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Speaker 1: You need more culturely in tune podcast It's up.

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Speaker 2: He can talk for seventeen hours and interview focus.

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Speaker 3: Yo, welcome to another episode of It's Up there podcast.

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Speaker 3: You know, the vibration is high. I'm big home and everywhere,

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Speaker 3: me at. The vibes is on Patreon. We got discord.

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Speaker 3: We got very high vibrations over there. That's where you

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Speaker 3: dot com for the vibes today. Man, we got somebody

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Speaker 3: I really couldn't wait to speak to. You know, it's

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Speaker 3: a lot of people in this game. Let me make

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Speaker 3: sure I fuck this because this is this is popping

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Speaker 3: and I don't like that.

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Speaker 1: So hold on, all right, look real attractive, you know

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Speaker 1: self taught is attractive. Don't do it to them being

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Speaker 1: I told you to do it. Break they fucking.

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Speaker 2: Next step better quick playing with this?

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Speaker 3: Sh yes, lord, But in this culture, man, you know,

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Speaker 3: I spread my wings and I speak to the people

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Speaker 3: that's this dynamic. You know, I think that today we

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Speaker 3: got somebody that my audience are enjoyed, and I think

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Speaker 3: her audience are also enjoyed this conversation.

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Speaker 2: Today we got Ajna.

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Speaker 1: Yes, Ajna Sarah, I appreciate that.

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Speaker 2: What does the internet know you.

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Speaker 1: By Ajna Sarah? Okay, yeah, they call me Queen Ajna.

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Speaker 1: My community called me Queen Ajna. It wasn't me myself.

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Speaker 1: They deemed me queen, so they referenced me as queen agnaw.

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Speaker 1: But it's a lot of new people, Like a lot

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Speaker 1: of people are finding their way here. So I'm Asna

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Speaker 1: Sarah the Healing Place dynasty.

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Speaker 2: Tell me where you call yourself?

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Speaker 1: That why I was given the name Osna Surah after

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Speaker 1: I had to experience some things and I went on

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Speaker 1: the spiritual journey and I was given another name, and uh,

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Speaker 1: life just.

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Speaker 2: Let's talk about the spiritual journey.

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Speaker 1: Life is a spiritual journey. Life. Life is always a journey.

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Speaker 1: You know you live through it.

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Speaker 2: That's beautiful.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's all kind of shit that be happening. So like,

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Speaker 1: what what specific? Because I feel like I'm on my

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Speaker 1: fourth life in this life.

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Speaker 2: So let's get to the let's.

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Speaker 1: Get to the fourth life in it's life.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I want to know you because you know,

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Speaker 3: I think a lot of people see you talk online

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Speaker 3: and they don't know what's going on behind your eyeballs.

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Speaker 3: They don't need to, They don't.

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Speaker 2: Need to know that.

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Speaker 1: No, because you know, familiarity breeds disrespect. So you can

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Speaker 1: stay over there, get what God allows me to share

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Speaker 1: with you and the rest it's just if it's not yours,

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Speaker 1: you ain't got to be mad about it, because you

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Speaker 1: know the Creator is generous through me. You'll get plenty.

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Speaker 3: Do you think that that there's other young girls like you?

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Speaker 3: I think that may be right. So how do they

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Speaker 3: how do they get the voice you got? Like, how

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Speaker 3: do they get the courage to standing on that whatever

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Speaker 1: Just go through it, and as you go through it,

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Speaker 1: whatever type of shit that you're growing through, because so

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Speaker 1: many of us just go through things, and then you

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Speaker 1: is shit and you get offended by it initially, But

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Speaker 1: the more that you commune with the Creator because there's

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Speaker 1: you realize that it's fertilizer. And you go from asking

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Speaker 1: To just being grateful for your experiences and then you

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Speaker 1: a voice. And I don't know if yours will sound

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Speaker 1: like minds, so it won't be like this, but it'll

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Speaker 3: And you know, have you always spoke out? Have you

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Speaker 1: It depends. Even even in my in my youth, it

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Speaker 1: People always repeated what I said, They always asked me

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Speaker 1: I don't think I think. I don't think I've never

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Speaker 3: It's dope. I think it's dope to hear, and I

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Speaker 2: I look at you know.

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Speaker 3: I try to receive the things that you that you

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Speaker 3: place a the universe. Okay, no, I'm in bluetooth mold.

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Speaker 3: So for me, it's just important to get around those

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Speaker 3: give so much. I pour so much out, you know, it.

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Speaker 1: Inspires you to pour it out like you pour it out.

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Speaker 2: I think they need me out there.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but they can be so unworthy, so you still

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Speaker 3: And they unworthy of it now because if I'm being honest,

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Speaker 3: they don't pay me enough to do what I've done.

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Speaker 3: Say that, then, right, what I've done to my reputation? Right,

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Speaker 3: what I've done to the visibility of myself. I've been

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Speaker 3: You know what I mean, They've now been able to

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Speaker 1: And privacy is so much power. Like you to expose

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Speaker 1: bad because you can get money in other ways and

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Speaker 1: still keep yourself to yourself. Yes, so in the name

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Speaker 1: We thank you for you.

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Speaker 2: I appreciate that.

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Speaker 1: Thank you.

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Speaker 2: I appreciate that.

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Speaker 3: I think watching you, I see your last thing that

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Speaker 3: I actually saw you were speaking about mothers and sons.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a very very heated topic. It is because.

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Speaker 3: Oftentimes when I sit in the room by myself, I

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Speaker 3: say that a mother doesn't have the tools to raise us.

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Speaker 1: So I can relate to that not raised up, I

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Speaker 2: If I may go ahead, No, that's what this is for. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I would like for women to consider this. The mother's

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Speaker 1: love is the foundation, and you may not be able

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Speaker 1: I think that women underestimate our power of the foundation.

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Speaker 1: So we go into areas that are not our expertise

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Speaker 3: That, I think, you know, And that's what I think

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Speaker 3: the mother is as reasonable as she is, you know,

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Speaker 3: I still think that it's it's like putting putting makeup

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Speaker 3: But you know I'm doing something I know I got

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Speaker 3: So I got these things in my toolbox as I

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Speaker 2: And sometimes I worry about that, you know.

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Speaker 3: I think especially with black boys, I know, the mothers

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Speaker 1: Just from guilt. A lot of times it's from guilt.

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Speaker 1: why that can be triggering for you. What I love

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Speaker 1: with you for you to consider is this, Your children

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Speaker 1: Just in case you find yourself in that predicament, ask

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Speaker 1: And if the one that feels like you treat them

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Speaker 1: Just as a mother, keeping in mind, you set the foundation.

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Speaker 1: So even if you have something that you need to

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Speaker 3: And that's why he resents you facts because it indirectly

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Speaker 2: Yes, you love them so so soch.

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Speaker 1: The birth of a villain story, Like that's the birth

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Speaker 2: Get me away from it.

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Speaker 1: You can't do that too.

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Speaker 3: And that's what I mean, like the tools that because

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Speaker 1: Well, because as a woman, that's that's the thing that

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Speaker 1: This is just to let the women know the depth

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Speaker 1: what I remember. But back to the subject at hand, Women,

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Speaker 3: Let it go right and respect process right, respect procedure,

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Speaker 2: You see what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: And when you place him there, man, you'll be start

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Speaker 3: to be bitter with yourself. That's why boys like to

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Speaker 3: she pols so much. She is distracting so much love

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Speaker 3: too many coddled men now, I think you know what

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Speaker 3: and that make one of them. Yeah, that's one that's

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Speaker 1: Let me tell you something. That was twelve of them

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Speaker 2: Yeah, But back to so, what were you talking about about?

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Speaker 3: When you've seen when I seen you on your grandma

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Speaker 2: That was it?

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Speaker 1: And he just allowed me the opportunity to just, you know,

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Speaker 3: So sometimes let's talk about this because I think this

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Speaker 1: Now you know what, you sound like my thirteen year

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't. It's like that.

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Speaker 1: You let him talk too much, you let him get

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Speaker 2: What is that about?

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Speaker 1: Because he's a person, he's a damn show a person

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Speaker 1: like they're my son's not my slaves.

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Speaker 2: Not slaves, but he ain't. You don't know enough to

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Speaker 2: consider things. He don't know enough to consider things right now?

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Speaker 1: Okay, put it on.

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Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: It's like how I'm gonna let the assistant coach call

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Speaker 2: What I do? So, help me understand that.

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Speaker 1: That that's his father.

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Speaker 3: He's supposed to be on your bump about that. Help

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Speaker 3: me understand the thinking behind it, because it's people.

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Speaker 1: I want to know what because he's a person, like he's.

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Speaker 3: Any person be involved in your decision making, per so

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Speaker 3: what makes that's this uninformed person? Because he's not any person,

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Speaker 3: but he's uninformed. You gotta make decisions with your emotions

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Speaker 3: absence of the decision making.

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Speaker 1: Hey, I received that.

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Speaker 2: So if this he's uninformed to what capacity. Okay, so

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Speaker 2: let's framework.

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Speaker 3: Okay, what we were speaking about was these little guys

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Speaker 3: can aught to life. Like certain decision you're making, not

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Speaker 3: something like what we're eating tonight, what kind of shoes

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Speaker 3: he want to wear?

