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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rat An iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in grub a dub dub

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Speaker 2: first scrub of twenty twenty four. That's right, yeah.

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Speaker 1: First one, first one. It's a lucky year. Do you

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Speaker 1: know that?

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Speaker 2: In what way?

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Speaker 1: It's a leap year?

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Speaker 2: Mmm? So that means people who have leapier birthdays are

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Speaker 2: like having a birthday, that they actually have a birthday

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Speaker 2: this year. Correct. That's exciting for that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. And it's a lucky year to get married. I

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Speaker 1: know this because everybody sent me. There was like a

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Speaker 1: meme going around and everybody was sending it to me.

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Speaker 1: What did it say that this coming year is a

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Speaker 1: lucky year to get married.

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Speaker 2: What is a lucky year to get married?

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Speaker 1: I think no?

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Speaker 2: But what does that mean? Like luck is in like

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Speaker 2: you're married, Mary, lucky, blessed?

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Speaker 1: Wow?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you and Ali just lucking out and looking out in.

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Speaker 1: The blessed life. Wow. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Well, Happy New Year, everybody. Yes, I feel like this

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Speaker 2: year a lot of people. So there's always the excitement

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Speaker 2: of like new year.

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Speaker 1: Knew me.

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Speaker 2: You know why am I gonna change?

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Speaker 1: What?

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Speaker 2: Am I gonna strive for? This?

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Speaker 1: Year.

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Speaker 2: But then there's people who are like I get very

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Speaker 2: anxious about that pressure of like having to come up

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Speaker 2: with new things, Like you know when you're just content

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Speaker 2: and you're like, it can just be another day. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: it can just be a great day. No, no, no, I'm

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Speaker 2: saying like I saw more people talking about that side

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Speaker 2: of it, which I feel like normally it's all like

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Speaker 2: all the things we're gonna do and not do and

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Speaker 2: blah blah blah. Yeah, but I was like, oh, this

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Speaker 2: is interesting because there is this like that in between

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Speaker 2: time of Christmas and New Year's there is like that

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Speaker 2: you're like, what day is it? I love that personally,

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Speaker 2: Like I love the rotting of Like, tell.

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Speaker 1: You, I discovered so much about myself in the last

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Speaker 1: eight days.

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Speaker 2: What'd you discover?

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Speaker 1: A lot that I feel like we can get into

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Speaker 1: because I know later, you know, a lot and a

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Speaker 1: detox that I'm doing great that I think is very interesting.

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Speaker 1: Okay maybe to some so, but I feel like we

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Speaker 1: should do New Year's a little bit later because don't

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Speaker 1: you want to talk about your Christmas?

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, we can talk about Christmas. It's great. I

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Speaker 2: so I got to go see my parents. I love

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Speaker 2: seeing my mom's house during Christmas because I normally spend

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Speaker 2: Christmas at my sister's house in Louisiana. So I flew

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Speaker 2: went and had like the lovely dinner, and then my

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Speaker 2: dad fell ill and it was very stressful, Like didn't

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Speaker 1: I feel like everybody in my life has been sick

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Speaker 1: within the last two weeks. I know at some point.

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Speaker 2: But let me tell you something. I was researching like

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Speaker 2: health smoothies, and I made him this like pineapple, ginger,

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Speaker 2: like uh if you get the like flim build up.

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Speaker 2: Because a lot of people were having this like cough

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Speaker 2: Then I was like, we can't have that, and I

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Speaker 2: Persevere drove to Louisiana. Chaos, but so much fun. Got

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I get that. It was like that for me

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Speaker 1: when I first started dating Robbie, because I went to

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Speaker 1: went from like my house was a museum. Everything was

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Speaker 2: Like a spa. Didn't feel lived in.

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Speaker 1: And also they're getting to the age where they're really

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Speaker 2: Like they had a little a mini basketball goal, you know,

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry, I didn't have need baths to whip out

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Speaker 2: just in the midst of the eve. Yeah, but yeah,

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Speaker 2: it was. It was really fun. But I do notice

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Speaker 2: another canker so I think the last podcast we did

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Speaker 1: What is up with that?

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Speaker 2: Well, so you know, I had discovered that it could

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Speaker 2: be caused by sugar, because you remember the last time I

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Speaker 1: Yikes.

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Speaker 2: And I made it dentist appointment for myself, not knowing

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Speaker 2: know how to, you know, I keep trying. What I

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Speaker 2: I never go back to the same dentist because I

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Speaker 3: Just run through every dentist in.

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Speaker 2: Town, like they all do the same thing, and they're

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the scraping, the sound, you know, but you might

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Speaker 2: You love it.

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Speaker 1: No, Oh, I have not gotten my teeth cleaned in

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Speaker 1: over a year.

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Speaker 2: Wow, I am shocked by that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. My dentist is far away. He is in Redondo Beach,

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Speaker 2: It's important. I know, I hadn't been in over a year.

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Speaker 2: It's been a long time. And because I genuinely get so,

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Speaker 2: it's not comfortable, but it's doable. I'm not like I'm

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Speaker 1: I've lost twice a day, so I know you. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you're a really good I'm really good Foster, Thank you.

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Speaker 2: He was great today. It's Ali's dentist. Ali goes every

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Speaker 1: That seems a little excessive.

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Speaker 2: Why he told me I need to come every four months?

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Speaker 2: So I said my appointment.

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Speaker 1: I did. You're one of those people. What that makes

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Speaker 2: So anyways, I didn't cry. I didn't have any cavities. No,

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Speaker 2: And the receptionist told me she was really proud of me.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, no, no, notes great, great, I'm proud of you.

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Speaker 1: Thank you. So much.

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Speaker 2: How was your Christmas?

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Speaker 1: Uh? My Christmas was really really, really nice. So I

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Speaker 1: So it was really cute. Did nothing but like eat

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Speaker 1: just like rotten. And it was amazing. But my sister

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Speaker 1: got me this book for Christmas, and like, so my

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Speaker 1: sister is a psychologist, so everything, so I know this

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Speaker 1: is done with love and a good heart. And she

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Speaker 1: said it's one of her favorite books of all time.

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Speaker 1: This is one of my favorite books. A lot of

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Speaker 1: good lessons in here. I open it up and says,

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Speaker 1: act with love, stop struggling, reconcile differences, and strengthen your

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Speaker 1: relationship with acceptance and commitment therapy. And I was like,

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Speaker 1: But apparently it's like a book that she thinks every

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Speaker 1: during their marriage, like a good couple's therapy book. But

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Speaker 1: Do you know it was supposed to be a scrub Aissance?

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Speaker 1: that year. That was my word last year, and it like,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, hard to say. So your word this year's try yes,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he did good this year. This was my Christmas

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Speaker 2: Good job, Robbie.

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Speaker 2: My new initials and your new initials are try Tanya

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Speaker 1: put mirror Ball, people wouldn't get it. They'd be like that,

443
00:21:17,680 --> 00:21:19,720
Speaker 1: what does mirable have to do with try? You know

444
00:21:19,760 --> 00:21:22,120
Speaker 1: what I mean? But This is Me Trying is quite

445
00:21:22,160 --> 00:21:23,440
Speaker 1: a sad song. It's so sad.

446
00:21:23,480 --> 00:21:27,200
Speaker 2: It's about it's literally about it's about like addiction.

447
00:21:27,560 --> 00:21:30,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, so that's not the theme of the song. Is

448
00:21:30,640 --> 00:21:32,359
Speaker 1: not quite what I want my ear to look like.

449
00:21:32,600 --> 00:21:36,120
Speaker 1: It's like the name of the song, this is Me Trying.

450
00:21:36,920 --> 00:21:39,639
Speaker 2: You could have gone with Macy Gray try what is that?

451
00:21:40,119 --> 00:21:44,600
Speaker 1: Try to say goodbye? And that choke try to walk

452
00:21:44,640 --> 00:21:48,280
Speaker 1: away and I stumble no, I try to have it.

453
00:21:48,600 --> 00:21:52,880
Speaker 1: It's clear my world crumbles when you are not there.

454
00:21:53,760 --> 00:21:57,560
Speaker 1: Used change, Yeah, not quite the vibe I was going

455
00:21:58,080 --> 00:21:58,520
Speaker 1: twenty four.

456
00:21:58,720 --> 00:22:01,399
Speaker 2: Maybe I've been away from me al for too long,

457
00:22:01,440 --> 00:22:02,600
Speaker 2: but that kind of sounded good.

458
00:22:03,280 --> 00:22:03,679
Speaker 3: Thank you.

459
00:22:03,840 --> 00:22:06,679
Speaker 1: It's the tone in her voice. It's easy to mimic.

460
00:22:07,920 --> 00:22:12,280
Speaker 2: Easton's harmony really came through anyways.

461
00:22:12,359 --> 00:22:14,600
Speaker 1: Anyways, to try, Yeah, what is that?

462
00:22:14,720 --> 00:22:17,280
Speaker 2: Encompass? Like, what what does it look like for you?

463
00:22:18,480 --> 00:22:21,400
Speaker 1: So when you define the word try, it's like to oh,

464
00:22:21,440 --> 00:22:25,159
Speaker 1: what is it? It's like to attempt, to attempt to accomplish,

465
00:22:25,240 --> 00:22:28,680
Speaker 1: to attempt to accomplish. And to me, there is no

466
00:22:28,800 --> 00:22:32,200
Speaker 1: more defining term of a modern woman than to try

467
00:22:32,560 --> 00:22:37,920
Speaker 1: or what did I say again? To attempt to accomplish.

468
00:22:37,960 --> 00:22:41,280
Speaker 1: That is the definition of a modern woman. To attempt

469
00:22:41,400 --> 00:22:44,359
Speaker 1: to accomplish. So this year I'm going to attempt to

470
00:22:44,440 --> 00:22:48,240
Speaker 1: accomplish many different things. So it does such as well

471
00:22:48,280 --> 00:22:50,680
Speaker 1: for starters. I mean, it's only the second day of

472
00:22:50,680 --> 00:22:53,320
Speaker 1: the year, so it's brand new. But I really want

473
00:22:53,320 --> 00:22:56,600
Speaker 1: to start my days off with warm water and lemon

474
00:22:56,760 --> 00:22:59,880
Speaker 1: instead of coffee, and so I've been doing that, and

475
00:23:00,680 --> 00:23:04,000
Speaker 1: it's gonna be interesting when I'm waking up at four

476
00:23:04,000 --> 00:23:05,880
Speaker 1: in the morning and trying to make my warm water

477
00:23:05,920 --> 00:23:07,080
Speaker 1: with lemon before my coffee.

478
00:23:07,080 --> 00:23:09,400
Speaker 2: Oh it makes me nauseous when I try to do it.

479
00:23:09,400 --> 00:23:13,680
Speaker 2: It's the this acid with the warmth. It didn't do it.

480
00:23:13,920 --> 00:23:15,560
Speaker 1: Just a little lemon. I don't like squeeze a whole lot.

481
00:23:15,640 --> 00:23:17,399
Speaker 1: Oh there. Yeah, just like a pinch of lemon. Ye

482
00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:17,960
Speaker 1: warm water.

483
00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:18,760
Speaker 2: It's really good.

484
00:23:18,880 --> 00:23:24,960
Speaker 1: So that's what I'm trying to do this week year. Yeah,

485
00:23:25,040 --> 00:23:26,680
Speaker 1: but I'm going to do new stuff. I'm gonna try

486
00:23:27,040 --> 00:23:29,000
Speaker 1: new stuff every week. I love that. Yeah.

487
00:23:29,480 --> 00:23:31,480
Speaker 2: Did you make an ends and outs list?

488
00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:32,240
Speaker 1: I did not?

489
00:23:32,400 --> 00:23:35,200
Speaker 2: Did you? Yeah? Did you have a word for this year?

490
00:23:35,840 --> 00:23:38,720
Speaker 3: In twenty twenty three? My word was harmony. I was

491
00:23:38,760 --> 00:23:41,359
Speaker 3: trying to find better harmony in my life.

492
00:23:41,400 --> 00:23:42,320
Speaker 2: Did you that?

493
00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:43,359
Speaker 3: Kind of not?

494
00:23:43,440 --> 00:23:43,720
Speaker 1: Really?

