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Speaker 1: Welcome to Reasonably Shady, a production of The Black Effect

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Speaker 1: Podcast Network and I Heart Radio. Hi, what's up? What's up? Okay,

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Speaker 1: this is reasonably Shy. I am Gazelle Bryant. What's up?

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Speaker 1: What's up? I am Robin Dixon. Thank you so much

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Speaker 1: for joining us for our third episode. Oh my gosh,

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Speaker 1: I think we must be doing something right, Robin, it's

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Speaker 1: getting scary. We are. And guess what what? We pressed record? Yes,

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Speaker 1: and we are recording everything that we're saying. So last episode, um, yeah,

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Speaker 1: we talked for like over ten minutes. And Robin because

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Speaker 1: it's her job to press record, okay, fine, it might

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Speaker 1: be mine. Who knows if that didn't press it. This

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Speaker 1: is a collaborative effort. Okay, alright, alright, it takes two

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Speaker 1: green eye bandits to press record, all right, now, yes

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Speaker 1: it does. But guess what, we will never make that

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Speaker 1: wrong mistake again. Oh no, because I was ready to quit,

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Speaker 1: like I was like, okay, my my podcast days are over.

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Speaker 1: Oh gosh. All right, so we have a wonderful like

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Speaker 1: we have a like explosive kind of episode tonight. Yes,

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Speaker 1: this is a fun topic. I think I know you

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Speaker 1: and I have a lot of input on it. I

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Speaker 1: know our listeners are going to be right there with us, Yes, agreeing,

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Speaker 1: having you know, the same shared experiences, all that good stuff. Yes,

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Speaker 1: And the topic tonight is I don't have us tonight.

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Speaker 1: But the topic for this episode is hey, girlfriend, we're

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Speaker 1: talking all things. Girlfriend. We're talking do we like them?

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Speaker 1: Do we hate them? Do we need new friends? Um,

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Speaker 1: we're getting into it. Can we get into the girlfriend scenario? Yes?

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Speaker 1: Because you know what, it's so weird, like it doesn't

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Speaker 1: matter how old we are. Yes, it's still like navigating

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Speaker 1: the friendship world is still kind of awkward. You know,

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Speaker 1: you find out that like, Okay, it doesn't matter how

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Speaker 1: old we are, people still have issues and we still

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Speaker 1: need to be sensitive towards them. Yes, yes, So but

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Speaker 1: before we get into the episode, of course, we have

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Speaker 1: our reasonably shady moment of the week. So I'm going

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Speaker 1: to go first. And since the topic is about girlfriends friends, um,

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Speaker 1: this is going to be centered around that. So so

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Speaker 1: my reasonably shady moment goes to myself of course. Um,

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Speaker 1: and it's because I actually picked up the phone and

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Speaker 1: called two of my friends, you know, like nowadays, like

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Speaker 1: you know, we just text, you know, you might say,

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Speaker 1: you know, hey, girl, you look cute on on Instagram

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Speaker 1: or something, but like you don't really pick up the

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Speaker 1: phone that much and talk to your friends these days,

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Speaker 1: or certain ones are certain friends that talk all the time,

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Speaker 1: Like you and I we talk all the time. So

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Speaker 1: this is where the shady part comes in now, because

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Speaker 1: I was fuse, you just pick up the phone call

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Speaker 1: and your girlfriends. When when is the shade coming in?

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Speaker 1: The shady part is it was like thirty seconds into

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Speaker 1: the call and I'm like, so you know this is

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Speaker 1: why I don't call because they was talking about nothing.

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Speaker 1: They was just a wine and a complaining and it's like,

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Speaker 1: oh God, now I know why I don't call or

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Speaker 1: why I don't pick the phone up instantly. So you know, Okay,

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Speaker 1: along those same lines, So you have some friends when

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna pick I'm gonna pick up because you know

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Speaker 1: she's calling for a reason, or it's gonna be like

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Speaker 1: you know you're gonna have a good conversation. Okay, girl,

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Speaker 1: let's talk about this man bad man. I'm off. Then

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Speaker 1: there's other friends that call and you're like, lord, what

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Speaker 1: do shell? God? I don't got time. I can't do

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Speaker 1: it right now. I'm cooking dinner. She's gonna distract me.

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to like, no, this is this is a that.

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Speaker 1: Those are the ones that you call when you're in

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Speaker 1: who can I call and you're like, let me call

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Speaker 1: her friend back. So I'm in the car, I call

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Speaker 1: her back, okay, and I'm just like, why, so did

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Speaker 1: you lie to her and making an excuse to get

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Speaker 1: off the phone. No, and see that, and this is

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Speaker 1: the reasonable part. I am a good friend, and I

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Speaker 1: know sometimes my friends just want me to listen or

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Speaker 1: you know, they just want to hear my voice, or

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Speaker 1: they want to hear that I care. And I do care.

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Speaker 1: But there's just the limit where I'm like, okay, enough,

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Speaker 1: it's enough. Is enough for shady Giselle would have been like, girl,

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Speaker 1: oh my god, I gotta go. I got a flat tire,

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, I gotta go. It was actually when

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Speaker 1: at whole d that whole Okay, that was a good

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Speaker 1: hour and a half. Yeah, okay, yeah, yeah, alright, So

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Speaker 1: my reasonably shady. Moment of the week is um. Okay.

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Speaker 1: So I am a huge proponent of getting rid of

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Speaker 1: this thing called COVID. So I got myself a little

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Speaker 1: appointment and I got my first shot. My vaccine is

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Speaker 1: in my arm, and I am mad at the entire world.

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Speaker 1: Why because everybody says, so, your arm is gonna hurt

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Speaker 1: a little bit, but you're gonna be good. No, just

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Speaker 1: that was flat on her back. Okay, I was. I

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Speaker 1: was on my I had chills fever, I was shaking.

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Speaker 1: My kids were looking over me like, Mommy, are you

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Speaker 1: for what came with that first shot. Now am I

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Speaker 1: getting the second shot? Of course I am. Do I

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Speaker 1: think everybody should be vaccinated, Yes, I do. But I

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Speaker 1: lied to me about the symptoms and the side effects.

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Speaker 1: I mean I heard some people say they had side effects.

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Speaker 1: You hear it all, Oh, it's not that bad or um,

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Speaker 1: I was tired, I couldn't get out of bed all day. Well,

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Speaker 1: for me, it was bad, And I just want people

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Speaker 1: think if they don't know that, then they think like,

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Speaker 1: oh my god, this thing is gonna kill me, or

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Speaker 1: you know, I know it's wouldn't have taken it, or

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Speaker 1: you know something's wrong. So yeah, it probably is good

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Speaker 1: for them to tell you, like, um, this thing is

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Speaker 1: not going to be easy. Now I did after I

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Speaker 1: got the shot go out and have drinks. But that's

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Speaker 1: a whole another story and we don't need to talk

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Speaker 1: about that anyway. Let's move into the episode. Is that

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Speaker 1: in the rules there a rule or something. Listen, Okay,

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Speaker 1: it is time to start this episode in which we're

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Speaker 1: going to talk about our girlfriends. Hey girlfriends, girl, how

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Speaker 1: you doing? Okay, So, first and foremost, at this point

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Speaker 1: in time in our lives, are we Drake? Do we

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Speaker 1: need new friends? No new friends? How's it going? No

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Speaker 1: new friends? No new friends? I can't remember how it

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Speaker 1: goes either. Robin sings sing the wrong song right now? Okay?

