Speaker 1: We're taking you inside the mind of a man. This
Speaker 1: is how Men Thick and I heard radio podcast. Yo, Yo,
Speaker 1: what's up everybody? This is just Rashad Jennings. I am
Speaker 1: a former NFL running back, season twenty four Dancer with
Speaker 1: the Stars champion and New York Time best selling author
Speaker 1: in the book title The If in Life. If you
Speaker 1: haven't ready to go check it out, I'm happy today
Speaker 1: to be hosting How Men Think. I'm gonna be answering
Speaker 1: some questions and try to help you understand exactly that
Speaker 1: how Men Think. But first let's get into the eleven questions.
Speaker 1: What are you known for? And tell us a little
Speaker 1: bit about yourself. What am I known for? It depends
Speaker 1: on who you ask. UM, I've from a lot of people.
Speaker 1: I'm known for planning in the NFL for eight years,
Speaker 1: for with the Jacksonville Jaguars, one with the Oakland Raiders,
Speaker 1: and three with the New York Giants. UM. Some people
Speaker 1: may say they know me as a dancer as a
Speaker 1: one season twenty four Dancers with the Stars. My partner
Speaker 1: was in a slater and we had a all. UM.
Speaker 1: Some may know me because I am a New York
Speaker 1: Time bestselling author, titled the book title. By the title
Speaker 1: of the book, the if in life to plan words,
Speaker 1: we spell out the word life if it's in the middle,
Speaker 1: and I went through fifteen chapters exploring how pivotal and
Speaker 1: interesting that one word is to the success and failures
Speaker 1: of our life. Um some people know me because I'm
Speaker 1: philanthropically driven. I have a Rashot Jenny's foundation. We've put
Speaker 1: on reading, education and literacy, UM and health and fitness.
Speaker 1: UM so may know me as a good friend. UM
Speaker 1: as I try to live with the idea of if
Speaker 1: you you should be better off having met me in
Speaker 1: life than not if I come across you. My job,
Speaker 1: it seems to um be, is to inspire you. And
Speaker 1: there's a difference between being inspired and being motivated. Motivated
Speaker 1: is to me, I look at it as a drill sergeant,
Speaker 1: that somebody can motivate you to do a hundred push
Speaker 1: us because they're physically in your face yelling at you.
Speaker 1: But when you're inspired, nobody's around and that person is
Speaker 1: still motivating. And that's what that's what an inspiration is.
Speaker 1: So I'm known as an inspiration, known as a great son,
Speaker 1: I'm known as a I'm known as a goof. I'm
Speaker 1: an auder to that. I'm addicted to learning. I mean,
Speaker 1: everyday guy. Nothing especial about me, just a position I'm in. Um,
Speaker 1: who are you in your personal life? Uh so? My
Speaker 1: personal life legitimately is the same as my known life.
Speaker 1: There's no difference legitimately. I think. The only difference between
Speaker 1: and everybody will tell you this, the only difference between
Speaker 1: my personal life being when the cameras are not around, right,
Speaker 1: and when the cameras are around, is that I will
Speaker 1: cuss in my personal life, not maliciously. Is just something
Speaker 1: about what I'm on TV. It's to promise that I
Speaker 1: had with my mom that I never well use profanity
Speaker 1: and and and on on TV. So any radio show
Speaker 1: and podcasts, any TV. I've never been seen in the
Speaker 1: last in all of sixteen years of being like a
Speaker 1: public figure, I've never that once heard saying the cuts work. Um.
Speaker 1: I think that's the only difference. Everything else is what
Speaker 1: you see is what you get. There's a quote that
Speaker 1: I live by. No, I take that back. There's a
Speaker 1: quote that has written in such a way that and
Speaker 1: somebody was to shadow my life. I want to live
Speaker 1: a life that would cause them to write these words
Speaker 1: by shadowing, and it's the master and art of living
Speaker 1: shows a little distinction between his work and his play,
Speaker 1: his labor and his leisure, his love and his religion.
Speaker 1: He simply pursues everything he does with excellence, leaving others
Speaker 1: to decide is he working or is he playing? But
Speaker 1: to him, he's always doing both. And that's how I
Speaker 1: lived my life. Um, three shows you're binge watching? Three
Speaker 1: shows that I'm binge watching. You know what I can't
Speaker 1: I've stopped watching you You Okay, I really I really
Speaker 1: got caught up in you. I think that was a
Speaker 1: great show. Um, I did bene watch um all American? Uh.
Speaker 1: Shout out to Spencer He's he was one of my
Speaker 1: teammates that based on the True Store. I know the
Speaker 1: actual guy himself. We played football together. Um. And Third,
Speaker 1: let me see, I don't know, I get. I have
Speaker 1: to watch I have to watch all the Bachelor Bachelorettes.
