Speaker 1: Cape, living foul what she ain't been eating right, And
Speaker 1: the doctor told her that, well.
Speaker 2: At least I know, because ignorance is bliss. And now
Speaker 2: that I know, I might still choose to be ignorant
Speaker 2: to some of them shits you see.
Speaker 3: Dead ass, dead ass. Bro.
Speaker 2: Hey, I'm Kadeen and I'm Devoued and we're the Ellis's.
Speaker 3: You may know us from posting funny videos.
Speaker 2: With our voys and reading each other publicly as a
Speaker 2: form of therapy.
Speaker 3: Wait, I'll make you need therapy most days. Wow.
Speaker 2: Oh and one more important thing to mention, we're married.
Speaker 3: Yes, sir, we are.
Speaker 1: We created this podcast to open dialogue about some of
Speaker 1: li's most taboo topics.
Speaker 2: Things most folks don't want to talk about.
Speaker 1: Through the lens of a millennial married couple. Dead ass
Speaker 1: is a term that we say every day. So when
Speaker 1: we say dead ass, we're actually saying facts one hundred,
Speaker 1: the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.
Speaker 1: We about to take philosof to our whole new level.
Speaker 2: Dead ass starts right now.
Speaker 1: I'm going to We're going to get into why this
Speaker 1: story is important. But it's about how you were raised, yes,
Speaker 1: and how your mom who is a devout Seven day Adventists.
Speaker 2: Well well, well, well, well she was raised.
Speaker 3: She practices, she practiced occasionally.
Speaker 2: And was raised as an Adventist.
Speaker 3: Yes, so you're saying your mom's a heathen. She's a heathen.
Speaker 2: That's not what I said, but I want you to
Speaker 2: give it the right context of why it makes sense
Speaker 2: for now. Yes, she was raised back home in Jamaica
Speaker 2: in church every day seven Day Aventists.
Speaker 3: And Seven Day Adventists.
Speaker 4: They don't eat pork, they don't eat shrimp, crustacean crustaceans.
Speaker 3: They don't eat lobster.
Speaker 1: They don't need none of that because it's considered unclean, unclean,
Speaker 1: unclean food. Right, yes, right, So we was at your parents' house.
Speaker 1: This was about oldest Chiros and seven, so this was
Speaker 1: about six years ago. We're at the house because we
Speaker 1: dropped Kiro off there when k still going back to
Speaker 1: go to the gym and stuff like that. And when
Speaker 1: we get back, your father has made dinner. So then
Speaker 1: we walk in the door and your mom's like when
Speaker 1: your finally made steak on the grill, and he made
Speaker 1: steak and this and this and that, so we getting
Speaker 1: ready to eat this steak, right, and your mother was
Speaker 1: ranting and raving about how good the steak was, right,
Speaker 1: how tender it was, favor it was nice, and it
Speaker 1: is the marky.
Speaker 2: Which is a lot, because yeah, there's a lot, because
Speaker 2: my father doesn't like they always debate about who cooks better.
Speaker 2: It's like an unsaid the unspoken, like, you know, my
Speaker 2: father will be like, you know, your mom make curry
Speaker 2: chicken different than me, you know, make it a vincy
Speaker 2: style your mother made. I'm like that, Let her have
Speaker 2: the curry chicken. They make a really good curry chicken.
Speaker 2: But it's like a silent debate that goes on about
Speaker 2: the cooking styles in the house. I eat all the
Speaker 2: shit though, whatever for now.
Speaker 1: But was rinting and raving about this steak, and your
Speaker 1: father was sitting over there smirking. You had a little smirk,
Speaker 1: and the here come Tristan and Sakari and Kay.
Speaker 3: They sit down and.
Speaker 1: Eat, and I see them over there giggling and laughing,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, what's so funny?
Speaker 3: Were they giggling? Are laughing? Go ahead, Kay, tell her
Speaker 3: why he was giving giggling laughing.
Speaker 2: So the reason why we started laughing, much to my
Speaker 2: poor mother's detriment is that my father was like, and
Speaker 2: we can see because we know my mother never cooks
Speaker 2: pork in the house. She doesn't eat it. She's not
Speaker 2: an advocate for it. So she's like, I'm not cooking
Speaker 2: it in my house. My father, on the other hand,
Speaker 2: was also raised adventist, but it says that he's a
Speaker 2: bad ventist because he will eat pork. You'll eat any
Speaker 2: part of the pig. So my father had made pork
Speaker 2: chops that day. It wasn't steak, it was pork chop.
Speaker 2: So unbeknownst to my mom, she smashed that pork chop
Speaker 2: yo bingle liick and good. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: She ate the pork chop yo.
Speaker 3: It was her plate was clean clean.
Speaker 2: Wow. At that point, my father like, the damage was done, right,
Speaker 2: she already ate the pork chop, so it's not even
Speaker 2: like she was about to eat it. And my dad
Speaker 2: was like, oh, let her eat it, like you know,
Speaker 2: she had eaten it because nobody was around when she
Speaker 2: had dinner. And my father was so tickled by the
Speaker 2: fact that she did it because there's this been there's
Speaker 2: been this like long standing pressure that my father has
Speaker 2: put on her every time she's in front of shrimp
Speaker 2: crab lofster. He'll make a joke at dinner like Sharon,
Speaker 2: you want some or I'm going to order the pork
Speaker 2: chop you want, and she'd be like, eat that.
Speaker 3: I don't eat that.
Speaker 2: So the fact that she ate it and she enjoyed
Speaker 2: it thoroughly, my father was like that was the highlight
Speaker 2: of the decade for him.
Speaker 1: But it's but it's also too because your mom will
Speaker 1: look at us eat pork and and we'll.
Speaker 3: Be like, it tastes good.
Speaker 2: And I'm not a huge pork eater myself, just like
Speaker 2: because I just never really got into it. I eat bacon,
Speaker 2: but I'm not a huge like pork eater, but yeah,
Speaker 2: I partake you. If my father makes a pork chop
Speaker 2: and it's good, I'm gonna eat it.
Speaker 1: Kadeen will put bacon. Kadeen, we went to a vegan restaurant.
Speaker 1: She had a vegan burger. Well it wasn't a vegan restaurant,
Speaker 1: but they have vegan options vegan burger, yeah, and told
Speaker 1: him to put bacon on it.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I think it was like a like a black
Speaker 2: bean burger that I got.
Speaker 1: Here's a crazy part when she said it, they were like,
Speaker 1: oh yes, and I'm like, wait a minute. Y'all have
Speaker 1: people that put bacon on vegan burgers, and they were like.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's it's a thing.
Speaker 2: It's a thing to eat their own.
Speaker 3: Wow.
Speaker 2: So when we finally like let my mom know, like,
Speaker 2: since you just ate a pork chop, she turned white,
Speaker 2: turned white, turned white, She turned white. And then my
Speaker 2: dad like doubled down by laughing. And if you know
Speaker 2: my dad, you know he's a man of very little words.
Speaker 2: He don't say much. He barely laughs.
Speaker 3: His shoulders was going, but.
Speaker 2: Was in heaven that day because he felt like, Wow,
Speaker 2: I finally got her to eat the pork but not
Speaker 2: really because I didn't coerce her into eating and she
Speaker 2: but the biggest flex for him was that she enjoyed it.
Speaker 2: So he was like, I can make you more if
Speaker 2: you want something tomorrow night. So mad, she was so mad.
Speaker 2: I think she went to her room and like didn't
Speaker 2: come out for the rest of the night because she
Speaker 2: probably felt like, oh my god, like I've just been
Speaker 2: a stronghold in this my entire life and I actually
Speaker 2: ate a pork chop.
Speaker 3: That's when the beef grew like it was.
Speaker 1: It was no puny, but there was already beef between
Speaker 1: them before that, but now that beef was huge.
Speaker 2: My aunt and my aunt too when she came up
Speaker 2: from Jamaica. My mom was working at Burger King, that
Speaker 2: was her first job when she came here at like eighteen,
Speaker 2: and my aunt went to Burger King one day and
Speaker 2: ordered a belt again another adventist, you know, daughter, and
Speaker 2: she ordered a BLT burger thinking it stood the beast
Speaker 2: of for burger, lettuce and tomatoes. She didn't know BLT
Speaker 2: meant bacon, lettuce and tomato. They just coming up from Jamaica.
Speaker 2: I don't know anybody.
Speaker 3: There was no burger on it.
Speaker 2: Probably was no BLT. No, it was a burger with bacon,
Speaker 2: let us tomato on it. So it was almost like
Speaker 2: ordering a whopper right with bacon on it. So they
Speaker 2: called it the belt whopper or whatever at that time.
Speaker 2: And she ate that burger down and my mom was
Speaker 2: just like, what did you order? And she said the
Speaker 2: belt burger, the burger let us and tomato. It was nice,
Speaker 2: it had done. My mom was like, that had bacon
Speaker 2: on it, and it was like a big thing, like,
Speaker 2: oh my god, you ate bacon so she had to
Speaker 2: go on like a cleanse or something after that.
Speaker 3: Bacon is good.
Speaker 2: Bacon is good, y'all. You could throw away the rest
Speaker 2: of the pages. Give me a bacon, bacon, and I'm
Speaker 2: gonna tell you why bacon is my friend now or
Speaker 2: should be my friend. As we unpack some news that
Speaker 2: I got recently after going to a holistic doctor. All right,
Speaker 2: karaoke time, I'm trying to think of songs that I
Speaker 2: had to do with food and whatnot, and as I
Speaker 2: approach this lifestyle change that I'm going to have to
Speaker 2: make according to what I found out via blood work,
Speaker 2: I'm really really dreading the approach of the holiday seasons
Speaker 2: because typically I'd want the greens, beans, potatoes, tomatoes, made.
Speaker 3: You name it.
