WEBVTT - ANDRE PARADIS: Relationship dynamics coach talks the roles of femininity and masculinity in nature. 0:00:09.320 --> 0:00:16.919 Carol, she's a queen and talking song. She's getting not 0:00:17.040 --> 0:00:20.880 afraid of things, so just let the flu. No one 0:00:20.960 --> 0:00:29.880 can requy Carol Lear is care lear? Okay, ladies especially 0:00:29.960 --> 0:00:33.800 And then but I am really excited for the ladies 0:00:33.920 --> 0:00:40.800 to have this conversation because I have andre parodies. How 0:00:40.960 --> 0:00:46.080 is it going? You are the freaking love expert, Like 0:00:46.159 --> 0:00:50.720 you actually are a love expert. You are an educator, 0:00:50.800 --> 0:00:54.200 You're a coach, You're an artist. You have so many titles. 0:00:54.200 --> 0:00:58.120 You're an ordained minister. One one that I'm really excited 0:00:58.160 --> 0:01:01.360 about is an nlp CO church I have never heard 0:01:01.400 --> 0:01:04.240 of before. But like, you know how to answer all 0:01:04.280 --> 0:01:08.240 of the big questions that women in particular have about men, 0:01:08.480 --> 0:01:12.039 because sometimes we're like what is going on? Like why 0:01:12.120 --> 0:01:14.560 is this guy not committing to me? Or why do 0:01:14.600 --> 0:01:18.000 I feel like my relationship isn't equal? Or you know, 0:01:18.080 --> 0:01:20.440 it's just like why to manly? And then you talk 0:01:20.480 --> 0:01:24.120 about the hook up culture and why equality kills intimacy. 0:01:24.160 --> 0:01:27.399 I mean, you pill are some serious topics here. I do, 0:01:27.480 --> 0:01:28.880 but I mean those are the things that are coming 0:01:28.920 --> 0:01:30.920 at me every day I do. This is not this 0:01:30.959 --> 0:01:32.080 is what I do for a living. This is not 0:01:32.120 --> 0:01:33.760 a hobby. This is not cute. This is what I 0:01:33.800 --> 0:01:35.520 do for a living. I'll be sitting in this chair 0:01:35.640 --> 0:01:38.959 till eight o'clock to night, like this is how wild 0:01:38.959 --> 0:01:40.320 it is. Right by the way, it's eight o'clock in 0:01:40.360 --> 0:01:44.800 the morning. So ah, so these are the things coming 0:01:45.440 --> 0:01:49.200 at me with confusion. By the way, men are justice confused. 0:01:49.280 --> 0:01:51.080 What the hell is going on out there is whether 0:01:51.120 --> 0:01:53.720 us it were the women. They're all chicks and their 0:01:53.960 --> 0:01:59.120 dudes with skirts and there condescending and and crass, and 0:01:59.320 --> 0:02:01.960 you know, men are like, why don't what the you 0:02:02.000 --> 0:02:04.320 know happen to women? And women are thinking the same thing. 0:02:04.400 --> 0:02:06.640 So and it's all part of it because you're saying, 0:02:06.680 --> 0:02:10.120 like women are very much like stepping into their masculine role. 0:02:10.240 --> 0:02:12.239 So I guess it's like because when you're saying dudes 0:02:12.280 --> 0:02:14.840 of skirts, you're saying women are acting like men. But 0:02:15.080 --> 0:02:17.240 I guess that is the question that we're having right now, 0:02:17.360 --> 0:02:19.400 is because we are coming into this day and age 0:02:19.440 --> 0:02:21.760 where women are trying to like claim our power, we're 0:02:21.760 --> 0:02:24.520 trying to step into our full self and so I 0:02:24.560 --> 0:02:27.040 guess it's just like figuring out that balance where it's 0:02:27.040 --> 0:02:29.200 like men can still be men and women can still 0:02:29.240 --> 0:02:33.320 be women, but we can each hold our power and 0:02:33.440 --> 0:02:35.680 like be respected for it. But it's just like confusing 0:02:35.720 --> 0:02:38.880 to figure it out, to navigate this. Well, it's not 0:02:38.960 --> 0:02:41.800 as not as confusing. Is that we're over calibrated on 0:02:41.919 --> 0:02:44.320 both sides because of the culture and the belief in 0:02:44.360 --> 0:02:47.400 the culture and the pulse where you know, it's so 0:02:47.639 --> 0:02:50.560 I mean, it's to me, it's rather silly, honestly, you know, 0:02:50.600 --> 0:02:53.400 to try to neutralize the energy between men and women, 0:02:53.840 --> 0:02:57.320 you know, is