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Speaker 1: Welcome to Decisions Decisions. I don't think you should say

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Speaker 1: the Decisions. It sounded like you was talking to Kursky.

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Speaker 3: You definitely say to welcome, Welcome to the new podcast

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Speaker 3: how about you want to say together the Decisions Decisions.

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Speaker 4: Welcome guys to another episode of Decisions Decisions.

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Speaker 1: I'm your girl, Mandy.

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Speaker 3: V Mandy is geek, y'all, don't do that, y We

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Speaker 3: had a great photo shoot today. I woke up at

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Speaker 3: five in the morning for this shit. I'm over it.

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Speaker 3: But bitch, let me tell you how over it I am. Yo,

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Speaker 3: Nigga sent you flowers. My nigga heard me getting upset

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Speaker 3: on the phone and said, I'm flying down there.

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Speaker 1: Oh yes, that's cute. It's cute.

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Speaker 3: But like, bitch, don't script, no, no, no, I ain't even

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Speaker 3: hold you.

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Speaker 4: So I just spent two days with my boyfriend. We

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Speaker 4: were working on the West Coast, and so after our shoot,

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Speaker 4: we just had a five hour cover shoot.

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Speaker 1: Y'o. We're cover girls. I love it. We'll give you

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Speaker 1: with the We'll give you guys updates on.

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Speaker 4: That when we can. But so I get a call.

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Speaker 4: I said, first off, who this? I don't even I

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Speaker 4: ain't answering six, seven.

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Speaker 3: Eight, fol foe, none of these numbers, because what fuck

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Speaker 3: is you calling?

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Speaker 1: Anyways, I answer it.

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Speaker 4: I'm at We have just enough time to eat before

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Speaker 4: we came to the studio and so I'm at the

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Speaker 4: Ruth Chris getting the stuffed chicken because that's what a

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Speaker 4: bitch orders, and this person calls me. It's like, I

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Speaker 4: have a flower delivery for you, and I'm like a

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Speaker 4: flower delivery, bitch, so where I live.

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Speaker 1: Can't find it.

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Speaker 4: So I'm like, you know what, come to Ruth Chris

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Speaker 4: and drop these flowers off.

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Speaker 1: So I'm talking to our manager Alex, and I'm like,

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Speaker 1: I noticed nigga showing out.

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Speaker 3: I literally say, listen for the audio listeners. Let me

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Speaker 3: smells beautiful white, mind you literally roses and all the things.

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Speaker 3: It says, Mandy, you sucked my dicks. That is not

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Speaker 3: what it says. Okay, it says my cover girl, mind you.

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Speaker 3: He tags it ab because he's like, I know you

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Speaker 3: like to post on the internet and I know I'm active.

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Speaker 4: So the last time he sent me flowers, bitch, they

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Speaker 4: didn't have the note. So he's like, not David, like

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Speaker 4: this is my nigga.

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Speaker 1: No, no, no, no.

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Speaker 3: He was like, what the fuck do you mean they

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Speaker 3: didn't have the news And I'm like, I ain't see

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Speaker 1: So I'm glad you told me.

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Speaker 3: This feeling about that I don't give a fuck, and

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Speaker 3: he's like, what do you mean there was no note.

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Speaker 3: I specifically signed it activate because I know you'd be

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Speaker 3: he literally is like, he signed it activate specifically the

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Speaker 1: And me say, you activated. I don't know if you

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Speaker 4: No no, no, no, he don't. Well I told him

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Speaker 4: he can't. No no, no, no, tell you right now, Nicole.

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Speaker 1: You're starting strong.

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Speaker 4: No no, no, always got two flowers and you're not gonna lie.

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Speaker 4: So I'm at dinner, I'm like, I just noticed nigga

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Speaker 1: Mind y'all.

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Speaker 4: I give y all a tea. Patreon dot com backslash

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Speaker 4: horrible decisions, and in Vegas when he tried to get

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Speaker 4: jealous at the other nigga hit in my line right,

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Speaker 4: I literally told him I'm nominated in Walking a Red

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Speaker 4: Carpet and my homegirl brought me flowers.

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Speaker 1: You didn't even bring me flowers? Yeah, old you.

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Speaker 3: He gonna spend at sixty nine flowers elbow. When I

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Speaker 3: of weeks ago when he came to see me in Atlanta,

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Speaker 3: and now to get these, I literally called him, like

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Speaker 1: It's just like I was like Beyonce. I literally called

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Speaker 1: If he he will hold on. That's the day of

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Speaker 1: this episode. Do you know what's crazy?

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Speaker 4: If you guys, and this is not an ad because

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Speaker 4: we don't already got our check, but one of them

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Speaker 4: days with Kiki Balmer, and they started the first dialogue.

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Speaker 4: I don't know if y'all ever read the script if

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Speaker 4: you watch it, because now it's streaming the very first

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Speaker 1: If he if he wants to, they started in a diner.

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Speaker 3: While they're sitting at the diner, it is two other

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Speaker 1: And when I tell you that stuck up out to me.

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Speaker 4: will mind you the conversation like when I told him like, yeah,

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Speaker 4: there's other niggas that want me, Like we had the

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Speaker 1: He bitch he doing here.

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Speaker 3: He very afraid you're losing me. So I'm just like,

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Speaker 1: We're watching the season finale together of Paradise, and I'm

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Speaker 3: So last night we were supposed to watch it when

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Speaker 3: we landed, but his flight got delayed, mine got delayed.

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Speaker 3: I said, Babe, I have a whole fucking shoot day tomorrow.

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Speaker 3: And so I text him and I'm like, let's watch

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Speaker 4: So how we watch a show together? Because I said

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Speaker 4: we have to watch shows together. We'll tell each other

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Speaker 4: when we're gonna start because we're three hours different, so

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Speaker 4: I'll be like Okay, talk to you in fifty seven minutes.

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Speaker 4: Well press play at the same time, we'll text each

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Speaker 3: Didn't you say there was a dude you want on

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Speaker 3: a date with that?

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Speaker 1: Why are you bringing up another nigga? No, grandma, talking

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Speaker 1: about the one that I'm dating right now. Don't use

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Speaker 4: There is a computer program. So I did have a

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Speaker 4: virtual date where basically he was given a code. If

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Speaker 1: The same nigga. That's fine. Oh it was fire. Oh

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Speaker 1: not only that he sent me like I he sent

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Speaker 4: But we're not gonna talk about another nigga right now

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Speaker 4: because I got a boyfriend. So you think your ex

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Speaker 4: boyfriend's watching this and listening, but you don't want to

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Speaker 4: tell that you already know. Okay, y'all since, by the way,

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Speaker 4: friends have suggested not to share this. Oh that don't no, no, no,

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Speaker 4: They only suggested because he's a narcissist, so he may

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Speaker 4: I don't know what he would get from this, but

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Speaker 4: I didn't respond yet and it's because hold on, so

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Speaker 4: can I tell okay, So let me let me tell

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Speaker 4: y'all the backstory. So Weezy and I were in the

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Speaker 1: Bulken one day after I said hold on, you gotta say.

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Speaker 4: So, so Weezy, So we did back to back days, right,

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Speaker 4: actually we did three days back to back. So Weezye

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Speaker 4: and I are in the studio and we're both like, che'sing, Oh,

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Speaker 4: we got boyfriends.

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Speaker 1: Hopefully y'all still say here because y'all hate when we happy.

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Speaker 4: Anyways, So she's like, you know what, I wonder which

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Speaker 4: one of our exes is going to hit us first?

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Speaker 4: And so we're sitting here having this conversation. I'm like, bitch,

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Speaker 4: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: The next day we go into the studio, we record

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Speaker 1: two episodes.

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Speaker 3: We're on our last one. Bitch, it is three thirty

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Speaker 3: eight pm. That was so crazy, I say, bitch, I

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Speaker 3: notice sing what the fun I don't think it should?

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Speaker 1: I say, come to Manifest? Hold get one hundred million

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Speaker 1: dollars deal? Hold on, no, no, no? When going to happened?

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Speaker 3: The first day or second day, we find out we're

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Speaker 3: a New York Times bestseller?

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Speaker 1: I thank you? Keep going? What else you want a Manifest?

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Speaker 4: I like the New York Times bestsellers. Y'all know holds

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Speaker 4: bar to do a manifest on sexual as next shore.

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Speaker 1: It gonna be bo.

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Speaker 4: So anyways, we're recording Bitch my Heart sink fuck nigga.

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Speaker 4: I get a fucking email from my ex. Now listen.

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Speaker 4: I don't know if the nigga in the blogs, if

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Speaker 4: he's a patron, if he saw my Instagram live.

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Speaker 1: Jagging about my new boyfriend. I don't know what it is.

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Speaker 1: But literally, while I'm in New York.

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Speaker 3: Probably a week after I announced that I'm in a relationship,

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Speaker 3: I get an email.

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Speaker 1: Should I read it?

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Speaker 3: I could go through it quick only because we see

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Speaker 3: real messy. We probably shouldn't do this, but we're gonna

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Speaker 3: do it anyway. Let's read No, no, no, it's I

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Speaker 3: could read through a pass.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, we want a long bitch. So god, wait,

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Speaker 1: are you sure you want to do this?

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Speaker 4: And do because I'm gonna tell you because I'm not

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Speaker 4: responding now, I'm gonna respond publicly because he's probably listening,

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Speaker 4: probably watching.

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Speaker 1: Oh you guys, we are going to respond to my

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Speaker 1: ex publicly. Are you ready? By the way, Dwayne, maybe

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Speaker 1: put the violin music to the back of this.

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Speaker 3: Let's sound design this ship, and you know what I

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Speaker 3: would say, sorry, but sorry about the fact that you

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Speaker 3: lied about having cancer, because I'll never forget.

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Speaker 1: Keep going subject line gratitude.

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Speaker 4: Oh bitch, Hey, I hope this finds you in good

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Speaker 4: health and happiness. I'm sitting and do I'm sitting in

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Speaker 4: deep reflection about our time together, and the word quote

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Speaker 4: unquote gratitude keeps coming to the forefront of my mind.

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Speaker 4: I'm grateful to have you enter into my life at

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Speaker 3: Pray that my presence in your life will be more

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Speaker 4: Although you were decades younger than me, you are light

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Speaker 4: Please know that you are loved, You are appreciated, You

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Speaker 4: I wish you heard this. You let's avoid in my

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Speaker 4: how I forever remember you from this point on. Sincerely, Blank,

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Speaker 4: Keep shining. So I would like you to know Blank,

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Speaker 4: But my response to you is thanks, but no thanks.