Speaker 2: You can't eat it and I can't eat it. There's
Speaker 2: so many things, y'all that I'm going to have to
Speaker 2: remove from my diet because it does not agree with
Speaker 2: my system.
Speaker 3: Come out.
Speaker 1: You just talked through all of karaoke. The karaoke was
Speaker 1: two seconds. We need you to go back and do
Speaker 1: the karaoke.
Speaker 3: One more time.
Speaker 2: I don't know the rest of the song.
Speaker 3: Though, No, you need to sing that part now.
Speaker 2: I got greens, beans, potatoes, tomatoes, something sam oh is it?
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 2: I don't know, but I'm thinking about all the things, oxtail,
Speaker 2: you name it.
Speaker 3: She can't eat none of that, yoall, she can't eat
Speaker 3: none of that.
Speaker 2: I came home mildly depressed yesterday, and I'm gonna tell
Speaker 2: y'all why stay tuned. So shout out to Josh for
Speaker 2: looking up the actual lyrics of the song. I got
Speaker 2: greens means I got beans, greens, potatoes, tomatoes, lamb ram holls, dogs,
Speaker 2: yo potatoes, tomatoes, turkey, chicken, rabbits, you.
Speaker 3: Name it was missing earlier. You just got it.
Speaker 2: I just double back and got y'all the actual lyrics
Speaker 2: because I know, I sure Azelle did not remember everything
Speaker 2: on there and half the ship she listed. Your girl
Speaker 2: can't have no more. So here's how we got here, y'all.
Speaker 2: Let me break it down to you real quick after
Speaker 2: story time. First of all, with storytime hilarious, because there's
Speaker 2: been moments here now that Mimi's been living with us,
Speaker 2: even here in Georgia, where we've ordered something like it
Speaker 2: might be a pizza or something we had recently that
Speaker 2: might have had bacon in it, and she doesn't even
Speaker 2: realize it eat it, you know, because when we're in
Speaker 2: the house, like if something's there, anybody has access to it,
Speaker 2: they can eat it. And sometimes she doesn't ask and
Speaker 2: she doesn't know that there might have been bacon in it,
Speaker 2: or like chili I made one time and had bacon
Speaker 2: and it had bacon and sausage in it. And she
Speaker 2: just went to town and crushed the bowl of chili.
Speaker 2: And I was like, I didn't even know you eat chili.
Speaker 2: You should have told me, because now we know there's
Speaker 2: bacon in it. Right, So to honor her and the
Speaker 2: way she feels about it, I'll make her own little
Speaker 2: small pot of chili moving forward that does not have
Speaker 2: the sausage in the bacon, and.
Speaker 3: It don't taste is good. It's still good, but sauce
Speaker 3: in that bacon.
Speaker 2: It just made me think I might not be able
Speaker 2: to eat chili anymore. Why not because of what I'm
Speaker 2: supposed to put in the chili ingredients. It's a couple
Speaker 2: of things that I can't have.
Speaker 1: Listen, everything is in moderation, all right. We just learned
Speaker 1: recently that if you drink too much water too fast,
Speaker 1: you can get water intoxication, and you can die doing
Speaker 1: too much of anything or too little of anything is
Speaker 1: not good for your body. So you don't have to
Speaker 1: completely cut it out. You can eat it in moderation.
Speaker 2: Okay, I understand, I understand, but it was just a
Speaker 2: shock to me. It was a shock to me, so
Speaker 2: I went to a holistic doctor. Okay, I'll take you
Speaker 2: back a little bit. My mom was experiencing some kind
Speaker 2: of discoloration. Oh sorry, just hit the mic.
Speaker 3: Y'all know, I'm not gonna let that slip. Baby. I
Speaker 3: love when you hit the mic.
Speaker 1: Okay, you're so ag.
Speaker 2: But no, my mom had discolouration that appeared on her skin,
Speaker 2: kind of from her collarbone up, and she got tested
Speaker 2: for all these autoimmune diseases. Nothing came up in her
Speaker 2: blood work with her regular primary doctor. She had gone
Speaker 2: to a dermatologist. Dermatologist at this point is thinking all
Speaker 2: of these topical things may potentially work, but no one
Speaker 2: really had an actual diagnosis or a plan for how
Speaker 2: to treat said issue. Right. So in talking to our
Speaker 2: manager Donorra one day, and this is stuff that I
Speaker 2: had told her prior to but you know, sometimes you
Speaker 2: got to hear from somebody else for it to make sense,
Speaker 2: I said to her mom, like, I think that the
Speaker 2: dermatologist route is like a band aid situation. You're treating
Speaker 2: something topically where they may be going on something internally
Speaker 2: that you don't see. So she decided to go and
Speaker 2: see a holistic doctor who did a separate, more evasive,
Speaker 2: extensive panel of blood sample work where she was able
Speaker 2: to tell her things that she was allergic to, that
Speaker 2: she may have been consuming and that was causing inflammation,
Speaker 2: which in turn causes toxins to build up in the body,
Speaker 2: mucus and things like that.
Speaker 3: And it's called natural pathic, right, natural pathic medicine.
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, So this is pretty much ways of treating
Speaker 2: the body using herbs, things that are anything but medicine,
Speaker 2: actual medicine. So the person that she's seeing now will
Speaker 2: never prescribe her a pill or a drug or a cream.
Speaker 2: It's all going to be healing the body from the
Speaker 2: inside out. So in doing this blood work panel, my
Speaker 2: mom was like astonished to see that majority of the
Speaker 2: things that she was eating, that she enjoyed, that she
Speaker 2: grew up eating, or things that she was highly allergic to,
Speaker 2: and in turn it caused a buildup of candida, which
Speaker 2: is yeast in her blood, in her gut and pretty
Speaker 2: much her body was consumed by this. So she had
Speaker 2: to go through a fourteen week detoxification program where she
Speaker 2: was put on a very strict diet of things that
Speaker 2: she was only able to consume because it would aid
Speaker 2: in the detoxification the detoxification process as well as give
Speaker 2: her the nutrients that she needed, but it would also
Speaker 2: to just help her to rid her body of anything
Speaker 2: that was toxic and it was able to tell her.
Speaker 2: The tests that she ran was also able to tell
Speaker 2: her that the yeast in her body had been there
Speaker 2: for years, for years. So back home in Jamaica, my
Speaker 2: mom used to always get what we call a wash
Speaker 2: out or a laxative or a detox from my grandmother
Speaker 2: at the top of the school year to prepare to
Speaker 2: go back to school. That was their thing, and back
Speaker 2: home in Jamaica, Grandma didn't have like your pill or
Speaker 2: something to do that. She would go and pick fresh
Speaker 2: herbs from the garden, dry them or the bush as
Speaker 2: we would call it, and then blend it, not blend it,
Speaker 2: boil it, let it seep and then you would have
Speaker 2: to drink this. So we did this as a child too.
Speaker 2: My grandmother used to be to go to her for
Speaker 2: a weekend before school started, usually like that weekend before
Speaker 2: Labor Day. We go to Grandma on a Friday. She
Speaker 2: would draw the tea and then we would drink it
Speaker 2: Friday night and then we'd literally be using the bathroom
Speaker 2: Saturday Sun. They go back home and prepare to go
Speaker 2: home that Monday. So this was just the way of
Speaker 2: cleaning the body out at least once a year. So
Speaker 2: when my mom was thinking about isn't.
Speaker 1: It yeah, he just gave y'all laxatives, but natural laxatives.
Speaker 1: So shit, y'all asses down.
Speaker 4: For pretty much pretty much go back to school, light
Speaker 4: lights ready.
Speaker 2: Light brain function, everything on high like all that. So
Speaker 2: my mom hated the taste of these because they don't
Speaker 2: taste well, they're bitter. You know, they don't taste good.
Speaker 2: Think about a kid you're having to drink this cup
Speaker 2: of the solution that tastes awful. So from that point on,
Speaker 2: my mom was pretty much scarred from laxatives. So when
Speaker 2: I spoke to her after her appointment, you know she's
Speaker 2: awaiting the blood work. I was like, Mom, when's the
Speaker 2: last time you had like a really good life detox
Speaker 2: wash out laxative like, and she said that she hadn't
Speaker 2: had one since the last one her mom gave her
Speaker 2: back home in Jamaica when she was a kid.
Speaker 3: That's pretty crazy. She never took a laxative here in
Speaker 3: the States.
Speaker 2: No, she never did, and not for lack of effort,
Speaker 2: because she had actually tried to take one that we
Speaker 2: had gotten from like a health food store, a Caribbean
Speaker 2: health food store out here, and when she went to
Speaker 2: the counter and asked for one, all of the workers
Speaker 2: were like, oh my god, if you take this, like,
Speaker 2: be prepared to not leave your house for days, because
Speaker 2: this is going to clear everything out, like it's gonna
Speaker 2: scrape you from the bones type of thing. My mother
Speaker 2: took that and it did nothing for her. Dang nothing
Speaker 2: for her. So I was like, Sis, you must be.
Speaker 1: Ultra stomach, ultra backtar like a cast iron skillet.
Speaker 2: You must be ultra backed up. If this was supposed
Speaker 2: to be the most potent laxative that they had, and
Speaker 2: it didn't do anything, And she had tried a couple
Speaker 2: other pills here and there that did not work.
Speaker 1: But you know why wash outs are important too. When
Speaker 1: you get a build up in your stomach. You're digestive
Speaker 1: track all the nutrients that come in that you eat.
Speaker 1: It's hard for your body to get the nutrients because
Speaker 1: you have like this tar build up in your DIGESTI
Speaker 1: I remember when I was playing football and a couple
Speaker 1: of the guys used to go to get colonics before
Speaker 1: the season. Number One, if you're trying to make weight,
Speaker 1: it's an easy way to lose a smooth five pounds
Speaker 1: before you go, because it helps you lose weight. But
Speaker 1: also when you're taking supplements and you want to get
Speaker 1: all the nutrients in your body, taking a kalonic beforehand
Speaker 1: allows you to prepare so your body can heal faster, which,
Speaker 1: if you think about it, is people get klonics for
Speaker 1: a healing property. To be a professional athlete, Cleaning your
Speaker 1: systems to be something that we do, just as people
Speaker 1: like you shouldn't have to be a professional athlete to
Speaker 1: go clean out your inside.
