like horrifying, are much worse than what happens in Sulburn.

0:39:34.760 --> 0:39:37.319
<v Speaker 2>In my power, I don't know if I could watch

0:39:37.360 --> 0:39:38.040
<v Speaker 2>the Yellow Jackets.

0:39:38.160 --> 0:39:39.280
<v Speaker 1>It's very good.

0:39:39.480 --> 0:39:42.880
<v Speaker 3>It's very very good. Both are very good. Saltburn Yellowjackets

0:39:42.880 --> 0:39:43.360
<v Speaker 3>are great to me.

0:39:43.440 --> 0:39:45.000
<v Speaker 1>Yellow Jackets is like ten out of ten.

0:39:45.239 --> 0:39:49.879
<v Speaker 2>Wow, Okay, well, I'll watch Yellow Jackets if you'll watch

0:39:49.920 --> 0:39:51.120
<v Speaker 2>the much Stelburn deal.

0:39:53.040 --> 0:39:54.840
<v Speaker 3>Selburn takes place in two thousand and six, which I

0:39:54.840 --> 0:39:57.640
<v Speaker 3>think is really fun for people our age because that's

0:39:57.680 --> 0:39:59.799
<v Speaker 3>what we were like, you know, high school.

0:39:59.840 --> 0:40:00.200
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:40:00.200 --> 0:40:03.200
<v Speaker 2>I don't even know if I realized that. Really was

0:40:03.200 --> 0:40:04.440
<v Speaker 2>that a significant point?

0:40:05.239 --> 0:40:07.279
<v Speaker 3>I mean they put it on the screen, a really

0:40:07.280 --> 0:40:10.239
<v Speaker 3>big text, and then everyone's clothes kind of looked like it.

0:40:10.320 --> 0:40:12.600
<v Speaker 3>The music, especially the music's the biggest I notice.

0:40:12.600 --> 0:40:15.680
<v Speaker 2>The music was really good. What a great year of music.

0:40:15.800 --> 0:40:19.320
<v Speaker 3>Yes, a lot of like MGMT stuff like that. Nice,

0:40:19.640 --> 0:40:22.080
<v Speaker 3>But it takes place in this like really ornate like palace,

0:40:22.120 --> 0:40:24.160
<v Speaker 3>so it's kind of hard to like the two and

0:40:24.280 --> 0:40:26.120
<v Speaker 3>six of it all gets lost in that, but.

0:40:26.600 --> 0:40:28.960
<v Speaker 1>It's beautifully shot. Okay, fine, I'll watch it if you

0:40:29.000 --> 0:40:31.359
<v Speaker 1>watch Yellow Jackets. Okay, deal deal.

0:40:31.760 --> 0:40:33.719
<v Speaker 2>I Also, I don't know if I've talked about this,

0:40:33.800 --> 0:40:37.480
<v Speaker 2>but I did finish Fellow Travelers. I speak about this

0:40:37.600 --> 0:40:41.880
<v Speaker 2>because I cried. It was like so intense. The ending.

0:40:42.080 --> 0:40:45.080
<v Speaker 2>I was like sobbing, and Maalen be goes, She's like,

0:40:45.120 --> 0:40:49.080
<v Speaker 2>are you good? But I think I mean Fellow Travelers

0:40:49.160 --> 0:40:53.040
<v Speaker 2>is about I mean, I don't know how to say

0:40:53.040 --> 0:40:56.399
<v Speaker 2>it exactly what it is. But it's like the politics

0:40:56.960 --> 0:41:01.480
<v Speaker 2>with the like ban of homicideuality of like people getting

0:41:01.680 --> 0:41:04.799
<v Speaker 2>literally arrested and killed for being gay, like they all

0:41:04.800 --> 0:41:09.000
<v Speaker 2>had like secret relationships outside of their marriages. Anyways, Oh

0:41:09.080 --> 0:41:11.120
<v Speaker 2>my god, I'm in love with Matt Bomber, Like he's

0:41:11.320 --> 0:41:16.920
<v Speaker 2>just is it Bomber or Bomer? I think it's Boomer Bomer. Yeah, whatever,

0:41:17.120 --> 0:41:21.839
<v Speaker 2>I'm in love with him and I would freak out

0:41:21.840 --> 0:41:25.440
<v Speaker 2>if I met him. But anyways, I think what it

0:41:25.600 --> 0:41:27.439
<v Speaker 2>was is I was telling Haley, I was like, it's

0:41:27.560 --> 0:41:30.560
<v Speaker 2>such a privilege that we have, like to be able

0:41:30.600 --> 0:41:34.040
<v Speaker 2>to have a relationship that even like it's not fully safe.

0:41:34.080 --> 0:41:34.880
<v Speaker 1>Did I already talk.

0:41:34.719 --> 0:41:37.480
<v Speaker 2>About this on the podcast. No, No, it's not fully

0:41:37.520 --> 0:41:41.040
<v Speaker 2>it's not safe for everyone still to have a relationship

0:41:41.120 --> 0:41:45.600
<v Speaker 2>with in a same sex relationship or LGBTQ plus relationship.

0:41:46.000 --> 0:41:48.600
<v Speaker 2>But I was saying, like it made me feel like

0:41:48.920 --> 0:41:52.040
<v Speaker 2>recognize the privilege that we have to like love each

0:41:52.040 --> 0:41:55.359
<v Speaker 2>other publicly and like have a relationship without the I mean,

0:41:55.360 --> 0:41:57.560
<v Speaker 2>people do live in fear, and there is fear when

0:41:57.600 --> 0:41:59.879
<v Speaker 2>you go to certain places, but just to be able

0:41:59.920 --> 0:42:01.799
<v Speaker 2>to to be with the person that you love is

0:42:01.840 --> 0:42:05.719
<v Speaker 2>such a profound gift, you know, and like so many

0:42:05.719 --> 0:42:07.680
<v Speaker 2>people in the past and even people now don't get

0:42:07.719 --> 0:42:12.200
<v Speaker 2>to have that that choice or that option. And I

0:42:12.280 --> 0:42:14.879
<v Speaker 2>was like so emotional about it thinking about all these

0:42:14.920 --> 0:42:17.520
<v Speaker 2>older people who never got to love who they wanted

0:42:17.560 --> 0:42:20.520
<v Speaker 2>to love or experience the love that I get to

0:42:20.600 --> 0:42:24.640
<v Speaker 2>experience just because of like laws and hate, Like really

0:42:24.640 --> 0:42:27.520
<v Speaker 2>what it comes down to. It's such a beautiful show.

