WEBVTT - SUNDAY SAMPLER - The Nashville Podcast Network (1-26-25) 0:00:09.440 --> 0:00:11.840 Sunday sampler clips from shows. 0:00:12.560 --> 0:00:13.960 We got a good one we're gonna start with. 0:00:14.440 --> 0:00:16.439 And by the way, big shout out to Dr Josie 0:00:16.440 --> 0:00:19.079 for saving my dog's life over this past week. I'm 0:00:19.079 --> 0:00:20.680 not even kidding. She had to come over at nine 0:00:20.720 --> 0:00:22.760 pm because my dog ate a whole loaf of bread 0:00:22.960 --> 0:00:24.840 and you can't have dogs eat loafs of bread because 0:00:24.840 --> 0:00:27.800 their stomach will explode. Basically, I did not know this, 0:00:28.200 --> 0:00:31.400 So big shout out to Doctor Josie because she's saved 0:00:31.400 --> 0:00:32.159 a dog's life. 0:00:32.240 --> 0:00:33.800 I hope you check out her podcast. 0:00:34.120 --> 0:00:36.960 In this week's episode of In the Vets Office, Doctor 0:00:37.040 --> 0:00:40.519 Josie talked with glam guru Tarren Feldman. She does hair 0:00:40.560 --> 0:00:42.560 and makeup for some of the biggest stars in Nashville 0:00:42.560 --> 0:00:45.800 and Hollywood. Tarren has a sixteen year old dog. 0:00:46.000 --> 0:00:46.720 You're gonna hear. 0:00:46.640 --> 0:00:49.960 About that, and Doctor Josie and Tarren talk about introducing 0:00:50.000 --> 0:00:51.680 an old dog to a new dogcause that's what Tarren 0:00:51.720 --> 0:00:52.120 had to do. 0:00:52.520 --> 0:00:53.920 So let's get started. 0:00:54.120 --> 0:00:56.760 By the way, we got some Bobby cast with Maggie 0:00:56.800 --> 0:00:59.160 Rose coming up. We got some four Things with Amy 0:00:59.160 --> 0:01:01.480 Brown sore loose. There's all that on the way. But 0:01:01.600 --> 0:01:03.560 now let's get started with the clip from in the 0:01:03.640 --> 0:01:11.920 Vets Office with Doctor Josie. 0:01:13.160 --> 0:01:17.559 You're listening to in the Vets Office with doctor Josie Horchak. 0:01:20.680 --> 0:01:22.679 It's interesting you say, like, I do think there's a 0:01:22.840 --> 0:01:25.759 huge portion to having to advocate for your own pet, 0:01:26.959 --> 0:01:29.800 and honestly, in human medicine too, you have to advocate 0:01:29.840 --> 0:01:32.920 for yourself. Yeah, and it's because it is at the 0:01:32.959 --> 0:01:35.000 end of the day, like you're working with these massive 0:01:35.040 --> 0:01:38.240 hospital systems and people that don't know your animals like 0:01:38.280 --> 0:01:41.560 you do. And so I think, I'm sorry you had 0:01:41.560 --> 0:01:43.880 that experience, but I do understand like having to advocate 0:01:43.880 --> 0:01:47.400 for your own animals. And I hope that some of 0:01:47.440 --> 0:01:49.120 the time that you got with her and like doing 0:01:49.200 --> 0:01:51.120 that surgery, like she would not have had those two 0:01:51.120 --> 0:01:52.240 months if you hadn't done it. 0:01:52.280 --> 0:01:55.960 So hopefully, no, I mean you got more time either way. 0:01:56.120 --> 0:01:58.600 I got a little bit more time that I really 0:01:58.600 --> 0:02:01.080 didn't know. I thought they were like you could She'll 0:02:01.120 --> 0:02:05.280 probably last till December, which was around my birthday, which 0:02:05.360 --> 0:02:07.320 was my fortieth birthday. So I was gonna go to 0:02:07.360 --> 0:02:08.720 BALI I was gonna do all stuff, and I just 0:02:08.720 --> 0:02:10.200 put everything on hold, which is not a big deal. 0:02:10.200 --> 0:02:13.160 I could care less. But and then I just lost 0:02:13.160 --> 0:02:15.640 her like so much sooner. I was like, oh yeah, 0:02:15.720 --> 0:02:18.280 you're like damn, yeah, I know, but you just you 0:02:18.360 --> 0:02:19.720 just don't know. And I would have done it the 0:02:19.760 --> 0:02:24.080 same way again. Yeah, Like the end of her life 0:02:24.160 --> 0:02:29.760 was like so peaceful and so like what a great 0:02:30.520 --> 0:02:33.120 like you you only hope that you can like have 0:02:33.240 --> 0:02:36.760 your pet die in your arms, or I do at least, Yeah, 0:02:36.800 --> 0:02:39.160 like I don't. Some people can't handle or they think 0:02:39.160 --> 0:02:40.600 they can't, but they can. 0:02:40.880 --> 0:02:41.120 Yeah. 0:02:41.919 --> 0:02:44.160 But that's like my hope is that, like all my 0:02:44.280 --> 0:02:45.680 dogs just die in my office. 