Speaker 3: So it's kind of crazy to hear that.
Speaker 1: You know, we as people, when we're not thinking about performing,
Speaker 1: don't think about our bodies as machines.
Speaker 3: We typically just treat our body like crap.
Speaker 1: We don't sleep, we don't eat right, and we don't
Speaker 1: give ourselves the right wash outs to clear our body, but.
Speaker 3: We do it to our cars.
Speaker 1: We get oil changes, and even in the oil change,
Speaker 1: when release the oil, all the sludge that comes out
Speaker 1: is the same thing in your stomach.
Speaker 2: Yeah, or think about the drain right every time? I again,
Speaker 2: you need some drain or to get rid of the
Speaker 2: build up in that. If we're doing these two things
Speaker 2: that are just non human, why not do it to ourselves,
Speaker 2: you know. So, prior to her actually having the appointment
Speaker 2: with the doctor, a good friend of mine, her name
Speaker 2: is Shinikwa Samuels. She has a page on Instagram called
Speaker 2: high Frequency and she does a lot of all natural
Speaker 2: holistic methods as well ways and she's very knowledgeable on
Speaker 2: the body, the organs, the cells, what's needed to live
Speaker 2: your best life and your most healthy life. So she
Speaker 2: sent me a wash out that I actually took. Prior
Speaker 2: to having CODA, we had just moved to Georgia. I'm like,
Speaker 2: I feel like my body needed a reset. I had
Speaker 2: a miscarriage a couple months before that. So she said, sister,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna send you this wash out. Take the wash out.
Speaker 2: You have to eat a raw diet for about seven
Speaker 2: to ten days and it should get rid of the
Speaker 2: mucus and ToxS and build up in your body. So,
Speaker 2: because my mom had was trying other things in the
Speaker 2: past and she was unsuccessful, I asked Janika to send
Speaker 2: me the bit The bit test is called the bitus
Speaker 2: d and Mom actually used it. Now, this tastes awful,
Speaker 2: so the fact that my mom tried to use it,
Speaker 2: it was a big feat for her. So I was like, Mom,
Speaker 2: just drink it down, take a piece of lemon or
Speaker 2: orange after, and just try to take the taste away.
Speaker 2: So that actually got my mom's body moving a little bit.
Speaker 2: So I'm like, Okay, So Sannikoa has something that definitely works.
Speaker 2: Because if it's breaking down the sludge in Mom's belly,
Speaker 2: then I know that this was going to be something
Speaker 2: that was successful. But also kind of prepping her for
Speaker 2: this appointment she had with the holistic doctor.
Speaker 1: You went to this lady, and y'all talked about my bowels.
Speaker 1: Now we're on the podcast you talk about your mom bows.
Speaker 1: We started with talk about you not eating right? Why
Speaker 1: haven't we gotten to you not eating right?
Speaker 2: I'm giving them the preface of how I got to.
Speaker 3: Ben forty five minutes. Shut up, it's been forty five minutes.
Speaker 2: Shut up. I'm getting to this one.
Speaker 3: It's been forty five minutes. Okay, we know your mom
Speaker 3: was stopped up. We get it. We want to know
Speaker 3: what you ain't eating no more, and that's who we
Speaker 3: want to know. Guys, don't you'll want to hear that.
Speaker 3: What is Kadeen not eating?
Speaker 2: Now? Do just to make fun of me? Little does
Speaker 2: he know that he has appointment on Friday at ten
Speaker 2: am to get the same blood work done to see
Speaker 2: what's been fucking his stomach up to sun.
Speaker 3: Really, I'm not scared.
Speaker 2: I am getting to the point of all. I have
Speaker 2: to let them know how we arrived here at this.
Speaker 2: So with mom's situation being the way it was and
Speaker 2: her now going to this doctor, she was on a
Speaker 2: fourteen week detox program. She's lost over twenty pounds and
Speaker 2: the discoloration on her face is starting to lighten. Now
Speaker 2: through the process. She'd be like, hey, do you see
Speaker 2: any difference? Somebody skined you se any difference? Because of
Speaker 2: course it's something she was self conscious about, right, and
Speaker 2: being with someone every day sometimes you don't see the
Speaker 2: progress as much as someone who may not have seen
Speaker 2: her for that fourteen week period, but the doctor took
Speaker 2: a photo of her before, so the first day she
Speaker 2: started the detox versus the last day, and there was
Speaker 2: a significant difference in the lightning of her face. So
Speaker 2: she's continuing the program. And it just made me think
Speaker 2: about all of these diseases that run in the family,
Speaker 2: like your diabetes, your high blood pressure, your high cholesterol,
Speaker 2: like so many things that run in my family. Heart
Speaker 2: disease runs rampant. And I also remember getting the book
Speaker 2: Eating Right for Your Blood Type and trying to think, like, man,
Speaker 2: if my mom and I have the same blood type,
Speaker 2: we both have the sickle cell trait, maybe some of
Speaker 2: the things that she shouldn't be eating I shouldn't be eating.
Speaker 2: And as I'm approaching or I'm calling it the road
Speaker 2: to forty, I really am being more deliberate about being
Speaker 2: my best self and my most natural, wholesome self. So
Speaker 2: I've removed the IUD from my body, so I'm no
Speaker 2: longer on any kind of birth control. Thank you to
Speaker 2: my husband over here for getting a sectomy so now
Speaker 2: we can safely and I still.
Speaker 3: Haven't got a vaseectam party yet.
Speaker 2: Guys, that was the Beyonce show.
Speaker 1: I should still have not gotten a sect me gone to.
Speaker 1: I haven't got a vasecta me cake yet.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I have all the.
Speaker 1: Things that I'm supposed to get I haven't gotten. She'd
Speaker 1: been to see Beyonce three times. Guys, you want to
Speaker 1: go and fifth time.
Speaker 2: I'm a plan of a sectomy party because it means
Speaker 2: that much he told me for me party. I guess
Speaker 2: you have to have.
Speaker 1: It for you. You mean you guess you have to
Speaker 1: have it. Didn't you have a push present?
Speaker 3: H yes? Didn't you have a baby shower?
Speaker 2: Huh?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 2: How you asked some the questions to answer them yourself.
Speaker 1: Because there's questions we want to know, like what you
Speaker 1: can't eat and you not get into it.
Speaker 2: So now that Deval has done that and I'm off
Speaker 2: of the hormones, right, that was one adjustment that I
Speaker 2: had to make. And I've seen a significant improvement in
Speaker 2: my skin already from and my skin and my energy
Speaker 2: and my mood from not being on birth control right,
Speaker 2: and also my sex drive is back up. But I'm like,
Speaker 2: what more can I do to ensure that? Moving forward
Speaker 2: into my forties and beyond and trying to live my
Speaker 2: best life and my healthiest life for my children so
Speaker 2: that they don't have to take care of me when
Speaker 2: I'm in my eighties and my nineties. What can I do?
Speaker 2: So I decided to see the doctor that my mom's
Speaker 2: saw and get an extensive blood work panel done for
Speaker 2: myself to check hormones, check allergies, and check all of
Speaker 2: the things that I should be looking into. And baby,
Speaker 2: let me tell you I got my results back. Can
Speaker 2: you pas me this folder right here?
Speaker 3: Baby?
Speaker 2: Please the moment you've been waiting for.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she want to ask me to do stuff. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I see, she want to ask me to do stuff.
Speaker 1: Let me help you, all right, give me the folder.
Speaker 1: Let me see if it's fuller.
Speaker 3: I don't see. No plans for no psychtomy party.
Speaker 2: Shut up.
Speaker 3: So I want to be celebrated, Okay.
Speaker 2: I got you. Don't worry about that. I got you.
Speaker 2: Since it means that much to you, I got you.
Speaker 2: So yes, I have a more extensive panel. It does.
Speaker 2: It means a whole lot to me. I love you
Speaker 2: for it.
Speaker 3: I almost have my offsecting me a year ago October, so.
Speaker 2: We can celebrate the anniversary of this year. We can
Speaker 2: celebrate the anniversary of it. So that being said, I
Speaker 2: got my blood work back and I was astounded, astonished
Speaker 2: for so many adjectives when I got the results back.
Speaker 2: So she pretty much gives you a bar graph and
Speaker 2: it's labeled with different foods. You have dairy, you have eggs,
Speaker 2: meat and poultry, vegetables, herbs and spices, grains, nuts and seeds,
Speaker 2: legoons what lego beans is the general term for it.
Speaker 3: Legoon like legoons. I never even knew that.
Speaker 1: I'm about what are my lagoon options when I go
Speaker 1: to a restaurant?
Speaker 3: What are my lagoon options?
Speaker 2: What's how we went to this French restaurant and Devour
Speaker 2: was ordering dessert and the option on there was for
Speaker 2: a fruit plate and Develops like, I'll have the fruit platee.
Speaker 2: And they were like, excuse me.
Speaker 3: Your trip well, you laughing too loud over there? You
Speaker 3: laughing too loud though it was in French.
Speaker 2: Excuse me? He thought the ship was in French. Is
Speaker 2: there a fruit plate? They were like, you mean the
Speaker 2: fruit plate, sir, And he was like, hey, that he's there,
Speaker 2: fruit platae. So now you can run around saying lagoons
Speaker 2: culture to talk about beans, greens, potatoes, tomatoes, you name
Speaker 2: it their lagoons. Okay, then you have fish crustaceans, and
Speaker 2: it's like a story that we've had for years that
Speaker 2: we have to share. So whenever we go out now
Speaker 2: and there is a fruit plate on the menu, I'm like,
Speaker 2: you can't order the fruit plaatee.
