WEBVTT - Therapy is for Everyone 0:00:03.560 --> 0:00:10.640 Our field is actually about white, probably higher. I've gone 0:00:10.640 --> 0:00:15.000 through one to three. I'm on my fourth therapist and 0:00:15.040 --> 0:00:19.200 on my second life coach. It's very frustrating, you know, 0:00:19.280 --> 0:00:22.239 for folks in our community to find a therapist that 0:00:22.640 --> 0:00:33.320 speaks their language and understands these cultural notions. Hello, guys, 0:00:33.400 --> 0:00:35.760 thank you so much for joining me for another episode 0:00:35.840 --> 0:00:39.120 of cheek Ease and Chill. I'm your host, Cheeks, and 0:00:39.159 --> 0:00:41.520 today we're going to be talking about a really big 0:00:41.560 --> 0:00:45.320 and important topic, therapy. I'm a huge out of a 0:00:45.320 --> 0:00:47.159 gift for therapy. I've been going to therapy since I 0:00:47.200 --> 0:00:49.680 was twelve years old. Now it's helped me understand and 0:00:49.800 --> 0:00:52.360 cope with all sorts of things in my life. So 0:00:52.800 --> 0:00:54.840 we have a lot to talk about today, so let's 0:00:54.840 --> 0:00:57.400 just get right to it. Welcome to another episode of 0:00:57.520 --> 0:01:04.120 cheek Ease and Chill. Today's guest is Arianna Alejandre. She's 0:01:04.160 --> 0:01:07.240 a licensed marriage and family therapist and she's also the 0:01:07.280 --> 0:01:11.720 founder of the website and podcast Latin X Therapy. You guys, 0:01:11.760 --> 0:01:13.840 I'm so excited to talk to her today and all 0:01:13.880 --> 0:01:17.920 things related to therapy, including why it's stigmatized especially in 0:01:18.360 --> 0:01:23.480 the Latin X community. Arian now welcome. How are you hey, 0:01:23.680 --> 0:01:27.320 I'm great, Thank you so much for having me. Of course, No, 0:01:27.440 --> 0:01:30.440 I'm excited. I'm excited because, like I said earlier, I'm 0:01:30.480 --> 0:01:33.840 a huge advocate for therapy. I started therapy when I 0:01:33.880 --> 0:01:36.920 was twelve years old. We were actually started as family therapy, 0:01:37.120 --> 0:01:39.280 and that was kind of crazy because my siblings were there, 0:01:39.360 --> 0:01:41.240 my mom was there, and we were talking about what 0:01:41.360 --> 0:01:43.680 had happened to me. I was sexually abused by my dad. 0:01:44.040 --> 0:01:45.679 So I was the first time I was introduced to 0:01:45.760 --> 0:01:50.080 therapy and what it did for my life. Then just 0:01:50.160 --> 0:01:52.600 talking about it, even it was very weird for me 0:01:52.640 --> 0:01:54.400 to talk about it in front of my mom, But 0:01:54.560 --> 0:01:56.800 once she left the room and my siblings did two 0:01:56.800 --> 0:01:59.000 and it was just me and the therapist, it helped 0:01:59.000 --> 0:02:03.240 me so much to just remove all those things and 0:02:03.360 --> 0:02:05.480 that I kind of felt like a shame, you know. 0:02:05.520 --> 0:02:08.079 I felt that shame that I felt over me, and 0:02:08.120 --> 0:02:10.560 it really did help me. So I'm so happy that 0:02:10.639 --> 0:02:14.320 you're here, that you're Latina that um. I have a 0:02:14.360 --> 0:02:18.240 lot of questions, so so just bear with me, okay, Yeah, 0:02:19.320 --> 0:02:20.959 so tell me you tell me a little bit about 0:02:21.040 --> 0:02:25.040 latin X therapy. Yes, thank you. So I launched latin 0:02:25.200 --> 0:02:28.520 X Therapy in two thousand eighteen. I came from a 0:02:28.600 --> 0:02:31.680 family that didn't know that. I don't know if they 0:02:31.680 --> 0:02:35.320 didn't know little We didn't talk about therapy or mental health. 0:02:35.680 --> 0:02:39.239 And I discovered it when I was in college, and 0:02:39.440 --> 0:02:43.560 that's when I became actually a single teen mom um 0:02:43.919 --> 0:02:47.000 and it was just a really intense time. I was 0:02:47.040 --> 0:02:49.120 all by myself. I used to Santa Barbara, you know, 0:02:49.160 --> 0:02:54.720 I experienced knowingly postpartum depression. And after I went to 0:02:54.800 --> 0:02:59.519 therapy because professor recommended it, I realized I can't stay 0:02:59.520 --> 0:03:04.639 in therapy because I heard my mom's voice and familia, 0:03:04.800 --> 0:03:08.079 you know, we fixed problems in the family. So I left. 0:03:08.200 --> 0:03:11.480 But I was so curious after my three sessions that 0:03:11.600 --> 0:03:15.079 I decided to major in psychology and then become a therapist. 