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Speaker 1: Hey, there are folks in this episode. Contrary to a

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Speaker 1: to prove it. Welcome to this special cupling season edition

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Speaker 1: of Amy and TJ Rhodes. We started this out and

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Speaker 1: it was supposed to be just a fun exercise we

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Speaker 1: This turned into something else for me.

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Speaker 2: It really did. This was about talking to happy, successful

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Speaker 2: couples leading up to Valentine's Day.

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Speaker 1: We didn't know how happy they were leading in.

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Speaker 2: Wait, that's true, that's true, But that was the premise

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Speaker 2: that we wanted to talk to successful couples, not just

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Speaker 2: couples who lasted, but couples who were happy to be

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Speaker 2: together even after all the years. And we just thought

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Speaker 2: it might be a nice nod to Valentine's Day and

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Speaker 2: to true love. But wow, not only did we connect

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Speaker 2: commiserate with these couples, but we were also inspired by them.

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Speaker 2: And there was a comfort in finding similarities and shared

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Speaker 2: experiences and knowing you're not alone when you face problems

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Speaker 2: a source of comfort that even when you have the

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Speaker 2: bumps in the road, so does everybody else. It doesn't

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Speaker 2: mean or spell disaster. I think that was a really

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Speaker 2: fun takeaway for me to see that everybody has mess

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Speaker 2: and it's just how you handle it.

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Speaker 1: Well, that's what we know. Everybody has mess, But for

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Speaker 1: whatever reason, we look at everybody on Instagram and think

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Speaker 1: they don't like we're trying to compare ourselves, oftentimes to

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Speaker 1: another couple that we don't know a damn thing about

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Speaker 1: good on the surface. But when you start asking, and

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Speaker 1: we asked them all the same was the question that

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Speaker 1: you start delving into. Yes, they ran into some hell

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Speaker 1: and they've been through some things. And to your point,

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Speaker 1: we talk about this all the time with I guess

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Speaker 1: people in the public eye who go through something, oftentimes

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Speaker 2: That is a really good point. It is the same

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Speaker 2: about the not so great moments, everyone else'll say, oh

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Speaker 2: it's also inspiring because when you see how they handle

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Speaker 1: The team was a theme. And I have to tell

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Speaker 1: we've talked about this privately, but I could say it

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Speaker 1: here publicly. Now. I feel so much better about our

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Speaker 1: relationship after going through and talking to all of these couples,

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Speaker 2: Anybody, Oh we're we're not comparing.

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Speaker 1: Not that kind of a thing, but to hear so

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Speaker 1: many of the nuggets, to hear that we've gone through

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Speaker 2: That is so true. I felt the exact same way.

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Speaker 2: And it's cool you made that connection to cancer journeys

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Speaker 1: So those were kind of at least for me, this

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Speaker 1: would love to continue talking to couples. So we had

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Speaker 1: know those names newlyweds. They are a mixed orientation couple.

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Speaker 2: Then we had doctor Jeff Gardier and doctor Amber Brody.

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Speaker 2: We of course knew this couple. We were at their wedding.

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Speaker 2: were looking to for some answers. Mike and Lauren Sorrentino.

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Speaker 2: Then we have Peta Murgatroyd and Max Schermot. Oh my gosh,

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Speaker 1: Max. She always tells me, if you're listening, she always says, no,

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Speaker 2: So Peta Murgatroyd and Max Schermovsky perhaps the funniest of

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Speaker 1: Who surprise you most in this career or maybe intrigued

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Speaker 1: But what jumped out? Who jumped at it?

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Speaker 2: I think Mike the situation in Lauren, because I didn't

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Speaker 2: then he goes to prison just to hear not just

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Speaker 1: I think that's fair surprise, because there's something if I say,

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Speaker 2: Yep, yeah, I was gonna ask you. Did anyone else

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Speaker 1: I think the mixed orientation couple, Samantha and Jacob. Again,

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Speaker 1: It doesn't matter who you are, where you're from, even ages.

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Speaker 1: Every single person, including a couple that seemingly that abnormal.

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Speaker 1: If you will only say, abnormal because it's not normal

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Speaker 2: That was so cool to hear and see just how

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Speaker 1: Okay, a lot of it was do you have a

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Speaker 2: Well, I look, there are so many things that jumped out.

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Speaker 2: And Austin said, Kevin is my person because it's more

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Speaker 1: We're going to see them later. We really really hit

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Speaker 2: Of times we don't say what's on our mind. Maybe

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Speaker 1: I was going to say, most of the women were saying, Wow,

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Speaker 1: Some of the guys I expected to be quiet. We

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Speaker 2: I wrote this down. Mike the situation said this, and

435
00:21:12,640 --> 00:21:16,919
Speaker 2: I love this. He said, going to prison basically they

436
00:21:16,960 --> 00:21:19,840
Speaker 2: had already dealt with so much together. It felt like

437
00:21:20,000 --> 00:21:22,560
Speaker 2: a muscle that they built up a foundation to fight

438
00:21:22,680 --> 00:21:25,720
Speaker 2: together and that they're a battle tested couple. He said,

439
00:21:25,760 --> 00:21:30,320
Speaker 2: we turned adversity into our own power. We use what

440
00:21:30,520 --> 00:21:34,080
Speaker 2: was meant to be used against us and turned it

441
00:21:34,200 --> 00:21:37,080
Speaker 2: into something to use for us. And I just thought

442
00:21:37,080 --> 00:21:39,159
Speaker 2: that was so cool. Had they both had such a

443
00:21:39,280 --> 00:21:42,679
Speaker 2: team mentality and it came through adversity, but.

444
00:21:43,320 --> 00:21:46,439
Speaker 1: That it seems silly to say, but you this, folks,

445
00:21:47,240 --> 00:21:49,240
Speaker 1: he said, Yeah, by the time it was time for

446
00:21:49,320 --> 00:21:51,040
Speaker 1: me to go to prison, we were good. We could

447
00:21:51,080 --> 00:21:52,640
Speaker 1: handle that because we've already been through hell.

448
00:21:52,800 --> 00:21:53,000
Speaker 2: Yeah.

449
00:21:53,080 --> 00:21:56,240
Speaker 1: He actually talked about it as if yeah, prison, Yeah,

450
00:21:56,359 --> 00:21:59,560
Speaker 1: we're good, we'll make it through this too. I loved

451
00:21:59,800 --> 00:22:01,720
Speaker 1: that idea, and I do, Babe, I think about that

452
00:22:01,880 --> 00:22:05,080
Speaker 1: with you. So many things that come up. I barely

453
00:22:05,240 --> 00:22:08,200
Speaker 1: even blink like, oh, yeah, we'll be fine. You have

454
00:22:08,320 --> 00:22:10,280
Speaker 1: any idea what me and Robot went through. Some people

455
00:22:10,359 --> 00:22:12,040
Speaker 1: think they have an idea, And then there's some people

456
00:22:12,040 --> 00:22:15,960
Speaker 1: who are in our families and saw the hell and

457
00:22:16,640 --> 00:22:20,280
Speaker 1: there was nobody on the planet that was on my

458
00:22:20,440 --> 00:22:22,560
Speaker 1: team other than you. Is what it felt like when

459
00:22:22,600 --> 00:22:23,200
Speaker 1: you go through.

460
00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:27,280
Speaker 2: That with somebody what you got and when things aren't great,

461
00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:29,119
Speaker 2: if you have a problem, and of course Mike and

462
00:22:29,160 --> 00:22:31,080
Speaker 2: Lauren and all of these couples have issues that come up,

463
00:22:31,119 --> 00:22:33,920
Speaker 2: but when you remember that we made it through that,

464
00:22:34,160 --> 00:22:37,359
Speaker 2: and we made it through that time together, leaning on

465
00:22:37,440 --> 00:22:40,960
Speaker 2: each other, supporting each other, and trusting each other, that

466
00:22:41,400 --> 00:22:44,320
Speaker 2: to me, gets you through all of the tougher times

467
00:22:44,359 --> 00:22:45,000
Speaker 2: that maybe ahead.

468
00:22:45,040 --> 00:22:47,760
Speaker 1: And you know what else was a theme again if

469
00:22:47,840 --> 00:22:50,919
Speaker 1: you want your relationship to be successful the successful couples.

