Speaker 1: Carol, she's a queen and talking song. She's getting not
Speaker 1: afraid of things, so just let the flu. No one
Speaker 1: can requy Carol Lear is care lear? Okay, ladies especially
Speaker 1: And then but I am really excited for the ladies
Speaker 1: to have this conversation because I have andre parodies. How
Speaker 1: is it going? You are the freaking love expert, Like
Speaker 1: you actually are a love expert. You are an educator,
Speaker 1: You're a coach, You're an artist. You have so many titles.
Speaker 1: You're an ordained minister. One one that I'm really excited
Speaker 1: about is an nlp CO church I have never heard
Speaker 1: of before. But like, you know how to answer all
Speaker 1: of the big questions that women in particular have about men,
Speaker 1: because sometimes we're like what is going on? Like why
Speaker 1: is this guy not committing to me? Or why do
Speaker 1: I feel like my relationship isn't equal? Or you know,
Speaker 1: it's just like why to manly? And then you talk
Speaker 1: about the hook up culture and why equality kills intimacy.
Speaker 1: I mean, you pill are some serious topics here. I do,
Speaker 1: but I mean those are the things that are coming
Speaker 1: at me every day I do. This is not this
Speaker 1: is what I do for a living. This is not
Speaker 1: a hobby. This is not cute. This is what I
Speaker 1: do for a living. I'll be sitting in this chair
Speaker 1: till eight o'clock to night, like this is how wild
Speaker 1: it is. Right by the way, it's eight o'clock in
Speaker 1: the morning. So ah, so these are the things coming
Speaker 1: at me with confusion. By the way, men are justice confused.
Speaker 1: What the hell is going on out there is whether
Speaker 1: us it were the women. They're all chicks and their
Speaker 1: dudes with skirts and there condescending and and crass, and
Speaker 1: you know, men are like, why don't what the you
Speaker 1: know happen to women? And women are thinking the same thing.
Speaker 1: So and it's all part of it because you're saying,
Speaker 1: like women are very much like stepping into their masculine role.
Speaker 1: So I guess it's like because when you're saying dudes
Speaker 1: of skirts, you're saying women are acting like men. But
Speaker 1: I guess that is the question that we're having right now,
Speaker 1: is because we are coming into this day and age
Speaker 1: where women are trying to like claim our power, we're
Speaker 1: trying to step into our full self and so I
Speaker 1: guess it's just like figuring out that balance where it's
Speaker 1: like men can still be men and women can still
Speaker 1: be women, but we can each hold our power and
Speaker 1: like be respected for it. But it's just like confusing
Speaker 1: to figure it out, to navigate this. Well, it's not
Speaker 1: as not as confusing. Is that we're over calibrated on
Speaker 1: both sides because of the culture and the belief in
Speaker 1: the culture and the pulse where you know, it's so
Speaker 1: I mean, it's to me, it's rather silly, honestly, you know,
Speaker 1: to try to neutralize the energy between men and women,
Speaker 1: you know, is ridiculous, and it's why everybody's struggling and
Speaker 1: not knowing what's happening. Because everything in nature again, everything
Speaker 1: that teaches nature in science. It's not my opinion. Don't
Speaker 1: have professional opinion because that's what I do. But it's
Speaker 1: not really me saying you should do this. Is this
Speaker 1: really the one works? One doesn't work? And what we
Speaker 1: believe now that's more fair like the Actually the idea
Speaker 1: of equality does not work. It works. Equality does not work, No,
Speaker 1: not in love dynamics. It works for money, it works
Speaker 1: for business, but if you're gonna come in the love dynamic,
Speaker 1: it does not work. Everything in nature is polarized, right,
Speaker 1: Everything nature is polarized. Everything that grows, flourishes. Works in
Speaker 1: nature is polarized. Is a there's a plus and of minus.
Speaker 1: There's a yang, there's a yang, there's a masculine feminine.
Speaker 1: Everything is magnetized this way. That's that's where the energy
Speaker 1: of everything comes together. This there's no energy. This flattens out.
Speaker 1: This is like you know, the heartbeat that this did.
Speaker 1: There's nothing going on here. When you're saying everything is
Speaker 1: just in a straight line, equal and when it's not
Speaker 1: just like flatline, right, So what's happening that kills? That's
Speaker 1: not nature. That's not how nature works. And every species
Speaker 1: of nature, the male and the female act completely different
Speaker 1: because they're made again to fit together, come together to
Speaker 1: procreate and continued species. We think we're better than that somehow,
Speaker 1: but that's where we actually derail completely only trying to
Speaker 1: step away from nature. Okay, yeah, we're straight. We go
Speaker 1: against nature thinking, you know, we're smarter, and nature goes
Speaker 1: in your face, you know, in your face. So there's
Speaker 1: nothing wrong with women being strongly depend on the powerful.
Speaker 1: But if you over calibrate yourself in that, you know,
Speaker 1: and again, in our culture, we teach you to be
Speaker 1: this the mom when you're you go to school in kindergarten,
Speaker 1: we're going to be when you grew up. Well, we
Speaker 1: used to raison man that way. Now we're reason meant
Speaker 1: to be sweet, scented, a sensitive, vulnerable, you know, act
Speaker 1: like a girl. Does it work right? So? So where
Speaker 1: is that far? It's too far on both sides. That's
Speaker 1: destroyed everything. It's a sweet spot. Yeah, I can totally
Speaker 1: relate to you about like the extremities of everything. It
Speaker 1: feels so like it was everything in life, Like anything
Speaker 1: an extreme feels too much for me personally. I've always
Speaker 1: been a moderate person. But where do we do where?
Speaker 1: Because how do we navigate? Because it has been out
Speaker 1: of balance? I feel a little bit like women haven't
Speaker 1: had the full opportunity to express themselves. So where do
Speaker 1: we come into. And I don't want to make this
Speaker 1: like a feminist thing because I know that I'm not.
Speaker 1: I'm not like a diehard feminist. I am just all
Speaker 1: about like everyone having the opportunity to fully express yourself.
Speaker 1: And I don't know if that is feminism or what,
Speaker 1: but like I think everyone has a voice and should
Speaker 1: be heard and you know, respected for it. So how
Speaker 1: do we navigate these roles, these gender roles and then
Speaker 1: how do we understand how to optimize our relationship and
Speaker 1: still feel like we're honoring ourselves absolutely Again, this is
Speaker 1: called a sweet spot. Is a sweet spot of you know,
Speaker 1: of extreme extremism and kind of thing is said, why
Speaker 1: you said there, what's happening is this movement came in
Speaker 1: for to give women choices. Right now we could use
Speaker 1: we can have a whole conversation about the patriarchy, and
Speaker 1: we need the source of it and how that works. Right,
Speaker 1: that is actually opposite of what we believe. Again, So
Speaker 1: what's happened is that in any system, when one has
Speaker 1: appears appears have more power than the other, there's an injustice.
Speaker 1: And so what happened is the one that the one
Speaker 1: who has less power is always trying to gain power. Right, parent, child,
Speaker 1: perfect perfect system. Right, the kids always trying to get
Speaker 1: around mom and as rules. That's the full time job. Teachers,
Speaker 1: student a right, try to get around the teacher. The
Speaker 1: moment is a power and his power issues everywhere, by
Speaker 1: the way, right, um men and women. Right, employer, employee, Right,
Speaker 1: the employee. The employer apparently has you know, life figured out.
Speaker 1: The employees are trying to rich rip them off get
Speaker 1: her head school at the time, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: So the power struggle is where things seem unfair even
Speaker 1: though it's completely normal. All the boss does have the
Speaker 1: damn power. He's got his ass on the line in
Speaker 1: every way to keep the company going, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, Teachers, somebody's gotta drive, right, But we we
Speaker 1: are so that victim idea, that the person with less
Speaker 1: power is a victim. That's all we calibrating our culture. Right,
Speaker 1: Are women really victim of men? Right? Because the patriarchy,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna take it right to the source. People get
Speaker 1: to get triggered. I don't care, right, The true basis
Speaker 1: of patriarchy is men holding holding themselves accountable for the
Speaker 1: perspection at the provision of women and children. Right, The
Speaker 1: whole idea of men off. You know, men will stay
Speaker 1: on the boat, women and children first, Right, that's a patriarchy.
Speaker 1: Men will die, you know because women create life. Right,
Speaker 1: So you're actually more valuable than we are. We will
Speaker 1: we will die for you. This is at the source.
Speaker 1: So patriarchy is not men crushing women, even though that's happened.
