1 00:00:00,920 --> 00:00:03,840 Speaker 1: We're taking you inside the mind of a man. This 2 00:00:04,559 --> 00:00:08,479 Speaker 1: is how Men Thick and I heard radio podcast. Yo, Yo, 3 00:00:08,520 --> 00:00:11,360 Speaker 1: what's up everybody? This is just Rashad Jennings. I am 4 00:00:11,400 --> 00:00:15,720 Speaker 1: a former NFL running back, season twenty four Dancer with 5 00:00:15,760 --> 00:00:19,040 Speaker 1: the Stars champion and New York Time best selling author 6 00:00:19,040 --> 00:00:20,919 Speaker 1: in the book title The If in Life. If you 7 00:00:20,920 --> 00:00:23,840 Speaker 1: haven't ready to go check it out, I'm happy today 8 00:00:23,880 --> 00:00:27,040 Speaker 1: to be hosting How Men Think. I'm gonna be answering 9 00:00:27,080 --> 00:00:29,760 Speaker 1: some questions and try to help you understand exactly that 10 00:00:29,920 --> 00:00:33,760 Speaker 1: how Men Think. But first let's get into the eleven questions. 11 00:00:34,920 --> 00:00:36,840 Speaker 1: What are you known for? And tell us a little 12 00:00:36,880 --> 00:00:39,080 Speaker 1: bit about yourself. What am I known for? It depends 13 00:00:39,080 --> 00:00:43,600 Speaker 1: on who you ask. UM, I've from a lot of people. 14 00:00:43,600 --> 00:00:46,040 Speaker 1: I'm known for planning in the NFL for eight years, 15 00:00:46,080 --> 00:00:49,559 Speaker 1: for with the Jacksonville Jaguars, one with the Oakland Raiders, 16 00:00:49,920 --> 00:00:53,360 Speaker 1: and three with the New York Giants. UM. Some people 17 00:00:53,400 --> 00:00:55,200 Speaker 1: may say they know me as a dancer as a 18 00:00:55,320 --> 00:00:58,400 Speaker 1: one season twenty four Dancers with the Stars. My partner 19 00:00:58,440 --> 00:01:01,040 Speaker 1: was in a slater and we had a all. UM. 20 00:01:01,160 --> 00:01:03,360 Speaker 1: Some may know me because I am a New York 21 00:01:03,360 --> 00:01:07,679 Speaker 1: Time bestselling author, titled the book title. By the title 22 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:10,240 Speaker 1: of the book, the if in life to plan words, 23 00:01:10,319 --> 00:01:13,000 Speaker 1: we spell out the word life if it's in the middle, 24 00:01:13,120 --> 00:01:16,840 Speaker 1: and I went through fifteen chapters exploring how pivotal and 25 00:01:16,920 --> 00:01:19,960 Speaker 1: interesting that one word is to the success and failures 26 00:01:20,000 --> 00:01:22,600 Speaker 1: of our life. Um some people know me because I'm 27 00:01:22,640 --> 00:01:27,200 Speaker 1: philanthropically driven. I have a Rashot Jenny's foundation. We've put 28 00:01:27,240 --> 00:01:30,600 Speaker 1: on reading, education and literacy, UM and health and fitness. 29 00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:34,479 Speaker 1: UM so may know me as a good friend. UM 30 00:01:34,560 --> 00:01:38,440 Speaker 1: as I try to live with the idea of if 31 00:01:38,480 --> 00:01:40,720 Speaker 1: you you should be better off having met me in 32 00:01:40,800 --> 00:01:43,640 Speaker 1: life than not if I come across you. My job, 33 00:01:44,120 --> 00:01:47,680 Speaker 1: it seems to um be, is to inspire you. And 34 00:01:47,760 --> 00:01:52,400 Speaker 1: there's a difference between being inspired and being motivated. Motivated 35 00:01:53,120 --> 00:01:55,080 Speaker 1: is to me, I look at it as a drill sergeant, 36 00:01:55,080 --> 00:01:57,160 Speaker 1: that somebody can motivate you to do a hundred push 37 00:01:57,240 --> 00:01:59,360 Speaker 1: us because they're physically in your face yelling at you. 38 00:01:59,760 --> 00:02:03,120 Speaker 1: But when you're inspired, nobody's around and that person is 39 00:02:03,160 --> 00:02:08,040 Speaker 1: still motivating. And that's what that's what an inspiration is. 40 00:02:08,080 --> 00:02:11,160 Speaker 1: So I'm known as an inspiration, known as a great son, 41 00:02:11,240 --> 00:02:14,359 Speaker 1: I'm known as a I'm known as a goof. I'm 42 00:02:14,400 --> 00:02:16,680 Speaker 1: an auder to that. I'm addicted to learning. I mean, 43 00:02:16,800 --> 00:02:22,560 Speaker 1: everyday guy. Nothing especial about me, just a position I'm in. Um, 44 00:02:22,639 --> 00:02:26,360 Speaker 1: who are you in your personal life? Uh so? My 45 00:02:26,520 --> 00:02:31,000 Speaker 1: personal life legitimately is the same as my known life. 46 00:02:31,040 --> 00:02:36,880 Speaker 1: There's no difference legitimately. I think. The only difference between 47 00:02:36,880 --> 00:02:39,560 Speaker 1: and everybody will tell you this, the only difference between 48 00:02:39,600 --> 00:02:42,440 Speaker 1: my personal life being when the cameras are not around, right, 49 00:02:43,160 --> 00:02:46,919 Speaker 1: and when the cameras are around, is that I will 50 00:02:47,000 --> 00:02:55,440 Speaker 1: cuss in my personal life, not maliciously. Is just something 51 00:02:55,480 --> 00:02:57,720 Speaker 1: about what I'm on TV. It's to promise that I 52 00:02:57,840 --> 00:03:01,440 Speaker 1: had with my mom that I never well use profanity 53 00:03:01,639 --> 00:03:06,200 Speaker 1: and and and on on TV. So any radio show 54 00:03:06,440 --> 00:03:13,000 Speaker 1: and podcasts, any TV. I've never been seen in the 55 00:03:13,120 --> 00:03:15,640 Speaker 1: last in all of sixteen years of being like a 56 00:03:15,680 --> 00:03:19,960 Speaker 1: public figure, I've never that once heard saying the cuts work. Um. 57 00:03:20,000 --> 00:03:21,920 Speaker 1: I think that's the only difference. Everything else is what 58 00:03:21,960 --> 00:03:25,440 Speaker 1: you see is what you get. There's a quote that 59 00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:28,079 Speaker 1: I live by. No, I take that back. There's a 60 00:03:28,160 --> 00:03:32,200 Speaker 1: quote that has written in such a way that and 61 00:03:32,360 --> 00:03:38,000 Speaker 1: somebody was to shadow my life. I want to live 62 00:03:38,040 --> 00:03:42,240 Speaker 1: a life that would cause them to write these words 63 00:03:42,520 --> 00:03:46,320 Speaker 1: by shadowing, and it's the master and art of living 64 00:03:46,680 --> 00:03:50,200 Speaker 1: shows a little distinction between his work and his play, 65 00:03:50,680 --> 00:03:53,960 Speaker 1: his labor and his leisure, his love and his religion. 66 00:03:54,760 --> 00:03:58,320 Speaker 1: He simply pursues everything he does with excellence, leaving others 67 00:03:58,360 --> 00:04:01,920 Speaker 1: to decide is he working or is he playing? But 68 00:04:02,000 --> 00:04:05,000 Speaker 1: to him, he's always doing both. And that's how I 69 00:04:05,040 --> 00:04:10,280 Speaker 1: lived my life. Um, three shows you're binge watching? Three 70 00:04:10,320 --> 00:04:13,560 Speaker 1: shows that I'm binge watching. You know what I can't 71 00:04:13,640 --> 00:04:17,920 Speaker 1: I've stopped watching you You Okay, I really I really 72 00:04:17,960 --> 00:04:20,240 Speaker 1: got caught up in you. I think that was a 73 00:04:20,279 --> 00:04:26,039 Speaker 1: great show. Um, I did bene watch um all American? Uh. 74 00:04:26,080 --> 00:04:28,359 Speaker 1: Shout out to Spencer He's he was one of my 75 00:04:28,400 --> 00:04:31,080 Speaker 1: teammates that based on the True Store. I know the 76 00:04:31,160 --> 00:04:35,960 Speaker 1: actual guy himself. We played football together. Um. And Third, 77 00:04:36,160 --> 00:04:38,960 Speaker 1: let me see, I don't know, I get. I have 78 00:04:39,080 --> 00:04:41,720 Speaker 1: to watch I have to watch all the Bachelor Bachelorettes. 