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Speaker 1: It's Kik's Court. All right, Cheskik?

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Speaker 3: All right?

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Speaker 1: What say you?

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Speaker 3: Let's get in the courtroom. The gabble has been hits.

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Speaker 4: It says, hey, Kiki, I need your honest opinion because

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Speaker 4: my family thinks I've lost my mind. I canceled my wedding,

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Speaker 4: three years ago, my fiance cheated on me while we

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Speaker 4: were on we were dating, we did the whole therapy forgiveness,

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Speaker 4: rebuilding trust thing. Eventually he proposed and I really thought

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Speaker 4: we were in a solid spot. Fast forward to last week.

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Speaker 4: We were at the bar with his coworkers and one

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Speaker 4: of them casually mentions, oh, yeah, Carrie, the woman he

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Speaker 3: I froze.

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Speaker 4: He never told me that she worked there, and for

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Speaker 4: six months at that I felt humiliated, blindsided. So I

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Speaker 4: left him at the bar, went home and called off

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Speaker 4: our wedding. Now my mom and sister are saying that

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Speaker 4: I overreacted because he didn't actually cheat again and you

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Speaker 4: can't control where people work. But to me, the lion

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Speaker 4: by omission feels just as bad. And if he was

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Speaker 4: I wrong for calling off our wedding over something that

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Speaker 4: over again. What do you think, judge Kiki girl almost

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Speaker 4: called off my wedding over socks this morning? So you know, sister,

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Speaker 4: I feel you, and you know how I feel about

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Speaker 4: withholding information in a relationship. You know, you can hide

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Speaker 4: it from the world, but you should tell your partner.

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Speaker 4: I feel like I should have known, or she should

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Speaker 4: have known, that that woman is now working at his job.

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Speaker 4: I do think he made a big mistake by not

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Speaker 1: Why would you do that to yourself? Though?

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Speaker 4: But then if you don't and your and your friend

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Speaker 3: So I don't think.

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Speaker 4: I think you're a little dramatic by calling off your

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Speaker 2: I don't know why you'd walk into that again, I

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Speaker 2: they're they're engaged, they're getting married. Everything is fine. So

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Speaker 2: why would he sit down and go, oh, by the way,

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Speaker 2: woman with whom I made poor decisions. Yeah, she's in

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Speaker 2: my life again now every single day, and so nothing

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Speaker 2: can see both sides. I can see why you would

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Speaker 4: Next we moved past it going to the holiday party,

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Speaker 4: you know, and then it's like, oh, what is she

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Speaker 3: Or what is he doing here?

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Speaker 4: You wouldn't want your partner to have given you a

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Speaker 2: I just think you're asking for problems. I think you're

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Speaker 2: asking for it all to be dug up again. But

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Speaker 2: it's already been forgiven and we've moved past it. I mean,

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Speaker 2: if he wanted to cheat with this woman, he would

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Speaker 4: I agree. How do I know you didn't get her

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Speaker 4: to get her the job? Well, to see there you go.

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Speaker 4: This is what I'm talking about here, we go down

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Speaker 4: this rabbit hole. This is the rabbit hole where you're

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Speaker 4: just saying things now, yes, and you have no evidence

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Speaker 4: of that, no proof of that. He may have had

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Speaker 4: nothing to do with it whatsoever, And it doesn't matter

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Speaker 4: because we've already forgiven him for the indiscretion and we're

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Speaker 4: except we're not if we're saying things like that. Okay,

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Speaker 4: but I just don't believe you should withhold information because

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Speaker 1: But maybe it wouldn't ask if it happened, he just

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you didn't tell me. Somebody else telling me.

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Speaker 2: But withholding would mean that that you that you asked

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Speaker 1: That you know no because he does.

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Speaker 2: Don't want to go there again, because this is what happens,

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Speaker 2: crazy things are coming in your brain, like oh, well night,

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Speaker 2: now you're you're you're in close proximity, so you're gonna

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Speaker 2: you're not You're not going to You're not going to

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Speaker 2: do that. Hey Marcy, Hello, Hi Marcy Kigy's Court.