ridiculous, and it's why everybody's struggling and 0:02:57.320 --> 0:03:00.640 not knowing what's happening. Because everything in nature again, everything 0:03:00.680 --> 0:03:03.240 that teaches nature in science. It's not my opinion. Don't 0:03:03.320 --> 0:03:05.760 have professional opinion because that's what I do. But it's 0:03:05.800 --> 0:03:08.000 not really me saying you should do this. Is this 0:03:08.160 --> 0:03:11.880 really the one works? One doesn't work? And what we 0:03:11.960 --> 0:03:15.520 believe now that's more fair like the Actually the idea 0:03:15.560 --> 0:03:20.720 of equality does not work. It works. Equality does not work, No, 0:03:20.840 --> 0:03:23.440 not in love dynamics. It works for money, it works 0:03:23.480 --> 0:03:25.840 for business, but if you're gonna come in the love dynamic, 0:03:25.919 --> 0:03:29.640 it does not work. Everything in nature is polarized, right, 0:03:29.680 --> 0:03:33.400 Everything nature is polarized. Everything that grows, flourishes. Works in 0:03:33.520 --> 0:03:36.800 nature is polarized. Is a there's a plus and of minus. 0:03:36.960 --> 0:03:39.440 There's a yang, there's a yang, there's a masculine feminine. 0:03:39.600 --> 0:03:43.040 Everything is magnetized this way. That's that's where the energy 0:03:43.080 --> 0:03:47.600 of everything comes together. This there's no energy. This flattens out. 0:03:47.760 --> 0:03:52.040 This is like you know, the heartbeat that this did. 0:03:54.080 --> 0:03:56.840 There's nothing going on here. When you're saying everything is 0:03:56.880 --> 0:03:58.800 just in a straight line, equal and when it's not 0:03:59.120 --> 0:04:02.600 just like flatline, right, So what's happening that kills? That's 0:04:02.640 --> 0:04:06.640 not nature. That's not how nature works. And every species 0:04:06.640 --> 0:04:10.120 of nature, the male and the female act completely different 0:04:10.600 --> 0:04:13.200 because they're made again to fit together, come together to 0:04:13.280 --> 0:04:16.760 procreate and continued species. We think we're better than that somehow, 0:04:16.839 --> 0:04:21.400 but that's where we actually derail completely only trying to 0:04:21.400 --> 0:04:25.080 step away from nature. Okay, yeah, we're straight. We go 0:04:25.120 --> 0:04:28.040 against nature thinking, you know, we're smarter, and nature goes 0:04:29.000 --> 0:04:32.120 in your face, you know, in your face. So there's 0:04:32.160 --> 0:04:34.640 nothing wrong with women being strongly depend on the powerful. 0:04:35.400 --> 0:04:38.479 But if you over calibrate yourself in that, you know, 0:04:38.560 --> 0:04:40.120 and again, in our culture, we teach you to be 0:04:40.120 --> 0:04:42.520 this the mom when you're you go to school in kindergarten, 0:04:42.640 --> 0:04:44.320 we're going to be when you grew up. Well, we 0:04:44.400 --> 0:04:46.279 used to raison man that way. Now we're reason meant 0:04:46.279 --> 0:04:49.200 to be sweet, scented, a sensitive, vulnerable, you know, act 0:04:49.240 --> 0:04:52.560 like a girl. Does it work right? So? So where 0:04:52.680 --> 0:04:55.160 is that far? It's too far on both sides. That's 0:04:55.160 --> 0:04:59.400 destroyed everything. It's a sweet spot. Yeah, I can totally 0:04:59.440 --> 0:05:02.520 relate to you about like the extremities of everything. It 0:05:02.600 --> 0:05:05.400 feels so like it was everything in life, Like anything 0:05:05.440 --> 0:05:08.120 an extreme feels too much for me personally. I've always 0:05:08.120 --> 0:05:11.279 been a moderate person. But where do we do where? 0:05:11.360 --> 0:05:14.839 Because how do we navigate? Because it has been out 0:05:14.839 --> 0:05:17.080 of balance? I feel a little bit like women haven't 0:05:17.160 --> 0:05:21.200 had the full opportunity to express themselves. So where do 0:05:21.360 --> 0:05:22.960 we come into. And I don't want to make this 0:05:23.000 --> 0:05:25.200 like a feminist thing because I know that I'm not. 0:05:25.320 --> 0:05:27.360 I'm not like a diehard feminist. I am just all 0:05:27.360 --> 0:05:30.359 about like everyone having the opportunity to fully express yourself. 