WEBVTT - #170 This an extremely difficult question 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.520 This is like this, This question just puts me out, 0:00:04.040 --> 0:00:06.920 just hangs me out there, doesn't it right? This just 0:00:06.920 --> 0:00:09.879 puts me as a big target. Every part of your 0:00:09.960 --> 0:00:12.799 question puts me at a target, and I will gladly 0:00:12.880 --> 0:00:15.280 embrace it based on the Bible, not on my own opinion. 0:00:26.480 --> 0:00:30.680 How tie everybody. Welcome to the Grangersmith Podcast, Episode one seventy. 0:00:30.760 --> 0:00:34.240 Thanks for watching and being here and listening and hanging 0:00:34.320 --> 0:00:37.839 with me. If you're with me on a Monday good morning, 0:00:38.760 --> 0:00:41.680 I answer your questions. That's what we do, super casual. 0:00:41.840 --> 0:00:47.360 You email me Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. Make 0:00:47.400 --> 0:00:50.720 it about any subject. In fact, the more bizarre, the 0:00:50.760 --> 0:00:54.160 better the episode. It could be really about anything. We've 0:00:54.160 --> 0:00:57.640 heard just about everything in these last one hundred and 0:00:57.720 --> 0:01:01.200 seventy episodes, and I will put them in the cube. 0:01:01.200 --> 0:01:04.160 My only really real request for you is just don't 0:01:04.200 --> 0:01:06.800 make it too long. If you make it more than 0:01:06.959 --> 0:01:09.679 like a phone length of an email, it makes it 0:01:09.720 --> 0:01:12.400 more difficult for me to include it on the podcast 0:01:12.440 --> 0:01:15.800 and make it interesting. So let's get right to the 0:01:15.800 --> 0:01:19.800 first question. I have no order, I have no notes, 0:01:19.840 --> 0:01:22.679 I have nothing planned. We just dive into it. That's 0:01:22.680 --> 0:01:28.319 what we do. First email subject line says completely stuck. 0:01:28.440 --> 0:01:31.319 Hey Granger, my name is Garrett. I'm currently a junior 0:01:31.360 --> 0:01:33.640 in college. I started talking to a girl back in 0:01:33.720 --> 0:01:35.960 early November and we went on about four d eights 0:01:36.560 --> 0:01:38.759 and that seemed to be great. She was the first 0:01:38.760 --> 0:01:41.160 person to ever show interest in me, and we talked 0:01:41.200 --> 0:01:44.000 all the time on the phone. Right before Christmas break, 0:01:44.040 --> 0:01:47.640 I got to where she wouldn't engage in conversation anymore. 0:01:48.040 --> 0:01:51.880 She's just started sending me streak snapchats every day instead 0:01:51.880 --> 0:01:54.680 of a conversation. I know I should just stop talking 0:01:54.680 --> 0:01:57.520 to her completely and drop the streak, but we have 0:01:57.560 --> 0:02:00.000 a class together coming up this semester and I don't 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:02.040 want it to be awkward. Please help. Don't know what 0:02:02.160 --> 0:02:06.720 to do, Garrett, Garret, appreciate the email. Brother, And I 0:02:06.760 --> 0:02:09.239 don't know what streak means. I don't know what streak 0:02:09.360 --> 0:02:13.400 snapchat means. Sorry, somebody have to comment. If you're on 0:02:13.600 --> 0:02:16.799 a platform like YouTube where you can comment, somebody let 0:02:16.800 --> 0:02:21.800 me know what streak snapchats are. But I'm just going 0:02:21.880 --> 0:02:25.080 to assume with the contact clues that it has to 0:02:25.120 --> 0:02:29.440 do something with a picture and not a conversation, so 0:02:29.440 --> 0:02:33.320 she's not actually engaging in any kind of meaningful conversation. 0:02:33.600 --> 0:02:38.760 Get it, so let me refresh for myself. Started dating 0:02:38.919 --> 0:02:41.720 early back in November, and you went on about four 0:02:41.800 --> 0:02:45.280 dates that seemed to be doing good. She showed interest 0:02:45.280 --> 0:02:47.040 in you, and she happened to be the first person 0:02:47.120 --> 0:02:49.239 to do that. You talked all the time on the phone. 