Speaker 1: Welcome to Reasonably Shady, a production of The Black Effect
Speaker 1: Podcast Network and I Heart Radio. Hi, what's up? What's up? Okay,
Speaker 1: this is reasonably Shy. I am Gazelle Bryant. What's up?
Speaker 1: What's up? I am Robin Dixon. Thank you so much
Speaker 1: for joining us for our third episode. Oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: I think we must be doing something right, Robin, it's
Speaker 1: getting scary. We are. And guess what what? We pressed record? Yes,
Speaker 1: and we are recording everything that we're saying. So last episode, um, yeah,
Speaker 1: we talked for like over ten minutes. And Robin because
Speaker 1: it's her job to press record, okay, fine, it might
Speaker 1: be mine. Who knows if that didn't press it. This
Speaker 1: is a collaborative effort. Okay, alright, alright, it takes two
Speaker 1: green eye bandits to press record, all right, now, yes
Speaker 1: it does. But guess what, we will never make that
Speaker 1: wrong mistake again. Oh no, because I was ready to quit,
Speaker 1: like I was like, okay, my my podcast days are over.
Speaker 1: Oh gosh. All right, so we have a wonderful like
Speaker 1: we have a like explosive kind of episode tonight. Yes,
Speaker 1: this is a fun topic. I think I know you
Speaker 1: and I have a lot of input on it. I
Speaker 1: know our listeners are going to be right there with us, Yes, agreeing,
Speaker 1: having you know, the same shared experiences, all that good stuff. Yes,
Speaker 1: And the topic tonight is I don't have us tonight.
Speaker 1: But the topic for this episode is hey, girlfriend, we're
Speaker 1: talking all things. Girlfriend. We're talking do we like them?
Speaker 1: Do we hate them? Do we need new friends? Um,
Speaker 1: we're getting into it. Can we get into the girlfriend scenario? Yes?
Speaker 1: Because you know what, it's so weird, like it doesn't
Speaker 1: matter how old we are. Yes, it's still like navigating
Speaker 1: the friendship world is still kind of awkward. You know,
Speaker 1: you find out that like, Okay, it doesn't matter how
Speaker 1: old we are, people still have issues and we still
Speaker 1: need to be sensitive towards them. Yes, yes, So but
Speaker 1: before we get into the episode, of course, we have
Speaker 1: our reasonably shady moment of the week. So I'm going
Speaker 1: to go first. And since the topic is about girlfriends friends, um,
Speaker 1: this is going to be centered around that. So so
Speaker 1: my reasonably shady moment goes to myself of course. Um,
Speaker 1: and it's because I actually picked up the phone and
Speaker 1: called two of my friends, you know, like nowadays, like
Speaker 1: you know, we just text, you know, you might say,
Speaker 1: you know, hey, girl, you look cute on on Instagram
Speaker 1: or something, but like you don't really pick up the
Speaker 1: phone that much and talk to your friends these days,
Speaker 1: or certain ones are certain friends that talk all the time,
Speaker 1: Like you and I we talk all the time. So
Speaker 1: this is where the shady part comes in now, because
Speaker 1: I was fuse, you just pick up the phone call
Speaker 1: and your girlfriends. When when is the shade coming in?
Speaker 1: The shady part is it was like thirty seconds into
Speaker 1: the call and I'm like, so you know this is
Speaker 1: why I don't call because they was talking about nothing.
Speaker 1: They was just a wine and a complaining and it's like,
Speaker 1: oh God, now I know why I don't call or
Speaker 1: why I don't pick the phone up instantly. So you know, Okay,
Speaker 1: along those same lines, So you have some friends when
Speaker 1: they call, You're like, Okay, let me see what you want.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna pick I'm gonna pick up because you know
Speaker 1: she's calling for a reason, or it's gonna be like
Speaker 1: you know you're gonna have a good conversation. Okay, girl,
Speaker 1: let's talk about this man bad man. I'm off. Then
Speaker 1: there's other friends that call and you're like, lord, what
Speaker 1: do shell? God? I don't got time. I can't do
Speaker 1: it right now. I'm cooking dinner. She's gonna distract me.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to like, no, this is this is a that.
Speaker 1: Those are the ones that you call when you're in
Speaker 1: the car, like when you're driving long distances and you're like, okay,
Speaker 1: who can I call and you're like, let me call
Speaker 1: her friend back. So I'm in the car, I call
Speaker 1: her back, okay, and I'm just like, why, so did
Speaker 1: you lie to her and making an excuse to get
Speaker 1: off the phone. No, and see that, and this is
Speaker 1: the reasonable part. I am a good friend, and I
Speaker 1: know sometimes my friends just want me to listen or
Speaker 1: you know, they just want to hear my voice, or
Speaker 1: they want to hear that I care. And I do care.
Speaker 1: But there's just the limit where I'm like, okay, enough,
Speaker 1: it's enough. Is enough for shady Giselle would have been like, girl,
Speaker 1: oh my god, I gotta go. I got a flat tire,
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I gotta go. It was actually when
Speaker 1: we went to um the music video that we were
Speaker 1: at whole d that whole Okay, that was a good
Speaker 1: hour and a half. Yeah, okay, yeah, yeah, alright, So
Speaker 1: my reasonably shady. Moment of the week is um. Okay.
Speaker 1: So I am a huge proponent of getting rid of
Speaker 1: this thing called COVID. So I got myself a little
Speaker 1: appointment and I got my first shot. My vaccine is
Speaker 1: in my arm, and I am mad at the entire world.
Speaker 1: Why because everybody says, so, your arm is gonna hurt
Speaker 1: a little bit, but you're gonna be good. No, just
Speaker 1: that was flat on her back. Okay, I was. I
Speaker 1: was on my I had chills fever, I was shaking.
Speaker 1: My kids were looking over me like, Mommy, are you
Speaker 1: going to be okay? And I was really not prepared
Speaker 1: for what came with that first shot. Now am I
Speaker 1: getting the second shot? Of course I am. Do I
Speaker 1: think everybody should be vaccinated, Yes, I do. But I
Speaker 1: just want to say the world is shady because y'all
Speaker 1: lied to me about the symptoms and the side effects.
Speaker 1: I mean I heard some people say they had side effects.
Speaker 1: You hear it all, Oh, it's not that bad or um,
Speaker 1: I was tired, I couldn't get out of bed all day. Well,
Speaker 1: for me, it was bad, And I just want people
Speaker 1: to know that it can be bad, yes, because I
Speaker 1: think if they don't know that, then they think like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, this thing is gonna kill me, or
Speaker 1: you know, I know it's wouldn't have taken it, or
Speaker 1: you know something's wrong. So yeah, it probably is good
Speaker 1: for them to tell you, like, um, this thing is
Speaker 1: not going to be easy. Now I did after I
Speaker 1: got the shot go out and have drinks. But that's
Speaker 1: a whole another story and we don't need to talk
Speaker 1: about that anyway. Let's move into the episode. Is that
Speaker 1: in the rules there a rule or something. Listen, Okay,
Speaker 1: it is time to start this episode in which we're
Speaker 1: going to talk about our girlfriends. Hey girlfriends, girl, how
Speaker 1: you doing? Okay, So, first and foremost, at this point
Speaker 1: in time in our lives, are we Drake? Do we
Speaker 1: need new friends? No new friends? How's it going? No
Speaker 1: new friends? No new friends? I can't remember how it
Speaker 1: goes either. Robin sings sing the wrong song right now? Okay?
