1 00:00:03,560 --> 00:00:10,640 Speaker 1: Our field is actually about white, probably higher. I've gone 2 00:00:10,640 --> 00:00:15,000 Speaker 1: through one to three. I'm on my fourth therapist and 3 00:00:15,040 --> 00:00:19,200 Speaker 1: on my second life coach. It's very frustrating, you know, 4 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:22,239 Speaker 1: for folks in our community to find a therapist that 5 00:00:22,640 --> 00:00:33,320 Speaker 1: speaks their language and understands these cultural notions. Hello, guys, 6 00:00:33,400 --> 00:00:35,760 Speaker 1: thank you so much for joining me for another episode 7 00:00:35,840 --> 00:00:39,120 Speaker 1: of cheek Ease and Chill. I'm your host, Cheeks, and 8 00:00:39,159 --> 00:00:41,520 Speaker 1: today we're going to be talking about a really big 9 00:00:41,560 --> 00:00:45,320 Speaker 1: and important topic, therapy. I'm a huge out of a 10 00:00:45,320 --> 00:00:47,159 Speaker 1: gift for therapy. I've been going to therapy since I 11 00:00:47,200 --> 00:00:49,680 Speaker 1: was twelve years old. Now it's helped me understand and 12 00:00:49,800 --> 00:00:52,360 Speaker 1: cope with all sorts of things in my life. So 13 00:00:52,800 --> 00:00:54,840 Speaker 1: we have a lot to talk about today, so let's 14 00:00:54,840 --> 00:00:57,400 Speaker 1: just get right to it. Welcome to another episode of 15 00:00:57,520 --> 00:01:04,120 Speaker 1: cheek Ease and Chill. Today's guest is Arianna Alejandre. She's 16 00:01:04,160 --> 00:01:07,240 Speaker 1: a licensed marriage and family therapist and she's also the 17 00:01:07,280 --> 00:01:11,720 Speaker 1: founder of the website and podcast Latin X Therapy. You guys, 18 00:01:11,760 --> 00:01:13,840 Speaker 1: I'm so excited to talk to her today and all 19 00:01:13,880 --> 00:01:17,920 Speaker 1: things related to therapy, including why it's stigmatized especially in 20 00:01:18,360 --> 00:01:23,480 Speaker 1: the Latin X community. Arian now welcome. How are you hey, 21 00:01:23,680 --> 00:01:27,320 Speaker 1: I'm great, Thank you so much for having me. Of course, No, 22 00:01:27,440 --> 00:01:30,440 Speaker 1: I'm excited. I'm excited because, like I said earlier, I'm 23 00:01:30,480 --> 00:01:33,840 Speaker 1: a huge advocate for therapy. I started therapy when I 24 00:01:33,880 --> 00:01:36,920 Speaker 1: was twelve years old. We were actually started as family therapy, 25 00:01:37,120 --> 00:01:39,280 Speaker 1: and that was kind of crazy because my siblings were there, 26 00:01:39,360 --> 00:01:41,240 Speaker 1: my mom was there, and we were talking about what 27 00:01:41,360 --> 00:01:43,680 Speaker 1: had happened to me. I was sexually abused by my dad. 28 00:01:44,040 --> 00:01:45,679 Speaker 1: So I was the first time I was introduced to 29 00:01:45,760 --> 00:01:50,080 Speaker 1: therapy and what it did for my life. Then just 30 00:01:50,160 --> 00:01:52,600 Speaker 1: talking about it, even it was very weird for me 31 00:01:52,640 --> 00:01:54,400 Speaker 1: to talk about it in front of my mom, But 32 00:01:54,560 --> 00:01:56,800 Speaker 1: once she left the room and my siblings did two 33 00:01:56,800 --> 00:01:59,000 Speaker 1: and it was just me and the therapist, it helped 34 00:01:59,000 --> 00:02:03,240 Speaker 1: me so much to just remove all those things and 35 00:02:03,360 --> 00:02:05,480 Speaker 1: that I kind of felt like a shame, you know. 36 00:02:05,520 --> 00:02:08,079 Speaker 1: I felt that shame that I felt over me, and 37 00:02:08,120 --> 00:02:10,560 Speaker 1: it really did help me. So I'm so happy that 38 00:02:10,639 --> 00:02:14,320 Speaker 1: you're here, that you're Latina that um. I have a 39 00:02:14,360 --> 00:02:18,240 Speaker 1: lot of questions, so so just bear with me, okay, Yeah, 40 00:02:19,320 --> 00:02:20,959 Speaker 1: so tell me you tell me a little bit about 41 00:02:21,040 --> 00:02:25,040 Speaker 1: latin X therapy. Yes, thank you. So I launched latin 42 00:02:25,200 --> 00:02:28,520 Speaker 1: X Therapy in two thousand eighteen. I came from a 43 00:02:28,600 --> 00:02:31,680 Speaker 1: family that didn't know that. I don't know if they 44 00:02:31,680 --> 00:02:35,320 Speaker 1: didn't know little We didn't talk about therapy or mental health. 45 00:02:35,680 --> 00:02:39,239 Speaker 1: And I discovered it when I was in college, and 46 00:02:39,440 --> 00:02:43,560 Speaker 1: that's when I became actually a single teen mom um 47 00:02:43,919 --> 00:02:47,000 Speaker 1: and it was just a really intense time. I was 48 00:02:47,040 --> 00:02:49,120 Speaker 1: all by myself. I used to Santa Barbara, you know, 49 00:02:49,160 --> 00:02:54,720 Speaker 1: I experienced knowingly postpartum depression. And after I went to 50 00:02:54,800 --> 00:02:59,519 Speaker 1: therapy because professor recommended it, I realized I can't stay 51 00:02:59,520 --> 00:03:04,639 Speaker 1: in therapy because I heard my mom's voice and familia, 52 00:03:04,800 --> 00:03:08,079 Speaker 1: you know, we fixed problems in the family. So I left. 53 00:03:08,200 --> 00:03:11,480 Speaker 1: But I was so curious after my three sessions that 54 00:03:11,600 --> 00:03:15,079 Speaker 1: I decided to major in psychology and then become a therapist. 55 00:03:15,600 --> 00:03:18,520 Speaker 1: I love that. Yeah, I held onto that. You know, 56 00:03:18,760 --> 00:03:23,760 Speaker 1: once you start talking, you really experience a lot of relief. Um. 57 00:03:24,080 --> 00:03:27,400 Speaker 1: And so that really motivated me to start latin X 58 00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:30,679 Speaker 1: Therapy when I was a therapist. Because our field is 59 00:03:30,720 --> 00:03:37,200 Speaker 1: actually about white probably higher um. I'm being very moderate 60 00:03:37,240 --> 00:03:40,960 Speaker 1: with my number there, but it's very frustrating, you know 61 00:03:41,040 --> 00:03:44,000 Speaker 1: for folks in our community to find a therapist that 62 00:03:44,400 --> 00:03:48,280 Speaker 1: speaks their language and understands these cultural notions that are 63 00:03:48,320 --> 00:03:50,880 Speaker 1: not even taught to therapist when we go through our 64 00:03:50,920 --> 00:03:56,120 Speaker 1: graduate training. So it's basically our lived experiences that guide 65 00:03:56,240 --> 00:04:01,000 Speaker 1: us in session with our own people. And so I 66 00:04:01,400 --> 00:04:04,360 Speaker 1: wanted to launch this for the community for my clients, 67 00:04:04,680 --> 00:04:06,720 Speaker 1: but it ended up being a national and then a 68 00:04:06,760 --> 00:04:11,280 Speaker 1: global sensation. So here we are now. Yeah, I love it. Honestly, 69 00:04:11,320 --> 00:04:13,440 Speaker 1: thank you. I want to say thank you. I I 70 00:04:13,520 --> 00:04:17,160 Speaker 1: love to see our people go to school and get 71 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:20,200 Speaker 1: their education and help others, help our community. And that's 72 00:04:20,240 --> 00:04:24,400 Speaker 1: what you're doing. And like you said earlier, um, I 73 00:04:24,400 --> 00:04:28,920 Speaker 1: think my mom because she wasn't raised with therapy. But 74 00:04:29,120 --> 00:04:32,000 Speaker 1: when I think it was actually the cop that was 75 00:04:32,040 --> 00:04:33,920 Speaker 1: doing all the investigations said, you know what, I think 76 00:04:34,000 --> 00:04:36,560 Speaker 1: she might need some counseling, some type of therapy. And 77 00:04:36,600 --> 00:04:38,599 Speaker 1: at first I remember my mom like, well, kind of 78 00:04:38,600 --> 00:04:40,560 Speaker 1: what is that? You know what I mean? But she listened, 79 00:04:40,880 --> 00:04:44,360 Speaker 1: and I'm so happy that she did, because again they 80 00:04:44,400 --> 00:04:53,280 Speaker 1: see it as something I'm gonna is that's that's a 81 00:04:53,320 --> 00:04:57,480 Speaker 1: sign of weakness what I've experienced in our culture exactly. 