495
00:23:44,560 --> 00:23:46,160
Speaker 3: This year my word is Cocomo.

496
00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:47,000
Speaker 2: Wow?

497
00:23:47,040 --> 00:23:48,120
Speaker 1: What is that's?

498
00:23:49,200 --> 00:23:52,160
Speaker 3: It's a club, It's a place in Indiana. It's also

499
00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:54,919
Speaker 3: a fictional island that the Beach Boys sing about. But

500
00:23:55,040 --> 00:23:58,920
Speaker 3: I want to relax more and do more stuff that's

501
00:23:58,960 --> 00:24:01,840
Speaker 3: not work. Twenty four Yeah that's Michael.

502
00:24:02,080 --> 00:24:04,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, because here's the thing. I feel like you do

503
00:24:04,760 --> 00:24:07,600
Speaker 2: so much, but you're always working, Like you're always doing

504
00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:08,640
Speaker 2: it because you're working.

505
00:24:08,840 --> 00:24:12,199
Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly, and I'm lucky that my work is cool

506
00:24:12,240 --> 00:24:15,040
Speaker 3: and interesting, but also it's it's work, so it's annoying,

507
00:24:15,119 --> 00:24:17,240
Speaker 3: and I want to spend more time with my wife

508
00:24:17,280 --> 00:24:19,720
Speaker 3: and just doing fun stuff like you would do on

509
00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:20,640
Speaker 3: the island of Kokomo.

510
00:24:20,880 --> 00:24:25,880
Speaker 1: So I tell you I love the intent behind it,

511
00:24:26,000 --> 00:24:28,120
Speaker 1: the symbolism. Symbolism.

512
00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:34,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, my word for this year is well, I have

513
00:24:34,160 --> 00:24:36,400
Speaker 2: two because.

514
00:24:36,119 --> 00:24:36,800
Speaker 1: I can't remember.

515
00:24:36,960 --> 00:24:40,199
Speaker 2: That's I can't remember last year, so I'm making up

516
00:24:40,240 --> 00:24:42,840
Speaker 2: for it. I am curious what my word was because

517
00:24:42,840 --> 00:24:43,480
Speaker 2: I'm wondering if.

518
00:24:43,480 --> 00:24:46,480
Speaker 1: I obviously I wouldn't work on it.

519
00:24:47,880 --> 00:24:51,280
Speaker 2: Okay, my word for this year. One of them is relinquished,

520
00:24:51,720 --> 00:24:55,080
Speaker 2: because I want to let go of like meeting your

521
00:24:55,080 --> 00:24:57,680
Speaker 2: word last year. No, no, no. But the other one's completion,

522
00:24:57,920 --> 00:25:00,840
Speaker 2: because I find that I start things, or I have

523
00:25:00,960 --> 00:25:03,680
Speaker 2: ideas of things, and I never follow through, whether it's

524
00:25:03,680 --> 00:25:06,720
Speaker 2: like fear of failure or fear of it not working out,

525
00:25:06,840 --> 00:25:09,920
Speaker 2: or just like becoming bored by it. And I really

526
00:25:09,960 --> 00:25:13,640
Speaker 2: want to be able to like start things and complete

527
00:25:13,680 --> 00:25:16,920
Speaker 2: them in a way where even if it wasn't the

528
00:25:16,960 --> 00:25:19,040
Speaker 2: best thing I ever did, just like being able to say,

529
00:25:19,080 --> 00:25:22,320
Speaker 2: like I started this and then I finished it having

530
00:25:22,359 --> 00:25:25,639
Speaker 2: that like sense of pride and like completing something.

531
00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:26,600
Speaker 1: Yeah.

532
00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:29,640
Speaker 2: So it started with the vision board, because I gotta

533
00:25:29,640 --> 00:25:32,520
Speaker 2: be honest. We did it on New Year's Eve and

534
00:25:32,920 --> 00:25:34,160
Speaker 2: I took an.

535
00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:35,919
Speaker 1: Edible and I got I didn't finish it.

536
00:25:36,040 --> 00:25:39,879
Speaker 2: No, everyone else was like really into theirs getting them glued,

537
00:25:39,880 --> 00:25:42,720
Speaker 2: and I hadn't even like I had ripped out things.

538
00:25:42,920 --> 00:25:44,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, phase one hmmm.

539
00:25:44,480 --> 00:25:46,800
Speaker 2: I gone through phase one and then I just was

540
00:25:46,840 --> 00:25:50,679
Speaker 2: like in the kitchen eating, like watching everyone, giggling to myself.

541
00:25:50,760 --> 00:25:53,440
Speaker 2: And then I was like, heyley, guys, are you gonna

542
00:25:53,440 --> 00:25:55,679
Speaker 2: do your vision board? And I thought I should do

543
00:25:55,720 --> 00:25:58,040
Speaker 2: this because I want my My word's gonna be completion.

544
00:25:58,240 --> 00:26:02,080
Speaker 2: So I want to start on this and I finished it.

545
00:26:02,400 --> 00:26:05,240
Speaker 1: Wow, you know what you should do? Tell me? We

546
00:26:05,240 --> 00:26:08,320
Speaker 1: should make you something that says the word completion and

547
00:26:08,359 --> 00:26:10,199
Speaker 1: put it up somewhere that you see it daily, so

548
00:26:10,240 --> 00:26:12,080
Speaker 1: that you can know that that's your focus for the

549
00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:15,360
Speaker 1: year and not only not forget, but also gear your

550
00:26:16,200 --> 00:26:17,720
Speaker 1: decisions through that lens.

551
00:26:17,720 --> 00:26:21,160
Speaker 2: Well, it feels like something I'm gonna have daily where

552
00:26:21,200 --> 00:26:23,480
Speaker 2: I think about it because it's like even a small

553
00:26:23,520 --> 00:26:27,719
Speaker 2: as like choosing to declutter a space instead of just

554
00:26:27,760 --> 00:26:30,840
Speaker 2: like starting and then stopping because I get distracted by

555
00:26:30,880 --> 00:26:34,000
Speaker 2: something else, being like, no, you gotta this is like

556
00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:35,959
Speaker 2: you know what you're striving to do. So I think

557
00:26:35,960 --> 00:26:38,720
Speaker 2: it's gonna hit me in the face, like every day nice,

558
00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:39,520
Speaker 2: thanks so much.

559
00:26:39,960 --> 00:26:41,960
Speaker 3: So I try to find your word from twenty twenty

560
00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:44,000
Speaker 3: three and I found I did not, but I found

561
00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:46,520
Speaker 3: this interesting thing on a Hayley Kyoko fan message board.

562
00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:52,160
Speaker 3: So someone said, someone said Becca's cousin is so sweet

563
00:26:52,160 --> 00:26:54,720
Speaker 3: in her recent Instagram post. Harmony is indeed the word

564
00:26:54,760 --> 00:26:56,080
Speaker 3: for twenty twenty three for Becca.

565
00:26:56,560 --> 00:26:57,760
Speaker 1: Oh okay, so it was harmony?

566
00:26:57,920 --> 00:27:00,240
Speaker 3: No, I mean, harmony was my word. I said that

567
00:27:01,440 --> 00:27:04,000
Speaker 3: on the podcast last year. So I mean, but maybe

568
00:27:04,040 --> 00:27:06,399
Speaker 3: your cousin posted about harmony too. I don't know.

569
00:27:07,720 --> 00:27:09,160
Speaker 1: I feel like that could have been your word last

570
00:27:09,240 --> 00:27:10,800
Speaker 1: year because it does sound.

571
00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:14,720
Speaker 2: You gave me a bracelet with the word harmony, But

572
00:27:14,760 --> 00:27:15,760
Speaker 2: that wasn't my words.

573
00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:18,920
Speaker 1: It was I gave you a bracelet with the word

574
00:27:19,040 --> 00:27:21,800
Speaker 1: you chose for me. Yes, yes, yes, okay, this is

575
00:27:22,000 --> 00:27:22,840
Speaker 1: all coming.

576
00:27:22,600 --> 00:27:27,280
Speaker 2: Together all right.

577
00:27:27,880 --> 00:27:32,320
Speaker 1: Wow, that took a term, right right. I assigned all

578
00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:37,040
Speaker 1: my friends up sign. I assigned all my friends words

579
00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:38,200
Speaker 1: that I wanted.

580
00:27:37,840 --> 00:27:41,560
Speaker 2: For them for the new Year. Yeah, yeah, yeah hard.

581
00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:45,480
Speaker 2: I didn't have a harmonious year. I think that's good in.

582
00:27:45,400 --> 00:27:48,200
Speaker 1: A lot of ways, the fact that I assigned you

583
00:27:48,280 --> 00:27:48,840
Speaker 1: all words.

584
00:27:48,960 --> 00:27:54,399
Speaker 2: So do you want to know some of my outs

585
00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:54,879
Speaker 2: and ins?

586
00:27:55,080 --> 00:27:55,280
Speaker 1: Yeah?

587
00:27:55,280 --> 00:27:59,200
Speaker 2: I do, so out these are some of my outs

588
00:28:00,200 --> 00:28:03,920
Speaker 2: talking mean about my body, Yeah, I said, unless it's

589
00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:08,639
Speaker 2: Salley or Ali, because sometimes it's like funny. It's like

590
00:28:08,680 --> 00:28:10,840
Speaker 2: we go back and forth and it's not like funny,

591
00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:11,760
Speaker 2: it's kind of funny.

592
00:28:11,800 --> 00:28:12,560
Speaker 1: It's not funny.

593
00:28:12,920 --> 00:28:14,639
Speaker 2: Well it's not funny to Hailey, but Ali and I

594
00:28:14,680 --> 00:28:15,440
Speaker 2: do go back and forth.

595
00:28:15,480 --> 00:28:17,800
Speaker 1: It's kind of funny, but it's not funny. But you

596
00:28:17,880 --> 00:28:20,280
Speaker 1: know why you're putting that energy into the universe and

597
00:28:20,320 --> 00:28:20,679
Speaker 1: we want to.

598
00:28:20,680 --> 00:28:23,680
Speaker 2: Stay Okay, this is my list? Is my list talking

599
00:28:23,680 --> 00:28:25,800
Speaker 2: about age because I feel like I've like gotten to

600
00:28:25,920 --> 00:28:27,720
Speaker 2: this habit where all of a sudden, I turned thirty

601
00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:29,320
Speaker 2: five and I'm like, oh, I feel so old. I

602
00:28:29,320 --> 00:28:31,000
Speaker 2: feel blah blah blah, and I like don't want to

603
00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:31,600
Speaker 2: be that person.

604
00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:31,880
Speaker 1: I hate.

605
00:28:31,960 --> 00:28:33,880
Speaker 2: I've always hated when people do that, when they talk

606
00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:36,119
Speaker 2: about we're so young. I know, but like I've always

607
00:28:36,160 --> 00:28:38,760
Speaker 2: been like, I mean, you do thirty five? Is that

608
00:28:38,960 --> 00:28:40,880
Speaker 2: It's kind of that weird age because I've never thought

609
00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:42,840
Speaker 2: about the number of the age I'm turning, and thirty

610
00:28:42,840 --> 00:28:44,880
Speaker 2: five is the first year where I was like, hmm,

611
00:28:44,880 --> 00:28:48,360
Speaker 2: that's interesting, mm hmm. But I don't want to talk

612
00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:52,720
Speaker 2: about that anymore. So go back to that cluttered spaces.

613
00:28:52,880 --> 00:28:56,440
Speaker 2: I want to have like clean, open spaces. Feeling guilt

614
00:28:56,480 --> 00:28:59,040
Speaker 2: for being lazy, because sometimes you just gotta be lazy,

615
00:28:59,480 --> 00:29:03,440
Speaker 2: not finish task. Bad sleep and staying up late.

616
00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:06,120
Speaker 1: Oh wow, what's in.

617
00:29:06,520 --> 00:29:10,240
Speaker 2: Having a sleep routine, a healthy sleep routine, being outside more,

618
00:29:11,200 --> 00:29:15,440
Speaker 2: less screen time, more conversations with strangers.

619
00:29:16,720 --> 00:29:20,960
Speaker 1: Like safely wait, pause for one second. Do you want

620
00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:25,640
Speaker 1: to hear the craziest thing? Yes, maybe I'm flying out.

