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Speaker 1: Thank you, nephew. Subject rainy day Romance is in the Rover.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a forty two year old married

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Speaker 1: woman in need of advice because I got caught having

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Speaker 1: a rainy day romance in the back of a Range

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Speaker 1: Rover with my coworker that happens to be one of

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Speaker 1: my husband's friends. I thought we were all cool, but

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Speaker 1: I recently found out that my husband had put a

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Speaker 1: tracking device in my purse. I'll take you back to

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Speaker 1: the beginning. My car has not been serviced in years

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Speaker 1: because it's an import and the tune up is very expensive.

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Speaker 1: Also need two new tires and they're expensive too. My

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Speaker 1: husband put my car in the shop numerous times, but

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Speaker 1: he hasn't been able to put new tires on it.

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Speaker 1: It's been raining a lot lately, so my coworker and

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Speaker 1: my husband agreed that I don't need to be out

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Speaker 1: on the road slipping a sliding. My coworker told me

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Speaker 1: he'd give me a ride to work on rainy days.

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Speaker 1: The first day he picked me up, he said he

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Speaker 1: was very excited to finally be alone with me. That

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Speaker 1: was like music to my ears because we've always had

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Speaker 1: weird sexual tension between us at work. By the third

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Speaker 1: rainy day that week, he and I were laid up

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Speaker 1: on the back seat of his range rover, smoking weed

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Speaker 1: and pleasuring each other over and over again. We got

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Speaker 1: freaky in the back of his rover four separate times,

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Speaker 1: and then my husband caught us. I had my phone

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Speaker 1: turned off and I planned to tell my husband it died.

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Speaker 1: I almost died when my husband showed up and was

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Speaker 1: peeking through the tenant windows. He put me out of

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Speaker 1: the house, but he is still with my co worker.

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Speaker 1: My coworker and I are avoiding each other at work,

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Speaker 1: and I can't help but think I got set up

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Speaker 1: Or is it a coincidence since they're both being mean,

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Speaker 1: should I go see if my coworker's wife wants to chat?

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Speaker 1: Why should I be the only person in trouble? All right,

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Speaker 1: So now you want to be a snitch too, huh?

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Speaker 1: I mean, what is the need to bring his wife

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Speaker 1: caught cheating with her husband by your husband. When you

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Speaker 1: cheat and do crazy stuff, the consequences could be anything.

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Speaker 2: This is your fault.

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Speaker 1: So what you had sexual tension with the guy at work,

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Speaker 1: you didn't have to act on it. He's your husband's friend.

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Speaker 1: You forgot about that? I mean, what about this? Don't

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Speaker 1: you get And I use the term friend very loosely

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Speaker 1: here because friends don't do what your co worker did. Okay,

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Speaker 1: your co worker is trash for his part in this.

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Speaker 1: And as for you being set up, your husband had

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Speaker 1: a tracking device on you. Okay, he didn't need to

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Speaker 1: set you up. You did that yourself. Now you're out

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Speaker 1: and you want revenge, that's all this is. But his

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Speaker 1: wife didn't do anything to you. You gotta let her live.

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Speaker 1: As for you, wife, you gambled and lost. And instead

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Speaker 1: of you trying to fix this situation, you know, instead

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Speaker 1: of you trying to fix the situation. You're trying to

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Speaker 1: hurt your coworkers lover your coworker slash lover's wife by

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Speaker 1: telling her, I just don't think that's right. You should

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Speaker 1: learn from this wrong experience and move on with your

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Speaker 1: life because you're out. You did this, not her.

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Speaker 2: You did this, Steve.

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Speaker 3: You know what, It amazes me the things that people

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Speaker 3: write us for advice on. But I mean, what's wrong

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Speaker 3: with you?

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Speaker 2: You?

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Speaker 3: Okay, couple of things, I'm gonna say that they really

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Speaker 3: got nothing to do with her actions.

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Speaker 2: But I just like going deep into the letter.

