Speaker 1: Hey, there are folks in this episode. Contrary to a
Speaker 1: popular belief, marriage doesn't suck, and we have the couples
Speaker 1: to prove it. Welcome to this special cupling season edition
Speaker 1: of Amy and TJ Rhodes. We started this out and
Speaker 1: it was supposed to be just a fun exercise we
Speaker 1: were excited about and I am so serious right now.
Speaker 1: This turned into something else for me.
Speaker 2: It really did. This was about talking to happy, successful
Speaker 2: couples leading up to Valentine's Day.
Speaker 1: We didn't know how happy they were leading in.
Speaker 2: Wait, that's true, that's true, But that was the premise
Speaker 2: that we wanted to talk to successful couples, not just
Speaker 2: couples who lasted, but couples who were happy to be
Speaker 2: together even after all the years. And we just thought
Speaker 2: it might be a nice nod to Valentine's Day and
Speaker 2: to true love. But wow, not only did we connect
Speaker 2: commiserate with these couples, but we were also inspired by them.
Speaker 2: And there was a comfort in finding similarities and shared
Speaker 2: experiences and knowing you're not alone when you face problems
Speaker 2: in a relationship. But it gives you a sense and
Speaker 2: a source of comfort that even when you have the
Speaker 2: bumps in the road, so does everybody else. It doesn't
Speaker 2: mean or spell disaster. I think that was a really
Speaker 2: fun takeaway for me to see that everybody has mess
Speaker 2: and it's just how you handle it.
Speaker 1: Well, that's what we know. Everybody has mess, But for
Speaker 1: whatever reason, we look at everybody on Instagram and think
Speaker 1: they don't like we're trying to compare ourselves, oftentimes to
Speaker 1: another couple that we don't know a damn thing about
Speaker 1: because it looks good on the surface. This was cool
Speaker 1: to see and a lot of these folks do look
Speaker 1: good on the surface. But when you start asking, and
Speaker 1: we asked them all the same was the question that
Speaker 1: you start delving into. Yes, they ran into some hell
Speaker 1: and they've been through some things. And to your point,
Speaker 1: we talk about this all the time with I guess
Speaker 1: people in the public eye who go through something, oftentimes
Speaker 1: it's if it's illness, they come out and they're open
Speaker 1: about it and they talk about it, and you have
Speaker 1: this ground swell of people saying, Wow, that helped me
Speaker 1: because I'm going through it too. I've never really thought
Speaker 1: about that. Relationships, you know, that's what happens.
Speaker 2: That is a really good point. It is the same
Speaker 2: thing when people talk about their problems or they talk
Speaker 2: about the not so great moments, everyone else'll say, oh
Speaker 2: my goodness, you too, and it just it's comforting and
Speaker 2: it's also inspiring because when you see how they handle
Speaker 2: the problems, and it's not always perfectly, but every time
Speaker 2: you don't do it right one time, you'll do it
Speaker 2: better than next, hopefully if you're in it with the
Speaker 2: right person who's also in it. I think the teamwork
Speaker 2: aspect of it was really exception.
Speaker 1: The team was a theme. And I have to tell
Speaker 1: we've talked about this privately, but I could say it
Speaker 1: here publicly. Now. I feel so much better about our
Speaker 1: relationship after going through and talking to all of these couples,
Speaker 1: not as a matter of we got it better than.
Speaker 2: Anybody, Oh we're we're not comparing.
Speaker 1: Not that kind of a thing, but to hear so
Speaker 1: many of the nuggets, to hear that we've gone through
Speaker 1: the exact same things, and to see them come out
Speaker 1: and be happier, and also to see how they have
Speaker 1: argued and fight and gotten through things we have done
Speaker 1: things similar, So I wow, Wow, we're actually doing something
Speaker 1: right even when things aren't great.
Speaker 2: That is so true. I felt the exact same way.
Speaker 2: And it's cool you made that connection to cancer journeys
Speaker 2: because it's so true when you're going through something hard,
Speaker 2: to see someone else who's gone through something similarly difficult
Speaker 2: and come out on the other end with a smile,
Speaker 2: that is sometimes all the inspiration you need to keep going.
Speaker 1: So those were kind of at least for me, this
Speaker 1: turned into something I didn't expect, and that's wonderful. To
Speaker 1: the point, I can't wait to do this again. I
Speaker 1: would love to continue talking to couples. So we had
Speaker 1: these were our couples, and some of them we did
Speaker 1: have a little history with and some we had no idea, Oh,
Speaker 1: hadn't spent any time with them. So this was our
Speaker 1: list of couples. Trista and Ryan Sutter twenty one years
Speaker 1: strong after meeting on the Bachelorette. Of course she was
Speaker 1: the og. Tristan Tamer and Eddie Judge married eleven years.
Speaker 1: You know them, of course from Real Housewives. And then
Speaker 1: you had Samantha Greenstone and Jacob Hoff. You might not
Speaker 1: know those names newlyweds. They are a mixed orientation couple.
Speaker 1: He's gay, she's straight, and they are in a monogamous marriage.
Speaker 1: That was an interesting one to talk all right.
Speaker 2: Then we had doctor Jeff Gardier and doctor Amber Brody.
Speaker 2: We of course knew this couple. We were at their wedding.
Speaker 2: They're newlyweds, but they've been together for more than a decade.
Speaker 2: And oh, by the way, they have a twenty seven
Speaker 2: year age difference. He's black, she's white, she's Jewish he's not.
Speaker 2: That was really fun to hear how they handle all
Speaker 2: of those differences beautifully, by the way. Then we had
Speaker 2: Jenna Kramer and Alan Russell. We know Jana very well.
Speaker 2: They were engaged after just six months and there was
Speaker 2: literally an ocean between them. And this was Jenna's fourth
Speaker 2: marriage his second. So this is a couple that we
Speaker 2: were looking to for some answers. Mike and Lauren Sorrentino.
Speaker 2: Mike the situation seven years married and their first year
Speaker 2: of marri marriage was with Mike in prison. That's remarkable.
Speaker 2: Then we have Peta Murgatroyd and Max Schermot. Oh my gosh,
Speaker 2: I knew I was gonna get this wrong.
Speaker 1: Max. She always tells me, if you're listening, she always says, no,
Speaker 1: I got it. I can hand this last and it's
Speaker 1: all we have to say it.
Speaker 2: Max Schmerkovsky when we were in Warning America to say
Speaker 2: their names all the time from Dancing with the Stars,
Speaker 2: So Peta Murgatroyd and Max Schermovsky perhaps the funniest of
Speaker 2: our interviews. They've been married for eight years. And then
Speaker 2: Jenny Garth, who also is a friend of ours, and
Speaker 2: her husband Dave Abrams. They've been married for ten years,
Speaker 2: but there was a year long separation and divorce papers
Speaker 2: in the mix of their marriage.
Speaker 1: Who surprise you most in this career or maybe intrigued
Speaker 1: you most because we have a little background, a little
Speaker 1: some kind of a baseline or foundation idea of these couples.
Speaker 1: But what jumped out? Who jumped at it?