82 00:04:57,839 --> 00:05:00,680 Speaker 1: So thank you because I love that you're doing is 83 00:05:00,720 --> 00:05:03,440 Speaker 1: I love that it's called Latin X or Latin X therapy. 84 00:05:03,520 --> 00:05:05,880 Speaker 1: I think that that's important. I think that even just 85 00:05:05,960 --> 00:05:07,599 Speaker 1: having that word Latin in there, I feel like it 86 00:05:07,680 --> 00:05:10,200 Speaker 1: just gives you that comfortability of like, Okay, it's going 87 00:05:10,240 --> 00:05:13,520 Speaker 1: to be someone that understands me. Because, like you said, 88 00:05:13,800 --> 00:05:16,279 Speaker 1: there's so much relief in speaking to someone that's not 89 00:05:16,400 --> 00:05:19,920 Speaker 1: your family that you could just ah, like literally there's 90 00:05:21,160 --> 00:05:24,359 Speaker 1: in other words, you know, and just say emotionally exactly 91 00:05:26,960 --> 00:05:28,800 Speaker 1: and say hey, here, here it is, I'm gonna let 92 00:05:28,839 --> 00:05:33,200 Speaker 1: it all hang out. And yes, you get liberated. Dude. 93 00:05:33,200 --> 00:05:36,120 Speaker 1: It's like this liberty, this like liberation that you feel 94 00:05:36,160 --> 00:05:40,560 Speaker 1: of I let it out, and I mean, I'm telling you, 95 00:05:40,600 --> 00:05:42,480 Speaker 1: it's it's helped me so much, guys. And you guys 96 00:05:42,480 --> 00:05:44,720 Speaker 1: know I've been through quite a bit. Like what do 97 00:05:44,760 --> 00:05:47,719 Speaker 1: you think is the stigma? Like what's the stick the 98 00:05:47,720 --> 00:05:51,560 Speaker 1: stigma with therapy and and our culture. Well, I think 99 00:05:51,560 --> 00:05:53,839 Speaker 1: there's different layers here, but one that we have to 100 00:05:53,880 --> 00:05:57,640 Speaker 1: acknowledge is the lack of education that we have and 101 00:05:57,680 --> 00:06:01,560 Speaker 1: that is available about mental health itself and how it 102 00:06:01,640 --> 00:06:06,560 Speaker 1: hasn't been accessible for decades, if not longer. Right, I 103 00:06:06,600 --> 00:06:11,080 Speaker 1: think mental health because it isn't talked about in the public. 104 00:06:11,240 --> 00:06:14,800 Speaker 1: I it's something that's very hush hush um. We end 105 00:06:14,880 --> 00:06:20,159 Speaker 1: up stigmatizing emotions. So talking about feelings, I think is 106 00:06:20,240 --> 00:06:23,800 Speaker 1: rooted in um or not talking about feelings rather is 107 00:06:23,880 --> 00:06:30,159 Speaker 1: rooted in machista Machismore values. Machismore refers to the role 108 00:06:30,240 --> 00:06:34,000 Speaker 1: of men and how men are expected to reserve emotions 109 00:06:34,200 --> 00:06:37,560 Speaker 1: and if they are to express emotions, only certain ones 110 00:06:37,600 --> 00:06:41,680 Speaker 1: are accepted, like being angry, um, being uh, you know, 111 00:06:41,720 --> 00:06:45,400 Speaker 1: actions like sexism and all of that. So I think 112 00:06:45,680 --> 00:06:50,599 Speaker 1: that definitely because that's more accepted than being vulnerable with 113 00:06:50,720 --> 00:06:54,919 Speaker 1: all range of emotions. It harms us. It creates this cycle, 114 00:06:55,040 --> 00:06:59,479 Speaker 1: this like collective way of thinking and how to accept, 115 00:06:59,520 --> 00:07:03,800 Speaker 1: how to behave in our own worlds um. And that 116 00:07:03,920 --> 00:07:07,479 Speaker 1: is actually also a learned behavior. And so we we 117 00:07:07,640 --> 00:07:11,160 Speaker 1: learn from the people that raise us, whether they are 118 00:07:11,400 --> 00:07:14,720 Speaker 1: your biological folks or not. We learn from people that 119 00:07:14,760 --> 00:07:18,720 Speaker 1: are raising us how to accept, how to behave, how 120 00:07:18,760 --> 00:07:23,520 Speaker 1: to think. Essentially, it's when we leave those communities when 121 00:07:23,560 --> 00:07:27,240 Speaker 1: we start realizing, ah, you know, I didn't know about that. 122 00:07:27,320 --> 00:07:29,400 Speaker 1: I didn't know that it was okay, I didn't know 123 00:07:29,760 --> 00:07:32,880 Speaker 1: you know that therapy existed that you know, mental health 124 00:07:33,080 --> 00:07:36,440 Speaker 1: isn't just for crazy people. I didn't know medication could 125 00:07:36,520 --> 00:07:39,360 Speaker 1: help me in that way, right, And so all of 126 00:07:39,400 --> 00:07:43,800 Speaker 1: those notions are lack of knowledge about those topics because 127 00:07:43,800 --> 00:07:47,000 Speaker 1: they're just not talked about enough. Um, we also have 128 00:07:47,320 --> 00:07:51,000 Speaker 1: Maria Nismore in which that's the role and expectations of 129 00:07:51,000 --> 00:07:53,800 Speaker 1: women and how women are expected to be pillars of 130 00:07:53,840 --> 00:07:57,800 Speaker 1: the family and self sacrificial, so you know, stay together 131 00:07:57,920 --> 00:08:01,400 Speaker 1: for the sake of the family familia, right, that comes first. 132 00:08:01,760 --> 00:08:03,960 Speaker 1: There's like this very silent role in our community that 133 00:08:04,000 --> 00:08:07,880 Speaker 1: we shouldn't talk about our problems because then that would 134 00:08:07,920 --> 00:08:10,320 Speaker 1: burden someone else. And we don't want to burden others 135 00:08:10,400 --> 00:08:13,600 Speaker 1: with our stuff because we also tend to compare, right, like, 136 00:08:13,720 --> 00:08:16,840 Speaker 1: they're probably going through worse things than what we're going through. 137 00:08:16,880 --> 00:08:20,640 Speaker 1: Their traumas are are worse. It affected them more than 138 00:08:20,680 --> 00:08:23,960 Speaker 1: what it's affected me. I can persevere, I can keep going, 139 00:08:24,160 --> 00:08:27,360 Speaker 1: I can I can swallow this. So I think there's 140 00:08:27,440 --> 00:08:31,760 Speaker 1: there's all of this that contributes to the stigma. I 141 00:08:32,559 --> 00:08:34,960 Speaker 1: couldn't even agree more. And and it's that, like you said, 142 00:08:35,040 --> 00:08:38,280 Speaker 1: talking about men in the machismo, it's and it's like 143 00:08:38,320 --> 00:08:40,439 Speaker 1: it's okay for a man to cry, it's okay for 144 00:08:40,480 --> 00:08:42,840 Speaker 1: a man to ask for help, to ask for directions. 