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Speaker 3: She passed away November second, nineteen eighty six, but nineteen

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Speaker 4: It's because if if you play sports, it's the easiest

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Speaker 4: It's not as black and white. It's you gotta you know,

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Speaker 4: you got to read, You get to educate yourself.

434
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Speaker 2: You got to see.

435
00:19:34,800 --> 00:19:37,679
Speaker 4: You got to find your own deficiencies in yourself. What

436
00:19:37,760 --> 00:19:39,720
Speaker 4: it makes means to hear why are these things making

437
00:19:39,760 --> 00:19:40,320
Speaker 4: me into here?

438
00:19:40,560 --> 00:19:41,720
Speaker 2: And working on those things?

439
00:19:41,720 --> 00:19:44,359
Speaker 4: And I mean that's The best part about football is

440
00:19:44,359 --> 00:19:45,360
Speaker 4: it's such a competitive sport.

441
00:19:45,440 --> 00:19:47,320
Speaker 2: It'll tell you where you're at right then and there.

442
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Speaker 4: And so I mean, that's that's a big reason why

443
00:19:49,520 --> 00:19:53,199
Speaker 4: I'm so confident, is that football's helped me learn to

444
00:19:53,200 --> 00:19:55,199
Speaker 4: be a confident person. Not just that, but also like

445
00:19:55,480 --> 00:19:57,280
Speaker 4: when you have an issue with something, instead of hiding

446
00:19:57,280 --> 00:19:58,840
Speaker 4: from you to take a head on and if you

447
00:19:58,840 --> 00:20:01,560
Speaker 4: don't go and a tacket there, I mean, if I don't,

448
00:20:01,560 --> 00:20:03,200
Speaker 4: if I don't do something in the first fifteen minutes

449
00:20:03,200 --> 00:20:06,520
Speaker 4: of learning about something, I let it get the best of.

450
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Speaker 2: Me, which is a really difficult thing.

451
00:20:08,560 --> 00:20:11,000
Speaker 1: Sometimes, right, but figuring out like you guys are saying,

452
00:20:11,040 --> 00:20:13,640
Speaker 1: the self awareness factor, and then figuring out those weaknesses

453
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Speaker 1: and then okay, how do I supplement those weaknesses If

454
00:20:15,680 --> 00:20:18,200
Speaker 1: I can't do them, do them on my own us

455
00:20:18,240 --> 00:20:20,920
Speaker 1: with our diets, all of us you know, live well,

456
00:20:21,040 --> 00:20:24,560
Speaker 1: eat well, stuff like that. If you know you're struggling

457
00:20:24,600 --> 00:20:26,520
Speaker 1: in another area, you know. That's why we ended up

458
00:20:26,560 --> 00:20:30,280
Speaker 1: meeting up and going over psychological stuff, mental trainings and

459
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Speaker 1: things that kind of like you kind of try and

460
00:20:32,440 --> 00:20:35,040
Speaker 1: brainwash yourself being like a young rookie. That's how we met.

461
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Speaker 1: We met over Twitter.

462
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Speaker 3: So I gotta tell the story. I mean, everybody's good

463
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Speaker 3: Twitter story. Yeah, well, I mean yeah, So we meet

464
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Speaker 3: over Twitter because we had a mutual friend. We didn't

465
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Speaker 3: know each other. All my work had been in the

466
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Speaker 3: corporate world. So I started speaking in two thousand and six,

467
00:20:49,000 --> 00:20:51,920
Speaker 3: coaching two thousand and eight, started books, and actually the

468
00:20:51,920 --> 00:20:53,360
Speaker 3: first talk I ever gave in sports in my old

469
00:20:53,440 --> 00:20:56,040
Speaker 3: high school basketball team in twenty eleven when the coach called.

470
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Speaker 3: So I'd done a little bit in sports, but not

471
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Speaker 3: a lot, never worked with a professional athlete. Yet I

472
00:21:00,560 --> 00:21:03,840
Speaker 3: had these six mental training tools for the business side, sales,

473
00:21:04,000 --> 00:21:06,840
Speaker 3: for sales, yeah, for people in sales and business performance.

474
00:21:06,880 --> 00:21:09,240
Speaker 3: And I was like, man, these will work in sports too,

475
00:21:09,720 --> 00:21:11,800
Speaker 3: And so Will and I get connected, and it was

476
00:21:11,960 --> 00:21:15,200
Speaker 3: like he's like, yeah, I'm gonna through the relationship. I'm

477
00:21:15,200 --> 00:21:17,119
Speaker 3: gonna trust this guy, and I'm gonna sit down with him.

478
00:21:17,200 --> 00:21:18,840
Speaker 3: I had never used these, right, so it's like, right,

479
00:21:18,920 --> 00:21:21,040
Speaker 3: we'll see see if this works in the world of sports.

480
00:21:21,720 --> 00:21:24,800
Speaker 3: And Will was in between the month of OTAs because

481
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Speaker 3: he had just been signed as an undrafted free agent

482
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Speaker 3: by the Redskins and was right before he was reporting

483
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Speaker 3: for training camp and I remember sending you that message.

484
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Speaker 3: After we connect, him like, he, ay, man, you want

485
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Speaker 3: to get together and talk mental toughness. Right. So I

486
00:21:35,320 --> 00:21:37,240
Speaker 3: had a belief, Hey man, this is going to work

487
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Speaker 3: with this guy. And then he was like, yeah, let's

488
00:21:39,320 --> 00:21:41,200
Speaker 3: get together. Let's do it. So we met every Monday

489
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Speaker 3: for a month.

490
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Speaker 1: Man.