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Speaker 1: So I do appreciate, for instance, you and I, Robin,

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Speaker 1: we met later in life, and if I had the

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Speaker 1: thought in my head okay, no new friends, then our

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Speaker 1: friendship would not have happened. So true. Okay, So I

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Speaker 1: want to block myself from new people that are coming

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Speaker 1: into my life. You never know what why God is

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Speaker 1: do that. However, these women out here crazy, right. I

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Speaker 1: think the older we get, the more you know, well

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Speaker 1: and especially if they've experienced some things. It's weird. Like

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Speaker 1: I keep thinking, like, oh, as adults, you should realize,

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Speaker 1: and you know, you get tougher and you just kind

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Speaker 1: of roll with the punches. But some people let everything

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Speaker 1: they go through like scar them, and and then they

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Speaker 1: it's like this this crazy need to keep up with

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Speaker 1: the joneses and to make sure that you are like,

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Speaker 1: It is like competing with people, and I think that's

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Speaker 1: when we have a problem. But I find and it's

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Speaker 1: you know, this is crazy. I never thought I would

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Speaker 1: sports ums that I hang out with, you know, I

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Speaker 1: it's funny because you're like, Okay, when I was growing up,

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Speaker 1: and that was episode one. If y'all miss that Robin

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Speaker 1: drinks with these women that she meets and they're in

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Speaker 1: but like with one I opened, they're delirious. They have

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Speaker 1: it depends, Okay. I feel like when you meet someone

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Speaker 1: Then yeah, I'm a googling you. Yes, and I'm googling

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Speaker 1: I don't want to be around when the fads come.

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Speaker 1: But that's not going to be on on Google. It's

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Speaker 1: It would be on Google because this has happened. I

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Speaker 1: and so that's a case search. Oh well I didn't

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Speaker 1: and so so then I knew, Okay, if I go

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Speaker 1: potential that somebody might come that night lock her up. True,

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Speaker 1: But are you going to be doing illegal activity with

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Speaker 1: that friend? No, I'm not doing any illegal activity. But

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Speaker 1: I just need to know because I'm just going to

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Speaker 1: get locked up for associated with her. I don't I

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Speaker 1: don't want to be in the paper like Jaelle Bryant

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Speaker 1: was there when so so got locked up. No, I

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Speaker 1: don't want that. So instead, you're just going to be

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Speaker 1: like out to drinks and like your head is on

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Speaker 1: a swivel. I'm not going. And when she invites me

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Speaker 1: be her friend? Oh right, that's mean Okay, No, I'm not.

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Speaker 1: And that's when Drake comes in friends exactly. Okay, I

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Speaker 1: mean I think. Right, So, if it's a new friend

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Speaker 1: she's got some criminal record, yeah you might want to

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Speaker 1: you know, stand back, yes, yes, But if it's a

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Speaker 1: into a little bit of trouble, I say you continue

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Speaker 1: to support her, Okay, alright, so you know because I know,

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Speaker 1: supposed to be doing that puts some calls. Repeat, Okay,

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00:22:48,880 --> 00:22:51,560
Speaker 1: Dixon and Win is the type of guy do you

422
00:22:51,560 --> 00:22:52,760
Speaker 1: think someone on the side of the road and now

423
00:22:52,880 --> 00:22:55,120
Speaker 1: he doesn't? Why? Is the type of guy that if

424
00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:59,200
Speaker 1: you don't answer, he keeps calling back and heeps calling

425
00:22:59,200 --> 00:23:02,640
Speaker 1: back and do you ain't what I call my friends? Yes? Yes,

426
00:23:02,720 --> 00:23:04,959
Speaker 1: And then he will call anybody that she said she

427
00:23:05,119 --> 00:23:07,280
Speaker 1: was with. Okay, that's just one. That's the nature of

428
00:23:07,320 --> 00:23:11,520
Speaker 1: their relationship. No judgment. It's crazy, but no judgment. He's

429
00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:17,920
Speaker 1: just worried. Okay, the man at the gas station kidnapped me. Okay.

430
00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:21,680
Speaker 1: But I I totally agree. I feel like girlfriends that

431
00:23:21,920 --> 00:23:24,800
Speaker 1: are not that don't have the same demographic that you

432
00:23:24,800 --> 00:23:28,320
Speaker 1: are living should not come into your circle. I mean,

433
00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:30,959
Speaker 1: I just think that that's you're you're setting yourself up

434
00:23:31,000 --> 00:23:34,679
Speaker 1: for problems, right, I agree, unless you have like mutual

435
00:23:34,760 --> 00:23:36,879
Speaker 1: friends that can vouch for that person. You know, I

436
00:23:37,200 --> 00:23:41,320
Speaker 1: just feel like not a random that it's totally living

437
00:23:41,520 --> 00:23:44,239
Speaker 1: the single whole life. No, that's not gonna work, Like,

438
00:23:44,400 --> 00:23:47,120
Speaker 1: no at all, No, not at all. Um and and

439
00:23:47,160 --> 00:23:49,720
Speaker 1: it so so we're saying all this to say, it

440
00:23:49,880 --> 00:23:53,960
Speaker 1: becomes very difficult for you to really a trust people

441
00:23:54,040 --> 00:23:57,480
Speaker 1: that are going to be in your circle. UM, I

442
00:23:57,520 --> 00:23:59,680
Speaker 1: don't think that, you know, I get real nervous about

443
00:23:59,720 --> 00:24:03,240
Speaker 1: what people. You know, if I have a conversation with somebody,

444
00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:06,879
Speaker 1: like how they take that conversation later, Like how that

445
00:24:06,960 --> 00:24:09,919
Speaker 1: convers you know what I mean, Like, M I think

446
00:24:09,960 --> 00:24:12,199
Speaker 1: it's a great conversation, but they walk away and they're like,

447
00:24:12,240 --> 00:24:14,680
Speaker 1: Gezell's an asshole, And I'm like, but I thought it

448
00:24:14,720 --> 00:24:17,800
Speaker 1: was good. I thought we had jokes and everything. So,

449
00:24:17,960 --> 00:24:21,280
Speaker 1: you know, I always get feel weird about it sometimes.

450
00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:24,359
Speaker 1: But but the reality of it is you have to

451
00:24:24,440 --> 00:24:26,760
Speaker 1: really have your spotty senses up with all people, not

452
00:24:26,840 --> 00:24:30,959
Speaker 1: just girlfriends, but like all people, because people are crazy

453
00:24:31,000 --> 00:24:33,359
Speaker 1: out here in the streets. I'm trying to remember the

454
00:24:33,480 --> 00:24:38,240
Speaker 1: last time I met a new friend and like outside

455
00:24:38,240 --> 00:24:42,520
Speaker 1: of the show, you know, not because of the show, um,

456
00:24:42,560 --> 00:24:51,280
Speaker 1: that I connected with and like really developed a friendship with. Um.

457
00:24:51,320 --> 00:24:57,359
Speaker 1: You know what I would say, like, Um, Vicky Vicky Irvin,

458
00:24:57,440 --> 00:25:02,600
Speaker 1: who is I met her on a business matter? Yes,

459
00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:06,400
Speaker 1: and that kind of you know, created a friendship. Yes,

460
00:25:06,480 --> 00:25:11,040
Speaker 1: And Vicky Irvin, you did your um lipstick with correct? Okay,

461
00:25:11,080 --> 00:25:13,160
Speaker 1: so we had so so I did a lipstick lip

462
00:25:13,240 --> 00:25:17,960
Speaker 1: lost collaboration with her. So she's an entrepreneur. Um, my

463
00:25:18,080 --> 00:25:21,000
Speaker 1: real estate mentor introduced me to her because he thought

464
00:25:21,359 --> 00:25:23,800
Speaker 1: that she could be helpful to me because he knew

465
00:25:23,840 --> 00:25:26,919
Speaker 1: that I was just you know, getting into the entrepreneurial space,

466
00:25:27,600 --> 00:25:30,800
Speaker 1: and so so that friendship developed. Um, but it was

467
00:25:30,840 --> 00:25:34,680
Speaker 1: it started more. It's I feel like nowadays at our age,

468
00:25:34,680 --> 00:25:37,760
Speaker 1: when we meet people it's because of a purpose. Yeah, yeah,

469
00:25:37,800 --> 00:25:39,800
Speaker 1: it's it's it's got to be. You guys have to

470
00:25:39,840 --> 00:25:42,560
Speaker 1: be aligned in some kind of way. So so if

471
00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:46,080
Speaker 1: it's not business, it might be because you said my kids,

472
00:25:46,400 --> 00:25:49,320
Speaker 1: because kids or your partners might know each other, and

473
00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:53,200
Speaker 1: then you guys bond over that. Um. Otherwise it's just

474
00:25:53,240 --> 00:25:55,280
Speaker 1: like I'm not going and getting my hair done and

475
00:25:55,400 --> 00:25:57,680
Speaker 1: I meet you at the salon and we become friends.