0:03:15.600 --> 0:03:18.520 I love that. Yeah, I held onto that. You know, 0:03:18.760 --> 0:03:23.760 once you start talking, you really experience a lot of relief. Um. 0:03:24.080 --> 0:03:27.400 And so that really motivated me to start latin X 0:03:27.520 --> 0:03:30.679 Therapy when I was a therapist. Because our field is 0:03:30.720 --> 0:03:37.200 actually about white probably higher um. I'm being very moderate 0:03:37.240 --> 0:03:40.960 with my number there, but it's very frustrating, you know 0:03:41.040 --> 0:03:44.000 for folks in our community to find a therapist that 0:03:44.400 --> 0:03:48.280 speaks their language and understands these cultural notions that are 0:03:48.320 --> 0:03:50.880 not even taught to therapist when we go through our 0:03:50.920 --> 0:03:56.120 graduate training. So it's basically our lived experiences that guide 0:03:56.240 --> 0:04:01.000 us in session with our own people. And so I 0:04:01.400 --> 0:04:04.360 wanted to launch this for the community for my clients, 0:04:04.680 --> 0:04:06.720 but it ended up being a national and then a 0:04:06.760 --> 0:04:11.280 global sensation. So here we are now. Yeah, I love it. Honestly, 0:04:11.320 --> 0:04:13.440 thank you. I want to say thank you. I I 0:04:13.520 --> 0:04:17.160 love to see our people go to school and get 0:04:17.200 --> 0:04:20.200 their education and help others, help our community. And that's 0:04:20.240 --> 0:04:24.400 what you're doing. And like you said earlier, um, I 0:04:24.400 --> 0:04:28.920 think my mom because she wasn't raised with therapy. But 0:04:29.120 --> 0:04:32.000 when I think it was actually the cop that was 0:04:32.040 --> 0:04:33.920 doing all the investigations said, you know what, I think 0:04:34.000 --> 0:04:36.560 she might need some counseling, some type of therapy. And 0:04:36.600 --> 0:04:38.599 at first I remember my mom like, well, kind of 0:04:38.600 --> 0:04:40.560 what is that? You know what I mean? But she listened, 0:04:40.880 --> 0:04:44.360 and I'm so happy that she did, because again they 0:04:44.400 --> 0:04:53.280 see it as something I'm gonna is that's that's a 0:04:53.320 --> 0:04:57.480 sign of weakness what I've experienced in our culture exactly. 0:04:57.839 --> 0:05:00.680 So thank you because I love that you're doing is 0:05:00.720 --> 0:05:03.440 I love that it's called Latin X or Latin X therapy. 0:05:03.520 --> 0:05:05.880 I think that that's important. I think that even just 0:05:05.960 --> 0:05:07.599 having that word Latin in there, I feel like it 0:05:07.680 --> 0:05:10.200 just gives you that comfortability of like, Okay, it's going 0:05:10.240 --> 0:05:13.520 to be someone that understands me. Because, like you said, 0:05:13.800 --> 0:05:16.279 there's so much relief in speaking to someone that's not 0:05:16.400 --> 0:05:19.920 your family that you could just ah, like literally there's 0:05:21.160 --> 0:05:24.359 in other words, you know, and just say emotionally exactly 0:05:26.960 --> 0:05:28.800 and say hey, here, here it is, I'm gonna let 0:05:28.839 --> 0:05:33.200 it all hang out. And yes, you get liberated. Dude. 0:05:33.200 --> 0:05:36.120 It's like this liberty, this like liberation that you feel 0:05:36.160 --> 0:05:40.560 of I let it out, and I mean, I'm telling you, 0:05:40.600 --> 0:05:42.480 it's it's helped me so much, guys. And you guys 0:05:42.480 --> 0:05:44.720 know I've been through quite a bit. Like what do 0:05:44.760 --> 0:05:47.719 you think is the stigma? Like what's the stick the 0:05:47.720 --> 0:05:51.560 stigma with therapy and and our culture. Well, I think 0:05:51.560 --> 0:05:53.839 there's different layers here, but one that we have to 0:05:53.880 --> 0:05:57.640 acknowledge is the lack of education that we have and 0:05:57.680 --> 0:06:01.560 that is available about mental health itself and how it 0:06:01.640 --> 0:06:06.560 hasn't been accessible for decades, if not longer. Right, I 0:06:06.600 --> 0:06:11.080 think mental health because it isn't talked about in the public. 