0:02:45.840 --> 0:02:48.919 Yeah, absolutely, with the person they love the most. Yeah, 0:02:48.919 --> 0:02:51.639 are kind of ushering them out of this world. Yeah, 0:02:51.639 --> 0:02:53.680 because ultimately they're the most comfortable in your arms. 0:02:53.760 --> 0:02:59.000 Right, so far, I've had that's happened with Leila and Twila. Yes, yes, 0:02:59.160 --> 0:03:00.440 I'm so grateful. 0:03:00.800 --> 0:03:04.320 So Layla. Gosh, we're going from one sad story to another. 0:03:04.639 --> 0:03:07.480 I know. So Twila died September twenty fourth, and then 0:03:07.560 --> 0:03:09.079 Layla died September thirtieth. 0:03:09.400 --> 0:03:13.919 Really I didn't know that, Yeah one year almost, Oh 0:03:13.960 --> 0:03:14.200 my god. 0:03:14.280 --> 0:03:19.080 Oh and then Lucy's probably uh quick dog hack, don't 0:03:19.120 --> 0:03:23.280 get multiple dogs the same age. Just don't do it, stagger, 0:03:23.360 --> 0:03:24.080 Why would you do that? 0:03:24.160 --> 0:03:24.560 Stagger? 0:03:24.600 --> 0:03:27.200 The ages I did that was so dumb. 0:03:27.520 --> 0:03:30.239 Yeah, yeah, we're having a little bit of a domino 0:03:30.280 --> 0:03:31.000 effect right now. 0:03:31.280 --> 0:03:31.680 Yeah. 0:03:32.000 --> 0:03:35.160 Yeah, Well, Laila was another one where you called me 0:03:35.200 --> 0:03:37.680 and you're like, uh, I think it might be time. 0:03:38.280 --> 0:03:40.280 And I really this really resonated with me because we 0:03:40.320 --> 0:03:42.040 got on the phone, and again, I have two different 0:03:42.080 --> 0:03:46.800 kinds of owners that are like I maybe not even 0:03:46.800 --> 0:03:48.520 two different kinds, but I like what you said. You 0:03:48.520 --> 0:03:51.160 were just like I need you to come look at 0:03:51.160 --> 0:03:53.920 this dog, yeah, and be objective and tell me is 0:03:54.000 --> 0:03:56.200 this the right decision or is it not the right decision. 0:03:56.240 --> 0:03:59.160 I think we as veterinarians kind of forget that that 0:03:59.280 --> 0:04:01.200 is our job is to help guide you and like 0:04:01.320 --> 0:04:03.520 we and I don't want the owners to ever have 0:04:03.600 --> 0:04:05.880 to like feel like they're the judge and jury with 0:04:06.000 --> 0:04:08.560 their dogs passing, you know, like I that's on me, 0:04:08.720 --> 0:04:11.000 Like I should help you make that decision, right. And 0:04:11.080 --> 0:04:15.920 so I totally got that. And I hope that if 0:04:15.920 --> 0:04:18.440 there's any veterinarians listening out there, like we remember that, 0:04:18.520 --> 0:04:20.360 like we should be the ones throwing youth in Asia 0:04:20.400 --> 0:04:23.520 on the table and saying like it's okay and like 0:04:23.640 --> 0:04:26.719 this is the right decision to be making for this pet. Yeah, 0:04:26.760 --> 0:04:30.160 because it's really hard even myself as a vet when 0:04:30.200 --> 0:04:32.159 it's my own dog. I had to have my husband 0:04:32.200 --> 0:04:34.840 be like it's time. Yeah, you lose all when it's 0:04:34.839 --> 0:04:36.719 your own pet, you lose all objectiveness. 