470
00:22:50,920 --> 00:22:55,840
Speaker 1: Another thing that that that emerged as a theme. They

471
00:22:55,960 --> 00:22:58,000
Speaker 1: generally had the support of their friends and family. Now

472
00:22:58,080 --> 00:23:00,919
Speaker 1: a couple had an issue here or there, but they

473
00:23:01,160 --> 00:23:03,960
Speaker 1: did have a group around them that was supportable of

474
00:23:04,000 --> 00:23:06,360
Speaker 1: their relationship. That's it seems obvious, but that's key.

475
00:23:06,560 --> 00:23:08,960
Speaker 2: It oh, it is key. And even a few of

476
00:23:09,000 --> 00:23:11,280
Speaker 2: them who said it first, there was some you know,

477
00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:14,320
Speaker 2: Tristan Ryan. When you meet on a reality show your mom,

478
00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:17,679
Speaker 2: they might think is this a good idea, But they

479
00:23:17,760 --> 00:23:20,440
Speaker 2: came around very quickly once they met the couple.

480
00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:22,800
Speaker 1: So that was a cool thing we mentioned earlier. We

481
00:23:22,920 --> 00:23:25,040
Speaker 1: all we asked the question about sex, but this was

482
00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:29,040
Speaker 1: a theme as well. Aside from sex, a theme was

483
00:23:29,240 --> 00:23:32,760
Speaker 1: physical touch was important to everybody, even sitting on a couch,

484
00:23:32,800 --> 00:23:35,600
Speaker 1: they found themselves holding hands. And the other one was

485
00:23:35,640 --> 00:23:37,639
Speaker 1: when we are not in a good way, we're fighting,

486
00:23:38,080 --> 00:23:42,119
Speaker 1: several said, you know sometimes just the toes under the

487
00:23:42,960 --> 00:23:44,880
Speaker 1: covers in bed makes all the difference in the world.

488
00:23:45,000 --> 00:23:47,840
Speaker 2: I so related to that. I have told you this,

489
00:23:48,000 --> 00:23:50,000
Speaker 2: even if we weren't or aren't in a good place,

490
00:23:50,280 --> 00:23:52,920
Speaker 2: if I just hold your hand and you'll just squeeze it,

491
00:23:53,359 --> 00:23:55,200
Speaker 2: we don't have to say anything. It's like, I know

492
00:23:55,320 --> 00:23:57,159
Speaker 2: we're not great right now, but I still love you

493
00:23:57,240 --> 00:24:01,920
Speaker 2: and you don't. Might you might not have the the

494
00:24:02,000 --> 00:24:04,600
Speaker 2: ability to say that out loud because you're still angry.

495
00:24:05,240 --> 00:24:07,840
Speaker 2: But a hand squeeze or yes, a little touch of

496
00:24:07,920 --> 00:24:10,600
Speaker 2: the foot, that is everything in those moments.

497
00:24:11,040 --> 00:24:13,400
Speaker 1: And yeah, I think everybody said they're handholders. They walk

498
00:24:13,400 --> 00:24:15,000
Speaker 1: down the street and hold hands every.

499
00:24:14,840 --> 00:24:17,440
Speaker 2: Single one when we asked we had we were on

500
00:24:17,560 --> 00:24:20,000
Speaker 2: zoom and some of these interviews they would hold up

501
00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:22,200
Speaker 2: and show us that they were actually holding hands while

502
00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:24,640
Speaker 2: they were talking and we didn't even see it. It's

503
00:24:24,680 --> 00:24:25,120
Speaker 2: pretty cool.

504
00:24:25,160 --> 00:24:27,520
Speaker 1: Okay. This next one, folks, is huge if you want

505
00:24:27,680 --> 00:24:30,520
Speaker 1: your relationship to be successful. And this is one I

506
00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:35,440
Speaker 1: think robes that the couples reacted like very strongly too.

507
00:24:35,720 --> 00:24:38,359
Speaker 1: This is a major no no. You have got to

508
00:24:38,960 --> 00:24:42,879
Speaker 1: you have got the folks fight fair. Threatening to break up,

509
00:24:43,240 --> 00:24:47,240
Speaker 1: threatening to leave, threatening with I'm done, or threatening divorce

510
00:24:47,520 --> 00:24:48,960
Speaker 1: is an absolute no no.

511
00:24:49,240 --> 00:24:52,040
Speaker 2: So in some of these couples it happened initially, like

512
00:24:52,119 --> 00:24:55,040
Speaker 2: in the first year or two of the relationship. One

513
00:24:55,119 --> 00:24:56,960
Speaker 2: of them was a runner. One of them was that

514
00:24:57,080 --> 00:25:00,199
Speaker 2: I'm done and when they saw how much of hurt

515
00:25:00,240 --> 00:25:03,399
Speaker 2: the other person. It seemed as though every one of

516
00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:05,800
Speaker 2: these folks, some people from the beginning, said we made

517
00:25:05,800 --> 00:25:07,800
Speaker 2: a pact that we were never going to curse at

518
00:25:07,800 --> 00:25:10,800
Speaker 2: each other, and we were never going to threaten to

519
00:25:10,960 --> 00:25:13,600
Speaker 2: leave or get divorced or to walk away unless we

520
00:25:13,720 --> 00:25:16,800
Speaker 2: meant it. And some of them learned that the hard

521
00:25:16,840 --> 00:25:19,280
Speaker 2: way by doing it once or twice and realizing this

522
00:25:19,640 --> 00:25:23,159
Speaker 2: is planting seeds of doubt that I won't be able

523
00:25:23,280 --> 00:25:25,399
Speaker 2: to unearth like they stay and.

524
00:25:25,520 --> 00:25:29,240
Speaker 1: They do overwhelmingly. This is a sin. You just do

525
00:25:29,400 --> 00:25:31,040
Speaker 1: not do it. It cannot be done.

526
00:25:31,080 --> 00:25:33,040
Speaker 2: And I will make a pact with you. And I

527
00:25:33,080 --> 00:25:35,360
Speaker 2: think we had something early on in our relationship where

528
00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:37,720
Speaker 2: I was wanting to leave, not leave the relationship, but

529
00:25:37,880 --> 00:25:41,919
Speaker 2: just leave, and you said, hey, you just looked at

530
00:25:41,920 --> 00:25:44,560
Speaker 2: me and said, if you walk out that door, do

531
00:25:44,760 --> 00:25:47,119
Speaker 2: not come back. And I knew you meant it, and

532
00:25:47,200 --> 00:25:50,879
Speaker 2: so I said, I think I'll stay. You did, you

533
00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:53,560
Speaker 2: did very calmly, but in fact, because you were so

534
00:25:53,760 --> 00:25:57,560
Speaker 2: calm with such a like an unraised voice, I knew

535
00:25:57,880 --> 00:25:59,760
Speaker 2: I was like, let me think if I really want

536
00:25:59,800 --> 00:26:01,800
Speaker 2: to do this or not. And honestly, it was a

537
00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:03,960
Speaker 2: good moment for me and I think for us because

538
00:26:04,000 --> 00:26:06,879
Speaker 2: we've never done that. I've never done that again, and

539
00:26:06,920 --> 00:26:08,399
Speaker 2: if we had to, Lisa, look, I love you or

540
00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:10,080
Speaker 2: I'm upset right now and I'm gonna leave it. I'm

541
00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:11,960
Speaker 2: gonna come back, but I just need some time. That's

542
00:26:12,040 --> 00:26:14,240
Speaker 2: something different than saying I'm done or I'm walking out,

543
00:26:14,720 --> 00:26:18,960
Speaker 2: and so I am so for that packed I think

544
00:26:18,960 --> 00:26:20,800
Speaker 2: it's a good thing for couples to make that packed.

545
00:26:20,880 --> 00:26:22,639
Speaker 1: Oh okay, well i'll your accent for me.

546
00:26:22,680 --> 00:26:26,160
Speaker 2: To make it's understood. It's understood.