Speaker 1: The base of it is this is men really killing themselves, right,
Speaker 1: to protect and provide for women. So now we believe
Speaker 1: that for millennia, men have been in front of women,
Speaker 1: crushing them right in front of them. Right, it's a
Speaker 1: women are behind. Okay, that's over calibrated in my book.
Speaker 1: So now we teach women out of vengeance even that
Speaker 1: you step, you have to step in front of man,
Speaker 1: like forget man. Men have fold been privileged this whole time, right,
Speaker 1: they need to get behind you because you need to
Speaker 1: you know, make the whole thing even again. Now women
Speaker 1: are smaller and weaker, that's why men are there to
Speaker 1: protect them like physically. Again Nature, so, but the idea
Speaker 1: of we're going to step in front of man, that's
Speaker 1: the same problem. It's the same injustice. It's ridiculous. It
Speaker 1: doesn't work exhaust women. It makes men go what the
Speaker 1: hell right, and it makes them men on hook from women.
Speaker 1: They don't want to be man handled by women. But again,
Speaker 1: if you're gonna say a girl, you're getting in front
Speaker 1: of him because screw him. They've been screwing us from millennia.
Speaker 1: So that's not it. So what nature calls is this, really,
Speaker 1: it's not man in front, it's not women in front.
Speaker 1: Is side by side partners you and me together under
Speaker 1: my right arm. You know what I mean, Like, look
Speaker 1: at but look behind me. This is my wife and
Speaker 1: I ball and dancing. I love that, right, That is partnership.
Speaker 1: There's no there's no in front of behind here, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. And that's really what the relationship
Speaker 1: are the metaphor for dancing or if it's just incredible,
Speaker 1: it's together, it's her part, my part together. We were
Speaker 1: two different entities will come together to create something called
Speaker 1: what relationship. So there's no power struggle in this. This
Speaker 1: complementary is working together. And by the way, again the
Speaker 1: metaphors incredible. If you've ever seen the ballom couple light
Speaker 1: across the dance floor, it's insanely beautiful. It's just and
Speaker 1: you wo's almost magical. Right, Well, you know much training
Speaker 1: when that you're a much practicing because again, like men
Speaker 1: and women were so opposite right in the beginning, and
Speaker 1: you know, get on the dance store, you step up
Speaker 1: on each other's toes and you miscommunicate and you get
Speaker 1: the elbow to the face. Have been there or they
Speaker 1: needed to groin? Been there? Right? Because if she's trying
Speaker 1: to help me when I'm trying to drive. We we
Speaker 1: collide and were now we have a collision, right, So
Speaker 1: that's the dance. Not so culturally, we are sold women
Speaker 1: to slemon that the more badass powerful get in front
Speaker 1: of men leaving behind. It's just your fair share that
Speaker 1: you're getting finally, after your grandmother and your mother and
Speaker 1: everybody before you. Now you're just going to make it
Speaker 1: up to them. Well, here's a little statistic that will
Speaker 1: blow your mind. Women now, for the past almost twenty years,
Speaker 1: just as it came up, came out. Women now in
Speaker 1: this culture are more unhappy women in the all women
Speaker 1: before in the recorded history. Women more unhappy now than
Speaker 1: ever in history. So okay, so why and I want why? Okay, why?
Speaker 1: Here's the big why? Again? Against nature to be masking in,
Speaker 1: to push, to fight, to compete the conquer like a man.
Speaker 1: We'll burn you out right. It makes you matt Masking
Speaker 1: in turns the men off. Men don't want anything to
Speaker 1: do with that. I'm gonna say this, here we go.
Speaker 1: This is gonna hurt. I'm sorry, but when you're in
Speaker 1: your masking in, you're irritating the man, so they don't
Speaker 1: want to be around you. And I I cannot I
Speaker 1: can see that. I can see how and I can
Speaker 1: see that just from like life and culture, like observing
Speaker 1: it from my own life. But where is You talk
Speaker 1: a lot about the sweet spot, and I totally I
Speaker 1: love to find the sweet spots in life because I
Speaker 1: think there always is the sweet spots. So obviously what
Speaker 1: you were kind of describing with the patriarch, it started
Speaker 1: where the men were in front of the women to
Speaker 1: protect them, to save them for survival, and then we
Speaker 1: continued on and just like we're operating out of the
Speaker 1: survival mode. But then we grew up. We've grown into
Speaker 1: a culture. We've grown into like world has advanced, Like
Speaker 1: you know, we're not trying to run away from a
Speaker 1: saber tooth tiger anymore. You know. It's like we don't
Speaker 1: need the man to like throw his life in front
Speaker 1: of us. I mean sometimes yes, but like you know,
Speaker 1: on the daily, we feel safe enough that we don't
Speaker 1: need to like fight for our survival in the wild
Speaker 1: every day, do you I mean I do. Maybe maybe
Speaker 1: we shouldn't, but we we forget how still cave men,
Speaker 1: cave women we are. Because I'm gonna say this, so
Speaker 1: men don't run to the car when it's dark men.
Speaker 1: I'm afraid of parking lots, elevators and staircases. You are,
Speaker 1: so you have a sense of like weakness. So being
Speaker 1: smaller and weaker and in danger all the time, you're
Speaker 1: never you're never not aware of your physical safety. But
Speaker 1: you know what I'm scared of, I'm scared of men
Speaker 1: like trying to take advantage of right now, you're a
Speaker 1: product of our culture and best again, it's nature, right,
Speaker 1: women are always been afraid of man because because that
Speaker 1: men can protect you and men can hurt you, exactly right.
Speaker 1: So that's again that power thing, right, So you have
Speaker 1: to have a certain awareness of that. But you're not
Speaker 1: without it. You know, it's not like saber tooth. It's
Speaker 1: not savor tooth. You know, a woman in the woods
Speaker 1: back in those days, cable woman in the woods is dead.
Speaker 1: The bear is gonna eat her, or they'll sable or
Speaker 1: she's gonna get you know, kidnapped by the next tribe
Speaker 1: and violated and raped and all. So women know, you know,
Speaker 1: the senior senior d NA like you have that sort
Speaker 1: of you know, you're small and weaker, right, and so
Speaker 1: how do you protect yourself girlfriends, people around you? You
Speaker 1: never you know, the never the connection and communities what
Speaker 1: you need to feel safe because if there's not a
Speaker 1: big man strap next to you, who is going to
Speaker 1: protect you instinctively just by the size of him, that
Speaker 1: you need for outlets. So you know, you gotta You know,
Speaker 1: a lot of women in our culture, now this is funny.
Speaker 1: You know they're afraid of man because men could be
Speaker 1: toxic and dangerous. Well, by the way, my in my
Speaker 1: world is three types of man. Okay, there's man, there's guys,
Speaker 1: and there's boys, the ones who are dangerous or the boys.
Speaker 1: The boys are dangerous. The boys are the ones who
Speaker 1: have new integrity to the boys are the ones who
Speaker 1: don't know who they are. They're they're emotional. They're the
Speaker 1: weak ones who are so insecure that they they have
Speaker 1: so no power. They're so useless. Is what I want
Speaker 1: to use that because it's the sastone and their body
Speaker 1: is still they need to control something and what do
Speaker 1: they control women? And god forbid, if they have children,
Speaker 1: they control their children, beat them. Those are the toxic one.
Speaker 1: Those are the dangerous one. Man. Real men don't do
Speaker 1: this at all. So again, it's what you compare, right,
Speaker 1: Like you're afraid of man. Well, no, you're afraid of boys. Yeah.
Speaker 1: By the way, by the way, man will protect you
Speaker 1: from boys. Right again, back to patriarchy, like really so,
Speaker 1: but if you are masculine women, you only again, polarity
Speaker 1: will have you. If you're masking in, you only attract boys,
Speaker 1: and you think that's man. And of course those are ones.
Speaker 1: Those are the ones who cheat. Lot. Why if you're
Speaker 1: if you're in masculine energy as a woman, will you
Speaker 1: only attract boys? Nature yang positive negative feminine attracts masculine
Speaker 1: attraction that feminine. So if you're more masculine than a man,
Speaker 1: you will attract naturally boys and then you think that's man,
Speaker 1: and there's those are the fuckers. Excuse my friends, but
Speaker 1: those are guys who cheat lies. Can you know con
Speaker 1: Every guy in jail is a bitch with a penis.
Speaker 1: They're not man. They're insecured at boys, and they try
Speaker 1: to intimidate with fear because they're so freaking scare themselves.
