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Speaker 1: Misspelling with Tory spelling an iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: So I'm drinking water.

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Speaker 3: You're drinking water because I'm in your house and I'm

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Speaker 3: being a good guest.

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Speaker 1: I it's and you were talking and you put it

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Speaker 1: in my hands. It's good for your system. Zane brought

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Speaker 2: Fairness, he did it kind.

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Speaker 1: Of forced you to drink water. But it's good for

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Speaker 1: your water hydrating. You keep telling me that it is.

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Speaker 1: I'm telling you it's good for your skin, it's good

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Speaker 1: for your cells, good for every part of your body.

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Speaker 1: Your body is what ninety seventy five, seventy five.

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Speaker 3: You have no idea what you look at with the

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Speaker 3: big brain. Now, all right, totally okay, Tory two point zero?

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Speaker 1: Okay, how's that going?

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Speaker 3: So you coin that, yes, yes, I had to think

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Speaker 2: How's it going?

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Speaker 3: It definitely started okay. But it's okay to have ebbs

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Speaker 3: and flows, right, so I'm having It's not.

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Speaker 1: A hiccup, it's not. So it's totally okay to have

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Speaker 1: ebbs and flows. And like we talked about before, it's

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Speaker 1: not an easy thing to do to decide to change

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Speaker 1: your outlook on life, but you just you stay at it.

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Speaker 1: That's That's the thing is you just keep doing it,

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Speaker 1: even like when it's hard and you're gonna go back

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Speaker 1: and forth and you're gonna have times you're gonna make

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Speaker 1: choices and go that's not the choice that I should

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Speaker 1: have made, and that didn't feel good. But then do

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Speaker 1: you make a better choice the next time. It's all

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Speaker 1: about being aware of what it is you do right,

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Speaker 3: But I had awareness before, I just didn't act on it,

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Speaker 3: or I didn't have the confidence.

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Speaker 1: To act on exactly.

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Speaker 3: But I feel like I'm in a better place. I

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Speaker 3: don't say sorry anymore rarely.

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Speaker 1: I I have been. I see things that you post

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Speaker 1: every once in a while, and your your demeanor and

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Speaker 1: your presence is different, Like you are much more aware

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Speaker 1: of the fact that you have a voice and the

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Speaker 1: people are listening to it, and you are. You appear

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Speaker 1: to be much more ah, You're it's like you're trying

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Speaker 1: to You're you're setting a much better example for people.

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Speaker 1: It's really impressive to see because I know it's not easy.

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Speaker 1: It's not easy to do.

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Speaker 2: No.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I wanted to say like living in a shadow,

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Speaker 3: but it there's so many multiple shadows. I felt like

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Speaker 3: I mean sure from us like growing up on nine

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Speaker 1: All sorts of things from home, from work, from relationships

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Speaker 1: for it, and that all builds up and then you

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Speaker 1: really me? And then what is like some protective thing

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Speaker 1: that I that I put up because of past experiences.

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Speaker 3: One hundred percent. Wait, when we met we were fifteen.

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Speaker 3: Seen the pilot though.

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Speaker 1: Because I was driving.

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Speaker 2: You were driving. Yeah, you're two months younger than me.

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Speaker 1: Sixteen, sixteen, and then seventeen when we started actually shooting

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Speaker 1: episode two. Why did I think the pilot we were fifteen? No,

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Speaker 1: if we were fifteen, I would have had to go

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Speaker 1: I remember, like I remember that we were at Torrance

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Speaker 1: it's so it's so crazy, the those memories, like I

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Speaker 1: When we did the live podcast from from the school.

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Speaker 1: like I remember standing around this corner waiting to hear action.

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Speaker 1: To come up like those were. Everybody else looked around.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, our trade, I can like see our

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Speaker 3: I remember meeting you like I can see it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, for sure, out where the like circular drive kind

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Speaker 1: And then we ended up moving to the back parking

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Speaker 1: lot later on. But we didn't start there. We had

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Speaker 1: to do school. You don't, So I don't remember you

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Speaker 1: doing school unless you did set school in your trailer

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Speaker 2: No, I did it with you on the pilot.

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Speaker 1: I think, I thinks I have I literally have zero memory.

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Speaker 1: I have memory of being in class with Doug Emerson

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Speaker 1: and then and then sneaking out to smoke cigarettes with Jason, but.

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Speaker 2: It was in a trailer. It wasn't.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but I remember when the series got picked up,

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Speaker 1: Have to do set school. Yeah, okay, probably.

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Speaker 2: Because if I had to do it with you, I

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Speaker 1: Flunked it, flunk toward why.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I was sixteen, and it was like a boy's cute,

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Speaker 1: I went to an all girls' school. Did you really? Yes? Oh? Okay?

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Speaker 3: I literally said, I don't want him to do school

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Speaker 1: I didn't? Forward, I did, so I did on set school.

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Speaker 1: Going forward. I ended up graduating from Amelia Earhart, which

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Speaker 1: These are just the assignments like try and get them

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Speaker 4: It was great, but you still had a set teacher

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Speaker 1: I was like, I just want to be done with this.

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Speaker 3: It's unfair, right, now, because so you're saying. So, the

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Speaker 3: only way I could take the ged is my mom said,

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Speaker 3: Okay, So I took it, but I still had my

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Speaker 3: I did do it like after we filmed. Okay, so

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Speaker 2: It could have been nothing, nothing else, like it's.

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Speaker 1: It's not like it added to any education. No to me. No,

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Speaker 1: I always tell people like when I can't think of

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Speaker 1: set school is my excuse. And some people had really

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Speaker 2: But it's not like you needed it.

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Speaker 1: Well, that's not true. I think everybody needs it, needs

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Speaker 3: Yes, I didn't mean to say that, but I mean,

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Speaker 3: I see my sixteen year old struggling with I don't

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Speaker 3: And they have calculators now, we didn't have that, right, you.

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Speaker 1: I remember. I remember elementary school. I was really good

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Speaker 3: The reboot, we were talking about partners and kids, and

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Speaker 1: Are you a people pleaser with your kids? Too? Oh? Boy? No,

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Speaker 3: It was like, you you know someone, but then there's

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Speaker 3: So people, please my kids, I it got worse over

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Speaker 1: Yeah, did it?

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Speaker 3: When they're young? I don't like my seven year old.

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Speaker 1: I was a total like X Game kind of guy.

439
00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:15,720
Speaker 1: I grew up in the valley, I grew up in

440
00:23:15,760 --> 00:23:19,440
Speaker 1: North Hollywood, So that's what we did. You I do.