0:05:30.400 --> 0:05:32.719 And I don't know if that is feminism or what, 0:05:32.800 --> 0:05:34.839 but like I think everyone has a voice and should 0:05:34.839 --> 0:05:38.640 be heard and you know, respected for it. So how 0:05:38.720 --> 0:05:42.000 do we navigate these roles, these gender roles and then 0:05:42.040 --> 0:05:47.000 how do we understand how to optimize our relationship and 0:05:47.080 --> 0:05:51.240 still feel like we're honoring ourselves absolutely Again, this is 0:05:51.440 --> 0:05:54.440 called a sweet spot. Is a sweet spot of you know, 0:05:55.040 --> 0:05:58.160 of extreme extremism and kind of thing is said, why 0:05:58.200 --> 0:06:00.880 you said there, what's happening is this movement came in 0:06:01.080 --> 0:06:06.480 for to give women choices. Right now we could use 0:06:06.800 --> 0:06:09.359 we can have a whole conversation about the patriarchy, and 0:06:09.480 --> 0:06:11.920 we need the source of it and how that works. Right, 0:06:11.960 --> 0:06:15.520 that is actually opposite of what we believe. Again, So 0:06:15.600 --> 0:06:19.480 what's happened is that in any system, when one has 0:06:19.680 --> 0:06:23.520 appears appears have more power than the other, there's an injustice. 0:06:24.160 --> 0:06:25.840 And so what happened is the one that the one 0:06:25.880 --> 0:06:30.000 who has less power is always trying to gain power. Right, parent, child, 0:06:30.600 --> 0:06:32.840 perfect perfect system. Right, the kids always trying to get 0:06:32.839 --> 0:06:36.080 around mom and as rules. That's the full time job. Teachers, 0:06:36.120 --> 0:06:38.839 student a right, try to get around the teacher. The 0:06:38.839 --> 0:06:41.040 moment is a power and his power issues everywhere, by 0:06:41.040 --> 0:06:46.200 the way, right, um men and women. Right, employer, employee, Right, 0:06:46.480 --> 0:06:49.520 the employee. The employer apparently has you know, life figured out. 0:06:49.560 --> 0:06:51.400 The employees are trying to rich rip them off get 0:06:51.400 --> 0:06:53.240 her head school at the time, you know what I mean. 0:06:53.279 --> 0:06:57.520 So the power struggle is where things seem unfair even 0:06:57.560 --> 0:07:01.480 though it's completely normal. All the boss does have the 0:07:01.560 --> 0:07:03.400 damn power. He's got his ass on the line in 0:07:03.440 --> 0:07:06.240 every way to keep the company going, you know what 0:07:06.320 --> 0:07:09.720 I mean, Teachers, somebody's gotta drive, right, But we we 0:07:09.760 --> 0:07:13.720 are so that victim idea, that the person with less 0:07:13.720 --> 0:07:17.880 power is a victim. That's all we calibrating our culture. Right, 0:07:18.120 --> 0:07:22.160 Are women really victim of men? Right? Because the patriarchy, 0:07:22.200 --> 0:07:23.840 I'm gonna take it right to the source. People get 0:07:23.840 --> 0:07:27.200 to get triggered. I don't care, right, The true basis 0:07:27.200 --> 0:07:31.720 of patriarchy is men holding holding themselves accountable for the 0:07:31.760 --> 0:07:35.800 perspection at the provision of women and children. Right, The 0:07:35.800 --> 0:07:38.480 whole idea of men off. You know, men will stay 0:07:38.520 --> 0:07:42.600 on the boat, women and children first, Right, that's a patriarchy. 0:07:42.720 --> 0:07:47.440 Men will die, you know because women create life. Right, 0:07:47.480 --> 0:07:49.920 So you're actually more valuable than we are. We will 0:07:50.000 --> 0:07:52.200 we will die for you. This is at the source. 0:07:52.240 --> 0:07:55.720 So patriarchy is not men crushing women, even though that's happened. 