0:02:49.280 --> 0:02:53.040 That's normal for a brand new relationship. You guys are 0:02:53.040 --> 0:02:55.639 like getting to know each other. That's normal. And then 0:02:56.720 --> 0:03:01.000 right before Christmas break she slowed down, she pumped the brakes, 0:03:02.160 --> 0:03:05.520 and now she's just barely hanging on with this snapchat 0:03:05.560 --> 0:03:09.080 streak stuff. You say, I know, I should just stop 0:03:09.120 --> 0:03:12.360 talking to her completely and drop the streak. But we 0:03:12.400 --> 0:03:16.360 have a class together coming up semester. Okay, cool. The 0:03:16.400 --> 0:03:21.360 thing is, buddy, this is normal. And although it feels 0:03:21.520 --> 0:03:24.360 it feels like the walls are kind of closing in 0:03:24.440 --> 0:03:26.040 and you don't know what to do and you're you're 0:03:26.080 --> 0:03:28.200 looking for some kind of magical answer and some kind 0:03:28.240 --> 0:03:33.000 of solution, this is because this is the first time 0:03:33.840 --> 0:03:37.520 that someone has showed interest in you. Good on you. 0:03:38.120 --> 0:03:41.560 Here's why. Now you have experience. Okay, so now that's 0:03:41.600 --> 0:03:44.800 not you will never have the first time someone shows 0:03:44.880 --> 0:03:47.520 interest in you ever. Again in your life. That's over. 0:03:48.000 --> 0:03:51.200 That was her good learning experience. Got it, got it, 0:03:51.280 --> 0:03:53.880 you know, check the box. You're good to go. You'll 0:03:53.880 --> 0:03:55.800 never be able to say that again, and that's a 0:03:55.840 --> 0:03:59.880 good thing. Next time you'll know, you'll say, ah, I 0:04:00.160 --> 0:04:03.040 remember when this kind of thing happened with that girl, 0:04:03.160 --> 0:04:07.240 A four date girl, November girl. I remember that, I 0:04:07.320 --> 0:04:10.040 remember how that went down. Or you'll be able to 0:04:10.120 --> 0:04:13.760 quickly say this feels different, this is different than the 0:04:13.840 --> 0:04:18.080 last time that happened, or this feels exactly the same 0:04:18.160 --> 0:04:21.480 as the last time. Now I know. Okay, So learning 0:04:21.560 --> 0:04:25.120 is good. I know it hurts, and that pain lasts 0:04:25.120 --> 0:04:27.360 with you a little bit, but that pain is good. 0:04:27.440 --> 0:04:30.599 We need pain. It tells us, it teaches us something. 0:04:30.640 --> 0:04:34.440 It's no different in a relationship like this. This kind 0:04:34.480 --> 0:04:39.480 of weird, awkward pain is no different really than burning 0:04:39.520 --> 0:04:42.240 your hand on the stove. This is the same thing 0:04:43.040 --> 0:04:46.880 your body is telling you. Your skin is sending a message. 0:04:46.920 --> 0:04:50.720 These neurons are firing to your brain saying that hurts. 0:04:51.640 --> 0:04:54.320 Don't put your hand on the stove because if you 0:04:54.360 --> 0:04:56.960 do it any longer, it's gonna burn up the flesh 0:04:57.040 --> 0:05:00.000 and you're actually gonna lose nerve endings, and you're gonna 0:05:00.120 --> 0:05:02.400 lose the ability to use your hand. So we're gonna 0:05:02.440 --> 0:05:04.240 burn you right now. We're gonna send a message to 0:05:04.279 --> 0:05:07.720 your brain that says, ow that really hurts, stop it. 0:05:07.800 --> 0:05:10.200 Don't do that again, so that you remember not to 0:05:10.200 --> 0:05:13.920 touch the stove and you remember enough because it hurts 0:05:14.080 --> 0:05:15.839 enough that you don't want to do it again. Why 0:05:16.520 --> 0:05:20.119 so that you don't do permanent damage to your hand. 0:05:20.800 --> 0:05:23.359 That's the point of pain. So that's why pain is good. 0:05:23.640 --> 0:05:27.520 That's why we need pain. We have to have pain. 0:05:28.600 --> 0:05:33.279 In fact, the I don't know much about leprosy, but 0:05:33.960 --> 0:05:38.159 from what I understand with leprosy, it is a malfunction 0:05:38.400 --> 0:05:41.719 of the nerve endings. So you have you lose the 0:05:41.760 --> 0:05:46.240 ability to understand the concept of pain, meaning you could 0:05:46.240 --> 0:05:49.200 