441
00:23:19,520 --> 00:23:22,000
Speaker 1: I still skate I did. I did a lot of

442
00:23:22,040 --> 00:23:27,000
Speaker 1: skating though when I was recovering from the neurological stuff,

443
00:23:27,040 --> 00:23:30,080
Speaker 1: because for me, it was just like a coordination and

444
00:23:30,119 --> 00:23:32,120
Speaker 1: a balance thing, like it was a lot of that

445
00:23:32,240 --> 00:23:35,000
Speaker 1: went away, so I had to and it used to

446
00:23:35,040 --> 00:23:37,959
Speaker 1: drive me insane, like working out with my trainer and

447
00:23:38,040 --> 00:23:40,080
Speaker 1: like I had zero balance. I couldn't stand on one

448
00:23:40,119 --> 00:23:42,440
Speaker 1: foot and do things. And it was like I've always

449
00:23:43,160 --> 00:23:45,000
Speaker 1: I did circus of the stars, like I used to

450
00:23:45,040 --> 00:23:47,680
Speaker 1: do flips and I have I've on trampolines and into

451
00:23:47,680 --> 00:23:49,639
Speaker 1: pools and like I've always been great at all of

452
00:23:49,640 --> 00:23:52,159
Speaker 1: that stuff. You're giggling because of my Circus of the Stars.

453
00:23:52,520 --> 00:23:54,760
Speaker 3: No, I didn't remember till you said it, and then

454
00:23:54,800 --> 00:23:56,240
Speaker 3: I can picture you on it now.

455
00:23:56,400 --> 00:24:00,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, it made me. I had the ridiculous sparkly one.

456
00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:04,880
Speaker 1: It was like orange and pink and purple. I think

457
00:24:04,880 --> 00:24:08,320
Speaker 1: it was with Heather Langing Camp and like some of

458
00:24:08,440 --> 00:24:13,240
Speaker 1: it was camp. Yeah. Yeah, that was Nightmare on Elm Street.

459
00:24:13,880 --> 00:24:26,080
Speaker 2: Oh the best. Wait, which side do you sleep on?

460
00:24:26,200 --> 00:24:26,960
Speaker 2: Which side of the bed?

461
00:24:27,080 --> 00:24:30,720
Speaker 1: Like do you I sleep on I'm looking at my toes.

462
00:24:30,800 --> 00:24:33,359
Speaker 1: I sleep on the right hand side, which I heard

463
00:24:33,440 --> 00:24:36,040
Speaker 1: someone was just saying to me that, like that the

464
00:24:36,119 --> 00:24:38,120
Speaker 1: right hand side of the bed is the masculine side

465
00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:40,800
Speaker 1: and the left hand side is the feminine side. And

466
00:24:40,840 --> 00:24:42,879
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, that's interesting because I sleep on the.

467
00:24:42,880 --> 00:24:46,880
Speaker 2: Right forever, like with every partner.

468
00:24:51,119 --> 00:24:54,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think so, Like I think I think there

469
00:24:54,600 --> 00:24:56,359
Speaker 1: have been times where it's like, hey, let's switch it

470
00:24:56,440 --> 00:24:58,720
Speaker 1: up a little bit, But I think I've always gravitated

471
00:24:58,760 --> 00:25:01,240
Speaker 1: towards and ended up on the right side of the bed.

472
00:25:02,160 --> 00:25:07,880
Speaker 2: I sleep on the left always. Whoa, whoa wait, we

473
00:25:08,080 --> 00:25:08,800
Speaker 2: just I just.

474
00:25:08,840 --> 00:25:13,679
Speaker 3: Like remembered this combo we had this conversation. And this

475
00:25:13,760 --> 00:25:17,879
Speaker 3: is going back to Megan again. Sorry, you said she

476
00:25:18,440 --> 00:25:20,439
Speaker 3: wants you to be closest to the door, so if

477
00:25:20,480 --> 00:25:22,720
Speaker 3: someone comes in to kill you guys, you'll go for.

478
00:25:22,840 --> 00:25:25,160
Speaker 1: Me on the left hand Is that correct? The left

479
00:25:25,160 --> 00:25:32,320
Speaker 1: hand side the bed makes perfect sense? Yeah? Yeah, yeah,

480
00:25:32,440 --> 00:25:38,760
Speaker 1: oh yeah, uh I whish I I get it. I

481
00:25:38,800 --> 00:25:41,560
Speaker 1: mean fair, fair point, Like, you know, put me by

482
00:25:41,640 --> 00:25:43,960
Speaker 1: the closest to the door, so in case somebody breaks in,

483
00:25:44,880 --> 00:25:49,840
Speaker 1: I'm there to take the axe hit first. So I

484
00:25:49,920 --> 00:25:51,639
Speaker 1: understand the argument for sure.

485
00:25:55,520 --> 00:25:59,760
Speaker 2: That's funny. Yeah. So I snore Now I never used to.

486
00:26:01,000 --> 00:26:03,760
Speaker 1: So you just started or you never used to because

487
00:26:03,760 --> 00:26:06,520
Speaker 1: nobody told you that you snored, but you've actually snored

488
00:26:06,560 --> 00:26:08,520
Speaker 1: for a long time and you didn't know it.

489
00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:10,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm gonna take that back now.

490
00:26:10,240 --> 00:26:11,399
Speaker 1: I didn't used to.

491
00:26:11,680 --> 00:26:15,119
Speaker 2: And then Dean at some point was like, you're snoring

492
00:26:16,200 --> 00:26:16,520
Speaker 2: a lot.

493
00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:20,480
Speaker 1: Did he say like, maybe you just started snorying, or

494
00:26:20,480 --> 00:26:22,800
Speaker 1: did he say like you've been driving me insane. So

495
00:26:22,840 --> 00:26:25,000
Speaker 1: I'm finally going to point out that you've been snowing

496
00:26:25,040 --> 00:26:26,199
Speaker 1: our entire relationship.

497
00:26:26,680 --> 00:26:28,920
Speaker 3: I mean he was like, you're chewing really loud, and

498
00:26:28,960 --> 00:26:29,800
Speaker 3: I can hear you snort.

499
00:26:29,960 --> 00:26:35,080
Speaker 1: No, no, I was gonna say so, So, do you

500
00:26:35,119 --> 00:26:38,320
Speaker 1: think any of the stuff, any of the chewing stuff,

501
00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:42,000
Speaker 1: came from that relationship and like that it was viewed

502
00:26:42,359 --> 00:26:46,760
Speaker 1: by any of the kids or no, the chewing Yeah,

503
00:26:46,800 --> 00:26:49,280
Speaker 1: like you know, do you think like he maybe said

504
00:26:49,320 --> 00:26:51,879
Speaker 1: an example of things.

505
00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:52,800
Speaker 2: You'd o that bothered him?

506
00:26:52,920 --> 00:26:53,360
Speaker 1: Yeah?

