Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rat An iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in grub a dub dub
Speaker 2: first scrub of twenty twenty four. That's right, yeah.
Speaker 1: First one, first one. It's a lucky year. Do you
Speaker 1: know that?
Speaker 2: In what way?
Speaker 1: It's a leap year?
Speaker 2: Mmm? So that means people who have leapier birthdays are
Speaker 2: like having a birthday, that they actually have a birthday
Speaker 2: this year. Correct. That's exciting for that.
Speaker 1: Yeah. And it's a lucky year to get married. I
Speaker 1: know this because everybody sent me. There was like a
Speaker 1: meme going around and everybody was sending it to me.
Speaker 1: What did it say that this coming year is a
Speaker 1: lucky year to get married.
Speaker 2: What is a lucky year to get married?
Speaker 1: I think no?
Speaker 2: But what does that mean? Like luck is in like
Speaker 2: you're married, Mary, lucky, blessed?
Speaker 1: Wow?
Speaker 2: Yeah, you and Ali just lucking out and looking out in.
Speaker 1: The blessed life. Wow. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Well, Happy New Year, everybody. Yes, I feel like this
Speaker 2: year a lot of people. So there's always the excitement
Speaker 2: of like new year.
Speaker 1: Knew me.
Speaker 2: You know why am I gonna change?
Speaker 1: What?
Speaker 2: Am I gonna strive for? This?
Speaker 1: Year.
Speaker 2: But then there's people who are like I get very
Speaker 2: anxious about that pressure of like having to come up
Speaker 2: with new things, Like you know when you're just content
Speaker 2: and you're like, it can just be another day. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it can just be a great day. No, no, no, I'm
Speaker 2: saying like I saw more people talking about that side
Speaker 2: of it, which I feel like normally it's all like
Speaker 2: all the things we're gonna do and not do and
Speaker 2: blah blah blah. Yeah, but I was like, oh, this
Speaker 2: is interesting because there is this like that in between
Speaker 2: time of Christmas and New Year's there is like that
Speaker 2: you're like, what day is it? I love that personally,
Speaker 2: Like I love the rotting of Like, tell.
Speaker 1: You, I discovered so much about myself in the last
Speaker 1: eight days.
Speaker 2: What'd you discover?
Speaker 1: A lot that I feel like we can get into
Speaker 1: because I know later, you know, a lot and a
Speaker 1: detox that I'm doing great that I think is very interesting.
Speaker 1: Okay maybe to some so, but I feel like we
Speaker 1: should do New Year's a little bit later because don't
Speaker 1: you want to talk about your Christmas?
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, we can talk about Christmas. It's great. I
Speaker 2: went to Florida and then to ended up in Louisiana,
Speaker 2: so I got to go see my parents. I love
Speaker 2: seeing my mom's house during Christmas because I normally spend
Speaker 2: Christmas at my sister's house in Louisiana. So I flew
Speaker 2: into Florida to see my parents and it was nicely
Speaker 2: went and had like the lovely dinner, and then my
Speaker 2: two younger sisters flew in. And then the next day
Speaker 2: we drove to another city in Florida, Pensacola, to see
Speaker 2: my brother because he had a new baby in November,
Speaker 2: so they weren't gonna be able to make the drive
Speaker 2: to Louisiana. So we went got to see everybody. My
Speaker 2: dad fell ill and it was very stressful, Like didn't
Speaker 2: fell ill.
Speaker 1: I feel like everybody in my life has been sick
Speaker 1: within the last two weeks. I know at some point.
Speaker 2: But let me tell you something. I was researching like
Speaker 2: health smoothies, and I made him this like pineapple, ginger,
Speaker 2: cayenne pepper, like spicy smoothie that's supposed to help with
Speaker 2: like uh if you get the like flim build up.
Speaker 2: Because a lot of people were having this like cough
Speaker 2: that was getting in the lungs. It was really bad.
Speaker 2: Then I was like, we can't have that, and I
Speaker 2: got him to drink it. My dad is not someone
Speaker 2: who would ever drink like a like a shot, you know,
Speaker 2: a health shot. Never, but he was desperate, so he
Speaker 2: started making you know, it lasted about twenty four hours
Speaker 2: and then he was able to you know, power through persevere.
Speaker 2: Persevere drove to Louisiana. Chaos, but so much fun. Got
Speaker 2: to see all my little nieces and nephews and there's
Speaker 2: so many of them, and it's we were saying, like
Speaker 2: it's jarring to go from like a very quiet home,
Speaker 2: you know it's just me, Haley and Phoebe to a
Speaker 2: lot of things happening all at once. It's so fun.
Speaker 2: But it is like I got home and I just
Speaker 2: sat and stared at the TV without it. Yeah, it's
Speaker 2: just in silence.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I get that. It was like that for me
Speaker 1: when I first started dating Robbie, because I went to
Speaker 1: went from like my house was a museum. Everything was
Speaker 1: perfect in its spot, it was quiet, I had background
Speaker 1: music on to my TV like it was.
Speaker 2: Like a spa. Didn't feel lived in.
Speaker 1: Did not feel lived in just the way I like it.
Speaker 1: And I went from that to having two little ones
Speaker 1: running around and it was very jarring at first. But
Speaker 1: now I'm now, I think I'm more used to it.
Speaker 1: And also they're getting to the age where they're really
Speaker 1: into like theirs stuff they're doing on the computer, so
Speaker 1: it's like a little bit different now. But yeah, it
Speaker 1: was very jarring at first.
Speaker 2: Like they had a little a mini basketball goal, you know,
Speaker 2: in one of their rooms, and so the youngest Memphis
Speaker 2: wanted to play basketball, which I mean, I'm huge compared
Speaker 2: to him, so I was like, I'll play on my knees.
Speaker 2: So I'm on my knees on the carpet playing basketball
Speaker 2: and I was so sore my knees were Like I
Speaker 2: was like, shoot, I'm getting to that age where like
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, I didn't have need baths to whip out
Speaker 2: just in the midst of the eve. Yeah, but yeah,
Speaker 2: it was. It was really fun. But I do notice
Speaker 2: that my body goes through a shock of I got
Speaker 2: another canker so I think the last podcast we did
Speaker 2: out of canker stor I got another canker store in
Speaker 2: the same place.
Speaker 1: What is up with that?
Speaker 2: Well, so you know, I had discovered that it could
Speaker 2: be caused by sugar, because you remember the last time I
Speaker 2: had one, I was like, I'm not stressed, and typically
Speaker 2: it's caused by stressed or lack of sleep, and I
Speaker 2: wasn't having those. But I did definitely have a lack
Speaker 2: of sleep while I was gone, because I I basically
Speaker 2: woke up at three point thirty to go to the
Speaker 2: airport when I left, and I never really had a
Speaker 2: great night ever. Bound never bounced back, but the knkerstore
Speaker 2: bounced back. It did, and uh, it's just like today
Speaker 2: is probably the day first day since then that I
Speaker 2: don't feel it.
Speaker 1: Yikes.
Speaker 2: And I made it dentist appointment for myself, not knowing
Speaker 2: I was gonna get a kinker sore. I was very
Speaker 2: nervous about that. So I've been to I'm sure they
Speaker 2: know how to, you know, I keep trying. What I
Speaker 2: do is I go to the dentist and then because
Speaker 2: I just hate the process of going to I hate
Speaker 2: just being at the dentist because it's painful to me.
Speaker 2: I never go back to the same dentist because I
Speaker 2: just think that there's gonna be a dentist that can
Speaker 2: do like well that doesn't hurt me.
Speaker 3: Just run through every dentist in.
Speaker 2: Town, like they all do the same thing, and they're
Speaker 2: all like wonderful. But in my mind, I'm like, maybe
Speaker 2: I'll find someone where it doesn't hurt. But it just
Speaker 2: it's just uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: Yeah, the scraping, the sound, you know, but you might
Speaker 1: be surprised by this.
Speaker 2: You love it.
Speaker 1: No, Oh, I have not gotten my teeth cleaned in
Speaker 1: over a year.
Speaker 2: Wow, I am shocked by that.
Speaker 1: Yeah. My dentist is far away. He is in Redondo Beach,
Speaker 1: and if you do not live in Los Angeles, it's
Speaker 1: a far jaunt in traffic, and I just never make
Speaker 1: the time.
Speaker 2: It's important. I know, I hadn't been in over a year.
Speaker 2: It's been a long time. And because I genuinely get so,
Speaker 2: I build it up so much in my head and
Speaker 2: I make it so much worse than it is. Like
Speaker 2: it's not comfortable, but it's doable. I'm not like I'm
Speaker 2: gonna be fine.
Speaker 1: I've lost twice a day, so I know you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're a really good I'm really good Foster, Thank you.
Speaker 2: He was great today. It's Ali's dentist. Ali goes every
Speaker 2: three months.
Speaker 1: That seems a little excessive.
