WEBVTT - Mister Brian Austin Green (Part 1) 0:00:08.600 --> 0:00:15.520 Misspelling with Tory spelling an iHeartRadio podcast. 0:00:14.920 --> 0:00:16.919 So I'm drinking water. 0:00:17.040 --> 0:00:20.239 You're drinking water because I'm in your house and I'm 0:00:20.360 --> 0:00:21.239 being a good guest. 0:00:21.480 --> 0:00:24.720 I it's and you were talking and you put it 0:00:24.720 --> 0:00:28.760 in my hands. It's good for your system. Zane brought 0:00:28.800 --> 0:00:29.440 it to you. 0:00:30.480 --> 0:00:32.559 Fairness, he did it kind. 0:00:32.360 --> 0:00:34.680 Of forced you to drink water. But it's good for 0:00:34.720 --> 0:00:39.159 your water hydrating. You keep telling me that it is. 0:00:39.240 --> 0:00:41.640 I'm telling you it's good for your skin, it's good 0:00:41.640 --> 0:00:44.920 for your cells, good for every part of your body. 0:00:45.000 --> 0:00:49.360 Your body is what ninety seventy five, seventy five. 0:00:51.159 --> 0:00:53.320 You have no idea what you look at with the 0:00:53.360 --> 0:00:57.320 big brain. Now, all right, totally okay, Tory two point zero? 0:00:57.840 --> 0:00:59.160 Okay, how's that going? 0:00:59.320 --> 0:01:04.480 So you coin that, yes, yes, I had to think 0:01:04.480 --> 0:01:04.800 about it. 0:01:04.840 --> 0:01:05.479 How's it going? 0:01:07.240 --> 0:01:10.919 It definitely started okay. But it's okay to have ebbs 0:01:10.920 --> 0:01:12.840 and flows, right, so I'm having It's not. 0:01:12.800 --> 0:01:18.080 A hiccup, it's not. So it's totally okay to have 0:01:18.240 --> 0:01:21.680 ebbs and flows. And like we talked about before, it's 0:01:21.760 --> 0:01:27.200 not an easy thing to do to decide to change 0:01:28.200 --> 0:01:32.760 your outlook on life, but you just you stay at it. 0:01:32.880 --> 0:01:36.280 That's That's the thing is you just keep doing it, 0:01:36.600 --> 0:01:39.280 even like when it's hard and you're gonna go back 0:01:39.280 --> 0:01:41.080 and forth and you're gonna have times you're gonna make 0:01:41.160 --> 0:01:43.320 choices and go that's not the choice that I should 0:01:43.319 --> 0:01:45.840 have made, and that didn't feel good. But then do 0:01:45.880 --> 0:01:48.640 you make a better choice the next time. It's all 0:01:48.640 --> 0:01:52.560 about being aware of what it is you do right, 0:01:52.720 --> 0:01:52.920 you know. 0:01:53.560 --> 0:01:56.360 But I had awareness before, I just didn't act on it, 0:01:56.880 --> 0:01:58.920 or I didn't have the confidence. 0:01:58.480 --> 0:01:59.760 To act on exactly. 0:02:00.920 --> 0:02:04.320 But I feel like I'm in a better place. I 0:02:04.320 --> 0:02:06.800 don't say sorry anymore rarely. 0:02:07.280 --> 0:02:10.800 I I have been. I see things that you post 0:02:10.840 --> 0:02:17.079 every once in a while, and your your demeanor and 0:02:17.720 --> 0:02:23.120 your presence is different, Like you are much more aware 0:02:23.120 --> 0:02:27.200 of the fact that you have a voice and the 0:02:27.200 --> 0:02:30.840 people are listening to it, and you are. You appear 0:02:30.919 --> 0:02:36.400 to be much more ah, You're it's like you're trying 0:02:36.440 --> 0:02:39.360 to You're you're setting a much better example for people. 