Speaker 2: I think Mike the situation in Lauren, because I didn't
Speaker 2: realize everything they had been through, that they've known each
Speaker 2: other for twenty one years, that they were dating and
Speaker 2: then broke up for what five years plus while he
Speaker 2: was on Jersey Shore. Then they get back together, and
Speaker 2: then he goes to prison just to hear not just
Speaker 2: what they went through, but where they are today. And
Speaker 2: he had so many incredible nuggets that I was writing down.
Speaker 1: I think that's fair surprise, because there's something if I say,
Speaker 1: anybody hear that, we say Mike the situation, you immediately
Speaker 1: jumped to some conclusion about him from what you know
Speaker 1: of that show, from what he was on Jersey Shore,
Speaker 1: And if you didn't know he was married, you might jump, oh,
Speaker 1: he must have met her and he was on the
Speaker 1: show something. This is totally different what we got out
Speaker 1: of them. That might have been the biggest surprise because
Speaker 1: I went in with expectations that I shouldn't have had.
Speaker 2: Yep, yeah, I was gonna ask you. Did anyone else
Speaker 2: surprise you besides Mike and Lauren.
Speaker 1: I think the mixed orientation couple, Samantha and Jacob. Again,
Speaker 1: you folks will get into more of it, and we
Speaker 1: encourage you to go listen to that interview we had
Speaker 1: with them, but I think you hear it and Okay,
Speaker 1: he's gay, she's straight, and they're in a monogamous relationship,
Speaker 1: so immediately you go, what the hell. But the thing
Speaker 1: that shocked or surprised me most they're just like us.
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter who you are, where you're from, even ages.
Speaker 1: Every single person, including a couple that seemingly that abnormal.
Speaker 1: If you will only say, abnormal because it's not normal
Speaker 1: out there in society is just as normal as you
Speaker 1: and I and the things they deal with, the hopes
Speaker 1: they have, the fights they have around the house, they're
Speaker 1: the exact I was really really thrown by that.
Speaker 2: That was so cool to hear and see just how
Speaker 2: everybody faces the same stuff. It was really cool.
Speaker 1: Okay, a lot of it was do you have a
Speaker 1: standout response that you got from anybody along the way
Speaker 1: something that jumped out was like, Holy hell, this dude's
Speaker 1: crazy or this lady's funny, or there were several hilarious
Speaker 1: moments throughout. Was there any response that jumped out at
Speaker 1: you a three year and again all these interviews.
Speaker 2: Well, I look, there are so many things that jumped out.
Speaker 2: I loved hearing in our Kevin McHale and Austin McKenzie
Speaker 2: interview because we have struggled with this. They're not married,
Speaker 2: and so they were trying to decide, you know, is
Speaker 2: he my boyfriend? Is he my husband? To see my partner?
Speaker 2: And Austin said, Kevin is my person because it's more
Speaker 2: than all of those things. And he said, it's my
Speaker 2: person who I'm committed to. And so instead of when
Speaker 2: they're fighting him, thinking wait, is this not my person?
Speaker 2: He's like, no, I've made a decision to be committed
Speaker 2: that this is my person, and I'm trusting that the
Speaker 2: best moments that I know we've had get us through
Speaker 2: the not so best moments because he is my person.
Speaker 2: I just I love that commitment that didn't require anything
Speaker 2: beyond that.
Speaker 1: We're going to see them later. We really really hit
Speaker 1: it off with those guys. They were awesome. We look
Speaker 1: forward to that so again, we hope you listen to
Speaker 1: them as well. But this was a list we had
Speaker 1: with thirty five forty questions. We didn't get to all
Speaker 1: of themm sometimes because some of the answers were a
Speaker 1: little more long winded than others. Did you find as
Speaker 1: well that it seemed like most of the guys were
Speaker 1: doing more talking than the women.
Speaker 2: You know what, It was really fascinating to see that,
Speaker 2: and I actually was laughing. I get this because sometimes
Speaker 2: when we do podcasts, I learned something about you. I
Speaker 2: watched the women listening to the men saying, wow, I
Speaker 2: didn't know you thought that, I didn't know you felt that.
Speaker 1: Why do you think that is because a lot.
Speaker 2: Of times we don't say what's on our mind. Maybe
Speaker 2: it's because we're afraid to, we're embarrassed to. We don't
Speaker 2: know what the reaction is going to be, And somehow
Speaker 2: it feels safe, hilariously on a podcast in front of
Speaker 2: thousands and thousands of people, but you feel like you're
Speaker 2: in a safe space with another couple who will understand
Speaker 2: where you're coming from. So I just saw a lot
Speaker 2: of honesty and a lot of openness that maybe wasn't
Speaker 2: even shared in private moments.
Speaker 1: I was going to say, most of the women were saying, Wow,
Speaker 1: I didn't know that because this is the first time
Speaker 1: the guy really got a chance to talk.
Speaker 2: Oh that's funny. That could be true too.
Speaker 1: Though No, we say that kind of jokingly, not as
Speaker 1: an insult here. But we had several women who are
Speaker 1: the stars, if you will, at least the TV personality,
Speaker 1: the big personality used to talking in front of folks.
Speaker 1: Some of the guys I expected to be quiet. We
Speaker 1: couldn't get him stuff like though Ryan Ryan, Ryan was
Speaker 1: he might be my number one and all this. I
Speaker 1: enjoyed Ryan. So Trista's's a husband so much because I
Speaker 1: again an expectations game. He's the quiet guy he's usually
Speaker 1: in the background. Through all these years, you don't hear
Speaker 1: a lot from him. He sat down, he was the
Speaker 1: most insightful, interesting, funny, but still quiet if you will,
Speaker 1: in the way he has a quiet demeanor, right, but
Speaker 1: he was incredible, but just it seemed like, I'm not
Speaker 1: sure he has said anything. He needs to get off
Speaker 1: his chest. But you were right about We took a
Speaker 1: couple of interviews in before we realized, you know what,
Speaker 1: We're getting some great stuff. And it might be because
Speaker 1: they're sitting across from another.
Speaker 2: Couple and they feel safe, and they feel like this couple,
Speaker 2: either she or he is going to understand where I'm
Speaker 2: coming from. So it won't just be a me versus her.
Speaker 2: It will be us talking about problems that we all
Speaker 2: have and it feels safe. It's funny you mentioned the
Speaker 2: men speaking up and being really insightful. It might have
Speaker 2: been from years of listening. And I'm not even kidding.
Speaker 2: I was thinking about that. I always know I need
Speaker 2: to listen more, But when you sit there and you
Speaker 2: listen again, they were so I need to listen more,
Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Wait, how do you determine that you need to listen more.
Speaker 2: What all I'm saying is watching the men speak up
Speaker 2: okay and really have these incredible golden nuggets. Not that
Speaker 2: the women didn't, but they really did have some cool
Speaker 2: things to say. I had that thought in my head,
Speaker 2: probably from all the years of listening. You gain a
Speaker 2: lot of insight when you aren't talking. I'm giving myself
Speaker 2: this advice.
Speaker 1: Okay, so, but you're saying the only thing coming out
Speaker 1: of the men's mouths. They didn't come up with those
Speaker 1: thoughts on their own. They had just been listening for
Speaker 1: a long time and then they collected it.