491
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Speaker 3: The first time we meet, he sits down. We're sitting

492
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Speaker 3: across in a booth. I said, man, what's on your mind?

493
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Speaker 3: And he says, uh, will Man? I said, what's on

494
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Speaker 3: your mind? So those twenty thirteen what's on your mind?

495
00:21:52,520 --> 00:21:54,200
Speaker 3: He says, you know what, if it doesn't work out

496
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Speaker 3: with the Redskins, there's thirty one other teams. I knew

497
00:21:56,920 --> 00:21:58,440
Speaker 3: I had his ass, right. I mean the moment he

498
00:21:58,520 --> 00:22:00,560
Speaker 3: said that, I knew it was game over. These principles

499
00:22:00,560 --> 00:22:01,280
Speaker 3: are going to work, right.

500
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Speaker 1: Yeah.

501
00:22:01,800 --> 00:22:03,439
Speaker 3: So I looked at him and I said, wait a second, man,

502
00:22:03,640 --> 00:22:05,359
Speaker 3: I said, I know, we're just meet for the first time.

503
00:22:05,359 --> 00:22:08,880
Speaker 3: I got I'd like, I gotta ask you a question.

504
00:22:09,040 --> 00:22:11,960
Speaker 3: I got to ask you a question. What happens if

505
00:22:12,400 --> 00:22:14,439
Speaker 3: every day you start waking up and you tell yourself,

506
00:22:14,480 --> 00:22:16,920
Speaker 3: I'm a linebacker with the Washington Redskins, and if you

507
00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:18,560
Speaker 3: doubt yourself. In the middle of the day, you tell

508
00:22:18,600 --> 00:22:21,120
Speaker 3: yourself again, I am a linebacker with the Washington Redskins.

509
00:22:21,200 --> 00:22:23,119
Speaker 3: And before you go to bed, you tell yourself, man,

510
00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:25,840
Speaker 3: I'm a linebacker with the Washington Redskins. Now bear in mind,

511
00:22:25,880 --> 00:22:27,920
Speaker 3: he's seventh out of seven on the depth chart. Right,

512
00:22:28,240 --> 00:22:30,439
Speaker 3: they got it, They've got they got his Alfred Morris

513
00:22:30,600 --> 00:22:33,600
Speaker 3: camp jersey number forty six waiting for when he gets

514
00:22:33,600 --> 00:22:37,480
Speaker 3: to camp. And Walker, yeah, and he looked at me

515
00:22:37,520 --> 00:22:39,040
Speaker 3: and he says, you know what, he goes, I'm gonna

516
00:22:39,040 --> 00:22:42,479
Speaker 3: start saying that every single day. And he basically at

517
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Speaker 3: that moment he snapped his fingers like you said, fifteen minute,

518
00:22:44,960 --> 00:22:46,840
Speaker 3: you got to make a decision, right and bang he

519
00:22:46,920 --> 00:22:47,440
Speaker 3: believed in it.

520
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Speaker 2: Do you still say every day that you're the linebacker

521
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Speaker 2: for the Washington Redskins.

522
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Speaker 1: No, No, I don't doone. I don't I do have

523
00:22:53,560 --> 00:22:55,359
Speaker 1: goalsough Ben at Ben has helped me a lot. Like

524
00:22:55,640 --> 00:22:57,480
Speaker 1: I would go to Montero and he's in Saint Louis

525
00:22:57,520 --> 00:22:59,399
Speaker 1: and we would meet. We didn't meet in the middle

526
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Speaker 1: and just sit for like what an hour or two,

527
00:23:01,800 --> 00:23:03,320
Speaker 1: and you know, he would have stuff for me to do,

528
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Speaker 1: Like I read a couple like mental books, so I

529
00:23:05,240 --> 00:23:07,680
Speaker 1: was like obsessed with like mental psychology stuff. You know

530
00:23:07,680 --> 00:23:10,160
Speaker 1: how it goods you. You get motivated and you get

531
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Speaker 1: ready to go. And he wanted he reached out and

532
00:23:12,800 --> 00:23:14,200
Speaker 1: wanted to help me, and I knew he spoke and

533
00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:17,200
Speaker 1: did other things. So I was like, yeah, that'd be awesome.

534
00:23:17,200 --> 00:23:19,240
Speaker 1: I'd be honored to sit and you know, come up

535
00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:22,560
Speaker 1: with a plan because again you're like you're intimidated, and

536
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Speaker 1: then you go through OTAs and you're an undrafted guy

537
00:23:25,240 --> 00:23:27,359
Speaker 1: and you figure out like these guys don't know me

538
00:23:27,440 --> 00:23:29,760
Speaker 1: at all like I thought they would coming from Nebraska

539
00:23:29,800 --> 00:23:32,200
Speaker 1: because I was in Nebraska, and you're like, all these coaches,

540
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Speaker 1: whoever gets me into a camp, all I need to

541
00:23:33,760 --> 00:23:35,280
Speaker 1: do is get into a camp like they're and these

542
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Speaker 1: coaches they already know me, like Boe and them do

543
00:23:37,680 --> 00:23:39,720
Speaker 1: it with the with Nebraska, and they're gonna think, oh,

544
00:23:39,760 --> 00:23:41,359
Speaker 1: we got this guy, we got a diamond in the rough.