0:02:39.639 --> 0:02:43.080 It's really impressive to see because I know it's not easy. 0:02:43.760 --> 0:02:44.640 It's not easy to do. 0:02:45.240 --> 0:02:45.480 No. 0:02:46.000 --> 0:02:49.000 I mean, I wanted to say like living in a shadow, 0:02:49.040 --> 0:02:52.080 but it there's so many multiple shadows. I felt like 0:02:52.120 --> 0:02:54.200 I was living in for you know this as well, 0:02:54.240 --> 0:02:57.280 I mean sure from us like growing up on nine 0:02:57.360 --> 0:02:59.639 two oh yeah. 0:02:59.520 --> 0:03:03.320 All sorts of things from home, from work, from relationships 0:03:03.400 --> 0:03:06.880 for it, and that all builds up and then you 0:03:06.919 --> 0:03:08.920 start losing focus of like, oh my god, what is 0:03:08.960 --> 0:03:11.639 really me? And then what is like some protective thing 0:03:11.880 --> 0:03:17.000 that I that I put up because of past experiences. 0:03:16.480 --> 0:03:21.919 One hundred percent. Wait, when we met we were fifteen. 0:03:23.919 --> 0:03:26.359 Seen the pilot though. 0:03:26.240 --> 0:03:27.120 Because I was driving. 0:03:27.560 --> 0:03:30.520 You were driving. Yeah, you're two months younger than me. 0:03:30.639 --> 0:03:35.720 Sixteen, sixteen, and then seventeen when we started actually shooting 0:03:36.840 --> 0:03:40.720 episode two. Why did I think the pilot we were fifteen? No, 0:03:42.240 --> 0:03:43.680 if we were fifteen, I would have had to go 0:03:43.720 --> 0:03:46.640 with my parents, and I know for sure that I didn't. 0:03:47.040 --> 0:03:49.160 I remember, like I remember that we were at Torrance 0:03:49.200 --> 0:03:54.760 High School, right, and that I drove there. I remember 0:03:54.760 --> 0:03:57.800 where our cars were. Part of that place is so 0:03:58.440 --> 0:04:03.840 it's so it's so crazy, the those memories, like I 0:04:03.920 --> 0:04:05.520 going back and I wish you would have been there. 0:04:05.560 --> 0:04:08.640 When we did the live podcast from from the school. 0:04:09.160 --> 0:04:11.360 It was so interesting to be in spots and go 0:04:11.720 --> 0:04:15.760 like I remember standing around this corner waiting to hear action. 0:04:16.040 --> 0:04:18.640 To come up like those were. Everybody else looked around. 0:04:18.680 --> 0:04:20.560 They're like, oh my god, the fountain and the stairs, 0:04:20.560 --> 0:04:23.960 and I was like I could remember because we were 0:04:23.960 --> 0:04:26.760 there so often. I remember all the kids looking over 0:04:26.800 --> 0:04:30.360 the balcony and like that kind of odd weird thing 0:04:31.040 --> 0:04:34.080 hiding behind spots like I like, I remember. I remember 0:04:34.120 --> 0:04:36.080 the campus for that reason. I remember the way that 0:04:36.320 --> 0:04:38.040 the ways we used to walk to get out to 0:04:38.120 --> 0:04:40.480 set from the parking lot. I can see it right now. 0:04:41.040 --> 0:04:43.600 Oh my god. Remember remember the courtyard that was kind 0:04:43.640 --> 0:04:46.160 of off in the back that almost it was it 0:04:46.200 --> 0:04:50.559 was all grass and it had like a wrought iron 0:04:50.640 --> 0:04:53.200 fence around it, and it almost felt like like the 0:04:53.240 --> 0:04:56.440 side yard of a church property. And it was around 0:04:56.480 --> 0:04:58.640 the front. It was on the off off the main street, 0:04:58.640 --> 0:05:00.480 and we'd walk around that way sometimes times, and there 0:05:00.560 --> 0:05:02.800 was they had a couple of walkways through there, but 0:05:03.000 --> 0:05:06.320 like nobody ever walked through there. It was sort of 0:05:06.360 --> 0:05:08.520 the it was the ghost town of the campus. 0:05:09.520 --> 0:05:11.680 Oh my gosh, our trade, I can like see our 0:05:11.880 --> 0:05:13.640 I remember meeting you like I can see it. 0:05:13.960 --> 0:05:19.080 Yeah, for sure, out where the like circular drive kind 0:05:19.080 --> 0:05:22.480 of thing was at the at the the front of 0:05:22.560 --> 0:05:25.719 the school. Remember the front of the schools on the 0:05:25.720 --> 0:05:28.760 trailer side street. Yeah, so remember the trailers used to 0:05:28.839 --> 0:05:31.719 be parked around the front. Oh, it was the front. 