Speaker 3: Make sure you have a fruit plat at my second as.
Speaker 2: Sure as hell will. I have several enligus too, Yes,
Speaker 2: fish crustaceans and molluks, and there's fruit and then miscellaneous,
Speaker 2: and then there's a candida, which is a yeas screening.
Speaker 2: So I'm going to tell you everything that I can't
Speaker 2: eat that I'm highly alertic to that I have been
Speaker 2: consuming like a mug all my life. Top of the
Speaker 2: list dairy cheddar cheese, cow's milk. Way, I need to
Speaker 2: be dairy free. According to my blood work, I should
Speaker 2: not be ingesting any sort of dairy, so, you know,
Speaker 2: milks and stuff like that, which is kind of okay
Speaker 2: because I don't drink milk really, and if I do
Speaker 2: drink milk, I drink CASHW milk, which I actually enjoy.
Speaker 2: So I drink that because I enjoy it, but I
Speaker 2: do every now and again get a little two percent
Speaker 2: cow's milk organic to dip my chocolate chip cookie in.
Speaker 2: And then my heart broke even more when I found
Speaker 2: out I am allergic to chocolate. The cocoa bean on
Speaker 2: the scale on that list, okay, it goes like a
Speaker 2: green to a red. I am literally in the red
Speaker 2: for chocolate, y'all. When I take my edible at night
Speaker 2: and I want a little snack, the first thing I
Speaker 2: reach for is chocolate.
Speaker 1: Always to be chocolate all in the bag. It's I
Speaker 1: wake up in the morning, It's just chocolate in the bed.
Speaker 1: I'm like, yo, this is terrible.
Speaker 2: CoDeeN alertic to cocoa bean.
Speaker 3: It's a good thing. I'm caramel.
Speaker 2: That was cute.
Speaker 3: That was cute.
Speaker 2: Beef, we can't have ax steel again?
Speaker 3: Oh you mean.
Speaker 2: You mean? So that's steak? I sail burgers. And I
Speaker 2: won't say I eat red meat super often, but every
Speaker 2: now and again, I want to go to a steakhouse
Speaker 2: and get me a nice you know ribbi me.
Speaker 3: You can, and you can, you can, but I'm.
Speaker 2: Just gonna have to be prepared to be inflamed after
Speaker 2: eating something like that. Like, do I want to have
Speaker 2: to deal with that?
Speaker 3: That's a good point.
Speaker 2: The chicken egg white and yolk severely allergic.
Speaker 3: She been eating.
Speaker 1: Y'all been talking about how she's been losing so much weight,
Speaker 1: which is crazy to me because you've been losing weight
Speaker 1: eating these things. Now we have to admit you have
Speaker 1: been dealing with some inflammation. But I haven't been eggs
Speaker 1: every day, egg whites every day.
Speaker 2: I told y'all on a previous episode about in me
Speaker 2: trying to get back after you know, the kids and whatnot.
Speaker 2: On my nutrition journey, I've been drinking egg whites Like
Speaker 2: I literally would take a cup of egg whites and
Speaker 2: put a little bit of that toffee sweetener in it
Speaker 2: and drink it to get your proteine. And like you said,
Speaker 2: it's amazing to me because I'm seeing my body transform
Speaker 2: every day and I do feel out of aches and
Speaker 2: pains and stuff in my joints, and I'm thinking, man,
Speaker 2: I'm just approaching forty. So this is when the shit starts, right,
Speaker 2: this is when the turn up happens. But she said
Speaker 2: inflammation leads the toxins, which leads the diseases, and that's
Speaker 2: essentially what's happening. So it may be beneficial to achieve
Speaker 2: the things I want to achieve, but internally there's things
Speaker 2: festering there I may not see. So the things that
Speaker 2: I can have periodically chicken, lamb, turkey maybe three or
Speaker 2: four times a week. My most compatible ahead, my most
Speaker 2: compatible go ahead, which read the lowest on the chart. Pork.
Speaker 3: Now you're welcome.
Speaker 1: You want to know why I say you're welcome, pork, y'all?
Speaker 1: It was this country boy, well a city boy whose
Speaker 1: families from the country, who introduced you to all the
Speaker 1: different ways that you can use pork, baby, And that's
Speaker 1: why you looking good the way you look now eating
Speaker 1: pork blew my mind.
Speaker 3: So bacon on it.
Speaker 2: So me saying that I probably would never give up
Speaker 2: bacon if I gave up the rest the pig. Now
Speaker 2: now I have to go part taking more pigs.
Speaker 3: Go eat the pig, put bacon on it. It's good
Speaker 3: for your blood time.
Speaker 2: Like you used to do.
Speaker 1: But isn't it crazy though, that while we've fallen into
Speaker 1: this idea that you only have to eat a certain
Speaker 1: way to achieve the maximum potential from your body, rather
Speaker 1: than listening to our body. It kind of goes in
Speaker 1: synergy to what we're talking about, right, We as a
Speaker 1: couple tried to listen to everybody else's ideas of what
Speaker 1: was going to make our relationship work, and it didn't work.
Speaker 1: Our relationship was inflamed. And it wasn't until we started
Speaker 1: listening to ourselves, testing ourselves that we figured out, Hey,
Speaker 1: this works for us. It's literally the same thing with
Speaker 1: food and your body.
Speaker 2: The analogy.
Speaker 1: Think about it, baby, that's that was deep, right, I
Speaker 1: was deep. I was, I was, I was. I was
Speaker 1: in here like porking your stomach, baby, giving you that.
Speaker 2: Good easy digestion, not inflamed.
Speaker 1: No inflammation, no Toxesach baby over here, baby, say I
Speaker 1: want that pork.
Speaker 3: I'll put that pork in my stomache. Let me put
Speaker 3: that pork.
Speaker 2: In, man, because it does a body good. Furthermore, it
Speaker 2: says that my nutrition journey and my route to getting
Speaker 2: back to what I want to be is not going
Speaker 2: to be the same for everybody. Things are not compatible
Speaker 2: with me that can be compatible for you. So for example,
Speaker 2: my mom and having her issues didn't even show up
Speaker 2: on her.
Speaker 3: She can have she.
Speaker 1: Wants, and you're a descendant of your mom, you would
Speaker 1: think that y'all would have similar.
Speaker 2: Things, which, in turn, I asked the doctor about this
Speaker 2: eating right for your blood type thing. Seen as though
Speaker 2: my mom and I have the same blood type, maybe
Speaker 2: our profile should be the exact same, and it's not.
Speaker 3: Y'all have the same blood type and it's different and
Speaker 3: it's different.
Speaker 2: So that blood reading eating right for your blood type
Speaker 2: thing is probably loosely based on because everybody's so different.
Speaker 2: Your genetic makeup may be similar but also different because
Speaker 2: my dad's side.
Speaker 3: Now, because the book.
Speaker 1: Said, if you're this blood type, you should eat these
Speaker 1: foods right, But it's not the same because you and
Speaker 1: your mom have the same.
Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, you were just talking to me. Here you go.
Speaker 1: Burping and getting hiccups in the way while I'm talking to.
Speaker 3: My bad trouble. I just felt it. I stopped. I
Speaker 3: stopped it, so you can cut it. You know what
Speaker 3: I'm saying, My bad job.
Speaker 1: Y'all ever heard me burp on the podcast, It ain't
Speaker 1: it ain't my for k remind me that I was doing.
Speaker 2: Because she got to listen to the ship and edit it. Right.
Speaker 2: But so mom can eat beef, I can't. But we
Speaker 2: both share the same dairy allergy, so we both can't have.
Speaker 3: Dairy well, I mean half of your genetic makeup comes
Speaker 3: from your.
Speaker 2: My dad and da exactly, which makes me think even
Speaker 2: further it would be interesting if my father did this,
Speaker 2: so we can see the whole comparison here right. In
Speaker 2: terms of vegetables, I'm pretty decent in most of them,
Speaker 2: with the exception of carrot. I'm super allergic to carrot.
Speaker 2: The funny thing is my mom hated carrots growing up
Speaker 2: as a kid, so she never gave us carrots, so
Speaker 2: I never grew up really eating carrots like that. I
Speaker 2: try to introduce them to our kids that don't want
Speaker 2: them to not eat them because I didn't eat them,
Speaker 2: and as parents, you kind of tend to do that.
Speaker 2: You grow up in the house where y all eat
Speaker 2: the same thing. But I do have a slight irritation
Speaker 2: to tomato, and in looking at this again, it's moderate.
Speaker 2: So I can have tomato, but probably on like a
Speaker 2: rotating three to four times a week basis, which is
Speaker 2: okay with me. Spices and herbs, coriander, I'm super alertic too,
Speaker 2: don't really cook with coriander. But the Corey poda. You
Speaker 2: want to tell a Jamaican Vincenia and girl, she can't have.
Speaker 3: Corey Jamaican and Indian.
Speaker 2: Bro, Look at here. Curry powder for me is just
Speaker 2: hitting the high mark. So we can't have currey chicken
Speaker 2: corey go Speaking of which, I have to see what golat?
Speaker 2: Where goat falls on this?
Speaker 3: I think it's beef.
Speaker 2: Is golt technically cut beef? Yeah? I feel like I
Speaker 2: want to eat. I want to exist in the space
Speaker 2: of ignorance and not even ask, so I can eat
Speaker 2: my goat every now and again.
Speaker 1: But I just want you to hear her at rationale.
Speaker 1: That's the same rationale she used for the Vasectam party.
Speaker 1: I'm operating a place of ignorance and act like I
Speaker 1: don't know what he's talking about.
Speaker 3: So I don't got to throw this man of a
Speaker 3: sectamy party. I'm not letting it go. I just want
Speaker 3: you to see the synergies in her mindset.