Speaker 1: I just do. It's kind of I end not finding
Speaker 1: myself having to watch it. U. What is your favorite food?
Speaker 1: That's easy? My favorite food by as far as sushi.
Speaker 1: You want to make me happy, give me some sushi
Speaker 1: and gluten free cookies and dairy free and we'll have
Speaker 1: a good time. Tell us about your career. UM. So
Speaker 1: career a getting played in the NFL. UM long journey
Speaker 1: to get there started off in high school with a
Speaker 1: point six g P a fifth string running back in
Speaker 1: high school football. So it was an unlikely role. No
Speaker 1: red carpets over here, no best UM player, five star
Speaker 1: rating at all, barely slithered through everything, through the skin
Speaker 1: of my teeth with a lot of work ethic, I
Speaker 1: had it. It was a one eight in my life.
Speaker 1: It was a point where I was lazy and I
Speaker 1: took a one. And so my career led me to football, UM,
Speaker 1: which then led me to entrepreneurship, which then led me
Speaker 1: to all the many things that I'm doing currently and today,
Speaker 1: writing shows, producing, UM executive producing, acting, hosting, TV commentating, writing. UM.
Speaker 1: I could just bore you, but my hands are in
Speaker 1: a lot UM and I and I always claim myself
Speaker 1: to be a novice. That's something I am at I don't.
Speaker 1: I'm not both. I'm not proudful, I'm always willing to learn. UM.
Speaker 1: That's part of my career. What's your biggest fear in life?
Speaker 1: My biggest fear in life is too not utilize all
Speaker 1: my skill sets and talents, And that's a fear, and
Speaker 1: a fear of not telling somebody that I really care
Speaker 1: about how I feel about them and then not wake
Speaker 1: up the next day. That's another fear. So I try
Speaker 1: to do both of those as much as I possibly can,
Speaker 1: utilize all my skill set as a prayer that I
Speaker 1: have always God, please teach me how to utilize my
Speaker 1: skill set and talents UM to bring more people to
Speaker 1: know who you are. So my fear is not doing that. Uh,
Speaker 1: what's your biggest pet peeve? My biggest pet peeve? If
Speaker 1: it's people that get piste off quick, so annoying? Um?
Speaker 1: What makes you the most happy when people don't get
Speaker 1: piste off quick? Now? Seriously, what makes me the happiest?
Speaker 1: All I need is good food and good people. I
Speaker 1: figured out the rest man. I'm easy. I'm from Forest, Virginia.
Speaker 1: I'm a little country boy, grew up around horses, um, farm,
Speaker 1: farm land. And you know, this world ain't got too
Speaker 1: much to offer me, to be honest with you, it
Speaker 1: just don't. But good food, good people makes me happy.
Speaker 1: What is your ideal Saturday morning? Waking up a little
Speaker 1: bit late, rolling out of bed, playing with my dog.
Speaker 1: I have a German shepherd. Um. Making some waffles and
Speaker 1: uh egg whites. Not I probably go with an omelet,
Speaker 1: you know, and uh a protein shake, running a mile,
Speaker 1: coming back, showering, exploring a little bit of the day
Speaker 1: and let the rest be. I'm I'm it doesn't take
Speaker 1: much to you know, to please me. I'm super simple.
Speaker 1: It's so I'm so simple that it might it may
Speaker 1: be confusing. Um, but yeah, I said, are you more
Speaker 1: of an athlete or an armchair quarterback? I am an athlete,
Speaker 1: so I would say I'm more of an athlete than
Speaker 1: somebody that is an armchair quarterback. UM. I get my
Speaker 1: hands dirty and everything that I do. UM, my own
Speaker 1: my own agent. Um. I'm a rarity in in in
Speaker 1: a lot of aspects there where people will say I'm
Speaker 1: stupid for doing it. But I represent myself in so
Speaker 1: many ways. If anybody sees Rashad Jennings, it's because of
Speaker 1: by the hands of the people that I that I
Speaker 1: put in place to work directly. Uh for myself. There
Speaker 1: isn't anything signed that isn't approved by me. There isn't
Speaker 1: any contract that hasn't been read over a dent by me.
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't put my trust in you know,
Speaker 1: a whole bunch of people. So, um, I'm definitely an
Speaker 1: athlete physically and uh mentally too, so I'm not an armchair.