scratch your skin all the way completely off because you 0:05:49.240 --> 0:05:55.680 don't understand that you are damaging your skin. Right. So, emotionally, 0:05:55.800 --> 0:05:58.719 the same thing happens with the relationships. You get this pain, 0:05:59.000 --> 0:06:05.920 it's heartache, it's heartbreak, and emotionally, your body is telling 0:06:06.000 --> 0:06:09.040 your brain learn a lesson here, don't do this again 0:06:09.160 --> 0:06:12.680 because this hurts. You're not capable of going through this 0:06:12.720 --> 0:06:14.960 and doing it over and over right, that's just the 0:06:15.000 --> 0:06:19.800 basic foundation of heartache. And I'm telling you all that 0:06:19.960 --> 0:06:23.160 because you said, this is the first time a girl 0:06:23.200 --> 0:06:25.960 has ever shown interest in you. So that's why it 0:06:26.000 --> 0:06:30.200 feels weird, and that's why your mind is thinking, Man, 0:06:30.320 --> 0:06:34.400 this next semester class is going to be awkward. But 0:06:34.440 --> 0:06:36.840 the truth is it's only awkward if you want to 0:06:36.839 --> 0:06:42.479 make it awkward. If you cut this off like you 0:06:42.520 --> 0:06:45.359 feel like you probably should because you are getting the 0:06:45.480 --> 0:06:50.479 sense that she is moved on. She doesn't have the 0:06:50.480 --> 0:06:53.360 same feeling that you have. Right you're getting that kind 0:06:53.360 --> 0:06:57.560 of sense, and so you could tell her straight up 0:06:57.640 --> 0:06:59.599 right now if you want to say, Hey, I know 0:06:59.640 --> 0:07:02.080 we got a class next semester, and I don't want 0:07:02.080 --> 0:07:05.080 it to be awkward. I understand that there's there's now 0:07:05.120 --> 0:07:07.440 some distance between us, so I'm going to kind of 0:07:07.480 --> 0:07:10.920 pull back. But don't worry. That's not going to affect 0:07:10.960 --> 0:07:13.520 us next semester at all. I'll still see it still. 0:07:13.800 --> 0:07:16.440 Say hey, you could say that if you want. You 0:07:16.440 --> 0:07:18.160 don't have to say that, you could just think it. 0:07:18.880 --> 0:07:21.840 You could just pull back quietly. It's up to you, 0:07:22.240 --> 0:07:24.160 and then you see her in class and you say, 0:07:24.680 --> 0:07:28.600 what's up. Girl, whatever her name is, you Hi, you, 0:07:29.480 --> 0:07:33.000 what's up? And then keep walking. I mean, she's gonna know. 0:07:33.680 --> 0:07:35.200 She's going to know it. You don't have to say it. 0:07:35.280 --> 0:07:39.280 She knows. But uh, it's only awkward if you want 0:07:39.280 --> 0:07:42.400 to make it awkward. I'm telling you. I'm pretty sure 0:07:42.920 --> 0:07:45.360 I'm telling you a lot of stuff that she kind 0:07:45.360 --> 0:07:48.360 of already knew. You just needed to hear it, said 0:07:48.400 --> 0:07:55.360 out loud. I appreciate the email, Garrett. Next question, subject 0:07:55.400 --> 0:07:58.680 line says small business, and the email says, I would 0:07:58.720 --> 0:08:01.400 like to stay Anonymous. Hey Grange, you should come to 0:08:01.480 --> 0:08:04.040 Mexico for a concert, and i'ment I thank you. That's 0:08:04.040 --> 0:08:08.000 a pretty good idea. It says, I have thought of 0:08:08.120 --> 0:08:11.120 starting a small workout Jim, but I don't know if 0:08:11.160 --> 0:08:13.800 it's the will of God. I've been a Christian for 0:08:13.840 --> 0:08:17.720 about two years, got baptized a year ago. There is 0:08:17.800 --> 0:08:20.920 no gym close by, and I know there would be 0:08:21.200 --> 0:08:24.320 a lot of guys coming to this gym. Keep up 0:08:24.320 --> 0:08:27.800 the good work, Maan, God, bless you. Thank you, Anonymous, 0:08:27.800 --> 0:08:30.240 appreciate you. Shout out to Mexico. I wish I could 0:08:30.280 --> 0:08:34.000 go there and play a concert tomorrow. It sounds amazing. Okay, 0:08:34.000 --> 0:08:38.600 here's the deal. Here's the deal with starting a small 0:08:38.640 --> 0:08:42.840 business slash is it God's will. I don't think we 0:08:42.880 --> 0:08:47.200 