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Speaker 1: You're the jury. What say you?

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Speaker 6: Well, what I say is that on one end, I

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Speaker 6: do believe she's being a little over dramatic. However, he's

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Speaker 6: also not completely off the hook with this one. I

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Speaker 6: feel like transparency is to you rebuilding that trust and

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Speaker 6: the work was done for them to forgive and rebuild

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Speaker 6: the trust. Then, yes, being transparent, he is part of

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Speaker 6: the work that everybody put in.

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Speaker 7: So why not bring it up? Why not say anything?

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Speaker 8: Right?

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Speaker 7: Unless somebody has something to hide, that's the only reason

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Speaker 9: But yes, she is a but traumatic.

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Speaker 6: I feel like this is something that could take a conversation, clarity,

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Speaker 6: maybe another couple of therapy sessions, and you know, work

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Speaker 8: If the love is there, then just work through the issue.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, all right, thank you, Marcy.

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Speaker 10: You're welcome.

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Speaker 1: Have a good day.

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Speaker 2: Now, I'm here, I'm here, I'm here in different perspectives here, Hi, Lucy,

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Speaker 2: how you're going guys?

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Speaker 1: Go morning, Lucy, Good morning, Kiki's Court. So basically.

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Speaker 2: Peeboard together, male female there together, and dude cheated with

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Speaker 2: a woman. Now woman works, and they've moved on. The

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Speaker 2: couple's moved on the forgiveness and the whole thing, and

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Speaker 2: they're engaged, are getting married, and now the woman that

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Speaker 2: didn't come home and just tell her that, and now

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Speaker 2: she's canceling the wedding and the whole thing. He didn't

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Speaker 2: necessarily go back there. Don't think he went back there.

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Speaker 2: We don't know that. She's just mad because his ladies

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Speaker 1: What do you think?

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Speaker 11: I think what she key said, I mean, he could

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Speaker 11: have avoided any type of even minor and insecurity that

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Speaker 11: have by saying, hey, babe, really quick, super weird. She

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Speaker 11: works here, and I know what one happened, just so

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Speaker 11: you know, and you leave it there and then.

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Speaker 7: Obviously she might be on guard. But I mean, that's

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Speaker 9: It's awkward.

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Speaker 7: You know, you got to get through it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess, I guess you could.

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Speaker 2: But that means that you trust that you're not going

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Speaker 2: to continue to be penalized for the past, or that

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Speaker 2: you're not digging up all this stuff again.

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Speaker 7: Trust like, hey, I trust that you're working with her.

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Speaker 9: Thanks for letting me know.

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Speaker 7: Listen, I was previously.

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Speaker 11: Married and a lot was withheld, and if it would

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Speaker 11: So let me just tell you that.

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Speaker 2: See, he screwed up, right, he screwed up by cheating,

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Speaker 2: But he I'm guessing he doesn't trust that bringing that

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Speaker 2: I remember that we've moved past this, so I'm not

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Speaker 2: saying it's her fault at all. But I think the

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Speaker 2: reason he's not telling her is because he's afraid of

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Speaker 2: her reaction.

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Speaker 1: And I don't know that he should be afraid.

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Speaker 7: Of her, and that's valid, but that's valid. We all

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Speaker 7: he's like, okay, chardy forgave me once, what if his

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Speaker 7: pushes are over the edge? I get all that, but

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Speaker 7: at the end of the day, like I guess, we

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Speaker 7: all don't have a handbook on what's right and what's wrong.

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Speaker 7: But I just honesty I mean if he learns now

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Speaker 7: like honesty will always.

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Speaker 11: Win, even if it's super awkward, you know you'll feel

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Lucy, have a good day.

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Speaker 1: That's nice thing to say. Fred.

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Speaker 2: I don't disagree with you often, but Kiki is right

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Speaker 1: It was Kicky's court. You're the jury. What say you?

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Speaker 9: So I just called old Joss a couple of months

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Speaker 1: I'm sure that happens.