476
00:25:58,000 --> 00:26:00,879
Speaker 1: That's not happening. No, No, definitely. In it's it's like

477
00:26:01,080 --> 00:26:02,960
Speaker 1: kind of weird when people are like, oh, we should

478
00:26:02,960 --> 00:26:06,560
Speaker 1: exchange numbers and you're like, no, we shouldn't. Why we

479
00:26:06,600 --> 00:26:11,719
Speaker 1: should not, because first of all, I'm already not the

480
00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:13,720
Speaker 1: best friend that I can be to the friends that

481
00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:19,399
Speaker 1: I already have, you know, because I'm just kidding. Rob

482
00:26:19,640 --> 00:26:22,480
Speaker 1: is great to me probably these days get most of

483
00:26:22,520 --> 00:26:26,120
Speaker 1: my friend time. That's very much. Other friends are probably

484
00:26:26,160 --> 00:26:31,040
Speaker 1: hating on you, I know. But actually that happened to

485
00:26:31,080 --> 00:26:35,720
Speaker 1: me in the gym, so very nice. Um lady girl.

486
00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:38,399
Speaker 1: She walked up to me and she started asking me.

487
00:26:38,480 --> 00:26:41,359
Speaker 1: She she saw that my house is being renovated, and

488
00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:43,400
Speaker 1: she asked me about it, and then she talked about

489
00:26:43,440 --> 00:26:47,080
Speaker 1: the fact that she's got she knows somebody who you know,

490
00:26:47,119 --> 00:26:50,480
Speaker 1: has a renovation business or something. And then she was like, Oh,

491
00:26:50,560 --> 00:26:54,240
Speaker 1: you're so super cool. We should hang out. Let's exchange numbers. Yeah, no,

492
00:26:54,320 --> 00:26:58,000
Speaker 1: I'm not that superb. I'm not. And I and she

493
00:26:58,160 --> 00:27:00,640
Speaker 1: made me give her my number, Like it was kind

494
00:27:00,640 --> 00:27:02,600
Speaker 1: of like her phone was out and I had my

495
00:27:02,640 --> 00:27:04,479
Speaker 1: phone in my hand, and like I didn't know what

496
00:27:04,520 --> 00:27:08,080
Speaker 1: to do. I couldn't back away, so I had to

497
00:27:08,119 --> 00:27:10,200
Speaker 1: give her my number. And it was just like so weird.

498
00:27:10,240 --> 00:27:12,880
Speaker 1: And I thought to myself, Oh my god, I hope

499
00:27:12,880 --> 00:27:18,400
Speaker 1: she hasn't called me. Did she know? Thank God? But

500
00:27:18,400 --> 00:27:21,240
Speaker 1: but but when things like that happen, it just makes

501
00:27:21,240 --> 00:27:23,720
Speaker 1: me feel like this is not authentic. I want to

502
00:27:23,760 --> 00:27:27,680
Speaker 1: meet girlfriends and it's an authentic relationship, you know. It's

503
00:27:27,680 --> 00:27:31,200
Speaker 1: a great feeling right. It's not like pushed on you exactly.

504
00:27:31,359 --> 00:27:36,240
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, Um, digital interaction? What the hell is that?

505
00:27:36,520 --> 00:27:39,560
Speaker 1: Social media? Okay? So I'm supposed to meet people on

506
00:27:39,600 --> 00:27:42,040
Speaker 1: social media? Okay, for the record, let's just say, for

507
00:27:42,040 --> 00:27:44,080
Speaker 1: the record, I feel like I have enough girlfriends in

508
00:27:44,119 --> 00:27:47,639
Speaker 1: my life. Do you oh I have tons? Yes? I

509
00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:50,680
Speaker 1: have tons? Yes? Okay, But so you are you asking

510
00:27:50,800 --> 00:27:54,199
Speaker 1: if on social media somebody reaches out? So okay, So

511
00:27:54,320 --> 00:27:59,080
Speaker 1: say on social media you have like acquaintances kind of

512
00:27:59,800 --> 00:28:04,840
Speaker 1: in they're trying. It's like does that muddy your your

513
00:28:04,960 --> 00:28:08,840
Speaker 1: real your interaction with them in real life? So you

514
00:28:08,920 --> 00:28:15,040
Speaker 1: have people who I think, um are more friendly on

515
00:28:15,080 --> 00:28:19,280
Speaker 1: social media than they are in real life. Like they

516
00:28:19,359 --> 00:28:23,919
Speaker 1: might see you come afar and like not speak, and

517
00:28:23,920 --> 00:28:26,760
Speaker 1: then on social media they're all like, hey girl, how

518
00:28:26,800 --> 00:28:31,720
Speaker 1: would you know? Um, you just know, I don't know.

519
00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:35,919
Speaker 1: I feel like that's like people not being comfortable, you know,

520
00:28:36,280 --> 00:28:39,280
Speaker 1: like you like, okay, if you see someone who's commenting

521
00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:41,640
Speaker 1: on your social media, but when you see them in

522
00:28:41,680 --> 00:28:43,680
Speaker 1: real life, they're barely like coming up to you and

523
00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:47,400
Speaker 1: saying hi. Okay, So there's social media friends, right right,

524
00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:50,600
Speaker 1: But then but they're like almost intimidated in real life

525
00:28:50,600 --> 00:28:52,640
Speaker 1: to come up to you. Yeah, that's that's weird. So

526
00:28:52,680 --> 00:28:56,560
Speaker 1: it's kind of like you're hiding behind your social media handle. Yeah,

527
00:28:56,600 --> 00:28:59,280
Speaker 1: that's I find that to be a stalker exactly. Yeah,

528
00:28:59,320 --> 00:29:01,440
Speaker 1: I mean it's I just think it's more of like

529
00:29:01,640 --> 00:29:04,320
Speaker 1: maybe they are socially awkward or maybe they're intimidated. But

530
00:29:04,400 --> 00:29:07,719
Speaker 1: I have experienced that where people will interact with me

531
00:29:07,800 --> 00:29:11,400
Speaker 1: more on social media than if they were actually face

532
00:29:11,520 --> 00:29:15,200
Speaker 1: to face. Right, Okay, Okay, So I do have some

533
00:29:15,280 --> 00:29:22,880
Speaker 1: girlfriends and unfortunately they're like sorority sisters, right, and unfortunately

534
00:29:22,920 --> 00:29:25,000
Speaker 1: there sororities. Well there was a reason. I mean, I

535
00:29:25,360 --> 00:29:27,760
Speaker 1: love the fact that they're my sorority sisters, but like

536
00:29:28,080 --> 00:29:31,600
Speaker 1: that's the reason why they've been in my life forever. Right.

537
00:29:31,640 --> 00:29:34,120
Speaker 1: But then as time goes by, you know, as you

538
00:29:34,160 --> 00:29:37,840
Speaker 1: get older, you change, you grow, and you see people

539
00:29:37,880 --> 00:29:41,200
Speaker 1: who don't change and grow, and then you realize they're losers.

540
00:29:41,360 --> 00:29:43,920
Speaker 1: Right is that terrible to say? Like they're kind of

541
00:29:43,960 --> 00:29:48,240
Speaker 1: like they're stuck. They're stuck. They're stuck, they haven't grown,

542
00:29:48,360 --> 00:29:51,720
Speaker 1: they haven't evolved, and you're at a totally different place.

543
00:29:51,880 --> 00:29:54,200
Speaker 1: So how do you deal with do you do you

544
00:29:54,200 --> 00:29:56,120
Speaker 1: cut those people out of your life. Don't listen to

545
00:29:56,120 --> 00:29:59,280
Speaker 1: me because I cut people like I got I got

546
00:29:59,320 --> 00:30:01,440
Speaker 1: a machete, I here, and I'd just be cut. No,

547
00:30:01,600 --> 00:30:04,160
Speaker 1: you know why you don't cut them out because guess what,

548
00:30:04,200 --> 00:30:08,880
Speaker 1: one day you might be in a totally different places. Yes,

549
00:30:09,720 --> 00:30:14,040
Speaker 1: and you might need your friends to love you unconditionally. Right.