0:04:36.839 --> 0:04:40.040 Yeah, and it's weird. I mean, I definitely think Twila 0:04:40.200 --> 0:04:45.560 prepped me for Leila, but you don't you like you 0:04:45.720 --> 0:04:48.039 think you're like, my life's going to be over when 0:04:48.040 --> 0:04:51.880 this dog dies, hell will freeze over, or like I'll die. 0:04:52.839 --> 0:04:56.080 But there's something that kicks in, and I think it's 0:04:56.160 --> 0:05:00.000 just your love for them, Yes, that you just you 0:05:00.000 --> 0:05:02.479 I love them so much that you're just like I'm 0:05:02.480 --> 0:05:04.320 not putting you through another ounce. 0:05:04.560 --> 0:05:06.920 You can't spare a second to see themselves. 0:05:06.720 --> 0:05:12.440 Of like pain, and I think that's like just ultimately 0:05:12.520 --> 0:05:16.320 what it was so like easy and easy, even though 0:05:16.320 --> 0:05:19.120 it's not an easy decision, but it made it easier 0:05:19.480 --> 0:05:22.840 just you just know she's in pain. Yeah, that's it, 0:05:22.839 --> 0:05:27.039 it's done. Yeah, and if you have an old dog, 0:05:28.240 --> 0:05:32.240 how wonderful is that the luckiest Leila is sixteen. 0:05:32.640 --> 0:05:34.280 Yeah, that's unbelievable. 0:05:34.440 --> 0:05:38.520 Unbelievable. Twila was eleven or twelve. I'll never know, but 0:05:39.680 --> 0:05:41.240 I think she was like eleven or twelve. She may 0:05:41.240 --> 0:05:47.640 have been thirteen. And Lucy's sixteen and a half. 0:05:48.880 --> 0:05:51.120 Amazing. She's trucking, yeah, doing. 0:05:50.960 --> 0:05:53.159 It, And I feel like she's got like another six 0:05:53.200 --> 0:05:53.880 months left inner. 0:05:54.080 --> 0:05:57.080 I love that Ptaly longer. It is funny at the end, 0:05:57.160 --> 0:05:58.880 I feel like we cling on to like, Oh, but 0:05:59.040 --> 0:06:00.839 I don't want to live what's out them. I don't 0:06:00.839 --> 0:06:03.279 want like I can't bear this pain of losing them. 0:06:03.320 --> 0:06:06.400 But ultimately, like just like you said, like, but I 0:06:06.480 --> 0:06:09.040 love them more than I love myself. Yeah, so, and 0:06:09.080 --> 0:06:12.200 I can't keep them alive just to make me less 0:06:12.240 --> 0:06:13.360 sad for a few more days. 0:06:13.600 --> 0:06:18.119 Well, And with Leaila, Twila didn't she wasn't that old 0:06:18.160 --> 0:06:22.080 that her. She was still Twila. Laila wasn't Layla anymore. 0:06:22.120 --> 0:06:24.559 And Layla hadn't been Leila in a really long time. 0:06:25.040 --> 0:06:28.520 When after she died, I was going through like old videos, 0:06:28.560 --> 0:06:32.320 old photos, and I'm just like, oh, I didn't realize. 0:06:32.640 --> 0:06:36.200 I've just gotten so used to taking care like of 0:06:36.240 --> 0:06:37.719 these geriatric dogs. 0:06:37.760 --> 0:06:38.880 They're running a nursing home. 0:06:38.880 --> 0:06:43.599 They're just not even themselves anymore. They're so different, you know, 0:06:45.400 --> 0:06:47.360 which just gave me a little bit more peace of. 0:06:48.839 --> 0:06:52.840 Did you ever feel like they're something called caregiver like 0:06:53.040 --> 0:06:55.359 compassion overload? Did you ever feel that we were like 0:06:55.400 --> 0:06:57.920 this is like tough on me, or you're just like, No, 0:06:58.000 --> 0:06:59.640 I love them so much that I don't even think 0:06:59.640 --> 0:07:00.080 about it. 0:07:00.279 --> 0:07:04.040 No, the last like year and a half two years 0:07:04.120 --> 0:07:05.679 have been really hard. 0:07:05.800 --> 0:07:07.280 I bet, I bet. 0:07:07.240 --> 0:07:10.320 It's extremely hard taking care of old dogs and then 0:07:10.360 --> 0:07:13.160 having them die back to back. Yeah, and just all 0:07:13.240 --> 0:07:16.000 I do is take worry about them, take care of them, 0:07:16.640 --> 0:07:22.600 fork out money. 