Speaker 1: So I do appreciate, for instance, you and I, Robin,
Speaker 1: we met later in life, and if I had the
Speaker 1: thought in my head okay, no new friends, then our
Speaker 1: friendship would not have happened. So true. Okay, So I
Speaker 1: want to block myself from new people that are coming
Speaker 1: into my life. You never know what why God is
Speaker 1: sending somebody into your life, so I never want to
Speaker 1: do that. However, these women out here crazy, right. I
Speaker 1: think the older we get, the more you know, well
Speaker 1: set in the ways people are um, the more like
Speaker 1: and especially if they've experienced some things. It's weird. Like
Speaker 1: I keep thinking, like, oh, as adults, you should realize,
Speaker 1: like you know, life is like a box of chocolates,
Speaker 1: and you know, you get tougher and you just kind
Speaker 1: of roll with the punches. But some people let everything
Speaker 1: they go through like scar them, and and then they
Speaker 1: become more pressed to like impress people or you know,
Speaker 1: it's like this this crazy need to keep up with
Speaker 1: the joneses and to make sure that you are like,
Speaker 1: you know, the baddest one and or you know whatever.
Speaker 1: It is like competing with people, and I think that's
Speaker 1: when we have a problem. But I find and it's
Speaker 1: you know, this is crazy. I never thought I would
Speaker 1: say this, but like I'm making friends with like the
Speaker 1: sports ums that I hang out with, you know, I
Speaker 1: mean from your kids, from your kids teams, so my
Speaker 1: kids football teams, basketball teams. And it's like, because those
Speaker 1: are women that I spend a lot of time with
Speaker 1: and you'll have something in common, which is the game
Speaker 1: that your kids are playing, right exactly our kids. Our
Speaker 1: kids might become friends, and but it's something it's like
Speaker 1: it's funny because you're like, Okay, when I was growing up,
Speaker 1: but I've made friends with this person or what I've
Speaker 1: been friends with this person in college. Not necessarily like
Speaker 1: you wouldn't have chosen to be that be friends with
Speaker 1: some of these people, but because you're around them all
Speaker 1: the time, you're communicating with them all the time, you
Speaker 1: end up you know, like you know, I kind of
Speaker 1: share before in a hotel room drinking all night with people,
Speaker 1: and that was episode one. If y'all miss that Robin
Speaker 1: drinks with these women that she meets and they're in
Speaker 1: hotel rooms and they don't make it to the games
Speaker 1: the next day to see their kids play. We do,
Speaker 1: but like with one I opened, they're delirious. They have
Speaker 1: no idea what's happening. Okay. So another question is when
Speaker 1: you meet these new people, do you google them? Well,
Speaker 1: it depends, Okay. I feel like when you meet someone
Speaker 1: that is that comes in the room and it's talking
Speaker 1: about what they do and who they are, and what
Speaker 1: they have and what their man has and where they live.
Speaker 1: Then yeah, I'm a googling you. Yes, and I'm googling
Speaker 1: your house, your address. Okay, okay, okay, I'm not going
Speaker 1: that far. But I kind of feel like, um, if
Speaker 1: if you're in my personal space and potentially in my
Speaker 1: intimate setting, right, I don't know what's gonna happen. The
Speaker 1: cops might come. I don't know if you if you're
Speaker 1: a drug dealer girlfriend, if you had a criminal background
Speaker 1: and all of a sudden the fans caught up with you, Like,
Speaker 1: I don't want to be around when the fads come.
Speaker 1: But that's not going to be on on Google. It's
Speaker 1: just not So it's not gonna be like You're gonna
Speaker 1: be like Susie Jones is her boyfriend is a jug dealer.
Speaker 1: It would be on Google because this has happened. I
Speaker 1: had a friend and she had a case pending. Oh
Speaker 1: and so that's a case search. Oh well I didn't
Speaker 1: it just ship. It just came. It was in the
Speaker 1: Washington Post, So it just came up when I googled her,
Speaker 1: and so so then I knew, Okay, if I go
Speaker 1: out with her and just have some drinks. There's a
Speaker 1: potential that somebody might come that night lock her up. True,
Speaker 1: But are you going to be doing illegal activity with
Speaker 1: that friend? No, I'm not doing any illegal activity. But
Speaker 1: I just need to know because I'm just going to
Speaker 1: get locked up for associated with her. I don't I
Speaker 1: don't want to be in the paper like Jaelle Bryant
Speaker 1: was there when so so got locked up. No, I
Speaker 1: don't want that. So instead, you're just going to be
Speaker 1: like out to drinks and like your head is on
Speaker 1: a swivel. I'm not going. And when she invites me
Speaker 1: to for drinks, I'm not going. You're not going to
Speaker 1: be her friend? Oh right, that's mean Okay, No, I'm not.
Speaker 1: And that's when Drake comes in friends exactly. Okay, I
Speaker 1: mean I think. Right, So, if it's a new friend
Speaker 1: she's got some criminal record, yeah you might want to
Speaker 1: you know, stand back, yes, yes, But if it's a
Speaker 1: friend that you've had for a while and she got
Speaker 1: into a little bit of trouble, I say you continue
Speaker 1: to support her, Okay, alright, so you know because I know,
Speaker 1: and it bothers the freak out of me. That a
Speaker 1: lot of times, especially when when we meet people, they
Speaker 1: feel like they have something to prove, right for whatever reason,
Speaker 1: I don't know. Maybe it's because we don't we on TV.
Speaker 1: I don't know what it is, but they feel like
Speaker 1: they've got something to prove, so they want to come
Speaker 1: to the conversation talking about all this stuff like bragging,
Speaker 1: like name dropping. That is an instant turn off for me,
Speaker 1: Like you you want me to turn my ears off?
Speaker 1: Like they're like, just you know, my ears don't work
Speaker 1: as soon as you start talking about who you know
Speaker 1: and what you did and what you have and No,
Speaker 1: the best way to make friends, I think is to
Speaker 1: just be normal. Just be you. Don't try to be
Speaker 1: something you're not, just be who you are. Right. And
Speaker 1: it's weird. It's like I think some people might hear
Speaker 1: that where we're like, you know, we don't want to
Speaker 1: hear people bragging like oh, well, maybe you're jealous of
Speaker 1: what their what's coming out of their mouth. It's like, no,
Speaker 1: I want to have a connection with someone because I
Speaker 1: connect with them with their personality. Um, I don't want
Speaker 1: it to be Okay, Well, I'm impressed by what you
Speaker 1: have and what you do, so I want to be
Speaker 1: your friends. So I can benefit from what you have
Speaker 1: and what you do. You know, that's a no. Yeah.
