WEBVTT - Ben Newman 0:00:00.680 --> 0:00:05.760 The boys Yo number one. Thank you. Regal Realty Group 0:00:06.120 --> 0:00:11.800 Hunter Briley specifically, guys, local Nashville company, real estate company. 0:00:12.080 --> 0:00:15.080 It's Regal Realty Group. You can find them at Regal 0:00:15.240 --> 0:00:19.439 RG dot com. And you can also get a Hunter 0:00:19.520 --> 0:00:23.320 Briley who works with us, you know, specifically Hunter Briley 0:00:23.840 --> 0:00:27.480 his personal fucking blow him up six one five six 0:00:27.640 --> 0:00:30.640 three zero nine seven three five or he can hit 0:00:30.840 --> 0:00:34.120 you know his office six one five four eight three 0:00:34.800 --> 0:00:38.120 zero eight five six. That is Hunter Briley and you 0:00:38.120 --> 0:00:41.199 can find them at Regal RG dot com. Guys, it's 0:00:41.200 --> 0:00:44.720 anything from commercial, residential and even investment. 0:00:45.440 --> 0:00:45.680 Uh. 0:00:45.720 --> 0:00:47.519 He's trying to find a home for this bus. As 0:00:47.560 --> 0:00:49.840 a matter of fact, he's helping us find some rental 0:00:49.840 --> 0:00:53.200 locations potentially a buying to have a nice, nice little 0:00:53.240 --> 0:00:57.880 Rob deer Dick fantasy factory type deal going on. But yeah, 0:00:57.920 --> 0:01:00.000 he's a stud man. He really helps. He really helped 0:01:00.240 --> 0:01:02.480 us out. I know his phone has been blown up 0:01:02.480 --> 0:01:04.240 a little bit by people around here. He's gotten a 0:01:04.240 --> 0:01:06.920 few hot leads. So guys, he's it's real estate done 0:01:06.959 --> 0:01:09.440 differently and he's all about relationships. I've sat with him. 0:01:09.480 --> 0:01:12.760 I look I look into his beautiful eyes and he 0:01:12.760 --> 0:01:15.280 he helps me navigate through this world that we're all 0:01:15.319 --> 0:01:18.959 trying to navigate through. I'm big in the investment game, 0:01:19.560 --> 0:01:22.440 big in real estate, and Hunters somebody that I'm able 0:01:22.440 --> 0:01:24.520 to lean on and he's somebody that I trust and 0:01:24.640 --> 0:01:30.119 take advice from. So again, that's commercial residential if you're 0:01:30.120 --> 0:01:34.080 looking to move somewhere or rent, and also investment if 0:01:34.080 --> 0:01:37.319 you guys are looking for investment opportunities, looking for just 0:01:37.319 --> 0:01:40.039 to sit down and have a conversation. That is Hunter 0:01:40.120 --> 0:01:44.000 Briley with the Regal Realty Group and again Regal rg 0:01:44.480 --> 0:01:46.800 dot com. 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That's one reason we've 0:05:34.760 --> 0:05:38.159 had shab On, Rich Frohning, Michael Chandler, a bunch of 0:05:38.200 --> 0:05:42.400 different people, Sean Booth to name a few different people 0:05:42.680 --> 0:05:45.320 out of the football world. Because yes, we get we 0:05:45.400 --> 0:05:47.720 have that little edge with football. We get our initial 0:05:47.760 --> 0:05:51.760 client tele our initial audience is football. But it's very 0:05:51.760 --> 0:05:55.200 important to us that we are we show you guys 0:05:55.240 --> 0:05:58.360 that we are more than just a football podcast. There's 0:05:58.400 --> 0:05:59.760 a lot of shit that goes on with us that 0:05:59.800 --> 0:06:03.760 we're very intrigued about. In this episode, here we have 0:06:03.839 --> 0:06:09.280 on performance coach and author Ben Newman. Ben is somebody 0:06:09.279 --> 0:06:14.159 that I've been close with for several years now. You know. 0:06:14.160 --> 0:06:16.960 He's a best selling author and he's a performance mental coach. 