1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,000 Speaker 1: While we hope couch Talks can be a tool that 2 00:00:02,080 --> 00:00:04,920 Speaker 1: helps and supports wherever you are in life, couch Talks 3 00:00:04,960 --> 00:00:08,000 Speaker 1: does not serve as a replacement or substitute for therapy 4 00:00:08,160 --> 00:00:09,640 Speaker 1: or any mental health services. 5 00:00:10,680 --> 00:00:14,320 Speaker 2: Good a right, break it down. If you ever have 6 00:00:14,520 --> 00:00:17,960 Speaker 2: feelings that you just falls home, Amy and Cat gotcha 7 00:00:18,040 --> 00:00:22,000 Speaker 2: covin like and now brother ladies and felas, do you 8 00:00:22,079 --> 00:00:24,360 Speaker 2: just follow ann the spirit where it's all us go 9 00:00:24,640 --> 00:00:27,680 Speaker 2: from and real stuff to the chaill stuff and the 10 00:00:27,960 --> 00:00:31,400 Speaker 2: m but sway, sometimes the best thing you can do 11 00:00:31,480 --> 00:00:36,519 Speaker 2: it just stop to feel things. This is Feeling Things 12 00:00:36,640 --> 00:00:37,600 Speaker 2: with Amy and Kat. 13 00:00:37,640 --> 00:00:41,280 Speaker 3: Happy Thursday, Welcome to couch Talks, our Q and a 14 00:00:41,440 --> 00:00:44,480 Speaker 3: episode of the Feeling Things podcast. I'm Amy and I'm Cat, 15 00:00:44,880 --> 00:00:48,080 Speaker 3: And today we've got a voicemail from a listener and 16 00:00:48,159 --> 00:00:51,560 Speaker 3: an email from a listener sort of y'all just engaging 17 00:00:51,560 --> 00:00:55,640 Speaker 3: with the conversation. So while couch Talks is most of 18 00:00:55,680 --> 00:00:58,360 Speaker 3: the times a Q and A, this is more of 19 00:00:58,480 --> 00:01:02,840 Speaker 3: just a we're all involved, Like, we're all having this conversation. 20 00:01:02,440 --> 00:01:04,600 Speaker 1: Together, yeah, back and forth. 21 00:01:04,600 --> 00:01:08,560 Speaker 3: So we're just sitting on the couch tracking couch talks, 22 00:01:09,440 --> 00:01:12,600 Speaker 3: and I'm going to open up something that Kat gave me. 23 00:01:13,520 --> 00:01:14,640 Speaker 3: Was it four years ago? 24 00:01:14,680 --> 00:01:17,440 Speaker 1: Do you think I think it was the first year? 25 00:01:17,560 --> 00:01:17,760 Speaker 4: Right? 26 00:01:17,920 --> 00:01:18,000 Speaker 5: No? 27 00:01:18,400 --> 00:01:21,600 Speaker 3: It just twenty twenty, No, twenty twenty one. 28 00:01:21,640 --> 00:01:22,560 Speaker 1: How do you think twenty one? 29 00:01:22,680 --> 00:01:25,400 Speaker 3: So it's called a blessings jar and there's lots of 30 00:01:25,880 --> 00:01:28,040 Speaker 3: hidden things inside. We'll go over exactly what that is. 31 00:01:28,080 --> 00:01:31,080 Speaker 3: But this is such an awesome gift idea for somebody 32 00:01:31,120 --> 00:01:34,640 Speaker 3: in your life. So we're gonna get into the jar. 33 00:01:35,440 --> 00:01:37,240 Speaker 1: I should have brought mine because I have one to 34 00:01:37,280 --> 00:01:37,720 Speaker 1: pull out. 35 00:01:37,720 --> 00:01:41,920 Speaker 3: Some gems see what people said. But speaking of what 36 00:01:41,959 --> 00:01:44,240 Speaker 3: people have to say, I'll start with the email from 37 00:01:45,080 --> 00:01:47,600 Speaker 3: Carrie or do you think it's Cary. I think it's 38 00:01:47,640 --> 00:01:49,520 Speaker 3: Cary Cary, Okay. 39 00:01:49,760 --> 00:01:52,440 Speaker 1: It could be Carrie. I do know somebody named Cary 40 00:01:52,480 --> 00:01:53,440 Speaker 1: and she spells her name that right. 41 00:01:53,480 --> 00:01:55,640 Speaker 3: Okay, that way ka r I. I just wanted to, 42 00:01:55,680 --> 00:01:58,200 Speaker 3: out of respect, since she's probably listening to this right now, 43 00:01:58,320 --> 00:01:59,840 Speaker 3: shout out. I don't think she wants to be an 44 00:01:59,840 --> 00:02:00,600 Speaker 3: on this. 45 00:02:01,400 --> 00:02:02,400 Speaker 1: I think this one's okay. 46 00:02:02,480 --> 00:02:05,320 Speaker 3: I think this is the same. I appreciate the recommendation 47 00:02:05,680 --> 00:02:08,560 Speaker 3: that she shares. So here we go. Hey, Amy and Kat, 48 00:02:08,560 --> 00:02:10,239 Speaker 3: I just listened to your episode from a couple of 49 00:02:10,280 --> 00:02:13,359 Speaker 3: weeks ago where Amy was feeling eager. Her reason put 50 00:02:13,360 --> 00:02:15,000 Speaker 3: a smile on my face and I knew I had 51 00:02:15,000 --> 00:02:17,320 Speaker 3: to share this bird house I just bought last weekend. 52 00:02:17,919 --> 00:02:20,520 Speaker 3: It suction cups to a window and you can watch 53 00:02:20,720 --> 00:02:23,400 Speaker 3: the nest. It comes with a film to put on 54 00:02:23,440 --> 00:02:26,720 Speaker 3: the plexiglass of the birdhouse so the birds can't see 55 00:02:26,720 --> 00:02:30,799 Speaker 3: you watching them and disturb them. I bought mine at 56 00:02:31,040 --> 00:02:34,040 Speaker 3: wild Bird Store in Hendersonville, and the suite owner said 57 00:02:34,080 --> 00:02:36,320 Speaker 3: it just needs to be on a window where a 58 00:02:36,400 --> 00:02:39,000 Speaker 3: tree is nearby so that mama can watch the house 59 00:02:39,000 --> 00:02:41,560 Speaker 3: and not be too far away. I love the podcast 60 00:02:41,560 --> 00:02:43,919 Speaker 3: and have learned so many things from y'all and other 61 00:02:43,960 --> 00:02:46,920 Speaker 3: listeners who have shared their questions and stories. One of 62 00:02:46,960 --> 00:02:50,640 Speaker 3: my favorite lessons that really stuck with me is never 63 00:02:51,080 --> 00:02:55,000 Speaker 3: suppress a generous thought. Thanks for letting me in on 64 00:02:55,040 --> 00:02:58,400 Speaker 3: your conversations. It truly feels like listening to Why's curious 65 00:02:58,400 --> 00:02:59,560 Speaker 3: and really fun? Friends? 66 00:03:01,000 --> 00:03:01,959 Speaker 1: Nice shut out. 67 00:03:02,440 --> 00:03:03,799 Speaker 3: I hope you'll have the day you need to have 68 00:03:03,880 --> 00:03:07,560 Speaker 3: your friend on the north side of town carry so 69 00:03:07,720 --> 00:03:10,600 Speaker 3: even the blessings jar would be in alignment with like, 70 00:03:10,680 --> 00:03:14,200 Speaker 3: never suppress the generous thought, because this is the blessing 71 00:03:14,280 --> 00:03:16,160 Speaker 3: jar is sort of a gift that keeps on giving 72 00:03:16,200 --> 00:03:19,160 Speaker 3: because not only is it a kind, thoughtful, generous gift, 73 00:03:19,520 --> 00:03:22,760 Speaker 3: but anytime the receiver of the jar needs to dip 74 00:03:22,800 --> 00:03:24,920 Speaker 3: into the jar to pull out a card or something 75 00:03:24,960 --> 00:03:27,399 Speaker 3: that was written nice about them, it's like you're giving 76 00:03:27,440 --> 00:03:29,799 Speaker 3: the opportunity of all the friends and loved ones in 77 00:03:29,840 --> 00:03:32,720 Speaker 3: their lives to not suppress a generous, thoughtful, kind thought. 78 00:03:32,880 --> 00:03:35,640 Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I opened mine up the other day and 79 00:03:35,640 --> 00:03:36,440 Speaker 4: I was having a bad day. 80 00:03:37,120 --> 00:03:39,800 Speaker 3: He dips into the cook in the jar, into the 81 00:03:39,840 --> 00:03:43,280 Speaker 3: blessings jar. So I feel like this is an alignment 82 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:45,160 Speaker 3: of this email. We could do the voicemail, but we'll 83 00:03:45,160 --> 00:03:47,120 Speaker 3: go ahead and talk about the Blessing's jar, which this 84 00:03:47,200 --> 00:03:49,080 Speaker 3: is something that you put together for me, and I 85 00:03:49,120 --> 00:03:51,560 Speaker 3: know we've mentioned it before on the podcast, but I 86 00:03:51,560 --> 00:03:53,320 Speaker 3: feel like it's still the beginning of the year where 87 00:03:53,360 --> 00:03:57,200 Speaker 3: people might have several birthdays coming up this year of 88 00:03:57,240 --> 00:03:59,280 Speaker 3: people that are in their life and they're like, what 89 00:03:59,360 --> 00:04:02,360 Speaker 3: in the world do I get this person? They have everything? 90 00:04:02,840 --> 00:04:04,400 Speaker 1: Well, it's good for a milestone. 91 00:04:04,760 --> 00:04:06,920 Speaker 4: And I don't want to take credit for this idea 92 00:04:07,040 --> 00:04:09,960 Speaker 4: because somebody had given me a blessing jar. First before 93 00:04:09,960 --> 00:04:11,920 Speaker 4: I gave one to you, so it's kind of passing 94 00:04:11,960 --> 00:04:15,560 Speaker 4: it on. My sister gave me one. I was going 95 00:04:15,600 --> 00:04:17,919 Speaker 4: through a really bad time and so she gave it 96 00:04:17,920 --> 00:04:19,960 Speaker 4: to me. It was just like I needed to hear 97 00:04:20,040 --> 00:04:21,960 Speaker 4: all of those things that people were saying about me, 98 00:04:22,480 --> 00:04:25,280 Speaker 4: and a lot of the things, like the little snippets 99 00:04:25,360 --> 00:04:28,000 Speaker 4: that you guys will will hear, are things that you 100 00:04:28,040 --> 00:04:31,039 Speaker 4: would not think other people thought, or they could be 101 00:04:31,080 --> 00:04:34,080 Speaker 4: like little memories or stories that you might not have remembered. 