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Speaker 1: Welcome to Decisions Decisions. I don't think you should say
Speaker 1: the Decisions. It sounded like you was talking to Kursky.
Speaker 3: You definitely say to welcome, Welcome to the new podcast
Speaker 3: how about you want to say together the Decisions Decisions.
Speaker 4: Welcome guys to another episode of Decisions Decisions.
Speaker 1: I'm your girl, Mandy.
Speaker 3: V Mandy is geek, y'all, don't do that, y We
Speaker 3: had a great photo shoot today. I woke up at
Speaker 3: five in the morning for this shit. I'm over it.
Speaker 3: But bitch, let me tell you how over it I am. Yo,
Speaker 3: Nigga sent you flowers. My nigga heard me getting upset
Speaker 3: on the phone and said, I'm flying down there.
Speaker 1: Oh yes, that's cute. It's cute.
Speaker 3: But like, bitch, don't script, no, no, no, I ain't even
Speaker 3: hold you.
Speaker 4: So I just spent two days with my boyfriend. We
Speaker 4: were working on the West Coast, and so after our shoot,
Speaker 4: we just had a five hour cover shoot.
Speaker 1: Y'o. We're cover girls. I love it. We'll give you
Speaker 1: with the We'll give you guys updates on.
Speaker 4: That when we can. But so I get a call.
Speaker 4: I said, first off, who this? I don't even I
Speaker 4: ain't answering six, seven.
Speaker 3: Eight, fol foe, none of these numbers, because what fuck
Speaker 3: is you calling?
Speaker 1: Anyways, I answer it.
Speaker 4: I'm at We have just enough time to eat before
Speaker 4: we came to the studio and so I'm at the
Speaker 4: Ruth Chris getting the stuffed chicken because that's what a
Speaker 4: bitch orders, and this person calls me. It's like, I
Speaker 4: have a flower delivery for you, and I'm like a
Speaker 4: flower delivery, bitch, so where I live.
Speaker 1: Can't find it.
Speaker 4: So I'm like, you know what, come to Ruth Chris
Speaker 4: and drop these flowers off.
Speaker 1: So I'm talking to our manager Alex, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: I noticed nigga showing out.
Speaker 3: I literally say, listen for the audio listeners. Let me
Speaker 3: smells beautiful white, mind you literally roses and all the things.
Speaker 3: It says, Mandy, you sucked my dicks. That is not
Speaker 3: what it says. Okay, it says my cover girl, mind you.
Speaker 3: He tags it ab because he's like, I know you
Speaker 3: like to post on the internet and I know I'm active.
Speaker 4: So the last time he sent me flowers, bitch, they
Speaker 4: didn't have the note. So he's like, not David, like
Speaker 4: this is my nigga.
Speaker 1: No, no, no, no.
Speaker 3: He was like, what the fuck do you mean they
Speaker 3: didn't have the news And I'm like, I ain't see
Speaker 3: no notes.
Speaker 1: So I'm glad you told me.
Speaker 3: This feeling about that I don't give a fuck, and
Speaker 3: he's like, what do you mean there was no note.
Speaker 3: I specifically signed it activate because I know you'd be
Speaker 3: on the internet and you want to pass it. So
Speaker 3: he literally is like, he signed it activate specifically the
Speaker 3: last time he sent me flowers because you know how
Speaker 3: he posted it on the internet.
Speaker 1: And me say, you activated. I don't know if you
Speaker 1: listened to the show.
Speaker 4: No no, no, no, he don't. Well I told him
Speaker 4: he can't. No no, no, no, tell you right now, Nicole.
Speaker 1: You're starting strong.
Speaker 4: No no, no, always got two flowers and you're not gonna lie.
Speaker 1: Almost too strong to it.
Speaker 4: So I'm at dinner, I'm like, I just noticed nigga
Speaker 4: did not send me no flowers, So I get the flower.
Speaker 1: Mind y'all.
Speaker 4: If you guys are not on Patreon, subscribe bitch, because
Speaker 4: I give y all a tea. Patreon dot com backslash
Speaker 4: horrible decisions, and in Vegas when he tried to get
Speaker 4: jealous at the other nigga hit in my line right,
Speaker 4: I literally told him I'm nominated in Walking a Red
Speaker 4: Carpet and my homegirl brought me flowers.
Speaker 1: You didn't even bring me flowers? Yeah, old you.
Speaker 3: He gonna spend at sixty nine flowers elbow. When I
Speaker 3: tell you he sent me flowers, y'all heard a couple
Speaker 3: of weeks ago when he came to see me in Atlanta,
Speaker 3: and now to get these, I literally called him, like
Speaker 3: you show it out me. I literally honestly getting flowers
Speaker 3: at Ruth Chris while you have mad makeup on.
Speaker 1: It's just like I was like Beyonce. I literally called
Speaker 1: him like you is showing out thank you.
Speaker 3: It was really sweet. Honestly, I think it really just
Speaker 3: goes to show.
Speaker 1: If he he will hold on. That's the day of
Speaker 1: this episode. Do you know what's crazy?
Speaker 4: If you guys, and this is not an ad because
Speaker 4: we don't already got our check, but one of them
Speaker 4: days with Kiki Balmer, and they started the first dialogue.
Speaker 4: I don't know if y'all ever read the script if
Speaker 4: you watch it, because now it's streaming the very first
Speaker 4: line that said.
Speaker 1: If he if he wants to, they started in a diner.
Speaker 3: While they're sitting at the diner, it is two other
Speaker 3: people having a conversation.
Speaker 1: And when I tell you that stuck up out to me.
Speaker 4: It's almost like a sign if he wants to, he
Speaker 4: will mind you the conversation like when I told him like, yeah,
Speaker 4: there's other niggas that want me, Like we had the
Speaker 4: conversation about all that, and I think he literally he
Speaker 4: told me he was like, I felt like I was
Speaker 4: going to lose you if I didn't step up and
Speaker 4: do the things you said you wanted.
Speaker 1: He bitch he doing here.
Speaker 3: He very afraid you're losing me. So I'm just like,
Speaker 3: woke up. He adores me.
Speaker 1: We're watching the season finale together of Paradise, and I'm
Speaker 1: just like, how do you watch it together? So you
Speaker 1: play yet? So we'll text each other.
Speaker 3: So last night we were supposed to watch it when
Speaker 3: we landed, but his flight got delayed, mine got delayed.
Speaker 3: I said, Babe, I have a whole fucking shoot day tomorrow.
Speaker 1: Ye not staying up. Let's watch it tomorrow.
Speaker 3: And so I text him and I'm like, let's watch
Speaker 3: it tomorrow.
Speaker 4: So how we watch a show together? Because I said
Speaker 4: we have to watch shows together. We'll tell each other
Speaker 4: when we're gonna start because we're three hours different, so
Speaker 4: we have to make sure we're both at home. So
Speaker 4: I'll be like, Okay, tell me when to start, and
Speaker 4: I'll be like Okay, talk to you in fifty seven minutes.
Speaker 4: Well press play at the same time, we'll text each
Speaker 4: other through.
Speaker 3: Didn't you say there was a dude you want on
Speaker 3: a date with that?
Speaker 1: Why are you bringing up another nigga? No, grandma, talking
Speaker 1: about the one that I'm dating right now. Don't use
Speaker 1: okay program.
Speaker 4: There is a computer program. So I did have a
Speaker 4: virtual date where basically he was given a code. If
Speaker 4: you buy a movie, you share the code and you're
Speaker 4: able to watch it at.
Speaker 1: The same nigga. That's fine. Oh it was fire. Oh
Speaker 1: not only that he sent me like I he sent
Speaker 1: me snacks to watch it with him.
Speaker 4: But we're not gonna talk about another nigga right now
Speaker 4: because I got a boyfriend. So you think your ex
Speaker 4: boyfriend's watching this and listening, but you don't want to
Speaker 4: tell that you already know. Okay, y'all since, by the way,
Speaker 4: friends have suggested not to share this. Oh that don't no, no, no,
Speaker 4: They only suggested because he's a narcissist, so he may
Speaker 4: I don't know what he would get from this, but
Speaker 4: I didn't respond yet and it's because hold on, so
Speaker 4: can I tell okay, So let me let me tell
Speaker 4: y'all the backstory. So Weezy and I were in the
Speaker 4: studio in New York.