0:06:17.880 --> 0:06:21.880 He works directly with the Alabama Crimson tight football team. 0:06:22.440 --> 0:06:24.760 He works with he just got hired on for the 0:06:24.839 --> 0:06:31.640 Kansas State football team. He works with athletes in the NFL, PGA, NBA, MLB, UFC, 0:06:31.720 --> 0:06:35.400 and the n C Double A. He's a stud man. 0:06:35.520 --> 0:06:39.680 He writes for Forbes. He is uh, he's the white 0:06:39.720 --> 0:06:42.840 guy for me, Taylor, and I said down with him. 0:06:42.880 --> 0:06:46.680 We got into some great conversations a little bit about 0:06:46.760 --> 0:06:48.799 my story with Ben. My journey with Ben. I'm getting 0:06:48.800 --> 0:06:51.279 some mental coaching done since I've been in the league. 0:06:52.920 --> 0:06:55.200 Taylor and him go banter back and forth about Michigan 0:06:55.240 --> 0:06:57.440 and Michigan State. Him going to Michigan State, Taylor going 0:06:57.480 --> 0:07:01.440 to Michigan. Taylor drops some fucking jim. Uh, there's a 0:07:01.520 --> 0:07:03.599 lot of good storytelling. This is a this is a 0:07:03.640 --> 0:07:07.120 really cool episode to get super deep in a good way. Uh. 0:07:07.160 --> 0:07:08.800 We have fun at the beginning, and then we get 0:07:08.800 --> 0:07:11.080 in some real nitty gritty ship man, and it's uh, 0:07:11.440 --> 0:07:14.119 you know, I'm a big believer in mental performance. Taylor 0:07:14.160 --> 0:07:16.920 and I both are will be sending each other videos 0:07:18.440 --> 0:07:22.320 Law of Attraction, mental psychology training ship from David Goggins, 0:07:22.720 --> 0:07:26.040 Joe Rogan, Tony Robbins, Conor McGregor, all that shit. Dude. 0:07:26.040 --> 0:07:28.960 We said, we're constantly sending each other ship so, you know, 0:07:28.960 --> 0:07:31.480 it's a big part of our lives, staying on kind 0:07:31.480 --> 0:07:34.040 of the mental grind, just as much as performance and 0:07:34.080 --> 0:07:38.800 physical you know, super important stuff and really insightful things. 0:07:39.120 --> 0:07:40.640 I think you guys are really gonna like this Bend 0:07:40.640 --> 0:07:45.480 Newman episode. You can find him on social Media's at 0:07:45.880 --> 0:07:51.160 Continued Fight on Instagram and Twitter. That is at continued 0:07:51.200 --> 0:07:54.000 fight and again. He is a He is a mental 0:07:54.000 --> 0:07:59.040 performance coach for the Alabama football team, Kansas State football team. 0:07:59.160 --> 0:08:02.360 Guys around all different varieties of leagues, myself, guys in 0:08:02.400 --> 0:08:04.880 the guys in the NFL. So I think you guys 0:08:04.880 --> 0:08:06.560 are really gonna like this one. It's a big change up. 0:08:06.560 --> 0:08:09.880 It's not just bullshitting the whole time. Uh, We're following 0:08:09.920 --> 0:08:11.880 his story. We're talking about a lot of ship and 0:08:11.960 --> 0:08:14.560 some stuff that is very relatable. And I hope you 0:08:14.600 --> 0:08:17.440 guys take into your lives and when you after you 0:08:17.440 --> 0:08:18.960 guys listen to this. If you guys feel like we 0:08:18.960 --> 0:08:21.720 would greatly appreciate it, share this episode. Let us know 0:08:21.760 --> 0:08:25.120 how you felt about this episode. Comment to us on Twitter, 0:08:25.520 --> 0:08:27.600 and you know you guys are in this thing with us, 0:08:27.680 --> 0:08:30.400 but I appreciate you, motherckers, and I hope you guys 0:08:30.440 --> 0:08:31.200 enjoyed this episode. 0:08:31.240 --> 0:08:34.080 Ben Newman, So you know there's one can of worms 0:08:34.080 --> 0:08:36.240 that we probably should opened that you probably didn't. 0:08:36.000 --> 0:08:37.480 Tell them what's ahead. 0:08:38.120 --> 0:08:39.360 Then I went to Michigan State. 0:08:39.840 --> 0:08:41.200 Oh I forgot. 