Speaker 1: They don't know who they are. That's not man. Men
Speaker 1: protect you from these guys. So if we're talking about
Speaker 1: coming into our highest self entering, as you're saying, the
Speaker 1: ballroom dance where we are working together, where we are
Speaker 1: both stumping into our full power in our own ways,
Speaker 1: the feminine and the masculine. Well, what is it? How
Speaker 1: does that look like? What is the strength that you
Speaker 1: call out on women? If it's not the masculine energy,
Speaker 1: then what is it that women? What is the power
Speaker 1: that we step into where we can hold a room
Speaker 1: and hold you know, hold hold this attention from men
Speaker 1: and women? What is because we have something to offer,
Speaker 1: we're respected? What is that called? What are you if
Speaker 1: your femininity still drive the show? Your feminine again? You've
Speaker 1: been sold a lemon by the culture. Your femininity is
Speaker 1: the most powerful thing you have in your own and
Speaker 1: it opens all the doors, It makes everything everything. It
Speaker 1: magnetizes everyone your way, men, women, children, dogs, animals, Right like,
Speaker 1: your feminine glow is a magnet. And when women understand
Speaker 1: to use that energy instead of their balls, right we're
Speaker 1: doing in our culture right now? You keep throwing your
Speaker 1: balls in everyone's face, and you wonder why men don't
Speaker 1: stick around and get your balls on it. My face,
Speaker 1: Your ball's a fake minor real. So how do you
Speaker 1: what is feminine energy? You? What does that look like? Feminine?
Speaker 1: Think of a man or like everything masking in exact
Speaker 1: opposite do I mean an exact opposite. So men, you know,
Speaker 1: to be masculist, to conquer, compete, push, fight, penetrate, you know,
Speaker 1: just attack right, go for it, just literally push your
Speaker 1: way through. To be feminist, to be open, receptive, vulnerable, right,
Speaker 1: magnetic radiance, it's exact opposite. So all the qualities that
Speaker 1: actually attract man to protect you. But if you're gonna
Speaker 1: stay in man mode, man walk away, you actually get
Speaker 1: this when you and your masking in you become invisible
Speaker 1: to masculine men invisibly. They already feel like they are
Speaker 1: the masculine. They don't want to be with the masculine.
Speaker 1: So my my question is, obviously we're out of balance
Speaker 1: in our culture right now, like it's it's out of balance,
Speaker 1: like out of whack. So I feel and I feel
Speaker 1: like you would probably agree with me. I feel like
Speaker 1: we need more feminine energy and leadership roles. So how
Speaker 1: all because it has been so like conquer and survive
Speaker 1: and fight and kill or be killed and protected all
Speaker 1: that which it was at when there was a time
Speaker 1: when that was needed and it still is needed. Is
Speaker 1: it definitely a great part of nature it's there for
Speaker 1: a reason. But how do we now evolve as a
Speaker 1: culture where we have more feminine energy at the helm
Speaker 1: of our society, so we're not just tearing each other
Speaker 1: apart all the time and only leading with like our differences,
Speaker 1: but instead, like you said, because women bring things together,
Speaker 1: we're nurturing, we have more openness. How does that inner
Speaker 1: into society more like, it's just to embrace that to
Speaker 1: actually understand it. You know, most most women in our
Speaker 1: culture don't understand that they're fighting with men. They're they're
Speaker 1: trying to get some some power bag. But this masculine
Speaker 1: power and it doesn't work. It it wipes them out,
Speaker 1: It kills them, It overwhelms them. Right, is to not
Speaker 1: get this You're not actually physically built for that. You
Speaker 1: don't have the testosterone to sustain conquering, pushing, competing. You
Speaker 1: know in the world like us, you're just not. So
Speaker 1: we now call this a vity. This is gonna trigger
Speaker 1: people again. But hey again, I'm teaching nature women in
Speaker 1: conquer mode, man mode, push mode, compete mode for twenty
Speaker 1: plus years. We now call this cancer training for women.
Speaker 1: Why because you don't have the testosterone to do this,
Speaker 1: So every time you compete in push and fight, right,
Speaker 1: it's your adrenaline glance that are escorting adrenaline and your
Speaker 1: blood that's a fight and flight response, right, like you're
Speaker 1: being attacked by a type of tooth or whatever. And
Speaker 1: now we know that adrenaline and your blood streams for
Speaker 1: twenty plus years actually burns all your organs. So women
Speaker 1: are opening up to cancer by living that stressful, god
Speaker 1: girl lifestyle. You're not built for that. So what happens
Speaker 1: when you want to be a lawyer as a woman,
Speaker 1: and you want to be a top lawyer and it's
Speaker 1: still a man's world at a lawyer firm. It's like,
Speaker 1: I mean, I I think that you know, there's a
Speaker 1: women need to step into those roles, and like I
Speaker 1: think that there it needs to be more feminine in
Speaker 1: these kind of situations. So what about that, Like, how
Speaker 1: does a woman compete when she's forced to compete as
Speaker 1: a man in the way that that the whole culture
Speaker 1: set up. I'm not sure that you're forced to do anything,
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. You have a choice. You decide
Speaker 1: to become a lawyer. You know, you've decided to become
Speaker 1: you know, a financial um investor, right, like those are
Speaker 1: really high stressful career. And get this, by the way,
Speaker 1: statistics again, women are fantastic at schooling. And you know
Speaker 1: when when a woman goes for life and decides she's
Speaker 1: going to be a lawyer, right, they not get out
Speaker 1: of the park faster than men graduates in college from
Speaker 1: now women, right, there's a there's a women are killing it,
Speaker 1: except they can't sustain it past forty Again nature, I'm sorry, Right,
Speaker 1: they can't sustain it past forty. It wipes them out.
Speaker 1: They get sick, they can't sleep anymore, they can't rest there.
Speaker 1: They have all kinds of like chronic fatigue syndromes that
Speaker 1: goes from neederal burnout whatever. So the nature comes back
Speaker 1: to bite. I compared. But I think it's not good
Speaker 1: just to have only men on these type of leadership
Speaker 1: roles because then we're getting filled more and more like
Speaker 1: the whole killer be killed in mindset, you know, So
Speaker 1: we got to even it out. Well, it's not not
Speaker 1: that way, not that way. It's because again, you do
Speaker 1: whatever you want. I'm not you know, I'm just give
Speaker 1: people choices. You go. But again, women competing competing like men,
Speaker 1: this hard four years it's like, are you familiar with
Speaker 1: Like I'm a I'm a car guy, you're familiar with
Speaker 1: Formula one cars as a four wheels the guy in
Speaker 1: the middle, they go five an hour, right, Like, that's
Speaker 1: not even a car, it's it's a jet on four wheels, right,
Speaker 1: Those things are insane. So women competing with men in
Speaker 1: the world I compared to this, it's like you stepping
Speaker 1: into Formula one racing with the guys with their race cars,
Speaker 1: and you're fourcylator to a camera. You're gonna get in
Speaker 1: the race, you're gonna get around on a bunch of times,
Speaker 1: but the engine is gonna blow up. It's not built
Speaker 1: for that. And this is what happens to women. You
Speaker 1: could do what you want, Like, you know you want
Speaker 1: to be a lawyer, go ahead, But I'm saying, if
Speaker 1: you look at the statistics, by the time women get
Speaker 1: to be thirty plus lawyers, law firms cannot hang on
Speaker 1: to the women. They cannot hang on to them. These
Speaker 1: girls are like, I don't want to work freaking eighty
Speaker 1: hour weeks and be stressed out this all the time.
Speaker 1: That's not life. I'm a girl, right, And and this
Speaker 1: when they actually let go, like the law firms cannot
Speaker 1: hold on to them. They cannot hold onto them. So
Speaker 1: they spend fifteen years going to school and not killing it,
Speaker 1: and eventually they go forget this crap and marry the
Speaker 1: lawyer that they met they worked with, who's making three dollars,
Speaker 1: you know, and go have babies and they use their law,
Speaker 1: the law degree, everything else to support the community that's
Speaker 1: around her. They don't become useless. They just bring it
Speaker 1: down to the level where they could sustain it. They're
Speaker 1: still what's the word productive part of a system. But
Speaker 1: then it's only a one race, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: And I totally understand everything you're saying as far as
Speaker 1: major but at the same time, I I'm sure you
Speaker 1: run into a lot of friction with people because it's
Speaker 1: like I totally can see the nature aspect of this,
Speaker 1: but I'm also like, but women have these amazing brains
Speaker 1: and they have this amazing like drive, why do they
Speaker 1: especially like in today's world, I feel like just if
Speaker 1: women aren't stepping into these bigger roles, than society is
Speaker 1: never going to change, Like we're never going to get
Speaker 1: you know, So, like, what's the answer. I'm not sure
Speaker 1: that you know anything is to change. But what's the solution?