Speaker 1: What keeps you motivated? Look, we talked about, Uh, what
Speaker 1: keeps me motivated is what I am inspired by. We
Speaker 1: discussed a little bit earlier as the difference between motivation
Speaker 1: and inspiration. Um, I'm inspired, which motivates me? What am
Speaker 1: I inspired to do? I'm inspired to lead my family
Speaker 1: from the grave. Sounds crazy. I think about death quite often,
Speaker 1: and not in a morbid way, but as a matter
Speaker 1: of fact, where we all gonna die. If you can
Speaker 1: hear my voice, you're gonna die one day. And I
Speaker 1: want to be the leader of for my family from
Speaker 1: the grave. And the only way possible to do that
Speaker 1: is to be very conscientious of the decisions I make
Speaker 1: while I'm here. And um, so that's my inspiration. Is
Speaker 1: what keeps me motivated? All right, guys, that was me
Speaker 1: wrapping up eleven questions and we're gonna take a quick
Speaker 1: break and come back and answer some questions. Remember you
Speaker 1: with for shots in and some men think, ye, hey, Megan,
Speaker 1: how are you doing? Hey? Hey, I'm in a little
Speaker 1: bit of a dilemma right now. But how are you.
Speaker 1: I'm good, I'm good. Hopefully, uh, hopefully it's not too
Speaker 1: bad of a dilemma. Well, so, my boyfriend and I
Speaker 1: have been officially dating for only about two months now, um,
Speaker 1: but he just got offered a position for his dream
Speaker 1: job across the country, and so I'm not sure what
Speaker 1: to do as far as like, it's so early if
Speaker 1: we do long distance now, I don't think we're going
Speaker 1: to make that work. But is it also too early
Speaker 1: for me to offer to move with him? And then
Speaker 1: would it be too soon to like move in with him.
Speaker 1: I'm just I'm not sure what to do. So I
Speaker 1: always tell people I'm not one to tell you what
Speaker 1: to do. I will always try to evaluate scenario. So
Speaker 1: y'all have been talking for now too months? You said, Well,
Speaker 1: we dated for maybe a couple of months, but we've
Speaker 1: been officially like boyfriend girlfriend for two months now, been
Speaker 1: exclused to for two months. Yeah. OK. And there is
Speaker 1: an opportunity, a dream job for him to move across
Speaker 1: the country to chase a dream and has he offered
Speaker 1: you to come along or is that kind of something
Speaker 1: that you gotta. I would have to like bring that up.
Speaker 1: He hasn't necessarily offered, But I also don't know if
Speaker 1: he thinks that. It's like maybe he's too scared to
Speaker 1: say come with me because it's too soon. I'll say
Speaker 1: this though, as a guy, right, this is how many
Speaker 1: So when I played in the NFL, um there were
Speaker 1: I was in a Jackson. Then there was an opportunity
Speaker 1: that was gonna arise through free agency, and I had
Speaker 1: no idea where I was gonna go. And then through
Speaker 1: that free agency again I had no idea why I
Speaker 1: was gonna go. So I will say this, it's tough
Speaker 1: for a man to invite a woman to travel the
Speaker 1: world with him unless he has given a ring or
Speaker 1: a staple commitment to that that this is going to
Speaker 1: be my woman. The reason why is because if he brings,
Speaker 1: if he has a heart, it's gonna be hard for
Speaker 1: him to make that ass because if he brings you
Speaker 1: out there and things don't work, he is going to
Speaker 1: feel that weight of responsibility that he has to now
Speaker 1: provide or take care of you. Um, and so that
Speaker 1: is gonna be tough. So I would suggest to you
Speaker 1: truly to bring it, bring up the conversation in a way,
Speaker 1: in a merriment. Maybe you' all going out to eat,
Speaker 1: and maybe you're you're celebrating him as you're bringing the
Speaker 1: conversation of Hey, baby, I'm so excited for you talk
Speaker 1: about it and say so. I know it's early in
Speaker 1: our relationship, and you know I'm not trust me. I'm
Speaker 1: not putting any pressure. I just want to know what
Speaker 1: are your thoughts on long distance relationship, so farth and
Speaker 1: so on traveling? What about? I mean, do what can
Speaker 1: you can you find? Is there a job in his city?
Speaker 1: Um that is applicable to your career as well? Finding
Speaker 1: a way, not to put pressure on him to figure
Speaker 1: out the answer, but working it together and you will
Speaker 1: hear more of where his heart is. If you put
Speaker 1: pressure on him, Odds are he's gonna break because his focus, right,
Speaker 1: a man's focus is to build the ship. Then bring
Speaker 1: your woman aboard. He's found a career, he's found an
Speaker 1: opportunity to build his ship. It sounds like right, So
Speaker 1: until he's built it, until he's there working, knows his schedule,
Speaker 1: knows his ins and outs, knows where the grocery store,
Speaker 1: like knows his ship. You know, if you will it's
Speaker 1: until then it's hard to find a way to bring
Speaker 1: the woman aboard when a man is chasing a dream. Absolutely,
Speaker 1: I actually wasn't expecting you to say all that, and
Speaker 1: it makes so much sense, and it's making me hopeful
Speaker 1: that like we could continue to build it, maybe even
Speaker 1: distance forward. You know, absolutely they don't if that that's
Speaker 1: the guy, trust me. Um, long distance may suck, but
Speaker 1: it will be well worth it and you'll see that
Speaker 1: in a couple of months. Yeah, absolutely, thank you, Absolutely,
Speaker 1: I'm here for it. Thanks. Hey, But now the people,
Speaker 1: what's on your mind? So I have my eye on
Speaker 1: this guy and I really want to catch his attention. Um,
Speaker 1: but he's like really into movies, like the history of movies. Um,
Speaker 1: is it weird if I like do my research to
Speaker 1: talk to him about movies, Like I just I can't
Speaker 1: tell if it's if that's like I catch me enough,
Speaker 1: Like will he will he like that? Or do that?