0:05:31.800 --> 0:05:33.719 When we shot the pilot, we were part of the 0:05:33.760 --> 0:05:37.360 trailers were out front, like along the sidewalk. 0:05:37.920 --> 0:05:38.760 So crazy. 0:05:39.120 --> 0:05:41.360 And then we ended up moving to the back parking 0:05:41.400 --> 0:05:45.240 lot later on. But we didn't start there. We had 0:05:45.240 --> 0:05:50.000 to do school. You don't, So I don't remember you 0:05:50.120 --> 0:05:53.200 doing school unless you did set school in your trailer 0:05:53.240 --> 0:05:55.920 by yourself, like you had your own teacher or something. 0:05:56.120 --> 0:05:59.360 No, I did it with you on the pilot. 0:05:59.480 --> 0:06:03.000 I think, I thinks I have I literally have zero memory. 0:06:03.040 --> 0:06:06.800 I have memory of being in class with Doug Emerson 0:06:08.120 --> 0:06:12.720 and then and then sneaking out to smoke cigarettes with Jason, but. 0:06:12.760 --> 0:06:14.640 It was in a trailer. It wasn't. 0:06:14.800 --> 0:06:19.440 Yeah, but I remember when the series got picked up, 0:06:19.600 --> 0:06:22.320 I was in I got my GD because I didn't 0:06:22.320 --> 0:06:22.640 want to. 0:06:22.600 --> 0:06:26.560 Have to do set school. Yeah, okay, probably. 0:06:26.240 --> 0:06:27.720 Because if I had to do it with you, I 0:06:27.720 --> 0:06:28.320 would have like. 0:06:28.760 --> 0:06:31.159 Flunked it, flunk toward why. 0:06:31.240 --> 0:06:33.960 Yeah, I was sixteen, and it was like a boy's cute, 0:06:34.000 --> 0:06:35.360 like I don't know it six year old girls. 0:06:35.360 --> 0:06:39.200 I went to an all girls' school. Did you really? Yes? Oh? Okay? 0:06:39.600 --> 0:06:41.799 I literally said, I don't want him to do school 0:06:41.800 --> 0:06:44.479 with Brian, And I felt like, you didn't do on 0:06:44.520 --> 0:06:45.039 set school? 0:06:45.120 --> 0:06:48.560 I didn't? Forward, I did, so I did on set school. 0:06:48.680 --> 0:06:53.279 Going forward. I ended up graduating from Amelia Earhart, which 0:06:53.320 --> 0:06:57.440 is the continuation school of North Hollywood High, Okay. And 0:06:57.520 --> 0:06:59.840 the reason I went there is because they were They 0:06:59.839 --> 0:07:02.880 were great with like school work. They were like, we 0:07:02.920 --> 0:07:05.120 don't you don't need to be here like this is. 0:07:05.200 --> 0:07:07.160 These are just the assignments like try and get them 0:07:07.160 --> 0:07:08.279 done when you can. 0:07:09.000 --> 0:07:10.720 It was great, but you still had a set teacher 0:07:10.760 --> 0:07:13.320 for I did, but it was only for that year. 0:07:13.360 --> 0:07:15.880 It was only for half of that year and then 0:07:16.240 --> 0:07:18.640 ten and then I was done. So I graduated six 0:07:18.680 --> 0:07:21.480 months earlier than the rest of my class because I 0:07:21.720 --> 0:07:23.320 the school set up there was great. You could sit 0:07:23.360 --> 0:07:25.680 in my classroom and do all the work that you wanted. 0:07:25.720 --> 0:07:27.880 You didn't have to go like from class to class 0:07:27.880 --> 0:07:30.600 teacher to teach her. So I did, like type in 0:07:30.680 --> 0:07:33.120 class in two days like I did, like I just 0:07:33.440 --> 0:07:36.000 buckled down and got stuff done. 0:07:36.160 --> 0:07:37.440 I was like, I just want to be done with this. 0:07:37.480 --> 0:07:41.240 It's unfair, right, now, because so you're saying. So, the 0:07:41.280 --> 0:07:44.040 only way I could take the ged is my mom said, 0:07:44.040 --> 0:07:45.520 when you're not filming, you still have to. 0:07:45.480 --> 0:07:46.080 Go to school. 