145 00:08:43,200 --> 00:08:45,760 Speaker 1: And it's just like, dude, if we could just remove 146 00:08:45,960 --> 00:08:48,800 Speaker 1: all of those things, all of those things that yes, 147 00:08:48,840 --> 00:08:51,200 Speaker 1: that we learned, you know that they're passed on generation 148 00:08:51,240 --> 00:08:55,240 Speaker 1: to generation, it's just like we would have less anxiety, 149 00:08:55,679 --> 00:08:59,400 Speaker 1: less depression, less so many things. You know. Um, and 150 00:08:59,679 --> 00:09:01,160 Speaker 1: I'm the this way. I'm so happy that I'm having 151 00:09:01,160 --> 00:09:03,040 Speaker 1: this conversation with you because there are going to be 152 00:09:03,080 --> 00:09:06,680 Speaker 1: people that are listening to us and that hopefully will 153 00:09:07,000 --> 00:09:09,920 Speaker 1: look for a therapist, you know, after this conversation, because 154 00:09:09,960 --> 00:09:13,679 Speaker 1: I think we all it doesn't matter the race, it 155 00:09:13,720 --> 00:09:17,640 Speaker 1: doesn't matter the gender, where you come from, what level 156 00:09:17,640 --> 00:09:20,320 Speaker 1: in life you were in. We all need therapy or 157 00:09:20,400 --> 00:09:22,560 Speaker 1: life coaching. That's one thing that's it's like every day 158 00:09:22,559 --> 00:09:24,480 Speaker 1: I need I have a mentor that I speak to 159 00:09:24,559 --> 00:09:27,520 Speaker 1: because you know, I mean, you're going through through life 160 00:09:27,559 --> 00:09:29,440 Speaker 1: and it's it's like, yes, I I also like to 161 00:09:29,440 --> 00:09:32,200 Speaker 1: help and motivate, motivate other people and empower them, but 162 00:09:32,280 --> 00:09:35,560 Speaker 1: I also need that myself. Do you get therapy, Adriana? 163 00:09:35,600 --> 00:09:37,120 Speaker 1: Do you is there someone that you speak to? My 164 00:09:37,400 --> 00:09:41,319 Speaker 1: I mean it's just out of curiosity. Absolutely, yes, I think, 165 00:09:41,480 --> 00:09:44,600 Speaker 1: you know, especially as a trauma therapist and all therapists 166 00:09:44,600 --> 00:09:48,840 Speaker 1: people that come into this profession should you know, I 167 00:09:48,880 --> 00:09:52,960 Speaker 1: think it's ethical to start therapy. Um. So, I really 168 00:09:53,000 --> 00:09:55,800 Speaker 1: restarted my journey when I was in graduate school, but 169 00:09:56,280 --> 00:10:00,000 Speaker 1: I had like a somewhat negative experience because the therapist 170 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:04,760 Speaker 1: didn't understand my culture. And I mean there were moments 171 00:10:04,760 --> 00:10:07,080 Speaker 1: where I you know, situations and things that I definitely 172 00:10:07,080 --> 00:10:09,080 Speaker 1: healed from. But there was one thing that really rubbed 173 00:10:09,120 --> 00:10:10,839 Speaker 1: me the wrong way, and it was when she said 174 00:10:10,880 --> 00:10:13,800 Speaker 1: that I should stop helping my family in all senses 175 00:10:13,840 --> 00:10:15,720 Speaker 1: because that's the boundary I need to set in place. 176 00:10:16,400 --> 00:10:18,760 Speaker 1: And I didn't want to do that. I didn't want 177 00:10:18,760 --> 00:10:22,079 Speaker 1: to financially stop helping my family, um because I didn't 178 00:10:22,080 --> 00:10:25,520 Speaker 1: think that their actions. You know, it wasn't to that 179 00:10:25,640 --> 00:10:28,480 Speaker 1: level where I needed to stop financially helping my family. 180 00:10:28,920 --> 00:10:31,080 Speaker 1: And I was still like twenty two, you know, I 181 00:10:31,120 --> 00:10:33,840 Speaker 1: needed my parents still, they were helping me with my son. 182 00:10:34,480 --> 00:10:36,840 Speaker 1: Um So Anyways, there was just that cultural notion where 183 00:10:36,840 --> 00:10:39,599 Speaker 1: it's like I understand maybe if people from other cultures 184 00:10:39,640 --> 00:10:42,400 Speaker 1: could just easily do that, but I probably get in 185 00:10:42,400 --> 00:10:44,720 Speaker 1: more trouble if I stopped doing that, and it would 186 00:10:44,720 --> 00:10:48,880 Speaker 1: be more harmful for my mental health. But um, because um, 187 00:10:48,920 --> 00:10:51,959 Speaker 1: my husband and I got married right before the pandemic. 188 00:10:52,480 --> 00:10:55,160 Speaker 1: We started couples therapy during the pandemic, and that was 189 00:10:55,200 --> 00:10:58,199 Speaker 1: my first time actually in couples therapy. So I had 190 00:10:58,240 --> 00:11:02,840 Speaker 1: done like inner child individual healing, and then the couple's 191 00:11:02,880 --> 00:11:06,280 Speaker 1: therapy really opened me up in many different ways and 192 00:11:06,400 --> 00:11:10,880 Speaker 1: from situations that I thought we're you know, processed, but 193 00:11:11,679 --> 00:11:14,040 Speaker 1: in the eyes of you know, someone that I'm living 194 00:11:14,080 --> 00:11:16,800 Speaker 1: with every day, my partner, it was just sliced in 195 00:11:16,920 --> 00:11:20,520 Speaker 1: different ways. So I'm so glad for that experience, and 196 00:11:20,640 --> 00:11:24,800 Speaker 1: it's definitely also something that I'm I'm an advocate for 197 00:11:25,200 --> 00:11:27,600 Speaker 1: and my son has been in therapy as well. The 198 00:11:27,640 --> 00:11:36,200 Speaker 1: pandemic was really really hard on all of us. Now 199 00:11:36,200 --> 00:11:38,079 Speaker 1: that we're talking about we're on this subject, like what 200 00:11:38,320 --> 00:11:41,920 Speaker 1: do you think that for those that are listening, what 201 00:11:41,960 --> 00:11:43,960 Speaker 1: do you think is important? Do you think it's important 202 00:11:44,000 --> 00:11:46,960 Speaker 1: to find same sex therapist, Like what do you think 203 00:11:47,280 --> 00:11:50,520 Speaker 1: I personally feel that, yes, it would be great to 204 00:11:50,559 --> 00:11:53,280 Speaker 1: find someone that's like you, you know, that understands me. 205 00:11:53,360 --> 00:11:55,440 Speaker 1: That's a part of my culture that understands my culture. 206 00:11:55,880 --> 00:11:59,280 Speaker 1: What do you think? Like, what's what's your opinion? My 207 00:11:59,440 --> 00:12:04,719 Speaker 1: opinion is that before looking for a therapist, people need 208 00:12:04,800 --> 00:12:08,839 Speaker 1: to do some self reflection about this question a little 209 00:12:08,840 --> 00:12:12,480 Speaker 1: bit more and really ask what am I going to 210 00:12:12,559 --> 00:12:16,040 Speaker 1: therapy for? Because just like how there's doctors that specialized 211 00:12:16,040 --> 00:12:20,439 Speaker 1: in hearts and brains and feet, you know, therapists also 212 00:12:20,480 --> 00:12:24,960 Speaker 1: specialized in different types of life situations. So if you're 213 00:12:24,960 --> 00:12:28,200 Speaker 1: seeking therapy, for example, for your child, you want to 214 00:12:28,240 --> 00:12:33,640 Speaker 1: find a child therapist. Um, not a general therapist necessarily, 215 00:12:33,760 --> 00:12:37,319 Speaker 1: but one that focuses on and and has advanced trainings 216 00:12:37,360 --> 00:12:41,520 Speaker 1: in different things that could help children process what they're 217 00:12:41,520 --> 00:12:44,679 Speaker 1: going through. Also, um, so you you kind of want 218 00:12:44,679 --> 00:12:46,960 Speaker 1: to create that filter, like I'm looking for a child 219 00:12:47,000 --> 00:12:50,680 Speaker 1: therapist that specializes in divorce or that specializes in trauma, 220 00:12:50,840 --> 00:12:54,920 Speaker 1: because trauma is a whole other type of advanced training too. 221 00:12:55,559 --> 00:12:59,520 Speaker 1: So asking yourself as well, like what I feel comfortable 222 00:12:59,679 --> 00:13:02,880 Speaker 1: with one that is non binary, that someone that is 223 00:13:03,040 --> 00:13:06,080 Speaker 1: male female, All of that is is definitely valid and 224 00:13:06,120 --> 00:13:08,920 Speaker 1: important for you because you're ultimately going to be the 225 00:13:09,000 --> 00:13:13,679 Speaker 1: one divulging and opening up to someone that you know 226 00:13:13,760 --> 00:13:15,480 Speaker 1: it may be your first time. It may not be, 227 00:13:15,640 --> 00:13:18,839 Speaker 1: but it's still very difficult each time. Although you know 228 00:13:19,360 --> 00:13:23,880 Speaker 1: yourself and I experience positive things from therapy, it took 229 00:13:23,960 --> 00:13:27,040 Speaker 1: us a long time at the beginning of stages were 230 00:13:27,080 --> 00:13:30,240 Speaker 1: not like going to a spa, right Like processing is hard, 231 00:13:30,480 --> 00:13:33,679 Speaker 1: it's it's painful as well. So it's a whole journey. 