547
00:26:26,240 --> 00:26:28,320
Speaker 1: But it's just such a toxic one. And we watch

548
00:26:28,359 --> 00:26:31,239
Speaker 1: a lot of reality dating shows of some kind. How

549
00:26:31,320 --> 00:26:33,960
Speaker 1: many times do we see somebody go I'm done and

550
00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:36,719
Speaker 1: walk away. I'm done and walk away, and then they

551
00:26:36,760 --> 00:26:40,199
Speaker 1: come back I'm done. It's just it's it's a.

552
00:26:40,320 --> 00:26:42,440
Speaker 2: Killer, and it's a it's a killer, and it and

553
00:26:42,560 --> 00:26:45,520
Speaker 2: it and it really does start to eat away at

554
00:26:45,600 --> 00:26:47,960
Speaker 2: trust and at that love.

555
00:26:48,600 --> 00:26:50,760
Speaker 1: Oh, don't do it, folks. And that's a big we

556
00:26:50,800 --> 00:26:52,879
Speaker 1: should put that number on the list. Do not do that.

557
00:26:53,320 --> 00:26:55,000
Speaker 2: That was one of the big and not like you

558
00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:57,840
Speaker 2: know it intellectually, but to hear these couples emphatically say

559
00:26:58,480 --> 00:27:00,280
Speaker 2: this is something we have made a decision not to

560
00:27:00,320 --> 00:27:02,880
Speaker 2: do together. I was on board one hundred percent.

561
00:27:03,040 --> 00:27:07,080
Speaker 1: Another thing was time apart. Yeah, folks, don't see even

562
00:27:07,160 --> 00:27:07,840
Speaker 1: want it or need it.

563
00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:12,159
Speaker 2: I was surprised by this because I thought perhaps we

564
00:27:12,240 --> 00:27:14,520
Speaker 2: were going to hear from these very busy, very like

565
00:27:15,040 --> 00:27:17,880
Speaker 2: successful couples that they are like I need my alone time,

566
00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:20,440
Speaker 2: I need my space, and none of them said that

567
00:27:21,040 --> 00:27:23,399
Speaker 2: the only the only two that kind of alluded to

568
00:27:23,520 --> 00:27:30,560
Speaker 2: it a little bit was Austin and oh my god, Kevin.

569
00:27:30,640 --> 00:27:33,760
Speaker 2: Austin and Kevin. When they decided to move in together

570
00:27:33,800 --> 00:27:37,320
Speaker 2: after six years of dating and not living together, Kevin

571
00:27:37,320 --> 00:27:38,800
Speaker 2: thought it would be good for him to give Austin

572
00:27:38,880 --> 00:27:41,359
Speaker 2: his own room just in case, and sometimes he sleeps

573
00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:43,399
Speaker 2: on the couch, and so just to give him that space,

574
00:27:43,440 --> 00:27:46,280
Speaker 2: because he said, Austin said, I know, I'm somebody who

575
00:27:46,400 --> 00:27:49,000
Speaker 2: needs alone time. It didn't seem like they took much

576
00:27:49,080 --> 00:27:51,480
Speaker 2: of it, but that was the only person who even

577
00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:55,360
Speaker 2: said maybe. Dave Jenny's Dave said, initially he needed alone time,

578
00:27:55,440 --> 00:27:59,359
Speaker 2: but now that he's matured, he doesn't. The golf, remember

579
00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:01,240
Speaker 2: all that, and the boy weekends and she was that

580
00:28:01,359 --> 00:28:02,639
Speaker 2: was the one thing they used to fight about. That

581
00:28:02,760 --> 00:28:03,800
Speaker 2: now it's just a non starter.

582
00:28:03,920 --> 00:28:07,240
Speaker 1: And we can't no time away from each other like none,

583
00:28:07,480 --> 00:28:07,880
Speaker 1: like none.

584
00:28:10,160 --> 00:28:11,119
Speaker 2: Do you need some you know?

585
00:28:11,320 --> 00:28:14,080
Speaker 1: You remember I called you today. I had to leave

586
00:28:14,160 --> 00:28:15,680
Speaker 1: you for a short time. We're not used to doing that.

587
00:28:15,720 --> 00:28:17,280
Speaker 1: We used to listen together all morning. I had to

588
00:28:17,359 --> 00:28:19,560
Speaker 1: leave you for a short time and I called you,

589
00:28:20,359 --> 00:28:22,520
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, because I missed you and you sent me

590
00:28:22,560 --> 00:28:24,120
Speaker 1: a text of Hamil on the treap mill, just another

591
00:28:24,160 --> 00:28:26,280
Speaker 1: mile to gooh blah blah blah, and I said, you know,

592
00:28:26,320 --> 00:28:27,760
Speaker 1: I didn't want anything. I can't remember wh I.

593
00:28:27,760 --> 00:28:31,640
Speaker 2: Was called, and I said, oh, you missed the sound

594
00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:32,120
Speaker 2: of my voice.

595
00:28:32,480 --> 00:28:33,840
Speaker 1: There was nothing to talk about.

596
00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:40,920
Speaker 2: I definitely and me who I thought I was before

597
00:28:41,240 --> 00:28:45,360
Speaker 2: I was in this relationship with you. I have said

598
00:28:45,800 --> 00:28:49,160
Speaker 2: I need alone time, I need my own space. I'm

599
00:28:49,280 --> 00:28:52,280
Speaker 2: not touchy feely. I don't like physical touch. I don't

600
00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:55,320
Speaker 2: hold hands. All of those things completely out the window.

601
00:28:55,360 --> 00:28:58,600
Speaker 1: She's a keeper, right, she's a keeper. She sounds awesome.

602
00:28:58,640 --> 00:28:59,600
Speaker 1: I don't want to be touched.

603
00:29:00,360 --> 00:29:03,720
Speaker 2: I would just say. I believe when you are with

604
00:29:03,880 --> 00:29:06,920
Speaker 2: the right person, all of those things you think about

605
00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:11,480
Speaker 2: yourself melt away because your number one priority is to

606
00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:14,880
Speaker 2: feel connected to this person who you love. And I

607
00:29:15,440 --> 00:29:17,440
Speaker 2: have experienced that now with you, and it makes me

608
00:29:17,560 --> 00:29:20,280
Speaker 2: happy to know that sometimes it is about having the

609
00:29:20,400 --> 00:29:23,480
Speaker 2: right person and then things do fall in place. It

610
00:29:23,560 --> 00:29:26,160
Speaker 2: doesn't mean that there isn't work, and there isn't a

611
00:29:26,280 --> 00:29:29,080
Speaker 2: lot of work that's involved in keeping all of that

612
00:29:29,200 --> 00:29:33,040
Speaker 2: alive and going. But I realized how important it is

613
00:29:33,240 --> 00:29:34,880
Speaker 2: to have the right partner.

614
00:29:36,240 --> 00:29:37,920
Speaker 1: Well, I hope this is it. We'll see what we

615
00:29:38,080 --> 00:29:41,640
Speaker 1: make it through this breakup that's coming. Everybody comes back

616
00:29:41,680 --> 00:29:44,160
Speaker 1: from it a few surprises though here finance is not

617
00:29:44,200 --> 00:29:46,120
Speaker 1: an issue for anybody. That was a surprise to me.

618
00:29:46,920 --> 00:29:49,960
Speaker 1: Some people they choose to keep it all together, separated.

619
00:29:50,040 --> 00:29:53,280
Speaker 1: Some of them even complicated with some LLCs and all

620
00:29:53,320 --> 00:29:55,600
Speaker 1: of this stuff. But for the most point, nobody had

621
00:29:55,640 --> 00:29:56,400
Speaker 1: a finance issue.

622
00:29:56,520 --> 00:29:59,960
Speaker 2: No, no, and Jenny Garth did discuss that there is

623
00:30:00,080 --> 00:30:01,640
Speaker 2: is a little bit of a challenge sometimes when the

624
00:30:01,680 --> 00:30:05,480
Speaker 2: woman makes more money than the man. There's some finessing

625
00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:09,680
Speaker 2: and discussions that actually had to take place for them,

626
00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:12,760
Speaker 2: because resentment starts to build when people don't discuss it.

627
00:30:13,120 --> 00:30:15,200
Speaker 2: That's when the problems happened. But it seemed like everybody

628
00:30:15,240 --> 00:30:15,760
Speaker 2: figured it out.