Speaker 1: And there's been times I remember, like, you know, years
Speaker 1: ago when I was, when we were young and done,
Speaker 1: we would buy new cars like all the time. And
Speaker 1: I remember like buying a car, and I'm a type
Speaker 1: I don't like, I don't go around bragging about what
Speaker 1: I have. And and the next time my friends saw me,
Speaker 1: they were like, oh my god, why didn't you tell
Speaker 1: me you got a new car? And I'm like, wow,
Speaker 1: would I tell you that I got a new car? Yes?
Speaker 1: And people who asked that, I gotta look at them
Speaker 1: weird because it's like, why you why? Why is that
Speaker 1: the topic of conversation? Why is materialistic things the only
Speaker 1: topic of conversation? Exactly? So that's the type of stuff
Speaker 1: like where my antennas are up when the focus is
Speaker 1: on materialistic things, or you know, what you have or
Speaker 1: what you do or who you know. I mean, there
Speaker 1: are some people we we know, we have mutual friends
Speaker 1: or mutual acquaintances that they come in the room and like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I was with Bobby Brown the other night and then
Speaker 1: Al Sharpton called me, and then all Sharpton didn't call
Speaker 1: you and they don't know you. And then I was
Speaker 1: I was at a restaurant and Hillary Clinton walked over
Speaker 1: and was like, I think I met you before. Like
Speaker 1: it's like girl styles. Stop. Were not impressed. We're actually
Speaker 1: turned off if it comes up in casual conversation, right,
Speaker 1: you know. Like, So I don't want people to think like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, well I can't share anything about my life.
Speaker 1: But it's a certain way to do it. I have
Speaker 1: to make an admission. I don't like talking about anything deep, okay,
Speaker 1: or anything spiritual. Okay, I just don't. I noticed real bad.
Speaker 1: That's not a surprise to me. It's not surprise to
Speaker 1: Robbing or anyone else that knows me. I don't have
Speaker 1: no deep conversation. And people probably think you do because
Speaker 1: you're like a preacher's wife. They probably think like you
Speaker 1: sit around and just have deep thoughts. Yeah. No, I'm
Speaker 1: not sitting around reciting gospel hymns. Okay, I'm not doing that.
Speaker 1: And I'm just I don't want anything that's like I
Speaker 1: have to like really super think about it. So talk
Speaker 1: to me only if I just met you about surface things, okay.
Speaker 1: So um so so word to anyone that meets just
Speaker 1: wants to be her friend, Surfer her about the weather,
Speaker 1: talk to her about her favorite place to vacation, and restaurants,
Speaker 1: her favorite design, my shoes, talking about my shoes, my airrings,
Speaker 1: favorite restaurant, and and I don't know what the last
Speaker 1: thing you watched on Netflix? Yes, the latest Netflix. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's it. If you talk about anything outside of that,
Speaker 1: I would have had to have known you for a
Speaker 1: very long time. Well, so there's levels two girlfriends, friendships,
Speaker 1: there's levels, yes, But I feel like, what about business?
Speaker 1: What if there's a woman that an entrepreneur and you know,
Speaker 1: you wanna you all kind of just start talking about
Speaker 1: what you do and I like that. Okay, you like that.
Speaker 1: I like that, But you can't lie. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: we're not lying. We're not bragging. No line, no bragging. Okay,
Speaker 1: all right, So I like that. So if you're coming
Speaker 1: to me and we just met and we're bonding over business, um,
Speaker 1: the best way to you know, start up a business
Speaker 1: being an entrepreneur being the pitfalls of being a black
Speaker 1: woman in this in this world call I mean this
Speaker 1: thing called life. Stay stay tuned for that episode that's coming. Yes,
Speaker 1: that's that's coming out. I love that okay, because I
Speaker 1: always want to see black women win. But the minute
Speaker 1: you get deep with it and start talk about I was,
Speaker 1: I was, what if she's like and God told me that. No,
Speaker 1: the minute you get deep, but I'm out, I'm tuned out.
Speaker 1: I have tuned the freak out. I am. I'm not listen.
Speaker 1: That's the reason why she's a multimillionaire, because she told
Speaker 1: her to do to open that business. Okay, fine, I'll
Speaker 1: listen then, all right, but you can't. There's again, there's
Speaker 1: levels to girlfriend friendship. Level number one talk about nothing, okay.
Speaker 1: Level number two you can get throw some business in. Okay,
Speaker 1: But you know what I do? You hate? I hate
Speaker 1: when I go to a I mean, it doesn't happen
Speaker 1: that much anymore because now we're on TV and people
Speaker 1: recognize this. But in the past, people go to like
Speaker 1: the social events and you're just meeting random people and
Speaker 1: the very very very first question out of their mouth
Speaker 1: is what do you do? So what do you do
Speaker 1: for a living? I say nothing. I stit on the couch.
Speaker 1: Me too. I'd be like, well, I thank you for asking,
Speaker 1: but I am a stay at home woman. I just
Speaker 1: find it very pretentious when people come and they ask
Speaker 1: that kind because they want you to ask them what
Speaker 1: they do because they're like, you know, a high power,
Speaker 1: they're like a partner at a law firm, and they
Speaker 1: would like tell you that. Like, I just hate that question,
Speaker 1: and maybe I hate it because like I never I
Speaker 1: didn't really have something I wanted to talk because Robin
Speaker 1: was actually at at home on that. Yeah, Like if
Speaker 1: I was like a surgeon, I'd be like, yes, I
Speaker 1: am a brain surgeon, and I'd be like thank you
Speaker 1: for asking, right, right, Okay, So there's always I find
Speaker 1: like in a group of girlfriends that's this girlfriends that
Speaker 1: you're have in different categories, right for sure? So this
Speaker 1: girlfriends that you want to hang out with and have
Speaker 1: drinks with. So are are their friends that you like
Speaker 1: them better when they're drunk? Right? Like there's some friends
Speaker 1: that they're they're non drunk self, I can't stand, but
Speaker 1: when they're drunk, Oh they're amazing, right right, that's not
Speaker 1: good though, it's not good at all. But I only
Speaker 1: want to be around you when you're drunk. So then
Speaker 1: do you like push drinks towards their way? And I
Speaker 1: only want to be around you if drinks are being
Speaker 1: served so, so then that's a surface friend. Okay, yes, right, yes,
Speaker 1: that's that's a surface friend, like you have no desire
Speaker 1: to talk to that person on the phone or to
Speaker 1: hear about what they're going through or you know, to
Speaker 1: talk about what you're you know, right, No, so, and
Speaker 1: and there's a friend that we both know, and she
Speaker 1: doesn't want to drink anymore, right, and she I don't
Speaker 1: want to be around her like when she was drinking, Oh,
Speaker 1: she was the life of the party. She was the
Speaker 1: best woman in the room. But now that she doesn't
Speaker 1: want to drink anymore, I don't want to see her,
Speaker 1: I know. But then you have to worry about people
Speaker 1: like that, like what's going on in their real life
Speaker 1: that they can't be fun and enjoyable when they're not drinking.