Speaker 1: What's the solution because it's obviously hasn't been working really
Speaker 1: perfectly how it has been. Obviously our culture is crying
Speaker 1: out for change. We're crying out to like notice different
Speaker 1: aspects of society, to hear people in a bigger way,
Speaker 1: to be more inclusive to you know, not just be
Speaker 1: a man's world. So what is the solution? Again? The
Speaker 1: sweet spot? Right? Like I tell women this way to
Speaker 1: my clients, Like when you already calibrating masking in this
Speaker 1: feminine side is being neglected, all right? So what happens
Speaker 1: when you have an inside of you that you want
Speaker 1: to be this badass like you feel called to be? Like,
Speaker 1: how so where is the sweet spot? How do they
Speaker 1: get there? Because I feel like I feel like I
Speaker 1: can understand your nature aspect. But then I also like,
Speaker 1: as a woman who has a lot of ambition myself,
Speaker 1: I'm like I'm struggling with like I don't want to
Speaker 1: be limited to only doing certain roles like you know,
Speaker 1: I want to be able to do whatever I feel
Speaker 1: called to do. I understand not burning out and like
Speaker 1: you know, pacing yourself and all that. So what is
Speaker 1: the sweet spot? In my world, for women, it's more
Speaker 1: about collaboration than competition. You know, if you want to
Speaker 1: be the leading man, you know, it's gonna cost you.
Speaker 1: It's gonna hurt, it's gonna stop, it's not you're not
Speaker 1: going to get there, and if you get there, you
Speaker 1: won't be able to stay there. But if you go
Speaker 1: again with nature, women are more about community, collaboration, togetherness.
Speaker 1: As a group of women, you can create everything the
Speaker 1: hell that you can do, you know, but with in collaboration,
Speaker 1: like you could change the world if you get it
Speaker 1: all together right. But the lone wolf, like men do,
Speaker 1: it does not work. It will kill you. So you're
Speaker 1: saying women who go off, women who go off as
Speaker 1: a lone wolf and try to do it like a
Speaker 1: man will get burnt out. But men can sustain that
Speaker 1: lone wolf. And mentility is that how you are created? Absolutely? Absolutely?
Speaker 1: Or physiology is that? So if you again its nature
Speaker 1: again the man caveman when hunting for three days, you know,
Speaker 1: and and would go fight to compete, conquered, take risks.
Speaker 1: Sometimes they didn't come back from the you know, from
Speaker 1: the hunt, but the bill for that and actually it's
Speaker 1: and it's satisfying to them, it's worth it. There's there's
Speaker 1: a lot of satisfaction and PLoP. Look what I did,
Speaker 1: Look what I did for us. Now we could all
Speaker 1: survive when I was set by the fires of the
Speaker 1: guys telling stories about how little Joe lost his arm,
Speaker 1: which is funny as hell, well just cooked for us.
Speaker 1: It's the same thing. It's never changed. It's still that
Speaker 1: in place now. Community for ladies, the support system. This
Speaker 1: is where you you flourish. We actually work together, you
Speaker 1: know very men team very well naturally for that purpose,
Speaker 1: right survival. It's still in our bodies. It's still in
Speaker 1: the DNA. So do you think it would be beneficial
Speaker 1: for men to take some to tap into some of
Speaker 1: their feminine energy and learn how to work in community
Speaker 1: because I feel like that, to me is where the
Speaker 1: big disconnect is is because men go out and conquer
Speaker 1: and kill and bring it back and lone wolf stuff,
Speaker 1: and it has been that's been the culture that has
Speaker 1: been modeled of success. But it's like, what we're realizing
Speaker 1: is what women bring to the table. We do form communities,
Speaker 1: We are inclusive, We do understand stand that everybody is
Speaker 1: like valuable. So it's like that is what I feel
Speaker 1: it needs to be. These two go seep into society.
Speaker 1: Is this community, so how do we do how do men? Okay?
Speaker 1: So there it goes. So by the way, you know,
Speaker 1: when I talked about masculine feminine, we both women have
Speaker 1: masculine feminine inside of us. But what's not working is
Speaker 1: when you go too far, especially outside your own essence. Right,
Speaker 1: when men are too feminine. You see them out there,
Speaker 1: they don't do anything. They want women to work for them,
Speaker 1: They want women to pay for them, they want women
Speaker 1: to support them, help them. Right, they become the girl.
Speaker 1: This is what married women have done for you. Think
Speaker 1: the man works and she'd be supported and she does
Speaker 1: her part basically the children. But these guys already still didn't.
Speaker 1: I'll make children. They don't do anything. They spoon the
Speaker 1: dog and right, you know, look at joint and write
Speaker 1: the music. When she's got the two jobs and he's
Speaker 1: like google, girl get the promotion because he didn't want
Speaker 1: to work. That's an already feminine man, right, useless, useless.
Speaker 1: Those are the boys, right, A third of the population
Speaker 1: is that, by the way, So careful, they're everywhere. They're
Speaker 1: very seductive, they're very slick, they're very cute. They'll get
Speaker 1: your pants off you in no time, and you'll find
Speaker 1: yourself taking care of him. You'll move into your apartment
Speaker 1: in about a month and a half. Because the landwards
Speaker 1: a douchebag. He's driving a car, you know when you
Speaker 1: your work because he can't fix his piece of ship. Right,
Speaker 1: he's borrowing money that you promised to give back. You
Speaker 1: never get it back. You know. He plays with you
Speaker 1: until you can. You get mad, and you know because
Speaker 1: six months down the road, you're like, what the hell
Speaker 1: happened in my life? This douche bag happened in your life?
Speaker 1: And then he leaves because he didn't care. All right,
Speaker 1: You're like, I can't believe it to all it did
Speaker 1: for him? Right? That doesn't so best sports? Right, So
Speaker 1: masculine will check this. Okay, I'm that's gonna want to
Speaker 1: a check this. So the sweet spot is, you know,
Speaker 1: just like the dance. It's just like a freaking dance.
Speaker 1: It's the same. This is a sweet spot here? What
Speaker 1: is it is? You know? Me as a leader with
Speaker 1: my wife, I'm a leader, right. She's not passive here,
Speaker 1: she's very active. I'm not asking women to be passive,
Speaker 1: but if you get it into dance, there's a there's
Speaker 1: a there's there's two parts. That's infeminine. So but this
Speaker 1: that happened with a lot of practice, a lot of
Speaker 1: fine tuning, a lot of dealmaking. I don't like this,
Speaker 1: but I want this this. I don't want to do
Speaker 1: it back and forth right that you want the knees
Speaker 1: have to be negotiated. It's not as really as a
Speaker 1: dance couple, and a real relationship has a lot more
Speaker 1: flexibility into things that negotiates. But if we go back
Speaker 1: to this model, she can't resist my lead if we're
Speaker 1: gonna do go gliding on the floor, right, only if
Speaker 1: she's not. But as a leader, I actually have to
Speaker 1: have sensitivities and sense. It has to be sensible to
Speaker 1: her because I could get this is reality. I could
Speaker 1: over lead her. I could crank her shoulder, I could
Speaker 1: hurt her. So if I'm just a man like this
Speaker 1: is what we're talking about, right, we also always go
Speaker 1: to extreme man a dangerous a right, No man have
Speaker 1: a sensitive side that often has to be nurtured by
Speaker 1: women or brought forth. She tells me this is too hard.
Speaker 1: You're leading me too hard. Right, he's up a little bit.
Speaker 1: Oh oh, of course. And as you know, even though
Speaker 1: then and I'm leading, I just to her comfort, because
Speaker 1: if I don't know just she won't want to dance
Speaker 1: with me, no relationship. No I mean, so I she
Speaker 1: brings me in a senseord of awareness of her sensitivity
Speaker 1: is a sense you know what I mean, for me
Speaker 1: to not hurt her on the other side, in order
Speaker 1: for her to follow me appropriately in my appropriate leadership,
Speaker 1: she has to be vulnerable to me. She has to
Speaker 1: trust that I'm not going to spin her spinning into
Speaker 1: a wall or a table or another couple. Right, So
Speaker 1: there's a letting go of control. It's not that she's
Speaker 1: againting passive. Everything she's doing is is what I'm doing
Speaker 1: backwards in high heels and long dress. Right. It's not easier,
Speaker 1: it's compliment. So I'm leading and she's supporting my leadership.
Speaker 1: But she has to be vulnerable and open to me
Speaker 1: and trust me. That's something you built together, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. But get this in a sense, in this,
Speaker 1: I'm doing all the work. She's you know, she's following
Speaker 1: me a little, she's supporting my leadership. I'm doing all
Speaker 1: the work. I'm thinking to every step ahead of time. Right,
Speaker 1: It's not, it's it's literally constantly constantly paying attention to
Speaker 1: every step, every second, every step, every move, what next?
