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Speaker 1: that they're trying to figure it out, any kind of

426
00:22:22,640 --> 00:22:25,080
Speaker 1: dealing with all kind of stuff. When we recognize that,

427
00:22:25,560 --> 00:22:28,320
Speaker 1: we gotta help him. It's our duty as women to

428
00:22:28,440 --> 00:22:31,320
Speaker 1: help one another. It's a father's duty when he sees

429
00:22:31,400 --> 00:22:35,440
Speaker 1: his daughter is her crown has fallen off that he puts.

430
00:22:35,520 --> 00:22:38,119
Speaker 1: He put that invisible crown on her the day she

431
00:22:38,240 --> 00:22:41,040
Speaker 1: was born. And that's what I try I'm trying to

432
00:22:41,080 --> 00:22:44,560
Speaker 1: get fathers to realize in my book. That was another

433
00:22:44,600 --> 00:22:47,040
Speaker 1: reason why I wrote the book. I had an imaginary

434
00:22:47,080 --> 00:22:50,040
Speaker 1: crown on my head. Nobody could see it, but I

435
00:22:50,119 --> 00:22:53,360
Speaker 1: knew it was there. I mean, I got Valentine's Day

436
00:22:53,440 --> 00:22:56,200
Speaker 1: candy for fifty three years of my life from my father.

437
00:22:56,800 --> 00:23:00,439
Speaker 1: When when when I was getting it, I was happy.

438
00:23:00,880 --> 00:23:02,600
Speaker 1: You know, I didn't think I was gonna be thinking

439
00:23:02,640 --> 00:23:04,760
Speaker 1: about it now. You know, I didn't know that it

440
00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:06,960
Speaker 1: was gonna impact my life the way it did the

441
00:23:06,960 --> 00:23:10,040
Speaker 1: way it has now. So it's a lot of things

442
00:23:10,080 --> 00:23:12,239
Speaker 1: he did for me. It's the small things. It's not

443
00:23:12,320 --> 00:23:16,359
Speaker 1: always the product bags and the Gucci bags and Louis

444
00:23:16,359 --> 00:23:18,560
Speaker 1: Batton's and all that. It ain't about that. It's the

445
00:23:18,640 --> 00:23:23,280
Speaker 1: small things that matter. So yeah, and that's the truth

446
00:23:23,400 --> 00:23:26,760
Speaker 1: right there. And the thing else, I realized to my

447
00:23:26,880 --> 00:23:29,159
Speaker 1: daughter that I had a whole lot of influence on

448
00:23:29,160 --> 00:23:31,520
Speaker 1: her because just seeing the way that she interacts, she

449
00:23:31,680 --> 00:23:35,080
Speaker 1: carries herself and she has a certain confidence to herself

450
00:23:35,119 --> 00:23:37,080
Speaker 1: that she's not going with nothing because she grew up

451
00:23:37,080 --> 00:23:39,679
Speaker 1: watching me open the door for her motherly, you know,

452
00:23:39,800 --> 00:23:42,040
Speaker 1: opened the door for her mother cooking. And you know

453
00:23:42,080 --> 00:23:45,040
Speaker 1: I watched dishes too. I ain't We're not. My wife

454
00:23:45,080 --> 00:23:47,240
Speaker 1: ain't going for that chauconistic stuff to worry, you know,

455
00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:49,840
Speaker 1: because I do the majority of cooking, and I do

456
00:23:49,920 --> 00:23:51,680
Speaker 1: something my wife to the majority to clean them. But

457
00:23:51,720 --> 00:23:53,600
Speaker 1: I do some cleaning to my wife feels. You know,

458
00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:56,800
Speaker 1: women get upset about the little miss things. You know,

459
00:23:56,880 --> 00:23:59,119
Speaker 1: we leave a platon and sin. They'd walk around with

460
00:23:59,119 --> 00:24:01,080
Speaker 1: an attitude and one you getting the whole fight, the

461
00:24:01,080 --> 00:24:03,840
Speaker 1: whole weekend over over a couple of singing. You don't

462
00:24:03,960 --> 00:24:07,719
Speaker 1: be oblivious to what the hell they're walking around mad about.

463
00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:10,359
Speaker 1: You know, so I try to. Yeah, I try to

464
00:24:10,400 --> 00:24:12,600
Speaker 1: be that example in the house. So would just you know,

465
00:24:12,800 --> 00:24:16,000
Speaker 1: just keeping everything wondered. But I do get my place

466
00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:17,320
Speaker 1: in the house is the man of the house, you

467
00:24:17,320 --> 00:24:18,960
Speaker 1: know what I mean. But that don't mean I sit

468
00:24:19,080 --> 00:24:21,480
Speaker 1: around because it's a lot of cats that I want

469
00:24:21,560 --> 00:24:23,639
Speaker 1: that man respect. But don't do the man things. You

470
00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:25,720
Speaker 1: can't be sitting on the couch all day playing video

471
00:24:25,760 --> 00:24:27,680
Speaker 1: games and your wife going to work and you get home,

472
00:24:27,880 --> 00:24:29,800
Speaker 1: Mr mom, you know what I mean, babysitting that. But

473
00:24:29,960 --> 00:24:32,040
Speaker 1: you gotta you want to be the king, you gotta

474
00:24:32,040 --> 00:24:35,640
Speaker 1: play the role. I said, y'all, y'all, y'all sound good

475
00:24:35,680 --> 00:24:39,439
Speaker 1: and and and it's one hunting. But I'm for the

476
00:24:39,560 --> 00:24:44,359
Speaker 1: fathers that got the raw deal. I'm for the fathers

477
00:24:44,400 --> 00:24:47,560
Speaker 1: that can't be that king to their daughters. I'm for

478
00:24:47,640 --> 00:24:52,840
Speaker 1: the fathers that get that. You know, a woman ago,

479
00:24:53,080 --> 00:24:55,359
Speaker 1: she's so mad at you should go filed child put

480
00:24:55,400 --> 00:24:57,920
Speaker 1: on you knowing you're a truck driver and you can't

481
00:24:57,920 --> 00:25:01,359
Speaker 1: pay you goddamn bu our support to take your driver

482
00:25:01,480 --> 00:25:04,520
Speaker 1: license now, and you took my manhood because I can't work.

483
00:25:05,320 --> 00:25:07,280
Speaker 1: What I look like to my daughter? Now? You know

484
00:25:07,359 --> 00:25:11,439
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So it's like the system is here

485
00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:15,560
Speaker 1: to break us down one way, whatever side of the

486
00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:18,520
Speaker 1: track we get on, whatever corner we turned, you know,

487
00:25:18,640 --> 00:25:22,000
Speaker 1: you can't win. But you got a lot of men

488
00:25:22,040 --> 00:25:25,159
Speaker 1: out here that wants to be pops, wants to be

489
00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:27,960
Speaker 1: your father to their kids, you know what I'm saying.

490
00:25:28,280 --> 00:25:32,760
Speaker 1: But you just have these women that that snatch them

491
00:25:32,800 --> 00:25:35,480
Speaker 1: away from us, and we can't be So now all

492
00:25:35,560 --> 00:25:39,119
Speaker 1: of thematically, automatically were dead beat to the world, to

493
00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:42,680
Speaker 1: the society, to to these people that put it, put

494
00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:45,720
Speaker 1: you on child support, the county, of the system, whatever

495
00:25:45,720 --> 00:25:47,679
Speaker 1: the funk they want to call it. And I just

496
00:25:47,720 --> 00:25:51,000
Speaker 1: think there's a lot of men out there that gets

497
00:25:51,119 --> 00:25:56,200
Speaker 1: the raw fucking and we can't be father. And even

498
00:25:56,240 --> 00:25:59,560
Speaker 1: with that, even with the child support stuff, you know,

499
00:25:59,640 --> 00:26:01,600
Speaker 1: you feel you getta due. And I knew a kid

500
00:26:01,720 --> 00:26:04,520
Speaker 1: that was going to work, and when I tell you,

501
00:26:04,560 --> 00:26:08,560
Speaker 1: I don't know how he paid his bills, but it's

502
00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:10,400
Speaker 1: like he only had like two or three hundred dollars

503
00:26:10,440 --> 00:26:12,400
Speaker 1: left over in this check every week, ship, I gotta

504
00:26:12,480 --> 00:26:14,800
Speaker 1: check for sixty nine dollars. You know what I did.

