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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Decisions Decisions. I don't think you should say

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<v Speaker 1>the Decisions. It sounded like you was talking to Kursky.

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<v Speaker 3>You definitely say to welcome, Welcome to the new podcast

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<v Speaker 3>how about you want to say together the Decisions Decisions.

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<v Speaker 4>Welcome guys to another episode of Decisions Decisions.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm your girl, Mandy.

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<v Speaker 3>V Mandy is geek, y'all, don't do that, y We

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<v Speaker 3>had a great photo shoot today. I woke up at

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<v Speaker 3>five in the morning for this shit. I'm over it.

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<v Speaker 3>But bitch, let me tell you how over it I am. Yo,

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<v Speaker 3>Nigga sent you flowers. My nigga heard me getting upset

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<v Speaker 3>on the phone and said, I'm flying down there.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yes, that's cute. It's cute.

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<v Speaker 3>But like, bitch, don't script, no, no, no, I ain't even

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<v Speaker 3>hold you.

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<v Speaker 4>So I just spent two days with my boyfriend. We

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<v Speaker 4>were working on the West Coast, and so after our shoot,

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<v Speaker 4>we just had a five hour cover shoot.

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<v Speaker 1>Y'o. We're cover girls. I love it. We'll give you

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<v Speaker 1>with the We'll give you guys updates on.

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<v Speaker 4>That when we can. But so I get a call.

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<v Speaker 4>I said, first off, who this? I don't even I

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<v Speaker 4>ain't answering six, seven.

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<v Speaker 3>Eight, fol foe, none of these numbers, because what fuck

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<v Speaker 3>is you calling?

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<v Speaker 1>Anyways, I answer it.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm at We have just enough time to eat before

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<v Speaker 4>we came to the studio and so I'm at the

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<v Speaker 4>Ruth Chris getting the stuffed chicken because that's what a

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<v Speaker 4>bitch orders, and this person calls me. It's like, I

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<v Speaker 4>have a flower delivery for you, and I'm like a

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<v Speaker 4>flower delivery, bitch, so where I live.

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<v Speaker 1>Can't find it.

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<v Speaker 4>So I'm like, you know what, come to Ruth Chris

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<v Speaker 4>and drop these flowers off.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm talking to our manager Alex, and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>I noticed nigga showing out.

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<v Speaker 3>I literally say, listen for the audio listeners. Let me

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<v Speaker 3>smells beautiful white, mind you literally roses and all the things.

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<v Speaker 3>It says, Mandy, you sucked my dicks. That is not

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<v Speaker 3>what it says. Okay, it says my cover girl, mind you.

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<v Speaker 3>He tags it ab because he's like, I know you

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<v Speaker 3>like to post on the internet and I know I'm active.

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<v Speaker 4>So the last time he sent me flowers, bitch, they

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<v Speaker 4>didn't have the note. So he's like, not David, like

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<v Speaker 4>this is my nigga.

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<v Speaker 1>No, no, no, no.

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<v Speaker 3>He was like, what the fuck do you mean they

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<v Speaker 3>didn't have the news And I'm like, I ain't see

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<v Speaker 3>no notes.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm glad you told me.

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<v Speaker 3>This feeling about that I don't give a fuck, and

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<v Speaker 3>he's like, what do you mean there was no note.

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<v Speaker 3>I specifically signed it activate because I know you'd be

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<v Speaker 3>on the internet and you want to pass it. So

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<v Speaker 3>he literally is like, he signed it activate specifically the

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<v Speaker 3>last time he sent me flowers because you know how

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<v Speaker 3>he posted it on the internet.

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<v Speaker 1>And me say, you activated. I don't know if you

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<v Speaker 1>listened to the show.

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<v Speaker 4>No no, no, no, he don't. Well I told him

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<v Speaker 4>he can't. No no, no, no, tell you right now, Nicole.

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<v Speaker 1>You're starting strong.

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<v Speaker 4>No no, no, always got two flowers and you're not gonna lie.

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<v Speaker 1>Almost too strong to it.

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<v Speaker 4>So I'm at dinner, I'm like, I just noticed nigga

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<v Speaker 4>did not send me no flowers, So I get the flower.

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<v Speaker 1>Mind y'all.

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<v Speaker 4>If you guys are not on Patreon, subscribe bitch, because

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<v Speaker 4>I give y all a tea. Patreon dot com backslash

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<v Speaker 4>horrible decisions, and in Vegas when he tried to get

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<v Speaker 4>jealous at the other nigga hit in my line right,

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<v Speaker 4>I literally told him I'm nominated in Walking a Red

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<v Speaker 4>Carpet and my homegirl brought me flowers.

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<v Speaker 1>You didn't even bring me flowers? Yeah, old you.

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<v Speaker 3>He gonna spend at sixty nine flowers elbow. When I

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<v Speaker 3>tell you he sent me flowers, y'all heard a couple

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<v Speaker 3>of weeks ago when he came to see me in Atlanta,

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<v Speaker 3>and now to get these, I literally called him, like

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<v Speaker 3>you show it out me. I literally honestly getting flowers

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<v Speaker 3>at Ruth Chris while you have mad makeup on.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just like I was like Beyonce. I literally called

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<v Speaker 1>him like you is showing out thank you.

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<v Speaker 3>It was really sweet. Honestly, I think it really just

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<v Speaker 3>goes to show.

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<v Speaker 1>If he he will hold on. That's the day of

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<v Speaker 1>this episode. Do you know what's crazy?

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<v Speaker 4>If you guys, and this is not an ad because

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<v Speaker 4>we don't already got our check, but one of them

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<v Speaker 4>days with Kiki Balmer, and they started the first dialogue.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know if y'all ever read the script if

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<v Speaker 4>you watch it, because now it's streaming the very first

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<v Speaker 4>line that said.

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<v Speaker 1>If he if he wants to, they started in a diner.

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<v Speaker 3>While they're sitting at the diner, it is two other

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<v Speaker 3>people having a conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>And when I tell you that stuck up out to me.

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<v Speaker 4>It's almost like a sign if he wants to, he

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<v Speaker 4>will mind you the conversation like when I told him like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>there's other niggas that want me, Like we had the

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<v Speaker 4>conversation about all that, and I think he literally he

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<v Speaker 4>told me he was like, I felt like I was

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<v Speaker 4>going to lose you if I didn't step up and

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<v Speaker 4>do the things you said you wanted.

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<v Speaker 1>He bitch he doing here.

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<v Speaker 3>He very afraid you're losing me. So I'm just like,

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<v Speaker 3>woke up. He adores me.

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<v Speaker 1>We're watching the season finale together of Paradise, and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just like, how do you watch it together? So you

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<v Speaker 1>play yet? So we'll text each other.

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<v Speaker 3>So last night we were supposed to watch it when

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<v Speaker 3>we landed, but his flight got delayed, mine got delayed.

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<v Speaker 3>I said, Babe, I have a whole fucking shoot day tomorrow.

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<v Speaker 1>Ye not staying up. Let's watch it tomorrow.

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<v Speaker 3>And so I text him and I'm like, let's watch

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<v Speaker 3>it tomorrow.

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<v Speaker 4>So how we watch a show together? Because I said

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<v Speaker 4>we have to watch shows together. We'll tell each other

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<v Speaker 4>when we're gonna start because we're three hours different, so

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<v Speaker 4>we have to make sure we're both at home. So

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<v Speaker 4>I'll be like, Okay, tell me when to start, and

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<v Speaker 4>I'll be like Okay, talk to you in fifty seven minutes.

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<v Speaker 4>Well press play at the same time, we'll text each

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<v Speaker 4>other through.

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<v Speaker 3>Didn't you say there was a dude you want on

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<v Speaker 3>a date with that?

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<v Speaker 1>Why are you bringing up another nigga? No, grandma, talking

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<v Speaker 1>about the one that I'm dating right now. Don't use

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<v Speaker 1>okay program.

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<v Speaker 4>There is a computer program. So I did have a

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<v Speaker 4>virtual date where basically he was given a code. If

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<v Speaker 4>you buy a movie, you share the code and you're

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<v Speaker 4>able to watch it at.

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<v Speaker 1>The same nigga. That's fine. Oh it was fire. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>not only that he sent me like I he sent

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<v Speaker 1>me snacks to watch it with him.

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<v Speaker 4>But we're not gonna talk about another nigga right now

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<v Speaker 4>because I got a boyfriend. So you think your ex

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<v Speaker 4>boyfriend's watching this and listening, but you don't want to

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<v Speaker 4>tell that you already know. Okay, y'all since, by the way,

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<v Speaker 4>friends have suggested not to share this. Oh that don't no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 4>They only suggested because he's a narcissist, so he may

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know what he would get from this, but

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<v Speaker 4>I didn't respond yet and it's because hold on, so

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<v Speaker 4>can I tell okay, So let me let me tell

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<v Speaker 4>y'all the backstory. So Weezy and I were in the

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<v Speaker 4>studio in New York.

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<v Speaker 1>Bulken one day after I said hold on, you gotta say.

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<v Speaker 4>So, so Weezy, So we did back to back days, right,

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<v Speaker 4>actually we did three days back to back. So Weezye

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<v Speaker 4>and I are in the studio and we're both like, che'sing, Oh,

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<v Speaker 4>we got boyfriends.

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<v Speaker 1>Hopefully y'all still say here because y'all hate when we happy.

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<v Speaker 4>Anyways, So she's like, you know what, I wonder which

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<v Speaker 4>one of our exes is going to hit us first?

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<v Speaker 4>And so we're sitting here having this conversation. I'm like, bitch,

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>The next day we go into the studio, we record

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<v Speaker 1>two episodes.

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<v Speaker 3>We're on our last one. Bitch, it is three thirty

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<v Speaker 3>eight pm. That was so crazy, I say, bitch, I

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<v Speaker 3>notice sing what the fun I don't think it should?

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<v Speaker 1>I say, come to Manifest? Hold get one hundred million

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<v Speaker 1>dollars deal? Hold on, no, no, no? When going to happened?

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<v Speaker 3>The first day or second day, we find out we're

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<v Speaker 3>a New York Times bestseller?

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<v Speaker 1>I thank you? Keep going? What else you want a Manifest?

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<v Speaker 4>I like the New York Times bestsellers. Y'all know holds

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<v Speaker 4>bar to do a manifest on sexual as next shore.

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<v Speaker 1>It gonna be bo.

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<v Speaker 4>So anyways, we're recording Bitch my Heart sink fuck nigga.

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<v Speaker 4>I get a fucking email from my ex. Now listen.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know if the nigga in the blogs, if

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<v Speaker 4>he's a patron, if he saw my Instagram live.

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<v Speaker 1>Jagging about my new boyfriend. I don't know what it is.

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<v Speaker 1>But literally, while I'm in New York.

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<v Speaker 3>Probably a week after I announced that I'm in a relationship,

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<v Speaker 3>I get an email.

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<v Speaker 1>Should I read it?

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<v Speaker 3>I could go through it quick only because we see

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<v Speaker 3>real messy. We probably shouldn't do this, but we're gonna

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<v Speaker 3>do it anyway. Let's read No, no, no, it's I

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<v Speaker 3>could read through a pass.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh no, we want a long bitch. So god, wait,

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<v Speaker 1>are you sure you want to do this?

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<v Speaker 4>And do because I'm gonna tell you because I'm not

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<v Speaker 4>responding now, I'm gonna respond publicly because he's probably listening,

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<v Speaker 4>probably watching.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh you guys, we are going to respond to my

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<v Speaker 1>ex publicly. Are you ready? By the way, Dwayne, maybe

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<v Speaker 1>put the violin music to the back of this.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's sound design this ship, and you know what I

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<v Speaker 3>would say, sorry, but sorry about the fact that you

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<v Speaker 3>lied about having cancer, because I'll never forget.