Speaker 2: No, I think they know. I think they've listened to
Speaker 2: what's happened. They've observed what's going on, and they've made
Speaker 2: that insightful determination in their mind and they just haven't
Speaker 2: articulated it yet until this moment, because oh wow, because
Speaker 2: they didn't have the opportunity.
Speaker 1: To And you think that you could this is an
Speaker 1: area you could improve. Oh of course, really, Oh I
Speaker 1: think you're a great listener.
Speaker 2: I do really, huh, I don't believe you.
Speaker 1: I'm glad we didn't have to get asked some of
Speaker 1: these questions. Most of them we would have been okay,
Speaker 1: but we started with this was a nice icebreaker that
Speaker 1: was on our list. We asked everybody give us three
Speaker 1: words to describe your relationship. I think most people I
Speaker 1: think honesty and theme. You know, Contentment was a theme
Speaker 1: as well. It doesn't sound romantic, but.
Speaker 2: Fun was a big theme. A lot of people said
Speaker 2: fun that is how they would describe their relationship. Yes,
Speaker 2: and content. It doesn't sound sexy necessarily, but when you
Speaker 2: go through enough of life, that sounds awesome.
Speaker 1: Who said I love you first? Was a fun question,
Speaker 1: and I think overwhelmingly it was the It was yes,
Speaker 1: end up saying who said I love you? Okay, of
Speaker 1: course I did. This question was interesting. I got great
Speaker 1: insights on this one. Why did you want to be
Speaker 1: married again? A lot of people will look at that, Hey,
Speaker 1: it's just a piece of paper. Who kids is not
Speaker 1: going to change anything, or people think, oh, it's going
Speaker 1: to change us too much. There were some great answers
Speaker 1: to that question.
Speaker 2: Yes, I think people not only Some of them said
Speaker 2: that it was they were traditional people and they value
Speaker 2: the tradition of marriage. Other people said they liked the
Speaker 2: idea of commitment in front of friends and family, that
Speaker 2: that had power and just the whole idea of publicly
Speaker 2: stating this is my person was an important part of it.
Speaker 2: And other people said it was because of their kids.
Speaker 2: Some of them had kids from previous marriages or had
Speaker 2: had children before they got married and just thought that
Speaker 2: that was a lesson or an example they wanted to
Speaker 2: set for their children.
Speaker 1: Okay, And we asked about fighting. How often you fight,
Speaker 1: do you what do you fight most about? We asked
Speaker 1: about going to bed angry. That was a big debate
Speaker 1: that a lot of people have out there about relationships.
Speaker 1: Asked about the folks sex life, which we got a
Speaker 1: lot of interesting and I guess more thoughtful answers and
Speaker 1: grown up answers. I think is a way to They
Speaker 1: were adulting in these answers like, yeah, we love that
Speaker 1: have a better sex life. But there's a teenager on
Speaker 1: this SI all teenager on that side of the.
Speaker 2: Way, right it was they just said, yeah, I believe
Speaker 2: was it Ryan? When we said how is your sex
Speaker 2: life change? She said, well, it's scheduled now or what's
Speaker 2: what's the opposite of less spontaneous? But that is real
Speaker 2: And I think people who are in long term marriages,
Speaker 2: who have kids, it's nice to hear that even sexy,
Speaker 2: hot couples who you see on TV, who imagine are
Speaker 2: having sex marathons every day, are saying, yeah, we're like
Speaker 2: not in that phase anymore. And it's okay. And I
Speaker 2: will say all of them said that the sex was better,
Speaker 2: that it was more meaningful, that it was not necessarily
Speaker 2: the quality over quantity is what I believe.
Speaker 1: One person said, yeah, you gotta make account, all right.
Speaker 1: So this was an absolute blast for us. So we're
Speaker 1: gonna get into the nitty gritty here in a second. Now,
Speaker 1: we're gonna tell you about the themes that emerged from
Speaker 1: these couples, and they were obvious. It was consistent that
Speaker 1: no matter who the couple was, there were certain things
Speaker 1: that jumped out and you need to hear that make
Speaker 1: these successful couples successful. Also, we'll get into some of
Speaker 1: the surprises we got from a lot of the couples,
Speaker 1: and we'll tell you what advice we heard from them
Speaker 1: that we are going to be using ourselves. Welcome back
Speaker 1: everybody to this special cuffing season episode of Amy and TJ.
Speaker 1: We are recapping the Valentine's Day love stories that we
Speaker 1: did with a number of couples. You can check out
Speaker 1: all of those interviews. They're gonna be up in the
Speaker 1: feed all in order here for you to see right now.
Speaker 1: But we've been releasing one a day of the entire
Speaker 1: month of February leading up to Valentine's Day, so we're
Speaker 1: kind of given recap of all those now. But Rhodes
Speaker 1: I said, some themes did emerge. It doesn't matter young, old,
Speaker 1: where they are, first marriage, second mayor there are certain
Speaker 1: themes that did emerge.
Speaker 2: That's true. A lot of the couples that we talked
Speaker 2: to that are successful and have lots of years under
Speaker 2: their belts have said that they were in other relationships
Speaker 2: when they first met. So this is a big thing, yes,
Speaker 2: and so they had to pause, take some time get
Speaker 2: out of those relationships before they actually entered theirs. But
Speaker 2: that was a significant number of the couples. Tamra and Eddie,
Speaker 2: I recall, were in that situation, what.
Speaker 1: Max and Peter were in that situation as well.
Speaker 2: Well, Trista was in a relationship with how many men
Speaker 2: at the time she met Ryan. I mean, that's kind
Speaker 2: of funny. Well, she didn't say I love you to
Speaker 2: him while he was saying it to her because of that,
Speaker 2: which is kind of funny.
Speaker 1: Well, I thought this was something that everybody needs to that. Again,
Speaker 1: these are themes what makes us full successful. I think
Speaker 1: so often I talk to people, and oftentimes it is
Speaker 1: women who say I can't meet anybody while dating is
Speaker 1: so difficult. Where do I go to meet people? Or
Speaker 1: and talking about online you don't have to meet them.
Speaker 1: Possibly he's there in your life right now and you
Speaker 1: just haven't realized or recognized that. Think that is real, folks,
Speaker 1: and y'all need to pay attention to that because it
Speaker 1: showed up in these relationships. And a lot of these
Speaker 1: folks when they first meet, they don't meet. They meet innocently. Yeah,
Speaker 1: they some of them met at work. They meet in
Speaker 1: a way that's okay, Hi, how you doing it? Move
Speaker 1: on and not even thinking about that person.
Speaker 2: A lot of people met at work that you just mentioned.
Speaker 2: Pete and Max, they certainly did, and there wasn't sparks
Speaker 2: at first. According to Peter, Jeff and Amber they met
Speaker 2: at work as well and spent a couple of years
Speaker 2: as just friends or at least eighteen months as just friends.
Speaker 1: And get this, folks, those two he used to help
Speaker 1: her in her dating life.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he helped her with Jay dates and then she
Speaker 2: actually made the first move and said, Hey, I'd actually
Speaker 2: like to date you. So it goes to show someone
Speaker 2: has to make that first move. But you can get
Speaker 2: out of the friend zone.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and sometimes you don't even know it or realize
Speaker 1: and you're not even trying to and it happens. That
Speaker 1: absolutely jumped out at me. Another theme that was here,
Speaker 1: and folks, be in a relationship, pay attention to this one.