79 00:04:42,000 --> 00:04:44,480 Speaker 1: I just do. It's kind of I end not finding 80 00:04:44,520 --> 00:04:47,359 Speaker 1: myself having to watch it. U. What is your favorite food? 81 00:04:47,400 --> 00:04:50,000 Speaker 1: That's easy? My favorite food by as far as sushi. 82 00:04:50,520 --> 00:04:52,320 Speaker 1: You want to make me happy, give me some sushi 83 00:04:52,360 --> 00:04:55,680 Speaker 1: and gluten free cookies and dairy free and we'll have 84 00:04:55,720 --> 00:04:59,760 Speaker 1: a good time. Tell us about your career. UM. So 85 00:05:00,160 --> 00:05:04,800 Speaker 1: career a getting played in the NFL. UM long journey 86 00:05:04,960 --> 00:05:07,200 Speaker 1: to get there started off in high school with a 87 00:05:07,360 --> 00:05:10,279 Speaker 1: point six g P a fifth string running back in 88 00:05:10,320 --> 00:05:13,560 Speaker 1: high school football. So it was an unlikely role. No 89 00:05:13,720 --> 00:05:18,680 Speaker 1: red carpets over here, no best UM player, five star 90 00:05:18,880 --> 00:05:23,120 Speaker 1: rating at all, barely slithered through everything, through the skin 91 00:05:23,200 --> 00:05:26,080 Speaker 1: of my teeth with a lot of work ethic, I 92 00:05:26,080 --> 00:05:27,960 Speaker 1: had it. It was a one eight in my life. 93 00:05:27,960 --> 00:05:29,839 Speaker 1: It was a point where I was lazy and I 94 00:05:29,880 --> 00:05:34,800 Speaker 1: took a one. And so my career led me to football, UM, 95 00:05:34,800 --> 00:05:37,440 Speaker 1: which then led me to entrepreneurship, which then led me 96 00:05:37,480 --> 00:05:40,720 Speaker 1: to all the many things that I'm doing currently and today, 97 00:05:40,839 --> 00:05:49,480 Speaker 1: writing shows, producing, UM executive producing, acting, hosting, TV commentating, writing. UM. 98 00:05:50,080 --> 00:05:53,039 Speaker 1: I could just bore you, but my hands are in 99 00:05:53,120 --> 00:05:57,000 Speaker 1: a lot UM and I and I always claim myself 100 00:05:57,040 --> 00:05:59,880 Speaker 1: to be a novice. That's something I am at I don't. 101 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:04,400 Speaker 1: I'm not both. I'm not proudful, I'm always willing to learn. UM. 102 00:06:04,440 --> 00:06:07,719 Speaker 1: That's part of my career. What's your biggest fear in life? 103 00:06:08,040 --> 00:06:12,360 Speaker 1: My biggest fear in life is too not utilize all 104 00:06:12,400 --> 00:06:17,960 Speaker 1: my skill sets and talents, And that's a fear, and 105 00:06:18,440 --> 00:06:22,240 Speaker 1: a fear of not telling somebody that I really care 106 00:06:22,279 --> 00:06:25,039 Speaker 1: about how I feel about them and then not wake 107 00:06:25,120 --> 00:06:29,880 Speaker 1: up the next day. That's another fear. So I try 108 00:06:30,120 --> 00:06:32,720 Speaker 1: to do both of those as much as I possibly can, 109 00:06:32,880 --> 00:06:34,880 Speaker 1: utilize all my skill set as a prayer that I 110 00:06:34,920 --> 00:06:37,240 Speaker 1: have always God, please teach me how to utilize my 111 00:06:37,320 --> 00:06:40,440 Speaker 1: skill set and talents UM to bring more people to 112 00:06:40,440 --> 00:06:45,279 Speaker 1: know who you are. So my fear is not doing that. Uh, 113 00:06:45,320 --> 00:06:47,960 Speaker 1: what's your biggest pet peeve? My biggest pet peeve? If 114 00:06:48,160 --> 00:06:55,120 Speaker 1: it's people that get piste off quick, so annoying? Um? 115 00:06:55,240 --> 00:06:58,880 Speaker 1: What makes you the most happy when people don't get 116 00:06:58,880 --> 00:07:05,520 Speaker 1: piste off quick? Now? Seriously, what makes me the happiest? 117 00:07:08,640 --> 00:07:11,000 Speaker 1: All I need is good food and good people. I 118 00:07:11,120 --> 00:07:14,200 Speaker 1: figured out the rest man. I'm easy. I'm from Forest, Virginia. 119 00:07:14,560 --> 00:07:18,840 Speaker 1: I'm a little country boy, grew up around horses, um, farm, 120 00:07:19,200 --> 00:07:23,680 Speaker 1: farm land. And you know, this world ain't got too 121 00:07:23,720 --> 00:07:26,160 Speaker 1: much to offer me, to be honest with you, it 122 00:07:26,320 --> 00:07:30,400 Speaker 1: just don't. But good food, good people makes me happy. 123 00:07:31,880 --> 00:07:36,280 Speaker 1: What is your ideal Saturday morning? Waking up a little 124 00:07:36,320 --> 00:07:39,920 Speaker 1: bit late, rolling out of bed, playing with my dog. 125 00:07:39,960 --> 00:07:45,880 Speaker 1: I have a German shepherd. Um. Making some waffles and 126 00:07:46,080 --> 00:07:49,240 Speaker 1: uh egg whites. Not I probably go with an omelet, 127 00:07:50,000 --> 00:07:54,600 Speaker 1: you know, and uh a protein shake, running a mile, 128 00:07:56,200 --> 00:08:00,600 Speaker 1: coming back, showering, exploring a little bit of the day 129 00:08:01,360 --> 00:08:03,680 Speaker 1: and let the rest be. I'm I'm it doesn't take 130 00:08:03,760 --> 00:08:08,600 Speaker 1: much to you know, to please me. I'm super simple. 131 00:08:09,160 --> 00:08:11,480 Speaker 1: It's so I'm so simple that it might it may 132 00:08:11,520 --> 00:08:16,320 Speaker 1: be confusing. Um, but yeah, I said, are you more 133 00:08:16,360 --> 00:08:25,360 Speaker 1: of an athlete or an armchair quarterback? I am an athlete, 134 00:08:26,840 --> 00:08:30,200 Speaker 1: so I would say I'm more of an athlete than 135 00:08:30,280 --> 00:08:34,200 Speaker 1: somebody that is an armchair quarterback. UM. I get my 136 00:08:34,240 --> 00:08:38,520 Speaker 1: hands dirty and everything that I do. UM, my own 137 00:08:39,160 --> 00:08:43,360 Speaker 1: my own agent. Um. I'm a rarity in in in 138 00:08:43,400 --> 00:08:46,360 Speaker 1: a lot of aspects there where people will say I'm 139 00:08:46,400 --> 00:08:48,720 Speaker 1: stupid for doing it. But I represent myself in so 140 00:08:48,760 --> 00:08:52,520 Speaker 1: many ways. If anybody sees Rashad Jennings, it's because of 141 00:08:54,000 --> 00:08:57,720 Speaker 1: by the hands of the people that I that I 142 00:08:57,760 --> 00:09:02,360 Speaker 1: put in place to work directly. Uh for myself. There 143 00:09:02,440 --> 00:09:05,600 Speaker 1: isn't anything signed that isn't approved by me. There isn't 144 00:09:05,600 --> 00:09:08,520 Speaker 1: any contract that hasn't been read over a dent by me. 145 00:09:08,559 --> 00:09:12,040 Speaker 1: I don't. I don't put my trust in you know, 146 00:09:12,080 --> 00:09:15,679 Speaker 1: a whole bunch of people. So, um, I'm definitely an 147 00:09:15,720 --> 00:09:20,600 Speaker 1: athlete physically and uh mentally too, so I'm not an armchair. 148 00:09:21,760 --> 00:09:25,160 Speaker 1: What keeps you motivated? Look, we talked about, Uh, what 149 00:09:25,280 --> 00:09:27,800 Speaker 1: keeps me motivated is what I am inspired by. We 150 00:09:27,920 --> 00:09:30,600 Speaker 1: discussed a little bit earlier as the difference between motivation 151 00:09:30,760 --> 00:09:35,160 Speaker 1: and inspiration. Um, I'm inspired, which motivates me? What am 152 00:09:35,160 --> 00:09:38,520 Speaker 1: I inspired to do? I'm inspired to lead my family 153 00:09:39,400 --> 00:09:43,680 Speaker 1: from the grave. Sounds crazy. I think about death quite often, 154 00:09:44,120 --> 00:09:45,760 Speaker 1: and not in a morbid way, but as a matter 155 00:09:45,760 --> 00:09:47,440 Speaker 1: of fact, where we all gonna die. If you can 156 00:09:47,480 --> 00:09:51,360 Speaker 1: hear my voice, you're gonna die one day. And I 157 00:09:51,400 --> 00:09:53,600 Speaker 1: want to be the leader of for my family from 158 00:09:53,640 --> 00:09:55,520 Speaker 1: the grave. And the only way possible to do that 159 00:09:55,640 --> 00:09:58,160 Speaker 1: is to be very conscientious of the decisions I make 160 00:09:58,240 --> 00:10:02,560 