WEBVTT - Socializing is No Longer Optional, The Question That Helps Relationships & More (Couch Talks) 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:02.000 While we hope couch Talks can be a tool that 0:00:02.080 --> 0:00:04.920 helps and supports wherever you are in life, couch Talks 0:00:04.960 --> 0:00:08.000 does not serve as a replacement or substitute for therapy 0:00:08.160 --> 0:00:09.640 or any mental health services. 0:00:10.680 --> 0:00:14.320 Good a right, break it down. If you ever have 0:00:14.520 --> 0:00:17.960 feelings that you just falls home, Amy and Cat gotcha 0:00:18.040 --> 0:00:22.000 covin like and now brother ladies and felas, do you 0:00:22.079 --> 0:00:24.360 just follow ann the spirit where it's all us go 0:00:24.640 --> 0:00:27.680 from and real stuff to the chaill stuff and the 0:00:27.960 --> 0:00:31.400 m but sway, sometimes the best thing you can do 0:00:31.480 --> 0:00:36.519 it just stop to feel things. This is Feeling Things 0:00:36.640 --> 0:00:37.600 with Amy and Kat. 0:00:37.640 --> 0:00:41.280 Happy Thursday, Welcome to couch Talks, our Q and a 0:00:41.440 --> 0:00:44.480 episode of the Feeling Things podcast. I'm Amy and I'm Cat, 0:00:44.880 --> 0:00:48.080 And today we've got a voicemail from a listener and 0:00:48.159 --> 0:00:51.560 an email from a listener sort of y'all just engaging 0:00:51.560 --> 0:00:55.640 with the conversation. So while couch Talks is most of 0:00:55.680 --> 0:00:58.360 the times a Q and A, this is more of 0:00:58.480 --> 0:01:02.840 just a we're all involved, Like, we're all having this conversation. 0:01:02.440 --> 0:01:04.600 Together, yeah, back and forth. 0:01:04.600 --> 0:01:08.560 So we're just sitting on the couch tracking couch talks, 0:01:09.440 --> 0:01:12.600 and I'm going to open up something that Kat gave me. 0:01:13.520 --> 0:01:14.640 Was it four years ago? 0:01:14.680 --> 0:01:17.440 Do you think I think it was the first year? 0:01:17.560 --> 0:01:17.760 Right? 0:01:17.920 --> 0:01:18.000 No? 0:01:18.400 --> 0:01:21.600 It just twenty twenty, No, twenty twenty one. 0:01:21.640 --> 0:01:22.560 How do you think twenty one? 0:01:22.680 --> 0:01:25.400 So it's called a blessings jar and there's lots of 0:01:25.880 --> 0:01:28.040 hidden things inside. We'll go over exactly what that is. 0:01:28.080 --> 0:01:31.080 But this is such an awesome gift idea for somebody 0:01:31.120 --> 0:01:34.640 in your life. So we're gonna get into the jar. 0:01:35.440 --> 0:01:37.240 I should have brought mine because I have one to 0:01:37.280 --> 0:01:37.720 pull out. 0:01:37.720 --> 0:01:41.920 Some gems see what people said. But speaking of what 0:01:41.959 --> 0:01:44.240 people have to say, I'll start with the email from 0:01:45.080 --> 0:01:47.600 Carrie or do you think it's Cary. I think it's 0:01:47.640 --> 0:01:49.520 Cary Cary, Okay. 0:01:49.760 --> 0:01:52.440 It could be Carrie. I do know somebody named Cary 0:01:52.480 --> 0:01:53.440 and she spells her name that right. 0:01:53.480 --> 0:01:55.640 Okay, that way ka r I. I just wanted to, 0:01:55.680 --> 0:01:58.200 out of respect, since she's probably listening to this right now, 0:01:58.320 --> 0:01:59.840 shout out. I don't think she wants to be an 0:01:59.840 --> 0:02:00.600 on this. 0:02:01.400 --> 0:02:02.400 I think this one's okay. 0:02:02.480 --> 0:02:05.320 I think this is the same. I appreciate the recommendation 0:02:05.680 --> 0:02:08.560 that she shares. So here we go. Hey, Amy and Kat, 0:02:08.560 --> 0:02:10.239 I just listened to your episode from a couple of 0:02:10.280 --> 0:02:13.359 weeks ago where Amy was feeling eager. Her reason put 0:02:13.360 --> 0:02:15.000 a smile on my face and I knew I had 0:02:15.000 --> 0:02:17.320 to share this bird house I just bought last weekend. 