WEBVTT - Featuring Bryn McNerney 0:00:13.320 --> 0:00:18.880 Hello, Hello, Hello, it's We Knows Parenting. I'm Beth Newel, 0:00:18.920 --> 0:00:22.120 I'm Peter McCarney. Your parents were here. We're catching up 0:00:22.960 --> 0:00:25.720 with each other with you, We're getting it all done. 0:00:26.680 --> 0:00:30.000 I can't believe what a good mood I'm in, right, yeah, 0:00:30.040 --> 0:00:33.320 because the rest of this day was miserable. I just 0:00:33.320 --> 0:00:36.599 turned a corner. Okay, I don't know what it was. 0:00:37.400 --> 0:00:42.480 I mean it's often drink a corner called whiskey. Yeah, 0:00:42.720 --> 0:00:48.280 the corner right, I turned onto Bourbon Street. Wow. Are 0:00:48.440 --> 0:00:55.120 this podcast is very like pro alcohol? Um, we're not anyway. 0:00:55.280 --> 0:00:58.360 I mean it's not. It's it's the thing about you 0:00:58.640 --> 0:01:02.400 want to mention the alcohol right in the first five 0:01:02.440 --> 0:01:04.960 seconds of the podcast. Every time is it gives it 0:01:05.040 --> 0:01:07.959 much more importance than it has in our lives. And 0:01:08.000 --> 0:01:12.040 we don't have a problem. And we're because because we don't. 0:01:12.520 --> 0:01:14.800 We don't go out drinking. We don't drink that much. 0:01:14.840 --> 0:01:16.800 This is as much as I'll drink it at night 0:01:17.200 --> 0:01:19.880 whenever we sit down. We've just relaxed at the end, 0:01:19.920 --> 0:01:23.479 and it's like the one time a week I'm thinking 0:01:23.520 --> 0:01:26.920 about the drink, the one time in the week. Um, 0:01:27.000 --> 0:01:29.200 I can finally give this drink the attention to deserve. 0:01:31.080 --> 0:01:36.679 So we had a week as a regular old fall week, 0:01:36.720 --> 0:01:42.119 getting cold, stocking up on hats um regular old fall 0:01:42.319 --> 0:01:46.080 week went hat harvest. You know how the weeks go 0:01:46.360 --> 0:01:55.200 and Halloween and thanks multiple holidays. Election day do you 0:01:55.200 --> 0:01:59.520 call it a holiday? It should be a holiday. This 0:01:59.600 --> 0:02:04.960 is at something I'm slightly angry about in in terms 0:02:05.040 --> 0:02:09.800 of a social justice thing. The fact that the election 0:02:09.880 --> 0:02:12.840 is not a holiday is already problematic because if people 0:02:12.960 --> 0:02:16.000 want to vote, they need to they should not have 0:02:16.040 --> 0:02:20.480 to work. But specifically because in many places like our town, 0:02:20.960 --> 0:02:24.280 for some reason, it is a holiday for children to 0:02:24.560 --> 0:02:28.200 not go to school. So they've made it extra hard 0:02:28.360 --> 0:02:31.320 for working parents to get to the polls. I mean, 0:02:31.880 --> 0:02:33.680 like we it was fine for us, but I just 0:02:34.000 --> 0:02:37.080 an issue. I think that idea are getting to the 0:02:37.120 --> 0:02:40.400 polls on election day, right, Like if it's for the 0:02:40.400 --> 0:02:42.840 teacher's sake, I mean, I'm not I don't want to 0:02:42.880 --> 0:02:45.600 discredit teachers who do really hard work and make a 0:02:45.639 --> 0:02:48.120 lot of prep, but they're they're going to be able 0:02:48.120 --> 0:02:51.639 to get there after three pm. They're fine, Like I mean, 0:02:51.760 --> 0:02:53.639 also in New York State, now, it was the first 0:02:53.720 --> 0:02:56.680 year of early voting and we could have just mosey 0:02:56.720 --> 0:03:00.880 down over to the towns. I don't think get specifically 0:03:00.960 --> 0:03:04.040 impacted us. I just think in theory, this is an 0:03:04.040 --> 0:03:11.959 issue that is problematic. Um Anyway, today was Veterans Day 0:03:12.320 --> 0:03:15.040 and I was home with the kids in no school. 