629
00:30:15,880 --> 00:30:19,360
Speaker 1: He acknowledged that too, Yeah, yea, yeah, he completelynowledged there

630
00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:21,760
Speaker 1: wasn't immediate chemistry. That was a surprise as well. And

631
00:30:21,880 --> 00:30:24,320
Speaker 1: we talked about this. You didn't meet necessarily. Even if

632
00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:25,960
Speaker 1: you meet someone and you're not thinking you're going to

633
00:30:26,080 --> 00:30:28,640
Speaker 1: date them, they're still you think a spark happens. But

634
00:30:28,720 --> 00:30:29,920
Speaker 1: a lot of these folks said, no, I didn't.

635
00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:32,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, a lot of the women said it didn't happen

636
00:30:32,280 --> 00:30:34,960
Speaker 2: for them, funny enough, the men all kind of said

637
00:30:34,960 --> 00:30:38,000
Speaker 2: that they did have a spot. Petere was like nah,

638
00:30:38,680 --> 00:30:40,800
Speaker 2: and Max is like, well, obviously I was, yes, I

639
00:30:40,880 --> 00:30:42,080
Speaker 2: thought you were. Yeah.

640
00:30:42,200 --> 00:30:44,560
Speaker 1: Is it the women just not admitting it and protecting

641
00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:46,520
Speaker 1: themselves like you always say that? Sometimes you do.

642
00:30:46,800 --> 00:30:49,720
Speaker 2: Possibly, But I also think that men might be more

643
00:30:49,880 --> 00:30:52,280
Speaker 2: visual and women it takes a little bit more for

644
00:30:52,360 --> 00:30:53,880
Speaker 2: you to kind of have that big spark. You want

645
00:30:53,920 --> 00:30:57,320
Speaker 2: to know someone's personality, you want to see if they're funny,

646
00:30:57,480 --> 00:30:58,200
Speaker 2: and all of those.

647
00:30:58,280 --> 00:31:00,320
Speaker 1: The takeaway from there is that you don't have to

648
00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:03,160
Speaker 1: look across the room and see somebody who just gets

649
00:31:03,240 --> 00:31:06,680
Speaker 1: you going it. You actually can fall in love with

650
00:31:06,880 --> 00:31:10,400
Speaker 1: somebody and become wildly attracted to them through getting to

651
00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:12,680
Speaker 1: know them. Again. I'd go back to all these reality shows,

652
00:31:12,720 --> 00:31:16,440
Speaker 1: these dating reality shows. It's usually just a visual and

653
00:31:17,040 --> 00:31:18,560
Speaker 1: I'm into them. I'm not into them. But then some

654
00:31:18,680 --> 00:31:20,520
Speaker 1: of them that don't have anything in common. You don't

655
00:31:20,560 --> 00:31:23,640
Speaker 1: think it's oh, they don't have any chemistry. Three episodes later,

656
00:31:23,680 --> 00:31:24,520
Speaker 1: they're all over each.

657
00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:25,960
Speaker 2: Other, and then we google them and find out they

658
00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:28,480
Speaker 2: have three kids, and we're like wow, that's amazing. But

659
00:31:28,640 --> 00:31:30,480
Speaker 2: I think a lot of folks what we heard from

660
00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:33,360
Speaker 2: a lot of these couples is that friendship is the

661
00:31:33,480 --> 00:31:38,200
Speaker 2: number one foundation. Yeah, number one foundation, And we've heard

662
00:31:38,280 --> 00:31:41,400
Speaker 2: that a lot from people. But it was evident each

663
00:31:41,600 --> 00:31:44,720
Speaker 2: of these couples just what we got the advantage of

664
00:31:44,800 --> 00:31:48,320
Speaker 2: watching them, and there was an energy between all of them.

665
00:31:48,360 --> 00:31:50,120
Speaker 2: It didn't matter if they'd been together for twenty one

666
00:31:50,160 --> 00:31:52,040
Speaker 2: years or ten years, but these are all tried and

667
00:31:52,080 --> 00:31:57,680
Speaker 2: true couples. There was a friendship and there was a

668
00:31:57,800 --> 00:32:02,560
Speaker 2: camaraderie and there was this swe eat team like energy

669
00:32:02,640 --> 00:32:04,320
Speaker 2: between them that I can't even I can't I don't

670
00:32:04,320 --> 00:32:05,840
Speaker 2: even have words to describe, but it was there.

671
00:32:06,040 --> 00:32:08,600
Speaker 1: You can't fake it all, and you can't fake it.

672
00:32:08,920 --> 00:32:11,360
Speaker 1: You cannot sit with your loved, the one of your

673
00:32:11,440 --> 00:32:15,200
Speaker 1: spouse and answer questions that you have. They didn't. I

674
00:32:15,320 --> 00:32:16,920
Speaker 1: give all of them credit. They had no idea what

675
00:32:17,000 --> 00:32:20,160
Speaker 1: the questions were and sat there and when they came out,

676
00:32:20,160 --> 00:32:22,160
Speaker 1: they look at each other and then the answers would

677
00:32:22,200 --> 00:32:24,560
Speaker 1: come out. And you have to have a level of

678
00:32:24,640 --> 00:32:26,719
Speaker 1: comfort and confidence in your relationship and the person you're

679
00:32:26,760 --> 00:32:28,840
Speaker 1: sitting next to to do that. I don't know if

680
00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:31,200
Speaker 1: i'd do that with you. But we're going through here

681
00:32:31,280 --> 00:32:34,880
Speaker 1: in just a minute. One last thing I want to

682
00:32:34,880 --> 00:32:38,640
Speaker 1: get to about the surprises the last name change for

683
00:32:38,720 --> 00:32:42,520
Speaker 1: the married couples. There is no middle ground here. It

684
00:32:42,680 --> 00:32:45,520
Speaker 1: seems you are either all for it passionately or you

685
00:32:45,600 --> 00:32:48,280
Speaker 1: are absolutely against it passionately. At least when it comes.

686
00:32:49,120 --> 00:32:50,800
Speaker 1: The men are the ones who are passionately for it,

687
00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:53,520
Speaker 1: and then the women are the ones are passionately against it. Correct,

688
00:32:55,840 --> 00:32:56,560
Speaker 1: So where are we going to do?

689
00:32:56,720 --> 00:32:58,280
Speaker 2: I don't know. I've never changed my name.

690
00:33:00,200 --> 00:33:01,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, what are we going to do?

691
00:33:01,280 --> 00:33:03,880
Speaker 2: I don't know. Okay, I told you the only thing

692
00:33:03,920 --> 00:33:05,440
Speaker 2: I'd be open for is a hyphenation.

693
00:33:05,880 --> 00:33:06,840
Speaker 1: The only thing you'd be open for.

694
00:33:07,320 --> 00:33:09,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, I wouldn't completely lose Robock.

695
00:33:09,000 --> 00:33:10,479
Speaker 1: Ever, any Robock Holmes.

696
00:33:10,920 --> 00:33:12,360
Speaker 2: That would be the only thing I'd be open to.

697
00:33:13,040 --> 00:33:14,640
Speaker 1: The only thing you'd be this is a negotiation.

698
00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:17,320
Speaker 2: Then, well, I'm just saying I wouldn't lose Robock.

699
00:33:17,800 --> 00:33:19,040
Speaker 1: You don't have to lose Robocks.

700
00:33:19,040 --> 00:33:19,400
Speaker 2: There you go.

701
00:33:19,600 --> 00:33:21,200
Speaker 1: You don't I mean not in spirit, but.

702
00:33:24,800 --> 00:33:27,760
Speaker 2: No, I mean I think that you are not actually

703
00:33:28,120 --> 00:33:29,240
Speaker 2: that what.

704
00:33:30,480 --> 00:33:32,640
Speaker 1: You can't lose Robot, then I can't call you Robock.

705
00:33:32,760 --> 00:33:37,080
Speaker 1: I can't call you Rob then homes Robes homes No,

706
00:33:37,240 --> 00:33:40,920
Speaker 1: that's terrible. Well fuck, we had such a good time

707
00:33:40,960 --> 00:33:42,800
Speaker 1: with them. But when we come back where we have

708
00:33:42,920 --> 00:33:45,000
Speaker 1: our super producers in the room with us, we have

709
00:33:45,280 --> 00:33:48,800
Speaker 1: as always Andy, Emma and then Sydney's in the room.