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<v Speaker 1>Keep going subject line gratitude.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh bitch, Hey, I hope this finds you in good

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<v Speaker 4>health and happiness. I'm sitting and do I'm sitting in

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<v Speaker 4>deep reflection about our time together, and the word quote

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<v Speaker 4>unquote gratitude keeps coming to the forefront of my mind.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm grateful to have you enter into my life at

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<v Speaker 4>the time that you did. I wasn't whole when you

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<v Speaker 4>met me. I sincerely appreciate the love that you shared

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<v Speaker 4>with me. I didn't know that I needed it at

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<v Speaker 4>the time.

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<v Speaker 1>I continue to.

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<v Speaker 3>Pray that my presence in your life will be more

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<v Speaker 3>than a wound that doesn't heal.

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<v Speaker 1>Pray.

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<v Speaker 4>There are many things that I wish I did differently

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<v Speaker 4>with you and I it's ironic that you introduced me

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<v Speaker 4>to the Nude Beach because I've always been a man

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<v Speaker 4>who was too afraid to fully reveal myself to others.

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<v Speaker 4>You gave me courage to grow in a way that

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<v Speaker 4>I doubt I would have ever. Instead, I probably would

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<v Speaker 4>have taken my fears to the grave with me. Although

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<v Speaker 4>I'm still an introvert who keeps his deepest pains and

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<v Speaker 4>fears himself.

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<v Speaker 1>I am trying to be a better man to the world.

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<v Speaker 4>Although you were decades younger than me, you are light

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<v Speaker 4>years ahead of me and living fearlessly.

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<v Speaker 1>Please know that there were many things.

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<v Speaker 4>That I was too afraid to share with you at

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<v Speaker 4>the time, and even now, my coping mechanisms were never

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<v Speaker 4>righteous or honest. The wake of pain that I left

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<v Speaker 4>behind makes me ashamed more than you could ever imagine.

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<v Speaker 4>Please know that you are loved, You are appreciated, You

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<v Speaker 4>are beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>You deserve the best.

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<v Speaker 4>I wish you heard this. You let's avoid in my

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<v Speaker 4>life because you are one of a kind. Gratitude is

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<v Speaker 4>how I forever remember you from this point on. Sincerely, Blank,

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<v Speaker 4>Keep shining. So I would like you to know Blank,

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<v Speaker 4>that I sent this to my current partner and we

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<v Speaker 4>had a conversation about I did. I sent it to

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<v Speaker 4>my therapist, and I sent it to two of my

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<v Speaker 4>dearest best friends. Shout out Antonette, shout out Crystal and Honorary.

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<v Speaker 1>Shout out to Britain.

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<v Speaker 4>So I sent this, yes to the people, as well

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<v Speaker 4>as write it to the room when you sent it

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<v Speaker 4>and the consensus was that you heard that I was

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<v Speaker 4>finally happy. I want to share too, that many times

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<v Speaker 4>in our relationship you said that I would never find

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<v Speaker 4>better than you guy, no job. So my response to you,

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<v Speaker 4>mind you. I battled with responding to this email for days,

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<v Speaker 4>but I was so busy, didn't even have the time.

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<v Speaker 4>Let's be honest.

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<v Speaker 1>We were traveling, working all the things. That was my

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<v Speaker 1>first reaction too. I think he knows.

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<v Speaker 3>So I don't know if you know that I have

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<v Speaker 3>someone right now that completely adores me, that we spent

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<v Speaker 3>time getting to know each other, that supports all of

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<v Speaker 3>my endeavors, that supports me and only wants to see

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<v Speaker 3>me rise and climb.

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<v Speaker 4>But my response to you is thanks, but no thanks.

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<v Speaker 4>I have found the person that you thought I would

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<v Speaker 4>never find, and I want you to know that I

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<v Speaker 4>always deserved what I thought I deserved, that you were

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<v Speaker 4>always incapable of giving.

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<v Speaker 1>And what that said? Pleasy? What's your ketchup? You know?

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<v Speaker 1>Not you grabbing the teeth from me? Bitch? I was

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<v Speaker 1>That was not a part of my life. I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>say it. I said no to late. No, you you

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<v Speaker 1>knew what you were doing, you were producing. It's okay.

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<v Speaker 4>AnyWho don't email me again. I will never be with

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<v Speaker 4>you again. And I deserve the world. And if anything,

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<v Speaker 4>that thank you was a thankfulness and gratitude that I

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<v Speaker 4>saw everything that I don't deserve.

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<v Speaker 1>It just a little today, little day and I get away.

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<v Speaker 3>Let me tell you, niggas, hey when fine, skinny airy,

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<v Speaker 3>Let's be very clear.

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<v Speaker 1>Definitely was getting await with ass. But can we can

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<v Speaker 1>we also talk about the spidy senses?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh no, no, no.

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<v Speaker 1>When I look back at our pictures, I had.

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<v Speaker 3>Love weight on me with that nigga, but also pandemic weight,

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<v Speaker 3>so probably wasn't even love what nigga was pandemic weight.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe because you were with him so long you lost weight.

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<v Speaker 1>I lost waiting to gain weight again.

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<v Speaker 3>But the spidey senses of it all, You're right, he

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<v Speaker 3>it's either spidy senses or he heard it.

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<v Speaker 1>You believe spidy senses exists.

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<v Speaker 3>I think I think if I had an ex that

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<v Speaker 3>I could have access to to see what they're doing

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<v Speaker 3>and what they're up to romantically every week, I would

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<v Speaker 3>you would, Yes, I would. I don't think I would

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<v Speaker 3>do it for a long time. But if I miss you,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna just look bitch. We broke up a year

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<v Speaker 3>and a half ago, almost two years ago. That's not

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<v Speaker 3>that long ago, maybe maybe two years. You talk about

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<v Speaker 3>him often when whenever you're angry about it, you want

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<v Speaker 3>to vent about it. So I would want to know

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<v Speaker 3>what they're saying about, not only that.

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<v Speaker 4>You ready, and I know some of you bitches sucking

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<v Speaker 4>his dick. Listen to this motherfucking podcast because you no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm so scared to bring my partner out to wear

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<v Speaker 4>a fan season because he cheated on me. Four of

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<v Speaker 4>the b just three of them were fans to where

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<v Speaker 4>they were like, I can't believe you were with her,

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<v Speaker 4>and then he had the nerve to say, they're not

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<v Speaker 4>really your fans.

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<v Speaker 1>They don't like you because they're sucking your dick and

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<v Speaker 1>they're confused why you love me? Yeah you already.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I'm gonna cut I cut that out of that

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<v Speaker 3>episode because wait, did you?

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<v Speaker 1>I did? But I don't share enough of you.

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<v Speaker 3>But basically it's just that whole energy of like why

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<v Speaker 3>not me? You know what I'm saying, And I realized,

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<v Speaker 3>like feeding it really is the problem because I really

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<v Speaker 3>am happy, but sometimes I'm just bored and I feel

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<v Speaker 3>like cussing these holes out.

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<v Speaker 1>But wait, what's up with me? Oh? Fun story? Let me.

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<v Speaker 2>H?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh do that noise again? Mandy?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, I have a story for you, buddy.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh wait, did you hear me? Fucking girl?

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<v Speaker 2>No?

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<v Speaker 3>So no, we had a gig in Denver, man for well,

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<v Speaker 3>it probably is out now right, No, it's out.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Oh wait it's out now? Do you have a

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<v Speaker 1>rock hatch?

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<v Speaker 3>Just on?

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<v Speaker 1>We got time to talk? Yeah? Is that what it is?

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<v Speaker 1>We got time today? We got time today, av that

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<v Speaker 1>was so much fun to be We.

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<v Speaker 4>Were waiting Don Sanders and Rocky Dspo on a two

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<v Speaker 4>who would have.

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<v Speaker 1>Nomina a bit?

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<v Speaker 3>So they had a business class flights, two flights ground transport.

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<v Speaker 1>It's the lanies and a sweet beet hello.

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<v Speaker 3>So uh, basically Mandy's man is in La So it

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<v Speaker 3>makes so much sense to No, I didn't give a

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<v Speaker 3>fuck by the way you say that, I didn't give

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<v Speaker 3>a fun that nigga was in tim Buck two.

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<v Speaker 1>If he was in Europe.

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<v Speaker 3>All I knew was I had two flights on somebody else.

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<v Speaker 3>I said, bang, come on, clear your schedule, you're coming

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<v Speaker 3>to Denver.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, so, uh what happened? Oh yeah, Mandy had time

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<v Speaker 1>so mad, they put your room next to mine, bitch.

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<v Speaker 1>I was very confused. I was like, what fu so anyway?

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<v Speaker 1>But luckily so my flights at five am? Right, oh

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<v Speaker 1>you were so. I fell asleep around ten, right before

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<v Speaker 1>I go to bed. I said to my nigga, oh.

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<v Speaker 3>The way, I didn't even tell you. Mandy's room is

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<v Speaker 3>behind me, and he said so. I was like her

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<v Speaker 3>man's were hurt.

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<v Speaker 1>So he starts laughing. He's like, what do you think

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<v Speaker 1>she about to be loud? And I was like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I do. I waked up that one. No, maybe not one.

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<v Speaker 1>I woke up at like eleven thirty. I can't hear

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<v Speaker 1>that much in this video. Wait, you did not. You

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<v Speaker 1>didn't know. I can't you did not. I WoT Mandy,

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<v Speaker 1>you woke me up. So I just took a video

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<v Speaker 1>of you laughing. You look at you laughing. You can't

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<v Speaker 1>hear much. I just think I heard you come. And

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<v Speaker 1>then he said, but I went right back to sleep,

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<v Speaker 1>but I had to because I was like, bro, this

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<v Speaker 1>is just so funny because.

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<v Speaker 3>Right before I fellat and he's like, man, you ain't

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<v Speaker 3>gonna wake up. Just sleep girl. I heard Mandy's oregon.

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<v Speaker 1>I honestly woke me up. No, it didn't. Don't didn't. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>my mother, you want me so dramatic. Well, let me

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<v Speaker 1>say this. You can hear you didn't have a five

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<v Speaker 1>o'clock flight, we would have woke up. We were louder

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<v Speaker 1>in the morning.

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<v Speaker 4>At night, bitch, we when I tell you, I was

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<v Speaker 4>so tired, mind you, we started watching Men in Black.

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<v Speaker 4>Tired well, because there was no Netflix, there was no nothing,

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<v Speaker 4>So bitch I was like, okay, let's watch Men in Black.

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<v Speaker 1>All I know is I say, and this is the

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<v Speaker 1>bunny part. Bitch.

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<v Speaker 3>I fell out that Nigga was up three hours after me.

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<v Speaker 3>I was so tired because I had just spent three

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<v Speaker 3>days in New York.

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<v Speaker 1>I was so exhausted.

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<v Speaker 3>I was really trying to be quiet. I don't think

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<v Speaker 3>so okay, damn excuse me. When I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>she's doing this on purpose? She no, because I literally,

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<v Speaker 3>but the bed is right, you know what. I was

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<v Speaker 3>helping because I don't know if you got by flipped no, no,

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<v Speaker 3>no no, because you needed to check in. You had

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<v Speaker 3>a regular king bed. You didn't have a sweet right.

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<v Speaker 1>I had a three with you guys. That's nothing I was.