545
00:23:41,400 --> 00:23:44,640
Speaker 1: They didn't get drafted. You get there and you realize like, yeah,

546
00:23:44,640 --> 00:23:47,040
Speaker 1: you're probably gonna not gonna make this team and you're

547
00:23:47,080 --> 00:23:49,600
Speaker 1: at the bottom of every depth chart. Bro, I'm talking, Well,

548
00:23:50,040 --> 00:23:52,840
Speaker 1: there was two of us undrafted rookie free agents, and

549
00:23:53,160 --> 00:23:56,280
Speaker 1: he was playing before me. Like I was like, there

550
00:23:56,359 --> 00:23:58,040
Speaker 1: was three units and I wasn't. I just got to

551
00:23:58,080 --> 00:23:59,639
Speaker 1: mix in with the third unit every now and then.

552
00:24:00,200 --> 00:24:02,400
Speaker 1: And he wanted to meet, and you know, we met,

553
00:24:02,440 --> 00:24:04,639
Speaker 1: and I was kind of like nice and brainwashed going

554
00:24:04,680 --> 00:24:05,480
Speaker 1: into camp and you.

555
00:24:05,640 --> 00:24:07,399
Speaker 2: You said, I want to meet with Will. First.

556
00:24:07,880 --> 00:24:09,919
Speaker 3: I sent a message to him, and then he said, yeah, man,

557
00:24:10,000 --> 00:24:10,320
Speaker 3: let's do it.

558
00:24:10,440 --> 00:24:11,920
Speaker 1: He reached out. He's like, yeah, I love that you're

559
00:24:11,920 --> 00:24:14,520
Speaker 1: in the I said something about mental training. I can't

560
00:24:14,520 --> 00:24:16,359
Speaker 1: wait to get home and get him some book or

561
00:24:16,400 --> 00:24:18,440
Speaker 1: something like that. He reached out, said yeah, it's me.

562
00:24:18,560 --> 00:24:20,960
Speaker 1: Let's meet halfway. And then I went into camp.

563
00:24:21,200 --> 00:24:22,840
Speaker 3: But hold on before let me, I got to mention

564
00:24:22,960 --> 00:24:24,520
Speaker 3: this because I think this is for everybody, because you

565
00:24:24,600 --> 00:24:26,879
Speaker 3: had mentioned some of us were not in sports, right,

566
00:24:27,480 --> 00:24:30,400
Speaker 3: and so if you remember, he was a captain of Nebraska,

567
00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:32,560
Speaker 3: right number twelve all time tackles. So it's like, I

568
00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:34,600
Speaker 3: knew this guy could play some ball. So I said

569
00:24:34,640 --> 00:24:35,920
Speaker 3: to him, I said, I said, man, I said, what

570
00:24:36,160 --> 00:24:38,440
Speaker 3: made you a captain of Nebraska? Tell me all the

571
00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:40,440
Speaker 3: things that were one hundred percent in your control that

572
00:24:40,560 --> 00:24:42,880
Speaker 3: you did, right, and we just broke it down. He's like, man,

573
00:24:43,080 --> 00:24:45,480
Speaker 3: I studied more film more than anybody else. Man I

574
00:24:45,560 --> 00:24:47,159
Speaker 3: was in the playbook more than anybody else. I was

575
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Speaker 3: on top of my nutrition and all these things he

576
00:24:49,359 --> 00:24:51,600
Speaker 3: could control. So I just asked the back to him.

577
00:24:51,600 --> 00:24:53,000
Speaker 3: I said, what happens if you show up that same

578
00:24:53,040 --> 00:24:55,240
Speaker 3: way with the Redskins? I said, what if you're another

579
00:24:55,359 --> 00:24:58,160
Speaker 3: coach breaking down game film as a rookie? I said,

580
00:24:58,280 --> 00:25:00,680
Speaker 3: focus on all these things you can control. And it

581
00:25:00,840 --> 00:25:04,239
Speaker 3: made him reconnect back to that confidence, like I am

582
00:25:04,320 --> 00:25:06,840
Speaker 3: that same dude. I am gonna go and it doesn't

583
00:25:06,880 --> 00:25:08,520
Speaker 3: matter where they tell me I am on a depth chart,

584
00:25:08,520 --> 00:25:10,320
Speaker 3: because I used to tell them, don't worry about where

585
00:25:10,320 --> 00:25:12,280
Speaker 3: they tell you are in a depth chart. Worry about

586
00:25:12,280 --> 00:25:15,160
Speaker 3: taking somebody's job when you get there, and absolutely dominate.

587
00:25:15,240 --> 00:25:16,959
Speaker 3: Lock in one day at a time, you win one

588
00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:18,719
Speaker 3: day at a time. It's going to take care of itself.

589
00:25:19,240 --> 00:25:21,600
Speaker 3: And those are the conversations we had, and then he

590
00:25:21,720 --> 00:25:24,119
Speaker 3: followed through with the action. And I think for anybody listening,

591
00:25:24,520 --> 00:25:26,159
Speaker 3: you can either say, oh, I have no idea what

592
00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:27,680
Speaker 3: it's going to take to be successful. Where you go

593
00:25:27,760 --> 00:25:30,160
Speaker 3: find out or you look at your past success and say,

594
00:25:30,200 --> 00:25:32,840
Speaker 3: am I actually willing to consistently do those things over

595
00:25:32,920 --> 00:25:35,320
Speaker 3: and over and over again to keep having success. So

596
00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:38,240
Speaker 3: you're the one who decided, man, I'm gonna choose the

597
00:25:38,359 --> 00:25:41,040
Speaker 3: action I take, And you just showed up different than

598
00:25:41,080 --> 00:25:42,600
Speaker 3: the kid who was like, man, I don't make it.