Speaker 1: while I'm here. And um, so that's my inspiration. Is 161 00:10:02,600 --> 00:10:06,920 Speaker 1: what keeps me motivated? All right, guys, that was me 162 00:10:07,040 --> 00:10:10,480 Speaker 1: wrapping up eleven questions and we're gonna take a quick 163 00:10:10,520 --> 00:10:12,800 Speaker 1: break and come back and answer some questions. Remember you 164 00:10:12,880 --> 00:10:24,840 Speaker 1: with for shots in and some men think, ye, hey, Megan, 165 00:10:24,840 --> 00:10:28,000 Speaker 1: how are you doing? Hey? Hey, I'm in a little 166 00:10:28,000 --> 00:10:29,920 Speaker 1: bit of a dilemma right now. But how are you. 167 00:10:30,440 --> 00:10:33,280 Speaker 1: I'm good, I'm good. Hopefully, uh, hopefully it's not too 168 00:10:33,280 --> 00:10:37,160 Speaker 1: bad of a dilemma. Well, so, my boyfriend and I 169 00:10:37,240 --> 00:10:41,880 Speaker 1: have been officially dating for only about two months now, um, 170 00:10:41,920 --> 00:10:45,760 Speaker 1: but he just got offered a position for his dream 171 00:10:45,880 --> 00:10:50,760 Speaker 1: job across the country, and so I'm not sure what 172 00:10:50,960 --> 00:10:53,920 Speaker 1: to do as far as like, it's so early if 173 00:10:53,960 --> 00:10:56,080 Speaker 1: we do long distance now, I don't think we're going 174 00:10:56,120 --> 00:10:58,560 Speaker 1: to make that work. But is it also too early 175 00:10:58,640 --> 00:11:01,920 Speaker 1: for me to offer to move with him? And then 176 00:11:01,960 --> 00:11:04,440 Speaker 1: would it be too soon to like move in with him. 177 00:11:04,280 --> 00:11:07,040 Speaker 1: I'm just I'm not sure what to do. So I 178 00:11:07,120 --> 00:11:10,000 Speaker 1: always tell people I'm not one to tell you what 179 00:11:10,080 --> 00:11:13,320 Speaker 1: to do. I will always try to evaluate scenario. So 180 00:11:13,400 --> 00:11:16,720 Speaker 1: y'all have been talking for now too months? You said, Well, 181 00:11:16,760 --> 00:11:19,079 Speaker 1: we dated for maybe a couple of months, but we've 182 00:11:19,120 --> 00:11:23,200 Speaker 1: been officially like boyfriend girlfriend for two months now, been 183 00:11:23,200 --> 00:11:27,120 Speaker 1: exclused to for two months. Yeah. OK. And there is 184 00:11:27,160 --> 00:11:30,560 Speaker 1: an opportunity, a dream job for him to move across 185 00:11:30,600 --> 00:11:34,000 Speaker 1: the country to chase a dream and has he offered 186 00:11:34,000 --> 00:11:37,360 Speaker 1: you to come along or is that kind of something 187 00:11:37,360 --> 00:11:41,360 Speaker 1: that you gotta. I would have to like bring that up. 188 00:11:41,400 --> 00:11:43,880 Speaker 1: He hasn't necessarily offered, But I also don't know if 189 00:11:43,960 --> 00:11:46,840 Speaker 1: he thinks that. It's like maybe he's too scared to 190 00:11:46,880 --> 00:11:50,440 Speaker 1: say come with me because it's too soon. I'll say 191 00:11:50,440 --> 00:11:53,640 Speaker 1: this though, as a guy, right, this is how many 192 00:11:54,080 --> 00:11:58,280 Speaker 1: So when I played in the NFL, um there were 193 00:11:59,080 --> 00:12:01,960 Speaker 1: I was in a Jackson. Then there was an opportunity 194 00:12:02,040 --> 00:12:04,920 Speaker 1: that was gonna arise through free agency, and I had 195 00:12:04,960 --> 00:12:06,720 Speaker 1: no idea where I was gonna go. And then through 196 00:12:06,760 --> 00:12:08,720 Speaker 1: that free agency again I had no idea why I 197 00:12:08,760 --> 00:12:11,400 Speaker 1: was gonna go. So I will say this, it's tough 198 00:12:11,480 --> 00:12:17,840 Speaker 1: for a man to invite a woman to travel the 199 00:12:17,880 --> 00:12:22,480 Speaker 1: world with him unless he has given a ring or 200 00:12:22,559 --> 00:12:26,480 Speaker 1: a staple commitment to that that this is going to 201 00:12:26,559 --> 00:12:29,000 Speaker 1: be my woman. The reason why is because if he brings, 202 00:12:29,000 --> 00:12:31,320 Speaker 1: if he has a heart, it's gonna be hard for 203 00:12:31,400 --> 00:12:35,040 Speaker 1: him to make that ass because if he brings you 204 00:12:35,760 --> 00:12:38,080 Speaker 1: out there and things don't work, he is going to 205 00:12:38,120 --> 00:12:41,600 Speaker 1: feel that weight of responsibility that he has to now 206 00:12:42,000 --> 00:12:45,360 Speaker 1: provide or take care of you. Um, and so that 207 00:12:45,559 --> 00:12:47,640 Speaker 1: is gonna be tough. So I would suggest to you 208 00:12:48,440 --> 00:12:52,640 Speaker 1: truly to bring it, bring up the conversation in a way, 209 00:12:52,679 --> 00:12:54,360 Speaker 1: in a merriment. Maybe you' all going out to eat, 210 00:12:54,400 --> 00:12:56,839 Speaker 1: and maybe you're you're celebrating him as you're bringing the 211 00:12:56,920 --> 00:12:59,440 Speaker 1: conversation of Hey, baby, I'm so excited for you talk 212 00:12:59,480 --> 00:13:02,439 Speaker 1: about it and say so. I know it's early in 213 00:13:02,520 --> 00:13:05,719 Speaker 1: our relationship, and you know I'm not trust me. I'm 214 00:13:05,720 --> 00:13:07,680 Speaker 1: not putting any pressure. I just want to know what 215 00:13:07,760 --> 00:13:10,800 Speaker 1: are your thoughts on long distance relationship, so farth and 216 00:13:10,880 --> 00:13:13,960 Speaker 1: so on traveling? What about? I mean, do what can 217 00:13:13,960 --> 00:13:16,920 Speaker 1: you can you find? Is there a job in his city? 218 00:13:17,040 --> 00:13:20,960 Speaker 1: Um that is applicable to your career as well? Finding 219 00:13:21,000 --> 00:13:22,960 Speaker 1: a way, not to put pressure on him to figure 220 00:13:22,960 --> 00:13:25,079 Speaker 1: out the answer, but working it together and you will 221 00:13:25,200 --> 00:13:27,120 Speaker 1: hear more of where his heart is. If you put 222 00:13:27,120 --> 00:13:33,720 Speaker 1: pressure on him, Odds are he's gonna break because his focus, right, 223 00:13:33,760 --> 00:13:37,400 Speaker 1: a man's focus is to build the ship. Then bring 224 00:13:37,400 --> 00:13:40,360 Speaker 1: your woman aboard. He's found a career, he's found an 225 00:13:40,360 --> 00:13:43,480 Speaker 1: opportunity to build his ship. It sounds like right, So 226 00:13:43,559 --> 00:13:47,120 Speaker 1: until he's built it, until he's there working, knows his schedule, 227 00:13:47,559 --> 00:13:49,880 Speaker 1: knows his ins and outs, knows where the grocery store, 228 00:13:50,000 --> 00:13:53,000 Speaker 1: like knows his ship. You know, if you will it's 229 00:13:53,240 --> 00:13:55,720 Speaker 1: until then it's hard to find a way to bring 230 00:13:55,760 --> 00:14:00,559 Speaker 1: the woman aboard when a man is chasing a dream. Absolutely, 231 00:14:01,880 --> 00:14:04,320 Speaker 1: I actually wasn't expecting you to say all that, and 232 00:14:04,400 --> 00:14:07,720 Speaker 1: it makes so much sense, and it's making me hopeful 233 00:14:07,760 --> 00:14:10,440 Speaker 1: that like we could continue to build it, maybe even 234 00:14:10,800 --> 00:14:15,480 Speaker 1: distance forward. You know, absolutely they don't if that that's 235 00:14:15,520 --> 00:14:18,840 Speaker 1: the guy, trust me. Um, long distance may suck, but 236 00:14:19,120 --> 00:14:21,080 Speaker 1: it will be well worth it and you'll see that 237 00:14:21,160 --> 00:14:25,280 Speaker 1: in a couple of months. Yeah, absolutely, thank you, Absolutely, 238 00:14:25,320 --> 00:14:30,800 Speaker 1: I'm here for it. Thanks. Hey, But now the people, 239 00:14:30,800 --> 00:14:34,080 Speaker 1: what's on your mind? So I have my eye on 240 00:14:34,200 --> 00:14:37,360 Speaker 1: this guy and I really want to catch his attention. Um, 241 