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<v Speaker 1>I was hoping that there was a living room divider

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<v Speaker 1>and your room was on the other.

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<v Speaker 3>Side of the Oh you had this sweet. I had

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<v Speaker 3>the sweet because I didn't wait for it.

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<v Speaker 4>You didn't wait for it to check in, So I

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<v Speaker 4>was like, we should be good because if it's like this,

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<v Speaker 4>there's a whole living room.

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<v Speaker 1>I did not think you was going.

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<v Speaker 3>I was praying until you don't heard it back, But

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<v Speaker 3>now it was funny. I'm trying to think, Oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I was just thinking with the whole if he wants to,

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<v Speaker 3>he will something that I really am starting to sink

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<v Speaker 3>into when my friends are having issues with their partners,

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<v Speaker 3>and I know I'm in a new relationship, but we've

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<v Speaker 3>been dating you for a minute now. But still, when

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<v Speaker 3>my friends are having issues, when I've had issues.

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<v Speaker 1>It's really just because niggas ain't showing the.

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<v Speaker 3>Fuck up so to know I'm feeling distressed and you're

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<v Speaker 3>just like, okay, well then I'm going to be there.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm telling you friends do this, and we see them

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<v Speaker 1>do it effortless. Yeah, effortlessly. Yep.

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<v Speaker 3>My friends would jump on a train playing, they'll sit

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<v Speaker 3>on FaceTime with me. But for some reason in the past,

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<v Speaker 3>you just struggle with romantic partners showing up that way, right?

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<v Speaker 1>Why is it so hat? It's not that so.

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<v Speaker 4>I do think that the mental capacity it's different between

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<v Speaker 4>men and women.

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<v Speaker 3>I do think that not to gender war this shit

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<v Speaker 3>at it at all. But I also think that friends

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<v Speaker 3>that I was here before, I'll be here after.

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<v Speaker 4>I think our friends have seen us through multiple relationships,

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<v Speaker 4>have seen us grow, I have seen us change a

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<v Speaker 4>lot of times. Our romantic partners don't know the evolution

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<v Speaker 4>of where we were to where we've come to, and

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<v Speaker 4>so I just think our friends are more forgiving in

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<v Speaker 4>our evolution, especially romantically with other partners, because we've all.

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<v Speaker 4>First off, we've all been with fucked up niggas. I'm

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<v Speaker 4>working through friends with fucked up baby daddy's with ex husbands,

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<v Speaker 4>with all of the navigating of their romantic partners that

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<v Speaker 4>they have. You're a romantic partner right now just knows

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<v Speaker 4>how you've shown up with him from the beginning and

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<v Speaker 4>how you continue to show up for him, and only

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<v Speaker 4>what you share with him about your past. But he

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<v Speaker 4>doesn't really know the evolution of really how much you've

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<v Speaker 4>grown better than.

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<v Speaker 1>Your friends do.

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<v Speaker 3>I think the friends aspect of it, though, it's like,

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<v Speaker 3>so I think there is a hierarchy. Like I'm not religious,

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<v Speaker 3>but let's just say it like this, God, yourself, your spouse,

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<v Speaker 3>your family, friends.

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<v Speaker 1>I love this hierarchy switches for everyone. All right, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>saying this is how I think people consider it. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>you put God first, you put yourself, then your partner,

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<v Speaker 1>then then your kids whatever they say, husband first, We'll

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<v Speaker 1>talk about that later, and then friends.

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<v Speaker 3>For me, what I'm realizing is that I think friends

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<v Speaker 3>have become family. I'm an only child, Like they just

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<v Speaker 3>seem to get it. And for some reason, I felt

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<v Speaker 3>like I was begging in the past for niggas to

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<v Speaker 3>get it, and I.

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<v Speaker 1>Would put men and women i've dated.

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<v Speaker 3>In this place of hey, like we're sticking in it

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<v Speaker 3>now it's us. And I think it was not that

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<v Speaker 3>it wasn't like it just wasn't instinctual for them. Where

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<v Speaker 3>now I see that it is. My problems are his problems?

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<v Speaker 3>Like all the way I see it every single day.

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<v Speaker 3>It could be a work problem.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you want me to run and do? How

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<v Speaker 1>can I help you?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>And vice versa.

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<v Speaker 3>Right at this phase in our lives, his entrepreneurial ventures

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<v Speaker 3>allow for more free time where mine don't. And so

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<v Speaker 3>he literally said to me, like, yo, if me being

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<v Speaker 3>on set with you makes you feel better, and that's

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<v Speaker 3>the way we got to spend time together while you're

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<v Speaker 3>in this phase of your life.

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<v Speaker 1>Cool, I'm gonna do this with you. But I don't think.

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<v Speaker 3>I've really had men that will do it for me.

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<v Speaker 3>My friends, for some reason, would seem to go to

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<v Speaker 3>the end for me where men wouldn't. And maybe I

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<v Speaker 3>just wasn't dating partners that were that had I don't know,

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<v Speaker 3>but I would say I am very needy when it

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<v Speaker 3>comes to emotional things, and so I have friends that

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<v Speaker 3>can scratch at It's not all of them friends that

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<v Speaker 3>will caddle me if I want it. Vinnie's not a coddler,

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<v Speaker 3>but he'll always show up for me. Right as far

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<v Speaker 3>as partners, I really should have been looking for someone

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<v Speaker 3>it gets it that knows if I like to be

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<v Speaker 3>a big baby. It doesn't bother them. They enjoy caring

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<v Speaker 3>for me. Cause some niggas might complain, oh my gosh,

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<v Speaker 3>she does this, and that my man likes to man

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<v Speaker 3>up in those moments. Not every man likes that. They

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<v Speaker 3>consider it a burden. So whereas like we could shade it.

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<v Speaker 3>There's someone that wants to take care of you like that.

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<v Speaker 3>And I really believe you have to look for the

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<v Speaker 3>strengths in someone where you fall short at And we

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<v Speaker 3>talked about this on it You Got Decision Do You

0:23:27.680 --> 0:23:30.040
<v Speaker 3>Got Decision episode lately where I said you can't have

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<v Speaker 3>the same vices. I think you have to balance the

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<v Speaker 3>strengths and weaknesses, just like extroverted people do good with introverts,

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<v Speaker 3>like it's almost instantaneous that it feels good, right. I

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<v Speaker 3>think when I've dated my ex was very extroverted, you

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<v Speaker 3>know that. I think that's why we flashed. He didn't

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<v Speaker 3>know how to like combaut and balance.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, to me, the men that I have ended

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<v Speaker 4>up leaning towards the most, not only with my ex,

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<v Speaker 4>but just even it in my twenties, non flashy, introverted quiet.

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<v Speaker 4>Did I say not flashy because I hate flashy niggas,

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<v Speaker 4>But they've all been completely opposite of me and have

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<v Speaker 4>found to be like just enamored by how I can

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<v Speaker 4>exist in a room.

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<v Speaker 1>And me and my my boyfriend talked about this in Denver.

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<v Speaker 1>He was like, do you know what I love about

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<v Speaker 1>you most?

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<v Speaker 4>Which, by the way, we had the conversation, I said,

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<v Speaker 4>just so you know, Nigga, I ain't hand to ill

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<v Speaker 4>word first.

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<v Speaker 1>He said, oh, I know, you think I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't want to say it fast.

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<v Speaker 3>I know, Oh, I told him. I said, I ain't

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<v Speaker 3>saying it first. Nigg I said it last Time'm not

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<v Speaker 3>saying it again. But but he said, you know what

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<v Speaker 3>I really love about you most? I said what He

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<v Speaker 3>was like, how self sufficient you are. And I don't

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<v Speaker 3>know if it's because of our age difference. But in

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<v Speaker 3>my last relationship, not the why you need men to

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<v Speaker 3>need your chapters if you read no host barred my

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<v Speaker 3>I end the chapter with how proud I am that

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<v Speaker 3>I can choose partners because I want them.

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<v Speaker 4>And at the demise and end of my last relationship,

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<v Speaker 4>he felt difficulty realizing or figuring out where he fit

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<v Speaker 4>into my world because I didn't need him and to

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<v Speaker 4>have my boyfriend this weekend say hey, it's what I

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<v Speaker 4>admire about you most.

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<v Speaker 1>He's like, I know that if I can't do this,

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<v Speaker 1>you're gonna have it.

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<v Speaker 3>But everything that I give to you, he said, everything

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<v Speaker 3>I give to you, to you as a person in

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<v Speaker 3>this relationship is just on top of the things you need,

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<v Speaker 3>I can show up in a way that shows up

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<v Speaker 3>and he said, I can just service you. And I

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<v Speaker 3>was like, do you know access service is my number

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<v Speaker 3>one love language?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh? That's right, it is is the service right now.

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<v Speaker 1>So he's like, what's his love language.

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<v Speaker 3>I will say I think it is physical touch based

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<v Speaker 3>on us being together. However, when we're away and I

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<v Speaker 3>want to confirm this, I think the way I show up.

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<v Speaker 1>I ended up just sending him things.

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<v Speaker 4>He has a movie dropping and it's a lot, big

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<v Speaker 4>production company, big cast around him, and he's like, it's

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<v Speaker 4>like my anxiety da da du. So I'm talking him

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<v Speaker 4>through and I was like, I think you have imposter syndrome.

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<v Speaker 4>I think information, so I think words of affirmation right now,

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<v Speaker 4>Like I sent him things about imposter syndrome, I said, listen,

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<v Speaker 4>I've been there. I want to help you work through

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<v Speaker 4>this because you need to be able to show up

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<v Speaker 4>through the premiere of this movie, and I think you

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<v Speaker 4>deserve to.

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<v Speaker 1>Be to care.

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<v Speaker 4>We talked about it because there's multiple cities, so it depends,

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<v Speaker 4>it depends, it depends which city.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm waiting for the New York dates we have the

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<v Speaker 1>LA dates. I'm hoping for San Diego.

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<v Speaker 3>He doesn't know if he's going to South, Like there's

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<v Speaker 3>so many things we don't know where all he's supposed

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<v Speaker 3>to be. But I'm like, you worked hard, you deserve

0:26:55.359 --> 0:26:57.000
<v Speaker 3>to be in these rooms. You're there for a reason.

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<v Speaker 3>Can you not say here and let your anxiety take over?

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<v Speaker 3>And so I he's like appreciated that I can come

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<v Speaker 3>to him about that. So see what you got a

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<v Speaker 3>nigga that's got an ambition?

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<v Speaker 1>Bit I love an ambitious niggas. What you from being

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<v Speaker 1>a retired nigga? I will say, though I have, I've

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<v Speaker 1>had decent. They've been decent.

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<v Speaker 3>My ex was very successful at his corporate job and

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<v Speaker 3>he really was trying to see a design company through.

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<v Speaker 1>I Also, it's so weird. I an't amost have a

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<v Speaker 1>tight because this one's good at interior design and he,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, buys homes. And I'm like, what is that

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<v Speaker 1>for me? Liking an art nigga?

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<v Speaker 3>Just a nigga that knows an art nigga?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know you?

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<v Speaker 2>But no?

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<v Speaker 3>Just course here what I'm just looking at? First of

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<v Speaker 3>all arts as niggas your type?

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<v Speaker 1>Bitch? Fuck you mean you have a fucking septem ring Okay.

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<v Speaker 3>So anyway, no ho Bard, you guys already know we're

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<v Speaker 3>trying to get on the best sellers list, and boom,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna read a quote from the book. We're gonna

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<v Speaker 3>just dive into it and just give our opinion on it.