Speaker 1: Bulken one day after I said hold on, you gotta say.
Speaker 4: So, so Weezy, So we did back to back days, right,
Speaker 4: actually we did three days back to back. So Weezye
Speaker 4: and I are in the studio and we're both like, che'sing, Oh,
Speaker 4: we got boyfriends.
Speaker 1: Hopefully y'all still say here because y'all hate when we happy.
Speaker 4: Anyways, So she's like, you know what, I wonder which
Speaker 4: one of our exes is going to hit us first?
Speaker 4: And so we're sitting here having this conversation. I'm like, bitch,
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 1: The next day we go into the studio, we record
Speaker 1: two episodes.
Speaker 3: We're on our last one. Bitch, it is three thirty
Speaker 3: eight pm. That was so crazy, I say, bitch, I
Speaker 3: notice sing what the fun I don't think it should?
Speaker 1: I say, come to Manifest? Hold get one hundred million
Speaker 1: dollars deal? Hold on, no, no, no? When going to happened?
Speaker 3: The first day or second day, we find out we're
Speaker 3: a New York Times bestseller?
Speaker 1: I thank you? Keep going? What else you want a Manifest?
Speaker 4: I like the New York Times bestsellers. Y'all know holds
Speaker 4: bar to do a manifest on sexual as next shore.
Speaker 1: It gonna be bo.
Speaker 4: So anyways, we're recording Bitch my Heart sink fuck nigga.
Speaker 4: I get a fucking email from my ex. Now listen.
Speaker 4: I don't know if the nigga in the blogs, if
Speaker 4: he's a patron, if he saw my Instagram live.
Speaker 1: Jagging about my new boyfriend. I don't know what it is.
Speaker 1: But literally, while I'm in New York.
Speaker 3: Probably a week after I announced that I'm in a relationship,
Speaker 3: I get an email.
Speaker 1: Should I read it?
Speaker 3: I could go through it quick only because we see
Speaker 3: real messy. We probably shouldn't do this, but we're gonna
Speaker 3: do it anyway. Let's read No, no, no, it's I
Speaker 3: could read through a pass.
Speaker 1: Oh no, we want a long bitch. So god, wait,
Speaker 1: are you sure you want to do this?
Speaker 4: And do because I'm gonna tell you because I'm not
Speaker 4: responding now, I'm gonna respond publicly because he's probably listening,
Speaker 4: probably watching.
Speaker 1: Oh you guys, we are going to respond to my
Speaker 1: ex publicly. Are you ready? By the way, Dwayne, maybe
Speaker 1: put the violin music to the back of this.
Speaker 3: Let's sound design this ship, and you know what I
Speaker 3: would say, sorry, but sorry about the fact that you
Speaker 3: lied about having cancer, because I'll never forget.
Speaker 1: Keep going subject line gratitude.
Speaker 4: Oh bitch, Hey, I hope this finds you in good
Speaker 4: health and happiness. I'm sitting and do I'm sitting in
Speaker 4: deep reflection about our time together, and the word quote
Speaker 4: unquote gratitude keeps coming to the forefront of my mind.
Speaker 4: I'm grateful to have you enter into my life at
Speaker 4: the time that you did. I wasn't whole when you
Speaker 4: met me. I sincerely appreciate the love that you shared
Speaker 4: with me. I didn't know that I needed it at
Speaker 4: the time.
Speaker 1: I continue to.
Speaker 3: Pray that my presence in your life will be more
Speaker 3: than a wound that doesn't heal.
Speaker 1: Pray.
Speaker 4: There are many things that I wish I did differently
Speaker 4: with you and I it's ironic that you introduced me
Speaker 4: to the Nude Beach because I've always been a man
Speaker 4: who was too afraid to fully reveal myself to others.
Speaker 4: You gave me courage to grow in a way that
Speaker 4: I doubt I would have ever. Instead, I probably would
Speaker 4: have taken my fears to the grave with me. Although
Speaker 4: I'm still an introvert who keeps his deepest pains and
Speaker 4: fears himself.
Speaker 1: I am trying to be a better man to the world.
Speaker 4: Although you were decades younger than me, you are light
Speaker 4: years ahead of me and living fearlessly.
Speaker 1: Please know that there were many things.
Speaker 4: That I was too afraid to share with you at
Speaker 4: the time, and even now, my coping mechanisms were never
Speaker 4: righteous or honest. The wake of pain that I left
Speaker 4: behind makes me ashamed more than you could ever imagine.
Speaker 4: Please know that you are loved, You are appreciated, You
Speaker 4: are beautiful.
Speaker 1: You deserve the best.
Speaker 4: I wish you heard this. You let's avoid in my
Speaker 4: life because you are one of a kind. Gratitude is
Speaker 4: how I forever remember you from this point on. Sincerely, Blank,
Speaker 4: Keep shining. So I would like you to know Blank,
Speaker 4: that I sent this to my current partner and we
Speaker 4: had a conversation about I did. I sent it to
Speaker 4: my therapist, and I sent it to two of my
Speaker 4: dearest best friends. Shout out Antonette, shout out Crystal and Honorary.
Speaker 1: Shout out to Britain.
Speaker 4: So I sent this, yes to the people, as well
Speaker 4: as write it to the room when you sent it
Speaker 4: and the consensus was that you heard that I was
Speaker 4: finally happy. I want to share too, that many times
Speaker 4: in our relationship you said that I would never find
Speaker 4: better than you guy, no job. So my response to you,
Speaker 4: mind you. I battled with responding to this email for days,
Speaker 4: but I was so busy, didn't even have the time.
Speaker 4: Let's be honest.
Speaker 1: We were traveling, working all the things. That was my
Speaker 1: first reaction too. I think he knows.
Speaker 3: So I don't know if you know that I have
Speaker 3: someone right now that completely adores me, that we spent
Speaker 3: time getting to know each other, that supports all of
Speaker 3: my endeavors, that supports me and only wants to see
Speaker 3: me rise and climb.
Speaker 4: But my response to you is thanks, but no thanks.
Speaker 4: I have found the person that you thought I would
Speaker 4: never find, and I want you to know that I
Speaker 4: always deserved what I thought I deserved, that you were
Speaker 4: always incapable of giving.
Speaker 1: And what that said? Pleasy? What's your ketchup? You know?
Speaker 1: Not you grabbing the teeth from me? Bitch? I was
Speaker 1: That was not a part of my life. I didn't
Speaker 1: say it. I said no to late. No, you you
Speaker 1: knew what you were doing, you were producing. It's okay.
Speaker 4: AnyWho don't email me again. I will never be with
Speaker 4: you again. And I deserve the world. And if anything,
Speaker 4: that thank you was a thankfulness and gratitude that I
Speaker 4: saw everything that I don't deserve.
Speaker 1: It just a little today, little day and I get away.
Speaker 3: Let me tell you, niggas, hey when fine, skinny airy,
Speaker 3: Let's be very clear.
Speaker 1: Definitely was getting await with ass. But can we can
Speaker 1: we also talk about the spidy senses?
Speaker 2: Oh no, no, no.
Speaker 1: When I look back at our pictures, I had.
Speaker 3: Love weight on me with that nigga, but also pandemic weight,
Speaker 3: so probably wasn't even love what nigga was pandemic weight.
Speaker 1: Maybe because you were with him so long you lost weight.
Speaker 1: I lost waiting to gain weight again.
Speaker 3: But the spidey senses of it all, You're right, he
Speaker 3: it's either spidy senses or he heard it.
Speaker 1: You believe spidy senses exists.
Speaker 3: I think I think if I had an ex that
Speaker 3: I could have access to to see what they're doing
Speaker 3: and what they're up to romantically every week, I would
Speaker 3: you would, Yes, I would. I don't think I would
Speaker 3: do it for a long time. But if I miss you,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna just look bitch. We broke up a year
Speaker 3: and a half ago, almost two years ago. That's not
Speaker 3: that long ago, maybe maybe two years. You talk about
Speaker 3: him often when whenever you're angry about it, you want
Speaker 3: to vent about it. So I would want to know
Speaker 3: what they're saying about, not only that.