507
00:26:54,960 --> 00:26:59,679
Speaker 3: No, huh okay, well, I mean what bothered him was

508
00:26:59,720 --> 00:27:01,160
Speaker 3: like dog shit and like.

509
00:27:02,800 --> 00:27:06,840
Speaker 1: Anytime that'd probably bother anyone, dog shit in the house.

510
00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:09,919
Speaker 3: Why are you saying it like it doesn't happen if

511
00:27:09,960 --> 00:27:11,200
Speaker 3: you have animals?

512
00:27:11,520 --> 00:27:18,480
Speaker 1: Sure, it's just yeah, okay, what kind of what? Wait,

513
00:27:18,560 --> 00:27:21,040
Speaker 1: let's talk about all the different kinds of animal ship

514
00:27:21,119 --> 00:27:23,880
Speaker 1: that are that are that have been found in your house?

515
00:27:23,960 --> 00:27:27,200
Speaker 1: Because I know you have chickens not anymore, not anymore,

516
00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:32,119
Speaker 1: goats not anymore, not anymore. So you just have dogs.

517
00:27:33,200 --> 00:27:33,880
Speaker 1: It's gonna take.

518
00:27:33,800 --> 00:27:37,159
Speaker 3: That's going to listen to this, my landlord. I only

519
00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:41,719
Speaker 3: have one dog, got it?

520
00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:42,159
Speaker 1: Okay?

521
00:27:42,320 --> 00:27:46,520
Speaker 3: No, no, no, we just bleep it out.

522
00:27:48,960 --> 00:27:52,520
Speaker 2: Dogs, cats, one ferret.

523
00:27:53,480 --> 00:27:57,680
Speaker 1: Oh I had a ferret at one point. Ferrets are

524
00:27:57,680 --> 00:28:01,800
Speaker 1: really fun but they're stink They're great, like they're fair

525
00:28:02,400 --> 00:28:06,120
Speaker 1: super funny and they're like they have like cat mouths

526
00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:08,680
Speaker 1: and cat teeth and like they Oh my god, there's

527
00:28:08,760 --> 00:28:11,679
Speaker 1: so much fun. I got mine in Arizona and then

528
00:28:11,760 --> 00:28:15,800
Speaker 1: drove it to Los Angeles. They sell them in all

529
00:28:15,840 --> 00:28:17,520
Speaker 1: like the pet cos and the pet Sparts and all

530
00:28:17,560 --> 00:28:18,640
Speaker 1: that stuff. In Arizona.

531
00:28:19,280 --> 00:28:23,040
Speaker 3: I was filming in Atlanta and I had the kids

532
00:28:23,400 --> 00:28:28,480
Speaker 3: and mom gilt. My daughter's like Stella's like Petco has ferrets,

533
00:28:29,280 --> 00:28:31,840
Speaker 3: and I was like, okay. I worked late one night,

534
00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:34,080
Speaker 3: I was like, okay, fine, let's go and I took

535
00:28:34,080 --> 00:28:37,280
Speaker 3: her came home with two because they can't be alone, allegedly,

536
00:28:38,040 --> 00:28:39,680
Speaker 3: and then I said, whoa wait, how are we getting

537
00:28:39,680 --> 00:28:40,040
Speaker 3: them home?

538
00:28:40,080 --> 00:28:41,800
Speaker 2: And she's like, oh no, no, no, I checked.

539
00:28:41,840 --> 00:28:44,920
Speaker 3: I can sign them up for service animals on Delta.

540
00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:51,200
Speaker 1: Nope, service animals. They're ferrets. It's like having a bird

541
00:28:51,240 --> 00:28:53,800
Speaker 1: as a service animal, Like what service is that doing

542
00:28:53,880 --> 00:28:56,760
Speaker 1: for you? I don't.

543
00:28:56,840 --> 00:29:00,720
Speaker 3: That's what I mean an emotion support animals and support

544
00:29:00,800 --> 00:29:03,840
Speaker 3: and you can't. So bottom line, we had to fly home.

545
00:29:04,040 --> 00:29:07,560
Speaker 3: I had to find somebody to house them, and then

546
00:29:07,720 --> 00:29:08,920
Speaker 3: found a company that drove.

547
00:29:08,800 --> 00:29:11,760
Speaker 1: Them across them So much did that cost you? You

548
00:29:11,840 --> 00:29:14,320
Speaker 1: bought these like fifteen dollars ferrets and it costs you

549
00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:19,640
Speaker 1: like fifteen hundred dollars. It was three thousand dollars. Correct? Wow?

550
00:29:20,560 --> 00:29:24,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, damn sorry, I know, I know.

551
00:29:24,200 --> 00:29:27,479
Speaker 1: Isn't it crazy when you look back on life and

552
00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:29,840
Speaker 1: you think of, like all the money that you wasted

553
00:29:30,040 --> 00:29:36,520
Speaker 1: on just really stupid shit stupid? Yeah, like you you

554
00:29:36,600 --> 00:29:43,240
Speaker 1: have ferrets driven for three thousand dollars from where where

555
00:29:43,240 --> 00:29:46,680
Speaker 1: were you working? In Atlanta? Atlanta to Los Angeles? Correct?

556
00:29:47,840 --> 00:29:50,520
Speaker 1: What was the option? I but you bought them for

557
00:29:52,760 --> 00:29:55,320
Speaker 1: The option is wait till you go. If you really

558
00:29:55,320 --> 00:29:57,720
Speaker 1: want ferrets, let's go to Arizona because we can drive

559
00:29:57,760 --> 00:29:59,520
Speaker 1: to Arizona and then we can drive back with them.

560
00:29:59,560 --> 00:30:01,920
Speaker 3: But she, I've filmed there for a month, was really

561
00:30:01,960 --> 00:30:04,040
Speaker 3: attached to those two is?

562
00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:07,640
Speaker 1: So that's your people pleasing right there. Yeah, you're like, oh,

563
00:30:07,720 --> 00:30:11,320
Speaker 1: I worked really late, so oh you want ferrets for sure?

564
00:30:11,400 --> 00:30:14,000
Speaker 3: Let's get fair right in the tiers start, Oh my god,

565
00:30:14,080 --> 00:30:17,360
Speaker 3: Rocky and Coda aren't coming home right. Don't worry, babies,

566
00:30:17,360 --> 00:30:18,320
Speaker 3: We're coming home from.

567
00:30:18,200 --> 00:30:24,040
Speaker 1: Crowd in love with ferrets that were in Petco. You

568
00:30:24,120 --> 00:30:27,000
Speaker 1: got do because she didn't fall in love with them.