0:07:46.240 --> 0:07:48.960 Okay, So I took it, but I still had my 0:07:49.000 --> 0:07:51.000 school work. But I didn't have a set teacher. So 0:07:51.040 --> 0:07:53.960 I did do it like after we filmed. Okay, so 0:07:54.000 --> 0:07:57.880 it was double the work. Yeah, and I did it 0:07:57.960 --> 0:08:01.160 just so I didn't have to sit in class with 0:08:01.200 --> 0:08:02.600 you and look silly. 0:08:03.320 --> 0:08:04.760 God, I blew it blew. 0:08:04.800 --> 0:08:09.320 It could have been nothing, nothing else, like it's. 0:08:10.000 --> 0:08:13.000 It's not like it added to any education. No to me. No, 0:08:13.880 --> 0:08:16.680 I always tell people like when I can't think of 0:08:16.720 --> 0:08:18.760 things or I don't know the answer to stuff like 0:08:18.960 --> 0:08:22.200 set school is my excuse. And some people had really 0:08:22.240 --> 0:08:26.880 good set school teachers. I just didn't care enough. 0:08:27.000 --> 0:08:28.280 But it's not like you needed it. 0:08:29.160 --> 0:08:33.000 Well, that's not true. I think everybody needs it, needs 0:08:33.040 --> 0:08:35.640 it to a certain degree. I guess it needs an education. 0:08:36.400 --> 0:08:38.760 Yes, I didn't mean to say that, but I mean, 0:08:38.760 --> 0:08:42.480 I see my sixteen year old struggling with I don't 0:08:42.520 --> 0:08:46.240 even know decimals and fractions and it's just the numbers, 0:08:46.280 --> 0:08:49.600 and I'm just like she's a creative, like, right, I mean, 0:08:49.640 --> 0:08:51.560 I don't want to tell her not to like and 0:08:51.600 --> 0:08:53.960 she's doing really well, but I'm like, God, she's going 0:08:54.000 --> 0:08:57.000 to do something creatively and she's never going to need this. 0:08:57.240 --> 0:09:01.160 And they have calculators now, we didn't have that, right, you. 0:09:01.200 --> 0:09:03.360 Know, a great calculator in your phone. You don't even 0:09:03.440 --> 0:09:09.760 need to buy a separate calculator. Yeah, I think. I 0:09:10.120 --> 0:09:13.520 think like academics are a tough one. I mean, they're 0:09:14.559 --> 0:09:17.280 necessary for some lines of work for sure, and then 0:09:17.320 --> 0:09:22.760 for other ones they're not nearly as necessary. I kind 0:09:22.760 --> 0:09:28.920 of feel like school teaches work ethic compared to just 0:09:29.000 --> 0:09:33.320 the academics. So it's like okay, if she's not academically 0:09:33.360 --> 0:09:36.080 into a certain class or certain things, it's like okay 0:09:36.120 --> 0:09:38.440 at least. Still. I always say this with my kids, 0:09:38.520 --> 0:09:41.960 just try. As long as I know you're trying your hardest, 0:09:42.360 --> 0:09:45.199 I can't expect you to get a's, b's like I 0:09:46.240 --> 0:09:48.160 get it. Like I remember when I was in school 0:09:48.480 --> 0:09:50.360 and there were certain classes where it was just like 0:09:50.440 --> 0:09:55.600 I can't for the life of me, I cannot like 0:09:56.320 --> 0:10:00.120 excel at this class. I cannot make it happen, no 0:10:00.120 --> 0:10:02.360 matter how hard I tried, no matter how hard I study. 0:10:04.920 --> 0:10:07.079 So I think that's that that's kind of the bar 0:10:07.360 --> 0:10:08.840 for me with my kids. 0:10:09.040 --> 0:10:13.200 I had the same I mean, to this day, I'm 0:10:13.240 --> 0:10:17.600 retraining my brain to know I'm not stupid or dumb 0:10:18.200 --> 0:10:21.760 because I failed close but I failed algebra twice and 0:10:21.800 --> 0:10:26.800 it likes I was like they were like all ninth 0:10:26.800 --> 0:10:29.199 graders and I was like the eleventh grader's still there, 0:10:29.320 --> 0:10:33.760 like wamp and