Speaker 4: You ready, and I know some of you bitches sucking
Speaker 4: his dick. Listen to this motherfucking podcast because you no, no, no,
Speaker 4: I'm so scared to bring my partner out to wear
Speaker 4: a fan season because he cheated on me. Four of
Speaker 4: the b just three of them were fans to where
Speaker 4: they were like, I can't believe you were with her,
Speaker 4: and then he had the nerve to say, they're not
Speaker 4: really your fans.
Speaker 1: They don't like you because they're sucking your dick and
Speaker 1: they're confused why you love me? Yeah you already.
Speaker 3: No, I'm gonna cut I cut that out of that
Speaker 3: episode because wait, did you?
Speaker 1: I did? But I don't share enough of you.
Speaker 3: But basically it's just that whole energy of like why
Speaker 3: not me? You know what I'm saying, And I realized,
Speaker 3: like feeding it really is the problem because I really
Speaker 3: am happy, but sometimes I'm just bored and I feel
Speaker 3: like cussing these holes out.
Speaker 1: But wait, what's up with me? Oh? Fun story? Let me.
Speaker 2: H?
Speaker 1: Oh do that noise again? Mandy?
Speaker 3: Oh, I have a story for you, buddy.
Speaker 1: Oh wait, did you hear me? Fucking girl?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 3: So no, we had a gig in Denver, man for well,
Speaker 3: it probably is out now right, No, it's out.
Speaker 1: Okay, Oh wait it's out now? Do you have a
Speaker 1: rock hatch?
Speaker 3: Just on?
Speaker 1: We got time to talk? Yeah? Is that what it is?
Speaker 1: We got time today? We got time today, av that
Speaker 1: was so much fun to be We.
Speaker 4: Were waiting Don Sanders and Rocky Dspo on a two
Speaker 4: who would have.
Speaker 1: Nomina a bit?
Speaker 3: So they had a business class flights, two flights ground transport.
Speaker 1: It's the lanies and a sweet beet hello.
Speaker 3: So uh, basically Mandy's man is in La So it
Speaker 3: makes so much sense to No, I didn't give a
Speaker 3: fuck by the way you say that, I didn't give
Speaker 3: a fun that nigga was in tim Buck two.
Speaker 1: If he was in Europe.
Speaker 3: All I knew was I had two flights on somebody else.
Speaker 3: I said, bang, come on, clear your schedule, you're coming
Speaker 3: to Denver.
Speaker 1: Well, so, uh what happened? Oh yeah, Mandy had time
Speaker 1: so mad, they put your room next to mine, bitch.
Speaker 1: I was very confused. I was like, what fu so anyway?
Speaker 1: But luckily so my flights at five am? Right, oh
Speaker 1: you were so. I fell asleep around ten, right before
Speaker 1: I go to bed. I said to my nigga, oh.
Speaker 3: The way, I didn't even tell you. Mandy's room is
Speaker 3: behind me, and he said so. I was like her
Speaker 3: man's were hurt.
Speaker 1: So he starts laughing. He's like, what do you think
Speaker 1: she about to be loud? And I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I do. I waked up that one. No, maybe not one.
Speaker 1: I woke up at like eleven thirty. I can't hear
Speaker 1: that much in this video. Wait, you did not. You
Speaker 1: didn't know. I can't you did not. I WoT Mandy,
Speaker 1: you woke me up. So I just took a video
Speaker 1: of you laughing. You look at you laughing. You can't
Speaker 1: hear much. I just think I heard you come. And
Speaker 1: then he said, but I went right back to sleep,
Speaker 1: but I had to because I was like, bro, this
Speaker 1: is just so funny because.
Speaker 3: Right before I fellat and he's like, man, you ain't
Speaker 3: gonna wake up. Just sleep girl. I heard Mandy's oregon.
Speaker 1: I honestly woke me up. No, it didn't. Don't didn't. Oh,
Speaker 1: my mother, you want me so dramatic. Well, let me
Speaker 1: say this. You can hear you didn't have a five
Speaker 1: o'clock flight, we would have woke up. We were louder
Speaker 1: in the morning.
Speaker 4: At night, bitch, we when I tell you, I was
Speaker 4: so tired, mind you, we started watching Men in Black.
Speaker 4: Tired well, because there was no Netflix, there was no nothing,
Speaker 4: So bitch I was like, okay, let's watch Men in Black.
Speaker 1: All I know is I say, and this is the
Speaker 1: bunny part. Bitch.
Speaker 3: I fell out that Nigga was up three hours after me.
Speaker 3: I was so tired because I had just spent three
Speaker 3: days in New York.
Speaker 1: I was so exhausted.
Speaker 3: I was really trying to be quiet. I don't think
Speaker 3: so okay, damn excuse me. When I was like, oh,
Speaker 3: she's doing this on purpose? She no, because I literally,
Speaker 3: but the bed is right, you know what. I was
Speaker 3: helping because I don't know if you got by flipped no, no,
Speaker 3: no no, because you needed to check in. You had
Speaker 3: a regular king bed. You didn't have a sweet right.
Speaker 1: I had a three with you guys. That's nothing I was.
Speaker 1: I was hoping that there was a living room divider
Speaker 1: and your room was on the other.
Speaker 3: Side of the Oh you had this sweet. I had
Speaker 3: the sweet because I didn't wait for it.
Speaker 4: You didn't wait for it to check in, So I
Speaker 4: was like, we should be good because if it's like this,
Speaker 4: there's a whole living room.
Speaker 1: I did not think you was going.
Speaker 3: I was praying until you don't heard it back, But
Speaker 3: now it was funny. I'm trying to think, Oh yeah,
Speaker 3: I was just thinking with the whole if he wants to,
Speaker 3: he will something that I really am starting to sink
Speaker 3: into when my friends are having issues with their partners,
Speaker 3: and I know I'm in a new relationship, but we've
Speaker 3: been dating you for a minute now. But still, when
Speaker 3: my friends are having issues, when I've had issues.
Speaker 1: It's really just because niggas ain't showing the.
Speaker 3: Fuck up so to know I'm feeling distressed and you're
Speaker 3: just like, okay, well then I'm going to be there.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you friends do this, and we see them
Speaker 1: do it effortless. Yeah, effortlessly. Yep.
Speaker 3: My friends would jump on a train playing, they'll sit
Speaker 3: on FaceTime with me. But for some reason in the past,
Speaker 3: you just struggle with romantic partners showing up that way, right?
Speaker 1: Why is it so hat? It's not that so.
Speaker 4: I do think that the mental capacity it's different between
Speaker 4: men and women.
Speaker 3: I do think that not to gender war this shit
Speaker 3: at it at all. But I also think that friends
Speaker 3: that I was here before, I'll be here after.
Speaker 4: I think our friends have seen us through multiple relationships,
Speaker 4: have seen us grow, I have seen us change a
Speaker 4: lot of times. Our romantic partners don't know the evolution
Speaker 4: of where we were to where we've come to, and
Speaker 4: so I just think our friends are more forgiving in
Speaker 4: our evolution, especially romantically with other partners, because we've all.
Speaker 4: First off, we've all been with fucked up niggas. I'm
Speaker 4: working through friends with fucked up baby daddy's with ex husbands,
Speaker 4: with all of the navigating of their romantic partners that
Speaker 4: they have. You're a romantic partner right now just knows
Speaker 4: how you've shown up with him from the beginning and
Speaker 4: how you continue to show up for him, and only
Speaker 4: what you share with him about your past. But he
Speaker 4: doesn't really know the evolution of really how much you've
Speaker 4: grown better than.
Speaker 1: Your friends do.
Speaker 3: I think the friends aspect of it, though, it's like,
Speaker 3: so I think there is a hierarchy. Like I'm not religious,
Speaker 3: but let's just say it like this, God, yourself, your spouse,
Speaker 3: your family, friends.