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Speaker 3: You had an affair, you got caught in the backseat

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Speaker 3: I thought we were all cool?

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Speaker 2: What do that mean? Wait a minute, you thought all

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Speaker 3: So now, but I recently found out that my husband

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Speaker 2: Now, listen to me.

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Speaker 3: You must be the only one that thought all y'all

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Speaker 2: So so much for what you thought. You kind of stupid.

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Speaker 3: Most women are not this stupid because women usually are

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Speaker 3: the first to know something is wrong. But oh no,

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Speaker 3: you didn't. You thought all three of y'all was cool.

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Speaker 3: So then your car ain't been serviced in years because

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Speaker 3: it's an import, and the tune up is very expensive,

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Speaker 3: and you need two tithes and they expensive too. Now

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Speaker 3: your husband put you in the shop, cut your car

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Speaker 3: in the shop a few times, but he wasn't able

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Speaker 3: to put the two new ties on it. Here we

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Speaker 3: go buying something you can't afford. See, it's one thing

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Speaker 3: to get a big house, it's another thing to maintain.

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Speaker 3: It's one thing to buy an import. But these imports

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Speaker 3: cost more money to fix because the parts have to

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Speaker 3: be shipped in, usually from overseas, which adds to the cost.

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Speaker 2: It is expensive.

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Speaker 3: So your husband have made the decision better to have

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Speaker 3: your car running and rolling than to stop it on

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Speaker 3: the highway. But now it's been raining a lot, and

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Speaker 3: now your tires is bad. But here was the part

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Speaker 3: that got me. If your coworker and your husband agreed

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Speaker 3: that I don't need to be out on the road slipping.

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Speaker 2: His slide, what.

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Speaker 3: How this man then with to your coworker to discuss

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Speaker 3: his wife's safety that's crazy right there.

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Speaker 2: And so it's been raining.

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Speaker 3: So your husband, your cowork agreed that he give you

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Speaker 3: ride on rainy days. The first day you picked me up,

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Speaker 3: he said, it's excited to be alone with you.

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Speaker 2: And that was music to you.

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Speaker 3: Is because y'all have always had a weird sexual tension

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Speaker 3: between us, and where he ain't weird, it's sexual tension.

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Speaker 2: It ain't weird.

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Speaker 3: But then by the third rainy day he and I

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Speaker 3: was laid up in the backseat of the range robe.

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Speaker 2: I'll come back with ta boo.

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Speaker 1: Hang on, Steve, we'll have part two of your response

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Speaker 1: coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's

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Speaker 1: Strawberry letter, subject rainy day, romances and the Rover. We'll

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Speaker 1: get back into it right after this. You're listening hard

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Speaker 1: morning show. All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's

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Speaker 1: Strawberry letter, the subject rainy day row many in the rover.

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Speaker 3: So now you done got caught in the back seat

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Speaker 3: with a coworker because your husband put a tracking device

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Speaker 3: in your purse. Now you said in the letter, I

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Speaker 3: thought we were all cool because your coworkers, your husband's friend.

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Speaker 3: I thought we was all cool. How did you think

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Speaker 3: y'all was all cool. Something was wrong for your husband

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Speaker 3: even put a tracking device in.

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Speaker 2: Your purse in the first place. He couldn't.

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Speaker 3: You got an import that y'all can't afford, so you

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Speaker 3: can't afford to tune up in the ties.

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Speaker 2: So your husband did the right thing. At least let

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Speaker 2: me keep the car from running down and break it

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Speaker 2: over the girl. But you still need new ties.

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Speaker 3: So now your coworker and your husband, who is friends,

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Speaker 3: got together and decided you don't need to be driving

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Speaker 3: on rainy dames.

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Speaker 2: So your coworker agreed to pick you up on rainy days.

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Speaker 3: And then when he got into the car, he said

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Speaker 3: he was really glad to be along with you because

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Speaker 3: finally be he was glad to just be alone with you.