0:07:56.360 --> 0:08:00.200 The base of it is this is men really killing themselves, right, 0:08:00.240 --> 0:08:03.560 to protect and provide for women. So now we believe 0:08:03.640 --> 0:08:06.040 that for millennia, men have been in front of women, 0:08:06.160 --> 0:08:09.680 crushing them right in front of them. Right, it's a 0:08:09.720 --> 0:08:14.160 women are behind. Okay, that's over calibrated in my book. 0:08:14.280 --> 0:08:18.000 So now we teach women out of vengeance even that 0:08:18.200 --> 0:08:19.640 you step, you have to step in front of man, 0:08:20.320 --> 0:08:23.120 like forget man. Men have fold been privileged this whole time, right, 0:08:23.120 --> 0:08:24.760 they need to get behind you because you need to 0:08:25.120 --> 0:08:28.800 you know, make the whole thing even again. Now women 0:08:28.840 --> 0:08:31.160 are smaller and weaker, that's why men are there to 0:08:31.200 --> 0:08:34.560 protect them like physically. Again Nature, so, but the idea 0:08:34.559 --> 0:08:36.880 of we're going to step in front of man, that's 0:08:37.240 --> 0:08:39.920 the same problem. It's the same injustice. It's ridiculous. It 0:08:39.960 --> 0:08:43.040 doesn't work exhaust women. It makes men go what the 0:08:43.080 --> 0:08:46.760 hell right, and it makes them men on hook from women. 0:08:46.840 --> 0:08:50.440 They don't want to be man handled by women. But again, 0:08:50.440 --> 0:08:52.160 if you're gonna say a girl, you're getting in front 0:08:52.200 --> 0:08:55.559 of him because screw him. They've been screwing us from millennia. 0:08:56.360 --> 0:08:59.280 So that's not it. So what nature calls is this, really, 0:08:59.440 --> 0:09:01.720 it's not man in front, it's not women in front. 0:09:01.840 --> 0:09:06.680 Is side by side partners you and me together under 0:09:06.679 --> 0:09:10.000 my right arm. You know what I mean, Like, look 0:09:10.040 --> 0:09:12.080 at but look behind me. This is my wife and 0:09:12.120 --> 0:09:17.239 I ball and dancing. I love that, right, That is partnership. 0:09:17.880 --> 0:09:21.079 There's no there's no in front of behind here, you 0:09:21.160 --> 0:09:23.240 know what I mean. And that's really what the relationship 0:09:23.320 --> 0:09:25.840 are the metaphor for dancing or if it's just incredible, 0:09:25.920 --> 0:09:30.480 it's together, it's her part, my part together. We were 0:09:30.520 --> 0:09:33.200 two different entities will come together to create something called 0:09:33.600 --> 0:09:37.679 what relationship. So there's no power struggle in this. This 0:09:38.000 --> 0:09:41.520 complementary is working together. And by the way, again the 0:09:41.600 --> 0:09:44.760 metaphors incredible. If you've ever seen the ballom couple light 0:09:44.840 --> 0:09:49.000 across the dance floor, it's insanely beautiful. It's just and 0:09:49.080 --> 0:09:52.199 you wo's almost magical. Right, Well, you know much training 0:09:52.280 --> 0:09:56.520 when that you're a much practicing because again, like men 0:09:56.559 --> 0:09:59.480 and women were so opposite right in the beginning, and 0:09:59.679 --> 0:10:01.200 you know, get on the dance store, you step up 0:10:01.240 --> 0:10:04.040 on each other's toes and you miscommunicate and you get 0:10:04.080 --> 0:10:06.240 the elbow to the face. Have been there or they 0:10:06.280 --> 0:10:09.080 needed to groin? Been there? Right? Because if she's trying 0:10:09.080 --> 0:10:11.640 to help me when I'm trying to drive. We we 0:10:12.080 --> 0:10:16.040 collide and were now we have a collision, right, So 0:10:16.800 --> 0:10:20.800 that's the dance. Not so culturally, we are sold women 0:10:20.840 --> 0:10:24.280 to slemon that the more badass powerful get in front 0:10:24.320 --> 0:10:26.960 of men leaving behind. It's just your fair share that 0:10:27.000 --> 0:10:30.640 you're getting finally, after your grandmother and your mother and 0:10:30.640 --> 0:10:32.880 everybody before you. Now you're just going to make it 0:10:32.960 --> 0:10:35.959 up to them. Well, here's a little statistic that will 0:10:35.960 --> 0:10:40.960 blow your mind. Women now, for the past almost twenty years, 0:10:40.960 --> 0:10:45.040 just as it came up, came out. Women now in 0:10:45.040 --> 0:10:50.560 this culture are more unhappy women in the all women 0:10:50.600 --> 0:10:55.400 before in the recorded history. Women more unhappy now than 0:10:55.480 --> 0:11:00.520 ever in history. So okay, so why and I want why? Okay, why? 0:11:00.559 --> 0:11:04.080 Here's the big why? Again? Against nature to be masking in, 0:11:04.160 --> 0:11:06.800 to push, to fight, to compete the conquer