621
00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:28,320
Speaker 1: I flew out to the Bahamas by myself, without Robbie.

622
00:29:28,320 --> 00:29:31,000
Speaker 1: He came out a day after me. So the person

623
00:29:31,040 --> 00:29:32,840
Speaker 1: I was sitting next to me on the plane was like,

624
00:29:32,920 --> 00:29:35,280
Speaker 1: this man, I don't know how old he was, let's see,

625
00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:37,080
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter, but we end up

626
00:29:37,120 --> 00:29:39,120
Speaker 1: chumming it up, talking the whole like a good amount

627
00:29:39,160 --> 00:29:41,640
Speaker 1: of the flight, got his backstory, talked about his kids

628
00:29:41,680 --> 00:29:44,160
Speaker 1: and da dah. So like, right, I like know this

629
00:29:44,240 --> 00:29:47,400
Speaker 1: man depart the plane, goodbye, I have a nice vacation.

630
00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:49,680
Speaker 1: We're getting back on the plane to go home. And

631
00:29:49,720 --> 00:29:54,280
Speaker 1: guess who's sitting next to Robbie. O guy, the same man. Yeah,

632
00:29:55,040 --> 00:29:56,719
Speaker 1: and this time he was with his family and I

633
00:29:56,760 --> 00:29:58,120
Speaker 1: was with Robbie, and so I was like, oh my gosh,

634
00:29:58,160 --> 00:30:00,240
Speaker 1: I got to meet his sons and his wife. Even

635
00:30:00,280 --> 00:30:01,920
Speaker 1: he got to me Robbie. And then I switched seats

636
00:30:01,920 --> 00:30:04,120
Speaker 1: with him so that I could sit next to Robbie.

637
00:30:04,440 --> 00:30:08,479
Speaker 1: He said, here's my wedding gift to you. Probably was like, shoot,

638
00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:10,040
Speaker 1: He's like, who is this guy?

639
00:30:11,200 --> 00:30:13,080
Speaker 2: That's crazy? Like what are the chance of.

640
00:30:13,120 --> 00:30:16,239
Speaker 1: All the people I know? Thank you? Anyways, back to

641
00:30:16,280 --> 00:30:17,880
Speaker 1: your strangers, But.

642
00:30:17,920 --> 00:30:20,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, having more conversations with strangers.

643
00:30:20,080 --> 00:30:22,480
Speaker 1: I learned from this man. Yeah.

644
00:30:22,840 --> 00:30:25,120
Speaker 2: I actually was like open to having a conversation with

645
00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:28,680
Speaker 2: my flight buddy on the way back, but she didn't

646
00:30:28,680 --> 00:30:31,520
Speaker 2: seem interested, so I didn't force it, but I was

647
00:30:31,560 --> 00:30:32,400
Speaker 2: like open to it.

648
00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:34,400
Speaker 1: That's step number one.

649
00:30:34,320 --> 00:30:40,000
Speaker 2: Thank you, more cooking, less food delivery. Nice decluttering. I said,

650
00:30:40,040 --> 00:30:43,400
Speaker 2: intentional time, as in like having intentional time with people

651
00:30:43,440 --> 00:30:48,880
Speaker 2: where it's not work based, it's not anything, my phone's

652
00:30:48,920 --> 00:30:51,160
Speaker 2: not on the table, It's just like intentional one on

653
00:30:51,160 --> 00:30:54,320
Speaker 2: one time doing things that the people that I love

654
00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:58,520
Speaker 2: love phones, staying in my purse at dinner out or

655
00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:02,880
Speaker 2: just out of sight, traveling to new places, trying new

656
00:31:02,880 --> 00:31:07,040
Speaker 2: things even when scared, completing projects, and hosting dinner parties.

657
00:31:07,520 --> 00:31:13,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's cute. So I watched this thing on Instagram.

658
00:31:13,680 --> 00:31:15,320
Speaker 1: I don't know it was this guy, but he was

659
00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:17,840
Speaker 1: talking about the power of the phone.

660
00:31:18,880 --> 00:31:19,400
Speaker 3: Did you post it?

661
00:31:19,480 --> 00:31:21,760
Speaker 1: I posted it, but I got so many dms about it.

662
00:31:21,800 --> 00:31:23,520
Speaker 1: I was like, Wow, this really struck a chord with me.

663
00:31:23,560 --> 00:31:25,080
Speaker 1: So I was like, obviously it's striking a card with

664
00:31:25,080 --> 00:31:27,400
Speaker 1: a bunch of other people. But he was like giving

665
00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:30,000
Speaker 1: this ted talk and he goes, he was talking, he

666
00:31:30,040 --> 00:31:32,640
Speaker 1: didn't have his phone. He goes, do you feel differently

667
00:31:32,680 --> 00:31:34,760
Speaker 1: now if I bring my phone out and I'm holding

668
00:31:34,760 --> 00:31:36,440
Speaker 1: my phone like this, just holding it here. I'm not

669
00:31:36,440 --> 00:31:38,440
Speaker 1: looking at it, but I'm just holding it. And I

670
00:31:38,480 --> 00:31:41,240
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, I actually do feel different like I do.

671
00:31:41,360 --> 00:31:43,160
Speaker 1: And he goes, so, what do you think when you're

672
00:31:43,200 --> 00:31:45,200
Speaker 1: out to lunch or dinner with somebody and your phone

673
00:31:45,640 --> 00:31:47,440
Speaker 1: is on the table And he goes, oh, you know,

674
00:31:47,560 --> 00:31:49,560
Speaker 1: you think you're being courteous and you flip it over

675
00:31:49,640 --> 00:31:51,280
Speaker 1: so you can't see it. And I was like, that's me,

676
00:31:51,560 --> 00:31:53,320
Speaker 1: Like I'm the girl with the phone flipped over on

677
00:31:53,360 --> 00:31:54,720
Speaker 1: the table. And I was like, i don't want to

678
00:31:54,760 --> 00:31:57,360
Speaker 1: do that anymore because I'm not looking at it. I

679
00:31:57,680 --> 00:31:59,680
Speaker 1: don't know why I have it there. It's not necessary

680
00:32:00,040 --> 00:32:02,040
Speaker 1: to start putting it in my purse when I'm out

681
00:32:02,040 --> 00:32:02,880
Speaker 1: to eat. Yeah.

682
00:32:03,400 --> 00:32:05,200
Speaker 2: Done, I'm with you.

683
00:32:05,400 --> 00:32:06,000
Speaker 1: I'm over it.

684
00:32:06,680 --> 00:32:07,239
Speaker 2: I'm with you.

685
00:32:07,440 --> 00:32:10,640
Speaker 1: I'm tired of being rude, tired of being rude. Rude

686
00:32:10,680 --> 00:32:14,000
Speaker 1: is out. Yeah, rude is out present. You know what

687
00:32:14,120 --> 00:32:14,880
Speaker 1: else is out?

688
00:32:15,080 --> 00:32:20,760
Speaker 2: Is uh commenting mean things on public platforms, which it's

689
00:32:20,760 --> 00:32:23,280
Speaker 2: always been out, But in my mind, I'm like, if

690
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:26,040
Speaker 2: someone does something shocking, okay, if I see someone in

691
00:32:26,080 --> 00:32:28,840
Speaker 2: there dating someone, or it's something I don't like, or

692
00:32:28,840 --> 00:32:31,680
Speaker 2: it's a celebrity information where I'm like, what is this?

693
00:32:31,800 --> 00:32:35,400
Speaker 2: I have a reaction to it. At the very most,

694
00:32:35,800 --> 00:32:37,680
Speaker 2: I'll send it to a friend and have a private

695
00:32:37,720 --> 00:32:40,880
Speaker 2: conversation about it and be like, what this is crazy?

696
00:32:41,720 --> 00:32:46,240
Speaker 2: But commenting a rude, hurtful things on a public platform

697
00:32:46,600 --> 00:32:52,560
Speaker 2: or public person's social media is out. Yeah, do it

698
00:32:52,600 --> 00:32:53,160
Speaker 2: with your friends.

699
00:32:53,160 --> 00:32:55,400
Speaker 1: That's always been outfying.

700
00:32:57,920 --> 00:33:01,000
Speaker 2: It's just crazy. I just am like, I can't imagine

701
00:33:01,040 --> 00:33:03,800
Speaker 2: going on and saying I'm not someone who's like I

702
00:33:03,840 --> 00:33:07,520
Speaker 2: never gossip, Like I have private conversations about things, but

703
00:33:07,600 --> 00:33:10,240
Speaker 2: it's like to hurt go on someone's page and say

704
00:33:10,280 --> 00:33:16,640
Speaker 2: something that's like hurtful to someone's heart. I don't get it. Yeah, personally,

705
00:33:17,520 --> 00:33:18,240
Speaker 2: So that's out.

706
00:33:18,640 --> 00:33:28,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, that bold stands the new stands. Yeah, so that's

707
00:33:28,840 --> 00:33:30,640
Speaker 1: that for me.

708
00:33:31,600 --> 00:33:32,720
Speaker 2: You don't have any off the top of.

709
00:33:32,640 --> 00:33:35,000
Speaker 1: Your head, ins and outs, No, but I will tell

710
00:33:35,040 --> 00:33:38,120
Speaker 1: you that I totally started off the year with a

711
00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:40,720
Speaker 1: major bucket list moment because I was a part of

712
00:33:40,800 --> 00:33:44,680
Speaker 1: Dick Clark's New Year's Rocket Eve with Ryan Seacrest. Hold On, yeah,

713
00:33:44,760 --> 00:33:48,680
Speaker 1: I mean, let's give it up for the name.

714
00:33:49,000 --> 00:33:51,600
Speaker 2: No, can we just talk about how what is.

715
00:33:51,520 --> 00:33:53,720
Speaker 1: It just gonna be Ryan Seacrest New Year's Eve?

716
00:33:53,880 --> 00:33:56,680
Speaker 2: You did not? You were like, oh, yeah, I have

717
00:33:56,720 --> 00:33:59,280
Speaker 2: to do this like New Year's Eve thing, Like you

718
00:33:59,680 --> 00:34:02,320
Speaker 2: under sold it. So I literally had no idea what

719
00:34:02,320 --> 00:34:03,400
Speaker 2: she was doing. She was like, do you have a

720
00:34:03,440 --> 00:34:05,320
Speaker 2: dress second borrow or do you have any outfit ex

721
00:34:05,360 --> 00:34:07,080
Speaker 2: and borrow? I was like, oh yeah, She's like I

722
00:34:07,200 --> 00:34:09,239
Speaker 2: just she came over the day before, just like very

723
00:34:09,320 --> 00:34:11,040
Speaker 2: much casual, let me see what you have.

724
00:34:11,160 --> 00:34:14,680
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, this will work. She's like literally on the

725
00:34:14,719 --> 00:34:18,120
Speaker 1: biggest New Year's evening. Ever, why did you do that?

726
00:34:18,680 --> 00:34:20,120
Speaker 2: What do you mean? Why did I did you under like?

727
00:34:20,120 --> 00:34:21,719
Speaker 2: Why did you just act like it was just this

728
00:34:21,800 --> 00:34:23,840
Speaker 2: weird thing that they were having you do locally?

729
00:34:24,000 --> 00:34:26,359
Speaker 1: That's how you sold it to me? Because well, first

730
00:34:26,400 --> 00:34:28,919
Speaker 1: of all, I didn't know. I don't know. I don't

731
00:34:28,960 --> 00:34:30,760
Speaker 1: like to get to hype because I'm like there's always

732
00:34:31,080 --> 00:34:32,919
Speaker 1: I feel like you don't know if you're doing something

733
00:34:33,000 --> 00:34:34,839
Speaker 1: until like you've done it, you know what I mean.

734
00:34:34,920 --> 00:34:38,239
Speaker 1: So I think I was just like cautioning myself of

735
00:34:38,440 --> 00:34:39,200
Speaker 1: to be excited.

736
00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:42,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that should be out for twenty twenty four.

737
00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:45,760
Speaker 2: I think you should celebrate big when you get opportunities

738
00:34:45,760 --> 00:34:48,719
Speaker 2: that are exciting. Yeah, and I under sell yourself.