Speaker 2: Why he told me I need to come every four months?
Speaker 2: Why I think, but the way my teeth are shaped, basically,
Speaker 2: I'm either I'm either I feel like I foss more
Speaker 2: than ever this year, which wasn't like every single day,
Speaker 2: but I f lost like pretty consistently. And he said
Speaker 2: my gums like waiting really bad. So he was like,
Speaker 2: you should come every four months and just to be consistent.
Speaker 2: So I said my appointment.
Speaker 1: I did. You're one of those people. What that makes
Speaker 1: your appointment for the next dental visit before you?
Speaker 2: Otherwise I will not do it.
Speaker 3: It's just I do that too.
Speaker 1: Oh you do. Yeah, I don't because I don't know
Speaker 1: how my schedule in like six months.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just on there though. It's more like a reminder,
Speaker 2: like I can cancel if I need to, but it's
Speaker 2: there for me to know that in this general vicinity
Speaker 2: of time, I need to get my teeth.
Speaker 1: Doe got it? Okay, cool? Nice.
Speaker 2: So anyways, I didn't cry. I didn't have any cavities. No,
Speaker 2: I've literally.
Speaker 1: Cried the dentist. This is a real.
Speaker 2: And the receptionist told me she was really proud of me.
Speaker 2: So it was it was great.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, no, notes great, great, I'm proud of you.
Speaker 1: Thank you. So much.
Speaker 2: How was your Christmas?
Speaker 1: Uh? My Christmas was really really, really nice. So I
Speaker 1: went to Robbie and I went to the Bahamas for
Speaker 1: a few days before Christmas, and then we came back
Speaker 1: the day before Christmas Eve, Christmas Eve Eve, went down
Speaker 1: to San Diego and spent just like forty eight uninterrupted
Speaker 1: hours with like my family, my niece, my my nephew.
Speaker 1: So it was really cute. Did nothing but like eat
Speaker 1: and sit and just like whatever bedrot or whatever, but
Speaker 1: not in the bed in my sister's house, okay, but
Speaker 1: just like rotten. And it was amazing. But my sister
Speaker 1: got me this book for Christmas, and like, so my
Speaker 1: sister is a psychologist, so everything, so I know this
Speaker 1: is done with love and a good heart. And she
Speaker 1: said it's one of her favorite books of all time.
Speaker 1: This is one of my favorite books. A lot of
Speaker 1: good lessons in here. I open it up and says,
Speaker 1: act with love, stop struggling, reconcile differences, and strengthen your
Speaker 1: relationship with acceptance and commitment therapy. And I was like,
Speaker 1: should I be concerned that you were giving me this book?
Speaker 1: But apparently it's like a book that she thinks every
Speaker 1: couple should read it before they get married or like
Speaker 1: during their marriage, like a good couple's therapy book. But
Speaker 1: I just thought it was so funny because it's like
Speaker 1: so like, open up and be fully present with your partner,
Speaker 1: increase intimacy, connection and caring, and reduce conflicts and resolve differences,
Speaker 1: build a rich and meaningful relationship. I was like, that's
Speaker 1: so thoughtful. Yeah, I love that.
Speaker 3: Let me see I would have the same reaction.
Speaker 1: I was like, the first chapter two, should I stay
Speaker 1: or should I go? I'm like, that's a great gift.
Speaker 2: And this is a fully revised and updated second edition,
Speaker 2: And so.
Speaker 1: That's what she said. She goes, I love the first edition.
Speaker 1: I don't know if they made any changes to the
Speaker 1: second edition, but it was it was given with good intent.
Speaker 1: But I was laughing so hard reading the chapter names
Speaker 1: and stuff, because I'm like, is this like an SOS.
Speaker 3: There's a drawing on the cover of two people hugging
Speaker 3: each other, look like they're getting over a major conflict.
Speaker 2: The dramatic books I bought when Haley was on tour
Speaker 2: and I was having a hard time.
Speaker 1: It was like, and you would send them to her? No.
Speaker 2: I bought them for yourself, but I never read them
Speaker 2: because then she got home and every we've been over
Speaker 2: saying okay, we started therapy again.
Speaker 1: But yeah, so I am going to read this and
Speaker 1: I will, you know, give any nuggets that I find,
Speaker 1: I will bring them to the podcast to share.
Speaker 2: I think you are going to love it, and I
Speaker 2: think you're going to be able to be like this
Speaker 2: changed a lot.
Speaker 1: Yeah, do you feel do you feel is there a
Speaker 1: feeling as though.
Speaker 2: You don't need as much relationship tidbits now that you
Speaker 2: have a ring? Do you feel like No?
Speaker 1: I don't think so, because I feel like there's always
Speaker 1: stuff that you can be better at in your relationship,
Speaker 1: Like there's always stuff that's coming up. But I do
Speaker 1: feel like a major source of conflict in our relationship
Speaker 1: was waiting, So like, when are we getting engaged? Oh
Speaker 1: my god. I never told this story on the podcast
Speaker 1: about the president he gave me last year because it
Speaker 1: was triggering so us. Yeah, but now that we're in
Speaker 1: the clear, I feel like I can share it. Should
Speaker 1: we Oh, take a break, break, We'll be right back.
Speaker 1: All right, we're back.
Speaker 2: So you you before you got the ring, before y'all
Speaker 2: got engaged, before Robbie proposed. Yes, you had been waiting
Speaker 2: for over a year. Yeah, that to happen. Yes, And
Speaker 2: we've never talked about this because it was a trigger.
Speaker 2: It was so as a trigger event. Yeah, and you're
Speaker 2: ready to tell your truth.
Speaker 1: Share I'm trying to share the truth. Yeah, okay, So
Speaker 1: this was so this was Christmas twenty twenty three that
Speaker 1: we just had So Christmas twenty twenty two. Yeah, we
Speaker 1: had been having conversations and I've always been honest about this.
Speaker 1: This is the push and pull of our relationship was
Speaker 1: I was ready to get engaged after like nine months
Speaker 1: of dating and he was not. So meeting in the
Speaker 1: middle was like always are uh, I don't know what
Speaker 1: the word is. Meeting in the middle was always our
Speaker 1: biggest compromise. Yeah, like what is the middle exactly? You
Speaker 1: know he's not ready? I am, so where does that
Speaker 1: take you? So I feel like around my birthday, So
Speaker 1: it was July of that year, twenty twenty two, I
Speaker 1: started really feeling like, Okay, I'm gonna basically give him
Speaker 1: some sort of not timeline, but say like okay, let's
Speaker 1: I want really want to get engaged within this like
Speaker 1: this year, like this is this is it? Like let's
Speaker 1: You've told me you're ready to make this commitment, so
Speaker 1: like let's do it. So, without getting into too much detail,
Speaker 1: there was we had a uh, we had a sickness
Speaker 1: in the family come up, and so that really kind
Speaker 1: of put and I understood it put like a dark
Speaker 1: cloud over just our lives in general. And so for
Speaker 1: Christmas that year, he I have to like set the
Speaker 1: scene because it was so it was Christmas morning and
Speaker 1: we're waking up Christmas morning and he goes, I want
Speaker 1: to give your gift now, and I was like okay,
Speaker 1: and he pulls out this box and I'm like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, Like this is not how I envisioned this happening,
Speaker 1: but like okay, and I'm like alert and like fixing
Speaker 1: myself up like first thing in the morning, you know,
Speaker 1: put my robe on and I'm like getting yourself up
Speaker 1: with the rope, yeah, sitting up straight. And I was like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, it is happening. And he was like,
Speaker 1: I just want you, you know, to know, like this
Speaker 1: is so I open it and it's a ring, but
Speaker 1: it's not a ring ring. It's like a band and
Speaker 1: he was like, I just want you to know, like
Speaker 1: this is a sign of my commitment, like commitment to you,
Speaker 1: and I'm ready to take the next step. And he'd
Speaker 1: gotten it engraved with like the pillars of our relationship,
Speaker 1: things I always talk about and it was really meaningful
Speaker 1: and sweet, and I just lost it. I started crying
Speaker 1: because I was like, this is not what I wanted.
Speaker 3: You got me a promise ring, yeah, basically.
Speaker 1: Like a promise It wasn't a promise ring, but like, yeah,
Speaker 1: essentially a promise ring. And I put it on and
Speaker 1: it was like three sizes too big and I was
Speaker 1: just like, what am I gonna wear this on my thumb?
Speaker 1: It wouldn't even fit my thumb. And I was just like,
Speaker 1: and he goes, are you upset? And I was like, no, no,
Speaker 1: it's really sweet and I understand and I get it.
Speaker 1: I know why, you know through tears through tears. And
Speaker 1: it's so funny because I look back at photos from
Speaker 1: Christmas of last year and like, you can tell, like
Speaker 1: I can, I can tell in myself that my eyes
Speaker 1: were like puffy because but like I was trying to
Speaker 1: hide it because it was a really sweet gesture and
Speaker 1: it was meant all meant well, but I was just
Speaker 1: not it. It was a nice. Meaning I have to
Speaker 1: find the pictures from Christmas of last year because I'm
Speaker 1: curious if you saw this and could tell that I had, like.