Speaker 1: I love this hierarchy switches for everyone. All right, I'm
Speaker 1: saying this is how I think people consider it. Okay,
Speaker 1: you put God first, you put yourself, then your partner,
Speaker 1: then then your kids whatever they say, husband first, We'll
Speaker 1: talk about that later, and then friends.
Speaker 3: For me, what I'm realizing is that I think friends
Speaker 3: have become family. I'm an only child, Like they just
Speaker 3: seem to get it. And for some reason, I felt
Speaker 3: like I was begging in the past for niggas to
Speaker 3: get it, and I.
Speaker 1: Would put men and women i've dated.
Speaker 3: In this place of hey, like we're sticking in it
Speaker 3: now it's us. And I think it was not that
Speaker 3: it wasn't like it just wasn't instinctual for them. Where
Speaker 3: now I see that it is. My problems are his problems?
Speaker 3: Like all the way I see it every single day.
Speaker 3: It could be a work problem.
Speaker 1: What do you want me to run and do? How
Speaker 1: can I help you?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: And vice versa.
Speaker 3: Right at this phase in our lives, his entrepreneurial ventures
Speaker 3: allow for more free time where mine don't. And so
Speaker 3: he literally said to me, like, yo, if me being
Speaker 3: on set with you makes you feel better, and that's
Speaker 3: the way we got to spend time together while you're
Speaker 3: in this phase of your life.
Speaker 1: Cool, I'm gonna do this with you. But I don't think.
Speaker 3: I've really had men that will do it for me.
Speaker 3: My friends, for some reason, would seem to go to
Speaker 3: the end for me where men wouldn't. And maybe I
Speaker 3: just wasn't dating partners that were that had I don't know,
Speaker 3: but I would say I am very needy when it
Speaker 3: comes to emotional things, and so I have friends that
Speaker 3: can scratch at It's not all of them friends that
Speaker 3: will caddle me if I want it. Vinnie's not a coddler,
Speaker 3: but he'll always show up for me. Right as far
Speaker 3: as partners, I really should have been looking for someone
Speaker 3: it gets it that knows if I like to be
Speaker 3: a big baby. It doesn't bother them. They enjoy caring
Speaker 3: for me. Cause some niggas might complain, oh my gosh,
Speaker 3: she does this, and that my man likes to man
Speaker 3: up in those moments. Not every man likes that. They
Speaker 3: consider it a burden. So whereas like we could shade it.
Speaker 3: There's someone that wants to take care of you like that.
Speaker 3: And I really believe you have to look for the
Speaker 3: strengths in someone where you fall short at And we
Speaker 3: talked about this on it You Got Decision Do You
Speaker 3: Got Decision episode lately where I said you can't have
Speaker 3: the same vices. I think you have to balance the
Speaker 3: strengths and weaknesses, just like extroverted people do good with introverts,
Speaker 3: like it's almost instantaneous that it feels good, right. I
Speaker 3: think when I've dated my ex was very extroverted, you
Speaker 3: know that. I think that's why we flashed. He didn't
Speaker 3: know how to like combaut and balance.
Speaker 4: I mean, to me, the men that I have ended
Speaker 4: up leaning towards the most, not only with my ex,
Speaker 4: but just even it in my twenties, non flashy, introverted quiet.
Speaker 4: Did I say not flashy because I hate flashy niggas,
Speaker 4: But they've all been completely opposite of me and have
Speaker 4: found to be like just enamored by how I can
Speaker 4: exist in a room.
Speaker 1: And me and my my boyfriend talked about this in Denver.
Speaker 1: He was like, do you know what I love about
Speaker 1: you most?
Speaker 4: Which, by the way, we had the conversation, I said,
Speaker 4: just so you know, Nigga, I ain't hand to ill
Speaker 4: word first.
Speaker 1: He said, oh, I know, you think I don't know.
Speaker 1: You don't want to say it fast.
Speaker 3: I know, Oh, I told him. I said, I ain't
Speaker 3: saying it first. Nigg I said it last Time'm not
Speaker 3: saying it again. But but he said, you know what
Speaker 3: I really love about you most? I said what He
Speaker 3: was like, how self sufficient you are. And I don't
Speaker 3: know if it's because of our age difference. But in
Speaker 3: my last relationship, not the why you need men to
Speaker 3: need your chapters if you read no host barred my
Speaker 3: I end the chapter with how proud I am that
Speaker 3: I can choose partners because I want them.
Speaker 4: And at the demise and end of my last relationship,
Speaker 4: he felt difficulty realizing or figuring out where he fit
Speaker 4: into my world because I didn't need him and to
Speaker 4: have my boyfriend this weekend say hey, it's what I
Speaker 4: admire about you most.
Speaker 1: He's like, I know that if I can't do this,
Speaker 1: you're gonna have it.
Speaker 3: But everything that I give to you, he said, everything
Speaker 3: I give to you, to you as a person in
Speaker 3: this relationship is just on top of the things you need,
Speaker 3: I can show up in a way that shows up
Speaker 3: and he said, I can just service you. And I
Speaker 3: was like, do you know access service is my number
Speaker 3: one love language?
Speaker 1: Oh? That's right, it is is the service right now.
Speaker 1: So he's like, what's his love language.
Speaker 3: I will say I think it is physical touch based
Speaker 3: on us being together. However, when we're away and I
Speaker 3: want to confirm this, I think the way I show up.
Speaker 1: I ended up just sending him things.
Speaker 4: He has a movie dropping and it's a lot, big
Speaker 4: production company, big cast around him, and he's like, it's
Speaker 4: like my anxiety da da du. So I'm talking him
Speaker 4: through and I was like, I think you have imposter syndrome.
Speaker 4: I think information, so I think words of affirmation right now,
Speaker 4: Like I sent him things about imposter syndrome, I said, listen,
Speaker 4: I've been there. I want to help you work through
Speaker 4: this because you need to be able to show up
Speaker 4: through the premiere of this movie, and I think you
Speaker 4: deserve to.
Speaker 1: Be to care.
Speaker 4: We talked about it because there's multiple cities, so it depends,
Speaker 4: it depends, it depends which city.
Speaker 1: I'm waiting for the New York dates we have the
Speaker 1: LA dates. I'm hoping for San Diego.
Speaker 3: He doesn't know if he's going to South, Like there's
Speaker 3: so many things we don't know where all he's supposed
Speaker 3: to be. But I'm like, you worked hard, you deserve
Speaker 3: to be in these rooms. You're there for a reason.
Speaker 3: Can you not say here and let your anxiety take over?
Speaker 3: And so I he's like appreciated that I can come
Speaker 3: to him about that. So see what you got a
Speaker 3: nigga that's got an ambition?
Speaker 1: Bit I love an ambitious niggas. What you from being
Speaker 1: a retired nigga? I will say, though I have, I've
Speaker 1: had decent. They've been decent.
Speaker 3: My ex was very successful at his corporate job and
Speaker 3: he really was trying to see a design company through.
Speaker 1: I Also, it's so weird. I an't amost have a
Speaker 1: tight because this one's good at interior design and he,
Speaker 1: you know, buys homes. And I'm like, what is that
Speaker 1: for me? Liking an art nigga?
Speaker 3: Just a nigga that knows an art nigga?
Speaker 1: Do you know you?
Speaker 2: But no?
Speaker 3: Just course here what I'm just looking at? First of
Speaker 3: all arts as niggas your type?
Speaker 1: Bitch? Fuck you mean you have a fucking septem ring Okay.
Speaker 3: So anyway, no ho Bard, you guys already know we're
Speaker 3: trying to get on the best sellers list, and boom,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna read a quote from the book. We're gonna
Speaker 3: just dive into it and just give our opinion on it.
Speaker 3: This is from one of my chapters Love It.
Speaker 1: So it says he stopped me and said, listen to me,
Speaker 1: you are always going to fuck me. Do you hear me?
Speaker 3: You about to fuck me all the time? This pussy
Speaker 3: is about to be my shit, and we're gonna be
Speaker 3: fucking all the time. On the first time he entered me,
Speaker 3: I never had anyone say that. That feeling of being
Speaker 3: that wanted had me looking past a lot of shit.