should spiritualize this kind of stuff that much. If you're 0:08:47.240 --> 0:08:50.560 putting God first, if you're seeking the kingdom above all else, 0:08:51.200 --> 0:08:55.880 above all things, you're seeking the kingdom first, Seek first 0:08:55.920 --> 0:09:00.400 the kingdom, right, and all these things will be added 0:09:00.440 --> 0:09:03.760 to you. This is the straight out of the backside 0:09:03.760 --> 0:09:06.440 of the Sermon of the Mount Matthew six. Go read 0:09:06.480 --> 0:09:09.839 Matthew six, the back half of it all right, when 0:09:09.920 --> 0:09:13.160 Jesus kind of wraps up his whole thought of don't 0:09:13.200 --> 0:09:18.640 worry about this stuff. If you are seeking first a kingdom, 0:09:19.240 --> 0:09:21.760 all this stuff will be added to you. So here's 0:09:22.120 --> 0:09:26.120 practically speaking for you in this scenario. You're seeking the kingdom, 0:09:26.320 --> 0:09:30.000 sounds like you are. You're soaking up God's word. You 0:09:30.360 --> 0:09:34.440 feel spiritually sensitive, which sounds like you are, and you're like, God, 0:09:34.440 --> 0:09:36.599 I just want to I just want to do what 0:09:37.240 --> 0:09:39.960 your will for me is. I don't want to go 0:09:40.000 --> 0:09:43.640 outside of that. Then you think that that start there, 0:09:43.960 --> 0:09:46.480 right God, I just I just want to please you. 0:09:47.280 --> 0:09:49.800 I just want to be a child of you. I 0:09:49.880 --> 0:09:53.240 just want to do what's inside your will for my life. 0:09:54.120 --> 0:10:00.120 If that's you, then you start thinking thoughts like a 0:10:00.240 --> 0:10:03.280 gem is really interesting to me. The thought of starting 0:10:03.320 --> 0:10:07.960 a small business with a gem is really intriguing to me. 0:10:08.480 --> 0:10:12.439 I have a desire to do that. Then you could 0:10:12.480 --> 0:10:15.400 look back and go, huh, I'm seeking first the kingdom. 0:10:15.840 --> 0:10:19.360 And if I'm doing that, then the Bible says that 0:10:19.440 --> 0:10:23.640 he will give me the desires of my heart, meaning 0:10:23.840 --> 0:10:26.760 not he will give you whatever you want, but he 0:10:26.840 --> 0:10:32.319 will give you once he will give you new desires. 0:10:32.800 --> 0:10:37.079 So if you start desiring something while you're seeking first 0:10:37.080 --> 0:10:41.040 the Kingdom, then you could fairly say it feels like 0:10:41.120 --> 0:10:45.520 God's will and then test it right. So it's not 0:10:45.559 --> 0:10:49.120 hard to test that. Is that a selfish desire? Is 0:10:49.160 --> 0:10:51.280 it something that you're seeking because you want to get rich? 0:10:51.840 --> 0:10:55.079 Is it something you're seeking because you want to grow 0:10:55.160 --> 0:11:00.480 in popularity and power and strength and authority over others? 0:11:00.960 --> 0:11:05.480 Is it that? Or are you thinking? Man? I think? 0:11:05.960 --> 0:11:11.760 I think starting a gym as a Christian based owner 0:11:13.040 --> 0:11:17.120 and be able to evangelize in my own gym, be 0:11:17.160 --> 0:11:20.320 able to create an environment whatever everyone's welcome, almost like 0:11:20.320 --> 0:11:23.720 a church where they can come in and non believers 0:11:23.720 --> 0:11:26.760 and believers alike could come and mingle and I could 0:11:26.760 --> 0:11:29.960 have some some set the place up where it's just 0:11:30.160 --> 0:11:34.360 really really spiritual centered centered and Kingdom centered, and people 0:11:34.360 --> 0:11:36.280 could walk in and go, something's different about this by, 0:11:36.280 --> 0:11:40.600 something's different about this guy. If that's if that is 0:11:40.679 --> 0:11:44.120 intriguing to you, then I would say, hmm, that sounds 0:11:44.160 --> 0:11:48.120 like you're right on the path now practically speaking on 0:11:48.200 --> 0:11:51.520 ope actually opening a small gym. Then you're gonna have 0:11:51.559 --> 0:11:53.720 to talk to like I always recommend, you're gonna have 0:11:53.720 --> 0:11:56.960 to talk to