Speaker 1: But see, that's not this is like this is girlfriends.
Speaker 1: I'm not married to you. That's not my problem, Like
Speaker 1: I'm not you know what I'm saying. We just friends,
Speaker 1: like you know, you gotta you gotta worry about your
Speaker 1: own problems on your own time. Yes, she did the
Speaker 1: worst friend. Yeah, she's a surface friend. Yes I am
Speaker 1: the worst. Now then you have I have some friends
Speaker 1: where I'm like, please don't get drunk. Why Because it's
Speaker 1: like because then they become the one that's like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, I'm so upset. My life is so crazy,
Speaker 1: like like they become emotional then and then they ruin
Speaker 1: your drunkenness like they ruin your they blow the high,
Speaker 1: your high, you know, and it's like, oh, good, what
Speaker 1: are you doing? Okay that whoever that is in your life,
Speaker 1: she's not going out with us. I don't want her
Speaker 1: around because I don't want no crying drunks at the club.
Speaker 1: That's crazy. Okay, I'm so horrible, right, So yeah, that's like,
Speaker 1: but that's that can be like your real good friend
Speaker 1: in real life, and then put some drinks up in
Speaker 1: her and she's just like a Debbie Downer right right?
Speaker 1: Und Now, do you feel like girlfriends tell you that
Speaker 1: truth as it relates to their their whole factor, right,
Speaker 1: their their whole meter, right, Because that's really important. And
Speaker 1: the reason why it's important is because if her whole
Speaker 1: meter is off the charts, she's gonna sleep with your man,
Speaker 1: no question. So it's always like when she starts talking
Speaker 1: about stuff she's doing, it's like I'm side eyeing her
Speaker 1: because at any given moment, she's going to try to
Speaker 1: sleep with the dude I'm right now, especially if she
Speaker 1: said her boyfriend was married. I'm always feeling like we
Speaker 1: might try to sleep with I'm not married, but she
Speaker 1: just you have no roles, you have no boundaries. I
Speaker 1: need roles. Well, okay, So the question is, so you
Speaker 1: meet a new friend, do you ask them what their
Speaker 1: whole meter is? No, you just listen when okay, you
Speaker 1: just listen to the things she starts saying, probing questions
Speaker 1: you asked, um, yes you know, hey girl, you know
Speaker 1: you're married? No, who you're saying all? I'm saying so
Speaker 1: a so. But but then this is another question that
Speaker 1: goes along with that. So, if you are in a relationship,
Speaker 1: or if you're married in a relationship, do you even
Speaker 1: want to invite new friends around that are single? You know?
Speaker 1: Or do you want most of your new friends to
Speaker 1: be in a relationship? M you know the plot picking
Speaker 1: I think I think that yes, if I was married,
Speaker 1: I would want my new girlfriends to also be married
Speaker 1: or in a like significant relationship. I don't want no
Speaker 1: straggly single girls just around, right, because then that doesn't
Speaker 1: even work. So it's like, oh, all right, honey, you're
Speaker 1: talking to your man. All right, honey, I'm about to
Speaker 1: go out with Tracy. Who's Tracy? Oh? Tracy? Tracy is
Speaker 1: my friendly can I played the part of one who's Tracy?
Speaker 1: I never heard no Tracy. Well I just met Tracy.
Speaker 1: We were at the mall and I bumped into her
Speaker 1: and we were shot being and like, she just wants
Speaker 1: to hang out and where y'all going. We're just gonna
Speaker 1: get some drinks. M hmm. What time you coming back?
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know. It will be out like
Speaker 1: a couple of hours. Maybe it's Tracy. What's so she married?
Speaker 1: What's up with um? I don't think Yeah. No, Now,
Speaker 1: Wine is not going to say no, but he is
Speaker 1: going to be He's going to ask fifty questions and
Speaker 1: call me fifty times. Yeah, he's going. Okay. Just for
Speaker 1: those of y'all don't know why Dixon Wine calls Robbing
Speaker 1: a thousand times a day. Like we've been sitting here
Speaker 1: doing this podcast. Now we're all minute twenty two. He's
Speaker 1: called four times. Okay, I'm lying, But Whine calls Robin.
Speaker 1: Now if one thanks, Robin is out doing something she's
Speaker 1: supposed to be doing that puts some calls. Repeat, Okay,
Speaker 1: Dixon and Win is the type of guy do you
Speaker 1: think someone on the side of the road and now
Speaker 1: he doesn't? Why? Is the type of guy that if
Speaker 1: you don't answer, he keeps calling back and heeps calling
Speaker 1: back and do you ain't what I call my friends? Yes? Yes,
Speaker 1: And then he will call anybody that she said she
Speaker 1: was with. Okay, that's just one. That's the nature of
Speaker 1: their relationship. No judgment. It's crazy, but no judgment. He's
Speaker 1: just worried. Okay, the man at the gas station kidnapped me. Okay.
Speaker 1: But I I totally agree. I feel like girlfriends that
Speaker 1: are not that don't have the same demographic that you
Speaker 1: are living should not come into your circle. I mean,
Speaker 1: I just think that that's you're you're setting yourself up
Speaker 1: for problems, right, I agree, unless you have like mutual
Speaker 1: friends that can vouch for that person. You know, I
Speaker 1: just feel like not a random that it's totally living
Speaker 1: the single whole life. No, that's not gonna work, Like,
Speaker 1: no at all, No, not at all. Um and and
Speaker 1: it so so we're saying all this to say, it
Speaker 1: becomes very difficult for you to really a trust people
Speaker 1: that are going to be in your circle. UM, I
Speaker 1: don't think that, you know, I get real nervous about
Speaker 1: what people. You know, if I have a conversation with somebody,
Speaker 1: like how they take that conversation later, Like how that
Speaker 1: convers you know what I mean, Like, M I think
Speaker 1: it's a great conversation, but they walk away and they're like,
Speaker 1: Gezell's an asshole, And I'm like, but I thought it
Speaker 1: was good. I thought we had jokes and everything. So,
Speaker 1: you know, I always get feel weird about it sometimes.
Speaker 1: But but the reality of it is you have to
Speaker 1: really have your spotty senses up with all people, not
Speaker 1: just girlfriends, but like all people, because people are crazy
Speaker 1: out here in the streets. I'm trying to remember the
Speaker 1: last time I met a new friend and like outside
Speaker 1: of the show, you know, not because of the show, um,
Speaker 1: that I connected with and like really developed a friendship with. Um.