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Speaker 1: Not you grabbing the teeth from me? Bitch? I was

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Speaker 1: That was not a part of my life. I didn't

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Speaker 4: AnyWho don't email me again. I will never be with

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Speaker 1: It just a little today, little day and I get away.

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Speaker 3: Let me tell you, niggas, hey when fine, skinny airy,

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Speaker 1: Definitely was getting await with ass. But can we can

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Speaker 2: Oh no, no, no.

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Speaker 1: When I look back at our pictures, I had.

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Speaker 3: Love weight on me with that nigga, but also pandemic weight,

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Speaker 1: Maybe because you were with him so long you lost weight.

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Speaker 3: I think I think if I had an ex that

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Speaker 3: you would, Yes, I would. I don't think I would

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Speaker 3: do it for a long time. But if I miss you,

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna just look bitch. We broke up a year

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Speaker 3: that long ago, maybe maybe two years. You talk about

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Speaker 4: You ready, and I know some of you bitches sucking

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Speaker 4: I'm so scared to bring my partner out to wear

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Speaker 1: They don't like you because they're sucking your dick and

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Speaker 1: they're confused why you love me? Yeah you already.

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Speaker 3: No, I'm gonna cut I cut that out of that

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Speaker 3: But basically it's just that whole energy of like why

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Speaker 1: But wait, what's up with me? Oh? Fun story? Let me.

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Speaker 2: H?

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Speaker 1: Oh do that noise again? Mandy?

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Speaker 3: Oh, I have a story for you, buddy.

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Speaker 3: So no, we had a gig in Denver, man for well,

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Speaker 3: it probably is out now right, No, it's out.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Oh wait it's out now? Do you have a

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Speaker 3: Just on?

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Speaker 1: We got time to talk? Yeah? Is that what it is?

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Speaker 1: We got time today? We got time today, av that

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Speaker 3: So they had a business class flights, two flights ground transport.

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Speaker 3: So uh, basically Mandy's man is in La So it

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Speaker 1: If he was in Europe.

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Speaker 3: All I knew was I had two flights on somebody else.

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Speaker 1: Well, so, uh what happened? Oh yeah, Mandy had time

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Speaker 1: I was very confused. I was like, what fu so anyway?

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Speaker 3: The way, I didn't even tell you. Mandy's room is

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Speaker 1: I honestly woke me up. No, it didn't. Don't didn't. Oh,

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Speaker 4: At night, bitch, we when I tell you, I was

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Speaker 3: I fell out that Nigga was up three hours after me.

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Speaker 3: I was really trying to be quiet. I don't think

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Speaker 1: I had a three with you guys. That's nothing I was.

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Speaker 1: I did not think you was going.

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Speaker 3: I was praying until you don't heard it back, But

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Speaker 3: I was just thinking with the whole if he wants to,

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Speaker 1: It's really just because niggas ain't showing the.

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Speaker 3: Fuck up so to know I'm feeling distressed and you're

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Speaker 1: I'm telling you friends do this, and we see them

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Speaker 1: do it effortless. Yeah, effortlessly. Yep.

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Speaker 3: My friends would jump on a train playing, they'll sit

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Speaker 1: Why is it so hat? It's not that so.

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Speaker 4: I do think that the mental capacity it's different between

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Speaker 3: I do think that not to gender war this shit

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Speaker 4: I think our friends have seen us through multiple relationships,

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Speaker 4: First off, we've all been with fucked up niggas. I'm

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Speaker 4: working through friends with fucked up baby daddy's with ex husbands,

440
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Speaker 4: with all of the navigating of their romantic partners that

441
00:20:48,359 --> 00:20:51,240
Speaker 4: they have. You're a romantic partner right now just knows

442
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Speaker 4: how you've shown up with him from the beginning and

443
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Speaker 4: how you continue to show up for him, and only

444
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Speaker 4: what you share with him about your past. But he

445
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Speaker 4: doesn't really know the evolution of really how much you've

446
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Speaker 4: grown better than.

447
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Speaker 1: Your friends do.

448
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Speaker 3: I think the friends aspect of it, though, it's like,

449
00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:10,480
Speaker 3: so I think there is a hierarchy. Like I'm not religious,

450
00:21:10,480 --> 00:21:14,400
Speaker 3: but let's just say it like this, God, yourself, your spouse,

451
00:21:15,480 --> 00:21:16,840
Speaker 3: your family, friends.

452
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Speaker 1: I love this hierarchy switches for everyone. All right, I'm

453
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Speaker 1: saying this is how I think people consider it. Okay,

454
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Speaker 1: you put God first, you put yourself, then your partner,

455
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Speaker 1: then then your kids whatever they say, husband first, We'll

456
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Speaker 1: talk about that later, and then friends.

457
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Speaker 3: For me, what I'm realizing is that I think friends

458
00:21:35,680 --> 00:21:38,320
Speaker 3: have become family. I'm an only child, Like they just

459
00:21:38,359 --> 00:21:41,520
Speaker 3: seem to get it. And for some reason, I felt

460
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Speaker 3: like I was begging in the past for niggas to

461
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Speaker 3: get it, and I.

462
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Speaker 1: Would put men and women i've dated.

463
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Speaker 3: In this place of hey, like we're sticking in it

464
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Speaker 3: now it's us. And I think it was not that

465
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Speaker 3: it wasn't like it just wasn't instinctual for them. Where

466
00:22:00,200 --> 00:22:03,360
Speaker 3: now I see that it is. My problems are his problems?

467
00:22:03,560 --> 00:22:06,040
Speaker 3: Like all the way I see it every single day.

468
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Speaker 3: It could be a work problem.

469
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Speaker 1: What do you want me to run and do? How

470
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Speaker 1: can I help you?

471
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Speaker 2: Yeah?

472
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Speaker 1: And vice versa.

473
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Speaker 3: Right at this phase in our lives, his entrepreneurial ventures

474
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Speaker 3: allow for more free time where mine don't. And so

475
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Speaker 3: he literally said to me, like, yo, if me being

476
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Speaker 3: on set with you makes you feel better, and that's

477
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Speaker 3: the way we got to spend time together while you're

478
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Speaker 3: in this phase of your life.

479
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Speaker 1: Cool, I'm gonna do this with you. But I don't think.

480
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Speaker 3: I've really had men that will do it for me.

481
00:22:33,440 --> 00:22:35,480
Speaker 3: My friends, for some reason, would seem to go to

482
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Speaker 3: the end for me where men wouldn't. And maybe I

483
00:22:38,640 --> 00:22:42,560
Speaker 3: just wasn't dating partners that were that had I don't know,

484
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Speaker 3: but I would say I am very needy when it

485
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Speaker 3: comes to emotional things, and so I have friends that

486
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Speaker 3: can scratch at It's not all of them friends that

487
00:22:51,560 --> 00:22:54,040
Speaker 3: will caddle me if I want it. Vinnie's not a coddler,

488
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Speaker 3: but he'll always show up for me. Right as far

489
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Speaker 3: as partners, I really should have been looking for someone

490
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Speaker 3: it gets it that knows if I like to be

491
00:23:02,119 --> 00:23:04,800
Speaker 3: a big baby. It doesn't bother them. They enjoy caring

492
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Speaker 3: for me. Cause some niggas might complain, oh my gosh,

493
00:23:08,359 --> 00:23:09,959
Speaker 3: she does this, and that my man likes to man

494
00:23:10,119 --> 00:23:11,840
Speaker 3: up in those moments. Not every man likes that. They

495
00:23:11,880 --> 00:23:15,280
Speaker 3: consider it a burden. So whereas like we could shade it.

496
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Speaker 3: There's someone that wants to take care of you like that.

497
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Speaker 3: And I really believe you have to look for the

498
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Speaker 3: strengths in someone where you fall short at And we

499
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Speaker 3: talked about this on it You Got Decision Do You

500
00:23:27,680 --> 00:23:30,040
Speaker 3: Got Decision episode lately where I said you can't have

501
00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:32,800
Speaker 3: the same vices. I think you have to balance the

502
00:23:32,840 --> 00:23:36,440
Speaker 3: strengths and weaknesses, just like extroverted people do good with introverts,

503
00:23:37,160 --> 00:23:42,200
Speaker 3: like it's almost instantaneous that it feels good, right. I

504
00:23:42,280 --> 00:23:45,040
Speaker 3: think when I've dated my ex was very extroverted, you

505
00:23:45,119 --> 00:23:47,880
Speaker 3: know that. I think that's why we flashed. He didn't

506
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Speaker 3: know how to like combaut and balance.

507
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Speaker 4: I mean, to me, the men that I have ended

508
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Speaker 4: up leaning towards the most, not only with my ex,

509
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Speaker 4: but just even it in my twenties, non flashy, introverted quiet.

510
00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:10,320
Speaker 4: Did I say not flashy because I hate flashy niggas,

511
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Speaker 4: But they've all been completely opposite of me and have

512
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Speaker 4: found to be like just enamored by how I can

513
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Speaker 4: exist in a room.

514
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Speaker 1: And me and my my boyfriend talked about this in Denver.

515
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Speaker 1: He was like, do you know what I love about

516
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Speaker 1: you most?

517
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Speaker 4: Which, by the way, we had the conversation, I said,

518
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Speaker 4: just so you know, Nigga, I ain't hand to ill

519
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Speaker 4: word first.

520
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Speaker 1: He said, oh, I know, you think I don't know.

521
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Speaker 1: You don't want to say it fast.

522
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Speaker 3: I know, Oh, I told him. I said, I ain't

523
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Speaker 3: saying it first. Nigg I said it last Time'm not

524
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Speaker 3: saying it again. But but he said, you know what

525
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Speaker 3: I really love about you most? I said what He

526
00:24:44,040 --> 00:24:47,680
Speaker 3: was like, how self sufficient you are. And I don't

527
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Speaker 3: know if it's because of our age difference. But in

528
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Speaker 3: my last relationship, not the why you need men to

529
00:24:53,160 --> 00:24:57,480
Speaker 3: need your chapters if you read no host barred my

530
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Speaker 3: I end the chapter with how proud I am that

531
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Speaker 3: I can choose partners because I want them.