0:42:28.160 --> 0:42:36.280
<v Speaker 3>So I did not watch Philo Travelers, but okay, yeah,

0:42:36.360 --> 0:42:38.359
<v Speaker 3>every time I finished an episode of the Curse, they

0:42:38.360 --> 0:42:39.600
<v Speaker 3>want me to watch Fellow Travelers.

0:42:40.239 --> 0:42:43.560
<v Speaker 2>It's amazing. And Jonathan Bailey is so cute. He kind

0:42:43.560 --> 0:42:48.200
<v Speaker 2>of reminds me a Brad Brad. I love Brad.

0:42:48.239 --> 0:42:50.920
<v Speaker 1>I started watching some show actually on Netflix that I

0:42:50.960 --> 0:42:54.880
<v Speaker 1>think you would like. It's called Oh my God, my

0:42:54.960 --> 0:42:56.520
<v Speaker 1>Brother's the Walters or something.

0:42:56.640 --> 0:42:57.239
<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh.

0:42:57.360 --> 0:43:02.640
<v Speaker 1>I've heard it was horrible, like painfully corny, so corny.

0:43:02.680 --> 0:43:04.480
<v Speaker 1>But it's like the summery turned pretty, Yeah, but that

0:43:04.600 --> 0:43:06.680
<v Speaker 1>was so corny. My life with the Walter Boys, Yeah,

0:43:06.719 --> 0:43:08.160
<v Speaker 1>my life with the Walter Boys.

0:43:08.520 --> 0:43:10.800
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't know. I barely got through summer. I

0:43:10.880 --> 0:43:11.680
<v Speaker 2>turn pretty, Oh.

0:43:11.640 --> 0:43:13.440
<v Speaker 1>My gosh, And I love them.

0:43:13.560 --> 0:43:15.440
<v Speaker 2>I think those actors are so cute.

0:43:15.440 --> 0:43:16.759
<v Speaker 1>It's like the Love Triangle.

0:43:17.480 --> 0:43:20.680
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm gone. I'm good with the one the Summer

0:43:20.719 --> 0:43:21.720
<v Speaker 2>I tern pretty wow.

0:43:21.800 --> 0:43:23.959
<v Speaker 1>All right, no takers for that one? All right? Fine,

0:43:24.000 --> 0:43:25.680
<v Speaker 1>but it wasn't I do know a lot of people

0:43:25.719 --> 0:43:27.920
<v Speaker 1>were watching it. That's when I start because I was like,

0:43:28.600 --> 0:43:31.560
<v Speaker 1>my Survivor neess is like getting out of control, Like

0:43:31.600 --> 0:43:34.839
<v Speaker 1>it's actually like we burned through one season in two days.

0:43:36.840 --> 0:43:39.040
<v Speaker 3>I almost six you the other day because over the break,

0:43:39.080 --> 0:43:41.319
<v Speaker 3>Allison and I got into the show and HGTV called

0:43:41.360 --> 0:43:43.200
<v Speaker 3>why the heck did I buy this house? And it's

0:43:43.200 --> 0:43:47.320
<v Speaker 3>hosted by a woman named Kim Wolf who Uh, they're

0:43:47.320 --> 0:43:49.239
<v Speaker 3>doing some it's like the first season the show, and

0:43:49.280 --> 0:43:50.719
<v Speaker 3>they're doing this thing with theyre walk around time. People

0:43:50.719 --> 0:43:52.120
<v Speaker 3>are posing for pictures with her and Alison and I

0:43:52.160 --> 0:43:53.960
<v Speaker 3>are like, this show hasn't air yet. White people are

0:43:53.960 --> 0:43:57.520
<v Speaker 3>posing for pictures. She won Survivor in twenty twenty. Kim

0:43:57.719 --> 0:43:59.920
<v Speaker 3>her name was Kim Spradlin. At that point, what is

0:44:00.120 --> 0:44:00.400
<v Speaker 3>look like?

0:44:01.120 --> 0:44:04.000
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, get me a picture. I saw the season There was.

0:44:04.000 --> 0:44:06.080
<v Speaker 2>A winner of Survivor that just came out.

0:44:06.560 --> 0:44:08.200
<v Speaker 1>D her name, first name is D. I don't know

0:44:08.239 --> 0:44:08.799
<v Speaker 1>her last name.

0:44:09.120 --> 0:44:11.480
<v Speaker 2>No, I'm not talking about the most recent winner. I'm

0:44:11.480 --> 0:44:13.960
<v Speaker 2>talking about Parvety parvity is how was saying your.

0:44:13.920 --> 0:44:17.000
<v Speaker 1>Name Harvedy Parverty came out?

0:44:17.719 --> 0:44:19.799
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, So I'm trying to find the I'm trying to

0:44:19.800 --> 0:44:21.160
<v Speaker 2>find the episode.

0:44:21.160 --> 0:44:26.080
<v Speaker 1>That's the season I'm watching currently right now. So spoiler alert,

0:44:26.120 --> 0:44:28.840
<v Speaker 1>spoiler alert. But it's like season I don't know what season.