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Speaker 1: Ship, that's the only decisions I'll include.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, so now different dish. Yeah, so let's talk

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Speaker 2: about this.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so, so some people will allow these little boys

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Speaker 3: to be all right, let's let's play a scenario game.

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Speaker 3: vape pin, Okay, or one of them, because this is

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Speaker 3: a thing now, these weed smoking pins for the little boys,

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Speaker 3: it's something going on.

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Speaker 1: You know what, My my twenty one year old, he'd

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Speaker 1: be he vape like like I told him, you're addicted

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Speaker 1: to this and like this I'm concerned about you.

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Speaker 2: Yes, this is their thing now, Like I think was blunts.

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Speaker 1: He'd be vaping like he'd be in different colors and plavvors.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, this shit gonna like are you gonna calling

440
00:23:10,880 --> 00:23:11,560
Speaker 1: video dragon?

441
00:23:11,680 --> 00:23:14,800
Speaker 3: Like here's the key this thing. This shit is in

442
00:23:14,880 --> 00:23:19,280
Speaker 3: public schools, now middle schools. So now, because I try

443
00:23:19,280 --> 00:23:23,560
Speaker 3: to help little boys. I'm finding out that they having

444
00:23:23,680 --> 00:23:28,600
Speaker 3: veight pins at thirteen fourteen, fifteen sixteen.

445
00:23:28,520 --> 00:23:31,240
Speaker 2: So they're encountering these things and I'm.

446
00:23:31,119 --> 00:23:32,879
Speaker 1: Saying, damn, this is information.

447
00:23:33,160 --> 00:23:34,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, it's going down.

448
00:23:35,359 --> 00:23:38,439
Speaker 3: Like I'm talking about one little nigga was taking me

449
00:23:38,520 --> 00:23:41,000
Speaker 3: to a place where I went in there and snapped

450
00:23:41,040 --> 00:23:44,639
Speaker 3: on the man at the store where they were coming

451
00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:47,480
Speaker 3: from out of school being able to go into a store.

452
00:23:47,600 --> 00:23:51,879
Speaker 3: We need to and by this shit home boy.

453
00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:54,960
Speaker 2: Little bitty kids. He know, they children, you know what

454
00:23:55,000 --> 00:23:55,440
Speaker 2: I'm saying.

455
00:23:55,560 --> 00:23:57,840
Speaker 3: I'm talking about man I wanted to, you know, but

456
00:23:58,000 --> 00:23:59,560
Speaker 3: he would have he played police.

457
00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:00,840
Speaker 2: He played police games with.

458
00:24:00,920 --> 00:24:02,440
Speaker 3: Me when he was doing it, because they know I

459
00:24:02,560 --> 00:24:05,200
Speaker 3: refuse to play police, you know what I'm saying.

460
00:24:05,200 --> 00:24:06,320
Speaker 1: But you feel about that.

461
00:24:06,600 --> 00:24:10,200
Speaker 2: It's disrespectful word and it's it dead to be paid

462
00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:10,480
Speaker 2: for that.

463
00:24:10,880 --> 00:24:14,720
Speaker 3: Yes, and everything has a response and that's a process

464
00:24:14,760 --> 00:24:18,080
Speaker 3: to get there and we'll make sure that's handled. But

465
00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:22,880
Speaker 3: but there's something to be said about the atmosphere right

466
00:24:22,960 --> 00:24:24,280
Speaker 3: that these young boys.

467
00:24:24,119 --> 00:24:26,760
Speaker 1: In because there's, like you said, it's very few real ones,

468
00:24:27,280 --> 00:24:31,080
Speaker 1: like because a real one to think that you were

469
00:24:31,119 --> 00:24:35,600
Speaker 1: the first real one after all this time how long

470
00:24:35,720 --> 00:24:38,399
Speaker 1: has it been that he's been behaving that way with

471
00:24:38,560 --> 00:24:41,960
Speaker 1: our youth, with the youth period crazy? And it took

472
00:24:42,119 --> 00:24:44,280
Speaker 1: all of this time for you to finally show up

473
00:24:44,280 --> 00:24:46,080
Speaker 1: and do something about it. That's why we need you.

474
00:24:46,600 --> 00:24:47,160
Speaker 1: That's why.

475
00:24:48,840 --> 00:24:50,000
Speaker 2: That shit was crazy.

476
00:24:50,320 --> 00:24:53,040
Speaker 3: Now, okay, so kid get caught with a vape at school,

477
00:24:53,080 --> 00:24:58,280
Speaker 3: he come home. My thing is, now, let's say you

478
00:24:58,400 --> 00:25:00,359
Speaker 3: found a few vapes at the house before, so you

479
00:25:00,520 --> 00:25:03,760
Speaker 3: kind of thinking about, damn, the little nigga vaping. He

480
00:25:03,880 --> 00:25:06,080
Speaker 3: might be vapor now school call you.

481
00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:08,880
Speaker 1: That's a lot. That's a big stretch because it can't

482
00:25:08,880 --> 00:25:09,639
Speaker 1: get that far from me.

483
00:25:10,280 --> 00:25:13,199
Speaker 2: How coming came because he getting them through school? You

484
00:25:13,240 --> 00:25:14,280
Speaker 2: don't know, he give them.

485
00:25:14,320 --> 00:25:17,480
Speaker 1: I'm at the school, I'm at you, I'm at the school.

486
00:25:17,520 --> 00:25:18,080
Speaker 1: I'm one of them.

487
00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:21,080
Speaker 3: Right but but but I'm telling you, this shit is

488
00:25:21,119 --> 00:25:22,800
Speaker 3: becoming a bit.

489
00:25:23,160 --> 00:25:25,000
Speaker 1: What's the hypothetical because I can't relate to it. But

490
00:25:25,119 --> 00:25:27,119
Speaker 1: I want you to say that somebody out there may be.

491
00:25:27,240 --> 00:25:29,800
Speaker 3: Right, and and that's I'm glad you clarified that, so

492
00:25:29,840 --> 00:25:32,720
Speaker 3: there's no misunderstanding on your pimping, right.

493
00:25:33,040 --> 00:25:33,919
Speaker 2: I'm so glad.

494
00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:37,200
Speaker 3: But so so let's just say say a problem happens

495
00:25:37,240 --> 00:25:40,520
Speaker 3: at school, right, and you identify that may be something

496
00:25:40,560 --> 00:25:43,159
Speaker 3: my son has done. Let's not even say vape, but

497
00:25:43,200 --> 00:25:46,679
Speaker 3: that's something he may have done. Some mothers will allow

498
00:25:46,840 --> 00:25:50,240
Speaker 3: him knowing he and the wrong would allow him to

499
00:25:50,280 --> 00:25:53,800
Speaker 3: go back and forth with them in that scenario and.

500
00:25:53,800 --> 00:25:58,800
Speaker 1: To contend, yeah, it's not a conversation, okay, to see,

501
00:25:59,320 --> 00:26:02,320
Speaker 1: we don't have that many words. But in the event

502
00:26:02,359 --> 00:26:06,200
Speaker 1: that you're feeling something, I always encourage my sons to

503
00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:09,960
Speaker 1: express what is going on inside of you? What is

504
00:26:10,000 --> 00:26:12,120
Speaker 1: going on in your head? What are these thoughts? Where

505
00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:14,080
Speaker 1: do you feel like this thought came from? When did

506
00:26:14,119 --> 00:26:16,960
Speaker 1: you first begin to think that way? What's happening that

507
00:26:17,000 --> 00:26:20,840
Speaker 1: you're processing to this capacity. We have those type of conversations,

508
00:26:20,840 --> 00:26:21,960
Speaker 1: But I don't like stupid shit.

509
00:26:22,160 --> 00:26:22,360
Speaker 2: Right.

510
00:26:22,480 --> 00:26:26,080
Speaker 3: Do you think it's convenient for them to always be

511
00:26:26,160 --> 00:26:31,960
Speaker 3: going through something when you know, hey, I got feelings

512
00:26:31,960 --> 00:26:35,520
Speaker 3: when I'm in trouble, right, I tend to find like

513
00:26:35,760 --> 00:26:39,560
Speaker 3: little boys. You know what I found out as I've

514
00:26:39,560 --> 00:26:42,639
Speaker 3: been trying to help young men, I find out the

515
00:26:42,640 --> 00:26:45,760
Speaker 3: first person they do wrong is they mother. That's the

516
00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:48,359
Speaker 3: first person they learned to lie to, they learn to

517
00:26:48,440 --> 00:26:52,040
Speaker 3: run game on they tend to learn before they even

518
00:26:52,160 --> 00:26:54,240
Speaker 3: find a girl out here to run some shit on.

519
00:26:54,359 --> 00:26:57,800
Speaker 3: They've been done trick mama million times at the house,

520
00:26:57,840 --> 00:27:00,320
Speaker 3: they smoking out the one door, they playing the game

521
00:27:00,359 --> 00:27:03,320
Speaker 3: when they ain't posed to. They doing this when they

522
00:27:03,440 --> 00:27:06,240
Speaker 3: sneaking out, whatever it may be, they learn to for

523
00:27:06,400 --> 00:27:08,960
Speaker 3: next mama a little bit. But it's so much love

524
00:27:09,040 --> 00:27:12,440
Speaker 3: attached with Mama. She damn there blind. The world ain't

525
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:13,879
Speaker 3: blind to your bullshit.