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Speaker 9: And when you try to have moved past like the cheating,

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Speaker 2: But we're implying here, we're projecting onto him that this

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Speaker 2: What I cannot stand is situations where I forgive you,

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Speaker 1: Well, then you didn't, Then you didn't.

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Speaker 2: Because this guy's got to have a chance to redeem

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Speaker 2: Because we have to, because we because we forgave and

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Speaker 1: Being transparent with Yeah, here's what I would have done, Christina.

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Speaker 2: I would have said, I would have come clean if

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Speaker 3: Have now gets to decide that I do.

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Speaker 2: They'll because because when you forgive someone and you move

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Speaker 1: But because we're moving forward.

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Speaker 4: How I'm going to react if you don't give me

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Speaker 1: Now I have issue to say. Now, wait a minute.

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Speaker 2: I thought if I thought we were moving forward, I

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Speaker 2: But I also think I would have every right if

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Speaker 2: Right, and he doesn't know that because you didn't tell her,

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Speaker 9: Into So he wasn't wrong for not being transferred in

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Speaker 10: That's well, he was wrong.

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Speaker 2: I'm telling you what I would have done. Whether I

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Speaker 2: But and you think it's wrong, so that's fair. Thank you, Christina.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry for what happened to you, But onward and upward.

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Speaker 4: Yep, it's more fish in a sea girl.

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Speaker 2: You will be okay, Christina, have a good day.

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Speaker 1: Okay, she'll be ready. No, she's not ready to hear it.

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Speaker 1: No she's not. But that's okay. She's gonna be fined.

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Speaker 1: Noel, how you doing good?

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Speaker 3: How are you?

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Speaker 9: I love you guys so much getting married than you?

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Speaker 2: Are you excited that you're getting married after hearing all

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Speaker 8: Okay? So I'm getting married in two months and I

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Speaker 8: Because if you have nothing to hide and we're going

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Speaker 8: Like it's going to literally cripple your mental state, and

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Speaker 8: you're never going to trust him again. And I love you,

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Speaker 8: Fred with my whole entire heart. But no, my reaction

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Speaker 10: And that's my reaction.

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Speaker 8: It's because I can't trust you anymore.

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Speaker 2: I don't think this woman coming in my proximity three

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Speaker 2: I would cover my butt and watch your reaction, and

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Speaker 1: You haven't forgiven me, and we have a different problem.

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 3: You didn't.

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Speaker 4: She didn't just come in your proximity. You didn't just

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Speaker 3: I did every day.

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Speaker 2: I'm just I'm going to give him the benefit of

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Speaker 1: I'm going because I don't think. I don't think he

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Speaker 2: I don't think he's out seeking her and communicated with

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Speaker 2: if he knew all that. The dump is as But

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't know how we live in

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Speaker 1: But here's the term. It's forever.

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Speaker 2: No one's asking you to forget, but we can't just

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Speaker 2: every time you feel like it, Pauline, Well, I.

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Speaker 3: I'm not to run to freak out. But I just

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Speaker 1: I didn't know.

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Speaker 12: That's all this really is, Like, yeah, it might hurt

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Speaker 12: I don't talk to her whatever, I'm just letting you

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Speaker 5: Sometimes I feel feels like people are trying to control

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Speaker 3: But that's not on you and you can't control that period.

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Speaker 1: Thank you. Noell, have a good day. I love. People

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Speaker 1: are blowing me up. Oh I'm so wrong. I'm strong.

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Speaker 2: I told you exactly what I would do, and it's

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Speaker 2: I'm hung up on is that everyone is in here calling,

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Speaker 1: What do you mean he didn't do anything but what

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Speaker 2: But you're doing the thing I'm talking about is we've

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Speaker 1: We don't have any information.

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Speaker 2: We automatically assume that this guy went and called her

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna get you.

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Speaker 2: I gotta be next to you every day so I

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Speaker 1: Guys, this is what I mean.

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Speaker 2: You guys are saying you guys are telling me I'm wrong,

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Speaker 2: But you're saying that you're you're jumping to all the

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Speaker 2: conclusions that concerned me, and you.