0:07:25.440 --> 0:07:29.840 A lot of labels would say like, we love what 0:07:29.880 --> 0:07:31.480 you do, we just don't know what to do with you, 0:07:31.640 --> 0:07:33.360 and I would be met with that all the time. 0:07:34.080 --> 0:07:39.360 And so I think you just got to keep making music. Well, 0:07:39.400 --> 0:07:42.440 and you know this whole Big Loud thing, like I 0:07:42.480 --> 0:07:45.520 talked to you after that happened, And. 0:07:45.760 --> 0:07:47.440 Do you want to say what that is before you 0:07:47.520 --> 0:07:49.880 talk about it? Do you mind talking saying. 0:07:49.880 --> 0:07:51.440 No, I haven't gotten to talk about it. 0:07:51.480 --> 0:07:52.560 Would you like to talk about it? 0:07:52.720 --> 0:07:53.480 Yeah? 0:07:53.520 --> 0:07:56.720 So then let's let's back up. And first of all, 0:07:56.720 --> 0:08:01.400 Big Loud is a label. Yes, it's also management, it's 0:08:01.440 --> 0:08:03.720 a thing. But they signed you. 0:08:03.120 --> 0:08:06.680 They signed me, and like they are, you know, by 0:08:07.200 --> 0:08:11.920 all conventional standards, crushing it. They at the time that 0:08:11.960 --> 0:08:16.320 I signed with them, had Morgan Wallen and Hardy and Earnest, 0:08:16.600 --> 0:08:22.160 and they were trying to expand. And I had already 0:08:22.160 --> 0:08:25.920 made No One Gets Out Alive. The record was done, 0:08:26.200 --> 0:08:29.160 it was mastered. I was probably going to just release 0:08:29.200 --> 0:08:31.560 it the way I had released my previous two albums, 0:08:32.240 --> 0:08:34.160 which is change the whole thing. 0:08:34.559 --> 0:08:36.360 No, no, no, you say, released it as you did 0:08:36.360 --> 0:08:37.520 your last two albums. 0:08:37.200 --> 0:08:40.920 Just independently, like with A I have a good team 0:08:41.000 --> 0:08:44.280 of publicists and distributors, and you know, we would hire 0:08:44.360 --> 0:08:47.440 independent promotion and everything more for Triple A Radio and 0:08:48.320 --> 0:08:54.480 Americana focuses. But Nate Yetten heard this record and he 0:08:54.600 --> 0:08:57.600 was hired as an A and R, which is kind 0:08:57.600 --> 0:08:59.480 of the could be the coolest job ever. 0:08:59.600 --> 0:09:01.640 Your job is to find good cultivate. 0:09:01.840 --> 0:09:03.480 Yeah, let's go find it and build it. 0:09:05.360 --> 0:09:09.800 His specific objective with Big Loud was to broaden their 0:09:10.120 --> 0:09:16.080 musical roster to find critical acclaim. Like he told me 0:09:17.160 --> 0:09:19.480 and my husband Austin is like, you know, we want 0:09:19.480 --> 0:09:21.360 a Grammy critical acclaim. 0:09:21.400 --> 0:09:26.680 By the way, artists that you're respected for having but 0:09:26.760 --> 0:09:29.760 may not be commercially as viable. But you're like, they're 0:09:29.840 --> 0:09:33.520 really good and the critics love them. But and there's 0:09:33.520 --> 0:09:37.080 a difference. But they wanted something that wasn't populous. Yes, 0:09:37.520 --> 0:09:39.800 because Morgan's killing a Hardy's killing it and people will 0:09:39.800 --> 0:09:42.960 be like, well, you got people that are making hits. 0:09:42.960 --> 0:09:46.120 They wanted a symphony. Yeah, and that's you. 0:09:46.200 --> 0:09:46.800 They wanted you. 0:09:47.080 --> 0:09:51.439 I was totally flattered and inspired by the vision and 0:09:51.520 --> 0:09:55.920 it was surprising to me. I don't feel like I 0:09:55.960 --> 0:09:59.920 was definitely the outlier on their roster and in terms 0:09:59.920 --> 0:10:04.400 of critical acclaim like, no, I'm not shy about saying 0:10:04.440 --> 0:10:06.680 that we've had no shortage of that the last couple 0:10:06.720 --> 0:10:08.680 of records. And that goes back to your question about 0:10:09.040 --> 0:10:12.840 you know, frustration and myself and people. It's like, yeah, 0:10:12.880 --> 0:10:13.400 that was there. 0:10:13.440 --> 0:10:15.320 But I think credibility is another word I would use. 0:10:15.400 --> 0:10:16.480 Not to interrupt you, I just want to make sure 0:10:16.520 --> 0:10:18.160 our audience knows what's going on. I think they want 0:10:18.200 --> 0:10:22.560 a credibility from music with depth. Yeah, not that the 0:10:22.600 --> 0:10:25.880 other guys don't have it, but they're killing it again. 