710
00:33:48,960 --> 00:33:51,680
Speaker 1: They are going to ask actually turn the tables on

711
00:33:51,840 --> 00:33:53,240
Speaker 1: us a little bit here. We actually don't know what

712
00:33:53,320 --> 00:33:55,640
Speaker 1: they're going to ask. They pluck some questions from the ones.

713
00:33:55,680 --> 00:33:57,800
Speaker 1: I guess, what do you say? Turn about? It's fair play, yes,

714
00:33:58,440 --> 00:34:00,040
Speaker 1: and hit us with some of the ones we we

715
00:34:00,400 --> 00:34:02,080
Speaker 1: gave our couples. But then there are supposed to be

716
00:34:02,120 --> 00:34:04,440
Speaker 1: some extra ones in there as well that are rapid fire,

717
00:34:04,440 --> 00:34:07,120
Speaker 1: which is always fun. Oh can't wait, because I love

718
00:34:07,160 --> 00:34:08,719
Speaker 1: when somebody ask you a question, You just say the

719
00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:10,040
Speaker 1: first thing that pops in your mind.

720
00:34:10,360 --> 00:34:11,480
Speaker 2: What could possibly go wrong?

721
00:34:11,600 --> 00:34:22,440
Speaker 1: Stand by? Folks are right back? All right, we're back

722
00:34:22,440 --> 00:34:24,960
Speaker 1: folks on this special cuffing season edition of Amy and

723
00:34:25,080 --> 00:34:28,839
Speaker 1: TJ Robes. You nervous about answering questions about us?

724
00:34:29,160 --> 00:34:30,160
Speaker 2: Not with you by my side?

725
00:34:30,239 --> 00:34:31,719
Speaker 1: Okay, you know what. That's what we put all these

726
00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:35,120
Speaker 1: couples through. We did so. I don't know why I

727
00:34:35,160 --> 00:34:38,080
Speaker 1: don't I feel a little uncomfortable going into this. But

728
00:34:38,680 --> 00:34:42,160
Speaker 1: but yes, our our producing team here, Emma, Sydney and

729
00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:46,719
Speaker 1: Andy came up with some questions for us. Emma, all right,

730
00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:47,719
Speaker 1: give us your best.

731
00:34:48,320 --> 00:34:49,640
Speaker 3: Let's warm up with this one.

732
00:34:50,080 --> 00:34:50,680
Speaker 1: Easy stuff.

733
00:34:50,840 --> 00:34:53,360
Speaker 3: Give three words to describe your relationship?

734
00:34:53,600 --> 00:34:56,600
Speaker 2: Thank you today. Oh that's the first question we asked.

735
00:34:56,800 --> 00:34:59,440
Speaker 2: Oh that's a good one. We should have seen this

736
00:34:59,520 --> 00:35:02,839
Speaker 2: com I think about it, all right, I'll you want

737
00:35:02,880 --> 00:35:03,400
Speaker 2: to start.

738
00:35:03,239 --> 00:35:05,920
Speaker 1: Well, I remember it was it last night. Sabine was

739
00:35:05,960 --> 00:35:08,360
Speaker 1: in the room. We talked about this. Last night. Sabine

740
00:35:08,400 --> 00:35:10,360
Speaker 1: was in the room with us in the bedroom. She

741
00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:13,319
Speaker 1: was on the couch. We're in the bed. Everybody's working.

742
00:35:14,160 --> 00:35:15,719
Speaker 1: We were working on something. You looked at me and

743
00:35:15,840 --> 00:35:17,600
Speaker 1: you said, you know, what three words would you use

744
00:35:17,640 --> 00:35:20,120
Speaker 1: to describe a relationship? Yes? Do you remember what I said?

745
00:35:20,320 --> 00:35:23,759
Speaker 2: Something really smart ass? I said, on my nerves, that's

746
00:35:23,840 --> 00:35:25,839
Speaker 2: exactly that's exactly what he said.

747
00:35:25,920 --> 00:35:26,080
Speaker 1: Yeah.

748
00:35:26,160 --> 00:35:28,480
Speaker 2: See, it was so annoying. I forgot it because I

749
00:35:28,640 --> 00:35:31,320
Speaker 2: chose not to having fun. I know, now you have

750
00:35:31,400 --> 00:35:32,040
Speaker 2: to be serious.

751
00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:34,000
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, you said you had something.

752
00:35:34,000 --> 00:35:37,920
Speaker 2: Okay, all right, I'll go so for me, fun one

753
00:35:38,000 --> 00:35:41,600
Speaker 2: hundred percent we are fun is an something that we

754
00:35:41,680 --> 00:35:48,960
Speaker 2: actually prioritize in our relationship. Committed. I feel like I'm

755
00:35:49,080 --> 00:35:51,880
Speaker 2: in this with you one hundred percent, and I feel

756
00:35:52,400 --> 00:35:54,640
Speaker 2: that we are fully committed and that creates a lot

757
00:35:54,680 --> 00:36:01,480
Speaker 2: of safety and satisfaction. And number three, I would say passionate.

758
00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:07,279
Speaker 1: My three words would be still in shock.

759
00:36:10,600 --> 00:36:10,640
Speaker 2: You.

760
00:36:12,480 --> 00:36:15,360
Speaker 1: I say this to you so often in private. I

761
00:36:15,440 --> 00:36:19,840
Speaker 1: cannot believe we're together. We from where our lives started

762
00:36:20,400 --> 00:36:25,440
Speaker 1: to are growing up, to colleges to careers, to relationships,

763
00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:28,880
Speaker 1: to where we ended up working together. All that is

764
00:36:29,000 --> 00:36:33,839
Speaker 1: a fricking miracle that we are sitting here together right now.

765
00:36:33,920 --> 00:36:37,919
Speaker 1: So yes, I if I will forever be hopefully still

766
00:36:38,000 --> 00:36:40,560
Speaker 1: in awe of this relationship. So that was my serious

767
00:36:40,560 --> 00:36:42,680
Speaker 1: And say, y'all laughing, And did you.

768
00:36:42,760 --> 00:36:44,919
Speaker 2: Just change it from still in shock to still in shaw?

769
00:36:45,320 --> 00:36:47,120
Speaker 1: No, I said, I hope I remain in awe with

770
00:36:47,200 --> 00:36:50,279
Speaker 1: this relationship. I actually don't listen. Oh my god, we

771
00:36:50,360 --> 00:36:53,000
Speaker 1: were talking about this earlier week. Oh my god, you're

772
00:36:53,040 --> 00:36:53,359
Speaker 1: so right.

773
00:36:53,480 --> 00:36:55,560
Speaker 2: Your three words were still in shock.

774
00:36:55,640 --> 00:36:58,000
Speaker 1: Still in shock, I said, I remain I hope I

775
00:36:58,080 --> 00:36:59,839
Speaker 1: remain in awe of this relationship.

776
00:37:00,040 --> 00:37:02,160
Speaker 2: I get that. I was just saying I love the words.

777
00:37:02,200 --> 00:37:04,360
Speaker 1: Still in awe versus still in shock.

778
00:37:04,520 --> 00:37:09,360
Speaker 2: Yes, awe is kind of like onspiring, like it's a positive.

779
00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:13,440
Speaker 1: In shock could be terrible, But awe is something You

780
00:37:13,520 --> 00:37:15,840
Speaker 1: can be in awe of something that's still expected. You

781
00:37:15,920 --> 00:37:18,560
Speaker 1: can be in awe of a rose that's on the

782
00:37:18,680 --> 00:37:21,840
Speaker 1: damn street. You can be in awe of a puppy

783
00:37:22,560 --> 00:37:26,280
Speaker 1: that's going down the street. But for me TJ. Holmes

784
00:37:26,560 --> 00:37:28,800
Speaker 1: to end up in a loving relationship and want to

785
00:37:29,000 --> 00:37:30,960
Speaker 1: marry Amy Robach, I'm shocked.

786
00:37:31,480 --> 00:37:37,560
Speaker 2: Okay, who's more likely to start a fight?

787
00:37:38,680 --> 00:37:44,640
Speaker 1: Roebuck? How So, just like that by not acknowledging initially

788
00:37:44,719 --> 00:37:45,840
Speaker 1: that you're the one that usually.