yeah. 0:10:33.120 --> 0:10:35.880 I remember. I remember elementary school. I was really good 0:10:35.920 --> 0:10:37.880 at math. I was always like head of my class, 0:10:38.280 --> 0:10:40.520 like I took pride and like I was so good 0:10:40.760 --> 0:10:45.200 and then algebra started and it was like Titanic, like 0:10:45.280 --> 0:10:49.120 the ship just sank. I could not wrap my brain 0:10:49.160 --> 0:10:52.240 around it. And then it just like like I remember 0:10:52.240 --> 0:10:56.320 the first sea I got was in math and there 0:10:56.360 --> 0:10:59.160 was a parent teacher conference and I hadn't told my 0:10:59.200 --> 0:11:02.600 parents that I had a see and and so we 0:11:02.640 --> 0:11:04.920 went to the school and I knew like they were 0:11:04.920 --> 0:11:06.880 gonna be sitting in front of my math teacher and 0:11:06.880 --> 0:11:08.640 that that was gonna come out. And I was like, 0:11:08.880 --> 0:11:11.920 I like, you know that thing when you're a kid 0:11:11.920 --> 0:11:14.160 of like if I close my eyes hard enough and 0:11:14.200 --> 0:11:17.319 nobody can see me, like and I can't see anybody, 0:11:17.320 --> 0:11:24.120 then nobody can see me like that, do you so? 0:11:24.280 --> 0:11:27.040 I remember doing that, and then of course they found 0:11:27.040 --> 0:11:31.280 out and they were so disappointed, which was it's the worst. 0:11:31.440 --> 0:11:34.640 That's the worst word. Like I would much rather my 0:11:34.720 --> 0:11:37.520 parents were mad at me than disappointed in me. You're 0:11:37.559 --> 0:11:43.120 so right. Disappointed is like yeah, it's like, oh man, 0:11:43.240 --> 0:11:46.080 how all you want to do is fix it? But 0:11:46.120 --> 0:11:49.560 it's like, how am I gonna I'll try harder in 0:11:49.640 --> 0:11:53.000 the algebra, but I can't. I can't guarantee that I'm 0:11:53.040 --> 0:11:57.800 gonna fix it and then not disappoint you disappoint like mad, 0:11:57.920 --> 0:12:02.560 you could, You'll get over. Disappointment felt like it was 0:12:02.600 --> 0:12:03.840 a forever thing for me. 0:12:05.400 --> 0:12:07.240 I can't believe we have five kids each. 0:12:09.360 --> 0:12:09.920 That's crazy. 0:12:10.000 --> 0:12:13.480 How'd that happen? I mean, I know, but I'm just 0:12:14.360 --> 0:12:19.160 it's crazy. Yeah, it's uh yeah, yeah. 0:12:19.880 --> 0:12:26.200 What's crazy is Iron, who always, to me seemed like 0:12:26.480 --> 0:12:30.360 the real romantic guy, Like I always assumed he'd be 0:12:30.720 --> 0:12:35.040 the family guy first, and he's like the last one. 0:12:35.280 --> 0:12:37.440 I think he was the he was the last one 0:12:37.440 --> 0:12:38.040 to have kids. 0:12:39.240 --> 0:12:40.840 Really hmmm. 0:12:42.080 --> 0:12:46.000 If you think about it, Luke had kids, Jenny had kids, 0:12:46.240 --> 0:12:57.480 You had kids. Yeah, you're right, Gabrielle had yes. Wow, yeah, interesting, right, But. 0:12:57.400 --> 0:13:01.199 I don't think it was on purpose his first way. 0:13:01.280 --> 0:13:03.600 I mean, oh no, no, he would have started. 0:13:03.360 --> 0:13:05.440 Yeah, No, for sure he was. He was ready to 0:13:05.440 --> 0:13:09.160 have a family. Like yesterday, I love that you have 0:13:09.200 --> 0:13:11.240 a vest on that says weirdo on the front of it. 0:13:11.280 --> 0:13:13.679 But then you're like judging me for a piece of 0:13:13.679 --> 0:13:14.160 dog care. 0:13:15.240 --> 0:13:17.439 Oh but I wasn't judging you. 0:13:17.440 --> 0:13:18.319 You were just fixing it. 0:13:18.400 --> 0:13:23.960 Yeah, that's what girls do, right, we fix Seana is always. 