0:02:17.919 --> 0:02:20.520 It suction cups to a window and you can watch 0:02:20.720 --> 0:02:23.400 the nest. It comes with a film to put on 0:02:23.440 --> 0:02:26.720 the plexiglass of the birdhouse so the birds can't see 0:02:26.720 --> 0:02:30.799 you watching them and disturb them. I bought mine at 0:02:31.040 --> 0:02:34.040 wild Bird Store in Hendersonville, and the suite owner said 0:02:34.080 --> 0:02:36.320 it just needs to be on a window where a 0:02:36.400 --> 0:02:39.000 tree is nearby so that mama can watch the house 0:02:39.000 --> 0:02:41.560 and not be too far away. I love the podcast 0:02:41.560 --> 0:02:43.919 and have learned so many things from y'all and other 0:02:43.960 --> 0:02:46.920 listeners who have shared their questions and stories. One of 0:02:46.960 --> 0:02:50.640 my favorite lessons that really stuck with me is never 0:02:51.080 --> 0:02:55.000 suppress a generous thought. Thanks for letting me in on 0:02:55.040 --> 0:02:58.400 your conversations. It truly feels like listening to Why's curious 0:02:58.400 --> 0:02:59.560 and really fun? Friends? 0:03:01.000 --> 0:03:01.959 Nice shut out. 0:03:02.440 --> 0:03:03.799 I hope you'll have the day you need to have 0:03:03.880 --> 0:03:07.560 your friend on the north side of town carry so 0:03:07.720 --> 0:03:10.600 even the blessings jar would be in alignment with like, 0:03:10.680 --> 0:03:14.200 never suppress the generous thought, because this is the blessing 0:03:14.280 --> 0:03:16.160 jar is sort of a gift that keeps on giving 0:03:16.200 --> 0:03:19.160 because not only is it a kind, thoughtful, generous gift, 0:03:19.520 --> 0:03:22.760 but anytime the receiver of the jar needs to dip 0:03:22.800 --> 0:03:24.920 into the jar to pull out a card or something 0:03:24.960 --> 0:03:27.399 that was written nice about them, it's like you're giving 0:03:27.440 --> 0:03:29.799 the opportunity of all the friends and loved ones in 0:03:29.840 --> 0:03:32.720 their lives to not suppress a generous, thoughtful, kind thought. 0:03:32.880 --> 0:03:35.640 Yeah, yeah, I opened mine up the other day and 0:03:35.640 --> 0:03:36.440 I was having a bad day. 0:03:37.120 --> 0:03:39.800 He dips into the cook in the jar, into the 0:03:39.840 --> 0:03:43.280 blessings jar. So I feel like this is an alignment 0:03:43.280 --> 0:03:45.160 of this email. We could do the voicemail, but we'll 0:03:45.160 --> 0:03:47.120 go ahead and talk about the Blessing's jar, which this 0:03:47.200 --> 0:03:49.080 is something that you put together for me, and I 0:03:49.120 --> 0:03:51.560 know we've mentioned it before on the podcast, but I 0:03:51.560 --> 0:03:53.320 feel like it's still the beginning of the year where 0:03:53.360 --> 0:03:57.200 people might have several birthdays coming up this year of 0:03:57.240 --> 0:03:59.280 people that are in their life and they're like, what 0:03:59.360 --> 0:04:02.360 in the world do I get this person? They have everything? 0:04:02.840 --> 0:04:04.400 Well, it's good for a milestone. 0:04:04.760 --> 0:04:06.920 And I don't want to take credit for this idea 0:04:07.040 --> 0:04:09.960 because somebody had given me a blessing jar. First before 0:04:09.960 --> 0:04:11.920 I gave one to you, so it's kind of passing 0:04:11.960 --> 0:04:15.560 it on. My sister gave me one. I was going 0:04:15.600 --> 0:04:17.919 through a really bad time and so she gave it 0:04:17.920 --> 0:04:19.960 to me. It was just like I needed to hear 0:04:20.040 --> 0:04:21.960 all of those things that people were saying about me, 0:04:22.480 --> 0:04:25.280 and a lot of the things, like the little snippets 0:04:25.360 --> 0:04:28.000 that you guys will will hear, are things that you 0:04:28.040 --> 0:04:31.039 would not think other people thought, or they could be 0:04:31.080 --> 0:04:34.080 like little memories or stories that you might not have remembered. 