526
00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:14,720
Speaker 1: That's the fact.

527
00:27:14,760 --> 00:27:16,800
Speaker 3: And so when they step outside of that, that's when

528
00:27:16,840 --> 00:27:18,639
Speaker 3: they bumped their head on the bullshit.

529
00:27:18,680 --> 00:27:23,199
Speaker 2: But what I was saying was that I find it that.

530
00:27:24,720 --> 00:27:28,560
Speaker 3: They're able to trick their mothers, and so sometimes the

531
00:27:28,680 --> 00:27:33,080
Speaker 3: mom has an unrealistic opinion on things that their son

532
00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:35,320
Speaker 3: may do. Even one time I went and got a

533
00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:40,280
Speaker 3: girl son out of jail. We're sitting into the in

534
00:27:40,359 --> 00:27:43,520
Speaker 3: the courthouse and the judge is talking and he's been

535
00:27:43,560 --> 00:27:46,640
Speaker 3: caught with a gun in his waistband, you know, him,

536
00:27:46,640 --> 00:27:48,600
Speaker 3: and a dude walking. The dude got the clip, he

537
00:27:48,640 --> 00:27:51,159
Speaker 3: got the gun. Police come, he got the gun and

538
00:27:51,200 --> 00:27:53,239
Speaker 3: he just freez up. They take the gun, take him.

539
00:27:53,520 --> 00:27:57,040
Speaker 3: I try to come help get him out. She's down there.

540
00:27:57,400 --> 00:27:59,840
Speaker 3: The mother is getting up there and she's saying that

541
00:28:00,840 --> 00:28:03,000
Speaker 3: it was the other guy followed and it was really

542
00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:05,440
Speaker 3: what he was doing in it, and she couldn't accept

543
00:28:05,480 --> 00:28:06,280
Speaker 3: the fact that.

544
00:28:07,840 --> 00:28:09,440
Speaker 2: My son made a head let.

545
00:28:10,560 --> 00:28:18,080
Speaker 1: That's guilt because you know, unfortunately, it's hard to see yourself.

546
00:28:19,600 --> 00:28:23,600
Speaker 1: And I say, and it's offensive to a lot of women,

547
00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:25,600
Speaker 1: And I don't say it to offend you, but if

548
00:28:25,640 --> 00:28:28,080
Speaker 1: you come to a fence, jump over a bitch. But

549
00:28:28,200 --> 00:28:31,040
Speaker 1: I want you to know this. The reason why I

550
00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:36,200
Speaker 1: say single mothers can be fuck boy factories is because

551
00:28:37,000 --> 00:28:41,000
Speaker 1: you don't see what you're doing while you are laying

552
00:28:41,080 --> 00:28:44,680
Speaker 1: the foundation, because you're too busy trying to build the home,

553
00:28:46,280 --> 00:28:49,920
Speaker 1: and the foundation is fucked up. So at his core,

554
00:28:50,000 --> 00:28:55,040
Speaker 1: he'll be out here emotional trolling on the internet, talking

555
00:28:55,040 --> 00:28:57,520
Speaker 1: about women, saying the most terrible things that you could

556
00:28:57,520 --> 00:29:00,400
Speaker 1: ever think, and you would never realize that that's you,

557
00:29:00,480 --> 00:29:03,000
Speaker 1: that's your son. You raised him. I don't know why

558
00:29:03,040 --> 00:29:06,239
Speaker 1: he liked that, because you like that because that's who

559
00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:10,080
Speaker 1: you are, and you don't realize that your son is

560
00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:13,960
Speaker 1: acting like you. And until you get him around some

561
00:29:14,120 --> 00:29:17,680
Speaker 1: real men, he won't do anything but what he see,

562
00:29:18,120 --> 00:29:21,160
Speaker 1: so he acts like a bitch, like you, Yes, so

563
00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:24,440
Speaker 1: get him around some men. And if you don't receive

564
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:28,080
Speaker 1: that he needs a man, because you convinced yourself that

565
00:29:28,120 --> 00:29:30,800
Speaker 1: you don't need a man, when in all actuality, you

566
00:29:30,840 --> 00:29:33,120
Speaker 1: do need a man, because if you have a real

567
00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:35,640
Speaker 1: one by your side, you wouldn't feel like you don't

568
00:29:35,680 --> 00:29:38,760
Speaker 1: need one because you know the benefit of having one.

569
00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:41,120
Speaker 1: So we go through that, which is a whole nother

570
00:29:41,200 --> 00:29:44,080
Speaker 1: you know, I want to talk about this whole other other.

571
00:29:44,800 --> 00:29:49,720
Speaker 1: But oftentimes if you refuse to see yourself because you

572
00:29:49,800 --> 00:29:52,600
Speaker 1: have to admit that you raised him, and because you

573
00:29:52,640 --> 00:29:56,360
Speaker 1: will never admit for whatever reason, that you raised him

574
00:29:56,400 --> 00:29:59,640
Speaker 1: that way and that is who he is, you deny

575
00:29:59,720 --> 00:30:02,920
Speaker 1: that the that's who he is. It's guilt, right because

576
00:30:03,240 --> 00:30:07,680
Speaker 1: what nobody around with you, m his daddy wasn't there.

577
00:30:07,720 --> 00:30:10,120
Speaker 1: It was you. You. You were there, You were the

578
00:30:10,160 --> 00:30:12,280
Speaker 1: primary focus. And not to say that there can't be

579
00:30:12,880 --> 00:30:16,640
Speaker 1: outside influences, yes, because that can be a factor, you know,

580
00:30:17,000 --> 00:30:18,960
Speaker 1: the people that you click up with in those types

581
00:30:18,960 --> 00:30:22,200
Speaker 1: of situations. But we're talking about the foundation, the core

582
00:30:22,280 --> 00:30:26,920
Speaker 1: of it. And at your core you a bitch.

583
00:30:28,520 --> 00:30:29,360
Speaker 2: Just like your mama.

584
00:30:29,400 --> 00:30:31,040
Speaker 1: You just like like your mama.

585
00:30:31,160 --> 00:30:35,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, you just like your mama. You're emotionally reactive, you know.

586
00:30:35,640 --> 00:30:39,280
Speaker 3: And sometimes man, it's so rough, it's rough, old little niggas,

587
00:30:39,320 --> 00:30:41,400
Speaker 3: because that's how they come up on that.

588
00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:45,160
Speaker 2: She can't she she's just she's a mess. Man.

589
00:30:45,720 --> 00:30:47,720
Speaker 1: Sometimes we do be a mess And welcome to the

590
00:30:47,760 --> 00:30:51,080
Speaker 1: Healing Place dynasty, because that's what I do. Because life

591
00:30:51,120 --> 00:30:52,000
Speaker 1: can mess you up.

592
00:30:52,280 --> 00:30:53,040
Speaker 2: You sure can.

593
00:30:53,680 --> 00:30:57,680
Speaker 1: Because I meet personally. Men have been finding me attractive

594
00:30:57,680 --> 00:31:01,360
Speaker 1: since the age of five. That was the first time

595
00:31:01,400 --> 00:31:03,320
Speaker 1: that a man told me I was sexy.

596
00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:04,920
Speaker 2: Five years old.

597
00:31:05,200 --> 00:31:07,520
Speaker 1: From the age of five to thirteen, people took me

598
00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:11,880
Speaker 1: from myself. Life can fuck you up. It can mess

599
00:31:11,960 --> 00:31:14,960
Speaker 1: you up, and if you don't unfuck yourself, you're gonna

600
00:31:15,000 --> 00:31:18,280
Speaker 1: fuck them children up, specifically them boys. Being a mother,

601
00:31:18,840 --> 00:31:22,520
Speaker 1: I don't believe that absence fathers can do as much

602
00:31:22,600 --> 00:31:26,239
Speaker 1: damage as an unhealthy present mother. I don't believe it.

603
00:31:26,920 --> 00:31:27,440
Speaker 2: Me neither.

604
00:31:27,600 --> 00:31:30,160
Speaker 1: I don't believe it. We can run the algorithm on it,

605
00:31:30,240 --> 00:31:31,920
Speaker 1: y'all can bring me back all the data. Y'all can

606
00:31:31,960 --> 00:31:35,160
Speaker 1: scratch the Internet and snipp us down and find whatever

607
00:31:35,240 --> 00:31:39,520
Speaker 1: bite sound bites. But listen, a present mother in the

608
00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:43,800
Speaker 1: life of her son that is unhealthy. It's way worse

609
00:31:44,320 --> 00:31:47,520
Speaker 1: than him not having a dad or even seeing the

610
00:31:47,520 --> 00:31:49,200
Speaker 1: wrong kind of man. Just put him in front of

611
00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:51,240
Speaker 1: a man so that he know the kind of man

612
00:31:51,280 --> 00:31:52,040
Speaker 1: he don't want to be.

613
00:31:52,520 --> 00:31:58,880
Speaker 3: And also women, people, children are impressionable, and so you

614
00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:05,880
Speaker 3: can pass off an attitude, you can pass off a spirit,

615
00:32:07,200 --> 00:32:09,760
Speaker 3: you know, and a lot of times we hand off this.