102 00:04:34,560 --> 00:04:35,760 Speaker 4: And so it helped me. 103 00:04:36,400 --> 00:04:39,600 Speaker 3: Well, so you put it on whole cards that came 104 00:04:39,640 --> 00:04:42,480 Speaker 3: with those cards. Oh, I thought you did. Where did 105 00:04:42,520 --> 00:04:44,599 Speaker 3: you get the cards though, because they have quotes already 106 00:04:44,600 --> 00:04:45,520 Speaker 3: printed on them, like it. 107 00:04:45,600 --> 00:04:46,520 Speaker 1: Came with the jar. 108 00:04:46,839 --> 00:04:50,160 Speaker 3: Oh, it came with the jar. But like do Etsy 109 00:04:50,240 --> 00:04:50,919 Speaker 3: or Amazon or. 110 00:04:50,880 --> 00:04:54,039 Speaker 4: What that came from? Altered state oddly enough. But I 111 00:04:54,080 --> 00:04:57,520 Speaker 4: think you can just buy it on like Etsy, Amazon. 112 00:04:57,520 --> 00:04:59,160 Speaker 4: I'm sure there's a million places you can get it. 113 00:04:59,160 --> 00:05:01,760 Speaker 4: It also can just be a jar. And my sister 114 00:05:01,960 --> 00:05:04,600 Speaker 4: when she made mine, she just got different color card 115 00:05:04,640 --> 00:05:07,039 Speaker 4: stock and wrote the things on it, like you could 116 00:05:07,080 --> 00:05:07,640 Speaker 4: make your own. 117 00:05:07,800 --> 00:05:09,719 Speaker 3: And that's what I was thinking, like, oh, maybe you 118 00:05:09,760 --> 00:05:12,039 Speaker 3: could print these out and cut them up. But okay, 119 00:05:12,080 --> 00:05:15,400 Speaker 3: so kath came already put together as a blessing jar, 120 00:05:15,480 --> 00:05:18,359 Speaker 3: and then people hand wrote notes on the cards. But 121 00:05:18,440 --> 00:05:22,360 Speaker 3: you could do one hundred percent diy, yeah, and keep 122 00:05:22,400 --> 00:05:27,000 Speaker 3: it simple. This is from Bobby. You're an extremely hard worker, Bobby, 123 00:05:27,800 --> 00:05:30,400 Speaker 3: which I think you did you just like I wrote that. Yeah, 124 00:05:30,400 --> 00:05:32,240 Speaker 3: but he wrote he said, he said it. 125 00:05:32,320 --> 00:05:35,600 Speaker 4: Yeah, you know, just like I think Bobby would say 126 00:05:35,600 --> 00:05:37,280 Speaker 4: this about you. 127 00:05:37,279 --> 00:05:37,800 Speaker 3: You are an. 128 00:05:37,760 --> 00:05:40,520 Speaker 1: Extremely how do your friend send me things? And then 129 00:05:40,560 --> 00:05:41,440 Speaker 1: I wrote them all. 130 00:05:41,839 --> 00:05:46,719 Speaker 3: Okay, Like Gracie, you are a deep well of wisdom 131 00:05:46,760 --> 00:05:49,480 Speaker 3: that overflows as a fountain of life for those around 132 00:05:49,480 --> 00:05:52,960 Speaker 3: you Proverbs sixteen twenty two. And then Gracie also did 133 00:05:53,000 --> 00:05:56,880 Speaker 3: another one, so people can do multiple You are kind, generous, 134 00:05:56,880 --> 00:05:59,280 Speaker 3: and there is nothing you wouldn't do for your friends 135 00:05:59,279 --> 00:06:02,440 Speaker 3: and family. That's really sweet. I'm not going to read 136 00:06:02,440 --> 00:06:07,279 Speaker 3: all right now, so weird. Oh my gosh, Keaton wrote 137 00:06:07,360 --> 00:06:11,839 Speaker 3: like so like such a long so many let's see, 138 00:06:11,920 --> 00:06:14,200 Speaker 3: let me try to find a short one from Oh, 139 00:06:14,200 --> 00:06:17,120 Speaker 3: there's nother one from Bobby. You're always genuinely kind to 140 00:06:17,160 --> 00:06:19,680 Speaker 3: all people you interact with. Okay, that's nice. 141 00:06:20,040 --> 00:06:22,440 Speaker 4: This is not hard I feel like I should be 142 00:06:22,480 --> 00:06:24,120 Speaker 4: reading it, not you. 143 00:06:24,120 --> 00:06:27,200 Speaker 3: You make others feel less alone in their own struggles, 144 00:06:27,240 --> 00:06:35,680 Speaker 3: which is very healing. Brittany the shout out Brittany Spencer, Right, Oh, Lisa, 145 00:06:37,920 --> 00:06:38,679 Speaker 3: Yeah this is weird. 146 00:06:39,720 --> 00:06:41,080 Speaker 1: I bet Lisa's was really deep. 147 00:06:41,240 --> 00:06:44,160 Speaker 3: You're the strongest soft hearted person I know. Thanks for 148 00:06:44,200 --> 00:06:46,960 Speaker 3: being you, which that's I love that she used the 149 00:06:46,960 --> 00:06:50,719 Speaker 3: words strong and soft in the same sentence. So this 150 00:06:50,839 --> 00:06:53,000 Speaker 3: is just yeah, it is. I'm not going to read 151 00:06:53,040 --> 00:06:55,679 Speaker 3: all of these, go and do one more from you. 152 00:06:55,600 --> 00:06:57,600 Speaker 1: No, no doubt. Yes, I don't know what I say. 153 00:06:57,680 --> 00:06:58,480 Speaker 3: This one is from you. 154 00:06:58,600 --> 00:06:59,800 Speaker 1: It looks long. 155 00:07:01,920 --> 00:07:10,040 Speaker 3: What I said. I know you don't think you're famous. Lol. However, 156 00:07:10,760 --> 00:07:13,720 Speaker 3: that is one of the ways you bless us all. 157 00:07:13,880 --> 00:07:15,040 Speaker 1: You're like a real deal. 158 00:07:15,680 --> 00:07:19,560 Speaker 3: You are you all the time, even when it's hard 159 00:07:19,840 --> 00:07:26,000 Speaker 3: and scary. Thanks Cat. Yeah, okay, so blessings jar like 160 00:07:26,040 --> 00:07:28,560 Speaker 3: this is something I already am thinking of someone this 161 00:07:28,680 --> 00:07:31,200 Speaker 3: year that I want to do this for that I 162 00:07:31,240 --> 00:07:33,560 Speaker 3: And I'm known about the blessing jar because obviously you 163 00:07:33,600 --> 00:07:35,760 Speaker 3: gave it to me. Oh, you just wrote me something 164 00:07:35,800 --> 00:07:40,280 Speaker 3: about Delilah. That's probably why you made the famous comment too. 165 00:07:40,480 --> 00:07:43,560 Speaker 3: It's because you had had a thing about you said 166 00:07:43,560 --> 00:07:45,400 Speaker 3: you will bless us all over when you take over 167 00:07:45,680 --> 00:07:49,480 Speaker 3: Delilah and speak wisdom into the radio waves every night, 168 00:07:50,040 --> 00:07:53,520 Speaker 3: cat and you labeled it a future blessing that you're 169 00:07:53,560 --> 00:07:59,360 Speaker 3: speaking into existence. Oh, Delilah, if you know. 170 00:07:59,360 --> 00:08:01,520 Speaker 1: You know, and you shall know. 171 00:08:02,640 --> 00:08:07,400 Speaker 3: You said you are changing lives every day with the 172 00:08:07,480 --> 00:08:11,120 Speaker 3: vulnerability you share. Okay, we're done this. I can't do this. 173 00:08:11,320 --> 00:08:14,560 Speaker 1: You can say that serious is this. 174 00:08:14,440 --> 00:08:17,440 Speaker 3: Is such a good idea and it's I could see 175 00:08:17,440 --> 00:08:20,560 Speaker 3: how I felt was by myself having a moment where 176 00:08:20,560 --> 00:08:23,200 Speaker 3: if I pulled one of these out that would be 177 00:08:23,280 --> 00:08:26,040 Speaker 3: very helpful. And so that is if you're wondering, like, 178 00:08:26,040 --> 00:08:27,920 Speaker 3: because some people may live far away, how do you 179 00:08:27,920 --> 00:08:30,960 Speaker 3: get them to write the card, We'll just text them 180 00:08:31,520 --> 00:08:35,880 Speaker 3: or find a way to get word that you're doing this, 181 00:08:36,040 --> 00:08:37,880 Speaker 3: and they can send you what to put on the card, 182 00:08:37,960 --> 00:08:41,040 Speaker 3: and like you did, you fill it out for them 183 00:08:41,559 --> 00:08:44,280 Speaker 3: and that way, because I could see how taking on 184 00:08:44,320 --> 00:08:48,480 Speaker 3: a task like this would feel overwhelming if you're like, oh, 185 00:08:48,480 --> 00:08:49,920 Speaker 3: I need to get this person to write it and 186 00:08:49,920 --> 00:08:52,199 Speaker 3: get that. But if you send out like text and 187 00:08:52,240 --> 00:08:54,319 Speaker 3: then wait for the reply and you fill it out yourself, 188 00:08:54,360 --> 00:08:57,040 Speaker 3: then bam, bam, yeah, bam bam. 189 00:08:56,720 --> 00:08:58,240 Speaker 4: And then you can get people from yeah all over 190 00:08:58,280 --> 00:09:00,880 Speaker 4: because Lisa is in New York and she was able 191 00:09:00,920 --> 00:09:02,679 Speaker 4: to have blessings in your jar. 192 00:09:03,040 --> 00:09:17,600 Speaker 6: Yeah, show notes, Oh, Shannon, Shannon found a blessings jar 193 00:09:17,679 --> 00:09:20,719 Speaker 6: on Amazon, and she said she's gonna link it, so 194 00:09:20,920 --> 00:09:22,760 Speaker 6: I will I when I do the show notes. 