569
00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:29,960
Speaker 1: There's not that fast. Why did you have goats? In

570
00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:34,280
Speaker 1: because I because you had goats. I was like, oh

571
00:30:34,320 --> 00:30:36,800
Speaker 1: my god, those goats are so cute. And so I

572
00:30:36,880 --> 00:30:38,720
Speaker 1: ended up going to the same place you did because

573
00:30:38,800 --> 00:30:42,200
Speaker 1: you I got the information I saw. I didn't get

574
00:30:42,200 --> 00:30:45,360
Speaker 1: the information from you because we weren't talking at that point,

575
00:30:45,800 --> 00:30:50,160
Speaker 1: but I saw you had talked about in some article

576
00:30:50,680 --> 00:30:52,480
Speaker 1: where you got the goats from.

577
00:30:52,600 --> 00:30:57,000
Speaker 3: Oh, I know what it was. It was the reality

578
00:30:57,040 --> 00:30:59,400
Speaker 3: show we had, Yes, and Megan used to watch it.

579
00:30:59,600 --> 00:31:03,000
Speaker 3: Because this is funny, we weren't talking, so I couldn't

580
00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:06,160
Speaker 3: tell you. But when Liam who's seventeen.

581
00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:11,360
Speaker 1: On Instagram account, he did. But when he was four, yeah, no,

582
00:31:11,440 --> 00:31:13,440
Speaker 1: we we we were both watching.

583
00:31:13,880 --> 00:31:16,240
Speaker 3: And now she gave an interview and said that she

584
00:31:16,360 --> 00:31:21,440
Speaker 3: watched it and she like, I love snakes. They tick

585
00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:24,800
Speaker 3: on my hair and my wiena, they love me and she.

586
00:31:24,760 --> 00:31:27,120
Speaker 1: Like sighted like fucking loved it.

587
00:31:27,240 --> 00:31:29,720
Speaker 3: And so I would make him say like, Megan Fox

588
00:31:29,800 --> 00:31:32,520
Speaker 3: is my girlfriend, like all the time in his little

589
00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:33,160
Speaker 3: like voice.

590
00:31:33,400 --> 00:31:37,120
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, I never told Yeah, we used to watch

591
00:31:37,160 --> 00:31:40,000
Speaker 1: the show. So then I saw that and it looked

592
00:31:40,000 --> 00:31:41,800
Speaker 1: great that you had goats. So I went to the

593
00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:44,280
Speaker 1: same place, which was like a two and a half.

594
00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:46,920
Speaker 2: Hour dropco Yeahco, California.

595
00:31:47,080 --> 00:31:50,760
Speaker 1: Yep, went there. I ended up with two goats.

596
00:31:51,120 --> 00:31:52,520
Speaker 2: Silky chickens as well.

597
00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:55,040
Speaker 1: I had silky chicken from them, No, not from them

598
00:31:56,200 --> 00:32:02,360
Speaker 1: from the Malibu Feedborn Yes, yeah, a topanga and p

599
00:32:03,880 --> 00:32:04,680
Speaker 1: I also came.

600
00:32:04,480 --> 00:32:09,160
Speaker 3: Back with the Great Pyrenees from Amber Waves Norco, California.

601
00:32:09,280 --> 00:32:12,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, you know the only Amber Waves.

602
00:32:12,520 --> 00:32:17,880
Speaker 3: Three things you could get Great Pyrenees, silkie chickens, and goats.

603
00:32:17,880 --> 00:32:18,280
Speaker 1: Crazy.

604
00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:22,760
Speaker 3: Our original goat Dean named Donna Martin.

605
00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:32,520
Speaker 1: And that wait, why why did he name it Donna Martin?

606
00:32:33,800 --> 00:32:37,360
Speaker 1: There now I'm like paranoid. No, don't care.

607
00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:38,440
Speaker 2: It was a pig.

608
00:32:38,520 --> 00:32:47,560
Speaker 1: It's a call because okay, so there is some story

609
00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:48,080
Speaker 1: behind it.

610
00:32:50,200 --> 00:32:55,800
Speaker 3: No, he just liked saying my character's name. Okay, you're

611
00:32:55,840 --> 00:32:58,040
Speaker 3: like wait, wait, wait, no, that doesn't got even worse.

612
00:32:58,120 --> 00:33:01,320
Speaker 1: Let's just stop. Let's just stop the conversation there. We'll

613
00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:04,200
Speaker 1: just we'll just leave it at like that's why.

614
00:33:04,480 --> 00:33:08,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, so no, here's the reason. He said.

615
00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:11,400
Speaker 3: When he was in his early twenties and he was

616
00:33:11,440 --> 00:33:13,600
Speaker 3: playing hockey, he would always have to leave early on

617
00:33:13,640 --> 00:33:17,040
Speaker 3: Wednesday night, and his teammates would make fun of him, like, oh,

618
00:33:17,080 --> 00:33:19,520
Speaker 3: you're going to watch your girlfriend and he would go

619
00:33:19,560 --> 00:33:21,600
Speaker 3: home and watch you guys N two and zero and

620
00:33:21,640 --> 00:33:23,320
Speaker 3: he had a crush on Donna Martin.

621
00:33:24,280 --> 00:33:28,160
Speaker 1: That's so interesting. And did you know that when you

622
00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:28,600
Speaker 1: met him?

623
00:33:29,000 --> 00:33:32,600
Speaker 3: You told me, yeah, really, not like the first night

624
00:33:32,680 --> 00:33:34,160
Speaker 3: or anything, because that would have creeped me out.

625
00:33:34,200 --> 00:33:37,719
Speaker 1: But would it have Nope, it wouldn't have. So then

626
00:33:37,760 --> 00:33:39,000
Speaker 1: why did you say that would.

627
00:33:38,760 --> 00:33:40,640
Speaker 2: Have creeped you up? I don't know, and they felt

628
00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:41,600
Speaker 2: like I should huh.

629
00:33:42,440 --> 00:33:54,000
Speaker 3: Interesting, Yes, So the ghosts name was Donna Martin, and

630
00:33:54,040 --> 00:33:58,600
Speaker 3: then we would tell friends. They just were like.

631
00:33:59,240 --> 00:34:01,280
Speaker 1: Right, why did you name your goat after your.

632
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:05,800
Speaker 2: Yeah self intuligent, Like, oh my god, little bit.

633
00:34:05,680 --> 00:34:09,239
Speaker 1: Because it was it was all of yours, your the

634
00:34:09,360 --> 00:34:12,360
Speaker 1: combined family's goat. It wasn't just his. It could be

635
00:34:12,440 --> 00:34:15,920
Speaker 1: like I named it. It's like, why is your goat

636
00:34:16,560 --> 00:34:19,280
Speaker 1: named after your character from the show? Yeah?