Speaker 1: You know what I would say, like, Um, Vicky Vicky Irvin,
Speaker 1: who is I met her on a business matter? Yes,
Speaker 1: and that kind of you know, created a friendship. Yes,
Speaker 1: And Vicky Irvin, you did your um lipstick with correct? Okay,
Speaker 1: so we had so so I did a lipstick lip
Speaker 1: lost collaboration with her. So she's an entrepreneur. Um, my
Speaker 1: real estate mentor introduced me to her because he thought
Speaker 1: that she could be helpful to me because he knew
Speaker 1: that I was just you know, getting into the entrepreneurial space,
Speaker 1: and so so that friendship developed. Um, but it was
Speaker 1: it started more. It's I feel like nowadays at our age,
Speaker 1: when we meet people it's because of a purpose. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: it's it's it's got to be. You guys have to
Speaker 1: be aligned in some kind of way. So so if
Speaker 1: it's not business, it might be because you said my kids,
Speaker 1: because kids or your partners might know each other, and
Speaker 1: then you guys bond over that. Um. Otherwise it's just
Speaker 1: like I'm not going and getting my hair done and
Speaker 1: I meet you at the salon and we become friends.
Speaker 1: That's not happening. No, No, definitely. In it's it's like
Speaker 1: kind of weird when people are like, oh, we should
Speaker 1: exchange numbers and you're like, no, we shouldn't. Why we
Speaker 1: should not, because first of all, I'm already not the
Speaker 1: best friend that I can be to the friends that
Speaker 1: I already have, you know, because I'm just kidding. Rob
Speaker 1: is great to me probably these days get most of
Speaker 1: my friend time. That's very much. Other friends are probably
Speaker 1: hating on you, I know. But actually that happened to
Speaker 1: me in the gym, so very nice. Um lady girl.
Speaker 1: She walked up to me and she started asking me.
Speaker 1: She she saw that my house is being renovated, and
Speaker 1: she asked me about it, and then she talked about
Speaker 1: the fact that she's got she knows somebody who you know,
Speaker 1: has a renovation business or something. And then she was like, Oh,
Speaker 1: you're so super cool. We should hang out. Let's exchange numbers. Yeah, no,
Speaker 1: I'm not that superb. I'm not. And I and she
Speaker 1: made me give her my number, Like it was kind
Speaker 1: of like her phone was out and I had my
Speaker 1: phone in my hand, and like I didn't know what
Speaker 1: to do. I couldn't back away, so I had to
Speaker 1: give her my number. And it was just like so weird.
Speaker 1: And I thought to myself, Oh my god, I hope
Speaker 1: she hasn't called me. Did she know? Thank God? But
Speaker 1: but but when things like that happen, it just makes
Speaker 1: me feel like this is not authentic. I want to
Speaker 1: meet girlfriends and it's an authentic relationship, you know. It's
Speaker 1: a great feeling right. It's not like pushed on you exactly.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, Um, digital interaction? What the hell is that?
Speaker 1: Social media? Okay? So I'm supposed to meet people on
Speaker 1: social media? Okay, for the record, let's just say, for
Speaker 1: the record, I feel like I have enough girlfriends in
Speaker 1: my life. Do you oh I have tons? Yes? I
Speaker 1: have tons? Yes? Okay, But so you are you asking
Speaker 1: if on social media somebody reaches out? So okay, So
Speaker 1: say on social media you have like acquaintances kind of
Speaker 1: in they're trying. It's like does that muddy your your
Speaker 1: real your interaction with them in real life? So you
Speaker 1: have people who I think, um are more friendly on
Speaker 1: social media than they are in real life. Like they
Speaker 1: might see you come afar and like not speak, and
Speaker 1: then on social media they're all like, hey girl, how
Speaker 1: would you know? Um, you just know, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I feel like that's like people not being comfortable, you know,
Speaker 1: like you like, okay, if you see someone who's commenting
Speaker 1: on your social media, but when you see them in
Speaker 1: real life, they're barely like coming up to you and
Speaker 1: saying hi. Okay, So there's social media friends, right right,
Speaker 1: But then but they're like almost intimidated in real life
Speaker 1: to come up to you. Yeah, that's that's weird. So
Speaker 1: it's kind of like you're hiding behind your social media handle. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's I find that to be a stalker exactly. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean it's I just think it's more of like
Speaker 1: maybe they are socially awkward or maybe they're intimidated. But
Speaker 1: I have experienced that where people will interact with me
Speaker 1: more on social media than if they were actually face
Speaker 1: to face. Right, Okay, Okay, So I do have some
Speaker 1: girlfriends and unfortunately they're like sorority sisters, right, and unfortunately
Speaker 1: there sororities. Well there was a reason. I mean, I
Speaker 1: love the fact that they're my sorority sisters, but like
Speaker 1: that's the reason why they've been in my life forever. Right.
Speaker 1: But then as time goes by, you know, as you
Speaker 1: get older, you change, you grow, and you see people
Speaker 1: who don't change and grow, and then you realize they're losers.
Speaker 1: Right is that terrible to say? Like they're kind of
Speaker 1: like they're stuck. They're stuck. They're stuck, they haven't grown,
Speaker 1: they haven't evolved, and you're at a totally different place.
Speaker 1: So how do you deal with do you do you
Speaker 1: cut those people out of your life. Don't listen to
Speaker 1: me because I cut people like I got I got
Speaker 1: a machete, I here, and I'd just be cut. No,
Speaker 1: you know why you don't cut them out because guess what,
Speaker 1: one day you might be in a totally different places. Yes,
Speaker 1: and you might need your friends to love you unconditionally. Right.
Speaker 1: So I have you know, my sore roars that I
Speaker 1: love dearly that I probably would never have have even
Speaker 1: met if I weren't in the sority, you know, so
Speaker 1: I would would have never really been friends with them,
Speaker 1: and we are totally different people. I mean, the sority
Speaker 1: is a good thing because it kind of forces you
Speaker 1: to receive people where they are, to love them regardless,
Speaker 1: and to kind of be their friend regardless like whether
Speaker 1: or not you would be their friend or not outside
Speaker 1: of the sorority. And so I think it's you know,
Speaker 1: you can't be like you didn't level up yet, girls,
Speaker 1: So I'm not going to be your friends. Not you
Speaker 1: didn't level up. But it's kind of like the the
Speaker 1: the we're in a different space mentally, right, Okay, So
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna say to the people, if you want
Speaker 1: to cut people out your life. Because God brings people
Speaker 1: in your life for a reason in the season, then
Speaker 1: go ahead on and do it. I'm not mad at you,
Speaker 1: I mean but reasonable, Robin. Just don't be mad when
Speaker 1: other people cut you out of their life. Okay, listen,
Speaker 1: I've been begging people to cut me out there life. Please?
Speaker 1: Can I have it at writing? Right? Are you sure? Yes?
Speaker 1: Oh my God, leave me alone. But but I do
Speaker 1: feel like, you know, there comes a time and place
Speaker 1: where you want people that can add value, right, and
Speaker 1: you want you want to be you want to surround
Speaker 1: yourself with people that are constantly allowing you to be
Speaker 1: your greater self. And and sometimes the girlfriends can't come
Speaker 1: on that journey. But but why is it just because
Speaker 1: so so you're saying mentally they're like they're negative or
Speaker 1: they are because just because they might not be on
Speaker 1: your level, they might still be able to provide some
Speaker 1: sort of support to you or some sort of encouragement
Speaker 1: or you know, friendship. Right, Yes, yes, that's true. And
Speaker 1: sometimes you want to keep that friend who was there
Speaker 1: with you before you are you were the person you
Speaker 1: are today. Okay, but if but if we've known each
Speaker 1: other for like twenty five years and you're still talking
Speaker 1: about the same ship that you were talking about when
Speaker 1: I met you five years ago, then there's a problem. Yeah,
Speaker 1: well that's a big problem, right, Like if I if
Speaker 1: I feel like and it's not that I've leveled up
Speaker 1: and you stayed the same, it's like mentally we're just
Speaker 1: not there, right. So have you said that to them? No?