0:08:41.200 --> 0:08:46.920 I just gotta make sure I talk slow. Remember everything I. 0:08:48.600 --> 0:08:48.800 Love. 0:08:49.040 --> 0:08:51.520 I love when when he made Braybell point up to. 0:08:51.520 --> 0:08:54.800 The yeah, yeah, man, we got to make sure people. 0:08:55.240 --> 0:08:57.559 If you go on the bus, man, you're in corn 0:08:57.600 --> 0:08:58.439 Husker territory. 0:08:59.520 --> 0:09:01.120 Actually, I was terrified. 0:09:01.920 --> 0:09:02.840 It's not amy and. 0:09:02.840 --> 0:09:07.120 It's kind of just like welcome, glad to have you, 0:09:08.880 --> 0:09:09.520 Jesus Christ. 0:09:09.640 --> 0:09:12.920 Yeah, yeah, yeah, coloring books will be fine. 0:09:14.360 --> 0:09:18.559 All right, Aaron, he's over here like about to rip 0:09:18.600 --> 0:09:22.160 it out of the fucking bus. I have to get 0:09:22.160 --> 0:09:27.920 that black cart out. They can pay for it. Yo. 0:09:28.000 --> 0:09:32.600 It's raining outside, his storming. It doesn't matter, doesn't fucking matter. 0:09:32.840 --> 0:09:37.520 It's just like you know, it's a storm, and it's 0:09:37.520 --> 0:09:39.560 one of those storms to where the lightning flashes and 0:09:39.600 --> 0:09:40.720 the noise happens within. 0:09:40.600 --> 0:09:43.000 A sex like yeah, it's like death's all around us. 0:09:43.080 --> 0:09:45.760 Yeah, Generator going on outside. 0:09:45.520 --> 0:09:48.440 No excuses, play like a champion, Rule number seventy six. 0:09:48.880 --> 0:09:51.760 Just a lot of a lot of adversity, dude, a 0:09:51.760 --> 0:09:52.520 lot of adversity. 0:09:52.760 --> 0:09:54.280 So then, what were you thinking before you came on 0:09:54.400 --> 0:09:56.280 this bus, Like, like what was going through your mind? 0:09:56.280 --> 0:09:57.760 Like we've been boys a long ass time, and you 0:09:57.840 --> 0:10:00.360 knew I got this thing rolling me and the boy. 0:10:00.840 --> 0:10:03.840 I already told you. I literally I thought to myself, 0:10:04.000 --> 0:10:06.880 I've been on hundreds of interviews, and I never have 0:10:06.960 --> 0:10:08.960 been terrified for what the hell is going to be asked. 0:10:09.520 --> 0:10:12.240 I'm looking over it, Taylor, like Bro's gonna bring the heat. 0:10:14.360 --> 0:10:16.480 The dude is. The dude is witty. Man, you gotta 0:10:16.559 --> 0:10:19.040 come fucking correct if you want to dance with the devil, 0:10:19.120 --> 0:10:20.280 because Will knows. 0:10:20.640 --> 0:10:23.600 Will knows if he has asked anything wrong that if 0:10:23.640 --> 0:10:24.439 that thunder. 0:10:24.120 --> 0:10:24.840 You're that thunder? 0:10:25.360 --> 0:10:26.640 Do we Probably you probably heard that. 0:10:26.760 --> 0:10:29.880 I mean you said if I say anything wrong, yes, 0:10:29.960 --> 0:10:34.480 you're gonna it'll be relatively tame Will. That depends I. 0:10:34.480 --> 0:10:35.840 Don't know what you guys. Relationship is like. 0:10:35.920 --> 0:10:38.240 Will might just be getting a little little box today, 0:10:38.400 --> 0:10:39.520 but he might come out of the shell. 0:10:39.679 --> 0:10:40.559 No, I'm ready to go. 0:10:40.920 --> 0:10:42.000 He always cuts it to me real. 0:10:42.200 --> 0:10:44.400 Yeah. I always try to cheer Ben because he's a 0:10:44.920 --> 0:10:48.560 he's a performance coach, he's an author. He does motivational speaking. 