Speaker 2: Bro. But you want to tell a Jamken Vincen that
Speaker 2: she can't have curry, that means doll. I love curry
Speaker 2: eggplant or curry balangi as my father says in his country,
Speaker 2: curry shrimp, all of that highly highly, well not highly.
Speaker 2: I'm just hitting the high mark. I'm just hitting the
Speaker 2: high mark on it.
Speaker 3: Let mean, wait, wait, wait, wait, is it cury?
Speaker 2: Curry? Powder's right here, it's in the red. It's pretty
Speaker 2: much in the red. But again, am I eating curry now?
Speaker 2: Because we have been a little curried out lately.
Speaker 1: If you eat curry every two weeks, I don't think
Speaker 1: that that's a big I agree, you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: Because it's fifty two weeks in a year.
Speaker 3: So if you eat it every two weeks, so it's
Speaker 3: not every week.
Speaker 1: You eat it twenty five times out of three hundred
Speaker 1: and sixty five days, right, and in three hundred and
Speaker 1: sixty five days, some three meals you looking at over
Speaker 1: one thousand meals. If you eat curry twenty five times,
Speaker 1: I doubt you know, twenty five times.
Speaker 3: With one thousand meals, that's less than two percent.
Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure. No part of me was wondering if
Speaker 2: I do introduce any of these things that I'm allergic to,
Speaker 2: if my body's in a good place, will it like
Speaker 2: set off some kind of reaction. So part of me
Speaker 2: feels like I want to do the detox program with her,
Speaker 2: and I want to kind of see an experiment because
Speaker 2: she said you will, Like she said, nothing here, anybody
Speaker 2: does one hundred percent. So when she puts me on
Speaker 2: this detox program right to get rid of the build
Speaker 2: up of east I have in my system because I
Speaker 2: have it as well. I'm curious to see how things
Speaker 2: will negatively impact my body moving forward, or how stellar
Speaker 2: my body could be if I then remove these things
Speaker 2: from my diet. So onto grains, Throw the whole grains away.
Speaker 2: Just throw the whole fucking throw the entire thing away.
Speaker 2: Look at this barley, gluten oaked. I love me a
Speaker 2: bowl of oatmeal, no.
Speaker 3: Corn, okay, grist me.
Speaker 1: You marrying a Southern black man saved your life between
Speaker 1: pork and grits, baby bacon at well the age you
Speaker 1: can have bacon and grits in the more and it
Speaker 1: was good for you.
Speaker 3: That's why you thick the way you think.
Speaker 2: And I'm thinking to me, like that's starch and fat, Like,
Speaker 2: where's the protein in that?
Speaker 3: You're welcome?
Speaker 2: Where's the protein in that You're welcome? But baby, I'm
Speaker 2: gonna be eating more grits.
Speaker 3: Clearly that's gonna talk about. Baby. Grits is winning. Remember
Speaker 3: we had the grits versus porridge battle.
Speaker 2: Yes we won, But but I'm gonna have to have
Speaker 2: the grits savory because I'm allergic to cane sugar, y'all,
Speaker 2: because you are. You know that's true. The abundance of sweetness. Insiders,
Speaker 2: they're like, you neededymore, says I did that, y'all, but
Speaker 2: sugar cane.
Speaker 3: Like what moderation.
Speaker 2: I'm a rum drinker. I'm gonna drink my rum. I'm
Speaker 2: going to have my own rum one day. Moderation And
Speaker 2: that's just what it is, moderation.
Speaker 3: Think about it.
Speaker 1: Even if you sip say you were to sip a
Speaker 1: bit of rum every day, right, every day you have
Speaker 1: three meals a day, You've been drinking water all day,
Speaker 1: and you sip on a glass of rum with a
Speaker 1: nice big ice cube, a nice little, nice rum.
Speaker 3: Straight, that's not bad. Even if you do it every day.
Speaker 1: It's three hundred and sixty five days out a year.
Speaker 1: You have over a thousand meals. Right, that's if you
Speaker 1: did it every day. You're not gonna sip rum every day.
Speaker 1: So you say you sip rum every other day, you
Speaker 1: cut it in half. One hundred and fifty little things
Speaker 1: a rum over a thousand meal.
Speaker 2: You know what I love so much about you? Whereas
Speaker 2: I came in thinking like, oh my god, my life
Speaker 2: is all work because I can't have any of this stuff.
Speaker 2: You're over here saying, babe, this is the bright side. Yes,
Speaker 2: that's such a youth thing, and I love you and
Speaker 2: I appreciate you for that. But man, this blew my mind.
Speaker 2: It blew my mind. I can't have lentils in the
Speaker 2: lagomes category. Soybeans, well, soy is bad anyway because it
Speaker 2: produces estrogen in the body, so you shouldn't really have that.
Speaker 2: Wheat severely allergic to that. When it comes to nuts
Speaker 2: and seeds, almonds probably my most favorite one.
Speaker 3: Taking any more nut.
Speaker 2: Damn, damn, Sorry about that, babe.
Speaker 3: Damn got the most protein though.
Speaker 2: Yeah it does, it does well. Your nut is not
Speaker 2: potent anymore. And then we haven't had the vaseectonmy party yet,
Speaker 2: so we'll see how that people.
Speaker 1: Matter fora We're gonna do a whole podcast when I
Speaker 1: have is rejected to be partying.
Speaker 2: You will have it, watch it, trust me, you'll have one.
Speaker 2: Don't worry about it. I wanted to be grand.
Speaker 3: If the protein is everywhere, no, they will not pause that.
Speaker 3: What are you talking about?
Speaker 2: You have a big old penis cake with a little
Speaker 2: band aid on the nuts.
Speaker 1: First of all, they didn't cut my penis.
Speaker 3: They cut my nuts, all right.
Speaker 1: But I wonder though if the nut potency of the
Speaker 1: protein levels in the nut dropped because there's no more
Speaker 1: kids in there.
Speaker 2: But we wouldn't know that because you haven't gone back
Speaker 2: to get checked.
Speaker 3: We do know that because you're not pregnant.
Speaker 2: We was, we was. We was a little touch and
Speaker 2: go with that one. It's a good thing that I
Speaker 2: stayed on birth control for a lot.
Speaker 1: You're not pregnant, and it's been in the amount of
Speaker 1: stuff that's been going on here over these last couple
Speaker 1: of months, you would have been pregnant, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Plus you way more in a way better shape, you,
Speaker 1: way more fertile now your hormones, you'd have been pregnant.
Speaker 3: So we know.
Speaker 1: But I am concerned about the amount of protein that
Speaker 1: is in my nut nets.
Speaker 2: So we may probably go get a tested and see.
Speaker 2: We'll do a whole Patreon episode on that. We can
Speaker 2: go back and get your your seedmen tested and we
Speaker 2: can see so almonds, walnuts, chestnuts, macadamia nuts, hazel nuts, peanuts,
Speaker 2: you can't none of that ships, None of that these
Speaker 2: nuts I should have asked her. I'm like, can I
Speaker 2: just at least hold on to my husband's That's the
Speaker 2: only one I'm really interested in anyway, Right, So I
Speaker 2: want to be replacing my oat milk almond milk with
Speaker 2: cashew milk, now ya, I mean sorry, with cashew milk
Speaker 2: or coconut milk or pea milk I can use as well.
Speaker 2: Don't even go there with THEE.
Speaker 3: I'm not going p E milk.
Speaker 2: In the fish crustaceans malas category, I can have all
Speaker 2: the things you know how hype, I will be things
Speaker 2: you Gucci, all the things you.
Speaker 3: Can have fish, shrimp, livester crab you Gucci.
Speaker 2: That just goes to show that my taste is innately
Speaker 2: expensive because look at that all of the things that
Speaker 2: look at that low. Everything is in the green lo
Speaker 2: lo lo lo lo. Everything should be carrying lifestyle with
Speaker 2: no dairy and no eggs and no gluten essentially.
Speaker 3: Which is not a bad lifestyle. WI.
Speaker 1: You don't have to be vegan, no, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, But you can you can have like almost.
Speaker 2: Vegan almost almost with the ascension, with the exception of
Speaker 2: the fish category. But yes, with the egg free, gluten free,
Speaker 2: that's essentially dairy free. It's like vegan, so cheeses I
Speaker 2: would have to do like vegan cheeses, which.
Speaker 3: Is not a bad health choice. It's really not nice.
Speaker 3: You get to live a healthier life. I can still
Speaker 3: live in moderations.
Speaker 2: That's my mindset with it. That's you know, I've let
Speaker 2: it's soaking overnight because it's literally I'm doing this episode
Speaker 2: the day after I got my results.
Speaker 3: So let's let's make a plan. Okay, you get to
Speaker 3: eat beef once a week.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't even do that. I don't even need it
Speaker 2: that much. I don't eat beef once a week that much.
Speaker 1: So then every other week, yeah, that's twenty five times.
Speaker 2: If the beef is there and I want to have it,
Speaker 2: I might take a bite or two.
Speaker 3: But that's the whole point.
Speaker 1: The point is when people get this not to be
Speaker 1: like oh doom and gloom, right, is to really think
Speaker 1: about your life and be like, you know what if
Speaker 1: I had to make a choice in this moment to
Speaker 1: eat something that I know was going to cause inflammation
Speaker 1: in my body or eat something else. For example, if
Speaker 1: you're out, let me not get a hamburger, let me
Speaker 1: get a chicken salad or.
Speaker 2: Let me get a turkey burger or burger bean burger
Speaker 2: with bacon.
Speaker 3: You see what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: That's the choice you make the spirit, and that's that's
Speaker 1: how you get better.
Speaker 2: And I implore everybody too. I mean, even if you're
Speaker 2: not getting a test this extensive, just understand that what's
Speaker 2: good for you is not good for somebody else, Which
Speaker 2: makes me even think even further. Once you get your
Speaker 2: results and you take you in, what about it. If we
Speaker 2: were to test all four of our boys, It's crazy.