0:44:28.880 --> 0:44:31.080
<v Speaker 1>I don't know the seasons. I think it's like I

0:44:31.120 --> 0:44:33.000
<v Speaker 1>don't know, but it's her first season she was ever on,

0:44:33.239 --> 0:44:34.480
<v Speaker 1>but she came back and she was on the all

0:44:34.520 --> 0:44:37.719
<v Speaker 1>star season that I'm like obsessed with. So we're just

0:44:37.760 --> 0:44:40.319
<v Speaker 1>about to watch the finale of her season. And this

0:44:40.400 --> 0:44:43.000
<v Speaker 1>is the first season that they had an all girl alliance.

0:44:43.120 --> 0:44:46.120
<v Speaker 1>Make it to like final. I think four is all

0:44:46.160 --> 0:44:50.040
<v Speaker 1>girls and it's fantastic because it's all the winners. All

0:44:50.040 --> 0:44:53.080
<v Speaker 1>these people have won in the past, so they're playing

0:44:53.239 --> 0:44:55.879
<v Speaker 1>so freakin' hard. It's the best season. This is why

0:44:55.920 --> 0:44:56.959
<v Speaker 1>she's de talking people.

0:44:57.000 --> 0:44:59.280
<v Speaker 2>Did you hear the past? We have that much passion

0:44:59.320 --> 0:45:01.479
<v Speaker 2>from Danya year.

0:45:02.640 --> 0:45:05.040
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, No show has like rattled me like this, like

0:45:05.160 --> 0:45:08.560
<v Speaker 1>I I'm talking strategy. We played Survivor with the kids

0:45:08.600 --> 0:45:10.880
<v Speaker 1>for New Year's That was like on the day of,

0:45:11.040 --> 0:45:14.759
<v Speaker 1>like the day before or New Year's Day, New Year's whatever. Uh.

0:45:14.840 --> 0:45:16.640
<v Speaker 1>We were playing Survivor, but the four of us, me

0:45:16.680 --> 0:45:18.360
<v Speaker 1>and Robbing and the kids, and we had to like

0:45:18.560 --> 0:45:21.440
<v Speaker 1>vote each other out. Were like strategizing and we were playing.

0:45:21.640 --> 0:45:24.319
<v Speaker 1>We were doing like wall sits for immunity challenges and

0:45:24.400 --> 0:45:27.359
<v Speaker 1>like little cup games and stuff. And that's when I

0:45:27.400 --> 0:45:30.160
<v Speaker 1>was like this is this is had a moment yeah,

0:45:30.200 --> 0:45:33.239
<v Speaker 1>at a moment and I was like, your legs are

0:45:33.920 --> 0:45:36.360
<v Speaker 1>why are we doing it? A minute? We're like voting

0:45:36.400 --> 0:45:38.839
<v Speaker 1>out like our nine year old. I was like, this

0:45:38.920 --> 0:45:44.680
<v Speaker 1>is really ticulous smoking shoot because he was too much

0:45:44.719 --> 0:45:48.240
<v Speaker 1>of a social threat. I was like this, we gotta

0:45:48.719 --> 0:45:49.600
<v Speaker 1>we gotta stop this.

0:45:49.800 --> 0:45:53.200
<v Speaker 2>There is a Gypsy Rose Blantern special coming up on

0:45:53.320 --> 0:45:55.719
<v Speaker 2>Lifetime that I am feaning for.

0:45:55.800 --> 0:45:57.560
<v Speaker 1>It might be out already. What's it coming up on?

0:45:57.920 --> 0:46:01.000
<v Speaker 2>It's on Lifetime. It's a docu series. She's still in prison. Yeah,

0:46:01.120 --> 0:46:02.040
<v Speaker 2>she's like in prison.

0:46:02.080 --> 0:46:04.920
<v Speaker 1>To watch that too. I am so fascinated by her.

0:46:06.000 --> 0:46:06.840
<v Speaker 1>I don't know why.

0:46:06.960 --> 0:46:11.040
<v Speaker 2>Well, it's the story is like devaz, it's crazy, it's

0:46:11.080 --> 0:46:14.960
<v Speaker 2>so sad and people you watch the act, oh yeah,

0:46:15.000 --> 0:46:18.919
<v Speaker 2>it's amazing. Yeah, But like I it's such a conflicting

0:46:19.040 --> 0:46:22.640
<v Speaker 2>thing because I mean, she murdered her mother, you know

0:46:22.719 --> 0:46:26.560
<v Speaker 2>in your view, Oh well, I mean that's not part.

0:46:26.360 --> 0:46:27.680
<v Speaker 3>Of her republic criminal trial.

0:46:29.480 --> 0:46:32.879
<v Speaker 2>But she was tortured. I mean, like what her mom

0:46:32.920 --> 0:46:37.759
<v Speaker 2>did was like crazy, horrible type of abuse. Like I

0:46:37.760 --> 0:46:41.600
<v Speaker 2>don't it's crazy. And and so there's this thing where

0:46:41.600 --> 0:46:43.640
<v Speaker 2>you're like rooting for this girl because she she served

0:46:43.640 --> 0:46:47.520
<v Speaker 2>her time, and it's horrible that it came down to

0:46:47.520 --> 0:46:50.000
<v Speaker 2>what it came down to, but she's finally getting to

0:46:50.040 --> 0:46:52.160
<v Speaker 2>have a life. She never had a life, and then

0:46:52.160 --> 0:46:55.040
<v Speaker 2>she went to jail. She was like literally abuse, forced

0:46:55.040 --> 0:46:55.800
<v Speaker 2>to be in a wheelchair.

0:46:56.120 --> 0:46:58.720
<v Speaker 1>No, I'm so fascinated by it too, Like I'm watching

0:46:58.760 --> 0:47:00.960
<v Speaker 1>every step, Like she was at Burger King, she was

0:47:01.000 --> 0:47:02.600
<v Speaker 1>having a doctor pepper.

0:47:03.080 --> 0:47:03.959
<v Speaker 3>She got I phone.

0:47:05.120 --> 0:47:06.120
<v Speaker 2>She's an influencer.