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<v Speaker 3>This is from one of my chapters Love It.

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<v Speaker 1>So it says he stopped me and said, listen to me,

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<v Speaker 1>you are always going to fuck me. Do you hear me?

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<v Speaker 3>You about to fuck me all the time? This pussy

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<v Speaker 3>is about to be my shit, and we're gonna be

0:28:22.800 --> 0:28:25.760
<v Speaker 3>fucking all the time. On the first time he entered me,

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<v Speaker 3>I never had anyone say that. That feeling of being

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<v Speaker 3>that wanted had me looking past a lot of shit.

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<v Speaker 3>A man in his forties with no real serious relationship

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<v Speaker 3>history or kids. A man in his forty who's getting

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<v Speaker 3>fucked up every weekend, known on the party scene, and

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<v Speaker 3>who's running around with a twenty seven.

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<v Speaker 1>Year old me.

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<v Speaker 3>Hello, red flags, and here are the three red flags

0:28:45.040 --> 0:28:49.280
<v Speaker 3>I should have noticed. History of short term relationships, avoiding

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<v Speaker 3>emotional intimacy, and partying excessively.

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<v Speaker 1>My question to you is, if a man.

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<v Speaker 3>Doesn't have a long term relationship and goes out a

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<v Speaker 3>lot when I think back about what I wrote, Yes,

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<v Speaker 3>I do think there are red flags, but do they

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<v Speaker 3>really matter? Like if a nigga really had never had

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<v Speaker 3>a long term girlfriend, is that really a problem.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know what's crazy about that? I'm that person

0:29:13.520 --> 0:29:14.120
<v Speaker 1>you're describing.

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<v Speaker 4>So me and my boyfriend just had this conversation because

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<v Speaker 4>even though I have him by eight years, I was like,

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<v Speaker 4>when it comes to this relationship, shit, you're more experience

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<v Speaker 4>than I am. He's been in two previous long term relationships, okay,

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<v Speaker 4>and to me, even with us being together now, I

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<v Speaker 4>was like, I looked at that as a red flag.

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<v Speaker 4>I said, So, nigga, are you a serial dater?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh?

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<v Speaker 3>All right?

0:29:40.360 --> 0:29:42.400
<v Speaker 4>Said, how the fuck you've been in two long term

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<v Speaker 4>relationships at your age?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think it's I do think it's bad if

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<v Speaker 1>the woman was that close. I have you by eight years, and.

0:29:52.320 --> 0:29:54.440
<v Speaker 3>Like, twenty six is not a crazy age to have

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<v Speaker 3>two long term relationships.

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<v Speaker 1>The long term to me is more than two. You ready,

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<v Speaker 1>I got in my first real relationship.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, that show my point. But it's actors. As a mom,

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know, maybe, but I was just like, to me,

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<v Speaker 4>it could be, it could be.

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<v Speaker 3>It could be, but it could be a red flag

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<v Speaker 3>that you jump from one relationship to another if you

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<v Speaker 3>are say you're thirty and you've been in relationships to

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<v Speaker 3>where you're now dating at thirty years old, and you're

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<v Speaker 3>sitting across from someone in the person that you're talking to,

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<v Speaker 3>you say, yeah, so I've been in three relationships over

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<v Speaker 3>the last ten years.

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<v Speaker 4>One was four years, one was three years, one was

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<v Speaker 4>another one was three years. To me, it's a red

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<v Speaker 4>flag for someone to also be a serial dater, because

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<v Speaker 4>I want to know.

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<v Speaker 1>You've had some single years.

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<v Speaker 3>Are you are you gole to be alone? Have you

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<v Speaker 3>gone through your whole phase? Are you somebody that is

0:30:57.320 --> 0:30:59.280
<v Speaker 3>content with yourself? Or are you codependent?

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<v Speaker 1>How funny is that we really want somebody to go

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<v Speaker 1>through a whole face.

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<v Speaker 4>I want someone to also just be able to sit

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<v Speaker 4>with themselves. I don't want someone to feel like they

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<v Speaker 4>need to be up under me.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh I got some tea on the Fun Girl shit.

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<v Speaker 1>Uh oh.

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<v Speaker 3>We had a clip a few weeks ago about do

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<v Speaker 3>men marry the fun girl in the para Society thinks

0:31:16.720 --> 0:31:21.080
<v Speaker 3>homeboy called me who's married engaged, and he was like, bruh,

0:31:21.880 --> 0:31:24.200
<v Speaker 3>he's I saw a comment you left on there. Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>I hope he's not offended. Now he won't be his

0:31:26.680 --> 0:31:27.240
<v Speaker 3>girl's cool.

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<v Speaker 1>He was like, you said that these wys are the

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<v Speaker 1>fun girls. He was like, you already know how, bitch.

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<v Speaker 3>And they met her at Aftes. Okay, he was all

0:31:35.120 --> 0:31:38.280
<v Speaker 3>fucked up. They was fucking going crazy wild. He's smoking,

0:31:38.360 --> 0:31:42.560
<v Speaker 3>drinking and he's like, yo, like, I think if the

0:31:42.600 --> 0:31:44.960
<v Speaker 3>fun girls past a certain age, they're just having a

0:31:45.000 --> 0:31:47.680
<v Speaker 3>great time in waiting for love. Like I think girls

0:31:48.000 --> 0:31:51.400
<v Speaker 3>can go out have a great time beat you know,

0:31:52.280 --> 0:31:54.760
<v Speaker 3>not even in the streets, but just like go enjoy

0:31:54.800 --> 0:31:56.479
<v Speaker 3>your life till I show up.

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<v Speaker 1>And he literally was like because I hate.

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<v Speaker 3>A bitchess, motherfucking house Like, bitch, you could be fucking

0:32:02.200 --> 0:32:03.400
<v Speaker 3>niggas every time every weekend.

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<v Speaker 1>You ain't no better.

0:32:04.840 --> 0:32:08.600
<v Speaker 4>You invite him niggas over drinking tea in the Hennessy Hello,

0:32:09.000 --> 0:32:12.720
<v Speaker 4>watching the Netflix and he said, robe and linguery.

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<v Speaker 3>I wanted to share this for the single ladies because

0:32:16.360 --> 0:32:19.040
<v Speaker 3>I said, tell me what about her fun girl?

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<v Speaker 1>Shit didn't bother you?

0:32:21.240 --> 0:32:25.600
<v Speaker 3>He said, well, we shared some stories and I will

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<v Speaker 3>say and this to me is a society thing. He's like,

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<v Speaker 3>all her little host shit was before we moved to

0:32:30.360 --> 0:32:32.280
<v Speaker 3>the same city. So I don't really feel like i'd

0:32:32.280 --> 0:32:35.400
<v Speaker 3>have to run into them niggas, which in the clip

0:32:35.480 --> 0:32:38.520
<v Speaker 3>you were saying men care with society things say dociety community.

0:32:38.880 --> 0:32:40.120
<v Speaker 3>He's like, I don't really feel like I have to

0:32:40.200 --> 0:32:43.560
<v Speaker 3>run into them niggas. He said too, the most attractive

0:32:43.600 --> 0:32:46.160
<v Speaker 3>thing about me to her her to me was if

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<v Speaker 3>I had to be in a city for work or whatever,

0:32:48.240 --> 0:32:50.000
<v Speaker 3>to go over homegirl about there, like, let me know

0:32:50.000 --> 0:32:51.960
<v Speaker 3>how I might pull up, And he was like, and

0:32:52.080 --> 0:32:55.200
<v Speaker 3>it was just such an independence, like I didn't need

0:32:55.320 --> 0:32:58.800
<v Speaker 3>to like, uh, hold her hand through life. He was like,

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<v Speaker 3>I loved knowing we could both meet in our thirties

0:33:02.000 --> 0:33:03.280
<v Speaker 3>and it's bitched and did some shit.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, we just had this conversation.

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<v Speaker 3>I said, if you come with me to work, or

0:33:07.440 --> 0:33:10.000
<v Speaker 3>I come with you to work, hopefully it's the city

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<v Speaker 3>that I help someone. If you have to be on set,

0:33:12.120 --> 0:33:13.400
<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna let you don't go on to link my

0:33:13.440 --> 0:33:16.000
<v Speaker 3>home girl, let me know what you've done being out

0:33:16.040 --> 0:33:17.120
<v Speaker 3>with your little ector friends.

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<v Speaker 4>Like, I think that it's great, but I think when

0:33:20.720 --> 0:33:25.880
<v Speaker 4>you get older, there's a sense of existing within community friendship.

0:33:26.040 --> 0:33:28.080
<v Speaker 1>Professional that becomes separate.

0:33:28.480 --> 0:33:30.640
<v Speaker 4>I think in your twenties you look for someone to

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<v Speaker 4>make you whole and for someone to come so much

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<v Speaker 4>of a unit that when you're in your thirties and

0:33:34.320 --> 0:33:37.040
<v Speaker 4>forties and beyond, you're able to be like, just come in,

0:33:37.160 --> 0:33:39.480
<v Speaker 4>make me better. We can enjoy things together, but we're

0:33:39.520 --> 0:33:41.560
<v Speaker 4>gonna have other things we have to enjoy separately as well.

0:33:41.600 --> 0:33:43.280
<v Speaker 1>Now are you ready for the third thing? What's the

0:33:43.360 --> 0:33:43.719
<v Speaker 1>third thing?

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<v Speaker 3>This is gonna be a testing one because my questions

0:33:47.280 --> 0:33:48.640
<v Speaker 3>are like, what made you want to lock it down?

0:33:49.640 --> 0:33:50.280
<v Speaker 1>This one?

0:33:50.680 --> 0:33:54.600
<v Speaker 3>I feel like niggas ain't gonna lie. But this is

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<v Speaker 3>coming from a man late thirties. I'll just say that

0:33:58.720 --> 0:34:01.920
<v Speaker 3>I don't want to give too much, but well seasoned

0:34:02.000 --> 0:34:03.959
<v Speaker 3>in the dating game and a man that a lot

0:34:04.000 --> 0:34:08.879
<v Speaker 3>of women want. He said his current fiance Okay, made

0:34:08.920 --> 0:34:11.320
<v Speaker 3>it very clear he was not the only man she

0:34:11.440 --> 0:34:12.920
<v Speaker 3>was dating, which is what I just did.

0:34:13.040 --> 0:34:15.640
<v Speaker 1>And she said, Hey, if.

0:34:15.520 --> 0:34:19.040
<v Speaker 3>You decide that, like, at some point you may want

0:34:19.080 --> 0:34:21.680
<v Speaker 3>to take this relationship to another level, we need to

0:34:21.719 --> 0:34:24.400
<v Speaker 3>have a conversation about that because I have commitments with

0:34:24.480 --> 0:34:25.160
<v Speaker 3>other people too.

0:34:26.040 --> 0:34:29.400
<v Speaker 1>Bitch. I remember when he told me this, But he

0:34:29.440 --> 0:34:31.080
<v Speaker 1>doesn't ever telling me, but I do. He was like,

0:34:31.640 --> 0:34:32.560
<v Speaker 1>what was whole trying to tell me?

0:34:32.640 --> 0:34:35.919
<v Speaker 3>She fucking other niggas Like like, I get like act

0:34:36.040 --> 0:34:38.200
<v Speaker 3>like I can't really want her like that, and I'm like, oh,

0:34:38.239 --> 0:34:39.800
<v Speaker 3>when you told me about it, you was just like,

0:34:39.880 --> 0:34:41.719
<v Speaker 3>I don't give a fuck, bitch, And he was like, oh,

0:34:41.760 --> 0:34:44.120
<v Speaker 3>of course I gave a fuck. Like niggas is sweating

0:34:44.160 --> 0:34:45.759
<v Speaker 3>over there when they find out you have someone else

0:34:45.880 --> 0:34:48.359
<v Speaker 3>speaking your interest. Did I tell you about the birthday gift?