232 00:13:33,679 --> 00:13:36,000 Speaker 1: It's a roller coaster of a journey. And I think 233 00:13:36,040 --> 00:13:43,199 Speaker 1: everybody deserves to really think about the choice that they 234 00:13:43,240 --> 00:13:46,520 Speaker 1: get to make one selecting a therapist, you know, I 235 00:13:46,559 --> 00:13:50,000 Speaker 1: think everybody should also use that consultation time that is 236 00:13:50,080 --> 00:13:55,400 Speaker 1: free to ask the therapist what they specialize in. I 237 00:13:55,400 --> 00:13:57,400 Speaker 1: don't know for sure. And one thing that I want 238 00:13:57,400 --> 00:14:00,520 Speaker 1: to tell you guys from personal experience, it might take 239 00:14:00,559 --> 00:14:02,559 Speaker 1: a little while for you to find that perfect person 240 00:14:02,559 --> 00:14:05,760 Speaker 1: that you feel comfortable with, because it took me a 241 00:14:05,800 --> 00:14:09,160 Speaker 1: while to find someone and it was kind of like 242 00:14:09,200 --> 00:14:10,880 Speaker 1: I tried it, you know what I mean, Like I 243 00:14:11,120 --> 00:14:12,560 Speaker 1: one thing I want to tell you guys is go 244 00:14:12,800 --> 00:14:15,920 Speaker 1: one session and see how you feel until you find 245 00:14:15,920 --> 00:14:18,720 Speaker 1: that perfect fit for you. So you might get it 246 00:14:18,760 --> 00:14:21,800 Speaker 1: the first time or you know, like or you might not. 247 00:14:21,960 --> 00:14:24,800 Speaker 1: It took me. I'm telling you, I've gone through one, 248 00:14:24,880 --> 00:14:28,840 Speaker 1: two three. I'm on my fourth therapist and on my 249 00:14:28,920 --> 00:14:33,280 Speaker 1: second life coach, so like and again it's somewherehere. I'm like, now, 250 00:14:33,280 --> 00:14:34,800 Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, I can talk to them like they're 251 00:14:34,800 --> 00:14:36,280 Speaker 1: my friends. Like you know what I mean. It takes 252 00:14:36,280 --> 00:14:39,640 Speaker 1: a little while, so be patient with yourself. Um, while 253 00:14:39,680 --> 00:14:42,800 Speaker 1: finding one, do your research, and like Adriana said, it's 254 00:14:42,800 --> 00:14:45,640 Speaker 1: really important to know what type of therapy counseling that 255 00:14:45,720 --> 00:14:48,080 Speaker 1: you're looking for. I went to trauma therapy for a 256 00:14:48,160 --> 00:14:52,640 Speaker 1: long time and it did help me so much, especially 257 00:14:53,080 --> 00:14:55,880 Speaker 1: to understand that what happened to me was not my fault, 258 00:14:56,080 --> 00:14:59,240 Speaker 1: you know, the sexual abuse. Um, because I did think 259 00:14:59,280 --> 00:15:01,440 Speaker 1: as it did I do something wrong. There's so many 260 00:15:01,520 --> 00:15:04,080 Speaker 1: questions and that's a whole other episode. But guys, just 261 00:15:04,160 --> 00:15:08,000 Speaker 1: be patient. Another thing a lot of I've heard many people, 262 00:15:08,080 --> 00:15:09,400 Speaker 1: like a lot of my friends, I'm like, hey, go 263 00:15:09,440 --> 00:15:12,160 Speaker 1: to therapy. I'm always suggesting that, but they think, oh, 264 00:15:12,160 --> 00:15:15,240 Speaker 1: it's too expensive. It definitely could be, I mean, the 265 00:15:15,280 --> 00:15:23,400 Speaker 1: profession is expensive. So I love her answer. Yes, yeah, Um, however, 266 00:15:23,880 --> 00:15:28,080 Speaker 1: a lot of us reserve reduced rates. So maybe what 267 00:15:28,240 --> 00:15:31,640 Speaker 1: you see on the website looks scary and frightening you know, 268 00:15:31,720 --> 00:15:33,720 Speaker 1: maybe maybe it might be out of your budget. For 269 00:15:33,760 --> 00:15:36,960 Speaker 1: a lot of people, it's not. Also, which is you know, um, 270 00:15:37,000 --> 00:15:40,280 Speaker 1: that's like probably my money wounds when I say that, 271 00:15:40,320 --> 00:15:42,440 Speaker 1: where it's like a lot of people can afford that, 272 00:15:42,520 --> 00:15:46,800 Speaker 1: and I get shocked sometimes, But um, I think that's 273 00:15:46,840 --> 00:15:50,120 Speaker 1: great because you know, people do see it as an investment. Now, 274 00:15:50,200 --> 00:15:53,160 Speaker 1: if you're looking and you're seeing on the directories, like, wow, 275 00:15:53,200 --> 00:15:56,840 Speaker 1: these rates are high, genuinely cannot afford that. During the consultation, 276 00:15:57,520 --> 00:16:00,160 Speaker 1: talk to the therapist, tell them your financial situation and 277 00:16:00,440 --> 00:16:04,800 Speaker 1: what you can afford, and ask about their sliding scale eligibility, 278 00:16:04,960 --> 00:16:08,560 Speaker 1: you know, who qualifies, if they have any other reduced 279 00:16:08,640 --> 00:16:12,320 Speaker 1: rates available, and and go from there, because you know, 280 00:16:12,360 --> 00:16:15,520 Speaker 1: I think that that's that's something that that should be normalized. 281 00:16:15,640 --> 00:16:19,120 Speaker 1: We should be talking about that. Um. Not every therapist 282 00:16:19,200 --> 00:16:22,720 Speaker 1: also accepts insurance. If you do wanna go through your insurance, 283 00:16:22,760 --> 00:16:26,240 Speaker 1: it is best to contact the insurance directly and then 284 00:16:26,720 --> 00:16:30,480 Speaker 1: have the representative filter. So tell them that you're looking 285 00:16:30,520 --> 00:16:35,360 Speaker 1: for a Latin X or Hispanic therapist and they should 286 00:16:35,400 --> 00:16:37,360 Speaker 1: be able to filter that for you, and then from 287 00:16:37,400 --> 00:16:39,840 Speaker 1: there you're going to do your research. They could probably 288 00:16:39,880 --> 00:16:42,200 Speaker 1: filter like you know that if they specialize in anxiety 289 00:16:42,200 --> 00:16:46,200 Speaker 1: and depression and very general broad things. So those are 290 00:16:46,200 --> 00:16:50,600 Speaker 1: some recommendations for the high rates and using insurance. Yeah, 291 00:16:50,640 --> 00:16:53,440 Speaker 1: and it's it's something I was gonna tell everyone that 292 00:16:54,080 --> 00:16:58,680 Speaker 1: I was. This is demosteno, you know, and it's it's 293 00:16:58,720 --> 00:17:03,000 Speaker 1: really an investment for your mental emotional health. You guys that. Yes, 294 00:17:03,040 --> 00:17:04,720 Speaker 1: it's probably gonna be I don't know, you know, a 295 00:17:04,840 --> 00:17:07,040 Speaker 1: hundred and fifty dollars an hour. But that doesn't mean 296 00:17:07,080 --> 00:17:09,400 Speaker 1: you have to go, you know. It all just depends 297 00:17:09,440 --> 00:17:11,359 Speaker 1: on your situation. Yes, it would be great if you 298 00:17:11,359 --> 00:17:14,240 Speaker 1: can go once a week or once a month, just 299 00:17:14,359 --> 00:17:16,840 Speaker 1: try it. I do think that I, like I said, 300 00:17:16,920 --> 00:17:19,239 Speaker 1: you can stop doing certain things in your life in 301 00:17:19,359 --> 00:17:23,080 Speaker 1: order to prioritize your mental and emotional health. For a 302 00:17:23,119 --> 00:17:24,840 Speaker 1: long time, I stopped