0:47:06.320 --> 0:47:09.080
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's pretty wild. She listened to Taylor Swift to

0:47:09.080 --> 0:47:09.920
<v Speaker 1>get her through prison.

0:47:10.560 --> 0:47:14.000
<v Speaker 2>The year, the years that were in of social media.

0:47:13.880 --> 0:47:15.000
<v Speaker 1>So dystopian.

0:47:15.640 --> 0:47:17.840
<v Speaker 3>Let me. As soon as she stepped out of that prison,

0:47:17.920 --> 0:47:20.319
<v Speaker 3>I was started manifesting Amy Sugar. If you're listening to this,

0:47:20.480 --> 0:47:22.920
<v Speaker 3>I want her podcast so bad. I'm like yeah, I

0:47:22.960 --> 0:47:25.240
<v Speaker 3>was waiting for a text saying can you go to Missouri?

0:47:25.400 --> 0:47:26.440
<v Speaker 1>Did you text Amy?

0:47:26.880 --> 0:47:28.640
<v Speaker 3>I have not texted her yet. I want I want

0:47:28.640 --> 0:47:30.040
<v Speaker 3>to wait for this because it might already be in

0:47:30.040 --> 0:47:30.600
<v Speaker 3>the works, that's all.

0:47:30.800 --> 0:47:31.680
<v Speaker 2>She's in Louisiana.

0:47:31.800 --> 0:47:35.760
<v Speaker 3>She's in Louisiana, Okay, but yeah.

0:47:35.560 --> 0:47:38.280
<v Speaker 2>It is because someone messages because I said, like celeb

0:47:38.320 --> 0:47:40.640
<v Speaker 2>I posed like cheers in to Gypsy Rose getting out

0:47:40.640 --> 0:47:43.280
<v Speaker 2>of prison, and she's like, this is so crazy this culture.

0:47:43.320 --> 0:47:46.759
<v Speaker 2>She murdered her mom, and I'm like, but what are

0:47:46.760 --> 0:47:48.560
<v Speaker 2>her mom? What about what her mom did to her?

0:47:48.640 --> 0:47:51.560
<v Speaker 2>And she served her time like she you know.

0:47:51.840 --> 0:47:54.920
<v Speaker 1>I mean, in my opinion, there's not really time you

0:47:54.960 --> 0:47:57.280
<v Speaker 1>can serve to make up for taking somebody else's life.

0:47:57.719 --> 0:48:03.760
<v Speaker 1>But it is the while oldest story I have ever heard.

0:48:04.280 --> 0:48:09.000
<v Speaker 2>Like, but my argument is if someone did something abusive

0:48:09.040 --> 0:48:11.759
<v Speaker 2>to me and my dad murdered that person out of

0:48:11.840 --> 0:48:14.520
<v Speaker 2>just like pure rage for someone hurting me or doing

0:48:14.560 --> 0:48:17.960
<v Speaker 2>something abusive to me, and then my dad served his time,

0:48:18.440 --> 0:48:21.160
<v Speaker 2>I'd be like rooting for my dad if I you

0:48:21.160 --> 0:48:24.520
<v Speaker 2>know what I'm saying, Like, it's never I can't imagine

0:48:24.520 --> 0:48:29.040
<v Speaker 2>ever taking someone's life, but yeah, seeing someone that you

0:48:29.120 --> 0:48:32.160
<v Speaker 2>love or like being tortured to a certain level forces

0:48:32.160 --> 0:48:33.319
<v Speaker 2>people to do insane things.

0:48:33.440 --> 0:48:34.920
<v Speaker 1>It's like to see it through the lens of the

0:48:34.960 --> 0:48:37.640
<v Speaker 1>TV show. I know the TV show was made based

0:48:37.680 --> 0:48:40.120
<v Speaker 1>on the real life story, but I have to look

0:48:40.120 --> 0:48:42.280
<v Speaker 1>at it through a lens of a TV show because

0:48:42.800 --> 0:48:45.160
<v Speaker 1>when I think of it in real life, I can't

0:48:45.400 --> 0:48:47.680
<v Speaker 1>I can't root for her, I can't be happy for her,

0:48:47.840 --> 0:48:49.520
<v Speaker 1>like I can't do any of it. So in my mind,

0:48:49.560 --> 0:48:52.280
<v Speaker 1>it's just like a TV show that I'm still watching,

0:48:52.480 --> 0:48:54.839
<v Speaker 1>you know, just to like be able.

0:48:54.560 --> 0:48:56.640
<v Speaker 2>To desensitize yourself.

0:48:56.680 --> 0:48:58.680
<v Speaker 1>Correct. Yeah, well it's real.

0:48:59.200 --> 0:49:04.160
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's so crazy, and I'm excited to watch because

0:49:05.480 --> 0:49:07.640
<v Speaker 2>the problem is there's a lot of fake accounts for

0:49:07.680 --> 0:49:09.080
<v Speaker 2>her right now, so I can't tell him what it's

0:49:09.120 --> 0:49:13.000
<v Speaker 2>real or not. And she posted some I think she said,

0:49:13.120 --> 0:49:18.279
<v Speaker 2>I tried to watch the actor a story, a scripted thing,

0:49:18.280 --> 0:49:20.000
<v Speaker 2>and she said it was a lot.

0:49:20.040 --> 0:49:21.640
<v Speaker 1>It was like really hard, but that could have been

0:49:21.800 --> 0:49:23.600
<v Speaker 1>did you know, just to lighten the mood a little.

0:49:24.239 --> 0:49:26.919
<v Speaker 1>That is where Joey King met her now husband making

0:49:27.040 --> 0:49:27.440
<v Speaker 1>that show.

0:49:28.719 --> 0:49:29.880
<v Speaker 2>That's the guy in the movie.

0:49:30.000 --> 0:49:32.520
<v Speaker 1>No, I believe he was a producer or director or

0:49:32.560 --> 0:49:33.480
<v Speaker 1>something behind the scenes.