Speaker 1: Or do you? Guys usually like I don't know, like
Speaker 1: girls that have opposite interests to them, So depending on
Speaker 1: the got I mean, everybody likes to add more value
Speaker 1: to life. So you bringing in perspective and bringing in perspective,
Speaker 1: maybe he likes outdoors, maybe like indoors, and then it works, right,
Speaker 1: But when when it comes to an interest, people love
Speaker 1: people that have similarities and interests. So by you listen,
Speaker 1: I um, I met uh. This is a funny story, right,
Speaker 1: So me meet a girl that likes if I if
Speaker 1: I want to, if I'm interested in a girl, right
Speaker 1: and she likes country music and I hate country music,
Speaker 1: I would go listen to country music and a few
Speaker 1: artists just to be able to find out what are
Speaker 1: the popular songs and country what are the what are
Speaker 1: the most popular artists in countries, So that way in
Speaker 1: a dialogue we have something to relate to. It's gonna
Speaker 1: make her happy. Now is that wrong or right? I
Speaker 1: can't tell you, but I'm gonna tell you what it's.
Speaker 1: The outcome of that is that you're going to be
Speaker 1: more connected. It's smart, and I can tell that you
Speaker 1: care if you're already considering studying some it's or buff
Speaker 1: acts in order to connect with them. So I would
Speaker 1: suggest do it, um and even in a playful way,
Speaker 1: you know, to let him know, hey listen, I depending
Speaker 1: depending on the vibe, even telling him that you did
Speaker 1: that may even show him that like one of the
Speaker 1: most beautiful things. Again, this is how men think. One
Speaker 1: of the most attractive things to a man is a
Speaker 1: woman's willingness. Like the fact that you're willing to go
Speaker 1: to a football game. Nobody's expecting you to understand it,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. This is a different but
Speaker 1: you do great. But the willingness to go, the willingness
Speaker 1: just and I'm I'm assuming I can't speak for women,
Speaker 1: but I'm assuming it's probably the same for a woman,
Speaker 1: Like the willingness to set down and watch a you know,
Speaker 1: romantic comedy. The willingness to do it is what's connective
Speaker 1: and attractive. So I would say, keep yourself fun, open
Speaker 1: and willing and go study that history. I will thank
Speaker 1: you so much. That was very helpful. Have a good one,
Speaker 1: take care. And by the way, I like country music.
Speaker 1: It's great. Hey, Lisa, how you doing? You want a
Speaker 1: hot line or how man? Thank you for Sean Jenens.
Speaker 1: Hey there, Hi, how you doing. I'm amazing, I'm amazing.
Speaker 1: What's on your mind? Okay? Well, all right, here's the deal.
Speaker 1: My husband, we've been married a long time and he's
Speaker 1: been a really good career and um, he's actually it's
Speaker 1: kind of exciting he's able to retire at a pretty
Speaker 1: young age. And um, there's one thing. Last night he
Speaker 1: was expressing to me that he feels kind of like
Speaker 1: a little bit, um, like he's feeling lonely or he's
Speaker 1: afraid he's gonna feel kind of lost without his career.
Speaker 1: He had a really big career and um, you know,
Speaker 1: when he retires, he doesn't know what he's gonna do
Speaker 1: with himself, you know what I mean. And so he
Speaker 1: was kind of expressing me the sense of loss or
Speaker 1: or feeling alone. And and I want to know. I
Speaker 1: want to know from you because I think are so great.
Speaker 1: I want to know, um, you know a great smile too.
Speaker 1: I want to know, um, what I can do to
Speaker 1: help him, like encourage him. I've always been kind of
Speaker 1: a supporter and a cheerleader. But you know, I'm just
Speaker 1: trying to think of a way, you know, how to
Speaker 1: help him in this change in his life. Is there
Speaker 1: anything special I could do for him? What do you suggest? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I appreciate that, Lisa, And Um, I would say that
Speaker 1: transition in a man's life could be tough. At Tom's,
Speaker 1: especially that the career change, Um, a man feels the
Speaker 1: innate draw to lead and provide. And I will say
Speaker 1: that there is there's respect. Um. A woman's job is
Speaker 1: to respect a man, right and and this is my opinion,
Speaker 1: right um. And a man's job is to love a woman. Right.