739
00:34:48,880 --> 00:34:51,600
Speaker 1: I'm with you. But yeah, it was the craziest thing,

740
00:34:51,760 --> 00:34:54,439
Speaker 1: and like, I don't know, it's just really really really

741
00:34:54,480 --> 00:34:56,759
Speaker 1: really cool. And I'm obsessed with Genie. So Genie I

742
00:34:56,800 --> 00:34:58,640
Speaker 1: was the host of the LA portion of New Year's

743
00:34:58,680 --> 00:35:01,239
Speaker 1: Rock and Eve. So she's the how that I was

744
00:35:01,280 --> 00:35:04,600
Speaker 1: with and she was just the coolest. I've always just

745
00:35:04,600 --> 00:35:07,600
Speaker 1: been such a big fan of hers. She's like, honestly

746
00:35:07,640 --> 00:35:10,840
Speaker 1: just so. But I'd love to have her back.

747
00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:11,680
Speaker 3: If she's she's great.

748
00:35:11,800 --> 00:35:13,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's great.

749
00:35:13,560 --> 00:35:16,719
Speaker 1: And now she's a mom. Wow going through a divorce.

750
00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:19,120
Speaker 1: Oh man, I know it actually doesn't seem so good

751
00:35:19,120 --> 00:35:20,799
Speaker 1: because I feel like all the things I see about

752
00:35:20,800 --> 00:35:23,360
Speaker 1: it online are just like always popping up. But she

753
00:35:23,440 --> 00:35:25,680
Speaker 1: seems she seems like when I saw her to be

754
00:35:25,719 --> 00:35:29,160
Speaker 1: in really good spirits and like just really really thriving.

755
00:35:29,360 --> 00:35:30,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, love her.

756
00:35:30,400 --> 00:35:32,319
Speaker 1: Yeah. It was funny because someone's like, did you do

757
00:35:32,360 --> 00:35:35,359
Speaker 1: the routine? You know, like the Ross and Rachel routine.

758
00:35:35,040 --> 00:35:37,040
Speaker 2: I we did on New Year's Eve we watch Friends.

759
00:35:37,120 --> 00:35:40,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I did not do the routine. My airtime

760
00:35:40,520 --> 00:35:43,240
Speaker 1: was probably forty five seconds, but it was an impactful

761
00:35:43,280 --> 00:35:44,080
Speaker 1: forty five seconds.

762
00:35:44,160 --> 00:35:48,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, you probably should learn the routine. That's a good real.

763
00:35:48,880 --> 00:35:50,440
Speaker 1: That is a good reel. Although I don't know if

764
00:35:50,440 --> 00:35:50,920
Speaker 1: he'd be down.

765
00:35:51,320 --> 00:35:55,080
Speaker 2: He is so down. Remember when we did the fancy dance,

766
00:35:55,400 --> 00:35:58,279
Speaker 2: he was so into it. Yeah, Yeah, you were the

767
00:35:58,320 --> 00:36:00,239
Speaker 2: one we were having to drag onto the dance for.

768
00:36:00,680 --> 00:36:02,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not so good at the synchronized dancing, but

769
00:36:02,840 --> 00:36:06,439
Speaker 1: the the routine seems doable. Yeah.

770
00:36:06,520 --> 00:36:09,080
Speaker 2: Do you remember long? It's long, Yeah, but it's it's

771
00:36:09,160 --> 00:36:13,000
Speaker 2: easy movements that I think you can learn, just some five, six, seven,

772
00:36:13,040 --> 00:36:13,640
Speaker 2: eight movements.

773
00:36:13,719 --> 00:36:14,360
Speaker 1: Yeah exactly.

774
00:36:17,560 --> 00:36:20,160
Speaker 2: Was there something there was something else that you said, Yeah,

775
00:36:20,520 --> 00:36:21,640
Speaker 2: we can do it with my detalks.

776
00:36:21,760 --> 00:36:23,359
Speaker 1: Oh we come back, Okay, We'll be right back.

777
00:36:23,440 --> 00:36:47,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, So Tanya, you have started a new detox. Yes,

778
00:36:48,200 --> 00:36:49,279
Speaker 2: what is it? So?

779
00:36:50,520 --> 00:36:56,719
Speaker 1: I have come to realize that I am addicted to Survivor,

780
00:36:57,480 --> 00:36:59,919
Speaker 1: like in a not healthy way. I'm in the middle

781
00:36:59,920 --> 00:37:01,200
Speaker 1: of three different seasons.

782
00:37:02,360 --> 00:37:03,600
Speaker 2: How do you keep up? Like?

783
00:37:03,640 --> 00:37:04,080
Speaker 1: How do you?

784
00:37:04,640 --> 00:37:08,120
Speaker 2: I don't know why three different seasons? Instead of just watching.

785
00:37:08,040 --> 00:37:12,120
Speaker 1: Just one, we watch one as a family, we watch

786
00:37:12,360 --> 00:37:14,880
Speaker 1: one that's currently airing live but it's only once a

787
00:37:14,880 --> 00:37:18,080
Speaker 1: week so it's not that much. And then we watched

788
00:37:18,120 --> 00:37:19,440
Speaker 1: one just Robbie and I.

789
00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:21,400
Speaker 2: Why do I feel like the one that is alive

790
00:37:21,520 --> 00:37:23,080
Speaker 2: has aired? The finale?

791
00:37:23,200 --> 00:37:24,080
Speaker 1: Like they did it did?

792
00:37:24,239 --> 00:37:24,960
Speaker 2: It just ended?

793
00:37:25,200 --> 00:37:31,200
Speaker 1: So that so now it's just two Who won? Her

794
00:37:31,280 --> 00:37:36,040
Speaker 1: name is d and who won? All over one? I

795
00:37:36,080 --> 00:37:36,880
Speaker 1: got second place?

796
00:37:37,080 --> 00:37:37,319
Speaker 2: Ye?

797
00:37:37,400 --> 00:37:38,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you so much.

798
00:37:38,400 --> 00:37:38,600
Speaker 2: Nice.

799
00:37:39,400 --> 00:37:40,880
Speaker 1: But it's weird because, like I don't know if you

800
00:37:40,880 --> 00:37:44,279
Speaker 1: guys do fantasy football, but every player gets like points.

801
00:37:44,040 --> 00:37:44,359
Speaker 2: I don't.

802
00:37:45,600 --> 00:37:47,440
Speaker 1: So Robbie did it the same way he does fantasy football.

803
00:37:47,480 --> 00:37:51,239
Speaker 1: So my player didn't win. She got fourth place, but

804
00:37:51,320 --> 00:37:53,600
Speaker 1: somehow I got second place because all my players lasted

805
00:37:53,640 --> 00:37:54,120
Speaker 1: pretty long.

806
00:37:54,200 --> 00:37:58,799
Speaker 2: Oh I see yeah, okay, so you are doing a

807
00:37:59,000 --> 00:37:59,879
Speaker 2: detox of Survi.

808
00:38:00,360 --> 00:38:04,160
Speaker 1: Yes, so I decided that I want to do a

809
00:38:04,280 --> 00:38:07,920
Speaker 1: detox of Survivor at least until the next season starts

810
00:38:07,920 --> 00:38:08,840
Speaker 1: to air in February.

811
00:38:09,160 --> 00:38:11,719
Speaker 2: Okay, So it's going to be about season in February.

812
00:38:11,719 --> 00:38:15,160
Speaker 1: Correct forty six, Season forty six. Okay, So for the

813
00:38:15,160 --> 00:38:19,879
Speaker 1: next month, I'm not going dry, fully dry, but it's

814
00:38:19,880 --> 00:38:21,840
Speaker 1: not going to be a daily occurrence in my life anymore.

815
00:38:23,760 --> 00:38:26,960
Speaker 1: So if anybody has any show recommendations that they would

816
00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:30,640
Speaker 1: like to give me, that would be very much appreciated

817
00:38:31,480 --> 00:38:35,399
Speaker 1: and help with my detox. Did you watch Saltburn? No,

818
00:38:35,480 --> 00:38:37,520
Speaker 1: because you gave it the worst review of all times.

819
00:38:38,160 --> 00:38:39,680
Speaker 2: I didn't mean to give it the worst review.

820
00:38:39,760 --> 00:38:41,680
Speaker 1: You did. You were like, I think you'd hate it.

821
00:38:41,680 --> 00:38:44,160
Speaker 1: It's dark, And then I'm like, it's dark.

822
00:38:43,960 --> 00:38:45,600
Speaker 2: At that, Like, did you watch it?

823
00:38:45,640 --> 00:38:46,279
Speaker 3: I did watch it.

824
00:38:46,280 --> 00:38:49,520
Speaker 2: It's so it was like so engaging. I don't know,

825
00:38:49,800 --> 00:38:51,840
Speaker 2: it wasn't it wasn't a bad movie.

826
00:38:51,960 --> 00:38:54,200
Speaker 3: No, it's it's a good movie. I really dug it.

827
00:38:54,200 --> 00:38:57,680
Speaker 2: It's just dark and twisted. Yeah, it's a psychological thriller.

828
00:38:58,719 --> 00:39:01,000
Speaker 2: But I never would have thought you'd be is having

829
00:39:01,000 --> 00:39:03,479
Speaker 2: to de talk from survivors. So I don't know what

830
00:39:03,520 --> 00:39:04,600
Speaker 2: you like at this point.

831
00:39:04,760 --> 00:39:08,200
Speaker 1: Well, it's interesting because I do like Yellow Jackets, which

832
00:39:08,239 --> 00:39:11,479
Speaker 1: is a very dark show as well. Have you seen that? No,

833
00:39:11,600 --> 00:39:14,440
Speaker 1: I think you would like it too. Okay, it's a

834
00:39:14,520 --> 00:39:17,759
Speaker 1: dark show, but I like it because the story is

835
00:39:17,800 --> 00:39:19,560
Speaker 1: like very interesting, it's compelling.

836
00:39:19,640 --> 00:39:21,479
Speaker 3: I think you would like Saltburn if you like Yellow Jets.

837
00:39:21,520 --> 00:39:23,239
Speaker 2: Really, I think so too. And I think if you

838
00:39:23,280 --> 00:39:25,839
Speaker 2: can go into it being like there's some moments where

839
00:39:25,840 --> 00:39:28,399
Speaker 2: you're just like, what the movie not a show?

840
00:39:28,600 --> 00:39:31,920
Speaker 3: Maybe the moments in Yellow Jackets personally, I think that

841
00:39:32,000 --> 00:39:34,640
Speaker 3: are like horrifying, are much worse than what happens in Sulburn.

842
00:39:34,760 --> 00:39:37,319
Speaker 2: In my power, I don't know if I could watch

843
00:39:37,360 --> 00:39:38,040
Speaker 2: the Yellow Jackets.

844
00:39:38,160 --> 00:39:39,280
Speaker 1: It's very good.

845
00:39:39,480 --> 00:39:42,880
Speaker 3: It's very very good. Both are very good. Saltburn Yellowjackets

846
00:39:42,880 --> 00:39:43,360
Speaker 3: are great to me.

847
00:39:43,440 --> 00:39:45,000
Speaker 1: Yellow Jackets is like ten out of ten.

848
00:39:45,239 --> 00:39:49,879
Speaker 2: Wow, Okay, well, I'll watch Yellow Jackets if you'll watch

849
00:39:49,920 --> 00:39:51,120
Speaker 2: the much Stelburn deal.

850
00:39:53,040 --> 00:39:54,840
Speaker 3: Selburn takes place in two thousand and six, which I

851
00:39:54,840 --> 00:39:57,640
Speaker 3: think is really fun for people our age because that's

852
00:39:57,680 --> 00:39:59,799
Speaker 3: what we were like, you know, high school.

853
00:39:59,840 --> 00:40:00,200
Speaker 1: Yeah.

854
00:40:00,200 --> 00:40:03,200
Speaker 2: I don't even know if I realized that. Really was

855
00:40:03,200 --> 00:40:04,440
Speaker 2: that a significant point?

856
00:40:05,239 --> 00:40:07,279
Speaker 3: I mean they put it on the screen, a really

857
00:40:07,280 --> 00:40:10,239
Speaker 3: big text, and then everyone's clothes kind of looked like it.

858
00:40:10,320 --> 00:40:12,600
Speaker 3: The music, especially the music's the biggest I notice.