0:34:49.239 --> 0:34:53.160
<v Speaker 3>And yeahs toget with my boyfriend. He said, I know

0:34:53.239 --> 0:34:54.799
<v Speaker 3>you told me a nigga got you a door bag

0:34:54.880 --> 0:34:56.719
<v Speaker 3>to rub in my face. He said, you said that

0:34:56.800 --> 0:34:59.719
<v Speaker 3>to make me mad, and I was like, honestly to

0:34:59.760 --> 0:35:01.640
<v Speaker 3>make you, but you ain't giving me a birthday yet.

0:35:02.280 --> 0:35:03.280
<v Speaker 1>Let's get into.

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<v Speaker 3>Reactionary okay, Oh no, I got a hypothetic, Oh, hypothetical

0:35:07.360 --> 0:35:10.440
<v Speaker 3>to this. Let's do it hypothetically speaking, really simple one,

0:35:10.520 --> 0:35:13.080
<v Speaker 3>but it's a good one, okay. Would you rather be

0:35:13.360 --> 0:35:16.040
<v Speaker 3>wealthy but only be able to walk everywhere?

0:35:16.520 --> 0:35:16.800
<v Speaker 1>Okay?

0:35:16.960 --> 0:35:20.279
<v Speaker 3>Or be broke and be able to travel however you want?

0:35:22.440 --> 0:35:23.879
<v Speaker 1>First off, how do fuck up and to walk from

0:35:23.880 --> 0:35:28.880
<v Speaker 1>here to New York? Bitch? What type of walking is

0:35:28.960 --> 0:35:31.279
<v Speaker 1>we doing so? Basically? Okay, so here we go.

0:35:31.680 --> 0:35:36.239
<v Speaker 4>I'm gonna bring back a horrible decisions answer and say

0:35:36.440 --> 0:35:38.680
<v Speaker 4>I'd rather be broke and find my way to be

0:35:38.840 --> 0:35:39.960
<v Speaker 4>able to travel wherever.

0:35:40.280 --> 0:35:43.160
<v Speaker 1>He too, and he does, pussy gonna do? It's sang

0:35:43.239 --> 0:35:45.640
<v Speaker 1>because I don't want to build a compound. What are

0:35:45.680 --> 0:35:46.920
<v Speaker 1>we talking about? And now I have will walk to

0:35:47.000 --> 0:35:47.319
<v Speaker 1>the club.

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<v Speaker 4>Wait a second, walking everywhere? Hold no, no, no, let

0:35:52.080 --> 0:35:53.719
<v Speaker 4>me tell you New York spoils us.

0:35:54.080 --> 0:35:55.920
<v Speaker 1>It makes you believe you could walk and get places.

0:35:56.440 --> 0:35:57.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm in Atlanta.

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<v Speaker 4>Now it'll say seven minute car ride, so I'm like, oh, bitch,

0:36:03.200 --> 0:36:05.479
<v Speaker 4>let me see, bitch, fifty one minute.

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<v Speaker 1>Know like what I think? It's the up down? I

0:36:08.239 --> 0:36:10.480
<v Speaker 1>don't know what it is there ain't it ain't dead terrain.

0:36:10.600 --> 0:36:12.399
<v Speaker 3>No, the last time I stayed at this you get

0:36:12.440 --> 0:36:14.520
<v Speaker 3>down here? Who was Starbucks?

0:36:14.600 --> 0:36:14.839
<v Speaker 1>Bitch?

0:36:15.239 --> 0:36:18.360
<v Speaker 3>It was a uphill and I know the staircase like

0:36:18.560 --> 0:36:19.520
<v Speaker 3>you like plot.

0:36:19.680 --> 0:36:20.880
<v Speaker 1>You want to know what problem is?

0:36:21.520 --> 0:36:24.920
<v Speaker 3>You don't go above mid tell because bitch, if you

0:36:24.960 --> 0:36:26.800
<v Speaker 3>went up to the heights, it'd be hilly up in

0:36:26.840 --> 0:36:27.160
<v Speaker 3>the heights.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't even know that is Washington Heights. D I

0:36:30.400 --> 0:36:33.319
<v Speaker 1>thought you meant no, I'm talking about New York, now, bitch.

0:36:33.520 --> 0:36:36.560
<v Speaker 3>Atlanta hasn't midtown, okay, girl, I'm talking about the heights

0:36:36.600 --> 0:36:37.080
<v Speaker 3>in New York.

0:36:37.360 --> 0:36:40.480
<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, Okay, it's hilly up there. I know. All

0:36:40.560 --> 0:36:42.320
<v Speaker 1>I know is it go from seven minute drive to

0:36:42.400 --> 0:36:44.520
<v Speaker 1>fifty one minute walk. Bitch? Who you talk?

0:36:44.719 --> 0:36:48.680
<v Speaker 3>Know that? I genuinely not even in like the most

0:36:48.719 --> 0:36:50.879
<v Speaker 3>country way. You're Brooklyn or nothing.

0:36:50.920 --> 0:36:52.600
<v Speaker 1>It's barely cunty for you, for sure.

0:36:52.760 --> 0:36:56.359
<v Speaker 3>I just it feels far if I live below first

0:36:56.400 --> 0:36:58.280
<v Speaker 3>and first, why am I going into the hundreds?

0:36:58.320 --> 0:37:01.320
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna go to Brooklyn? That sounds okay, continue with

0:37:01.360 --> 0:37:02.520
<v Speaker 1>your cuntiness.

0:37:03.160 --> 0:37:10.040
<v Speaker 3>Anyway, Okay, reactionary. I saw this clip clip, bitch, yeah,

0:37:10.520 --> 0:37:12.520
<v Speaker 3>but I was surprised that your reaction.

0:37:14.120 --> 0:37:16.600
<v Speaker 1>And you know my reaction. We talked about it in

0:37:16.680 --> 0:37:18.160
<v Speaker 1>the car. I was like, did you see this? Okay?

0:37:18.160 --> 0:37:22.560
<v Speaker 3>Okay, I feel a few ways. I talked about the hierarchy. Girl,

0:37:22.640 --> 0:37:24.680
<v Speaker 3>play a clip first and then let's talk about it.

0:37:24.840 --> 0:37:26.719
<v Speaker 1>Plight a clip again. You and your husband and your

0:37:26.800 --> 0:37:29.839
<v Speaker 1>child go out on your sailboat. Okay, a sailboat get

0:37:29.880 --> 0:37:30.640
<v Speaker 1>shut is sinking?

0:37:30.840 --> 0:37:31.040
<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

0:37:31.560 --> 0:37:34.000
<v Speaker 1>Who are you going to say? The child or your husband. Look,

0:37:34.200 --> 0:37:37.200
<v Speaker 1>I would choose my child's father because we can make

0:37:37.280 --> 0:37:42.239
<v Speaker 1>more children. Gosh, that's insane, man. I mean, it doesn't

0:37:42.239 --> 0:37:44.279
<v Speaker 1>matter how many times I've listened to it. She says it.

0:37:44.480 --> 0:37:47.600
<v Speaker 1>Here's the thing. She doesn't hesitate, she doesn't like ponder.

0:37:47.960 --> 0:37:51.080
<v Speaker 1>She says it with her full chest. She's choosing the

0:37:51.280 --> 0:37:54.359
<v Speaker 1>father of her child. One thing, if I'm that kid,

0:37:54.400 --> 0:37:55.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm not getting on the sailboat.

0:37:56.840 --> 0:37:59.000
<v Speaker 2>I just don't understand how you could live with yourself

0:37:59.040 --> 0:38:00.920
<v Speaker 2>after you let your child drowned.

0:38:01.000 --> 0:38:03.680
<v Speaker 1>She said, they can have more. That's insane. Okay. One

0:38:03.719 --> 0:38:06.600
<v Speaker 1>of the things she said, it's just kind of scary. Wait,

0:38:06.800 --> 0:38:11.520
<v Speaker 1>what she really said was butt them key? Really is okay,

0:38:12.080 --> 0:38:12.880
<v Speaker 1>don't read the comments.

0:38:13.120 --> 0:38:13.320
<v Speaker 2>You know.

0:38:13.400 --> 0:38:14.320
<v Speaker 1>I got my whole thoughts on this.

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<v Speaker 3>It's haply one of those women whose daughter comes and says,

0:38:16.960 --> 0:38:18.880
<v Speaker 3>my mom's boyfriend doing something, and she will believe her

0:38:18.880 --> 0:38:19.520
<v Speaker 3>man over the gid.

0:38:19.920 --> 0:38:22.440
<v Speaker 1>No, no, no, no, here's the thing. Oh and when

0:38:22.480 --> 0:38:24.960
<v Speaker 1>I saw this clip, it was very clear to me.

0:38:25.080 --> 0:38:26.520
<v Speaker 3>Oh wait, wait wait, because one thing she said that

0:38:26.560 --> 0:38:28.480
<v Speaker 3>we didn't have any hair. Yes, she said we can

0:38:28.560 --> 0:38:30.480
<v Speaker 3>make another kid. No, she said that I heard that

0:38:30.719 --> 0:38:33.120
<v Speaker 3>is if we can't get another husband, keep going okay.

0:38:34.280 --> 0:38:38.920
<v Speaker 1>So her saying this response was very telling because when.

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<v Speaker 4>I heard it, bitch, I agreed just a little bit

0:38:42.040 --> 0:38:45.040
<v Speaker 4>to the sentiment that I do not have the biological

0:38:45.400 --> 0:38:46.520
<v Speaker 4>connection to a child.

0:38:47.120 --> 0:38:52.680
<v Speaker 3>She spoke about this as a motherless woman. She or

0:38:52.760 --> 0:38:53.879
<v Speaker 3>a childless woman.

0:38:53.920 --> 0:38:54.400
<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry.

0:38:54.719 --> 0:38:57.600
<v Speaker 4>She spoke of this as a childless woman, someone who

0:38:57.719 --> 0:39:00.680
<v Speaker 4>probably has not grown whatever connection it is to being

0:39:00.760 --> 0:39:05.239
<v Speaker 4>a mom and a mother, a mother two children. She

0:39:05.360 --> 0:39:08.399
<v Speaker 4>spoke of it as men are probably her universe, which

0:39:08.440 --> 0:39:09.919
<v Speaker 4>a lot of men are two women.

0:39:10.160 --> 0:39:11.279
<v Speaker 1>By the way, we still want to talk with you,

0:39:11.360 --> 0:39:14.719
<v Speaker 1>doctor Sarah. Sure, sure would love to have you on.

0:39:15.000 --> 0:39:18.200
<v Speaker 4>I also think this sounds very much like this is

0:39:18.280 --> 0:39:23.200
<v Speaker 4>my answer, because there's the long drawn hypothetical of when

0:39:23.239 --> 0:39:26.839
<v Speaker 4>you cook a meal, who gets fed first your kids?

0:39:28.000 --> 0:39:29.799
<v Speaker 1>To me, though, I think you should feed your husband.

0:39:30.000 --> 0:39:31.040
<v Speaker 1>You feed your husband first.

0:39:31.239 --> 0:39:34.239
<v Speaker 4>So to me, as someone maybe with no kids, if

0:39:34.320 --> 0:39:36.200
<v Speaker 4>she has kids, bitch, come on and tell me how

0:39:36.280 --> 0:39:37.719
<v Speaker 4>you have a child and you came up to this.