0:49:35.080 --> 0:49:36.359
<v Speaker 2>She was amazing in that show.

0:49:36.440 --> 0:49:39.240
<v Speaker 1>I know, but imagine falling in love in the midst

0:49:39.239 --> 0:49:40.280
<v Speaker 1>of doing that.

0:49:42.080 --> 0:49:47.920
<v Speaker 2>The Yeah yeah, yeah, it's a really crazy, sad story.

0:49:48.280 --> 0:49:50.399
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but wow a great show.

0:50:07.520 --> 0:50:11.600
<v Speaker 3>Yeah. I wanted to write in with an email I

0:50:11.800 --> 0:50:14.000
<v Speaker 3>becent Tania, this is Easton. I'm a big fan. We

0:50:14.120 --> 0:50:18.680
<v Speaker 3>listened for a long time. Something happened over Christmas that

0:50:18.760 --> 0:50:20.879
<v Speaker 3>I just thought was weird and I wanted your take

0:50:20.920 --> 0:50:24.440
<v Speaker 3>on this. I have been going to a therapist for

0:50:24.480 --> 0:50:30.719
<v Speaker 3>like three years and she's been great. Uh, I have not.

0:50:31.040 --> 0:50:33.680
<v Speaker 3>I do the east Awards every year, which where everyone

0:50:33.680 --> 0:50:35.600
<v Speaker 3>on everyone listens to show is probably familiar. They're on

0:50:35.680 --> 0:50:38.719
<v Speaker 3>January seventh of this year. I have not talked to

0:50:38.920 --> 0:50:42.920
<v Speaker 3>my therapist about the east Awards because because they are

0:50:42.920 --> 0:50:44.799
<v Speaker 3>not a source of stress for me, they bring me

0:50:44.800 --> 0:50:47.960
<v Speaker 3>a lot of joy. So I've not brought them up ever. Uh,

0:50:48.960 --> 0:50:51.600
<v Speaker 3>I don't. She doesn't follow me on Instagram, like we don't.

0:50:51.719 --> 0:50:55.120
<v Speaker 3>You know. The conversation here is like how much outside

0:50:55.120 --> 0:51:00.000
<v Speaker 3>of contact is appropriate from a therapist. I get. I

0:51:00.080 --> 0:51:03.000
<v Speaker 3>started selling Eastwards T shirts this year, which a lot

0:51:03.000 --> 0:51:05.440
<v Speaker 3>of scrubbers have purchased, and that's very kind of you.

0:51:06.200 --> 0:51:08.680
<v Speaker 3>I got an email from the T shirt like thing

0:51:09.000 --> 0:51:12.080
<v Speaker 3>at midnight saying that my therapist had bought a T

0:51:12.200 --> 0:51:16.040
<v Speaker 3>shirt and my I started spiraling at that point because

0:51:16.040 --> 0:51:19.640
<v Speaker 3>I was like, Okay, that means she was on my

0:51:19.719 --> 0:51:24.400
<v Speaker 3>Instagram at midnight and then decided to buy this T shirt.

0:51:25.120 --> 0:51:27.719
<v Speaker 3>I know there's a there's like a version of this,

0:51:27.760 --> 0:51:30.319
<v Speaker 3>which is like she wanted to be supportive, you know,

0:51:30.560 --> 0:51:31.640
<v Speaker 3>and like helped me out.

0:51:31.680 --> 0:51:34.040
<v Speaker 1>No, it's a no for me, so that would make me.

0:51:34.440 --> 0:51:36.680
<v Speaker 1>I only want my therapist to know what.

0:51:36.840 --> 0:51:41.279
<v Speaker 3>I tell her thank you. Yeah, that's where I was at.

0:51:41.440 --> 0:51:44.520
<v Speaker 3>And she didn't say she didn't like text me. She's

0:51:44.560 --> 0:51:48.560
<v Speaker 3>texted me before. She texted me some. I found out

0:51:48.600 --> 0:51:51.440
<v Speaker 3>she's a She revealed she's a big fan of someone

0:51:52.000 --> 0:51:55.680
<v Speaker 3>we do a podcast with, which felt weird to me

0:51:56.040 --> 0:51:58.040
<v Speaker 3>and I like I because I was like, oh man,

0:51:58.040 --> 0:52:00.200
<v Speaker 3>I'm like complaining, you know, not like you.

0:52:01.880 --> 0:52:01.960
<v Speaker 2>Know.

0:52:02.120 --> 0:52:03.960
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, And I found she was like a big fan

0:52:04.280 --> 0:52:07.600
<v Speaker 3>and she's text me about that once before, but she

0:52:07.600 --> 0:52:09.239
<v Speaker 3>did not text me about like like, oh, hey, I

0:52:09.239 --> 0:52:10.719
<v Speaker 3>saw you were selling T shirts. I bought one, Like

0:52:10.719 --> 0:52:12.600
<v Speaker 3>she didn't say that just I just got the email

0:52:13.160 --> 0:52:15.319
<v Speaker 3>and I I packaged it up and send it off

0:52:15.360 --> 0:52:18.000
<v Speaker 3>to her, and uh, my mind is just like going

0:52:18.000 --> 0:52:20.360
<v Speaker 3>to a million places because I'm like, how, like is

0:52:20.360 --> 0:52:22.400
<v Speaker 3>she gonna wear it around town? Like what's going on with?

0:52:22.480 --> 0:52:24.960
<v Speaker 3>Like this is my client's like fake award show he does.

0:52:24.960 --> 0:52:30.480
<v Speaker 3>It's so weird and normally, like if you know a

0:52:30.480 --> 0:52:31.880
<v Speaker 3>lot of friends that might have bought the shirt and

0:52:31.880 --> 0:52:34.080
<v Speaker 3>it didn't like it didn't nothing happened. But like the

0:52:34.120 --> 0:52:36.200
<v Speaker 3>fact that it was my therapist, I really started spiraling

0:52:36.239 --> 0:52:37.719
<v Speaker 3>and I just wanted to know if you guys would

0:52:37.719 --> 0:52:39.040
<v Speaker 3>think that was inappropriate or not.