616
00:32:11,520 --> 00:32:12,480
Speaker 2: Negative spirit.

617
00:32:12,600 --> 00:32:17,960
Speaker 1: It's resentment. It's resentment unresolved. And a lot of times

618
00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:21,160
Speaker 1: you don't even realize that you've become resentful because you

619
00:32:21,240 --> 00:32:23,680
Speaker 1: convinced yourself that you've moved on. But this is how

620
00:32:23,720 --> 00:32:27,040
Speaker 1: you know if you resent This is how you calculate

621
00:32:27,160 --> 00:32:30,400
Speaker 1: if you have any resentment stored in your temple and

622
00:32:30,440 --> 00:32:34,880
Speaker 1: your physical body. When you hear that person's name, where

623
00:32:34,920 --> 00:32:40,400
Speaker 1: do you feel it at? That's stage one. Two. Do

624
00:32:40,480 --> 00:32:44,680
Speaker 1: you want your lick back? If you are still in

625
00:32:44,720 --> 00:32:46,560
Speaker 1: a stage where you want your lik back, you have

626
00:32:46,640 --> 00:32:49,280
Speaker 1: stored some resentment. And this don't mean let motherfuckers do

627
00:32:49,360 --> 00:32:52,360
Speaker 1: whatever to you. However, I'm not saying give them a

628
00:32:52,400 --> 00:32:55,360
Speaker 1: license to do anything to you. I'm not saying let

629
00:32:55,400 --> 00:32:58,040
Speaker 1: nobody get away with nothing. This is what I'm saying.

630
00:32:58,560 --> 00:33:02,000
Speaker 1: If you want your lick and you haven't gotten your

631
00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:06,320
Speaker 1: lick back yet and it's been a dated experience, like

632
00:33:06,720 --> 00:33:12,280
Speaker 1: some time has went by. You have built resentment and

633
00:33:13,120 --> 00:33:15,760
Speaker 1: it does something to the body when we store these

634
00:33:15,760 --> 00:33:20,520
Speaker 1: emotions in the body, unacknowledged and unresolved. So when we

635
00:33:20,560 --> 00:33:24,040
Speaker 1: talk about passing spirits, you can have that spirit of

636
00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:30,000
Speaker 1: resentment against something that his father did raise him to

637
00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:33,360
Speaker 1: be as emotional as the response you had the day

638
00:33:33,440 --> 00:33:39,520
Speaker 1: his daddy did it. Realize that he is just like

639
00:33:39,640 --> 00:33:42,360
Speaker 1: his father because you can't get it out of him,

640
00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:47,720
Speaker 1: because that's inning, and then resent him and send him

641
00:33:47,760 --> 00:33:51,120
Speaker 1: out into the world resented by his mother and the

642
00:33:51,240 --> 00:33:53,959
Speaker 1: laughing stock of the rest of the bitch ass niggas

643
00:33:54,000 --> 00:33:55,320
Speaker 1: abounding in the population.

644
00:33:55,680 --> 00:33:59,840
Speaker 2: Right when you're helping women and.

645
00:34:00,560 --> 00:34:02,440
Speaker 1: Be everybody don't right when.

646
00:34:02,320 --> 00:34:06,280
Speaker 3: You're healing though, And I'm specifically asking for your perspective

647
00:34:06,320 --> 00:34:08,920
Speaker 3: on the women's side, because this conversation I want to

648
00:34:08,960 --> 00:34:12,040
Speaker 3: have is that I want to dance with the dynamics

649
00:34:12,080 --> 00:34:12,600
Speaker 3: of these.

650
00:34:12,440 --> 00:34:14,680
Speaker 2: Things, you know what with me?

651
00:34:14,840 --> 00:34:17,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know sometimes I can move by some move

652
00:34:17,640 --> 00:34:20,040
Speaker 3: what I'm saying not often, you know, not often?

653
00:34:20,560 --> 00:34:26,360
Speaker 2: But what do you find has women broken?

654
00:34:27,320 --> 00:34:27,360
Speaker 1: What?

655
00:34:27,680 --> 00:34:32,760
Speaker 3: What mostly are the components that you see amongst women

656
00:34:32,840 --> 00:34:35,920
Speaker 3: that has caused for them to find themselves in the

657
00:34:36,000 --> 00:34:38,640
Speaker 3: broken pieces because most.

658
00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:41,880
Speaker 1: Of the time, what I've noticed specifically when women have

659
00:34:42,040 --> 00:34:46,480
Speaker 1: been like tainted, when something that got in you and

660
00:34:46,520 --> 00:34:48,279
Speaker 1: it's in you now and until you get it out

661
00:34:48,360 --> 00:34:51,440
Speaker 1: of you, it's in you. You know, until you acknowledge it,

662
00:34:51,440 --> 00:34:56,239
Speaker 1: it's in you. It's parental relationships, and that also just

663
00:34:56,320 --> 00:34:58,880
Speaker 1: works for people. Like That's why I say it's a

664
00:34:58,880 --> 00:35:01,200
Speaker 1: people thing because I a lot of men, find a

665
00:35:01,200 --> 00:35:04,759
Speaker 1: lot of men find me a safe space. And I

666
00:35:04,800 --> 00:35:07,759
Speaker 1: appreciate y'all for trusting me. Thank you kings for trusting me.

667
00:35:08,280 --> 00:35:10,360
Speaker 1: Because I hold your secrets. It's between me and you

668
00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:12,839
Speaker 1: and God, I'm gonna go. I'm gonna lay down with

669
00:35:12,880 --> 00:35:16,200
Speaker 1: it facts when it's over, when I'm gonna die with

670
00:35:16,239 --> 00:35:18,680
Speaker 1: your secrets. Baby, I'm gonna die with your secrets. Thank

671
00:35:18,680 --> 00:35:19,480
Speaker 1: you for trusting me.

672
00:35:20,280 --> 00:35:23,520
Speaker 3: And that spirit is that spirit need to be passed down.

673
00:35:23,719 --> 00:35:26,200
Speaker 3: They's passing all this other shit down. They need to

674
00:35:26,239 --> 00:35:26,960
Speaker 3: pass that down.

675
00:35:27,200 --> 00:35:29,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a lot of men that get at me

676
00:35:29,080 --> 00:35:31,600
Speaker 1: and they bear their hearts and their souls and I

677
00:35:31,640 --> 00:35:34,319
Speaker 1: get everything, you know, I get everything. Like a lot

678
00:35:34,320 --> 00:35:36,200
Speaker 1: of my clients, some of them are hustles. Some of

679
00:35:36,200 --> 00:35:39,279
Speaker 1: them are you know, multi millionaires, business men. Some of

680
00:35:39,320 --> 00:35:42,040
Speaker 1: them drive the school bus, some of them janitors. Like

681
00:35:42,440 --> 00:35:46,480
Speaker 1: men collectively seek me out as a safe space. And

682
00:35:46,520 --> 00:35:49,560
Speaker 1: I'm grateful to hold space for them. I don't take

683
00:35:49,600 --> 00:35:51,919
Speaker 1: it for granted. And I'm gonna die with your secrets.

684
00:35:52,200 --> 00:35:54,759
Speaker 1: I mean that, But I get everything in calls. I've

685
00:35:54,800 --> 00:35:58,640
Speaker 1: gotten HIV confessions, confessions and infidelity and high profile marriages,

686
00:35:59,000 --> 00:36:01,600
Speaker 1: motherfucking murder them fashions. You'll be surprised what people say

687
00:36:01,600 --> 00:36:04,280
Speaker 1: when they feel safe enough to say it out loud,

688
00:36:04,360 --> 00:36:06,440
Speaker 1: like when it be on them and they got to

689
00:36:06,440 --> 00:36:09,600
Speaker 1: get it off of them. It's parental relationships for men

690
00:36:09,640 --> 00:36:12,400
Speaker 1: and women. So how you were raised, Who raised you,

691
00:36:12,440 --> 00:36:14,920
Speaker 1: if they were there, if they weren't there, How it happened.

692
00:36:15,880 --> 00:36:17,680
Speaker 2: What about the good girl gone bad?

693
00:36:19,000 --> 00:36:22,640
Speaker 1: Very few good girls go bad. It's already in them.

694
00:36:23,080 --> 00:36:25,640
Speaker 1: It's just a situation that grows it that shit.

695
00:36:26,200 --> 00:36:28,600
Speaker 3: If it ain't, it can't turn you to a monster,

696
00:36:28,680 --> 00:36:32,719
Speaker 3: though the game would turn you to a monster. The pathway,

697
00:36:32,840 --> 00:36:37,000
Speaker 3: that's why it's important, you know, to protect your daughter's

698
00:36:37,000 --> 00:36:41,000
Speaker 3: interests in a pathway is because man, you can raise

699
00:36:41,040 --> 00:36:42,960
Speaker 3: a right and just sit it down the wrong road.

700
00:36:43,960 --> 00:36:49,360
Speaker 1: It's all about introductions. But when a person's interest is peaked,

701
00:36:49,880 --> 00:36:52,680
Speaker 1: it can be peaked very young, or it can be

702
00:36:52,760 --> 00:36:56,600
Speaker 1: peaked later in life. No matter when your interest gets peaked.