550
00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:18,520
Speaker 1: So I have you know, my sore roars that I

551
00:30:18,600 --> 00:30:22,560
Speaker 1: love dearly that I probably would never have have even

552
00:30:22,720 --> 00:30:25,520
Speaker 1: met if I weren't in the sority, you know, so

553
00:30:25,560 --> 00:30:28,480
Speaker 1: I would would have never really been friends with them,

554
00:30:28,560 --> 00:30:31,640
Speaker 1: and we are totally different people. I mean, the sority

555
00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:33,760
Speaker 1: is a good thing because it kind of forces you

556
00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:37,600
Speaker 1: to receive people where they are, to love them regardless,

557
00:30:37,680 --> 00:30:40,200
Speaker 1: and to kind of be their friend regardless like whether

558
00:30:40,280 --> 00:30:42,640
Speaker 1: or not you would be their friend or not outside

559
00:30:42,640 --> 00:30:46,959
Speaker 1: of the sorority. And so I think it's you know,

560
00:30:47,120 --> 00:30:49,680
Speaker 1: you can't be like you didn't level up yet, girls,

561
00:30:50,160 --> 00:30:52,800
Speaker 1: So I'm not going to be your friends. Not you

562
00:30:52,840 --> 00:30:55,600
Speaker 1: didn't level up. But it's kind of like the the

563
00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:59,080
Speaker 1: the we're in a different space mentally, right, Okay, So

564
00:30:59,120 --> 00:31:00,760
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna say to the people, if you want

565
00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:02,920
Speaker 1: to cut people out your life. Because God brings people

566
00:31:02,960 --> 00:31:04,960
Speaker 1: in your life for a reason in the season, then

567
00:31:05,000 --> 00:31:07,040
Speaker 1: go ahead on and do it. I'm not mad at you,

568
00:31:07,280 --> 00:31:11,600
Speaker 1: I mean but reasonable, Robin. Just don't be mad when

569
00:31:11,600 --> 00:31:15,600
Speaker 1: other people cut you out of their life. Okay, listen,

570
00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:18,680
Speaker 1: I've been begging people to cut me out there life. Please?

571
00:31:19,000 --> 00:31:22,640
Speaker 1: Can I have it at writing? Right? Are you sure? Yes?

572
00:31:23,280 --> 00:31:26,680
Speaker 1: Oh my God, leave me alone. But but I do

573
00:31:26,800 --> 00:31:29,480
Speaker 1: feel like, you know, there comes a time and place

574
00:31:29,520 --> 00:31:34,040
Speaker 1: where you want people that can add value, right, and

575
00:31:34,120 --> 00:31:36,560
Speaker 1: you want you want to be you want to surround

576
00:31:36,560 --> 00:31:39,640
Speaker 1: yourself with people that are constantly allowing you to be

577
00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:43,160
Speaker 1: your greater self. And and sometimes the girlfriends can't come

578
00:31:43,200 --> 00:31:46,720
Speaker 1: on that journey. But but why is it just because

579
00:31:47,240 --> 00:31:51,560
Speaker 1: so so you're saying mentally they're like they're negative or

580
00:31:51,600 --> 00:31:53,880
Speaker 1: they are because just because they might not be on

581
00:31:53,960 --> 00:31:57,200
Speaker 1: your level, they might still be able to provide some

582
00:31:57,240 --> 00:32:00,880
Speaker 1: sort of support to you or some sort of encouragement

583
00:32:01,240 --> 00:32:05,360
Speaker 1: or you know, friendship. Right, Yes, yes, that's true. And

584
00:32:05,400 --> 00:32:08,240
Speaker 1: sometimes you want to keep that friend who was there

585
00:32:08,280 --> 00:32:11,800
Speaker 1: with you before you are you were the person you

586
00:32:11,840 --> 00:32:13,840
Speaker 1: are today. Okay, but if but if we've known each

587
00:32:13,840 --> 00:32:15,840
Speaker 1: other for like twenty five years and you're still talking

588
00:32:15,840 --> 00:32:17,680
Speaker 1: about the same ship that you were talking about when

589
00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:20,560
Speaker 1: I met you five years ago, then there's a problem. Yeah,

590
00:32:20,560 --> 00:32:22,520
Speaker 1: well that's a big problem, right, Like if I if

591
00:32:22,560 --> 00:32:24,880
Speaker 1: I feel like and it's not that I've leveled up

592
00:32:24,920 --> 00:32:27,840
Speaker 1: and you stayed the same, it's like mentally we're just

593
00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:31,040
Speaker 1: not there, right. So have you said that to them? No?

594
00:32:31,400 --> 00:32:33,000
Speaker 1: I thought, don't that. I think that's rude. If I

595
00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:37,280
Speaker 1: tell people you are a loser, We'll see. That's a

596
00:32:37,280 --> 00:32:39,760
Speaker 1: conversation like what is okay to say to your friends

597
00:32:40,000 --> 00:32:42,400
Speaker 1: and what's not okay to say to your friends, because

598
00:32:42,440 --> 00:32:44,960
Speaker 1: sometimes your friends need to hear the hard truth and

599
00:32:45,560 --> 00:32:49,320
Speaker 1: if they don't receive it the way you intended, then

600
00:32:49,360 --> 00:32:51,720
Speaker 1: that's on them. That is very true. And to be

601
00:32:51,760 --> 00:32:53,720
Speaker 1: honest with you, I am very honest with my friends,

602
00:32:55,120 --> 00:32:59,480
Speaker 1: I think. And do they appreciate your honesty? Hell? Nodate

603
00:32:59,600 --> 00:33:03,000
Speaker 1: me know I'm getting I think they do. You want

604
00:33:03,000 --> 00:33:05,560
Speaker 1: to know why? Because I have so many friends that

605
00:33:05,600 --> 00:33:09,160
Speaker 1: I've had forever and they tell me things that I've

606
00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:13,840
Speaker 1: said to them ten fifteen years later that helped them

607
00:33:13,880 --> 00:33:15,800
Speaker 1: in that moment that I didn't know help them. But

608
00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:18,040
Speaker 1: they tell me, hey, I remember you said this to

609
00:33:18,040 --> 00:33:20,239
Speaker 1: me a long time ago, and then I broke up

610
00:33:20,240 --> 00:33:22,800
Speaker 1: with that loser dude and I found this other guy

611
00:33:22,920 --> 00:33:26,600
Speaker 1: or whatever, whatever the scenario is. They repeat to me

612
00:33:26,760 --> 00:33:31,040
Speaker 1: verbatim what I said to them, and so, um, oh

613
00:33:31,040 --> 00:33:33,000
Speaker 1: did I tell you I was an oracle? I this

614
00:33:33,040 --> 00:33:36,040
Speaker 1: is what I know. I'm going off the deep end. Okay, fine,

615
00:33:36,240 --> 00:33:38,720
Speaker 1: but now I do. I'm getting deep and y'all know

616
00:33:38,760 --> 00:33:41,880
Speaker 1: I don't get deep. Um, but I need to get

617
00:33:41,920 --> 00:33:43,360
Speaker 1: back to that. I need to get back to just

618
00:33:43,440 --> 00:33:46,880
Speaker 1: like being brutally honest with people when I know you

619
00:33:46,920 --> 00:33:49,400
Speaker 1: can do better and be a better person. Right. Oh,

620
00:33:49,520 --> 00:33:53,760
Speaker 1: for sure, I think especially as you get older. Um,

621
00:33:53,800 --> 00:33:55,720
Speaker 1: it's not you're not helping your friend at off. You

622
00:33:55,720 --> 00:33:58,520
Speaker 1: can't be honest with your friend. Yes, if you can't

623
00:33:58,800 --> 00:34:02,240
Speaker 1: encourage them to, you know, drop the negativity, the toxicity

624
00:34:02,320 --> 00:34:05,040
Speaker 1: and to do better. And if your friend does not

625
00:34:05,160 --> 00:34:08,640
Speaker 1: want to receive those messages, then yeah, maybe it's time

626
00:34:08,640 --> 00:34:12,759
Speaker 1: to drop them as a friend because you can't. You

627
00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:14,720
Speaker 1: don't know how to be a good friend to someone

628
00:34:15,120 --> 00:34:18,520
Speaker 1: that doesn't want to receive your friendship, right Um? And

629
00:34:18,560 --> 00:34:21,120
Speaker 1: I think this is friendship is not always about being

630
00:34:21,120 --> 00:34:24,160
Speaker 1: a yes person. It's not about always agreeing with your friends,

631
00:34:24,640 --> 00:34:27,120
Speaker 1: liking what they do. Um. You know, of course we

632
00:34:27,160 --> 00:34:29,360
Speaker 1: want to celebrate our friends and support our friends. But

633
00:34:29,400 --> 00:34:32,000
Speaker 1: if there's something that we can you know, what is

634
00:34:32,040 --> 00:34:35,960
Speaker 1: it constructive criticism? If we can constructively criticize our friends.