637
00:34:19,320 --> 00:34:24,920
Speaker 3: So yeah, so then the goat we changed to Tot's goat?

638
00:34:26,600 --> 00:34:27,560
Speaker 1: After how many years?

639
00:34:29,560 --> 00:34:29,640
Speaker 4: No?

640
00:34:29,800 --> 00:34:30,640
Speaker 2: Like right away?

641
00:34:31,400 --> 00:34:34,000
Speaker 1: Oh okay, So how long then did it live with

642
00:34:34,000 --> 00:34:34,880
Speaker 1: the name Donna Martin?

643
00:34:36,200 --> 00:34:37,080
Speaker 2: Maybe like a week?

644
00:34:37,440 --> 00:34:41,280
Speaker 1: Oh okay, two two weeks? Yeah, okay, that's a normal period.

645
00:34:41,600 --> 00:34:42,960
Speaker 1: I thought you were talking about, like after a.

646
00:34:43,000 --> 00:34:48,839
Speaker 2: Year maybe maybe. Yeah, no, is.

647
00:34:48,800 --> 00:34:53,440
Speaker 1: That's that's goat abuse. Uh, it just got awkward, abused,

648
00:34:53,480 --> 00:34:56,960
Speaker 1: It got awkward, kind of like why we didn't talk

649
00:34:57,080 --> 00:34:59,319
Speaker 1: because it got awkward. You were like, well, you know,

650
00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:02,239
Speaker 1: he's had the name Donna Martin. She's had the name

651
00:35:02,280 --> 00:35:05,200
Speaker 1: Donna Martin for so long. Like I don't now I

652
00:35:05,239 --> 00:35:07,840
Speaker 1: feel guilty because she knows that name. She comes to

653
00:35:07,880 --> 00:35:08,800
Speaker 1: the name Donna Martin.

654
00:35:09,880 --> 00:35:12,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, that wasn't the reason. It's because.

655
00:35:14,640 --> 00:35:17,120
Speaker 3: Donna I turned around and came and started the goat

656
00:35:17,120 --> 00:35:20,640
Speaker 3: and it was a problem. That's the real reason I

657
00:35:20,680 --> 00:35:21,440
Speaker 3: respond to Donna.

658
00:35:21,440 --> 00:35:22,160
Speaker 2: I always will.

659
00:35:22,320 --> 00:35:28,440
Speaker 1: So do you know you both would come walking. I

660
00:35:28,480 --> 00:35:29,800
Speaker 1: don't respond to David normally.

661
00:35:30,280 --> 00:35:31,000
Speaker 2: That was a good call.

662
00:35:31,640 --> 00:35:38,160
Speaker 1: What the yeah, I don't usually respond to David. How

663
00:35:38,200 --> 00:35:43,360
Speaker 1: can you not? So? I don't get David that much, honestly,

664
00:35:43,600 --> 00:35:48,080
Speaker 1: Like I it's I thinkfully. At first when the show

665
00:35:48,160 --> 00:35:50,040
Speaker 1: was done, of course I got it all the time,

666
00:35:50,120 --> 00:35:53,440
Speaker 1: so I responded to it. But then just from doing

667
00:35:53,520 --> 00:35:57,399
Speaker 1: other things, you know, people start just calling me by

668
00:35:57,480 --> 00:35:58,600
Speaker 1: my name, which is.

669
00:35:58,680 --> 00:36:03,000
Speaker 3: Nice, that is nice. That's actually not what I meant.

670
00:36:03,960 --> 00:36:09,640
Speaker 3: I meant, like, if someone's just not talking to you

671
00:36:09,760 --> 00:36:13,960
Speaker 3: or your character says the name David in public, like

672
00:36:15,040 --> 00:36:17,640
Speaker 3: I respond to three names, Torrin.

673
00:36:18,440 --> 00:36:21,360
Speaker 1: Like, if they had a friend named David, you would

674
00:36:21,360 --> 00:36:22,400
Speaker 1: look what.

675
00:36:22,320 --> 00:36:25,560
Speaker 3: I was now, I would not really if someone says

676
00:36:25,560 --> 00:36:27,160
Speaker 3: Donna in public and they're not talking.

677
00:36:26,960 --> 00:36:28,600
Speaker 1: To me, yes.

678
00:36:30,200 --> 00:36:33,279
Speaker 3: That I turn around when someone says mom too in

679
00:36:33,360 --> 00:36:35,600
Speaker 3: a target and it's not my kid.

680
00:36:36,080 --> 00:36:39,040
Speaker 1: But mom, though, you have that, you have that iniation

681
00:36:39,120 --> 00:36:41,439
Speaker 1: and I've done that before. I've had that initial moment

682
00:36:41,480 --> 00:36:44,200
Speaker 1: of like, wait, was that my child's voice saying dad?

683
00:36:45,080 --> 00:36:48,040
Speaker 1: So I'll like respond to that, but never to David.

684
00:36:48,280 --> 00:36:50,879
Speaker 1: Never like David, yes, never.

685
00:36:51,120 --> 00:36:53,399
Speaker 3: When you put it that way, it's like shaming. I'm

686
00:36:53,440 --> 00:36:56,120
Speaker 3: just like, well, it's kind of just like I hear

687
00:36:56,160 --> 00:36:58,120
Speaker 3: it and I'm like and then I'm like, not me,

688
00:36:58,239 --> 00:36:58,480
Speaker 3: not me.

689
00:36:59,560 --> 00:37:01,760
Speaker 1: It's not shame. But I mean you named your goat

690
00:37:02,040 --> 00:37:09,160
Speaker 1: Donna Martin and then to Donna. We'll leave it at that. HM.

691
00:37:10,680 --> 00:37:14,799
Speaker 2: It was Hattie's birthday and we went to David Busters

692
00:37:16,520 --> 00:37:17,200
Speaker 2: and we.

693
00:37:18,760 --> 00:37:20,640
Speaker 3: We like went to check in with the party host

694
00:37:21,239 --> 00:37:25,879
Speaker 3: and I literally walked up and I go, Hi, I'm

695
00:37:25,880 --> 00:37:30,480
Speaker 3: Hattie Torri's mom, and I was like and I was like,

696
00:37:30,520 --> 00:37:33,319
Speaker 3: something's not right there. But it didn't click instantly, and

697
00:37:33,360 --> 00:37:35,800
Speaker 3: he just turned like he recognized me, like bright red,

698
00:37:36,160 --> 00:37:38,480
Speaker 3: and I was like, that just happened.

699
00:37:39,800 --> 00:37:43,880
Speaker 1: Wait, why did that happen? Why do you think that happened?

700
00:37:44,280 --> 00:37:47,600
Speaker 1: That's such interesting, Like that's that's an interesting like rewire

701
00:37:47,680 --> 00:37:48,440
Speaker 1: in your brain.