somebody that's done this before. That would 0:11:56.960 --> 0:12:01.400 be ideal. Preferably not your town because you don't want 0:12:01.400 --> 0:12:04.120 to come in as a competitor, but maybe a couple 0:12:04.120 --> 0:12:06.679 of towns over. You're like, Hey, can I talk to you? 0:12:06.840 --> 0:12:09.000 I'm in this town and I would like to do 0:12:09.040 --> 0:12:12.000 what you're doing. How did you do it? Or what 0:12:12.040 --> 0:12:14.480 are different paths that you would suggest I could do 0:12:14.520 --> 0:12:19.280 it with? Do I lease listen? One time Chris Lely, 0:12:19.440 --> 0:12:22.319 my tour manager, and I we were in someplace way 0:12:22.400 --> 0:12:24.920 up north because I remember it was really cold, and 0:12:25.280 --> 0:12:28.880 it's like I think it was in North Dakota and 0:12:28.960 --> 0:12:31.199 we went, Yes, I believe it was North Dakota. We 0:12:31.240 --> 0:12:33.040 went to a gym, and we almost always go to 0:12:33.080 --> 0:12:35.360 a gym on the road because if we don't, we're 0:12:35.400 --> 0:12:38.720 just sitting around and not getting any kind of exercise. 0:12:38.760 --> 0:12:41.480 So I like to sweat a little bit. It really 0:12:41.520 --> 0:12:45.040 helps my brain activate. I do this almost every day. 0:12:45.559 --> 0:12:48.079 And we went so we see all kinds of gyms, 0:12:48.120 --> 0:12:50.120 that's my point. We went to this gym in North 0:12:50.200 --> 0:12:54.439 Dakota and it was literally in a a storage unit. 0:12:55.880 --> 0:12:58.880 And this guy leased a storage you know, a big 0:12:58.960 --> 0:13:02.400 storage unit with a garage door, you know, and he 0:13:02.440 --> 0:13:04.040 set up a gym in there, and he set up 0:13:04.080 --> 0:13:06.480 a membership and he did it the right way with 0:13:06.640 --> 0:13:09.120 the you know, set up the LLC and the insurance 0:13:09.160 --> 0:13:11.840 and all that kind of stuff. And he had like 0:13:11.960 --> 0:13:14.840 old used gear and it was great. My point is, 0:13:15.840 --> 0:13:18.200 you don't have to think about, you know, a million 0:13:18.280 --> 0:13:21.920 dollar facility, because that stuff gets expensive. That stuff adds 0:13:21.960 --> 0:13:24.640 up quick, all that equipment and the building. So you 0:13:24.640 --> 0:13:27.320 could just start small, aim small and go I'm gonna 0:13:27.320 --> 0:13:30.600 start with something like this, this old storage unit, or 0:13:30.640 --> 0:13:34.400 this there's there's this some kind of office space for lease, 0:13:35.000 --> 0:13:37.920 or in the in the industrial park, there's you know, 0:13:37.960 --> 0:13:41.400 there's like an oil change place, and there's a muffler shop, 0:13:41.640 --> 0:13:44.880 and then there's a little vacant shop with the garage door, 0:13:45.320 --> 0:13:47.920 and I'm gonna lease that it's a really good price, 0:13:47.960 --> 0:13:50.200 and I'm I'm gonna put my sign on the front 0:13:50.200 --> 0:13:53.120 of that garage door, and that's my small gym. I'm 0:13:53.120 --> 0:13:57.359 gonna start there, and then you easily can calculate memberships, 0:13:57.600 --> 0:14:00.560 how much you're gonna charge, and how many memberships you 0:14:00.679 --> 0:14:04.240 need to cover your lease to cover the new equipment 0:14:04.320 --> 0:14:06.400 that you get, and then to be able to have 0:14:06.520 --> 0:14:10.560 money after that for you and your salary so that 0:14:10.600 --> 0:14:13.600 you could pay the bills, and that's your job. Hopefully 0:14:13.640 --> 0:14:16.280 you could do all this while you're doing your current job, 0:14:17.200 --> 0:14:19.720 and then build it up enough to where it's paying 0:14:19.760 --> 0:14:22.960 the bills enough, and then you quit the current job 0:14:23.360 --> 0:14:27.120 and you sustain yourself completely on the new small business. 