Speaker 2: This house would probably look insane with the amount of
Speaker 2: things that they can and can't have. You know what
Speaker 2: might because we realized recently Kikaz has a crab allergy
Speaker 2: just from.
Speaker 3: Introducing we didn't we didn't get confirmation, we didn't.
Speaker 2: We assume that it was because that was the one
Speaker 2: thing that he had that he had never had that
Speaker 2: gave him a little bit of a.
Speaker 3: Little bit of action. Yeah, but how much did this
Speaker 3: test costs?
Speaker 2: So this testing, I think if you're doing blood alone,
Speaker 2: it's twelve hundred. And that's the only thing that is
Speaker 2: the downside with going to a.
Speaker 3: Doctor who's investment.
Speaker 2: We say downside, I mean it may not be cost effective,
Speaker 2: cost effective or feasible for many people to just go
Speaker 2: and do this test.
Speaker 1: I'm not taking that as an excuse. I'm gonna tell
Speaker 1: you why, Okay, gonna tell you why.
Speaker 2: They can just finish this real quick so that way
Speaker 2: we can just okay, and just to round it off,
Speaker 2: so I let you guys know, I'm severely allergid to cantalope.
Speaker 2: Guava is up there as well too. I don't have
Speaker 2: either often. Orange and papaya are kind of high up
Speaker 2: there as well too, and I can kind of partake
Speaker 2: in any other fruit after that, brewers yeast, cane, sugar, chocolate,
Speaker 2: sunflower seeds, and then I have an abundance of candida
Speaker 2: in my blood, so that's where it goes. And I'm
Speaker 2: also doing a saliva and stool sample test that I
Speaker 2: have to start doing this week, so I'm getting in
Speaker 2: the complete work up. But go on to say that, babe,
Speaker 2: and I think I know where you're gonna go with.
Speaker 3: We're going to go with this stool sample like that.
Speaker 2: That's why you don't even need to be in my
Speaker 2: business that much.
Speaker 3: We put that out there. I put that out there
Speaker 3: do not ask me to help you with that.
Speaker 2: I'm letting them know. The total package the blood work alone,
Speaker 2: I believe is like twelve or fifteen hundred, and then
Speaker 2: if you're doing the stool and saliva sample and everything,
Speaker 2: I feel like the total cost for everything to get
Speaker 2: your entire work up. And that's also in addition to
Speaker 2: the allergy test. I did a basic CBC panel. She
Speaker 2: tested my glucose, sodium, potassium, magnesium. I have low iron,
Speaker 2: low magnesium, My bag clestero is a little high. So
Speaker 2: there's a lot of things that are kind of an
Speaker 2: effect of having the inflammation in my body now that
Speaker 2: I have to rid my body of. So total with
Speaker 2: everything was about thirty five hundred. But I think just
Speaker 2: for the blood price to pay this for the blood,
Speaker 2: but I think that's a small price to pay to
Speaker 2: at least know and that second investment for me in
Speaker 2: the rest of my life.
Speaker 3: Now me, I would do it this way.
Speaker 1: Say, say we were in a position where we were
Speaker 1: when we first got back to Brooklyn, right, and this
Speaker 1: is something I really want to focus on. Remember, the
Speaker 1: younger you start this, the younger you will remain. For example,
Speaker 1: we're all fighting the aging process the only thing you're
Speaker 1: guaranteed in life is death. Yeah, from the minute you
Speaker 1: start living, you start dying. Right, you're preparing yourself to
Speaker 1: live as long as you can. How do you prepare
Speaker 1: yourself to live as long as you can trying to
Speaker 1: remain as young as possible by being healthy, right, working out,
Speaker 1: eating right. If we were twenty six twenty seven year
Speaker 1: old Devo right just got kicked out of the NFL,
Speaker 1: had moved back to Brooklyn, this is something that I
Speaker 1: would say, you know what, for the next year, I'm
Speaker 1: going to save one hundred dollars a month and put
Speaker 1: it in my blood sample test fund at the end
Speaker 1: of the year. For the top of next year, I'm
Speaker 1: going to take my blood tests twelve hundred dollars, find
Speaker 1: out what I can they cannot eat, do another test,
Speaker 1: I mean, do another year of changing the way I diet.
Speaker 1: But then at the end of the next year, I
Speaker 1: have another twelve hundred dollars do a separate part of
Speaker 1: the test. This is not something you all have to
Speaker 1: do at one time time and I don't want to
Speaker 1: make people feel like them. I can't afford thirty six
Speaker 1: hundred dollars, so it can't be healthy. Yes, you can
Speaker 1: be healthy, especially if you sacrifice, because you know what
Speaker 1: the sacrifice is. When you're not willing to sacrifice for
Speaker 1: the things that you want, the sacrifice becomes the thing
Speaker 1: that you want.
Speaker 2: Man, listen, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: If you're not willing to sacrifice for the things you want,
Speaker 1: the sacrifice becomes the thing you want.
Speaker 2: No, it's that you're absolutely right about that. And think
Speaker 2: about how many things you put on layaway, how many
Speaker 2: things you're like, oh, I'm trying to go on this trip.
Speaker 2: So every month, I'm gonna put towards this for this trip,
Speaker 2: you know where, You're probably gonna eat and drink your
Speaker 2: life away, which is fine because we all deserve that
Speaker 2: we do the same thing to that. But it's like,
Speaker 2: I have four children and a husband to live for.
Speaker 2: I do not want to be in my sixties and
Speaker 2: seventies and dealing with you know, hypertension and diabetes and
Speaker 2: all that, and then my children now have to then
Speaker 2: turn in turn take care of me because I was
Speaker 2: not responsible enough to take care of myself when I
Speaker 2: could and I was able to. You know better, you
Speaker 2: should do better. Absolutely absolutely, So we are going to
Speaker 2: do a Patreon episode where Daval goes in for his
Speaker 2: blood work and gets his results and we'll chat with
Speaker 2: the doctor too. I'm just waiting to get permission from
Speaker 2: her to be able to do all of this and
Speaker 2: speak openly about her works, which I'm sure she would
Speaker 2: love to do, because she herself said too. Within our community,
Speaker 2: specifically the Black community, the Caribbean community, the Black American community,
Speaker 2: we just don't know about her line of work, and
Speaker 2: it's harder to sometimes even afford it. But there are
Speaker 2: ways to make it happen. And she doesn't deal with
Speaker 2: just this component of health and wellness. She sees people
Speaker 2: who suffer from all kinds of diseases and ailments, down
Speaker 2: to cancer patients. I mean, she has an entire wellness
Speaker 2: facility where she does colonics, hyperbaric chambers, detoxes, all of that.
Speaker 1: That tastes so funny. I think this will get black
Speaker 1: men to commit to this, right, Okay. I had a
Speaker 1: black man send me a DM that he found out
Speaker 1: that he had high blood pressure, so he went he
Speaker 1: had to take his blood pressure medication, but the blood
Speaker 1: pressure medication doesn't give him a rectile dysfunction, so he
Speaker 1: was just like bro like, what can I do? Because
Speaker 1: he knew that I was in exercise physiology, in kinesiology,
Speaker 1: so he was like, what can I do to lower
Speaker 1: my blood pressure so I don't have to take this medication.
Speaker 1: But this is a message to black men. If you
Speaker 1: start focusing on your health when you're younger, it can
Speaker 1: help your libido last longer.
Speaker 3: Because here is the truth.
Speaker 1: Women start to get into their sexual peak late thirties forties.
Speaker 2: Maybe that's where I'm at.
Speaker 1: Imagine, imagine your woman is now hitting her sexual peak
Speaker 1: and you can't keep up because of all of those
Speaker 1: years of drinking poorly, not exercising, eating poorly, smoking the
Speaker 1: wrong things. But imagine now if you can reverse the
Speaker 1: clock and feel like you're twenty two.
Speaker 2: In your forties, that would be.
Speaker 1: So that you and your significant other can enjoy that
Speaker 1: love life. That is what I think black men would
Speaker 1: sign up for and be like, you know what if
Speaker 1: I could extend my love life to enjoy it, because
Speaker 1: a lot of black men say, you can't even really
Speaker 1: enjoy your love life because financially you can't even afford
Speaker 1: the type of women that you want to share that with.
Speaker 1: And then finally when you get it you're in your thirties,
Speaker 1: your forties, and now your libido has dropped, right, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, I've had I've spoken to a
Speaker 1: lot of black men about this. You feel that way,
Speaker 1: This is a way, and I want to do a.
Speaker 3: Whole podcast about that.
Speaker 1: On health even you know, because we're supposed to go
Speaker 1: to chiropractor, Well, you went to the chiropractor. Took me
Speaker 1: to the chiropractor, and I learned a lot about the
Speaker 1: degenerative properties in my spine because of all of the
Speaker 1: training I've been doing as a professional aspright.
Speaker 2: Or even in your spine at the top, from just
Speaker 2: holding your head down being on your phone, like we
Speaker 2: all are guilty of that.
Speaker 1: So just just and even even my flexibility in my hips,
Speaker 1: my alignment was on. There were certain moves I used
Speaker 1: to do when I was you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: when we was in college.
Speaker 2: To be in the moves when I'm like, yo, I
Speaker 2: can't even open my.
Speaker 3: Leg like that.
Speaker 2: You retired the move, Like, you can't retire the move.
Speaker 4: We can't get that shit, Bay, I didn't retire because
Speaker 4: after we went to the chiropractor, I've been getting these
Speaker 4: adjustments doing a decompression.
Speaker 1: Yes, I've gotten a lot more flexible. Yes, but I
Speaker 1: have done a better job things to my wife. And
Speaker 1: we're going to do a whole podcast on how Kadeen
Speaker 1: and I have turned into our grandparents, where Kadeen goes places,
Speaker 1: gets blood work done, gets this checked out, and then
Speaker 1: she drags me there and.