789
00:37:45,600 --> 00:37:47,480
Speaker 2: Starts to fight, but you're the one who gets angry.

790
00:37:47,800 --> 00:37:53,960
Speaker 1: No, I don't, baby, I don't start fights. You know

791
00:37:54,040 --> 00:37:58,479
Speaker 1: I don't. I ask questions. So why were you twenty

792
00:37:58,560 --> 00:38:00,839
Speaker 1: minutes late to this important thing that I have? Why

793
00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:02,200
Speaker 1: am I a start a fight?

794
00:38:04,200 --> 00:38:04,520
Speaker 2: Okay?

795
00:38:04,719 --> 00:38:06,200
Speaker 1: You think I'm likely to start fights?

796
00:38:06,880 --> 00:38:07,120
Speaker 2: I do?

797
00:38:07,520 --> 00:38:09,680
Speaker 1: Well, it seems like Emma is most likely to start

798
00:38:09,719 --> 00:38:11,840
Speaker 1: a fight because we're two questions in.

799
00:38:14,280 --> 00:38:17,840
Speaker 2: God, Okay, let's switch it up. How often do you

800
00:38:17,960 --> 00:38:18,560
Speaker 2: have sex?

801
00:38:19,360 --> 00:38:22,520
Speaker 3: And has it changed? Or how has it changed over time.

802
00:38:23,080 --> 00:38:24,960
Speaker 1: You want to answer, you want to answer, you can answer.

803
00:38:29,400 --> 00:38:32,759
Speaker 1: There is for me at least you guys are however

804
00:38:32,800 --> 00:38:36,360
Speaker 1: you want to. We are in the public eye. We

805
00:38:36,480 --> 00:38:39,840
Speaker 1: have a very public relationship. People are very curious about

806
00:38:40,560 --> 00:38:43,640
Speaker 1: our relationship, and we have answered plenty about it. There's

807
00:38:43,640 --> 00:38:45,920
Speaker 1: a necklace around your neck with a ring on it

808
00:38:47,120 --> 00:38:49,759
Speaker 1: that I don't know if I will ever reveal my

809
00:38:49,920 --> 00:38:54,960
Speaker 1: mindset and why in the message behind that ring. Sex

810
00:38:55,120 --> 00:38:58,720
Speaker 1: is another one that you know what. That's not something

811
00:38:58,880 --> 00:39:03,360
Speaker 1: I am going to address publicly. You can, but you

812
00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:08,360
Speaker 1: I don't feel I can, I should or I'm wanting

813
00:39:08,440 --> 00:39:11,480
Speaker 1: to speak on that intimate thing having to.

814
00:39:11,520 --> 00:39:12,080
Speaker 2: Do with you.

815
00:39:12,520 --> 00:39:14,120
Speaker 1: If you you can say whatever you want, run on

816
00:39:14,160 --> 00:39:16,160
Speaker 1: the mic right now and then I'll follow. But there's

817
00:39:16,520 --> 00:39:18,560
Speaker 1: something about it that always didn't sit right with me.

818
00:39:18,760 --> 00:39:22,480
Speaker 2: I would just say, and we're what are we? Two

819
00:39:22,640 --> 00:39:25,480
Speaker 2: plus years into our relationship. All I can say it

820
00:39:25,680 --> 00:39:31,880
Speaker 2: is the best, most beautiful experience I have ever had

821
00:39:31,920 --> 00:39:34,719
Speaker 2: in my life, and it has only gotten better.

822
00:39:35,600 --> 00:39:36,240
Speaker 3: Pretty solid.

823
00:39:37,239 --> 00:39:40,280
Speaker 1: Oh, everybody's look at she's quiet, she's quiet, he's quiet,

824
00:39:41,360 --> 00:39:43,400
Speaker 1: You're quiet. Everybody's looking around. You want you want me

825
00:39:43,440 --> 00:39:44,000
Speaker 1: to comment on.

826
00:39:44,040 --> 00:39:45,880
Speaker 2: Our sex one only if you want to, And it

827
00:39:45,960 --> 00:39:46,840
Speaker 2: doesn't sound like you do.

828
00:39:47,640 --> 00:39:51,759
Speaker 1: No, it's you know, I think a lot of this

829
00:39:51,920 --> 00:39:54,200
Speaker 1: has to do We do cover so many celebrity couples,

830
00:39:54,920 --> 00:39:59,160
Speaker 1: and I think folks give a at least the public things.

831
00:39:59,200 --> 00:40:01,759
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, you told me this much, so then

832
00:40:01,800 --> 00:40:04,040
Speaker 1: when I ask this, you better damn sure tell me

833
00:40:04,160 --> 00:40:07,160
Speaker 1: this too. It's like some lines slippery slope, there's some

834
00:40:07,320 --> 00:40:09,640
Speaker 1: fine line. So I have always wanted to make sure

835
00:40:09,719 --> 00:40:13,560
Speaker 1: I drew up some line of some kind to say that,

836
00:40:13,680 --> 00:40:15,640
Speaker 1: you know what, there's some things that are private I

837
00:40:15,680 --> 00:40:17,400
Speaker 1: don't want to speak on, and that's one of them.

838
00:40:17,480 --> 00:40:19,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's cool. And we when we asked each

839
00:40:19,880 --> 00:40:22,400
Speaker 2: of the couples, we said, answer this however you'd like,

840
00:40:22,520 --> 00:40:25,839
Speaker 2: because it's something people are curious about. But we also

841
00:40:25,920 --> 00:40:28,160
Speaker 2: respect the fact that that is something that a lot

842
00:40:28,200 --> 00:40:29,680
Speaker 2: of people don't want to talk about.

843
00:40:31,640 --> 00:40:32,279
Speaker 1: I'm one of them.

844
00:40:33,040 --> 00:40:38,400
Speaker 3: Duly noted love Okay, how are you two keeping the

845
00:40:38,600 --> 00:40:39,640
Speaker 3: romance alive?

846
00:40:43,320 --> 00:40:47,000
Speaker 1: There? Well, it depends on what feels romantic to you.

847
00:40:47,280 --> 00:40:47,680
Speaker 2: But the.

848
00:40:49,320 --> 00:40:53,279
Speaker 1: I think there are constant daily gestures or nuggets that

849
00:40:53,640 --> 00:40:56,520
Speaker 1: show that you love somebody. You don't have to say

850
00:40:56,560 --> 00:40:58,520
Speaker 1: I love you. You could go through a whole day

851
00:40:58,520 --> 00:41:00,000
Speaker 1: without saying I love you, and a person can fit

852
00:41:00,120 --> 00:41:03,320
Speaker 1: or more loved than ever by what you do. So

853
00:41:03,560 --> 00:41:06,279
Speaker 1: I do make a point of sending a note every

854
00:41:06,320 --> 00:41:08,560
Speaker 1: now and now and again, just randomly I love you,

855
00:41:09,400 --> 00:41:14,320
Speaker 1: thinking about you on my way cooking is something I

856
00:41:14,400 --> 00:41:19,640
Speaker 1: certainly like to do. The handholding and the touching, it's

857
00:41:19,760 --> 00:41:25,000
Speaker 1: constant with us. So the romance, I don't make an

858
00:41:25,040 --> 00:41:27,239
Speaker 1: effort necessarily to what do I need to come up with?

859
00:41:27,880 --> 00:41:28,640
Speaker 1: It stays there.

860
00:41:28,719 --> 00:41:28,920
Speaker 2: I do.

861
00:41:29,680 --> 00:41:31,000
Speaker 1: When you get up in the morning, you don't speak

862
00:41:31,000 --> 00:41:32,560
Speaker 1: to him, I say, hey, what the hell like? We

863
00:41:32,640 --> 00:41:34,960
Speaker 1: go right to work. You keep romance a lot and

864
00:41:35,000 --> 00:41:37,400
Speaker 1: saying hey, we need to remember that this relationship is first.

865
00:41:37,680 --> 00:41:41,680
Speaker 1: This podcast will get done. But you and I sacrificing

866
00:41:41,840 --> 00:41:43,600
Speaker 1: just giving a kiss or saying good morning so that

867
00:41:43,719 --> 00:41:45,879
Speaker 1: we can get to the podcast is not something that's yeah.