703
00:36:56,640 --> 00:36:58,880
Speaker 1: But it's already in you that it'll peak your interest.

704
00:36:59,200 --> 00:37:01,520
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. Like it's already in you. So

705
00:37:01,719 --> 00:37:05,840
Speaker 1: if you're not interested in it, you won't be interested

706
00:37:05,880 --> 00:37:06,120
Speaker 1: in it.

707
00:37:07,200 --> 00:37:10,799
Speaker 3: Well, I don't know, now, what about when you're introduced

708
00:37:10,800 --> 00:37:14,000
Speaker 3: to it, because it's hard to be interested in the things.

709
00:37:14,080 --> 00:37:16,920
Speaker 1: I've been around so much blowing my motherfucking life. I

710
00:37:16,920 --> 00:37:18,360
Speaker 1: ain't never snorting, no line.

711
00:37:18,160 --> 00:37:18,760
Speaker 2: I mean neither.

712
00:37:18,880 --> 00:37:22,080
Speaker 3: But that's blow, and that's we have a resentment for that.

713
00:37:22,120 --> 00:37:25,920
Speaker 3: It's hustle, you know, I as me anyway, as a hustle,

714
00:37:25,960 --> 00:37:29,120
Speaker 3: I got a resentment of doing blow, of doing certain things.

715
00:37:29,120 --> 00:37:31,600
Speaker 3: It just don't match the outfit. It don't match that

716
00:37:31,719 --> 00:37:32,400
Speaker 3: I'm beyond.

717
00:37:32,719 --> 00:37:34,279
Speaker 1: So that's what I'm saying, because it ain't in you.

718
00:37:34,719 --> 00:37:41,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, but this is a little different now, particularly with

719
00:37:41,600 --> 00:37:44,879
Speaker 3: me being a dope dealer. Most of my entire life,

720
00:37:45,920 --> 00:37:51,520
Speaker 3: scenarios are important, and atmosphere is important. I've saw people

721
00:37:51,560 --> 00:37:55,359
Speaker 3: fall victim the cocaine because of the atmosphere, right, And

722
00:37:55,400 --> 00:37:58,080
Speaker 3: then what happens is people think they chasing that high,

723
00:37:58,120 --> 00:38:01,200
Speaker 3: but they chasing that that night. It was it was

724
00:38:01,239 --> 00:38:04,040
Speaker 3: a whole package deal, like it was two women now

725
00:38:04,080 --> 00:38:06,359
Speaker 3: and it was this and I snorted it off her

726
00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:09,680
Speaker 3: titties and dah dah dah. There's a thing happening. And

727
00:38:09,719 --> 00:38:12,920
Speaker 3: that is when you get that peaked interest. And the

728
00:38:13,000 --> 00:38:16,279
Speaker 3: cocaine is just involved in that. So it wasn't cocaine

729
00:38:16,400 --> 00:38:21,960
Speaker 3: that that necessarily caused you to do that. It's that environment.

730
00:38:22,239 --> 00:38:25,759
Speaker 3: It's that atmosphere. And I think sometimes.

731
00:38:25,239 --> 00:38:27,440
Speaker 2: It can be that. I don't think. I don't know, man,

732
00:38:27,440 --> 00:38:29,320
Speaker 2: I think the city can turn you to a monster.

733
00:38:29,560 --> 00:38:33,880
Speaker 1: I think the situation that you were in mentally that

734
00:38:34,000 --> 00:38:36,440
Speaker 1: even allowed you to be at the party that they

735
00:38:36,520 --> 00:38:39,040
Speaker 1: was doing it like that is what the root of

736
00:38:39,080 --> 00:38:40,600
Speaker 1: it is not necessary.

737
00:38:40,600 --> 00:38:41,799
Speaker 2: What if you're born in La.

738
00:38:42,440 --> 00:38:43,480
Speaker 1: What if you're born in La.

739
00:38:43,640 --> 00:38:47,040
Speaker 3: So you're born in La, your content creator, someone like yourself.

740
00:38:47,040 --> 00:38:50,000
Speaker 3: You've been invited somewhere. You don't know that it's and

741
00:38:50,120 --> 00:38:51,840
Speaker 3: even before you and as a man.

742
00:38:51,719 --> 00:38:54,759
Speaker 1: Too, and even when you offered things, there has to

743
00:38:54,840 --> 00:38:58,279
Speaker 1: be something that triggers decision making in your mind before

744
00:38:58,360 --> 00:38:58,960
Speaker 1: your money.

745
00:38:59,520 --> 00:39:03,080
Speaker 2: Okay, that is social status for what reason?

746
00:39:03,200 --> 00:39:07,440
Speaker 1: So what for what reason does poverty haunt you to

747
00:39:07,520 --> 00:39:10,839
Speaker 1: the capacity that you would be willing to make this

748
00:39:10,960 --> 00:39:12,200
Speaker 1: decision to get some.

749
00:39:12,080 --> 00:39:15,000
Speaker 2: Bread you ain't need. This is what I'm telling you.

750
00:39:15,000 --> 00:39:17,719
Speaker 3: You don't know until you there that that decision is

751
00:39:17,800 --> 00:39:18,960
Speaker 3: even in the in the pot.

752
00:39:19,640 --> 00:39:22,520
Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. Cocaine in particularly in this.

753
00:39:22,520 --> 00:39:24,400
Speaker 1: Industry, it's something, it's something else.

754
00:39:24,600 --> 00:39:27,000
Speaker 2: And this is so you could be invited to a party.

755
00:39:27,080 --> 00:39:28,879
Speaker 1: Yes, I've been invited to a lot of party.

756
00:39:28,960 --> 00:39:31,399
Speaker 3: Right, so let's say your life for the part, Yeah,

757
00:39:31,480 --> 00:39:33,000
Speaker 3: shut out to the party.

758
00:39:33,239 --> 00:39:34,960
Speaker 2: Right, So we go to the party.

759
00:39:35,120 --> 00:39:37,400
Speaker 3: Now you don't know that there's a door in the

760
00:39:37,520 --> 00:39:40,640
Speaker 3: party with some shit going on behind that door. You

761
00:39:40,680 --> 00:39:44,760
Speaker 3: don't even know this facts now, you don't know until

762
00:39:44,800 --> 00:39:46,759
Speaker 3: you being brought behind that door.

763
00:39:46,840 --> 00:39:49,719
Speaker 2: Now it's all about who breaks you behind that door, And.

764
00:39:49,680 --> 00:39:52,440
Speaker 1: It's all about your personal esteem of self if you stay.

765
00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:54,600
Speaker 2: That's facts.

766
00:39:55,040 --> 00:39:56,560
Speaker 1: So if it's in you, it's in you. So if

767
00:39:56,600 --> 00:39:58,799
Speaker 1: your self esteemed lower was low before you got to.

768
00:39:58,760 --> 00:40:01,040
Speaker 3: The party, or we saw opper portunity to make people

769
00:40:01,080 --> 00:40:03,040
Speaker 3: do some some strange things.

770
00:40:02,760 --> 00:40:05,560
Speaker 1: Because opportunity can make you do some strange things if

771
00:40:05,600 --> 00:40:07,799
Speaker 1: you got low self esteem whole nigga.

772
00:40:07,960 --> 00:40:08,560
Speaker 2: You believe that.

773
00:40:08,760 --> 00:40:11,640
Speaker 3: I believe that, so you do. I do too, But

774
00:40:11,640 --> 00:40:14,839
Speaker 3: but I so why do so? We see women, in

775
00:40:14,920 --> 00:40:17,640
Speaker 3: particular women, we see them kind of being their morals

776
00:40:17,680 --> 00:40:18,280
Speaker 3: to the money.

777
00:40:18,480 --> 00:40:22,000
Speaker 1: Yes, because it ain't about the money. It's about about

778
00:40:22,200 --> 00:40:25,440
Speaker 1: It's about what you think is going to come with

779
00:40:25,480 --> 00:40:28,040
Speaker 1: the money. For me, I date hustle. I have a

780
00:40:28,120 --> 00:40:31,719
Speaker 1: history of dating hustlers. It was for the protection. The

781
00:40:31,800 --> 00:40:34,800
Speaker 1: money just came with it, and because I've always wanted

782
00:40:34,880 --> 00:40:38,359
Speaker 1: to be trusted. I've always been the type that they

783
00:40:38,360 --> 00:40:40,719
Speaker 1: look they can smell it on me, so they know, okay,

784
00:40:40,760 --> 00:40:46,000
Speaker 1: sit yeah. Yeah. But it was for a different reason.

785
00:40:47,280 --> 00:40:49,799
Speaker 1: It wasn't for the money. The money was the byproduct

786
00:40:49,840 --> 00:40:52,440
Speaker 1: of it. It. Every time that I dated somebody that

787
00:40:52,880 --> 00:40:56,239
Speaker 1: wasn't that didn't have that energy, I've lived to regret it.

788
00:40:57,000 --> 00:41:00,640
Speaker 2: Mm hmm. So you like the vibration, it's the energy.

789
00:41:00,760 --> 00:41:03,160
Speaker 1: I can smell it, which is the reason why we

790
00:41:03,400 --> 00:41:05,280
Speaker 1: the reason why you was able to get this interview.