0:39:38.200 --> 0:39:42.160
<v Speaker 1>But to me, this sounds a lot like I'm gonna

0:39:42.200 --> 0:39:45.360
<v Speaker 1>feed my husband first then the kids. This sounds like

0:39:45.400 --> 0:39:46.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna save my husband for there.

0:39:46.840 --> 0:39:50.759
<v Speaker 3>So as far as feeding first, right, I understand my

0:39:50.840 --> 0:39:53.440
<v Speaker 3>mom was a housewife and my dad is not a

0:39:53.560 --> 0:39:54.239
<v Speaker 3>controlling man.

0:39:54.280 --> 0:39:57.240
<v Speaker 1>You know, my daddy's not a get the dinner, nothing

0:39:57.360 --> 0:39:58.080
<v Speaker 1>in him is like that.

0:39:59.000 --> 0:40:03.640
<v Speaker 3>But I understood why we prioritize daddy because he worked

0:40:03.640 --> 0:40:06.360
<v Speaker 3>all day. Okay, So it's like when my dad was

0:40:06.400 --> 0:40:08.920
<v Speaker 3>coming home in this family dynamic, right, Maybe in some

0:40:09.360 --> 0:40:12.360
<v Speaker 3>that doesn't work, but yeah, Like I would help my

0:40:12.440 --> 0:40:14.960
<v Speaker 3>mom set the table. My dad sits at the head

0:40:15.000 --> 0:40:17.239
<v Speaker 3>of the table, and she would serve his food. To

0:40:17.360 --> 0:40:20.960
<v Speaker 3>me though, that's the thing. Your mom was a housewife. Uh,

0:40:21.280 --> 0:40:23.319
<v Speaker 3>your dad provided paid all the.

0:40:23.360 --> 0:40:26.360
<v Speaker 1>Bills to me. There's no way you're saying that nigga

0:40:26.360 --> 0:40:29.640
<v Speaker 1>need to be to me. There's no way a woman.

0:40:29.560 --> 0:40:34.680
<v Speaker 3>Who who splits fifty fifty has that same conscious to feed,

0:40:34.960 --> 0:40:37.160
<v Speaker 3>you know what I mean. I think the fifty to

0:40:37.160 --> 0:40:42.000
<v Speaker 3>fifty conversation is an interesting one because for some reason

0:40:42.080 --> 0:40:46.359
<v Speaker 3>we placed monetary value on gender roles.

0:40:47.200 --> 0:40:50.320
<v Speaker 1>I we really do think heart of hearts.

0:40:50.760 --> 0:40:53.240
<v Speaker 3>There's nothing wrong with even if you're fifty to fifty

0:40:53.719 --> 0:40:55.520
<v Speaker 3>and you want to serve, if you cook in the meal.

0:40:56.040 --> 0:40:57.759
<v Speaker 3>If my man is cooking for me, he's probably going

0:40:57.800 --> 0:40:59.600
<v Speaker 3>to serve me before the gays, right, like I'm going

0:40:59.680 --> 0:41:01.759
<v Speaker 3>to expe fact, you put the plate down in front

0:41:01.800 --> 0:41:04.120
<v Speaker 3>of me first, in front of an adult if kids

0:41:04.120 --> 0:41:06.359
<v Speaker 3>don't even eat as much the little basket right?

0:41:06.640 --> 0:41:09.439
<v Speaker 1>Sorry, but no, sorry, the blessings. That was the wrong

0:41:09.560 --> 0:41:14.520
<v Speaker 1>b word, the blessing. I will say what was disappointing?

0:41:15.400 --> 0:41:15.520
<v Speaker 3>Uh?

0:41:16.160 --> 0:41:20.360
<v Speaker 1>She said to my child's father instead of husband, she

0:41:20.760 --> 0:41:22.359
<v Speaker 1>labeled him like a baby daddy. She did.

0:41:22.920 --> 0:41:26.360
<v Speaker 3>I think that was just interesting because I was just like, okay,

0:41:26.760 --> 0:41:30.520
<v Speaker 3>I even get the biblical sense of husband. But if

0:41:30.560 --> 0:41:35.480
<v Speaker 3>I had to save anyone two people in the street,

0:41:35.600 --> 0:41:37.560
<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna pick the youngest. Can I tell you, I'm

0:41:37.560 --> 0:41:40.400
<v Speaker 3>want to pick the youngest person if I don't know you,

0:41:40.680 --> 0:41:42.279
<v Speaker 3>if I got one hand to pull you up from

0:41:42.320 --> 0:41:44.160
<v Speaker 3>a mountain, I'm probably gonna pick the youngest.

0:41:44.320 --> 0:41:46.120
<v Speaker 1>So I don't even like kids like that. You've lived

0:41:46.160 --> 0:41:46.760
<v Speaker 1>your life, nigga.

0:41:47.040 --> 0:41:49.960
<v Speaker 3>The reason why I probably would go with the kids,

0:41:50.480 --> 0:41:52.560
<v Speaker 3>uh huh is because.

0:41:54.560 --> 0:41:55.600
<v Speaker 1>You paid for this trip.

0:41:55.760 --> 0:41:56.359
<v Speaker 3>I know you did.

0:41:56.480 --> 0:42:01.280
<v Speaker 4>Because you the husband. You didn't get us the premium

0:42:01.520 --> 0:42:03.840
<v Speaker 4>v IP tickets to where we get the lifeboats. It

0:42:03.920 --> 0:42:06.440
<v Speaker 4>made me think of Titanic, Like you know how Titanic

0:42:06.600 --> 0:42:09.160
<v Speaker 4>many it was the word right now.

0:42:09.280 --> 0:42:11.400
<v Speaker 3>I don't give a fuck you know how I was

0:42:11.520 --> 0:42:14.120
<v Speaker 3>like women and children, but it was really the upper

0:42:14.200 --> 0:42:15.759
<v Speaker 3>class people who got the boats first.

0:42:15.800 --> 0:42:16.960
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I just watched it on a plane.

0:42:17.120 --> 0:42:21.880
<v Speaker 3>You're raggedy ass. Got us basics that we're now in

0:42:21.960 --> 0:42:23.600
<v Speaker 3>the water drowning.

0:42:23.239 --> 0:42:25.319
<v Speaker 1>But you know what what else is even crazier? I'm

0:42:25.400 --> 0:42:26.360
<v Speaker 1>saving the children.

0:42:26.680 --> 0:42:29.600
<v Speaker 3>I'm not gonna hold you. The nigga got too much pressure.

0:42:29.960 --> 0:42:31.640
<v Speaker 3>Now my kid do gotta come out and be aubert.

0:42:31.680 --> 0:42:36.160
<v Speaker 3>I sign for fucking right, Okay, nigga. One day five

0:42:36.239 --> 0:42:39.000
<v Speaker 3>years later, y'all go, Maybe you get pregnant in whatever

0:42:39.320 --> 0:42:40.279
<v Speaker 3>he gonna see a bit ship.

0:42:40.320 --> 0:42:43.160
<v Speaker 1>Look good? Hey you could have had y'all make me back? Wait,

0:42:43.239 --> 0:42:45.120
<v Speaker 1>you know what? Can I ask you a problem? Can

0:42:45.120 --> 0:42:48.120
<v Speaker 1>I ask you now a problematic question? What? Okay, this

0:42:48.160 --> 0:42:50.640
<v Speaker 1>is real problematic, y'all. Don't cancel me for this question.

0:42:51.600 --> 0:42:55.759
<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, So you and your partner really love

0:42:55.840 --> 0:42:56.200
<v Speaker 1>each other.

0:42:57.040 --> 0:43:00.480
<v Speaker 4>The boat is sinking and your kid is back as fuck,

0:43:00.600 --> 0:43:04.040
<v Speaker 4>and you you feel like no your kid ate might

0:43:04.120 --> 0:43:06.480
<v Speaker 4>be he just a fun up kid, like you know

0:43:06.600 --> 0:43:07.680
<v Speaker 4>when kids are bad as fuck?

0:43:07.760 --> 0:43:09.879
<v Speaker 1>Or maybe your kid ugly and You're like, we're gonna

0:43:09.880 --> 0:43:10.400
<v Speaker 1>try to get on.

0:43:10.480 --> 0:43:13.400
<v Speaker 3>This and just want like what if you really love

0:43:13.480 --> 0:43:15.360
<v Speaker 3>your partner and your kid is like, we need to

0:43:15.440 --> 0:43:17.799
<v Speaker 3>do over anyway? What did you think?

0:43:18.640 --> 0:43:22.879
<v Speaker 1>You know what I mean, drown him, not drowning them.

0:43:24.000 --> 0:43:27.200
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, way, I don't have to pay for extra tutors anymore,

0:43:27.320 --> 0:43:31.759
<v Speaker 3>you know what I mean. I'm saying sure, And our

0:43:32.000 --> 0:43:34.600
<v Speaker 3>topic today is the history of blow job.

0:43:34.719 --> 0:43:35.719
<v Speaker 1>So you don't have kids?

0:43:35.880 --> 0:43:41.040
<v Speaker 4>That is crazy, that's right, swallow, don't spit. Sorry, back

0:43:41.080 --> 0:43:44.040
<v Speaker 4>to back the decisions decisions. This is not horrible decisions.

0:43:44.040 --> 0:43:45.920
<v Speaker 4>If you want that, please join us on Patreon.

0:43:46.000 --> 0:43:55.279
<v Speaker 1>Paton this way to kid kids are swallowing them. So

0:43:55.960 --> 0:43:59.360
<v Speaker 1>the history of the blow job is interesting.

0:43:59.440 --> 0:44:02.720
<v Speaker 3>One the first time there's no way there's real history

0:44:02.760 --> 0:44:05.600
<v Speaker 3>on this. Well, it's just however it's accounted in time.

0:44:06.040 --> 0:44:10.800
<v Speaker 3>This ship is crazy. The first documented blow job was

0:44:10.840 --> 0:44:15.080
<v Speaker 3>w was when a person was resurrected. Wait wait wait

0:44:15.120 --> 0:44:17.120
<v Speaker 3>wait wait a nigga died, came back to life and

0:44:17.280 --> 0:44:22.200
<v Speaker 3>a god bitch you liath the Egyptian god king Osiris

0:44:22.320 --> 0:44:24.920
<v Speaker 3>Egypt I knew it was Egypt always is and his

0:44:25.120 --> 0:44:29.960
<v Speaker 3>sister turned wife Isis Osiris and isis, so his sister.

0:44:30.719 --> 0:44:33.600
<v Speaker 3>He was murdered, chopped up into pieces by his brother.

0:44:34.680 --> 0:44:38.560
<v Speaker 3>His wife Isis put his body back together, but unfortunately

0:44:38.640 --> 0:44:39.840
<v Speaker 3>couldn't find the penis.

0:44:40.400 --> 0:44:41.200
<v Speaker 1>So what did she do?

0:44:41.920 --> 0:44:47.080
<v Speaker 3>She crafted a makeshift makeshift dick out of clay, stuck

0:44:47.160 --> 0:44:50.239
<v Speaker 3>it into his crotch, blew it, and molded it with

0:44:50.360 --> 0:44:52.520
<v Speaker 3>her mouth by sucking his clay penis.

0:44:52.640 --> 0:44:54.279
<v Speaker 1>This is documented, I am.