532
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Speaker 4: And at the demise and end of my last relationship,

533
00:25:07,920 --> 00:25:13,000
Speaker 4: he felt difficulty realizing or figuring out where he fit

534
00:25:13,080 --> 00:25:16,879
Speaker 4: into my world because I didn't need him and to

535
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Speaker 4: have my boyfriend this weekend say hey, it's what I

536
00:25:23,480 --> 00:25:24,520
Speaker 4: admire about you most.

537
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Speaker 1: He's like, I know that if I can't do this,

538
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Speaker 1: you're gonna have it.

539
00:25:30,080 --> 00:25:33,679
Speaker 3: But everything that I give to you, he said, everything

540
00:25:33,720 --> 00:25:35,920
Speaker 3: I give to you, to you as a person in

541
00:25:36,040 --> 00:25:39,359
Speaker 3: this relationship is just on top of the things you need,

542
00:25:40,080 --> 00:25:41,840
Speaker 3: I can show up in a way that shows up

543
00:25:41,880 --> 00:25:44,440
Speaker 3: and he said, I can just service you. And I

544
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Speaker 3: was like, do you know access service is my number

545
00:25:47,240 --> 00:25:48,200
Speaker 3: one love language?

546
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Speaker 1: Oh? That's right, it is is the service right now.

547
00:25:50,560 --> 00:25:52,360
Speaker 1: So he's like, what's his love language.

548
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Speaker 3: I will say I think it is physical touch based

549
00:26:01,040 --> 00:26:04,760
Speaker 3: on us being together. However, when we're away and I

550
00:26:04,840 --> 00:26:07,439
Speaker 3: want to confirm this, I think the way I show up.

551
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Speaker 1: I ended up just sending him things.

552
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Speaker 4: He has a movie dropping and it's a lot, big

553
00:26:12,760 --> 00:26:16,240
Speaker 4: production company, big cast around him, and he's like, it's

554
00:26:16,320 --> 00:26:18,760
Speaker 4: like my anxiety da da du. So I'm talking him

555
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Speaker 4: through and I was like, I think you have imposter syndrome.

556
00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:24,199
Speaker 4: I think information, so I think words of affirmation right now,

557
00:26:24,359 --> 00:26:27,320
Speaker 4: Like I sent him things about imposter syndrome, I said, listen,

558
00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:29,639
Speaker 4: I've been there. I want to help you work through

559
00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:31,000
Speaker 4: this because you need to be able to show up

560
00:26:31,040 --> 00:26:33,520
Speaker 4: through the premiere of this movie, and I think you

561
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Speaker 4: deserve to.

562
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Speaker 1: Be to care.

563
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Speaker 4: We talked about it because there's multiple cities, so it depends,

564
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Speaker 4: it depends, it depends which city.

565
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Speaker 1: I'm waiting for the New York dates we have the

566
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Speaker 1: LA dates. I'm hoping for San Diego.

567
00:26:46,760 --> 00:26:48,520
Speaker 3: He doesn't know if he's going to South, Like there's

568
00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:51,960
Speaker 3: so many things we don't know where all he's supposed

569
00:26:52,000 --> 00:26:55,320
Speaker 3: to be. But I'm like, you worked hard, you deserve

570
00:26:55,359 --> 00:26:57,000
Speaker 3: to be in these rooms. You're there for a reason.

571
00:26:57,760 --> 00:26:59,800
Speaker 3: Can you not say here and let your anxiety take over?

572
00:27:00,280 --> 00:27:03,880
Speaker 3: And so I he's like appreciated that I can come

573
00:27:03,920 --> 00:27:06,680
Speaker 3: to him about that. So see what you got a

574
00:27:06,760 --> 00:27:08,080
Speaker 3: nigga that's got an ambition?

575
00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:11,119
Speaker 1: Bit I love an ambitious niggas. What you from being

576
00:27:11,119 --> 00:27:20,640
Speaker 1: a retired nigga? I will say, though I have, I've

577
00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:23,160
Speaker 1: had decent. They've been decent.

578
00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:26,040
Speaker 3: My ex was very successful at his corporate job and

579
00:27:26,160 --> 00:27:29,080
Speaker 3: he really was trying to see a design company through.

580
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Speaker 1: I Also, it's so weird. I an't amost have a

581
00:27:32,240 --> 00:27:34,879
Speaker 1: tight because this one's good at interior design and he,

582
00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:37,280
Speaker 1: you know, buys homes. And I'm like, what is that

583
00:27:37,400 --> 00:27:38,680
Speaker 1: for me? Liking an art nigga?

584
00:27:39,320 --> 00:27:42,240
Speaker 3: Just a nigga that knows an art nigga?

585
00:27:42,760 --> 00:27:43,600
Speaker 1: Do you know you?

586
00:27:44,720 --> 00:27:45,000
Speaker 2: But no?

587
00:27:45,359 --> 00:27:47,560
Speaker 3: Just course here what I'm just looking at? First of

588
00:27:47,600 --> 00:27:49,600
Speaker 3: all arts as niggas your type?

589
00:27:49,720 --> 00:27:53,360
Speaker 1: Bitch? Fuck you mean you have a fucking septem ring Okay.

590
00:27:53,160 --> 00:27:56,720
Speaker 3: So anyway, no ho Bard, you guys already know we're

591
00:27:56,720 --> 00:28:00,760
Speaker 3: trying to get on the best sellers list, and boom,

592
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:04,560
Speaker 3: I'm gonna read a quote from the book. We're gonna

593
00:28:04,720 --> 00:28:06,680
Speaker 3: just dive into it and just give our opinion on it.

594
00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:09,080
Speaker 3: This is from one of my chapters Love It.

595
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Speaker 1: So it says he stopped me and said, listen to me,

596
00:28:14,400 --> 00:28:17,000
Speaker 1: you are always going to fuck me. Do you hear me?

597
00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:20,600
Speaker 3: You about to fuck me all the time? This pussy

598
00:28:20,680 --> 00:28:22,720
Speaker 3: is about to be my shit, and we're gonna be

599
00:28:22,800 --> 00:28:25,760
Speaker 3: fucking all the time. On the first time he entered me,

600
00:28:26,200 --> 00:28:28,920
Speaker 3: I never had anyone say that. That feeling of being

601
00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:31,720
Speaker 3: that wanted had me looking past a lot of shit.

602
00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:34,480
Speaker 3: A man in his forties with no real serious relationship

603
00:28:34,600 --> 00:28:36,840
Speaker 3: history or kids. A man in his forty who's getting

604
00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:39,080
Speaker 3: fucked up every weekend, known on the party scene, and

605
00:28:39,120 --> 00:28:40,640
Speaker 3: who's running around with a twenty seven.

606
00:28:40,560 --> 00:28:41,200
Speaker 1: Year old me.

607
00:28:41,920 --> 00:28:45,040
Speaker 3: Hello, red flags, and here are the three red flags

608
00:28:45,040 --> 00:28:49,280
Speaker 3: I should have noticed. History of short term relationships, avoiding

609
00:28:49,320 --> 00:28:52,320
Speaker 3: emotional intimacy, and partying excessively.

610
00:28:52,800 --> 00:28:57,080
Speaker 1: My question to you is, if a man.

611
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Speaker 3: Doesn't have a long term relationship and goes out a

612
00:28:59,640 --> 00:29:03,080
Speaker 3: lot when I think back about what I wrote, Yes,

613
00:29:03,160 --> 00:29:05,480
Speaker 3: I do think there are red flags, but do they

614
00:29:05,560 --> 00:29:07,920
Speaker 3: really matter? Like if a nigga really had never had

615
00:29:07,920 --> 00:29:09,880
Speaker 3: a long term girlfriend, is that really a problem.

616
00:29:09,960 --> 00:29:13,400
Speaker 1: Do you know what's crazy about that? I'm that person

617
00:29:13,520 --> 00:29:14,120
Speaker 1: you're describing.

618
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Speaker 4: So me and my boyfriend just had this conversation because

619
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Speaker 4: even though I have him by eight years, I was like,

620
00:29:21,560 --> 00:29:26,640
Speaker 4: when it comes to this relationship, shit, you're more experience

621
00:29:26,720 --> 00:29:30,640
Speaker 4: than I am. He's been in two previous long term relationships, okay,

622
00:29:31,520 --> 00:29:34,720
Speaker 4: and to me, even with us being together now, I

623
00:29:34,880 --> 00:29:37,640
Speaker 4: was like, I looked at that as a red flag.

624
00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:39,280
Speaker 4: I said, So, nigga, are you a serial dater?

625
00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:39,840
Speaker 1: Oh?

626
00:29:39,920 --> 00:29:40,280
Speaker 3: All right?

627
00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:42,400
Speaker 4: Said, how the fuck you've been in two long term

628
00:29:42,440 --> 00:29:44,240
Speaker 4: relationships at your age?

629
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Speaker 1: I don't think it's I do think it's bad if

630
00:29:46,480 --> 00:29:50,840
Speaker 1: the woman was that close. I have you by eight years, and.

631
00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:54,440
Speaker 3: Like, twenty six is not a crazy age to have

632
00:29:54,560 --> 00:29:55,840
Speaker 3: two long term relationships.

633
00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:58,080
Speaker 1: The long term to me is more than two. You ready,

634
00:29:58,200 --> 00:29:59,880
Speaker 1: I got in my first real relationship.

635
00:30:01,480 --> 00:30:05,160
Speaker 4: Okay, that show my point. But it's actors. As a mom,

636
00:30:05,680 --> 00:30:10,680
Speaker 4: I don't know, maybe, but I was just like, to me,

637
00:30:12,440 --> 00:30:15,320
Speaker 4: it could be, it could be.

638
00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:17,400
Speaker 3: It could be, but it could be a red flag

639
00:30:17,840 --> 00:30:22,120
Speaker 3: that you jump from one relationship to another if you

640
00:30:22,440 --> 00:30:28,200
Speaker 3: are say you're thirty and you've been in relationships to

641
00:30:28,320 --> 00:30:31,920
Speaker 3: where you're now dating at thirty years old, and you're

642
00:30:31,920 --> 00:30:34,160
Speaker 3: sitting across from someone in the person that you're talking to,

643
00:30:34,640 --> 00:30:39,200
Speaker 3: you say, yeah, so I've been in three relationships over

644
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Speaker 3: the last ten years.

645
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Speaker 4: One was four years, one was three years, one was

646
00:30:43,920 --> 00:30:46,240
Speaker 4: another one was three years. To me, it's a red

647
00:30:46,280 --> 00:30:49,200
Speaker 4: flag for someone to also be a serial dater, because

648
00:30:49,360 --> 00:30:49,960
Speaker 4: I want to know.