Speaker 1: And this one makes me nervous. Big breakups happen to
Speaker 1: successful relationship.
Speaker 2: Big breakups happen, and it's good to know that if
Speaker 2: the foundation is there, you will come back together. And
Speaker 2: we saw that happen. Jenny and Dave stand out specifically
Speaker 2: to me because they broke up for or they were separated,
Speaker 2: I believe for almost a year and a half. He
Speaker 2: had divorce papers that he had tucked in his truck
Speaker 2: and drove around with them.
Speaker 1: Folks, serious, if this is one you need to listen to.
Speaker 1: This was unbelievable. He literally had divorce papers for her
Speaker 1: to sign and for a year plus, right, they were
Speaker 1: in a little you know, the driver's seat in your car,
Speaker 1: the back of the driver's seat has a little compartment
Speaker 1: you can slide on the little pocket. They were there,
Speaker 1: he said, for a year plus writing just riding around
Speaker 1: as well.
Speaker 2: There and now well they've been back together for six
Speaker 2: years and are so happy. So that's that's a cool
Speaker 2: thing to know that it can get that bad and
Speaker 2: if there still is that much love and a foundation there,
Speaker 2: you can come back together. Mike and Lauren same thing.
Speaker 2: They broke up four I believe it was five years
Speaker 2: while the whole time while he's experiencing all of this
Speaker 2: fame and a significant addiction problem as well at the
Speaker 2: same time. But they came back together and now are
Speaker 2: stronger than ever. They were really impressive to me.
Speaker 1: This made me nervous and that a while when az
Speaker 1: oars coming like it's I don't and I'm suggesting that
Speaker 1: everybody has to go through a breakup. But to hear
Speaker 1: these couples talk about how these weren't just a weekend thing.
Speaker 1: These were significant, like you say, years long sometime breakups,
Speaker 1: and to hear how they found their way back to
Speaker 1: each other, it's just not over. I guess there's some
Speaker 1: passion in something you recognize sometimes and the timing ain't right,
Speaker 1: and maybe it will be later. And I couldn't help
Speaker 1: but think about our guy, Matt and Rachel, And I said,
Speaker 1: when those two broke up, I said, man, I don't
Speaker 1: know if they're done. We will see. They need a beat.
Speaker 1: But it makes me hold out of hope for Ben
Speaker 1: and Jen still, you know, oh I know.
Speaker 2: I mean, look, I told you I saw all the
Speaker 2: headlines that Matt had taken down the breakup page, or
Speaker 2: the posts that he made that everybody made so much.
Speaker 2: He deleted that. So now that was the whole story.
Speaker 2: So you never know, there's a glimmer of hope.
Speaker 1: They're not one of the couples we talked about.
Speaker 2: They're they're not. The other thing is all of these couples,
Speaker 2: it seems, made it through something major, whether it was
Speaker 2: a previous divorce or someone else's children or finances, you know,
Speaker 2: their addiction.
Speaker 1: No, I'm saying you and I I when I see
Speaker 1: couples that have gone through some kind of like trauma,
Speaker 1: and they often see them that it's gonna make them
Speaker 1: a break them and these couples it is an absolute
Speaker 1: theme folks who have gone through trials like real, are
Speaker 1: you talking about diction, We're talking about prison we're talking
Speaker 1: like some I mean divorces from other folk folks, and
Speaker 1: they've gone through and had to fight through something that
Speaker 1: absolutely showed itself throughout these interviews.
Speaker 2: That brings me to something I wanted to say because
Speaker 2: I wrote this down. Mike the situation said this, and
Speaker 2: I love this. He said, going to prison basically they
Speaker 2: had already dealt with so much together. It felt like
Speaker 2: a muscle that they built up a foundation to fight
Speaker 2: together and that they're a battle tested couple. He said,
Speaker 2: we turned adversity into our own power. We use what
Speaker 2: was meant to be used against us and turned it
Speaker 2: into something to use for us. And I just thought
Speaker 2: that was so cool. Had they both had such a
Speaker 2: team mentality and it came through adversity, but.
Speaker 1: That it seems silly to say, but you this, folks,
Speaker 1: he said, Yeah, by the time it was time for
Speaker 1: me to go to prison, we were good. We could
Speaker 1: handle that because we've already been through hell.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: He actually talked about it as if yeah, prison, Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're good, we'll make it through this too. I loved
Speaker 1: that idea, and I do, Babe, I think about that
Speaker 1: with you. So many things that come up. I barely
Speaker 1: even blink like, oh, yeah, we'll be fine. You have
Speaker 1: any idea what me and Robot went through. Some people
Speaker 1: think they have an idea, And then there's some people
Speaker 1: who are in our families and saw the hell and
Speaker 1: there was nobody on the planet that was on my
Speaker 1: team other than you. Is what it felt like when
Speaker 1: you go through.
Speaker 2: That with somebody what you got and when things aren't great,
Speaker 2: if you have a problem, and of course Mike and
Speaker 2: Lauren and all of these couples have issues that come up,
Speaker 2: but when you remember that we made it through that,
Speaker 2: and we made it through that time together, leaning on
Speaker 2: each other, supporting each other, and trusting each other, that
Speaker 2: to me, gets you through all of the tougher times
Speaker 2: that maybe ahead.
Speaker 1: And you know what else was a theme again if
Speaker 1: you want your relationship to be successful the successful couples.
Speaker 1: Another thing that that that emerged as a theme. They
Speaker 1: generally had the support of their friends and family. Now
Speaker 1: a couple had an issue here or there, but they
Speaker 1: did have a group around them that was supportable of
Speaker 1: their relationship. That's it seems obvious, but that's key.
Speaker 2: It oh, it is key. And even a few of
Speaker 2: them who said it first, there was some you know,
Speaker 2: Tristan Ryan. When you meet on a reality show your mom,
Speaker 2: they might think is this a good idea, But they
Speaker 2: came around very quickly once they met the couple.
Speaker 1: So that was a cool thing we mentioned earlier. We
Speaker 1: all we asked the question about sex, but this was
Speaker 1: a theme as well. Aside from sex, a theme was
Speaker 1: physical touch was important to everybody, even sitting on a couch,
Speaker 1: they found themselves holding hands. And the other one was
Speaker 1: when we are not in a good way, we're fighting,
Speaker 1: several said, you know sometimes just the toes under the
Speaker 1: covers in bed makes all the difference in the world.
Speaker 2: I so related to that. I have told you this,
Speaker 2: even if we weren't or aren't in a good place,
Speaker 2: if I just hold your hand and you'll just squeeze it,
Speaker 2: we don't have to say anything. It's like, I know
Speaker 2: we're not great right now, but I still love you
Speaker 2: and you don't. Might you might not have the the
Speaker 2: ability to say that out loud because you're still angry.
Speaker 2: But a hand squeeze or yes, a little touch of
Speaker 2: the foot, that is everything in those moments.
Speaker 1: And yeah, I think everybody said they're handholders. They walk
Speaker 1: down the street and hold hands every.