0:10:49.080 --> 0:10:50.520 So I always ask him all the time, like, you 0:10:50.559 --> 0:10:54.680 know been like you never played football, so how do 0:10:54.720 --> 0:10:58.719 you motivate football players? That's a chirp and and and 0:10:58.840 --> 0:11:01.160 actually a question, like you know, you walk into some 0:11:01.200 --> 0:11:02.960 of these locker rooms the teams have you on like 0:11:03.040 --> 0:11:05.439 bam and all them they bring you in k State 0:11:05.480 --> 0:11:08.280 and they want to they lean to you for inspiration 0:11:08.400 --> 0:11:10.320 or motivation like these coaches do. And then you walk 0:11:10.320 --> 0:11:14.080 into a room with a bunch of you know, football players, 0:11:14.160 --> 0:11:16.880 dogs that are going to look at you as you know, 0:11:17.920 --> 0:11:20.559 an author, somebody who hasn't played and wonder, what the 0:11:20.600 --> 0:11:21.959 hell is this guy even going to give us? 0:11:22.160 --> 0:11:23.800 Well, I think I think you know this is that 0:11:23.800 --> 0:11:26.440 if I go into Alabama, within the first five minutes, 0:11:26.480 --> 0:11:28.719 they're gonna hear my mom's story. They're gonna hear the 0:11:28.800 --> 0:11:31.559 challenge adiversity I went through with my dad. Parents divorced 0:11:31.600 --> 0:11:33.280 when I was six months old, right knowing that my 0:11:33.320 --> 0:11:36.480 mom passed away, then my dad had his issues, and 0:11:36.640 --> 0:11:38.560 they know that, like, I've been through shit in my life, 0:11:39.080 --> 0:11:40.840 and that's the goal that I have, no matter what 0:11:40.880 --> 0:11:43.280 group I'm in front of, sports or business like, it's 0:11:43.320 --> 0:11:46.240 real life. And so whether I how many downs of 0:11:46.280 --> 0:11:48.559 football I played, which was freshman year high school and 0:11:49.280 --> 0:11:53.040 basketball solid solid freshman team. So the whole thing is 0:11:53.040 --> 0:11:54.720 they realize I've been through some shit in my life 0:11:54.720 --> 0:11:56.600 and I've been blessed at mentors and coaches to get 0:11:56.640 --> 0:11:58.320 me up off that Matt life. And then I always 0:11:58.360 --> 0:12:01.000 say Now that's my story. But I know everybody sitting 0:12:01.040 --> 0:12:03.000 in this room you have a story too, and it's 0:12:03.000 --> 0:12:05.160 helping them realize. Like I know, you've been through your shit. 0:12:05.200 --> 0:12:07.320 I've been through my shit. So if we can't connect there, 0:12:07.640 --> 0:12:09.520 there's really no work for us to do. There's really 0:12:09.600 --> 0:12:11.559 no motivation to come from until I can figure out 0:12:11.559 --> 0:12:13.800 what's in your heart, what's the fire that lies inside 0:12:13.800 --> 0:12:15.120 of you or the burners, you know I like to 0:12:15.120 --> 0:12:16.800 call it. It's going to cause you to get up 0:12:16.840 --> 0:12:18.280 on those days you don't want to do anymore. 0:12:18.559 --> 0:12:22.000 Right, you want to talk about in a nutshell your 0:12:22.040 --> 0:12:22.680 mom's story. 0:12:23.240 --> 0:12:25.640 Yeah, I mean it's I think about it every day. 0:12:25.760 --> 0:12:25.960 You know. 0:12:27.160 --> 0:12:29.160 You know, we all have a story. We all have 0:12:29.240 --> 0:12:31.520 challenge and adversity. And for me, I had to grow 0:12:31.600 --> 0:12:34.199 up fast because my mom was diagnosed with a rare 0:12:34.280 --> 0:12:39.560 muscle disease. Nineteen eighty three was the year I was 0:12:39.600 --> 0:12:41.920 five years old. When she was diagnosed. She goes to 0:12:42.000 --> 0:12:45.800 a hospital in Boston. Everybody in their muscles, they have ameloids. 0:12:45.800 --> 0:12:47.920 So Taylor, you have ameloids, Will's got them, I've got them. 0:12:47.960 --> 0:12:49.480 If you have an excess of amyloids, you have a 0:12:49.480 --> 0:12:52.840 disease called ameloid dosis. Ameloids slowly eat away at your 0:12:52.920 --> 0:12:55.800 muscles and you die. There's no cure for the disease. 