Speaker 1: I thought, don't that. I think that's rude. If I
Speaker 1: tell people you are a loser, We'll see. That's a
Speaker 1: conversation like what is okay to say to your friends
Speaker 1: and what's not okay to say to your friends, because
Speaker 1: sometimes your friends need to hear the hard truth and
Speaker 1: if they don't receive it the way you intended, then
Speaker 1: that's on them. That is very true. And to be
Speaker 1: honest with you, I am very honest with my friends,
Speaker 1: I think. And do they appreciate your honesty? Hell? Nodate
Speaker 1: me know I'm getting I think they do. You want
Speaker 1: to know why? Because I have so many friends that
Speaker 1: I've had forever and they tell me things that I've
Speaker 1: said to them ten fifteen years later that helped them
Speaker 1: in that moment that I didn't know help them. But
Speaker 1: they tell me, hey, I remember you said this to
Speaker 1: me a long time ago, and then I broke up
Speaker 1: with that loser dude and I found this other guy
Speaker 1: or whatever, whatever the scenario is. They repeat to me
Speaker 1: verbatim what I said to them, and so, um, oh
Speaker 1: did I tell you I was an oracle? I this
Speaker 1: is what I know. I'm going off the deep end. Okay, fine,
Speaker 1: but now I do. I'm getting deep and y'all know
Speaker 1: I don't get deep. Um, but I need to get
Speaker 1: back to that. I need to get back to just
Speaker 1: like being brutally honest with people when I know you
Speaker 1: can do better and be a better person. Right. Oh,
Speaker 1: for sure, I think especially as you get older. Um,
Speaker 1: it's not you're not helping your friend at off. You
Speaker 1: can't be honest with your friend. Yes, if you can't
Speaker 1: encourage them to, you know, drop the negativity, the toxicity
Speaker 1: and to do better. And if your friend does not
Speaker 1: want to receive those messages, then yeah, maybe it's time
Speaker 1: to drop them as a friend because you can't. You
Speaker 1: don't know how to be a good friend to someone
Speaker 1: that doesn't want to receive your friendship, right Um? And
Speaker 1: I think this is friendship is not always about being
Speaker 1: a yes person. It's not about always agreeing with your friends,
Speaker 1: liking what they do. Um. You know, of course we
Speaker 1: want to celebrate our friends and support our friends. But
Speaker 1: if there's something that we can you know, what is
Speaker 1: it constructive criticism? If we can constructively criticize our friends.
Speaker 1: I know I want to be constructively criticized. You know,
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't receive it very often because I
Speaker 1: am quite perfect. Okay, all right, okay, So and this
Speaker 1: is this is actually from me and you, um, because
Speaker 1: you know we've been friends and we we have we're
Speaker 1: in this group, this circle, um, you know, we'll just
Speaker 1: referred to of the show. And a lot of times, um,
Speaker 1: they think that we know things about each other that
Speaker 1: therefore that that the world doesn't know. Therefore that's why
Speaker 1: we're friends, because we we got dirt on each other, right,
Speaker 1: which is true, But that's not why we're friends. Meaning
Speaker 1: I know stuff about Robin that I'll never say, and
Speaker 1: vice versa. But that's what friendship is. But the question
Speaker 1: is when you meet somebody new, like how quickly do
Speaker 1: you tell them like your business, your business, your personal business,
Speaker 1: because that's a trust thing, right, you gotta trust that
Speaker 1: person because you gotta know you're telling them and they
Speaker 1: might tell one other person, but they can't tell the world.
Speaker 1: I don't That is so hard because I feel like,
Speaker 1: for me, I'm not going to tell you anything until
Speaker 1: you tell me something, and so then it becomes like
Speaker 1: what comes first, the chicken or the egg? Yes, and
Speaker 1: I know you ain't telling me that, Like I don't
Speaker 1: even know how. I think it takes a minute, but
Speaker 1: like a very long time for people to really start
Speaker 1: sharing unless you're a really open person and you don't care.
Speaker 1: But I don't know. I mean, I'm not I I
Speaker 1: always find that people spill their guts to me. I
Speaker 1: do not know why, um, but they do. And then
Speaker 1: she tells me everyone and then I did tell Robin.
Speaker 1: But I mean, they spill their guts, and I think
Speaker 1: maybe they feel like that is their way to to
Speaker 1: build trust. And then maybe they're thinking, I'm gonna spell
Speaker 1: my guts. But I'm done you right now. I don't
Speaker 1: care when I meet you, how I meet you. I'm
Speaker 1: never spelling my guts. Um. But I feel like it's
Speaker 1: it's very difficult for for women to feel a sense
Speaker 1: of comfort. So because you do want to have somebody
Speaker 1: that you can share a bunch of stuff with and
Speaker 1: that is going to support you and not judge you,
Speaker 1: and that's in your corner. So it's just a it's
Speaker 1: just a very fine line and and I have I
Speaker 1: haven't been able to balance it or figure it out right.
Speaker 1: I don't think there's a real right time. You know,
Speaker 1: it's not like, oh well, exactly on the day after
Speaker 1: meeting the friend, now it's okay to share. You know.
Speaker 1: I think it's more of an intuition thing. I think
Speaker 1: it's more of just, you know, the vibe between the
Speaker 1: two people where you feel, okay, this person knows me
Speaker 1: or cares about me differently or more than someone else.
Speaker 1: Like it's so weird, like you can't really explain why
Speaker 1: certain people are closer friends than others. You know, you
Speaker 1: can have a friend circle of eight or ten people
Speaker 1: and there might be that one or two people that
Speaker 1: you just vibe better with for whatever reason, for whatever reason.
Speaker 1: Maybe it's it's it's pheromones, it's just you know, campus
Speaker 1: it's whatever it is. We right, what is it? What
Speaker 1: is it? I don't know. I don't know, um, but
Speaker 1: I just want to put out there because you know,
Speaker 1: I'm thinking about my girlfriends and and just relationships. And
Speaker 1: I'm the girl that if I see your man cheating,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you, okay, and I'm going to get
Speaker 1: my phone and video, but see and pictures. I feel
Speaker 1: like you have to if you're going to tell her,
Speaker 1: you gotta have the pictures in the video. Yes, and
Speaker 1: I'm gonna let you know. And I don't want to
Speaker 1: discuss it. Yes, because there's there. I'm there are many, many,
Speaker 1: many situations where a girlfriend sees something or hear something
Speaker 1: and then she tells the friend and the man lies
Speaker 1: and oh no, that didn't happen. She lying, she's lying
Speaker 1: you you don't need to be friends with her anymore,
Speaker 1: and then you're the one, the messenger that's on the Okay. Yes,
Speaker 1: So I feel like it's hard. I think it's on
Speaker 1: the relationship. Depends on the relationship. But if that's your
Speaker 1: good girlfriend, I think it's your right to let her
Speaker 1: know what's going on. So then do you think friends
Speaker 1: should when they kind of start their friendship or at
Speaker 1: some point in their friendship say look, girl, I'm just
Speaker 1: telling you, if you hear some then or see something
Speaker 1: about my man, then tell me, like, do you think
Speaker 1: that should be a spoken that should that be spoken?