Speaker 1: So those two seemingly are the same, but they have
Speaker 1: different intentionalities and details. Um. I would say, if he
Speaker 1: feels the support in respect from you, rightly, I think
Speaker 1: naturally it would help him transition. Um. You know, going
Speaker 1: from one career to another. It's difficult, and he's going
Speaker 1: to have these I maybe even identities of of crisis
Speaker 1: of what do I do what I show for how
Speaker 1: to approve myself? I am a worthy it's self, not
Speaker 1: even necessarily to you. He might be battling the man
Speaker 1: in the mirror, um, for his own proof to himself
Speaker 1: that he's a leader in all these things. So I
Speaker 1: would just encourage him to um, whatever he brings up
Speaker 1: that he wants to do, encourage him to do it
Speaker 1: um truly, and in trying not to question him through
Speaker 1: the process, because he When you ask somebody a question
Speaker 1: that they do not have the answers to, they get
Speaker 1: really piste when they feel they're supposed to answer it, right,
Speaker 1: and so like in a relationship, if if you don't,
Speaker 1: if you know he doesn't know the answer, don't ask
Speaker 1: him because it becomes very frustrating. If if if you
Speaker 1: say you're opposed to cook dinner, I'm like, hey, what's
Speaker 1: for dinner? And you don't know what you're gonna cook,
Speaker 1: that's when you get frustrated. But if you have a plan, Hey,
Speaker 1: well we're gonna cook. I got this. This, this it
Speaker 1: feels better. So I tell women, and I suggested women
Speaker 1: don't ask a man a question. That's that's sincere if
Speaker 1: he doesn't if you don't think he has that plan yet, right,
Speaker 1: you know, I remember one time, um a therapist told me,
Speaker 1: you know, when you're suffering, you need to make a plan.
Speaker 1: So you're you're really spot on on this. I mean,
Speaker 1: I think because without a plan, you you do feel lost, right,
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, you feel like you're you have
Speaker 1: nowhere to go and what to do, and and you know,
Speaker 1: I just I know sometimes I don't want him just
Speaker 1: moping around, So I'm gonna try and you know, use
Speaker 1: my enthusiasm that I already have and and to try
Speaker 1: to like you know, make things. So I think you
Speaker 1: really reagered something me about this having a plan kind
Speaker 1: of thing and and helping him find kind of a
Speaker 1: way to have a you know, a plan maybe travel
Speaker 1: or something like that, you know, or or even write
Speaker 1: a book maybe right right, Hey, writing a book is
Speaker 1: is therapeutic. And I would also encourage you through that
Speaker 1: transition to um give time. Um. You know, transition is
Speaker 1: not one of them things that are very simple. Um.
Speaker 1: And it doesn't happen overnight, especially you know, for me,
Speaker 1: I told you I played in the NFL for a
Speaker 1: total of eight years, but I've been playing since I
Speaker 1: was six, and that's pretty much what I want to accomplish.
Speaker 1: And when I had to transition, it was easier for
Speaker 1: me because I never thought I was a football player.
Speaker 1: I just happened to do it, so it was different
Speaker 1: and my identity wasn't in it. Actually into your point
Speaker 1: when you said it sounds like something that a counselor said.
Speaker 1: I'm actually studied to be a premier to merit the
Speaker 1: counselor because I love love. I think it's the best
Speaker 1: item of clothing anybody could ever wear. Um. People illuminate
Speaker 1: once it's on them. So if I could help people
Speaker 1: wear a love I try, um, and so I do
Speaker 1: encourage you to keep the idea of whatever it is
Speaker 1: I'm saying or asking him, is it in a respectful way?
Speaker 1: And it will help him so much throughout this time,
Speaker 1: well at least I look forward to hopefully we'll come
Speaker 1: back with some good news. Yes, I'd love to talk
Speaker 1: to you again. All right, take care? Thanks? Bye? Hey Colleen, Hi,
Speaker 1: how are you good? How are you good? So you're on?
Speaker 1: How man? Think here? We're for shot, Jennis. I want
Speaker 1: to see what's on your mind before you actually say anything.
Speaker 1: Your name? I had to ask. Somebody told me that
Speaker 1: Colleen is calling? I said, Colleen Calleen is Colleen? Has
Speaker 1: have you ever heard that joke? Yes? All right, I
Speaker 1: feel better. I feel better. Well, what's on your mind? Um?