0:03:16.200 --> 0:03:18.200 And so here's what's been going on with me. I 0:03:18.200 --> 0:03:20.240 don't know if I talked about this last week, but um, 0:03:20.440 --> 0:03:24.919 I lost my mind a few times this week. I've 0:03:24.960 --> 0:03:30.400 been doing hour upon hour of essentially data transferring into 0:03:30.440 --> 0:03:34.800 a new system blah blah blah data entry for twelve 0:03:34.800 --> 0:03:38.960 hours straight for like three days. And it's an exciting 0:03:39.000 --> 0:03:41.040 project that I built this thing, and so I'm really 0:03:41.080 --> 0:03:43.520 obsessive about it. But then I just realized at the 0:03:43.560 --> 0:03:46.600 end of the night, like I feel crazy. I can't 0:03:46.600 --> 0:03:48.280 go to sleep. And so here's what I've been doing. 0:03:48.960 --> 0:03:51.600 It's like eleven or twelve, you're asleep, and I'm like, 0:03:52.120 --> 0:03:55.800 now is the perfect time to finally start season one 0:03:55.800 --> 0:03:59.480 of The Walking Dead. Uh so this is a bad 0:03:59.560 --> 0:04:02.000 choice on top of a bad choice. Yeah, and so 0:04:02.040 --> 0:04:04.440 I'm so frantic and like my brain is like, you 0:04:04.480 --> 0:04:06.160 have so many things to do, you have endless things 0:04:06.160 --> 0:04:10.200 to do. Now get obsessed with this zombie apocalypse that's 0:04:10.320 --> 0:04:15.120 truly terrifying and unsettling. And I had in two nights 0:04:15.520 --> 0:04:20.640 the two most genuinely terrifying nightmares of my entire adult life, 0:04:21.320 --> 0:04:24.560 and I still did it again for a third night. Well, 0:04:24.600 --> 0:04:27.080 I'm glad your choices are affecting you and not just 0:04:27.360 --> 0:04:31.080 the rest of us, because regardless of the walking dead thing, 0:04:31.279 --> 0:04:35.360 I think you need to take breaks when you're doing 0:04:35.520 --> 0:04:38.359 these things where you decide to obsessively stare at your 0:04:38.360 --> 0:04:41.320 computer screen for twelve hours a day. Because the way 0:04:42.480 --> 0:04:44.600 I feel like a choice where I'm like, you know 0:04:44.600 --> 0:04:48.640 what I'm gonna do today, go crazy, there's a very 0:04:48.720 --> 0:04:51.920 good reason I'm doing it. As an adult. It's your 0:04:51.920 --> 0:04:55.000 responsibility to try to self monitor and learn how to 0:04:56.800 --> 0:05:02.240 giving yourself slightly crazy to be around completely crazy. On Sunday, 0:05:03.000 --> 0:05:05.520 the thing that was so stressful, I then went and taught, 0:05:05.839 --> 0:05:10.159 and every conversation I had after it was over, I 0:05:10.200 --> 0:05:12.640 walked away and I went, that was so awkward. Right, 0:05:12.880 --> 0:05:15.240 this is what I'm saying. I like, I would actually 0:05:15.279 --> 0:05:17.040 like to be working as much as you are. Like 0:05:17.080 --> 0:05:19.479 I have that drive to want to be like working 0:05:19.480 --> 0:05:23.359 all weekend, but I can feel myself being crazy with 0:05:23.400 --> 0:05:27.720 the children. I can feel diminishing returns in my work output. 0:05:28.040 --> 0:05:31.560 I just you need to take a breath and be 0:05:31.640 --> 0:05:35.320 present with the kids to be sane. We got into 0:05:35.600 --> 0:05:38.640 big fights tonight because exactly what we're talking about, and 0:05:38.680 --> 0:05:40.640 I agree a thousand percent. And you didn't get them 0:05:40.680 --> 0:05:43.800 outside until just before dinner time when they're at their 0:05:43.880 --> 0:05:48.159 hungriest and angriest. It wasn't just before dinner. We started 0:05:48.200 --> 0:05:52.279 at like three getting dressed whenever. It took forever. We 0:05:52.360 --> 0:05:55.960 got outside and Brynes I was like, we're going to 0:05:56.080 --> 0:06:00.280 walk to to dinners. Okay, I just want to say, 0:06:00.320 --> 0:06:03.040 this is what you set me up for last weekend 0:06:03.160 --> 0:06:05.800 that I was pretty frustrated to come home to, which 0:06:05.880 --> 0:06:10.760 is kids in this state who were very frazzled. Well, 0:06:10.880 --> 0:06:15.280 I got it back. I got it, comes around, goes 0:06:15.320 --> 0:06:19.560 and comes in revolving door of karma. Okay, so you went. 0:06:19.720 --> 