635
00:34:37,000 --> 00:34:39,719
Speaker 1: I know I want to be constructively criticized. You know,

636
00:34:41,239 --> 00:34:43,239
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't receive it very often because I

637
00:34:43,280 --> 00:34:49,920
Speaker 1: am quite perfect. Okay, all right, okay, So and this

638
00:34:49,960 --> 00:34:53,360
Speaker 1: is this is actually from me and you, um, because

639
00:34:53,640 --> 00:34:56,399
Speaker 1: you know we've been friends and we we have we're

640
00:34:56,480 --> 00:34:59,640
Speaker 1: in this group, this circle, um, you know, we'll just

641
00:34:59,640 --> 00:35:04,040
Speaker 1: referred to of the show. And a lot of times, um,

642
00:35:04,239 --> 00:35:08,080
Speaker 1: they think that we know things about each other that

643
00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:12,040
Speaker 1: therefore that that the world doesn't know. Therefore that's why

644
00:35:12,080 --> 00:35:14,359
Speaker 1: we're friends, because we we got dirt on each other, right,

645
00:35:14,960 --> 00:35:20,160
Speaker 1: which is true, But that's not why we're friends. Meaning

646
00:35:20,239 --> 00:35:22,799
Speaker 1: I know stuff about Robin that I'll never say, and

647
00:35:22,920 --> 00:35:26,920
Speaker 1: vice versa. But that's what friendship is. But the question

648
00:35:27,080 --> 00:35:29,640
Speaker 1: is when you meet somebody new, like how quickly do

649
00:35:29,719 --> 00:35:35,239
Speaker 1: you tell them like your business, your business, your personal business,

650
00:35:36,080 --> 00:35:38,279
Speaker 1: because that's a trust thing, right, you gotta trust that

651
00:35:38,280 --> 00:35:41,160
Speaker 1: person because you gotta know you're telling them and they

652
00:35:41,239 --> 00:35:43,760
Speaker 1: might tell one other person, but they can't tell the world.

653
00:35:44,719 --> 00:35:47,040
Speaker 1: I don't That is so hard because I feel like,

654
00:35:47,080 --> 00:35:50,520
Speaker 1: for me, I'm not going to tell you anything until

655
00:35:50,560 --> 00:35:55,239
Speaker 1: you tell me something, and so then it becomes like

656
00:35:55,320 --> 00:35:57,799
Speaker 1: what comes first, the chicken or the egg? Yes, and

657
00:35:57,840 --> 00:35:59,279
Speaker 1: I know you ain't telling me that, Like I don't

658
00:35:59,280 --> 00:36:02,360
Speaker 1: even know how. I think it takes a minute, but

659
00:36:02,600 --> 00:36:05,480
Speaker 1: like a very long time for people to really start

660
00:36:05,520 --> 00:36:09,160
Speaker 1: sharing unless you're a really open person and you don't care.

661
00:36:10,520 --> 00:36:14,960
Speaker 1: But I don't know. I mean, I'm not I I

662
00:36:15,040 --> 00:36:17,600
Speaker 1: always find that people spill their guts to me. I

663
00:36:17,640 --> 00:36:21,440
Speaker 1: do not know why, um, but they do. And then

664
00:36:21,440 --> 00:36:23,680
Speaker 1: she tells me everyone and then I did tell Robin.

665
00:36:23,840 --> 00:36:25,480
Speaker 1: But I mean, they spill their guts, and I think

666
00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:28,360
Speaker 1: maybe they feel like that is their way to to

667
00:36:28,480 --> 00:36:31,719
Speaker 1: build trust. And then maybe they're thinking, I'm gonna spell

668
00:36:31,719 --> 00:36:33,279
Speaker 1: my guts. But I'm done you right now. I don't

669
00:36:33,320 --> 00:36:34,960
Speaker 1: care when I meet you, how I meet you. I'm

670
00:36:35,000 --> 00:36:39,840
Speaker 1: never spelling my guts. Um. But I feel like it's

671
00:36:40,239 --> 00:36:45,200
Speaker 1: it's very difficult for for women to feel a sense

672
00:36:45,239 --> 00:36:47,200
Speaker 1: of comfort. So because you do want to have somebody

673
00:36:47,239 --> 00:36:49,719
Speaker 1: that you can share a bunch of stuff with and

674
00:36:49,760 --> 00:36:52,000
Speaker 1: that is going to support you and not judge you,

675
00:36:52,040 --> 00:36:54,399
Speaker 1: and that's in your corner. So it's just a it's

676
00:36:54,400 --> 00:36:57,279
Speaker 1: just a very fine line and and I have I

677
00:36:57,280 --> 00:37:00,279
Speaker 1: haven't been able to balance it or figure it out right.

678
00:37:00,400 --> 00:37:03,640
Speaker 1: I don't think there's a real right time. You know,

679
00:37:03,680 --> 00:37:07,680
Speaker 1: it's not like, oh well, exactly on the day after

680
00:37:07,719 --> 00:37:11,040
Speaker 1: meeting the friend, now it's okay to share. You know.

681
00:37:11,120 --> 00:37:13,279
Speaker 1: I think it's more of an intuition thing. I think

682
00:37:13,320 --> 00:37:17,120
Speaker 1: it's more of just, you know, the vibe between the

683
00:37:17,160 --> 00:37:23,120
Speaker 1: two people where you feel, okay, this person knows me

684
00:37:23,320 --> 00:37:27,080
Speaker 1: or cares about me differently or more than someone else.

685
00:37:27,160 --> 00:37:29,719
Speaker 1: Like it's so weird, like you can't really explain why

686
00:37:30,040 --> 00:37:33,759
Speaker 1: certain people are closer friends than others. You know, you

687
00:37:33,800 --> 00:37:37,480
Speaker 1: can have a friend circle of eight or ten people

688
00:37:37,880 --> 00:37:39,960
Speaker 1: and there might be that one or two people that

689
00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:44,520
Speaker 1: you just vibe better with for whatever reason, for whatever reason.