0:12:56.240 --> 0:12:59.079 So my mom goes to Boston meets with a woman 0:12:59.120 --> 0:13:00.800 by the name of doctor Mark with the Skinner. Doctor 0:13:00.800 --> 0:13:02.960 Skinner tells her you got two to four years to live, 0:13:03.280 --> 0:13:05.440 and you're only the second woman under forty years old 0:13:05.480 --> 0:13:07.720 I've ever seen or heard of having this disease. Ammal 0:13:07.720 --> 0:13:11.120 A doses and my mom greatest prize fighter I've ever 0:13:11.160 --> 0:13:13.360 met in my life. My mom takes out an old 0:13:13.440 --> 0:13:15.959 journal and she starts writing and allowed that to become 0:13:16.000 --> 0:13:18.440 a place where she unleashed her positive mental attitude onto 0:13:18.480 --> 0:13:21.280 the world. And she wrote, beat the statistics, beat the odds, 0:13:21.320 --> 0:13:23.480 live with the disease that is chronic and fatal, believe 0:13:23.520 --> 0:13:26.880 in yourself, combat anything purpose in life. And she showed 0:13:26.960 --> 0:13:29.160 up every night. As I've told you so many times. 0:13:29.480 --> 0:13:31.080 You know, my mom would come to the dinner table 0:13:31.120 --> 0:13:32.880 with an IV stand when we had twenty four hour 0:13:32.960 --> 0:13:34.520 nursing care in the house to ask me how my 0:13:34.600 --> 0:13:36.640 day was at school. So it's like when I get 0:13:36.679 --> 0:13:38.280 hit with something in life, it's like you better come 0:13:38.280 --> 0:13:39.959 with some serious heat and some serious fire. If you 0:13:40.000 --> 0:13:42.040 think you're gonna break me, well, what I've seen with 0:13:42.080 --> 0:13:45.080 these two eyes and one of the special moments I 0:13:45.120 --> 0:13:47.400 have with my mom's story because she taught me how 0:13:47.440 --> 0:13:48.960 to live, She taught me how to fight, she taught 0:13:49.000 --> 0:13:50.800 me how to rise up when you don't want to 0:13:50.840 --> 0:13:53.320 do it. And she passed away eleven days before my 0:13:53.360 --> 0:13:55.640 eighth birthday. But I continue her fight all the time 0:13:55.679 --> 0:13:59.560 I share her story. You are only the second person 0:14:00.640 --> 0:14:02.679 that has touched you. We actually the first, and then 0:14:02.679 --> 0:14:06.240 I actually I shared it this year with one speaking engagement, 0:14:06.280 --> 0:14:09.720 but you were the first person that I let up. 0:14:09.760 --> 0:14:12.200 And remember when I took out the journal, So we 0:14:12.240 --> 0:14:14.120 have this moment. I keep my mom's journal in the 0:14:14.120 --> 0:14:16.440 safe at home, and it was I think before your 0:14:16.480 --> 0:14:19.200 second season where we knew like you were really starting 0:14:19.200 --> 0:14:21.080 to make moves and things were really starting to take place, 0:14:21.080 --> 0:14:22.160 and I said, man, I said, I want to show 0:14:22.160 --> 0:14:23.480 you something. We go up to the office because you 0:14:23.520 --> 0:14:25.160 always come over and stay at the house, and I 0:14:25.200 --> 0:14:26.880 pulled out the journal and just gave it to him, 0:14:27.040 --> 0:14:29.000 and you just sat there like there aren't many things 0:14:29.040 --> 0:14:30.760 that make you speechless. And he's like, bro, I don't 0:14:30.760 --> 0:14:32.760 know what to say yeah, and just like touching this 0:14:32.880 --> 0:14:35.400 journal because he and I become so close, and then 0:14:35.440 --> 0:14:38.480 to touch that journal that's been my life's testimony. H 0:14:38.840 --> 0:14:40.440 It was just wild for me to be. 0:14:40.440 --> 0:14:43.360 Able to Yeah, they're like looking at handwriting and stuff 0:14:43.400 --> 0:14:45.320 like that. It's just my mom's Yeah. Knowing that was 0:14:45.320 --> 0:14:46.880 back in What'd you say in nineteen eighty three? 