0:06:21.880 You took them out into the streets at their hungriest 0:06:21.920 --> 0:06:26.320 and tirest and stir craziest. And then Bran ran away 0:06:26.320 --> 0:06:28.279 from me, and I called Brant because he was running 0:06:28.279 --> 0:06:30.080 the wrong way. He thought were going to the car. 0:06:30.160 --> 0:06:33.320 We were walking and bread and then I screamed, Britt 0:06:33.400 --> 0:06:37.279 and he kept running and the rage. There was a 0:06:37.279 --> 0:06:39.360 time if you listen to the podcast where I went 0:06:39.400 --> 0:06:44.480 through some rage issues, we all went through some rage issues, 0:06:44.960 --> 0:06:46.640 and I got a bit of that tonight. It's been 0:06:46.680 --> 0:06:49.560 a while, and I think you know what it is 0:06:49.640 --> 0:06:53.039 now that I'm actually thinking about, Like the way that 0:06:53.240 --> 0:06:57.719 you're emotionally reacting this week because you're in such a 0:06:57.800 --> 0:07:02.120 key top state, is what brit is picking up on. 0:07:02.320 --> 0:07:07.040 And then because he's a constant mirror of everything, he's 0:07:07.279 --> 0:07:10.160 behaving in a similar way. And then he's also talking 0:07:10.280 --> 0:07:14.160 to me like he's like, you need to do this 0:07:14.360 --> 0:07:18.520 and lectures you the way I lecture. Yeah, exactly. He 0:07:18.680 --> 0:07:21.560 repeats like everything he say and he keeps all week long. 0:07:21.640 --> 0:07:24.600 He's like, well then you're not going to get to 0:07:24.600 --> 0:07:28.600 watch cheesy all weekend and I'm like okay, fine, and 0:07:28.640 --> 0:07:31.760 he's like, well, how do you feel about? Like can 0:07:31.800 --> 0:07:35.920 we talk about the most Britin thing that's ever happened? 0:07:35.960 --> 0:07:39.840 You bought are No rather his and Ali bought him 0:07:40.600 --> 0:07:48.040 very funny Christmas sweater that says, you know there's sequence 0:07:48.080 --> 0:07:50.160 where if you rub it one way, there's an image 0:07:50.160 --> 0:07:51.440 and if you rub it the other way. All the 0:07:51.440 --> 0:07:54.680 little discs flip and so he has that and if 0:07:54.680 --> 0:07:56.920 you push it one way it says nice, and you 0:07:56.960 --> 0:08:00.000 do it the other way it says naughty. But only 0:08:00.240 --> 0:08:04.440 Bryn would interpret it the way he did. Well, everyone 0:08:04.400 --> 0:08:07.120 who goes, oh, you're wearing a sweater, you're either nice 0:08:07.200 --> 0:08:09.960 or naughty while wearing it, and Britain goes, no, no, 0:08:09.960 --> 0:08:14.320 no no. When I flip it to naughty, it's about you, 0:08:14.600 --> 0:08:17.800 the person I'm talking to, because Daddy, if you're if 0:08:17.840 --> 0:08:19.760 you're mean, I'm gonna flip it and you're going to 0:08:19.800 --> 0:08:24.360 be naughty. Then he's like a perfect example of why 0:08:25.160 --> 0:08:30.239 the like penal system does not work. Like he doesn't 0:08:30.280 --> 0:08:36.280 like he's just always trying to escape the specific technicality. 0:08:36.679 --> 0:08:40.600 He's not testing the fence with every king. I was like, 0:08:40.840 --> 0:08:43.199 I remember we talked about this last year in retrospect, 0:08:43.240 --> 0:08:45.640 where it's just like the whole like threat of Santa 0:08:45.720 --> 0:08:48.240 not giving presents like doesn't really work and isn't like 0:08:48.559 --> 0:08:53.160 a great and so it came up like the other 0:08:53.240 --> 0:08:55.600 day again he was being like terrible, this is probably 0:08:55.640 --> 0:08:58.480 the day that you set them on fire and handed 0:08:58.520 --> 0:09:02.120 them to me. But he uh, I thought it was 0:09:02.120 --> 0:09:04.560 a good idea at the time, he was being horrible 0:09:04.640 --> 0:09:06.440 and then they were like getting ready for bed, and 0:09:06.559 --> 0:09:08.880 I was at one point trying to explain, like, you know, 0:09:09.120 --> 0:09:11.760 Christmas is coming up, so we gotta start behaving because 0:09:11.800 --> 0:09:15.840 of Santa. And he was like, um, no, we don't, 0:09:15.960 --> 0:09:18.000 and and I was like yes, And I was like, 0:09:18.040 --> 0:09:20.080 do you remember the song he sees you when you're sleeping? 