Speaker 2: Single one when we asked we had we were on
Speaker 2: zoom and some of these interviews they would hold up
Speaker 2: and show us that they were actually holding hands while
Speaker 2: they were talking and we didn't even see it. It's
Speaker 2: pretty cool.
Speaker 1: Okay. This next one, folks, is huge if you want
Speaker 1: your relationship to be successful. And this is one I
Speaker 1: think robes that the couples reacted like very strongly too.
Speaker 1: This is a major no no. You have got to
Speaker 1: you have got the folks fight fair. Threatening to break up,
Speaker 1: threatening to leave, threatening with I'm done, or threatening divorce
Speaker 1: is an absolute no no.
Speaker 2: So in some of these couples it happened initially, like
Speaker 2: in the first year or two of the relationship. One
Speaker 2: of them was a runner. One of them was that
Speaker 2: I'm done and when they saw how much of hurt
Speaker 2: the other person. It seemed as though every one of
Speaker 2: these folks, some people from the beginning, said we made
Speaker 2: a pact that we were never going to curse at
Speaker 2: each other, and we were never going to threaten to
Speaker 2: leave or get divorced or to walk away unless we
Speaker 2: meant it. And some of them learned that the hard
Speaker 2: way by doing it once or twice and realizing this
Speaker 2: is planting seeds of doubt that I won't be able
Speaker 2: to unearth like they stay and.
Speaker 1: They do overwhelmingly. This is a sin. You just do
Speaker 1: not do it. It cannot be done.
Speaker 2: And I will make a pact with you. And I
Speaker 2: think we had something early on in our relationship where
Speaker 2: I was wanting to leave, not leave the relationship, but
Speaker 2: just leave, and you said, hey, you just looked at
Speaker 2: me and said, if you walk out that door, do
Speaker 2: not come back. And I knew you meant it, and
Speaker 2: so I said, I think I'll stay. You did, you
Speaker 2: did very calmly, but in fact, because you were so
Speaker 2: calm with such a like an unraised voice, I knew
Speaker 2: I was like, let me think if I really want
Speaker 2: to do this or not. And honestly, it was a
Speaker 2: good moment for me and I think for us because
Speaker 2: we've never done that. I've never done that again, and
Speaker 2: if we had to, Lisa, look, I love you or
Speaker 2: I'm upset right now and I'm gonna leave it. I'm
Speaker 2: gonna come back, but I just need some time. That's
Speaker 2: something different than saying I'm done or I'm walking out,
Speaker 2: and so I am so for that packed I think
Speaker 2: it's a good thing for couples to make that packed.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, well i'll your accent for me.
Speaker 2: To make it's understood. It's understood.
Speaker 1: But it's just such a toxic one. And we watch
Speaker 1: a lot of reality dating shows of some kind. How
Speaker 1: many times do we see somebody go I'm done and
Speaker 1: walk away. I'm done and walk away, and then they
Speaker 1: come back I'm done. It's just it's it's a.
Speaker 2: Killer, and it's a it's a killer, and it and
Speaker 2: it and it really does start to eat away at
Speaker 2: trust and at that love.
Speaker 1: Oh, don't do it, folks. And that's a big we
Speaker 1: should put that number on the list. Do not do that.
Speaker 2: That was one of the big and not like you
Speaker 2: know it intellectually, but to hear these couples emphatically say
Speaker 2: this is something we have made a decision not to
Speaker 2: do together. I was on board one hundred percent.
Speaker 1: Another thing was time apart. Yeah, folks, don't see even
Speaker 1: want it or need it.
Speaker 2: I was surprised by this because I thought perhaps we
Speaker 2: were going to hear from these very busy, very like
Speaker 2: successful couples that they are like I need my alone time,
Speaker 2: I need my space, and none of them said that
Speaker 2: the only the only two that kind of alluded to
Speaker 2: it a little bit was Austin and oh my god, Kevin.
Speaker 2: Austin and Kevin. When they decided to move in together
Speaker 2: after six years of dating and not living together, Kevin
Speaker 2: thought it would be good for him to give Austin
Speaker 2: his own room just in case, and sometimes he sleeps
Speaker 2: on the couch, and so just to give him that space,
Speaker 2: because he said, Austin said, I know, I'm somebody who
Speaker 2: needs alone time. It didn't seem like they took much
Speaker 2: of it, but that was the only person who even
Speaker 2: said maybe. Dave Jenny's Dave said, initially he needed alone time,
Speaker 2: but now that he's matured, he doesn't. The golf, remember
Speaker 2: all that, and the boy weekends and she was that
Speaker 2: was the one thing they used to fight about. That
Speaker 2: now it's just a non starter.
Speaker 1: And we can't no time away from each other like none,
Speaker 1: like none.
Speaker 2: Do you need some you know?
Speaker 1: You remember I called you today. I had to leave
Speaker 1: you for a short time. We're not used to doing that.
Speaker 1: We used to listen together all morning. I had to
Speaker 1: leave you for a short time and I called you,
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, because I missed you and you sent me
Speaker 1: a text of Hamil on the treap mill, just another
Speaker 1: mile to gooh blah blah blah, and I said, you know,
Speaker 1: I didn't want anything. I can't remember wh I.
Speaker 2: Was called, and I said, oh, you missed the sound
Speaker 2: of my voice.
Speaker 1: There was nothing to talk about.
Speaker 2: I definitely and me who I thought I was before
Speaker 2: I was in this relationship with you. I have said
Speaker 2: I need alone time, I need my own space. I'm
Speaker 2: not touchy feely. I don't like physical touch. I don't
Speaker 2: hold hands. All of those things completely out the window.
Speaker 1: She's a keeper, right, she's a keeper. She sounds awesome.
Speaker 1: I don't want to be touched.
Speaker 2: I would just say. I believe when you are with
Speaker 2: the right person, all of those things you think about
Speaker 2: yourself melt away because your number one priority is to
Speaker 2: feel connected to this person who you love. And I
Speaker 2: have experienced that now with you, and it makes me
Speaker 2: happy to know that sometimes it is about having the
Speaker 2: right person and then things do fall in place. It
Speaker 2: doesn't mean that there isn't work, and there isn't a
Speaker 2: lot of work that's involved in keeping all of that
Speaker 2: alive and going. But I realized how important it is
Speaker 2: to have the right partner.
Speaker 1: Well, I hope this is it. We'll see what we
Speaker 1: make it through this breakup that's coming. Everybody comes back
Speaker 1: from it a few surprises though here finance is not
Speaker 1: an issue for anybody. That was a surprise to me.
Speaker 1: Some people they choose to keep it all together, separated.
Speaker 1: Some of them even complicated with some LLCs and all
Speaker 1: of this stuff. But for the most point, nobody had
Speaker 1: a finance issue.
Speaker 2: No, no, and Jenny Garth did discuss that there is
Speaker 2: is a little bit of a challenge sometimes when the
Speaker 2: woman makes more money than the man. There's some finessing
Speaker 2: and discussions that actually had to take place for them,
Speaker 2: because resentment starts to build when people don't discuss it.
Speaker 2: That's when the problems happened. But it seemed like everybody
Speaker 2: figured it out.