0:04:34.560 --> 0:04:35.760 And so it helped me. 0:04:36.400 --> 0:04:39.600 Well, so you put it on whole cards that came 0:04:39.640 --> 0:04:42.480 with those cards. Oh, I thought you did. Where did 0:04:42.520 --> 0:04:44.599 you get the cards though, because they have quotes already 0:04:44.600 --> 0:04:45.520 printed on them, like it. 0:04:45.600 --> 0:04:46.520 Came with the jar. 0:04:46.839 --> 0:04:50.160 Oh, it came with the jar. But like do Etsy 0:04:50.240 --> 0:04:50.919 or Amazon or. 0:04:50.880 --> 0:04:54.039 What that came from? Altered state oddly enough. But I 0:04:54.080 --> 0:04:57.520 think you can just buy it on like Etsy, Amazon. 0:04:57.520 --> 0:04:59.160 I'm sure there's a million places you can get it. 0:04:59.160 --> 0:05:01.760 It also can just be a jar. And my sister 0:05:01.960 --> 0:05:04.600 when she made mine, she just got different color card 0:05:04.640 --> 0:05:07.039 stock and wrote the things on it, like you could 0:05:07.080 --> 0:05:07.640 make your own. 0:05:07.800 --> 0:05:09.719 And that's what I was thinking, like, oh, maybe you 0:05:09.760 --> 0:05:12.039 could print these out and cut them up. But okay, 0:05:12.080 --> 0:05:15.400 so kath came already put together as a blessing jar, 0:05:15.480 --> 0:05:18.359 and then people hand wrote notes on the cards. But 0:05:18.440 --> 0:05:22.360 you could do one hundred percent diy, yeah, and keep 0:05:22.400 --> 0:05:27.000 it simple. This is from Bobby. You're an extremely hard worker, Bobby, 0:05:27.800 --> 0:05:30.400 which I think you did you just like I wrote that. Yeah, 0:05:30.400 --> 0:05:32.240 but he wrote he said, he said it. 0:05:32.320 --> 0:05:35.600 Yeah, you know, just like I think Bobby would say 0:05:35.600 --> 0:05:37.280 this about you. 0:05:37.279 --> 0:05:37.800 You are an. 0:05:37.760 --> 0:05:40.520 Extremely how do your friend send me things? And then 0:05:40.560 --> 0:05:41.440 I wrote them all. 0:05:41.839 --> 0:05:46.719 Okay, Like Gracie, you are a deep well of wisdom 0:05:46.760 --> 0:05:49.480 that overflows as a fountain of life for those around 0:05:49.480 --> 0:05:52.960 you Proverbs sixteen twenty two. And then Gracie also did 0:05:53.000 --> 0:05:56.880 another one, so people can do multiple You are kind, generous, 0:05:56.880 --> 0:05:59.280 and there is nothing you wouldn't do for your friends 0:05:59.279 --> 0:06:02.440 and family. That's really sweet. I'm not going to read 0:06:02.440 --> 0:06:07.279 all right now, so weird. Oh my gosh, Keaton wrote 0:06:07.360 --> 0:06:11.839 like so like such a long so many let's see, 0:06:11.920 --> 0:06:14.200 let me try to find a short one from Oh, 0:06:14.200 --> 0:06:17.120 there's nother one from Bobby. You're always genuinely kind to 0:06:17.160 --> 0:06:19.680 all people you interact with. Okay, that's nice. 0:06:20.040 --> 0:06:22.440 This is not hard I feel like I should be 0:06:22.480 --> 0:06:24.120 reading it, not you. 0:06:24.120 --> 0:06:27.200 You make others feel less alone in their own struggles, 0:06:27.240 --> 0:06:35.680 which is very healing. Brittany the shout out Brittany Spencer, Right, Oh, Lisa, 0:06:37.920 --> 0:06:38.679 Yeah this is weird. 