599
00:25:42,640 --> 00:25:45,480
Speaker 1: All The boy the Boys and the Boys goes back

600
00:25:45,520 --> 00:25:48,080
Speaker 1: early and I'm in the film room and I'm literally

601
00:25:48,200 --> 00:25:50,480
Speaker 1: game planning our offense for training camp for like those

602
00:25:50,560 --> 00:25:52,959
Speaker 1: few plays, I might get sure to be out there

603
00:25:52,960 --> 00:25:54,520
Speaker 1: because you're like, Okay, you can't fuck up if you

604
00:25:54,600 --> 00:25:57,920
Speaker 1: get that opportunity. Well a good you know. Fortunately for me,

605
00:25:58,200 --> 00:26:01,560
Speaker 1: some luck played into it. Keenan who was a draft

606
00:26:01,640 --> 00:26:04,200
Speaker 1: pick the year before and like the fourth round Keenan Robinson,

607
00:26:04,640 --> 00:26:06,840
Speaker 1: he's a stud player. He gets hurt and tears his

608
00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:09,440
Speaker 1: peck on day one up training camp, so immediately I

609
00:26:09,520 --> 00:26:11,560
Speaker 1: go from seventh and rotating with the third unit to

610
00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:13,200
Speaker 1: now I could just get to be with the threes.

611
00:26:13,880 --> 00:26:16,040
Speaker 1: And then the guy who was undrafted in front of me,

612
00:26:17,320 --> 00:26:20,680
Speaker 1: Jeremy Kimbro, he moves up with the second unit. He

613
00:26:20,840 --> 00:26:24,000
Speaker 1: hurts his hamstring in that first week, so I immediately

614
00:26:24,040 --> 00:26:27,440
Speaker 1: get thrusted to go with the twos and the boy

615
00:26:27,560 --> 00:26:29,120
Speaker 1: has a day one day where I had like two

616
00:26:29,240 --> 00:26:30,760
Speaker 1: picks and stuff like that to where I got to

617
00:26:30,800 --> 00:26:33,320
Speaker 1: be with the second unit in preseason. So look like

618
00:26:33,840 --> 00:26:37,080
Speaker 1: all this stuff kind of happens, And definitely that that helped,

619
00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:38,960
Speaker 1: Like knowing all that stuff and you're going in like,

620
00:26:39,320 --> 00:26:40,840
Speaker 1: you know, I'm gonna show out a few plays I

621
00:26:40,920 --> 00:26:44,480
Speaker 1: do get. But fortunately, fortunately on a personal level for me,

622
00:26:44,640 --> 00:26:46,040
Speaker 1: a couple guys go down in front of you, which

623
00:26:46,040 --> 00:26:48,280
Speaker 1: is what happens. Bribel said on You Know when he

624
00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:50,040
Speaker 1: was on the podcast, the injury in the NFL's one

625
00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:51,840
Speaker 1: hundred percent, so you better be ready for your opportunities

626
00:26:51,840 --> 00:26:52,120
Speaker 1: are going.

627
00:26:52,119 --> 00:26:52,800
Speaker 2: To go down all the time.

628
00:26:52,920 --> 00:26:54,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, people who probably listening to that when you're explaining,

629
00:26:54,800 --> 00:26:57,520
Speaker 4: like well, what a dick, Like he's unfortunate things for me,

630
00:26:57,600 --> 00:26:58,239
Speaker 4: Like people got hurt.

631
00:26:58,320 --> 00:26:59,040
Speaker 2: Like that's just the way it is.

632
00:26:59,119 --> 00:27:00,919
Speaker 4: That's just the way it is, man, because a lot

633
00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:03,280
Speaker 4: of times in the NFL, it's not how good you are,

634
00:27:03,400 --> 00:27:05,439
Speaker 4: it's not how like it's sometimes like hey, this.

635
00:27:05,480 --> 00:27:07,600
Speaker 2: Guy's our guy, and that's what it is. Sorry, and

636
00:27:07,720 --> 00:27:09,080
Speaker 2: you're gonna have to go on a different team and

637
00:27:09,119 --> 00:27:11,280
Speaker 2: that's just that's just how it works. And there's really

638
00:27:11,359 --> 00:27:12,840
Speaker 2: no right or wrong like rhyme or.

639
00:27:12,840 --> 00:27:14,560
Speaker 4: Reason, but it is what it is, and like it

640
00:27:14,720 --> 00:27:17,000
Speaker 4: just when stuff starts clicking like you, like you do

641
00:27:17,080 --> 00:27:18,200
Speaker 4: take advantage of that kind of stuff.

642
00:27:18,240 --> 00:27:20,119
Speaker 1: So and then when that guy goes down and you

643
00:27:20,200 --> 00:27:22,000
Speaker 1: know how it is, it's that next man of mentality,

644
00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:25,240
Speaker 1: Like when you're out last year, who is Dennis Kelly

645
00:27:25,240 --> 00:27:25,879
Speaker 1: who comes in after you?

646
00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:26,080
Speaker 3: Right?

647
00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:28,200
Speaker 4: Yes, Dennison actually end up getting hurt too. So the

648
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Speaker 4: first the first first game of the season, I got

649
00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:35,560
Speaker 4: knocked out. We had the longest game in NFL history,

650
00:27:36,040 --> 00:27:37,720
Speaker 4: but against the Miami Dolphins. Is there were so many

651
00:27:37,880 --> 00:27:40,000
Speaker 4: so much rain and thunder and lightning. So I ended

652
00:27:40,040 --> 00:27:42,679
Speaker 4: up getting knocked out right after the second half, right

653
00:27:42,720 --> 00:27:45,000
Speaker 4: after the first half, in the in the third quarter.

654
00:27:45,359 --> 00:27:45,960
Speaker 2: So I was out.