0:09:20.200 --> 0:09:22.360 Because he was asking he was like, how does Santa. No, 0:09:22.920 --> 0:09:26.079 Santa can't know what I'm doing. And then I was like, well, 0:09:26.160 --> 0:09:27.640 he sees you when you're sleeping, he knows when you're 0:09:27.640 --> 0:09:31.920 a week And then he was like, no, he only 0:09:31.960 --> 0:09:35.160 cares if you're naughty on Christmas Day. The other days 0:09:35.320 --> 0:09:40.240 don't matter. Um. He was like just trying to find 0:09:40.240 --> 0:09:43.120 the loophole. Boy, this is the year where he's really 0:09:43.120 --> 0:09:46.400 going to apply logic to Christmas. Yeah. So, and and 0:09:46.480 --> 0:09:49.400 well he did say he said I always get presents. 0:09:49.720 --> 0:09:53.720 He literally said that, And I was like, good point. 0:09:54.000 --> 0:09:59.160 Good point, data is in your favor. This is the 0:09:59.200 --> 0:10:02.760 logic of white men. They're like, but I keep getting rewarded, 0:10:02.960 --> 0:10:06.679 so I guess you're wrong. But I will say this 0:10:06.720 --> 0:10:10.199 story is not about how bad Britain was because it 0:10:10.280 --> 0:10:14.160 wasn't him. He and I finally I walked over him 0:10:14.200 --> 0:10:18.600 and it was more about that I was irrationally upset, 0:10:18.640 --> 0:10:20.040 but I went over and I kept it cool, and 0:10:20.080 --> 0:10:22.079 I was like, did you hear me say your name? 0:10:22.200 --> 0:10:24.880 Four times? When I scream your name? You just stopped 0:10:24.880 --> 0:10:28.240 and he goes, oh, sorry, and I was like, that 0:10:28.400 --> 0:10:30.719 went well. Actually, That's why I did have some good 0:10:30.760 --> 0:10:32.480 moments with him on Sunday, because he had a play 0:10:32.559 --> 0:10:34.480 date with his best friend who has he doesn't see 0:10:34.600 --> 0:10:38.200 very often, and at least in a couple of hours 0:10:38.320 --> 0:10:40.000 leading up to the play date, I had some really 0:10:40.040 --> 0:10:42.880 amazing leverage where he was like, I was like, if 0:10:42.920 --> 0:10:45.440 you keep doing that to your sister, maybe we won't 0:10:45.480 --> 0:10:49.000 have this play date. And he was like, um okay, 0:10:50.360 --> 0:10:54.400 just like the only time. He's so much better at that. Yeah, 0:10:54.520 --> 0:10:56.559 And he was great over the plate ate it It's 0:10:56.600 --> 0:10:58.800 just like he's climbing the walls over here. And I 0:10:58.840 --> 0:11:00.720 do think he needs to be like let out and 0:11:00.800 --> 0:11:03.800 run like a dog, like he needs to get outside. 0:11:04.000 --> 0:11:06.560 The other on on election Day, we went for a 0:11:06.559 --> 0:11:09.440 really long walk and we went out the door and 0:11:09.440 --> 0:11:11.960 he literally started running and I just ran with him. 0:11:12.080 --> 0:11:14.240 That's when I did that with him on Saturday, and 0:11:14.280 --> 0:11:16.920 I luckily had just gone for my first jog in 0:11:17.000 --> 0:11:19.520 like two months, and I was like loosened up and 0:11:19.559 --> 0:11:21.760 I was like, oh, we're sprinting. Cool, this is like 0:11:21.800 --> 0:11:24.839 a good workout. Yeah, it was great. I was hoping 0:11:24.880 --> 0:11:30.800 to do that tonight. And then Maven takes off ill Maven, Maven, Maven, 0:11:30.920 --> 0:11:34.280 and she ignores me, and I'm doubly enraged because I've 0:11:34.320 --> 0:11:37.160 just gone through this, and so she runs and I 0:11:37.360 --> 0:11:39.640 just stand there waiting for her to realize that no 0:11:39.679 --> 0:11:41.960 one's following with her, and she get up like scared 0:11:41.960 --> 0:11:44.920 and come back. Of course she doesn't, so I have 0:11:44.960 --> 0:11:48.080 to go around the corner