505
00:26:15,800 --> 00:26:18,159
Speaker 1: I took off my ship and I quit. And I

506
00:26:18,200 --> 00:26:20,760
Speaker 1: think it's one of the things to wear because I'm

507
00:26:20,760 --> 00:26:22,560
Speaker 1: gonna tell your stuff. Wouldn't have worked out with me

508
00:26:22,600 --> 00:26:24,240
Speaker 1: and my old lady. She wouldn't have to put no

509
00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:26,639
Speaker 1: people on me because I will take care of myne regardless.

510
00:26:26,720 --> 00:26:28,320
Speaker 1: And I think that's how she would be. And I

511
00:26:28,359 --> 00:26:31,080
Speaker 1: think my wife, I know for a fact, she the type.

512
00:26:31,119 --> 00:26:33,000
Speaker 1: She wouldn't go put no people on me, you know

513
00:26:33,040 --> 00:26:36,840
Speaker 1: what I mean? She would be like, hey, you know what,

514
00:26:35,160 --> 00:26:41,359
Speaker 1: that's a lot of women like that. But but let's okay,

515
00:26:41,359 --> 00:26:43,359
Speaker 1: So what do we do when we have a If

516
00:26:43,400 --> 00:26:45,240
Speaker 1: you have a woman that doesn't want you to see

517
00:26:45,280 --> 00:26:48,719
Speaker 1: your child and the only way you're gonna see your

518
00:26:48,760 --> 00:26:50,760
Speaker 1: child is if you go down to the child support

519
00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:53,320
Speaker 1: building and tell them what you're gonna do. Are you

520
00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:56,000
Speaker 1: going to just say forget it, I ain't gonna see

521
00:26:56,000 --> 00:26:57,639
Speaker 1: the child, or are you gonna go down there and

522
00:26:57,680 --> 00:26:59,800
Speaker 1: do what you have to do inspite it might be wrong.

523
00:27:00,200 --> 00:27:03,000
Speaker 1: You know that she did you like that? But what

524
00:27:03,080 --> 00:27:05,960
Speaker 1: do you think your daughter would have wanted you to do.

525
00:27:06,400 --> 00:27:08,239
Speaker 1: I'm just saying if he was in a situation like

526
00:27:08,280 --> 00:27:15,879
Speaker 1: that exactly exactly, the child support do whatever it is.

527
00:27:15,920 --> 00:27:18,359
Speaker 1: It's it's you know, it's I mean, some women you

528
00:27:18,400 --> 00:27:20,440
Speaker 1: have to do I know somebody dealing with that now,

529
00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:23,280
Speaker 1: you know, and it's wrong. You shouldn't have to. You

530
00:27:23,280 --> 00:27:25,480
Speaker 1: should be able to see your child whenever you want

531
00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:28,120
Speaker 1: to see your child. So to me, when a man

532
00:27:28,280 --> 00:27:31,960
Speaker 1: goes into a court room demanding to see his child,

533
00:27:32,680 --> 00:27:35,840
Speaker 1: I can't. I know he's gonna get everything he's asking for.

534
00:27:36,640 --> 00:27:39,760
Speaker 1: You know, that's that's a man. That's a man when

535
00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:42,400
Speaker 1: he does that, that shuts down that woman because that's

536
00:27:42,440 --> 00:27:45,679
Speaker 1: ignorant to use a child as a pond in the

537
00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:49,560
Speaker 1: first place. So she deserves everything. She deserves, all of

538
00:27:49,640 --> 00:27:52,959
Speaker 1: the holidays being taken away and all that. You know,

539
00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:55,200
Speaker 1: when you want to take away your child from from

540
00:27:55,280 --> 00:27:58,080
Speaker 1: somebody that's gonna teach them something, what happens because the

541
00:27:58,080 --> 00:28:00,560
Speaker 1: woman ain't thinking about what's gonna happen there in life.

542
00:28:00,600 --> 00:28:03,360
Speaker 1: She's just thinking about the love that she got for you,

543
00:28:03,359 --> 00:28:06,600
Speaker 1: you know, which is crazy. You gotta put your child first,

544
00:28:06,680 --> 00:28:10,359
Speaker 1: and child always conspire. So uh, those out there that

545
00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:12,680
Speaker 1: they're doing that, and you know, I hope they start

546
00:28:12,760 --> 00:28:17,040
Speaker 1: to to to rethink, you know, those ways, because it's

547
00:28:17,080 --> 00:28:20,639
Speaker 1: it's not good. All right, Let's take a quick commercial break,

548
00:28:21,000 --> 00:28:26,399
Speaker 1: we'll be back. It's something I want people to rethink too,

549
00:28:26,440 --> 00:28:29,800
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584
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Speaker 1: you know, another thing at another subject I want to

585
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Speaker 1: get on in two and and and kind of cover

586
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Speaker 1: that's in my book where I talked about the respect.

587
00:30:21,760 --> 00:30:25,200
Speaker 1: You know, how a father teaches a daughter self respect,

588
00:30:25,880 --> 00:30:30,440
Speaker 1: self esteem, Uh, A lot of daughters, you know, they're suffering.

589
00:30:30,480 --> 00:30:33,000
Speaker 1: We have a lot of daughters that are suffering from

590
00:30:33,040 --> 00:30:35,239
Speaker 1: like me. For instance, when I was younger, like I

591
00:30:35,280 --> 00:30:36,600
Speaker 1: put this in, you know, I wanted to be a

592
00:30:36,600 --> 00:30:39,400
Speaker 1: little personal in my book. So I had to tell

593
00:30:39,480 --> 00:30:42,480
Speaker 1: little stories about my own life and things challenges that

594
00:30:42,560 --> 00:30:45,000
Speaker 1: I had, you know. One of them was I wanted

595
00:30:45,040 --> 00:30:47,720
Speaker 1: to gain weight. I wanted a big booty and big

596
00:30:47,800 --> 00:30:51,360
Speaker 1: helps like all my other friends, you know. And I

597
00:30:51,440 --> 00:30:55,080
Speaker 1: remember talking about that, talking to my father about it,

598
00:30:55,160 --> 00:30:56,880
Speaker 1: telling them I need to get I don't know why

599
00:30:56,920 --> 00:30:59,640
Speaker 1: I'm so little. My father would always tell me, beauty

600
00:30:59,680 --> 00:31:02,120
Speaker 1: isn't then the eye of the beholder. You wanna be

601
00:31:02,160 --> 00:31:04,040
Speaker 1: all right, you know, way to come on when it

602
00:31:04,200 --> 00:31:06,680
Speaker 1: when it comes on, rush it, you know, and if

603
00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:09,400
Speaker 1: it doesn't, embrace who you are the way God made you.

604
00:31:09,480 --> 00:31:11,840
Speaker 1: Even tell me all these little things, you know, But

605
00:31:11,960 --> 00:31:14,800
Speaker 1: still I listened when I was younger. But once I

606
00:31:14,840 --> 00:31:18,560
Speaker 1: got into boys, things changed. I started get taking you know,

607
00:31:18,680 --> 00:31:22,040
Speaker 1: using drastic bedrooms. Like one day I met somebody that

608
00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:24,960
Speaker 1: told me I gained weight off of these pills. I said,

609
00:31:24,960 --> 00:31:28,280
Speaker 1: what kind of pills? Some some type of pills that

610
00:31:28,800 --> 00:31:33,680
Speaker 1: were turned out to be for psychiatric patients patients. I'm sorry,

611
00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:37,240
Speaker 1: but I started taking these pills to gain weight, started

612
00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:39,719
Speaker 1: gaining weight, eating all I mean, eating the house up.