0:06:11.240 --> 0:06:14.800 I it's something that's very hush hush um. We end 0:06:14.880 --> 0:06:20.159 up stigmatizing emotions. So talking about feelings, I think is 0:06:20.240 --> 0:06:23.800 rooted in um or not talking about feelings rather is 0:06:23.880 --> 0:06:30.159 rooted in machista Machismore values. Machismore refers to the role 0:06:30.240 --> 0:06:34.000 of men and how men are expected to reserve emotions 0:06:34.200 --> 0:06:37.560 and if they are to express emotions, only certain ones 0:06:37.600 --> 0:06:41.680 are accepted, like being angry, um, being uh, you know, 0:06:41.720 --> 0:06:45.400 actions like sexism and all of that. So I think 0:06:45.680 --> 0:06:50.599 that definitely because that's more accepted than being vulnerable with 0:06:50.720 --> 0:06:54.919 all range of emotions. It harms us. It creates this cycle, 0:06:55.040 --> 0:06:59.479 this like collective way of thinking and how to accept, 0:06:59.520 --> 0:07:03.800 how to behave in our own worlds um. And that 0:07:03.920 --> 0:07:07.479 is actually also a learned behavior. And so we we 0:07:07.640 --> 0:07:11.160 learn from the people that raise us, whether they are 0:07:11.400 --> 0:07:14.720 your biological folks or not. We learn from people that 0:07:14.760 --> 0:07:18.720 are raising us how to accept, how to behave, how 0:07:18.760 --> 0:07:23.520 to think. Essentially, it's when we leave those communities when 0:07:23.560 --> 0:07:27.240 we start realizing, ah, you know, I didn't know about that. 0:07:27.320 --> 0:07:29.400 I didn't know that it was okay, I didn't know 0:07:29.760 --> 0:07:32.880 you know that therapy existed that you know, mental health 0:07:33.080 --> 0:07:36.440 isn't just for crazy people. I didn't know medication could 0:07:36.520 --> 0:07:39.360 help me in that way, right, And so all of 0:07:39.400 --> 0:07:43.800 those notions are lack of knowledge about those topics because 0:07:43.800 --> 0:07:47.000 they're just not talked about enough. Um, we also have 0:07:47.320 --> 0:07:51.000 Maria Nismore in which that's the role and expectations of 0:07:51.000 --> 0:07:53.800 women and how women are expected to be pillars of 0:07:53.840 --> 0:07:57.800 the family and self sacrificial, so you know, stay together 0:07:57.920 --> 0:08:01.400 for the sake of the family familia, right, that comes first. 0:08:01.760 --> 0:08:03.960 There's like this very silent role in our community that 0:08:04.000 --> 0:08:07.880 we shouldn't talk about our problems because then that would 0:08:07.920 --> 0:08:10.320 burden someone else. And we don't want to burden others 0:08:10.400 --> 0:08:13.600 with our stuff because we also tend to compare, right, like, 0:08:13.720 --> 0:08:16.840 they're probably going through worse things than what we're going through. 0:08:16.880 --> 0:08:20.640 Their traumas are are worse. It affected them more than 0:08:20.680 --> 0:08:23.960 what it's affected me. I can persevere, I can keep going, 0:08:24.160 --> 0:08:27.360 I can I can swallow this. So I think there's 0:08:27.440 --> 0:08:31.760 there's all of this that contributes to the stigma. I 0:08:32.559 --> 0:08:34.960 couldn't even agree more. And and it's that, like you said, 0:08:35.040 --> 0:08:38.280 talking about men in the machismo, it's and it's like 0:08:38.320 --> 0:08:40.439 it's okay for a man to cry, it's okay for 0:08:40.480 --> 0:08:42.840 a man to ask for help, to ask for directions. 