195 00:09:22,840 --> 00:09:24,600 Speaker 3: She was letting me know that I can link it 196 00:09:24,640 --> 00:09:33,120 Speaker 3: in the show notes. Show lie, if people were here 197 00:09:33,320 --> 00:09:37,200 Speaker 3: behind the scenes show, Shannon's sitting here with her computer 198 00:09:37,280 --> 00:09:39,920 Speaker 3: while we're working in case like we have a question 199 00:09:39,920 --> 00:09:41,360 Speaker 3: about something or we want to look it up, or 200 00:09:41,400 --> 00:09:43,200 Speaker 3: we're about to play a voicemail from a listener, and 201 00:09:43,240 --> 00:09:47,360 Speaker 3: Shannon's got the voicemail queued up on her phone ready 202 00:09:47,360 --> 00:09:52,319 Speaker 3: to play through our road caster, which is like our 203 00:09:52,360 --> 00:09:59,080 Speaker 3: little I call it our little podcaster box. The soundboards soundboard, Yeah, 204 00:09:59,160 --> 00:10:02,679 Speaker 3: with buttons and life. It's so cute, right colorful. I 205 00:10:02,800 --> 00:10:06,040 Speaker 3: like it. And so she's got it hooked up so 206 00:10:06,080 --> 00:10:08,120 Speaker 3: it'll play through there sub way. The audio sounds good 207 00:10:08,160 --> 00:10:10,679 Speaker 3: because like I don't know, back in the day, like 208 00:10:10,720 --> 00:10:12,079 Speaker 3: if I was running the show, I'd be like I 209 00:10:12,200 --> 00:10:14,440 Speaker 3: just hold up my phone to the microphone. But it 210 00:10:14,520 --> 00:10:19,079 Speaker 3: sounds better when we run it through Shannon's. So that's 211 00:10:19,080 --> 00:10:20,840 Speaker 3: what we're going to do for the voicemail coming up 212 00:10:20,880 --> 00:10:22,920 Speaker 3: in just a minute. But before we get to that, 213 00:10:23,880 --> 00:10:26,840 Speaker 3: I want to talk about like going out in your 214 00:10:27,520 --> 00:10:32,760 Speaker 3: thirties and forties and how a lot of times we 215 00:10:32,960 --> 00:10:36,560 Speaker 3: just turn into hermits and don't want to go out anymore. 216 00:10:37,320 --> 00:10:44,120 Speaker 3: And I saw a geriatric psychologist. 217 00:10:42,960 --> 00:10:43,880 Speaker 1: Like, you're targeting me. 218 00:10:44,920 --> 00:10:48,600 Speaker 3: No, I'm not, I'm targeting myself, Took. It's not just 219 00:10:48,640 --> 00:10:50,600 Speaker 3: to you, I think it's anybody. Like when you hit 220 00:10:50,600 --> 00:10:54,600 Speaker 3: that thirty five to forty to forty five range, it's 221 00:10:54,640 --> 00:10:57,480 Speaker 3: like you go out less and less and it's harder 222 00:10:57,520 --> 00:10:59,720 Speaker 3: to get together because you just want to stay home. 223 00:11:00,440 --> 00:11:04,640 Speaker 3: But obviously you know what a geriatric psychologist is. 224 00:11:05,360 --> 00:11:06,840 Speaker 1: Psychologists for older people. 225 00:11:07,720 --> 00:11:09,720 Speaker 6: Ding ding ding ding ding ding ding ding. 226 00:11:10,840 --> 00:11:15,520 Speaker 3: So I'm gonna pull it up because he talked about 227 00:11:15,559 --> 00:11:20,880 Speaker 3: how basically it's the music for the post. But he 228 00:11:21,040 --> 00:11:24,800 Speaker 3: was talking about how if you're we need to stop 229 00:11:24,880 --> 00:11:28,640 Speaker 3: waiting to feel social, because you don't wait to feel 230 00:11:28,679 --> 00:11:32,520 Speaker 3: inspired to brush your teeth. Socializing after forty is no 231 00:11:32,600 --> 00:11:35,920 Speaker 3: longer entertainment. It's cognitive maintenance, sort of like you wake 232 00:11:35,960 --> 00:11:37,959 Speaker 3: up every day and brush your teeth, to take care 233 00:11:38,040 --> 00:11:40,360 Speaker 3: of your hygiene health. We need to take care of 234 00:11:40,400 --> 00:11:44,040 Speaker 3: our brain health. And the older you get, like the 235 00:11:44,080 --> 00:11:46,640 Speaker 3: more isolated we get because we just don't want to 236 00:11:46,679 --> 00:11:49,080 Speaker 3: go out. But he was saying that we need to 237 00:11:49,280 --> 00:11:53,079 Speaker 3: force interactions with the same discipline that we use for 238 00:11:53,600 --> 00:11:56,680 Speaker 3: like our monthly mortgage payment, Like you do that every 239 00:11:56,720 --> 00:11:59,320 Speaker 3: month no matter what, because you don't want to fall behind. Well, 240 00:11:59,400 --> 00:12:02,280 Speaker 3: you need to plan a gathering with friends no matter 241 00:12:02,280 --> 00:12:04,880 Speaker 3: what because you don't want to fall behind. Which Gracie, 242 00:12:05,000 --> 00:12:06,400 Speaker 3: she's one of the people that you had in my 243 00:12:06,400 --> 00:12:09,559 Speaker 3: Blessings jar. You know, she has emergency confetti and something 244 00:12:09,559 --> 00:12:13,200 Speaker 3: else that she's organized in our town. I guess with 245 00:12:13,360 --> 00:12:17,160 Speaker 3: moms in our area is a monthly mom's club and 246 00:12:17,760 --> 00:12:20,520 Speaker 3: it's all on email. I receive the emails. I've yet 247 00:12:20,559 --> 00:12:23,440 Speaker 3: to go, but I want to every time, and then 248 00:12:23,440 --> 00:12:25,840 Speaker 3: when they come around, I mean, I'm not able, But 249 00:12:25,880 --> 00:12:30,160 Speaker 3: I'm also not forcing myself to go because I could 250 00:12:30,240 --> 00:12:33,240 Speaker 3: make it a priority of like okay, I just need 251 00:12:33,280 --> 00:12:35,200 Speaker 3: to get there and cancel whatever it else I has, 252 00:12:35,360 --> 00:12:38,760 Speaker 3: or like I can't stay home because I'm tired, Like 253 00:12:38,840 --> 00:12:42,360 Speaker 3: I need to go because the truth is such a 254 00:12:42,400 --> 00:12:45,079 Speaker 3: good way to gather with other women and other moms 255 00:12:45,120 --> 00:12:47,600 Speaker 3: that are in similar situations, and you get to talk 256 00:12:47,600 --> 00:12:49,720 Speaker 3: about all kinds of things. And they do an activity 257 00:12:49,760 --> 00:12:51,440 Speaker 3: at every single one, Like they put a lot of 258 00:12:51,440 --> 00:12:53,360 Speaker 3: thought into it, and you maybe have to venmo like 259 00:12:53,880 --> 00:12:57,880 Speaker 3: ten bucks, twenty bucks to contribute towards whatever the activity is. 260 00:12:58,679 --> 00:13:01,880 Speaker 3: And I think it's so cool that Gracie is doing that, 261 00:13:02,000 --> 00:13:04,000 Speaker 3: and you can tell she's putting a lot of thought 262 00:13:04,040 --> 00:13:05,959 Speaker 3: and love and care into it, her and a couple 263 00:13:05,960 --> 00:13:09,800 Speaker 3: of other girls. And I'm like, that could be my 264 00:13:10,760 --> 00:13:14,560 Speaker 3: monthly activity, my monthly cognitive maintenance. 265 00:13:14,720 --> 00:13:27,679 Speaker 4: Do you want to challenge yourself? Do you want to 266 00:13:27,760 --> 00:13:30,079 Speaker 4: challenge yourself to go to. 267 00:13:30,040 --> 00:13:35,040 Speaker 3: The next one? Sure, I don't know if I'm available. Okay, 268 00:13:37,000 --> 00:13:38,680 Speaker 3: I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding. I think I am. 269 00:13:38,720 --> 00:13:41,240 Speaker 3: I think I am, And yeah I might. 270 00:13:41,440 --> 00:13:42,560 Speaker 1: What's the activity next time? 271 00:13:42,600 --> 00:13:42,880 Speaker 4: Do you know? 272 00:13:43,720 --> 00:13:45,280 Speaker 3: I'll have to check the email let me see if 273 00:13:45,320 --> 00:13:46,920 Speaker 3: one has gone out. I think it's like the first 274 00:13:46,960 --> 00:13:49,400 Speaker 3: They kind of keep it consistent. Maybe it's the first 275 00:13:49,640 --> 00:13:53,120 Speaker 3: Thursday of every month. Okay, So like for Valentine's Day 276 00:13:53,120 --> 00:13:56,040 Speaker 3: they did, like for the month of February, they did 277 00:13:56,640 --> 00:14:00,480 Speaker 3: like a Gallantine's and then they had little actvities where 278 00:14:00,480 --> 00:14:02,079 Speaker 3: they had I think they had candles, and then they 279 00:14:02,240 --> 00:14:04,920 Speaker 3: decorated the candles. Oh. 280 00:14:05,000 --> 00:14:07,640 Speaker 1: I saw her post about that. That looked really cute. 281 00:14:07,360 --> 00:14:10,480 Speaker 3: And you wore like fun pajamas and it was real 282 00:14:10,559 --> 00:14:13,360 Speaker 3: casual and then they had cute little Valentine snacks and whatnot. 283 00:14:13,400 --> 00:14:16,559 Speaker 3: But March, I know there's a Bunco. 284 00:14:16,559 --> 00:14:19,800 Speaker 4: Okay, waiting for you to say bunco because I think 285 00:14:19,840 --> 00:14:22,240 Speaker 4: of her when I hear bunco, because didn't you do 286 00:14:22,280 --> 00:14:23,440 Speaker 4: that for her birthday or something? 287 00:14:23,520 --> 00:14:24,800 Speaker 3: That's what she did for her birthday. 