702
00:37:48,800 --> 00:37:52,839
Speaker 2: Because my brain thinks backwards. Okay, yeah, okay a lot.

703
00:37:53,560 --> 00:37:55,319
Speaker 2: It's like a fight to like correct it.

704
00:37:55,760 --> 00:37:56,400
Speaker 1: Huh.

705
00:37:56,560 --> 00:37:59,319
Speaker 2: It means I'm super smart, does it?

706
00:37:59,719 --> 00:37:59,919
Speaker 1: Well?

707
00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:03,279
Speaker 3: I mean, uh no, I don't know about that, but

708
00:38:03,320 --> 00:38:06,799
Speaker 3: I have to. Yeah, I don't know what you think.

709
00:38:06,840 --> 00:38:09,480
Speaker 3: It was like some weird like slip like, oh.

710
00:38:09,320 --> 00:38:12,359
Speaker 1: I don't know. I just it's because I know you

711
00:38:12,400 --> 00:38:17,719
Speaker 1: tend to, like in public, whenever you're dealing with someone,

712
00:38:17,760 --> 00:38:20,560
Speaker 1: you get self conscious. You talked about that before I

713
00:38:20,600 --> 00:38:22,960
Speaker 1: did get so I wonder then if for you walking

714
00:38:23,000 --> 00:38:26,720
Speaker 1: up to the counter, it's that like like minimizing yourself

715
00:38:26,800 --> 00:38:29,120
Speaker 1: kind of mousing yourself down a little bit and and

716
00:38:29,160 --> 00:38:33,560
Speaker 1: then like your brain kind of rewires things. I hate that.

717
00:38:33,600 --> 00:38:34,399
Speaker 2: You know me so well.

718
00:38:34,560 --> 00:38:36,839
Speaker 3: It was one thousand percent that and I didn't even

719
00:38:36,840 --> 00:38:39,360
Speaker 3: get it to you just said it. That's exactly it.

720
00:38:39,440 --> 00:38:42,280
Speaker 3: Because I was the adult I had to take charge.

721
00:38:42,320 --> 00:38:43,839
Speaker 3: I don't like to ask for what I mean.

722
00:38:44,480 --> 00:38:48,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, So I walked up and I've gottie I'm doing

723
00:38:48,200 --> 00:38:50,040
Speaker 1: as well. We have an appointment to come here and do.

724
00:38:50,480 --> 00:38:53,560
Speaker 3: The weird part is I've really taken a heart tory

725
00:38:53,800 --> 00:38:56,360
Speaker 3: two point zero and all you know, I've been really

726
00:38:56,400 --> 00:38:58,759
Speaker 3: trying to like step up and use my voice and

727
00:38:58,800 --> 00:39:01,520
Speaker 3: it just got deeper as I'm saying this, and I've

728
00:39:01,560 --> 00:39:04,680
Speaker 3: been really great and then in that moment I did.

729
00:39:04,760 --> 00:39:08,560
Speaker 3: I walked over to him and my voice got really high.

730
00:39:08,960 --> 00:39:11,560
Speaker 3: I like was like fidgety. I put out my hand

731
00:39:11,760 --> 00:39:13,520
Speaker 3: like the little kid.

732
00:39:13,400 --> 00:39:17,879
Speaker 1: Like hi, hick boom Hi. It's interesting because that's not

733
00:39:18,040 --> 00:39:20,879
Speaker 1: so that is not something that you're dealing with. That

734
00:39:21,200 --> 00:39:24,200
Speaker 1: is like just you. So I used to do that,

735
00:39:24,520 --> 00:39:27,520
Speaker 1: like when I'd go to Coffee Bean or Starbucks. I

736
00:39:27,520 --> 00:39:31,040
Speaker 1: didn't want to look the the barista behind the counter.

737
00:39:31,080 --> 00:39:32,640
Speaker 1: I didn't want to look them in the eyes when

738
00:39:32,680 --> 00:39:34,480
Speaker 1: I made my order because I felt like they were

739
00:39:34,560 --> 00:39:38,440
Speaker 1: judging me or like something was silly. And so I

740
00:39:38,480 --> 00:39:41,239
Speaker 1: had to then make a conscious effort when I was

741
00:39:41,280 --> 00:39:45,399
Speaker 1: really working on myself of like looking at someone and

742
00:39:45,680 --> 00:39:48,600
Speaker 1: talking to them and not worrying about being judged by

743
00:39:48,640 --> 00:39:52,160
Speaker 1: them and What's funny is you quickly realize, like, oh,

744
00:39:52,200 --> 00:39:55,080
Speaker 1: you're I'm not being judged by them. They have all

745
00:39:55,120 --> 00:39:57,480
Speaker 1: their own chit going on, and they have all their

746
00:39:57,480 --> 00:40:00,720
Speaker 1: own stuff. They're looking at me. The guy David Busters

747
00:40:00,760 --> 00:40:02,880
Speaker 1: was probably going, oh my god, Tory Spelling is walking

748
00:40:02,920 --> 00:40:04,560
Speaker 1: up to me. And I'm behind the desk at a

749
00:40:04,640 --> 00:40:07,719
Speaker 1: David Busters and this is so embarrassing because, like you know,

750
00:40:07,800 --> 00:40:11,000
Speaker 1: it's so they've got their own stuff going on, Like,

751
00:40:11,080 --> 00:40:12,920
Speaker 1: oh my god, she's gonna be judging me for this

752
00:40:13,040 --> 00:40:16,000
Speaker 1: for sure. How can she not? You know, how can

753
00:40:16,040 --> 00:40:19,040
Speaker 1: he not? When I'm behind the counter at you know,

754
00:40:19,360 --> 00:40:23,000
Speaker 1: coffee bean taking his order like it's everybody does that?

755
00:40:23,200 --> 00:40:25,799
Speaker 2: True? He turned bright red, though.

756
00:40:27,400 --> 00:40:30,120
Speaker 1: I wonder why, Like I wonder why you turned bright

757
00:40:30,160 --> 00:40:34,279
Speaker 1: red because you made the mistake or because he would

758
00:40:34,280 --> 00:40:36,640
Speaker 1: have turned bright red anyway.

759
00:40:38,719 --> 00:40:39,000
Speaker 2: Huh?