Speaker 3: A man in his forties with no real serious relationship
Speaker 3: history or kids. A man in his forty who's getting
Speaker 3: fucked up every weekend, known on the party scene, and
Speaker 3: who's running around with a twenty seven.
Speaker 1: Year old me.
Speaker 3: Hello, red flags, and here are the three red flags
Speaker 3: I should have noticed. History of short term relationships, avoiding
Speaker 3: emotional intimacy, and partying excessively.
Speaker 1: My question to you is, if a man.
Speaker 3: Doesn't have a long term relationship and goes out a
Speaker 3: lot when I think back about what I wrote, Yes,
Speaker 3: I do think there are red flags, but do they
Speaker 3: really matter? Like if a nigga really had never had
Speaker 3: a long term girlfriend, is that really a problem.
Speaker 1: Do you know what's crazy about that? I'm that person
Speaker 1: you're describing.
Speaker 4: So me and my boyfriend just had this conversation because
Speaker 4: even though I have him by eight years, I was like,
Speaker 4: when it comes to this relationship, shit, you're more experience
Speaker 4: than I am. He's been in two previous long term relationships, okay,
Speaker 4: and to me, even with us being together now, I
Speaker 4: was like, I looked at that as a red flag.
Speaker 4: I said, So, nigga, are you a serial dater?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 3: All right?
Speaker 4: Said, how the fuck you've been in two long term
Speaker 4: relationships at your age?
Speaker 1: I don't think it's I do think it's bad if
Speaker 1: the woman was that close. I have you by eight years, and.
Speaker 3: Like, twenty six is not a crazy age to have
Speaker 3: two long term relationships.
Speaker 1: The long term to me is more than two. You ready,
Speaker 1: I got in my first real relationship.
Speaker 4: Okay, that show my point. But it's actors. As a mom,
Speaker 4: I don't know, maybe, but I was just like, to me,
Speaker 4: it could be, it could be.
Speaker 3: It could be, but it could be a red flag
Speaker 3: that you jump from one relationship to another if you
Speaker 3: are say you're thirty and you've been in relationships to
Speaker 3: where you're now dating at thirty years old, and you're
Speaker 3: sitting across from someone in the person that you're talking to,
Speaker 3: you say, yeah, so I've been in three relationships over
Speaker 3: the last ten years.
Speaker 4: One was four years, one was three years, one was
Speaker 4: another one was three years. To me, it's a red
Speaker 4: flag for someone to also be a serial dater, because
Speaker 4: I want to know.
Speaker 1: You've had some single years.
Speaker 3: Are you are you gole to be alone? Have you
Speaker 3: gone through your whole phase? Are you somebody that is
Speaker 3: content with yourself? Or are you codependent?
Speaker 1: How funny is that we really want somebody to go
Speaker 1: through a whole face.
Speaker 4: I want someone to also just be able to sit
Speaker 4: with themselves. I don't want someone to feel like they
Speaker 4: need to be up under me.
Speaker 1: Oh I got some tea on the Fun Girl shit.
Speaker 1: Uh oh.
Speaker 3: We had a clip a few weeks ago about do
Speaker 3: men marry the fun girl in the para Society thinks
Speaker 3: homeboy called me who's married engaged, and he was like, bruh,
Speaker 3: he's I saw a comment you left on there. Okay,
Speaker 3: I hope he's not offended. Now he won't be his
Speaker 3: girl's cool.
Speaker 1: He was like, you said that these wys are the
Speaker 1: fun girls. He was like, you already know how, bitch.
Speaker 3: And they met her at Aftes. Okay, he was all
Speaker 3: fucked up. They was fucking going crazy wild. He's smoking,
Speaker 3: drinking and he's like, yo, like, I think if the
Speaker 3: fun girls past a certain age, they're just having a
Speaker 3: great time in waiting for love. Like I think girls
Speaker 3: can go out have a great time beat you know,
Speaker 3: not even in the streets, but just like go enjoy
Speaker 3: your life till I show up.
Speaker 1: And he literally was like because I hate.
Speaker 3: A bitchess, motherfucking house Like, bitch, you could be fucking
Speaker 3: niggas every time every weekend.
Speaker 1: You ain't no better.
Speaker 4: You invite him niggas over drinking tea in the Hennessy Hello,
Speaker 4: watching the Netflix and he said, robe and linguery.
Speaker 3: I wanted to share this for the single ladies because
Speaker 3: I said, tell me what about her fun girl?
Speaker 1: Shit didn't bother you?
Speaker 3: He said, well, we shared some stories and I will
Speaker 3: say and this to me is a society thing. He's like,
Speaker 3: all her little host shit was before we moved to
Speaker 3: the same city. So I don't really feel like i'd
Speaker 3: have to run into them niggas, which in the clip
Speaker 3: you were saying men care with society things say dociety community.
Speaker 3: He's like, I don't really feel like I have to
Speaker 3: run into them niggas. He said too, the most attractive
Speaker 3: thing about me to her her to me was if
Speaker 3: I had to be in a city for work or whatever,
Speaker 3: to go over homegirl about there, like, let me know
Speaker 3: how I might pull up, And he was like, and
Speaker 3: it was just such an independence, like I didn't need
Speaker 3: to like, uh, hold her hand through life. He was like,
Speaker 3: I loved knowing we could both meet in our thirties
Speaker 3: and it's bitched and did some shit.
Speaker 1: Oh, we just had this conversation.
Speaker 3: I said, if you come with me to work, or
Speaker 3: I come with you to work, hopefully it's the city
Speaker 3: that I help someone. If you have to be on set,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna let you don't go on to link my
Speaker 3: home girl, let me know what you've done being out
Speaker 3: with your little ector friends.
Speaker 4: Like, I think that it's great, but I think when
Speaker 4: you get older, there's a sense of existing within community friendship.
Speaker 1: Professional that becomes separate.
Speaker 4: I think in your twenties you look for someone to
Speaker 4: make you whole and for someone to come so much
Speaker 4: of a unit that when you're in your thirties and
Speaker 4: forties and beyond, you're able to be like, just come in,
Speaker 4: make me better. We can enjoy things together, but we're
Speaker 4: gonna have other things we have to enjoy separately as well.
Speaker 1: Now are you ready for the third thing? What's the
Speaker 1: third thing?
Speaker 3: This is gonna be a testing one because my questions
Speaker 3: are like, what made you want to lock it down?
Speaker 1: This one?
Speaker 3: I feel like niggas ain't gonna lie. But this is
Speaker 3: coming from a man late thirties. I'll just say that
Speaker 3: I don't want to give too much, but well seasoned
Speaker 3: in the dating game and a man that a lot
Speaker 3: of women want. He said his current fiance Okay, made
Speaker 3: it very clear he was not the only man she
Speaker 3: was dating, which is what I just did.
Speaker 1: And she said, Hey, if.
Speaker 3: You decide that, like, at some point you may want
Speaker 3: to take this relationship to another level, we need to
Speaker 3: have a conversation about that because I have commitments with
Speaker 3: other people too.
Speaker 1: Bitch. I remember when he told me this, But he
Speaker 1: doesn't ever telling me, but I do. He was like,
Speaker 1: what was whole trying to tell me?
Speaker 3: She fucking other niggas Like like, I get like act
Speaker 3: like I can't really want her like that, and I'm like, oh,
Speaker 3: when you told me about it, you was just like,
Speaker 3: I don't give a fuck, bitch, And he was like, oh,
Speaker 3: of course I gave a fuck. Like niggas is sweating
Speaker 3: over there when they find out you have someone else
Speaker 3: speaking your interest. Did I tell you about the birthday gift?
Speaker 3: And yeahs toget with my boyfriend. He said, I know
Speaker 3: you told me a nigga got you a door bag
Speaker 3: to rub in my face. He said, you said that
Speaker 3: to make me mad, and I was like, honestly to
Speaker 3: make you, but you ain't giving me a birthday yet.
Speaker 1: Let's get into.