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Speaker 4: Told me the conclusions would not be there because I

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Speaker 4: would have you on FaceTime at work all days.

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Speaker 2: And then Calen's point is true, is I think he's

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Speaker 2: probably not telling her because of this?

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Speaker 4: Yes, I understand, but no, but that's up to me.

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Speaker 4: I get to choose how I react. You know, I

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Speaker 4: don't care what's fair to you.

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Speaker 1: All me.

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Speaker 2: You're saying all the things that I'm saying would prevent

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Speaker 2: would prevent a lot of people from going back there.

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Speaker 1: That's it, Hey, Jill, how do you do it? Hi? Jill?

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna give you the final sake because they got

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Speaker 1: to move on. What do you think?

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Speaker 10: All right? So I mean, I'm all about this forgive

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Speaker 10: and forget because I've done it. My ex husband left

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Speaker 10: me twice for the same woman. He's now happily married

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Speaker 10: to her, and I'm happily with someone else. So it

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Speaker 10: worked out.

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Speaker 1: For the best good.

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Speaker 10: And I will say I forgave and I forget. And

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Speaker 10: he didn't tell me when she came back into his life,

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Speaker 10: and I said, you know what, I forgave you. It's okay,

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Speaker 10: it didn't work out. Bred he should have been honest

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Speaker 10: with her if she's back in his life in any capacity.

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Speaker 10: Now these terms have changed. She forgave and forgot, but

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Speaker 10: she was gone. The other part of the puzzle was removed.

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Speaker 1: Here's my other question comes back.

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Speaker 10: Into the puzzle. You have to communicate and you have

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Speaker 10: to work through it.

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Speaker 2: I hear all that, and again, that's probably what I

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Speaker 2: would do in this situation. What I would do and

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Speaker 2: what and me try me understanding maybe where he's coming

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Speaker 2: from her two different things. But okay, so I come

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Speaker 2: home and I tell you, hey, this woman who is

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Speaker 2: I caused you amends? I did it she didn't. I

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Speaker 2: mean she was part of it. But I was married

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Speaker 2: to you. I'm the or I'm with you, I made

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Speaker 2: the commitment to you. I cause you great pain by

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Speaker 2: being with this woman is now is now in my

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Speaker 2: presence every day at my work?

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Speaker 1: What am I putting you?

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Speaker 2: And again, I'm assuming that you're going to dislike that

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Speaker 2: most people would. But now you get to relive all

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Speaker 2: of that and for what Because I'm just assuming this

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Speaker 2: guy's not going back there.

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Speaker 1: Now. If he is, we have a whole different problem.

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Speaker 2: But if we forgave him and we trust him, then

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Speaker 2: we're assuming that until we find out otherwise that he

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Speaker 2: is not. But now every day when I go to work,

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Speaker 2: you get to relive this until you don't. And I'm

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Speaker 2: saying that's not fair to her either.

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Speaker 10: No it isn't. But isn't it worse? Isn't it so

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Speaker 10: much worse that she does go to the hull party,

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Speaker 10: like someone said, goes to the holiday party and this

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Speaker 10: person's been working there for almost a year. You at what,

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Speaker 10: at some point found out this person had been sleeping

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Speaker 10: with your partner?

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Speaker 1: What is it worse when you find out he didn't

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Speaker 1: he wasn't doing anything or better, you're back too.

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Speaker 10: He cheated on you behind your back.

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Speaker 2: But we're assuming he's not doing anything now just because

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Speaker 2: she's there.

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Speaker 10: Yeah, I don't know, sure, just because she's there, but

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Speaker 10: that it's the sense of betrayal that he's now reignited

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Speaker 10: by withholding the importation.

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Speaker 1: I hear, I hear all of this. I think he's Dan.

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Speaker 2: If he doesn't Dan, if he doesn't in this, honestly,

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Speaker 2: i'd probably you know what I'd do, I'd get another job.

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Speaker 3: I quit my damn jo.