655
00:27:46,280 --> 00:27:49,159
Speaker 4: The next week, Dennis was starting at left tackle. Dennis

656
00:27:49,240 --> 00:27:51,960
Speaker 4: ended up having a situation. I'm not gonna talk about

657
00:27:51,960 --> 00:27:53,720
Speaker 4: his stuff is it's not that's the number one right

658
00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:57,639
Speaker 4: I've never talked about so like Ray and Dennis had

659
00:27:57,680 --> 00:27:58,000
Speaker 4: his thing.

660
00:27:58,320 --> 00:28:01,280
Speaker 2: So now we had our third tackle and Jack was

661
00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:06,880
Speaker 2: out too, So out yeah, Jack. Jack was hurt.

662
00:28:06,920 --> 00:28:09,200
Speaker 4: He was coming back from his injury. I get hurt,

663
00:28:09,240 --> 00:28:12,680
Speaker 4: so our starters are out, Dennis is now starting. He

664
00:28:12,840 --> 00:28:17,040
Speaker 4: gets his situation on Wednesday or whatever that week he's out.

665
00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:20,040
Speaker 4: So we're playing the Houston Texans with our fourth and

666
00:28:20,119 --> 00:28:21,000
Speaker 4: fifth tackle.

667
00:28:21,440 --> 00:28:23,399
Speaker 2: And it's like it's just wild.

668
00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:27,399
Speaker 4: Kevin pan File, Kevin pant File or pant Field and

669
00:28:27,840 --> 00:28:30,840
Speaker 4: I don't remember who was starting here at right, and.

670
00:28:30,920 --> 00:28:34,280
Speaker 1: He either got activated or brought Tyler Merris.

671
00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:37,600
Speaker 4: He Tyler did such a great job, dude. He came

672
00:28:37,640 --> 00:28:38,840
Speaker 4: in and was he was a stuck cause I got

673
00:28:38,920 --> 00:28:40,840
Speaker 4: hurt in Buffalo too, and he he came in.

674
00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:42,120
Speaker 2: And held his own against Jerry Hughes.

675
00:28:42,160 --> 00:28:44,840
Speaker 4: But yeah, like Tyler's that kind of do too, like

676
00:28:45,000 --> 00:28:46,960
Speaker 4: kind of he's been lucky enough to be with the Titans.

677
00:28:47,000 --> 00:28:48,760
Speaker 2: Like I think he's going his fourth year. It's kind

678
00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:51,680
Speaker 2: of like you like he's behind me and Jack and Dennis,

679
00:28:51,720 --> 00:28:52,400
Speaker 2: and like he's kind of.

680
00:28:52,400 --> 00:28:54,720
Speaker 4: Like on that bubble every single year. He's got that stress,

681
00:28:54,800 --> 00:28:56,600
Speaker 4: like right now is going to be the most stressful

682
00:28:56,600 --> 00:28:57,080
Speaker 4: time of the year.

683
00:28:57,400 --> 00:28:59,240
Speaker 2: Figure out what's going on. He handles it so well.

684
00:28:59,560 --> 00:29:00,320
Speaker 2: He's a man.

685
00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:02,200
Speaker 4: He really had some stuff on pro. But we went

686
00:29:02,280 --> 00:29:04,640
Speaker 4: into that game and it's like Kevin Panfield. We picked

687
00:29:04,680 --> 00:29:06,560
Speaker 4: him from Tampa Bay. We like he was on the

688
00:29:06,600 --> 00:29:09,440
Speaker 4: team for six months, he was starting. And then Tyler

689
00:29:09,520 --> 00:29:12,440
Speaker 4: has been on the team for three years, but he's

690
00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:14,400
Speaker 4: never had played, he's never played in a real game,

691
00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:16,080
Speaker 4: and now he's dressing and playing.

692
00:29:16,120 --> 00:29:18,000
Speaker 2: It's it's just wild how things just happen.

693
00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:20,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, and it happens that fast, and no one

694
00:29:20,400 --> 00:29:23,280
Speaker 1: gives a ship like get there at all, like the

695
00:29:23,400 --> 00:29:25,080
Speaker 1: head coach, and then they'll look at you like, hey,

696
00:29:25,080 --> 00:29:26,560
Speaker 1: you're up at your time, like your name is the

697
00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:28,600
Speaker 1: one being said in meetings now and you sit there

698
00:29:28,600 --> 00:29:30,240
Speaker 1: with that like nerves feel like yo, I gotta go

699
00:29:30,280 --> 00:29:32,320
Speaker 1: out there, and I gotta go out there and ball now,

700
00:29:32,480 --> 00:29:34,440
Speaker 1: like it doesn't matter that I am. I was a

701
00:29:34,480 --> 00:29:35,840
Speaker 1: fourth guy, or people are going to be like, oh,

702
00:29:35,840 --> 00:29:37,000
Speaker 1: you know, he made a mistake because he was a

703
00:29:37,040 --> 00:29:39,240
Speaker 1: four stringer, and the like no, you gotta you gotta

704
00:29:39,280 --> 00:29:41,000
Speaker 1: perform or you'll get your ass get cut.

705
00:29:41,040 --> 00:29:43,680
Speaker 4: They don't expect any any drop off, Like there's some

706
00:29:43,800 --> 00:29:45,760
Speaker 4: elite dudes that when then they go down and you're

707
00:29:45,800 --> 00:29:48,440
Speaker 4: just like fuck man, like your quarterback goes down, yeah,

708
00:29:48,600 --> 00:29:51,600
Speaker 4: for sure, ship, or like you got a wide receiver,

709
00:29:51,760 --> 00:29:53,719
Speaker 4: Like it's a big time dude, Like you can't really

710
00:29:53,760 --> 00:29:55,760
Speaker 4: replace those, right, He's gonna a little bit of a

711
00:29:55,800 --> 00:29:57,920
Speaker 4: drop and if like things just happened, man, and they

712
00:29:58,000 --> 00:29:59,520
Speaker 4: expect you to play just as well as that when

713
00:29:59,560 --> 00:29:59,800
Speaker 4: you're a.