Speaker 1: So I'm single, but I'm having like a hard time
Speaker 1: finding a genuine connect shin. I just feel like really
Speaker 1: underwhelmed by the dating apps because no one ever wants
Speaker 1: like follow through and meet in person. You spend like
Speaker 1: a few days chatting, but then like nothing, you never
Speaker 1: hear from them again. So my question is, um, is
Speaker 1: there a way to send a message to get someone
Speaker 1: to meet in person without sounding like super desperate. UM
Speaker 1: to that, I would say, there isn't a singular message
Speaker 1: because everybody is an individual and things and absorbs the
Speaker 1: information different, So it wouldn't be one message that will
Speaker 1: work for all. UM. And with that in mind, you
Speaker 1: know and I understand, like, so how the dating app works?
Speaker 1: It seems that you know it's what's interesting me right
Speaker 1: this second, And it's really it's funny when you look
Speaker 1: at the data app. UM, for a lot of guys,
Speaker 1: it's about who can you can back with? Not necessarily
Speaker 1: who can you get to know? Um, it's it's the
Speaker 1: allure is who I connected with her? Let me see
Speaker 1: who else I can connect with? Oh I connect with her?
Speaker 1: Let me see who else I can connect with? Oh
Speaker 1: I matched with her? Who else can I match with?
Speaker 1: That's the fun of the dating app more than it
Speaker 1: is Okay, I connected with her, let me get to nohere.
Speaker 1: It's odd. It's really an odd thing. And so but
Speaker 1: you also can meet people too through it that are
Speaker 1: on your same wavelength. UM. But I would consider are
Speaker 1: are there are the guys that you're connecting with? Are
Speaker 1: they at least or in the same city? Would it
Speaker 1: have to be travel to connect with them, or how
Speaker 1: how is that working? Oh, I do people within like
Speaker 1: thirty to forty miles from me, so at the most.
Speaker 1: But yeah, everyone's pretty much in the same city night,
Speaker 1: so you can actually meet them face to face at
Speaker 1: some point. Yeah. Now with that in mind, I would
Speaker 1: put that out Have you put that out there that
Speaker 1: you have desire to meet them? Yeah? Tell them and
Speaker 1: then like they'll be like, oh yeah, I'll text you,
Speaker 1: and then you don't hear from them, or they just
Speaker 1: they don't even respond. Yeah, that sounds that sounds like
Speaker 1: dating napps, um, because everybody is looking for the next thing,
Speaker 1: like and and if Tru watched this, what's funny is
Speaker 1: that you know, you think it's just happening to you.
Speaker 1: You probably inspired a guy so much that he probably
Speaker 1: dissed the other girl. And then what happened is somebody
Speaker 1: else inspired him now that he dissed you, and so
Speaker 1: forth and so on. Like if one person only can
Speaker 1: be at one place at a time, and all the
Speaker 1: connections that they're having, they're dissing more than they are
Speaker 1: seeing anyone, right, and so I wouldn't personally, Um, I
Speaker 1: would look at if if like if I had a daughter, right,
Speaker 1: I would tell I would, I would, I would if
Speaker 1: she's on a data mapp, I wouldn't simply say, do
Speaker 1: not expect to connect with anyone. And the reason why
Speaker 1: it's because it's it's about what's next? Um And even
Speaker 1: on the date there's a lot about well, what can
Speaker 1: you do for me? Um? Hm. The genuineness is a
Speaker 1: little harder on the dating apps. And this is how
Speaker 1: men think right now. I'm not I don't know how
Speaker 1: women think through it, you know, but a guy is
Speaker 1: always looking for Okay, what's fun, what's next? Okay? I cool?
Speaker 1: I connected with her. Let me screenshot this, show my buddy. Hey,
Speaker 1: look look at this. Let me show this group. Hey,
Speaker 1: look who I connect with her? Look what she said?
Speaker 1: As screenshots all over the place. It's just like it's
Speaker 1: just a hey man, I want to show off? Right,
Speaker 1: people Guys make faith accounts just to have fun and
Speaker 1: show off. Right. There's there's so much ingenuineness in the
Speaker 1: social media world itself. Right, people post on Instagram only
Speaker 1: one side of themselves, their best. You know, at least
Speaker 1: Instagram shows you what your page says to me, what
Speaker 1: you want me to think of you, not who you are,
Speaker 1: but what you want me to think of you, um,
Speaker 1: and and it can be misleading from here's what you
Speaker 1: want me to think, but here's who you are. It's
Speaker 1: two different things, right, So hopefully they hopefully they started
Speaker 1: to merge to become the same. But I will say
Speaker 1: to answer your question, there isn't one specific thing that
Speaker 1: you can say to anybody to make them show up. However,
Speaker 1: as long as you're being up front and very genuine
Speaker 1: of letting them know your interests, um, then all I
Speaker 1: can say is there is a guy out there that's
Speaker 1: going to see it and and have the same desire
Speaker 1: that you do. Awesome, Well, thank you. I appreciate that.