0:06:39.720 --> 0:06:41.080 I bet Lisa's was really deep. 0:06:41.240 --> 0:06:44.160 You're the strongest soft hearted person I know. Thanks for 0:06:44.200 --> 0:06:46.960 being you, which that's I love that she used the 0:06:46.960 --> 0:06:50.719 words strong and soft in the same sentence. So this 0:06:50.839 --> 0:06:53.000 is just yeah, it is. I'm not going to read 0:06:53.040 --> 0:06:55.679 all of these, go and do one more from you. 0:06:55.600 --> 0:06:57.600 No, no doubt. Yes, I don't know what I say. 0:06:57.680 --> 0:06:58.480 This one is from you. 0:06:58.600 --> 0:06:59.800 It looks long. 0:07:01.920 --> 0:07:10.040 What I said. I know you don't think you're famous. Lol. However, 0:07:10.760 --> 0:07:13.720 that is one of the ways you bless us all. 0:07:13.880 --> 0:07:15.040 You're like a real deal. 0:07:15.680 --> 0:07:19.560 You are you all the time, even when it's hard 0:07:19.840 --> 0:07:26.000 and scary. Thanks Cat. Yeah, okay, so blessings jar like 0:07:26.040 --> 0:07:28.560 this is something I already am thinking of someone this 0:07:28.680 --> 0:07:31.200 year that I want to do this for that I 0:07:31.240 --> 0:07:33.560 And I'm known about the blessing jar because obviously you 0:07:33.600 --> 0:07:35.760 gave it to me. Oh, you just wrote me something 0:07:35.800 --> 0:07:40.280 about Delilah. That's probably why you made the famous comment too. 0:07:40.480 --> 0:07:43.560 It's because you had had a thing about you said 0:07:43.560 --> 0:07:45.400 you will bless us all over when you take over 0:07:45.680 --> 0:07:49.480 Delilah and speak wisdom into the radio waves every night, 0:07:50.040 --> 0:07:53.520 cat and you labeled it a future blessing that you're 0:07:53.560 --> 0:07:59.360 speaking into existence. Oh, Delilah, if you know. 0:07:59.360 --> 0:08:01.520 You know, and you shall know. 0:08:02.640 --> 0:08:07.400 You said you are changing lives every day with the 0:08:07.480 --> 0:08:11.120 vulnerability you share. Okay, we're done this. I can't do this. 0:08:11.320 --> 0:08:14.560 You can say that serious is this. 0:08:14.440 --> 0:08:17.440 Is such a good idea and it's I could see 0:08:17.440 --> 0:08:20.560 how I felt was by myself having a moment where 0:08:20.560 --> 0:08:23.200 if I pulled one of these out that would be 0:08:23.280 --> 0:08:26.040 very helpful. And so that is if you're wondering, like, 0:08:26.040 --> 0:08:27.920 because some people may live far away, how do you 0:08:27.920 --> 0:08:30.960 get them to write the card, We'll just text them 0:08:31.520 --> 0:08:35.880 or find a way to get word that you're doing this, 0:08:36.040 --> 0:08:37.880 and they can send you what to put on the card, 0:08:37.960 --> 0:08:41.040 and like you did, you fill it out for them 0:08:41.559 --> 0:08:44.280 and that way, because I could see how taking on 0:08:44.320 --> 0:08:48.480 a task like this would feel overwhelming if you're like, oh, 0:08:48.480 --> 0:08:49.920 I need to get this person to write it and 0:08:49.920 --> 0:08:52.199 get that. But if you send out like text and 0:08:52.240 --> 0:08:54.319 then wait for the reply and you fill it out yourself, 0:08:54.360 --> 0:08:57.040 then bam, bam, yeah, bam bam. 0:08:56.720 --> 0:08:58.240 And then you can get people from yeah all over 0:08:58.280 --> 0:09:00.880 because Lisa is in New York and she was able 0:09:00.920 --> 0:09:02.679 to have blessings in your jar. 0:09:03.040 --> 0:09:17.600 Yeah, show notes, Oh, Shannon, Shannon found a blessings jar 0:09:17.679 --> 0:09:20.719 on Amazon, and she said she's gonna link it, so 0:09:20.920 --> 0:09:22.760 I will I when I do the show notes. 