690
00:37:44,600 --> 00:37:48,720
Speaker 1: Maybe it's it's it's pheromones, it's just you know, campus

691
00:37:48,920 --> 00:37:52,480
Speaker 1: it's whatever it is. We right, what is it? What

692
00:37:52,640 --> 00:37:55,279
Speaker 1: is it? I don't know. I don't know, um, but

693
00:37:55,400 --> 00:37:56,920
Speaker 1: I just want to put out there because you know,

694
00:37:56,960 --> 00:38:00,160
Speaker 1: I'm thinking about my girlfriends and and just relationships. And

695
00:38:00,320 --> 00:38:02,400
Speaker 1: I'm the girl that if I see your man cheating,

696
00:38:02,480 --> 00:38:05,759
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you, okay, and I'm going to get

697
00:38:05,800 --> 00:38:10,200
Speaker 1: my phone and video, but see and pictures. I feel

698
00:38:10,239 --> 00:38:12,399
Speaker 1: like you have to if you're going to tell her,

699
00:38:12,760 --> 00:38:15,160
Speaker 1: you gotta have the pictures in the video. Yes, and

700
00:38:15,200 --> 00:38:17,040
Speaker 1: I'm gonna let you know. And I don't want to

701
00:38:17,040 --> 00:38:21,000
Speaker 1: discuss it. Yes, because there's there. I'm there are many, many,

702
00:38:21,040 --> 00:38:25,040
Speaker 1: many situations where a girlfriend sees something or hear something

703
00:38:25,120 --> 00:38:28,800
Speaker 1: and then she tells the friend and the man lies

704
00:38:28,880 --> 00:38:31,239
Speaker 1: and oh no, that didn't happen. She lying, she's lying

705
00:38:31,600 --> 00:38:34,240
Speaker 1: you you don't need to be friends with her anymore,

706
00:38:34,400 --> 00:38:39,680
Speaker 1: and then you're the one, the messenger that's on the Okay. Yes,

707
00:38:40,120 --> 00:38:43,600
Speaker 1: So I feel like it's hard. I think it's on

708
00:38:43,680 --> 00:38:46,600
Speaker 1: the relationship. Depends on the relationship. But if that's your

709
00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:49,440
Speaker 1: good girlfriend, I think it's your right to let her

710
00:38:49,480 --> 00:38:53,200
Speaker 1: know what's going on. So then do you think friends

711
00:38:53,200 --> 00:38:55,920
Speaker 1: should when they kind of start their friendship or at

712
00:38:55,920 --> 00:38:58,520
Speaker 1: some point in their friendship say look, girl, I'm just

713
00:38:58,560 --> 00:39:00,719
Speaker 1: telling you, if you hear some then or see something

714
00:39:00,760 --> 00:39:02,440
Speaker 1: about my man, then tell me, like, do you think

715
00:39:02,520 --> 00:39:05,120
Speaker 1: that should be a spoken that should that be spoken?

716
00:39:06,200 --> 00:39:07,960
Speaker 1: Do you think it should be like, all right, let's

717
00:39:07,960 --> 00:39:11,360
Speaker 1: everybody sit down in the circle and okay, robbing, do

718
00:39:11,440 --> 00:39:14,600
Speaker 1: you want to know? Okay? Do you want to know? Okay, Susie,

719
00:39:14,600 --> 00:39:16,640
Speaker 1: do you want to know? You know what I mean?

720
00:39:16,719 --> 00:39:19,040
Speaker 1: And it's like some people don't want to know. Let's

721
00:39:19,080 --> 00:39:21,759
Speaker 1: write it down. We're gonna take notes so that we know.

722
00:39:21,880 --> 00:39:24,680
Speaker 1: And so then when so when something happens, all you know,

723
00:39:25,040 --> 00:39:26,719
Speaker 1: ten girls in the group and the nine girls get

724
00:39:26,760 --> 00:39:30,239
Speaker 1: on a conference call, are y'all? So? Um, Stephanie says

725
00:39:30,320 --> 00:39:33,440
Speaker 1: she wants to know. So who's going to tell her

726
00:39:36,040 --> 00:39:38,920
Speaker 1: what I'm saying? Like I was, I'm almost considering like

727
00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:41,960
Speaker 1: texting my girlfriends and saying, hey, guys, we need to

728
00:39:41,960 --> 00:39:43,640
Speaker 1: like sit down because they're gonna be like, oh, are

729
00:39:43,640 --> 00:39:46,080
Speaker 1: you talking about my man? You talk my momn Hey

730
00:39:46,239 --> 00:39:49,799
Speaker 1: my man? They came home every night. I know he

731
00:39:49,840 --> 00:39:52,480
Speaker 1: ain't doing it, but I think that should be disclosed.

732
00:39:52,520 --> 00:39:55,239
Speaker 1: I actually think that should be like a girlfriend rule

733
00:39:55,320 --> 00:39:58,000
Speaker 1: because I have had and I'll say like in college,

734
00:39:58,560 --> 00:40:01,680
Speaker 1: um one I was I was pledging Delton, I was

735
00:40:01,719 --> 00:40:06,080
Speaker 1: never around and wand cheated on me. Oh with a

736
00:40:06,120 --> 00:40:11,719
Speaker 1: girl at Maryland and right, I can't breaking news. One

737
00:40:11,840 --> 00:40:14,320
Speaker 1: cheated on me when when we were in college and

738
00:40:14,680 --> 00:40:17,920
Speaker 1: one of so after I crossed, one of my line

739
00:40:17,920 --> 00:40:22,759
Speaker 1: sisters found out and it was a whole like, you know,

740
00:40:22,920 --> 00:40:26,120
Speaker 1: I didn't know that they my out of the ten

741
00:40:26,239 --> 00:40:29,040
Speaker 1: of us, nine of my line sisters are having these

742
00:40:29,080 --> 00:40:31,160
Speaker 1: power owls about what do we do? What do we say?

743
00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:34,719
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? And then and it turned

744
00:40:34,719 --> 00:40:38,120
Speaker 1: into a whole mess because I just needed my one

745
00:40:38,160 --> 00:40:41,080
Speaker 1: line sister to come to me and tell me. But

746
00:40:41,120 --> 00:40:43,680
Speaker 1: then it just turned into it was a mess in

747
00:40:43,719 --> 00:40:45,840
Speaker 1: my relationship with that one line sister was kind of

748
00:40:45,840 --> 00:40:47,879
Speaker 1: messed up for a little bit and blah blah blah

749
00:40:47,880 --> 00:40:50,880
Speaker 1: blah blah, all that that's why, that's why. But you

750
00:40:50,920 --> 00:40:54,400
Speaker 1: pledged Delta, that's a whole another story. But anyway, I mean, no,

751
00:40:54,719 --> 00:40:56,880
Speaker 1: like that's a mess. And the reason why it's a

752
00:40:56,960 --> 00:40:58,920
Speaker 1: mesters because you know they're sitting around talking about you

753
00:40:59,320 --> 00:41:01,319
Speaker 1: for days. But so I feel like if you just

754
00:41:01,440 --> 00:41:03,360
Speaker 1: if everyone just puts it out there in the air,

755
00:41:03,640 --> 00:41:06,080
Speaker 1: you know, to your girlfriend's, to your friend's circle, and say, look,

756
00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:07,799
Speaker 1: this is what it is, so we don't have to

757
00:41:07,840 --> 00:41:10,560
Speaker 1: we can skip that part you know, so tell me

758
00:41:10,800 --> 00:41:13,279
Speaker 1: or don't tell me. It's truck about it. That's true,

759
00:41:13,320 --> 00:41:15,160
Speaker 1: act like you ain't never seen it. Yes, I don't

760
00:41:15,160 --> 00:41:19,360
Speaker 1: need to know. Okay, well I'm telling you now, So

761
00:41:19,960 --> 00:41:23,319
Speaker 1: text message, text message your girlfriend group tonight, y'all and

762
00:41:23,360 --> 00:41:26,719
Speaker 1: make that decision. Do you want to know? Check the boxes?