doing my nails. I was one 303 00:17:24,880 --> 00:17:26,840 Speaker 1: that would go every two weeks to get my manicure 304 00:17:26,840 --> 00:17:28,920 Speaker 1: and pedicure, and I stopped doing that for a little 305 00:17:28,920 --> 00:17:31,119 Speaker 1: bit so that I can pay for my therapy sessions 306 00:17:31,160 --> 00:17:33,280 Speaker 1: because my insurance wouldn't cover it. But that was something 307 00:17:33,280 --> 00:17:35,119 Speaker 1: that was so important to me that I said, you 308 00:17:35,119 --> 00:17:38,439 Speaker 1: know what, Yes, I like to get my nails I'm 309 00:17:38,440 --> 00:17:40,119 Speaker 1: not going to give my pedicures for three months so 310 00:17:40,160 --> 00:17:43,000 Speaker 1: that i can have extra money for my sessions. So 311 00:17:43,000 --> 00:17:50,879 Speaker 1: I'm just putting that out there guys. Okay, UM, I 312 00:17:51,119 --> 00:17:53,959 Speaker 1: think that on your website, which is UM what's your 313 00:17:53,960 --> 00:17:57,359 Speaker 1: website again, Latin x Therapy dot com perfect and what 314 00:17:57,480 --> 00:18:01,800 Speaker 1: can they find there? Our listeners, what can they find? 315 00:18:01,840 --> 00:18:04,919 Speaker 1: Lots of resources, so when could go on there? Uh. 316 00:18:05,000 --> 00:18:07,280 Speaker 1: One of the main things that you you're going to 317 00:18:07,320 --> 00:18:09,720 Speaker 1: see as find a therapist or find a speaker, and 318 00:18:09,800 --> 00:18:12,480 Speaker 1: so UM you want to use to find a therapist 319 00:18:12,480 --> 00:18:15,440 Speaker 1: if you're looking for a therapist for yourself, and then 320 00:18:15,480 --> 00:18:18,719 Speaker 1: filter through so put your state because you can. Although 321 00:18:18,800 --> 00:18:22,040 Speaker 1: you know we're in living in the pandemic and everything's virtual, 322 00:18:22,760 --> 00:18:25,280 Speaker 1: we are we have therapists are only allowed to see 323 00:18:25,520 --> 00:18:28,400 Speaker 1: people that live in the state that we are licensed 324 00:18:28,440 --> 00:18:31,960 Speaker 1: in or the states UM. So for myself, I'm only 325 00:18:32,000 --> 00:18:34,680 Speaker 1: licensed in California, so I could only see people that 326 00:18:34,720 --> 00:18:40,640 Speaker 1: live in California unfortunately. UM. So that's really important to consider. 327 00:18:41,480 --> 00:18:44,359 Speaker 1: And then what you can also find is our shop 328 00:18:44,680 --> 00:18:48,320 Speaker 1: where we have de stigmatizing gear. We have resources such 329 00:18:48,359 --> 00:18:53,720 Speaker 1: as UM Mental Health UM YouTube YouTube channels. We have 330 00:18:54,040 --> 00:18:59,119 Speaker 1: other podcasters you know their channels. We also UM have 331 00:18:59,280 --> 00:19:02,160 Speaker 1: self help books in English and in Spanish for children 332 00:19:02,200 --> 00:19:05,200 Speaker 1: and for adults. And you can also find the frequently 333 00:19:05,240 --> 00:19:10,000 Speaker 1: asked questions that we recommend UM for therapists and other 334 00:19:10,080 --> 00:19:12,920 Speaker 1: questions that you might be asking yourself about starting the 335 00:19:12,920 --> 00:19:17,480 Speaker 1: therapy process. You guys, I love this, Adriana. That's awesome. Honestly, 336 00:19:18,080 --> 00:19:20,280 Speaker 1: this is a way of a perfect way for to start, 337 00:19:20,280 --> 00:19:22,399 Speaker 1: you guys, A perfect way for you to start. If 338 00:19:22,440 --> 00:19:25,000 Speaker 1: you still haven't, you just do not sure, go to 339 00:19:25,160 --> 00:19:29,080 Speaker 1: Latino x therapy dot com is so that you guys 340 00:19:29,080 --> 00:19:31,480 Speaker 1: can start just getting information and getting your feet wet 341 00:19:31,520 --> 00:19:35,040 Speaker 1: in this area. UM wow, honestly, I love that. I 342 00:19:35,080 --> 00:19:37,440 Speaker 1: think that's amazing. And you're so young, you guys. I'm 343 00:19:37,520 --> 00:19:39,520 Speaker 1: looking at her right now and she's so young, and 344 00:19:39,560 --> 00:19:41,000 Speaker 1: it just makes me so proud of that. I'm like, 345 00:19:41,160 --> 00:19:44,040 Speaker 1: she's a mom, she went to school, therapist, she has 346 00:19:44,040 --> 00:19:50,639 Speaker 1: her own website, she has her own podcast, very very baby. 347 00:19:50,800 --> 00:19:54,840 Speaker 1: I love it, like you know, on the website everybody. 348 00:19:54,880 --> 00:19:57,240 Speaker 1: We also have support groups. I forgot to mention that 349 00:19:57,240 --> 00:19:59,640 Speaker 1: that's one of our biggest things. We have national support 350 00:19:59,640 --> 00:20:02,840 Speaker 1: groups UM for folks to join we'll be launching more. 351 00:20:02,840 --> 00:20:05,960 Speaker 1: I took a break during last UM winter, but they'll 352 00:20:06,000 --> 00:20:09,600 Speaker 1: they'll be coming out as well this year. For children 353 00:20:09,600 --> 00:20:11,680 Speaker 1: that grew up parentified, you know, so if you were 354 00:20:11,680 --> 00:20:14,720 Speaker 1: given roles from a very young age that we're not 355 00:20:14,920 --> 00:20:17,359 Speaker 1: you know that shouldn't have been given to you at 356 00:20:17,400 --> 00:20:19,440 Speaker 1: that age. You know, they were a little bit made 357 00:20:19,520 --> 00:20:23,159 Speaker 1: for adults. UM we have we have support groups for 358 00:20:23,520 --> 00:20:30,040 Speaker 1: just about anything that relates to our culture. For those 359 00:20:30,080 --> 00:20:32,159 Speaker 1: that are listening, when do you feel that we should 360 00:20:32,280 --> 00:20:35,560 Speaker 1: seek therapy? Like when when is that moment you're like, Okay, 361 00:20:35,600 --> 00:20:37,600 Speaker 1: you know what, maybe this is the next thing I 362 00:20:37,640 --> 00:20:40,280 Speaker 1: have to do. So I think if you're asking yourself 363 00:20:40,400 --> 00:20:43,879 Speaker 1: that question already, I think that's a big green flag, 364 00:20:43,960 --> 00:20:47,480 Speaker 1: an indication that says there's something you probably want to 365 00:20:47,480 --> 00:20:51,359 Speaker 1: talk about. If you have experienced any hardship and haven't 366 00:20:51,359 --> 00:20:55,240 Speaker 1: talked about it, if you don't have a UM definitely, 367 00:20:55,240 --> 00:20:57,760 Speaker 1: if you don't have a support circle so people that 368 00:20:57,840 --> 00:21:00,720 Speaker 1: you can just talk to. I think it's really important 369 00:21:00,880 --> 00:21:04,639 Speaker 1: to UM have somebody uh and therapy can be that 370 00:21:04,960 --> 00:21:07,119 Speaker 1: and by the way, everybody, it doesn't always just have 371 00:21:07,200 --> 00:21:10,520 Speaker 1: to be individual therapy. If that's too intimidating. You can 372 00:21:10,560 --> 00:21:15,440 Speaker 1: also do support groups therapeutic support groups that exists as well. 373 00:21:16,119 --> 00:21:19,040 Speaker 1: But other other indications could be, you know, if you're 374 00:21:19,040 --> 00:21:23,840 Speaker 1: experiencing nightmares, or if you experience body aches that medical 375 00:21:23,880 --> 00:21:27,200 Speaker 1: professionals can't find answers to. Sometimes that can be due 376 00:21:27,200 --> 00:21:32,880 Speaker 1: to psychological stress. Um, if you're experiencing rumination so thoughts 377 00:21:32,920 --> 00:21:36,879 Speaker 1: that just cycle, difficulty with decision making, or you know, 378 00:21:36,960 --> 00:21:40,000 Speaker 1: comparing yourself