0:14:27.600 --> 0:14:32.160 That is a long roundabout way for me to say, 0:14:32.800 --> 0:14:36.360 seek first the kingdom, and all the rest will be 0:14:36.360 --> 0:14:44.160 added to you. Next question looks like it's not a question, 0:14:44.200 --> 0:14:47.360 but the subject. Cline says, thanks, mister Smith. My wife 0:14:47.480 --> 0:14:50.080 Laura and I are wintering in South Texas and we 0:14:50.160 --> 0:14:52.880 just watched the moon rise on Pure Flick's very enjoyable 0:14:52.920 --> 0:15:02.600 movie Lauren. Thank you, Lauren, appreciate you very much. Next question, 0:15:03.120 --> 0:15:08.560 subject line says travel granger. I call myself E. I 0:15:08.560 --> 0:15:11.480 love your work and your family's super inspiring. My question 0:15:11.600 --> 0:15:15.040 is kind of a two parter. I've been working with 0:15:15.120 --> 0:15:17.080 horses for as long as I can remember. I train them, 0:15:17.200 --> 0:15:20.480 I teach lessons to kids, rope and work cattle. I've 0:15:20.520 --> 0:15:22.720 been struggling with what to do with my license. I 0:15:22.800 --> 0:15:25.320 graduated and I didn't go to college. I have this 0:15:25.360 --> 0:15:28.400 opportunity to move across the country to a ranch out 0:15:28.440 --> 0:15:31.360 west and work for four months. I really want to 0:15:31.400 --> 0:15:34.920 go and learn and gain these experiences. I also feel 0:15:34.960 --> 0:15:38.840 God is calling me to do this, but I have 0:15:39.080 --> 0:15:43.600 too many worries to even count. I'm only eighteen. I've 0:15:43.720 --> 0:15:46.480 never been far away from my family or my hometown 0:15:46.560 --> 0:15:49.040 longer than a week. I would be across the country 0:15:49.120 --> 0:15:52.280 alone in a place I don't know. My safety is 0:15:52.280 --> 0:15:55.840 a concern since I don't carry, and what if no 0:15:55.920 --> 0:15:58.280 one on the ranch shares my faith and I slip. 0:15:58.920 --> 0:16:00.840 It's a ranch in the mountain, and it's not like 0:16:00.880 --> 0:16:04.560 I can go find a church, and there is not 0:16:04.800 --> 0:16:06.720 much service there, so I won't be able to talk 0:16:06.720 --> 0:16:09.960 to my family as often as I would like. Lastly, 0:16:10.080 --> 0:16:12.800 what if I fail and I'm no good at the job. 0:16:13.800 --> 0:16:15.400 I have been doing this for quite a while, but 0:16:15.480 --> 0:16:18.960 I am by no means the best in the field. 0:16:19.280 --> 0:16:24.120 Thanks for reading, God bless e e. Thanks for emailing. Brother. 0:16:24.200 --> 0:16:26.600 That is not a two parter. That's like a ten parter. 0:16:27.480 --> 0:16:30.320 And let's dig into the ten parts. Brother. Man. First 0:16:30.360 --> 0:16:34.080 of all, I like this question because I'm kind of 0:16:34.080 --> 0:16:37.440 getting excited just hearing you. Man, I'm hearing you say 0:16:37.480 --> 0:16:42.560 this in this email, and Dude, I'm getting excited, like 0:16:42.720 --> 0:16:46.160 there's just something about me. There is a I have 0:16:46.800 --> 0:16:52.160 a gypsy soul inside me. That's what drew me to music, 0:16:52.200 --> 0:16:55.240 and it's what drew me to touring. And I think 0:16:55.680 --> 0:16:59.080 I think God was setting me up with that heart 0:16:59.520 --> 0:17:03.680 so that I could be a traveling evangelist to some level. 0:17:05.760 --> 0:17:10.159 And I hear that and you and your email, and 0:17:10.200 --> 0:17:13.760 this kind of thing excites me because I think, oh, man, 0:17:13.800 --> 0:17:18.359 here we go eighteen an opportunity to leave the house 0:17:18.400 --> 0:17:22.480 for the first time ever, to go across the country 0:17:23.320 --> 0:17:25.600 to do what well, first of all, something you love. 0:17:26.600 --> 0:17:32.480 Second of all, work on a ranch out west, work 0:17:32.520 --> 0:17:36.359 in cattle. I mean, that's like the American dream that 0:17:36.400 --> 0:17:39.240 we've had the last two hundred years. That's not just 0:17:39.320 --> 0:17:42.720 an American dream, that's an international dream. I have a feeling. 