613
00:31:39,800 --> 00:31:43,360
Speaker 1: My mother swore I was smoking marijuana, but I was

614
00:31:43,400 --> 00:31:46,360
Speaker 1: taking these pills. All of a sudden, my feet start tingling,

615
00:31:46,800 --> 00:31:51,280
Speaker 1: hand started tingling, strands of hair started coming out. I'm like,

616
00:31:51,400 --> 00:31:53,560
Speaker 1: what's going on? I got scared? Who did? I go

617
00:31:53,680 --> 00:31:56,760
Speaker 1: to my father? Because that's what we do when we

618
00:31:56,800 --> 00:32:00,360
Speaker 1: have fathers that we communicate with, that communicate back with

619
00:32:00,440 --> 00:32:03,360
Speaker 1: as well, that's who we go to. There are heroes.

620
00:32:03,440 --> 00:32:06,160
Speaker 1: My father was everything he I felt like he knew.

621
00:32:06,280 --> 00:32:10,400
Speaker 1: He was a doctor, a lawyer, a teacher, everything, you know.

622
00:32:10,800 --> 00:32:14,080
Speaker 1: So I went to him, taught him, Dad, I'm taking

623
00:32:14,080 --> 00:32:16,320
Speaker 1: these pills, you know were told him what I was doing.

624
00:32:16,480 --> 00:32:19,640
Speaker 1: He said what, So he talked to me about it.

625
00:32:19,720 --> 00:32:21,920
Speaker 1: Tell me what kind of pills they were. Actually, that's

626
00:32:21,920 --> 00:32:24,560
Speaker 1: how I found out they were appeals for a psychiatric

627
00:32:24,640 --> 00:32:28,880
Speaker 1: patients patients, and I stopped taking the pills. So I'm

628
00:32:28,920 --> 00:32:32,240
Speaker 1: just saying all that to say that fathers need to

629
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Speaker 1: tell that they're the ones that when they tell their

630
00:32:34,560 --> 00:32:38,080
Speaker 1: daughter that she's beautiful. No other man is gonna be

631
00:32:38,120 --> 00:32:40,720
Speaker 1: able to tell her that she's not. When they tell

632
00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:44,080
Speaker 1: their daughter that you are worth more than gold, you are,

633
00:32:44,640 --> 00:32:47,640
Speaker 1: you know, hold your head up high, keep yourself esteem high.

634
00:32:47,720 --> 00:32:50,600
Speaker 1: No matter what mistakes you make in life. No man

635
00:32:50,840 --> 00:32:53,200
Speaker 1: is gonna be able to tell to tell her different.

636
00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:58,040
Speaker 1: So she's gonna value herself. That's what fathers teach daughters.

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00:32:58,120 --> 00:33:01,360
Speaker 1: Another another something with Norman me about the reason why

638
00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:04,920
Speaker 1: I wrote the book too. I remembered when I started

639
00:33:04,960 --> 00:33:07,840
Speaker 1: writing a book, when Kobe Bryant died, a lot of

640
00:33:07,920 --> 00:33:12,200
Speaker 1: basketball players, football players, all kind of entertainers were talking

641
00:33:12,240 --> 00:33:15,040
Speaker 1: about how they wanted to they were pleasing to be

642
00:33:15,440 --> 00:33:18,520
Speaker 1: girl dad's. And I thought that was beautiful. You know,

643
00:33:18,600 --> 00:33:22,360
Speaker 1: that that his you know, his influence on them and

644
00:33:22,360 --> 00:33:25,880
Speaker 1: and how he was with his daughters. It inspired others

645
00:33:25,920 --> 00:33:27,920
Speaker 1: to want to do the same, even the fans and

646
00:33:27,960 --> 00:33:32,000
Speaker 1: other people. So um I applauded them for for wanting

647
00:33:32,040 --> 00:33:35,240
Speaker 1: to be better fathers to their daughters and be girl dads,

648
00:33:35,360 --> 00:33:38,000
Speaker 1: you know, because it's very important because, like I said,

649
00:33:38,000 --> 00:33:42,160
Speaker 1: a father teaches his daughter her word all day long,

650
00:33:42,480 --> 00:33:45,240
Speaker 1: you know. And if you got a daddy that some

651
00:33:45,240 --> 00:33:47,720
Speaker 1: some women have daddies, that's in the house, but still

652
00:33:47,760 --> 00:33:53,640
Speaker 1: ain't a daddy. You know I've talked. Yeah, they're absence.

653
00:33:53,680 --> 00:33:59,000
Speaker 1: So the book is, you know, for the incarcerated father,

654
00:33:59,160 --> 00:34:01,160
Speaker 1: because you still and be a father. You can make

655
00:34:01,240 --> 00:34:04,000
Speaker 1: phone calls. You still can call your daughter once a

656
00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:06,200
Speaker 1: week to make sure she's doing Okay, do you need

657
00:34:06,240 --> 00:34:09,040
Speaker 1: to talk to me about anything? How's your life going,

658
00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:11,960
Speaker 1: you're dealing with any boys? What's going on? So he

659
00:34:12,000 --> 00:34:14,279
Speaker 1: can get a field of what's you know, hopefully has

660
00:34:14,320 --> 00:34:16,480
Speaker 1: a good relationship with the mother, so she can let

661
00:34:16,520 --> 00:34:18,799
Speaker 1: him know what's going on. He can write to her.

662
00:34:18,800 --> 00:34:21,520
Speaker 1: If he can't call her, he can write the military father,

663
00:34:21,960 --> 00:34:24,279
Speaker 1: the single father, the father that's not in the house,

664
00:34:24,320 --> 00:34:27,759
Speaker 1: the divorce father, stepfather, whoever it is. You have the

665
00:34:27,840 --> 00:34:31,279
Speaker 1: ability to change your daughter's life. And sometimes you just

666
00:34:31,360 --> 00:34:33,920
Speaker 1: got that daddy that that worked too much, that this

667
00:34:33,920 --> 00:34:36,200
Speaker 1: ain't at home, that he seemed like he absently, but

668
00:34:36,239 --> 00:34:37,960
Speaker 1: he works so much that when he come home, I'll

669
00:34:38,120 --> 00:34:44,799
Speaker 1: want to do his crash sometimes exactly know what I'm saying. Yeah,

670
00:34:44,840 --> 00:34:47,919
Speaker 1: and that's and that's absolutely that happens a lot. But

671
00:34:47,960 --> 00:34:50,719
Speaker 1: even you know, the hard working man that's working them

672
00:34:50,719 --> 00:34:53,880
Speaker 1: double still gotta understand that if you got a daughter,

673
00:34:54,400 --> 00:34:57,080
Speaker 1: you gotta take some type of time out with her. Well,

674
00:34:57,120 --> 00:34:59,360
Speaker 1: you know, one thing I don't like it, and it actually,

675
00:34:59,320 --> 00:35:02,040
Speaker 1: you know, don't not to just get too personal with it,

676
00:35:02,120 --> 00:35:05,880
Speaker 1: but I don't like. Yes, like, I got a daughter,

677
00:35:05,960 --> 00:35:09,920
Speaker 1: this thing. You know, she's not big, but you know

678
00:35:09,960 --> 00:35:11,759
Speaker 1: her mom is to always tell you need to lose weight,

679
00:35:11,800 --> 00:35:13,319
Speaker 1: you need to be down this, need to be down that.

680
00:35:13,400 --> 00:35:15,359
Speaker 1: And I kind of told my wife to chill out

681
00:35:15,360 --> 00:35:17,400
Speaker 1: with that. I said, obviously these looks, you know, and

682
00:35:17,560 --> 00:35:20,040
Speaker 1: like she ain't got a little boys that don't. You know.

683
00:35:20,719 --> 00:35:23,439
Speaker 1: I just think sometimes stuff like that, if you're doing

684
00:35:23,480 --> 00:35:25,279
Speaker 1: it for a health thing, you can't. But I think

685
00:35:25,280 --> 00:35:27,879
Speaker 1: you can put stuff from people's head like that. Oh yeah,

686
00:35:27,880 --> 00:35:31,319
Speaker 1: I agree. I believe in people eating like I don't

687
00:35:31,320 --> 00:35:34,120
Speaker 1: believe in that started starving and putting little keys on

688
00:35:34,280 --> 00:35:35,879
Speaker 1: diets and all that stuff. You know what I mean.