0:13:23.679 --> 0:13:27.400 Fucking with my hair always like you know, fix it. 0:13:27.400 --> 0:13:30.240 It means we care, okay, right, And it doesn't have 0:13:30.360 --> 0:13:33.199 to just be like your life partner. It's the other 0:13:33.240 --> 0:13:34.680 woman in your life to care about you. 0:13:35.280 --> 0:13:36.439 That's absolutely true. 0:13:36.760 --> 0:13:40.160 Like I wouldn't do it just some random person. I 0:13:40.160 --> 0:13:40.760 mean I would. 0:13:40.640 --> 0:13:44.360 Fixate it on the like, be so fixed, like would 0:13:44.640 --> 0:13:46.320 I really wouldn't. 0:13:46.600 --> 0:13:50.120 Have you Wait, have you ever to like a random 0:13:50.160 --> 0:13:53.440 person been like can I just you have stuff on 0:13:53.480 --> 0:13:56.320 your or your tag is out on your shirt? 0:13:56.720 --> 0:13:59.040 You Oh, I do that all the time. But that's 0:13:59.080 --> 0:14:01.000 like girl code now and they thank me. 0:14:01.320 --> 0:14:05.000 That's girl code. How what do you mean girl code? 0:14:06.040 --> 0:14:09.480 Because yeah, if a girl is walking around her tag 0:14:09.520 --> 0:14:12.360 sticking on the back, Like that's just a move to 0:14:12.400 --> 0:14:13.200 not tell her. 0:14:13.120 --> 0:14:16.360 Right, But what if it's a guy does girl code? 0:14:16.360 --> 0:14:21.920 Then is the code like, oh, don't touch another possible 0:14:22.000 --> 0:14:26.480 woman's guy's tag on his shirt. I'm just gonna let 0:14:26.600 --> 0:14:27.280 him walk around. 0:14:27.320 --> 0:14:28.640 And what's the scenario. 0:14:29.840 --> 0:14:34.440 Say you were out somewhere and you saw a couple walking. Yeah, no, 0:14:34.840 --> 0:14:38.080 and the guy had a big tag stick I wouldn't. 0:14:38.400 --> 0:14:40.840 But but now if they were walking and she had 0:14:40.880 --> 0:14:42.080 a big tag sticking. 0:14:41.760 --> 0:14:44.680 Out, I would Okay, yeah, oh. 0:14:44.280 --> 0:14:47.720 Girl code, So there you go. You didn't you don't 0:14:47.720 --> 0:14:52.000 want to, Well it's it's not great, So. 0:14:54.200 --> 0:14:57.200 Well no, I would, but I don't judge. But I 0:14:57.240 --> 0:15:00.400 would say, like in my head, like wow, she's she's 0:15:00.440 --> 0:15:02.400 a dick, Like she should tell him that he has 0:15:02.480 --> 0:15:03.760 a tag hanging out the. 0:15:03.760 --> 0:15:11.040 Back, right, So okay. So then you would get upset 0:15:11.040 --> 0:15:19.640 with her with his girl not upset, just disappointed, disappointment. Internally, 0:15:19.720 --> 0:15:20.800 you would internalize it. 0:15:22.080 --> 0:15:23.200 I wouldn't overthink it. 0:15:23.240 --> 0:15:25.800 I just feel like you wouldn't outwardly be like I'm 0:15:25.920 --> 0:15:30.880 so disappointed in you for like not fixing your guys tag. 0:15:31.960 --> 0:15:34.240 If we were all talking, I would say like. 0:15:34.440 --> 0:15:38.120 If you were hanging out. Yeah, okay, he has a right, 0:15:38.920 --> 0:15:40.960 there's a you probably tell him though, Hey there's a 0:15:41.000 --> 0:15:42.680 tag sticking up out of the back of your shirt. 0:15:43.080 --> 0:15:46.400 Yeah, don't really ever have that though. It's not like 0:15:46.440 --> 0:15:47.760 a sure they do you think? 0:15:47.880 --> 0:15:51.560 Oh for sure? Yeah, I've had many a moment where 0:15:51.560 --> 0:15:53.360 a tag is sticking up out of the back of 0:15:53.400 --> 0:15:59.000 my shirt. She's snoring. She's the smallest of our dogs, 0:15:58.040 --> 0:16:02.200 and she like a freight train at night. 0:16:02.440 --> 0:16:03.240 I have one of those. 0:16:05.120 --> 0:16:07.640 It's the craziest thing. I snore. 