00:14:37,400 --> 00:14:42,080 Speaker 1: but he's like really into movies, like the history of movies. Um, 242 00:14:42,240 --> 00:14:45,440 Speaker 1: is it weird if I like do my research to 243 00:14:45,560 --> 00:14:48,760 Speaker 1: talk to him about movies, Like I just I can't 244 00:14:48,800 --> 00:14:51,160 Speaker 1: tell if it's if that's like I catch me enough, 245 00:14:51,200 --> 00:14:53,320 Speaker 1: Like will he will he like that? Or do that? 246 00:14:53,480 --> 00:14:55,720 Speaker 1: Or do you? Guys usually like I don't know, like 247 00:14:55,760 --> 00:14:59,800 Speaker 1: girls that have opposite interests to them, So depending on 248 00:14:59,840 --> 00:15:02,360 Speaker 1: the got I mean, everybody likes to add more value 249 00:15:02,360 --> 00:15:05,800 Speaker 1: to life. So you bringing in perspective and bringing in perspective, 250 00:15:05,960 --> 00:15:09,160 Speaker 1: maybe he likes outdoors, maybe like indoors, and then it works, right, 251 00:15:09,600 --> 00:15:13,160 Speaker 1: But when when it comes to an interest, people love 252 00:15:14,120 --> 00:15:18,840 Speaker 1: people that have similarities and interests. So by you listen, 253 00:15:19,760 --> 00:15:24,160 Speaker 1: I um, I met uh. This is a funny story, right, 254 00:15:24,200 --> 00:15:27,600 Speaker 1: So me meet a girl that likes if I if 255 00:15:27,640 --> 00:15:29,400 Speaker 1: I want to, if I'm interested in a girl, right 256 00:15:29,440 --> 00:15:33,080 Speaker 1: and she likes country music and I hate country music, 257 00:15:33,640 --> 00:15:36,040 Speaker 1: I would go listen to country music and a few 258 00:15:36,120 --> 00:15:38,800 Speaker 1: artists just to be able to find out what are 259 00:15:38,800 --> 00:15:41,120 Speaker 1: the popular songs and country what are the what are 260 00:15:41,160 --> 00:15:44,160 Speaker 1: the most popular artists in countries, So that way in 261 00:15:44,280 --> 00:15:46,840 Speaker 1: a dialogue we have something to relate to. It's gonna 262 00:15:46,880 --> 00:15:49,800 Speaker 1: make her happy. Now is that wrong or right? I 263 00:15:49,880 --> 00:15:51,440 Speaker 1: can't tell you, but I'm gonna tell you what it's. 264 00:15:51,680 --> 00:15:53,880 Speaker 1: The outcome of that is that you're going to be 265 00:15:53,920 --> 00:15:56,560 Speaker 1: more connected. It's smart, and I can tell that you 266 00:15:56,600 --> 00:16:00,520 Speaker 1: care if you're already considering studying some it's or buff 267 00:16:02,120 --> 00:16:04,280 Speaker 1: acts in order to connect with them. So I would 268 00:16:04,280 --> 00:16:08,800 Speaker 1: suggest do it, um and even in a playful way, 269 00:16:08,920 --> 00:16:12,920 Speaker 1: you know, to let him know, hey listen, I depending 270 00:16:12,960 --> 00:16:15,360 Speaker 1: depending on the vibe, even telling him that you did 271 00:16:15,440 --> 00:16:19,480 Speaker 1: that may even show him that like one of the 272 00:16:19,480 --> 00:16:22,840 Speaker 1: most beautiful things. Again, this is how men think. One 273 00:16:22,880 --> 00:16:26,000 Speaker 1: of the most attractive things to a man is a 274 00:16:26,120 --> 00:16:31,600 Speaker 1: woman's willingness. Like the fact that you're willing to go 275 00:16:31,720 --> 00:16:34,680 Speaker 1: to a football game. Nobody's expecting you to understand it, 276 00:16:35,720 --> 00:16:37,760 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. This is a different but 277 00:16:37,920 --> 00:16:41,359 Speaker 1: you do great. But the willingness to go, the willingness 278 00:16:41,440 --> 00:16:43,440 Speaker 1: just and I'm I'm assuming I can't speak for women, 279 00:16:43,480 --> 00:16:45,560 Speaker 1: but I'm assuming it's probably the same for a woman, 280 00:16:46,000 --> 00:16:48,960 Speaker 1: Like the willingness to set down and watch a you know, 281 00:16:49,160 --> 00:16:53,520 Speaker 1: romantic comedy. The willingness to do it is what's connective 282 00:16:53,520 --> 00:16:56,560 Speaker 1: and attractive. So I would say, keep yourself fun, open 283 00:16:56,560 --> 00:17:00,680 Speaker 1: and willing and go study that history. I will thank 284 00:17:00,720 --> 00:17:04,960 Speaker 1: you so much. That was very helpful. Have a good one, 285 00:17:05,920 --> 00:17:09,240 Speaker 1: take care. And by the way, I like country music. 286 00:17:10,680 --> 00:17:14,080 Speaker 1: It's great. Hey, Lisa, how you doing? You want a 287 00:17:14,080 --> 00:17:16,360 Speaker 1: hot line or how man? Thank you for Sean Jenens. 288 00:17:16,920 --> 00:17:20,720 Speaker 1: Hey there, Hi, how you doing. I'm amazing, I'm amazing. 289 00:17:20,800 --> 00:17:24,400 Speaker 1: What's on your mind? Okay? Well, all right, here's the deal. 290 00:17:24,880 --> 00:17:28,040 Speaker 1: My husband, we've been married a long time and he's 291 00:17:28,040 --> 00:17:32,000 Speaker 1: been a really good career and um, he's actually it's 292 00:17:32,080 --> 00:17:35,080 Speaker 1: kind of exciting he's able to retire at a pretty 293 00:17:35,119 --> 00:17:38,600 Speaker 1: young age. And um, there's one thing. Last night he 294 00:17:38,680 --> 00:17:41,840 Speaker 1: was expressing to me that he feels kind of like 295 00:17:41,920 --> 00:17:44,240 Speaker 1: a little bit, um, like he's feeling lonely or he's 296 00:17:44,240 --> 00:17:46,240 Speaker 1: afraid he's gonna feel kind of lost without his career. 297 00:17:46,280 --> 00:17:49,159 Speaker 1: He had a really big career and um, you know, 298 00:17:49,160 --> 00:17:51,080 Speaker 1: when he retires, he doesn't know what he's gonna do 299 00:17:51,119 --> 00:17:53,159 Speaker 1: with himself, you know what I mean. And so he 300 00:17:53,240 --> 00:17:55,560 Speaker 1: was kind of expressing me the sense of loss or 301 00:17:55,720 --> 00:17:58,560 Speaker 1: or feeling alone. And and I want to know. I 302 00:17:58,560 --> 00:18:00,639 Speaker 1: want to know from you because I think are so great. 303 00:18:01,119 --> 00:18:03,280 Speaker 1: I want to know, um, you know a great smile too. 304 00:18:03,480 --> 00:18:05,800 Speaker 1: I want to know, um, what I can do to 305 00:18:06,160 --> 00:18:09,000 Speaker 1: help him, like encourage him. I've always been kind of 306 00:18:09,040 --> 00:18:12,000 Speaker 1: a supporter and a cheerleader. But you know, I'm just 307 00:18:12,040 --> 00:18:13,480 Speaker 1: trying to think of a way, you know, how to 308 00:18:13,480 --> 00:18:15,479 Speaker 1: help him in this change in his life. Is there 309 00:18:15,480 --> 00:18:19,000 Speaker 1: anything special I could do for him? What do you suggest? Yeah, 310 00:18:19,000 --> 00:18:21,919 Speaker 1: I appreciate that, Lisa, And Um, I would say that 311 00:18:22,040 --> 00:18:26,920 Speaker 1: transition in a man's life could be tough. At Tom's, 312 00:18:27,320 --> 00:18:32,800 Speaker 1: especially that the career change, Um, a man feels the 313 00:18:33,480 --> 00:18:40,119 Speaker 1: innate draw to lead and provide. And I will say 314 00:18:40,160 --> 00:18:45,320 Speaker 1: that there is there's respect. Um. A woman's job is 315 00:18:45,359 --> 00:18:49,720 Speaker 1: to respect a man, right and and this is my opinion, 316 00:18:49,800 --> 00:18:54,360 Speaker 1: right um. And a man's job is to love a woman. Right. 