689
00:35:35,960 --> 00:35:37,520
Speaker 1: I think they should just be able to just be

690
00:35:37,600 --> 00:35:40,040
Speaker 1: who they are. And you know, now, if it's a

691
00:35:40,080 --> 00:35:41,719
Speaker 1: health thing, I don't think you should be able to

692
00:35:41,880 --> 00:35:44,160
Speaker 1: be out there feeding your kid kool aid and you know,

693
00:35:44,239 --> 00:35:47,600
Speaker 1: Hamburgers at Hamburger meet every day every hour. But I

694
00:35:48,160 --> 00:35:51,920
Speaker 1: just think sometimes we just get so um, what's the

695
00:35:51,920 --> 00:35:55,360
Speaker 1: word I'm looking for? Um, where we just get to

696
00:35:55,400 --> 00:35:58,040
Speaker 1: the point where we start nitpicking that little thing. Sometimes

697
00:35:58,080 --> 00:36:01,520
Speaker 1: it's bad for him. And you mentioned how important is

698
00:36:01,520 --> 00:36:04,000
Speaker 1: it to have a girl where of self esteem is

699
00:36:04,040 --> 00:36:07,640
Speaker 1: on point? It's very important because it affects her life

700
00:36:07,960 --> 00:36:11,040
Speaker 1: and when when she becomes a woman, if you you

701
00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:14,200
Speaker 1: got that's one that's one role and the father is

702
00:36:14,239 --> 00:36:18,080
Speaker 1: really important that the father plays is increasing and doing

703
00:36:18,120 --> 00:36:22,120
Speaker 1: whatever he can to encourage his daughter to always have

704
00:36:22,280 --> 00:36:25,720
Speaker 1: a high level of self esteem. Because you have daughters

705
00:36:25,719 --> 00:36:28,719
Speaker 1: out there that like just say you may be dark

706
00:36:28,760 --> 00:36:31,400
Speaker 1: skinned it. You know, you got women as dark skinned

707
00:36:31,400 --> 00:36:33,720
Speaker 1: it they feel like I'm too dark, you know because

708
00:36:33,760 --> 00:36:36,400
Speaker 1: of the stigma that you know it it's been around

709
00:36:36,840 --> 00:36:40,719
Speaker 1: and yeah something yeah you know, and and a lot

710
00:36:40,760 --> 00:36:43,719
Speaker 1: of dark skinned women which you know, like they'll tell

711
00:36:43,760 --> 00:36:47,120
Speaker 1: you stories about being how you know, Uh, he went

712
00:36:47,160 --> 00:36:49,760
Speaker 1: for the light skinned one, you know, instead of coming

713
00:36:49,760 --> 00:36:53,400
Speaker 1: to me. So he ended up with this one because

714
00:36:53,440 --> 00:36:56,680
Speaker 1: she was smaller, a thinner. And so when you start

715
00:36:56,760 --> 00:36:59,840
Speaker 1: doing your kids or not talking about yours norm but

716
00:37:00,280 --> 00:37:03,640
Speaker 1: I'm just saying in general, when you it's been so

717
00:37:03,719 --> 00:37:07,040
Speaker 1: important that if your daughter has dark skin, Tell her

718
00:37:07,080 --> 00:37:11,480
Speaker 1: that she's beautiful, if she's if she's overweight, don't tell

719
00:37:11,480 --> 00:37:14,759
Speaker 1: her that she's fat, you know, tell her do it,

720
00:37:15,080 --> 00:37:17,160
Speaker 1: do it in another way, you know, maybe talk to

721
00:37:17,160 --> 00:37:19,839
Speaker 1: her about health, you know, and making sure that you

722
00:37:19,840 --> 00:37:22,719
Speaker 1: you know that you that you stay healthy, because it's

723
00:37:22,719 --> 00:37:25,319
Speaker 1: so important. Because if your father tells you that, if

724
00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:28,680
Speaker 1: your father is telling you that you're stupid, if he's

725
00:37:28,719 --> 00:37:31,080
Speaker 1: telling you that you're too fat, if he's telling you

726
00:37:31,120 --> 00:37:33,400
Speaker 1: that you got basking you need to work on it.

727
00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:36,120
Speaker 1: What do you think it's gonna happen when she meets

728
00:37:36,160 --> 00:37:38,360
Speaker 1: that man that starts selling her that me and my

729
00:37:38,440 --> 00:37:40,960
Speaker 1: daughter beauty one is creeping to it, don't spot late night.

730
00:37:41,000 --> 00:37:48,360
Speaker 1: Come on, mama, let's get us a donut. You know

731
00:37:48,360 --> 00:37:51,279
Speaker 1: what I'm saying because I think it's very I think

732
00:37:51,280 --> 00:37:55,040
Speaker 1: it's very important. I think sometimes we just get too pity. Yeah,

733
00:37:55,120 --> 00:37:58,360
Speaker 1: we do, because you gotta understand that, you know, because

734
00:37:58,360 --> 00:38:01,600
Speaker 1: when you do that, the tone that you're settings, it

735
00:38:01,680 --> 00:38:04,239
Speaker 1: stays with him. It stays with a person when you

736
00:38:04,640 --> 00:38:07,800
Speaker 1: especially from my father. I know that my mother was

737
00:38:07,880 --> 00:38:10,360
Speaker 1: Certain things I can talk to my mother about, certain

738
00:38:10,360 --> 00:38:13,120
Speaker 1: things I can talk to my father about. And I

739
00:38:13,160 --> 00:38:16,239
Speaker 1: really feel like if my father ever, Like if I

740
00:38:16,320 --> 00:38:18,279
Speaker 1: told my mother something about a guy that I was

741
00:38:18,320 --> 00:38:21,480
Speaker 1: dealing with and she said, don't be stupid, I'm not

742
00:38:21,520 --> 00:38:23,839
Speaker 1: gonna take it like I would have took it if

743
00:38:23,880 --> 00:38:26,719
Speaker 1: my father would have told me, don't be stupid, you know,

744
00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:29,440
Speaker 1: because I don't know what that is. I don't know

745
00:38:29,480 --> 00:38:31,200
Speaker 1: what it is. I'd have to talk to a few

746
00:38:31,239 --> 00:38:34,520
Speaker 1: other women about that. But it's something about when your

747
00:38:34,560 --> 00:38:37,720
Speaker 1: mother says something like that, tell you versus your father

748
00:38:37,880 --> 00:38:41,040
Speaker 1: or a man period. You know. Now, him telling me

749
00:38:41,080 --> 00:38:43,839
Speaker 1: that I'm stupid is really gonna stick in there, like,

750
00:38:43,960 --> 00:38:47,160
Speaker 1: oh my god, my dad think I'm stupid. My mother

751
00:38:47,280 --> 00:38:49,920
Speaker 1: telling me I'm stupid, Well, I'm gonna be thinking like, Mama,

752
00:38:50,160 --> 00:38:54,680
Speaker 1: why do you say that? You know what? I noticed

753
00:38:54,680 --> 00:38:57,520
Speaker 1: sometimes because I don't get a twist that my wife

754
00:38:57,600 --> 00:39:00,120
Speaker 1: is a loving woman to love and she don't be

755
00:39:00,160 --> 00:39:02,160
Speaker 1: on my daughter like that. I'm just, you know, saying

756
00:39:02,360 --> 00:39:07,560
Speaker 1: my thoughts are Sometimes the relationship with the mom and

757
00:39:07,719 --> 00:39:10,040
Speaker 1: daughter can get a little complicated. I noticed when the

758
00:39:10,080 --> 00:39:14,200
Speaker 1: daughter turned around sixteen seventeen, because you get complicated with

759
00:39:14,239 --> 00:39:16,480
Speaker 1: the men and their boys. Because I know both my boys,

760
00:39:16,480 --> 00:39:18,000
Speaker 1: I had to touch both of them up around that

761
00:39:18,160 --> 00:39:20,160
Speaker 1: age when I'm had to touch him up when he

762
00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:21,759
Speaker 1: was eighteen. The other one I had to touch him

763
00:39:21,840 --> 00:39:27,120
Speaker 1: up sixteen seventeen because he thought he was Mr. Big Man. Yeah,

764
00:39:27,160 --> 00:39:29,799
Speaker 1: exactly when we go to the same stuff. Women go

765
00:39:29,840 --> 00:39:33,200
Speaker 1: through the same thing, the same thing, The same thing

766
00:39:33,280 --> 00:39:36,680
Speaker 1: happens with my mother. We have a ready clause relationship.