859
00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:15,680
Speaker 2: The music was really good. What a great year of music.

860
00:40:15,800 --> 00:40:19,320
Speaker 3: Yes, a lot of like MGMT stuff like that. Nice,

861
00:40:19,640 --> 00:40:22,080
Speaker 3: But it takes place in this like really ornate like palace,

862
00:40:22,120 --> 00:40:24,160
Speaker 3: so it's kind of hard to like the two and

863
00:40:24,280 --> 00:40:26,120
Speaker 3: six of it all gets lost in that, but.

864
00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:28,960
Speaker 1: It's beautifully shot. Okay, fine, I'll watch it if you

865
00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:31,359
Speaker 1: watch Yellow Jackets. Okay, deal deal.

866
00:40:31,760 --> 00:40:33,719
Speaker 2: I Also, I don't know if I've talked about this,

867
00:40:33,800 --> 00:40:37,480
Speaker 2: but I did finish Fellow Travelers. I speak about this

868
00:40:37,600 --> 00:40:41,880
Speaker 2: because I cried. It was like so intense. The ending.

869
00:40:42,080 --> 00:40:45,080
Speaker 2: I was like sobbing, and Maalen be goes, She's like,

870
00:40:45,120 --> 00:40:49,080
Speaker 2: are you good? But I think I mean Fellow Travelers

871
00:40:49,160 --> 00:40:53,040
Speaker 2: is about I mean, I don't know how to say

872
00:40:53,040 --> 00:40:56,399
Speaker 2: it exactly what it is. But it's like the politics

873
00:40:56,960 --> 00:41:01,480
Speaker 2: with the like ban of homicideuality of like people getting

874
00:41:01,680 --> 00:41:04,799
Speaker 2: literally arrested and killed for being gay, like they all

875
00:41:04,800 --> 00:41:09,000
Speaker 2: had like secret relationships outside of their marriages. Anyways, Oh

876
00:41:09,080 --> 00:41:11,120
Speaker 2: my god, I'm in love with Matt Bomber, Like he's

877
00:41:11,320 --> 00:41:16,920
Speaker 2: just is it Bomber or Bomer? I think it's Boomer Bomer. Yeah, whatever,

878
00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:21,839
Speaker 2: I'm in love with him and I would freak out

879
00:41:21,840 --> 00:41:25,440
Speaker 2: if I met him. But anyways, I think what it

880
00:41:25,600 --> 00:41:27,439
Speaker 2: was is I was telling Haley, I was like, it's

881
00:41:27,560 --> 00:41:30,560
Speaker 2: such a privilege that we have, like to be able

882
00:41:30,600 --> 00:41:34,040
Speaker 2: to have a relationship that even like it's not fully safe.

883
00:41:34,080 --> 00:41:34,880
Speaker 1: Did I already talk.

884
00:41:34,719 --> 00:41:37,480
Speaker 2: About this on the podcast. No, No, it's not fully

885
00:41:37,520 --> 00:41:41,040
Speaker 2: it's not safe for everyone still to have a relationship

886
00:41:41,120 --> 00:41:45,600
Speaker 2: with in a same sex relationship or LGBTQ plus relationship.

887
00:41:46,000 --> 00:41:48,600
Speaker 2: But I was saying, like it made me feel like

888
00:41:48,920 --> 00:41:52,040
Speaker 2: recognize the privilege that we have to like love each

889
00:41:52,040 --> 00:41:55,359
Speaker 2: other publicly and like have a relationship without the I mean,

890
00:41:55,360 --> 00:41:57,560
Speaker 2: people do live in fear, and there is fear when

891
00:41:57,600 --> 00:41:59,879
Speaker 2: you go to certain places, but just to be able

892
00:41:59,920 --> 00:42:01,799
Speaker 2: to to be with the person that you love is

893
00:42:01,840 --> 00:42:05,719
Speaker 2: such a profound gift, you know, and like so many

894
00:42:05,719 --> 00:42:07,680
Speaker 2: people in the past and even people now don't get

895
00:42:07,719 --> 00:42:12,200
Speaker 2: to have that that choice or that option. And I

896
00:42:12,280 --> 00:42:14,879
Speaker 2: was like so emotional about it thinking about all these

897
00:42:14,920 --> 00:42:17,520
Speaker 2: older people who never got to love who they wanted

898
00:42:17,560 --> 00:42:20,520
Speaker 2: to love or experience the love that I get to

899
00:42:20,600 --> 00:42:24,640
Speaker 2: experience just because of like laws and hate, Like really

900
00:42:24,640 --> 00:42:27,520
Speaker 2: what it comes down to. It's such a beautiful show.

901
00:42:28,160 --> 00:42:36,280
Speaker 3: So I did not watch Philo Travelers, but okay, yeah,

902
00:42:36,360 --> 00:42:38,359
Speaker 3: every time I finished an episode of the Curse, they

903
00:42:38,360 --> 00:42:39,600
Speaker 3: want me to watch Fellow Travelers.

904
00:42:40,239 --> 00:42:43,560
Speaker 2: It's amazing. And Jonathan Bailey is so cute. He kind

905
00:42:43,560 --> 00:42:48,200
Speaker 2: of reminds me a Brad Brad. I love Brad.

906
00:42:48,239 --> 00:42:50,920
Speaker 1: I started watching some show actually on Netflix that I

907
00:42:50,960 --> 00:42:54,880
Speaker 1: think you would like. It's called Oh my God, my

908
00:42:54,960 --> 00:42:56,520
Speaker 1: Brother's the Walters or something.

909
00:42:56,640 --> 00:42:57,239
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.

910
00:42:57,360 --> 00:43:02,640
Speaker 1: I've heard it was horrible, like painfully corny, so corny.

911
00:43:02,680 --> 00:43:04,480
Speaker 1: But it's like the summery turned pretty, Yeah, but that

912
00:43:04,600 --> 00:43:06,680
Speaker 1: was so corny. My life with the Walter Boys, Yeah,

913
00:43:06,719 --> 00:43:08,160
Speaker 1: my life with the Walter Boys.

914
00:43:08,520 --> 00:43:10,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. I barely got through summer. I

915
00:43:10,880 --> 00:43:11,680
Speaker 2: turn pretty, Oh.

916
00:43:11,640 --> 00:43:13,440
Speaker 1: My gosh, And I love them.

917
00:43:13,560 --> 00:43:15,440
Speaker 2: I think those actors are so cute.

918
00:43:15,440 --> 00:43:16,759
Speaker 1: It's like the Love Triangle.

919
00:43:17,480 --> 00:43:20,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm gone. I'm good with the one the Summer

920
00:43:20,719 --> 00:43:21,720
Speaker 2: I tern pretty wow.

921
00:43:21,800 --> 00:43:23,959
Speaker 1: All right, no takers for that one? All right? Fine,

922
00:43:24,000 --> 00:43:25,680
Speaker 1: but it wasn't I do know a lot of people

923
00:43:25,719 --> 00:43:27,920
Speaker 1: were watching it. That's when I start because I was like,

924
00:43:28,600 --> 00:43:31,560
Speaker 1: my Survivor neess is like getting out of control, Like

925
00:43:31,600 --> 00:43:34,839
Speaker 1: it's actually like we burned through one season in two days.

926
00:43:36,840 --> 00:43:39,040
Speaker 3: I almost six you the other day because over the break,

927
00:43:39,080 --> 00:43:41,319
Speaker 3: Allison and I got into the show and HGTV called

928
00:43:41,360 --> 00:43:43,200
Speaker 3: why the heck did I buy this house? And it's

929
00:43:43,200 --> 00:43:47,320
Speaker 3: hosted by a woman named Kim Wolf who Uh, they're

930
00:43:47,320 --> 00:43:49,239
Speaker 3: doing some it's like the first season the show, and

931
00:43:49,280 --> 00:43:50,719
Speaker 3: they're doing this thing with theyre walk around time. People

932
00:43:50,719 --> 00:43:52,120
Speaker 3: are posing for pictures with her and Alison and I

933
00:43:52,160 --> 00:43:53,960
Speaker 3: are like, this show hasn't air yet. White people are

934
00:43:53,960 --> 00:43:57,520
Speaker 3: posing for pictures. She won Survivor in twenty twenty. Kim

935
00:43:57,719 --> 00:43:59,920
Speaker 3: her name was Kim Spradlin. At that point, what is

936
00:44:00,120 --> 00:44:00,400
Speaker 3: look like?

937
00:44:01,120 --> 00:44:04,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, get me a picture. I saw the season There was.

938
00:44:04,000 --> 00:44:06,080
Speaker 2: A winner of Survivor that just came out.

939
00:44:06,560 --> 00:44:08,200
Speaker 1: D her name, first name is D. I don't know

940
00:44:08,239 --> 00:44:08,799
Speaker 1: her last name.

941
00:44:09,120 --> 00:44:11,480
Speaker 2: No, I'm not talking about the most recent winner. I'm

942
00:44:11,480 --> 00:44:13,960
Speaker 2: talking about Parvety parvity is how was saying your.

943
00:44:13,920 --> 00:44:17,000
Speaker 1: Name Harvedy Parverty came out?

944
00:44:17,719 --> 00:44:19,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, So I'm trying to find the I'm trying to

945
00:44:19,800 --> 00:44:21,160
Speaker 2: find the episode.

946
00:44:21,160 --> 00:44:26,080
Speaker 1: That's the season I'm watching currently right now. So spoiler alert,

947
00:44:26,120 --> 00:44:28,840
Speaker 1: spoiler alert. But it's like season I don't know what season.

948
00:44:28,880 --> 00:44:31,080
Speaker 1: I don't know the seasons. I think it's like I

949
00:44:31,120 --> 00:44:33,000
Speaker 1: don't know, but it's her first season she was ever on,

950
00:44:33,239 --> 00:44:34,480
Speaker 1: but she came back and she was on the all

951
00:44:34,520 --> 00:44:37,719
Speaker 1: star season that I'm like obsessed with. So we're just

952
00:44:37,760 --> 00:44:40,319
Speaker 1: about to watch the finale of her season. And this

953
00:44:40,400 --> 00:44:43,000
Speaker 1: is the first season that they had an all girl alliance.

954
00:44:43,120 --> 00:44:46,120
Speaker 1: Make it to like final. I think four is all

955
00:44:46,160 --> 00:44:50,040
Speaker 1: girls and it's fantastic because it's all the winners. All

956
00:44:50,040 --> 00:44:53,080
Speaker 1: these people have won in the past, so they're playing

957
00:44:53,239 --> 00:44:55,879
Speaker 1: so freakin' hard. It's the best season. This is why

958
00:44:55,920 --> 00:44:56,959
Speaker 1: she's de talking people.

959
00:44:57,000 --> 00:44:59,280
Speaker 2: Did you hear the past? We have that much passion

960
00:44:59,320 --> 00:45:01,479
Speaker 2: from Danya year.

961
00:45:02,640 --> 00:45:05,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, No show has like rattled me like this, like

962
00:45:05,160 --> 00:45:08,560
Speaker 1: I I'm talking strategy. We played Survivor with the kids

963
00:45:08,600 --> 00:45:10,880
Speaker 1: for New Year's That was like on the day of,

964
00:45:11,040 --> 00:45:14,759
Speaker 1: like the day before or New Year's Day, New Year's whatever. Uh.

965
00:45:14,840 --> 00:45:16,640
Speaker 1: We were playing Survivor, but the four of us, me

966
00:45:16,680 --> 00:45:18,360
Speaker 1: and Robbing and the kids, and we had to like

967
00:45:18,560 --> 00:45:21,440
Speaker 1: vote each other out. Were like strategizing and we were playing.

968
00:45:21,640 --> 00:45:24,319
Speaker 1: We were doing like wall sits for immunity challenges and

969
00:45:24,400 --> 00:45:27,359
Speaker 1: like little cup games and stuff. And that's when I

970
00:45:27,400 --> 00:45:30,160
Speaker 1: was like this is this is had a moment yeah,

971
00:45:30,200 --> 00:45:33,239
Speaker 1: at a moment and I was like, your legs are

972
00:45:33,920 --> 00:45:36,360
Speaker 1: why are we doing it? A minute? We're like voting

973
00:45:36,400 --> 00:45:38,839
Speaker 1: out like our nine year old. I was like, this

974
00:45:38,920 --> 00:45:44,680
Speaker 1: is really ticulous smoking shoot because he was too much

975
00:45:44,719 --> 00:45:48,240
Speaker 1: of a social threat. I was like this, we gotta

976
00:45:48,719 --> 00:45:49,600
Speaker 1: we gotta stop this.