763
00:41:27,120 --> 00:41:29,560
Speaker 1: And I think that's a good takeaway for everyone listening, Like,

764
00:41:29,640 --> 00:41:32,120
Speaker 1: I think that's a good that's actually like a good

765
00:41:32,160 --> 00:41:35,200
Speaker 1: conversation to have, like when you have your girls night

766
00:41:35,239 --> 00:41:37,440
Speaker 1: and you're drinking wine and and so let's put that

767
00:41:37,480 --> 00:41:40,960
Speaker 1: topic out there. Yes, do you want to know? All right? So,

768
00:41:41,040 --> 00:41:43,759
Speaker 1: typically at the end of our episode, we have our

769
00:41:43,840 --> 00:41:47,040
Speaker 1: reasonably shady people are the week for that episode, but

770
00:41:47,239 --> 00:41:50,799
Speaker 1: today we have some changes. Okay. So we have put

771
00:41:50,800 --> 00:41:55,160
Speaker 1: out to the universe, um, some friendship pet peeves we

772
00:41:55,239 --> 00:41:57,960
Speaker 1: put out there on our social media and you all

773
00:41:58,080 --> 00:42:01,520
Speaker 1: have answered yes and a very big way. Okay, So

774
00:42:01,680 --> 00:42:05,120
Speaker 1: friendship pet peeves is what we're going to be discussing

775
00:42:05,400 --> 00:42:08,680
Speaker 1: on right now. So we're we are going to go

776
00:42:08,880 --> 00:42:12,480
Speaker 1: into let's see, I'm going to tell you the number

777
00:42:12,520 --> 00:42:17,759
Speaker 1: of people that said one uppers what Okay, So okay,

778
00:42:17,800 --> 00:42:21,360
Speaker 1: let's let's talk ab Okay, what what opers is? Hey, girl,

779
00:42:21,840 --> 00:42:24,520
Speaker 1: I just bought a new car. And then you say,

780
00:42:25,080 --> 00:42:28,080
Speaker 1: oh my god, well I'm getting a new car tomorrow,

781
00:42:28,680 --> 00:42:32,320
Speaker 1: and it's going to have I get a new car tomorrow,

782
00:42:32,600 --> 00:42:35,000
Speaker 1: and it is like the Bentley of the Bentley's. Yes,

783
00:42:35,040 --> 00:42:37,200
Speaker 1: I'm the only one that has it. Yes, they only

784
00:42:37,239 --> 00:42:39,319
Speaker 1: made two in the United States and I have one

785
00:42:39,360 --> 00:42:43,040
Speaker 1: and Oprah has the other one, like crazy, or like

786
00:42:43,200 --> 00:42:44,600
Speaker 1: you buy a house and then your friends like, well,

787
00:42:44,600 --> 00:42:46,759
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go buy a house and yes, how many

788
00:42:46,800 --> 00:42:49,400
Speaker 1: square feet is your house? Minus four thousands? Oh? Mineus

789
00:42:49,480 --> 00:42:53,080
Speaker 1: five thousand? Girls like that, like that's some bullshit and

790
00:42:53,080 --> 00:42:55,719
Speaker 1: stop it right, like save it. The thing is like

791
00:42:55,840 --> 00:42:59,280
Speaker 1: your friend. Whenever your friend has some news, like celebrate

792
00:42:59,320 --> 00:43:01,520
Speaker 1: your friend in that moment, make it about your friend,

793
00:43:02,000 --> 00:43:05,439
Speaker 1: let them have their moment, and then okay, a week later,

794
00:43:05,840 --> 00:43:08,239
Speaker 1: if the conversation arises on the same topic, then you

795
00:43:08,239 --> 00:43:11,480
Speaker 1: can share your news. But like, let your friend have

796
00:43:11,760 --> 00:43:16,520
Speaker 1: their moment, yes, and stop talking about yourself. They end,

797
00:43:17,680 --> 00:43:21,240
Speaker 1: which you know leads to a lot of people said,

798
00:43:21,640 --> 00:43:24,239
Speaker 1: um selfishness, okay, so what does that mean? And not

799
00:43:24,400 --> 00:43:32,040
Speaker 1: reciprocating support. So some friends call you when they have

800
00:43:32,160 --> 00:43:34,319
Speaker 1: something going on that they either want to, you know,

801
00:43:34,360 --> 00:43:38,400
Speaker 1: talk about or tell you about. And then when the conversation,

802
00:43:38,440 --> 00:43:41,359
Speaker 1: when that conversation about themselves ends, what a conversation is over.

803
00:43:41,760 --> 00:43:44,319
Speaker 1: And it's like, right, they don't they don't care about

804
00:43:44,360 --> 00:43:46,440
Speaker 1: what's going on in your world. They don't hear about

805
00:43:46,600 --> 00:43:49,320
Speaker 1: you know, I might be a victim of this. And

806
00:43:49,360 --> 00:43:52,480
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you why. Everybody knows. I have a

807
00:43:52,480 --> 00:43:56,359
Speaker 1: friend named Cal, and every night me and Cal talk

808
00:43:56,680 --> 00:43:59,160
Speaker 1: and he says, okay, Ages, I'll start talking about you.

809
00:44:00,280 --> 00:44:04,080
Speaker 1: That's how he starts the conversation. And I'm like, it's like, hello, hey, hey,

810
00:44:04,120 --> 00:44:06,480
Speaker 1: al right, start talking about you. Just out just and

811
00:44:06,520 --> 00:44:08,600
Speaker 1: I'm like, cow, no, stop, Like I want to know

812
00:44:08,600 --> 00:44:11,960
Speaker 1: about your day. He's like, the day was good. Okay,

813
00:44:12,000 --> 00:44:16,680
Speaker 1: oh it's it's actually funny now. But it made me

814
00:44:17,000 --> 00:44:20,160
Speaker 1: think like, okay, do I just give him like my

815
00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:23,560
Speaker 1: side of my world? And do I never check in

816
00:44:23,600 --> 00:44:26,759
Speaker 1: with his? And probably? So I am happy that he

817
00:44:26,800 --> 00:44:29,880
Speaker 1: made me aware so that I don't do that anymore. Yes,

818
00:44:30,200 --> 00:44:33,960
Speaker 1: that's good. Another one in this I am so a

819
00:44:33,960 --> 00:44:37,520
Speaker 1: lot of these. I'm starting to reevaluate myself as a

820
00:44:37,560 --> 00:44:40,080
Speaker 1: friend because I'm starting to think I'm a horrible friend.

821
00:44:40,760 --> 00:44:44,239
Speaker 1: Um because people said friends that are late, friends that

822
00:44:44,239 --> 00:44:48,120
Speaker 1: are late, friends that are flakey, Robin Robin can I

823
00:44:48,200 --> 00:44:51,120
Speaker 1: can I tell you like my flake meter is off,

824
00:44:51,320 --> 00:44:55,879
Speaker 1: off the charts, off the chart. I literally one time

825
00:44:57,480 --> 00:44:59,960
Speaker 1: I had it was going to Las Vegas to celebrate

826
00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:03,560
Speaker 1: a friend's birthday. Huh like New Year's Eve, Las Vegas.

827
00:45:03,920 --> 00:45:06,239
Speaker 1: I didn't feel like packing, so I didn't go. Did

828
00:45:06,280 --> 00:45:08,440
Speaker 1: you have a ticket? Yes, I did a ticket. Hotel

829
00:45:08,520 --> 00:45:11,520
Speaker 1: room I pay. Here's here's my portion for the hotel

830
00:45:11,640 --> 00:45:14,440
Speaker 1: room I'll get you know all that. I'm like, I

831
00:45:14,480 --> 00:45:17,840
Speaker 1: don't feel like packing. I'm not going. Rob is the worst, worst,

832
00:45:18,160 --> 00:45:21,719
Speaker 1: the worst. You have to do better. You have to

833
00:45:22,320 --> 00:45:24,200
Speaker 1: do better, but at least you pay. Because my pet

834
00:45:24,239 --> 00:45:26,719
Speaker 1: peeve is my friends that don't want to pay for that.

835
00:45:27,320 --> 00:45:31,680
Speaker 1: All right, y'all bitches are broke, okay, and I'm mad

836
00:45:31,760 --> 00:45:34,919
Speaker 1: at it, and Gazelle ain't gonna continue to pay. See

837
00:45:34,960 --> 00:45:37,399
Speaker 1: that's the thing. I will. I will pay just so

838
00:45:37,440 --> 00:45:40,360
Speaker 1: we can eliminate that grape. Like, okay, you know what

839
00:45:40,360 --> 00:45:41,680
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like, I don't need you to be mad

840
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Speaker 1: because I flaked and I didn't pay, you know, so

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Speaker 1: let me just uh yeah, let me let me pay

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Speaker 1: for your love. Yeah. No, I'm not that. I'm sick

843
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Speaker 1: of it. Okay, I'm sick of it. So guess what.