to other people so much the way that 379 00:21:40,040 --> 00:21:43,960 Speaker 1: you speak to yourself is very negative or like creticona right, 380 00:21:44,560 --> 00:21:48,560 Speaker 1: these can be indications that maybe there's there's things to process. Um. 381 00:21:48,640 --> 00:21:52,080 Speaker 1: You can help yourself by understanding why you're unkind to 382 00:21:52,119 --> 00:21:54,920 Speaker 1: yourself or why you know you can't speak in any 383 00:21:54,960 --> 00:21:58,560 Speaker 1: other way. Maybe someone else's narrative of you is making 384 00:21:58,600 --> 00:22:02,080 Speaker 1: you define yourself. You're living by the standards of someone 385 00:22:02,119 --> 00:22:05,000 Speaker 1: else's narrative of you. Things that you went through in 386 00:22:05,119 --> 00:22:07,840 Speaker 1: childhood that maybe you thought, like, you know, no, I 387 00:22:07,880 --> 00:22:10,159 Speaker 1: don't need to talk about it. I got spanked and 388 00:22:10,200 --> 00:22:13,560 Speaker 1: I'm fine. Let's just give yourself that opportunity to talk 389 00:22:13,600 --> 00:22:16,760 Speaker 1: about it. Because our inner child, you know, our experiences 390 00:22:16,800 --> 00:22:19,920 Speaker 1: as children really do affect us. Even if we're not 391 00:22:20,000 --> 00:22:23,720 Speaker 1: talking about them. They're manifested in different ways as adults. Yeah, 392 00:22:23,720 --> 00:22:26,199 Speaker 1: and then sometimes they surface, they resurface like later on 393 00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:28,040 Speaker 1: in life, Like there's certain things that I'm like, oh, 394 00:22:28,440 --> 00:22:31,119 Speaker 1: I'm already over that. And then I found like in 395 00:22:31,160 --> 00:22:32,639 Speaker 1: my thirties it started coming out. I was like, oh 396 00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:34,800 Speaker 1: my gosh, maybe I'm not. Maybe I do have daddy 397 00:22:34,840 --> 00:22:38,159 Speaker 1: issues little things like that and mommy issues. And then 398 00:22:38,200 --> 00:22:40,320 Speaker 1: I was like all these new things. As you evolve, 399 00:22:41,080 --> 00:22:45,240 Speaker 1: things start surfacing, and this is why, you know. And 400 00:22:45,280 --> 00:22:47,800 Speaker 1: sometimes like you can be with a therapist for five 401 00:22:47,880 --> 00:22:49,800 Speaker 1: years and then you find yourself like saying, you know what, 402 00:22:50,400 --> 00:22:51,879 Speaker 1: maybe I need to switch it up a little bit. 403 00:22:51,920 --> 00:22:54,280 Speaker 1: Maybe now I'm starting to figure out I have these 404 00:22:54,760 --> 00:22:58,000 Speaker 1: other questions and I need answers for and you you 405 00:22:58,080 --> 00:23:00,280 Speaker 1: change your therapist or you tell your therapist this is 406 00:23:00,280 --> 00:23:02,480 Speaker 1: what I'm thinking, is what I'm feeling. It's just it's 407 00:23:02,480 --> 00:23:04,400 Speaker 1: a process, you guys, It's a journey, and I think 408 00:23:04,440 --> 00:23:07,800 Speaker 1: that we have to be patient. When I first talked 409 00:23:07,800 --> 00:23:11,280 Speaker 1: to the first therapists, I just felt like they were 410 00:23:11,320 --> 00:23:14,199 Speaker 1: just sitting there like just listening to me, and Okay, 411 00:23:14,240 --> 00:23:16,840 Speaker 1: and literally the first one I'll never forget after the 412 00:23:16,880 --> 00:23:18,520 Speaker 1: one when I was twelve, I was I think I 413 00:23:18,560 --> 00:23:21,800 Speaker 1: got therapy when I was like nineteen, and he was 414 00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:23,840 Speaker 1: just looking at his watch like okay, all right, oh 415 00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:26,600 Speaker 1: well it's time to go, and I'm like, oh well, um, 416 00:23:27,680 --> 00:23:29,560 Speaker 1: and then I was like, oh yeah, okay, we'll see 417 00:23:29,560 --> 00:23:31,760 Speaker 1: you next session. And I'm like, you didn't tell me anything. 418 00:23:31,800 --> 00:23:33,080 Speaker 1: That's when I was like, I'm never going back to 419 00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:36,720 Speaker 1: this guy. And since then, I feel more comfortable with females. 420 00:23:36,760 --> 00:23:38,439 Speaker 1: I'm like, wait a second, they're going to understand a 421 00:23:38,440 --> 00:23:40,360 Speaker 1: little bit more, even if it's like five minutes over 422 00:23:40,400 --> 00:23:45,040 Speaker 1: the clock, you know what I mean. Because that's that's 423 00:23:45,080 --> 00:23:47,320 Speaker 1: why I was like, oh no, this isn't good for me. 424 00:23:48,359 --> 00:23:51,640 Speaker 1: Me to change this guy. No, No. And that's that's 425 00:23:51,680 --> 00:23:55,480 Speaker 1: the thing. Like there's also different therapy approaches, and so 426 00:23:55,720 --> 00:23:57,760 Speaker 1: you have to really be reflective, like do you want 427 00:23:57,760 --> 00:24:01,960 Speaker 1: someone that's more direct with you or more indirect? You 428 00:24:02,080 --> 00:24:05,320 Speaker 1: got to think about what kind of therapists you're going 429 00:24:05,359 --> 00:24:09,399 Speaker 1: to respond to as well, because that affects, you know, 430 00:24:09,480 --> 00:24:14,400 Speaker 1: your time as well. Yeah. Absolutely, Living in the society 431 00:24:14,400 --> 00:24:17,920 Speaker 1: that we live in now with Instagram and all these 432 00:24:17,960 --> 00:24:21,280 Speaker 1: things that are happening around us and how there's there 433 00:24:21,320 --> 00:24:29,000 Speaker 1: are a lot of facades should I say okay? And 434 00:24:29,040 --> 00:24:32,520 Speaker 1: when we're going and we're scrolling so much through Instagram, 435 00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:35,480 Speaker 1: through social media, it causes a lot of anxiety because 436 00:24:35,480 --> 00:24:37,159 Speaker 1: you're like, I wish I had that, I wish my 437 00:24:37,200 --> 00:24:39,640 Speaker 1: life was like I wish I looked like that. So 438 00:24:40,720 --> 00:24:42,239 Speaker 1: going back to what you were saying, as far as 439 00:24:42,280 --> 00:24:45,639 Speaker 1: far as like when to find a therapist, it's like, 440 00:24:45,800 --> 00:24:47,399 Speaker 1: of course, when you're asking yourself that, like I have 441 00:24:47,440 --> 00:24:48,879 Speaker 1: no one to talk to her. I'm too shy to 442 00:24:48,920 --> 00:24:51,639 Speaker 1: tell my friends this because there are certain things that 443 00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:53,760 Speaker 1: we want to go out there and be like we're strong, 444 00:24:54,119 --> 00:24:56,240 Speaker 1: I got this, I don't cry and all this stuff. 