Speaker 3: I'm like, I don't want to do this, but then
Speaker 3: I learned so much about it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So we'll do a podcast about black men being
Speaker 1: more intentional about their health and wellness so that they
Speaker 1: can be great partners. Listen, in every aspect just being
Speaker 1: here healthy, but also being a good sexual partner for
Speaker 1: your wife.
Speaker 2: I'm not trying to get keep especially when it comes
Speaker 2: to my husband, Like, we're doing this life together till
Speaker 2: the wheels fall off, and if I know more that
Speaker 2: can help us, I'm going to do more, and I
Speaker 2: want to bring you along. And I'm not keeping this
Speaker 2: information for y'all either, because in this community that we
Speaker 2: have here Dead Ass Podcast, We're going to tell you
Speaker 2: guys everything that we've learned to help our life to
Speaker 2: make it that much better, that much more enjoyable, and
Speaker 2: how we can ride off into the sunset, baby right,
Speaker 2: off into the sunset healthily and enjoying the rest of
Speaker 2: the life that we have. All right, y'all, So this
Speaker 2: is kind of going to be a two be continued
Speaker 2: episode because once de Val gets his ress elson, we'll
Speaker 2: probably do another episode and he'll let you guys know
Speaker 2: all the things that he cannot consume anymore and how
Speaker 2: we're working through that tickeet.
Speaker 1: Adjustments together, because what if my thing is opposite from hers,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna expect her to make two dinners every
Speaker 1: night and I'm going so we're gonna figure how to
Speaker 1: make it work.
Speaker 3: So we'll see what I get my blood, sure, and
Speaker 3: we'll see.
Speaker 2: How works, and we're going to see how that trickles
Speaker 2: down to the kids. All right, So stay tuned look
Speaker 2: forward to that. We're gonna pay some bills and come
Speaker 2: back with listener letters.
Speaker 3: All right, we're back now.
Speaker 2: We are back, and let's get into these lists first
Speaker 2: real quickly on go yes, all right? Do you think?
Speaker 3: All right? Number one?
Speaker 1: I love how much you guys love each other and
Speaker 1: how open you are. Your book is helping me give
Speaker 1: grace in my relationship now and understanding who he is
Speaker 1: rather than trying to control how he is with me.
Speaker 1: That's what's up, man, That's what we want for everybody. Love,
Speaker 1: peace and happiness. I knew my boyfriend for twenty plus years.
Speaker 1: We were friends since your high school. We got together
Speaker 1: in our early twenties, but ended up separating because he
Speaker 1: was immature and wanted to deal with multiple women at once.
Speaker 1: We reconnected in twenty nineteen and started having friendly conversation.
Speaker 1: It began to feel like old times, and in my heart,
Speaker 1: I felt like he was the one. He is the one,
Speaker 1: He's my soulmate. We took the leap of faith. But
Speaker 1: in between the time we separated, I had two children.
Speaker 3: Backstory.
Speaker 1: During the time we reconnected as friends, I was going
Speaker 1: through a horrible breakup with my children's father. He would
Speaker 1: leave the house and not return till the next day
Speaker 1: to shower and do it all over again, and would
Speaker 1: leave me to take care of the children alone. My
Speaker 1: boyfriend has stepped in and been an amazing father figure
Speaker 1: to my children, and now their father is making it
Speaker 1: difficult for us by doing little petty things to try
Speaker 1: to provoke my boyfriend and send sheriffs to my home
Speaker 1: to try to get custody of the children. When he's
Speaker 1: seen I moved on. How do I go forward handling
Speaker 1: this situation without jeopardizing my relationship?
Speaker 2: Damn girl, I feel like we know people who in
Speaker 2: this situation.
Speaker 3: Point.
Speaker 1: She said that she moved on from her best friend
Speaker 1: because he was being immature and wanted to deal with
Speaker 1: different women. So then she went and got with a
Speaker 1: guy who was meeting with different women and had children
Speaker 1: with that guy. This is what I want to point out.
Speaker 1: Sometimes when people are honest with you about what they
Speaker 1: need or require, that moment you run from the honesty.
Speaker 1: Remember you said ignorance is bliss. You ran from the
Speaker 1: honesty with someone who told you what he wanted to
Speaker 1: deal with, to deal with someone who was going to
Speaker 1: give you a situation of ignorance is bliss.
Speaker 3: Yes, you don't know that he's dealing with other.
Speaker 1: Women, but he is. And you had two children with him. Interesting,
Speaker 1: And now the guy that you said was immature quote unquote,
Speaker 1: and you knew he was dealing with other you know
Speaker 1: he was dealing with other women. You coming back to
Speaker 1: him because he's a better person. I'm saying this to
Speaker 1: you not as a woman, but as a person. Sometimes
Speaker 1: when people give you the truth, don't run from the
Speaker 1: truth because it's not what you want to hear except
Speaker 1: the truth, because that's where that person is in that moment,
Speaker 1: even if they're even if where they are in that moment,
Speaker 1: you don't want to deal with that's a good person
Speaker 1: because they're they're giving you the truth, and that's usually
Speaker 1: what people want. Yes, you say you want the truth.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying that you deal with him exclusively. But
Speaker 1: don't go settle with someone who's gonna lie to you
Speaker 1: because you don't want to deal with someone who's giving
Speaker 1: you the truth.
Speaker 3: That's the first thing I want to say. And that's
Speaker 3: the thing that's not a woman thing. Men do it too, right,
Speaker 3: Men do it too.
Speaker 1: You got a woman who says she requires certain things
Speaker 1: in life, right, and then you're like, oh, she want
Speaker 1: too much. You want too much. So you go deal
Speaker 1: with a woman who's not going to tell you all
Speaker 1: the things she requires, but she's going to get all
Speaker 1: the things she require from other people.
Speaker 2: Oh for sure.
Speaker 3: And now you feel messed up with just like man
Speaker 3: I thought. I was no no, no, no no.
Speaker 1: The woman that told you all the stuff she required,
Speaker 1: you ran from her because the accountability would have been
Speaker 1: that you if you want to be with her, have
Speaker 1: to provide her with the stuff that she requires.
Speaker 3: So you went to someone else who you.
Speaker 1: Thought required less, but they just decided not to tell
Speaker 1: you what they're required.
Speaker 3: It was getting it from other people.
Speaker 2: It goes both ways, right, or didn't tell you and
Speaker 2: they expect you to miraculously deliver on these things that
Speaker 2: you didn't even know they wanted to begin with because
Speaker 2: they didn't tell you.
Speaker 1: So the truth is stick with the people are going
Speaker 1: to give you the truth, especially if you love them
Speaker 1: in a way that you know you're not going to
Speaker 1: find anywhere else.
Speaker 3: That's the first part.
Speaker 1: The second part is dealing with your child's father. I
Speaker 1: have family members and friends who have significant others who
Speaker 1: are no longer in committed romantic relationships, but they share children.
Speaker 1: And a lot of times, the person who was mistreating
Speaker 1: the other person but doesn't want that person to move
Speaker 1: on to someone else's always the person who was doing
Speaker 1: the most shady stuff, and that man or woman they're
Speaker 1: doing the most shady stuff. I know baby mamas who
Speaker 1: do shady stuff. I know baby daddies who do shady stuff.
Speaker 1: One thing I will tell you when it comes to
Speaker 1: dealing with the shape the person. I know this works
Speaker 1: for a fact is to not converse or go back
Speaker 1: and forth with them through conversations on the phone. Everything
Speaker 1: should be through text message or email as proof because
Speaker 1: now there's no argument around who said what or who
Speaker 1: provided what. Hey, let's do everything above board. You're going
Speaker 1: to communicate with me, communicate with me through text or email.
Speaker 3: Why I got to do all of that?
Speaker 1: This way, I can have a paper trail of what
Speaker 1: was said, so that if I'm wrong, and this is
Speaker 1: what happens if you always put it on them, they
Speaker 1: feel like you're doing it because you want to prove
Speaker 1: them wrong. No, you just say, I want the paper
Speaker 1: trail so that if I'm wrong, you can point out
Speaker 1: to me that, hey, remember you said this, and I
Speaker 1: can be like, you know what I did say that.
Speaker 1: Let me follow through with what I said. It's not
Speaker 1: just about holding them accountable, it's also about holding yourself accountable.
Speaker 2: Absolutely.
Speaker 1: Once you have that paper trail, it's hard to navigate
Speaker 1: around that, and it's.
Speaker 2: Hard to have back and forth because a lot of
Speaker 2: time that's all they want that party is that they
Speaker 2: want the back of like the antagonizers just like poking
Speaker 2: me find ways to just get them, poke at them.
Speaker 2: And if you give them nothing, the what they got nothing.
Speaker 1: And she's right, they will do stuff like call the
Speaker 1: sheriff and do this. But you know what happens when
Speaker 1: the sheriff comes. M officer, I have the correspondence between
Speaker 1: the person who filed the claim against me. This was
Speaker 1: everything that was said. I don't speak to this person.
Speaker 1: You can contact my attorney. Once you start to contact
Speaker 1: your attorney, Oh, you have paper trails, you see people
Speaker 1: start to.
Speaker 2: Kind of ease up. Ease up also, and I'm sorry,
Speaker 2: are you don't at that point? Just to kind of
Speaker 2: wrap this up, I think the final point is when
Speaker 2: it comes to the children. Continue you and your boyfriend
Speaker 2: to treat the children in a manner in which they
Speaker 2: need to be treated, and you want to treat them
Speaker 2: because children don't lie. And when the child has their lawyer,
Speaker 2: and then you got your lawyer and he or she
Speaker 2: got their lawyer, and when the child's lawyer can see
Speaker 2: who's a person who's completely not involved and only is
Speaker 2: very objective and is only interested in the well being
Speaker 2: of the child, then the child and that lawyer will
Speaker 2: then know who gets that child or it makes it
Speaker 2: easier for the judge to err on one side or
Speaker 2: the other because they can see the proof is there.