Speaker 1: He acknowledged that too, Yeah, yea, yeah, he completelynowledged there
Speaker 1: wasn't immediate chemistry. That was a surprise as well. And
Speaker 1: we talked about this. You didn't meet necessarily. Even if
Speaker 1: you meet someone and you're not thinking you're going to
Speaker 1: date them, they're still you think a spark happens. But
Speaker 1: a lot of these folks said, no, I didn't.
Speaker 2: Yeah, a lot of the women said it didn't happen
Speaker 2: for them, funny enough, the men all kind of said
Speaker 2: that they did have a spot. Petere was like nah,
Speaker 2: and Max is like, well, obviously I was, yes, I
Speaker 2: thought you were. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Is it the women just not admitting it and protecting
Speaker 1: themselves like you always say that? Sometimes you do.
Speaker 2: Possibly, But I also think that men might be more
Speaker 2: visual and women it takes a little bit more for
Speaker 2: you to kind of have that big spark. You want
Speaker 2: to know someone's personality, you want to see if they're funny,
Speaker 2: and all of those.
Speaker 1: The takeaway from there is that you don't have to
Speaker 1: look across the room and see somebody who just gets
Speaker 1: you going it. You actually can fall in love with
Speaker 1: somebody and become wildly attracted to them through getting to
Speaker 1: know them. Again. I'd go back to all these reality shows,
Speaker 1: these dating reality shows. It's usually just a visual and
Speaker 1: I'm into them. I'm not into them. But then some
Speaker 1: of them that don't have anything in common. You don't
Speaker 1: think it's oh, they don't have any chemistry. Three episodes later,
Speaker 1: they're all over each.
Speaker 2: Other, and then we google them and find out they
Speaker 2: have three kids, and we're like wow, that's amazing. But
Speaker 2: I think a lot of folks what we heard from
Speaker 2: a lot of these couples is that friendship is the
Speaker 2: number one foundation. Yeah, number one foundation, And we've heard
Speaker 2: that a lot from people. But it was evident each
Speaker 2: of these couples just what we got the advantage of
Speaker 2: watching them, and there was an energy between all of them.
Speaker 2: It didn't matter if they'd been together for twenty one
Speaker 2: years or ten years, but these are all tried and
Speaker 2: true couples. There was a friendship and there was a
Speaker 2: camaraderie and there was this swe eat team like energy
Speaker 2: between them that I can't even I can't I don't
Speaker 2: even have words to describe, but it was there.
Speaker 1: You can't fake it all, and you can't fake it.
Speaker 1: You cannot sit with your loved, the one of your
Speaker 1: spouse and answer questions that you have. They didn't. I
Speaker 1: give all of them credit. They had no idea what
Speaker 1: the questions were and sat there and when they came out,
Speaker 1: they look at each other and then the answers would
Speaker 1: come out. And you have to have a level of
Speaker 1: comfort and confidence in your relationship and the person you're
Speaker 1: sitting next to to do that. I don't know if
Speaker 1: i'd do that with you. But we're going through here
Speaker 1: in just a minute. One last thing I want to
Speaker 1: get to about the surprises the last name change for
Speaker 1: the married couples. There is no middle ground here. It
Speaker 1: seems you are either all for it passionately or you
Speaker 1: are absolutely against it passionately. At least when it comes.
Speaker 1: The men are the ones who are passionately for it,
Speaker 1: and then the women are the ones are passionately against it. Correct,
Speaker 1: So where are we going to do?
Speaker 2: I don't know. I've never changed my name.
Speaker 1: Yeah, what are we going to do?
Speaker 2: I don't know. Okay, I told you the only thing
Speaker 2: I'd be open for is a hyphenation.
Speaker 1: The only thing you'd be open for.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I wouldn't completely lose Robock.
Speaker 1: Ever, any Robock Holmes.
Speaker 2: That would be the only thing I'd be open to.
Speaker 1: The only thing you'd be this is a negotiation.
Speaker 2: Then, well, I'm just saying I wouldn't lose Robock.
Speaker 1: You don't have to lose Robocks.
Speaker 2: There you go.
Speaker 1: You don't I mean not in spirit, but.
Speaker 2: No, I mean I think that you are not actually
Speaker 2: that what.
Speaker 1: You can't lose Robot, then I can't call you Robock.
Speaker 1: I can't call you Rob then homes Robes homes No,
Speaker 1: that's terrible. Well fuck, we had such a good time
Speaker 1: with them. But when we come back where we have
Speaker 1: our super producers in the room with us, we have
Speaker 1: as always Andy, Emma and then Sydney's in the room.
Speaker 1: They are going to ask actually turn the tables on
Speaker 1: us a little bit here. We actually don't know what
Speaker 1: they're going to ask. They pluck some questions from the ones.
Speaker 1: I guess, what do you say? Turn about? It's fair play, yes,
Speaker 1: and hit us with some of the ones we we
Speaker 1: gave our couples. But then there are supposed to be
Speaker 1: some extra ones in there as well that are rapid fire,
Speaker 1: which is always fun. Oh can't wait, because I love
Speaker 1: when somebody ask you a question, You just say the
Speaker 1: first thing that pops in your mind.
Speaker 2: What could possibly go wrong?
Speaker 1: Stand by? Folks are right back? All right, we're back
Speaker 1: folks on this special cuffing season edition of Amy and
Speaker 1: TJ Robes. You nervous about answering questions about us?
Speaker 2: Not with you by my side?
Speaker 1: Okay, you know what. That's what we put all these
Speaker 1: couples through. We did so. I don't know why I
Speaker 1: don't I feel a little uncomfortable going into this. But
Speaker 1: but yes, our our producing team here, Emma, Sydney and
Speaker 1: Andy came up with some questions for us. Emma, all right,
Speaker 1: give us your best.
Speaker 3: Let's warm up with this one.
Speaker 1: Easy stuff.
Speaker 3: Give three words to describe your relationship?
Speaker 2: Thank you today. Oh that's the first question we asked.
Speaker 2: Oh that's a good one. We should have seen this
Speaker 2: com I think about it, all right, I'll you want
Speaker 2: to start.
Speaker 1: Well, I remember it was it last night. Sabine was
Speaker 1: in the room. We talked about this. Last night. Sabine
Speaker 1: was in the room with us in the bedroom. She
Speaker 1: was on the couch. We're in the bed. Everybody's working.
Speaker 1: We were working on something. You looked at me and
Speaker 1: you said, you know, what three words would you use
Speaker 1: to describe a relationship? Yes? Do you remember what I said?
Speaker 2: Something really smart ass? I said, on my nerves, that's
Speaker 2: exactly that's exactly what he said.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: See, it was so annoying. I forgot it because I
Speaker 2: chose not to having fun. I know, now you have
Speaker 2: to be serious.
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, you said you had something.
Speaker 2: Okay, all right, I'll go so for me, fun one
Speaker 2: hundred percent we are fun is an something that we
Speaker 2: actually prioritize in our relationship. Committed. I feel like I'm
Speaker 2: in this with you one hundred percent, and I feel
Speaker 2: that we are fully committed and that creates a lot
Speaker 2: of safety and satisfaction. And number three, I would say passionate.