714
00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:02,560
Speaker 1: Star, yeah at the start, and then when you're like

715
00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:04,400
Speaker 1: that young cat or you're finally getting an opportunity, like

716
00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:06,080
Speaker 1: you know, that might be your only opportunity you get

717
00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:08,600
Speaker 1: because if you're say you're a lower rounder, undrafted guy,

718
00:30:08,760 --> 00:30:11,440
Speaker 1: you might only get one shot. If you're higher, you

719
00:30:11,560 --> 00:30:13,880
Speaker 1: might get a couple like slap on the wrist and

720
00:30:13,960 --> 00:30:16,680
Speaker 1: get a few extra chances because you're you know, that's

721
00:30:16,680 --> 00:30:19,600
Speaker 1: why they drafted you. But when you're on that lower cuff, man,

722
00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:21,640
Speaker 1: if you don't, if you don't take advantage when you

723
00:30:21,680 --> 00:30:23,920
Speaker 1: do get when your name is called, like it's like, Okay,

724
00:30:23,960 --> 00:30:25,320
Speaker 1: he didn't work out, get him out of here. But

725
00:30:25,400 --> 00:30:27,000
Speaker 1: if you do work out, it's like, oh, we found somebody,

726
00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:29,480
Speaker 1: we got lucky. Oh it's our scouting department, Like, yeah,

727
00:30:29,760 --> 00:30:31,640
Speaker 1: this is us, we found him. But if not, it's like,

728
00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:33,720
Speaker 1: oh he didn't work out. We figured Yeah.

729
00:30:33,760 --> 00:30:35,400
Speaker 2: There's definitely not a shorte of people that want that

730
00:30:35,480 --> 00:30:37,280
Speaker 2: want to play in the NFL. That's for sure, Yeah,

731
00:30:37,600 --> 00:30:38,040
Speaker 2: no doubt.

732
00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:39,800
Speaker 4: But if you're like, I don't know, the NFL is

733
00:30:39,840 --> 00:30:42,480
Speaker 4: one thing I feel like talking to full of plays.

734
00:30:42,520 --> 00:30:44,200
Speaker 4: I mean, I've sat in so many rooms and motivational

735
00:30:44,200 --> 00:30:46,280
Speaker 4: speakers have come in, and you know, nine times out

736
00:30:46,280 --> 00:30:48,160
Speaker 4: of ten, I get pretty hyped up. I'm easily hyped

737
00:30:48,160 --> 00:30:49,880
Speaker 4: because I love watching those motivational videos.

738
00:30:50,160 --> 00:30:51,920
Speaker 2: I should read more. I'm gonna read more.

739
00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:52,440
Speaker 1: Send them to you.

740
00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:54,960
Speaker 2: You need to, Yeah, we do, because I'm all about that.

741
00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:56,600
Speaker 2: Like I love I love like.

742
00:30:58,160 --> 00:31:00,040
Speaker 4: I just love the idea of like being great. You

743
00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:01,479
Speaker 4: know what I'm saying. I love like all that kind

744
00:31:01,480 --> 00:31:02,760
Speaker 4: of stuff. I'm watching those videos and.

745
00:31:02,800 --> 00:31:04,560
Speaker 1: Reading this Taylor like to give you guys kind of

746
00:31:04,560 --> 00:31:06,640
Speaker 1: start for interrupting. But Taylor will like get hype in

747
00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:09,160
Speaker 1: the morning, right well, because we work out together and

748
00:31:09,240 --> 00:31:11,080
Speaker 1: they'll like send me say it's like Econa McGregor or

749
00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:13,200
Speaker 1: something about law of attraction or something. Joe Rogan said,

750
00:31:13,240 --> 00:31:15,040
Speaker 1: that's a huge Like he'll like send it, you know,

751
00:31:15,080 --> 00:31:16,560
Speaker 1: and it'll just get you hype. So that's like what

752
00:31:16,640 --> 00:31:18,400
Speaker 1: he's talking about when he says he gets super into that.

753
00:31:18,640 --> 00:31:20,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, but you can't be just like you know, if

754
00:31:20,960 --> 00:31:22,520
Speaker 2: it's football players, it's easy. You feel.

755
00:31:22,560 --> 00:31:24,720
Speaker 4: You put a video a couple of guys making some

756
00:31:24,760 --> 00:31:27,120
Speaker 4: big hits, there's a hyped up they go out to

757
00:31:27,360 --> 00:31:30,440
Speaker 4: play football, Like what's it doing between football players? And

758
00:31:30,480 --> 00:31:32,320
Speaker 4: then when you go into like a fortune five hundred company,

759
00:31:32,320 --> 00:31:33,680
Speaker 4: and you got to go and talk to these people

760
00:31:34,120 --> 00:31:36,320
Speaker 4: that are have been suits their whole life since birth,

761
00:31:36,360 --> 00:31:37,040
Speaker 4: they've been suits.