288 00:14:24,840 --> 00:14:28,560 Speaker 4: Yeah, my parents when I was younger had Bunco club 289 00:14:29,040 --> 00:14:31,320 Speaker 4: or like group or whatever, and once a month they 290 00:14:31,360 --> 00:14:33,760 Speaker 4: would go to one person in their group's houses and 291 00:14:33,880 --> 00:14:34,640 Speaker 4: do like a party. 292 00:14:35,160 --> 00:14:37,880 Speaker 1: And I would like to do that. I don't know 293 00:14:37,880 --> 00:14:38,160 Speaker 1: how to. 294 00:14:38,080 --> 00:14:40,920 Speaker 4: Play bunko, but when you were talking about this, you 295 00:14:41,400 --> 00:14:43,920 Speaker 4: said the words like going out, but it could be 296 00:14:44,080 --> 00:14:47,040 Speaker 4: just gathering with friends inside. It doesn't have to be like, yes, 297 00:14:47,200 --> 00:14:48,760 Speaker 4: go out. It could be like go to somebody's house 298 00:14:48,760 --> 00:14:51,560 Speaker 4: and have a game night. I would love to have 299 00:14:52,320 --> 00:14:54,920 Speaker 4: like a whether it's bunco or another game, like a 300 00:14:54,960 --> 00:15:00,760 Speaker 4: group like that that feels very middle aged, like, and. 301 00:15:00,680 --> 00:15:03,840 Speaker 3: I think even in your like or if you have 302 00:15:04,120 --> 00:15:06,400 Speaker 3: a boyfriend or a husband or whatever, like, are y'all 303 00:15:06,440 --> 00:15:08,040 Speaker 3: like my boyfriend and I have talked about this, like 304 00:15:08,120 --> 00:15:09,960 Speaker 3: we need to go on more double dates, Like we 305 00:15:10,000 --> 00:15:13,479 Speaker 3: need to get out and like be intentional of socializing 306 00:15:13,520 --> 00:15:17,280 Speaker 3: with other couples. So it could be that that's your 307 00:15:17,760 --> 00:15:20,040 Speaker 3: like every two weeks or once a month, I get 308 00:15:20,080 --> 00:15:22,960 Speaker 3: it with kids and work and we fall into that 309 00:15:23,000 --> 00:15:24,680 Speaker 3: pattern of like, Okay, well we're just tired. Do we 310 00:15:24,720 --> 00:15:26,120 Speaker 3: really want to get dressed and go out? And we 311 00:15:26,160 --> 00:15:29,320 Speaker 3: could just so something that we've talked about is like 312 00:15:29,440 --> 00:15:31,800 Speaker 3: we need to be intentional of going out with other 313 00:15:31,960 --> 00:15:37,080 Speaker 3: couples and doing that, because it's easy to be tired 314 00:15:37,160 --> 00:15:39,200 Speaker 3: and want to just get cozy and order food and 315 00:15:39,200 --> 00:15:43,120 Speaker 3: watch a TV show. And then that's isolation even though 316 00:15:43,120 --> 00:15:44,440 Speaker 3: you're even with someone else. 317 00:15:45,040 --> 00:15:47,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, so just no. 318 00:15:47,360 --> 00:15:49,400 Speaker 3: I think that as we think his point of being 319 00:15:49,400 --> 00:15:53,440 Speaker 3: a geriatric psychologist is like the forties, thirties, forties, that's 320 00:15:53,440 --> 00:15:55,400 Speaker 3: when you start seeing it show up, and then you 321 00:15:55,440 --> 00:15:58,000 Speaker 3: train yourself to just stay home. So then in your 322 00:15:58,040 --> 00:15:59,880 Speaker 3: fifties your sixties, you're kind of doing the same, and 323 00:16:00,120 --> 00:16:03,080 Speaker 3: it just progressively gets worse. So treat it as maintenance. 324 00:16:03,200 --> 00:16:05,640 Speaker 3: You are in that routine and it's just part of 325 00:16:05,680 --> 00:16:06,440 Speaker 3: your lifestyle. 326 00:16:06,760 --> 00:16:07,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's not. 327 00:16:08,400 --> 00:16:11,400 Speaker 4: It doesn't mean that you can't wear comfy clothes and 328 00:16:11,480 --> 00:16:14,600 Speaker 4: order take out and watch movies. It's you're saying, like 329 00:16:15,120 --> 00:16:17,720 Speaker 4: a sprinkle in some social interaction into that. 330 00:16:18,000 --> 00:16:20,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I'm not going to take away comfy 331 00:16:20,480 --> 00:16:22,640 Speaker 3: clothes and ordering food and watching TV. Heck no, I 332 00:16:22,680 --> 00:16:26,200 Speaker 3: love that. It's just that if that's your default every 333 00:16:26,240 --> 00:16:29,800 Speaker 3: single time, I think that's yeah, I can relate to that, 334 00:16:30,080 --> 00:16:33,760 Speaker 3: and we need to do better. I just checked Gracie's 335 00:16:33,840 --> 00:16:36,440 Speaker 3: name in my email and they haven't sent out details 336 00:16:36,640 --> 00:16:42,080 Speaker 3: yet for the Oh they did give a teaser in 337 00:16:42,200 --> 00:16:46,280 Speaker 3: the Gallantines one. They said, yeah, the March hang will 338 00:16:46,320 --> 00:16:48,240 Speaker 3: be a Bunco night, So I guess that's what it is. 339 00:16:48,280 --> 00:16:50,840 Speaker 3: That's where I had that in my head. In January 340 00:16:50,880 --> 00:16:53,080 Speaker 3: they did a vision board night. 341 00:16:53,360 --> 00:16:55,400 Speaker 1: But you don't know. You still don't know when. Right. 342 00:16:56,120 --> 00:16:58,960 Speaker 3: It says March fifth, which is I think the first 343 00:16:59,000 --> 00:16:59,960 Speaker 3: Thursday of the month. 344 00:17:00,240 --> 00:17:01,800 Speaker 1: Are you a builble Thursday nights? 345 00:17:02,360 --> 00:17:04,639 Speaker 3: I have to go check. Let me see. We have 346 00:17:04,680 --> 00:17:08,560 Speaker 3: a Bobby Bone Show cruise that week, so I will 347 00:17:08,600 --> 00:17:12,159 Speaker 3: try to go if I can. Okay, it's on the 348 00:17:12,240 --> 00:17:15,000 Speaker 3: upcoming ones because obviously now I know that it'll be 349 00:17:15,160 --> 00:17:23,040 Speaker 3: April second, okay, and then yeah, May seventh, so I 350 00:17:23,040 --> 00:17:25,800 Speaker 3: can start putting that on my calendar as my monthly 351 00:17:25,880 --> 00:17:30,600 Speaker 3: maintenance with my Mom's Club, which I don't know if 352 00:17:30,720 --> 00:17:32,959 Speaker 3: everybody has that, but maybe you could be the person 353 00:17:33,040 --> 00:17:36,280 Speaker 3: in your town that starts it, because I'm like, Gracie's 354 00:17:36,280 --> 00:17:38,639 Speaker 3: put a lot of work into this, but once you 355 00:17:38,720 --> 00:17:40,800 Speaker 3: get like the template of it, it could be fun 356 00:17:40,800 --> 00:17:43,560 Speaker 3: and you can I think she's got it on social media. 357 00:17:43,640 --> 00:17:45,920 Speaker 3: I don't know if it's even the handle monthly Mom's Club, 358 00:17:46,920 --> 00:17:50,320 Speaker 3: but you could look to it for inspo or like 359 00:17:50,480 --> 00:17:52,080 Speaker 3: just take this and be like, Okay, the first month, 360 00:17:52,080 --> 00:17:55,160 Speaker 3: we're going to do a girl's night where we decorate something, 361 00:17:55,560 --> 00:17:57,280 Speaker 3: We're going to do a bunco night, or we're going 362 00:17:57,359 --> 00:17:59,320 Speaker 3: to do what's it that everybody does? 363 00:17:59,359 --> 00:18:03,359 Speaker 1: That's that sounds to me, that's too complicated. 364 00:18:03,400 --> 00:18:04,640 Speaker 3: That's like I don't know how to play. 365 00:18:04,680 --> 00:18:06,520 Speaker 1: There's a lot of it feels like rules and stuff. 366 00:18:06,560 --> 00:18:09,960 Speaker 4: I keep getting like videos on Instagram and TikTok of 367 00:18:10,040 --> 00:18:13,960 Speaker 4: like Majong rules, and I don't know why that's in 368 00:18:13,960 --> 00:18:15,159 Speaker 4: my algorithm. 369 00:18:15,400 --> 00:18:16,560 Speaker 1: Maybe it's telling me, it is. 370 00:18:16,560 --> 00:18:18,680 Speaker 3: Telling you something for your cognitive health. 371 00:18:20,240 --> 00:18:23,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'll play Bunko Majong is I just feel like 372 00:18:24,000 --> 00:18:24,280 Speaker 1: a lot. 373 00:18:24,640 --> 00:18:26,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, my friends that play it though, they love it. 374 00:18:26,840 --> 00:18:29,560 Speaker 1: Okay, I'll start Majong listeners. 375 00:18:29,640 --> 00:18:34,000 Speaker 3: If y'all play, send us encouragement. Yeah, and do you 376 00:18:34,000 --> 00:18:36,160 Speaker 3: think Kat and I would like it? Like, really think 377 00:18:36,160 --> 00:18:37,320 Speaker 3: about us and who we are. 378 00:18:37,520 --> 00:18:39,800 Speaker 1: I love games, but well I love that game. 379 00:18:39,880 --> 00:18:43,440 Speaker 3: Right, and I would say I like games. 