WEBVTT - Notice and embrace one-on-one time

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning.

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is to notice and embrace one on one time

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<v Speaker 1>with the people you care about. Special occasions are great,

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<v Speaker 1>but there might be moments in everyday life that can

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<v Speaker 1>be special as well. Longtime readers and listeners know that

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<v Speaker 1>I've often tried to do mommy days with my kids.

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<v Speaker 1>I have a lot of kids, and it can be

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<v Speaker 1>really fun to spend a day with just one of them,

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<v Speaker 1>doing what the kid wants to do. I know a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of people try to do something similar, especially over

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<v Speaker 1>the summer, when more flexible schedules make that possible. But

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<v Speaker 1>it is not always possible, and even if it is,

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<v Speaker 1>it is probably not wise to pin all your hopes

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<v Speaker 1>for a relationship on a particular day. Instead, I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's also wise to notice and embrace one on one

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<v Speaker 1>movements that just happen in the course of life, even

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<v Speaker 1>if they aren't planned. They do happen, and they can

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<v Speaker 1>be meaningful too. For instance, there are plenty of times when,

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<v Speaker 1>out of necessity, a parent is just with one kid.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe you are taking a teen to an orthodonist appointment

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<v Speaker 1>in the middle of a school day. Maybe you are

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<v Speaker 1>driving a kid to a swim meet on the other

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<v Speaker 1>side of town. Maybe one kid is out of friends

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<v Speaker 1>and you only have the other at home and you

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<v Speaker 1>need to run an errand. With a mindset of noticing

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<v Speaker 1>and embracing one on one time, you can pay more

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<v Speaker 1>attention to these instances and try to make them meaningful.

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<v Speaker 1>For instance, maybe you offer to take your kid out

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<v Speaker 1>for ice cream before bringing her back to school after

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<v Speaker 1>an appointment. Maybe you ask your kid to be the

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<v Speaker 1>DJ for your car as a way to get the

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<v Speaker 1>AirPods out of their ears and get them talking. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>you offer to stop somewhere that your kid enjoys after

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<v Speaker 1>your errands. These things aren't in lieu of one on

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<v Speaker 1>one days, which I think are great. They are just

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<v Speaker 1>in addition, but they all make deposits into your relationship

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<v Speaker 1>bank account. Noticing and embracing one on one time is

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<v Speaker 1>relevant for other relationships too. If you are sharing a

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<v Speaker 1>cab to a meeting with a colleague, actually talk with

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<v Speaker 1>each other about work, about your lives, or your shared interests.

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<v Speaker 1>Make the most of this time for relationship building. If

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<v Speaker 1>you're taking your elderly mother to a doctor's appointment, you

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<v Speaker 1>can spend the time in the waiting room chatting and

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<v Speaker 1>sharing memories. Let it be meaningful time for connection, not

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<v Speaker 1>just an interruption to your work. I hear from many

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<v Speaker 1>people who want to fit in more focused time for relationships,

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<v Speaker 1>and that can be great. But you may be able

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<v Speaker 1>to get more time for connection without adding anything to

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<v Speaker 1>your schedule by simply noticing and being present for the

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<v Speaker 1>one on one time you are already spending with your

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<v Speaker 1>loved ones. Keep your eyes open, be present, and you

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<v Speaker 1>just might find that you are already making progress on

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<v Speaker 1>this front. In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening,

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<v Speaker 1>and here's to making the most of our time. Thanks

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<v Speaker 1>for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've got questions, ideas,

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<v Speaker 1>or feedback, you can reach me at Laura at Laura

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