762
00:31:37,440 --> 00:31:40,240
Speaker 3: Well, for for me, it's actually the same principles and

763
00:31:40,240 --> 00:31:42,960
Speaker 3: the same lessons, right. It's finding somebody's burn, it's finding

764
00:31:43,000 --> 00:31:46,360
Speaker 3: somebody's motivation. It's finding the actual reason why they want

765
00:31:46,400 --> 00:31:48,040
Speaker 3: to do the work. And if you find the reason

766
00:31:48,120 --> 00:31:49,840
Speaker 3: why somebody wants to do the work, they're going to

767
00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:51,560
Speaker 3: go do the work right, And then it's holding them

768
00:31:51,560 --> 00:31:54,880
Speaker 3: accountable to it. And it's very similar. There's business people

769
00:31:54,920 --> 00:31:57,160
Speaker 3: who they want you to get them all fired up, right.

770
00:31:57,200 --> 00:31:59,120
Speaker 3: There's sales teams. I may go give a sales talk

771
00:31:59,120 --> 00:32:00,400
Speaker 3: and they're like, can you bring the heat like some

772
00:32:00,440 --> 00:32:02,760
Speaker 3: of those locker room videos we've seen. And then you

773
00:32:02,800 --> 00:32:04,640
Speaker 3: know there are some athletes who are like, bro, if

774
00:32:04,680 --> 00:32:06,600
Speaker 3: you bring anything like that, like, don't ever leave me

775
00:32:06,600 --> 00:32:09,160
Speaker 3: a voicemail again to hype me up for a game. Yeah,

776
00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:12,040
Speaker 3: there's some NFL players like the messages. To them, it's

777
00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:15,400
Speaker 3: very chill. It's you know, it's a poison confidence type message.

778
00:32:15,400 --> 00:32:17,600
Speaker 3: It's more laid back. And then there's other guys like, man,

779
00:32:17,600 --> 00:32:19,120
Speaker 3: if you're going to leave me a voicemail, you better

780
00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:21,479
Speaker 3: bring it otherwise, don't leave me a message. So it's

781
00:32:21,520 --> 00:32:23,840
Speaker 3: the same way, right, because there's gonna be guys in

782
00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:26,120
Speaker 3: the business world who were former athletes, right, maybe they

783
00:32:26,160 --> 00:32:28,560
Speaker 3: played high school football, maybe they played college. To me,

784
00:32:28,720 --> 00:32:32,120
Speaker 3: we all have that adrenaline, and everybody likes that adrenaline

785
00:32:32,200 --> 00:32:34,880
Speaker 3: up differently. So I believe my goal is I got

786
00:32:34,960 --> 00:32:36,760
Speaker 3: to connect with somebody and figure out what are they like,

787
00:32:36,840 --> 00:32:39,200
Speaker 3: what motivates them? And once I find that, man, I'll

788
00:32:39,240 --> 00:32:41,120
Speaker 3: go get it right. And so I think that's like

789
00:32:41,200 --> 00:32:44,080
Speaker 3: with Will, one of the things we'd have like maybe keywords, right,

790
00:32:44,080 --> 00:32:45,960
Speaker 3: I mean, there's so many different things. Man. Once you'd

791
00:32:46,000 --> 00:32:47,600
Speaker 3: hone in on something like you'd say it to him

792
00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:49,280
Speaker 3: and he would just be ready to go. And there

793
00:32:49,320 --> 00:32:51,440
Speaker 3: were almost times he was like I would be like

794
00:32:51,640 --> 00:32:53,320
Speaker 3: that message was too long for you, wasn't it? Like

795
00:32:53,400 --> 00:32:55,720
Speaker 3: you just needed me to say this because we've become

796
00:32:55,840 --> 00:32:57,880
Speaker 3: so close like brothers. He's just like, bro like that,

797
00:32:58,080 --> 00:32:59,200
Speaker 3: just just give me the three words.

798
00:32:59,240 --> 00:33:01,720
Speaker 1: That's all I had. Yeah, Like I don't need the

799
00:33:01,760 --> 00:33:05,320
Speaker 1: whole paragraph. Everybody just straight, yeah, straight.

800
00:33:05,240 --> 00:33:06,280
Speaker 2: Will is I got.

801
00:33:06,320 --> 00:33:10,440
Speaker 4: I hate complimenting the boy, but Will is definitely without it.

802
00:33:10,480 --> 00:33:13,440
Speaker 4: I won't be hardest, like Will wants to be great

803
00:33:13,600 --> 00:33:16,080
Speaker 4: so bad and it's not just like my whole life

804
00:33:16,120 --> 00:33:18,120
Speaker 4: since I got a scholarship off ROC talk all the time,

805
00:33:18,200 --> 00:33:20,760
Speaker 4: I got to offer from Utah State spring ball going

806
00:33:20,800 --> 00:33:23,280
Speaker 4: into my senior year and I as us an offer

807
00:33:23,320 --> 00:33:24,800
Speaker 4: from them. I was like, I'm going to the NFL,

808
00:33:25,280 --> 00:33:27,480
Speaker 4: like that's it, and people are like, well, and then

809
00:33:27,760 --> 00:33:29,600
Speaker 4: you know, I don't know, it's not I'm going that

810
00:33:29,760 --> 00:33:29,960
Speaker 4: is it.

811
00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:32,280
Speaker 2: It's done. And I never had a plan, a plan B.

812
00:33:32,360 --> 00:33:33,560
Speaker 2: It was always like, well, I'm going to the NFL.

813
00:33:33,560 --> 00:33:34,280
Speaker 2: I'm going to the NFL.