0:16:08.120 --> 0:16:12.960 I never used to snore, you know what. I Oh 0:16:13.000 --> 0:16:16.400 my gosh, you won't remember this. Maybe you will. When 0:16:16.440 --> 0:16:18.640 we were filming BH nine O two and oh. 0:16:19.000 --> 0:16:23.760 Wait the reboot, yep, that one? Okay, eh, right, okay, 0:16:24.080 --> 0:16:25.920 is there another one? No? I was just making sure 0:16:25.960 --> 0:16:28.680 when you say the name that we were speaking about 0:16:28.720 --> 0:16:29.120 the reboot. 0:16:29.240 --> 0:16:34.760 The reboot, we were talking about partners and kids, and 0:16:34.880 --> 0:16:41.080 you were saying that it annoyed your ex me. Yes, 0:16:41.200 --> 0:16:44.040 it annoyed Megan when you chewed because she thought she 0:16:44.080 --> 0:16:49.880 could hear it. Yes, And I remember thinking at the time, like, 0:16:51.240 --> 0:16:54.000 how bad could it be? Like she loves him, Like why, 0:16:54.280 --> 0:16:58.800 like that really bothers her. But now my daughter's like, Mom, 0:16:59.200 --> 0:17:01.280 I can hear you chewing, and I always think of you. 0:17:01.320 --> 0:17:03.320 I'm like, God, it's an age thing. Maybe, like I 0:17:03.360 --> 0:17:05.600 don't know, I know, it just always bothered her. 0:17:05.800 --> 0:17:12.520 I I don't remember when the chew, so I think 0:17:12.640 --> 0:17:15.800 I honestly think that the chewing thing was just like 0:17:16.760 --> 0:17:19.359 she'd gotten to the point I think where things just 0:17:19.359 --> 0:17:21.359 weren't great. So I was just it was everything was 0:17:21.400 --> 0:17:24.879 annoying her, which happens in relationship. Yeah, you kind of 0:17:24.920 --> 0:17:26.600 get to that point where you're like, God, just the 0:17:26.640 --> 0:17:30.000 way you're shuffling your feet right now, the way you're 0:17:30.520 --> 0:17:34.520 putting that toast, and the toaster is just driving me crazy. 0:17:34.600 --> 0:17:37.639 It's all that stupid little stuff, you know that. And 0:17:37.680 --> 0:17:40.439 then that, to me is when you have to make 0:17:40.480 --> 0:17:42.560 the choice of going, Okay, we either are gonna go 0:17:42.600 --> 0:17:46.960 into therapy and we're gonna try and find like our 0:17:47.000 --> 0:17:50.680 connection and figure out what's going on now, or these 0:17:50.720 --> 0:17:53.080 things are gonna sink us. They're gonna be the death 0:17:53.200 --> 0:17:55.840 of us, because they just build up and build up 0:17:55.840 --> 0:17:58.720 and get worse and worse and worse. And you start 0:17:58.880 --> 0:18:02.440 every little thing, every little thing starts true. 0:18:03.119 --> 0:18:08.200 But my sixteen year old. My chewing bothers her so, but. 0:18:08.320 --> 0:18:14.720 She's sixteen and and and uh, girls and their moms 0:18:14.760 --> 0:18:19.359 that relationship can get rocky sometimes, especially like a puberty 0:18:19.400 --> 0:18:21.720 and all that, because she's trying to kind of find 0:18:21.760 --> 0:18:22.919 her own voice and all of that. 0:18:23.160 --> 0:18:23.879 So she found it. 0:18:24.320 --> 0:18:29.160 So she then I, you know, chewing isn't isn't nearly 0:18:29.200 --> 0:18:31.919 that bad. It could be way worse, honestly for her 0:18:31.960 --> 0:18:35.120 to be like you chew like a like a maniac, 0:18:35.280 --> 0:18:35.480 you know. 0:18:36.040 --> 0:18:38.080 No, she's just like ugh, She's like, mom, I can 0:18:38.160 --> 0:18:40.320 hear it, like it's just and then and then. 0:18:40.160 --> 0:18:43.520 She started you, no, no. 0:18:43.480 --> 0:18:44.520 Never, I've never. 