Speaker 2: I can see you just hear that you look very
Speaker 2: swollen and plate and fresh tears.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, here's the photo I got. Said what I asked
Speaker 2: for a picture of it to try to make her
Speaker 2: hand look as like masculine as possible.
Speaker 1: So it's very funny because I put it back in
Speaker 1: the box and I just like left it like in
Speaker 1: the bathroom like I never wore itized. No, I didn't
Speaker 1: get it sized like, I just never wore it. I
Speaker 1: kept it in the in the thing. And after we
Speaker 1: got aged, Robbie was like, can I wear it? Do
Speaker 1: you mind if I take it put it on like
Speaker 1: a like a chain and wear it around my neck?
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, I love that idea. Are
Speaker 1: you kidding me? So now he wears it a lot,
Speaker 1: like it's like his everyday necklace. It's like a chain
Speaker 1: with that ring around it.
Speaker 2: That's really nice.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we've come full circle.
Speaker 2: Literally and figuratively, literally.
Speaker 1: And figuratively, but yeah, that was that was that was something.
Speaker 2: There were many moments where we were like, it's it's
Speaker 2: gonna happen like that was.
Speaker 1: It though, Like Christmas last year. I was like, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: my gosh, I can't believe it. The boss bring, I know.
Speaker 1: I was like, and I know what he meant, Like
Speaker 1: he meant well obviously, like it was good intentions, but
Speaker 1: like if.
Speaker 2: It was anyone but you, it would have been like
Speaker 2: very well received, very well received, right right right?
Speaker 1: You were looking for something else, a rock a rock
Speaker 1: on that on that band and it was songs, Yeah, yeah, sons. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So now we've come full circle and uh, it's beautiful.
Speaker 1: It's a beautiful ring. Maybe we might use it as
Speaker 1: his wedding band. Actually, oh wow.
Speaker 2: It's just a little bit him like for him, yeah,
Speaker 2: like but this is just so funny, is he?
Speaker 1: It was the ring size that I thought I was,
Speaker 1: so he did get me the right side and men's
Speaker 1: and men I don't know. Definitely looked like.
Speaker 2: Like ring size the same as men of like shoe
Speaker 2: sizes for men and women.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but yeah, we might use it as his wedding band. TVD.
Speaker 2: Speaking of jewelry shopping, I'm shopping before Christmas and I
Speaker 2: run into Sophia Bush. Oh wow, we're just keep crossing paths. Yeah,
Speaker 2: she was so nice because I didn't see her. She
Speaker 2: had a mask on, so she like tapped me. I
Speaker 2: was like hey, and like hold she did. I know,
Speaker 2: she's so sweet.
Speaker 1: We're in what are you? Are you embarrassed to ask
Speaker 1: her to come on? No? Not all.
Speaker 2: I remember when Easter kind of lightly brought it up
Speaker 2: and she's like, oh, that's so cute.
Speaker 1: So what's what is it? What's stopping you?
Speaker 2: Well, I don't see her, like I know she has
Speaker 2: her own podcast, but I don't see her on a
Speaker 2: lot of podcasts like that are like ours.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she doesn't like do guest stuff.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but often so I just start to everything.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I just want our podcast to be like in
Speaker 2: its highest form when we have her on.
Speaker 1: Well, nothing better than a new Year yeah, but maybe
Speaker 1: like a cool studio space, you know. Okay, yeah, so
Speaker 1: wait till we elevate.
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, right sure, speaking of I was listening to
Speaker 2: our podcast from our first podcast of the year in
Speaker 2: twenty twenty three.
Speaker 1: Do you know it was supposed to be a scrub Aissance?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Did it happen? No, don't work. So I got all
Speaker 1: this applies to make a new vision board for us
Speaker 1: this year. Oh yeah, I made a vision board. You know,
Speaker 1: no I met for the podcast. Oh this is this
Speaker 1: is not for me nor for you. Oh you and
Speaker 1: I were going to do this together.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah when.
Speaker 1: I don't know later great, but I know we didn't
Speaker 1: have a scrub assance. But I did have a renaissance
Speaker 1: that year. That was my word last year, and it like,
Speaker 1: really stuck.
Speaker 2: I can't remember my word last year.
Speaker 1: Well what's the point making one? I don't know.
Speaker 2: But I also didn't make a vision board last year,
Speaker 2: so maybe that's where it ran a while. Just went
Speaker 2: off the rails.
Speaker 1: Rogue, rogue? What'd you do without a vision? Just came
Speaker 1: up with it? Just winged it, yeah, just winged it,
Speaker 1: all winged it.
Speaker 2: But I was trying to think of my word for
Speaker 2: this year. But I was like, was this my word
Speaker 2: last year? I can't remember.
Speaker 3: Impactful word? It sounds like.
Speaker 2: Yeah, hard to say. So your word this year's try yes,
Speaker 2: which was a hint before we left for Christmas. There
Speaker 2: was a little nod to that because you got your necklace,
Speaker 2: you have your initials on it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he did good this year. This was my Christmas
Speaker 1: this year.
Speaker 2: Good job, Robbie.
Speaker 1: Yeah, good job, Robbie.
Speaker 2: My new initials and your new initials are try Tanya
Speaker 2: rad Yadagar.
Speaker 1: Which is like the most Tanya thing ever. Yeah. The
Speaker 1: fact that my initials are the word try feels so
Speaker 1: meant to be.
Speaker 2: And I find it interesting that you chose This is
Speaker 2: Me Trying as your song as a host to mirror Ball.
Speaker 1: So it was a play on the word try. Yeah.
Speaker 2: But in miraball she goes I've never been in natural.
Speaker 2: All I do is.
Speaker 1: Try, try, try, yeah. So it was more for like
Speaker 1: people that don't know Taylor, you know, like if I
Speaker 1: put mirror Ball, people wouldn't get it. They'd be like that,
Speaker 1: what does mirable have to do with try? You know
Speaker 1: what I mean? But This is Me Trying is quite
Speaker 1: a sad song. It's so sad.
Speaker 2: It's about it's literally about it's about like addiction.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so that's not the theme of the song. Is
Speaker 1: not quite what I want my ear to look like.
Speaker 1: It's like the name of the song, this is Me Trying.
Speaker 2: You could have gone with Macy Gray try what is that?
Speaker 1: Try to say goodbye? And that choke try to walk
Speaker 1: away and I stumble no, I try to have it.
Speaker 1: It's clear my world crumbles when you are not there.
Speaker 1: Used change, Yeah, not quite the vibe I was going
Speaker 1: twenty four.
Speaker 2: Maybe I've been away from me al for too long,
Speaker 2: but that kind of sounded good.
Speaker 3: Thank you.
Speaker 1: It's the tone in her voice. It's easy to mimic.
Speaker 2: Easton's harmony really came through anyways.
Speaker 1: Anyways, to try, Yeah, what is that?
Speaker 2: Encompass? Like, what what does it look like for you?
Speaker 1: So when you define the word try, it's like to oh,
Speaker 1: what is it? It's like to attempt, to attempt to accomplish,
Speaker 1: to attempt to accomplish. And to me, there is no
Speaker 1: more defining term of a modern woman than to try
Speaker 1: or what did I say again? To attempt to accomplish.
Speaker 1: That is the definition of a modern woman. To attempt
Speaker 1: to accomplish. So this year I'm going to attempt to
Speaker 1: accomplish many different things. So it does such as well
Speaker 1: for starters. I mean, it's only the second day of
Speaker 1: the year, so it's brand new. But I really want
Speaker 1: to start my days off with warm water and lemon
Speaker 1: instead of coffee, and so I've been doing that, and
Speaker 1: it's gonna be interesting when I'm waking up at four
Speaker 1: in the morning and trying to make my warm water
Speaker 1: with lemon before my coffee.
Speaker 2: Oh it makes me nauseous when I try to do it.
Speaker 2: It's the this acid with the warmth. It didn't do it.
Speaker 1: Just a little lemon. I don't like squeeze a whole lot.
Speaker 1: Oh there. Yeah, just like a pinch of lemon. Ye
Speaker 1: warm water.
Speaker 2: It's really good.
Speaker 1: So that's what I'm trying to do this week year. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but I'm going to do new stuff. I'm gonna try
Speaker 1: new stuff every week. I love that. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Did you make an ends and outs list?
Speaker 1: I did not?
Speaker 2: Did you? Yeah? Did you have a word for this year?
Speaker 3: In twenty twenty three? My word was harmony. I was
Speaker 3: trying to find better harmony in my life.
Speaker 2: Did you that?
Speaker 3: Kind of not?
Speaker 1: Really?
Speaker 3: This year my word is Cocomo.