Speaker 1: What next? What next? Right? And again, without protecting her
Speaker 1: to make sure that I don't collide with anybody else.
Speaker 1: She gets to they go, be vulnerable, be open. What
Speaker 1: happens when a woman is letting goes? She radiates. When
Speaker 1: you see the ball a couple of dancing, no one
Speaker 1: looks at the mail, no one all you look at
Speaker 1: they're going shure, you know what I mean? And she's right,
Speaker 1: that's all that glorious energy comes out. But she gets
Speaker 1: to be there because she let's go. She's happy to trust, right,
Speaker 1: So she's in masking in appropriately to be able to
Speaker 1: be in the dance. Right. But she she lets go
Speaker 1: of control, so she shines and radiates. As I'm adjusting
Speaker 1: my sensitivity, he's like, do you see what I mean?
Speaker 1: It's beautiful? So why is this? But like, I feel
Speaker 1: like you are such probably like your conversations are such
Speaker 1: a hot spot for like topics today. Do you feel
Speaker 1: that absolutely? Are you kidding this? Funny? I didn't. I
Speaker 1: did a podcast about a month ago, a month and
Speaker 1: a half ago. The lady had seventy thousand followers, and
Speaker 1: like half of them were talking crap, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean? On the app, right, there's this guy. Are
Speaker 1: just trying to take us back to the fifties. No,
Speaker 1: did you hear me say anything like that? No? Completely,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? This guy is myself genesty
Speaker 1: can me? I love women. I love women. I love women.
Speaker 1: That's why I'm trying to help, right, which is what
Speaker 1: you don't understand. And man, right, I'm helping couples get
Speaker 1: it together. Right, So like, I guess, like we're get this,
Speaker 1: get this. So half of them took me wrong, and
Speaker 1: the other half called me. They all call me, how
Speaker 1: do I do this? I feel that I understands nature. Again,
Speaker 1: we talk nature, we kind of resonates. So I'm just
Speaker 1: saying sorry. I I just want to know though, Like
Speaker 1: because I do believe that women should be able to
Speaker 1: hold their own in the workfield if they want to.
Speaker 1: And and like because I have a daughter, I don't
Speaker 1: want to raise her to go to school to find
Speaker 1: her passion, to pursue this thing inside of her that
Speaker 1: she loves, just so she can go get married and
Speaker 1: have kids and stop pursuing herself and not make a
Speaker 1: career for herself and not be able to provide for
Speaker 1: herself and have to rely on a man. Like I
Speaker 1: just feel like that that to me, Like I understand
Speaker 1: the dance and like the roles, but I'm like also
Speaker 1: to be able to be self sufficient and take care
Speaker 1: of yourself man or woman is something that is very
Speaker 1: I feel like a wonderful thing to have. So then
Speaker 1: when you do combine with someone else and joint energies,
Speaker 1: you have these two strong, independent people. So how do
Speaker 1: you navigate that? Like? What is I guess I'll keep
Speaker 1: trying to figure out this answer, because what if you're
Speaker 1: calling what if you're calling is to be like a
Speaker 1: force of nature in the work field, But you still
Speaker 1: want to hold onto your feminine energy. Are you saying
Speaker 1: you can't do that? It's very very very very very difficult. Again,
Speaker 1: you you're stepping in the Formula one race and you're thinking,
Speaker 1: would be lovely about it? If you want to be
Speaker 1: lovely about it, just you know you're not going to
Speaker 1: get in the race. You know you're not going to compete,
Speaker 1: so you have to step it up. But then again,
Speaker 1: the danger is what I said, earlier, the engine blows up.
Speaker 1: So I mean, I go, this is what happens, right,
Speaker 1: and and I I'm just sending the alarmy. I'm telling
Speaker 1: you what doesn't work. I'm telling you what doesn't. Tell
Speaker 1: me what doesn't work. Let's go to the list what
Speaker 1: doesn't work. You know, if you're a man and act
Speaker 1: like a girl and decide to give you power away
Speaker 1: and not you know, handle your ship it and you know,
Speaker 1: let the world take care of you, be a victim.
Speaker 1: You're a big old loser because then you're saying, but
Speaker 1: that's the boy, and your life's gonna be miserable, and
Speaker 1: you're gonna manipulate and con and cheat, and you know,
Speaker 1: literally funk with everybody around you because you you're useless.
Speaker 1: And so that's how they use their power. Right, They
Speaker 1: bunked with everybody around them, especially women and children. So
Speaker 1: what does a man need to be? Again, if you
Speaker 1: follow your body, a good man, A good man will actually,
Speaker 1: if he's raised properly, use his strength and his power appropriately. Right.
Speaker 1: They typically go for their lives. They'll find something a
Speaker 1: mission of passion, something that there they they want that's big,
Speaker 1: that requires discipline, pushing, fighting, you know, which builds their character.
Speaker 1: And as they build the character going towards the big,
Speaker 1: the big goal that's difficult, it builds the confidence. It
Speaker 1: builds the confidence. Right, there are the guys that women
Speaker 1: go who look at him, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Because it's gotta ship together, right, So a guy who
Speaker 1: has the ship. Men have to prove themselves in the
Speaker 1: world to be respected both by men and women. What
Speaker 1: do women have to do? Get this answer the question?
Speaker 1: Men have to like push and conquer and compete and
Speaker 1: prove themselves to be respected by both men and women.
Speaker 1: At the core in nature as a male, what does
Speaker 1: the female have to do in nature to be provided
Speaker 1: and protected? For now, I think absolutely fucking nothing. You
Speaker 1: get to breathe, just the fact that you're alive. Nature
Speaker 1: and man will have protective, provided, protected feed. You have
Speaker 1: nothing to prove in nature to be valuable, valuable, cherished,
Speaker 1: love and protected. If your car brings down outside of
Speaker 1: the road, right, it's not a woman is going to
Speaker 1: pull over. There's gonna be some guy, are you okay?
Speaker 1: And right behind that guy another guy because guy is
Speaker 1: no douchebags exists, and so it's the second guy to
Speaker 1: make sure that guy is in a douche bag trying
Speaker 1: to mess with you. Man, do this, you're saying, right,
Speaker 1: So that's sort of the maskeline has to prove themselves
Speaker 1: to be valuable. Women don't have to prove anything to
Speaker 1: be valuable. If you go back to the basis, man
Speaker 1: will protect you just because you create life, You make babies,
Speaker 1: you make life. We don't do this in your entire life.
Speaker 1: You're gonna have between three and four eggs coming down,
Speaker 1: three and four and that's it. We get between four
Speaker 1: hundred to one point two billion sperm cell release per ejaculate.
Speaker 1: Think about that one second. Yes we are disposable, Yes
Speaker 1: we value more. Yes you're special. Women and children first,
Speaker 1: that's all that comes from at the base. We know this.
Speaker 1: So you want to act like a man, you know,
Speaker 1: all that formula kind of goes away, and eventually by
Speaker 1: the forty women like, how come I'm lonely? I want companionship,
Speaker 1: I want a man, I want to feel safe. I
Speaker 1: want to slow down. But you kind of painting yourself
Speaker 1: in the corner where you don't want to be feminine anymore.
Speaker 1: Men are instructed to that. The men who wanted to
Speaker 1: be married already married. The ones that are leftovers are
Speaker 1: either divorce or losers. You get yourself painted in the corner,
Speaker 1: all my clients. Is a terrible, terrible idea. Right now.
Speaker 1: This again, it doesn't mean that you get to be useless,
Speaker 1: you know, sit in the corner and make babies. That's
Speaker 1: not what I'm saying. There's a sweet spot, and you
Speaker 1: gotta find it for yourself, you know. Like a lot
Speaker 1: of young women go to school and universities and kind
Speaker 1: of get the masters and all this ship beautiful until
Speaker 1: for most of them, again it's not everyone, of course,
Speaker 1: there's nothing, no such thing, but maybe for seventy percent
Speaker 1: of them, right they find themselves thinking, I don't really
Speaker 1: want this. It was a great idea when I was
Speaker 1: twenty four one two, and you know, I want companionship,
Speaker 1: I want a man, I want to like, I want
Speaker 1: to slow down, I want to travel. Maybe I want
Speaker 1: a kid, huh. And I totally understand that. But on
Speaker 1: the cause of nature, what about women who feel called
Speaker 1: to really shift the dynamic of the world, Like you've
Speaker 1: got to step into that role, you know again and when?