317 00:18:55,040 --> 00:18:59,879 Speaker 1: So those two seemingly are the same, but they have 318 00:19:00,600 --> 00:19:06,240 Speaker 1: different intentionalities and details. Um. I would say, if he 319 00:19:06,440 --> 00:19:11,800 Speaker 1: feels the support in respect from you, rightly, I think 320 00:19:11,920 --> 00:19:16,880 Speaker 1: naturally it would help him transition. Um. You know, going 321 00:19:16,920 --> 00:19:19,240 Speaker 1: from one career to another. It's difficult, and he's going 322 00:19:19,280 --> 00:19:24,640 Speaker 1: to have these I maybe even identities of of crisis 323 00:19:24,680 --> 00:19:26,399 Speaker 1: of what do I do what I show for how 324 00:19:26,440 --> 00:19:29,480 Speaker 1: to approve myself? I am a worthy it's self, not 325 00:19:29,600 --> 00:19:32,640 Speaker 1: even necessarily to you. He might be battling the man 326 00:19:32,680 --> 00:19:36,520 Speaker 1: in the mirror, um, for his own proof to himself 327 00:19:36,520 --> 00:19:38,679 Speaker 1: that he's a leader in all these things. So I 328 00:19:38,680 --> 00:19:42,000 Speaker 1: would just encourage him to um, whatever he brings up 329 00:19:42,440 --> 00:19:44,600 Speaker 1: that he wants to do, encourage him to do it 330 00:19:45,240 --> 00:19:51,160 Speaker 1: um truly, and in trying not to question him through 331 00:19:51,200 --> 00:19:54,120 Speaker 1: the process, because he When you ask somebody a question 332 00:19:54,200 --> 00:19:56,920 Speaker 1: that they do not have the answers to, they get 333 00:19:56,920 --> 00:20:00,400 Speaker 1: really piste when they feel they're supposed to answer it, right, 334 00:20:00,520 --> 00:20:03,400 Speaker 1: and so like in a relationship, if if you don't, 335 00:20:03,520 --> 00:20:06,280 Speaker 1: if you know he doesn't know the answer, don't ask 336 00:20:06,320 --> 00:20:09,639 Speaker 1: him because it becomes very frustrating. If if if you 337 00:20:09,840 --> 00:20:11,680 Speaker 1: say you're opposed to cook dinner, I'm like, hey, what's 338 00:20:11,720 --> 00:20:13,840 Speaker 1: for dinner? And you don't know what you're gonna cook, 339 00:20:14,200 --> 00:20:17,240 Speaker 1: that's when you get frustrated. But if you have a plan, Hey, 340 00:20:17,240 --> 00:20:19,600 Speaker 1: well we're gonna cook. I got this. This, this it 341 00:20:19,640 --> 00:20:24,400 Speaker 1: feels better. So I tell women, and I suggested women 342 00:20:24,480 --> 00:20:27,880 Speaker 1: don't ask a man a question. That's that's sincere if 343 00:20:27,920 --> 00:20:31,720 Speaker 1: he doesn't if you don't think he has that plan yet, right, 344 00:20:32,119 --> 00:20:35,320 Speaker 1: you know, I remember one time, um a therapist told me, 345 00:20:35,359 --> 00:20:37,440 Speaker 1: you know, when you're suffering, you need to make a plan. 346 00:20:37,920 --> 00:20:40,120 Speaker 1: So you're you're really spot on on this. I mean, 347 00:20:40,200 --> 00:20:43,440 Speaker 1: I think because without a plan, you you do feel lost, right, 348 00:20:43,480 --> 00:20:45,240 Speaker 1: I mean, you know, you feel like you're you have 349 00:20:45,280 --> 00:20:47,520 Speaker 1: nowhere to go and what to do, and and you know, 350 00:20:47,680 --> 00:20:51,200 Speaker 1: I just I know sometimes I don't want him just 351 00:20:51,320 --> 00:20:53,360 Speaker 1: moping around, So I'm gonna try and you know, use 352 00:20:53,400 --> 00:20:57,240 Speaker 1: my enthusiasm that I already have and and to try 353 00:20:57,280 --> 00:20:59,600 Speaker 1: to like you know, make things. So I think you 354 00:20:59,600 --> 00:21:02,520 Speaker 1: really reagered something me about this having a plan kind 355 00:21:02,520 --> 00:21:04,960 Speaker 1: of thing and and helping him find kind of a 356 00:21:05,000 --> 00:21:08,119 Speaker 1: way to have a you know, a plan maybe travel 357 00:21:08,240 --> 00:21:10,560 Speaker 1: or something like that, you know, or or even write 358 00:21:10,560 --> 00:21:13,119 Speaker 1: a book maybe right right, Hey, writing a book is 359 00:21:13,280 --> 00:21:16,640 Speaker 1: is therapeutic. And I would also encourage you through that 360 00:21:16,720 --> 00:21:22,040 Speaker 1: transition to um give time. Um. You know, transition is 361 00:21:22,080 --> 00:21:25,600 Speaker 1: not one of them things that are very simple. Um. 362 00:21:25,680 --> 00:21:28,320 Speaker 1: And it doesn't happen overnight, especially you know, for me, 363 00:21:28,359 --> 00:21:30,159 Speaker 1: I told you I played in the NFL for a 364 00:21:30,200 --> 00:21:32,359 Speaker 1: total of eight years, but I've been playing since I 365 00:21:32,400 --> 00:21:34,440 Speaker 1: was six, and that's pretty much what I want to accomplish. 366 00:21:34,480 --> 00:21:37,800 Speaker 1: And when I had to transition, it was easier for 367 00:21:37,840 --> 00:21:40,960 Speaker 1: me because I never thought I was a football player. 368 00:21:41,320 --> 00:21:43,119 Speaker 1: I just happened to do it, so it was different 369 00:21:43,200 --> 00:21:46,160 Speaker 1: and my identity wasn't in it. Actually into your point 370 00:21:46,720 --> 00:21:49,160 Speaker 1: when you said it sounds like something that a counselor said. 371 00:21:49,160 --> 00:21:51,080 Speaker 1: I'm actually studied to be a premier to merit the 372 00:21:51,119 --> 00:21:53,160 Speaker 1: counselor because I love love. I think it's the best 373 00:21:53,280 --> 00:21:57,080 Speaker 1: item of clothing anybody could ever wear. Um. People illuminate 374 00:21:57,200 --> 00:21:59,160 Speaker 1: once it's on them. So if I could help people 375 00:21:59,160 --> 00:22:02,439 Speaker 1: wear a love I try, um, and so I do 376 00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:07,240 Speaker 1: encourage you to keep the idea of whatever it is 377 00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:11,600 Speaker 1: I'm saying or asking him, is it in a respectful way? 378 00:22:11,800 --> 00:22:14,680 Speaker 1: And it will help him so much throughout this time, 379 00:22:15,040 --> 00:22:17,080 Speaker 1: well at least I look forward to hopefully we'll come 380 00:22:17,119 --> 00:22:19,760 Speaker 1: back with some good news. Yes, I'd love to talk 381 00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:26,320 Speaker 1: to you again. All right, take care? Thanks? Bye? Hey Colleen, Hi, 382 00:22:27,000 --> 00:22:30,639 Speaker 1: how are you good? How are you good? So you're on? 383 00:22:31,200 --> 00:22:33,840 Speaker 1: How man? Think here? We're for shot, Jennis. I want 384 00:22:33,840 --> 00:22:36,600 Speaker 1: to see what's on your mind before you actually say anything. 385 00:22:37,080 --> 00:22:42,280 Speaker 1: Your name? I had to ask. Somebody told me that 386 00:22:42,320 --> 00:22:46,880 Speaker 1: Colleen is calling? I said, Colleen Calleen is Colleen? Has 387 00:22:47,040 --> 00:22:49,720 Speaker 1: have you ever heard that joke? Yes? All right, I 388 00:22:49,760 --> 00:22:55,200 Speaker 1: feel better. I feel better. Well, what's on your mind? Um? 389 00:22:55,240 --> 00:22:58,200 Speaker 1: So I'm single, but I'm having like a hard time 390 00:22:58,400 --> 00:23:01,800 Speaker 1: finding a genuine connect shin. I just feel like really 391 00:23:01,920 --> 00:23:05,920 Speaker 1: underwhelmed by the dating apps because no one ever wants 392 00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:09,280 Speaker 1: like follow through and meet in person. You spend like 393 00:23:09,320 --> 00:23:12,680 Speaker 1: a few days chatting, but then like nothing, you never 394 00:23:12,760 --> 00:23:16,840 Speaker 1: hear from them again. So my question is, um, is 395 00:23:16,880 --> 00:23:19,040 Speaker 1: there a way to send a message to get someone 396 00:23:19,119 --> 00:23:23,960 Speaker 1: to meet in person without sounding like super desperate. UM 397 00:23:24,119 --> 00:23:28,760 Speaker 1: to that, I would say, there isn't a singular message 398 00:23:28,840 --> 00:23:33,920 Speaker 1: because everybody is an individual and things and absorbs the 399 00:23:33,960 --> 00:23:38,520 Speaker 1: information different, So it wouldn't be one message that will 400 00:23:38,560 --> 00:23:42,560 Speaker 1: work for all. UM. And with that in mind, you 401 00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:45,720 Speaker 1: know and I understand, like, so how the dating app works? 