767
00:39:37,200 --> 00:39:39,759
Speaker 1: But at the same time, I guess I should say,

768
00:39:39,800 --> 00:39:41,600
Speaker 1: like I said, a woman teaches you how to be

769
00:39:41,640 --> 00:39:43,840
Speaker 1: a lady. Your mother teaches you how to be a lady.

770
00:39:44,200 --> 00:39:46,360
Speaker 1: My mother taught me how to be a lady, and

771
00:39:46,400 --> 00:39:48,520
Speaker 1: she told me how to when I needed to act

772
00:39:48,520 --> 00:39:51,759
Speaker 1: a certain way one second we got he taught me

773
00:39:51,800 --> 00:39:54,600
Speaker 1: how to do it anyway. So yeah, I mean it is,

774
00:39:54,719 --> 00:39:57,520
Speaker 1: you know, daughters go through things with their mothers. It's

775
00:39:57,600 --> 00:39:59,480
Speaker 1: just I don't know. I think it's because we're women.

776
00:40:00,120 --> 00:40:03,320
Speaker 1: We're women. It's not like we're competing with one another

777
00:40:03,360 --> 00:40:06,600
Speaker 1: or nothing like that. But you know, women understand women

778
00:40:06,680 --> 00:40:09,279
Speaker 1: like me and understand women are from Mars, that the

779
00:40:09,920 --> 00:40:13,319
Speaker 1: women are from Mars, and guys are definitely from being there. Yeah,

780
00:40:13,440 --> 00:40:16,880
Speaker 1: because the thing is, you know, y'all go two things.

781
00:40:17,000 --> 00:40:21,080
Speaker 1: You know, James, James that because I'm gonna tell you.

782
00:40:22,360 --> 00:40:24,320
Speaker 1: I go to sleep. We go to bed on a

783
00:40:24,360 --> 00:40:27,080
Speaker 1: Friday night, James don't have a perfect evening. I'm talking about.

784
00:40:27,080 --> 00:40:28,960
Speaker 1: I don't took her out, you know, Friday night. You

785
00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:31,960
Speaker 1: know how I do, lady take her out? We kicking.

786
00:40:32,000 --> 00:40:34,040
Speaker 1: We go on our day. Now I make sure Friday

787
00:40:34,120 --> 00:40:36,760
Speaker 1: nights everything Now we chicken had a good time night before,

788
00:40:36,800 --> 00:40:39,279
Speaker 1: every something, everything I went on. I wake up a

789
00:40:39,320 --> 00:40:41,960
Speaker 1: round eight or nine and she'd be looking at me. Man,

790
00:40:42,360 --> 00:40:44,520
Speaker 1: I'll be wondering what if I've done between the time

791
00:40:44,560 --> 00:40:47,480
Speaker 1: I went to bed and we've been sleep unless I'm

792
00:40:47,520 --> 00:40:51,839
Speaker 1: sleepwalking to something and she won't never see what's going on,

793
00:40:52,080 --> 00:40:54,600
Speaker 1: Like wait, what is that right there? Well, haven't you

794
00:40:54,640 --> 00:40:56,680
Speaker 1: ever thought, just as a man, it could be the

795
00:40:56,719 --> 00:40:59,239
Speaker 1: attention that she won't while y'all in the bed, you

796
00:40:59,280 --> 00:41:01,560
Speaker 1: could just put put put your arm to me, but

797
00:41:03,280 --> 00:41:07,760
Speaker 1: for your information attention And I thought you know everything

798
00:41:07,920 --> 00:41:12,839
Speaker 1: was good just because you you have relations, don't mean

799
00:41:12,880 --> 00:41:19,680
Speaker 1: it stops once you bust one. It starts, it continues.

800
00:41:19,760 --> 00:41:23,319
Speaker 1: You you after let me say this and we way

801
00:41:23,400 --> 00:41:25,279
Speaker 1: off of this. Where we at right now? It's the

802
00:41:25,360 --> 00:41:27,560
Speaker 1: question we don't get one on the show to off.

803
00:41:27,600 --> 00:41:33,680
Speaker 1: This woman asked, well, what a woman won't man? And

804
00:41:34,120 --> 00:41:36,400
Speaker 1: you know, some of us brothers don't understand what a

805
00:41:36,480 --> 00:41:38,560
Speaker 1: woman really wants when she in the bed. And ain't

806
00:41:38,600 --> 00:41:41,719
Speaker 1: all that necessarily have to be touchy, touchy, lick licky.

807
00:41:42,160 --> 00:41:45,560
Speaker 1: It just could be holding. You don't want to feel that, man,

808
00:41:45,920 --> 00:41:48,840
Speaker 1: You know that the mores and just feel secure and

809
00:41:48,840 --> 00:41:53,080
Speaker 1: when you do all that, because I'm gonna tell she's

810
00:41:53,080 --> 00:41:55,560
Speaker 1: gonnawn up that. I'm gonna tell you something about if

811
00:41:55,600 --> 00:41:59,799
Speaker 1: mine have a dream about something, I get the heat

812
00:42:00,080 --> 00:42:02,040
Speaker 1: that then I find out later on that it was

813
00:42:02,080 --> 00:42:06,279
Speaker 1: some crazy dream or something that happened. She went downstairs

814
00:42:06,280 --> 00:42:08,799
Speaker 1: and saw a couple of sing They just throw off

815
00:42:08,800 --> 00:42:10,799
Speaker 1: another just like kind of like, man, you tripping up

816
00:42:10,840 --> 00:42:12,880
Speaker 1: and the probably won't even meet because if it's my

817
00:42:12,960 --> 00:42:15,160
Speaker 1: oldest son, if it's my son, is he is, Oh,

818
00:42:15,560 --> 00:42:18,440
Speaker 1: it's cool, ain't nothing to him and not and that

819
00:42:18,719 --> 00:42:20,640
Speaker 1: I love when that happens. And I say, that wasn't

820
00:42:20,640 --> 00:42:22,680
Speaker 1: even mine, that was he his, and then she gets

821
00:42:22,760 --> 00:42:25,759
Speaker 1: looking like, oh it was him, It's okay. I said, okay,

822
00:42:25,760 --> 00:42:28,279
Speaker 1: so you're showing favoritism with your baby boy, and that

823
00:42:28,719 --> 00:42:30,480
Speaker 1: like love though that sound like y'all got a good

824
00:42:30,520 --> 00:42:34,120
Speaker 1: relationship and shot the Yeah we're cool. You just need

825
00:42:34,120 --> 00:42:36,839
Speaker 1: to go up a little little the extra mileth Now,

826
00:42:36,880 --> 00:42:40,600
Speaker 1: you went to school with James, right when James went

827
00:42:40,640 --> 00:42:45,560
Speaker 1: to school? When school, Yeah, James went to school. I

828
00:42:45,680 --> 00:42:47,880
Speaker 1: went up there to hang out. He just came a lunchtime.

829
00:42:47,960 --> 00:42:51,040
Speaker 1: Used to fight exactly when he went to school, when

830
00:42:51,080 --> 00:42:52,960
Speaker 1: he came up there to fight. Because that's the more.

831
00:42:53,400 --> 00:42:55,280
Speaker 1: Is that only the only time we seen you giants?

832
00:42:55,760 --> 00:42:59,360
Speaker 1: Remember you walking to no classes? Never I walked to

833
00:42:59,400 --> 00:43:02,719
Speaker 1: one class. The punky opened the door from me when

834
00:43:02,719 --> 00:43:06,000
Speaker 1: oh boy was mentioning with her and she uh, I

835
00:43:06,120 --> 00:43:07,680
Speaker 1: told her, I'm just gonna knock on the door, just

836
00:43:07,760 --> 00:43:10,160
Speaker 1: come open me. And she opened the door from me.