Speaker 3: Reactionary okay, Oh no, I got a hypothetic, Oh, hypothetical
Speaker 3: to this. Let's do it hypothetically speaking, really simple one,
Speaker 3: but it's a good one, okay. Would you rather be
Speaker 3: wealthy but only be able to walk everywhere?
Speaker 1: Okay?
Speaker 3: Or be broke and be able to travel however you want?
Speaker 1: First off, how do fuck up and to walk from
Speaker 1: here to New York? Bitch? What type of walking is
Speaker 1: we doing so? Basically? Okay, so here we go.
Speaker 4: I'm gonna bring back a horrible decisions answer and say
Speaker 4: I'd rather be broke and find my way to be
Speaker 4: able to travel wherever.
Speaker 1: He too, and he does, pussy gonna do? It's sang
Speaker 1: because I don't want to build a compound. What are
Speaker 1: we talking about? And now I have will walk to
Speaker 1: the club.
Speaker 4: Wait a second, walking everywhere? Hold no, no, no, let
Speaker 4: me tell you New York spoils us.
Speaker 1: It makes you believe you could walk and get places.
Speaker 1: I'm in Atlanta.
Speaker 4: Now it'll say seven minute car ride, so I'm like, oh, bitch,
Speaker 4: let me see, bitch, fifty one minute.
Speaker 1: Know like what I think? It's the up down? I
Speaker 1: don't know what it is there ain't it ain't dead terrain.
Speaker 3: No, the last time I stayed at this you get
Speaker 3: down here? Who was Starbucks?
Speaker 1: Bitch?
Speaker 3: It was a uphill and I know the staircase like
Speaker 3: you like plot.
Speaker 1: You want to know what problem is?
Speaker 3: You don't go above mid tell because bitch, if you
Speaker 3: went up to the heights, it'd be hilly up in
Speaker 3: the heights.
Speaker 1: I don't even know that is Washington Heights. D I
Speaker 1: thought you meant no, I'm talking about New York, now, bitch.
Speaker 3: Atlanta hasn't midtown, okay, girl, I'm talking about the heights
Speaker 3: in New York.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Okay, it's hilly up there. I know. All
Speaker 1: I know is it go from seven minute drive to
Speaker 1: fifty one minute walk. Bitch? Who you talk?
Speaker 3: Know that? I genuinely not even in like the most
Speaker 3: country way. You're Brooklyn or nothing.
Speaker 1: It's barely cunty for you, for sure.
Speaker 3: I just it feels far if I live below first
Speaker 3: and first, why am I going into the hundreds?
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go to Brooklyn? That sounds okay, continue with
Speaker 1: your cuntiness.
Speaker 3: Anyway, Okay, reactionary. I saw this clip clip, bitch, yeah,
Speaker 3: but I was surprised that your reaction.
Speaker 1: And you know my reaction. We talked about it in
Speaker 1: the car. I was like, did you see this? Okay?
Speaker 3: Okay, I feel a few ways. I talked about the hierarchy. Girl,
Speaker 3: play a clip first and then let's talk about it.
Speaker 1: Plight a clip again. You and your husband and your
Speaker 1: child go out on your sailboat. Okay, a sailboat get
Speaker 1: shut is sinking?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Who are you going to say? The child or your husband. Look,
Speaker 1: I would choose my child's father because we can make
Speaker 1: more children. Gosh, that's insane, man. I mean, it doesn't
Speaker 1: matter how many times I've listened to it. She says it.
Speaker 1: Here's the thing. She doesn't hesitate, she doesn't like ponder.
Speaker 1: She says it with her full chest. She's choosing the
Speaker 1: father of her child. One thing, if I'm that kid,
Speaker 1: I'm not getting on the sailboat.
Speaker 2: I just don't understand how you could live with yourself
Speaker 2: after you let your child drowned.
Speaker 1: She said, they can have more. That's insane. Okay. One
Speaker 1: of the things she said, it's just kind of scary. Wait,
Speaker 1: what she really said was butt them key? Really is okay,
Speaker 1: don't read the comments.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: I got my whole thoughts on this.
Speaker 3: It's haply one of those women whose daughter comes and says,
Speaker 3: my mom's boyfriend doing something, and she will believe her
Speaker 3: man over the gid.
Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, here's the thing. Oh and when
Speaker 1: I saw this clip, it was very clear to me.
Speaker 3: Oh wait, wait wait, because one thing she said that
Speaker 3: we didn't have any hair. Yes, she said we can
Speaker 3: make another kid. No, she said that I heard that
Speaker 3: is if we can't get another husband, keep going okay.
Speaker 1: So her saying this response was very telling because when.
Speaker 4: I heard it, bitch, I agreed just a little bit
Speaker 4: to the sentiment that I do not have the biological
Speaker 4: connection to a child.
Speaker 3: She spoke about this as a motherless woman. She or
Speaker 3: a childless woman.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry.
Speaker 4: She spoke of this as a childless woman, someone who
Speaker 4: probably has not grown whatever connection it is to being
Speaker 4: a mom and a mother, a mother two children. She
Speaker 4: spoke of it as men are probably her universe, which
Speaker 4: a lot of men are two women.
Speaker 1: By the way, we still want to talk with you,
Speaker 1: doctor Sarah. Sure, sure would love to have you on.
Speaker 4: I also think this sounds very much like this is
Speaker 4: my answer, because there's the long drawn hypothetical of when
Speaker 4: you cook a meal, who gets fed first your kids?
Speaker 1: To me, though, I think you should feed your husband.
Speaker 1: You feed your husband first.
Speaker 4: So to me, as someone maybe with no kids, if
Speaker 4: she has kids, bitch, come on and tell me how
Speaker 4: you have a child and you came up to this.
Speaker 1: But to me, this sounds a lot like I'm gonna
Speaker 1: feed my husband first then the kids. This sounds like
Speaker 1: I'm gonna save my husband for there.
Speaker 3: So as far as feeding first, right, I understand my
Speaker 3: mom was a housewife and my dad is not a
Speaker 3: controlling man.
Speaker 1: You know, my daddy's not a get the dinner, nothing
Speaker 1: in him is like that.
Speaker 3: But I understood why we prioritize daddy because he worked
Speaker 3: all day. Okay, So it's like when my dad was
Speaker 3: coming home in this family dynamic, right, Maybe in some
Speaker 3: that doesn't work, but yeah, Like I would help my
Speaker 3: mom set the table. My dad sits at the head
Speaker 3: of the table, and she would serve his food. To
Speaker 3: me though, that's the thing. Your mom was a housewife. Uh,
Speaker 3: your dad provided paid all the.
Speaker 1: Bills to me. There's no way you're saying that nigga
Speaker 1: need to be to me. There's no way a woman.
Speaker 3: Who who splits fifty fifty has that same conscious to feed,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean. I think the fifty to
Speaker 3: fifty conversation is an interesting one because for some reason
Speaker 3: we placed monetary value on gender roles.
Speaker 1: I we really do think heart of hearts.
Speaker 3: There's nothing wrong with even if you're fifty to fifty
Speaker 3: and you want to serve, if you cook in the meal.
Speaker 3: If my man is cooking for me, he's probably going
Speaker 3: to serve me before the gays, right, like I'm going
Speaker 3: to expe fact, you put the plate down in front
Speaker 3: of me first, in front of an adult if kids
Speaker 3: don't even eat as much the little basket right?
Speaker 1: Sorry, but no, sorry, the blessings. That was the wrong
Speaker 1: b word, the blessing. I will say what was disappointing?
Speaker 3: Uh?
Speaker 1: She said to my child's father instead of husband, she
Speaker 1: labeled him like a baby daddy. She did.
Speaker 3: I think that was just interesting because I was just like, okay,
Speaker 3: I even get the biblical sense of husband. But if
Speaker 3: I had to save anyone two people in the street,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna pick the youngest. Can I tell you, I'm
Speaker 3: want to pick the youngest person if I don't know you,
Speaker 3: if I got one hand to pull you up from
Speaker 3: a mountain, I'm probably gonna pick the youngest.
Speaker 1: So I don't even like kids like that. You've lived
Speaker 1: your life, nigga.