0:09:22.840 --> 0:09:24.600 She was letting me know that I can link it 0:09:24.640 --> 0:09:33.120 in the show notes. Show lie, if people were here 0:09:33.320 --> 0:09:37.200 behind the scenes show, Shannon's sitting here with her computer 0:09:37.280 --> 0:09:39.920 while we're working in case like we have a question 0:09:39.920 --> 0:09:41.360 about something or we want to look it up, or 0:09:41.400 --> 0:09:43.200 we're about to play a voicemail from a listener, and 0:09:43.240 --> 0:09:47.360 Shannon's got the voicemail queued up on her phone ready 0:09:47.360 --> 0:09:52.319 to play through our road caster, which is like our 0:09:52.360 --> 0:09:59.080 little I call it our little podcaster box. The soundboards soundboard, Yeah, 0:09:59.160 --> 0:10:02.679 with buttons and life. It's so cute, right colorful. I 0:10:02.800 --> 0:10:06.040 like it. And so she's got it hooked up so 0:10:06.080 --> 0:10:08.120 it'll play through there sub way. The audio sounds good 0:10:08.160 --> 0:10:10.679 because like I don't know, back in the day, like 0:10:10.720 --> 0:10:12.079 if I was running the show, I'd be like I 0:10:12.200 --> 0:10:14.440 just hold up my phone to the microphone. But it 0:10:14.520 --> 0:10:19.079 sounds better when we run it through Shannon's. So that's 0:10:19.080 --> 0:10:20.840 what we're going to do for the voicemail coming up 0:10:20.880 --> 0:10:22.920 in just a minute. But before we get to that, 0:10:23.880 --> 0:10:26.840 I want to talk about like going out in your 0:10:27.520 --> 0:10:32.760 thirties and forties and how a lot of times we 0:10:32.960 --> 0:10:36.560 just turn into hermits and don't want to go out anymore. 0:10:37.320 --> 0:10:44.120 And I saw a geriatric psychologist. 0:10:42.960 --> 0:10:43.880 Like, you're targeting me. 0:10:44.920 --> 0:10:48.600 No, I'm not, I'm targeting myself, Took. It's not just 0:10:48.640 --> 0:10:50.600 to you, I think it's anybody. Like when you hit 0:10:50.600 --> 0:10:54.600 that thirty five to forty to forty five range, it's 0:10:54.640 --> 0:10:57.480 like you go out less and less and it's harder 0:10:57.520 --> 0:10:59.720 to get together because you just want to stay home. 0:11:00.440 --> 0:11:04.640 But obviously you know what a geriatric psychologist is. 0:11:05.360 --> 0:11:06.840 Psychologists for older people. 0:11:07.720 --> 0:11:09.720 Ding ding ding ding ding ding ding ding. 0:11:10.840 --> 0:11:15.520 So I'm gonna pull it up because he talked about 0:11:15.559 --> 0:11:20.880 how basically it's the music for the post. But he 0:11:21.040 --> 0:11:24.800 was talking about how if you're we need to stop 0:11:24.880 --> 0:11:28.640 waiting to feel social, because you don't wait to feel 0:11:28.679 --> 0:11:32.520 inspired to brush your teeth. Socializing after forty is no 0:11:32.600 --> 0:11:35.920 longer entertainment. It's cognitive maintenance, sort of like you wake 0:11:35.960 --> 0:11:37.959 up every day and brush your teeth, to take care 0:11:38.040 --> 0:11:40.360 of your hygiene health. We need to take care of 0:11:40.400 --> 0:11:44.040 our brain health. And the older you get, like the 0:11:44.080 --> 0:11:46.640 more isolated we get because we just don't want to 0:11:46.679 --> 0:11:49.080 go out. But he was saying that we need to 0:11:49.280 --> 0:11:53.079 force interactions with the same discipline that we use for 0:11:53.600 --> 0:11:56.680 like our monthly mortgage payment, Like you do that every 0:11:56.720 --> 0:11:59.320 month no matter what, because you don't want to fall behind. Well, 0:11:59.400 --> 0:12:02.280 you need to plan a gathering with friends no matter 0:12:02.280 --> 0:12:04.880 what because you don't want to fall behind. Which Gracie, 0:12:05.000 --> 0:12:06.400 she's one of the people that you had in my 0:12:06.400 --> 0:12:09.559 Blessings jar. You know, she has emergency confetti and something 0:12:09.559 --> 0:12:13.200 else that she's organized in our town. I guess with 0:12:13.360 --> 0:12:17.160 moms in our area is a monthly mom's club and 0:12:17.760 --> 0:12:20.520 it's all on email. I receive the emails. I've yet 0:12:20.559 --> 0:12:23.440 to go, but I want to every time, and then 0:12:23.440 --> 0:12:25.840 when