0:10:25.920 --> 0:10:28.600 I use were populous in a very populous way. Uh, 0:10:28.880 --> 0:10:30.679 they want a credibility, right. 0:10:30.600 --> 0:10:33.880 Yeah, when I think they're a young enough company that 0:10:33.880 --> 0:10:36.840 that was the right time for them to then take 0:10:36.840 --> 0:10:38.839 that step in the direction to say, okay, we can 0:10:38.880 --> 0:10:42.880 do more than just have these massive streaming darlings and 0:10:43.840 --> 0:10:45.760 you know, go direct to consumer and have a hit. 0:10:46.559 --> 0:10:50.559 And I have no doubt that they love this record, 0:10:50.720 --> 0:10:55.959 Like that's not something that I negate and I appreciate 0:10:56.080 --> 0:10:59.280 their vision in it, but like it was an undeniable 0:10:59.760 --> 0:11:04.479 off for it was like, we're gonna acquire this whole album. 0:11:05.000 --> 0:11:08.480 We made beautiful music videos, we did all this incredible 0:11:09.080 --> 0:11:14.120 artwork and packaging, you know, with Sofia Matanezad and Nikki 0:11:14.160 --> 0:11:17.840 Fletcher shooting these videos, and they talked about partnering with 0:11:17.960 --> 0:11:20.560 Polydor out of UK and just how like this was 0:11:20.600 --> 0:11:27.800 going to be, you know, an adult contemporary pop album, 0:11:27.840 --> 0:11:30.560 and they were really going to strategize on the marketing plan. 0:11:30.920 --> 0:11:34.000 And they were promising and using resources, yes. 0:11:33.840 --> 0:11:37.760 And it wasn't like they implemented those resources in a 0:11:37.760 --> 0:11:41.120 lot of ways. And you know, I'd already waited to 0:11:41.120 --> 0:11:45.839 put this music out, so with that promise of this plan, 0:11:46.400 --> 0:11:48.720 I waited a little longer and it came out in 0:11:48.760 --> 0:11:55.200 April of twenty four and they put billboards all over 0:11:55.240 --> 0:11:58.240 East Nashville, and we did these showcases in New York 0:11:58.280 --> 0:12:04.280 City and LA and you know, we got on like 0:12:04.320 --> 0:12:08.720 these great reviews upon the release, and then it was 0:12:08.760 --> 0:12:10.720 like radio silence, which. 0:12:10.520 --> 0:12:12.320 Is what they were looking for, by the way, to 0:12:12.400 --> 0:12:16.320 have an artist that would be reviewed wonderfully by critics. Right, 0:12:16.440 --> 0:12:20.560 this this snobby part which is important, Yeah, the people 0:12:20.600 --> 0:12:22.520 that Yeah, so so you get every you get what 0:12:23.360 --> 0:12:26.120 they brought you to do. You've created something, and what 0:12:26.160 --> 0:12:28.439 you created was exactly what they had asked you to do. 0:12:28.840 --> 0:12:31.679 You went and did it all and then silent Yeah 0:12:31.800 --> 0:12:32.960 from who what do you mean? Silent? 0:12:33.240 --> 0:12:37.079 Like from And there's a lot of people like I 0:12:37.160 --> 0:12:41.520 think Candice Watkins is amazing there. She was really engaged, 0:12:41.559 --> 0:12:44.680 and I'm not sure that she she liked me. I 0:12:44.679 --> 0:12:48.559 think was blindsided about the whole thing. But I'm out 0:12:48.559 --> 0:12:50.200 on the road, I'm on the No One gets out 0:12:50.240 --> 0:12:55.320 Alive tour. H I find out that, like some of 0:12:55.360 --> 0:12:59.480 the digital marketing spending is comparable to like what I 0:12:59.520 --> 0:13:02.520 did on my own with one song on the previous record, 0:13:03.120 --> 0:13:07.199 And it's like all this investment leading up to the release, 0:13:07.360 --> 0:13:11.240 and then it's like someone freaked out or something happened, 0:13:13.160 --> 0:13:15.800 and I can speculate, and I