380 00:18:45,400 --> 00:18:48,560 Speaker 4: You're so fun when you play them. You was the 381 00:18:48,600 --> 00:18:51,000 Speaker 4: star of my birthday that one year because you were 382 00:18:51,119 --> 00:18:54,440 Speaker 4: so good at the what were the poetry for N'anserthal's 383 00:18:55,040 --> 00:18:55,760 Speaker 4: Oh my gosh. 384 00:18:55,960 --> 00:18:58,560 Speaker 3: Okay, that game is fun. Yeah, I love, I love. 385 00:18:58,600 --> 00:19:01,120 Speaker 3: I guess it just depends on the game. If I'm 386 00:19:01,119 --> 00:19:01,440 Speaker 3: going to. 387 00:19:01,480 --> 00:19:03,040 Speaker 1: You like Bunko when you play it. 388 00:19:03,240 --> 00:19:06,600 Speaker 3: I wasn't very good at it, but it's also doesn't take. 389 00:19:06,680 --> 00:19:07,520 Speaker 1: It like a dice game. 390 00:19:07,640 --> 00:19:12,359 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's not skill, it's luck. It's luck. So I 391 00:19:12,359 --> 00:19:16,119 Speaker 3: guess I just wasn't very lucky with it. So anyway, 392 00:19:16,160 --> 00:19:20,960 Speaker 3: I just wanted to offer that encouragement since we had 393 00:19:20,960 --> 00:19:26,120 Speaker 3: the email of never suppress a generous thought. Maybe never 394 00:19:26,440 --> 00:19:34,520 Speaker 3: suppress a moment to go out. Sometimes suppress it. Once 395 00:19:34,560 --> 00:19:36,920 Speaker 3: a month you need to go out. Let's just set 396 00:19:36,920 --> 00:19:38,879 Speaker 3: the goal of, like once a month you need to 397 00:19:38,920 --> 00:19:40,359 Speaker 3: do something with friends. 398 00:19:40,520 --> 00:19:42,080 Speaker 1: I can even do twice a month. 399 00:19:44,600 --> 00:19:46,080 Speaker 3: The months are flying by. 400 00:19:46,320 --> 00:19:47,960 Speaker 1: You could do twice a month. I could. 401 00:19:48,000 --> 00:19:54,840 Speaker 3: But also there's kids and sports. 402 00:19:52,920 --> 00:19:53,920 Speaker 1: But does that not count? 403 00:19:53,960 --> 00:19:56,719 Speaker 3: Going to like and work functions. 404 00:19:57,680 --> 00:20:03,800 Speaker 4: Going to a sporting event with your partner counts. Are 405 00:20:03,840 --> 00:20:06,600 Speaker 4: you sure that's getting out in your social and you're 406 00:20:06,640 --> 00:20:10,200 Speaker 4: talking to other people, you're getting dressed barely. 407 00:20:11,880 --> 00:20:13,520 Speaker 3: I told you there was that one game I got 408 00:20:13,600 --> 00:20:16,080 Speaker 3: dressed for and I showed up and my boyfriend was like, 409 00:20:16,119 --> 00:20:20,159 Speaker 3: where are you going? And I was like here and 410 00:20:20,200 --> 00:20:22,560 Speaker 3: it did feel fun to get dressed up. So maybe 411 00:20:22,560 --> 00:20:25,159 Speaker 3: that was my once a month. But I got to say, like, 412 00:20:25,200 --> 00:20:27,120 Speaker 3: when I told you, I've told you. When I think 413 00:20:27,160 --> 00:20:30,200 Speaker 3: of like how often I feel really awesome in a month, 414 00:20:30,520 --> 00:20:31,160 Speaker 3: there aren't that. 415 00:20:31,160 --> 00:20:36,520 Speaker 4: Many days because maybe you aren't having the experiences that you. 416 00:20:36,000 --> 00:20:38,800 Speaker 3: Know, just like I think it's hormones. But I finally 417 00:20:38,800 --> 00:20:43,280 Speaker 3: booked an appointment to get my blood work done with 418 00:20:44,400 --> 00:20:47,919 Speaker 3: a hormone doctor, like I combined it with my yearly appointment, 419 00:20:48,040 --> 00:20:50,840 Speaker 3: like I started to realize I didn't like my gynecologists 420 00:20:50,840 --> 00:20:55,000 Speaker 3: that I was going to. Oh and so my friend 421 00:20:55,040 --> 00:20:57,720 Speaker 3: had asked me for a guid in collegist's recommendation and 422 00:20:57,720 --> 00:20:59,080 Speaker 3: she was like, do you have someone that you've gone 423 00:20:59,119 --> 00:21:00,239 Speaker 3: to you? I said, yeah, I have someone I'm going 424 00:21:00,280 --> 00:21:02,600 Speaker 3: to for years, but I don't think I recommend them. 425 00:21:02,920 --> 00:21:05,959 Speaker 3: And then I was like, well that's weird. Yeah, Like 426 00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:09,080 Speaker 3: why why wouldn't I just schedule somewhere else, because well, 427 00:21:09,160 --> 00:21:11,879 Speaker 3: they already have on my paperwork, I've already been going. 428 00:21:11,960 --> 00:21:15,640 Speaker 3: She knows my family history, and there's she's not terrible, 429 00:21:15,800 --> 00:21:18,360 Speaker 3: but she's just not and sometimes it's hard to get 430 00:21:18,359 --> 00:21:19,000 Speaker 3: into people. 431 00:21:19,119 --> 00:21:21,040 Speaker 1: So it's and. 432 00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:22,840 Speaker 3: My sister and I were talking about this, because there 433 00:21:22,920 --> 00:21:25,840 Speaker 3: is the doctor that I just got in with. I 434 00:21:25,880 --> 00:21:29,439 Speaker 3: assumed that she would be difficult to get into and 435 00:21:29,480 --> 00:21:32,679 Speaker 3: it might take a long time. So therefore I just 436 00:21:32,840 --> 00:21:35,720 Speaker 3: kept putting off calling because I didn't want to deal 437 00:21:35,760 --> 00:21:39,399 Speaker 3: with the wait list, when in actuality, if I just 438 00:21:39,400 --> 00:21:41,080 Speaker 3: picked up the phone and called, even if it was 439 00:21:41,119 --> 00:21:44,199 Speaker 3: a three month four month waitlist, by the time that 440 00:21:44,680 --> 00:21:47,120 Speaker 3: three or four months came along, i'd have the appointment, 441 00:21:47,840 --> 00:21:49,520 Speaker 3: but the way I roll, the three or four months 442 00:21:49,520 --> 00:21:51,440 Speaker 3: would pass and I haven't made an appointment with anybody, 443 00:21:51,520 --> 00:21:54,680 Speaker 3: so it doesn't matter. And my sister was like, why 444 00:21:54,720 --> 00:21:57,680 Speaker 3: are we this way? I'm like, I don't know, I said, 445 00:21:57,720 --> 00:22:01,960 Speaker 3: but knew me because I I had a guide acologist 446 00:22:02,000 --> 00:22:06,040 Speaker 3: appointment last week and it was the day with the 447 00:22:06,080 --> 00:22:08,239 Speaker 3: old one. It was the day before the appointment, and 448 00:22:08,280 --> 00:22:13,720 Speaker 3: I was like, why am I going to someone that again? 449 00:22:13,760 --> 00:22:16,679 Speaker 3: I wouldn't even recommend to my friends that are asking me. 450 00:22:17,720 --> 00:22:21,840 Speaker 3: So I called the new place and they were like, 451 00:22:21,920 --> 00:22:25,000 Speaker 3: we can see you on February twenty fourth, stop and 452 00:22:25,080 --> 00:22:29,160 Speaker 3: I was like, of twenty twenty six, like this year, 453 00:22:29,680 --> 00:22:33,040 Speaker 3: February twenty fourth like coming up and they're like yeah, 454 00:22:33,320 --> 00:22:37,160 Speaker 3: and I was like, okay, put me down. So she's 455 00:22:37,200 --> 00:22:41,119 Speaker 3: going to do my yearly check up and my blood 456 00:22:41,119 --> 00:22:44,080 Speaker 3: work for hormones because she's also the hormone specialists that 457 00:22:44,119 --> 00:22:46,879 Speaker 3: I've heard other people rave about, and she's going to 458 00:22:46,960 --> 00:22:49,800 Speaker 3: help get me on some hormone replacement therapy, which I 459 00:22:49,880 --> 00:22:53,320 Speaker 3: know that I need one hundred percent know that I need, 460 00:22:53,960 --> 00:22:56,320 Speaker 3: and I can't wait to see where my levels are 461 00:22:56,440 --> 00:22:58,240 Speaker 3: and what I need and how we're going to supplement 462 00:22:58,320 --> 00:23:02,240 Speaker 3: it and even talking about new me coming up. 463 00:23:02,880 --> 00:23:04,880 Speaker 1: So if very combined with. 464 00:23:06,320 --> 00:23:09,280 Speaker 4: Going out my social maintenance, Yeah, I'm not even going 465 00:23:09,359 --> 00:23:10,080 Speaker 4: to recognize you. 466 00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:12,000 Speaker 3: Well, I don't know. I mean that's just gonna help 467 00:23:12,080 --> 00:23:17,520 Speaker 3: us combat loneliness in the future and isolation, yeah, which 468 00:23:17,560 --> 00:23:18,320 Speaker 3: is an epidemic. 469 00:23:18,680 --> 00:23:21,600 Speaker 4: Well, and like I think i'd like to see you 470 00:23:21,600 --> 00:23:24,840 Speaker 4: out of the house more. Yeah, when I see you, 471 00:23:24,920 --> 00:23:25,680 Speaker 4: it's at your house. 472 00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:28,280 Speaker 3: Maybe the hormones will help, because yes, to your point, 473 00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:31,000 Speaker 3: that is a huge reason why so many women im 474 00:23:31,000 --> 00:23:31,680 Speaker 3: perimido pouse. 