like a man. 0:11:07.800 --> 0:11:10.400 We'll burn you out right. It makes you matt Masking 0:11:10.480 --> 0:11:12.600 in turns the men off. Men don't want anything to 0:11:12.600 --> 0:11:14.120 do with that. I'm gonna say this, here we go. 0:11:14.679 --> 0:11:17.400 This is gonna hurt. I'm sorry, but when you're in 0:11:17.400 --> 0:11:23.280 your masking in, you're irritating the man, so they don't 0:11:23.320 --> 0:11:25.440 want to be around you. And I I cannot I 0:11:25.480 --> 0:11:27.800 can see that. I can see how and I can 0:11:27.840 --> 0:11:30.680 see that just from like life and culture, like observing 0:11:30.679 --> 0:11:34.280 it from my own life. But where is You talk 0:11:34.360 --> 0:11:36.760 a lot about the sweet spot, and I totally I 0:11:36.840 --> 0:11:38.840 love to find the sweet spots in life because I 0:11:38.880 --> 0:11:43.520 think there always is the sweet spots. So obviously what 0:11:43.600 --> 0:11:46.319 you were kind of describing with the patriarch, it started 0:11:46.360 --> 0:11:48.360 where the men were in front of the women to 0:11:48.480 --> 0:11:51.720 protect them, to save them for survival, and then we 0:11:51.800 --> 0:11:55.160 continued on and just like we're operating out of the 0:11:55.200 --> 0:11:57.400 survival mode. But then we grew up. We've grown into 0:11:57.400 --> 0:12:00.280 a culture. We've grown into like world has advanced, Like 0:12:00.559 --> 0:12:02.440 you know, we're not trying to run away from a 0:12:02.440 --> 0:12:04.760 saber tooth tiger anymore. You know. It's like we don't 0:12:04.800 --> 0:12:06.760 need the man to like throw his life in front 0:12:06.800 --> 0:12:08.960 of us. I mean sometimes yes, but like you know, 0:12:09.000 --> 0:12:11.600 on the daily, we feel safe enough that we don't 0:12:11.679 --> 0:12:14.480 need to like fight for our survival in the wild 0:12:14.640 --> 0:12:18.880 every day, do you I mean I do. Maybe maybe 0:12:18.920 --> 0:12:22.280 we shouldn't, but we we forget how still cave men, 0:12:22.360 --> 0:12:24.480 cave women we are. Because I'm gonna say this, so 0:12:27.679 --> 0:12:30.800 men don't run to the car when it's dark men. 0:12:30.880 --> 0:12:34.200 I'm afraid of parking lots, elevators and staircases. You are, 0:12:34.679 --> 0:12:37.480 so you have a sense of like weakness. So being 0:12:37.480 --> 0:12:39.719 smaller and weaker and in danger all the time, you're 0:12:39.760 --> 0:12:42.920 never you're never not aware of your physical safety. But 0:12:43.000 --> 0:12:45.560 you know what I'm scared of, I'm scared of men 0:12:45.920 --> 0:12:51.959 like trying to take advantage of right now, you're a 0:12:51.960 --> 0:12:54.640 product of our culture and best again, it's nature, right, 0:12:54.679 --> 0:12:58.160 women are always been afraid of man because because that 0:12:58.240 --> 0:13:01.240 men can protect you and men can hurt you, exactly right. 0:13:01.280 --> 0:13:03.360 So that's again that power thing, right, So you have 0:13:03.400 --> 0:13:05.679 to have a certain awareness of that. But you're not 0:13:05.800 --> 0:13:08.120 without it. You know, it's not like saber tooth. It's 0:13:08.160 --> 0:13:10.280 not savor tooth. You know, a woman in the woods 0:13:10.320 --> 0:13:13.360 back in those days, cable woman in the woods is dead. 0:13:14.080 --> 0:13:16.199 The bear is gonna eat her, or they'll sable or 0:13:16.280 --> 0:13:18.640 she's gonna get you know, kidnapped by the next tribe 0:13:19.200 --> 0:13:23.280 and violated and raped and all. So women know, you know, 0:13:23.360 --> 0:13:27.040 the senior senior d NA like you have that sort 0:13:27.080 --> 0:13:30.200 of you know, you're small and weaker, right, and so 0:13:30.440 --> 0:13:34.240 how do you protect yourself girlfriends, people around you? You 0:13:34.320 --> 0:13:37.079 never you know, the never the connection and communities what 0:13:37.240 --> 0:13:39.120 you need to feel safe because if there's not a 0:13:39.160 --> 0:13:41.120 big man strap next to you, who is going to 0:13:41.960 --> 0:13:45.520 protect you instinctively just by the size of him, that 0:13:45.679 --> 0:13:48.800 you need for outlets. So you know, you gotta You know, 0:13:49.000 --> 0:13:51.120 a lot of women in our culture, now this is funny. 