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Speaker 1: I quit my damn job.

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Speaker 10: Sound terrible.

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Speaker 1: I'm moving.

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Speaker 2: I work at Wendy's Now important forget Taco Bell. I've

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Speaker 2: moved on. Jill, Jill, Jill, Jill. I don't work there anymore.

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Speaker 2: We're fine.

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Speaker 10: I quit more important than Taco Bell.

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Speaker 1: Have a good day to thank you for calling.

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Speaker 3: I love Jill. Now I'm doing at the holiday party.

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Speaker 1: We got shrimp cocktails. Come on going to a holiday

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Speaker 1: party because I don't work there?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't tell me? And they now get a

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Speaker 3: job there. Now three of us.

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Speaker 1: Down here we go. Can's Entertainer Report and he's on

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Speaker 1: the Bread Show.

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Speaker 5: Bad Bunny hosted Saturday Night Live Over the weekend with

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Speaker 5: one of the sketches featuring him, and he's playing a

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Speaker 5: dude with a major K pop demon hunter's obsession.

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Speaker 3: It was hysterical.

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Speaker 5: So we played this guy named Thomas meeting up with

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Speaker 5: his friends at a restaurant and they're catching up, but

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Speaker 5: he couldn't help but share his obsession with the Netflix

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Speaker 5: hit animated musical movie K Pop Demon Hunters, and they

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Speaker 5: kept telling him the movie was for kids. He started

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Speaker 5: getting pissed, but eventually the group needed saving when the

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Speaker 5: three singers who sing that hit song Golden from the

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Speaker 5: movie up here and they start to sing, making the

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Speaker 5: audience go absolutely crazy. As far as I know, this

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Speaker 5: was the first time they've ever performed live together.

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Speaker 3: The movie made.

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Speaker 5: History as the first soundtrack with four simultaneous top ten

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Speaker 5: songs on the Billboard Hot one hundred, racking up over

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Speaker 5: three billion global streams, with Golden being submitted for some

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Speaker 5: sort of awards consideration. So that song is really huge,

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Speaker 5: and I know everybody's obsessed with it and kind of

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Speaker 5: went crazy over the weekend when that aired. If you

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Speaker 5: miss any part of our show and you want to

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Speaker 1: The Fread Show is on Fred's Fun Fact.

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Speaker 5: Fred Fun so Much, So much.

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Speaker 2: Guys, did you know that Ben and Jerry's made a

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Speaker 2: graveyard for all of their former flavors? So all the

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Speaker 2: flavors consist of discontinued ice cream flavors. Each flavor has

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Speaker 2: its photo as well as its lifespan. Each one even

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Speaker 2: has an epitaph for people to remember it by time

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Speaker 2: that they, I don't know, stop making a flavor of

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Speaker 2: some kind, then they put it in their graveyard. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: it's like a little you never had, like a little

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Speaker 2: slogan for like, yeah you, what would yours be?

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Speaker 1: Like? I cry a lot, swifty and overly emotional.

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Speaker 2: What I was going to say, swifty and overly emotional,

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Speaker 2: but I overly overleason tag that that would imply that

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Speaker 2: you shouldn't be that much.

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Speaker 1: I wasn't going to say that loud.

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Speaker 3: You should be less.

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Speaker 1: You could be as emotional as you want. Thanks.

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Speaker 3: I don't believe that, but thank you.

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Speaker 1: Well, you're you.

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Speaker 2: You can be as long as it you know, I

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Speaker 2: don't have to feel bad about it as long as

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Speaker 2: it's that directed to me being swift and overly Kaitlin.

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Speaker 2: But you're not dead, thank god. So yeah, you're not

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Speaker 2: in the Ben and Jerry's ice cream flavor. If you

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Speaker 2: were a flavor, If you were a flavor, what would

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Speaker 2: you be?

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Speaker 3: I think I would be, Oh.

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Speaker 2: Okay, sure, pickle flavored kailin a swifty and overly emotional

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Speaker 2: wow out of context.

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Speaker 1: Actually more Fred Show next right here,