475 00:23:31,680 --> 00:23:32,639 Speaker 1: They just don't. 476 00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:36,080 Speaker 3: Feel like themselves. They're like, I have no joy. I'm 477 00:23:36,119 --> 00:23:38,480 Speaker 3: not like a miserable person to be around, but I 478 00:23:38,560 --> 00:23:43,000 Speaker 3: don't like I'm not like excited. I just feel kind 479 00:23:43,000 --> 00:23:47,800 Speaker 3: of like nah, but I'm not sad. It's just a 480 00:23:48,000 --> 00:23:52,640 Speaker 3: me feeling. You said no joy, So that, yeah, I think, Well, 481 00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:55,120 Speaker 3: you know how we want to have whimsy all the time. 482 00:23:55,160 --> 00:23:58,560 Speaker 3: In practice, like I'm even telling myself be whimsy, and 483 00:23:58,600 --> 00:24:01,360 Speaker 3: it's like where's the way. I can't find it. It's 484 00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:03,680 Speaker 3: not coming to me as easily as it once did. 485 00:24:04,680 --> 00:24:06,560 Speaker 3: And I don't feel like it was that long ago 486 00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:09,879 Speaker 3: that I was able to tap into the whimsy with ease. 487 00:24:11,000 --> 00:24:15,919 Speaker 3: It's like you can't. It's difficult to get there, you know. 488 00:24:16,040 --> 00:24:19,240 Speaker 3: It's like you want to be playful and be like, okay, dishes, 489 00:24:19,840 --> 00:24:23,840 Speaker 3: time to take a bath, but you're just like dishes. 490 00:24:24,800 --> 00:24:27,560 Speaker 4: Was it last year when you like wanted this to 491 00:24:27,640 --> 00:24:33,919 Speaker 4: be a cat or you were talking about yes, whimsy 492 00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:38,679 Speaker 4: for you? Sure, Maggie's the model on the cover of 493 00:24:38,680 --> 00:24:42,440 Speaker 4: her cat food. Maggie was sad and depressed because that's 494 00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:45,639 Speaker 4: her sister who's a model in New York now, And 495 00:24:45,680 --> 00:24:47,840 Speaker 4: I had this whole narrative of hell, yeah, yeah, I know, 496 00:24:47,960 --> 00:24:49,119 Speaker 4: she got to go to live in New York and 497 00:24:49,160 --> 00:24:51,639 Speaker 4: chase her dreams and you're stuck here in Nashville, inside 498 00:24:51,640 --> 00:24:56,360 Speaker 4: the house with no claws. And I know you're beautiful 499 00:24:56,359 --> 00:24:58,199 Speaker 4: and you could have made it as a model too, 500 00:24:58,880 --> 00:25:01,120 Speaker 4: but I'm like, you could do be on my Instagram. 501 00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:16,560 Speaker 4: How's Maggie's health journey. How's Maggie's health journey? 502 00:25:17,200 --> 00:25:20,960 Speaker 3: I think she's good. She seems smaller to me. I 503 00:25:21,440 --> 00:25:25,240 Speaker 3: put her on my kitchen scale and she's like a 504 00:25:25,359 --> 00:25:28,440 Speaker 3: accurate Yeah, it's a little digital scale. I have to 505 00:25:28,440 --> 00:25:30,919 Speaker 3: put her in a box and then put measure away 506 00:25:31,040 --> 00:25:32,560 Speaker 3: the box and then put her in the box. And 507 00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:39,840 Speaker 3: then anyway, thanks for asking about her overweight cat. Uh, no, 508 00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:41,040 Speaker 3: we're not. 509 00:25:41,119 --> 00:25:42,120 Speaker 1: Are you still hiding her food? 510 00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:46,679 Speaker 3: No, I have it on the treadmill, though she does. 511 00:25:47,240 --> 00:25:49,040 Speaker 3: You're not making your cat walk on the tread It's 512 00:25:49,080 --> 00:25:52,360 Speaker 3: just ironic because it's like her food's on the treadmill. 513 00:25:52,600 --> 00:25:56,040 Speaker 3: So that's her workout. She seems to have a good life. 514 00:25:56,119 --> 00:25:59,280 Speaker 3: Let's just say that. Wait, what else was I going 515 00:25:59,359 --> 00:26:02,320 Speaker 3: to say? I was talking about, Oh, my appointment, I 516 00:26:02,400 --> 00:26:04,800 Speaker 3: just did it, so I canceled, And then now I'm 517 00:26:04,840 --> 00:26:07,640 Speaker 3: going I did did the dang thing. So like, if 518 00:26:07,640 --> 00:26:12,119 Speaker 3: that's you and you are going to a doctor that 519 00:26:12,200 --> 00:26:15,960 Speaker 3: you feel about and you know there's maybe somebody else 520 00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:19,359 Speaker 3: out there that could be more beneficial to your life, 521 00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:23,080 Speaker 3: make the call and maybe it will take three or 522 00:26:23,080 --> 00:26:27,200 Speaker 3: four months, but that too shall pass and then you'll 523 00:26:27,240 --> 00:26:30,440 Speaker 3: get there. Yeah. Yeah, that's normal, I know, but look 524 00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:34,040 Speaker 3: in my in my case, it was like, oh, this 525 00:26:34,040 --> 00:26:37,320 Speaker 3: is right around the corner, like literally, yeah, so I'm 526 00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:39,080 Speaker 3: going to be able to go in no time. And 527 00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:42,720 Speaker 3: good for you, Yeah, thank you? Have you done anything 528 00:26:42,720 --> 00:26:43,680 Speaker 3: awesome for yourself. 529 00:26:44,359 --> 00:26:46,720 Speaker 4: Well, I got a new doctor, but it was Morgan, 530 00:26:46,800 --> 00:26:48,240 Speaker 4: so because I had to, because I moved in My 531 00:26:48,320 --> 00:26:49,520 Speaker 4: doctor moved to California. 532 00:26:50,200 --> 00:26:52,600 Speaker 3: But good for you for finding one, because I they're 533 00:26:53,000 --> 00:26:55,359 Speaker 3: a part of me. Would be like, oh, I just 534 00:26:55,400 --> 00:26:58,520 Speaker 3: want my doctor move. Yes, yeah, well and they could. 535 00:26:58,560 --> 00:26:59,920 Speaker 3: I actually could. 536 00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:01,800 Speaker 4: I've stayed at that place I was at and they 537 00:27:01,800 --> 00:27:04,399 Speaker 4: would have just assigned somebody else to me. I really 538 00:27:04,480 --> 00:27:06,960 Speaker 4: liked my doctor though. That's the difference. Is how sad 539 00:27:06,960 --> 00:27:09,280 Speaker 4: that she moved. But then I was like, why am 540 00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:11,560 Speaker 4: I going to drive to Nashville now that I live 541 00:27:11,600 --> 00:27:13,800 Speaker 4: in Franklin to go to this doctor when this is 542 00:27:13,840 --> 00:27:17,879 Speaker 4: a perfect opportunity to not. But I will say I 543 00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:19,679 Speaker 4: didn't go to the doctor for many years because my 544 00:27:19,720 --> 00:27:21,920 Speaker 4: doctor were tired at one point and like a lot, 545 00:27:22,400 --> 00:27:24,800 Speaker 4: that's our eighth sh And then but then they gave 546 00:27:24,840 --> 00:27:27,720 Speaker 4: me a new person. He read the wrong chart the 547 00:27:27,760 --> 00:27:29,800 Speaker 4: first time I saw him, and I was like what. 548 00:27:30,640 --> 00:27:32,840 Speaker 4: And then he asked me how my flangy was doing, 549 00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:34,640 Speaker 4: and I was like my what. He was like your 550 00:27:34,680 --> 00:27:36,840 Speaker 4: finger and I was like I broke it in second grade, 551 00:27:37,640 --> 00:27:39,040 Speaker 4: Like why are you checking in on that? 552 00:27:39,080 --> 00:27:42,600 Speaker 1: It was just very weird and then he made me cry. Yeah, 553 00:27:42,680 --> 00:27:43,520 Speaker 1: I think I told. 554 00:27:43,359 --> 00:27:46,360 Speaker 3: You this, Well, probably I forgot years ago. 555 00:27:46,920 --> 00:27:52,679 Speaker 4: Because my primary doctor was prescribing my ADHD medication just 556 00:27:52,720 --> 00:27:54,119 Speaker 4: because she could. She's like, you don't need to go 557 00:27:54,119 --> 00:27:56,200 Speaker 4: to the psychiatrist every three months. We can just check 558 00:27:56,240 --> 00:27:58,120 Speaker 4: in everything three months and do whatever. And so then 559 00:27:58,200 --> 00:28:02,040 Speaker 4: he was taking that over and he was like, so, 560 00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:05,879 Speaker 4: I don't know how to describe it, like accusatory instead 561 00:28:05,880 --> 00:28:09,199 Speaker 4: of like trying to understand me, he was very much like, well, 562 00:28:09,240 --> 00:28:10,800 Speaker 4: how do you know you have this? And like was 563 00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:13,360 Speaker 4: like asking, He's like, oh, so you graduated from Vanderbilt, 564 00:28:13,400 --> 00:28:15,280 Speaker 4: but you weren't taking medication, Like how are you? 565 00:28:15,400 --> 00:28:17,800 Speaker 1: How'd that happen? I was like it was really hard. 566 00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:18,600 Speaker 1: I don't know. 567 00:28:19,600 --> 00:28:23,040 Speaker 4: And so I just felt very now that I didn't 568 00:28:23,040 --> 00:28:24,760 Speaker 4: feel seen because I guess he was seeing me. 569 00:28:24,800 --> 00:28:25,440 Speaker 3: He dismissed. 