649
00:30:50,120 --> 00:30:51,080
Speaker 1: You've had some single years.

650
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Speaker 3: Are you are you gole to be alone? Have you

651
00:30:53,120 --> 00:30:56,440
Speaker 3: gone through your whole phase? Are you somebody that is

652
00:30:57,320 --> 00:30:59,280
Speaker 3: content with yourself? Or are you codependent?

653
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Speaker 1: How funny is that we really want somebody to go

654
00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:01,840
Speaker 1: through a whole face.

655
00:31:01,960 --> 00:31:03,719
Speaker 4: I want someone to also just be able to sit

656
00:31:03,800 --> 00:31:05,800
Speaker 4: with themselves. I don't want someone to feel like they

657
00:31:05,840 --> 00:31:06,560
Speaker 4: need to be up under me.

658
00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:08,560
Speaker 1: Oh I got some tea on the Fun Girl shit.

659
00:31:08,680 --> 00:31:08,959
Speaker 1: Uh oh.

660
00:31:09,280 --> 00:31:12,040
Speaker 3: We had a clip a few weeks ago about do

661
00:31:12,240 --> 00:31:14,480
Speaker 3: men marry the fun girl in the para Society thinks

662
00:31:16,720 --> 00:31:21,080
Speaker 3: homeboy called me who's married engaged, and he was like, bruh,

663
00:31:21,880 --> 00:31:24,200
Speaker 3: he's I saw a comment you left on there. Okay,

664
00:31:24,280 --> 00:31:26,560
Speaker 3: I hope he's not offended. Now he won't be his

665
00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:27,240
Speaker 3: girl's cool.

666
00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:29,560
Speaker 1: He was like, you said that these wys are the

667
00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:31,840
Speaker 1: fun girls. He was like, you already know how, bitch.

668
00:31:32,400 --> 00:31:35,080
Speaker 3: And they met her at Aftes. Okay, he was all

669
00:31:35,120 --> 00:31:38,280
Speaker 3: fucked up. They was fucking going crazy wild. He's smoking,

670
00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:42,560
Speaker 3: drinking and he's like, yo, like, I think if the

671
00:31:42,600 --> 00:31:44,960
Speaker 3: fun girls past a certain age, they're just having a

672
00:31:45,000 --> 00:31:47,680
Speaker 3: great time in waiting for love. Like I think girls

673
00:31:48,000 --> 00:31:51,400
Speaker 3: can go out have a great time beat you know,

674
00:31:52,280 --> 00:31:54,760
Speaker 3: not even in the streets, but just like go enjoy

675
00:31:54,800 --> 00:31:56,479
Speaker 3: your life till I show up.

676
00:31:56,840 --> 00:31:59,680
Speaker 1: And he literally was like because I hate.

677
00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:02,160
Speaker 3: A bitchess, motherfucking house Like, bitch, you could be fucking

678
00:32:02,200 --> 00:32:03,400
Speaker 3: niggas every time every weekend.

679
00:32:03,440 --> 00:32:04,560
Speaker 1: You ain't no better.

680
00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:08,600
Speaker 4: You invite him niggas over drinking tea in the Hennessy Hello,

681
00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:12,720
Speaker 4: watching the Netflix and he said, robe and linguery.

682
00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:16,280
Speaker 3: I wanted to share this for the single ladies because

683
00:32:16,360 --> 00:32:19,040
Speaker 3: I said, tell me what about her fun girl?

684
00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:20,640
Speaker 1: Shit didn't bother you?

685
00:32:21,240 --> 00:32:25,600
Speaker 3: He said, well, we shared some stories and I will

686
00:32:25,680 --> 00:32:28,280
Speaker 3: say and this to me is a society thing. He's like,

687
00:32:28,480 --> 00:32:30,320
Speaker 3: all her little host shit was before we moved to

688
00:32:30,360 --> 00:32:32,280
Speaker 3: the same city. So I don't really feel like i'd

689
00:32:32,280 --> 00:32:35,400
Speaker 3: have to run into them niggas, which in the clip

690
00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:38,520
Speaker 3: you were saying men care with society things say dociety community.

691
00:32:38,880 --> 00:32:40,120
Speaker 3: He's like, I don't really feel like I have to

692
00:32:40,200 --> 00:32:43,560
Speaker 3: run into them niggas. He said too, the most attractive

693
00:32:43,600 --> 00:32:46,160
Speaker 3: thing about me to her her to me was if

694
00:32:46,200 --> 00:32:47,720
Speaker 3: I had to be in a city for work or whatever,

695
00:32:48,240 --> 00:32:50,000
Speaker 3: to go over homegirl about there, like, let me know

696
00:32:50,000 --> 00:32:51,960
Speaker 3: how I might pull up, And he was like, and

697
00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:55,200
Speaker 3: it was just such an independence, like I didn't need

698
00:32:55,320 --> 00:32:58,800
Speaker 3: to like, uh, hold her hand through life. He was like,

699
00:32:58,920 --> 00:33:01,760
Speaker 3: I loved knowing we could both meet in our thirties

700
00:33:02,000 --> 00:33:03,280
Speaker 3: and it's bitched and did some shit.

701
00:33:03,760 --> 00:33:05,840
Speaker 1: Oh, we just had this conversation.

702
00:33:05,960 --> 00:33:07,440
Speaker 3: I said, if you come with me to work, or

703
00:33:07,440 --> 00:33:10,000
Speaker 3: I come with you to work, hopefully it's the city

704
00:33:10,080 --> 00:33:12,080
Speaker 3: that I help someone. If you have to be on set,

705
00:33:12,120 --> 00:33:13,400
Speaker 3: I'm gonna let you don't go on to link my

706
00:33:13,440 --> 00:33:16,000
Speaker 3: home girl, let me know what you've done being out

707
00:33:16,040 --> 00:33:17,120
Speaker 3: with your little ector friends.

708
00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:20,680
Speaker 4: Like, I think that it's great, but I think when

709
00:33:20,720 --> 00:33:25,880
Speaker 4: you get older, there's a sense of existing within community friendship.

710
00:33:26,040 --> 00:33:28,080
Speaker 1: Professional that becomes separate.

711
00:33:28,480 --> 00:33:30,640
Speaker 4: I think in your twenties you look for someone to

712
00:33:30,680 --> 00:33:32,400
Speaker 4: make you whole and for someone to come so much

713
00:33:32,440 --> 00:33:34,280
Speaker 4: of a unit that when you're in your thirties and

714
00:33:34,320 --> 00:33:37,040
Speaker 4: forties and beyond, you're able to be like, just come in,

715
00:33:37,160 --> 00:33:39,480
Speaker 4: make me better. We can enjoy things together, but we're

716
00:33:39,520 --> 00:33:41,560
Speaker 4: gonna have other things we have to enjoy separately as well.

717
00:33:41,600 --> 00:33:43,280
Speaker 1: Now are you ready for the third thing? What's the

718
00:33:43,360 --> 00:33:43,719
Speaker 1: third thing?

719
00:33:44,360 --> 00:33:47,240
Speaker 3: This is gonna be a testing one because my questions

720
00:33:47,280 --> 00:33:48,640
Speaker 3: are like, what made you want to lock it down?

721
00:33:49,640 --> 00:33:50,280
Speaker 1: This one?

722
00:33:50,680 --> 00:33:54,600
Speaker 3: I feel like niggas ain't gonna lie. But this is

723
00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:58,680
Speaker 3: coming from a man late thirties. I'll just say that

724
00:33:58,720 --> 00:34:01,920
Speaker 3: I don't want to give too much, but well seasoned

725
00:34:02,000 --> 00:34:03,959
Speaker 3: in the dating game and a man that a lot

726
00:34:04,000 --> 00:34:08,879
Speaker 3: of women want. He said his current fiance Okay, made

727
00:34:08,920 --> 00:34:11,320
Speaker 3: it very clear he was not the only man she

728
00:34:11,440 --> 00:34:12,920
Speaker 3: was dating, which is what I just did.

729
00:34:13,040 --> 00:34:15,640
Speaker 1: And she said, Hey, if.

730
00:34:15,520 --> 00:34:19,040
Speaker 3: You decide that, like, at some point you may want

731
00:34:19,080 --> 00:34:21,680
Speaker 3: to take this relationship to another level, we need to

732
00:34:21,719 --> 00:34:24,400
Speaker 3: have a conversation about that because I have commitments with

733
00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:25,160
Speaker 3: other people too.

734
00:34:26,040 --> 00:34:29,400
Speaker 1: Bitch. I remember when he told me this, But he

735
00:34:29,440 --> 00:34:31,080
Speaker 1: doesn't ever telling me, but I do. He was like,

736
00:34:31,640 --> 00:34:32,560
Speaker 1: what was whole trying to tell me?

737
00:34:32,640 --> 00:34:35,919
Speaker 3: She fucking other niggas Like like, I get like act

738
00:34:36,040 --> 00:34:38,200
Speaker 3: like I can't really want her like that, and I'm like, oh,

739
00:34:38,239 --> 00:34:39,800
Speaker 3: when you told me about it, you was just like,

740
00:34:39,880 --> 00:34:41,719
Speaker 3: I don't give a fuck, bitch, And he was like, oh,

741
00:34:41,760 --> 00:34:44,120
Speaker 3: of course I gave a fuck. Like niggas is sweating

742
00:34:44,160 --> 00:34:45,759
Speaker 3: over there when they find out you have someone else

743
00:34:45,880 --> 00:34:48,359
Speaker 3: speaking your interest. Did I tell you about the birthday gift?

744
00:34:49,239 --> 00:34:53,160
Speaker 3: And yeahs toget with my boyfriend. He said, I know

745
00:34:53,239 --> 00:34:54,799
Speaker 3: you told me a nigga got you a door bag

746
00:34:54,880 --> 00:34:56,719
Speaker 3: to rub in my face. He said, you said that

747
00:34:56,800 --> 00:34:59,719
Speaker 3: to make me mad, and I was like, honestly to

748
00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:01,640
Speaker 3: make you, but you ain't giving me a birthday yet.

749
00:35:02,280 --> 00:35:03,280
Speaker 1: Let's get into.