they come around, I mean, I'm not able, But 0:12:25.880 --> 0:12:30.160 I'm also not forcing myself to go because I could 0:12:30.240 --> 0:12:33.240 make it a priority of like okay, I just need 0:12:33.280 --> 0:12:35.200 to get there and cancel whatever it else I has, 0:12:35.360 --> 0:12:38.760 or like I can't stay home because I'm tired, Like 0:12:38.840 --> 0:12:42.360 I need to go because the truth is such a 0:12:42.400 --> 0:12:45.079 good way to gather with other women and other moms 0:12:45.120 --> 0:12:47.600 that are in similar situations, and you get to talk 0:12:47.600 --> 0:12:49.720 about all kinds of things. And they do an activity 0:12:49.760 --> 0:12:51.440 at every single one, Like they put a lot of 0:12:51.440 --> 0:12:53.360 thought into it, and you maybe have to venmo like 0:12:53.880 --> 0:12:57.880 ten bucks, twenty bucks to contribute towards whatever the activity is. 0:12:58.679 --> 0:13:01.880 And I think it's so cool that Gracie is doing that, 0:13:02.000 --> 0:13:04.000 and you can tell she's putting a lot of thought 0:13:04.040 --> 0:13:05.959 and love and care into it, her and a couple 0:13:05.960 --> 0:13:09.800 of other girls. And I'm like, that could be my 0:13:10.760 --> 0:13:14.560 monthly activity, my monthly cognitive maintenance. 0:13:14.720 --> 0:13:27.679 Do you want to challenge yourself? Do you want to 0:13:27.760 --> 0:13:30.079 challenge yourself to go to. 0:13:30.040 --> 0:13:35.040 The next one? Sure, I don't know if I'm available. Okay, 0:13:37.000 --> 0:13:38.680 I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding. I think I am. 0:13:38.720 --> 0:13:41.240 I think I am, And yeah I might. 0:13:41.440 --> 0:13:42.560 What's the activity next time? 0:13:42.600 --> 0:13:42.880 Do you know? 0:13:43.720 --> 0:13:45.280 I'll have to check the email let me see if 0:13:45.320 --> 0:13:46.920 one has gone out. I think it's like the first 0:13:46.960 --> 0:13:49.400 They kind of keep it consistent. Maybe it's the first 0:13:49.640 --> 0:13:53.120 Thursday of every month. Okay, So like for Valentine's Day 0:13:53.120 --> 0:13:56.040 they did, like for the month of February, they did 0:13:56.640 --> 0:14:00.480 like a Gallantine's and then they had little actvities where 0:14:00.480 --> 0:14:02.079 they had I think they had candles, and then they 0:14:02.240 --> 0:14:04.920 decorated the candles. Oh. 0:14:05.000 --> 0:14:07.640 I saw her post about that. That looked really cute. 0:14:07.360 --> 0:14:10.480 And you wore like fun pajamas and it was real 0:14:10.559 --> 0:14:13.360 casual and then they had cute little Valentine snacks and whatnot. 0:14:13.400 --> 0:14:16.559 But March, I know there's a Bunco. 0:14:16.559 --> 0:14:19.800 Okay, waiting for you to say bunco because I think 0:14:19.840 --> 0:14:22.240 of her when I hear bunco, because didn't you do 0:14:22.280 --> 0:14:23.440 that for her birthday or something? 0:14:23.520 --> 0:14:24.800 That's what she did for her birthday. 0:14:24.840 --> 0:14:28.560 Yeah, my parents when I was younger had Bunco club 0:14:29.040 --> 0:14:31.320 or like group or whatever, and once a month they 0:14:31.360 --> 0:14:33.760 would go to one person in their group's houses and 0:14:33.880 --> 0:14:34.640 do like a party. 