and Brind sees that I'm mad, 0:11:48.320 --> 0:11:50.760 and he goes in. He can see that my rage 0:11:50.840 --> 0:11:54.720 is directed at Maven, and he goes full angel and 0:11:54.720 --> 0:11:58.120 he's just listening and he's great. And I go and 0:11:58.160 --> 0:12:01.040 Maven's at the end of the sidewalk by the street, 0:12:01.280 --> 0:12:03.199 and I'm like, oh, shout, I just let this three 0:12:03.280 --> 0:12:05.760 year old run towards the buggest business street. So I 0:12:05.800 --> 0:12:09.440 go over there and I'm like, give her. You can't 0:12:09.480 --> 0:12:13.480 push too hard with her because she doesn't. She doesn't 0:12:13.480 --> 0:12:16.839 tolerate that. So I'm like, did you hear me? When 0:12:16.880 --> 0:12:19.360 I say your name? Stopped like okay, and she doesn't 0:12:19.360 --> 0:12:23.079 say anything. She just stares at you, and I say okay, 0:12:23.160 --> 0:12:26.560 and then bring goes may even just say okay. I 0:12:26.640 --> 0:12:28.120 keep doing this thing with them where I try to 0:12:28.160 --> 0:12:30.760 be really common, be like, hey, I can't have you 0:12:30.800 --> 0:12:32.360 going on the street because you could get hit by 0:12:32.360 --> 0:12:34.800 a car and you'd be very hurt. Do you understand? 0:12:35.520 --> 0:12:39.560 Like I just keep you like do you understand? And 0:12:39.679 --> 0:12:42.440 she's getting a little better. But then but then I 0:12:42.480 --> 0:12:44.559 was like, all right, we're fine, let's go this way. 0:12:44.600 --> 0:12:48.320 We started walking, and then she refused to walk, and 0:12:48.400 --> 0:12:50.559 I go, okay, if you don't walk, we're going to 0:12:50.640 --> 0:12:52.440 go back inside. We're not going to go to dinner. 0:12:53.240 --> 0:12:55.600 And then she gives me her squints her eyes at 0:12:55.679 --> 0:12:59.160 me a death stare, and I go, okay, let's go 0:12:59.160 --> 0:13:00.880 a we start walking. She won't go, and I go, 0:13:00.960 --> 0:13:03.840 this is your last chance, and Brin's like, no, we 0:13:03.920 --> 0:13:05.800 need to go to dinner. I'm like, it's up to 0:13:05.840 --> 0:13:09.040 maven one two, And I did all these ultimatums and 0:13:09.080 --> 0:13:10.640 I go one to three and she didn't move, so 0:13:10.679 --> 0:13:13.960 I was like, now I have to follow through on 0:13:14.040 --> 0:13:16.480 the threat. So I pick her up, and then she 0:13:16.520 --> 0:13:20.000 starts kicking me, and then I get really angry and 0:13:20.040 --> 0:13:22.480 I go and I go upstairs and I go, you're 0:13:22.520 --> 0:13:25.280 going in the room. You're staying here until dinner is ready. 0:13:26.440 --> 0:13:28.520 And then she Brin will stay in there if you 0:13:28.600 --> 0:13:31.280 say that to him. She comes running out and I 0:13:31.320 --> 0:13:32.560 have to pick her up and I put her in 0:13:32.559 --> 0:13:34.720 her bed and I go, you do not leave here 0:13:35.000 --> 0:13:37.679 until dinner is ready. And then I keep coming. She 0:13:37.760 --> 0:13:40.640 keeps coming back out, and I put her down and 0:13:40.679 --> 0:13:42.720 I go close the door, and then she starts kicking 0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:45.120 the door, and it took me back to this time 0:13:45.120 --> 0:13:46.559 that Brent would do that when I was three. And 0:13:46.559 --> 0:13:47.960 I go in and I go, if you keep kicking 0:13:48.000 --> 0:13:50.680 the door, I'm gonna have to hold you. And she's 0:13:50.720 --> 0:13:53.920 like you wouldn't dare In her eyes, she's like, I 0:13:54.080 --> 0:13:57.160 dare you? And I go back out, and she kicked 0:13:57.280 --> 0:14:00.480 the door so hard, and I go in the air 0:14:00.520 --> 0:14:02.080 and I sit on the bed and I just I 0:14:02.200 --> 0:14:05.800 just give like a real giant, gentle bear hug and 0:14:05.920 --> 0:14:09.320 she I've never done this to her, and she did 0:14:09.440 --> 0:14:14.640 not like it, and she started screaming, and I was like, 0:14:14.640 --> 0:14:16.400 all right, I'm letting you go. I'm letting you go. 0:14:16.559 --> 0:14:18.760 Don't open the door. Then she opened the door one 0:14:18.760 --> 0:14:20.720 more time and then I held her again and I 0:14:20.760 --> 0:14:23.080 took her back and then finally she got it and 0:14:23.160 --> 0:14:27.000 she was in there just going so mad at me, 0:14:27.080 --> 0:14:32.680 but she didn't come out. And then she started going, mommy, Mobby, 0:14:32.840 --> 0:14:36.240 she did this, and she they both had a huge tantrum. 