750
00:35:03,560 --> 00:35:07,319
Speaker 3: Reactionary okay, Oh no, I got a hypothetic, Oh, hypothetical

751
00:35:07,360 --> 00:35:10,440
Speaker 3: to this. Let's do it hypothetically speaking, really simple one,

752
00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:13,080
Speaker 3: but it's a good one, okay. Would you rather be

753
00:35:13,360 --> 00:35:16,040
Speaker 3: wealthy but only be able to walk everywhere?

754
00:35:16,520 --> 00:35:16,800
Speaker 1: Okay?

755
00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:20,279
Speaker 3: Or be broke and be able to travel however you want?

756
00:35:22,440 --> 00:35:23,879
Speaker 1: First off, how do fuck up and to walk from

757
00:35:23,880 --> 00:35:28,880
Speaker 1: here to New York? Bitch? What type of walking is

758
00:35:28,960 --> 00:35:31,279
Speaker 1: we doing so? Basically? Okay, so here we go.

759
00:35:31,680 --> 00:35:36,239
Speaker 4: I'm gonna bring back a horrible decisions answer and say

760
00:35:36,440 --> 00:35:38,680
Speaker 4: I'd rather be broke and find my way to be

761
00:35:38,840 --> 00:35:39,960
Speaker 4: able to travel wherever.

762
00:35:40,280 --> 00:35:43,160
Speaker 1: He too, and he does, pussy gonna do? It's sang

763
00:35:43,239 --> 00:35:45,640
Speaker 1: because I don't want to build a compound. What are

764
00:35:45,680 --> 00:35:46,920
Speaker 1: we talking about? And now I have will walk to

765
00:35:47,000 --> 00:35:47,319
Speaker 1: the club.

766
00:35:47,880 --> 00:35:52,040
Speaker 4: Wait a second, walking everywhere? Hold no, no, no, let

767
00:35:52,080 --> 00:35:53,719
Speaker 4: me tell you New York spoils us.

768
00:35:54,080 --> 00:35:55,920
Speaker 1: It makes you believe you could walk and get places.

769
00:35:56,440 --> 00:35:57,160
Speaker 1: I'm in Atlanta.

770
00:35:57,200 --> 00:36:03,120
Speaker 4: Now it'll say seven minute car ride, so I'm like, oh, bitch,

771
00:36:03,200 --> 00:36:05,479
Speaker 4: let me see, bitch, fifty one minute.

772
00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:08,200
Speaker 1: Know like what I think? It's the up down? I

773
00:36:08,239 --> 00:36:10,480
Speaker 1: don't know what it is there ain't it ain't dead terrain.

774
00:36:10,600 --> 00:36:12,399
Speaker 3: No, the last time I stayed at this you get

775
00:36:12,440 --> 00:36:14,520
Speaker 3: down here? Who was Starbucks?

776
00:36:14,600 --> 00:36:14,839
Speaker 1: Bitch?

777
00:36:15,239 --> 00:36:18,360
Speaker 3: It was a uphill and I know the staircase like

778
00:36:18,560 --> 00:36:19,520
Speaker 3: you like plot.

779
00:36:19,680 --> 00:36:20,880
Speaker 1: You want to know what problem is?

780
00:36:21,520 --> 00:36:24,920
Speaker 3: You don't go above mid tell because bitch, if you

781
00:36:24,960 --> 00:36:26,800
Speaker 3: went up to the heights, it'd be hilly up in

782
00:36:26,840 --> 00:36:27,160
Speaker 3: the heights.

783
00:36:27,160 --> 00:36:30,279
Speaker 1: I don't even know that is Washington Heights. D I

784
00:36:30,400 --> 00:36:33,319
Speaker 1: thought you meant no, I'm talking about New York, now, bitch.

785
00:36:33,520 --> 00:36:36,560
Speaker 3: Atlanta hasn't midtown, okay, girl, I'm talking about the heights

786
00:36:36,600 --> 00:36:37,080
Speaker 3: in New York.

787
00:36:37,360 --> 00:36:40,480
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Okay, it's hilly up there. I know. All

788
00:36:40,560 --> 00:36:42,320
Speaker 1: I know is it go from seven minute drive to

789
00:36:42,400 --> 00:36:44,520
Speaker 1: fifty one minute walk. Bitch? Who you talk?

790
00:36:44,719 --> 00:36:48,680
Speaker 3: Know that? I genuinely not even in like the most

791
00:36:48,719 --> 00:36:50,879
Speaker 3: country way. You're Brooklyn or nothing.

792
00:36:50,920 --> 00:36:52,600
Speaker 1: It's barely cunty for you, for sure.

793
00:36:52,760 --> 00:36:56,359
Speaker 3: I just it feels far if I live below first

794
00:36:56,400 --> 00:36:58,280
Speaker 3: and first, why am I going into the hundreds?

795
00:36:58,320 --> 00:37:01,320
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go to Brooklyn? That sounds okay, continue with

796
00:37:01,360 --> 00:37:02,520
Speaker 1: your cuntiness.

797
00:37:03,160 --> 00:37:10,040
Speaker 3: Anyway, Okay, reactionary. I saw this clip clip, bitch, yeah,

798
00:37:10,520 --> 00:37:12,520
Speaker 3: but I was surprised that your reaction.

799
00:37:14,120 --> 00:37:16,600
Speaker 1: And you know my reaction. We talked about it in

800
00:37:16,680 --> 00:37:18,160
Speaker 1: the car. I was like, did you see this? Okay?

801
00:37:18,160 --> 00:37:22,560
Speaker 3: Okay, I feel a few ways. I talked about the hierarchy. Girl,

802
00:37:22,640 --> 00:37:24,680
Speaker 3: play a clip first and then let's talk about it.

803
00:37:24,840 --> 00:37:26,719
Speaker 1: Plight a clip again. You and your husband and your

804
00:37:26,800 --> 00:37:29,839
Speaker 1: child go out on your sailboat. Okay, a sailboat get

805
00:37:29,880 --> 00:37:30,640
Speaker 1: shut is sinking?

806
00:37:30,840 --> 00:37:31,040
Speaker 2: Yeah?

807
00:37:31,560 --> 00:37:34,000
Speaker 1: Who are you going to say? The child or your husband. Look,

808
00:37:34,200 --> 00:37:37,200
Speaker 1: I would choose my child's father because we can make

809
00:37:37,280 --> 00:37:42,239
Speaker 1: more children. Gosh, that's insane, man. I mean, it doesn't

810
00:37:42,239 --> 00:37:44,279
Speaker 1: matter how many times I've listened to it. She says it.

811
00:37:44,480 --> 00:37:47,600
Speaker 1: Here's the thing. She doesn't hesitate, she doesn't like ponder.

812
00:37:47,960 --> 00:37:51,080
Speaker 1: She says it with her full chest. She's choosing the

813
00:37:51,280 --> 00:37:54,359
Speaker 1: father of her child. One thing, if I'm that kid,

814
00:37:54,400 --> 00:37:55,680
Speaker 1: I'm not getting on the sailboat.

815
00:37:56,840 --> 00:37:59,000
Speaker 2: I just don't understand how you could live with yourself

816
00:37:59,040 --> 00:38:00,920
Speaker 2: after you let your child drowned.

817
00:38:01,000 --> 00:38:03,680
Speaker 1: She said, they can have more. That's insane. Okay. One

818
00:38:03,719 --> 00:38:06,600
Speaker 1: of the things she said, it's just kind of scary. Wait,

819
00:38:06,800 --> 00:38:11,520
Speaker 1: what she really said was butt them key? Really is okay,

820
00:38:12,080 --> 00:38:12,880
Speaker 1: don't read the comments.

821
00:38:13,120 --> 00:38:13,320
Speaker 2: You know.

822
00:38:13,400 --> 00:38:14,320
Speaker 1: I got my whole thoughts on this.

823
00:38:14,719 --> 00:38:16,919
Speaker 3: It's haply one of those women whose daughter comes and says,

824
00:38:16,960 --> 00:38:18,880
Speaker 3: my mom's boyfriend doing something, and she will believe her

825
00:38:18,880 --> 00:38:19,520
Speaker 3: man over the gid.

826
00:38:19,920 --> 00:38:22,440
Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, here's the thing. Oh and when

827
00:38:22,480 --> 00:38:24,960
Speaker 1: I saw this clip, it was very clear to me.

828
00:38:25,080 --> 00:38:26,520
Speaker 3: Oh wait, wait wait, because one thing she said that

829
00:38:26,560 --> 00:38:28,480
Speaker 3: we didn't have any hair. Yes, she said we can

830
00:38:28,560 --> 00:38:30,480
Speaker 3: make another kid. No, she said that I heard that

831
00:38:30,719 --> 00:38:33,120
Speaker 3: is if we can't get another husband, keep going okay.

832
00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:38,920
Speaker 1: So her saying this response was very telling because when.

833
00:38:38,800 --> 00:38:41,719
Speaker 4: I heard it, bitch, I agreed just a little bit

834
00:38:42,040 --> 00:38:45,040
Speaker 4: to the sentiment that I do not have the biological

835
00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:46,520
Speaker 4: connection to a child.

836
00:38:47,120 --> 00:38:52,680
Speaker 3: She spoke about this as a motherless woman. She or

837
00:38:52,760 --> 00:38:53,879
Speaker 3: a childless woman.

838
00:38:53,920 --> 00:38:54,400
Speaker 1: I'm sorry.

839
00:38:54,719 --> 00:38:57,600
Speaker 4: She spoke of this as a childless woman, someone who

840
00:38:57,719 --> 00:39:00,680
Speaker 4: probably has not grown whatever connection it is to being

841
00:39:00,760 --> 00:39:05,239
Speaker 4: a mom and a mother, a mother two children. She

842
00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:08,399
Speaker 4: spoke of it as men are probably her universe, which

843
00:39:08,440 --> 00:39:09,919
Speaker 4: a lot of men are two women.

844
00:39:10,160 --> 00:39:11,279
Speaker 1: By the way, we still want to talk with you,

845
00:39:11,360 --> 00:39:14,719
Speaker 1: doctor Sarah. Sure, sure would love to have you on.

846
00:39:15,000 --> 00:39:18,200
Speaker 4: I also think this sounds very much like this is

847
00:39:18,280 --> 00:39:23,200
Speaker 4: my answer, because there's the long drawn hypothetical of when

848
00:39:23,239 --> 00:39:26,839
Speaker 4: you cook a meal, who gets fed first your kids?

849
00:39:28,000 --> 00:39:29,799
Speaker 1: To me, though, I think you should feed your husband.

850
00:39:30,000 --> 00:39:31,040
Speaker 1: You feed your husband first.