Speaker 2: The child is in a healthy environment, their love, they're
Speaker 2: provided for, They're not in the back and forth.
Speaker 3: We watched it recently.
Speaker 2: We literally watched this on the fold with someone recently.
Speaker 2: So the children always know where they want to be,
Speaker 2: and they'll advocate for themselves and say I want to
Speaker 2: be with mom or I want to be with Dad
Speaker 2: because I enjoy the life that I live there.
Speaker 1: And I will say this as a being mature. Maturity
Speaker 1: is knowing that speaking poorly about your child's parents co
Speaker 1: parent in front of that child is only going to
Speaker 1: cause a wedge between.
Speaker 3: You and that child long term. Absolutely, so you don't
Speaker 3: even start that.
Speaker 2: Children will figure it out, thank you.
Speaker 3: Children will recognize, so you don't have to do that. Yep,
Speaker 3: what's up?
Speaker 2: Well?
Speaker 3: Were speaking of children? Children will recognize.
Speaker 2: They sure will, No, they sure will, So good luck
Speaker 2: to you. I hope everything works out for the benefit
Speaker 2: of your current relationship and the kids. All right, And
Speaker 2: I'll ask this a letter question of the day. Hello
Speaker 2: Deval and Kadeen. I would love to hear your perspective
Speaker 2: on grown men who follow ig models and porn stars.
Speaker 2: I know men are visual, etc. But where do you
Speaker 2: draw the line if a man's feet is mostly of
Speaker 2: half naked women. I'm concerned that it'll become an issue
Speaker 2: for me Devl as a man. What's your perspective? Is
Speaker 2: it something that I should bring up before we get
Speaker 2: serious or should I wait until we have gotten exclusive
Speaker 2: before having the conversation to bring it up? Kadeen, I
Speaker 2: would like to hear your perspective as well. As a
Speaker 2: famous couple, do you have to deal with this or
Speaker 2: something similar at some point? I don't care. Me and
Speaker 2: Devel be sending mead send women to each other, Like
Speaker 2: I will DH a woman's body and be like, oh
Speaker 2: my god, look at her, like shed she's body goals,
Speaker 2: or like, hey, babe, if I'm in the gym, what
Speaker 2: exercise can I do to get my butt and my
Speaker 2: hamstrings to look like that?
Speaker 1: And like goes both ways, and it goes both I
Speaker 1: sent I've sent her some dudes out that was chopped up,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, babe, do you think this is too muscular?
Speaker 3: Too big?
Speaker 1: And sometimes she'd be like, yeah, too big that I
Speaker 1: don't think that that's attractive.
Speaker 3: More lean, so we I don't I don't care if
Speaker 3: she looks.
Speaker 2: At We don't exist in a space like that. I
Speaker 2: don't think. I think we're both secure enough in ourself
Speaker 2: and our relationship where that doesn't bother me at all.
Speaker 2: Like THEV I will laugh and joke about his guy
Speaker 2: group chats where y'all send women back and forth in
Speaker 2: we do take it very lightly.
Speaker 1: We do, but I but I also understand too, like
Speaker 1: you have your group chats with your women, with y'all
Speaker 1: send pictures of all sorts of things. I'm going to
Speaker 1: be honest, it really doesn't bother me saying and I'd
Speaker 1: rather have the insight to know what you're into, so
Speaker 1: that I could be like, Okay, well she's into that.
Speaker 1: I fit that demographic of what she's into. I'm comfortable,
Speaker 1: you know. I like that My wife loves guys with beards, muscles, tattoos,
Speaker 1: work out like that's her thing, that her her preference
Speaker 1: is that type of guy. So when I look at
Speaker 1: myself and I know that while she's chosen someone who's
Speaker 1: in that demographic, I feel good about myself. It's the
Speaker 1: same thing Kadeen knows. I love women who work out.
Speaker 1: You know, I love thicker women. I love women who
Speaker 1: have curves, Like, that's just what it is. Like she
Speaker 1: go through my feed right now. If I open up
Speaker 1: my feed right now.
Speaker 2: It's going to be for his explore page.
Speaker 1: My explore page is going to be football workout videos,
Speaker 1: basketball train generally trained, basketball training videos, cars, houses, and women.
Speaker 1: That's and it happens because in my group chats, when
Speaker 1: they send you stuff and you look at it, your
Speaker 1: algorithm becomes the stuff that you send people and they
Speaker 1: send you.
Speaker 2: For example, I just sent him a woman whose body
Speaker 2: was banged showing a bad outfit. I sent it to him.
Speaker 2: I was like, babe, how do you think I would
Speaker 2: look in this? Or do you think my body is like?
Speaker 2: Oh to party? Where's something like this? And then he
Speaker 2: opened his feed said this morning, said did you send
Speaker 2: me this girl? And I'm like I did, and the
Speaker 2: outfit and it popped upon his feed. So I think
Speaker 2: it's also being secure in like our relationship who we are.
Speaker 2: And I know that the women that power up on
Speaker 2: the speed, baby, I can go total toe with them
Speaker 2: any day. He married his ig model, he married his
Speaker 2: porn starts baby, It's okay and I'm securing that because
Speaker 2: I know that he's getting what he desires anyway.
Speaker 3: So now I feel you on that.
Speaker 1: I also I also want to implore people to understand
Speaker 1: that you don't have to follow these pages for them
Speaker 1: to come up on your page. The way the algorithm
Speaker 1: is now, I get so many suggested reels that I've
Speaker 1: never followed that if you see your man something pops
Speaker 1: up on his page, he may not even be following that.
Speaker 1: It could be that he's in group chats, his friend
Speaker 1: send it to him, he looks at he sends him stuff,
Speaker 1: and now it comes up. I don't follow half of
Speaker 1: these women that come up on my page. Some of
Speaker 1: the women I do follow, most of them are fitness
Speaker 1: women or athletes that I'd be like, hey, just like
Speaker 1: she said, I'd be like, yo, look at her legs.
Speaker 1: This is what her program is to get her legs
Speaker 1: Like that, you said you wanted this? Who was the
Speaker 1: who is the good that I just sent you?
Speaker 2: I don't even know cuban link. Yeah, le I'm just like, girl,
Speaker 2: I need to do those exercises. He'll be like, yo,
Speaker 2: try these for your hamstring or me having diastasis recti
Speaker 2: after having the babies. He's like, Yo, this girl does
Speaker 2: like really deep core exercises, like maybe you want to
Speaker 2: try these planking, this, that, And it's been helpful to us.
Speaker 2: So if it's a thing we're you're debating, I'm bringing
Speaker 2: it up now, wait until you get serious. If it's
Speaker 2: something that bothers you, I think we don't enjoy, you know,
Speaker 2: holding on to these things, I say, speak about it
Speaker 2: and have the discussion. If you're curious as to why
Speaker 2: he's following these pages, but personally, from our perspective, it
Speaker 2: isn't an issue.
Speaker 1: So and just because it's not an issue for us
Speaker 1: doesn't mean that it's not an issue for you. If
Speaker 1: you feel less strongly about it, I say, speak to
Speaker 1: him openly and tell him like, this is how I
Speaker 1: feel about it.
Speaker 2: So and if you guys are in the beginning phases
Speaker 2: of things, then you should bring it up before things
Speaker 2: get serious. Because if it's something that you know that
Speaker 2: you cannot handle, this the boundary for you and don't
Speaker 2: take things any further.
Speaker 1: And I'm gonna be honest. I look at these women.
Speaker 1: I don't lust for them and be like, damn, I
Speaker 1: wish I could. I'm like, yo, she's bad like it
Speaker 1: is what it is, that's what it is, and then
Speaker 1: I'll be all over k and y'all see how I'm
Speaker 1: all over her. She could barely get a break, so
Speaker 1: I doubt that she's that concern.
Speaker 2: So for sure, for sure sounds good. All right, y'all.
Speaker 2: If you want to be a listener letter, email us
Speaker 2: at dead ass Advice at gmail dot com.
Speaker 1: That's D E A D A S S A d
Speaker 1: V I C E at gmail dot com.
Speaker 2: All right, moment of truth time. We had some really
Speaker 2: good facts and status here that we didn't get you.
Speaker 2: But for me, it's really just a matter of making
Speaker 2: choices that will impact your life in the long run.
Speaker 2: It's making the investments early on now while we're able
Speaker 2: bodied and we can. If there's a way for you
Speaker 2: to sacrifice in one area to be able to be
Speaker 2: greater and to be healthier tomorrow, do it, do it.
Speaker 2: And that looks different for everybody, But I just want
Speaker 2: to employ you just the way I've trying to been
Speaker 2: talking myself into it, you know, approaching forty, just how
Speaker 2: I can live quote unquote my best life moving forward
Speaker 2: with you, a long one and a healthy one for
Speaker 2: you and our boys.
Speaker 3: I love you.
Speaker 2: I love you to you.
Speaker 1: My moment of truth is I sayd K's life okay,
Speaker 1: before me, she wasn't eating port and she wasn't eating grits.
Speaker 1: The two things that fit best with her body corn
Speaker 1: and porks. You see what I'm saying, Corn and port.
Speaker 1: You so so the southern gentleman and me saved your life.
Speaker 2: I appreciate it.
Speaker 3: Niss created was one of pork and corn substances.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, I want to say, I'm proud of you, baby,
Speaker 1: for making that transition.
Speaker 3: I just posted the other day, don't think.
Speaker 1: I posted there was a picture of K with the code,
Speaker 1: a video of K with the cold on her lap
Speaker 1: and she was holding up a bit with hand, and
Speaker 1: I said, when you find your coconut and you turn
Speaker 1: your coconut into a Southern bell.
Speaker 3: That's how you knowsition.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, but no, that's my moment of truth
Speaker 1: is that I appreciate you working hard to remain as
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