570 00:28:26,040 --> 00:28:27,800 Speaker 4: Yeah, I felt judged and I felt like I was 571 00:28:27,840 --> 00:28:30,920 Speaker 4: having to like defend myself and that's not you should 572 00:28:31,000 --> 00:28:34,320 Speaker 4: never feel like that with a medical provider. So I 573 00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:37,800 Speaker 4: sat in my car and I cried. And then my 574 00:28:38,000 --> 00:28:40,680 Speaker 4: friend has a doctor that she loves, so I just 575 00:28:40,720 --> 00:28:42,680 Speaker 4: got in with her and they were the same, like 576 00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:45,520 Speaker 4: different places but same company, so. 577 00:28:45,480 --> 00:28:46,720 Speaker 1: They're able to switch me. 578 00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:48,040 Speaker 3: Oh perfect. 579 00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:50,120 Speaker 4: But yeah, if you have a doctor like that that 580 00:28:50,200 --> 00:28:52,160 Speaker 4: you dread seen, then you're not going to go when 581 00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:54,200 Speaker 4: you have a problem, or if you have a problem 582 00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:55,800 Speaker 4: and you don't feel like they're really hearing you, then 583 00:28:55,840 --> 00:28:58,120 Speaker 4: you're not going to get the care you deserve. So 584 00:28:58,200 --> 00:28:59,920 Speaker 4: I just don't think he was the doctor for me. 585 00:29:00,560 --> 00:29:03,120 Speaker 4: But I had the same doctor from second grade till 586 00:29:03,160 --> 00:29:05,560 Speaker 4: I was thirty years. 587 00:29:05,400 --> 00:29:07,560 Speaker 3: Are you talking about because second grade so now you're 588 00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:09,920 Speaker 3: just talking about actual regular doctor. 589 00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:13,880 Speaker 1: Well, my doctor was my family doctor, was my guynocologist. 590 00:29:13,960 --> 00:29:15,440 Speaker 3: She did it all, Oh is she? 591 00:29:15,840 --> 00:29:16,000 Speaker 1: Yeah? 592 00:29:16,080 --> 00:29:19,880 Speaker 4: She original my first doctor when I moved to Tennessee. 593 00:29:20,360 --> 00:29:23,320 Speaker 4: Our family doctor, doctor Langston, my mom. 594 00:29:23,480 --> 00:29:25,320 Speaker 3: So she met with you when you were in second grade, 595 00:29:25,320 --> 00:29:27,840 Speaker 3: but then when you were of age to get pap smears. 596 00:29:27,560 --> 00:29:27,720 Speaker 5: She did. 597 00:29:28,640 --> 00:29:30,800 Speaker 4: She was also a gynecologist, so then when she retired, 598 00:29:30,840 --> 00:29:32,120 Speaker 4: that was a big deal because I had to get 599 00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:35,440 Speaker 4: another regular doctor, and I had to get another gynecologist, 600 00:29:35,520 --> 00:29:36,920 Speaker 4: and I had never had different. 601 00:29:37,320 --> 00:29:38,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, I only. 602 00:29:38,200 --> 00:29:40,480 Speaker 1: Knew that, and I knew her so well, and she 603 00:29:40,560 --> 00:29:41,360 Speaker 1: knew me so well. 604 00:29:41,920 --> 00:29:44,880 Speaker 3: Have you ever gone to a male gynocologist? 605 00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:48,520 Speaker 1: No, I don't think I would ever choose that. I 606 00:29:48,560 --> 00:29:50,400 Speaker 1: did once. How was that experience? 607 00:29:50,480 --> 00:29:54,880 Speaker 3: And then so he was recommended by my friend and 608 00:29:54,960 --> 00:29:57,360 Speaker 3: college roommate's dad. He was a doctor and they had 609 00:29:57,400 --> 00:30:00,360 Speaker 3: this guy they recommended. So they were all friends, right, 610 00:30:00,480 --> 00:30:02,560 Speaker 3: and we were all family friends. So they had a 611 00:30:02,560 --> 00:30:07,480 Speaker 3: barbecue once and the gynecologist was invited. And I went 612 00:30:07,520 --> 00:30:10,240 Speaker 3: to the barbecue and I'm like this, I can't do this. Wait, 613 00:30:10,600 --> 00:30:13,160 Speaker 3: you're this is weird because I went to him and 614 00:30:13,200 --> 00:30:16,959 Speaker 3: he's like, hey, how are you? And I'm like, mine, you, 615 00:30:17,400 --> 00:30:20,280 Speaker 3: this is weird. I don't like that you. I have 616 00:30:20,360 --> 00:30:25,280 Speaker 3: come to you for a perhaps yes, and other things 617 00:30:25,320 --> 00:30:28,920 Speaker 3: and other things, and now I'm we're just like in 618 00:30:29,000 --> 00:30:30,000 Speaker 3: the food line together. 619 00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:31,720 Speaker 1: This is it's weird. 620 00:30:31,960 --> 00:30:34,640 Speaker 4: I will say, I lied, I do have This isn't 621 00:30:34,920 --> 00:30:37,240 Speaker 4: my like gynecologists. But I went to a fertility doctor 622 00:30:37,280 --> 00:30:37,760 Speaker 4: that's a male. 623 00:30:37,880 --> 00:30:39,360 Speaker 3: But did they see your parts? 624 00:30:39,560 --> 00:30:44,360 Speaker 4: They have to do vaginal ultrasounds. I'd got many, so yeah, 625 00:30:44,400 --> 00:30:48,000 Speaker 4: but that didn't feel weird to me. He was so 626 00:30:49,360 --> 00:30:51,840 Speaker 4: like professional, and I think if I saw him in 627 00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:53,960 Speaker 4: a social setting, I'd. 628 00:30:53,800 --> 00:30:56,200 Speaker 3: Be like, I had a barbecue, Yeah, that would feel different. 629 00:30:56,240 --> 00:30:58,800 Speaker 1: But it was like very routine very. 630 00:31:00,160 --> 00:31:01,840 Speaker 4: So when you're doing that kind of stuff, you have 631 00:31:01,920 --> 00:31:03,720 Speaker 4: to do it so often that I'm like, Okay, here 632 00:31:03,760 --> 00:31:05,680 Speaker 4: we go again. Hmm, So you kind of get used 633 00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:08,600 Speaker 4: to it. But I don't think for my long term care, 634 00:31:08,680 --> 00:31:13,360 Speaker 4: I would. I think having I personally like having a woman, 635 00:31:13,480 --> 00:31:15,000 Speaker 4: just because I feel like I can open up and 636 00:31:15,240 --> 00:31:16,240 Speaker 4: be more honest with them. 637 00:31:16,440 --> 00:31:17,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, I did. 638 00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:20,280 Speaker 4: I tell you a more one time that I went 639 00:31:20,320 --> 00:31:22,720 Speaker 4: to my new gynecologist and I panics. 640 00:31:22,760 --> 00:31:26,000 Speaker 1: I didn't know how to put the robe on. How 641 00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:27,320 Speaker 1: do you put well done? 642 00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:29,640 Speaker 3: Right? I do feel like I'm doing it wrong as 643 00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:33,560 Speaker 3: well at times, but then they I'll ask the nurse again, 644 00:31:33,680 --> 00:31:35,480 Speaker 3: like I'll do that same thing too. If I'm going 645 00:31:35,480 --> 00:31:38,120 Speaker 3: in for a mammogram, I'm like, wait, did I put 646 00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:38,720 Speaker 3: this on right? 647 00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:39,520 Speaker 1: Okay? 648 00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:42,520 Speaker 3: So I put it on. 649 00:31:43,400 --> 00:31:46,840 Speaker 4: Were the front open? So okay, that's the correct way. Yeah, 650 00:31:46,920 --> 00:31:47,880 Speaker 4: but I didn't. 651 00:31:47,560 --> 00:31:50,160 Speaker 3: Know, but I put it on the other way. I 652 00:31:50,200 --> 00:31:52,280 Speaker 3: get what you're saying, Yeah, make that put it on 653 00:31:52,360 --> 00:31:55,480 Speaker 3: because that feels normal. But in order to have because 654 00:31:55,480 --> 00:31:59,600 Speaker 3: they have to check your chest, yeah, and then open 655 00:31:59,600 --> 00:32:01,040 Speaker 3: it up put your leg. 656 00:32:01,120 --> 00:32:01,320 Speaker 5: Yeah. 657 00:32:01,360 --> 00:32:04,320 Speaker 3: The whole thing is just like those videos that people 658 00:32:04,400 --> 00:32:06,800 Speaker 3: make where they're like they put the camera inside of 659 00:32:06,840 --> 00:32:09,560 Speaker 3: a paper bag and that's supposed to be like the 660 00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:13,960 Speaker 3: inside of your body, and then it's okay, it's like reels. 