0:08:43.200 --> 0:08:45.760 And it's just like, dude, if we could just remove 0:08:45.960 --> 0:08:48.800 all of those things, all of those things that yes, 0:08:48.840 --> 0:08:51.200 that we learned, you know that they're passed on generation 0:08:51.240 --> 0:08:55.240 to generation, it's just like we would have less anxiety, 0:08:55.679 --> 0:08:59.400 less depression, less so many things. You know. Um, and 0:08:59.679 --> 0:09:01.160 I'm the this way. I'm so happy that I'm having 0:09:01.160 --> 0:09:03.040 this conversation with you because there are going to be 0:09:03.080 --> 0:09:06.680 people that are listening to us and that hopefully will 0:09:07.000 --> 0:09:09.920 look for a therapist, you know, after this conversation, because 0:09:09.960 --> 0:09:13.679 I think we all it doesn't matter the race, it 0:09:13.720 --> 0:09:17.640 doesn't matter the gender, where you come from, what level 0:09:17.640 --> 0:09:20.320 in life you were in. We all need therapy or 0:09:20.400 --> 0:09:22.560 life coaching. That's one thing that's it's like every day 0:09:22.559 --> 0:09:24.480 I need I have a mentor that I speak to 0:09:24.559 --> 0:09:27.520 because you know, I mean, you're going through through life 0:09:27.559 --> 0:09:29.440 and it's it's like, yes, I I also like to 0:09:29.440 --> 0:09:32.200 help and motivate, motivate other people and empower them, but 0:09:32.280 --> 0:09:35.560 I also need that myself. Do you get therapy, Adriana? 0:09:35.600 --> 0:09:37.120 Do you is there someone that you speak to? My 0:09:37.400 --> 0:09:41.319 I mean it's just out of curiosity. Absolutely, yes, I think, 0:09:41.480 --> 0:09:44.600 you know, especially as a trauma therapist and all therapists 0:09:44.600 --> 0:09:48.840 people that come into this profession should you know, I 0:09:48.880 --> 0:09:52.960 think it's ethical to start therapy. Um. So, I really 0:09:53.000 --> 0:09:55.800 restarted my journey when I was in graduate school, but 0:09:56.280 --> 0:10:00.000 I had like a somewhat negative experience because the therapist 0:10:00.000 --> 0:10:04.760 didn't understand my culture. And I mean there were moments 0:10:04.760 --> 0:10:07.080 where I you know, situations and things that I definitely 0:10:07.080 --> 0:10:09.080 healed from. But there was one thing that really rubbed 0:10:09.120 --> 0:10:10.839 me the wrong way, and it was when she said 0:10:10.880 --> 0:10:13.800 that I should stop helping my family in all senses 0:10:13.840 --> 0:10:15.720 because that's the boundary I need to set in place. 0:10:16.400 --> 0:10:18.760 And I didn't want to do that. I didn't want 0:10:18.760 --> 0:10:22.079 to financially stop helping my family, um because I didn't 0:10:22.080 --> 0:10:25.520 think that their actions. You know, it wasn't to that 0:10:25.640 --> 0:10:28.480 level where I needed to stop financially helping my family. 0:10:28.920 --> 0:10:31.080 And I was still like twenty two, you know, I 0:10:31.120 --> 0:10:33.840 needed my parents still, they were helping me with my son. 0:10:34.480 --> 0:10:36.840 Um So Anyways, there was just that cultural notion where 0:10:36.840 --> 0:10:39.599 it's like I understand maybe if people from other cultures 0:10:39.640 --> 0:10:42.400 could just easily do that, but I probably get in 0:10:42.400 --> 0:10:44.720 more trouble if I stopped doing that, and it would 0:10:44.720 --> 0:10:48.880 be more harmful for my mental health. But um, because um, 0:10:48.920 --> 0:10:51.959 my husband and I got married right before the pandemic. 0:10:52.480 --> 0:10:55.160 We started couples therapy during the pandemic, and that was 0:10:55.200 --> 0:10:58.199 my first time actually in couples therapy. So I had 0:10:58.240 --> 0:11:02.840 done like inner child individual healing, and then the couple's 0:11:02.880 --> 0:11:06.280 therapy really opened me up in many different ways and 0:11:06.400 --> 0:11:10.880 from situations that I thought we're you know, processed, but 0:11:11.679 --> 0:11:14.040 in the eyes of you know, someone that I'm living 0:11:14.080 --> 0:11:16.800 with every day, my partner, it was just sliced in 0:11:16.920 --> 0:11:20.520 different ways. So I'm so glad for that experience, and 0:11:20.640 --> 0:11:24.800 it's definitely also something that I'm I'm an advocate for 0:11:25.200 --> 0:11:27.600 and my son has been in therapy as well. The 0:11:27.640 --> 0:11:36.200 pandemic was really really hard on all of us. Now 0:11:36.200 --> 0:11:38.079 that we're talking about we're on this subject, like what 0:11:38.320 --> 0:11:41.920 do you think that for those that are listening, what 0:11:41.960 --> 0:11:43.960 do you think is important? Do you think it's important 0:11:44.000 --> 0:11:46.960 to find same sex therapist, Like what do you think 0:11:47.280 --> 0:11:50.520 I personally feel that, yes, it would be great to 0:11:50.559 --> 0:11:53.280 find someone that's like you, you know, that understands me. 0:11:53.360 --> 0:11:55.440 That's a part of my culture that understands my culture. 