Speaker 3: The reason why I probably would go with the kids,
Speaker 3: uh huh is because.
Speaker 1: You paid for this trip.
Speaker 3: I know you did.
Speaker 4: Because you the husband. You didn't get us the premium
Speaker 4: v IP tickets to where we get the lifeboats. It
Speaker 4: made me think of Titanic, Like you know how Titanic
Speaker 4: many it was the word right now.
Speaker 3: I don't give a fuck you know how I was
Speaker 3: like women and children, but it was really the upper
Speaker 3: class people who got the boats first.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just watched it on a plane.
Speaker 3: You're raggedy ass. Got us basics that we're now in
Speaker 3: the water drowning.
Speaker 1: But you know what what else is even crazier? I'm
Speaker 1: saving the children.
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna hold you. The nigga got too much pressure.
Speaker 3: Now my kid do gotta come out and be aubert.
Speaker 3: I sign for fucking right, Okay, nigga. One day five
Speaker 3: years later, y'all go, Maybe you get pregnant in whatever
Speaker 3: he gonna see a bit ship.
Speaker 1: Look good? Hey you could have had y'all make me back? Wait,
Speaker 1: you know what? Can I ask you a problem? Can
Speaker 1: I ask you now a problematic question? What? Okay, this
Speaker 1: is real problematic, y'all. Don't cancel me for this question.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, So you and your partner really love
Speaker 1: each other.
Speaker 4: The boat is sinking and your kid is back as fuck,
Speaker 4: and you you feel like no your kid ate might
Speaker 4: be he just a fun up kid, like you know
Speaker 4: when kids are bad as fuck?
Speaker 1: Or maybe your kid ugly and You're like, we're gonna
Speaker 1: try to get on.
Speaker 3: This and just want like what if you really love
Speaker 3: your partner and your kid is like, we need to
Speaker 3: do over anyway? What did you think?
Speaker 1: You know what I mean, drown him, not drowning them.
Speaker 3: Yeah, way, I don't have to pay for extra tutors anymore,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean. I'm saying sure, And our
Speaker 3: topic today is the history of blow job.
Speaker 1: So you don't have kids?
Speaker 4: That is crazy, that's right, swallow, don't spit. Sorry, back
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Speaker 1: Paton this way to kid kids are swallowing them. So
Speaker 1: the history of the blow job is interesting.
Speaker 3: One the first time there's no way there's real history
Speaker 3: on this. Well, it's just however it's accounted in time.
Speaker 3: This ship is crazy. The first documented blow job was
Speaker 3: w was when a person was resurrected. Wait wait wait
Speaker 3: wait wait a nigga died, came back to life and
Speaker 3: a god bitch you liath the Egyptian god king Osiris
Speaker 3: Egypt I knew it was Egypt always is and his
Speaker 3: sister turned wife Isis Osiris and isis, so his sister.
Speaker 3: He was murdered, chopped up into pieces by his brother.
Speaker 3: His wife Isis put his body back together, but unfortunately
Speaker 3: couldn't find the penis.
Speaker 1: So what did she do?
Speaker 3: She crafted a makeshift makeshift dick out of clay, stuck
Speaker 3: it into his crotch, blew it, and molded it with
Speaker 3: her mouth by sucking his clay penis.
Speaker 1: This is documented, I am.
Speaker 3: Not wait, so she had she was sucking clay, yes,
Speaker 3: and this is all which I don't even I don't
Speaker 3: even want to suck a condom which was a fucking
Speaker 3: bud over a.
Speaker 1: It's called the osiris myth. You can look it up.
Speaker 3: She restored the old sorry's myth, so it could be fake.
Speaker 3: It's a myth, oh, I mean it's the first documented thought. Okay,
Speaker 3: so yeah, basically anything documented could be a myth. But
Speaker 3: they're just saying it was really documented, you know what.
Speaker 3: So another interesting thing about the history of the blow job, right,
Speaker 3: it used to be used ooh, sorry, just skipped it.
Speaker 1: The term.
Speaker 3: Was referred to felatio at first, and we knew that
Speaker 3: the Greeks come up with all these words.
Speaker 1: Latin means to suck.
Speaker 3: However, Shakespeare said that to blow meant the orgasm, so
Speaker 3: an orgasm that makes you That was a Shakespearean term,
Speaker 3: and then the term blow job became something.
Speaker 1: Fi because it's work. The job was easy, that was
Speaker 1: the easy part. Bits so tired am I getting paid
Speaker 1: for not going to hold you?
Speaker 3: It's one of them exhausting things, enjoyball exhausting.
Speaker 1: No, you know what's crazy? It's not that it's not
Speaker 1: that tiring. And what's also?
Speaker 3: Can I ask you a question about this speaking of
Speaker 3: blowjobs and the history of it, not that it's a hypothetical,
Speaker 3: but apparently I gave head so good they got flowers
Speaker 3: that not only that, he told me, he judged me
Speaker 3: a bit of which you can't. You gotta get to see.
Speaker 3: That's what any do, he said, I'll never get a
Speaker 3: great ad.
Speaker 1: No, and I but mind you.
Speaker 3: He talked to his friend about it because he felt
Speaker 3: the way that I sucked his dick so good, like
Speaker 3: where did she learn this? And his friend I had
Speaker 3: to be like, I'm stuck another day, bitch.
Speaker 1: She's almost a decade older than you. Get what the
Speaker 1: fuck it?
Speaker 3: Proverd oh man Man literally said when the first time
Speaker 3: I sucked his dick. He got mad at me a
Speaker 3: little bit because he didn't know why it was so good.
Speaker 1: Girl. I want to know what his ex girlfriend was
Speaker 1: looking like and what they were doing.
Speaker 3: I do know because we talked about it that they're
Speaker 3: both black, darker skin, and thin. So when I be
Speaker 3: throwing it back, I make sure yea yeah, it's like
Speaker 3: but yeah, acting light but yeah. But you know he
Speaker 3: never had no coach boy before, not no country booty. No.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 3: So the blowjobs in ancient Rome was a horrible thing.
Speaker 3: Is even worse than anal sex, and for ancient Romans
Speaker 3: it was anal sex was an unforgivable advice. However, it
Speaker 3: was totally fine to receive a blowjob for a petty crime.
Speaker 3: It was often solved with forceful blowjobs. So imagine, explain
Speaker 3: this to me. What so anal sex was something that
Speaker 3: was like, uh for like you know, forbidden, but they
Speaker 3: would use blowjobs as a punishment. So, for example, how
Speaker 3: is that a punishment for any man? A blowjob is
Speaker 3: not a punishment. So you own an onion field, so
Speaker 3: many onions, and a peasant runs through your field and
Speaker 3: steals the onions. This is documented. Instead of gouging his
Speaker 3: eyes out or having his arm chopped.
Speaker 1: He would get his di suck. That's a punishment, girl.
Speaker 1: You know it's crazy.
Speaker 3: No, no, no, man made that rule made women feel
Speaker 3: bad for even giving it, like ooh, this is only
Speaker 3: for criminals.
Speaker 1: And it said if I commit a crime, you go
Speaker 1: ego by dick.
Speaker 3: Oh for sure, straight men did it in the times
Speaker 3: of Plato and Socrates. Blowjobs were artificially called playing the flute,
Speaker 3: and so Grecians listed up their togas for someone to
Speaker 3: come and play their flute, and it was very common
Speaker 3: for oral sex to be exchanged between men, generally someone
Speaker 3: of power and someone who doesn't have any Now, in
Speaker 3: the nineteenth century, it could get you fucking executed.
Speaker 1: Blowjobs could get you executed.
Speaker 3: Yes, but it says that the history of church going
Speaker 3: people believed it was something that couldn't be done for procreation.
Speaker 1: And I ain't gonna hold you. Let me tell you.
Speaker 1: I know I've been here.
Speaker 2: We go.