Speaker 1: It's very helpful. Absolutely absolutely right. Thank you Richards calling them?
Speaker 1: Thanks by Hello, Hello, hey, alectures, how you doing? Hey,
Speaker 1: I'm doing okay? How are you good? I love that background?
Speaker 1: Where is that up? Palm Springs, California? Nice? Nice? Nice? Nice?
Speaker 1: Alexis what's on your mind? Um? So I could just
Speaker 1: use your advice. UM. I'm in the mid thirties and
Speaker 1: my friend has a boyfriend who's in his mid twenties.
Speaker 1: But he's emotionally mature. He's not like your typical twenty
Speaker 1: six year old he's pretty cool, and we went out
Speaker 1: in a group and I actually ended up connecting with
Speaker 1: one of his friends who is also twenty six years old,
Speaker 1: and I'm just kind of hesitant to pursue anything because
Speaker 1: he's so young. So I guess my question is, just
Speaker 1: do you think the age really matters when it comes
Speaker 1: to a genuine connection. That's a good question when it
Speaker 1: comes to age, UM, I don't think age plays the
Speaker 1: role as much as it does a pre requence to
Speaker 1: the opportunity of experience that person has had. Um, your twenty,
Speaker 1: your thirty, you've had thirty years of an opportunity for experience.
Speaker 1: If you're twenty, you've only had twenty years of an
Speaker 1: opportunity of experience. So here's the difference is that that
Speaker 1: twenty two year old could have taken more experiences, whereas
Speaker 1: the thirty year old just had more opportunities for experience.
Speaker 1: So age doesn't equivalate to wisdom. Age doesn't equivalate to
Speaker 1: uh experience. It just did. It equivalates to how much
Speaker 1: more you have been breathing. So with that being with
Speaker 1: that being said, I mean that's just the fact. So
Speaker 1: with that being said, I I do not say to
Speaker 1: answer your question specifically, I would not say that the
Speaker 1: age equivalates to um the connection or the possibility UM,
Speaker 1: but it can play a factor that is true, and
Speaker 1: the factor is the experience. So I would throw age
Speaker 1: out of the loop and look at maturity and and
Speaker 1: how you define a surety because I think we all
Speaker 1: define it differently, but it's based upon what you're wanting
Speaker 1: and as desiring, right, um, And what does he does
Speaker 1: this person strike you as immature or uh, strike you
Speaker 1: as a person that doesn't have a long term goal
Speaker 1: or play like you would want in their relationship. No,
Speaker 1: not at all. And and if he did feel that way,
Speaker 1: like I wouldn't even consider him in the first place.
Speaker 1: And then yeah, so then what you're gonna have to
Speaker 1: deal with, right is some of how you're what your
Speaker 1: friends think. And this is a lot of things that
Speaker 1: I feel like personally that again, it's about how men think, well,
Speaker 1: men think this way about women a lot of times
Speaker 1: is that y'all are so influenced by your peers, by
Speaker 1: your women, by what other women think and what what
Speaker 1: other women are gonna say and what other people are
Speaker 1: gonna say, So you have to and and that's a
Speaker 1: factor right. If that's true, that's a factor, right. Um,
Speaker 1: If it's raining outside and I don't and I feel
Speaker 1: like I'm gonna get wet, it's gonna play a factor
Speaker 1: if I want to go out. Right, If you feel
Speaker 1: that you're going to have to handle all these tough
Speaker 1: questions from friends, he's so young, he's still young, and
Speaker 1: anytime he does anything that isn't accurate, you can't use
Speaker 1: the excuse that he's young, because everybody makes mistakes. It
Speaker 1: ain't about the age, Like you can't just all of
Speaker 1: a sudden ten years later now you don't make mistakes anymore.
Speaker 1: Um uh, So my my advice would be, well, my
Speaker 1: question would be, can you handle your friends poking at
Speaker 1: dating a younger guy? Yeah? I mean the interesting thing
Speaker 1: is my friends are dating younger guys, like that's how
Speaker 1: it ended up meeting this guy. So I feel like
Speaker 1: it's not going to be a problem. Nice. Then then
Speaker 1: then I would say, just strictly go off a relationship
Speaker 1: of not age, but who they are. How y'all relate
Speaker 1: to each other, how y'all connect your chemistry, um, your conversations,
Speaker 1: things that y'all are desired for, um and agreeable rather
Speaker 1: than age. M hmm, that's really affirming. Thank you absolutely
Speaker 1: absolutely look forward to it in age, ain't not but
Speaker 1: the number. That's what Eliah said anyway, Yeah, I agree,
Speaker 1: and I'm glad to hear it. For sure. I appreciate it. Well,
Speaker 1: thank you for having me absolutely. All Right, guys, So,
Speaker 1: I know some of you have written to her man
Speaker 1: thank Instagram handle. So we're gonna take in some of
Speaker 1: the written questions while playing in the NFL? Was it
Speaker 1: was it hard to find time to date? Were you
Speaker 1: worried that everyone was interested in you for the wrong reasons?