0:52:41.640 --> 0:52:44.840
<v Speaker 1>It's a hard no for me. Yeah, I don't. This

0:52:44.960 --> 0:52:50.040
<v Speaker 1>is just me personally. I like that my therapist doesn't care,

0:52:50.360 --> 0:52:54.600
<v Speaker 1>doesn't know I don't think she knows names. She knows

0:52:54.640 --> 0:52:57.680
<v Speaker 1>I work in radio mornings, she knows I do a podcast.

0:52:57.680 --> 0:52:59.560
<v Speaker 1>So she doesn't know the names of anything. She doesn't

0:52:59.600 --> 0:53:04.000
<v Speaker 1>know any think about anything. And to my knowledge, she

0:53:04.080 --> 0:53:05.800
<v Speaker 1>really doesn't know anything about anything, do you know what

0:53:05.840 --> 0:53:07.600
<v Speaker 1>I mean? And I like it that way. I like

0:53:07.640 --> 0:53:10.799
<v Speaker 1>her just to know what I'm telling her. There's a

0:53:10.880 --> 0:53:12.360
<v Speaker 1>I don't know, there's a part of me that I

0:53:12.360 --> 0:53:15.520
<v Speaker 1>would feel not like I could be my one hundred

0:53:15.520 --> 0:53:19.799
<v Speaker 1>percent authentic open on his self if she did, or

0:53:19.840 --> 0:53:20.920
<v Speaker 1>if I knew she did.

0:53:22.440 --> 0:53:31.640
<v Speaker 2>See I feel like it's almost like delusional to think

0:53:31.680 --> 0:53:37.960
<v Speaker 2>that she doesn't know what you do. Really, therapist, and

0:53:38.000 --> 0:53:39.960
<v Speaker 2>I know that someone I'm talking to is on a

0:53:40.080 --> 0:53:44.640
<v Speaker 2>radio show, has a podcast, I'm hitting Google. Really yeah,

0:53:44.680 --> 0:53:45.400
<v Speaker 2>but I'm nosy.

0:53:45.760 --> 0:53:48.040
<v Speaker 3>I always wonder like would they look up your clients

0:53:48.080 --> 0:53:49.080
<v Speaker 3>on Instagram and stuff like that.

0:53:49.280 --> 0:53:53.480
<v Speaker 2>I invited his therapist to his concert, you know, like

0:53:53.520 --> 0:53:55.920
<v Speaker 2>in LA he was like, shout out to my therapist

0:53:55.960 --> 0:53:57.200
<v Speaker 2>for being in the audience tonight.

0:53:58.040 --> 0:54:01.319
<v Speaker 1>So yeah, but I think that like my vibe. Yeah,

0:54:01.360 --> 0:54:02.760
<v Speaker 1>but I also know there styles.

0:54:03.120 --> 0:54:04.120
<v Speaker 2>But you're a public figure.

0:54:04.360 --> 0:54:06.800
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but it's different, Like I'm not a public figure

0:54:06.880 --> 0:54:09.480
<v Speaker 1>where like HER's styles walks outside and everybody knows who

0:54:09.480 --> 0:54:11.600
<v Speaker 1>that is. I'm not that.

0:54:12.200 --> 0:54:14.360
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but if someone listens to the Morning Show, or

0:54:14.400 --> 0:54:18.360
<v Speaker 2>listens to podcasts, or like watches E in the Countdown,

0:54:18.440 --> 0:54:19.000
<v Speaker 2>they know him.

0:54:19.200 --> 0:54:21.919
<v Speaker 1>Guarantee you that my therapist doesn't do any of those things.

0:54:22.000 --> 0:54:24.879
<v Speaker 2>You don't think she watched Ryan Seacrest New Year's Eve

0:54:24.920 --> 0:54:25.520
<v Speaker 2>Show and tell.

0:54:25.440 --> 0:54:28.640
<v Speaker 1>You that she maybe that maybe, but everything else.

0:54:28.719 --> 0:54:31.880
<v Speaker 2>No, here's my thing. This is my argument, because I

0:54:31.920 --> 0:54:35.040
<v Speaker 2>don't really care. I'm like, you can. If I'm talking

0:54:35.080 --> 0:54:36.719
<v Speaker 2>to you, there's a chance that you can go. If

0:54:36.760 --> 0:54:38.719
<v Speaker 2>you have any curiosity about me or what I do,

0:54:38.800 --> 0:54:40.919
<v Speaker 2>you can just hit a Google and like or look

0:54:40.960 --> 0:54:43.879
<v Speaker 2>me up on Instagram. Like it's just out there. It's

0:54:44.120 --> 0:54:49.360
<v Speaker 2>public knowledge, and I trust that there's a client confidentiality,

0:54:49.440 --> 0:54:51.680
<v Speaker 2>you know, agreement that like what I've come to you

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<v Speaker 2>to talk about is stays here. But like that doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>mean that they don't know what else is going on

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<v Speaker 2>in my life. They just know what I'm sharing with them.

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<v Speaker 2>In that moment, you're in a sense, like in this

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<v Speaker 2>regard to your public figure, because you're doing something that's

0:55:07.239 --> 0:55:11.080
<v Speaker 2>public and she's wanting to support you and like probably

0:55:11.160 --> 0:55:12.680
<v Speaker 2>loves you. You've been with her for a long time,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's like, oh, I want to show my support

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<v Speaker 2>for him, and it feels invasive, But I don't think

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<v Speaker 2>it's coming from a you know, an safe place.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah I was, because I don't mind if she looks

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<v Speaker 3>at my Instagram. Obviously I know, I like, you know, like,

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<v Speaker 3>but I don't want to know about it.

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<v Speaker 2>There's been a deeps girl on your Instagram for.