760
00:40:39,239 --> 00:40:44,280
Speaker 1: Interesting? Right? Yeah, it's interesting when you start asking questions

761
00:40:44,280 --> 00:40:47,360
Speaker 1: and you start kind of breaking down situations a little

762
00:40:47,360 --> 00:40:50,960
Speaker 1: bit and you go, wait a second, why because it's

763
00:40:51,000 --> 00:40:55,200
Speaker 1: easy to assume that he turned red and everything happens

764
00:40:55,200 --> 00:40:58,799
Speaker 1: because of something you have done. Yeah, it's easy to

765
00:40:58,840 --> 00:41:02,480
Speaker 1: make all the things about you. It's at the point though,

766
00:41:02,480 --> 00:41:04,960
Speaker 1: when you stop doing that, and you go, Okay, everybody's

767
00:41:05,000 --> 00:41:07,279
Speaker 1: got just as much stuff going on as I do,

768
00:41:08,360 --> 00:41:11,640
Speaker 1: Like I need to stop taking things personally right.

769
00:41:13,680 --> 00:41:16,000
Speaker 3: Oh that's just triggered me because my daughter, my sixteen

770
00:41:16,040 --> 00:41:21,400
Speaker 3: year old, tells me like I'll hear you know, the

771
00:41:21,480 --> 00:41:24,480
Speaker 3: kids internally talk, and as a parent, you're like checking

772
00:41:24,520 --> 00:41:28,240
Speaker 3: because they're like starting to argue and one saying making

773
00:41:28,239 --> 00:41:31,600
Speaker 3: the other one feel bad. So it's always like I'm

774
00:41:31,600 --> 00:41:35,560
Speaker 3: a mom, like I'm listening and when I say I

775
00:41:35,600 --> 00:41:38,880
Speaker 3: was like, wait, what did you just say? And she's like,

776
00:41:38,920 --> 00:41:41,759
Speaker 3: it's not about you. You make everything about you. I

777
00:41:41,800 --> 00:41:45,399
Speaker 3: was like, well, I just corrected you. Guys, I saw

778
00:41:45,440 --> 00:41:48,840
Speaker 3: you whispered to one of them, roll your eyes. She's like,

779
00:41:48,880 --> 00:41:51,280
Speaker 3: I'm talking about something else. Why do you think everything's

780
00:41:51,320 --> 00:41:55,120
Speaker 3: about you? And that was super shaming to me because

781
00:41:55,120 --> 00:41:58,280
Speaker 3: I was like, I don't I've built this life thinking

782
00:41:58,320 --> 00:42:00,520
Speaker 3: nothing's about me. Oh my god, I don't be I'm

783
00:42:00,560 --> 00:42:07,799
Speaker 3: not that person. But she pushes my buttons. It's like,

784
00:42:07,800 --> 00:42:08,920
Speaker 3: how would you answer that?

785
00:42:09,000 --> 00:42:13,480
Speaker 1: When she's like, so, I get that sometimes with my

786
00:42:13,600 --> 00:42:21,320
Speaker 1: kids also, I think the thing I so I always

787
00:42:21,400 --> 00:42:25,080
Speaker 1: try and continue the conversation with them. I try not

788
00:42:25,440 --> 00:42:28,359
Speaker 1: make everything about me and kind of give them their

789
00:42:28,360 --> 00:42:30,680
Speaker 1: own space to do their own stuff. But then when

790
00:42:30,760 --> 00:42:35,160
Speaker 1: something seems an eye roll or something seems like it's

791
00:42:35,200 --> 00:42:37,759
Speaker 1: directed towards me, and then they say, oh, it's not

792
00:42:37,800 --> 00:42:40,040
Speaker 1: about you, then I'll get into a conversation of why

793
00:42:40,080 --> 00:42:43,040
Speaker 1: I thought it was about me. We were just talking,

794
00:42:43,600 --> 00:42:45,839
Speaker 1: you looked at me, you rolled your eyes, so it

795
00:42:45,880 --> 00:42:49,200
Speaker 1: wasn't about me at all? Okay, fine, because then it

796
00:42:49,320 --> 00:42:51,600
Speaker 1: kind of yeah, I think that, you know, I try

797
00:42:51,600 --> 00:42:54,520
Speaker 1: and keep those lines of communication open as much as possible.

798
00:42:55,480 --> 00:42:58,640
Speaker 3: But she keeps going and she'll be like, no, it's

799
00:42:58,680 --> 00:43:00,880
Speaker 3: not just this, like you think three things about you?

800
00:43:00,880 --> 00:43:04,440
Speaker 3: You think we're always talking about you? And I was like, yeah,

801
00:43:04,560 --> 00:43:08,160
Speaker 3: I wish she would rephrase it, because it's.

802
00:43:08,080 --> 00:43:14,040
Speaker 1: Like, do you do you feel though, like sometimes your

803
00:43:14,200 --> 00:43:23,120
Speaker 1: insecurities and self doubt you play in front and with

804
00:43:23,320 --> 00:43:26,160
Speaker 1: them as well as with other people because they're around

805
00:43:26,200 --> 00:43:30,160
Speaker 1: you all the time, so they I'm sure they get

806
00:43:30,200 --> 00:43:35,480
Speaker 1: the brunt of that of you worrying that everybody's talking

807
00:43:35,480 --> 00:43:37,600
Speaker 1: about you or what they think or what it is

808
00:43:37,640 --> 00:43:42,120
Speaker 1: your you know, what is you're doing or what you said.

809
00:43:42,080 --> 00:43:46,400
Speaker 3: Or no, honestly, I'm just trying to mitigate like the

810
00:43:46,440 --> 00:43:51,879
Speaker 3: situation within the siblings, like I just want to They

811
00:43:51,920 --> 00:43:56,400
Speaker 3: talk about me all the time. Honestly, I'm good with that.

812
00:43:56,640 --> 00:44:01,080
Speaker 3: Like I'll hear something and I'm like, oh, that doesn't

813
00:44:01,120 --> 00:44:02,959
Speaker 3: feel good, but I let it go. I've been I'm

814
00:44:03,000 --> 00:44:05,480
Speaker 3: really good at that. It's only if I think that

815
00:44:05,520 --> 00:44:08,920
Speaker 3: they're being unfair to another sibling that I said, I'm

816
00:44:09,040 --> 00:44:12,560
Speaker 3: listening right for sure, that's all right, and so but

817
00:44:12,760 --> 00:44:16,640
Speaker 3: she knows it pushes my button. So she's like you,

818
00:44:16,760 --> 00:44:21,040
Speaker 3: oh yeah, you always think got it. Yeah, she's the

819
00:44:21,080 --> 00:44:22,120
Speaker 3: one how old does she know?

820
00:44:22,280 --> 00:44:22,680
Speaker 2: Sixteen?

821
00:44:23,440 --> 00:44:31,920
Speaker 3: And she's is she driving? She's going to be Yeah,

822
00:44:32,239 --> 00:44:33,359
Speaker 3: she's taking drivers out.

823
00:44:33,560 --> 00:44:33,960
Speaker 1: Yeah.