402 00:23:45,760 --> 00:23:50,200 Speaker 1: It seems that you know it's what's interesting me right 403 00:23:50,280 --> 00:23:54,280 Speaker 1: this second, And it's really it's funny when you look 404 00:23:54,280 --> 00:23:57,479 Speaker 1: at the data app. UM, for a lot of guys, 405 00:23:57,800 --> 00:24:02,360 Speaker 1: it's about who can you can back with? Not necessarily 406 00:24:02,840 --> 00:24:06,800 Speaker 1: who can you get to know? Um, it's it's the 407 00:24:06,920 --> 00:24:09,600 Speaker 1: allure is who I connected with her? Let me see 408 00:24:09,640 --> 00:24:11,560 Speaker 1: who else I can connect with? Oh I connect with her? 409 00:24:11,800 --> 00:24:13,800 Speaker 1: Let me see who else I can connect with? Oh 410 00:24:13,920 --> 00:24:15,840 Speaker 1: I matched with her? Who else can I match with? 411 00:24:16,160 --> 00:24:19,520 Speaker 1: That's the fun of the dating app more than it 412 00:24:19,600 --> 00:24:22,119 Speaker 1: is Okay, I connected with her, let me get to nohere. 413 00:24:22,400 --> 00:24:25,280 Speaker 1: It's odd. It's really an odd thing. And so but 414 00:24:25,680 --> 00:24:28,920 Speaker 1: you also can meet people too through it that are 415 00:24:29,080 --> 00:24:33,720 Speaker 1: on your same wavelength. UM. But I would consider are 416 00:24:33,760 --> 00:24:35,719 Speaker 1: are there are the guys that you're connecting with? Are 417 00:24:35,760 --> 00:24:39,080 Speaker 1: they at least or in the same city? Would it 418 00:24:39,160 --> 00:24:42,160 Speaker 1: have to be travel to connect with them, or how 419 00:24:42,200 --> 00:24:46,239 Speaker 1: how is that working? Oh, I do people within like 420 00:24:46,640 --> 00:24:49,280 Speaker 1: thirty to forty miles from me, so at the most. 421 00:24:49,320 --> 00:24:51,960 Speaker 1: But yeah, everyone's pretty much in the same city night, 422 00:24:52,040 --> 00:24:53,800 Speaker 1: so you can actually meet them face to face at 423 00:24:53,800 --> 00:24:57,000 Speaker 1: some point. Yeah. Now with that in mind, I would 424 00:24:57,400 --> 00:24:59,080 Speaker 1: put that out Have you put that out there that 425 00:24:59,119 --> 00:25:05,399 Speaker 1: you have desire to meet them? Yeah? Tell them and 426 00:25:05,440 --> 00:25:08,160 Speaker 1: then like they'll be like, oh yeah, I'll text you, 427 00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:10,159 Speaker 1: and then you don't hear from them, or they just 428 00:25:10,200 --> 00:25:14,800 Speaker 1: they don't even respond. Yeah, that sounds that sounds like 429 00:25:14,960 --> 00:25:19,680 Speaker 1: dating napps, um, because everybody is looking for the next thing, 430 00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:22,800 Speaker 1: like and and if Tru watched this, what's funny is 431 00:25:22,840 --> 00:25:25,440 Speaker 1: that you know, you think it's just happening to you. 432 00:25:25,440 --> 00:25:30,320 Speaker 1: You probably inspired a guy so much that he probably 433 00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:33,440 Speaker 1: dissed the other girl. And then what happened is somebody 434 00:25:33,440 --> 00:25:36,280 Speaker 1: else inspired him now that he dissed you, and so 435 00:25:36,359 --> 00:25:38,720 Speaker 1: forth and so on. Like if one person only can 436 00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:40,679 Speaker 1: be at one place at a time, and all the 437 00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:43,440 Speaker 1: connections that they're having, they're dissing more than they are 438 00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:49,960 Speaker 1: seeing anyone, right, and so I wouldn't personally, Um, I 439 00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:52,719 Speaker 1: would look at if if like if I had a daughter, right, 440 00:25:52,760 --> 00:25:55,800 Speaker 1: I would tell I would, I would, I would if 441 00:25:55,840 --> 00:25:58,119 Speaker 1: she's on a data mapp, I wouldn't simply say, do 442 00:25:58,200 --> 00:26:01,680 Speaker 1: not expect to connect with anyone. And the reason why 443 00:26:02,200 --> 00:26:08,200 Speaker 1: it's because it's it's about what's next? Um And even 444 00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:10,600 Speaker 1: on the date there's a lot about well, what can 445 00:26:10,640 --> 00:26:14,919 Speaker 1: you do for me? Um? Hm. The genuineness is a 446 00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:18,640 Speaker 1: little harder on the dating apps. And this is how 447 00:26:18,680 --> 00:26:20,840 Speaker 1: men think right now. I'm not I don't know how 448 00:26:20,880 --> 00:26:23,800 Speaker 1: women think through it, you know, but a guy is 449 00:26:23,880 --> 00:26:27,960 Speaker 1: always looking for Okay, what's fun, what's next? Okay? I cool? 450 00:26:28,000 --> 00:26:30,560 Speaker 1: I connected with her. Let me screenshot this, show my buddy. Hey, 451 00:26:30,560 --> 00:26:32,600 Speaker 1: look look at this. Let me show this group. Hey, 452 00:26:32,600 --> 00:26:34,120 Speaker 1: look who I connect with her? Look what she said? 453 00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:37,200 Speaker 1: As screenshots all over the place. It's just like it's 454 00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:40,120 Speaker 1: just a hey man, I want to show off? Right, 455 00:26:40,359 --> 00:26:42,560 Speaker 1: people Guys make faith accounts just to have fun and 456 00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:47,239 Speaker 1: show off. Right. There's there's so much ingenuineness in the 457 00:26:47,320 --> 00:26:51,320 Speaker 1: social media world itself. Right, people post on Instagram only 458 00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:55,000 Speaker 1: one side of themselves, their best. You know, at least 459 00:26:55,280 --> 00:27:00,119 Speaker 1: Instagram shows you what your page says to me, what 460 00:27:00,280 --> 00:27:03,640 Speaker 1: you want me to think of you, not who you are, 461 00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:07,960 Speaker 1: but what you want me to think of you, um, 462 00:27:08,359 --> 00:27:12,119 Speaker 1: and and it can be misleading from here's what you 463 00:27:12,160 --> 00:27:14,360 Speaker 1: want me to think, but here's who you are. It's 464 00:27:14,400 --> 00:27:17,639 Speaker 1: two different things, right, So hopefully they hopefully they started 465 00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:20,000 Speaker 1: to merge to become the same. But I will say 466 00:27:20,080 --> 00:27:23,280 Speaker 1: to answer your question, there isn't one specific thing that 467 00:27:23,359 --> 00:27:26,000 Speaker 1: you can say to anybody to make them show up. However, 468 00:27:26,560 --> 00:27:29,800 Speaker 1: as long as you're being up front and very genuine 469 00:27:30,080 --> 00:27:34,280 Speaker 1: of letting them know your interests, um, then all I 470 00:27:34,320 --> 00:27:37,360 Speaker 1: can say is there is a guy out there that's 471 00:27:37,400 --> 00:27:40,000 Speaker 1: going to see it and and have the same desire 472 00:27:40,080 --> 00:27:43,960 Speaker 1: that you do. Awesome, Well, thank you. I appreciate that. 473 00:27:44,160 --> 00:27:51,080 Speaker 1: It's very helpful. Absolutely absolutely right. Thank you Richards calling them? 474 00:27:51,080 --> 00:27:56,720 Speaker 1: Thanks by Hello, Hello, hey, alectures, how you doing? Hey, 475 00:27:56,800 --> 00:27:59,720 Speaker 1: I'm doing okay? How are you good? I love that background? 