0:13:51.480 --> 0:13:53.760 You know they're afraid of man because men could be 0:13:53.800 --> 0:13:56.160 toxic and dangerous. Well, by the way, my in my 0:13:56.280 --> 0:14:00.400 world is three types of man. Okay, there's man, there's guys, 0:14:00.600 --> 0:14:03.920 and there's boys, the ones who are dangerous or the boys. 0:14:05.160 --> 0:14:07.760 The boys are dangerous. The boys are the ones who 0:14:08.040 --> 0:14:09.679 have new integrity to the boys are the ones who 0:14:09.720 --> 0:14:11.560 don't know who they are. They're they're emotional. They're the 0:14:11.559 --> 0:14:16.040 weak ones who are so insecure that they they have 0:14:16.200 --> 0:14:20.360 so no power. They're so useless. Is what I want 0:14:20.360 --> 0:14:24.000 to use that because it's the sastone and their body 0:14:24.040 --> 0:14:26.240 is still they need to control something and what do 0:14:26.280 --> 0:14:29.120 they control women? And god forbid, if they have children, 0:14:29.160 --> 0:14:32.400 they control their children, beat them. Those are the toxic one. 0:14:32.400 --> 0:14:34.440 Those are the dangerous one. Man. Real men don't do 0:14:34.520 --> 0:14:38.240 this at all. So again, it's what you compare, right, 0:14:38.280 --> 0:14:41.280 Like you're afraid of man. Well, no, you're afraid of boys. Yeah. 0:14:42.400 --> 0:14:44.240 By the way, by the way, man will protect you 0:14:44.320 --> 0:14:48.400 from boys. Right again, back to patriarchy, like really so, 0:14:48.520 --> 0:14:51.880 but if you are masculine women, you only again, polarity 0:14:51.880 --> 0:14:54.600 will have you. If you're masking in, you only attract boys, 0:14:55.080 --> 0:14:57.720 and you think that's man. And of course those are ones. 0:14:57.800 --> 0:15:01.000 Those are the ones who cheat. Lot. Why if you're 0:15:01.480 --> 0:15:04.200 if you're in masculine energy as a woman, will you 0:15:04.240 --> 0:15:10.560 only attract boys? Nature yang positive negative feminine attracts masculine 0:15:10.560 --> 0:15:13.400 attraction that feminine. So if you're more masculine than a man, 0:15:13.800 --> 0:15:17.880 you will attract naturally boys and then you think that's man, 0:15:18.000 --> 0:15:20.160 and there's those are the fuckers. Excuse my friends, but 0:15:20.160 --> 0:15:23.880 those are guys who cheat lies. Can you know con 0:15:24.080 --> 0:15:27.160 Every guy in jail is a bitch with a penis. 0:15:28.360 --> 0:15:32.240 They're not man. They're insecured at boys, and they try 0:15:32.280 --> 0:15:35.760 to intimidate with fear because they're so freaking scare themselves. 0:15:35.760 --> 0:15:38.920 They don't know who they are. That's not man. Men 0:15:38.960 --> 0:15:42.960 protect you from these guys. So if we're talking about 0:15:43.440 --> 0:15:46.760 coming into our highest self entering, as you're saying, the 0:15:46.800 --> 0:15:50.400 ballroom dance where we are working together, where we are 0:15:50.800 --> 0:15:55.000 both stumping into our full power in our own ways, 0:15:55.080 --> 0:15:57.720 the feminine and the masculine. Well, what is it? How 0:15:57.720 --> 0:16:00.280 does that look like? What is the strength that you 0:16:00.360 --> 0:16:03.360 call out on women? If it's not the masculine energy, 0:16:03.440 --> 0:16:06.040 then what is it that women? What is the power 0:16:06.040 --> 0:16:08.600 that we step into where we can hold a room 0:16:08.720 --> 0:16:14.640 and hold you know, hold hold this attention from men 0:16:14.760 --> 0:16:17.120 and women? What is because we have something to offer, 0:16:17.200 --> 0:16:20.240 we're respected? What is that called? What are you if 0:16:20.520 --> 0:16:24.760 your femininity still drive the show? Your feminine again? You've 0:16:24.760 --> 0:16:27.400 been sold a lemon by the culture. Your femininity is 0:16:27.440 --> 0:16:30.520 the most powerful thing you have in your own and 0:16:31.800 --> 0:16:35.480 it opens all the doors, It makes everything everything. It 0:16:35.520 --> 