can only speculate because 0:13:15.800 --> 0:13:20.080 no one's called me and told me what's happened. I 0:13:20.120 --> 0:13:23.560 think Seth England had a falling out with Morgan Ballin 0:13:24.720 --> 0:13:27.440 and freaked out and dropped me and a lot of 0:13:27.480 --> 0:13:30.520 other people who had stuff going on. And I also 0:13:30.559 --> 0:13:32.839 think that they realized that they didn't have the capacity 0:13:33.600 --> 0:13:38.200 within their staff to work the kind of music I 0:13:38.240 --> 0:13:42.120 was releasing. So they are great with Spotify and these 0:13:42.160 --> 0:13:45.640 streaming services and all that stuff, but like the nuance 0:13:45.679 --> 0:13:49.000 that they talked about using with this music, they didn't 0:13:49.000 --> 0:13:53.360 have it. They just didn't have the stuff. And it 0:13:53.440 --> 0:13:56.280 was three months after we put this record out. Like, 0:13:56.320 --> 0:13:59.120 it can't be based on metrics, It can't be based 0:13:59.160 --> 0:14:02.120 on analytics of how the music is performing. It hasn't 0:14:02.120 --> 0:14:03.160 even been out long enough. 0:14:28.760 --> 0:14:33.840 Cast up Little Food for Yourself Life ain't. 0:14:33.920 --> 0:14:37.960 Oh it's pretty, but it's pretty, beautiful thing beautiful laugh 0:14:38.040 --> 0:14:44.840 a little more exciting, said he can't. You're kicking that 0:14:45.000 --> 0:14:47.800 with falling with Amy Brown. 0:14:48.840 --> 0:14:52.600 Third quote, You're not stressed because you're doing too much. 0:14:52.760 --> 0:14:55.720 You are stressed because you are doing too little of 0:14:55.760 --> 0:14:59.680 what makes you feel the most alive. I'm gonna say 0:14:59.680 --> 0:15:02.760 that one of Again, you're not stressed because you're doing 0:15:02.800 --> 0:15:05.560 too much. You are stressed because you're doing too little 0:15:05.600 --> 0:15:08.440 of what makes you feel the most alive. Which I 0:15:08.440 --> 0:15:11.200 guess I should say that with these quotes, I did 0:15:11.200 --> 0:15:15.960 a lot of research and there's not any one person 0:15:16.600 --> 0:15:17.920 that said these things. 0:15:18.000 --> 0:15:18.400 First. 0:15:18.920 --> 0:15:21.600 I feel like these have been said in a few 0:15:21.640 --> 0:15:26.080 different ways, lots of times, over and over, so we're 0:15:26.120 --> 0:15:30.480 just more unknown quotes. So again, you're not stressed because 0:15:30.520 --> 0:15:32.600 you were doing too much. You are stressed because you 0:15:32.640 --> 0:15:34.480 were doing too little of what makes you feel the 0:15:34.480 --> 0:15:36.640 most alive. And I read that again because this is 0:15:36.680 --> 0:15:40.680 one that I need to read often. It flips the 0:15:40.800 --> 0:15:43.960 script on stress, like we always think, I need to 0:15:43.960 --> 0:15:46.720 do less. That's why I say I need this quote 0:15:46.800 --> 0:15:48.880 more and more because I say that that is me 0:15:49.560 --> 0:15:52.000 on my Hinge profile a long time ago, it was 0:15:52.040 --> 0:15:54.440 like what do you want to do this year? And 0:15:55.040 --> 0:15:56.840 I just kept my answer short and sweet, and I 0:15:56.880 --> 0:15:59.880 just said do less. And some of the guys that 0:16:00.040 --> 0:16:03.560 would you know, initiate conversation with me around that, they'd 0:16:03.560 --> 0:16:06.160 be like, oh, I love that, and then I could 0:16:06.160 --> 0:16:08.360 tell the other guys weren't really feeling that answer and 0:16:08.400 --> 0:16:09.080 they would. 