Speaker 1: Do you think it should be like, all right, let's
Speaker 1: everybody sit down in the circle and okay, robbing, do
Speaker 1: you want to know? Okay? Do you want to know? Okay, Susie,
Speaker 1: do you want to know? You know what I mean?
Speaker 1: And it's like some people don't want to know. Let's
Speaker 1: write it down. We're gonna take notes so that we know.
Speaker 1: And so then when so when something happens, all you know,
Speaker 1: ten girls in the group and the nine girls get
Speaker 1: on a conference call, are y'all? So? Um, Stephanie says
Speaker 1: she wants to know. So who's going to tell her
Speaker 1: what I'm saying? Like I was, I'm almost considering like
Speaker 1: texting my girlfriends and saying, hey, guys, we need to
Speaker 1: like sit down because they're gonna be like, oh, are
Speaker 1: you talking about my man? You talk my momn Hey
Speaker 1: my man? They came home every night. I know he
Speaker 1: ain't doing it, but I think that should be disclosed.
Speaker 1: I actually think that should be like a girlfriend rule
Speaker 1: because I have had and I'll say like in college,
Speaker 1: um one I was I was pledging Delton, I was
Speaker 1: never around and wand cheated on me. Oh with a
Speaker 1: girl at Maryland and right, I can't breaking news. One
Speaker 1: cheated on me when when we were in college and
Speaker 1: one of so after I crossed, one of my line
Speaker 1: sisters found out and it was a whole like, you know,
Speaker 1: I didn't know that they my out of the ten
Speaker 1: of us, nine of my line sisters are having these
Speaker 1: power owls about what do we do? What do we say?
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? And then and it turned
Speaker 1: into a whole mess because I just needed my one
Speaker 1: line sister to come to me and tell me. But
Speaker 1: then it just turned into it was a mess in
Speaker 1: my relationship with that one line sister was kind of
Speaker 1: messed up for a little bit and blah blah blah
Speaker 1: blah blah, all that that's why, that's why. But you
Speaker 1: pledged Delta, that's a whole another story. But anyway, I mean, no,
Speaker 1: like that's a mess. And the reason why it's a
Speaker 1: mesters because you know they're sitting around talking about you
Speaker 1: for days. But so I feel like if you just
Speaker 1: if everyone just puts it out there in the air,
Speaker 1: you know, to your girlfriend's, to your friend's circle, and say, look,
Speaker 1: this is what it is, so we don't have to
Speaker 1: we can skip that part you know, so tell me
Speaker 1: or don't tell me. It's truck about it. That's true,
Speaker 1: act like you ain't never seen it. Yes, I don't
Speaker 1: need to know. Okay, well I'm telling you now, So
Speaker 1: text message, text message your girlfriend group tonight, y'all and
Speaker 1: make that decision. Do you want to know? Check the boxes?
Speaker 1: And I think that's a good takeaway for everyone listening, Like,
Speaker 1: I think that's a good that's actually like a good
Speaker 1: conversation to have, like when you have your girls night
Speaker 1: and you're drinking wine and and so let's put that
Speaker 1: topic out there. Yes, do you want to know? All right? So,
Speaker 1: typically at the end of our episode, we have our
Speaker 1: reasonably shady people are the week for that episode, but
Speaker 1: today we have some changes. Okay. So we have put
Speaker 1: out to the universe, um, some friendship pet peeves we
Speaker 1: put out there on our social media and you all
Speaker 1: have answered yes and a very big way. Okay, So
Speaker 1: friendship pet peeves is what we're going to be discussing
Speaker 1: on right now. So we're we are going to go
Speaker 1: into let's see, I'm going to tell you the number
Speaker 1: of people that said one uppers what Okay, So okay,
Speaker 1: let's let's talk ab Okay, what what opers is? Hey, girl,
Speaker 1: I just bought a new car. And then you say,
Speaker 1: oh my god, well I'm getting a new car tomorrow,
Speaker 1: and it's going to have I get a new car tomorrow,
Speaker 1: and it is like the Bentley of the Bentley's. Yes,
Speaker 1: I'm the only one that has it. Yes, they only
Speaker 1: made two in the United States and I have one
Speaker 1: and Oprah has the other one, like crazy, or like
Speaker 1: you buy a house and then your friends like, well,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go buy a house and yes, how many
Speaker 1: square feet is your house? Minus four thousands? Oh? Mineus
Speaker 1: five thousand? Girls like that, like that's some bullshit and
Speaker 1: stop it right, like save it. The thing is like
Speaker 1: your friend. Whenever your friend has some news, like celebrate
Speaker 1: your friend in that moment, make it about your friend,
Speaker 1: let them have their moment, and then okay, a week later,
Speaker 1: if the conversation arises on the same topic, then you
Speaker 1: can share your news. But like, let your friend have
Speaker 1: their moment, yes, and stop talking about yourself. They end,
Speaker 1: which you know leads to a lot of people said,
Speaker 1: um selfishness, okay, so what does that mean? And not
Speaker 1: reciprocating support. So some friends call you when they have
Speaker 1: something going on that they either want to, you know,
Speaker 1: talk about or tell you about. And then when the conversation,
Speaker 1: when that conversation about themselves ends, what a conversation is over.
Speaker 1: And it's like, right, they don't they don't care about
Speaker 1: what's going on in your world. They don't hear about
Speaker 1: you know, I might be a victim of this. And
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you why. Everybody knows. I have a
Speaker 1: friend named Cal, and every night me and Cal talk
Speaker 1: and he says, okay, Ages, I'll start talking about you.
Speaker 1: That's how he starts the conversation. And I'm like, it's like, hello, hey, hey,
Speaker 1: al right, start talking about you. Just out just and
Speaker 1: I'm like, cow, no, stop, Like I want to know
Speaker 1: about your day. He's like, the day was good. Okay,
Speaker 1: oh it's it's actually funny now. But it made me
Speaker 1: think like, okay, do I just give him like my
Speaker 1: side of my world? And do I never check in
Speaker 1: with his? And probably? So I am happy that he
Speaker 1: made me aware so that I don't do that anymore. Yes,
Speaker 1: that's good. Another one in this I am so a
Speaker 1: lot of these. I'm starting to reevaluate myself as a
Speaker 1: friend because I'm starting to think I'm a horrible friend.