824
00:44:34,719 --> 00:44:41,720
Speaker 2: She's also the most helpful though, but it's we she's

825
00:44:42,040 --> 00:44:45,280
Speaker 2: just like me, except she uses her voice.

826
00:44:46,120 --> 00:44:50,280
Speaker 4: She's really headstrong, she's really she's just really confident.

827
00:44:50,320 --> 00:44:54,320
Speaker 1: She's like she's even when even when she's not confident,

828
00:44:54,400 --> 00:44:59,480
Speaker 1: she's confident about not being confident. Yes, yeah, oh my gosh.

829
00:45:00,320 --> 00:45:02,760
Speaker 2: But she's like me in so many ways.

830
00:45:03,560 --> 00:45:07,279
Speaker 3: And then I'm like, wow, I see, like I'm I

831
00:45:07,320 --> 00:45:09,480
Speaker 3: wish I could have been that sixty year old. That's

832
00:45:09,520 --> 00:45:12,319
Speaker 3: the part that I'm glad. Yeah, always has to have

833
00:45:12,360 --> 00:45:14,600
Speaker 3: the last word, Like, so I just have to, like

834
00:45:14,719 --> 00:45:17,720
Speaker 3: the conversations will get going and we'll talk about stuff,

835
00:45:17,719 --> 00:45:19,640
Speaker 3: and she's good about that, and she's super smart and

836
00:45:20,520 --> 00:45:23,000
Speaker 3: really like in touch with her feelings and everything.

837
00:45:23,040 --> 00:45:25,640
Speaker 2: But yeah, I can't have the last world.

838
00:45:25,719 --> 00:45:28,920
Speaker 1: It's so interesting, isn't it interesting when you're a parent

839
00:45:29,080 --> 00:45:32,520
Speaker 1: and your kids get older and you see things that

840
00:45:32,560 --> 00:45:36,440
Speaker 1: you do like really become a part of their being

841
00:45:36,520 --> 00:45:39,600
Speaker 1: and their character, and you realize like, Okay, that wouldn't

842
00:45:39,640 --> 00:45:45,200
Speaker 1: have existed if I hadn't put that there. That's my doing.

843
00:45:45,400 --> 00:45:49,680
Speaker 1: Like you know, kids are to me, they're people. They're

844
00:45:49,719 --> 00:45:52,799
Speaker 1: born exactly who they are, and they're consistently that. But

845
00:45:52,840 --> 00:45:55,400
Speaker 1: then they are the little things in securities that you

846
00:45:55,520 --> 00:46:00,400
Speaker 1: kind of work into their lives, questions about things. And

847
00:46:00,440 --> 00:46:03,400
Speaker 1: then when you see those like really come to fruition

848
00:46:03,480 --> 00:46:07,160
Speaker 1: when they're older, you you can't help but take responsibility

849
00:46:07,200 --> 00:46:11,640
Speaker 1: and go, God, I really fucked up, like doing that one,

850
00:46:12,320 --> 00:46:16,080
Speaker 1: because I wish that you know that the kids didn't

851
00:46:16,120 --> 00:46:16,759
Speaker 1: have that thing.

852
00:46:18,120 --> 00:46:20,640
Speaker 2: But it's like impossible to not fuck your kids type.

853
00:46:20,680 --> 00:46:23,160
Speaker 1: Oh, it's incasible. It's impossible.

854
00:46:23,800 --> 00:46:27,640
Speaker 2: There's always going to be something that yeah.

855
00:46:27,040 --> 00:46:29,239
Speaker 1: It's I kind of feel like the task is to

856
00:46:29,400 --> 00:46:34,160
Speaker 1: fuck them up as little as possible. Yes, it's not,

857
00:46:35,080 --> 00:46:38,560
Speaker 1: you know, I can't. I'm I have a lifetime so

858
00:46:38,680 --> 00:46:45,560
Speaker 1: far of stuff, so it's impossible for that not to

859
00:46:45,600 --> 00:46:48,000
Speaker 1: be a part of who I am. And in parenting,

860
00:46:48,120 --> 00:46:51,280
Speaker 1: I mean, I've been fixing stuff as i've as I'm going.

861
00:46:51,360 --> 00:46:54,759
Speaker 1: But like, Asius is twenty two, right, so when he

862
00:46:54,880 --> 00:46:58,600
Speaker 1: was young, I was a twenty nine thirty year old

863
00:46:58,920 --> 00:47:02,000
Speaker 1: just knucklehead, like I had no idea what I was doing,

864
00:47:02,320 --> 00:47:07,360
Speaker 1: you know, twenty nine. I was twenty nine, twenty nine.

865
00:47:07,560 --> 00:47:10,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just wild to think about.

866
00:47:10,080 --> 00:47:14,040
Speaker 1: He's twenty two, no, and I'm fifty one.

867
00:47:15,719 --> 00:47:20,040
Speaker 3: Wow, you have twenty two to two to two twenty

868
00:47:20,120 --> 00:47:22,440
Speaker 3: years like no their bookend.

869
00:47:23,120 --> 00:47:29,160
Speaker 1: Literally what's crazy is the age difference between Cassius and

870
00:47:29,239 --> 00:47:32,680
Speaker 1: Noah is ten years, and then the age difference between

871
00:47:32,760 --> 00:47:38,720
Speaker 1: Noah and Zane is ten years. Wow. Yeah, trifecta. Yeah. Interesting,

872
00:47:38,760 --> 00:47:41,760
Speaker 1: and then all of the kids thankfully, because my fifty

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Speaker 1: year old, fifty one year old brain would like just

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Speaker 1: have an aneurysm at trying to figure out when people go, oh,

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Speaker 1: what ages are your kids? Like I you know it

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Speaker 1: screws me up. But luckily all my kids are either

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Speaker 1: all even in one year or all odd in one year.

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Speaker 1: So this year they turned twenty two, eight, ten, twelve,

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Speaker 1: and two. Next year there'll be twenty three, three, nine,

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Speaker 1: eleven and thirteen. So it's like either they're all either

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Speaker 1: odd one year or they're all even one year. So

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Speaker 1: it makes it easier for me to remember.

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Speaker 3: Which is insane, because that's actually harder for some brains

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Speaker 3: the way, for my brain, the way you just said it,

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Speaker 3: I was like, what.

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Speaker 1: Wait, but if next year they're all going to turn

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Speaker 1: an odd number, it'd be easier than to think, I think,

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Speaker 1: to be like, oh yeah, they're all huh going to

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Speaker 1: be two and ten, twelve and twenty two? No, no, okay,

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Speaker 1: all right, let's just agree to disagree.

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Speaker 2: Oh we're doing so well.

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Speaker 1: We can't both connect on everything, you know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's true,