868
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:48,960
Speaker 2: And I think that's the only thing that we need

869
00:41:49,040 --> 00:41:51,160
Speaker 2: to remember and we do throughout the day, is because

870
00:41:51,200 --> 00:41:54,320
Speaker 2: we are working so often when we're together, we're working,

871
00:41:54,960 --> 00:41:58,520
Speaker 2: so to remember that we're a couple who is working together.

872
00:41:58,800 --> 00:42:00,440
Speaker 2: But I don't think it's that hard hard for us.

873
00:42:00,440 --> 00:42:02,640
Speaker 2: There might be an hour goes by and like, hey,

874
00:42:03,239 --> 00:42:04,840
Speaker 2: like I miss you, come over, like you know, and

875
00:42:04,880 --> 00:42:06,719
Speaker 2: then there's a touch or there's a kiss or there's

876
00:42:06,719 --> 00:42:09,560
Speaker 2: a hug. But it's it hasn't felt like work, and

877
00:42:09,640 --> 00:42:12,719
Speaker 2: it hasn't felt like something I had to remember to do.

878
00:42:13,200 --> 00:42:15,440
Speaker 2: It's something that I've still wanted to do. And I

879
00:42:15,520 --> 00:42:17,680
Speaker 2: feel it for you, and I hope you feel it

880
00:42:17,719 --> 00:42:17,960
Speaker 2: for me.

881
00:42:18,200 --> 00:42:20,000
Speaker 1: That's all that I needed to hear. Thanks.

882
00:42:20,400 --> 00:42:23,240
Speaker 3: How do you manage your finances? How do you decide

883
00:42:23,239 --> 00:42:26,680
Speaker 3: who pays for dinners, trips, groceries, et cetera.

884
00:42:26,840 --> 00:42:29,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, we have. We have a joint account and so

885
00:42:29,840 --> 00:42:33,440
Speaker 2: that's we Initially we were struggling with it. Do you

886
00:42:33,520 --> 00:42:36,239
Speaker 2: remember we so badly wanted to get a joint immediately

887
00:42:36,360 --> 00:42:39,160
Speaker 2: so one person wasn't It just seemed like we were

888
00:42:39,200 --> 00:42:42,160
Speaker 2: past the point of saying it's my turner. TJ always

889
00:42:42,200 --> 00:42:43,920
Speaker 2: tried to pay for everything. In fact, the truth is

890
00:42:44,000 --> 00:42:46,320
Speaker 2: he would never let me pay for anything, which was

891
00:42:46,880 --> 00:42:49,080
Speaker 2: very sweet and I loved it, but I also knew

892
00:42:49,120 --> 00:42:51,560
Speaker 2: that that was not a way forward for us. So

893
00:42:54,400 --> 00:42:54,640
Speaker 2: it was.

894
00:42:55,080 --> 00:42:57,000
Speaker 1: It was lovely while it lasted.

895
00:42:56,880 --> 00:42:59,360
Speaker 2: But the point being, I remember we were being so

896
00:42:59,560 --> 00:43:02,520
Speaker 2: hounded by Papa Rozzi. We desperately were trying to get

897
00:43:02,520 --> 00:43:04,759
Speaker 2: to the bank to open a joint account together, but

898
00:43:04,880 --> 00:43:06,759
Speaker 2: we knew that they'd make a headline of it or

899
00:43:06,840 --> 00:43:10,200
Speaker 2: say something that it wasn't So I was on the phone.

900
00:43:10,280 --> 00:43:12,439
Speaker 2: We were calling trying to figure out how we could

901
00:43:12,480 --> 00:43:16,240
Speaker 2: open a bank account without going into the actual branch.

902
00:43:16,600 --> 00:43:18,359
Speaker 2: And we finally found a bank.

903
00:43:18,440 --> 00:43:19,200
Speaker 1: But we could do it.

904
00:43:19,320 --> 00:43:20,839
Speaker 2: We did not have to go in for the bank

905
00:43:20,880 --> 00:43:24,440
Speaker 2: we found, but my bank. I tried every back door

906
00:43:24,480 --> 00:43:27,080
Speaker 2: I could to not walk into the So it took

907
00:43:27,160 --> 00:43:30,200
Speaker 2: us a couple months, but we finally did get a

908
00:43:30,280 --> 00:43:32,759
Speaker 2: joint bank account. And so yes, we everything we do

909
00:43:32,880 --> 00:43:34,439
Speaker 2: together we have out of our join.

910
00:43:34,840 --> 00:43:37,279
Speaker 3: What is one thing people would be surprised to know

911
00:43:37,320 --> 00:43:38,319
Speaker 3: about your relationship?

912
00:43:39,719 --> 00:43:43,160
Speaker 1: Surprised to know about it? Hm, I don't know. I

913
00:43:43,200 --> 00:43:45,600
Speaker 1: something like folks know so much about us, so they

914
00:43:45,640 --> 00:43:49,319
Speaker 1: think they know about us, surprised to know. I think

915
00:43:49,360 --> 00:43:53,880
Speaker 1: it'd be surprised to know just how much we appreciate

916
00:43:55,200 --> 00:43:59,279
Speaker 1: not being out, like how much like it's there's a

917
00:43:59,320 --> 00:44:01,239
Speaker 1: picture here on a red carpet, there's out of a

918
00:44:01,320 --> 00:44:03,480
Speaker 1: nice restaurant, and all this stuff is going on. Man,

919
00:44:03,560 --> 00:44:05,799
Speaker 1: I just want to go home like, well, I am

920
00:44:05,840 --> 00:44:09,719
Speaker 1: completely content with you at the house. It's got to

921
00:44:09,719 --> 00:44:11,600
Speaker 1: be something better than that. As far as surprise, we

922
00:44:11,680 --> 00:44:12,359
Speaker 1: would know what you get.

923
00:44:12,560 --> 00:44:15,600
Speaker 2: Well, I would say if I added up, and this

924
00:44:15,800 --> 00:44:20,000
Speaker 2: is true, the hours that we spent a part during

925
00:44:20,080 --> 00:44:24,960
Speaker 2: the week, I would say, on any given week minus

926
00:44:25,040 --> 00:44:28,600
Speaker 2: anytime we would travel apart, it's probably less than five

927
00:44:28,680 --> 00:44:33,359
Speaker 2: hours a week that we spend apart. Yes, oh maybe, sure, yes,

928
00:44:33,840 --> 00:44:38,040
Speaker 2: And that is pretty remarkable. Most people have separate jobs,

929
00:44:38,160 --> 00:44:40,840
Speaker 2: or separate lives or children pulling them in different directions.

930
00:44:41,160 --> 00:44:44,719
Speaker 2: And we really do everything we don't get any time before,

931
00:44:44,760 --> 00:44:46,359
Speaker 2: and that we're not just say oh we're always together.

932
00:44:46,719 --> 00:44:48,760
Speaker 2: We're actually always together.

933
00:44:50,160 --> 00:44:51,879
Speaker 3: How are you spending Valentine's Day?

934
00:44:54,640 --> 00:44:58,360
Speaker 2: Well, it's gonna be a party of three. Yes, we

935
00:44:58,560 --> 00:45:02,399
Speaker 2: have Sabine, Jay's daughter is coming with us to go see.

936
00:45:03,120 --> 00:45:06,440
Speaker 2: This is actually so exciting. I love this question. We

937
00:45:06,520 --> 00:45:10,319
Speaker 2: are going to see a rom com horror movie. There

938
00:45:10,560 --> 00:45:14,759
Speaker 2: is a mashed genre that I am so excited to see.

939
00:45:14,880 --> 00:45:18,560
Speaker 2: It's called heart Eyes. It's been well reviewed. We are

940
00:45:18,840 --> 00:45:22,160
Speaker 2: all in, so I get a little rom com and

941
00:45:22,280 --> 00:45:24,920
Speaker 2: then we both get a lot of horror. And it

942
00:45:25,120 --> 00:45:28,399
Speaker 2: sounds kind of like the most perfect Valentine's Day date ever,

943
00:45:28,600 --> 00:45:31,120
Speaker 2: especially with Sabine. We love having her with us.