0:17:42.800 --> 0:17:45.720 You go to the Far East and you say, I 0:17:45.760 --> 0:17:49.280 have this opportunity to go out west and work a 0:17:49.280 --> 0:17:52.760 cattle ranch. What do you think the Chinese are going 0:17:52.840 --> 0:17:56.720 to be like? That sounds great, that sounds incredible, right, 0:17:56.760 --> 0:18:03.000 That's just that is a such a romanticize idea. And 0:18:03.240 --> 0:18:04.919 so first of all, I'm just trying to find the 0:18:04.960 --> 0:18:09.160 bad things in this because you are really worried. You 0:18:09.240 --> 0:18:12.560 are You're very scared to do this, and I'm trying 0:18:12.640 --> 0:18:15.240 to get on this level with you and try to 0:18:15.280 --> 0:18:18.240 find you say my safety is a concern since I 0:18:18.320 --> 0:18:24.120 can't carry. I'm like, bro, hang on a second, let's die. 0:18:24.200 --> 0:18:26.160 Let's think about how many times you said God here, 0:18:28.080 --> 0:18:31.520 you said you feel like God's calling you. Let's just 0:18:31.520 --> 0:18:33.560 stick with that. Let's just go with that right there, 0:18:34.119 --> 0:18:37.399 that sentence, I feel like God is calling me to 0:18:37.520 --> 0:18:43.920 go Okay, do you really feel like that? I don't 0:18:43.920 --> 0:18:49.720 believe you, e I don't believe you because the next 0:18:49.800 --> 0:18:52.919 you want the next line is. The next line is, 0:18:53.640 --> 0:18:58.320 but I have too many worries to even count, And 0:18:58.359 --> 0:19:01.199 the end of that paragraph says, my safety is a 0:19:01.280 --> 0:19:04.919 concern since I can't carry. So let me put that 0:19:04.960 --> 0:19:07.159 together for you all. I'm doing, y'all. This is what 0:19:07.200 --> 0:19:09.560 I do all day long in these podcasts. I just 0:19:09.680 --> 0:19:12.800 read what you already wrote, and I let you hear 0:19:12.880 --> 0:19:16.200 it back. I let you hear what you wrote. That's 0:19:16.240 --> 0:19:18.600 pretty much my whole purpose here as the moderator of 0:19:18.600 --> 0:19:22.000 this podcast. I read your questions, and I don't answer 0:19:22.080 --> 0:19:24.720 them with my own opinion. I just read it back 0:19:24.760 --> 0:19:27.040 out loud so you can hear you say it. Let 0:19:27.119 --> 0:19:31.080 me put these two sentences together. I feel like God 0:19:31.160 --> 0:19:35.800 is calling me to go. My safety is a concern. 0:19:37.040 --> 0:19:40.960 Uh huh, doesn't make those two sentences don't go together, Bro, 0:19:41.640 --> 0:19:44.600 that doesn't work like that. This is what you say. 0:19:45.640 --> 0:19:49.080 Let me correct you and rewrite the sentence to what 0:19:49.160 --> 0:19:52.119 it should say. I feel like God is calling me 0:19:52.160 --> 0:19:56.800 to go. And because God is calling me to go, ha, 0:19:58.080 --> 0:20:01.639 what do I have to worry about? What could I 0:20:01.800 --> 0:20:10.880 possibly fear? God, Creator of heaven and earth, sovereign God 0:20:11.160 --> 0:20:15.280 is calling me to this? What have I to fear? Nothing? 0:20:16.160 --> 0:20:21.159 I'm going, baby, I'm going. But you don't believe that. 0:20:21.440 --> 0:20:23.480 You don't believe that at all. That's why you said 0:20:24.200 --> 0:20:27.639 my safety is a concern since I can't carry. You 0:20:27.640 --> 0:20:31.159 think a gun's gonna help you with whatever this problem 0:20:31.359 --> 0:20:35.600 you are foreseeing could happen. You think carrying is going 0:20:35.720 --> 0:20:40.200 to prevent that, whatever that is. It's a rhetorical question. 0:20:41.840 --> 0:20:44.560 Your other concern is out of the worries that too 0:20:44.640 --> 0:20:48.080 many worries to even count. First of all, I don't 0:20:48.119 --> 0:20:52.040 want to start sounding condescending here, because I'm all for you, bro, 0:20:52.240 --> 0:20:55.040 I'm all for you, and I just want to grab 0:20:55.040 --> 0:20:57.800 your shoulders and say, let's do this. Let's do this 0:20:58.040 --> 0:21:01.640 ranch thing. Man. Okay. So the other worry is you're 0:21:01.680 --> 0:21:05.159 eighteen and you've never been away from your family or 0:21:05.200 --> 0:21:08.439 your hometown longer than a week. That was me at 0:21:08.480 --> 0:21:12.640 eighteen two. I