0:11:55.880 --> 0:11:59.280 What do you think? Like, what's what's your opinion? My 0:11:59.440 --> 0:12:04.719 opinion is that before looking for a therapist, people need 0:12:04.800 --> 0:12:08.839 to do some self reflection about this question a little 0:12:08.840 --> 0:12:12.480 bit more and really ask what am I going to 0:12:12.559 --> 0:12:16.040 therapy for? Because just like how there's doctors that specialized 0:12:16.040 --> 0:12:20.439 in hearts and brains and feet, you know, therapists also 0:12:20.480 --> 0:12:24.960 specialized in different types of life situations. So if you're 0:12:24.960 --> 0:12:28.200 seeking therapy, for example, for your child, you want to 0:12:28.240 --> 0:12:33.640 find a child therapist. Um, not a general therapist necessarily, 0:12:33.760 --> 0:12:37.319 but one that focuses on and and has advanced trainings 0:12:37.360 --> 0:12:41.520 in different things that could help children process what they're 0:12:41.520 --> 0:12:44.679 going through. Also, um, so you you kind of want 0:12:44.679 --> 0:12:46.960 to create that filter, like I'm looking for a child 0:12:47.000 --> 0:12:50.680 therapist that specializes in divorce or that specializes in trauma, 0:12:50.840 --> 0:12:54.920 because trauma is a whole other type of advanced training too. 0:12:55.559 --> 0:12:59.520 So asking yourself as well, like what I feel comfortable 0:12:59.679 --> 0:13:02.880 with one that is non binary, that someone that is 0:13:03.040 --> 0:13:06.080 male female, All of that is is definitely valid and 0:13:06.120 --> 0:13:08.920 important for you because you're ultimately going to be the 0:13:09.000 --> 0:13:13.679 one divulging and opening up to someone that you know 0:13:13.760 --> 0:13:15.480 it may be your first time. It may not be, 0:13:15.640 --> 0:13:18.839 but it's still very difficult each time. Although you know 0:13:19.360 --> 0:13:23.880 yourself and I experience positive things from therapy, it took 0:13:23.960 --> 0:13:27.040 us a long time at the beginning of stages were 0:13:27.080 --> 0:13:30.240 not like going to a spa, right Like processing is hard, 0:13:30.480 --> 0:13:33.679 it's it's painful as well. So it's a whole journey. 0:13:33.679 --> 0:13:36.000 It's a roller coaster of a journey. And I think 0:13:36.040 --> 0:13:43.199 everybody deserves to really think about the choice that they 0:13:43.240 --> 0:13:46.520 get to make one selecting a therapist, you know, I 0:13:46.559 --> 0:13:50.000 think everybody should also use that consultation time that is 0:13:50.080 --> 0:13:55.400 free to ask the therapist what they specialize in. I 0:13:55.400 --> 0:13:57.400 don't know for sure. And one thing that I want 0:13:57.400 --> 0:14:00.520 to tell you guys from personal experience, it might take 0:14:00.559 --> 0:14:02.559 a little while for you to find that perfect person 0:14:02.559 --> 0:14:05.760 that you feel comfortable with, because it took me a 0:14:05.800 --> 0:14:09.160 while to find someone and it was kind of like 0:14:09.200 --> 0:14:10.880 I tried it, you know what I mean, Like I 0:14:11.120 --> 0:14:12.560 one thing I want to tell you guys is go 0:14:12.800 --> 0:14:15.920 one session and see how you feel until you find 0:14:15.920 --> 0:14:18.720 that perfect fit for you. So you might get it 0:14:18.760 --> 0:14:21.800 the first time or you know, like or you might not. 0:14:21.960 --> 0:14:24.800 It took me. I'm telling you, I've gone through one, 0:14:24.880 --> 0:14:28.840 two three. I'm on my fourth therapist and on my 0:14:28.920 --> 0:14:33.280 second life coach, so like and again it's somewherehere. I'm like, now, 0:14:33.280 --> 0:14:34.800 I'm like, okay, I can talk to them like they're 0:14:34.800 --> 0:14:36.280 my friends. Like you know what I mean. It takes 0:14:36.280 --> 0:14:39.640 a little while, so be patient with yourself. Um, while 0:14:39.680 --> 0:14:42.800 finding one, do your research, and like Adriana said, it's 0:14:42.800 --> 0:14:45.640 really important to know what type of therapy counseling that 0:14:45.720 --> 0:14:48.080 you're looking for. I went to trauma therapy for a 0:14:48.160 --> 0:14:52.640 long time and it did help me so much, especially 0:14:53.080 --> 0:14:55.880 to understand that what happened to me was not my fault, 0:14:56.080 --> 0:14:59.240 you know, the sexual abuse. Um, because I did think 0:14:59.280 --> 0:15:01.440 as it did I do something wrong. There's so many 0:15:01.520 --> 0:15:04.080 questions and that's a whole other episode. But guys, just 0:15:04.160 --> 0:15:08.000 be patient. Another thing a lot of I've heard many people, 0:15:08.080 --> 0:15:09.400 like a lot of my friends, I'm like, hey, go 0:15:09.440 --> 0:15:12.160 to therapy. I'm always suggesting that, but they think, oh, 0:15:12.160 --> 0:15:15.240 it's too expensive. It definitely could be, I mean, the 0:15:15.280 --> 0:15:23.400 profession is expensive. So I love her answer. Yes, yeah, Um, however, 0:15:23.880 --> 0:15:28.080 a lot of us reserve reduced rates. So maybe what 0:15:28.240 --> 0:15:31.640 you see on the website looks scary and frightening you know, 0:15:31.720 --> 0:15:33.720 maybe maybe it might be out of your budget. For 0:15:33.760 --> 0:15:36.960 a lot of people, it's not. Also, which is you know, um, 0:15:37.000 --> 0:15:40.280 that's like probably my money wounds when I say that, 0:15:40.320 --> 0:15:42.440 where it's like a lot of people can afford that, 0:15:42.520 --> 0:15:46.800 and I get shocked sometimes, But um, I think that's 0:15:46.840 --> 0:15:50.120 great because you know, people do see it as an investment. Now, 0:15:50.200 --> 0:15:53.160 if you're looking and you're seeing on the directories, like, wow, 0:15:53.200 --> 0:15:56.840 these rates are high, genuinely cannot afford that. During the consultation, 0:15:57.520 --> 0:16:00.160 talk to the therapist, tell them your financial situation and 0:16:00.440 --> 0:16:04.800 what you can afford, and ask about their sliding scale eligibility, 0:16:04.960 --> 0:16:08.560 you know, who qualifies, if they have any other reduced 0:16:08.640 --> 0:16:12.320 rates available, and and go from there, because you know, 0:16:12.360 --> 0:16:15.520 I think that that's that's something that that should be normalized. 0:16:15.640 --> 0:16:19.120 We should be talking about that. Um. Not every therapist 0:16:19.200 --> 0:16:22.720 also accepts insurance. If you do wanna go through your insurance, 0:16:22.760 --> 0:16:26.240 it is best to contact the insurance directly and then 0:16:26.720 --> 0:16:30.480 have the representative filter. So tell them that you're looking 0:16:30.520 --> 0:16:35.360 for a Latin X or Hispanic therapist and they should 0:16:35.400 --> 0:16:37.360 be able to filter that for you, and then from 0:16:37.400 --> 0:16:39.840 there you're going to do your research. They could probably 0:16:39.880 --> 0:16:42.200 filter like you know that if they specialize in anxiety 0:16:42.200 --> 0:16:46.200 and depression and very general broad things. So those are 0:16:46.200 --> 0:16:50.600 some recommendations for the high rates and using insurance. Yeah, 0:16:50.640 --> 0:16:53.440 and it's it's something I was gonna tell everyone that 0:16:54.080 --> 0:16:58.680 I was. This is demosteno, you know, and it's it's 0:16:58.720 --> 0:17:03.000 really an investment for your mental emotional health. You guys that. Yes, 0:17:03.040 --> 0:17:04.720 it's probably gonna be I don't know, you know, a 0:17:04.840 --> 0:17:07.040 hundred and fifty dollars an hour. But that doesn't mean 0:17:07.080 --> 0:17:09.400 you have to go, you know. It all just depends 0:17:09.440 --> 0:17:11.359 on your situation. Yes, it would be great if you 0:17:11.359 --> 0:17:14.240 can go once a week or once a month, just 0:17:14.359 --> 0:17:16.840 try it. I do think that I, like I said, 0:17:16.920 --> 0:17:19.239 you can stop doing certain things in your life in 0:17:19.359 --> 