944
00:45:31,600 --> 00:45:33,880
Speaker 1: And the killer has he wears a mask and the

945
00:45:34,000 --> 00:45:36,560
Speaker 1: eyes are lit up and they have little hearts. That's

946
00:45:36,600 --> 00:45:37,120
Speaker 1: the idea.

947
00:45:37,960 --> 00:45:40,880
Speaker 2: This is us made for us to watch on Valentine's Day.

948
00:45:41,200 --> 00:45:43,080
Speaker 1: This is so good that that is our point. And

949
00:45:43,239 --> 00:45:48,239
Speaker 1: the Valentine's Days I have. I've already done the flowers right, yes, okay,

950
00:45:48,320 --> 00:45:51,160
Speaker 1: so the flowers are good. I have a wonderful gift

951
00:45:51,239 --> 00:45:53,759
Speaker 1: for you. It's so good it is.

952
00:45:54,040 --> 00:45:55,520
Speaker 2: I have a really good gift for you too.

953
00:45:56,160 --> 00:45:59,800
Speaker 1: Her birthday is just a week before Valentine's Day, which.

954
00:46:01,440 --> 00:46:04,360
Speaker 2: It's a lot of gifts, dude, and Christmas was just

955
00:46:04,440 --> 00:46:06,080
Speaker 2: six weeks before, so.

956
00:46:06,320 --> 00:46:08,840
Speaker 1: I had to I bought her. I had her gifts

957
00:46:08,880 --> 00:46:12,400
Speaker 1: for her birthday and for Valentine's Day, but we were

958
00:46:12,440 --> 00:46:15,839
Speaker 1: taking a trip for her birthday, and so I said,

959
00:46:15,840 --> 00:46:18,200
Speaker 1: you know what, you would love what I got you

960
00:46:18,280 --> 00:46:20,480
Speaker 1: for Valentine's Day, and you would want to take it

961
00:46:20,560 --> 00:46:23,200
Speaker 1: on this trip. So I switched it up. So your

962
00:46:23,320 --> 00:46:26,400
Speaker 1: Valentine's Day gift I gave you for your birthday, and

963
00:46:26,480 --> 00:46:29,920
Speaker 1: now your original birthday gift has become the Valentine's Day gift.

964
00:46:29,840 --> 00:46:30,880
Speaker 2: That's happened, very funny.

965
00:46:31,080 --> 00:46:32,200
Speaker 3: What was your birthday gift?

966
00:46:32,360 --> 00:46:41,640
Speaker 2: A really hot pair of Nike running sneakers. But I

967
00:46:41,719 --> 00:46:45,200
Speaker 2: knew where everybody's mind was. Yes, but they are actual

968
00:46:45,400 --> 00:46:47,000
Speaker 2: running shoes with flames on them.

969
00:46:47,239 --> 00:46:48,759
Speaker 1: And we were going to Vegas, and we were going

970
00:46:48,840 --> 00:46:50,080
Speaker 1: to run in Vegas, and I knew she want to

971
00:46:50,120 --> 00:46:51,560
Speaker 1: run on the strip and the new shoes, so I

972
00:46:51,760 --> 00:46:52,720
Speaker 1: called an autimal.

973
00:46:52,880 --> 00:46:55,480
Speaker 2: It was perfect, perfect. I loved it all right.

974
00:46:55,560 --> 00:46:57,880
Speaker 1: So this has made this has been fun. I'm not

975
00:46:57,920 --> 00:47:00,799
Speaker 1: I've told it to you privately, but talking to these

976
00:47:00,840 --> 00:47:03,920
Speaker 1: couples reassured me about our relationship and that we're doing

977
00:47:04,000 --> 00:47:06,239
Speaker 1: something right and that even when we're doing something wrong,

978
00:47:06,360 --> 00:47:09,360
Speaker 1: we're doing something right. So this has been a wonderful experiment.

979
00:47:09,400 --> 00:47:10,680
Speaker 1: I hope we can do it down there.

980
00:47:10,920 --> 00:47:14,040
Speaker 2: I agree, and I was hoping. I am hoping that

981
00:47:14,239 --> 00:47:17,439
Speaker 2: everyone who has listened or who hasn't and is going

982
00:47:17,520 --> 00:47:22,200
Speaker 2: to I encourage you. We encourage you to listen along

983
00:47:22,280 --> 00:47:25,960
Speaker 2: with the questions and ask yourself, ask your loved one,

984
00:47:26,320 --> 00:47:28,440
Speaker 2: have fun with some of the questions, ask each other

985
00:47:28,640 --> 00:47:32,080
Speaker 2: what you think of the answer, because it really does

986
00:47:32,200 --> 00:47:34,319
Speaker 2: bring you closer together, and sometimes what you think your

987
00:47:34,360 --> 00:47:36,280
Speaker 2: partner is going to say, they don't and they surprise

988
00:47:36,320 --> 00:47:38,719
Speaker 2: you in a good way. We saw that happen time

989
00:47:38,800 --> 00:47:42,040
Speaker 2: and time again with the couples, some of them saying

990
00:47:42,040 --> 00:47:44,360
Speaker 2: they were more in love after the interview than they

991
00:47:44,440 --> 00:47:48,239
Speaker 2: were before because they learned something sweet or beautiful that

992
00:47:48,360 --> 00:47:51,440
Speaker 2: maybe the other person hadn't shared completely with them until now.

993
00:47:51,600 --> 00:47:53,840
Speaker 2: So anyway, it would be great if any of you

994
00:47:53,920 --> 00:47:56,280
Speaker 2: all listen to whatever one you want, but the questions

995
00:47:56,280 --> 00:47:58,399
Speaker 2: are basically the same, and I just think it's really

996
00:47:58,520 --> 00:48:01,680
Speaker 2: fun exercise maybe to even listen with your loved one

997
00:48:01,840 --> 00:48:06,360
Speaker 2: on this Valentine's month weekend week And we have.

998
00:48:06,440 --> 00:48:10,600
Speaker 1: It right, Sydney, Andy, Emma. The all of the episodes,

999
00:48:10,640 --> 00:48:13,080
Speaker 1: all the interviews will end up on our feed, all

1000
00:48:13,480 --> 00:48:16,600
Speaker 1: chunked together. Do I have that right, Sydney. They're gonna

1001
00:48:16,600 --> 00:48:18,840
Speaker 1: go up to where they'll all be in line together.

1002
00:48:18,880 --> 00:48:20,360
Speaker 1: They're there now, but we're putting them up for you

1003
00:48:20,520 --> 00:48:22,600
Speaker 1: to where they are all in line. You'll see them

1004
00:48:22,600 --> 00:48:25,160
Speaker 1: all together in our feed, so by all means, check

1005
00:48:25,200 --> 00:48:27,279
Speaker 1: them out and again the ropes, Thank you Dave for

1006
00:48:27,440 --> 00:48:30,880
Speaker 1: the This has been an absolute blast. So and I

1007
00:48:31,000 --> 00:48:33,759
Speaker 1: do I can't say it enough. I feel more optimistic

1008
00:48:33,920 --> 00:48:36,400
Speaker 1: and encouraged and feel better and more confident about I

1009
00:48:37,000 --> 00:48:39,600
Speaker 1: didn't lack confidence. I feel more confident about us than ever.

1010
00:48:39,840 --> 00:48:43,080
Speaker 2: I one hundred percent agree. I felt the exact same way.

1011
00:48:43,160 --> 00:48:44,800
Speaker 2: I already knew I loved you. I already knew I

1012
00:48:44,840 --> 00:48:46,200
Speaker 2: wanted to spend my life with you. But now I

1013
00:48:46,239 --> 00:48:48,279
Speaker 2: feel like we're not just gonna make it, but we're

1014
00:48:48,320 --> 00:48:48,879
Speaker 2: gonna be great.

1015
00:48:49,640 --> 00:48:53,760
Speaker 1: Well, folks, we appreciate you as always for listening. I'm TJ. Holmes,

1016
00:48:53,840 --> 00:48:57,320
Speaker 1: and this is Amy Robot and it will forever be

1017
00:48:58,560 --> 00:49:00,279
Speaker 1: Amy Robot. That name will never change.

1018
00:49:03,480 --> 00:49:07,560
Speaker 2: You know me so well. M