left the house at eighteen first time. 0:21:12.680 --> 0:21:15.600 It's a little bit scary. I get it. It's like, 0:21:15.720 --> 0:21:18.600 oh wow, I'm away from mom and dad and my 0:21:18.680 --> 0:21:23.280 brothers for the first time. But that's what you have 0:21:23.400 --> 0:21:26.480 to do. That is the pathway to becoming a man. 0:21:27.400 --> 0:21:31.119 That's the next step. You gotta cut that umbilical cord. 0:21:31.400 --> 0:21:34.880 You gotta go out, you gotta fail, you gotta stumble, 0:21:35.080 --> 0:21:37.760 you gotta fall. And guess who's gonna get yourself back up? 0:21:38.160 --> 0:21:43.600 You not mom anymore, not dad anymore, not your sister 0:21:43.720 --> 0:21:46.399 or your brother. You fall down. Now you got to 0:21:46.400 --> 0:21:50.760 pick yourself up. That's a valuable lesson. That's something very 0:21:50.800 --> 0:21:52.960 important to learn at the age of eighteen. And that's 0:21:53.000 --> 0:21:54.560 a good age to learn it, because you guess you 0:21:54.600 --> 0:21:56.600 don't want to learn that at twenty five. You don't 0:21:56.600 --> 0:21:58.720 want to learn that at thirty, and God knows you 0:21:58.720 --> 0:22:02.359 don't want to learn that at forty. Eighteen's a good age. 0:22:02.480 --> 0:22:05.320 I think seventeen is a little young. Why do you 0:22:05.359 --> 0:22:11.000 think they make the admission into the army for recruitment 0:22:11.160 --> 0:22:15.320 the age of eighteen. Why is it that the government 0:22:15.400 --> 0:22:19.879 picked eighteen for the army? Because it's just a known 0:22:20.320 --> 0:22:24.560 thing through hundreds and hundreds of years, we've known that 0:22:24.560 --> 0:22:27.359 that is the age when a man needs to get out, 0:22:28.000 --> 0:22:31.800 get out of the house, and stumble and fall and 0:22:31.920 --> 0:22:35.520 win and lose and be scared and find a light 0:22:35.680 --> 0:22:38.320 when you're in the dark. That is a good age 0:22:38.359 --> 0:22:41.680 to do it. Okay, So that's another fear. I'm gonna 0:22:41.720 --> 0:22:45.160 throw off the table. What else did you say? Never 0:22:45.200 --> 0:22:47.680 been from away from your hometown longer than a week? Great, 0:22:47.800 --> 0:22:50.359 now it's time. It's time to be away from your 0:22:50.400 --> 0:22:52.800 hometown for longer than a week. Here's what I want 0:22:52.800 --> 0:22:56.720 to wrap this up with. Two. You have this opportunity 0:22:56.760 --> 0:23:01.520 to work for four months. How short that is? You 0:23:01.560 --> 0:23:04.800 know how fast that's gonna go by. It's gonna fly by. 0:23:05.880 --> 0:23:08.800 It's gonna be like a blink, and the opportunity to 0:23:08.880 --> 0:23:13.600 go out here. You're worried about slipping because what if 0:23:13.640 --> 0:23:17.679 no one shares your faith? It's crazy? Are you not 0:23:17.720 --> 0:23:21.280 strong enough? Do you not have any self discipline? Do 0:23:21.400 --> 0:23:25.359 not have any self control? I'm asking that E. I 0:23:25.400 --> 0:23:28.080 know you do. I know you do. Don't tell me that. 0:23:28.920 --> 0:23:32.120 You make up your mind right now. You say, will 0:23:32.160 --> 0:23:36.640 not slip. No, that's ridiculous. I'm e. I will not slip. 0:23:37.880 --> 0:23:41.120 This is my god. I will not slip. I've got 0:23:41.160 --> 0:23:47.320 self control. Okay, say that to yourself. Please, I wouldn't 0:23:47.320 --> 0:23:49.439 wonder if I hope, I don't know. Don't tell me that. 0:23:50.520 --> 0:23:54.920 H What an opportunity to go if no one else 0:23:54.960 --> 0:23:57.760 shares your faith? What an opportunity for you to go 0:23:58.280 --> 0:24:02.160 and tell them about it, okay. And then this whole 0:24:02.240 --> 0:24:04.840 church thing, it's up in the mountains. It's not like 0:24:04.880 --> 0:24:08.200 I can go find a church. What a great opportunity 0:24:08.240 --> 0:24:10.400 A couple of things. One to figure out that there 0:24:10.520 --> 0:24:14.959 is and it probably is, and the other opportunity is 0:24:15.440 --> 0:24:19.360