0:18:45.000 --> 0:18:47.000 And it's gotten to the point because you know, me, 0:18:47.200 --> 0:18:50.200 like I want everyone to be happy and I'm remembering, 0:18:50.480 --> 0:18:52.280 so it's gotten to the point than when I'm eating 0:18:52.320 --> 0:18:54.160 and it's just her and I I'm like, I turn 0:18:54.240 --> 0:18:55.640 away and I'm like. 0:18:56.520 --> 0:19:00.560 Are you a people pleaser with your kids? Too? Oh? Boy? No, 0:19:00.720 --> 0:19:04.119 I mean that's a that's an interesting question because it's like, 0:19:04.280 --> 0:19:09.880 I usually people that have issues like that then when 0:19:09.880 --> 0:19:13.639 they have their own kids, they they swing the complete 0:19:13.640 --> 0:19:16.600 opposite direction and they're like, I'm the boss of you. 0:19:17.480 --> 0:19:19.919 So it's like they don't have those same issues with 0:19:19.960 --> 0:19:22.720 their kids, So you have the same issues with your Kyeah? 0:19:23.600 --> 0:19:28.359 Interesting have you always? No? I love that this is 0:19:28.400 --> 0:19:32.400 your podcast and I'm I'm interviewing you. I don't know why. 0:19:33.080 --> 0:19:35.760 I don't know why I do this, So I it's funny, 0:19:35.800 --> 0:19:39.040 like in therapy, as I started really getting into communicating 0:19:39.160 --> 0:19:43.440 with people, I when I'm sitting and talking to people, 0:19:43.520 --> 0:19:47.240 I start getting into these like serious questions and digging, 0:19:47.560 --> 0:19:49.280 and then I feel bad and I'm like, oh my god, 0:19:49.320 --> 0:19:53.760 have I asked too much? Because you're interested? That's thing. Yes, 0:19:53.840 --> 0:19:55.919 And it's all the questions that I didn't ask before, 0:19:56.160 --> 0:19:59.359 Like there's a lot about you that I know, and 0:19:59.400 --> 0:20:02.480 then there's a lot about you that I don't, because 0:20:02.520 --> 0:20:06.000 it's it's whether you ask the questions to give you 0:20:06.040 --> 0:20:06.960 that information or not. 0:20:07.840 --> 0:20:08.000 Right. 0:20:08.119 --> 0:20:09.440 I just saw a great quote. 0:20:09.520 --> 0:20:13.400 It was like, you you know someone, but then there's 0:20:13.440 --> 0:20:15.120 someone like on the inside that you. 0:20:15.080 --> 0:20:17.680 Don't know, and you have to ask those questions to 0:20:18.080 --> 0:20:19.600 find out to find out. 0:20:19.840 --> 0:20:25.840 So people, please my kids, I it got worse over 0:20:25.880 --> 0:20:26.400 the years. 0:20:26.280 --> 0:20:27.159 Yeah, did it? 0:20:27.520 --> 0:20:27.960 Yeah? 0:20:28.960 --> 0:20:30.439 And why and why do you think it got well? 0:20:30.480 --> 0:20:33.800 When they're young? I don't like my seven year old. 0:20:35.440 --> 0:20:37.640 He's like, I call him my boss and he's. 0:20:37.440 --> 0:20:40.520 Like, don't say that, like it really. 0:20:40.280 --> 0:20:44.280 Offends him, Like, well, kind of tell me what to do. 0:20:44.800 --> 0:20:46.960 And then I but I'm talking about it out loud. 0:20:47.000 --> 0:20:49.280 I'm like, I don't even know why I told him. 0:20:49.280 --> 0:20:49.679 The other day. 0:20:49.720 --> 0:20:51.399 I'm like, I don't think you want a mom, and 0:20:51.400 --> 0:20:53.120 he's like, I want a mom. I'm like, I'm sorry, 0:20:53.119 --> 0:20:53.600 I didn't mean that. 0:20:53.640 --> 0:20:54.040 I'm sorry. 0:20:54.760 --> 0:20:56.800 I was like, I don't mean a mom like you 0:20:57.440 --> 0:21:00.480 like you parent us. You don't want a parent apparent 0:21:01.680 --> 0:21:03.159 and he's like I do. I want you to be 0:21:03.200 --> 0:21:05.000 a parent. I'm like okay, but then you have to 0:21:05.040 --> 0:21:06.760 listen to me and we're not equals. And then I'm 0:21:06.800 --> 0:21:11.840 like shut up, like yeah, wait, I wanted to go 0:21:11.880 --> 0:21:14.640 back to something. Oh snort, your dog snores. 0:21:14.760 --> 0:21:20.720