1 00:00:03,000 --> 00:00:09,360 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning. 2 00:00:10,680 --> 00:00:16,160 Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's 3 00:00:16,239 --> 00:00:20,240 Speaker 1: tip is to notice and embrace one on one time 4 00:00:20,600 --> 00:00:24,760 Speaker 1: with the people you care about. Special occasions are great, 5 00:00:25,640 --> 00:00:28,600 Speaker 1: but there might be moments in everyday life that can 6 00:00:28,640 --> 00:00:33,159 Speaker 1: be special as well. Longtime readers and listeners know that 7 00:00:33,200 --> 00:00:36,520 Speaker 1: I've often tried to do mommy days with my kids. 8 00:00:36,960 --> 00:00:38,960 Speaker 1: I have a lot of kids, and it can be 9 00:00:39,040 --> 00:00:42,200 Speaker 1: really fun to spend a day with just one of them, 10 00:00:42,560 --> 00:00:45,720 Speaker 1: doing what the kid wants to do. I know a 11 00:00:45,720 --> 00:00:48,479 Speaker 1: lot of people try to do something similar, especially over 12 00:00:48,560 --> 00:00:53,120 Speaker 1: the summer, when more flexible schedules make that possible. But 13 00:00:53,760 --> 00:00:57,360 Speaker 1: it is not always possible, and even if it is, 14 00:00:58,000 --> 00:01:00,840 Speaker 1: it is probably not wise to pin all your hopes 15 00:01:00,840 --> 00:01:05,479 Speaker 1: for a relationship on a particular day. Instead, I think 16 00:01:05,520 --> 00:01:08,800 Speaker 1: it's also wise to notice and embrace one on one 17 00:01:08,840 --> 00:01:12,800 Speaker 1: movements that just happen in the course of life, even 18 00:01:12,840 --> 00:01:16,440 Speaker 1: if they aren't planned. They do happen, and they can 19 00:01:16,480 --> 00:01:20,640 Speaker 1: be meaningful too. For instance, there are plenty of times when, 20 00:01:20,640 --> 00:01:23,400 Speaker 1: out of necessity, a parent is just with one kid. 21 00:01:24,000 --> 00:01:26,600 Speaker 1: Maybe you are taking a teen to an orthodonist appointment 22 00:01:26,640 --> 00:01:29,080 Speaker 1: in the middle of a school day. Maybe you are 23 00:01:29,160 --> 00:01:31,080 Speaker 1: driving a kid to a swim meet on the other 24 00:01:31,160 --> 00:01:34,440 Speaker 1: side of town. Maybe one kid is out of friends 25 00:01:34,480 --> 00:01:36,200 Speaker 1: and you only have the other at home and you 26 00:01:36,240 --> 00:01:40,240 Speaker 1: need to run an errand. With a mindset of noticing 27 00:01:40,319 --> 00:01:43,679 Speaker 1: and embracing one on one time, you can pay more 28 00:01:43,720 --> 00:01:47,319 Speaker 1: attention to these instances and try to make them meaningful. 29 00:01:48,440 --> 00:01:51,600 Speaker 1: For instance, maybe you offer to take your kid out 30 00:01:51,600 --> 00:01:53,840 Speaker 1: for ice cream before bringing her back to school after 31 00:01:53,880 --> 00:01:56,960 Speaker 1: an appointment. Maybe you ask your kid to be the 32 00:01:57,040 --> 00:01:59,400 Speaker 1: DJ for your car as a way to get the 33 00:01:59,440 --> 00:02:02,920 Speaker 1: AirPods out of their ears and get them talking. Maybe 34 00:02:02,920 --> 00:02:05,400 Speaker 1: you offer to stop somewhere that your kid enjoys after 35 00:02:05,440 --> 00:02:09,520 Speaker 1: your errands. These things aren't in lieu of one on 36 00:02:09,520 --> 00:02:12,720 Speaker 1: one days, which I think are great. They are just 37 00:02:13,160 --> 00:02:18,000 Speaker 1: in addition, but they all make deposits into your relationship 38 00:02:18,080 --> 00:02:22,720 Speaker 1: bank account. Noticing and embracing one on one time is 39 00:02:22,760 --> 00:02:26,920 Speaker 1: relevant for other relationships too. If you are sharing a 40 00:02:26,960 --> 00:02:30,120 Speaker 1: cab to a meeting with a colleague, actually talk with 41 00:02:30,160 --> 00:02:35,720 Speaker 1: each other about work, about your lives, or your shared interests. 42 00:02:36,320 --> 00:02:40,600 Speaker 1: Make the most of this time for relationship building. If 43 00:02:40,600 --> 00:02:44,000 Speaker 1: you're taking your elderly mother to a doctor's appointment, you 44 00:02:44,040 --> 00:02:46,160 Speaker 1: can spend the time in the waiting room chatting and 45 00:02:46,200 --> 00:02:50,800 Speaker 1: sharing memories. Let it be meaningful time for connection, not 46 00:02:51,040 --> 00:02:55,760 Speaker 1: just an interruption to your work. I hear from many 47 00:02:55,800 --> 00:02:59,240 Speaker 1: people who want to fit in more focused time for relationships, 48 00:02:59,800 --> 00:03:02,880 Speaker 1: and that can be great. But you may be able 49 00:03:02,919 --> 00:03:06,480 Speaker 1: to get more time for connection without adding anything to 50 00:03:06,520 --> 00:03:11,000 Speaker 1: your schedule by simply noticing and being present for the 51 00:03:11,040 --> 00:03:13,840 Speaker 1: one on one time you are already spending with your 52 00:03:13,880 --> 00:03:18,960 Speaker 1: loved ones. Keep your eyes open, be present, and you 53 00:03:19,120 --> 00:03:23,240 Speaker 1: just might find that you are already making progress on 54 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:29,680 Speaker 1: this front. In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening, 55 00:03:30,440 --> 00:03:40,200 Speaker 1: and here's to making the most of our time. Thanks 56 00:03:40,200 --> 00:03:44,280 Speaker 1: for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've got questions, ideas, 57 00:03:44,440 --> 00:03:47,880 Speaker 1: or feedback, you can reach me at Laura at Laura 58 00:03:48,000 --> 00:03:57,280 Speaker 1: vandercam dot com. Before Breakfast is a production of iHeartMedia. 59 00:03:57,960 --> 00:04:01,880 Speaker 1: For more podcasts from iHeartMedia, please visit the iHeartRadio app, 60 00:04:02,200 --> 00:04:05,440 Speaker 1: Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to your favorite shows.