791
00:41:05,640 --> 00:41:07,359
Speaker 1: I can smell it on you, I said, okay, all right.

792
00:41:07,719 --> 00:41:09,480
Speaker 1: One of the men I smelled it on you.

793
00:41:09,560 --> 00:41:11,319
Speaker 2: I could appreciate that, and I thank you for.

794
00:41:11,560 --> 00:41:13,879
Speaker 1: Blew your ass off at first, and you hit me back.

795
00:41:13,920 --> 00:41:17,440
Speaker 1: I said, yeah, I can smell that.

796
00:41:17,760 --> 00:41:18,320
Speaker 2: I appreciate you.

797
00:41:18,360 --> 00:41:21,279
Speaker 1: Here I come. I'm on my way here, I come that.

798
00:41:21,360 --> 00:41:24,480
Speaker 3: I appreciate that, and you one of them one. But

799
00:41:24,520 --> 00:41:26,560
Speaker 3: I want to build on this some more. So I

800
00:41:26,560 --> 00:41:31,399
Speaker 3: do think that's that's just rough for me to except man,

801
00:41:31,520 --> 00:41:34,319
Speaker 3: that you're thinking that that.

802
00:41:34,000 --> 00:41:39,440
Speaker 1: That you turn you to. It can't nobody make you

803
00:41:39,560 --> 00:41:40,640
Speaker 1: be something that you not.

804
00:41:41,480 --> 00:41:42,479
Speaker 2: No, I ain't.

805
00:41:43,719 --> 00:41:45,560
Speaker 1: If it ain't in you, it ain't in you. Think

806
00:41:45,600 --> 00:41:49,160
Speaker 1: about it. Think about how many positions you've been in,

807
00:41:49,239 --> 00:41:53,080
Speaker 1: how many situations in your life could have been alwass nigga.

808
00:41:52,960 --> 00:41:55,080
Speaker 2: Right, But I take myself to be one on one.

809
00:41:55,880 --> 00:41:57,560
Speaker 1: I'm telling you.

810
00:41:57,160 --> 00:42:00,840
Speaker 2: Not one on one, but one in one of one category.

811
00:42:01,040 --> 00:42:02,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know what I'm saying, Like, it ain't a

812
00:42:02,880 --> 00:42:05,399
Speaker 3: lot of only category that matter, That's what I'm saying.

813
00:42:05,440 --> 00:42:09,000
Speaker 3: So what I'm saying is for those guys in that category.

814
00:42:09,280 --> 00:42:13,080
Speaker 3: But by me operating in the streets all my life, man,

815
00:42:13,120 --> 00:42:15,439
Speaker 3: I do just saw niggas I grew up with man

816
00:42:15,520 --> 00:42:18,000
Speaker 3: that I knew was hustlers. Them niggas taught me how

817
00:42:18,040 --> 00:42:21,359
Speaker 3: to hustle them. Niggas feel victim to that shit, man,

818
00:42:21,600 --> 00:42:23,520
Speaker 3: because it's in you when it was all over.

819
00:42:23,640 --> 00:42:24,760
Speaker 1: Because here's the thing.

820
00:42:25,920 --> 00:42:28,920
Speaker 2: So, how do you maintain as this when you saying

821
00:42:28,960 --> 00:42:29,600
Speaker 2: you really that.

822
00:42:30,239 --> 00:42:34,600
Speaker 1: It's not that you're really that, it's you knowing how

823
00:42:34,640 --> 00:42:38,680
Speaker 1: to identify the warning signs so that you don't become

824
00:42:38,960 --> 00:42:39,640
Speaker 1: that over there.

825
00:42:40,000 --> 00:42:42,480
Speaker 2: Look at Franklin and Snowfall and what happened.

826
00:42:42,560 --> 00:42:51,240
Speaker 1: Resentment, unforgiveness, pettiness, hate, vengeance. You see what I'm saying.

827
00:42:51,440 --> 00:42:53,600
Speaker 1: When that shit get in you, when life crack you up,

828
00:42:54,320 --> 00:42:56,880
Speaker 1: if you don't go get your healing, anything can seep

829
00:42:56,880 --> 00:43:00,000
Speaker 1: through the cracks. Anything can seep through the crack sole Now.

830
00:43:00,440 --> 00:43:03,720
Speaker 1: So now, because your foundation, that's right, I'm being raised

831
00:43:03,760 --> 00:43:07,760
Speaker 1: by your mama. You gotta cracks in the foundation. Now,

832
00:43:07,920 --> 00:43:12,120
Speaker 1: you disloyal. Now you're gonna do some whole ship.

833
00:43:12,719 --> 00:43:14,560
Speaker 2: Now here, here's the thing, right, because you.

834
00:43:14,520 --> 00:43:17,120
Speaker 1: Grew up watching your mama do some whole shit. And

835
00:43:17,160 --> 00:43:19,200
Speaker 1: because she don't admit that she do that whole shit.

836
00:43:19,280 --> 00:43:21,280
Speaker 1: Now she raised a whole ass it right because.

837
00:43:21,040 --> 00:43:24,840
Speaker 2: She justified it through you. Now Here's here's a thing.

838
00:43:24,680 --> 00:43:27,600
Speaker 1: Though, right, and my baby ain't never hurt nobody, but

839
00:43:27,640 --> 00:43:30,520
Speaker 1: it's still got smoked at baby based party easy. He

840
00:43:30,600 --> 00:43:31,319
Speaker 1: said that ship.

841
00:43:31,480 --> 00:43:34,359
Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying. That's gangster and that's real life.

842
00:43:35,120 --> 00:43:39,880
Speaker 3: That's real life. But here's the thing I'm saying, what

843
00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:41,120
Speaker 3: you finding.

844
00:43:40,760 --> 00:43:42,040
Speaker 2: People in there? Broken?

845
00:43:42,960 --> 00:43:45,879
Speaker 3: A lot of people being broken in this world, right

846
00:43:46,000 --> 00:43:46,719
Speaker 3: I wouldn't call.

847
00:43:46,680 --> 00:43:49,680
Speaker 1: Them like broken. I wouldn't. And here's the thing. Life

848
00:43:49,719 --> 00:43:53,520
Speaker 1: will break you. But just because you got some and

849
00:43:53,640 --> 00:43:55,640
Speaker 1: just because you dinged up, just because you banged up,

850
00:43:55,680 --> 00:43:57,680
Speaker 1: just because you got some, you know, you got a

851
00:43:57,680 --> 00:43:59,800
Speaker 1: few wounds and shit, that don't mean that you're broken.

852
00:44:00,080 --> 00:44:00,560
Speaker 1: Don't mean that.

853
00:44:00,520 --> 00:44:04,840
Speaker 3: You're beyond if like now we're broken and beyond repairs

854
00:44:04,960 --> 00:44:08,040
Speaker 3: two different things. Okay, right now, if you say that

855
00:44:08,160 --> 00:44:11,560
Speaker 3: life can break you, by definition, you're broken.

856
00:44:11,680 --> 00:44:15,000
Speaker 1: Okay, life can't break you. So by definite, everybody that's

857
00:44:15,040 --> 00:44:15,880
Speaker 1: injured ain't broken.

858
00:44:16,800 --> 00:44:17,920
Speaker 2: Injured is a different thing.

859
00:44:18,000 --> 00:44:18,239
Speaker 1: Okay.

860
00:44:18,239 --> 00:44:22,719
Speaker 2: So but if right, if we're saying that life.

861
00:44:22,480 --> 00:44:24,600
Speaker 3: Can break you, life can break you, and I know

862
00:44:24,680 --> 00:44:25,719
Speaker 3: for sure it can break.

863
00:44:25,800 --> 00:44:27,520
Speaker 1: Life will break you down like a lawn chair.

864
00:44:27,680 --> 00:44:31,560
Speaker 3: So that speaks to your foundation that was one solid,

865
00:44:32,400 --> 00:44:35,080
Speaker 3: but life has creeped in and.

866
00:44:34,920 --> 00:44:37,040
Speaker 1: Broken, and now you got some choices to make.

867
00:44:37,239 --> 00:44:40,399
Speaker 3: And now these things seep through that foundation that once

868
00:44:40,560 --> 00:44:45,520
Speaker 3: was so solid, and now you find comforting that one

869
00:44:45,680 --> 00:44:46,160
Speaker 3: night on that.

870
00:44:46,280 --> 00:44:47,799
Speaker 2: Coke in l A.

871
00:44:48,200 --> 00:44:49,160
Speaker 1: That's dangerous.

872
00:44:49,480 --> 00:44:52,279
Speaker 3: I know it's dangerous. But you're chasing that foundation you

873
00:44:52,360 --> 00:44:55,479
Speaker 3: once had. I understand, right, And so it ain't that

874
00:44:55,480 --> 00:44:58,080
Speaker 3: that that that's who you are. You just searching for

875
00:44:58,120 --> 00:44:59,520
Speaker 3: that place you used to sit in.