Speaker 1: And are you dating anyone now? The so first answering
Speaker 1: the first question, wasn't hard to find time? Um to
Speaker 1: day in the NFL. I'll retired five years ago while
Speaker 1: I was playing, Was it hard to find time? Heck? Yeah, Um,
Speaker 1: it's hard to find time to sleep sometimes much less uh,
Speaker 1: spending time with an individual world that you do not
Speaker 1: know if it has any value towards your day, Like
Speaker 1: twenty four hours in a day when you're chasing the
Speaker 1: dream isn't enough so much less do you have time
Speaker 1: to grow a relationship um that hasn't already been established?
Speaker 1: So when he came, when he came to dating. I
Speaker 1: never was a person that was worried with somebody interested
Speaker 1: in me for the wrong reasons. Uh far as far
Speaker 1: as an entry, right. I always tell people that when
Speaker 1: somebody looks at you and they talked to you, it's
Speaker 1: for a reason. It's either because the way you look.
Speaker 1: It's either because they've heard about you, um, through friends,
Speaker 1: through TV, whatever it may be. Um, they're talking to
Speaker 1: you because they have physical thoughts, emotional thoughts, right, spiritual thoughts,
Speaker 1: some kind of idea is the initial engagement. Maybe they
Speaker 1: have money, um, maybe they have status. That doesn't bother me.
Speaker 1: What bothers me is after about three hours of talking
Speaker 1: to me, if the reason still is that you're attracted
Speaker 1: to me or want to talk to me because of
Speaker 1: my status or because of my looks, of because of
Speaker 1: whatever it is. Now, I have a problem because I'm
Speaker 1: so much more than that, you know. And so I
Speaker 1: if I see a pretty girl, I can't help them.
Speaker 1: My eyeballs work, you know. I hope she's not offended
Speaker 1: because I'm attracted to her because she looks good, but
Speaker 1: I respect her being offended after three hours, if the
Speaker 1: only thing I'm interested in still, it's just because of
Speaker 1: her looks. So you can't help the initial attraction. Um
Speaker 1: and um, so I will, I will, which then opens
Speaker 1: me up to to have been dating anybody? You know?
Speaker 1: And because I like to get to know people. And
Speaker 1: are you dating anyone? Now? I always say define dating? Um,
Speaker 1: but my answer but yes? Uh? What is it says?
Speaker 1: How important is it two guys to have a girlfriend
Speaker 1: that like sports? Is it a deal breaker some guys? Yeah,
Speaker 1: some guys know. I'm not a deal breaker with that one. Um.
Speaker 1: I don't really care if you like sports or not.
Speaker 1: It's again, it goes back to the willingness to even
Speaker 1: go to a Super Bowl party or go to a
Speaker 1: World Series game, or the willingness to actually be around
Speaker 1: that environment. That's what it's about. It's not you don't
Speaker 1: have to know the x's and ohs or baselines and
Speaker 1: rules of the game, uh, soccer or whatever it may be.
Speaker 1: I'm more interested in just experiencing the connection in different environments,
Speaker 1: and those are sports as well as music, um, as
Speaker 1: well as TV, as well as et cetera, hiking, you
Speaker 1: name it. The willingness is what it's all about for me.
Speaker 1: How did it win? In Season twenty four dance with
Speaker 1: the Stars change your life? Did you and neck right
Speaker 1: away with your partner and a slater? Um? Yeah, me
Speaker 1: and me and my partner connected right away. She's uh,
Speaker 1: she's she's outgoing. I'm out going, and you've got two
Speaker 1: people that's trying to learn how to dance. So it
Speaker 1: was just an easy, easy, breezy entire relationship for six months,
Speaker 1: six months to win a dance with the stars. That
Speaker 1: was a blast. Um is a turnoff two men? Oh wait,
Speaker 1: is it a turnoff to man if a woman doesn't
Speaker 1: know how to dance or have horrible rhythm? No, it's
Speaker 1: not a turn off to man. If a woman does
Speaker 1: not know how to dance, it's a turnoff to men
Speaker 1: if a woman is unwilling to dance. I'm telling you
Speaker 1: how men think. It goes down to a lot more
Speaker 1: willingness than perfection, and hopefully women can start to understand that. Um,
Speaker 1: nobody's looking for perfection, They're looking for willingness. When that
Speaker 1: concludes how men think. By Rashad Jennis. I appreciate you'all
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