0:44:54.239 --> 0:44:57.719
<v Speaker 3>Not wait, so she had she was sucking clay, yes,

0:44:57.840 --> 0:44:59.719
<v Speaker 3>and this is all which I don't even I don't

0:44:59.719 --> 0:45:02.080
<v Speaker 3>even want to suck a condom which was a fucking

0:45:02.120 --> 0:45:03.040
<v Speaker 3>bud over a.

0:45:03.440 --> 0:45:05.799
<v Speaker 1>It's called the osiris myth. You can look it up.

0:45:05.920 --> 0:45:10.640
<v Speaker 3>She restored the old sorry's myth, so it could be fake.

0:45:11.400 --> 0:45:14.280
<v Speaker 3>It's a myth, oh, I mean it's the first documented thought. Okay,

0:45:14.360 --> 0:45:17.920
<v Speaker 3>so yeah, basically anything documented could be a myth. But

0:45:17.960 --> 0:45:21.000
<v Speaker 3>they're just saying it was really documented, you know what.

0:45:21.440 --> 0:45:25.600
<v Speaker 3>So another interesting thing about the history of the blow job, right,

0:45:27.360 --> 0:45:30.480
<v Speaker 3>it used to be used ooh, sorry, just skipped it.

0:45:30.640 --> 0:45:31.200
<v Speaker 1>The term.

0:45:32.760 --> 0:45:36.120
<v Speaker 3>Was referred to felatio at first, and we knew that

0:45:36.200 --> 0:45:37.600
<v Speaker 3>the Greeks come up with all these words.

0:45:38.120 --> 0:45:39.120
<v Speaker 1>Latin means to suck.

0:45:39.200 --> 0:45:45.000
<v Speaker 3>However, Shakespeare said that to blow meant the orgasm, so

0:45:45.120 --> 0:45:49.000
<v Speaker 3>an orgasm that makes you That was a Shakespearean term,

0:45:49.160 --> 0:45:52.279
<v Speaker 3>and then the term blow job became something.

0:45:52.040 --> 0:45:55.160
<v Speaker 1>Fi because it's work. The job was easy, that was

0:45:55.200 --> 0:45:58.279
<v Speaker 1>the easy part. Bits so tired am I getting paid

0:45:58.320 --> 0:45:59.120
<v Speaker 1>for not going to hold you?

0:45:59.239 --> 0:46:02.279
<v Speaker 3>It's one of them exhausting things, enjoyball exhausting.

0:46:02.440 --> 0:46:05.040
<v Speaker 1>No, you know what's crazy? It's not that it's not

0:46:05.239 --> 0:46:06.439
<v Speaker 1>that tiring. And what's also?

0:46:06.800 --> 0:46:08.560
<v Speaker 3>Can I ask you a question about this speaking of

0:46:08.600 --> 0:46:11.680
<v Speaker 3>blowjobs and the history of it, not that it's a hypothetical,

0:46:12.320 --> 0:46:16.560
<v Speaker 3>but apparently I gave head so good they got flowers

0:46:17.280 --> 0:46:21.560
<v Speaker 3>that not only that, he told me, he judged me

0:46:21.640 --> 0:46:24.640
<v Speaker 3>a bit of which you can't. You gotta get to see.

0:46:24.680 --> 0:46:26.080
<v Speaker 3>That's what any do, he said, I'll never get a

0:46:26.080 --> 0:46:26.440
<v Speaker 3>great ad.

0:46:26.760 --> 0:46:28.480
<v Speaker 1>No, and I but mind you.

0:46:28.560 --> 0:46:30.279
<v Speaker 3>He talked to his friend about it because he felt

0:46:30.360 --> 0:46:31.920
<v Speaker 3>the way that I sucked his dick so good, like

0:46:32.000 --> 0:46:33.759
<v Speaker 3>where did she learn this? And his friend I had

0:46:33.800 --> 0:46:35.279
<v Speaker 3>to be like, I'm stuck another day, bitch.

0:46:35.280 --> 0:46:37.400
<v Speaker 1>She's almost a decade older than you. Get what the

0:46:37.480 --> 0:46:37.719
<v Speaker 1>fuck it?

0:46:37.800 --> 0:46:41.399
<v Speaker 3>Proverd oh man Man literally said when the first time

0:46:41.440 --> 0:46:43.640
<v Speaker 3>I sucked his dick. He got mad at me a

0:46:43.680 --> 0:46:45.719
<v Speaker 3>little bit because he didn't know why it was so good.

0:46:45.920 --> 0:46:47.400
<v Speaker 1>Girl. I want to know what his ex girlfriend was

0:46:47.440 --> 0:46:48.480
<v Speaker 1>looking like and what they were doing.

0:46:49.360 --> 0:46:53.000
<v Speaker 3>I do know because we talked about it that they're

0:46:53.080 --> 0:46:57.680
<v Speaker 3>both black, darker skin, and thin. So when I be

0:46:57.719 --> 0:47:00.480
<v Speaker 3>throwing it back, I make sure yea yeah, it's like

0:47:01.360 --> 0:47:04.920
<v Speaker 3>but yeah, acting light but yeah. But you know he

0:47:05.160 --> 0:47:07.800
<v Speaker 3>never had no coach boy before, not no country booty. No.

0:47:08.040 --> 0:47:08.360
<v Speaker 1>Okay.

0:47:08.440 --> 0:47:12.960
<v Speaker 3>So the blowjobs in ancient Rome was a horrible thing.

0:47:13.120 --> 0:47:16.320
<v Speaker 3>Is even worse than anal sex, and for ancient Romans

0:47:17.200 --> 0:47:22.960
<v Speaker 3>it was anal sex was an unforgivable advice. However, it

0:47:23.120 --> 0:47:26.839
<v Speaker 3>was totally fine to receive a blowjob for a petty crime.

0:47:26.960 --> 0:47:31.840
<v Speaker 3>It was often solved with forceful blowjobs. So imagine, explain

0:47:31.920 --> 0:47:35.040
<v Speaker 3>this to me. What so anal sex was something that

0:47:35.320 --> 0:47:41.040
<v Speaker 3>was like, uh for like you know, forbidden, but they

0:47:41.080 --> 0:47:45.080
<v Speaker 3>would use blowjobs as a punishment. So, for example, how

0:47:45.200 --> 0:47:48.040
<v Speaker 3>is that a punishment for any man? A blowjob is

0:47:48.120 --> 0:47:51.360
<v Speaker 3>not a punishment. So you own an onion field, so

0:47:51.520 --> 0:47:54.480
<v Speaker 3>many onions, and a peasant runs through your field and

0:47:54.560 --> 0:47:58.239
<v Speaker 3>steals the onions. This is documented. Instead of gouging his

0:47:58.360 --> 0:47:59.959
<v Speaker 3>eyes out or having his arm chopped.

0:48:00.239 --> 0:48:03.840
<v Speaker 1>He would get his di suck. That's a punishment, girl.

0:48:04.640 --> 0:48:05.280
<v Speaker 1>You know it's crazy.

0:48:05.320 --> 0:48:08.839
<v Speaker 3>No, no, no, man made that rule made women feel

0:48:08.920 --> 0:48:11.120
<v Speaker 3>bad for even giving it, like ooh, this is only

0:48:11.160 --> 0:48:11.800
<v Speaker 3>for criminals.

0:48:12.000 --> 0:48:14.239
<v Speaker 1>And it said if I commit a crime, you go

0:48:14.400 --> 0:48:15.080
<v Speaker 1>ego by dick.

0:48:15.200 --> 0:48:17.640
<v Speaker 3>Oh for sure, straight men did it in the times

0:48:17.680 --> 0:48:21.960
<v Speaker 3>of Plato and Socrates. Blowjobs were artificially called playing the flute,

0:48:22.360 --> 0:48:25.000
<v Speaker 3>and so Grecians listed up their togas for someone to

0:48:25.080 --> 0:48:27.280
<v Speaker 3>come and play their flute, and it was very common

0:48:27.360 --> 0:48:30.320
<v Speaker 3>for oral sex to be exchanged between men, generally someone

0:48:30.400 --> 0:48:33.239
<v Speaker 3>of power and someone who doesn't have any Now, in

0:48:33.360 --> 0:48:36.799
<v Speaker 3>the nineteenth century, it could get you fucking executed.

0:48:37.239 --> 0:48:38.920
<v Speaker 1>Blowjobs could get you executed.

0:48:39.080 --> 0:48:42.479
<v Speaker 3>Yes, but it says that the history of church going

0:48:43.320 --> 0:48:46.840
<v Speaker 3>people believed it was something that couldn't be done for procreation.

0:48:47.520 --> 0:48:48.960
<v Speaker 1>And I ain't gonna hold you. Let me tell you.

0:48:50.440 --> 0:48:51.719
<v Speaker 1>I know I've been here.

0:48:51.800 --> 0:48:51.960
<v Speaker 2>We go.

0:48:52.400 --> 0:48:55.000
<v Speaker 3>You gotta hear me still talk about the past. Me

0:48:55.560 --> 0:48:58.640
<v Speaker 3>so my Nigerian that I used to be with back

0:48:58.680 --> 0:49:00.760
<v Speaker 3>in the day. If y'all listen to the old episodes,

0:49:00.840 --> 0:49:05.000
<v Speaker 3>y'alla hear about my Nigerian he would not do anything

0:49:05.120 --> 0:49:08.320
<v Speaker 3>sexually except for missionary, but he would not let me

0:49:08.400 --> 0:49:10.080
<v Speaker 3>suck his dick because he thought it was one of

0:49:10.120 --> 0:49:12.960
<v Speaker 3>the most degrading, disrespectful things for women to do. And

0:49:13.080 --> 0:49:14.600
<v Speaker 3>he would not fuck me from the back because he

0:49:14.680 --> 0:49:17.319
<v Speaker 3>believed that during sex we had to look at each other.

0:49:17.800 --> 0:49:20.279
<v Speaker 1>No, he never even tried anal sex. He wanted to

0:49:20.320 --> 0:49:21.880
<v Speaker 1>be able to look at me while we were having sex,

0:49:22.280 --> 0:49:24.239
<v Speaker 1>and he never let me suck his dick. It was

0:49:24.280 --> 0:49:27.120
<v Speaker 1>the easiest trick I ever had. Nigeria.

0:49:27.400 --> 0:49:27.719
<v Speaker 2>No, No, No.

0:49:28.120 --> 0:49:31.799
<v Speaker 3>By the way, I love a city, hold you them.

0:49:32.880 --> 0:49:35.719
<v Speaker 3>Chloe is making me believe burna boy got.

0:49:35.640 --> 0:49:37.880
<v Speaker 1>It down at his ankle and I would just like

0:49:37.960 --> 0:49:39.920
<v Speaker 1>to see it. She just looks high the whole time.

0:49:40.120 --> 0:49:42.360
<v Speaker 1>That's fine. So that means you have good week and

0:49:42.480 --> 0:49:43.759
<v Speaker 1>good good weedy and good dick.

0:49:43.840 --> 0:49:46.520
<v Speaker 3>Did you see the Breakfast Club interview with I just

0:49:46.600 --> 0:49:49.400
<v Speaker 3>want to say we love you on thank you for

0:49:49.520 --> 0:49:52.239
<v Speaker 3>this book when Charlotte made not want to press nobody

0:49:52.280 --> 0:49:56.319
<v Speaker 3>because he fucked with you. He will not press nobody. Lauren, Wow,

0:49:56.800 --> 0:50:00.160
<v Speaker 3>you did not see this clip of No so oh

0:50:00.200 --> 0:50:00.759
<v Speaker 3>wait I did?

0:50:00.920 --> 0:50:01.160
<v Speaker 1>I did?