0:14:47.040 --> 0:14:50.720 She passed away November second, nineteen eighty six, but nineteen 0:14:50.760 --> 0:14:52.520 eighty three was when she was diagnosed. So she made it. 0:14:52.600 --> 0:14:53.480 She made it three years. 0:14:53.560 --> 0:14:56.800 And what was going on? Your dad was having issues 0:14:56.840 --> 0:14:58.760 too back then. I meant to where you had to 0:14:58.840 --> 0:15:01.000 kind of you talk about growing up fast, like, yeah, 0:15:01.040 --> 0:15:02.360 you had that stuff going on with your mom, but 0:15:02.400 --> 0:15:05.240 also your dad was you know, had his issues to 0:15:05.280 --> 0:15:07.800 where you had to be You're the You're. 0:15:07.760 --> 0:15:10.880 I'm the youngest, you're the youngest. Yeah, so my older brother. Yeah, 0:15:11.120 --> 0:15:13.520 so my mom passes away, Dad moves back into the house, 0:15:14.040 --> 0:15:16.440 and you know, he had issues with addiction, He had 0:15:16.480 --> 0:15:18.840 all types of stuff. I'm now coming home as an 0:15:18.840 --> 0:15:21.280 eight year old boy, and you think Dad's napping on 0:15:21.320 --> 0:15:24.000 the couch, but you know he's just he's had his day. 0:15:24.600 --> 0:15:27.760 And so that's by eight years old, right, And thankfully, 0:15:28.160 --> 0:15:30.480 you know, my dad turned that challenge into a great 0:15:30.480 --> 0:15:32.520 example for me that you can also fight through anything, 0:15:32.520 --> 0:15:34.680 because nine months later he realized, like, man, I can't 0:15:34.720 --> 0:15:37.080 live this way, I can't have kids. And you know, 0:15:37.160 --> 0:15:38.760 my dad has been a great example that. 0:15:38.760 --> 0:15:39.880 What were the things he was doing? 0:15:40.200 --> 0:15:42.960 Drugs and alcohol and you know, stuff that is challenging 0:15:43.000 --> 0:15:46.360 and tough, and so finally he got sober and he's 0:15:46.400 --> 0:15:48.560 literally been sober ever since. So nine months after my 0:15:48.600 --> 0:15:49.600 mom died, to now. 0:15:49.680 --> 0:15:52.280 Was he was a reason why, Like not the reason, 0:15:52.320 --> 0:15:52.880 but as part of. 0:15:52.840 --> 0:15:54.320 That reason, because of all the struggles you had to 0:15:54.360 --> 0:15:54.840 go through. 0:15:54.640 --> 0:15:55.960 With your mom and everything like that. 0:15:56.080 --> 0:15:57.800 So they were. They were divorced when I was six 0:15:57.840 --> 0:16:00.520 months old. So I think what it was though, was 0:16:00.720 --> 0:16:03.360 other issues my dad has had that it was such 0:16:03.360 --> 0:16:05.560 a hard life that I think he just he turned 0:16:05.600 --> 0:16:07.440 to that. And part of everybody's wired different, you know 0:16:07.440 --> 0:16:09.280 what I mean. There's people who can, right, we can 0:16:09.320 --> 0:16:12.240 have our bourbons, we can have fun, and people can 0:16:12.240 --> 0:16:14.240 handle it, and there's other people. It's it's a disease, 0:16:14.360 --> 0:16:16.040 no question. Yeah it's a disease. 0:16:16.240 --> 0:16:17.240 Yeah, it's crazy. 0:16:17.480 --> 0:16:19.360 I mean, anything can really become an addiction if you 0:16:19.440 --> 0:16:21.680 let it, whether it's video games. I mean, sugar is 0:16:21.800 --> 0:16:24.160 just such an addictive product that I literally have had 0:16:24.200 --> 0:16:25.360 people argue with me about that. 0:16:25.440 --> 0:16:26.400 No, sugar's not addictive. 