661 00:32:14,120 --> 00:32:16,600 Speaker 3: There are reels that people make that are funny of 662 00:32:16,720 --> 00:32:18,280 Speaker 3: like this is if you want to know what it's 663 00:32:18,280 --> 00:32:21,640 Speaker 3: like to go to the gynecologist, Like, here's your body's 664 00:32:21,680 --> 00:32:24,640 Speaker 3: point of view. So the camera's in the bag and 665 00:32:24,680 --> 00:32:27,080 Speaker 3: then they put their head in the bag and they're 666 00:32:27,120 --> 00:32:30,240 Speaker 3: like and then it's like hands with gloves and then 667 00:32:30,600 --> 00:32:34,719 Speaker 3: you know, tongs and like a scraper thing and like 668 00:32:34,760 --> 00:32:36,360 Speaker 3: in the bag you can just see and you're like, 669 00:32:36,440 --> 00:32:39,440 Speaker 3: oh my gosh. Yes, Like if guys want to understand 670 00:32:39,480 --> 00:32:41,280 Speaker 3: like what we have to go through when we go there, 671 00:32:41,320 --> 00:32:42,480 Speaker 3: it's like it's tough. 672 00:32:43,480 --> 00:32:45,280 Speaker 4: It's tough, especially if you have to figure out how 673 00:32:45,280 --> 00:32:47,880 Speaker 4: to put on an whole outfit and they don't tell you. 674 00:32:49,040 --> 00:32:51,840 Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, well we can do the voicemail. Okay, now 675 00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:55,320 Speaker 3: Shannon has that queued up and ready to go, which 676 00:32:55,320 --> 00:32:58,440 Speaker 3: we love hearing from y'all. Y'all can call us eight 677 00:32:58,520 --> 00:33:03,040 Speaker 3: seven seven two oh seven two seven seven, Hi. 678 00:33:02,920 --> 00:33:06,320 Speaker 5: Amy and Kat, This is Tracy. I live in Denver, Colorado. 679 00:33:06,680 --> 00:33:09,200 Speaker 5: I just listened to the episode about things to say 680 00:33:09,320 --> 00:33:11,800 Speaker 5: when you don't want to say it's going to be 681 00:33:11,800 --> 00:33:13,200 Speaker 5: okay if you don't know what it's going to be okay, 682 00:33:13,560 --> 00:33:16,920 Speaker 5: which was also really helpful, But I wanted to add 683 00:33:17,120 --> 00:33:20,840 Speaker 5: the question of what do you need is helpful for 684 00:33:21,160 --> 00:33:23,959 Speaker 5: all kinds of situations. I wound up using that with 685 00:33:24,000 --> 00:33:26,800 Speaker 5: my daughter when she was in college and then a 686 00:33:26,800 --> 00:33:30,440 Speaker 5: young adult, and you know, you transition into the days 687 00:33:30,480 --> 00:33:33,280 Speaker 5: of life of they're making their own decisions. Sometimes they 688 00:33:33,280 --> 00:33:36,040 Speaker 5: still want advice, but don't give it if they're not 689 00:33:36,440 --> 00:33:39,320 Speaker 5: asking for it. So we had a couple of not 690 00:33:39,440 --> 00:33:42,160 Speaker 5: great interactions where she would call and I'd do the 691 00:33:42,160 --> 00:33:46,360 Speaker 5: wrong thing, and finally we just established that I would 692 00:33:46,440 --> 00:33:49,840 Speaker 5: ask are you calling for advice? Or are you calling 693 00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:53,280 Speaker 5: this event? And straight up I would ask that and 694 00:33:53,320 --> 00:33:55,880 Speaker 5: we still do that to this day. And it was 695 00:33:55,920 --> 00:33:59,160 Speaker 5: so great because then she got what she needed and 696 00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:02,200 Speaker 5: I was able to give her what she needed without 697 00:34:02,400 --> 00:34:05,320 Speaker 5: you know, stepping on her toes or upsetting her or whatever. 698 00:34:05,360 --> 00:34:08,320 Speaker 5: So anyway, I think it's just can be really useful 699 00:34:08,960 --> 00:34:12,200 Speaker 5: in other situations as well. So thank you for all 700 00:34:12,239 --> 00:34:14,560 Speaker 5: you do. Love it, and I hope you have the 701 00:34:14,600 --> 00:34:15,799 Speaker 5: day you need to have by bye. 702 00:34:16,360 --> 00:34:17,280 Speaker 3: Love that, Tracy. 703 00:34:18,080 --> 00:34:21,400 Speaker 4: Yeah, I just got a nice good for all times anybody, 704 00:34:21,440 --> 00:34:23,760 Speaker 4: because we've all been there when we like call somebody 705 00:34:24,360 --> 00:34:26,040 Speaker 4: and we're trying to get something out and then they 706 00:34:26,040 --> 00:34:27,720 Speaker 4: give you like this, well. 707 00:34:27,600 --> 00:34:28,480 Speaker 1: Have you thought about that? 708 00:34:28,600 --> 00:34:31,040 Speaker 4: And you're like, that's not what I needed, Like I 709 00:34:31,040 --> 00:34:34,719 Speaker 4: feel like you're lecturing me now, so good job. 710 00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:39,200 Speaker 3: Yeah, we appreciate y'all sharing your nuggets of wisdom, like 711 00:34:39,239 --> 00:34:42,120 Speaker 3: after you've listened to something we've said, and I think 712 00:34:42,160 --> 00:34:45,719 Speaker 3: that's what you know the emailer was saying. Which is 713 00:34:45,719 --> 00:34:47,920 Speaker 3: why I loved that we picked this email in this 714 00:34:48,040 --> 00:34:51,520 Speaker 3: voicemail to go together, is because the emailer even referred 715 00:34:51,560 --> 00:34:54,480 Speaker 3: to like things that we've said and she's learned from 716 00:34:54,560 --> 00:34:58,680 Speaker 3: us and other listeners, and that's what helps us feel 717 00:34:58,760 --> 00:35:04,360 Speaker 3: like connected, feel like our little feeling things. 718 00:35:05,040 --> 00:35:05,600 Speaker 5: Community. 719 00:35:05,800 --> 00:35:07,720 Speaker 3: But I just don't know that I love that word. 720 00:35:08,160 --> 00:35:11,160 Speaker 1: What would you like to call it? I don't know, circle. 721 00:35:12,640 --> 00:35:12,960 Speaker 4: Group? 722 00:35:14,600 --> 00:35:15,719 Speaker 1: Does community? Feel too? 723 00:35:15,800 --> 00:35:19,759 Speaker 3: Like? Oh, I think there's something I love this giving me. 724 00:35:20,400 --> 00:35:22,359 Speaker 3: Just maybe I hear people say it online a lot 725 00:35:22,520 --> 00:35:24,359 Speaker 3: and then I'm like, Okay, I don't know. Maybe I'm 726 00:35:24,400 --> 00:35:26,080 Speaker 3: kind of over it because I know I've said it before. 727 00:35:26,200 --> 00:35:27,080 Speaker 1: It is a community. 728 00:35:27,120 --> 00:35:33,239 Speaker 3: It is a community. I know you feel like cult. No, 729 00:35:33,520 --> 00:35:35,520 Speaker 3: I mean, now that I think about it, community sounds, 730 00:35:38,200 --> 00:35:46,160 Speaker 3: our flock, our flock, our feelers, feelings how like you know, 731 00:35:47,280 --> 00:35:53,160 Speaker 3: Beyonce has her bees or beehive like behive, or Lady 732 00:35:53,160 --> 00:35:56,080 Speaker 3: Gaga has little monsters we could have. 733 00:35:56,200 --> 00:35:58,600 Speaker 1: Our expert has armchairries. That's cute. 734 00:35:58,680 --> 00:36:03,280 Speaker 3: What about feelers our little Yeah, it's just not as cool. 735 00:36:03,760 --> 00:36:05,879 Speaker 3: Thingies are our things are saying? 736 00:36:06,520 --> 00:36:07,280 Speaker 1: Are thingies? 737 00:36:07,440 --> 00:36:13,720 Speaker 4: Okay, We're not okay, are trying to like our club club? 738 00:36:13,760 --> 00:36:15,200 Speaker 3: I hate you hate it. 739 00:36:15,480 --> 00:36:18,279 Speaker 4: I don't want to say community thing our club. I 740 00:36:18,320 --> 00:36:24,520 Speaker 4: love our little club. If you have ideas, let us. 741 00:36:24,440 --> 00:36:27,759 Speaker 3: Know, Yeah, share with us. You can email us. Hey, 742 00:36:27,800 --> 00:36:33,200 Speaker 3: they're at feelingthingspodcast dot com. We will be back on 743 00:36:33,320 --> 00:36:37,040 Speaker 3: Tuesday with another Feeling Things episode, but don't forget on Saturdays. 744 00:36:37,040 --> 00:36:39,640 Speaker 3: Other episodes load up on the feed from other people 745 00:36:39,760 --> 00:36:45,120 Speaker 3: in my network, different content that maybe you haven't heard before, 746 00:36:45,560 --> 00:36:48,279 Speaker 3: from really awesome women. So make sure you check out 747 00:36:48,320 --> 00:36:52,319 Speaker 3: those downloads on Saturdays and see if there's anything that 748 00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:57,280 Speaker 3: tickles your fancy. Maybe you want to join their club, 749 00:36:57,800 --> 00:37:01,960 Speaker 3: their community, their tribe, their Yeah. So until then or 750 00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:04,080 Speaker 3: until we see you next. Here you next, you see 751 00:37:04,160 --> 00:37:05,480 Speaker 3: us next, you hear us next. 752 00:37:06,800 --> 00:37:10,000 Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, it sounded like you just skipped half 753 00:37:10,040 --> 00:37:14,440 Speaker 4: the day. You need to have bye.