Speaker 2: Wow?
Speaker 1: What is that's?
Speaker 3: It's a club, It's a place in Indiana. It's also
Speaker 3: a fictional island that the Beach Boys sing about. But
Speaker 3: I want to relax more and do more stuff that's
Speaker 3: not work. Twenty four Yeah that's Michael.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because here's the thing. I feel like you do
Speaker 2: so much, but you're always working, Like you're always doing
Speaker 2: it because you're working.
Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly, and I'm lucky that my work is cool
Speaker 3: and interesting, but also it's it's work, so it's annoying,
Speaker 3: and I want to spend more time with my wife
Speaker 3: and just doing fun stuff like you would do on
Speaker 3: the island of Kokomo.
Speaker 1: So I tell you I love the intent behind it,
Speaker 1: the symbolism. Symbolism.
Speaker 2: Yeah, my word for this year is well, I have
Speaker 2: two because.
Speaker 1: I can't remember.
Speaker 2: That's I can't remember last year, so I'm making up
Speaker 2: for it. I am curious what my word was because
Speaker 2: I'm wondering if.
Speaker 1: I obviously I wouldn't work on it.
Speaker 2: Okay, my word for this year. One of them is relinquished,
Speaker 2: because I want to let go of like meeting your
Speaker 2: word last year. No, no, no. But the other one's completion,
Speaker 2: because I find that I start things, or I have
Speaker 2: ideas of things, and I never follow through, whether it's
Speaker 2: like fear of failure or fear of it not working out,
Speaker 2: or just like becoming bored by it. And I really
Speaker 2: want to be able to like start things and complete
Speaker 2: them in a way where even if it wasn't the
Speaker 2: best thing I ever did, just like being able to say,
Speaker 2: like I started this and then I finished it having
Speaker 2: that like sense of pride and like completing something.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: So it started with the vision board, because I gotta
Speaker 2: be honest. We did it on New Year's Eve and
Speaker 2: I took an.
Speaker 1: Edible and I got I didn't finish it.
Speaker 2: No, everyone else was like really into theirs getting them glued,
Speaker 2: and I hadn't even like I had ripped out things.
Speaker 1: Yeah, phase one hmmm.
Speaker 2: I gone through phase one and then I just was
Speaker 2: like in the kitchen eating, like watching everyone, giggling to myself.
Speaker 2: And then I was like, heyley, guys, are you gonna
Speaker 2: do your vision board? And I thought I should do
Speaker 2: this because I want my My word's gonna be completion.
Speaker 2: So I want to start on this and I finished it.
Speaker 1: Wow, you know what you should do? Tell me? We
Speaker 1: should make you something that says the word completion and
Speaker 1: put it up somewhere that you see it daily, so
Speaker 1: that you can know that that's your focus for the
Speaker 1: year and not only not forget, but also gear your
Speaker 1: decisions through that lens.
Speaker 2: Well, it feels like something I'm gonna have daily where
Speaker 2: I think about it because it's like even a small
Speaker 2: as like choosing to declutter a space instead of just
Speaker 2: like starting and then stopping because I get distracted by
Speaker 2: something else, being like, no, you gotta this is like
Speaker 2: you know what you're striving to do. So I think
Speaker 2: it's gonna hit me in the face, like every day nice,
Speaker 2: thanks so much.
Speaker 3: So I try to find your word from twenty twenty
Speaker 3: three and I found I did not, but I found
Speaker 3: this interesting thing on a Hayley Kyoko fan message board.
Speaker 3: So someone said, someone said Becca's cousin is so sweet
Speaker 3: in her recent Instagram post. Harmony is indeed the word
Speaker 3: for twenty twenty three for Becca.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, so it was harmony?
Speaker 3: No, I mean, harmony was my word. I said that
Speaker 3: on the podcast last year. So I mean, but maybe
Speaker 3: your cousin posted about harmony too. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I feel like that could have been your word last
Speaker 1: year because it does sound.
Speaker 2: You gave me a bracelet with the word harmony, But
Speaker 2: that wasn't my words.
Speaker 1: It was I gave you a bracelet with the word
Speaker 1: you chose for me. Yes, yes, yes, okay, this is
Speaker 1: all coming.
Speaker 2: Together all right.
Speaker 1: Wow, that took a term, right right. I assigned all
Speaker 1: my friends up sign. I assigned all my friends words
Speaker 1: that I wanted.
Speaker 2: For them for the new Year. Yeah, yeah, yeah hard.
Speaker 2: I didn't have a harmonious year. I think that's good in.
Speaker 1: A lot of ways, the fact that I assigned you
Speaker 1: all words.
Speaker 2: So do you want to know some of my outs
Speaker 2: and ins?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: I do, so out these are some of my outs
Speaker 2: talking mean about my body, Yeah, I said, unless it's
Speaker 2: Salley or Ali, because sometimes it's like funny. It's like
Speaker 2: we go back and forth and it's not like funny,
Speaker 2: it's kind of funny.
Speaker 1: It's not funny.
Speaker 2: Well it's not funny to Hailey, but Ali and I
Speaker 2: do go back and forth.
Speaker 1: It's kind of funny, but it's not funny. But you
Speaker 1: know why you're putting that energy into the universe and
Speaker 1: we want to.
Speaker 2: Stay Okay, this is my list? Is my list talking
Speaker 2: about age because I feel like I've like gotten to
Speaker 2: this habit where all of a sudden, I turned thirty
Speaker 2: five and I'm like, oh, I feel so old. I
Speaker 2: feel blah blah blah, and I like don't want to
Speaker 2: be that person.
Speaker 1: I hate.
Speaker 2: I've always hated when people do that, when they talk
Speaker 2: about we're so young. I know, but like I've always
Speaker 2: been like, I mean, you do thirty five? Is that
Speaker 2: It's kind of that weird age because I've never thought
Speaker 2: about the number of the age I'm turning, and thirty
Speaker 2: five is the first year where I was like, hmm,
Speaker 2: that's interesting, mm hmm. But I don't want to talk
Speaker 2: about that anymore. So go back to that cluttered spaces.
Speaker 2: I want to have like clean, open spaces. Feeling guilt
Speaker 2: for being lazy, because sometimes you just gotta be lazy,
Speaker 2: not finish task. Bad sleep and staying up late.
Speaker 1: Oh wow, what's in.
Speaker 2: Having a sleep routine, a healthy sleep routine, being outside more,
Speaker 2: less screen time, more conversations with strangers.
Speaker 1: Like safely wait, pause for one second. Do you want
Speaker 1: to hear the craziest thing? Yes, maybe I'm flying out.
Speaker 1: I flew out to the Bahamas by myself, without Robbie.
Speaker 1: He came out a day after me. So the person
Speaker 1: I was sitting next to me on the plane was like,
Speaker 1: this man, I don't know how old he was, let's see,
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter, but we end up
Speaker 1: chumming it up, talking the whole like a good amount
Speaker 1: of the flight, got his backstory, talked about his kids
Speaker 1: and da dah. So like, right, I like know this
Speaker 1: man depart the plane, goodbye, I have a nice vacation.
Speaker 1: We're getting back on the plane to go home. And
Speaker 1: guess who's sitting next to Robbie. O guy, the same man. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and this time he was with his family and I
Speaker 1: was with Robbie, and so I was like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: I got to meet his sons and his wife. Even
Speaker 1: he got to me Robbie. And then I switched seats
Speaker 1: with him so that I could sit next to Robbie.
Speaker 1: He said, here's my wedding gift to you. Probably was like, shoot,
Speaker 1: He's like, who is this guy?
Speaker 2: That's crazy? Like what are the chance of.
Speaker 1: All the people I know? Thank you? Anyways, back to
Speaker 1: your strangers, But.
Speaker 2: Yeah, having more conversations with strangers.
Speaker 1: I learned from this man. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I actually was like open to having a conversation with
Speaker 2: my flight buddy on the way back, but she didn't
Speaker 2: seem interested, so I didn't force it, but I was
Speaker 2: like open to it.
Speaker 1: That's step number one.
Speaker 2: Thank you, more cooking, less food delivery. Nice decluttering. I said,
Speaker 2: intentional time, as in like having intentional time with people
Speaker 2: where it's not work based, it's not anything, my phone's
Speaker 2: not on the table, It's just like intentional one on
Speaker 2: one time doing things that the people that I love
Speaker 2: love phones, staying in my purse at dinner out or
Speaker 2: just out of sight, traveling to new places, trying new
Speaker 2: things even when scared, completing projects, and hosting dinner parties.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's cute. So I watched this thing on Instagram.
Speaker 1: I don't know it was this guy, but he was
Speaker 1: talking about the power of the phone.
Speaker 3: Did you post it?
Speaker 1: I posted it, but I got so many dms about it.
Speaker 1: I was like, Wow, this really struck a chord with me.