445 00:24:56,240 --> 00:24:58,320 Speaker 1: But it's like, wait, you have to find someone in 446 00:24:58,359 --> 00:25:01,840 Speaker 1: your life to be vulnerable with, to remove to ask 447 00:25:01,880 --> 00:25:04,160 Speaker 1: all these questions, to say, hey, I have this secret, 448 00:25:04,480 --> 00:25:06,400 Speaker 1: I have this thing that I've been caring because once 449 00:25:06,440 --> 00:25:09,160 Speaker 1: you speak to someone that has a non biased opinion, 450 00:25:09,960 --> 00:25:13,119 Speaker 1: I think that just releases you and relieves you and 451 00:25:13,200 --> 00:25:16,720 Speaker 1: liberates you to just be able to say, Okay, I'm 452 00:25:16,720 --> 00:25:19,679 Speaker 1: gonna walk forward and keep going with my life. But 453 00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:24,640 Speaker 1: if you guys or having all these different questions or 454 00:25:25,000 --> 00:25:27,479 Speaker 1: things that causes anxiety because I'm not gonna lie. Sometimes 455 00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:29,800 Speaker 1: things on Instagram cause me anxiety where I'm like, you 456 00:25:29,800 --> 00:25:32,399 Speaker 1: know what, I got to minimize my screen time and 457 00:25:32,440 --> 00:25:34,440 Speaker 1: say I'm going only for this week. I'm just gonna 458 00:25:34,440 --> 00:25:36,639 Speaker 1: post and get out. I'm not gonna be scrolling because 459 00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:39,199 Speaker 1: it causes you these things. So if you're feeling that 460 00:25:39,240 --> 00:25:41,439 Speaker 1: type of stuff, you guys, that's when you know, hey, 461 00:25:41,480 --> 00:25:43,320 Speaker 1: I need to talk to someone that's not a family member, 462 00:25:43,320 --> 00:25:45,239 Speaker 1: that's not my best friend, that's not my husband, and 463 00:25:45,240 --> 00:25:47,080 Speaker 1: that's okay, you guys. It does not make you weak. 464 00:25:47,600 --> 00:25:50,840 Speaker 1: It's there's a beautiful thing and being vulnerable. There's a 465 00:25:50,840 --> 00:25:52,879 Speaker 1: lot of strength in that, and a lot of people 466 00:25:52,920 --> 00:25:56,479 Speaker 1: don't don't applaud that. I will be the first one 467 00:25:56,560 --> 00:25:58,600 Speaker 1: cheering for you. If you're like, you know what I 468 00:25:58,600 --> 00:26:01,159 Speaker 1: listen to today and I think I need to go 469 00:26:01,480 --> 00:26:03,760 Speaker 1: to latin X Therapy dot com and figure out what 470 00:26:03,800 --> 00:26:05,880 Speaker 1: the heck is going on my life, because I tell 471 00:26:05,920 --> 00:26:09,720 Speaker 1: I'm telling you is going to change everything. You're gonna 472 00:26:09,760 --> 00:26:12,760 Speaker 1: feel like you can think different, like you have more 473 00:26:12,800 --> 00:26:17,680 Speaker 1: mental energy, more physical energy. Also when you are keeping 474 00:26:17,720 --> 00:26:20,600 Speaker 1: things inside and I'm telling you guys, like when you said, 475 00:26:20,600 --> 00:26:22,960 Speaker 1: like you start feeling body eggs. For a long time, 476 00:26:23,000 --> 00:26:26,160 Speaker 1: my lower back would hurt so much, my knees would hurt, 477 00:26:26,320 --> 00:26:28,679 Speaker 1: and I started looking it up on the internet, like, okay, 478 00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:31,680 Speaker 1: you know what emotions are related to this physical pain? 479 00:26:32,000 --> 00:26:34,359 Speaker 1: And it's like, oh, you're you're staying quiet about things, 480 00:26:34,400 --> 00:26:37,600 Speaker 1: you feel insecure, things like that, and it's crazy. Once 481 00:26:37,600 --> 00:26:41,560 Speaker 1: you just let it out, you feel better. It's like magic, right, 482 00:26:41,680 --> 00:26:46,560 Speaker 1: I'm not or do I'm not crazy? That's yeah, no, absolutely, yeah. 483 00:26:46,680 --> 00:26:49,040 Speaker 1: I think we hold so much in our body that 484 00:26:49,640 --> 00:26:52,000 Speaker 1: and we use our body like a vessel to go 485 00:26:52,080 --> 00:26:54,160 Speaker 1: through life, and we just put it into and through 486 00:26:54,200 --> 00:26:57,720 Speaker 1: so many different scenarios and situations that we most of 487 00:26:57,760 --> 00:27:00,520 Speaker 1: the time ignore the aches until the ages say no, mass, 488 00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:03,399 Speaker 1: I can't, you know, please pay attention to me, And 489 00:27:03,440 --> 00:27:05,119 Speaker 1: so we really have to. I think it in the 490 00:27:05,200 --> 00:27:09,040 Speaker 1: habit also of learning how to tune into our bodies 491 00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:13,280 Speaker 1: daily so that we're able to help ourselves and we 492 00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:16,920 Speaker 1: do have more energy, more potential. We stop holding ourselves 493 00:27:16,920 --> 00:27:20,359 Speaker 1: back from a lot of things when we tend to ourselves, 494 00:27:20,520 --> 00:27:24,320 Speaker 1: because you're right, there is strength and vulnerability. Yeah, absolutely, 495 00:27:24,359 --> 00:27:26,840 Speaker 1: And just taking that time in the morning to just 496 00:27:27,960 --> 00:27:31,359 Speaker 1: really have I don't know, even fifteen thirty minutes to 497 00:27:31,480 --> 00:27:35,280 Speaker 1: yourself reading a book or doing whatever your therapy, whatever 498 00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:37,600 Speaker 1: it may be, it's going. It's a game changer, you guys. 499 00:27:37,640 --> 00:27:41,439 Speaker 1: It's a game changer. And really prioritizing yourself before you 500 00:27:41,480 --> 00:27:43,439 Speaker 1: can give yourself to your children, to your husband, to 501 00:27:43,440 --> 00:27:46,760 Speaker 1: your friends, to your job. It's something that I highly recommend. 502 00:27:47,240 --> 00:27:49,159 Speaker 1: And I wanted to ask you other day. I like, 503 00:27:49,359 --> 00:27:52,000 Speaker 1: you've been doing therapy for how long? Now? How many years? 504 00:27:52,040 --> 00:27:55,400 Speaker 1: You said, as in practicing or in it myself? Yes, 505 00:27:55,400 --> 00:27:58,760 Speaker 1: as in practicing UM as a trainee, I would say 506 00:27:58,800 --> 00:28:02,840 Speaker 1: since two tho fourteen. Okay, And do you find that 507 00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:07,680 Speaker 1: your clients are younger? Do you feel like this generation 508 00:28:07,760 --> 00:28:10,919 Speaker 1: is looking more for therapy or what? What is your experience? 509 00:28:11,119 --> 00:28:15,000 Speaker 1: I currently only work with adults, biddle, UM. You know, 510 00:28:15,040 --> 00:28:17,199 Speaker 1: I do have other clinicians on my team that do 511 00:28:17,280 --> 00:28:20,960 Speaker 1: work with children. UM. Thinking about social media and the 512 00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:25,320 Speaker 1: community in general, we are noticing that the younger generation 513 00:28:25,760 --> 00:28:29,040 Speaker 1: is carrying all of us like they are trying to 514 00:28:29,119 --> 00:28:33,879 Speaker 1: do UM, all the advocating and it's amazing because you know, 515 00:28:33,960 --> 00:28:37,680 Speaker 1: they're making statements like my therapist said in public right 516 00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:41,280 Speaker 1: which for older generation you that would be so difficult 517 00:28:41,280 --> 00:28:45,320 Speaker 1: because there was such a higher stigma than with somebody 518 00:28:45,360 --> 00:28:48,840 Speaker 1: being in therapy. So I do find that the younger 519 00:28:48,880 --> 00:28:53,600 Speaker 1: generation is normalizing it and they're doing such a great job. 520 00:28:53,720 --> 00:28:56,240 Speaker 1: And I think that's also making other people like you know, 521 00:28:56,440 --> 00:28:59,680 Speaker 1: in our generation and older generations more comfortable to talk 522 00:28:59,720 --> 00:29:04,120 Speaker 1: about out their stories. Um, everybody's stories includes pieces of 523 00:29:04,160 --> 00:29:06,800 Speaker 1: mental health, but it's all about the connections, you know, 524 