476 00:27:59,760 --> 00:28:04,399 Speaker 1: Where is that up? Palm Springs, California? Nice? Nice? Nice? Nice? 477 00:28:04,480 --> 00:28:08,399 Speaker 1: Alexis what's on your mind? Um? So I could just 478 00:28:08,800 --> 00:28:11,719 Speaker 1: use your advice. UM. I'm in the mid thirties and 479 00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:14,800 Speaker 1: my friend has a boyfriend who's in his mid twenties. 480 00:28:15,600 --> 00:28:19,320 Speaker 1: But he's emotionally mature. He's not like your typical twenty 481 00:28:19,400 --> 00:28:22,680 Speaker 1: six year old he's pretty cool, and we went out 482 00:28:22,720 --> 00:28:25,160 Speaker 1: in a group and I actually ended up connecting with 483 00:28:25,200 --> 00:28:28,200 Speaker 1: one of his friends who is also twenty six years old, 484 00:28:28,320 --> 00:28:31,840 Speaker 1: and I'm just kind of hesitant to pursue anything because 485 00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:35,080 Speaker 1: he's so young. So I guess my question is, just 486 00:28:35,160 --> 00:28:37,840 Speaker 1: do you think the age really matters when it comes 487 00:28:37,880 --> 00:28:41,640 Speaker 1: to a genuine connection. That's a good question when it 488 00:28:41,720 --> 00:28:48,760 Speaker 1: comes to age, UM, I don't think age plays the 489 00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:52,200 Speaker 1: role as much as it does a pre requence to 490 00:28:53,040 --> 00:28:57,880 Speaker 1: the opportunity of experience that person has had. Um, your twenty, 491 00:28:58,120 --> 00:29:02,000 Speaker 1: your thirty, you've had thirty years of an opportunity for experience. 492 00:29:02,360 --> 00:29:04,360 Speaker 1: If you're twenty, you've only had twenty years of an 493 00:29:04,360 --> 00:29:07,840 Speaker 1: opportunity of experience. So here's the difference is that that 494 00:29:08,040 --> 00:29:14,280 Speaker 1: twenty two year old could have taken more experiences, whereas 495 00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:17,760 Speaker 1: the thirty year old just had more opportunities for experience. 496 00:29:18,200 --> 00:29:22,960 Speaker 1: So age doesn't equivalate to wisdom. Age doesn't equivalate to 497 00:29:23,600 --> 00:29:29,080 Speaker 1: uh experience. It just did. It equivalates to how much 498 00:29:29,200 --> 00:29:34,760 Speaker 1: more you have been breathing. So with that being with 499 00:29:34,800 --> 00:29:37,000 Speaker 1: that being said, I mean that's just the fact. So 500 00:29:37,120 --> 00:29:40,560 Speaker 1: with that being said, I I do not say to 501 00:29:40,640 --> 00:29:43,640 Speaker 1: answer your question specifically, I would not say that the 502 00:29:43,800 --> 00:29:48,840 Speaker 1: age equivalates to um the connection or the possibility UM, 503 00:29:48,920 --> 00:29:51,640 Speaker 1: but it can play a factor that is true, and 504 00:29:51,680 --> 00:29:55,360 Speaker 1: the factor is the experience. So I would throw age 505 00:29:55,480 --> 00:29:58,760 Speaker 1: out of the loop and look at maturity and and 506 00:29:58,840 --> 00:30:01,080 Speaker 1: how you define a surety because I think we all 507 00:30:01,120 --> 00:30:03,400 Speaker 1: define it differently, but it's based upon what you're wanting 508 00:30:03,400 --> 00:30:08,280 Speaker 1: and as desiring, right, um, And what does he does 509 00:30:08,320 --> 00:30:11,840 Speaker 1: this person strike you as immature or uh, strike you 510 00:30:11,880 --> 00:30:15,240 Speaker 1: as a person that doesn't have a long term goal 511 00:30:15,560 --> 00:30:18,880 Speaker 1: or play like you would want in their relationship. No, 512 00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:21,400 Speaker 1: not at all. And and if he did feel that way, 513 00:30:21,400 --> 00:30:23,520 Speaker 1: like I wouldn't even consider him in the first place. 514 00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:25,840 Speaker 1: And then yeah, so then what you're gonna have to 515 00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:28,200 Speaker 1: deal with, right is some of how you're what your 516 00:30:28,240 --> 00:30:30,560 Speaker 1: friends think. And this is a lot of things that 517 00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:33,720 Speaker 1: I feel like personally that again, it's about how men think, well, 518 00:30:33,800 --> 00:30:36,840 Speaker 1: men think this way about women a lot of times 519 00:30:37,000 --> 00:30:41,200 Speaker 1: is that y'all are so influenced by your peers, by 520 00:30:41,280 --> 00:30:43,920 Speaker 1: your women, by what other women think and what what 521 00:30:44,000 --> 00:30:45,880 Speaker 1: other women are gonna say and what other people are 522 00:30:45,880 --> 00:30:49,880 Speaker 1: gonna say, So you have to and and that's a 523 00:30:49,880 --> 00:30:52,920 Speaker 1: factor right. If that's true, that's a factor, right. Um, 524 00:30:52,960 --> 00:30:55,840 Speaker 1: If it's raining outside and I don't and I feel 525 00:30:55,880 --> 00:30:58,040 Speaker 1: like I'm gonna get wet, it's gonna play a factor 526 00:30:59,080 --> 00:31:01,400 Speaker 1: if I want to go out. Right, If you feel 527 00:31:01,480 --> 00:31:03,400 Speaker 1: that you're going to have to handle all these tough 528 00:31:03,480 --> 00:31:05,960 Speaker 1: questions from friends, he's so young, he's still young, and 529 00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:10,280 Speaker 1: anytime he does anything that isn't accurate, you can't use 530 00:31:10,400 --> 00:31:14,320 Speaker 1: the excuse that he's young, because everybody makes mistakes. It 531 00:31:14,360 --> 00:31:16,520 Speaker 1: ain't about the age, Like you can't just all of 532 00:31:16,560 --> 00:31:19,280 Speaker 1: a sudden ten years later now you don't make mistakes anymore. 533 00:31:20,160 --> 00:31:25,360 Speaker 1: Um uh, So my my advice would be, well, my 534 00:31:25,440 --> 00:31:29,600 Speaker 1: question would be, can you handle your friends poking at 535 00:31:30,240 --> 00:31:34,520 Speaker 1: dating a younger guy? Yeah? I mean the interesting thing 536 00:31:34,560 --> 00:31:37,160 Speaker 1: is my friends are dating younger guys, like that's how 537 00:31:37,160 --> 00:31:38,920 Speaker 1: it ended up meeting this guy. So I feel like 538 00:31:38,960 --> 00:31:42,520 Speaker 1: it's not going to be a problem. Nice. Then then 539 00:31:42,680 --> 00:31:45,120 Speaker 1: then I would say, just strictly go off a relationship 540 00:31:45,280 --> 00:31:48,040 Speaker 1: of not age, but who they are. How y'all relate 541 00:31:48,120 --> 00:31:51,920 Speaker 1: to each other, how y'all connect your chemistry, um, your conversations, 542 00:31:52,720 --> 00:31:57,200 Speaker 1: things that y'all are desired for, um and agreeable rather 543 00:31:57,240 --> 00:32:02,280 Speaker 1: than age. M hmm, that's really affirming. Thank you absolutely 544 00:32:02,320 --> 00:32:04,560 Speaker 1: absolutely look forward to it in age, ain't not but 545 00:32:04,560 --> 00:32:08,040 Speaker 1: the number. That's what Eliah said anyway, Yeah, I agree, 546 00:32:08,160 --> 00:32:12,200 Speaker 1: and I'm glad to hear it. For sure. I appreciate it. Well, 547 00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:24,520 Speaker 1: thank you for having me absolutely. All Right, guys, So, 548 00:32:24,560 --> 00:32:26,800 Speaker 1: I know some of you have written to her man 549 00:32:26,920 --> 00:32:29,520 Speaker 1: thank Instagram handle. So we're gonna take in some of 550 00:32:29,560 --> 00:32:33,720 Speaker 1: the written questions while playing in the NFL? Was it 551 00:32:33,760 --> 00:32:36,200 Speaker 1: was it hard to find time to date? Were you 552 00:32:36,240 --> 00:32:39,400 Speaker 1: worried that everyone was interested in you for the wrong reasons? 