Speaker 1: And I like, women need to be there else If
Speaker 1: it's not it's just gonna be the same old, same
Speaker 1: one that we've had. You know, you could fight with
Speaker 1: men to try to change the world. You can inspire
Speaker 1: a man to change the world with you. That's the
Speaker 1: po of woman. That's and I feel like I'm with you.
Speaker 1: I'm all about like collaborating and coming together and inspiring
Speaker 1: and getting involved in a dance and everyone working together
Speaker 1: because the whole like pitting each other against each other.
Speaker 1: That's not working. Yeah, it's not working. It's not working anywhere.
Speaker 1: I mean, it can bring up things that need to change,
Speaker 1: but ultimately we need to figure out how to collaborate.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. Women can inspire a man to
Speaker 1: change the world, and you've always have this is the
Speaker 1: way you do it, like you inspire men to change.
Speaker 1: But that allowed that that requires you to be feminine.
Speaker 1: So you're saying a woman needs to just fully embrace
Speaker 1: her feminism. But I guess the difference is now we
Speaker 1: just a woman needs to be respected and allowed the
Speaker 1: space to have that, you know, because I feel like
Speaker 1: maybe before we didn't have the space to fully embrace
Speaker 1: our feminine Did you feel that, No? I think I
Speaker 1: think there was there was a machine in place that
Speaker 1: was automatic people who lived much more man where men
Speaker 1: women women, you know what I mean? Like at the
Speaker 1: basic man would go and fight in concuerding with do
Speaker 1: you know do bring the money in? And she raised
Speaker 1: the children and she was a housewife. And then women
Speaker 1: are saying, but I have more, I need more. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and men might be saying men might be saying the
Speaker 1: same thing as absolute. Man, what's happened is it was
Speaker 1: not enough choice and if it felt um restricted, um,
Speaker 1: and it felt like you just had one option, you
Speaker 1: have to just play this role where it's like, I
Speaker 1: don't think men or women want to be forced to
Speaker 1: play a role. I do agree we have nature. We
Speaker 1: are born into certain roles based on like our gender,
Speaker 1: and like you know, a woman creates life and all that.
Speaker 1: But it's like, you know, I think we all want
Speaker 1: to have the option to be more than just a role.
Speaker 1: That's what we're doing. It's just we're the ones who
Speaker 1: video struggling and struggling an unhappy go too far, there's
Speaker 1: a sweet it's a sweet spot. If you're gonna go
Speaker 1: like a badass and act like a dude, you're not
Speaker 1: gonna have a full life. You're going to be a
Speaker 1: working beast and eventually life, your body is going to
Speaker 1: go enough of this ship. So you think the ultimate
Speaker 1: goal of everyone is they want to be in a relationship.
Speaker 1: That's we're built to pair bond, We're built to do this,
Speaker 1: we'll built to do this. Now obviously not is no
Speaker 1: such thing, right, but mostly this is what people makes
Speaker 1: people happier. Why do you say you say early sex
Speaker 1: kills the building of a healthy long term relationship? Is
Speaker 1: that because you're getting into the boy is just like
Speaker 1: taking what they want or what is it? Pretty much?
Speaker 1: Pretty much? So? But even then you know, if if
Speaker 1: you how do you play it? Like how do you
Speaker 1: if say? And why does it always come this? Dude?
Speaker 1: This is where I get frustrated. I'm like, well, I
Speaker 1: get frustrated because I'm like, guys just got guys, just
Speaker 1: go out there and sleep around. But then women have
Speaker 1: to be strategic and you have to think about it,
Speaker 1: and you can't like just like enjoy a feeling at
Speaker 1: a moment and get lost in it because now all
Speaker 1: of a sudden, like what if you had this great
Speaker 1: connection but you slept with them too soon? And I
Speaker 1: mean this, I'm not speaking from my own experience. I'm
Speaker 1: just thinking about like the difference between men and women.
Speaker 1: It's like, well that it's just like it's and you
Speaker 1: talk about this, it's not equality, kills intimacy so obvious,
Speaker 1: it's not equal. But like, why do women have to
Speaker 1: be the ones who have to think about it? To
Speaker 1: keep the guy? It's never like trying to keep the girl.
Speaker 1: You know that's not true. Right, So again you have
Speaker 1: to know what are you dealing with? Man? Guys and boys.
Speaker 1: They look the same, they look the same, three different beasts,
Speaker 1: completely completely different machines, right for their upbringing, for their character.
Speaker 1: The ones have characters, yeah, but the others don't, right,
Speaker 1: the bottom one doesn't. And this is the These are
Speaker 1: the ones to create all the pain, all the angst,
Speaker 1: all the cheating, all the mistrust, all the abuse, all
Speaker 1: the attacks. Boy, it's not man. So this worth it's
Speaker 1: worth making, working the system of nature to find a
Speaker 1: good one who does what the good ones do. Provide, protect, give, cherish,
Speaker 1: protect sheriff right, put the arms on your life, give
Speaker 1: you give, give, give give you know, like as a
Speaker 1: male myself married with my wife with two kids, you know,
Speaker 1: I used I'm a I'm a work beast, typical male
Speaker 1: work beast. And I pride myself with all the work
Speaker 1: that I put in to give us, to keep us
Speaker 1: in the lifestyle that we're living in. I mean Los
Speaker 1: Angeles of a house with the pool. I live in
Speaker 1: freaking paradise in the hills like paradise. It's unbelievable, right,
Speaker 1: but it's constantly to live here. So what I have
Speaker 1: to do. I have to whip my own ass to too,
Speaker 1: because when she was pregnant, she can't you know, my
Speaker 1: my wives of ballerminas. So that's what come to the
Speaker 1: world of dancing. But you know, somebody had to take
Speaker 1: care of the kids, do you know what I mean? Now,
Speaker 1: she didn't get giveaway her career. She didn't give it up.
Speaker 1: She put it on positive little bit and when the
Speaker 1: kids with teeny tiny and went back to it. That's women.
Speaker 1: Women who have it all do They don't stop, you know,
Speaker 1: they don't give everything away. They slowed down for a
Speaker 1: little phase till the kids are five years old, they
Speaker 1: go to school, you're free again, and then you resume
Speaker 1: slower because he's killing himself, you know, to to make
Speaker 1: sure everything happening. That's that's a good dance. Right, that's
Speaker 1: not protecting yourself, that's trusting. Together, we build something and
Speaker 1: we negotiate all the bits, all right, So listen my
Speaker 1: greatest moments and men, real man boys resented. Boys don't
Speaker 1: want to take care of women. Boys don't want to
Speaker 1: take care of your children. Boys don't want to take
Speaker 1: care of any children, especially right. They're terrified of that
Speaker 1: because they don't want to work hard. They want to
Speaker 1: they want to feel good, they want to chill, right,
Speaker 1: but real man will kill themselves and to feel so much. Right,
Speaker 1: I'm telling you some of my someh some of my
Speaker 1: brightest moments in my life is pulling up my garage. Right,
Speaker 1: my car is really a louds it's kind of crazy
Speaker 1: by pulling the garage and when I turned the car off, oh,
Speaker 1: I can hear the care of my wife and the
Speaker 1: kids in the pool. You know. To be like, I
Speaker 1: work from seven to seven. You know, I'm killing myself.
Speaker 1: I'm fighting the free way in both ways. I work
Speaker 1: twelve hour days. Oh worth it because I get to
Speaker 1: keep them in lifestyle that I think is appropriate for them.
Speaker 1: You know, she picked him up at school at three
Speaker 1: o'clock because she has a career, but part time at
Speaker 1: that point because it gives a little picks him up
Speaker 1: three o'clock, takes them home, makes them you know, they
Speaker 1: do snacks and they do homework and then they jump
Speaker 1: in the pool. I get, I did that. She did
Speaker 1: that as well. Right, she does her part, and she
Speaker 1: does bring some income that she makes her feel part
Speaker 1: of the machine and valuable. Then you know she's she's producing.
Speaker 1: She's not useless, but she takes it her kids. That's
Speaker 1: a that's a that's a gift. Right, but I together
Speaker 1: will make that happen. So my wife, I think, is
Speaker 1: the best life. She did both. She gets the liver career,
Speaker 1: liver life as a ballerina, and she teaches at two colleges,
Speaker 1: so she's nurturing and mentoring all these young women and
Speaker 1: man like, she lives her life's purpose, you know. And
Speaker 1: she's also a mother to my children. And she she
Speaker 1: was able because of my part. She was able to
Speaker 1: actually be both. And actually this is a woman has
Speaker 1: it all career and children and the relatorship and a
Speaker 1: good freaking life. So what is the secret. What is
Speaker 1: the secret is to get into that dance, is to
Speaker 1: get into that dance and sort of finding your sweet
Speaker 1: spot for you, you know, and and when you kind
Speaker 1: of step in together, and how we're going to do this,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, and really negotiate that stuff.