0:16:08.920 --> 0:16:10.320 Like challenge it a little bit. 0:16:11.200 --> 0:16:13.960 And I don't know, for me in that moment, that's 0:16:13.960 --> 0:16:16.960 what I felt resonated with me the most for the year. 0:16:17.000 --> 0:16:20.040 I wanted to do less. But the example that I 0:16:20.080 --> 0:16:22.640 got for you, you know of someone that I don't 0:16:22.640 --> 0:16:26.360 even know, Like, let's say someone's plate is full, like 0:16:26.400 --> 0:16:31.240 they've got work meetings, They've got like a full kid calendar, 0:16:31.800 --> 0:16:34.560 there's chores, there's errands. We all know what that is. 0:16:34.720 --> 0:16:39.240 Like they're running on empty, exhausted, But when was the 0:16:39.360 --> 0:16:41.800 last time that maybe they did something that truly lit 0:16:41.840 --> 0:16:46.960 them up, Like maybe this person loves painting or hiking 0:16:47.160 --> 0:16:49.960 or even just sitting at a coffee shop with a 0:16:49.960 --> 0:16:54.000 good book. Adding one thing that makes you feel alive 0:16:54.120 --> 0:16:57.600 can completely shift your energy. And sometimes it's not about 0:16:57.600 --> 0:17:02.200 doing less, it's about doing more the right things. But 0:17:02.280 --> 0:17:04.080 sometimes we just have a lot of things to get 0:17:04.080 --> 0:17:06.120 done that are just on our list to get done, 0:17:06.119 --> 0:17:07.520 and we don't really have a choice because if we 0:17:07.560 --> 0:17:10.680 don't do them, how will they get done. I mean, 0:17:10.800 --> 0:17:13.800 we can have help and different people that we work 0:17:13.840 --> 0:17:17.240 with and whatnot, but still there can be an ongoing 0:17:17.280 --> 0:17:19.040 list of things that we need to get done, and 0:17:19.040 --> 0:17:23.080 it can feel overwhelming. But if you sprinkle in the 0:17:23.119 --> 0:17:27.960 things that give you that joy that fill your cup up, 0:17:28.240 --> 0:17:30.560 Leanne and I were actually even talking about this today 0:17:31.119 --> 0:17:35.119 with each other, of community and connection with friends and 0:17:35.160 --> 0:17:39.760 how sometimes we isolate and we think we're having solitude, 0:17:39.760 --> 0:17:42.120 but it turns into isolation and that we don't really 0:17:42.160 --> 0:17:45.440 have community and connection with our friends and we don't 0:17:45.480 --> 0:17:48.119 realize that's all we need. And if we were to 0:17:48.160 --> 0:17:50.960 have one hike with a friend, one coffee date with 0:17:51.000 --> 0:17:54.520 a friend, even one chat with a friend over the 0:17:54.560 --> 0:18:00.600 phone or FaceTime or something, instantly our cup can start 0:18:00.640 --> 0:18:03.600 to fill up and our energy can start to shift. 0:18:03.640 --> 0:18:07.199 So it doesn't have to be this drastic thing. It 0:18:07.240 --> 0:18:09.399 can be as simple as a phone call with a friend. 0:18:10.280 --> 0:18:15.000 So take that little nugget and yeah, Houston, roll that 0:18:15.440 --> 0:18:17.080 beautifully in audio. 0:18:17.600 --> 0:18:19.320 Okay, So this message hit me like a ton of 0:18:19.359 --> 0:18:21.840 bricks when I first, you know, got the memo because 0:18:21.880 --> 0:18:24.480 for so long I thought I was stressed because I 0:18:24.520 --> 0:18:27.240 had too much on my plate. But what I've come 0:18:27.280 --> 0:18:30.960 to realize is that my stress wasn't from doing too much. 0:18:31.440 --> 0:18:34.200 It was from who I was or wasn't being when 0:18:34.359 --> 0:18:37.199 I was doing the doing, And for me, I was 0:18:37.240 --> 0:18:39.639 trying to do all the things from a place of 0:18:39.680 --> 0:18:42.840 stress or disorder or just you know, total lack of 0:18:42.880 --> 0:18:45.320 belief in myself. And then the big one for me 0:18:45.560 --> 0:18:47.800 was doing all the things that I thought I was 0:18:47.840 --> 0:18:50.040 supposed to do or that I thought that I was 0:18:50.080 --> 0:18:53.879 supposed to want to do, and totally ignoring what makes 0:18:53.920 --> 0:18:56.320 me more of who I am and what truly. 