851
00:39:31,239 --> 00:39:34,239
Speaker 4: So to me, as someone maybe with no kids, if

852
00:39:34,320 --> 00:39:36,200
Speaker 4: she has kids, bitch, come on and tell me how

853
00:39:36,280 --> 00:39:37,719
Speaker 4: you have a child and you came up to this.

854
00:39:38,200 --> 00:39:42,160
Speaker 1: But to me, this sounds a lot like I'm gonna

855
00:39:42,200 --> 00:39:45,360
Speaker 1: feed my husband first then the kids. This sounds like

856
00:39:45,400 --> 00:39:46,680
Speaker 1: I'm gonna save my husband for there.

857
00:39:46,840 --> 00:39:50,759
Speaker 3: So as far as feeding first, right, I understand my

858
00:39:50,840 --> 00:39:53,440
Speaker 3: mom was a housewife and my dad is not a

859
00:39:53,560 --> 00:39:54,239
Speaker 3: controlling man.

860
00:39:54,280 --> 00:39:57,240
Speaker 1: You know, my daddy's not a get the dinner, nothing

861
00:39:57,360 --> 00:39:58,080
Speaker 1: in him is like that.

862
00:39:59,000 --> 00:40:03,640
Speaker 3: But I understood why we prioritize daddy because he worked

863
00:40:03,640 --> 00:40:06,360
Speaker 3: all day. Okay, So it's like when my dad was

864
00:40:06,400 --> 00:40:08,920
Speaker 3: coming home in this family dynamic, right, Maybe in some

865
00:40:09,360 --> 00:40:12,360
Speaker 3: that doesn't work, but yeah, Like I would help my

866
00:40:12,440 --> 00:40:14,960
Speaker 3: mom set the table. My dad sits at the head

867
00:40:15,000 --> 00:40:17,239
Speaker 3: of the table, and she would serve his food. To

868
00:40:17,360 --> 00:40:20,960
Speaker 3: me though, that's the thing. Your mom was a housewife. Uh,

869
00:40:21,280 --> 00:40:23,319
Speaker 3: your dad provided paid all the.

870
00:40:23,360 --> 00:40:26,360
Speaker 1: Bills to me. There's no way you're saying that nigga

871
00:40:26,360 --> 00:40:29,640
Speaker 1: need to be to me. There's no way a woman.

872
00:40:29,560 --> 00:40:34,680
Speaker 3: Who who splits fifty fifty has that same conscious to feed,

873
00:40:34,960 --> 00:40:37,160
Speaker 3: you know what I mean. I think the fifty to

874
00:40:37,160 --> 00:40:42,000
Speaker 3: fifty conversation is an interesting one because for some reason

875
00:40:42,080 --> 00:40:46,359
Speaker 3: we placed monetary value on gender roles.

876
00:40:47,200 --> 00:40:50,320
Speaker 1: I we really do think heart of hearts.

877
00:40:50,760 --> 00:40:53,240
Speaker 3: There's nothing wrong with even if you're fifty to fifty

878
00:40:53,719 --> 00:40:55,520
Speaker 3: and you want to serve, if you cook in the meal.

879
00:40:56,040 --> 00:40:57,759
Speaker 3: If my man is cooking for me, he's probably going

880
00:40:57,800 --> 00:40:59,600
Speaker 3: to serve me before the gays, right, like I'm going

881
00:40:59,680 --> 00:41:01,759
Speaker 3: to expe fact, you put the plate down in front

882
00:41:01,800 --> 00:41:04,120
Speaker 3: of me first, in front of an adult if kids

883
00:41:04,120 --> 00:41:06,359
Speaker 3: don't even eat as much the little basket right?

884
00:41:06,640 --> 00:41:09,439
Speaker 1: Sorry, but no, sorry, the blessings. That was the wrong

885
00:41:09,560 --> 00:41:14,520
Speaker 1: b word, the blessing. I will say what was disappointing?

886
00:41:15,400 --> 00:41:15,520
Speaker 3: Uh?

887
00:41:16,160 --> 00:41:20,360
Speaker 1: She said to my child's father instead of husband, she

888
00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:22,359
Speaker 1: labeled him like a baby daddy. She did.

889
00:41:22,920 --> 00:41:26,360
Speaker 3: I think that was just interesting because I was just like, okay,

890
00:41:26,760 --> 00:41:30,520
Speaker 3: I even get the biblical sense of husband. But if

891
00:41:30,560 --> 00:41:35,480
Speaker 3: I had to save anyone two people in the street,

892
00:41:35,600 --> 00:41:37,560
Speaker 3: I'm gonna pick the youngest. Can I tell you, I'm

893
00:41:37,560 --> 00:41:40,400
Speaker 3: want to pick the youngest person if I don't know you,

894
00:41:40,680 --> 00:41:42,279
Speaker 3: if I got one hand to pull you up from

895
00:41:42,320 --> 00:41:44,160
Speaker 3: a mountain, I'm probably gonna pick the youngest.

896
00:41:44,320 --> 00:41:46,120
Speaker 1: So I don't even like kids like that. You've lived

897
00:41:46,160 --> 00:41:46,760
Speaker 1: your life, nigga.

898
00:41:47,040 --> 00:41:49,960
Speaker 3: The reason why I probably would go with the kids,

899
00:41:50,480 --> 00:41:52,560
Speaker 3: uh huh is because.

900
00:41:54,560 --> 00:41:55,600
Speaker 1: You paid for this trip.

901
00:41:55,760 --> 00:41:56,359
Speaker 3: I know you did.

902
00:41:56,480 --> 00:42:01,280
Speaker 4: Because you the husband. You didn't get us the premium

903
00:42:01,520 --> 00:42:03,840
Speaker 4: v IP tickets to where we get the lifeboats. It

904
00:42:03,920 --> 00:42:06,440
Speaker 4: made me think of Titanic, Like you know how Titanic

905
00:42:06,600 --> 00:42:09,160
Speaker 4: many it was the word right now.

906
00:42:09,280 --> 00:42:11,400
Speaker 3: I don't give a fuck you know how I was

907
00:42:11,520 --> 00:42:14,120
Speaker 3: like women and children, but it was really the upper

908
00:42:14,200 --> 00:42:15,759
Speaker 3: class people who got the boats first.

909
00:42:15,800 --> 00:42:16,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just watched it on a plane.

910
00:42:17,120 --> 00:42:21,880
Speaker 3: You're raggedy ass. Got us basics that we're now in

911
00:42:21,960 --> 00:42:23,600
Speaker 3: the water drowning.

912
00:42:23,239 --> 00:42:25,319
Speaker 1: But you know what what else is even crazier? I'm

913
00:42:25,400 --> 00:42:26,360
Speaker 1: saving the children.

914
00:42:26,680 --> 00:42:29,600
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna hold you. The nigga got too much pressure.

915
00:42:29,960 --> 00:42:31,640
Speaker 3: Now my kid do gotta come out and be aubert.

916
00:42:31,680 --> 00:42:36,160
Speaker 3: I sign for fucking right, Okay, nigga. One day five

917
00:42:36,239 --> 00:42:39,000
Speaker 3: years later, y'all go, Maybe you get pregnant in whatever

918
00:42:39,320 --> 00:42:40,279
Speaker 3: he gonna see a bit ship.

919
00:42:40,320 --> 00:42:43,160
Speaker 1: Look good? Hey you could have had y'all make me back? Wait,

920
00:42:43,239 --> 00:42:45,120
Speaker 1: you know what? Can I ask you a problem? Can

921
00:42:45,120 --> 00:42:48,120
Speaker 1: I ask you now a problematic question? What? Okay, this

922
00:42:48,160 --> 00:42:50,640
Speaker 1: is real problematic, y'all. Don't cancel me for this question.

923
00:42:51,600 --> 00:42:55,759
Speaker 1: Oh my god, So you and your partner really love

924
00:42:55,840 --> 00:42:56,200
Speaker 1: each other.

925
00:42:57,040 --> 00:43:00,480
Speaker 4: The boat is sinking and your kid is back as fuck,

926
00:43:00,600 --> 00:43:04,040
Speaker 4: and you you feel like no your kid ate might

927
00:43:04,120 --> 00:43:06,480
Speaker 4: be he just a fun up kid, like you know

928
00:43:06,600 --> 00:43:07,680
Speaker 4: when kids are bad as fuck?

929
00:43:07,760 --> 00:43:09,879
Speaker 1: Or maybe your kid ugly and You're like, we're gonna

930
00:43:09,880 --> 00:43:10,400
Speaker 1: try to get on.

931
00:43:10,480 --> 00:43:13,400
Speaker 3: This and just want like what if you really love

932
00:43:13,480 --> 00:43:15,360
Speaker 3: your partner and your kid is like, we need to

933
00:43:15,440 --> 00:43:17,799
Speaker 3: do over anyway? What did you think?

934
00:43:18,640 --> 00:43:22,879
Speaker 1: You know what I mean, drown him, not drowning them.

935
00:43:24,000 --> 00:43:27,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, way, I don't have to pay for extra tutors anymore,

936
00:43:27,320 --> 00:43:31,759
Speaker 3: you know what I mean. I'm saying sure, And our

937
00:43:32,000 --> 00:43:34,600
Speaker 3: topic today is the history of blow job.

938
00:43:34,719 --> 00:43:35,719
Speaker 1: So you don't have kids?

939
00:43:35,880 --> 00:43:41,040
Speaker 4: That is crazy, that's right, swallow, don't spit. Sorry, back

940
00:43:41,080 --> 00:43:44,040
Speaker 4: to back the decisions decisions. This is not horrible decisions.

941
00:43:44,040 --> 00:43:45,920
Speaker 4: If you want that, please join us on Patreon.

942
00:43:46,000 --> 00:43:55,279
Speaker 1: Paton this way to kid kids are swallowing them. So

943
00:43:55,960 --> 00:43:59,360
Speaker 1: the history of the blow job is interesting.

944
00:43:59,440 --> 00:44:02,720
Speaker 3: One the first time there's no way there's real history

945
00:44:02,760 --> 00:44:05,600
Speaker 3: on this. Well, it's just however it's accounted in time.