Speaker 1: So I was like, obviously it's striking a card with
Speaker 1: a bunch of other people. But he was like giving
Speaker 1: this ted talk and he goes, he was talking, he
Speaker 1: didn't have his phone. He goes, do you feel differently
Speaker 1: now if I bring my phone out and I'm holding
Speaker 1: my phone like this, just holding it here. I'm not
Speaker 1: looking at it, but I'm just holding it. And I
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, I actually do feel different like I do.
Speaker 1: And he goes, so, what do you think when you're
Speaker 1: out to lunch or dinner with somebody and your phone
Speaker 1: is on the table And he goes, oh, you know,
Speaker 1: you think you're being courteous and you flip it over
Speaker 1: so you can't see it. And I was like, that's me,
Speaker 1: Like I'm the girl with the phone flipped over on
Speaker 1: the table. And I was like, i don't want to
Speaker 1: do that anymore because I'm not looking at it. I
Speaker 1: don't know why I have it there. It's not necessary
Speaker 1: to start putting it in my purse when I'm out
Speaker 1: to eat. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Done, I'm with you.
Speaker 1: I'm over it.
Speaker 2: I'm with you.
Speaker 1: I'm tired of being rude, tired of being rude. Rude
Speaker 1: is out. Yeah, rude is out present. You know what
Speaker 1: else is out?
Speaker 2: Is uh commenting mean things on public platforms, which it's
Speaker 2: always been out, But in my mind, I'm like, if
Speaker 2: someone does something shocking, okay, if I see someone in
Speaker 2: there dating someone, or it's something I don't like, or
Speaker 2: it's a celebrity information where I'm like, what is this?
Speaker 2: I have a reaction to it. At the very most,
Speaker 2: I'll send it to a friend and have a private
Speaker 2: conversation about it and be like, what this is crazy?
Speaker 2: But commenting a rude, hurtful things on a public platform
Speaker 2: or public person's social media is out. Yeah, do it
Speaker 2: with your friends.
Speaker 1: That's always been outfying.
Speaker 2: It's just crazy. I just am like, I can't imagine
Speaker 2: going on and saying I'm not someone who's like I
Speaker 2: never gossip, Like I have private conversations about things, but
Speaker 2: it's like to hurt go on someone's page and say
Speaker 2: something that's like hurtful to someone's heart. I don't get it. Yeah, personally,
Speaker 2: So that's out.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that bold stands the new stands. Yeah, so that's
Speaker 1: that for me.
Speaker 2: You don't have any off the top of.
Speaker 1: Your head, ins and outs, No, but I will tell
Speaker 1: you that I totally started off the year with a
Speaker 1: major bucket list moment because I was a part of
Speaker 1: Dick Clark's New Year's Rocket Eve with Ryan Seacrest. Hold On, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, let's give it up for the name.
Speaker 2: No, can we just talk about how what is.
Speaker 1: It just gonna be Ryan Seacrest New Year's Eve?
Speaker 2: You did not? You were like, oh, yeah, I have
Speaker 2: to do this like New Year's Eve thing, Like you
Speaker 2: under sold it. So I literally had no idea what
Speaker 2: she was doing. She was like, do you have a
Speaker 2: dress second borrow or do you have any outfit ex
Speaker 2: and borrow? I was like, oh yeah, She's like I
Speaker 2: just she came over the day before, just like very
Speaker 2: much casual, let me see what you have.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, this will work. She's like literally on the
Speaker 1: biggest New Year's evening. Ever, why did you do that?
Speaker 2: What do you mean? Why did I did you under like?
Speaker 2: Why did you just act like it was just this
Speaker 2: weird thing that they were having you do locally?
Speaker 1: That's how you sold it to me? Because well, first
Speaker 1: of all, I didn't know. I don't know. I don't
Speaker 1: like to get to hype because I'm like there's always
Speaker 1: I feel like you don't know if you're doing something
Speaker 1: until like you've done it, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: So I think I was just like cautioning myself of
Speaker 1: to be excited.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that should be out for twenty twenty four.
Speaker 2: I think you should celebrate big when you get opportunities
Speaker 2: that are exciting. Yeah, and I under sell yourself.
Speaker 1: I'm with you. But yeah, it was the craziest thing,
Speaker 1: and like, I don't know, it's just really really really
Speaker 1: really cool. And I'm obsessed with Genie. So Genie I
Speaker 1: was the host of the LA portion of New Year's
Speaker 1: Rock and Eve. So she's the how that I was
Speaker 1: with and she was just the coolest. I've always just
Speaker 1: been such a big fan of hers. She's like, honestly
Speaker 1: just so. But I'd love to have her back.
Speaker 3: If she's she's great.
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's great.
Speaker 1: And now she's a mom. Wow going through a divorce.
Speaker 1: Oh man, I know it actually doesn't seem so good
Speaker 1: because I feel like all the things I see about
Speaker 1: it online are just like always popping up. But she
Speaker 1: seems she seems like when I saw her to be
Speaker 1: in really good spirits and like just really really thriving.
Speaker 2: Yeah, love her.
Speaker 1: Yeah. It was funny because someone's like, did you do
Speaker 1: the routine? You know, like the Ross and Rachel routine.
Speaker 2: I we did on New Year's Eve we watch Friends.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I did not do the routine. My airtime
Speaker 1: was probably forty five seconds, but it was an impactful
Speaker 1: forty five seconds.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you probably should learn the routine. That's a good real.
Speaker 1: That is a good reel. Although I don't know if
Speaker 1: he'd be down.
Speaker 2: He is so down. Remember when we did the fancy dance,
Speaker 2: he was so into it. Yeah, Yeah, you were the
Speaker 2: one we were having to drag onto the dance for.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not so good at the synchronized dancing, but
Speaker 1: the the routine seems doable. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Do you remember long? It's long, Yeah, but it's it's
Speaker 2: easy movements that I think you can learn, just some five, six, seven,
Speaker 2: eight movements.
Speaker 1: Yeah exactly.
Speaker 2: Was there something there was something else that you said, Yeah,
Speaker 2: we can do it with my detalks.
Speaker 1: Oh we come back, Okay, We'll be right back.
Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, So Tanya, you have started a new detox. Yes,
Speaker 2: what is it? So?
Speaker 1: I have come to realize that I am addicted to Survivor,
Speaker 1: like in a not healthy way. I'm in the middle
Speaker 1: of three different seasons.
Speaker 2: How do you keep up? Like?
Speaker 1: How do you?
Speaker 2: I don't know why three different seasons? Instead of just watching.
Speaker 1: Just one, we watch one as a family, we watch
Speaker 1: one that's currently airing live but it's only once a
Speaker 1: week so it's not that much. And then we watched
Speaker 1: one just Robbie and I.
Speaker 2: Why do I feel like the one that is alive
Speaker 2: has aired? The finale?
Speaker 1: Like they did it did?
Speaker 2: It just ended?
Speaker 1: So that so now it's just two Who won? Her
Speaker 1: name is d and who won? All over one? I
Speaker 1: got second place?
Speaker 2: Ye?
Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you so much.
Speaker 2: Nice.
Speaker 1: But it's weird because, like I don't know if you
Speaker 1: guys do fantasy football, but every player gets like points.
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 1: So Robbie did it the same way he does fantasy football.
Speaker 1: So my player didn't win. She got fourth place, but
Speaker 1: somehow I got second place because all my players lasted
Speaker 1: pretty long.
Speaker 2: Oh I see yeah, okay, so you are doing a
Speaker 2: detox of Survi.
Speaker 1: Yes, so I decided that I want to do a
Speaker 1: detox of Survivor at least until the next season starts
Speaker 1: to air in February.
Speaker 2: Okay, So it's going to be about season in February.
Speaker 1: Correct forty six, Season forty six. Okay, So for the
Speaker 1: next month, I'm not going dry, fully dry, but it's
Speaker 1: not going to be a daily occurrence in my life anymore.
Speaker 1: So if anybody has any show recommendations that they would
Speaker 1: like to give me, that would be very much appreciated
Speaker 1: and help with my detox. Did you watch Saltburn? No,
Speaker 1: because you gave it the worst review of all times.
Speaker 2: I didn't mean to give it the worst review.
Speaker 1: You did. You were like, I think you'd hate it.
Speaker 1: It's dark, And then I'm like, it's dark.
Speaker 2: At that, Like, did you watch it?
Speaker 3: I did watch it.
Speaker 2: It's so it was like so engaging. I don't know,
Speaker 2: it wasn't it wasn't a bad movie.
Speaker 3: No, it's it's a good movie. I really dug it.
Speaker 2: It's just dark and twisted. Yeah, it's a psychological thriller.
Speaker 2: But I never would have thought you'd be is having
Speaker 2: to de talk from survivors. So I don't know what
Speaker 2: you like at this point.
Speaker 1: Well, it's interesting because I do like Yellow Jackets, which
Speaker 1: is a very dark show as well. Have you seen that? No,
Speaker 1: I think you would like it too. Okay, it's a
Speaker 1: dark show, but I like it because the story is
Speaker 1: like very interesting, it's compelling.