977
00:45:49,800 --> 00:45:53,200
Speaker 2: There is a Gypsy Rose Blantern special coming up on

978
00:45:53,320 --> 00:45:55,719
Speaker 2: Lifetime that I am feaning for.

979
00:45:55,800 --> 00:45:57,560
Speaker 1: It might be out already. What's it coming up on?

980
00:45:57,920 --> 00:46:01,000
Speaker 2: It's on Lifetime. It's a docu series. She's still in prison. Yeah,

981
00:46:01,120 --> 00:46:02,040
Speaker 2: she's like in prison.

982
00:46:02,080 --> 00:46:04,920
Speaker 1: To watch that too. I am so fascinated by her.

983
00:46:06,000 --> 00:46:06,840
Speaker 1: I don't know why.

984
00:46:06,960 --> 00:46:11,040
Speaker 2: Well, it's the story is like devaz, it's crazy, it's

985
00:46:11,080 --> 00:46:14,960
Speaker 2: so sad and people you watch the act, oh yeah,

986
00:46:15,000 --> 00:46:18,919
Speaker 2: it's amazing. Yeah, But like I it's such a conflicting

987
00:46:19,040 --> 00:46:22,640
Speaker 2: thing because I mean, she murdered her mother, you know

988
00:46:22,719 --> 00:46:26,560
Speaker 2: in your view, Oh well, I mean that's not part.

989
00:46:26,360 --> 00:46:27,680
Speaker 3: Of her republic criminal trial.

990
00:46:29,480 --> 00:46:32,879
Speaker 2: But she was tortured. I mean, like what her mom

991
00:46:32,920 --> 00:46:37,759
Speaker 2: did was like crazy, horrible type of abuse. Like I

992
00:46:37,760 --> 00:46:41,600
Speaker 2: don't it's crazy. And and so there's this thing where

993
00:46:41,600 --> 00:46:43,640
Speaker 2: you're like rooting for this girl because she she served

994
00:46:43,640 --> 00:46:47,520
Speaker 2: her time, and it's horrible that it came down to

995
00:46:47,520 --> 00:46:50,000
Speaker 2: what it came down to, but she's finally getting to

996
00:46:50,040 --> 00:46:52,160
Speaker 2: have a life. She never had a life, and then

997
00:46:52,160 --> 00:46:55,040
Speaker 2: she went to jail. She was like literally abuse, forced

998
00:46:55,040 --> 00:46:55,800
Speaker 2: to be in a wheelchair.

999
00:46:56,120 --> 00:46:58,720
Speaker 1: No, I'm so fascinated by it too, Like I'm watching

1000
00:46:58,760 --> 00:47:00,960
Speaker 1: every step, Like she was at Burger King, she was

1001
00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:02,600
Speaker 1: having a doctor pepper.

1002
00:47:03,080 --> 00:47:03,959
Speaker 3: She got I phone.

1003
00:47:05,120 --> 00:47:06,120
Speaker 2: She's an influencer.

1004
00:47:06,320 --> 00:47:09,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's pretty wild. She listened to Taylor Swift to

1005
00:47:09,080 --> 00:47:09,920
Speaker 1: get her through prison.

1006
00:47:10,560 --> 00:47:14,000
Speaker 2: The year, the years that were in of social media.

1007
00:47:13,880 --> 00:47:15,000
Speaker 1: So dystopian.

1008
00:47:15,640 --> 00:47:17,840
Speaker 3: Let me. As soon as she stepped out of that prison,

1009
00:47:17,920 --> 00:47:20,319
Speaker 3: I was started manifesting Amy Sugar. If you're listening to this,

1010
00:47:20,480 --> 00:47:22,920
Speaker 3: I want her podcast so bad. I'm like yeah, I

1011
00:47:22,960 --> 00:47:25,240
Speaker 3: was waiting for a text saying can you go to Missouri?

1012
00:47:25,400 --> 00:47:26,440
Speaker 1: Did you text Amy?

1013
00:47:26,880 --> 00:47:28,640
Speaker 3: I have not texted her yet. I want I want

1014
00:47:28,640 --> 00:47:30,040
Speaker 3: to wait for this because it might already be in

1015
00:47:30,040 --> 00:47:30,600
Speaker 3: the works, that's all.

1016
00:47:30,800 --> 00:47:31,680
Speaker 2: She's in Louisiana.

1017
00:47:31,800 --> 00:47:35,760
Speaker 3: She's in Louisiana, Okay, but yeah.

1018
00:47:35,560 --> 00:47:38,280
Speaker 2: It is because someone messages because I said, like celeb

1019
00:47:38,320 --> 00:47:40,640
Speaker 2: I posed like cheers in to Gypsy Rose getting out

1020
00:47:40,640 --> 00:47:43,280
Speaker 2: of prison, and she's like, this is so crazy this culture.

1021
00:47:43,320 --> 00:47:46,759
Speaker 2: She murdered her mom, and I'm like, but what are

1022
00:47:46,760 --> 00:47:48,560
Speaker 2: her mom? What about what her mom did to her?

1023
00:47:48,640 --> 00:47:51,560
Speaker 2: And she served her time like she you know.

1024
00:47:51,840 --> 00:47:54,920
Speaker 1: I mean, in my opinion, there's not really time you

1025
00:47:54,960 --> 00:47:57,280
Speaker 1: can serve to make up for taking somebody else's life.

1026
00:47:57,719 --> 00:48:03,760
Speaker 1: But it is the while oldest story I have ever heard.

1027
00:48:04,280 --> 00:48:09,000
Speaker 2: Like, but my argument is if someone did something abusive

1028
00:48:09,040 --> 00:48:11,759
Speaker 2: to me and my dad murdered that person out of

1029
00:48:11,840 --> 00:48:14,520
Speaker 2: just like pure rage for someone hurting me or doing

1030
00:48:14,560 --> 00:48:17,960
Speaker 2: something abusive to me, and then my dad served his time,

1031
00:48:18,440 --> 00:48:21,160
Speaker 2: I'd be like rooting for my dad if I you

1032
00:48:21,160 --> 00:48:24,520
Speaker 2: know what I'm saying, Like, it's never I can't imagine

1033
00:48:24,520 --> 00:48:29,040
Speaker 2: ever taking someone's life, but yeah, seeing someone that you

1034
00:48:29,120 --> 00:48:32,160
Speaker 2: love or like being tortured to a certain level forces

1035
00:48:32,160 --> 00:48:33,319
Speaker 2: people to do insane things.

1036
00:48:33,440 --> 00:48:34,920
Speaker 1: It's like to see it through the lens of the

1037
00:48:34,960 --> 00:48:37,640
Speaker 1: TV show. I know the TV show was made based

1038
00:48:37,680 --> 00:48:40,120
Speaker 1: on the real life story, but I have to look

1039
00:48:40,120 --> 00:48:42,280
Speaker 1: at it through a lens of a TV show because

1040
00:48:42,800 --> 00:48:45,160
Speaker 1: when I think of it in real life, I can't

1041
00:48:45,400 --> 00:48:47,680
Speaker 1: I can't root for her, I can't be happy for her,

1042
00:48:47,840 --> 00:48:49,520
Speaker 1: like I can't do any of it. So in my mind,

1043
00:48:49,560 --> 00:48:52,280
Speaker 1: it's just like a TV show that I'm still watching,

1044
00:48:52,480 --> 00:48:54,839
Speaker 1: you know, just to like be able.

1045
00:48:54,560 --> 00:48:56,640
Speaker 2: To desensitize yourself.

1046
00:48:56,680 --> 00:48:58,680
Speaker 1: Correct. Yeah, well it's real.

1047
00:48:59,200 --> 00:49:04,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so crazy, and I'm excited to watch because

1048
00:49:05,480 --> 00:49:07,640
Speaker 2: the problem is there's a lot of fake accounts for

1049
00:49:07,680 --> 00:49:09,080
Speaker 2: her right now, so I can't tell him what it's

1050
00:49:09,120 --> 00:49:13,000
Speaker 2: real or not. And she posted some I think she said,

1051
00:49:13,120 --> 00:49:18,279
Speaker 2: I tried to watch the actor a story, a scripted thing,

1052
00:49:18,280 --> 00:49:20,000
Speaker 2: and she said it was a lot.

1053
00:49:20,040 --> 00:49:21,640
Speaker 1: It was like really hard, but that could have been

1054
00:49:21,800 --> 00:49:23,600
Speaker 1: did you know, just to lighten the mood a little.

1055
00:49:24,239 --> 00:49:26,919
Speaker 1: That is where Joey King met her now husband making

1056
00:49:27,040 --> 00:49:27,440
Speaker 1: that show.

1057
00:49:28,719 --> 00:49:29,880
Speaker 2: That's the guy in the movie.

1058
00:49:30,000 --> 00:49:32,520
Speaker 1: No, I believe he was a producer or director or

1059
00:49:32,560 --> 00:49:33,480
Speaker 1: something behind the scenes.

1060
00:49:35,080 --> 00:49:36,359
Speaker 2: She was amazing in that show.

1061
00:49:36,440 --> 00:49:39,240
Speaker 1: I know, but imagine falling in love in the midst

1062
00:49:39,239 --> 00:49:40,280
Speaker 1: of doing that.

1063
00:49:42,080 --> 00:49:47,920
Speaker 2: The Yeah yeah, yeah, it's a really crazy, sad story.

1064
00:49:48,280 --> 00:49:50,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, but wow a great show.

1065
00:50:07,520 --> 00:50:11,600
Speaker 3: Yeah. I wanted to write in with an email I

1066
00:50:11,800 --> 00:50:14,000
Speaker 3: becent Tania, this is Easton. I'm a big fan. We

1067
00:50:14,120 --> 00:50:18,680
Speaker 3: listened for a long time. Something happened over Christmas that

1068
00:50:18,760 --> 00:50:20,879
Speaker 3: I just thought was weird and I wanted your take

1069
00:50:20,920 --> 00:50:24,440
Speaker 3: on this. I have been going to a therapist for

1070
00:50:24,480 --> 00:50:30,719
Speaker 3: like three years and she's been great. Uh, I have not.

1071
00:50:31,040 --> 00:50:33,680
Speaker 3: I do the east Awards every year, which where everyone

1072
00:50:33,680 --> 00:50:35,600
Speaker 3: on everyone listens to show is probably familiar. They're on

1073
00:50:35,680 --> 00:50:38,719
Speaker 3: January seventh of this year. I have not talked to

1074
00:50:38,920 --> 00:50:42,920
Speaker 3: my therapist about the east Awards because because they are

1075
00:50:42,920 --> 00:50:44,799
Speaker 3: not a source of stress for me, they bring me

1076
00:50:44,800 --> 00:50:47,960
Speaker 3: a lot of joy. So I've not brought them up ever. Uh,

1077
00:50:48,960 --> 00:50:51,600
Speaker 3: I don't. She doesn't follow me on Instagram, like we don't.

1078
00:50:51,719 --> 00:50:55,120
Speaker 3: You know. The conversation here is like how much outside

1079
00:50:55,120 --> 00:51:00,000
Speaker 3: of contact is appropriate from a therapist. I get. I

1080
00:51:00,080 --> 00:51:03,000
Speaker 3: started selling Eastwards T shirts this year, which a lot

1081
00:51:03,000 --> 00:51:05,440
Speaker 3: of scrubbers have purchased, and that's very kind of you.

1082
00:51:06,200 --> 00:51:08,680
Speaker 3: I got an email from the T shirt like thing

1083
00:51:09,000 --> 00:51:12,080
Speaker 3: at midnight saying that my therapist had bought a T

1084
00:51:12,200 --> 00:51:16,040
Speaker 3: shirt and my I started spiraling at that point because

1085
00:51:16,040 --> 00:51:19,640
Speaker 3: I was like, Okay, that means she was on my

1086
00:51:19,719 --> 00:51:24,400
Speaker 3: Instagram at midnight and then decided to buy this T shirt.