876
00:44:59,600 --> 00:45:02,400
Speaker 1: And that's why you gotta check yourself. Are you gonna

877
00:45:02,400 --> 00:45:04,920
Speaker 1: become just like them? See? That's the shit that's cracking

878
00:45:04,960 --> 00:45:08,840
Speaker 1: you up? Now? Why is cracking you up? Because for

879
00:45:08,960 --> 00:45:13,640
Speaker 1: whatever reason that you got fucked up. If you don't

880
00:45:13,719 --> 00:45:17,800
Speaker 1: choose to unfuck yourself, now you're about to be packing

881
00:45:17,920 --> 00:45:21,479
Speaker 1: all kinds of shit in your cracks instead of going

882
00:45:21,520 --> 00:45:22,479
Speaker 1: in and doing the work.

883
00:45:22,520 --> 00:45:23,840
Speaker 2: How do you unfuck yourself?

884
00:45:23,880 --> 00:45:25,239
Speaker 1: You gotta see yourself?

885
00:45:26,040 --> 00:45:27,160
Speaker 2: How do you see yourself?

886
00:45:27,280 --> 00:45:31,480
Speaker 1: Get honest? You gotta base your truth off the facts

887
00:45:31,520 --> 00:45:33,960
Speaker 1: and not your feelings. There are two truths. There's your

888
00:45:34,000 --> 00:45:37,640
Speaker 1: personal truth and there are the fucking facts. And a

889
00:45:37,680 --> 00:45:40,600
Speaker 1: lot of people live life from their personal truth that's

890
00:45:40,600 --> 00:45:43,759
Speaker 1: based on their feelings. And you can you can manifest

891
00:45:43,800 --> 00:45:46,080
Speaker 1: a lot of shit from your feelings. You can live

892
00:45:46,440 --> 00:45:49,120
Speaker 1: in an illusion, be a delusional person that exists in

893
00:45:49,160 --> 00:45:51,480
Speaker 1: life every day from the ship that you feel and

894
00:45:51,560 --> 00:45:54,200
Speaker 1: ain't none of that shit based on fact. But if

895
00:45:54,239 --> 00:45:58,399
Speaker 1: you can marry yourself to your self and honesty and

896
00:45:58,480 --> 00:46:01,960
Speaker 1: your truth begins to alarm with the facts, you can

897
00:46:02,080 --> 00:46:07,240
Speaker 1: unfuck yourself. But that's hard because you got to see yourself.

898
00:46:07,280 --> 00:46:11,520
Speaker 1: You gotta be able to look at you and instead

899
00:46:11,560 --> 00:46:16,120
Speaker 1: of attacking whoever or whatever showed you yourself, you gotta

900
00:46:16,160 --> 00:46:17,720
Speaker 1: be willing to take that shit and say.

901
00:46:17,680 --> 00:46:20,160
Speaker 2: What was that moment for you? Let's make this practical.

902
00:46:21,040 --> 00:46:23,160
Speaker 1: I had that moment all the time. I had that

903
00:46:23,200 --> 00:46:25,680
Speaker 1: moment when my head of security came and got me

904
00:46:27,480 --> 00:46:34,839
Speaker 1: from taking taking so much no care of myself in

905
00:46:34,960 --> 00:46:38,640
Speaker 1: massive amounts that I was sitting in the dark, stress

906
00:46:38,680 --> 00:46:42,279
Speaker 1: the fuck out, only doing just enough to keep my

907
00:46:42,320 --> 00:46:45,799
Speaker 1: head afloat because I didn't want to see where I'm

908
00:46:45,840 --> 00:46:48,920
Speaker 1: my problem because so many other things were happening to me,

909
00:46:49,000 --> 00:46:50,359
Speaker 1: Like God, why you let them lie on me? Why

910
00:46:50,400 --> 00:46:51,880
Speaker 1: you let him attack me like this while you let

911
00:46:51,920 --> 00:46:54,759
Speaker 1: them shit on me. Instead of growing through this shit

912
00:46:54,840 --> 00:46:57,439
Speaker 1: like it's fertilizer, you need that to get to where

913
00:46:57,440 --> 00:47:00,560
Speaker 1: you're going, you're gonna have to experience every motherfucking emotion

914
00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:05,640
Speaker 1: and stay solid. And if you don't stay solid, I

915
00:47:05,680 --> 00:47:08,200
Speaker 1: won't move you to the next level. So where you

916
00:47:08,239 --> 00:47:10,319
Speaker 1: see yourself or will you be swallowed up in the

917
00:47:10,400 --> 00:47:12,160
Speaker 1: crack of this brokenness?

918
00:47:12,719 --> 00:47:17,880
Speaker 3: But it's a natural feeling. And I think that these

919
00:47:17,920 --> 00:47:20,120
Speaker 3: are the tools that people can use. Is that when

920
00:47:20,160 --> 00:47:22,680
Speaker 3: you have to understand it is natural for you to

921
00:47:22,760 --> 00:47:24,160
Speaker 3: feel certain things.

922
00:47:24,239 --> 00:47:26,120
Speaker 1: Yes, And that's why we do classes I do. I

923
00:47:26,160 --> 00:47:29,239
Speaker 1: host the class where I do healing bundle classes. I

924
00:47:29,280 --> 00:47:33,560
Speaker 1: host classes every Sunday and Wednesday, healing bundles. When you

925
00:47:33,560 --> 00:47:35,799
Speaker 1: talk about the classes, we study three different books and

926
00:47:35,840 --> 00:47:37,960
Speaker 1: we go over the material together. What are the books?

927
00:47:38,080 --> 00:47:42,480
Speaker 1: We talk about personal development, spiritual development, financial development, and

928
00:47:42,520 --> 00:47:46,239
Speaker 1: we work it every day like you get homework. Where

929
00:47:46,239 --> 00:47:49,000
Speaker 1: you have to stay accountable in an environment where people

930
00:47:49,040 --> 00:47:50,799
Speaker 1: don't give a fuck about how you showed up, as

931
00:47:50,800 --> 00:47:53,080
Speaker 1: long as you want to be better. So we're not

932
00:47:53,239 --> 00:47:55,799
Speaker 1: judging where you crack that. Because I got my own

933
00:47:55,840 --> 00:47:57,759
Speaker 1: shit going on, I tell the healing place ninety See,

934
00:47:58,120 --> 00:47:59,920
Speaker 1: I can't do it for you, but I'll do it

935
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:02,919
Speaker 1: you because you're gonna do yours and I'm gonna do minds,

936
00:48:02,960 --> 00:48:04,239
Speaker 1: and I know it's hard, but we're gonna do the

937
00:48:04,239 --> 00:48:07,440
Speaker 1: hard parts together because this shit hard. What's hard seeing

938
00:48:07,520 --> 00:48:10,759
Speaker 1: yourself because after you see you, you can't deny you,

939
00:48:11,680 --> 00:48:13,960
Speaker 1: and then once you accept it, you can change it.

940
00:48:14,120 --> 00:48:17,560
Speaker 1: For many people reject themselves. That's not me. I don't

941
00:48:17,600 --> 00:48:20,279
Speaker 1: do that that. You do that every day. You do

942
00:48:20,320 --> 00:48:22,200
Speaker 1: it twice a day. You did it to all of

943
00:48:22,239 --> 00:48:24,799
Speaker 1: your children, you do it to your friends, you do

944
00:48:24,840 --> 00:48:27,440
Speaker 1: it to your partners. This is the shit you do.

945
00:48:27,480 --> 00:48:30,520
Speaker 1: You like everything that you don't like. That's why you

946
00:48:30,560 --> 00:48:33,080
Speaker 1: don't like yourself. But you are here pretending that you

947
00:48:33,160 --> 00:48:33,759
Speaker 1: love you so.

948
00:48:33,840 --> 00:48:35,720
Speaker 2: Much, right, And that's the trick.

949
00:48:35,960 --> 00:48:39,760
Speaker 3: But see that some women I've dealt with is because

950
00:48:40,320 --> 00:48:44,120
Speaker 3: you know I chase my goals and I'm successful, that

951
00:48:44,200 --> 00:48:44,799
Speaker 3: they try to.

952
00:48:44,840 --> 00:48:45,880
Speaker 2: Use that against me.

953
00:48:46,120 --> 00:48:49,759
Speaker 1: That's intimidating. Yeah, it's a very weak because if you're

954
00:48:49,800 --> 00:48:54,920
Speaker 1: dealing with a woman that cannot, that cannot be of

955
00:48:54,960 --> 00:48:58,319
Speaker 1: a genuine benefit to you, she's gonna always fell out

956
00:48:58,320 --> 00:49:01,160
Speaker 1: of place. She always will because she like, well, where

957
00:49:01,200 --> 00:49:03,560
Speaker 1: do I fit in? Aside from a fun time, and

958
00:49:03,600 --> 00:49:05,640
Speaker 1: you can get a fun time wherever you go. Yes,

959
00:49:05,840 --> 00:49:08,200
Speaker 1: and then when you start crunching numbers a hustler. Once

960
00:49:08,200 --> 00:49:11,240
Speaker 1: a hustler start crunching numbers, a fun time just becomes

961
00:49:11,239 --> 00:49:14,520
Speaker 1: a liability. So I don't miss fun that much. So

962
00:49:14,600 --> 00:49:16,680
Speaker 1: I see you when I see you fun time because

963
00:49:17,160 --> 00:49:19,400
Speaker 1: I'm the little whatever I was gonna spend on you.

964
00:49:19,440 --> 00:49:21,920
Speaker 1: I'm about to buy this motherfucking equipment, bitch, I'm moving on.