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Speaker 3: And just him saying that was music to your ears.

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Speaker 3: Because y'all always had a weird sexual tension between It's

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Speaker 3: not weird, you all had sexual tension between y'all, you,

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Speaker 3: your husband's friend and coworker. By the third day that week,

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Speaker 3: we was laid up on the back seat in the

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Speaker 3: range Rover, smoking weed.

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Speaker 2: And pleasuring each other over and over again.

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Speaker 3: We got freaky in the back of his range rover

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Speaker 3: full separate time, and then my husband caught. Now, this

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Speaker 3: is where the story should take a drastic turn. This

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Speaker 3: is where the police reporters involved.

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Speaker 2: This is where nine to one one was down.

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Speaker 3: This is where somebody was on a gurney, potentially more

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Speaker 2: But oh no, none of that happened.

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Speaker 3: I had my phone turned off and I was gonna

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Speaker 3: tell my husband that it died. I almost died when

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Speaker 3: my husband showed up and was peeking through the tinant windows.

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Speaker 3: He put me out the house. But he's still friendly

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Speaker 3: with my coworker. How do you know that? And what

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Speaker 2: Because I don't know how if.

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Speaker 3: That's true, we still friendly at all. I'm still trying

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Speaker 3: to figure out why none of what I just said

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Speaker 3: hospital was somebody taken to? What crime scene? Who still

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Speaker 3: I can't help but think I got set up. You

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Speaker 3: got set up? Shereley's right, You did this yourself. Ain't

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Speaker 3: nobody set you up you was doing something saying something

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Speaker 3: is it a coincidence since they're both being mean? Should

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Speaker 3: I go see if my coworker's wife wants to chat?

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Speaker 3: Why should I be the only person in trouble? I'm

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Speaker 3: so confused at this matter. Why should I be the

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Speaker 3: with this part right here. When you go chat with

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Speaker 3: the man's wife, ain't you still gonna be in trouble?

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Speaker 3: So you're thinking, who is that fault here? Is it

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Speaker 3: your husband because he put a tracking device? He wronged

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Speaker 3: for that? Is your coworker wrong for being sexually attracted

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Speaker 3: to you? Was your coworker wrong for bringing the weed

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Speaker 3: the back seat discussing work, Bob, But y'all was in

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Speaker 3: the back pleasure in each other over and over and over.

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Speaker 3: So I'm gonna tell you why I got problems this

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Speaker 3: whole letter. You and the coworker. If I'm the husband,

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Speaker 3: both of y'all got a problem. Now I'm putting you

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Speaker 3: out and I'm not taking you back because if you

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Speaker 3: this type of woman, I don't want you that you know,

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Speaker 3: if all they take it's a weed and a ride.

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Speaker 2: You where uber at uber black anything.

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Speaker 3: But hell, if you can't afford ties, your uber count

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Speaker 3: probably cut off.

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Speaker 2: So I don't really know, lady, where you want us

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Speaker 2: to go with this letter.

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Speaker 3: But your husband though, this week pied backer ass do

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Speaker 3: I don't understand. See, first of all, I got he

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Speaker 3: put you out and you're not coming back. But my

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Speaker 3: boy though, the dude that's my friend. See first of all, man,

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna do your ass for disrespecting me. See see

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Speaker 3: me and the little friend, he got a problem because

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Speaker 3: he disrespected me. I don't think they set you up.

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Speaker 3: I don't think it was a setup at all. I

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Speaker 3: don't know how they still friendly unless your man just

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Speaker 3: a coward and he's scared of the cold. And that's

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Speaker 3: don't really care what happened to you. You gonna get

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Speaker 3: put out, and you called in the lady his husband,

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Speaker 3: You called in the man's wife. Still gonna keep you

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Speaker 3: in trouble. You're gonna be the same person that's in trouble.

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Speaker 3: You're not gonna solve your problem at all. But you're

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Speaker 3: the blame.

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