Speaker 3: I think you would like Saltburn if you like Yellow Jets.
Speaker 2: Really, I think so too. And I think if you
Speaker 2: can go into it being like there's some moments where
Speaker 2: you're just like, what the movie not a show?
Speaker 3: Maybe the moments in Yellow Jackets personally, I think that
Speaker 3: are like horrifying, are much worse than what happens in Sulburn.
Speaker 2: In my power, I don't know if I could watch
Speaker 2: the Yellow Jackets.
Speaker 1: It's very good.
Speaker 3: It's very very good. Both are very good. Saltburn Yellowjackets
Speaker 3: are great to me.
Speaker 1: Yellow Jackets is like ten out of ten.
Speaker 2: Wow, Okay, well, I'll watch Yellow Jackets if you'll watch
Speaker 2: the much Stelburn deal.
Speaker 3: Selburn takes place in two thousand and six, which I
Speaker 3: think is really fun for people our age because that's
Speaker 3: what we were like, you know, high school.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I don't even know if I realized that. Really was
Speaker 2: that a significant point?
Speaker 3: I mean they put it on the screen, a really
Speaker 3: big text, and then everyone's clothes kind of looked like it.
Speaker 3: The music, especially the music's the biggest I notice.
Speaker 2: The music was really good. What a great year of music.
Speaker 3: Yes, a lot of like MGMT stuff like that. Nice,
Speaker 3: But it takes place in this like really ornate like palace,
Speaker 3: so it's kind of hard to like the two and
Speaker 3: six of it all gets lost in that, but.
Speaker 1: It's beautifully shot. Okay, fine, I'll watch it if you
Speaker 1: watch Yellow Jackets. Okay, deal deal.
Speaker 2: I Also, I don't know if I've talked about this,
Speaker 2: but I did finish Fellow Travelers. I speak about this
Speaker 2: because I cried. It was like so intense. The ending.
Speaker 2: I was like sobbing, and Maalen be goes, She's like,
Speaker 2: are you good? But I think I mean Fellow Travelers
Speaker 2: is about I mean, I don't know how to say
Speaker 2: it exactly what it is. But it's like the politics
Speaker 2: with the like ban of homicideuality of like people getting
Speaker 2: literally arrested and killed for being gay, like they all
Speaker 2: had like secret relationships outside of their marriages. Anyways, Oh
Speaker 2: my god, I'm in love with Matt Bomber, Like he's
Speaker 2: just is it Bomber or Bomer? I think it's Boomer Bomer. Yeah, whatever,
Speaker 2: I'm in love with him and I would freak out
Speaker 2: if I met him. But anyways, I think what it
Speaker 2: was is I was telling Haley, I was like, it's
Speaker 2: such a privilege that we have, like to be able
Speaker 2: to have a relationship that even like it's not fully safe.
Speaker 1: Did I already talk.
Speaker 2: About this on the podcast. No, No, it's not fully
Speaker 2: it's not safe for everyone still to have a relationship
Speaker 2: with in a same sex relationship or LGBTQ plus relationship.
Speaker 2: But I was saying, like it made me feel like
Speaker 2: recognize the privilege that we have to like love each
Speaker 2: other publicly and like have a relationship without the I mean,
Speaker 2: people do live in fear, and there is fear when
Speaker 2: you go to certain places, but just to be able
Speaker 2: to to be with the person that you love is
Speaker 2: such a profound gift, you know, and like so many
Speaker 2: people in the past and even people now don't get
Speaker 2: to have that that choice or that option. And I
Speaker 2: was like so emotional about it thinking about all these
Speaker 2: older people who never got to love who they wanted
Speaker 2: to love or experience the love that I get to
Speaker 2: experience just because of like laws and hate, Like really
Speaker 2: what it comes down to. It's such a beautiful show.
Speaker 3: So I did not watch Philo Travelers, but okay, yeah,
Speaker 3: every time I finished an episode of the Curse, they
Speaker 3: want me to watch Fellow Travelers.
Speaker 2: It's amazing. And Jonathan Bailey is so cute. He kind
Speaker 2: of reminds me a Brad Brad. I love Brad.
Speaker 1: I started watching some show actually on Netflix that I
Speaker 1: think you would like. It's called Oh my God, my
Speaker 1: Brother's the Walters or something.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1: I've heard it was horrible, like painfully corny, so corny.
Speaker 1: But it's like the summery turned pretty, Yeah, but that
Speaker 1: was so corny. My life with the Walter Boys, Yeah,
Speaker 1: my life with the Walter Boys.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. I barely got through summer. I
Speaker 2: turn pretty, Oh.
Speaker 1: My gosh, And I love them.
Speaker 2: I think those actors are so cute.
Speaker 1: It's like the Love Triangle.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm gone. I'm good with the one the Summer
Speaker 2: I tern pretty wow.
Speaker 1: All right, no takers for that one? All right? Fine,
Speaker 1: but it wasn't I do know a lot of people
Speaker 1: were watching it. That's when I start because I was like,
Speaker 1: my Survivor neess is like getting out of control, Like
Speaker 1: it's actually like we burned through one season in two days.
Speaker 3: I almost six you the other day because over the break,
Speaker 3: Allison and I got into the show and HGTV called
Speaker 3: why the heck did I buy this house? And it's
Speaker 3: hosted by a woman named Kim Wolf who Uh, they're
Speaker 3: doing some it's like the first season the show, and
Speaker 3: they're doing this thing with theyre walk around time. People
Speaker 3: are posing for pictures with her and Alison and I
Speaker 3: are like, this show hasn't air yet. White people are
Speaker 3: posing for pictures. She won Survivor in twenty twenty. Kim
Speaker 3: her name was Kim Spradlin. At that point, what is
Speaker 3: look like?
Speaker 1: Yeah, get me a picture. I saw the season There was.
Speaker 2: A winner of Survivor that just came out.
Speaker 1: D her name, first name is D. I don't know
Speaker 1: her last name.
Speaker 2: No, I'm not talking about the most recent winner. I'm
Speaker 2: talking about Parvety parvity is how was saying your.
Speaker 1: Name Harvedy Parverty came out?
Speaker 2: Yeah, So I'm trying to find the I'm trying to
Speaker 2: find the episode.
Speaker 1: That's the season I'm watching currently right now. So spoiler alert,
Speaker 1: spoiler alert. But it's like season I don't know what season.
Speaker 1: I don't know the seasons. I think it's like I
Speaker 1: don't know, but it's her first season she was ever on,
Speaker 1: but she came back and she was on the all
Speaker 1: star season that I'm like obsessed with. So we're just
Speaker 1: about to watch the finale of her season. And this
Speaker 1: is the first season that they had an all girl alliance.
Speaker 1: Make it to like final. I think four is all
Speaker 1: girls and it's fantastic because it's all the winners. All
Speaker 1: these people have won in the past, so they're playing
Speaker 1: so freakin' hard. It's the best season. This is why
Speaker 1: she's de talking people.
Speaker 2: Did you hear the past? We have that much passion
Speaker 2: from Danya year.
Speaker 1: Yeah, No show has like rattled me like this, like
Speaker 1: I I'm talking strategy. We played Survivor with the kids
Speaker 1: for New Year's That was like on the day of,
Speaker 1: like the day before or New Year's Day, New Year's whatever. Uh.
Speaker 1: We were playing Survivor, but the four of us, me
Speaker 1: and Robbing and the kids, and we had to like
Speaker 1: vote each other out. Were like strategizing and we were playing.
Speaker 1: We were doing like wall sits for immunity challenges and
Speaker 1: like little cup games and stuff. And that's when I
Speaker 1: was like this is this is had a moment yeah,
Speaker 1: at a moment and I was like, your legs are
Speaker 1: why are we doing it? A minute? We're like voting
Speaker 1: out like our nine year old. I was like, this
Speaker 1: is really ticulous smoking shoot because he was too much
Speaker 1: of a social threat. I was like this, we gotta
Speaker 1: we gotta stop this.
Speaker 2: There is a Gypsy Rose Blantern special coming up on
Speaker 2: Lifetime that I am feaning for.
Speaker 1: It might be out already. What's it coming up on?
Speaker 2: It's on Lifetime. It's a docu series. She's still in prison. Yeah,
Speaker 2: she's like in prison.
Speaker 1: To watch that too. I am so fascinated by her.
Speaker 1: I don't know why.
Speaker 2: Well, it's the story is like devaz, it's crazy, it's
Speaker 2: so sad and people you watch the act, oh yeah,
Speaker 2: it's amazing. Yeah, But like I it's such a conflicting
Speaker 2: thing because I mean, she murdered her mother, you know
Speaker 2: in your view, Oh well, I mean that's not part.
Speaker 3: Of her republic criminal trial.