0:14:36.720 --> 0:14:39.840 I guess last night last night when they were like 0:14:40.720 --> 0:14:42.800 they're both getting hungry at dinner time and I was 0:14:42.840 --> 0:14:45.160 picking Brenn up from a play to date and like 0:14:46.080 --> 0:14:49.040 they brand did a huge tantrum about a bunch of 0:14:49.080 --> 0:14:52.240 stuff and then and just like would not stop trying 0:14:52.240 --> 0:14:56.680 to be bad and Maven once he was like, would 0:14:56.680 --> 0:14:58.920 finally calm down. Mayven had just like picked up on 0:14:59.160 --> 0:15:01.160 all the energy of it, and she was like trying 0:15:01.200 --> 0:15:03.080 to be about Like she was like, it's my turn 0:15:03.200 --> 0:15:07.120 to be bad now. It was so sweet while this 0:15:07.200 --> 0:15:10.000 was happening, but like she that's the problem is, like 0:15:10.880 --> 0:15:13.280 we know the tricks at this point of like a 0:15:13.440 --> 0:15:16.160 three and a half year old, so she's kind of 0:15:16.160 --> 0:15:19.720 screwed and like she tantramed out in the kitchen for 0:15:19.760 --> 0:15:21.840 a minute, and then she just started crying and then 0:15:22.000 --> 0:15:26.440 needed to hug for me, like she like, because like 0:15:27.320 --> 0:15:30.600 we're just I'm just not, unfortunately for her, not as 0:15:30.640 --> 0:15:33.040 easily manipulated by a three and a half year old 0:15:33.080 --> 0:15:35.280 who can't get up on the counters by themselves, and 0:15:35.320 --> 0:15:41.840 I don't have to physically restrain her as well. The 0:15:41.880 --> 0:15:45.200 thing that I found always found hard with Brin that 0:15:45.600 --> 0:15:48.360 I'm like, oh, yeah, I've nailed this, is it the 0:15:48.560 --> 0:15:53.640 end of these real intense things. The key is to 0:15:54.320 --> 0:15:58.320 have avoid trying to do the hey do we feel better? Hey? 0:15:58.360 --> 0:16:01.600 You know what this and then give him a big 0:16:01.680 --> 0:16:04.360 hug and in the end you've rewarded them for that 0:16:04.400 --> 0:16:07.760 whole process. So I don't stay stern or anything. But 0:16:07.840 --> 0:16:09.440 when it was time, I just went in there and 0:16:09.440 --> 0:16:11.400 I go, do you want to stay in here till dinner? 0:16:11.480 --> 0:16:12.880 Or do you want to help me set the table? 0:16:14.120 --> 0:16:16.200 If you want to set the table, And then we 0:16:16.280 --> 0:16:19.520 just moved on. And now she's had no fun doing that, 0:16:19.600 --> 0:16:21.320 and she maybe won't do it next time, But I 0:16:21.360 --> 0:16:24.120 was gonna say, she is like really learning how to 0:16:24.160 --> 0:16:26.520 be really vindictive and mean and you know how we're 0:16:26.840 --> 0:16:29.720 talking last week about how they watched Charlie Brown and 0:16:29.720 --> 0:16:34.200 they started saying you blockhead and I'm going to pound you. Um. 0:16:34.760 --> 0:16:37.560 They've like tried to increase the threats, but they only 0:16:37.600 --> 0:16:40.200 know so many words. But this week I heard Maybn 0:16:41.440 --> 0:16:43.440 talking to brand and they are arguing back and forth 0:16:43.480 --> 0:16:46.920 and she goes, I'm going to kill you. Your friend 0:16:46.960 --> 0:16:53.040 said he was going to like, don't do that. We've 0:16:53.080 --> 0:16:57.240 gone there now, this is where they're at. They've reached killing. 