0:50:01.239 --> 0:50:03.239
<v Speaker 3>Sat Lauren's like, oh what about that? What I mean

0:50:03.280 --> 0:50:05.520
<v Speaker 3>that was journalism, honey, and Charlotte.

0:50:05.280 --> 0:50:06.839
<v Speaker 1>Was just sitting there. But you know, if he wants

0:50:06.840 --> 0:50:08.400
<v Speaker 1>some t even people don't get it.

0:50:08.480 --> 0:50:10.680
<v Speaker 3>He was just like, no, is it because their cousin?

0:50:10.800 --> 0:50:12.760
<v Speaker 3>Someone said, or that was jose cousins.

0:50:13.120 --> 0:50:14.279
<v Speaker 1>I don't know, if you know black and fact, we

0:50:14.280 --> 0:50:15.560
<v Speaker 1>call each other cousin. So I don't know if that

0:50:15.640 --> 0:50:16.160
<v Speaker 1>was just a thing.

0:50:16.600 --> 0:50:20.640
<v Speaker 3>But Chloe had dodged those questions. That's the media training

0:50:20.680 --> 0:50:23.239
<v Speaker 3>our want in life. Let's just say twenty years from now,

0:50:23.719 --> 0:50:26.839
<v Speaker 3>I'm sitting down with an interview. David Letterman's still live,

0:50:27.239 --> 0:50:29.560
<v Speaker 3>and he goes, hey, you know what's crazy. He looked

0:50:29.600 --> 0:50:32.400
<v Speaker 3>like he's like Samuel Jackson. That's the white Samuel Jackson.

0:50:32.480 --> 0:50:35.080
<v Speaker 3>He looked the same old David Letterman has looked old

0:50:35.120 --> 0:50:37.240
<v Speaker 3>as buck since I've known David Letterman.

0:50:37.440 --> 0:50:39.640
<v Speaker 1>Oh and that's Samuel Jackson. I'm gonna tell you what

0:50:39.680 --> 0:50:41.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm crazy. This is Chloe Bailey trailing.

0:50:41.880 --> 0:50:44.879
<v Speaker 3>Now I'm training that I'm gonna take into event. David

0:50:44.920 --> 0:50:46.719
<v Speaker 3>Letterman's gonna suit me the old and be like so

0:50:47.440 --> 0:50:51.040
<v Speaker 3>everyone used to say you and Mandy you change the world,

0:50:51.120 --> 0:50:53.400
<v Speaker 3>but you guys never got along. Could you tell me

0:50:53.480 --> 0:50:55.880
<v Speaker 3>about that, And I'm gonna say we had a great

0:50:56.239 --> 0:50:59.000
<v Speaker 3>run together, we changed lives, we had a book.

0:50:59.320 --> 0:51:01.120
<v Speaker 1>Why you get that now? If you know? I answer now,

0:51:01.400 --> 0:51:03.640
<v Speaker 1>I don't. I don't know the training. It doesn't matter.

0:51:03.680 --> 0:51:05.680
<v Speaker 3>You're saying it right now, nobody else whatever you think

0:51:05.719 --> 0:51:08.240
<v Speaker 3>you know how to motherfucker say saying that, I'll be douging.

0:51:08.560 --> 0:51:10.840
<v Speaker 1>I need media training so twenty years from now, I

0:51:10.920 --> 0:51:14.000
<v Speaker 1>can clean this shit up. What did you just answered

0:51:14.000 --> 0:51:18.080
<v Speaker 1>me with your I really feel like people really don't

0:51:18.239 --> 0:51:20.080
<v Speaker 1>fuck with me like that in the interview, like they

0:51:20.239 --> 0:51:22.920
<v Speaker 1>just that to me is kind of like a shitty question.

0:51:23.800 --> 0:51:24.920
<v Speaker 1>Like today if I.

0:51:24.960 --> 0:51:27.720
<v Speaker 3>Went on the platform, and when we're doing book interviews,

0:51:28.160 --> 0:51:29.840
<v Speaker 3>if someone does that, I just kind of feel like

0:51:30.520 --> 0:51:31.799
<v Speaker 3>like you're doing too much.

0:51:32.640 --> 0:51:35.800
<v Speaker 1>I ain't gonna hold you. Well, we sit down, we

0:51:35.880 --> 0:51:38.440
<v Speaker 1>want to ask the mess I don't give a fuck. Okay,

0:51:38.560 --> 0:51:39.719
<v Speaker 1>don't ask me no goddamn mess.

0:51:39.719 --> 0:51:42.000
<v Speaker 3>So, and that's pr training because I'm gonna tell you

0:51:42.280 --> 0:51:45.560
<v Speaker 3>Tyler's team said don't ask her if she's black. Well,

0:51:45.640 --> 0:51:47.680
<v Speaker 3>you know what, and he didn't read the paper. Ask

0:51:47.880 --> 0:51:50.239
<v Speaker 3>me the messy shit because I love to be a

0:51:50.280 --> 0:51:53.560
<v Speaker 3>little petty. But depending on what the money in my account.

0:51:53.960 --> 0:51:57.080
<v Speaker 3>It depends how much petty I'm gonna be. Baby, don't

0:51:57.160 --> 0:51:58.320
<v Speaker 3>let me just got a deposit.

0:51:58.440 --> 0:52:00.719
<v Speaker 1>Don't bring it up. I'm petty all right, ain't gonna

0:52:00.719 --> 0:52:02.520
<v Speaker 1>bring it up. Don't bring it up. Courthouse Mandy. Oh,

0:52:02.800 --> 0:52:05.200
<v Speaker 1>I can't wait till court is over. Oh, bitch, I

0:52:05.320 --> 0:52:08.840
<v Speaker 1>might come in here singing the huts. Bitch, it's giving.

0:52:09.680 --> 0:52:12.480
<v Speaker 1>I want Hallelujah. Put it Cameron there like a sock

0:52:13.080 --> 0:52:15.880
<v Speaker 1>a sop. Oh, I'm thinking about the soap. I'm not.

0:52:16.040 --> 0:52:16.719
<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna lie.

0:52:17.000 --> 0:52:19.600
<v Speaker 3>My homegirl said, bitch, you want me to show up

0:52:19.640 --> 0:52:21.600
<v Speaker 3>with you? Say you could jump into my arms after

0:52:21.680 --> 0:52:23.080
<v Speaker 3>that shit like asab.

0:52:22.719 --> 0:52:25.280
<v Speaker 1>Dear Rihanna, Is it gonna say big Dowie.

0:52:26.160 --> 0:52:27.719
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's gonna be sold to say bitch and nat

0:52:27.800 --> 0:52:31.440
<v Speaker 3>trial to cilic. You have to show up, bitch, give

0:52:31.520 --> 0:52:33.960
<v Speaker 3>us one more fucking uh blood. Let me get the

0:52:34.000 --> 0:52:37.319
<v Speaker 3>fuck out of here. Okay, okay, says y'all know we're

0:52:37.320 --> 0:52:38.080
<v Speaker 3>teaching history now.

0:52:38.120 --> 0:52:40.480
<v Speaker 1>Okay, so blow jobs.

0:52:40.520 --> 0:52:44.520
<v Speaker 3>In religion in the Dark Ages, the severity of medieval

0:52:44.600 --> 0:52:48.640
<v Speaker 3>churches created an era that some few would describe as fun,

0:52:48.760 --> 0:52:55.439
<v Speaker 3>because everything was jail, behead you, whatever, so going down

0:52:55.520 --> 0:53:00.399
<v Speaker 3>on someone in the medieval era, fifteen years of jail,

0:53:01.360 --> 0:53:04.000
<v Speaker 3>the same sentence you'd get for committing murders if you

0:53:04.080 --> 0:53:09.520
<v Speaker 3>suck the dick. What. In ancient India, falatio was ritualized.

0:53:09.880 --> 0:53:13.359
<v Speaker 3>The original Sanskrit version of Kama Sutra has an entire

0:53:13.480 --> 0:53:16.040
<v Speaker 3>chapter to the art of blow jobs that said it

0:53:16.120 --> 0:53:20.000
<v Speaker 3>was close to godliness. So one side of the world

0:53:20.239 --> 0:53:21.560
<v Speaker 3>and one side of the world looking.

0:53:21.360 --> 0:53:22.040
<v Speaker 1>At shit different.

0:53:22.239 --> 0:53:26.680
<v Speaker 3>I ain't gonna I like really doing the falatio. We

0:53:26.800 --> 0:53:31.560
<v Speaker 3>know I would risk the fifteen years. I would risk

0:53:31.600 --> 0:53:33.600
<v Speaker 3>you because then I want you could get fialatio in

0:53:33.760 --> 0:53:34.200
<v Speaker 3>jail too.

0:53:35.360 --> 0:53:39.000
<v Speaker 1>Wait, not this jail. It's gonna be woman and then

0:53:39.239 --> 0:53:41.920
<v Speaker 1>it's a dark agent had showers.

0:53:41.960 --> 0:53:44.640
<v Speaker 3>Bitch, Now you got you got mail like the CEO's

0:53:44.800 --> 0:53:49.040
<v Speaker 3>you got dick and Vajohnny you're gonna get they got

0:53:49.440 --> 0:53:52.399
<v Speaker 3>seo has been the things they like. Prostitutes has been

0:53:52.400 --> 0:53:54.880
<v Speaker 3>around since the beginning of prisons times.

0:53:55.320 --> 0:53:56.800
<v Speaker 1>As soon as then was a prison, there was a

0:53:56.840 --> 0:53:57.560
<v Speaker 1>co You know.

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<v Speaker 3>You do it.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like you just want to pay back your

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<v Speaker 1>time for the CEO's saving you with the phone. Shout

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<v Speaker 1>out to the CEO, Hey were you with your X.

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<v Speaker 3>When this happened, I was and I was mad because

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, Nigga, you in the system, you was a firefighter,

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<v Speaker 3>Get me out of here. I was in there way

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<v Speaker 3>too long, Beach. I was like, you ain't got that pool.

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<v Speaker 3>I thought you was a white collar blue light show.

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<v Speaker 3>Come on, come on, God damn it.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't you know somebody in here?

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<v Speaker 3>Literally, bro, I'm gonna tell you right now, if I

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<v Speaker 3>go to jail in the next few years, switch, I

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<v Speaker 3>probably will because I'd be ready to fight. I just

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<v Speaker 3>feel like I'm gonna get in there for something scrappy,

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<v Speaker 3>and the second I'm in there, They're gonna have this

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<v Speaker 3>video footage of me getting in the fight at last

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<v Speaker 3>lap some shit, and I'd be like, I don't understand

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<v Speaker 3>why I'm still here. I told you guys take more

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<v Speaker 3>of the money, And I like, why am I here?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm going a full white woman the box break up.

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<v Speaker 3>You hanging by a thread, and I'm gonna be like,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't really, I don't get it. I don't belonging there.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my god, what, oh my hell me the half

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<v Speaker 3>inche coming out, I will turn into Drake on a

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<v Speaker 3>Kendrick Beach.

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<v Speaker 1>So now idiot. Y'all.

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<v Speaker 3>We are gonna go ahead and get out of here,

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<v Speaker 3>but before we do, we want to leave y'all a

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<v Speaker 3>few little announcements because we booked in Busy Cousins everyone

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, we're gonna keep you here for the horror pettiness

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<v Speaker 3>is really hurt.

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<v Speaker 4>A bitch got a deposit, Okay, you know. Anyways, thank

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<v Speaker 4>you guys so much for tuning in. It's another episode

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<v Speaker 1>This is the Oons. See you next week.