837
00:43:11,760 --> 00:43:15,440
Speaker 1: A little boy. Don't that as so? Man? Man, So

838
00:43:15,520 --> 00:43:18,840
Speaker 1: let me ask you. You talked about your father's influence,

839
00:43:18,880 --> 00:43:22,480
Speaker 1: and you went to high school and compter exactly. I'm

840
00:43:22,480 --> 00:43:26,000
Speaker 1: pretty sure you didn't have no gang allegiance to nobody

841
00:43:26,360 --> 00:43:29,239
Speaker 1: I had that. You know. I'm glad you mentioned this

842
00:43:29,320 --> 00:43:32,480
Speaker 1: norm because a father does not having a good father.

843
00:43:32,560 --> 00:43:34,640
Speaker 1: Because I really want to make sure I don't send

844
00:43:34,680 --> 00:43:38,560
Speaker 1: this message. It does not stop you from having heart aches.

845
00:43:38,760 --> 00:43:40,840
Speaker 1: It doesn't stop you from dinner. My father was the

846
00:43:40,920 --> 00:43:44,759
Speaker 1: kind of man that he stayed out of heat. I

847
00:43:44,800 --> 00:43:47,160
Speaker 1: guess I could say he trusted me. He knew that

848
00:43:47,239 --> 00:43:49,440
Speaker 1: he put everything in me and it was up to

849
00:43:49,520 --> 00:43:52,920
Speaker 1: me to utilize everything that he gave me, make the

850
00:43:52,920 --> 00:43:55,279
Speaker 1: decisions to right decisions off of it. He talked to

851
00:43:55,320 --> 00:43:58,480
Speaker 1: me about every type of man that I could possibly

852
00:43:58,560 --> 00:44:02,279
Speaker 1: deal with an encounter and how to handle it, how

853
00:44:02,320 --> 00:44:05,319
Speaker 1: not to be influenced by certain things. So I had

854
00:44:05,400 --> 00:44:08,280
Speaker 1: my ownline, you know. And yes I did I dealt

855
00:44:08,320 --> 00:44:13,719
Speaker 1: with uh, you know guys that gang bang? Yes I did. Oh,

856
00:44:13,719 --> 00:44:16,640
Speaker 1: so you did deal with that? Now was it? Did

857
00:44:16,680 --> 00:44:18,920
Speaker 1: you ever hear your pops voice and to back your mom? Like,

858
00:44:18,960 --> 00:44:21,160
Speaker 1: I know, I shouldn't be here with this no good nigga.

859
00:44:21,600 --> 00:44:24,160
Speaker 1: My daddy wouldn't be having I heard his voice in

860
00:44:24,280 --> 00:44:27,239
Speaker 1: my head telling me, you know what he would think.

861
00:44:29,320 --> 00:44:32,040
Speaker 1: Make sure you, you know, keep your head on the swivel.

862
00:44:32,480 --> 00:44:35,560
Speaker 1: I always know what's going on around you. That's what

863
00:44:35,680 --> 00:44:37,840
Speaker 1: he always saw me, and that's what I did. He

864
00:44:37,920 --> 00:44:41,320
Speaker 1: knew he couldn't control, and you know, and that's very important.

865
00:44:41,360 --> 00:44:43,799
Speaker 1: You cannot when you just think, you know, when you

866
00:44:43,840 --> 00:44:46,240
Speaker 1: tell when you when somebody is in love with someone

867
00:44:46,320 --> 00:44:49,160
Speaker 1: and you constantly badging them about him, Normally, it's gonna

868
00:44:49,160 --> 00:44:51,600
Speaker 1: push him closer to him. It's not gonna they're not

869
00:44:51,680 --> 00:44:53,799
Speaker 1: it's not gonna put him my way. It's gonna push

870
00:44:53,800 --> 00:44:58,040
Speaker 1: them closer. So what he did the way he you know,

871
00:44:58,520 --> 00:45:01,680
Speaker 1: dealt with me and as a woman, he talked to

872
00:45:01,719 --> 00:45:04,200
Speaker 1: me about what I may encounter. He talked to me

873
00:45:04,280 --> 00:45:07,560
Speaker 1: about why certain why men do certain things. And it

874
00:45:07,680 --> 00:45:11,680
Speaker 1: was up to me to utilize all the wisdom and

875
00:45:11,680 --> 00:45:14,080
Speaker 1: and and and talks that we had, you know, all

876
00:45:14,080 --> 00:45:17,759
Speaker 1: the wisdom and a game from him. And when I

877
00:45:17,840 --> 00:45:22,239
Speaker 1: dealt with certain guys, you know, he might not have

878
00:45:22,320 --> 00:45:25,040
Speaker 1: been I never did go to him and tell him all, Dad,

879
00:45:25,080 --> 00:45:29,439
Speaker 1: this dude is like a real game banger. I wasn't

880
00:45:29,440 --> 00:45:34,160
Speaker 1: gonna do that. But at the same time, I knew

881
00:45:34,200 --> 00:45:36,560
Speaker 1: what I was gonna get myself into and what I wasn't,

882
00:45:37,320 --> 00:45:39,359
Speaker 1: you know, I knew how far I was gonna go.

883
00:45:39,840 --> 00:45:43,360
Speaker 1: And not think that women is naturally attracted the boys

884
00:45:43,360 --> 00:45:46,799
Speaker 1: that got an element of mystery about them, and some don't.

885
00:45:47,080 --> 00:45:49,520
Speaker 1: I just don't think women like punks. I don't think

886
00:45:49,480 --> 00:45:51,239
Speaker 1: they necessarily got to be a game banger. I just

887
00:45:51,280 --> 00:45:55,319
Speaker 1: don't think women like man and she know that it's

888
00:45:55,320 --> 00:45:58,840
Speaker 1: gonna fight for it, just didn't get his ass whoop

889
00:45:58,880 --> 00:46:02,160
Speaker 1: in front of exactly ya. Men like myself, I can

890
00:46:02,200 --> 00:46:06,160
Speaker 1: say I want to protect her because you know what, honestly,

891
00:46:08,000 --> 00:46:10,160
Speaker 1: I think women just want of motherfucker that's gonna fight

892
00:46:10,200 --> 00:46:15,759
Speaker 1: back just right, not just gonna fight. Yeah, that's what

893
00:46:15,800 --> 00:46:18,839
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Yeah, And it's all about how a man

894
00:46:19,000 --> 00:46:21,760
Speaker 1: carry his shelf with her. You know what I'm saying.

895
00:46:22,120 --> 00:46:25,640
Speaker 1: Everything you don't have to take off on Everything is

896
00:46:25,680 --> 00:46:28,800
Speaker 1: not about a fight. It's just how you how you

897
00:46:28,800 --> 00:46:32,160
Speaker 1: you show your maturity to shotain motherfucker's in some bullshit. Well,

898
00:46:32,160 --> 00:46:34,360
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you when when it comes to women,

899
00:46:34,520 --> 00:46:36,520
Speaker 1: and my wife broke this down to me one time.

900
00:46:37,239 --> 00:46:40,360
Speaker 1: It's certain situations that a real woman is not gonna

901
00:46:40,360 --> 00:46:42,520
Speaker 1: tell you about because they may not want you to

902
00:46:42,560 --> 00:46:45,879
Speaker 1: get no bullshit over something it's nothing like it may

903
00:46:45,920 --> 00:46:47,880
Speaker 1: be something I may be in the store right and

904
00:46:47,960 --> 00:46:50,120
Speaker 1: my wife may not tell me something to each in

905
00:46:50,200 --> 00:46:52,000
Speaker 1: the car and I'm around the corner like she had

906
00:46:52,000 --> 00:46:53,879
Speaker 1: tell me that dude was doing that. Why you didn't

907
00:46:53,920 --> 00:46:55,360
Speaker 1: tell me? You'll to them up, and that's why I

908
00:46:55,400 --> 00:46:58,280
Speaker 1: didn't tell you ask me, because you'd have been getting

909
00:46:58,400 --> 00:47:00,839
Speaker 1: drug out of the handcuff right now, you know. And

910
00:47:00,880 --> 00:47:03,319
Speaker 1: then there's certain things that where something happened she feels