965
00:49:22,320 --> 00:49:28,040
Speaker 1: So if she doesn't, if she can't integrate herself and

966
00:49:28,120 --> 00:49:32,520
Speaker 1: become an asset, then she will always feel like it's

967
00:49:32,520 --> 00:49:35,759
Speaker 1: a problem. And instead of her admitting that she has

968
00:49:35,840 --> 00:49:38,480
Speaker 1: nothing to add that's beneficial to you, not saying that

969
00:49:38,520 --> 00:49:41,839
Speaker 1: she don't have something beneficial, it just what she got

970
00:49:42,000 --> 00:49:43,959
Speaker 1: you don't need. So she got to go where she's

971
00:49:44,040 --> 00:49:47,680
Speaker 1: needed at. And women become resentful because they stay where

972
00:49:47,680 --> 00:49:50,000
Speaker 1: they're not needed at. Go where a motherfucker need you at.

973
00:49:50,000 --> 00:49:53,160
Speaker 2: Because I don't need you here in that capacity.

974
00:49:53,200 --> 00:49:55,279
Speaker 1: That's not that's what I don't need you for. It

975
00:49:55,280 --> 00:49:56,680
Speaker 1: if you want me to need you for some shit

976
00:49:56,719 --> 00:49:57,400
Speaker 1: that I don't.

977
00:49:57,160 --> 00:49:59,960
Speaker 3: Need you, right, yeah, And then my focuses ain't on there.

978
00:50:00,120 --> 00:50:03,960
Speaker 3: But it is weird because they weaponize, and especially with

979
00:50:04,080 --> 00:50:08,040
Speaker 3: social media, there's words that's being weaponized as this. Some

980
00:50:08,080 --> 00:50:12,200
Speaker 3: of them words like what's the word all the girls?

981
00:50:12,239 --> 00:50:17,320
Speaker 3: You know, narcissists. That's one I've been called.

982
00:50:17,560 --> 00:50:20,799
Speaker 1: I can see that on you. That's all right, I

983
00:50:20,840 --> 00:50:23,680
Speaker 1: love them, gone hus. Look, you gotta listen, listen, you

984
00:50:23,719 --> 00:50:25,399
Speaker 1: gotta work through your shit. I can see it though.

985
00:50:25,600 --> 00:50:27,520
Speaker 1: But you wouldn't get to where you are without it.

986
00:50:27,560 --> 00:50:29,400
Speaker 1: You need some of it. And here's the thing. Just

987
00:50:29,400 --> 00:50:32,440
Speaker 1: because you have narcissistic tendencies, that doesn't make you a narcissist.

988
00:50:32,520 --> 00:50:37,040
Speaker 1: Every healthy, successful person has extreme narcissistic tendencies at times.

989
00:50:37,400 --> 00:50:39,360
Speaker 1: That is the way that you protect yourself.

990
00:50:41,040 --> 00:50:41,520
Speaker 2: Facts.

991
00:50:42,080 --> 00:50:45,600
Speaker 1: However, if you are a narcissist and you are manipulating

992
00:50:45,680 --> 00:50:49,239
Speaker 1: people and you don't have good intentions for people, and

993
00:50:49,280 --> 00:50:51,839
Speaker 1: you're out here mishandling people, you need to sit down

994
00:50:51,880 --> 00:50:52,520
Speaker 1: with somebody.

995
00:50:52,600 --> 00:50:55,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, And that's what I don't get, because it be

996
00:50:55,360 --> 00:51:00,000
Speaker 3: the people that's using me that's weaponizing narcissists.

997
00:51:00,080 --> 00:51:02,960
Speaker 1: Well, here's this about that too. They may not they

998
00:51:03,560 --> 00:51:07,040
Speaker 1: we It doesn't matter how much I try to communicate

999
00:51:07,080 --> 00:51:10,520
Speaker 1: with you if I don't speak your language right, And

1000
00:51:10,560 --> 00:51:13,480
Speaker 1: it's gonna be a very challenging feat for a certain

1001
00:51:13,560 --> 00:51:16,960
Speaker 1: type of woman to speak your language, because you're way

1002
00:51:17,160 --> 00:51:21,280
Speaker 1: over there somewhere, and she's over here having to offer

1003
00:51:21,360 --> 00:51:23,919
Speaker 1: what she has to offer, which may not be what

1004
00:51:23,960 --> 00:51:28,160
Speaker 1: you need, and she's doing her best to communicate but

1005
00:51:28,280 --> 00:51:31,719
Speaker 1: doesn't speak the language. So instead of learning the language,

1006
00:51:31,840 --> 00:51:35,839
Speaker 1: because sometimes women be lazy like that, we won't learn

1007
00:51:35,880 --> 00:51:39,480
Speaker 1: the language. Me. I've specialized in learning the language. I

1008
00:51:39,560 --> 00:51:43,160
Speaker 1: wanna see where I fit, right, So when I observe

1009
00:51:43,200 --> 00:51:45,640
Speaker 1: a man, I observe a man from the perspective of

1010
00:51:46,000 --> 00:51:46,919
Speaker 1: what can I make better?

1011
00:51:48,239 --> 00:51:50,839
Speaker 2: And that's that's the beautiful thing, Like.

1012
00:51:50,760 --> 00:51:53,680
Speaker 1: What where do I fit? Where do I fit? What

1013
00:51:53,760 --> 00:51:54,200
Speaker 1: can I do?

1014
00:51:54,920 --> 00:51:58,040
Speaker 3: They weaponize those words, yeah, and then they know I'm

1015
00:51:58,080 --> 00:52:00,400
Speaker 3: emotionally attached to the people like care for.

1016
00:52:01,040 --> 00:52:02,560
Speaker 2: And so when they say things.

1017
00:52:02,400 --> 00:52:03,400
Speaker 1: Are you a narcissist?

1018
00:52:03,719 --> 00:52:04,200
Speaker 2: No?

1019
00:52:04,400 --> 00:52:05,920
Speaker 1: Why what makes you say you're not?

1020
00:52:06,640 --> 00:52:09,399
Speaker 2: Because I care too much about the people that I care.

1021
00:52:09,719 --> 00:52:12,560
Speaker 1: It's a real psychological classification. People are be out here

1022
00:52:12,640 --> 00:52:16,120
Speaker 1: slinging what I'm saying, like it's like it's like bipolar

1023
00:52:16,239 --> 00:52:17,920
Speaker 1: or sizophrenia, Like that's.

1024
00:52:18,080 --> 00:52:20,160
Speaker 2: That's what I'm looking at it as like.

1025
00:52:20,080 --> 00:52:21,839
Speaker 1: The real, real classification.

1026
00:52:21,920 --> 00:52:24,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, So I'm talking about the real definition of it,

1027
00:52:24,160 --> 00:52:26,920
Speaker 3: not the social media I'm talking about.

1028
00:52:26,840 --> 00:52:28,799
Speaker 1: Because social media will diagnosi you. Yeah.

1029
00:52:28,880 --> 00:52:31,000
Speaker 3: So what I'm saying is I care too much about

1030
00:52:31,040 --> 00:52:35,680
Speaker 3: the people are narcissist to me? Right, And I could

1031
00:52:35,719 --> 00:52:37,840
Speaker 3: be off with this, but I care too much about

1032
00:52:37,840 --> 00:52:41,120
Speaker 3: the people that I'm that I care about, Like, I

1033
00:52:41,120 --> 00:52:42,240
Speaker 3: don't mishandle people.

1034
00:52:42,280 --> 00:52:44,239
Speaker 2: I hate to mishandle anything.

1035
00:52:44,440 --> 00:52:49,040
Speaker 1: Well, I believe like with narcissism specifically, it's directly correlated

1036
00:52:49,080 --> 00:52:55,160
Speaker 1: to your tendencies. If you find yourself like having bad intentions,

1037
00:52:55,239 --> 00:52:57,400
Speaker 1: And how do you know you have bad intentions? Is

1038
00:52:57,480 --> 00:52:59,120
Speaker 1: do you do stuff to hurt people?

1039
00:52:59,160 --> 00:53:02,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's that's what I'm saying. These are these how

1040
00:53:02,200 --> 00:53:03,640
Speaker 3: they weaponize.

1041
00:53:03,120 --> 00:53:05,759
Speaker 1: You, Like do you find yourself doing shit because you

1042
00:53:05,800 --> 00:53:08,600
Speaker 1: knew that would hurt I did it because I knew

1043
00:53:08,640 --> 00:53:09,480
Speaker 1: you was gonna feel it.

1044
00:53:09,560 --> 00:53:14,480
Speaker 2: Who does that? The universes? But the universe don't respect that.

1045
00:53:15,200 --> 00:53:17,680
Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying. The universe ain't respecting. No, that's

1046
00:53:17,680 --> 00:53:21,520
Speaker 3: some bullshit. That's some little boy pitty for me. Yeah,

1047
00:53:21,560 --> 00:53:25,080
Speaker 3: that's not who's doing that. So now here's also what

1048
00:53:25,239 --> 00:53:27,160
Speaker 3: I get controlling.

1049
00:53:27,800 --> 00:53:29,640
Speaker 1: But I like that, And this is why I like

1050
00:53:29,719 --> 00:53:30,239
Speaker 1: controlling