0:14:35.160 --> 0:14:37.880 And I would like to do that. I don't know 0:14:37.880 --> 0:14:38.160 how to. 0:14:38.080 --> 0:14:40.920 Play bunko, but when you were talking about this, you 0:14:41.400 --> 0:14:43.920 said the words like going out, but it could be 0:14:44.080 --> 0:14:47.040 just gathering with friends inside. It doesn't have to be like, yes, 0:14:47.200 --> 0:14:48.760 go out. It could be like go to somebody's house 0:14:48.760 --> 0:14:51.560 and have a game night. I would love to have 0:14:52.320 --> 0:14:54.920 like a whether it's bunco or another game, like a 0:14:54.960 --> 0:15:00.760 group like that that feels very middle aged, like, and. 0:15:00.680 --> 0:15:03.840 I think even in your like or if you have 0:15:04.120 --> 0:15:06.400 a boyfriend or a husband or whatever, like, are y'all 0:15:06.440 --> 0:15:08.040 like my boyfriend and I have talked about this, like 0:15:08.120 --> 0:15:09.960 we need to go on more double dates, Like we 0:15:10.000 --> 0:15:13.479 need to get out and like be intentional of socializing 0:15:13.520 --> 0:15:17.280 with other couples. So it could be that that's your 0:15:17.760 --> 0:15:20.040 like every two weeks or once a month, I get 0:15:20.080 --> 0:15:22.960 it with kids and work and we fall into that 0:15:23.000 --> 0:15:24.680 pattern of like, Okay, well we're just tired. Do we 0:15:24.720 --> 0:15:26.120 really want to get dressed and go out? And we 0:15:26.160 --> 0:15:29.320 could just so something that we've talked about is like 0:15:29.440 --> 0:15:31.800 we need to be intentional of going out with other 0:15:31.960 --> 0:15:37.080 couples and doing that, because it's easy to be tired 0:15:37.160 --> 0:15:39.200 and want to just get cozy and order food and 0:15:39.200 --> 0:15:43.120 watch a TV show. And then that's isolation even though 0:15:43.120 --> 0:15:44.440 you're even with someone else. 0:15:45.040 --> 0:15:47.200 Yeah, so just no. 0:15:47.360 --> 0:15:49.400 I think that as we think his point of being 0:15:49.400 --> 0:15:53.440 a geriatric psychologist is like the forties, thirties, forties, that's 0:15:53.440 --> 0:15:55.400 when you start seeing it show up, and then you 0:15:55.440 --> 0:15:58.000 train yourself to just stay home. So then in your 0:15:58.040 --> 0:15:59.880 fifties your sixties, you're kind of doing the same, and 0:16:00.120 --> 0:16:03.080 it just progressively gets worse. So treat it as maintenance. 0:16:03.200 --> 0:16:05.640 You are in that routine and it's just part of 0:16:05.680 --> 0:16:06.440 your lifestyle. 0:16:06.760 --> 0:16:07.680 Yeah, and it's not. 0:16:08.400 --> 0:16:11.400 It doesn't mean that you can't wear comfy clothes and 0:16:11.480 --> 0:16:14.600 order take out and watch movies. It's you're saying, like 0:16:15.120 --> 0:16:17.720 a sprinkle in some social interaction into that. 0:16:18.000 --> 0:16:20.440 Yeah, I mean I'm not going to take away comfy 0:16:20.480 --> 0:16:22.640 clothes and ordering food and watching TV. Heck no, I 0:16:22.680 --> 0:16:26.200 love that. It's just that if that's your default every 0:16:26.240 --> 0:16:29.800 single time, I think that's yeah, I can relate to that, 0:16:30.080 --> 0:16:33.760 and we need to do better. I just checked Gracie's 0:16:33.840 --> 0:16:36.440 name in my email and they haven't sent out details 0:16:36.640 --> 0:16:42.080 yet for the Oh they did give a teaser in 0:16:42.200 --> 0:16:46.280 the Gallantines one. They said, yeah, the March hang will 0:16:46.320 --> 0:16:48.240 be a Bunco night, So I guess that's what it is. 0:16:48.280 --> 0:16:50.840 That's where I had that in my head. In January 0:16:50.880 --> 0:16:53.080 they did a vision board night. 0:16:53.360 --> 0:16:55.400 But you don't know. You still don't know when. Right. 0:16:56.120 --> 0:16:58.960 It says March fifth, which is I think the first 0:16:59.000 --> 0:16:59.960 Thursday of the month. 0:17:00.240 --> 0:17:01.800 Are you a builble Thursday nights? 