Speaker 1: My three words would be still in shock.
Speaker 2: You.
Speaker 1: I say this to you so often in private. I
Speaker 1: cannot believe we're together. We from where our lives started
Speaker 1: to are growing up, to colleges to careers, to relationships,
Speaker 1: to where we ended up working together. All that is
Speaker 1: a fricking miracle that we are sitting here together right now.
Speaker 1: So yes, I if I will forever be hopefully still
Speaker 1: in awe of this relationship. So that was my serious
Speaker 1: And say, y'all laughing, And did you.
Speaker 2: Just change it from still in shock to still in shaw?
Speaker 1: No, I said, I hope I remain in awe with
Speaker 1: this relationship. I actually don't listen. Oh my god, we
Speaker 1: were talking about this earlier week. Oh my god, you're
Speaker 1: so right.
Speaker 2: Your three words were still in shock.
Speaker 1: Still in shock, I said, I remain I hope I
Speaker 1: remain in awe of this relationship.
Speaker 2: I get that. I was just saying I love the words.
Speaker 1: Still in awe versus still in shock.
Speaker 2: Yes, awe is kind of like onspiring, like it's a positive.
Speaker 1: In shock could be terrible, But awe is something You
Speaker 1: can be in awe of something that's still expected. You
Speaker 1: can be in awe of a rose that's on the
Speaker 1: damn street. You can be in awe of a puppy
Speaker 1: that's going down the street. But for me TJ. Holmes
Speaker 1: to end up in a loving relationship and want to
Speaker 1: marry Amy Robach, I'm shocked.
Speaker 2: Okay, who's more likely to start a fight?
Speaker 1: Roebuck? How So, just like that by not acknowledging initially
Speaker 1: that you're the one that usually.
Speaker 2: Starts to fight, but you're the one who gets angry.
Speaker 1: No, I don't, baby, I don't start fights. You know
Speaker 1: I don't. I ask questions. So why were you twenty
Speaker 1: minutes late to this important thing that I have? Why
Speaker 1: am I a start a fight?
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 1: You think I'm likely to start fights?
Speaker 2: I do?
Speaker 1: Well, it seems like Emma is most likely to start
Speaker 1: a fight because we're two questions in.
Speaker 2: God, Okay, let's switch it up. How often do you
Speaker 2: have sex?
Speaker 3: And has it changed? Or how has it changed over time.
Speaker 1: You want to answer, you want to answer, you can answer.
Speaker 1: There is for me at least you guys are however
Speaker 1: you want to. We are in the public eye. We
Speaker 1: have a very public relationship. People are very curious about
Speaker 1: our relationship, and we have answered plenty about it. There's
Speaker 1: a necklace around your neck with a ring on it
Speaker 1: that I don't know if I will ever reveal my
Speaker 1: mindset and why in the message behind that ring. Sex
Speaker 1: is another one that you know what. That's not something
Speaker 1: I am going to address publicly. You can, but you
Speaker 1: I don't feel I can, I should or I'm wanting
Speaker 1: to speak on that intimate thing having to.
Speaker 2: Do with you.
Speaker 1: If you you can say whatever you want, run on
Speaker 1: the mic right now and then I'll follow. But there's
Speaker 1: something about it that always didn't sit right with me.
Speaker 2: I would just say, and we're what are we? Two
Speaker 2: plus years into our relationship. All I can say it
Speaker 2: is the best, most beautiful experience I have ever had
Speaker 2: in my life, and it has only gotten better.
Speaker 3: Pretty solid.
Speaker 1: Oh, everybody's look at she's quiet, she's quiet, he's quiet,
Speaker 1: You're quiet. Everybody's looking around. You want you want me
Speaker 1: to comment on.
Speaker 2: Our sex one only if you want to, And it
Speaker 2: doesn't sound like you do.
Speaker 1: No, it's you know, I think a lot of this
Speaker 1: has to do We do cover so many celebrity couples,
Speaker 1: and I think folks give a at least the public things.
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, you told me this much, so then
Speaker 1: when I ask this, you better damn sure tell me
Speaker 1: this too. It's like some lines slippery slope, there's some
Speaker 1: fine line. So I have always wanted to make sure
Speaker 1: I drew up some line of some kind to say that,
Speaker 1: you know what, there's some things that are private I
Speaker 1: don't want to speak on, and that's one of them.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's cool. And we when we asked each
Speaker 2: of the couples, we said, answer this however you'd like,
Speaker 2: because it's something people are curious about. But we also
Speaker 2: respect the fact that that is something that a lot
Speaker 2: of people don't want to talk about.
Speaker 1: I'm one of them.
Speaker 3: Duly noted love Okay, how are you two keeping the
Speaker 3: romance alive?
Speaker 1: There? Well, it depends on what feels romantic to you.
Speaker 2: But the.
Speaker 1: I think there are constant daily gestures or nuggets that
Speaker 1: show that you love somebody. You don't have to say
Speaker 1: I love you. You could go through a whole day
Speaker 1: without saying I love you, and a person can fit
Speaker 1: or more loved than ever by what you do. So
Speaker 1: I do make a point of sending a note every
Speaker 1: now and now and again, just randomly I love you,
Speaker 1: thinking about you on my way cooking is something I
Speaker 1: certainly like to do. The handholding and the touching, it's
Speaker 1: constant with us. So the romance, I don't make an
Speaker 1: effort necessarily to what do I need to come up with?
Speaker 1: It stays there.
Speaker 2: I do.
Speaker 1: When you get up in the morning, you don't speak
Speaker 1: to him, I say, hey, what the hell like? We
Speaker 1: go right to work. You keep romance a lot and
Speaker 1: saying hey, we need to remember that this relationship is first.
Speaker 1: This podcast will get done. But you and I sacrificing
Speaker 1: just giving a kiss or saying good morning so that
Speaker 1: we can get to the podcast is not something that's yeah.
Speaker 2: And I think that's the only thing that we need
Speaker 2: to remember and we do throughout the day, is because
Speaker 2: we are working so often when we're together, we're working,
Speaker 2: so to remember that we're a couple who is working together.
Speaker 2: But I don't think it's that hard hard for us.
Speaker 2: There might be an hour goes by and like, hey,
Speaker 2: like I miss you, come over, like you know, and
Speaker 2: then there's a touch or there's a kiss or there's
Speaker 2: a hug. But it's it hasn't felt like work, and
Speaker 2: it hasn't felt like something I had to remember to do.
Speaker 2: It's something that I've still wanted to do. And I
Speaker 2: feel it for you, and I hope you feel it
Speaker 2: for me.
Speaker 1: That's all that I needed to hear. Thanks.
Speaker 3: How do you manage your finances? How do you decide
Speaker 3: who pays for dinners, trips, groceries, et cetera.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we have. We have a joint account and so
Speaker 2: that's we Initially we were struggling with it. Do you
Speaker 2: remember we so badly wanted to get a joint immediately
Speaker 2: so one person wasn't It just seemed like we were
Speaker 2: past the point of saying it's my turner. TJ always
Speaker 2: tried to pay for everything. In fact, the truth is
Speaker 2: he would never let me pay for anything, which was
Speaker 2: very sweet and I loved it, but I also knew
Speaker 2: that that was not a way forward for us. So
Speaker 2: it was.