00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:11,080 Speaker 1: that we make towards that. So I'm noticing that that's 525 00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:13,760 Speaker 1: good and that makes me so happy. It's just like 526 00:29:13,800 --> 00:29:16,240 Speaker 1: I said, there's so much pressure right now in just 527 00:29:16,360 --> 00:29:18,360 Speaker 1: in our society, and like I said, like what you 528 00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:20,080 Speaker 1: gotta look look like and what kind of life you 529 00:29:20,120 --> 00:29:23,320 Speaker 1: have to have. And I've noticed, like even in in 530 00:29:23,360 --> 00:29:26,640 Speaker 1: my in my relationship now, that he goes to therapy 531 00:29:26,680 --> 00:29:30,040 Speaker 1: weekly and when he doesn't go, I can tell the difference, 532 00:29:30,040 --> 00:29:32,120 Speaker 1: not that he's crazy or whatever, like I'm saying, like 533 00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:33,760 Speaker 1: that he gets violent or anything like that is what 534 00:29:33,800 --> 00:29:36,720 Speaker 1: I mean, but I can tell that he's just Our 535 00:29:36,800 --> 00:29:39,520 Speaker 1: problem solving is so much better. And this is the 536 00:29:39,560 --> 00:29:42,200 Speaker 1: first guy that I date that actually makes it a 537 00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:45,960 Speaker 1: priority to go to therapy and he's younger than I am. 538 00:29:46,400 --> 00:29:49,280 Speaker 1: So just I'm like, dude, this is awesome. Like more 539 00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:51,960 Speaker 1: many to do this because it really does help us 540 00:29:52,600 --> 00:29:54,680 Speaker 1: because I've gone, like I said, to therapy for a 541 00:29:54,680 --> 00:29:57,400 Speaker 1: long time, but now to be dating someone that's doing therapy, 542 00:29:57,480 --> 00:29:59,480 Speaker 1: that does it weekly on a weekly basis, like our 543 00:29:59,520 --> 00:30:02,280 Speaker 1: conversation satitions. Even when we have a discussion our arguments, 544 00:30:02,680 --> 00:30:05,960 Speaker 1: we resolve them so much faster. It's a game changer 545 00:30:06,080 --> 00:30:08,680 Speaker 1: in your relationships. So men, if you're listening, for those 546 00:30:08,720 --> 00:30:11,680 Speaker 1: of you that are listening or women, you know what 547 00:30:11,840 --> 00:30:13,960 Speaker 1: it's it's not like I said, it's not a bad thing. 548 00:30:14,040 --> 00:30:19,840 Speaker 1: It's not you know. If anything, it's going to help 549 00:30:20,040 --> 00:30:22,680 Speaker 1: every area of your life. Yes, I think it's super 550 00:30:22,720 --> 00:30:24,640 Speaker 1: sexy that a guy could be like, hey, oh my god, 551 00:30:24,800 --> 00:30:26,240 Speaker 1: I just I want to talk to someone that's not 552 00:30:26,320 --> 00:30:28,920 Speaker 1: you, you you know. And at first I was like, what 553 00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:30,640 Speaker 1: do you What do you talk to her about? Like 554 00:30:31,440 --> 00:30:34,360 Speaker 1: things that and here's me okay being like this crazy girl. Um, 555 00:30:34,720 --> 00:30:36,160 Speaker 1: I was like, what do you talk to her about? 556 00:30:36,680 --> 00:30:38,800 Speaker 1: Um that you can't talk to me about. It's like 557 00:30:38,840 --> 00:30:41,480 Speaker 1: it's just things. And I'm like, you know what, You're right, 558 00:30:42,000 --> 00:30:44,160 Speaker 1: you shouldn't have to talk to me about everything, you 559 00:30:44,200 --> 00:30:46,240 Speaker 1: know what I mean, like, yeah, we're good friends and everything, 560 00:30:46,280 --> 00:30:52,239 Speaker 1: and we get along very well. But I get and 561 00:30:52,240 --> 00:30:54,640 Speaker 1: then you come back refreshed because I can tell the 562 00:30:54,680 --> 00:30:57,240 Speaker 1: difference when he does his therapy when I do my therapy. 563 00:30:57,360 --> 00:30:59,560 Speaker 1: So and it was that's just like my little personal 564 00:31:00,560 --> 00:31:02,080 Speaker 1: you know, thing that I wanted to share their guys. 565 00:31:02,120 --> 00:31:06,160 Speaker 1: But but Adriana, honestly, I I thank you so much, 566 00:31:06,240 --> 00:31:09,920 Speaker 1: thank you. I really enjoyed this conversation. I think it is. Um, 567 00:31:09,960 --> 00:31:13,000 Speaker 1: it's beautiful what you're doing. Keep doing it. I will 568 00:31:13,000 --> 00:31:15,320 Speaker 1: definitely share you on my Instagram as well so that 569 00:31:15,360 --> 00:31:18,240 Speaker 1: people can go to your website to tell everyone where 570 00:31:18,240 --> 00:31:19,880 Speaker 1: they can find you your social You already gave us 571 00:31:19,880 --> 00:31:22,360 Speaker 1: a website, but do it again, please, um let them 572 00:31:22,360 --> 00:31:26,240 Speaker 1: know when. Uh. Well, you can find the podcast, which 573 00:31:26,280 --> 00:31:31,239 Speaker 1: is bilingual, on all major podcatchers, and you can you know, 574 00:31:31,320 --> 00:31:33,560 Speaker 1: visit us on Latin x therapy dot com to find 575 00:31:33,560 --> 00:31:37,480 Speaker 1: the support groups, to find the therapist directory. Our channels 576 00:31:37,480 --> 00:31:42,240 Speaker 1: are on Instagram and TikTok, Twitter, Facebook, Latin X Therapy 577 00:31:42,320 --> 00:31:46,040 Speaker 1: And then we just launched a new small nonprofit called 578 00:31:46,040 --> 00:31:50,520 Speaker 1: the Alejandra Foundation, where we're gonna be fundraising forum to 579 00:31:50,600 --> 00:31:53,280 Speaker 1: give money to folks to be able to afford specialized 580 00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:56,160 Speaker 1: you know, mental health treatment, treatment that our community deserves. 581 00:31:56,680 --> 00:32:01,720 Speaker 1: So that's through Alejandra Foundation dot org. Oh my goodness, girl, 582 00:32:02,080 --> 00:32:04,440 Speaker 1: I'm so honestly, so happy, so proud of you. This 583 00:32:04,520 --> 00:32:12,280 Speaker 1: is great. Like um, I always that we are empowering 584 00:32:12,320 --> 00:32:14,640 Speaker 1: and inspiring each other, and this is what Adrianna is doing. 585 00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:21,160 Speaker 1: So and everyone else everyone. I always like to end 586 00:32:21,640 --> 00:32:24,600 Speaker 1: my episodes with a quote, and I thought, since we're 587 00:32:24,600 --> 00:32:27,040 Speaker 1: talking about therapy, I wanted to go ahead and read 588 00:32:27,080 --> 00:32:29,880 Speaker 1: this one. It's okay. It's okay to make mistakes, to 589 00:32:29,960 --> 00:32:32,239 Speaker 1: have bad days, to be less than perfect, to do 590 00:32:32,320 --> 00:32:35,800 Speaker 1: what's best for you, to be yourself. It's okay to 591 00:32:35,880 --> 00:32:41,840 Speaker 1: ask for help. This is a production of I Heart 592 00:32:41,960 --> 00:32:46,160 Speaker 1: Radio and Michael podcast Network. Follow us on Instagram at 593 00:32:46,240 --> 00:32:49,800 Speaker 1: Michael da Podcasts and follow me cheek ease that's c 594 00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:53,760 Speaker 1: h i q u I s. For more podcasts from 595 00:32:53,840 --> 00:32:57,640 Speaker 1: My Heart, visit the I Heart Radio app, Apple podcast, 596 00:32:57,760 --> 00:33:02,040 Speaker 1: or wherever you listen to your favorite shows. That many 597 00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:02,640 Speaker 1: a t