0:17:02.360 --> 0:17:04.639 I have to go check. Let me see. We have 0:17:04.680 --> 0:17:08.560 a Bobby Bone Show cruise that week, so I will 0:17:08.600 --> 0:17:12.159 try to go if I can. Okay, it's on the 0:17:12.240 --> 0:17:15.000 upcoming ones because obviously now I know that it'll be 0:17:15.160 --> 0:17:23.040 April second, okay, and then yeah, May seventh, so I 0:17:23.040 --> 0:17:25.800 can start putting that on my calendar as my monthly 0:17:25.880 --> 0:17:30.600 maintenance with my Mom's Club, which I don't know if 0:17:30.720 --> 0:17:32.959 everybody has that, but maybe you could be the person 0:17:33.040 --> 0:17:36.280 in your town that starts it, because I'm like, Gracie's 0:17:36.280 --> 0:17:38.639 put a lot of work into this, but once you 0:17:38.720 --> 0:17:40.800 get like the template of it, it could be fun 0:17:40.800 --> 0:17:43.560 and you can I think she's got it on social media. 0:17:43.640 --> 0:17:45.920 I don't know if it's even the handle monthly Mom's Club, 0:17:46.920 --> 0:17:50.320 but you could look to it for inspo or like 0:17:50.480 --> 0:17:52.080 just take this and be like, Okay, the first month, 0:17:52.080 --> 0:17:55.160 we're going to do a girl's night where we decorate something, 0:17:55.560 --> 0:17:57.280 We're going to do a bunco night, or we're going 0:17:57.359 --> 0:17:59.320 to do what's it that everybody does? 0:17:59.359 --> 0:18:03.359 That's that sounds to me, that's too complicated. 0:18:03.400 --> 0:18:04.640 That's like I don't know how to play. 0:18:04.680 --> 0:18:06.520 There's a lot of it feels like rules and stuff. 0:18:06.560 --> 0:18:09.960 I keep getting like videos on Instagram and TikTok of 0:18:10.040 --> 0:18:13.960 like Majong rules, and I don't know why that's in 0:18:13.960 --> 0:18:15.159 my algorithm. 0:18:15.400 --> 0:18:16.560 Maybe it's telling me, it is. 0:18:16.560 --> 0:18:18.680 Telling you something for your cognitive health. 0:18:20.240 --> 0:18:23.920 Yeah, I'll play Bunko Majong is I just feel like 0:18:24.000 --> 0:18:24.280 a lot. 0:18:24.640 --> 0:18:26.480 Yeah, my friends that play it though, they love it. 0:18:26.840 --> 0:18:29.560 Okay, I'll start Majong listeners. 0:18:29.640 --> 0:18:34.000 If y'all play, send us encouragement. Yeah, and do you 0:18:34.000 --> 0:18:36.160 think Kat and I would like it? Like, really think 0:18:36.160 --> 0:18:37.320 about us and who we are. 0:18:37.520 --> 0:18:39.800 I love games, but well I love that game. 0:18:39.880 --> 0:18:43.440 Right, and I would say I like games. 0:18:45.400 --> 0:18:48.560 You're so fun when you play them. You was the 0:18:48.600 --> 0:18:51.000 star of my birthday that one year because you were 0:18:51.119 --> 0:18:54.440 so good at the what were the poetry for N'anserthal's 0:18:55.040 --> 0:18:55.760 Oh my gosh. 0:18:55.960 --> 0:18:58.560 Okay, that game is fun. Yeah, I love, I love. 0:18:58.600 --> 0:19:01.120 I guess it just depends on the game. If I'm 0:19:01.119 --> 0:19:01.440 going to. 0:19:01.480 --> 0:19:03.040 You like Bunko when you play it. 0:19:03.240 --> 0:19:06.600 I wasn't very good at it, but it's also doesn't take. 0:19:06.680 --> 0:19:07.520 It like a dice game. 0:19:07.640 --> 0:19:12.359 Yeah, it's not skill, it's luck. It's luck. So I 0:19:12.359 --> 0:19:16.119 guess I just wasn't very lucky with it. So anyway, 0:19:16.160 --> 0:19:20.960 I just wanted to offer that encouragement since we had 0:19:20.960 --> 0:19:26.120 the email of never suppress a generous thought. Maybe never 0:19:26.440 --> 0:19:34.520 suppress a moment to go out. Sometimes suppress it. Once 0:19:34.560 --> 0:19:36.920 a month you need to go out. Let's just set 0:19:36.920 --> 0:19:38.879 the goal of, like once a month you need to 0:19:38.920 --> 0:19:40.359 do something with friends. 0:19:40.520 --> 0:19:42.080 I can even do twice a month. 0:19:44.600 --> 0:19:46.080 The months are flying by. 0:19:46.320 --> 0:19:47.960 You could do twice a month. I could. 0:19:48.000 --> 0:19:54.840