911
00:47:03,360 --> 00:47:04,680
Speaker 1: I need to know about it. She bring it to

912
00:47:04,719 --> 00:47:07,120
Speaker 1: my attention. But that's what she told me because I

913
00:47:07,120 --> 00:47:09,080
Speaker 1: should always look at the way because she schooled my

914
00:47:09,200 --> 00:47:12,040
Speaker 1: boys on certain stuff, like any girl that runs to

915
00:47:12,080 --> 00:47:14,520
Speaker 1: tell you everything about getting you jelous all the time

916
00:47:15,840 --> 00:47:24,200
Speaker 1: because and fighting over like like get away from So

917
00:47:24,440 --> 00:47:27,320
Speaker 1: I think, you know, something like this is needed because

918
00:47:27,320 --> 00:47:30,239
Speaker 1: it's a lot of brothers, like James said, they want

919
00:47:30,239 --> 00:47:33,160
Speaker 1: to be involved with their kids life, you know, daughters

920
00:47:33,280 --> 00:47:36,600
Speaker 1: or sons, be whatever, but they can't. They can't. And

921
00:47:36,640 --> 00:47:38,960
Speaker 1: then some of them just don't know how, you know,

922
00:47:39,040 --> 00:47:41,920
Speaker 1: because if you didn't have that, then how could you

923
00:47:41,960 --> 00:47:44,520
Speaker 1: give it, you know, So some of them don't know how.

924
00:47:44,680 --> 00:47:47,759
Speaker 1: So part of the book is also about that, which

925
00:47:47,840 --> 00:47:50,480
Speaker 1: is why you know, I give examples. I'm not thinking,

926
00:47:50,600 --> 00:47:52,719
Speaker 1: you know, you don't necessarily have to use the ones

927
00:47:52,800 --> 00:47:54,879
Speaker 1: that I give. You can make you know your own

928
00:47:55,440 --> 00:47:58,600
Speaker 1: because everybody has a gift. Everybody has something. Every man

929
00:47:58,760 --> 00:48:02,680
Speaker 1: has something that he could teach a daughter. Yes, that's real.

930
00:48:02,800 --> 00:48:05,360
Speaker 1: And where can people get this book from the book

931
00:48:05,400 --> 00:48:09,239
Speaker 1: is available on Amazon right now, hopefully in Barnes and

932
00:48:09,320 --> 00:48:11,799
Speaker 1: Noble soon. I'm waiting to hear back from them, but

933
00:48:12,320 --> 00:48:15,120
Speaker 1: right now you can go on Amazon dot com and

934
00:48:15,200 --> 00:48:18,720
Speaker 1: purchase the book. Teach Them their Word by April l Ritchie,

935
00:48:19,800 --> 00:48:22,759
Speaker 1: by April Richie. I'm gonna read this. Um, I'm gonna

936
00:48:22,760 --> 00:48:26,200
Speaker 1: read this dedication real quick. You see, this book is

937
00:48:26,200 --> 00:48:29,680
Speaker 1: dedicated to my phenomenal father, my hero, the first man

938
00:48:29,760 --> 00:48:34,200
Speaker 1: I ever loved, Preston Thelijah Richie Jr. My heart. No,

939
00:48:34,400 --> 00:48:36,520
Speaker 1: daddy meant a lot to you, didn't. Yes, he did

940
00:48:37,800 --> 00:48:40,360
Speaker 1: means a lot to me. And wherever he loved me

941
00:48:40,400 --> 00:48:43,480
Speaker 1: a grab bag And that's that's very important. You know.

942
00:48:43,520 --> 00:48:47,040
Speaker 1: He loved me a grab bag full of all kind

943
00:48:47,040 --> 00:48:49,799
Speaker 1: of you know, lifelines that I can pull out of,

944
00:48:50,000 --> 00:48:52,120
Speaker 1: you know, whenever I'm dealing with this, if I'm dealing

945
00:48:52,200 --> 00:48:54,080
Speaker 1: with something with a man, if I'm dealing with something

946
00:48:54,360 --> 00:48:57,440
Speaker 1: at the job, all kind of He he taught me

947
00:48:57,520 --> 00:49:01,799
Speaker 1: so much that there's nothing that I don't think I

948
00:49:01,800 --> 00:49:04,680
Speaker 1: can handle. Like in my book, I'll talk about when

949
00:49:04,719 --> 00:49:06,800
Speaker 1: he passed away, you know, and one of my close

950
00:49:06,880 --> 00:49:10,040
Speaker 1: friends asked me, out of everything that he taught you,

951
00:49:10,880 --> 00:49:14,200
Speaker 1: he didn't teach you about this, and you know, something

952
00:49:14,480 --> 00:49:16,799
Speaker 1: like I couldn't believe that she said that to me,

953
00:49:17,040 --> 00:49:19,759
Speaker 1: you know, but at the same time, it stopped me

954
00:49:19,800 --> 00:49:23,600
Speaker 1: in my tracks because I was like, yeah, multiple times,

955
00:49:23,640 --> 00:49:25,920
Speaker 1: so these are the things that you have to prepare

956
00:49:26,000 --> 00:49:29,200
Speaker 1: your your your children for a period. And he did that.

957
00:49:29,600 --> 00:49:33,319
Speaker 1: He did that in a phenomenal way. So you know,

958
00:49:33,480 --> 00:49:37,399
Speaker 1: I was lucky. Uh, you don't always have. Everybody don't

959
00:49:37,400 --> 00:49:40,200
Speaker 1: have the same experience. That's why it's important to share.

960
00:49:40,920 --> 00:49:43,080
Speaker 1: And that's me. I'm gonna share of minds if I

961
00:49:43,160 --> 00:49:45,600
Speaker 1: meet a woman that that needs that I noticed is

962
00:49:45,920 --> 00:49:48,760
Speaker 1: you know, doing certain things to get attention, because women

963
00:49:48,800 --> 00:49:54,480
Speaker 1: can be promiscuous, they can dress you know, rounchy, uh

964
00:49:54,800 --> 00:49:57,399
Speaker 1: be with you like well, promiscus, being with too many men,

965
00:49:57,640 --> 00:50:01,640
Speaker 1: being boristerous or whatever you know, or are doing moving

966
00:50:01,680 --> 00:50:04,840
Speaker 1: too fast And it's not my place, but I'm gonna

967
00:50:04,840 --> 00:50:07,160
Speaker 1: find some kind of way when I have when I'm

968
00:50:07,200 --> 00:50:10,040
Speaker 1: around somebody like that or you know, and I'm talking

969
00:50:10,080 --> 00:50:12,600
Speaker 1: to him and they're telling me about the relationship that

970
00:50:12,640 --> 00:50:16,480
Speaker 1: they're in. If it's something that that if Red flag

971
00:50:16,560 --> 00:50:18,960
Speaker 1: goes up, I'm gonna find some kind of way to

972
00:50:19,000 --> 00:50:21,719
Speaker 1: put a coatil, you know, if I can. And I

973
00:50:21,760 --> 00:50:24,759
Speaker 1: think that, um, we as women should should do that

974
00:50:24,840 --> 00:50:28,279
Speaker 1: for each other. Yeah, it's only right. It's only right

975
00:50:28,320 --> 00:50:32,040
Speaker 1: that we that we treat each other as you know,

976
00:50:32,120 --> 00:50:36,560
Speaker 1: because I give brothers sometimes, especially if they solicit my advice,

977
00:50:36,560 --> 00:50:38,359
Speaker 1: because you know, with some brothers, you gotta be real

978
00:50:38,440 --> 00:50:40,560
Speaker 1: careful with that because the motherfucker feel like you're trying

979
00:50:40,560 --> 00:50:42,400
Speaker 1: to one up sometimes really you're just trying to just

980
00:50:42,480 --> 00:50:44,640
Speaker 1: give him some help. So the brother asked me, I'm

981
00:50:44,719 --> 00:50:46,640
Speaker 1: a damn should tell him the truth because I ain't

982
00:50:46,640 --> 00:50:48,359
Speaker 1: got number of love for you guys. Want to see

983
00:50:48,360 --> 00:50:51,160
Speaker 1: you just achieve the greatness that you capable of achieving.