Speaker 1: A real man will will do, will hold himselfs accountable
Speaker 1: and be very proud of working very hard to keep
Speaker 1: his wife and kids in a comfortable lifestyle. Nature again, right,
Speaker 1: the tigers, the bears, like, that's how we do it.
Speaker 1: We don't resent it, we don't go. Is no bearer?
Speaker 1: How come I Men don't say it's not Men don't
Speaker 1: say I come, always have to call you? How come
Speaker 1: you don't call me? How come you know? How come
Speaker 1: we don't drive and meet me have way? That's not fair.
Speaker 1: Men don't ever say that. Boys do? They want equality? Right? Like, well,
Speaker 1: it doesn't mine. But you guys think also that's fair.
Speaker 1: Maybe maybe should drive halfway, you know? And how and
Speaker 1: I have to meet him because you know, no bullshit.
Speaker 1: Real man pride themselves in doing that at the client
Speaker 1: at client in Los Angeles? Where are you? By the way,
Speaker 1: I don't know who you are in Los Angeles? By
Speaker 1: this La County Orange County. So Orange County is sendy,
Speaker 1: you know, Disneyland and sort of. It's an hour and
Speaker 1: a half away, all the way down to Sanuel County.
Speaker 1: So she meet this guy uh in in some events
Speaker 1: in Los Angeles, but it lives in Orange County, right,
Speaker 1: and they had that little So he's coming up on
Speaker 1: the weekend, right for Morris County, drives up on Saturday
Speaker 1: on Saturdays to take her out, spends the evening, you know,
Speaker 1: creating a data whatever, drops her off, and drives back
Speaker 1: to San Diego. That's three and a half hours almost
Speaker 1: on the road every weekend, right. So she's like, at
Speaker 1: one point said, I feel so bad, so I think
Speaker 1: I'm gonna meet him halfway, and like, don't you freaking
Speaker 1: there meet him halfway? Do not? Don't you dare. Don't
Speaker 1: take that away from him. He's proud of doing that.
Speaker 1: He's shown off and he's showing you how much she's
Speaker 1: willing to do because he likes you that much. Do
Speaker 1: not bring it that I'll meet you halfway because I
Speaker 1: feel bad that you do want the work. Don't you
Speaker 1: dare take that away from him. He's a man. He's
Speaker 1: going to pride himself in that, and he's every time
Speaker 1: he does it like, yeah, I'm that guy. Yep, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna show this woman how much I care for her,
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? So boys will say, you
Speaker 1: don't meet me? How can I always have prepare? How
Speaker 1: can we man? Don't do this right? So we go
Speaker 1: back to Arctur and these guys, you know, the whole
Speaker 1: idea of like, you know, being afraid of man. A
Speaker 1: man like that with that kind of character will make
Speaker 1: you feel so freaking safe and so cherished. You're gonna
Speaker 1: and when you do relax, when you're not in your head,
Speaker 1: when you stop fighting, competing, and you know, being super productive,
Speaker 1: whichever way that is for you, You're nervous, relaxed, and
Speaker 1: all of a sudden you're radiant, and you're lovely? Are
Speaker 1: you warm? And you smile? And again people say, good morning,
Speaker 1: get to see you? What I get to see you?
Speaker 1: And the kids smile at you, and the dogs are sniffing,
Speaker 1: And I'm just saying, so, how how do we encourage
Speaker 1: the opposite sex to rise up to our best version?
Speaker 1: How do you more the more you inspire him to
Speaker 1: step up with your feminine energy, the more he'll step
Speaker 1: up with his mask and energy. It's all energy, ying Yang,
Speaker 1: It's all energy, that's say, you just have to cultivate.
Speaker 1: Like I said, if you're being if you under your
Speaker 1: femininees underdeveloped, because you've done this too long, too hard
Speaker 1: for whatever reason. Right typically again is the ones who
Speaker 1: are really upside down there. Damage from childhood is trauma,
Speaker 1: which is part of the work that I do. So
Speaker 1: it's not about undoing any of this I'm not doing.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying just destroyed and stop who you are
Speaker 1: and what you do when you build. That's not what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Just by the way, so before you call
Speaker 1: me names, that's not what I'm saying, is that this
Speaker 1: is over calibrated. It doesn't make you happy, it makes
Speaker 1: you right, it's too much for long term it it's
Speaker 1: not sustainable for most you know what I mean. So
Speaker 1: what we do is we cultivate this. And also what
Speaker 1: happens like this typically happens a little bit, right, So
Speaker 1: then you get to be masking and productive and be
Speaker 1: a badass in the world. But when you leave work,
Speaker 1: you leave your balls at work, and then you show
Speaker 1: up like this in the world and all of sudden,
Speaker 1: man see you, man, smile at you, man, say hey,
Speaker 1: how are you right? Like so us again that's let's
Speaker 1: be able to do both. That's a badass in my world,
Speaker 1: a badass and one who knows how to be badass.
Speaker 1: And it wants us to be feminine, you know, to
Speaker 1: to take care of her personal life and connect to community,
Speaker 1: connect to men, connect to environment. Connect right, because you
Speaker 1: see women who are badass c e O s and whatever,
Speaker 1: it's like a rock when they're public. Nothing about them
Speaker 1: is lovely and warm. They're fried or in their heads.
Speaker 1: Right to be masculous, to be in your head, to
Speaker 1: be feminine, to be in your heart and your body.
Speaker 1: What is the number one reason that people relationships fail? Well,
Speaker 1: I'm not understanding the dance, not not really committed to
Speaker 1: the dance, not you know, like again, instead of doing this,
Speaker 1: this takes five years, by the way, to make a
Speaker 1: couple bad couple look like this five years. There's a
Speaker 1: lot of practicing, you know what I mean. But when
Speaker 1: people do in our culture, because everyone's afraid, right is
Speaker 1: instead of doing this and committing and learning, they call
Speaker 1: it they get on the dance floor, but like I
Speaker 1: call it club dancing. Right, they're on dance floor, but
Speaker 1: they don't touch on the dance. We're doding together. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's my boyfriend, that's my girl. We're moving together. There's
Speaker 1: no commitment, there's no marriage, there's nothing, there's nothing to
Speaker 1: hold you together beyond the moment. Right. Nobody shares banks,
Speaker 1: bank accounts, right, I mean you you stay separate, you're together.
Speaker 1: It is my boyfriend, my girlfriend. But nobody's committed, and
Speaker 1: you're hanging there till till somebody cheats or you get
Speaker 1: bored or the guests stops being easy. We have this
Speaker 1: stupid belief that relationships healthy with the ships should be easy.
Speaker 1: This isn't easy. It's not hard, but that has to
Speaker 1: be has You have to learn in the communicator, like
Speaker 1: you know, they communicate in ways they don't, you know,
Speaker 1: with their fingers not we're not. There's a lot of
Speaker 1: exchange here, there's a lot of practice. So people people
Speaker 1: will move together in a year later like you know,
Speaker 1: it's not fun anymore and she's a drag now or
Speaker 1: he's like you know, yea, and people will leave. Nobody's committing.
Speaker 1: So again, if we get to get back to what
Speaker 1: works right in business, talk to any business person, man
Speaker 1: or woman. The people who made have big success in
Speaker 1: business took a risk at one point, the bigger the risk,
Speaker 1: the biggest success of the biggest a failure, and they
Speaker 1: take some risk and they go, you know, I hope
Speaker 1: this works. If it doesn't, we're screwed, we're finished. Right
Speaker 1: because the people to succeed big they take a chance,
Speaker 1: all right, they take a calculated chance. Why is the
Speaker 1: eyes wide open and still well this? Yes, I understand relationships.
Speaker 1: They can't hurt you. What else you have to do
Speaker 1: all day? Right, come to me, Come to anybody like me.
Speaker 1: Just learn how that all works. Stop fighting at each
Speaker 1: other and start to stop to making it wrong, and
Speaker 1: for him, start making it wrong. Stop wanting the men
Speaker 1: to be like women women to be like men. That's
Speaker 1: not working. That kind of equality does not work. It
Speaker 1: destroys everything. Right going on learned I called a gender intelligence. Right,
Speaker 1: if you're a man and you want to be a
Speaker 1: worship with a woman, you want to build something with
Speaker 1: a woman, right, cross the bridge into woman world and
Speaker 1: go find out how women function and why. Right, there's
Speaker 1: a whole instinctive cave woman stuff in place that is
Speaker 1: still very much writing the show that we take beyond
Speaker 1: no no, you know, just all these programs are in there,
Speaker 1: so women say stuff like, I need so very little,
Speaker 1: why can't you give me with Well, men don't understand little.