Speaker 2: But she was tortured. I mean, like what her mom
Speaker 2: did was like crazy, horrible type of abuse. Like I
Speaker 2: don't it's crazy. And and so there's this thing where
Speaker 2: you're like rooting for this girl because she she served
Speaker 2: her time, and it's horrible that it came down to
Speaker 2: what it came down to, but she's finally getting to
Speaker 2: have a life. She never had a life, and then
Speaker 2: she went to jail. She was like literally abuse, forced
Speaker 2: to be in a wheelchair.
Speaker 1: No, I'm so fascinated by it too, Like I'm watching
Speaker 1: every step, Like she was at Burger King, she was
Speaker 1: having a doctor pepper.
Speaker 3: She got I phone.
Speaker 2: She's an influencer.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's pretty wild. She listened to Taylor Swift to
Speaker 1: get her through prison.
Speaker 2: The year, the years that were in of social media.
Speaker 1: So dystopian.
Speaker 3: Let me. As soon as she stepped out of that prison,
Speaker 3: I was started manifesting Amy Sugar. If you're listening to this,
Speaker 3: I want her podcast so bad. I'm like yeah, I
Speaker 3: was waiting for a text saying can you go to Missouri?
Speaker 1: Did you text Amy?
Speaker 3: I have not texted her yet. I want I want
Speaker 3: to wait for this because it might already be in
Speaker 3: the works, that's all.
Speaker 2: She's in Louisiana.
Speaker 3: She's in Louisiana, Okay, but yeah.
Speaker 2: It is because someone messages because I said, like celeb
Speaker 2: I posed like cheers in to Gypsy Rose getting out
Speaker 2: of prison, and she's like, this is so crazy this culture.
Speaker 2: She murdered her mom, and I'm like, but what are
Speaker 2: her mom? What about what her mom did to her?
Speaker 2: And she served her time like she you know.
Speaker 1: I mean, in my opinion, there's not really time you
Speaker 1: can serve to make up for taking somebody else's life.
Speaker 1: But it is the while oldest story I have ever heard.
Speaker 2: Like, but my argument is if someone did something abusive
Speaker 2: to me and my dad murdered that person out of
Speaker 2: just like pure rage for someone hurting me or doing
Speaker 2: something abusive to me, and then my dad served his time,
Speaker 2: I'd be like rooting for my dad if I you
Speaker 2: know what I'm saying, Like, it's never I can't imagine
Speaker 2: ever taking someone's life, but yeah, seeing someone that you
Speaker 2: love or like being tortured to a certain level forces
Speaker 2: people to do insane things.
Speaker 1: It's like to see it through the lens of the
Speaker 1: TV show. I know the TV show was made based
Speaker 1: on the real life story, but I have to look
Speaker 1: at it through a lens of a TV show because
Speaker 1: when I think of it in real life, I can't
Speaker 1: I can't root for her, I can't be happy for her,
Speaker 1: like I can't do any of it. So in my mind,
Speaker 1: it's just like a TV show that I'm still watching,
Speaker 1: you know, just to like be able.
Speaker 2: To desensitize yourself.
Speaker 1: Correct. Yeah, well it's real.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so crazy, and I'm excited to watch because
Speaker 2: the problem is there's a lot of fake accounts for
Speaker 2: her right now, so I can't tell him what it's
Speaker 2: real or not. And she posted some I think she said,
Speaker 2: I tried to watch the actor a story, a scripted thing,
Speaker 2: and she said it was a lot.
Speaker 1: It was like really hard, but that could have been
Speaker 1: did you know, just to lighten the mood a little.
Speaker 1: That is where Joey King met her now husband making
Speaker 1: that show.
Speaker 2: That's the guy in the movie.
Speaker 1: No, I believe he was a producer or director or
Speaker 1: something behind the scenes.
Speaker 2: She was amazing in that show.
Speaker 1: I know, but imagine falling in love in the midst
Speaker 1: of doing that.
Speaker 2: The Yeah yeah, yeah, it's a really crazy, sad story.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but wow a great show.
Speaker 3: Yeah. I wanted to write in with an email I
Speaker 3: becent Tania, this is Easton. I'm a big fan. We
Speaker 3: listened for a long time. Something happened over Christmas that
Speaker 3: I just thought was weird and I wanted your take
Speaker 3: on this. I have been going to a therapist for
Speaker 3: like three years and she's been great. Uh, I have not.
Speaker 3: I do the east Awards every year, which where everyone
Speaker 3: on everyone listens to show is probably familiar. They're on
Speaker 3: January seventh of this year. I have not talked to
Speaker 3: my therapist about the east Awards because because they are
Speaker 3: not a source of stress for me, they bring me
Speaker 3: a lot of joy. So I've not brought them up ever. Uh,
Speaker 3: I don't. She doesn't follow me on Instagram, like we don't.
Speaker 3: You know. The conversation here is like how much outside
Speaker 3: of contact is appropriate from a therapist. I get. I
Speaker 3: started selling Eastwards T shirts this year, which a lot
Speaker 3: of scrubbers have purchased, and that's very kind of you.
Speaker 3: I got an email from the T shirt like thing
Speaker 3: at midnight saying that my therapist had bought a T
Speaker 3: shirt and my I started spiraling at that point because
Speaker 3: I was like, Okay, that means she was on my
Speaker 3: Instagram at midnight and then decided to buy this T shirt.
Speaker 3: I know there's a there's like a version of this,
Speaker 3: which is like she wanted to be supportive, you know,
Speaker 3: and like helped me out.
Speaker 1: No, it's a no for me, so that would make me.
Speaker 1: I only want my therapist to know what.
Speaker 3: I tell her thank you. Yeah, that's where I was at.
Speaker 3: And she didn't say she didn't like text me. She's
Speaker 3: texted me before. She texted me some. I found out
Speaker 3: she's a She revealed she's a big fan of someone
Speaker 3: we do a podcast with, which felt weird to me
Speaker 3: and I like I because I was like, oh man,
Speaker 3: I'm like complaining, you know, not like you.
Speaker 2: Know.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I found she was like a big fan
Speaker 3: and she's text me about that once before, but she
Speaker 3: did not text me about like like, oh, hey, I
Speaker 3: saw you were selling T shirts. I bought one, Like
Speaker 3: she didn't say that just I just got the email
Speaker 3: and I I packaged it up and send it off
Speaker 3: to her, and uh, my mind is just like going
Speaker 3: to a million places because I'm like, how, like is
Speaker 3: she gonna wear it around town? Like what's going on with?
Speaker 3: Like this is my client's like fake award show he does.
Speaker 3: It's so weird and normally, like if you know a
Speaker 3: lot of friends that might have bought the shirt and
Speaker 3: it didn't like it didn't nothing happened. But like the
Speaker 3: fact that it was my therapist, I really started spiraling
Speaker 3: and I just wanted to know if you guys would
Speaker 3: think that was inappropriate or not.
Speaker 1: It's a hard no for me. Yeah, I don't. This
Speaker 1: is just me personally. I like that my therapist doesn't care,
Speaker 1: doesn't know I don't think she knows names. She knows
Speaker 1: I work in radio mornings, she knows I do a podcast.
Speaker 1: So she doesn't know the names of anything. She doesn't
Speaker 1: know any think about anything. And to my knowledge, she
Speaker 1: really doesn't know anything about anything, do you know what
Speaker 1: I mean? And I like it that way. I like
Speaker 1: her just to know what I'm telling her. There's a
Speaker 1: I don't know, there's a part of me that I
Speaker 1: would feel not like I could be my one hundred
Speaker 1: percent authentic open on his self if she did, or
Speaker 1: if I knew she did.
Speaker 2: See I feel like it's almost like delusional to think
Speaker 2: that she doesn't know what you do. Really, therapist, and
Speaker 2: I know that someone I'm talking to is on a
Speaker 2: radio show, has a podcast, I'm hitting Google. Really yeah,
Speaker 2: but I'm nosy.
Speaker 3: I always wonder like would they look up your clients
Speaker 3: on Instagram and stuff like that.
Speaker 2: I invited his therapist to his concert, you know, like
Speaker 2: in LA he was like, shout out to my therapist
Speaker 2: for being in the audience tonight.
Speaker 1: So yeah, but I think that like my vibe. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but I also know there styles.
Speaker 2: But you're a public figure.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it's different, Like I'm not a public figure
Speaker 1: where like HER's styles walks outside and everybody knows who
Speaker 1: that is. I'm not that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but if someone listens to the Morning Show, or
Speaker 2: listens to podcasts, or like watches E in the Countdown,
Speaker 2: they know him.
Speaker 1: Guarantee you that my therapist doesn't do any of those things.
Speaker 2: You don't think she watched Ryan Seacrest New Year's Eve
Speaker 2: Show and tell.
Speaker 1: You that she maybe that maybe, but everything else.