1087
00:51:25,120 --> 00:51:27,719
Speaker 3: I know there's a there's like a version of this,

1088
00:51:27,760 --> 00:51:30,319
Speaker 3: which is like she wanted to be supportive, you know,

1089
00:51:30,560 --> 00:51:31,640
Speaker 3: and like helped me out.

1090
00:51:31,680 --> 00:51:34,040
Speaker 1: No, it's a no for me, so that would make me.

1091
00:51:34,440 --> 00:51:36,680
Speaker 1: I only want my therapist to know what.

1092
00:51:36,840 --> 00:51:41,279
Speaker 3: I tell her thank you. Yeah, that's where I was at.

1093
00:51:41,440 --> 00:51:44,520
Speaker 3: And she didn't say she didn't like text me. She's

1094
00:51:44,560 --> 00:51:48,560
Speaker 3: texted me before. She texted me some. I found out

1095
00:51:48,600 --> 00:51:51,440
Speaker 3: she's a She revealed she's a big fan of someone

1096
00:51:52,000 --> 00:51:55,680
Speaker 3: we do a podcast with, which felt weird to me

1097
00:51:56,040 --> 00:51:58,040
Speaker 3: and I like I because I was like, oh man,

1098
00:51:58,040 --> 00:52:00,200
Speaker 3: I'm like complaining, you know, not like you.

1099
00:52:01,880 --> 00:52:01,960
Speaker 2: Know.

1100
00:52:02,120 --> 00:52:03,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I found she was like a big fan

1101
00:52:04,280 --> 00:52:07,600
Speaker 3: and she's text me about that once before, but she

1102
00:52:07,600 --> 00:52:09,239
Speaker 3: did not text me about like like, oh, hey, I

1103
00:52:09,239 --> 00:52:10,719
Speaker 3: saw you were selling T shirts. I bought one, Like

1104
00:52:10,719 --> 00:52:12,600
Speaker 3: she didn't say that just I just got the email

1105
00:52:13,160 --> 00:52:15,319
Speaker 3: and I I packaged it up and send it off

1106
00:52:15,360 --> 00:52:18,000
Speaker 3: to her, and uh, my mind is just like going

1107
00:52:18,000 --> 00:52:20,360
Speaker 3: to a million places because I'm like, how, like is

1108
00:52:20,360 --> 00:52:22,400
Speaker 3: she gonna wear it around town? Like what's going on with?

1109
00:52:22,480 --> 00:52:24,960
Speaker 3: Like this is my client's like fake award show he does.

1110
00:52:24,960 --> 00:52:30,480
Speaker 3: It's so weird and normally, like if you know a

1111
00:52:30,480 --> 00:52:31,880
Speaker 3: lot of friends that might have bought the shirt and

1112
00:52:31,880 --> 00:52:34,080
Speaker 3: it didn't like it didn't nothing happened. But like the

1113
00:52:34,120 --> 00:52:36,200
Speaker 3: fact that it was my therapist, I really started spiraling

1114
00:52:36,239 --> 00:52:37,719
Speaker 3: and I just wanted to know if you guys would

1115
00:52:37,719 --> 00:52:39,040
Speaker 3: think that was inappropriate or not.

1116
00:52:41,640 --> 00:52:44,840
Speaker 1: It's a hard no for me. Yeah, I don't. This

1117
00:52:44,960 --> 00:52:50,040
Speaker 1: is just me personally. I like that my therapist doesn't care,

1118
00:52:50,360 --> 00:52:54,600
Speaker 1: doesn't know I don't think she knows names. She knows

1119
00:52:54,640 --> 00:52:57,680
Speaker 1: I work in radio mornings, she knows I do a podcast.

1120
00:52:57,680 --> 00:52:59,560
Speaker 1: So she doesn't know the names of anything. She doesn't

1121
00:52:59,600 --> 00:53:04,000
Speaker 1: know any think about anything. And to my knowledge, she

1122
00:53:04,080 --> 00:53:05,800
Speaker 1: really doesn't know anything about anything, do you know what

1123
00:53:05,840 --> 00:53:07,600
Speaker 1: I mean? And I like it that way. I like

1124
00:53:07,640 --> 00:53:10,799
Speaker 1: her just to know what I'm telling her. There's a

1125
00:53:10,880 --> 00:53:12,360
Speaker 1: I don't know, there's a part of me that I

1126
00:53:12,360 --> 00:53:15,520
Speaker 1: would feel not like I could be my one hundred

1127
00:53:15,520 --> 00:53:19,799
Speaker 1: percent authentic open on his self if she did, or

1128
00:53:19,840 --> 00:53:20,920
Speaker 1: if I knew she did.

1129
00:53:22,440 --> 00:53:31,640
Speaker 2: See I feel like it's almost like delusional to think

1130
00:53:31,680 --> 00:53:37,960
Speaker 2: that she doesn't know what you do. Really, therapist, and

1131
00:53:38,000 --> 00:53:39,960
Speaker 2: I know that someone I'm talking to is on a

1132
00:53:40,080 --> 00:53:44,640
Speaker 2: radio show, has a podcast, I'm hitting Google. Really yeah,

1133
00:53:44,680 --> 00:53:45,400
Speaker 2: but I'm nosy.

1134
00:53:45,760 --> 00:53:48,040
Speaker 3: I always wonder like would they look up your clients

1135
00:53:48,080 --> 00:53:49,080
Speaker 3: on Instagram and stuff like that.

1136
00:53:49,280 --> 00:53:53,480
Speaker 2: I invited his therapist to his concert, you know, like

1137
00:53:53,520 --> 00:53:55,920
Speaker 2: in LA he was like, shout out to my therapist

1138
00:53:55,960 --> 00:53:57,200
Speaker 2: for being in the audience tonight.

1139
00:53:58,040 --> 00:54:01,319
Speaker 1: So yeah, but I think that like my vibe. Yeah,

1140
00:54:01,360 --> 00:54:02,760
Speaker 1: but I also know there styles.

1141
00:54:03,120 --> 00:54:04,120
Speaker 2: But you're a public figure.

1142
00:54:04,360 --> 00:54:06,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it's different, Like I'm not a public figure

1143
00:54:06,880 --> 00:54:09,480
Speaker 1: where like HER's styles walks outside and everybody knows who

1144
00:54:09,480 --> 00:54:11,600
Speaker 1: that is. I'm not that.

1145
00:54:12,200 --> 00:54:14,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, but if someone listens to the Morning Show, or

1146
00:54:14,400 --> 00:54:18,360
Speaker 2: listens to podcasts, or like watches E in the Countdown,

1147
00:54:18,440 --> 00:54:19,000
Speaker 2: they know him.

1148
00:54:19,200 --> 00:54:21,919
Speaker 1: Guarantee you that my therapist doesn't do any of those things.

1149
00:54:22,000 --> 00:54:24,879
Speaker 2: You don't think she watched Ryan Seacrest New Year's Eve

1150
00:54:24,920 --> 00:54:25,520
Speaker 2: Show and tell.

1151
00:54:25,440 --> 00:54:28,640
Speaker 1: You that she maybe that maybe, but everything else.

1152
00:54:28,719 --> 00:54:31,880
Speaker 2: No, here's my thing. This is my argument, because I

1153
00:54:31,920 --> 00:54:35,040
Speaker 2: don't really care. I'm like, you can. If I'm talking

1154
00:54:35,080 --> 00:54:36,719
Speaker 2: to you, there's a chance that you can go. If

1155
00:54:36,760 --> 00:54:38,719
Speaker 2: you have any curiosity about me or what I do,

1156
00:54:38,800 --> 00:54:40,919
Speaker 2: you can just hit a Google and like or look

1157
00:54:40,960 --> 00:54:43,879
Speaker 2: me up on Instagram. Like it's just out there. It's

1158
00:54:44,120 --> 00:54:49,360
Speaker 2: public knowledge, and I trust that there's a client confidentiality,

1159
00:54:49,440 --> 00:54:51,680
Speaker 2: you know, agreement that like what I've come to you

1160
00:54:51,719 --> 00:54:54,600
Speaker 2: to talk about is stays here. But like that doesn't

1161
00:54:54,640 --> 00:54:56,319
Speaker 2: mean that they don't know what else is going on

1162
00:54:56,360 --> 00:54:58,439
Speaker 2: in my life. They just know what I'm sharing with them.

1163
00:54:58,800 --> 00:55:04,279
Speaker 2: In that moment, you're in a sense, like in this

1164
00:55:04,440 --> 00:55:07,200
Speaker 2: regard to your public figure, because you're doing something that's

1165
00:55:07,239 --> 00:55:11,080
Speaker 2: public and she's wanting to support you and like probably

1166
00:55:11,160 --> 00:55:12,680
Speaker 2: loves you. You've been with her for a long time,

1167
00:55:12,719 --> 00:55:14,120
Speaker 2: and it's like, oh, I want to show my support

1168
00:55:14,120 --> 00:55:18,279
Speaker 2: for him, and it feels invasive, But I don't think

1169
00:55:18,320 --> 00:55:22,040
Speaker 2: it's coming from a you know, an safe place.

1170
00:55:22,640 --> 00:55:25,120
Speaker 3: Yeah I was, because I don't mind if she looks

1171
00:55:25,160 --> 00:55:29,480
Speaker 3: at my Instagram. Obviously I know, I like, you know, like,

1172
00:55:29,640 --> 00:55:30,879
Speaker 3: but I don't want to know about it.

1173
00:55:31,000 --> 00:55:33,319
Speaker 2: There's been a deeps girl on your Instagram for.

1174
00:55:33,560 --> 00:55:35,680
Speaker 1: Chance, and my therapist doesn't even know when I like

1175
00:55:35,719 --> 00:55:37,520
Speaker 1: talk to her about like, She's like, how do you

1176
00:55:37,560 --> 00:55:40,279
Speaker 1: like she doesn't know anything about stories? What is she

1177
00:55:40,360 --> 00:55:42,799
Speaker 1: going to start finish your sentences with? Like what you've

1178
00:55:42,840 --> 00:55:44,480
Speaker 1: been doing? You know what? I'm gonna live in my

1179
00:55:44,520 --> 00:55:48,000
Speaker 1: Delulu world because I like that. I like her not

1180
00:55:48,080 --> 00:55:48,680
Speaker 1: knowing anything.

1181
00:55:48,680 --> 00:55:50,719
Speaker 2: You just saying there's a chance, regardless of if you

1182
00:55:50,760 --> 00:55:52,520
Speaker 2: believe it or not or acknowledge it or not, that

1183
00:55:52,600 --> 00:55:54,359
Speaker 2: your therapist knows who you are and what you do.

1184
00:55:54,440 --> 00:55:56,719
Speaker 1: Okay, let's say she does know what I do. Know

1185
00:55:56,840 --> 00:55:59,240
Speaker 1: exactly where I work, the names of everything, knows everything,

1186
00:55:59,280 --> 00:56:02,160
Speaker 1: watches my instagra every single day. I like that she

1187
00:56:02,280 --> 00:56:06,080
Speaker 1: pretends that she doesn't. Yeah, great at least that I

1188
00:56:06,160 --> 00:56:08,560
Speaker 1: like that she pretends that she knows nothing about anything.

1189
00:56:09,200 --> 00:56:09,719
Speaker 1: I like that.

1190
00:56:10,520 --> 00:56:13,920
Speaker 2: So she modered woman sweatshirt, you'd be like, what the.

1191
00:56:21,520 --> 00:56:21,759
Speaker 3: Yeah?

1192
00:56:21,800 --> 00:56:21,920
Speaker 2: Like?

1193
00:56:21,960 --> 00:56:22,960
Speaker 3: And when I first started.

1194
00:56:22,760 --> 00:56:24,640
Speaker 1: The only person in my life that I just want

1195
00:56:24,719 --> 00:56:26,280
Speaker 1: her to know nothing.

1196
00:56:26,560 --> 00:56:29,480
Speaker 2: Maybe there's there's got to be a scrubbers out there

1197
00:56:29,480 --> 00:56:32,000
Speaker 2: who are therapists are working the you know, yeah.

1198
00:56:32,120 --> 00:56:35,239
Speaker 3: Mental health or something. Yeah. When when I first started

1199
00:56:35,239 --> 00:56:37,960
Speaker 3: seeing her, she she told me like, if we see

1200
00:56:37,960 --> 00:56:39,759
Speaker 3: each other, because she's in the same town as me.