0:17:23.080 order to prioritize your mental and emotional health. For a 0:17:23.119 --> 0:17:24.840 long time, I stopped doing my nails. I was one 0:17:24.880 --> 0:17:26.840 that would go every two weeks to get my manicure 0:17:26.840 --> 0:17:28.920 and pedicure, and I stopped doing that for a little 0:17:28.920 --> 0:17:31.119 bit so that I can pay for my therapy sessions 0:17:31.160 --> 0:17:33.280 because my insurance wouldn't cover it. But that was something 0:17:33.280 --> 0:17:35.119 that was so important to me that I said, you 0:17:35.119 --> 0:17:38.439 know what, Yes, I like to get my nails I'm 0:17:38.440 --> 0:17:40.119 not going to give my pedicures for three months so 0:17:40.160 --> 0:17:43.000 that i can have extra money for my sessions. So 0:17:43.000 --> 0:17:50.879 I'm just putting that out there guys. Okay, UM, I 0:17:51.119 --> 0:17:53.959 think that on your website, which is UM what's your 0:17:53.960 --> 0:17:57.359 website again, Latin x Therapy dot com perfect and what 0:17:57.480 --> 0:18:01.800 can they find there? Our listeners, what can they find? 0:18:01.840 --> 0:18:04.919 Lots of resources, so when could go on there? Uh. 0:18:05.000 --> 0:18:07.280 One of the main things that you you're going to 0:18:07.320 --> 0:18:09.720 see as find a therapist or find a speaker, and 0:18:09.800 --> 0:18:12.480 so UM you want to use to find a therapist 0:18:12.480 --> 0:18:15.440 if you're looking for a therapist for yourself, and then 0:18:15.480 --> 0:18:18.719 filter through so put your state because you can. Although 0:18:18.800 --> 0:18:22.040 you know we're in living in the pandemic and everything's virtual, 0:18:22.760 --> 0:18:25.280 we are we have therapists are only allowed to see 0:18:25.520 --> 0:18:28.400 people that live in the state that we are licensed 0:18:28.440 --> 0:18:31.960 in or the states UM. So for myself, I'm only 0:18:32.000 --> 0:18:34.680 licensed in California, so I could only see people that 0:18:34.720 --> 0:18:40.640 live in California unfortunately. UM. So that's really important to consider. 0:18:41.480 --> 0:18:44.359 And then what you can also find is our shop 0:18:44.680 --> 0:18:48.320 where we have de stigmatizing gear. We have resources such 0:18:48.359 --> 0:18:53.720 as UM Mental Health UM YouTube YouTube channels. We have 0:18:54.040 --> 0:18:59.119 other podcasters you know their channels. We also UM have 0:18:59.280 --> 0:19:02.160 self help books in English and in Spanish for children 0:19:02.200 --> 0:19:05.200 and for adults. And you can also find the frequently 0:19:05.240 --> 0:19:10.000 asked questions that we recommend UM for therapists and other 0:19:10.080 --> 0:19:12.920 questions that you might be asking yourself about starting the 0:19:12.920 --> 0:19:17.480 therapy process. You guys, I love this, Adriana. That's awesome. Honestly, 0:19:18.080 --> 0:19:20.280 this is a way of a perfect way for to start, 0:19:20.280 --> 0:19:22.399 you guys, A perfect way for you to start. If 0:19:22.440 --> 0:19:25.000 you still haven't, you just do not sure, go to 0:19:25.160 --> 0:19:29.080 Latino x therapy dot com is so that you guys 0:19:29.080 --> 0:19:31.480 can start just getting information and getting your feet wet 0:19:31.520 --> 0:19:35.040 in this area. UM wow, honestly, I love that. I 0:19:35.080 --> 0:19:37.440 think that's amazing. And you're so young, you guys. I'm 0:19:37.520 --> 0:19:39.520 looking at her right now and she's so young, and 0:19:39.560 --> 0:19:41.000 it just makes me so proud of that. I'm like, 0:19:41.160 --> 0:19:44.040 she's a mom, she went to school, therapist, she has 0:19:44.040 --> 0:19:50.639 her own website, she has her own podcast, very very baby. 0:19:50.800 --> 0:19:54.840 I love it, like you know, on the website everybody. 