984
00:50:51,200 --> 00:50:53,080
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna never try to tell you down nothing

985
00:50:53,080 --> 00:50:57,839
Speaker 1: you know and tell you nothing. So I got that's

986
00:50:57,920 --> 00:51:00,680
Speaker 1: that's that's cool. But I got you got a lot

987
00:51:00,760 --> 00:51:04,040
Speaker 1: of brothers out there that that's scared to be fathers.

988
00:51:04,120 --> 00:51:06,520
Speaker 1: You got some brothers out there that I don't know

989
00:51:06,560 --> 00:51:09,359
Speaker 1: how to love, like you know, I don't know how

990
00:51:09,400 --> 00:51:12,040
Speaker 1: to love. I didn't know how to love. But you know,

991
00:51:13,120 --> 00:51:17,080
Speaker 1: let's stop using certain things in our life as an excuse.

992
00:51:17,840 --> 00:51:19,600
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I learned how to read

993
00:51:19,680 --> 00:51:21,759
Speaker 1: so I can learn how to love, you know what

994
00:51:21,840 --> 00:51:24,880
Speaker 1: I'm saying. So I'm pretty much talking to myself, you

995
00:51:24,880 --> 00:51:28,640
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. After my conversation with Mins, before

996
00:51:28,719 --> 00:51:35,160
Speaker 1: she passed the respect I had for women, I went

997
00:51:35,280 --> 00:51:37,960
Speaker 1: that just that high, you know what I'm saying, and

998
00:51:38,480 --> 00:51:41,520
Speaker 1: elevated like a mug. And you know, being a father,

999
00:51:41,880 --> 00:51:45,680
Speaker 1: I took pride in being uh pops. I was one

1000
00:51:45,760 --> 00:51:49,080
Speaker 1: that didn't want to have thirty kids. My three was enough.

1001
00:51:50,160 --> 00:51:52,400
Speaker 1: How many grand babies they give me? I'm cool, I

1002
00:51:52,400 --> 00:51:54,719
Speaker 1: don't I didn't need all that. But there's a lot

1003
00:51:54,760 --> 00:51:57,359
Speaker 1: of brothers I think don't have this story came tell

1004
00:51:57,440 --> 00:52:01,919
Speaker 1: his story. So my my thing is, man, don't let

1005
00:52:01,920 --> 00:52:04,879
Speaker 1: nobody tell you you can't be a father. You will

1006
00:52:04,920 --> 00:52:07,360
Speaker 1: find a way out to be a father. If you don't,

1007
00:52:07,719 --> 00:52:10,560
Speaker 1: then you're using that ship as a cop out to

1008
00:52:10,719 --> 00:52:13,960
Speaker 1: not be a father. Show step your game up. You

1009
00:52:14,120 --> 00:52:16,239
Speaker 1: want to be in your kid's life, Yeah for sure,

1010
00:52:16,280 --> 00:52:18,400
Speaker 1: Because I'm gonna tell you being the father is probably

1011
00:52:18,400 --> 00:52:20,520
Speaker 1: the most gangster thing that you can never do in life.

1012
00:52:20,520 --> 00:52:22,600
Speaker 1: Because I'm gonna tell you the worrying will never stop,

1013
00:52:23,000 --> 00:52:26,040
Speaker 1: especially when you get your daughter. Because my daughter walks

1014
00:52:26,040 --> 00:52:28,520
Speaker 1: on from school sometimes it's nastly. We're around that time.

1015
00:52:28,840 --> 00:52:30,760
Speaker 1: I'm almost on the phone with her, from the time

1016
00:52:30,800 --> 00:52:33,160
Speaker 1: that she leaves that school the time she hit out

1017
00:52:33,160 --> 00:52:34,960
Speaker 1: door and out here in the house, I'm on the

1018
00:52:35,000 --> 00:52:37,239
Speaker 1: phone with her because I never stopped worrying, because it's

1019
00:52:37,280 --> 00:52:39,600
Speaker 1: just crazy. Motherfucker's out there and you just hear too

1020
00:52:39,640 --> 00:52:42,680
Speaker 1: much bad You never stopped worrying. Now where you had

1021
00:52:42,719 --> 00:52:45,799
Speaker 1: on social media? On social media, I'm more on Instagram,

1022
00:52:45,880 --> 00:52:49,759
Speaker 1: or you can go to the real April Richie on

1023
00:52:49,800 --> 00:52:53,680
Speaker 1: Instagram and I'll saw on Facebook, the real April Richie. Yeah,

1024
00:52:53,719 --> 00:52:55,640
Speaker 1: we go for sure, get this up. Can we appreciate

1025
00:52:55,680 --> 00:52:58,960
Speaker 1: you coming on? I'm happy to I'm like, I'm honored,

1026
00:52:59,080 --> 00:53:02,240
Speaker 1: honored to be here there. When I reached ow to James,

1027
00:53:02,239 --> 00:53:05,960
Speaker 1: that was just greatly appreciated. Because what I can't think

1028
00:53:06,000 --> 00:53:09,799
Speaker 1: of a better Uh, I can't think of a better

1029
00:53:10,640 --> 00:53:14,320
Speaker 1: stands to use in this one. This is the Gangster Chronicles.

1030
00:53:14,320 --> 00:53:15,920
Speaker 1: It should be a lot of men, I mean how

1031
00:53:15,920 --> 00:53:18,239
Speaker 1: many I mean listeners you guys got now, what is

1032
00:53:18,239 --> 00:53:24,400
Speaker 1: it a million? Now? So exactly so you know, you

1033
00:53:24,520 --> 00:53:26,520
Speaker 1: got a lot of men. I'm sure I listened to

1034
00:53:26,520 --> 00:53:28,800
Speaker 1: Granster chronicles, so I'm sure it's a lot of women

1035
00:53:28,840 --> 00:53:33,359
Speaker 1: listening to. But uh, for the men out there, you know, uh,

1036
00:53:33,680 --> 00:53:36,799
Speaker 1: because that's it. Fathers are usually the fathers that are

1037
00:53:36,880 --> 00:53:39,480
Speaker 1: usually effected, I hate to say it, are the and

1038
00:53:39,719 --> 00:53:43,360
Speaker 1: the minorities, you know, us are the black fathers, the

1039
00:53:43,440 --> 00:53:46,680
Speaker 1: brown fathers. You know, they deal with a lot. Now,

1040
00:53:46,719 --> 00:53:50,720
Speaker 1: I don't know, I'm not trying to stereotype anybody or whatever,

1041
00:53:50,800 --> 00:53:54,799
Speaker 1: but how many of it, how many black men are

1042
00:53:54,840 --> 00:53:59,120
Speaker 1: in prison. There's a lot of our black men, so

1043
00:53:59,280 --> 00:54:02,920
Speaker 1: exactly of the father So that's one reason why, like

1044
00:54:03,000 --> 00:54:05,200
Speaker 1: I said, I mentioned in the book that you know,

1045
00:54:05,280 --> 00:54:10,840
Speaker 1: even incarcerated father can be a father. How many are

1046
00:54:10,840 --> 00:54:16,520
Speaker 1: actually taking care of the household? Yeah, exactly, so now

1047
00:54:16,600 --> 00:54:19,720
Speaker 1: they don't, and that's what you know, that's what's important. Also,

1048
00:54:20,480 --> 00:54:25,839
Speaker 1: it's important that uh we continue to even the men,

1049
00:54:26,040 --> 00:54:28,759
Speaker 1: you know, to respect the men. That's another something that's

1050
00:54:28,800 --> 00:54:30,879
Speaker 1: going on. Not trying to get off the topic, but

1051
00:54:31,280 --> 00:54:34,239
Speaker 1: we got women that don't respect men. That's something that

1052
00:54:34,360 --> 00:54:37,399
Speaker 1: fathers teach you. My father taught me so much that

1053
00:54:38,160 --> 00:54:40,359
Speaker 1: I can't stand to see a man being belittle by

1054
00:54:40,360 --> 00:54:43,040
Speaker 1: a woman. I can't. It's it's one of my I

1055
00:54:43,120 --> 00:54:46,359
Speaker 1: cannot stand to see a woman be little a man

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