553 00:32:39,880 --> 00:32:44,120 Speaker 1: And are you dating anyone now? The so first answering 554 00:32:44,120 --> 00:32:46,760 Speaker 1: the first question, wasn't hard to find time? Um to 555 00:32:46,920 --> 00:32:49,720 Speaker 1: day in the NFL. I'll retired five years ago while 556 00:32:49,760 --> 00:32:55,920 Speaker 1: I was playing, Was it hard to find time? Heck? Yeah, Um, 557 00:32:55,960 --> 00:33:00,680 Speaker 1: it's hard to find time to sleep sometimes much less uh, 558 00:33:00,880 --> 00:33:04,000 Speaker 1: spending time with an individual world that you do not 559 00:33:04,200 --> 00:33:07,720 Speaker 1: know if it has any value towards your day, Like 560 00:33:07,840 --> 00:33:10,400 Speaker 1: twenty four hours in a day when you're chasing the 561 00:33:10,520 --> 00:33:14,280 Speaker 1: dream isn't enough so much less do you have time 562 00:33:14,360 --> 00:33:18,800 Speaker 1: to grow a relationship um that hasn't already been established? 563 00:33:19,160 --> 00:33:22,440 Speaker 1: So when he came, when he came to dating. I 564 00:33:22,520 --> 00:33:25,520 Speaker 1: never was a person that was worried with somebody interested 565 00:33:25,520 --> 00:33:29,120 Speaker 1: in me for the wrong reasons. Uh far as far 566 00:33:29,160 --> 00:33:34,720 Speaker 1: as an entry, right. I always tell people that when 567 00:33:34,760 --> 00:33:39,040 Speaker 1: somebody looks at you and they talked to you, it's 568 00:33:39,040 --> 00:33:41,840 Speaker 1: for a reason. It's either because the way you look. 569 00:33:42,920 --> 00:33:46,640 Speaker 1: It's either because they've heard about you, um, through friends, 570 00:33:46,760 --> 00:33:50,000 Speaker 1: through TV, whatever it may be. Um, they're talking to 571 00:33:50,040 --> 00:33:55,040 Speaker 1: you because they have physical thoughts, emotional thoughts, right, spiritual thoughts, 572 00:33:55,080 --> 00:34:00,560 Speaker 1: some kind of idea is the initial engagement. Maybe they 573 00:34:00,600 --> 00:34:05,400 Speaker 1: have money, um, maybe they have status. That doesn't bother me. 574 00:34:06,000 --> 00:34:09,800 Speaker 1: What bothers me is after about three hours of talking 575 00:34:09,800 --> 00:34:15,000 Speaker 1: to me, if the reason still is that you're attracted 576 00:34:15,040 --> 00:34:16,560 Speaker 1: to me or want to talk to me because of 577 00:34:16,560 --> 00:34:19,279 Speaker 1: my status or because of my looks, of because of 578 00:34:19,280 --> 00:34:22,120 Speaker 1: whatever it is. Now, I have a problem because I'm 579 00:34:22,120 --> 00:34:24,680 Speaker 1: so much more than that, you know. And so I 580 00:34:24,760 --> 00:34:27,040 Speaker 1: if I see a pretty girl, I can't help them. 581 00:34:27,040 --> 00:34:29,640 Speaker 1: My eyeballs work, you know. I hope she's not offended 582 00:34:29,640 --> 00:34:32,160 Speaker 1: because I'm attracted to her because she looks good, but 583 00:34:32,280 --> 00:34:35,640 Speaker 1: I respect her being offended after three hours, if the 584 00:34:35,719 --> 00:34:38,719 Speaker 1: only thing I'm interested in still, it's just because of 585 00:34:38,719 --> 00:34:42,719 Speaker 1: her looks. So you can't help the initial attraction. Um 586 00:34:42,880 --> 00:34:45,960 Speaker 1: and um, so I will, I will, which then opens 587 00:34:46,000 --> 00:34:50,319 Speaker 1: me up to to have been dating anybody? You know? 588 00:34:50,480 --> 00:34:53,279 Speaker 1: And because I like to get to know people. And 589 00:34:53,360 --> 00:34:57,440 Speaker 1: are you dating anyone? Now? I always say define dating? Um, 590 00:34:57,480 --> 00:35:02,240 Speaker 1: but my answer but yes? Uh? What is it says? 591 00:35:02,320 --> 00:35:06,520 Speaker 1: How important is it two guys to have a girlfriend 592 00:35:06,680 --> 00:35:10,600 Speaker 1: that like sports? Is it a deal breaker some guys? Yeah, 593 00:35:10,719 --> 00:35:14,759 Speaker 1: some guys know. I'm not a deal breaker with that one. Um. 594 00:35:14,960 --> 00:35:18,279 Speaker 1: I don't really care if you like sports or not. 595 00:35:18,440 --> 00:35:21,120 Speaker 1: It's again, it goes back to the willingness to even 596 00:35:21,800 --> 00:35:25,040 Speaker 1: go to a Super Bowl party or go to a 597 00:35:25,040 --> 00:35:29,200 Speaker 1: World Series game, or the willingness to actually be around 598 00:35:29,200 --> 00:35:32,200 Speaker 1: that environment. That's what it's about. It's not you don't 599 00:35:32,200 --> 00:35:34,960 Speaker 1: have to know the x's and ohs or baselines and 600 00:35:35,160 --> 00:35:38,200 Speaker 1: rules of the game, uh, soccer or whatever it may be. 601 00:35:38,640 --> 00:35:44,800 Speaker 1: I'm more interested in just experiencing the connection in different environments, 602 00:35:44,800 --> 00:35:48,560 Speaker 1: and those are sports as well as music, um, as 603 00:35:48,600 --> 00:35:52,040 Speaker 1: well as TV, as well as et cetera, hiking, you 604 00:35:52,160 --> 00:35:55,319 Speaker 1: name it. The willingness is what it's all about for me. 605 00:35:56,239 --> 00:35:58,080 Speaker 1: How did it win? In Season twenty four dance with 606 00:35:58,160 --> 00:36:00,520 Speaker 1: the Stars change your life? Did you and neck right 607 00:36:00,560 --> 00:36:04,680 Speaker 1: away with your partner and a slater? Um? Yeah, me 608 00:36:05,120 --> 00:36:08,600 Speaker 1: and me and my partner connected right away. She's uh, 609 00:36:08,800 --> 00:36:12,719 Speaker 1: she's she's outgoing. I'm out going, and you've got two 610 00:36:12,719 --> 00:36:14,680 Speaker 1: people that's trying to learn how to dance. So it 611 00:36:14,800 --> 00:36:20,320 Speaker 1: was just an easy, easy, breezy entire relationship for six months, 612 00:36:20,800 --> 00:36:22,800 Speaker 1: six months to win a dance with the stars. That 613 00:36:22,920 --> 00:36:27,640 Speaker 1: was a blast. Um is a turnoff two men? Oh wait, 614 00:36:27,960 --> 00:36:30,520 Speaker 1: is it a turnoff to man if a woman doesn't 615 00:36:30,560 --> 00:36:35,279 Speaker 1: know how to dance or have horrible rhythm? No, it's 616 00:36:35,280 --> 00:36:39,120 Speaker 1: not a turn off to man. If a woman does 617 00:36:39,280 --> 00:36:42,000 Speaker 1: not know how to dance, it's a turnoff to men 618 00:36:42,239 --> 00:36:45,359 Speaker 1: if a woman is unwilling to dance. I'm telling you 619 00:36:45,880 --> 00:36:48,399 Speaker 1: how men think. It goes down to a lot more 620 00:36:48,440 --> 00:36:55,520 Speaker 1: willingness than perfection, and hopefully women can start to understand that. Um, 621 00:36:55,600 --> 00:36:59,840 Speaker 1: nobody's looking for perfection, They're looking for willingness. When that 622 00:37:00,040 --> 00:37:03,399 Speaker 1: concludes how men think. By Rashad Jennis. I appreciate you'all 623 00:37:03,400 --> 00:37:06,240 Speaker 1: tuning in. Y'all can find me on all social media 624 00:37:06,320 --> 00:37:11,520 Speaker 1: handles at Rashad Jenning's across the Board Twitter, Instagram, um, 625 00:37:11,560 --> 00:37:14,560 Speaker 1: Twitch itself and also started each sports organization. Go check 626 00:37:14,560 --> 00:37:16,720 Speaker 1: it out and support me. 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