0:16:57.320 --> 0:17:02.080 I'm going to kill you and Tricker treat smell my feet, 0:17:02.120 --> 0:17:04.439 give me something sweet to eat. If you don't, I 0:17:04.480 --> 0:17:08.480 don't care, I'll pulled out your underwear. And I immediately 0:17:08.640 --> 0:17:11.960 I'm like, pulling down underwear is not funny. And then 0:17:12.000 --> 0:17:14.000 I heard myself say that and I'm like, are you 0:17:14.080 --> 0:17:18.400 kidding me? Well, you're really becoming the PC police. Afterwards, 0:17:18.440 --> 0:17:21.040 I was like, who fucking care? Why did I say that? 0:17:22.440 --> 0:17:26.920 You know it pulled down some underwearwear and actually, actually don't, 0:17:27.040 --> 0:17:30.960 you'll get kicked out of school. But thing so, we 0:17:31.040 --> 0:17:32.920 hadn't a fight because I told him when I was little, 0:17:33.000 --> 0:17:37.080 it was give me something good to eat, and he goes, no, daddy, 0:17:37.200 --> 0:17:40.719 it's give me something sweet to eat. And I was like, 0:17:40.760 --> 0:17:45.120 do I get into it? And this has been our 0:17:45.200 --> 0:17:58.960 WEE can review as an attack and now it's time 0:17:59.040 --> 0:18:03.879 for you knows what he said, what he's saying. This 0:18:03.960 --> 0:18:06.120 is where we talked to our children. So last week 0:18:07.400 --> 0:18:09.359 on election day, Brinn and I were home alone and 0:18:09.480 --> 0:18:15.280 for the first time he endured me interviewing him. Um. 0:18:15.320 --> 0:18:18.520 So this is a conversation with Brinn. He is on 0:18:18.640 --> 0:18:21.879 his own microphone but constantly getting up and moving all 0:18:21.920 --> 0:18:24.280 the furniture and running out of the room. So I 0:18:24.320 --> 0:18:28.040 apologize for the less than pristine recording quality. Did you 0:18:28.240 --> 0:18:31.720 edit it down at all? No, d you wanna listen 0:18:31.760 --> 0:18:41.600 to it? It's great. Here's a chat bridge. Oh yeah, 0:18:41.880 --> 0:18:43.399 can you tell sit in that chair and tell me 0:18:43.440 --> 0:18:53.400 about it? No, Hi, Daddy, Hi Brinnie like to do today? Um? 0:18:53.440 --> 0:18:54.879 I want to hear that joke you just told me 0:18:54.880 --> 0:18:56.680 because I didn't hear it very well from the kitchen. 0:18:56.680 --> 0:19:00.280 Can you tell it again? I forgot something about ants 0:19:00.280 --> 0:19:05.640 and uncles. Do you want to eat dinosaurs? Um? Are 0:19:05.680 --> 0:19:09.760 you serving dinosaurs? I try some dinosaur if you have Okay, 0:19:10.080 --> 0:19:14.760 well I'm coming up one dinosaur coming right up. Okay, 0:19:14.840 --> 0:19:20.040 make sure you're crashed into everything while you're doing. Okay, now, 0:19:20.080 --> 0:19:21.680 before I eat this, sit down in the chair and 0:19:22.359 --> 0:19:27.080 tell me how you've prepared this torontosaurus rex. I'm good. 0:19:27.560 --> 0:19:31.840 How did you make it happens? Well, you're really crashing 0:19:31.840 --> 0:19:35.080 into a lot of stuff. Oh you turned into a 0:19:35.200 --> 0:19:38.800 t rex. A I thought I was supposed to eat 0:19:38.800 --> 0:19:43.200 the t rex. Not the t rex eat me. I 0:19:43.400 --> 0:19:46.720 know which everyone I sat up to you, I do 0:19:46.840 --> 0:19:52.000 that dinosaur. Oh wow, well, don't serve me anyven more 0:19:52.240 --> 0:19:54.639 more dinosaurs. We'll talk into the microphone and tell me. 0:19:56.600 --> 0:20:02.680 Chicken coming up. One live chicken coming up, and that's 0:20:02.720 --> 0:20:09.240 the live chicken. Stop picking me, chicken, stop picking me. Oh, 0:20:09.280 --> 0:20:13.680 I hate this restaurant. I'm getting attacked by everything. How 0:20:13.800 --> 0:20:17.600 about soup? Oh sure, I'll have some soup. I assume 0:20:17.680 --> 0:20:23.679 that it's normal slop. You're gonna serve me slop. That 0:20:23.720 --> 0:20:27.640 was a big left turn from soup. I mean, linquistically. 