Speaker 3: You gotta hear me still talk about the past. Me
Speaker 3: so my Nigerian that I used to be with back
Speaker 3: in the day. If y'all listen to the old episodes,
Speaker 3: y'alla hear about my Nigerian he would not do anything
Speaker 3: sexually except for missionary, but he would not let me
Speaker 3: suck his dick because he thought it was one of
Speaker 3: the most degrading, disrespectful things for women to do. And
Speaker 3: he would not fuck me from the back because he
Speaker 3: believed that during sex we had to look at each other.
Speaker 1: No, he never even tried anal sex. He wanted to
Speaker 1: be able to look at me while we were having sex,
Speaker 1: and he never let me suck his dick. It was
Speaker 1: the easiest trick I ever had. Nigeria.
Speaker 2: No, No, No.
Speaker 3: By the way, I love a city, hold you them.
Speaker 3: Chloe is making me believe burna boy got.
Speaker 1: It down at his ankle and I would just like
Speaker 1: to see it. She just looks high the whole time.
Speaker 1: That's fine. So that means you have good week and
Speaker 1: good good weedy and good dick.
Speaker 3: Did you see the Breakfast Club interview with I just
Speaker 3: want to say we love you on thank you for
Speaker 3: this book when Charlotte made not want to press nobody
Speaker 3: because he fucked with you. He will not press nobody. Lauren, Wow,
Speaker 3: you did not see this clip of No so oh
Speaker 3: wait I did?
Speaker 1: I did?
Speaker 3: Sat Lauren's like, oh what about that? What I mean
Speaker 3: that was journalism, honey, and Charlotte.
Speaker 1: Was just sitting there. But you know, if he wants
Speaker 1: some t even people don't get it.
Speaker 3: He was just like, no, is it because their cousin?
Speaker 3: Someone said, or that was jose cousins.
Speaker 1: I don't know, if you know black and fact, we
Speaker 1: call each other cousin. So I don't know if that
Speaker 1: was just a thing.
Speaker 3: But Chloe had dodged those questions. That's the media training
Speaker 3: our want in life. Let's just say twenty years from now,
Speaker 3: I'm sitting down with an interview. David Letterman's still live,
Speaker 3: and he goes, hey, you know what's crazy. He looked
Speaker 3: like he's like Samuel Jackson. That's the white Samuel Jackson.
Speaker 3: He looked the same old David Letterman has looked old
Speaker 3: as buck since I've known David Letterman.
Speaker 1: Oh and that's Samuel Jackson. I'm gonna tell you what
Speaker 1: I'm crazy. This is Chloe Bailey trailing.
Speaker 3: Now I'm training that I'm gonna take into event. David
Speaker 3: Letterman's gonna suit me the old and be like so
Speaker 3: everyone used to say you and Mandy you change the world,
Speaker 3: but you guys never got along. Could you tell me
Speaker 3: about that, And I'm gonna say we had a great
Speaker 3: run together, we changed lives, we had a book.
Speaker 1: Why you get that now? If you know? I answer now,
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't know the training. It doesn't matter.
Speaker 3: You're saying it right now, nobody else whatever you think
Speaker 3: you know how to motherfucker say saying that, I'll be douging.
Speaker 1: I need media training so twenty years from now, I
Speaker 1: can clean this shit up. What did you just answered
Speaker 1: me with your I really feel like people really don't
Speaker 1: fuck with me like that in the interview, like they
Speaker 1: just that to me is kind of like a shitty question.
Speaker 1: Like today if I.
Speaker 3: Went on the platform, and when we're doing book interviews,
Speaker 3: if someone does that, I just kind of feel like
Speaker 3: like you're doing too much.
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna hold you. Well, we sit down, we
Speaker 1: want to ask the mess I don't give a fuck. Okay,
Speaker 1: don't ask me no goddamn mess.
Speaker 3: So, and that's pr training because I'm gonna tell you
Speaker 3: Tyler's team said don't ask her if she's black. Well,
Speaker 3: you know what, and he didn't read the paper. Ask
Speaker 3: me the messy shit because I love to be a
Speaker 3: little petty. But depending on what the money in my account.
Speaker 3: It depends how much petty I'm gonna be. Baby, don't
Speaker 3: let me just got a deposit.
Speaker 1: Don't bring it up. I'm petty all right, ain't gonna
Speaker 1: bring it up. Don't bring it up. Courthouse Mandy. Oh,
Speaker 1: I can't wait till court is over. Oh, bitch, I
Speaker 1: might come in here singing the huts. Bitch, it's giving.
Speaker 1: I want Hallelujah. Put it Cameron there like a sock
Speaker 1: a sop. Oh, I'm thinking about the soap. I'm not.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 3: My homegirl said, bitch, you want me to show up
Speaker 3: with you? Say you could jump into my arms after
Speaker 3: that shit like asab.
Speaker 1: Dear Rihanna, Is it gonna say big Dowie.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's gonna be sold to say bitch and nat
Speaker 3: trial to cilic. You have to show up, bitch, give
Speaker 3: us one more fucking uh blood. Let me get the
Speaker 3: fuck out of here. Okay, okay, says y'all know we're
Speaker 3: teaching history now.
Speaker 1: Okay, so blow jobs.
Speaker 3: In religion in the Dark Ages, the severity of medieval
Speaker 3: churches created an era that some few would describe as fun,
Speaker 3: because everything was jail, behead you, whatever, so going down
Speaker 3: on someone in the medieval era, fifteen years of jail,
Speaker 3: the same sentence you'd get for committing murders if you
Speaker 3: suck the dick. What. In ancient India, falatio was ritualized.
Speaker 3: The original Sanskrit version of Kama Sutra has an entire
Speaker 3: chapter to the art of blow jobs that said it
Speaker 3: was close to godliness. So one side of the world
Speaker 3: and one side of the world looking.
Speaker 1: At shit different.
Speaker 3: I ain't gonna I like really doing the falatio. We
Speaker 3: know I would risk the fifteen years. I would risk
Speaker 3: you because then I want you could get fialatio in
Speaker 3: jail too.
Speaker 1: Wait, not this jail. It's gonna be woman and then
Speaker 1: it's a dark agent had showers.
Speaker 3: Bitch, Now you got you got mail like the CEO's
Speaker 3: you got dick and Vajohnny you're gonna get they got
Speaker 3: seo has been the things they like. Prostitutes has been
Speaker 3: around since the beginning of prisons times.
Speaker 1: As soon as then was a prison, there was a
Speaker 1: co You know.
Speaker 3: You do it.
Speaker 1: I feel like you just want to pay back your
Speaker 1: time for the CEO's saving you with the phone. Shout
Speaker 1: out to the CEO, Hey were you with your X.
Speaker 3: When this happened, I was and I was mad because
Speaker 3: I'm like, Nigga, you in the system, you was a firefighter,
Speaker 3: Get me out of here. I was in there way
Speaker 3: too long, Beach. I was like, you ain't got that pool.
Speaker 3: I thought you was a white collar blue light show.
Speaker 3: Come on, come on, God damn it.
Speaker 1: Don't you know somebody in here?
Speaker 3: Literally, bro, I'm gonna tell you right now, if I
Speaker 3: go to jail in the next few years, switch, I
Speaker 3: probably will because I'd be ready to fight. I just
Speaker 3: feel like I'm gonna get in there for something scrappy,
Speaker 3: and the second I'm in there, They're gonna have this
Speaker 3: video footage of me getting in the fight at last
Speaker 3: lap some shit, and I'd be like, I don't understand
Speaker 3: why I'm still here. I told you guys take more
Speaker 3: of the money, And I like, why am I here?
Speaker 3: I'm going a full white woman the box break up.
Speaker 3: You hanging by a thread, and I'm gonna be like,
Speaker 3: I don't really, I don't get it. I don't belonging there.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, what, oh my hell me the half
Speaker 3: inche coming out, I will turn into Drake on a
Speaker 3: Kendrick Beach.
Speaker 1: So now idiot. Y'all.
Speaker 3: We are gonna go ahead and get out of here,
Speaker 3: but before we do, we want to leave y'all a
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Speaker 3: Okay, we're gonna keep you here for the horror pettiness
Speaker 3: is really hurt.
Speaker 4: A bitch got a deposit, Okay, you know. Anyways, thank
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