0:16:40.600 magnetizes everyone your way, men, women, children, dogs, animals, Right like, 0:16:40.840 --> 0:16:45.560 your feminine glow is a magnet. And when women understand 0:16:45.560 --> 0:16:48.800 to use that energy instead of their balls, right we're 0:16:48.800 --> 0:16:50.320 doing in our culture right now? You keep throwing your 0:16:50.360 --> 0:16:53.280 balls in everyone's face, and you wonder why men don't 0:16:53.280 --> 0:16:55.200 stick around and get your balls on it. My face, 0:16:55.760 --> 0:16:58.520 Your ball's a fake minor real. So how do you 0:16:58.760 --> 0:17:01.720 what is feminine energy? You? What does that look like? Feminine? 0:17:02.000 --> 0:17:06.440 Think of a man or like everything masking in exact 0:17:06.480 --> 0:17:10.520 opposite do I mean an exact opposite. So men, you know, 0:17:10.560 --> 0:17:13.919 to be masculist, to conquer, compete, push, fight, penetrate, you know, 0:17:14.160 --> 0:17:18.719 just attack right, go for it, just literally push your 0:17:18.720 --> 0:17:23.800 way through. To be feminist, to be open, receptive, vulnerable, right, 0:17:23.880 --> 0:17:27.560 magnetic radiance, it's exact opposite. So all the qualities that 0:17:27.600 --> 0:17:31.440 actually attract man to protect you. But if you're gonna 0:17:31.480 --> 0:17:34.680 stay in man mode, man walk away, you actually get 0:17:34.680 --> 0:17:37.640 this when you and your masking in you become invisible 0:17:38.040 --> 0:17:41.239 to masculine men invisibly. They already feel like they are 0:17:41.280 --> 0:17:44.120 the masculine. They don't want to be with the masculine. 0:17:44.240 --> 0:17:47.280 So my my question is, obviously we're out of balance 0:17:47.400 --> 0:17:50.320 in our culture right now, like it's it's out of balance, 0:17:50.320 --> 0:17:54.480 like out of whack. So I feel and I feel 0:17:54.480 --> 0:17:55.919 like you would probably agree with me. I feel like 0:17:55.960 --> 0:17:59.800 we need more feminine energy and leadership roles. So how 0:18:00.000 --> 0:18:04.720 all because it has been so like conquer and survive 0:18:04.840 --> 0:18:07.160 and fight and kill or be killed and protected all 0:18:07.200 --> 0:18:09.800 that which it was at when there was a time 0:18:09.800 --> 0:18:11.960 when that was needed and it still is needed. Is 0:18:11.960 --> 0:18:15.520 it definitely a great part of nature it's there for 0:18:15.560 --> 0:18:18.119 a reason. But how do we now evolve as a 0:18:18.160 --> 0:18:23.680 culture where we have more feminine energy at the helm 0:18:24.040 --> 0:18:27.119 of our society, so we're not just tearing each other 0:18:27.119 --> 0:18:29.960 apart all the time and only leading with like our differences, 0:18:29.960 --> 0:18:32.200 but instead, like you said, because women bring things together, 0:18:32.240 --> 0:18:36.520 we're nurturing, we have more openness. How does that inner 0:18:36.560 --> 0:18:40.399 into society more like, it's just to embrace that to 0:18:40.440 --> 0:18:44.199 actually understand it. You know, most most women in our 0:18:44.240 --> 0:18:46.800 culture don't understand that they're fighting with men. They're they're 0:18:46.800 --> 0:18:50.359 trying to get some some power bag. But this masculine 0:18:50.359 --> 0:18:52.840 power and it doesn't work. It it wipes them out, 0:18:52.880 --> 0:18:56.159 It kills them, It overwhelms them. Right, is to not 0:18:56.600 --> 0:18:59.800 get this You're not actually physically built for that. You 0:19:00.000 --> 0:19:04.439 don't have the testosterone to sustain conquering, pushing, competing. You 0:19:04.480 --> 0:19:06.960 know in the world like us, you're just not. So 0:19:07.640 --> 0:19:10.000 we now call this a vity. This is gonna trigger 0:19:10.040 --> 0:19:13.800 people again. But hey again, I'm teaching nature women in 0:19:13.920 --> 0:19:19.080 conquer mode, man mode, push mode, compete mode for twenty 0:19:19.119 --> 0:19:23.280 plus years. We now call this cancer training for women. 