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<v Speaker 1>Chance, and my therapist doesn't even know when I like

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<v Speaker 1>talk to her about like, She's like, how do you

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<v Speaker 1>like she doesn't know anything about stories? What is she

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<v Speaker 1>going to start finish your sentences with? Like what you've

0:55:42.840 --> 0:55:44.480
<v Speaker 1>been doing? You know what? I'm gonna live in my

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<v Speaker 1>Delulu world because I like that. I like her not

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<v Speaker 1>knowing anything.

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<v Speaker 2>You just saying there's a chance, regardless of if you

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<v Speaker 2>believe it or not or acknowledge it or not, that

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<v Speaker 2>your therapist knows who you are and what you do.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, let's say she does know what I do. Know

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<v Speaker 1>exactly where I work, the names of everything, knows everything,

0:55:59.280 --> 0:56:02.160
<v Speaker 1>watches my instagra every single day. I like that she

0:56:02.280 --> 0:56:06.080
<v Speaker 1>pretends that she doesn't. Yeah, great at least that I

0:56:06.160 --> 0:56:08.560
<v Speaker 1>like that she pretends that she knows nothing about anything.

0:56:09.200 --> 0:56:09.719
<v Speaker 1>I like that.

0:56:10.520 --> 0:56:13.920
<v Speaker 2>So she modered woman sweatshirt, you'd be like, what the.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Like?

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<v Speaker 3>And when I first started.

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<v Speaker 1>The only person in my life that I just want

0:56:24.719 --> 0:56:26.280
<v Speaker 1>her to know nothing.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe there's there's got to be a scrubbers out there

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<v Speaker 2>who are therapists are working the you know, yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Mental health or something. Yeah. When when I first started

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<v Speaker 3>seeing her, she she told me like, if we see

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<v Speaker 3>each other, because she's in the same town as me.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like if we see each other at the grocery store,

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<v Speaker 3>I won't say anything unless you do first, Like if

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<v Speaker 3>you come up and say what, I cannot because that

0:56:48.600 --> 0:56:50.759
<v Speaker 3>would be like mortifying to think about. Like I'm just

0:56:50.760 --> 0:56:54.080
<v Speaker 3>like shopping. It's like, hey, how's it going. I'm his therapist,

0:56:54.239 --> 0:56:57.319
<v Speaker 3>he comes to CB, he's cooker, you know, something like that.

0:56:57.360 --> 0:56:59.000
<v Speaker 2>But my therapist said the same thing to me.

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<v Speaker 3>I think that's like a a thing they teach you.

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<v Speaker 2>I think the same thing.

0:57:04.280 --> 0:57:09.160
<v Speaker 3>We should compare notes. But yeah, so like I wasn't like, oh,

0:57:09.440 --> 0:57:12.040
<v Speaker 3>she was gonna, like, you know, get on Instagram or

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<v Speaker 3>something and like post something weird. I'm not concerned about that,

0:57:14.480 --> 0:57:16.960
<v Speaker 3>but the whole like I just couldn't stop thinking about,

0:57:17.200 --> 0:57:19.680
<v Speaker 3>Like now, I was just picturing her at home at

0:57:19.680 --> 0:57:23.040
<v Speaker 3>midnight on my Instagram going like I'm gonna buy a

0:57:23.080 --> 0:57:25.360
<v Speaker 3>T shirt. It really sent me to a spiral. I

0:57:25.360 --> 0:57:28.720
<v Speaker 3>have not seen her since, and I don't know, like

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<v Speaker 3>I'm thinking about finding a new person.

0:57:32.080 --> 0:57:34.920
<v Speaker 2>You know, do you like, do you feel like connected?

0:57:35.040 --> 0:57:38.680
<v Speaker 2>Like do you like her in terms of what before this.

0:57:38.160 --> 0:57:40.960
<v Speaker 1>This is give you my girls infoe she is she

0:57:41.000 --> 0:57:44.360
<v Speaker 1>will pretend has no idea who you are.

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<v Speaker 3>The thing and if anyone else could relate to this.

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<v Speaker 3>But like I she's great, she moved though she's far away.

0:57:51.360 --> 0:57:53.800
<v Speaker 3>She's like an hour from me now, and I try

0:57:53.840 --> 0:57:56.680
<v Speaker 3>to do the FaceTime thing. I really didn't like it

0:57:56.720 --> 0:57:59.120
<v Speaker 3>because I have like, you know, I have to go

0:57:59.200 --> 0:58:00.800
<v Speaker 3>sit in the car, you know, to get go to

0:58:00.800 --> 0:58:02.520
<v Speaker 3>a private room the house. It feels weird. So I

0:58:02.600 --> 0:58:04.400
<v Speaker 3>go in to see her and it's just like so far.

0:58:05.200 --> 0:58:07.720
<v Speaker 3>But then the thought of meaning getting to find someone

0:58:07.760 --> 0:58:09.320
<v Speaker 3>else and like get them up to speed.

0:58:09.440 --> 0:58:11.200
<v Speaker 1>I know, getting someone else up to speed.

0:58:11.040 --> 0:58:14.520
<v Speaker 3>Feels like we gotta drop in at season four. Now

0:58:14.800 --> 0:58:17.000
<v Speaker 3>it's just like it's so much. I don't know. I

0:58:17.120 --> 0:58:19.400
<v Speaker 3>like that feels daunting. Yeah, that's all I like don't

0:58:19.400 --> 0:58:22.440
<v Speaker 3>want to do it. But then also like the you know,

0:58:22.640 --> 0:58:26.160
<v Speaker 3>she's not like so good, like I'm gonna imagine yeah,

0:58:26.560 --> 0:58:28.080
<v Speaker 3>like I you know, i'd say her like once a month.

0:58:28.120 --> 0:58:29.240
<v Speaker 3>I don't go like that often.

0:58:29.400 --> 0:58:30.680
<v Speaker 1>Let me give you a my girl number.