946
00:44:06,040 --> 00:44:10,800
Speaker 3: This ship is crazy. The first documented blow job was

947
00:44:10,840 --> 00:44:15,080
Speaker 3: w was when a person was resurrected. Wait wait wait

948
00:44:15,120 --> 00:44:17,120
Speaker 3: wait wait a nigga died, came back to life and

949
00:44:17,280 --> 00:44:22,200
Speaker 3: a god bitch you liath the Egyptian god king Osiris

950
00:44:22,320 --> 00:44:24,920
Speaker 3: Egypt I knew it was Egypt always is and his

951
00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:29,960
Speaker 3: sister turned wife Isis Osiris and isis, so his sister.

952
00:44:30,719 --> 00:44:33,600
Speaker 3: He was murdered, chopped up into pieces by his brother.

953
00:44:34,680 --> 00:44:38,560
Speaker 3: His wife Isis put his body back together, but unfortunately

954
00:44:38,640 --> 00:44:39,840
Speaker 3: couldn't find the penis.

955
00:44:40,400 --> 00:44:41,200
Speaker 1: So what did she do?

956
00:44:41,920 --> 00:44:47,080
Speaker 3: She crafted a makeshift makeshift dick out of clay, stuck

957
00:44:47,160 --> 00:44:50,239
Speaker 3: it into his crotch, blew it, and molded it with

958
00:44:50,360 --> 00:44:52,520
Speaker 3: her mouth by sucking his clay penis.

959
00:44:52,640 --> 00:44:54,279
Speaker 1: This is documented, I am.

960
00:44:54,239 --> 00:44:57,719
Speaker 3: Not wait, so she had she was sucking clay, yes,

961
00:44:57,840 --> 00:44:59,719
Speaker 3: and this is all which I don't even I don't

962
00:44:59,719 --> 00:45:02,080
Speaker 3: even want to suck a condom which was a fucking

963
00:45:02,120 --> 00:45:03,040
Speaker 3: bud over a.

964
00:45:03,440 --> 00:45:05,799
Speaker 1: It's called the osiris myth. You can look it up.

965
00:45:05,920 --> 00:45:10,640
Speaker 3: She restored the old sorry's myth, so it could be fake.

966
00:45:11,400 --> 00:45:14,280
Speaker 3: It's a myth, oh, I mean it's the first documented thought. Okay,

967
00:45:14,360 --> 00:45:17,920
Speaker 3: so yeah, basically anything documented could be a myth. But

968
00:45:17,960 --> 00:45:21,000
Speaker 3: they're just saying it was really documented, you know what.

969
00:45:21,440 --> 00:45:25,600
Speaker 3: So another interesting thing about the history of the blow job, right,

970
00:45:27,360 --> 00:45:30,480
Speaker 3: it used to be used ooh, sorry, just skipped it.

971
00:45:30,640 --> 00:45:31,200
Speaker 1: The term.

972
00:45:32,760 --> 00:45:36,120
Speaker 3: Was referred to felatio at first, and we knew that

973
00:45:36,200 --> 00:45:37,600
Speaker 3: the Greeks come up with all these words.

974
00:45:38,120 --> 00:45:39,120
Speaker 1: Latin means to suck.

975
00:45:39,200 --> 00:45:45,000
Speaker 3: However, Shakespeare said that to blow meant the orgasm, so

976
00:45:45,120 --> 00:45:49,000
Speaker 3: an orgasm that makes you That was a Shakespearean term,

977
00:45:49,160 --> 00:45:52,279
Speaker 3: and then the term blow job became something.

978
00:45:52,040 --> 00:45:55,160
Speaker 1: Fi because it's work. The job was easy, that was

979
00:45:55,200 --> 00:45:58,279
Speaker 1: the easy part. Bits so tired am I getting paid

980
00:45:58,320 --> 00:45:59,120
Speaker 1: for not going to hold you?

981
00:45:59,239 --> 00:46:02,279
Speaker 3: It's one of them exhausting things, enjoyball exhausting.

982
00:46:02,440 --> 00:46:05,040
Speaker 1: No, you know what's crazy? It's not that it's not

983
00:46:05,239 --> 00:46:06,439
Speaker 1: that tiring. And what's also?

984
00:46:06,800 --> 00:46:08,560
Speaker 3: Can I ask you a question about this speaking of

985
00:46:08,600 --> 00:46:11,680
Speaker 3: blowjobs and the history of it, not that it's a hypothetical,

986
00:46:12,320 --> 00:46:16,560
Speaker 3: but apparently I gave head so good they got flowers

987
00:46:17,280 --> 00:46:21,560
Speaker 3: that not only that, he told me, he judged me

988
00:46:21,640 --> 00:46:24,640
Speaker 3: a bit of which you can't. You gotta get to see.

989
00:46:24,680 --> 00:46:26,080
Speaker 3: That's what any do, he said, I'll never get a

990
00:46:26,080 --> 00:46:26,440
Speaker 3: great ad.

991
00:46:26,760 --> 00:46:28,480
Speaker 1: No, and I but mind you.

992
00:46:28,560 --> 00:46:30,279
Speaker 3: He talked to his friend about it because he felt

993
00:46:30,360 --> 00:46:31,920
Speaker 3: the way that I sucked his dick so good, like

994
00:46:32,000 --> 00:46:33,759
Speaker 3: where did she learn this? And his friend I had

995
00:46:33,800 --> 00:46:35,279
Speaker 3: to be like, I'm stuck another day, bitch.

996
00:46:35,280 --> 00:46:37,400
Speaker 1: She's almost a decade older than you. Get what the

997
00:46:37,480 --> 00:46:37,719
Speaker 1: fuck it?

998
00:46:37,800 --> 00:46:41,399
Speaker 3: Proverd oh man Man literally said when the first time

999
00:46:41,440 --> 00:46:43,640
Speaker 3: I sucked his dick. He got mad at me a

1000
00:46:43,680 --> 00:46:45,719
Speaker 3: little bit because he didn't know why it was so good.

1001
00:46:45,920 --> 00:46:47,400
Speaker 1: Girl. I want to know what his ex girlfriend was

1002
00:46:47,440 --> 00:46:48,480
Speaker 1: looking like and what they were doing.

1003
00:46:49,360 --> 00:46:53,000
Speaker 3: I do know because we talked about it that they're

1004
00:46:53,080 --> 00:46:57,680
Speaker 3: both black, darker skin, and thin. So when I be

1005
00:46:57,719 --> 00:47:00,480
Speaker 3: throwing it back, I make sure yea yeah, it's like

1006
00:47:01,360 --> 00:47:04,920
Speaker 3: but yeah, acting light but yeah. But you know he

1007
00:47:05,160 --> 00:47:07,800
Speaker 3: never had no coach boy before, not no country booty. No.

1008
00:47:08,040 --> 00:47:08,360
Speaker 1: Okay.

1009
00:47:08,440 --> 00:47:12,960
Speaker 3: So the blowjobs in ancient Rome was a horrible thing.

1010
00:47:13,120 --> 00:47:16,320
Speaker 3: Is even worse than anal sex, and for ancient Romans

1011
00:47:17,200 --> 00:47:22,960
Speaker 3: it was anal sex was an unforgivable advice. However, it

1012
00:47:23,120 --> 00:47:26,839
Speaker 3: was totally fine to receive a blowjob for a petty crime.

1013
00:47:26,960 --> 00:47:31,840
Speaker 3: It was often solved with forceful blowjobs. So imagine, explain

1014
00:47:31,920 --> 00:47:35,040
Speaker 3: this to me. What so anal sex was something that

1015
00:47:35,320 --> 00:47:41,040
Speaker 3: was like, uh for like you know, forbidden, but they

1016
00:47:41,080 --> 00:47:45,080
Speaker 3: would use blowjobs as a punishment. So, for example, how

1017
00:47:45,200 --> 00:47:48,040
Speaker 3: is that a punishment for any man? A blowjob is

1018
00:47:48,120 --> 00:47:51,360
Speaker 3: not a punishment. So you own an onion field, so

1019
00:47:51,520 --> 00:47:54,480
Speaker 3: many onions, and a peasant runs through your field and

1020
00:47:54,560 --> 00:47:58,239
Speaker 3: steals the onions. This is documented. Instead of gouging his

1021
00:47:58,360 --> 00:47:59,959
Speaker 3: eyes out or having his arm chopped.

1022
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:03,840
Speaker 1: He would get his di suck. That's a punishment, girl.

1023
00:48:04,640 --> 00:48:05,280
Speaker 1: You know it's crazy.

1024
00:48:05,320 --> 00:48:08,839
Speaker 3: No, no, no, man made that rule made women feel

1025
00:48:08,920 --> 00:48:11,120
Speaker 3: bad for even giving it, like ooh, this is only

1026
00:48:11,160 --> 00:48:11,800
Speaker 3: for criminals.

1027
00:48:12,000 --> 00:48:14,239
Speaker 1: And it said if I commit a crime, you go

1028
00:48:14,400 --> 00:48:15,080
Speaker 1: ego by dick.

1029
00:48:15,200 --> 00:48:17,640
Speaker 3: Oh for sure, straight men did it in the times

1030
00:48:17,680 --> 00:48:21,960
Speaker 3: of Plato and Socrates. Blowjobs were artificially called playing the flute,

1031
00:48:22,360 --> 00:48:25,000
Speaker 3: and so Grecians listed up their togas for someone to

1032
00:48:25,080 --> 00:48:27,280
Speaker 3: come and play their flute, and it was very common

1033
00:48:27,360 --> 00:48:30,320
Speaker 3: for oral sex to be exchanged between men, generally someone

1034
00:48:30,400 --> 00:48:33,239
Speaker 3: of power and someone who doesn't have any Now, in

1035
00:48:33,360 --> 00:48:36,799
Speaker 3: the nineteenth century, it could get you fucking executed.

1036
00:48:37,239 --> 00:48:38,920
Speaker 1: Blowjobs could get you executed.

1037
00:48:39,080 --> 00:48:42,479
Speaker 3: Yes, but it says that the history of church going

1038
00:48:43,320 --> 00:48:46,840
Speaker 3: people believed it was something that couldn't be done for procreation.

1039
00:48:47,520 --> 00:48:48,960
Speaker 1: And I ain't gonna hold you. Let me tell you.

1040
00:48:50,440 --> 00:48:51,719
Speaker 1: I know I've been here.

1041
00:48:51,800 --> 00:48:51,960
Speaker 2: We go.