0:19:24.200 --> 0:19:27.000 Why because you don't have the testosterone to do this, 0:19:27.080 --> 0:19:29.400 So every time you compete in push and fight, right, 0:19:29.760 --> 0:19:33.320 it's your adrenaline glance that are escorting adrenaline and your 0:19:33.359 --> 0:19:37.239 blood that's a fight and flight response, right, like you're 0:19:37.240 --> 0:19:39.919 being attacked by a type of tooth or whatever. And 0:19:39.960 --> 0:19:42.320 now we know that adrenaline and your blood streams for 0:19:42.359 --> 0:19:45.879 twenty plus years actually burns all your organs. So women 0:19:45.920 --> 0:19:49.920 are opening up to cancer by living that stressful, god 0:19:49.960 --> 0:19:53.560 girl lifestyle. You're not built for that. So what happens 0:19:53.560 --> 0:19:55.880 when you want to be a lawyer as a woman, 0:19:55.920 --> 0:19:57.560 and you want to be a top lawyer and it's 0:19:57.560 --> 0:19:59.639 still a man's world at a lawyer firm. It's like, 0:20:00.320 --> 0:20:04.200 I mean, I I think that you know, there's a 0:20:04.200 --> 0:20:07.119 women need to step into those roles, and like I 0:20:07.680 --> 0:20:10.119 think that there it needs to be more feminine in 0:20:10.160 --> 0:20:12.960 these kind of situations. So what about that, Like, how 0:20:13.040 --> 0:20:15.720 does a woman compete when she's forced to compete as 0:20:15.720 --> 0:20:18.600 a man in the way that that the whole culture 0:20:18.720 --> 0:20:21.240 set up. I'm not sure that you're forced to do anything, 0:20:21.280 --> 0:20:23.520 That's what I'm saying. You have a choice. You decide 0:20:23.560 --> 0:20:25.959 to become a lawyer. You know, you've decided to become 0:20:26.680 --> 0:20:31.840 you know, a financial um investor, right, like those are 0:20:31.960 --> 0:20:35.600 really high stressful career. And get this, by the way, 0:20:35.640 --> 0:20:39.840 statistics again, women are fantastic at schooling. And you know 0:20:39.920 --> 0:20:42.800 when when a woman goes for life and decides she's 0:20:42.800 --> 0:20:45.520 going to be a lawyer, right, they not get out 0:20:45.560 --> 0:20:49.359 of the park faster than men graduates in college from 0:20:49.359 --> 0:20:51.920 now women, right, there's a there's a women are killing it, 0:20:52.480 --> 0:20:57.719 except they can't sustain it past forty Again nature, I'm sorry, Right, 0:20:57.760 --> 0:21:00.680 they can't sustain it past forty. It wipes them out. 0:21:01.040 --> 0:21:05.719 They get sick, they can't sleep anymore, they can't rest there. 0:21:05.760 --> 0:21:08.439 They have all kinds of like chronic fatigue syndromes that 0:21:08.480 --> 0:21:12.920 goes from neederal burnout whatever. So the nature comes back 0:21:12.960 --> 0:21:16.160 to bite. I compared. But I think it's not good 0:21:16.280 --> 0:21:18.160 just to have only men on these type of leadership 0:21:18.240 --> 0:21:21.239 roles because then we're getting filled more and more like 0:21:21.440 --> 0:21:24.600 the whole killer be killed in mindset, you know, So 0:21:24.680 --> 0:21:27.480 we got to even it out. Well, it's not not 0:21:27.640 --> 0:21:31.040 that way, not that way. It's because again, you do 0:21:31.080 --> 0:21:32.960 whatever you want. I'm not you know, I'm just give 0:21:33.000 --> 0:21:38.760 people choices. You go. But again, women competing competing like men, 0:21:38.840 --> 0:21:42.080 this hard four years it's like, are you familiar with 0:21:42.119 --> 0:21:44.119 Like I'm a I'm a car guy, you're familiar with 0:21:44.160 --> 0:21:47.040 Formula one cars as a four wheels the guy in 0:21:47.080 --> 0:21:49.840 the middle, they go five an hour, right, Like, that's 0:21:49.880 --> 0:21:53.040 not even a car, it's it's a jet on four wheels, right, 0:21:53.520 --> 0:21:57.720 Those things are insane. So women competing with men in 0:21:57.760 --> 0:22:00.320 the world I compared to this, it's like you stepping 0:22:00.359 --> 0:22:03.960 into Formula one racing with the guys with their race cars, 0:22:04.359 --> 0:22:07.560 and you're fourcylator to a camera. You're gonna get in 0:22:07.600 --> 0:22:09.720 the race, you're gonna get around on a bunch of times, 0:22:09.720 --> 0:22:12.080 but the engine is gonna blow up. It's not built 0:22:12.119 --> 0:22:14.720