Speaker 1: It was lovely while it lasted.
Speaker 2: But the point being, I remember we were being so
Speaker 2: hounded by Papa Rozzi. We desperately were trying to get
Speaker 2: to the bank to open a joint account together, but
Speaker 2: we knew that they'd make a headline of it or
Speaker 2: say something that it wasn't So I was on the phone.
Speaker 2: We were calling trying to figure out how we could
Speaker 2: open a bank account without going into the actual branch.
Speaker 2: And we finally found a bank.
Speaker 1: But we could do it.
Speaker 2: We did not have to go in for the bank
Speaker 2: we found, but my bank. I tried every back door
Speaker 2: I could to not walk into the So it took
Speaker 2: us a couple months, but we finally did get a
Speaker 2: joint bank account. And so yes, we everything we do
Speaker 2: together we have out of our join.
Speaker 3: What is one thing people would be surprised to know
Speaker 3: about your relationship?
Speaker 1: Surprised to know about it? Hm, I don't know. I
Speaker 1: something like folks know so much about us, so they
Speaker 1: think they know about us, surprised to know. I think
Speaker 1: it'd be surprised to know just how much we appreciate
Speaker 1: not being out, like how much like it's there's a
Speaker 1: picture here on a red carpet, there's out of a
Speaker 1: nice restaurant, and all this stuff is going on. Man,
Speaker 1: I just want to go home like, well, I am
Speaker 1: completely content with you at the house. It's got to
Speaker 1: be something better than that. As far as surprise, we
Speaker 1: would know what you get.
Speaker 2: Well, I would say if I added up, and this
Speaker 2: is true, the hours that we spent a part during
Speaker 2: the week, I would say, on any given week minus
Speaker 2: anytime we would travel apart, it's probably less than five
Speaker 2: hours a week that we spend apart. Yes, oh maybe, sure, yes,
Speaker 2: And that is pretty remarkable. Most people have separate jobs,
Speaker 2: or separate lives or children pulling them in different directions.
Speaker 2: And we really do everything we don't get any time before,
Speaker 2: and that we're not just say oh we're always together.
Speaker 2: We're actually always together.
Speaker 3: How are you spending Valentine's Day?
Speaker 2: Well, it's gonna be a party of three. Yes, we
Speaker 2: have Sabine, Jay's daughter is coming with us to go see.
Speaker 2: This is actually so exciting. I love this question. We
Speaker 2: are going to see a rom com horror movie. There
Speaker 2: is a mashed genre that I am so excited to see.
Speaker 2: It's called heart Eyes. It's been well reviewed. We are
Speaker 2: all in, so I get a little rom com and
Speaker 2: then we both get a lot of horror. And it
Speaker 2: sounds kind of like the most perfect Valentine's Day date ever,
Speaker 2: especially with Sabine. We love having her with us.
Speaker 1: And the killer has he wears a mask and the
Speaker 1: eyes are lit up and they have little hearts. That's
Speaker 1: the idea.
Speaker 2: This is us made for us to watch on Valentine's Day.
Speaker 1: This is so good that that is our point. And
Speaker 1: the Valentine's Days I have. I've already done the flowers right, yes, okay,
Speaker 1: so the flowers are good. I have a wonderful gift
Speaker 1: for you. It's so good it is.
Speaker 2: I have a really good gift for you too.
Speaker 1: Her birthday is just a week before Valentine's Day, which.
Speaker 2: It's a lot of gifts, dude, and Christmas was just
Speaker 2: six weeks before, so.
Speaker 1: I had to I bought her. I had her gifts
Speaker 1: for her birthday and for Valentine's Day, but we were
Speaker 1: taking a trip for her birthday, and so I said,
Speaker 1: you know what, you would love what I got you
Speaker 1: for Valentine's Day, and you would want to take it
Speaker 1: on this trip. So I switched it up. So your
Speaker 1: Valentine's Day gift I gave you for your birthday, and
Speaker 1: now your original birthday gift has become the Valentine's Day gift.
Speaker 2: That's happened, very funny.
Speaker 3: What was your birthday gift?
Speaker 2: A really hot pair of Nike running sneakers. But I
Speaker 2: knew where everybody's mind was. Yes, but they are actual
Speaker 2: running shoes with flames on them.
Speaker 1: And we were going to Vegas, and we were going
Speaker 1: to run in Vegas, and I knew she want to
Speaker 1: run on the strip and the new shoes, so I
Speaker 1: called an autimal.
Speaker 2: It was perfect, perfect. I loved it all right.
Speaker 1: So this has made this has been fun. I'm not
Speaker 1: I've told it to you privately, but talking to these
Speaker 1: couples reassured me about our relationship and that we're doing
Speaker 1: something right and that even when we're doing something wrong,
Speaker 1: we're doing something right. So this has been a wonderful experiment.
Speaker 1: I hope we can do it down there.
Speaker 2: I agree, and I was hoping. I am hoping that
Speaker 2: everyone who has listened or who hasn't and is going
Speaker 2: to I encourage you. We encourage you to listen along
Speaker 2: with the questions and ask yourself, ask your loved one,
Speaker 2: have fun with some of the questions, ask each other
Speaker 2: what you think of the answer, because it really does
Speaker 2: bring you closer together, and sometimes what you think your
Speaker 2: partner is going to say, they don't and they surprise
Speaker 2: you in a good way. We saw that happen time
Speaker 2: and time again with the couples, some of them saying
Speaker 2: they were more in love after the interview than they
Speaker 2: were before because they learned something sweet or beautiful that
Speaker 2: maybe the other person hadn't shared completely with them until now.
Speaker 2: So anyway, it would be great if any of you
Speaker 2: all listen to whatever one you want, but the questions
Speaker 2: are basically the same, and I just think it's really
Speaker 2: fun exercise maybe to even listen with your loved one
Speaker 2: on this Valentine's month weekend week And we have.
Speaker 1: It right, Sydney, Andy, Emma. The all of the episodes,
Speaker 1: all the interviews will end up on our feed, all
Speaker 1: chunked together. Do I have that right, Sydney. They're gonna
Speaker 1: go up to where they'll all be in line together.
Speaker 1: They're there now, but we're putting them up for you
Speaker 1: to where they are all in line. You'll see them
Speaker 1: all together in our feed, so by all means, check
Speaker 1: them out and again the ropes, Thank you Dave for
Speaker 1: the This has been an absolute blast. So and I
Speaker 1: do I can't say it enough. I feel more optimistic
Speaker 1: and encouraged and feel better and more confident about I
Speaker 1: didn't lack confidence. I feel more confident about us than ever.
Speaker 2: I one hundred percent agree. I felt the exact same way.
Speaker 2: I already knew I loved you. I already knew I
Speaker 2: wanted to spend my life with you. But now I
Speaker 2: feel like we're not just gonna make it, but we're
Speaker 2: gonna be great.
Speaker 1: Well, folks, we appreciate you as always for listening. I'm TJ. Holmes,
Speaker 1: and this is Amy Robot and it will forever be
Speaker 1: Amy Robot. That name will never change.
Speaker 2: You know me so well. M