0:19:54.880 --> 0:19:57.240 We also have support groups. I forgot to mention that 0:19:57.240 --> 0:19:59.640 that's one of our biggest things. We have national support 0:19:59.640 --> 0:20:02.840 groups UM for folks to join we'll be launching more. 0:20:02.840 --> 0:20:05.960 I took a break during last UM winter, but they'll 0:20:06.000 --> 0:20:09.600 they'll be coming out as well this year. For children 0:20:09.600 --> 0:20:11.680 that grew up parentified, you know, so if you were 0:20:11.680 --> 0:20:14.720 given roles from a very young age that we're not 0:20:14.920 --> 0:20:17.359 you know that shouldn't have been given to you at 0:20:17.400 --> 0:20:19.440 that age. You know, they were a little bit made 0:20:19.520 --> 0:20:23.159 for adults. UM we have we have support groups for 0:20:23.520 --> 0:20:30.040 just about anything that relates to our culture. For those 0:20:30.080 --> 0:20:32.159 that are listening, when do you feel that we should 0:20:32.280 --> 0:20:35.560 seek therapy? Like when when is that moment you're like, Okay, 0:20:35.600 --> 0:20:37.600 you know what, maybe this is the next thing I 0:20:37.640 --> 0:20:40.280 have to do. So I think if you're asking yourself 0:20:40.400 --> 0:20:43.879 that question already, I think that's a big green flag, 0:20:43.960 --> 0:20:47.480 an indication that says there's something you probably want to 0:20:47.480 --> 0:20:51.359 talk about. If you have experienced any hardship and haven't 0:20:51.359 --> 0:20:55.240 talked about it, if you don't have a UM definitely, 0:20:55.240 --> 0:20:57.760 if you don't have a support circle so people that 0:20:57.840 --> 0:21:00.720 you can just talk to. I think it's really important 0:21:00.880 --> 0:21:04.639 to UM have somebody uh and therapy can be that 0:21:04.960 --> 0:21:07.119 and by the way, everybody, it doesn't always just have 0:21:07.200 --> 0:21:10.520 to be individual therapy. If that's too intimidating. You can 0:21:10.560 --> 0:21:15.440 also do support groups therapeutic support groups that exists as well. 0:21:16.119 --> 0:21:19.040 But other other indications could be, you know, if you're 0:21:19.040 --> 0:21:23.840 experiencing nightmares, or if you experience body aches that medical 0:21:23.880 --> 0:21:27.200 professionals can't find answers to. Sometimes that can be due 0:21:27.200 --> 0:21:32.880 to psychological stress. Um, if you're experiencing rumination so thoughts 0:21:32.920 --> 0:21:36.879 that just cycle, difficulty with decision making, or you know, 0:21:36.960 --> 0:21:40.000 comparing yourself to other people so much the way that 0:21:40.040 --> 0:21:43.960 you speak to yourself is very negative or like creticona right, 0:21:44.560 --> 0:21:48.560 these can be indications that maybe there's there's things to process. Um. 0:21:48.640 --> 0:21:52.080 You can help yourself by understanding why you're unkind to 0:21:52.119 --> 0:21:54.920 yourself or why you know you can't speak in any 0:21:54.960 --> 0:21:58.560 other way. Maybe someone else's narrative of you is making 0:21:58.600 --> 0:22:02.080 you define yourself. You're living by the standards of someone 0:22:02.119 --> 0:22:05.000 else's narrative of you. Things that you went through in 0:22:05.119 --> 0:22:07.840 childhood that maybe you thought, like, you know, no, I 0:22:07.880 --> 0:22:10.159 don't need to talk about it. I got spanked and 0:22:10.200 --> 0:22:13.560 I'm fine. Let's just give yourself that opportunity to talk 0:22:13.600 --> 0:22:16.760 about it. Because our inner child, you know, our experiences 0:22:16.800 --> 0:22:19.920 as children really do affect us. Even if we're not 0:22:20.000 --> 0:22:23.720 talking about them. They're manifested in different ways as adults. Yeah, 0:22:23.720 --> 0:22:26.199 and then sometimes they surface, they resurface like later on 0:22:26.280 --> 0:22:28.040 in life, Like there's certain things that I'm like, oh, 0:22:28.440 --> 0:22:31.119 I'm already over that. And then I found like in 0:22:31.160 --> 0:22:32.639 my thirties it started coming out. I was like, oh 0:22:32.640 --> 0:22:34.800 my gosh, maybe I'm not. Maybe I do have daddy 0:22:34.840 --> 0:22:38.159 issues little things like that and mommy issues. And then 0:22:38.200 --> 0:22:40.320 I was like all these new things. As you evolve, 0:22:41.080 --> 0:22:45.240 things start surfacing, and this is why, you know. And 0:22:45.280 --> 0:22:47.800 sometimes like you can be with a therapist for five 0:22:47.880 --> 0:22:49.800