0:16:26.480 --> 0:16:29.280 It's absolutely an addictive thing. You can't just look at 0:16:29.280 --> 0:16:31.560 his addiction as you know, just drugs or alcohol. Those 0:16:31.560 --> 0:16:33.200 are the easiest things to point out, but you can 0:16:33.240 --> 0:16:37.400 turn so many things into you know, addiction, even things 0:16:37.400 --> 0:16:39.000 that are good for you. You know, if you're working 0:16:39.000 --> 0:16:40.760 out all the time or whatever, you don't you still 0:16:40.760 --> 0:16:41.040 have to go. 0:16:41.040 --> 0:16:43.600 Out and live your regular life too, and stuff like that. 0:16:43.640 --> 0:16:46.120 But yeah, those types of things, especially like you know, 0:16:46.200 --> 0:16:50.000 drugs and alcohol, those are very difficult to go through, 0:16:50.040 --> 0:16:51.720 and it's so easy for people that don't do with 0:16:51.760 --> 0:16:53.320 those issues to look and say, hey, well it's not 0:16:53.360 --> 0:16:56.400 that big, just stop doing it, just stop doing your fine. Well, 0:16:56.440 --> 0:16:59.120 I mean, if you drink, your brain is chemically imbalanced. 0:16:59.160 --> 0:17:02.000 It's a depress you feel shitty when you get off fit. 0:17:02.040 --> 0:17:03.320 What's the easiest thing to do. We just still have 0:17:03.360 --> 0:17:05.520 a couple more. We'll hear the dog. They always say, 0:17:05.600 --> 0:17:07.600 we'll hair the dog. They bit you a little bit 0:17:07.600 --> 0:17:09.200 of that, and you start compounding those things on top 0:17:09.240 --> 0:17:12.080 of each other, and you come you become codependent on 0:17:12.080 --> 0:17:15.040 those things, and so it's it's a very it's a 0:17:15.080 --> 0:17:18.840 hard and you know, windy road and again definitely puts 0:17:18.840 --> 0:17:20.520 you into a spiral if you if you let it. 0:17:20.560 --> 0:17:23.359 And that goes for drugs too, not just illegal drugs, 0:17:23.400 --> 0:17:25.560 but you know, prescription drugs and all that those stuff. 0:17:25.600 --> 0:17:28.720 I mean, I'm very open with the fact that, like 0:17:29.240 --> 0:17:31.680 I mean, I've been giving prescription drugs before, like rolling 0:17:31.720 --> 0:17:34.160 ankle or something like that, and you know, you don't 0:17:34.280 --> 0:17:36.800 you don't feel better. There's no way you feel better 0:17:37.119 --> 0:17:38.680 than when you're on one of those pills that they 0:17:38.680 --> 0:17:41.280 make you feel amazing. But it comes. It comes with 0:17:41.320 --> 0:17:43.919 those you know, the repercussions. The next day you're a 0:17:43.920 --> 0:17:46.199 little more you're a little more agitated, you're a. 0:17:46.200 --> 0:17:47.320 Little more sure sep. 0:17:47.600 --> 0:17:50.160 It is a slippery still, but you get it's realizing. 0:17:50.280 --> 0:17:52.119 And I think the biggest thing that people need to 0:17:52.200 --> 0:17:54.920 understand is the biggest best thing you do for yourself 0:17:54.960 --> 0:17:57.600 is sit with yourself and and understand who you are 0:17:57.640 --> 0:18:00.159 and going through that process. The best process is to 0:18:00.160 --> 0:18:02.399 say well I am this person's figure out who you 0:18:02.480 --> 0:18:05.480 are not and then shaving that down process of elimination 0:18:05.800 --> 0:18:07.840 to finding out who you are and then growing from that. 0:18:08.000 --> 0:18:10.600 Those are the best ways to become like you know 0:18:10.960 --> 0:18:15.040 not you know, so, needing drugs or needing alcohol you 0:18:15.080 --> 0:18:18.120 can really stuff dependent. Yeah, that's the word I'm looking for. 0:18:18.200 --> 0:18:20.400 So it's it's definitely a slippery slope. 0:18:20.400 --> 0:18:21.359 It's hard for a lot of people. 0:18:21.400 --> 0:18:24.440 You bring up an interesting point that drugs, alcohol, anything 0:18:24.480 --> 0:18:26.760 in life. It's it's the way people think about things, right, 0:18:27.160 --> 0:18:29.160