0:18:56.040 --> 0:18:56.680 Lights me up. 0:18:57.160 --> 0:19:00.199 And when I finally started prioritizing the things that made 0:19:00.280 --> 0:19:03.000 me feel alive, and that's things like you know, writing 0:19:03.119 --> 0:19:05.960 and teaching what I'm meant to be teaching and connecting 0:19:06.000 --> 0:19:08.480 with people who just get me, or you know, just 0:19:08.560 --> 0:19:11.240 simple things like taking a walk outside and feeling the 0:19:11.280 --> 0:19:14.600 sunshine on my face and knowing that those things do 0:19:14.680 --> 0:19:17.880 have value, even if you know society doesn't necessarily deem 0:19:17.920 --> 0:19:21.720 that stuff productive. All of that completely shifted my relationship 0:19:22.040 --> 0:19:25.520 with stress and that hustle mentality. And I actually just 0:19:25.560 --> 0:19:28.240 talked about this on the Godpod about how I navigate 0:19:28.280 --> 0:19:31.480 the noise and find peace in a world of overstimulation. 0:19:32.680 --> 0:19:36.639 The lesson you struggle with will repeat itself until you 0:19:36.840 --> 0:19:40.040 learn from it. Now, this one is a little tough love, 0:19:40.080 --> 0:19:42.320 that's for sure, but it is so true like life 0:19:42.320 --> 0:19:45.440 has a way of sending us the same challenges over 0:19:45.520 --> 0:19:48.360 and over until we figure out what we're supposed to learn. 0:19:48.840 --> 0:19:51.200 And I know that I have certainly seen that happen 0:19:51.280 --> 0:19:54.239 in my own life. Imagine someone who keeps ending up 0:19:54.280 --> 0:19:58.199 in toxic friendships like they're always the one giving, always 0:19:58.240 --> 0:20:01.680 the one fixing, and and it always ends in drama, 0:20:02.200 --> 0:20:04.520 like it's easy to blame the other person. But what 0:20:04.600 --> 0:20:09.440 if the real lesson is about boundaries? And until this 0:20:09.520 --> 0:20:12.080 person learns how to set boundaries, and they're going to 0:20:12.160 --> 0:20:16.640 keep finding themselves in the same situation. Once they get it, though, 0:20:16.640 --> 0:20:19.080 it really is a total game changer and the pattern 0:20:19.080 --> 0:20:22.119 will stop and they will move forward stronger than ever. 0:20:22.960 --> 0:20:26.320 But the lesson will keep popping up. So if you 0:20:26.760 --> 0:20:28.960 have something going on in your life and you're like, oh, 0:20:29.000 --> 0:20:33.479 why does this keep happening to me? Maybe say, oh, wow, 0:20:34.040 --> 0:20:37.399 this just happened again. I recognize this. What am I 0:20:37.560 --> 0:20:41.720 supposed to be learning from this? Invite the information to 0:20:41.800 --> 0:20:47.200 come to you, Invite the lesson in ask questions. If 0:20:47.240 --> 0:20:50.359 you are confiding in a friend like, say, you're this 0:20:50.400 --> 0:20:53.800 person that ends up in these toxic friendships? Right, What 0:20:53.920 --> 0:20:57.040 if you have a confidant that you can talk to 0:20:57.400 --> 0:21:01.720 about these toxic friendships, they notice it too. Are you 0:21:01.760 --> 0:21:05.439 gonna be willing to receive that information from a trusted friend? 0:21:06.320 --> 0:21:10.200 Can you open up to that friend and say, hey, 0:21:10.440 --> 0:21:12.879 I love to get your insight on something like I 0:21:13.000 --> 0:21:17.040 keep ending up in these same patterns. Is there anything 0:21:17.200 --> 0:21:20.240 you notice that I could do differently? Or if you 0:21:20.320 --> 0:21:23.679 have a therapist being honest about these relationships instead of 0:21:23.720 --> 0:21:27.840 just going into the conversation with your friend and gossiping 0:21:27.840 --> 0:21:31.439 about the toxic person and just being the victim and 0:21:31.520 --> 0:21:34.760 talking all about what this other person did, open up 0:21:34.800 --> 0:21:38.360 to where you could have done some things differently. 0:21:39.680 --> 0:21:40.760