0:20:28.320 --> 0:20:34.640 You just poured slop all over me. I'm covered in slop. 0:20:35.600 --> 0:20:37.840 I would like to complain to Oh, you just slipped 0:20:37.840 --> 0:20:42.840 on the carpet. Serves you well for attacking me. All right, 0:20:42.880 --> 0:20:44.760 get back on the mic, because I have a question 0:20:44.800 --> 0:20:49.199 for you. Friend. Okay, today's election day? Did you know 0:20:50.240 --> 0:20:52.920 can you explain to people what election day is? They're 0:20:52.920 --> 0:20:55.679 going to be the mayor. I'm voting for you. I'm 0:20:55.720 --> 0:21:01.160 going to be the mayor. Did you vote for me today? No? Yeah? Yeah, 0:21:01.280 --> 0:21:03.959 I really did vote? So what is voting like? How 0:21:04.000 --> 0:21:09.919 does voting work? How did you do it? I just voted? Oh? 0:21:09.960 --> 0:21:14.960 Where did you go to vote? I do not know. Oh? 0:21:15.200 --> 0:21:18.639 How did you when you got there? How did you vote? 0:21:19.640 --> 0:21:22.960 I just vote it. Did you write it on a 0:21:23.000 --> 0:21:25.080 piece of paper or did you say it to somebody? 0:21:25.200 --> 0:21:29.080 How did you vote? I just did it? Oh? Did 0:21:29.160 --> 0:21:35.040 you say I vote for daddy? Yes? I did. Did 0:21:35.040 --> 0:21:42.440 they say who's your daddy? I don't know. I just 0:21:42.560 --> 0:21:47.760 told them that your name? Okay, that's good. Peter, So 0:21:47.840 --> 0:21:50.560 you said I'm voting for Peter, my daddy for mayor. 0:21:50.640 --> 0:21:54.639 Do you think I'm gonna win? Brit yep? Do you 0:21:54.680 --> 0:22:00.320 think I will get the most votes? Um? Of course? 0:22:00.800 --> 0:22:03.000 Of course? Who else is going to vote for me? 0:22:03.080 --> 0:22:14.760 Do you think talking to the mic? Um? Sam raised? Okay, actually, mommy, yeah, okay, 0:22:14.800 --> 0:22:18.480 that's four votes, Naven, it's five votes, even though two 0:22:18.480 --> 0:22:22.680 of you are too young to vote. But yeah, me, 0:22:24.160 --> 0:22:26.280 that was already counting you. Okay, great, that's five votes. 0:22:26.320 --> 0:22:29.240 Do you think no one else in the town is 0:22:29.280 --> 0:22:32.240 going to get more than five votes? Yep, more than 0:22:32.320 --> 0:22:36.080 five vote. No one will get more than five votes 0:22:37.560 --> 0:22:42.639 one vote except you. Everyone will get one vote. Everyone 0:22:42.800 --> 0:22:44.800 in the town's gonna get one vote, and I will 0:22:44.800 --> 0:22:48.200 get five votes. Yep, So you'll be the mayor. Wow, 0:22:48.280 --> 0:22:55.000 this is quite do um, Brian. If I'm the mayor, 0:22:55.520 --> 0:22:58.560 how do you think our lives will change? It will 0:22:58.600 --> 0:23:04.000 be different after no one to be the mayor? Oh so, 0:23:04.160 --> 0:23:06.639 no one's How does that work? Somebody has to be there. 0:23:07.160 --> 0:23:13.760 It's because everyone has one vote, because everyone ties, no 0:23:13.840 --> 0:23:18.359 one's winds. Yeah, well you think maybe if everyone ties, 0:23:18.400 --> 0:23:24.800 then everyone becomes the mayor. Everyone does and you do. Actually, 0:23:24.960 --> 0:23:28.080 you've come to my microphone. If I was the mayor, Brandon, 0:23:28.920 --> 0:23:31.520 what do you think would be different? How would our 0:23:31.560 --> 0:23:38.520 lives change? I don't know. Do you think I would 0:23:38.520 --> 0:23:42.000 have to go to them to work at at a 0:23:42.119 --> 0:23:46.560 city hall? Just work and do the story for his book? 0:23:47.400 --> 0:23:50.359 That dog? No one's going to be the mayor. They 0:23:50.440 --> 0:23:52.520 all got a tie, so I should keep my job 0:23:52.520 --> 0:23:56.959 as a story pirate. Do you know what my job is? 0:23:58.960 --> 0:24:02.760 What do you know? If somebody were to ask you, Britan, 0:24:02.880 --> 0:24:07.360 what does your daddy do for work? What would he saying? 0:24:07.680 --> 0:24:11.840 I don't know. I don't know the answer of that question. 0:24:12.280 --> 0:24:15.080 Not at all at all. You know some things that 0:24:15.160 --> 0:24:17.520