Speaker 1: Um because people said friends that are late, friends that
Speaker 1: are late, friends that are flakey, Robin Robin can I
Speaker 1: can I tell you like my flake meter is off,
Speaker 1: off the charts, off the chart. I literally one time
Speaker 1: I had it was going to Las Vegas to celebrate
Speaker 1: a friend's birthday. Huh like New Year's Eve, Las Vegas.
Speaker 1: I didn't feel like packing, so I didn't go. Did
Speaker 1: you have a ticket? Yes, I did a ticket. Hotel
Speaker 1: room I pay. Here's here's my portion for the hotel
Speaker 1: room I'll get you know all that. I'm like, I
Speaker 1: don't feel like packing. I'm not going. Rob is the worst, worst,
Speaker 1: the worst. You have to do better. You have to
Speaker 1: do better, but at least you pay. Because my pet
Speaker 1: peeve is my friends that don't want to pay for that.
Speaker 1: All right, y'all bitches are broke, okay, and I'm mad
Speaker 1: at it, and Gazelle ain't gonna continue to pay. See
Speaker 1: that's the thing. I will. I will pay just so
Speaker 1: we can eliminate that grape. Like, okay, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like, I don't need you to be mad
Speaker 1: because I flaked and I didn't pay, you know, so
Speaker 1: let me just uh yeah, let me let me pay
Speaker 1: for your love. Yeah. No, I'm not that. I'm sick
Speaker 1: of it. Okay, I'm sick of it. So guess what.
Speaker 1: Anybody who does not contribute from here on out, y'all
Speaker 1: not my friends, A nomore relationship is over? Oh yeah
Speaker 1: for sure? Um another one guilty not texting back? Like
Speaker 1: what you mean you don't give a thumbs up or
Speaker 1: smiley face, or you don't text back at all sometimes
Speaker 1: because you know why, that's horrible. I need iPhone to
Speaker 1: hear me. Listen to me, iPhone, I Apple, I need
Speaker 1: you to please give us the feature of marking our
Speaker 1: text messages as unread because sometimes I'm driving or I'm
Speaker 1: doing something and I can't respond right away, and I
Speaker 1: just want to mark my text message unread. But because
Speaker 1: I don't have the ability to do that. Yes, there's
Speaker 1: a there's a dot. No you can't market At the
Speaker 1: top it says how many you Okay, alright, go ahead,
Speaker 1: So it's like once you look at it, it's like
Speaker 1: either respond now or forever hold your peace. Okay. And
Speaker 1: I have a problem with a little scatter brained, a
Speaker 1: little little yeah, a little I'm a little scatter brained
Speaker 1: and distracted. I get distracted very easily, and so like
Speaker 1: you know, I might open my phone and then like
Speaker 1: be like, oh let me, let me text Nicole back.
Speaker 1: And then I opened Instagram and just start Then I
Speaker 1: started scrolling and then I forget why I opened my phone. Yes, okay,
Speaker 1: I do do that too, but then you have to lie.
Speaker 1: I do try to like, yeah, robb me, you're the worst.
Speaker 1: So do you go back to your text messages and
Speaker 1: like go through them and say, okay, who do I
Speaker 1: need to reply to? Yeah? Am I am? I all
Speaker 1: good on my text messages. At some point in the day,
Speaker 1: I try to go through and make sure like the
Speaker 1: top text messages I've even responded to, or I've checked
Speaker 1: to make sure that I've responded to, or whatever the
Speaker 1: case means. So how many unread text messages do you have?
Speaker 1: So so right now I have none because that drives
Speaker 1: me insane. So I have um and we're gonna look, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna pull my little phone. I have three Okay,
Speaker 1: so I have to to five and what yes, I
Speaker 1: have twenty five? Or I'm gonna delete this one because
Speaker 1: that's like a alert and you. You can actually you
Speaker 1: can only see three on my screen, so that means
Speaker 1: the rest are like, so, Robin, I see this, this,
Speaker 1: this one, Oh my god, April three. Okay, So for
Speaker 1: the record, okay, so sometimes I'll text you right and
Speaker 1: you won't respond, and so I'm assuming you are on
Speaker 1: the phone or something like you're doing something else, like
Speaker 1: you're talking on the phone possibly or whatever. But I
Speaker 1: thought you were really doing something. I didn't know you
Speaker 1: were just ignoring me. This is a new level to
Speaker 1: our friends. I wouldn't call it ignoring sometimes. Okay, some
Speaker 1: some of these people I ignored that do better, Robin,
Speaker 1: just do better, just do better. But it's not that
Speaker 1: I didn't ignore them on I don't know what it
Speaker 1: is like. I literally might sit on the couch and
Speaker 1: be like, oh, I need to respond, and then and
Speaker 1: then she starts watching the view the end. Someone out
Speaker 1: there relates. I know that. And then you know why
Speaker 1: I know someone out there relates because I had so
Speaker 1: many people on Instagram respond that their pet peeves when
Speaker 1: their friend does not text them back. Yes, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: so friends, can I tell you the story? Can I
Speaker 1: tell you another story? And we have to wrap it up.
Speaker 1: I had a friend that texted me and I didn't respond,
Speaker 1: and then she text me again and I didn't respond.
Speaker 1: It text me. It wasn't that I wasn't like I
Speaker 1: wasn't ignoring her. I was just busy, right, and then
Speaker 1: she started like going crazy and like calling, calling, calling
Speaker 1: and calling one and so then it turns into like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm now I'm purposely not responding rob It is a
Speaker 1: four year old child, and she's rebelling. Okay, she's rebelling
Speaker 1: against her friend that just wants to talk to, just
Speaker 1: wants to make sure I'm going, Oh my gosh, so um. Yeah,
Speaker 1: one of the things that's adults. One of the pet
Speaker 1: peeves adults acting like petty teens. Yes, and that would
Speaker 1: be Robin Dixon. Okay, but she's good. I'm so happy
Speaker 1: that we had this episode today because we've been able
Speaker 1: to pick apart why Robin needs to do better? What
Speaker 1: about you? I need to do better too. I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't get deep. I don't. I just I just
Speaker 1: want to know what the weather is. Your list is
Speaker 1: a little longer than my, okay, but I mean mine
Speaker 1: are like fixable. Okay. Anyway, I believe that is our
Speaker 1: episode for today. We are reasonably Shady, and I think
Speaker 1: I think today you might be shady. Robin. I might
Speaker 1: be told a little bit too much my friends. Yes,
Speaker 1: and I think Giselle might be reasonable Hold no, oh
Speaker 1: my gosh. Right, but we so appreciate you all listening.
Speaker 1: I think that our next episode, we don't know what
Speaker 1: our next episode is going to be, but I do
Speaker 1: believe we might have a guest, so you guys have
Speaker 1: to stay tuned. Thank you so much for listening to us.
Speaker 1: This is Reasonably Shady. I am Giselle Bryants and I
Speaker 1: am Robin Dixon. Hey, we're out. We love y'all. Reasonably
Speaker 1: Shady is a production of the Black Affect podcast Network.
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