0:58:31.280 --> 0:58:33.560
<v Speaker 3>I'll happily take it and my first session will be

0:58:33.920 --> 0:58:36.040
<v Speaker 3>so I work with this person. Name is Tanya rad.

0:58:36.560 --> 0:58:37.440
<v Speaker 3>She works at one or two.

0:58:38.560 --> 0:58:40.360
<v Speaker 1>She knows my last name to be honest. I bet

0:58:40.400 --> 0:58:43.760
<v Speaker 1>she has no idea. She knows me. It's Tatiana Rode

0:58:43.840 --> 0:58:48.520
<v Speaker 1>Savi Beach. Yeah, bye knows all she knows.

0:58:49.760 --> 0:58:51.920
<v Speaker 2>So is your question, do you acknowledge doth? Yeah?

0:58:52.000 --> 0:58:52.720
<v Speaker 3>Do I say something?

0:58:52.720 --> 0:58:52.800
<v Speaker 2>Do?

0:58:52.840 --> 0:58:54.520
<v Speaker 3>I just not go back to her? Like, am I

0:58:54.560 --> 0:58:56.000
<v Speaker 3>right and feeling weird about I.

0:58:56.000 --> 0:58:59.720
<v Speaker 2>Think a therapist would say that you have an honest conversation,

0:59:00.520 --> 0:59:02.000
<v Speaker 2>But me, personally, I would.

0:59:01.760 --> 0:59:03.560
<v Speaker 1>Just go yeah.

0:59:03.680 --> 0:59:05.760
<v Speaker 2>I think that's the healthiest thing to do. I'm just

0:59:05.760 --> 0:59:06.640
<v Speaker 2>saying that's what I would do.

0:59:06.680 --> 0:59:09.040
<v Speaker 1>But if you're not a public figure, I still think

0:59:09.080 --> 0:59:11.360
<v Speaker 1>it's weird. Like I, if I were not a public figure,

0:59:11.360 --> 0:59:13.840
<v Speaker 1>I would still not want my therapist watching my Instagram.

0:59:15.720 --> 0:59:20.680
<v Speaker 2>Just me personally, I guess I just I share her

0:59:21.040 --> 0:59:23.959
<v Speaker 2>that I haven't shared on Instagram. So whatever she sees

0:59:23.960 --> 0:59:26.960
<v Speaker 2>on Instagram is like whatever, who cares?

0:59:27.040 --> 0:59:31.280
<v Speaker 1>It's not about that, It's not about that, It's about

0:59:31.280 --> 0:59:34.120
<v Speaker 1>the access, Like, you know, I just want her to

0:59:34.240 --> 0:59:35.720
<v Speaker 1>I want to focus in. I don't want her to

0:59:35.760 --> 0:59:38.280
<v Speaker 1>be like, how was your dinner at pot J last night?

0:59:38.320 --> 0:59:41.280
<v Speaker 2>You know, like I want her to me to acknowledge it,

0:59:41.360 --> 0:59:43.960
<v Speaker 2>but her seeing what you're doing isn't like it doesn't

0:59:44.040 --> 0:59:45.080
<v Speaker 2>affect anything.

0:59:45.280 --> 0:59:48.760
<v Speaker 1>Whether you know or not. You know, different strokes different folks.

0:59:49.440 --> 0:59:52.280
<v Speaker 2>I think you could just say, hey, I got your

0:59:52.360 --> 0:59:56.600
<v Speaker 2>order for the T shirt, like it made me feel

0:59:56.640 --> 0:59:58.880
<v Speaker 2>like a little bit uncomfortable just because we haven't crossed

0:59:58.880 --> 0:59:59.440
<v Speaker 2>like that person.

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<v Speaker 1>He cannot do that.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm telling you what therapist would say, you should have

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<v Speaker 2>a conversation. But I also think if you know whatever

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<v Speaker 2>feels safe for you, maybe you get the sure and

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<v Speaker 2>bring it to her for your next.

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<v Speaker 3>I shipped it out. It's in the main. I think

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<v Speaker 3>she has that already, like it's arrived, right, And I

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<v Speaker 3>just wrote thanks for thanks. I wrote a little note,

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<v Speaker 3>just just like everybody else, anyone else WoT I wrote

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<v Speaker 3>them little note say thank you. But and I just

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<v Speaker 3>said thank you, Cynthia. There you go. Wow, uh and uh.

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<v Speaker 3>I guess if she listens to this, that'll be the

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<v Speaker 3>big test. If she hears this podcast, only time will tell,

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<v Speaker 3>Only time will tell.

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<v Speaker 2>And she writes in an anonymous email about what you do, Hey,

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<v Speaker 2>beck in Tanya, I was trying to support a client

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<v Speaker 2>of mine and he's being really weird about it.

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<v Speaker 3>That'd be so crazy insane, right, Well, thank you for

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<v Speaker 3>the because I was that was good advice? But I

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<v Speaker 3>thought it was good.

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<v Speaker 2>Two different perspectives. Yeah, don't think i'd care.

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<v Speaker 1>I thank your path carefully.

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<v Speaker 2>Or tru Lulu.

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<v Speaker 3>I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>I like my world. You come playing it today. She's blissful.

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<v Speaker 1>She's blissful, solfully unaware.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah all right, well, Happy New Year.

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<v Speaker 1>Everybody. Have any suggestions for a scrubbing and vision board.

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<v Speaker 1>Please hit me up. Don't do the email because nobody's

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<v Speaker 1>reading them right now. Please send it.

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<v Speaker 4>To me at Tanya rad on Instagram and I will

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<v Speaker 4>cut out and I'll make a scrubbing and vision board

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<v Speaker 4>that we will keep with us for the whole year

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<v Speaker 4>and look back on it.

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<v Speaker 1>Put both of our words on there. So what was

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<v Speaker 1>yours again? Completion and try And that's.

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<v Speaker 2>That, and that's that. We love you so much.

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<v Speaker 1>Love you by