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Speaker 1: Anybody who does not contribute from here on out, y'all

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00:45:58,560 --> 00:46:01,279
Speaker 1: not my friends, A nomore relationship is over? Oh yeah

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00:46:01,320 --> 00:46:08,680
Speaker 1: for sure? Um another one guilty not texting back? Like

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00:46:08,719 --> 00:46:10,520
Speaker 1: what you mean you don't give a thumbs up or

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Speaker 1: smiley face, or you don't text back at all sometimes

849
00:46:14,920 --> 00:46:19,640
Speaker 1: because you know why, that's horrible. I need iPhone to

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00:46:19,680 --> 00:46:24,000
Speaker 1: hear me. Listen to me, iPhone, I Apple, I need

851
00:46:24,080 --> 00:46:27,879
Speaker 1: you to please give us the feature of marking our

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00:46:27,960 --> 00:46:34,239
Speaker 1: text messages as unread because sometimes I'm driving or I'm

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Speaker 1: doing something and I can't respond right away, and I

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00:46:37,200 --> 00:46:40,160
Speaker 1: just want to mark my text message unread. But because

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Speaker 1: I don't have the ability to do that. Yes, there's

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00:46:43,280 --> 00:46:47,239
Speaker 1: a there's a dot. No you can't market At the

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Speaker 1: top it says how many you Okay, alright, go ahead,

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Speaker 1: So it's like once you look at it, it's like

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Speaker 1: either respond now or forever hold your peace. Okay. And

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Speaker 1: I have a problem with a little scatter brained, a

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00:47:01,920 --> 00:47:05,040
Speaker 1: little little yeah, a little I'm a little scatter brained

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Speaker 1: and distracted. I get distracted very easily, and so like

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Speaker 1: you know, I might open my phone and then like

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Speaker 1: be like, oh let me, let me text Nicole back.

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Speaker 1: And then I opened Instagram and just start Then I

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Speaker 1: started scrolling and then I forget why I opened my phone. Yes, okay,

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Speaker 1: I do do that too, but then you have to lie.

868
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Speaker 1: I do try to like, yeah, robb me, you're the worst.

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Speaker 1: So do you go back to your text messages and

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Speaker 1: like go through them and say, okay, who do I

871
00:47:34,239 --> 00:47:36,440
Speaker 1: need to reply to? Yeah? Am I am? I all

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Speaker 1: good on my text messages. At some point in the day,

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Speaker 1: I try to go through and make sure like the

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Speaker 1: top text messages I've even responded to, or I've checked

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Speaker 1: to make sure that I've responded to, or whatever the

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Speaker 1: case means. So how many unread text messages do you have?

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Speaker 1: So so right now I have none because that drives

878
00:47:52,600 --> 00:47:56,160
Speaker 1: me insane. So I have um and we're gonna look, okay, okay,

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00:47:56,200 --> 00:47:59,040
Speaker 1: I'm gonna pull my little phone. I have three Okay,

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00:47:59,120 --> 00:48:04,120
Speaker 1: so I have to to five and what yes, I

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00:48:04,160 --> 00:48:06,040
Speaker 1: have twenty five? Or I'm gonna delete this one because

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00:48:06,080 --> 00:48:09,360
Speaker 1: that's like a alert and you. You can actually you

883
00:48:09,360 --> 00:48:12,720
Speaker 1: can only see three on my screen, so that means

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Speaker 1: the rest are like, so, Robin, I see this, this,

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00:48:16,520 --> 00:48:20,719
Speaker 1: this one, Oh my god, April three. Okay, So for

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Speaker 1: the record, okay, so sometimes I'll text you right and

887
00:48:24,040 --> 00:48:29,279
Speaker 1: you won't respond, and so I'm assuming you are on

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Speaker 1: the phone or something like you're doing something else, like

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00:48:31,760 --> 00:48:35,440
Speaker 1: you're talking on the phone possibly or whatever. But I

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00:48:35,440 --> 00:48:37,200
Speaker 1: thought you were really doing something. I didn't know you

891
00:48:37,239 --> 00:48:41,680
Speaker 1: were just ignoring me. This is a new level to

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00:48:41,719 --> 00:48:48,759
Speaker 1: our friends. I wouldn't call it ignoring sometimes. Okay, some

893
00:48:48,760 --> 00:48:53,240
Speaker 1: some of these people I ignored that do better, Robin,

894
00:48:53,400 --> 00:48:57,719
Speaker 1: just do better, just do better. But it's not that

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00:48:57,760 --> 00:48:59,840
Speaker 1: I didn't ignore them on I don't know what it

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00:48:59,880 --> 00:49:03,640
Speaker 1: is like. I literally might sit on the couch and

897
00:49:03,680 --> 00:49:06,279
Speaker 1: be like, oh, I need to respond, and then and

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00:49:06,280 --> 00:49:11,399
Speaker 1: then she starts watching the view the end. Someone out

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00:49:11,440 --> 00:49:15,440
Speaker 1: there relates. I know that. And then you know why

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00:49:15,440 --> 00:49:17,879
Speaker 1: I know someone out there relates because I had so

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00:49:17,920 --> 00:49:20,880
Speaker 1: many people on Instagram respond that their pet peeves when

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00:49:20,920 --> 00:49:24,120
Speaker 1: their friend does not text them back. Yes, okay, okay,

903
00:49:24,280 --> 00:49:28,000
Speaker 1: so friends, can I tell you the story? Can I

904
00:49:28,000 --> 00:49:30,120
Speaker 1: tell you another story? And we have to wrap it up.

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00:49:30,120 --> 00:49:32,280
Speaker 1: I had a friend that texted me and I didn't respond,

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Speaker 1: and then she text me again and I didn't respond.

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00:49:34,239 --> 00:49:36,680
Speaker 1: It text me. It wasn't that I wasn't like I

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00:49:36,719 --> 00:49:39,960
Speaker 1: wasn't ignoring her. I was just busy, right, and then

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00:49:39,960 --> 00:49:42,160
Speaker 1: she started like going crazy and like calling, calling, calling

910
00:49:42,200 --> 00:49:45,600
Speaker 1: and calling one and so then it turns into like, Okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm now I'm purposely not responding rob It is a

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00:49:52,760 --> 00:49:56,720
Speaker 1: four year old child, and she's rebelling. Okay, she's rebelling

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Speaker 1: against her friend that just wants to talk to, just

914
00:49:58,800 --> 00:50:02,319
Speaker 1: wants to make sure I'm going, Oh my gosh, so um. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: one of the things that's adults. One of the pet

916
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Speaker 1: peeves adults acting like petty teens. Yes, and that would

917
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Speaker 1: be Robin Dixon. Okay, but she's good. I'm so happy

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Speaker 1: that we had this episode today because we've been able

919
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Speaker 1: to pick apart why Robin needs to do better? What

920
00:50:15,960 --> 00:50:18,399
Speaker 1: about you? I need to do better too. I don't.

921
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Speaker 1: I don't get deep. I don't. I just I just

922
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Speaker 1: want to know what the weather is. Your list is

923
00:50:22,960 --> 00:50:25,680
Speaker 1: a little longer than my, okay, but I mean mine

924
00:50:25,680 --> 00:50:31,480
Speaker 1: are like fixable. Okay. Anyway, I believe that is our

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Speaker 1: episode for today. We are reasonably Shady, and I think

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Speaker 1: I think today you might be shady. Robin. I might

927
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Speaker 1: be told a little bit too much my friends. Yes,

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Speaker 1: and I think Giselle might be reasonable Hold no, oh

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Speaker 1: my gosh. Right, but we so appreciate you all listening.

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Speaker 1: I think that our next episode, we don't know what

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Speaker 1: our next episode is going to be, but I do

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Speaker 1: believe we might have a guest, so you guys have

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Speaker 1: to stay tuned. Thank you so much for listening to us.

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Speaker 1: This is Reasonably Shady. I am Giselle Bryants and I

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Speaker 1: am Robin Dixon. Hey, we're out. We love y'all. Reasonably

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Speaker 1: Shady is a production of the Black Affect podcast Network.

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Speaker 1: For more podcasts from our Heart Radio, visit the I

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Speaker 1: Heart Radio app, Apple podcast, or wherever you listen to

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Speaker 1: your favorite shows, and you can connect with us on

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