Speaker 2: No, here's my thing. This is my argument, because I
Speaker 2: don't really care. I'm like, you can. If I'm talking
Speaker 2: to you, there's a chance that you can go. If
Speaker 2: you have any curiosity about me or what I do,
Speaker 2: you can just hit a Google and like or look
Speaker 2: me up on Instagram. Like it's just out there. It's
Speaker 2: public knowledge, and I trust that there's a client confidentiality,
Speaker 2: you know, agreement that like what I've come to you
Speaker 2: to talk about is stays here. But like that doesn't
Speaker 2: mean that they don't know what else is going on
Speaker 2: in my life. They just know what I'm sharing with them.
Speaker 2: In that moment, you're in a sense, like in this
Speaker 2: regard to your public figure, because you're doing something that's
Speaker 2: public and she's wanting to support you and like probably
Speaker 2: loves you. You've been with her for a long time,
Speaker 2: and it's like, oh, I want to show my support
Speaker 2: for him, and it feels invasive, But I don't think
Speaker 2: it's coming from a you know, an safe place.
Speaker 3: Yeah I was, because I don't mind if she looks
Speaker 3: at my Instagram. Obviously I know, I like, you know, like,
Speaker 3: but I don't want to know about it.
Speaker 2: There's been a deeps girl on your Instagram for.
Speaker 1: Chance, and my therapist doesn't even know when I like
Speaker 1: talk to her about like, She's like, how do you
Speaker 1: like she doesn't know anything about stories? What is she
Speaker 1: going to start finish your sentences with? Like what you've
Speaker 1: been doing? You know what? I'm gonna live in my
Speaker 1: Delulu world because I like that. I like her not
Speaker 1: knowing anything.
Speaker 2: You just saying there's a chance, regardless of if you
Speaker 2: believe it or not or acknowledge it or not, that
Speaker 2: your therapist knows who you are and what you do.
Speaker 1: Okay, let's say she does know what I do. Know
Speaker 1: exactly where I work, the names of everything, knows everything,
Speaker 1: watches my instagra every single day. I like that she
Speaker 1: pretends that she doesn't. Yeah, great at least that I
Speaker 1: like that she pretends that she knows nothing about anything.
Speaker 1: I like that.
Speaker 2: So she modered woman sweatshirt, you'd be like, what the.
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 3: And when I first started.
Speaker 1: The only person in my life that I just want
Speaker 1: her to know nothing.
Speaker 2: Maybe there's there's got to be a scrubbers out there
Speaker 2: who are therapists are working the you know, yeah.
Speaker 3: Mental health or something. Yeah. When when I first started
Speaker 3: seeing her, she she told me like, if we see
Speaker 3: each other, because she's in the same town as me.
Speaker 3: It's like if we see each other at the grocery store,
Speaker 3: I won't say anything unless you do first, Like if
Speaker 3: you come up and say what, I cannot because that
Speaker 3: would be like mortifying to think about. Like I'm just
Speaker 3: like shopping. It's like, hey, how's it going. I'm his therapist,
Speaker 3: he comes to CB, he's cooker, you know, something like that.
Speaker 2: But my therapist said the same thing to me.
Speaker 3: I think that's like a a thing they teach you.
Speaker 2: I think the same thing.
Speaker 3: We should compare notes. But yeah, so like I wasn't like, oh,
Speaker 3: she was gonna, like, you know, get on Instagram or
Speaker 3: something and like post something weird. I'm not concerned about that,
Speaker 3: but the whole like I just couldn't stop thinking about,
Speaker 3: Like now, I was just picturing her at home at
Speaker 3: midnight on my Instagram going like I'm gonna buy a
Speaker 3: T shirt. It really sent me to a spiral. I
Speaker 3: have not seen her since, and I don't know, like
Speaker 3: I'm thinking about finding a new person.
Speaker 2: You know, do you like, do you feel like connected?
Speaker 2: Like do you like her in terms of what before this.
Speaker 1: This is give you my girls infoe she is she
Speaker 1: will pretend has no idea who you are.
Speaker 3: The thing and if anyone else could relate to this.
Speaker 3: But like I she's great, she moved though she's far away.
Speaker 3: She's like an hour from me now, and I try
Speaker 3: to do the FaceTime thing. I really didn't like it
Speaker 3: because I have like, you know, I have to go
Speaker 3: sit in the car, you know, to get go to
Speaker 3: a private room the house. It feels weird. So I
Speaker 3: go in to see her and it's just like so far.
Speaker 3: But then the thought of meaning getting to find someone
Speaker 3: else and like get them up to speed.
Speaker 1: I know, getting someone else up to speed.
Speaker 3: Feels like we gotta drop in at season four. Now
Speaker 3: it's just like it's so much. I don't know. I
Speaker 3: like that feels daunting. Yeah, that's all I like don't
Speaker 3: want to do it. But then also like the you know,
Speaker 3: she's not like so good, like I'm gonna imagine yeah,
Speaker 3: like I you know, i'd say her like once a month.
Speaker 3: I don't go like that often.
Speaker 1: Let me give you a my girl number.
Speaker 3: I'll happily take it and my first session will be
Speaker 3: so I work with this person. Name is Tanya rad.
Speaker 3: She works at one or two.
Speaker 1: She knows my last name to be honest. I bet
Speaker 1: she has no idea. She knows me. It's Tatiana Rode
Speaker 1: Savi Beach. Yeah, bye knows all she knows.
Speaker 2: So is your question, do you acknowledge doth? Yeah?
Speaker 3: Do I say something?
Speaker 2: Do?
Speaker 3: I just not go back to her? Like, am I
Speaker 3: right and feeling weird about I.
Speaker 2: Think a therapist would say that you have an honest conversation,
Speaker 2: But me, personally, I would.
Speaker 1: Just go yeah.
Speaker 2: I think that's the healthiest thing to do. I'm just
Speaker 2: saying that's what I would do.
Speaker 1: But if you're not a public figure, I still think
Speaker 1: it's weird. Like I, if I were not a public figure,
Speaker 1: I would still not want my therapist watching my Instagram.
Speaker 2: Just me personally, I guess I just I share her
Speaker 2: that I haven't shared on Instagram. So whatever she sees
Speaker 2: on Instagram is like whatever, who cares?
Speaker 1: It's not about that, It's not about that, It's about
Speaker 1: the access, Like, you know, I just want her to
Speaker 1: I want to focus in. I don't want her to
Speaker 1: be like, how was your dinner at pot J last night?
Speaker 2: You know, like I want her to me to acknowledge it,
Speaker 2: but her seeing what you're doing isn't like it doesn't
Speaker 2: affect anything.
Speaker 1: Whether you know or not. You know, different strokes different folks.
Speaker 2: I think you could just say, hey, I got your
Speaker 2: order for the T shirt, like it made me feel
Speaker 2: like a little bit uncomfortable just because we haven't crossed
Speaker 2: like that person.
Speaker 1: He cannot do that.
Speaker 2: I'm telling you what therapist would say, you should have
Speaker 2: a conversation. But I also think if you know whatever
Speaker 2: feels safe for you, maybe you get the sure and
Speaker 2: bring it to her for your next.
Speaker 3: I shipped it out. It's in the main. I think
Speaker 3: she has that already, like it's arrived, right, And I
Speaker 3: just wrote thanks for thanks. I wrote a little note,
Speaker 3: just just like everybody else, anyone else WoT I wrote
Speaker 3: them little note say thank you. But and I just
Speaker 3: said thank you, Cynthia. There you go. Wow, uh and uh.
Speaker 3: I guess if she listens to this, that'll be the
Speaker 3: big test. If she hears this podcast, only time will tell,
Speaker 3: Only time will tell.
Speaker 2: And she writes in an anonymous email about what you do, Hey,
Speaker 2: beck in Tanya, I was trying to support a client
Speaker 2: of mine and he's being really weird about it.
Speaker 3: That'd be so crazy insane, right, Well, thank you for
Speaker 3: the because I was that was good advice? But I
Speaker 3: thought it was good.
Speaker 2: Two different perspectives. Yeah, don't think i'd care.
Speaker 1: I thank your path carefully.
Speaker 2: Or tru Lulu.
Speaker 3: I love it.
Speaker 1: I like my world. You come playing it today. She's blissful.
Speaker 1: She's blissful, solfully unaware.
Speaker 2: Yeah all right, well, Happy New Year.
Speaker 1: Everybody. Have any suggestions for a scrubbing and vision board.
Speaker 1: Please hit me up. Don't do the email because nobody's
Speaker 1: reading them right now. Please send it.
Speaker 4: To me at Tanya rad on Instagram and I will
Speaker 4: cut out and I'll make a scrubbing and vision board
Speaker 4: that we will keep with us for the whole year
Speaker 4: and look back on it.
Speaker 1: Put both of our words on there. So what was
Speaker 1: yours again? Completion and try And that's.
Speaker 2: That, and that's that. We love you so much.
Speaker 1: Love you by