1201
00:56:39,800 --> 00:56:41,279
Speaker 3: It's like if we see each other at the grocery store,

1202
00:56:41,280 --> 00:56:43,000
Speaker 3: I won't say anything unless you do first, Like if

1203
00:56:43,040 --> 00:56:48,560
Speaker 3: you come up and say what, I cannot because that

1204
00:56:48,600 --> 00:56:50,759
Speaker 3: would be like mortifying to think about. Like I'm just

1205
00:56:50,760 --> 00:56:54,080
Speaker 3: like shopping. It's like, hey, how's it going. I'm his therapist,

1206
00:56:54,239 --> 00:56:57,319
Speaker 3: he comes to CB, he's cooker, you know, something like that.

1207
00:56:57,360 --> 00:56:59,000
Speaker 2: But my therapist said the same thing to me.

1208
00:56:59,040 --> 00:57:00,880
Speaker 3: I think that's like a a thing they teach you.

1209
00:57:01,080 --> 00:57:02,120
Speaker 2: I think the same thing.

1210
00:57:04,280 --> 00:57:09,160
Speaker 3: We should compare notes. But yeah, so like I wasn't like, oh,

1211
00:57:09,440 --> 00:57:12,040
Speaker 3: she was gonna, like, you know, get on Instagram or

1212
00:57:12,080 --> 00:57:14,440
Speaker 3: something and like post something weird. I'm not concerned about that,

1213
00:57:14,480 --> 00:57:16,960
Speaker 3: but the whole like I just couldn't stop thinking about,

1214
00:57:17,200 --> 00:57:19,680
Speaker 3: Like now, I was just picturing her at home at

1215
00:57:19,680 --> 00:57:23,040
Speaker 3: midnight on my Instagram going like I'm gonna buy a

1216
00:57:23,080 --> 00:57:25,360
Speaker 3: T shirt. It really sent me to a spiral. I

1217
00:57:25,360 --> 00:57:28,720
Speaker 3: have not seen her since, and I don't know, like

1218
00:57:29,040 --> 00:57:30,600
Speaker 3: I'm thinking about finding a new person.

1219
00:57:32,080 --> 00:57:34,920
Speaker 2: You know, do you like, do you feel like connected?

1220
00:57:35,040 --> 00:57:38,680
Speaker 2: Like do you like her in terms of what before this.

1221
00:57:38,160 --> 00:57:40,960
Speaker 1: This is give you my girls infoe she is she

1222
00:57:41,000 --> 00:57:44,360
Speaker 1: will pretend has no idea who you are.

1223
00:57:44,800 --> 00:57:46,640
Speaker 3: The thing and if anyone else could relate to this.

1224
00:57:46,720 --> 00:57:51,360
Speaker 3: But like I she's great, she moved though she's far away.

1225
00:57:51,360 --> 00:57:53,800
Speaker 3: She's like an hour from me now, and I try

1226
00:57:53,840 --> 00:57:56,680
Speaker 3: to do the FaceTime thing. I really didn't like it

1227
00:57:56,720 --> 00:57:59,120
Speaker 3: because I have like, you know, I have to go

1228
00:57:59,200 --> 00:58:00,800
Speaker 3: sit in the car, you know, to get go to

1229
00:58:00,800 --> 00:58:02,520
Speaker 3: a private room the house. It feels weird. So I

1230
00:58:02,600 --> 00:58:04,400
Speaker 3: go in to see her and it's just like so far.

1231
00:58:05,200 --> 00:58:07,720
Speaker 3: But then the thought of meaning getting to find someone

1232
00:58:07,760 --> 00:58:09,320
Speaker 3: else and like get them up to speed.

1233
00:58:09,440 --> 00:58:11,200
Speaker 1: I know, getting someone else up to speed.

1234
00:58:11,040 --> 00:58:14,520
Speaker 3: Feels like we gotta drop in at season four. Now

1235
00:58:14,800 --> 00:58:17,000
Speaker 3: it's just like it's so much. I don't know. I

1236
00:58:17,120 --> 00:58:19,400
Speaker 3: like that feels daunting. Yeah, that's all I like don't

1237
00:58:19,400 --> 00:58:22,440
Speaker 3: want to do it. But then also like the you know,

1238
00:58:22,640 --> 00:58:26,160
Speaker 3: she's not like so good, like I'm gonna imagine yeah,

1239
00:58:26,560 --> 00:58:28,080
Speaker 3: like I you know, i'd say her like once a month.

1240
00:58:28,120 --> 00:58:29,240
Speaker 3: I don't go like that often.

1241
00:58:29,400 --> 00:58:30,680
Speaker 1: Let me give you a my girl number.

1242
00:58:31,280 --> 00:58:33,560
Speaker 3: I'll happily take it and my first session will be

1243
00:58:33,920 --> 00:58:36,040
Speaker 3: so I work with this person. Name is Tanya rad.

1244
00:58:36,560 --> 00:58:37,440
Speaker 3: She works at one or two.

1245
00:58:38,560 --> 00:58:40,360
Speaker 1: She knows my last name to be honest. I bet

1246
00:58:40,400 --> 00:58:43,760
Speaker 1: she has no idea. She knows me. It's Tatiana Rode

1247
00:58:43,840 --> 00:58:48,520
Speaker 1: Savi Beach. Yeah, bye knows all she knows.

1248
00:58:49,760 --> 00:58:51,920
Speaker 2: So is your question, do you acknowledge doth? Yeah?

1249
00:58:52,000 --> 00:58:52,720
Speaker 3: Do I say something?

1250
00:58:52,720 --> 00:58:52,800
Speaker 2: Do?

1251
00:58:52,840 --> 00:58:54,520
Speaker 3: I just not go back to her? Like, am I

1252
00:58:54,560 --> 00:58:56,000
Speaker 3: right and feeling weird about I.

1253
00:58:56,000 --> 00:58:59,720
Speaker 2: Think a therapist would say that you have an honest conversation,

1254
00:59:00,520 --> 00:59:02,000
Speaker 2: But me, personally, I would.

1255
00:59:01,760 --> 00:59:03,560
Speaker 1: Just go yeah.

1256
00:59:03,680 --> 00:59:05,760
Speaker 2: I think that's the healthiest thing to do. I'm just

1257
00:59:05,760 --> 00:59:06,640
Speaker 2: saying that's what I would do.

1258
00:59:06,680 --> 00:59:09,040
Speaker 1: But if you're not a public figure, I still think

1259
00:59:09,080 --> 00:59:11,360
Speaker 1: it's weird. Like I, if I were not a public figure,

1260
00:59:11,360 --> 00:59:13,840
Speaker 1: I would still not want my therapist watching my Instagram.

1261
00:59:15,720 --> 00:59:20,680
Speaker 2: Just me personally, I guess I just I share her

1262
00:59:21,040 --> 00:59:23,959
Speaker 2: that I haven't shared on Instagram. So whatever she sees

1263
00:59:23,960 --> 00:59:26,960
Speaker 2: on Instagram is like whatever, who cares?

1264
00:59:27,040 --> 00:59:31,280
Speaker 1: It's not about that, It's not about that, It's about

1265
00:59:31,280 --> 00:59:34,120
Speaker 1: the access, Like, you know, I just want her to

1266
00:59:34,240 --> 00:59:35,720
Speaker 1: I want to focus in. I don't want her to

1267
00:59:35,760 --> 00:59:38,280
Speaker 1: be like, how was your dinner at pot J last night?

1268
00:59:38,320 --> 00:59:41,280
Speaker 2: You know, like I want her to me to acknowledge it,

1269
00:59:41,360 --> 00:59:43,960
Speaker 2: but her seeing what you're doing isn't like it doesn't

1270
00:59:44,040 --> 00:59:45,080
Speaker 2: affect anything.

1271
00:59:45,280 --> 00:59:48,760
Speaker 1: Whether you know or not. You know, different strokes different folks.

1272
00:59:49,440 --> 00:59:52,280
Speaker 2: I think you could just say, hey, I got your

1273
00:59:52,360 --> 00:59:56,600
Speaker 2: order for the T shirt, like it made me feel

1274
00:59:56,640 --> 00:59:58,880
Speaker 2: like a little bit uncomfortable just because we haven't crossed

1275
00:59:58,880 --> 00:59:59,440
Speaker 2: like that person.

1276
01:00:00,120 --> 01:00:01,000
Speaker 1: He cannot do that.

1277
01:00:01,880 --> 01:00:03,720
Speaker 2: I'm telling you what therapist would say, you should have

1278
01:00:03,760 --> 01:00:07,120
Speaker 2: a conversation. But I also think if you know whatever

1279
01:00:07,160 --> 01:00:11,440
Speaker 2: feels safe for you, maybe you get the sure and

1280
01:00:11,480 --> 01:00:13,680
Speaker 2: bring it to her for your next.

1281
01:00:13,360 --> 01:00:15,440
Speaker 3: I shipped it out. It's in the main. I think

1282
01:00:15,480 --> 01:00:18,840
Speaker 3: she has that already, like it's arrived, right, And I

1283
01:00:18,920 --> 01:00:21,440
Speaker 3: just wrote thanks for thanks. I wrote a little note,

1284
01:00:21,640 --> 01:00:24,160
Speaker 3: just just like everybody else, anyone else WoT I wrote

1285
01:00:24,200 --> 01:00:26,400
Speaker 3: them little note say thank you. But and I just

1286
01:00:26,400 --> 01:00:32,880
Speaker 3: said thank you, Cynthia. There you go. Wow, uh and uh.

1287
01:00:33,040 --> 01:00:35,240
Speaker 3: I guess if she listens to this, that'll be the

1288
01:00:35,240 --> 01:00:39,280
Speaker 3: big test. If she hears this podcast, only time will tell,

1289
01:00:39,360 --> 01:00:40,120
Speaker 3: Only time will tell.

1290
01:00:40,240 --> 01:00:45,480
Speaker 2: And she writes in an anonymous email about what you do, Hey,

1291
01:00:45,520 --> 01:00:47,880
Speaker 2: beck in Tanya, I was trying to support a client

1292
01:00:47,880 --> 01:00:50,920
Speaker 2: of mine and he's being really weird about it.

1293
01:00:50,960 --> 01:00:54,320
Speaker 3: That'd be so crazy insane, right, Well, thank you for

1294
01:00:54,360 --> 01:00:57,560
Speaker 3: the because I was that was good advice? But I

1295
01:00:57,600 --> 01:00:58,280
Speaker 3: thought it was good.

1296
01:00:58,760 --> 01:01:00,800
Speaker 2: Two different perspectives. Yeah, don't think i'd care.

1297
01:01:00,840 --> 01:01:04,000
Speaker 1: I thank your path carefully.

1298
01:01:05,000 --> 01:01:05,960
Speaker 2: Or tru Lulu.

1299
01:01:06,600 --> 01:01:07,160
Speaker 3: I love it.

1300
01:01:08,800 --> 01:01:13,920
Speaker 1: I like my world. You come playing it today. She's blissful.

1301
01:01:14,040 --> 01:01:15,800
Speaker 1: She's blissful, solfully unaware.

1302
01:01:16,120 --> 01:01:19,200
Speaker 2: Yeah all right, well, Happy New Year.

1303
01:01:19,240 --> 01:01:23,120
Speaker 1: Everybody. Have any suggestions for a scrubbing and vision board.

1304
01:01:23,200 --> 01:01:26,600
Speaker 1: Please hit me up. Don't do the email because nobody's

1305
01:01:26,640 --> 01:01:29,240
Speaker 1: reading them right now. Please send it.

1306
01:01:29,120 --> 01:01:34,200
Speaker 4: To me at Tanya rad on Instagram and I will

1307
01:01:34,240 --> 01:01:37,280
Speaker 4: cut out and I'll make a scrubbing and vision board

1308
01:01:37,280 --> 01:01:39,680
Speaker 4: that we will keep with us for the whole year

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Speaker 4: and look back on it.

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Speaker 1: Put both of our words on there. So what was

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Speaker 1: yours again? Completion and try And that's.

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Speaker 2: That, and that's that. We love you so much.

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Speaker 1: Love you by