1042
00:48:52,400 --> 00:48:55,000
Speaker 3: You gotta hear me still talk about the past. Me

1043
00:48:55,560 --> 00:48:58,640
Speaker 3: so my Nigerian that I used to be with back

1044
00:48:58,680 --> 00:49:00,760
Speaker 3: in the day. If y'all listen to the old episodes,

1045
00:49:00,840 --> 00:49:05,000
Speaker 3: y'alla hear about my Nigerian he would not do anything

1046
00:49:05,120 --> 00:49:08,320
Speaker 3: sexually except for missionary, but he would not let me

1047
00:49:08,400 --> 00:49:10,080
Speaker 3: suck his dick because he thought it was one of

1048
00:49:10,120 --> 00:49:12,960
Speaker 3: the most degrading, disrespectful things for women to do. And

1049
00:49:13,080 --> 00:49:14,600
Speaker 3: he would not fuck me from the back because he

1050
00:49:14,680 --> 00:49:17,319
Speaker 3: believed that during sex we had to look at each other.

1051
00:49:17,800 --> 00:49:20,279
Speaker 1: No, he never even tried anal sex. He wanted to

1052
00:49:20,320 --> 00:49:21,880
Speaker 1: be able to look at me while we were having sex,

1053
00:49:22,280 --> 00:49:24,239
Speaker 1: and he never let me suck his dick. It was

1054
00:49:24,280 --> 00:49:27,120
Speaker 1: the easiest trick I ever had. Nigeria.

1055
00:49:27,400 --> 00:49:27,719
Speaker 2: No, No, No.

1056
00:49:28,120 --> 00:49:31,799
Speaker 3: By the way, I love a city, hold you them.

1057
00:49:32,880 --> 00:49:35,719
Speaker 3: Chloe is making me believe burna boy got.

1058
00:49:35,640 --> 00:49:37,880
Speaker 1: It down at his ankle and I would just like

1059
00:49:37,960 --> 00:49:39,920
Speaker 1: to see it. She just looks high the whole time.

1060
00:49:40,120 --> 00:49:42,360
Speaker 1: That's fine. So that means you have good week and

1061
00:49:42,480 --> 00:49:43,759
Speaker 1: good good weedy and good dick.

1062
00:49:43,840 --> 00:49:46,520
Speaker 3: Did you see the Breakfast Club interview with I just

1063
00:49:46,600 --> 00:49:49,400
Speaker 3: want to say we love you on thank you for

1064
00:49:49,520 --> 00:49:52,239
Speaker 3: this book when Charlotte made not want to press nobody

1065
00:49:52,280 --> 00:49:56,319
Speaker 3: because he fucked with you. He will not press nobody. Lauren, Wow,

1066
00:49:56,800 --> 00:50:00,160
Speaker 3: you did not see this clip of No so oh

1067
00:50:00,200 --> 00:50:00,759
Speaker 3: wait I did?

1068
00:50:00,920 --> 00:50:01,160
Speaker 1: I did?

1069
00:50:01,239 --> 00:50:03,239
Speaker 3: Sat Lauren's like, oh what about that? What I mean

1070
00:50:03,280 --> 00:50:05,520
Speaker 3: that was journalism, honey, and Charlotte.

1071
00:50:05,280 --> 00:50:06,839
Speaker 1: Was just sitting there. But you know, if he wants

1072
00:50:06,840 --> 00:50:08,400
Speaker 1: some t even people don't get it.

1073
00:50:08,480 --> 00:50:10,680
Speaker 3: He was just like, no, is it because their cousin?

1074
00:50:10,800 --> 00:50:12,760
Speaker 3: Someone said, or that was jose cousins.

1075
00:50:13,120 --> 00:50:14,279
Speaker 1: I don't know, if you know black and fact, we

1076
00:50:14,280 --> 00:50:15,560
Speaker 1: call each other cousin. So I don't know if that

1077
00:50:15,640 --> 00:50:16,160
Speaker 1: was just a thing.

1078
00:50:16,600 --> 00:50:20,640
Speaker 3: But Chloe had dodged those questions. That's the media training

1079
00:50:20,680 --> 00:50:23,239
Speaker 3: our want in life. Let's just say twenty years from now,

1080
00:50:23,719 --> 00:50:26,839
Speaker 3: I'm sitting down with an interview. David Letterman's still live,

1081
00:50:27,239 --> 00:50:29,560
Speaker 3: and he goes, hey, you know what's crazy. He looked

1082
00:50:29,600 --> 00:50:32,400
Speaker 3: like he's like Samuel Jackson. That's the white Samuel Jackson.

1083
00:50:32,480 --> 00:50:35,080
Speaker 3: He looked the same old David Letterman has looked old

1084
00:50:35,120 --> 00:50:37,240
Speaker 3: as buck since I've known David Letterman.

1085
00:50:37,440 --> 00:50:39,640
Speaker 1: Oh and that's Samuel Jackson. I'm gonna tell you what

1086
00:50:39,680 --> 00:50:41,840
Speaker 1: I'm crazy. This is Chloe Bailey trailing.

1087
00:50:41,880 --> 00:50:44,879
Speaker 3: Now I'm training that I'm gonna take into event. David

1088
00:50:44,920 --> 00:50:46,719
Speaker 3: Letterman's gonna suit me the old and be like so

1089
00:50:47,440 --> 00:50:51,040
Speaker 3: everyone used to say you and Mandy you change the world,

1090
00:50:51,120 --> 00:50:53,400
Speaker 3: but you guys never got along. Could you tell me

1091
00:50:53,480 --> 00:50:55,880
Speaker 3: about that, And I'm gonna say we had a great

1092
00:50:56,239 --> 00:50:59,000
Speaker 3: run together, we changed lives, we had a book.

1093
00:50:59,320 --> 00:51:01,120
Speaker 1: Why you get that now? If you know? I answer now,

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Speaker 1: I don't. I don't know the training. It doesn't matter.

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Speaker 3: You're saying it right now, nobody else whatever you think

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Speaker 3: you know how to motherfucker say saying that, I'll be douging.

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Speaker 1: I need media training so twenty years from now, I

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Speaker 1: can clean this shit up. What did you just answered

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Speaker 1: me with your I really feel like people really don't

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Speaker 1: fuck with me like that in the interview, like they

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Speaker 1: just that to me is kind of like a shitty question.

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Speaker 1: Like today if I.

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Speaker 3: Went on the platform, and when we're doing book interviews,

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Speaker 3: if someone does that, I just kind of feel like

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Speaker 3: like you're doing too much.

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Speaker 1: I ain't gonna hold you. Well, we sit down, we

1107
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Speaker 1: want to ask the mess I don't give a fuck. Okay,

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Speaker 1: don't ask me no goddamn mess.

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Speaker 3: So, and that's pr training because I'm gonna tell you

1110
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Speaker 3: Tyler's team said don't ask her if she's black. Well,

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Speaker 3: you know what, and he didn't read the paper. Ask

1112
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Speaker 3: me the messy shit because I love to be a

1113
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Speaker 3: little petty. But depending on what the money in my account.

1114
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Speaker 3: It depends how much petty I'm gonna be. Baby, don't

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Speaker 3: let me just got a deposit.

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Speaker 1: Don't bring it up. I'm petty all right, ain't gonna

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Speaker 1: I can't wait till court is over. Oh, bitch, I

1119
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Speaker 1: I want Hallelujah. Put it Cameron there like a sock

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Speaker 1: a sop. Oh, I'm thinking about the soap. I'm not.

1122
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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie.

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Speaker 3: My homegirl said, bitch, you want me to show up

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Speaker 3: with you? Say you could jump into my arms after

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Speaker 3: that shit like asab.

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Speaker 1: Dear Rihanna, Is it gonna say big Dowie.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's gonna be sold to say bitch and nat

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Speaker 3: us one more fucking uh blood. Let me get the

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Speaker 3: fuck out of here. Okay, okay, says y'all know we're

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Speaker 3: In religion in the Dark Ages, the severity of medieval

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1135
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Speaker 3: because everything was jail, behead you, whatever, so going down

1136
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Speaker 3: on someone in the medieval era, fifteen years of jail,

1137
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Speaker 3: the same sentence you'd get for committing murders if you

1138
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1139
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Speaker 3: The original Sanskrit version of Kama Sutra has an entire

1140
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Speaker 3: chapter to the art of blow jobs that said it

1141
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Speaker 3: was close to godliness. So one side of the world

1142
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Speaker 3: and one side of the world looking.

1143
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Speaker 1: At shit different.

1144
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Speaker 3: I ain't gonna I like really doing the falatio. We

1145
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Speaker 3: know I would risk the fifteen years. I would risk

1146
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Speaker 3: you because then I want you could get fialatio in

1147
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Speaker 3: jail too.

1148
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Speaker 1: Wait, not this jail. It's gonna be woman and then

1149
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Speaker 1: it's a dark agent had showers.

1150
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Speaker 3: Bitch, Now you got you got mail like the CEO's

1151
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1152
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Speaker 3: seo has been the things they like. Prostitutes has been

1153
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1154
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Speaker 1: As soon as then was a prison, there was a

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Speaker 1: co You know.

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Speaker 3: You do it.

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Speaker 1: I feel like you just want to pay back your

1158
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Speaker 1: time for the CEO's saving you with the phone. Shout

1159
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Speaker 1: out to the CEO, Hey were you with your X.

1160
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Speaker 3: When this happened, I was and I was mad because

1161
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Speaker 3: I'm like, Nigga, you in the system, you was a firefighter,

1162
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Speaker 3: Get me out of here. I was in there way

1163
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Speaker 3: too long, Beach. I was like, you ain't got that pool.

1164
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Speaker 3: I thought you was a white collar blue light show.

1165
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Speaker 3: Come on, come on, God damn it.

1166
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Speaker 1: Don't you know somebody in here?

1167
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Speaker 3: Literally, bro, I'm gonna tell you right now, if I

1168
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Speaker 3: go to jail in the next few years, switch, I

1169
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Speaker 3: probably will because I'd be ready to fight. I just

1170
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Speaker 3: feel like I'm gonna get in there for something scrappy,

1171
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Speaker 3: and the second I'm in there, They're gonna have this

1172
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Speaker 3: video footage of me getting in the fight at last

1173
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Speaker 3: lap some shit, and I'd be like, I don't understand

1174
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Speaker 3: why I'm still here. I told you guys take more

1175
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Speaker 3: of the money, And I like, why am I here?

1176
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Speaker 3: I'm going a full white woman the box break up.

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Speaker 3: You hanging by a thread, and I'm gonna be like,

1178
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1179
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Speaker 3: Oh my god, what, oh my hell me the half

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Speaker 3: inche coming out, I will turn into Drake on a

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