Speaker 1: Men quantify everything. If it's not big, it's worthless. Do
Speaker 1: you mean it's so very little? So men don't know
Speaker 1: what you're saying. So I teach men to go go
Speaker 1: dumb ask Go find out what makes a woman tick
Speaker 1: and why what she needs is to feel connected and
Speaker 1: feel safe? Is that simple? And don't know this? Go
Speaker 1: learn your idiot? So I mean, but like the same thing.
Speaker 1: So that's what men who were intelligent go do. They
Speaker 1: go and find out how this soul works? Right, because
Speaker 1: they want to build something like I did. Right, I'm
Speaker 1: a pretty good role model. All my friends that and
Speaker 1: be like me, not because I seem to have everything
Speaker 1: I do. I have everything. I have everything. I'm the
Speaker 1: luckiest guy I know. And they go, how do you
Speaker 1: do this? Like this? Right? Step in shouting anyway and
Speaker 1: say with the ladies, right, you want to be a
Speaker 1: bishop with a man, Well, you can't make them wrong
Speaker 1: for breathing. You can't make him wrong for the way
Speaker 1: they do things. You don't understand it. I get it
Speaker 1: because our motivation is a completely different What motivation? What
Speaker 1: drives us is completely different. We're heady more than hardy,
Speaker 1: and to you so always a disconnects. Always it comfortable,
Speaker 1: but your femininity brings us back. Well there's a oh okay,
Speaker 1: that's some sure, right, go freaking learn right that what
Speaker 1: happened is when you both sort of have a sense
Speaker 1: of the other side, and so you can actually meet
Speaker 1: on the bridge and try doing this, because when you
Speaker 1: understand her a little bit more and understand what she
Speaker 1: needs at the base, and so does he. All of
Speaker 1: a sudden you're like, I think you could do this.
Speaker 1: I think instead of fighting and go, I think this
Speaker 1: is keive it a try. Does that not work for you? Really?
Speaker 1: You know when you do this is what happens to me.
Speaker 1: I don't like it, but this is okay, And you
Speaker 1: know you start negotiating the dance. You can on that bridge.
Speaker 1: You can learn to dance and it takes a little practice.
Speaker 1: What else do we have to do all day? If
Speaker 1: that makes a better life for all the statistics, what's
Speaker 1: the problem here? Well, yeah, you have to put it
Speaker 1: on the effort, that's it, right, Get committed to take
Speaker 1: a risk. Anybody who gets anything valuable in life takes
Speaker 1: a risk. Well, this has been so lightning. I feel
Speaker 1: like you have so much to share and if anyone
Speaker 1: is looking for a relationship coach to kind of like
Speaker 1: dive into the natural roles of men and women and
Speaker 1: working together and learning how to like it seems like
Speaker 1: step into our full potential. Um, you have a lot
Speaker 1: of information and it's been so awesome to get to
Speaker 1: get inside of your brains. So it's actually I do
Speaker 1: it everything freaking week right. My my clients come from
Speaker 1: go from one to the other other side and basically
Speaker 1: live the dream life. By the way, also, I'm an
Speaker 1: ordained minister, so some of my clients, I'm marry myself.
Speaker 1: I mean that's some stuff, right, Like this is to me.
Speaker 1: That's the success, right, that's the honor of that. You know.
Speaker 1: They have one couple that just got married in Delaware
Speaker 1: two weeks ago. Um, two ladies got engaged in the
Speaker 1: same month. But the second couple, I'm flying to Texas
Speaker 1: next jun to marry them. I have another couple in Vegas,
Speaker 1: um in March. I mean that's to be like from
Speaker 1: not knowing to knowing, right, it is doable. There is
Speaker 1: hope Again, if you go back to basis basics with adjustments.
Speaker 1: He wants their needs personally, both of you negotiate all
Speaker 1: that stuff. You can have everything, and so andre parody.
Speaker 1: You can make the love. You can help people start
Speaker 1: out their love life. You can do it. If anyone
Speaker 1: can do it, you're saying you're the one. You can
Speaker 1: do it. Nobody's too tough for you. You can anybody.
Speaker 1: You can handle anybody. You have to be. You have
Speaker 1: to want it. That's all I need, right, I have
Speaker 1: to want it. If if you know, if you know,
Speaker 1: if you're not coachable, you're not coachable, and then nobody's
Speaker 1: gonna be able to help you. But by the time
Speaker 1: people get to me, men and women right desperate, they well,
Speaker 1: they they're watching they're stuck. They're actually really getting the
Speaker 1: fact that they're realizing is they're stuck. And now they're
Speaker 1: afraid to be stuck permanently. They want they need help,
Speaker 1: They want out, they don't know how. And again to me,
Speaker 1: it's it's always it's not knowing that's dangerous. Not you know,
Speaker 1: just we don't know that. You don't know that is
Speaker 1: messing you up at all. So when you learn this stuff,
Speaker 1: you practice the stuff, you go wow, Wow, clicklickly and
Speaker 1: it connects me quickly. It takes you know, it takes
Speaker 1: a little bit of stedious in the beginning, but within
Speaker 1: like two and a half months, three months, you got it. Boom,
Speaker 1: they're there. It's delutely different. Andre group coaching dot Com. Yes,
Speaker 1: if you guys are interested, go check this out. Go
Speaker 1: check out Andre, and hey, maybe transform your love life.
Speaker 1: I love this. That's amazing. I appreciate you so much
Speaker 1: for joining me today and this was so insightful. I
Speaker 1: love I love your questions. I love you drilling into me.
Speaker 1: I love the how the hell that flip it over? Man?
Speaker 1: Like you like you're you're not you know, listening to me?
Speaker 1: Like what's the word you? You challenge me? Right? And
Speaker 1: I guess I could back all of it up. We
Speaker 1: could do this all day long. You could throw any
Speaker 1: questions at me. I will bring it back to how
Speaker 1: this all actually organically works. The biggest problem for the
Speaker 1: women is that they know men. Men are very, very
Speaker 1: reacting to women. Men respond to you like you would
Speaker 1: not believe that. You don't believe it because you don't
Speaker 1: see are responding. We look kind of shallow and disconnected
Speaker 1: often right, not present while masking in is in their head.
Speaker 1: So yeah, we're often disconnected. But it's when you bring
Speaker 1: us down here then you get the best of us.
Speaker 1: But you like us the most, but we need you
Speaker 1: to get us here. M hm. So and men can't
Speaker 1: explain that. That's really the problem. Like you what you
Speaker 1: the effect you have on us and everything you want
Speaker 1: from us is right there, but men can't explain ship.
Speaker 1: They can't explain it. It's just fun. So when I
Speaker 1: explained to you how that works, right, and you use
Speaker 1: this instinct to show up, pull up, provide, protect, give
Speaker 1: you get everything you want and just just understanding. We
Speaker 1: just have to learn men are from what that Men
Speaker 1: are from Venus, women are from Mars, or men from
Speaker 1: Mars from Venus is pretty accurate because again this is
Speaker 1: that's a perfect sort of ah, that's a perfect way
Speaker 1: of put it, because we're not equal, that's what he's saying.
Speaker 1: We're both from the different planets, you know. And literally
Speaker 1: it's like you have to learn how they work on
Speaker 1: that planet, you know, in order to understand how to
Speaker 1: get it together. I mean, he has it right very much.
Speaker 1: So that way, we're not a little bit different, were
Speaker 1: extremely different. Yeah, it's like dealing with a porky pine
Speaker 1: and banana. It's just like two separate things. You got
Speaker 1: to learn how to handle both of them. But give
Speaker 1: this is the way I said. Anybody, this is a
Speaker 1: little bit crass, go along, but I go. We're as
Speaker 1: equalis or genitals, not at all completing opposition made to fit. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you understand this is we're made to fit. We're in
Speaker 1: opposition in every way in our character, will mote. Everything
Speaker 1: about us is an opposition made to fit to complement
Speaker 1: each other. So you're trying to teach people how to
Speaker 1: get into the dance, so we can't all feel like
Speaker 1: we are absolutely maximizing our full potential of who we are,
Speaker 1: what we came here to be, and then actually have
Speaker 1: a great, sustainable, loving relationship. Okay, Andrea parody. I have
Speaker 1: loved this conversation. Thank you so much for joining me.
Speaker 1: Everyone check them out if you're interested in Andrea group
Speaker 1: coaching dot com and go explore this. This is awesome.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for joining me. They're very welcome.
Speaker 1: Thank you for helping me spread that out. Appreciate it.