814
00:33:34,760 --> 00:33:37,360
Speaker 4: Will has done such a great job of making his

815
00:33:37,440 --> 00:33:39,480
Speaker 4: dream scome true of going to the NFL, working so hard,

816
00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:42,320
Speaker 4: becoming a captain, while the other captain the Redskins right,

817
00:33:42,800 --> 00:33:44,720
Speaker 4: doing those types of things. But the whole time, I

818
00:33:44,760 --> 00:33:46,520
Speaker 4: all get in this car and he's listening to some

819
00:33:46,640 --> 00:33:49,120
Speaker 4: damn podcasts about real estate and he's listening to a

820
00:33:49,160 --> 00:33:52,320
Speaker 4: podcast about you know, how to diversify your portfolio so

821
00:33:52,400 --> 00:33:54,480
Speaker 4: your money grows. But and it was like this dude

822
00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:56,640
Speaker 4: just like want He just wants it.

823
00:33:56,880 --> 00:33:59,800
Speaker 2: Whatever that is. It's it's very admirable to see.

824
00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:00,560
Speaker 1: I appreciate that.

825
00:34:00,640 --> 00:34:01,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, fuck yourself.

826
00:34:02,360 --> 00:34:08,000
Speaker 3: And I believes, well he doesn't. He doesn't realize that that.

827
00:34:08,280 --> 00:34:10,160
Speaker 3: He inspires the hell out of me too, right, So

828
00:34:10,280 --> 00:34:12,880
Speaker 3: it's I maybe came in, We'll still do this.

829
00:34:14,560 --> 00:34:14,799
Speaker 1: Ticket.

830
00:34:15,200 --> 00:34:18,800
Speaker 3: Hey it's iron, it's it's iron sharpens iron. But I

831
00:34:18,840 --> 00:34:21,960
Speaker 3: mean he he definitely motivates me. His story, his belief,

832
00:34:22,040 --> 00:34:24,080
Speaker 3: his fight, I mean all kinds of crazy stuff. The

833
00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:26,040
Speaker 3: only issue I've ever had with Will is when we

834
00:34:26,080 --> 00:34:28,520
Speaker 3: first started speaking together, getting his ass off the stage

835
00:34:28,920 --> 00:34:30,640
Speaker 3: because we went to Nebraska and it's like, I don't

836
00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:31,879
Speaker 3: know how you get the mic out of his mouth.

837
00:34:31,880 --> 00:34:33,560
Speaker 3: I'm glad you get to speak every now and again,

838
00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:36,279
Speaker 3: you know, because like we'd get I remember the one

839
00:34:36,280 --> 00:34:38,520
Speaker 3: time we went to that military university, right, and he's

840
00:34:38,520 --> 00:34:40,120
Speaker 3: all these troops, and I think he's fired up because

841
00:34:40,120 --> 00:34:41,560
Speaker 3: he's speaking to the troops, right, And it was I

842
00:34:41,600 --> 00:34:43,800
Speaker 3: think we each had twenty minutes and you know, so

843
00:34:44,040 --> 00:34:46,279
Speaker 3: he's got twenty, I've got twenty. He goes first, We're

844
00:34:46,360 --> 00:34:47,960
Speaker 3: like thirty five minutes in. I'm like, bro, I just

845
00:34:48,040 --> 00:34:49,440
Speaker 3: want to like thank him for their I.

846
00:34:49,480 --> 00:34:52,080
Speaker 5: Gotta say hi, yeah, we got to get you off

847
00:34:52,120 --> 00:34:53,919
Speaker 5: the stage. And then he's like, did I go too long?

848
00:34:54,000 --> 00:34:57,320
Speaker 5: And I'm like, yeah, you took the whole time. So

849
00:34:57,360 --> 00:34:59,040
Speaker 5: I'm glad you've taught him. He's got to share, you

850
00:34:59,120 --> 00:34:59,480
Speaker 5: know what I mean.

851
00:34:59,480 --> 00:35:02,719
Speaker 2: I don't think I'm I talk more than him.

852
00:35:02,880 --> 00:35:05,280
Speaker 3: Well, I always tell him, you know, there's three boys

853
00:35:05,320 --> 00:35:07,760
Speaker 3: in the family. I say, this is the only family

854
00:35:07,840 --> 00:35:10,879
Speaker 3: I've ever met where literally like you're like the only child,

855
00:35:11,000 --> 00:35:12,719
Speaker 3: yet there's three children, you know what I mean. He

856
00:35:12,760 --> 00:35:14,160
Speaker 3: doesn't share, He doesn't do any of that.

857
00:35:14,200 --> 00:35:21,000
Speaker 4: Now, down through the little things where transition actually a

858
00:35:21,040 --> 00:35:22,560
Speaker 4: table person, I really think about it.

859
00:35:23,239 --> 00:35:25,040
Speaker 1: You get down on a naty greedy but how like

860
00:35:26,320 --> 00:35:28,200
Speaker 1: so you you are where you are now, but it

861
00:35:28,320 --> 00:35:30,279
Speaker 1: all started somewhere, like you get down in Michigan State.

862
00:35:30,440 --> 00:35:32,239
Speaker 1: Why like why all of a sudden are you now

863
00:35:33,200 --> 00:35:36,200
Speaker 1: being told or asked to speak? Why are you now

864
00:35:36,239 --> 00:35:38,359
Speaker 1: in these rooms? Like where where did it start? Where

865
00:35:38,360 --> 00:35:41,200
Speaker 1: did it come from? Because you worked in Northwestern Mutual. Correct.

866
00:35:41,280 --> 00:35:44,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, I was a financial advisor over ten years, and yeah,

867
00:35:44,000 --> 00:35:45,960
Speaker 3: I mean I had a great run, you know, on

868
00:35:46,040 --> 00:35:47,960
Speaker 3: that professional side of things. But you know what, I

869
00:35:48,000 --> 00:35:50,800
Speaker 3: always look at the tough stuff I've been through and

870
00:35:50,920 --> 00:35:53,880
Speaker 3: how I responded. That defines the person that you become. Right, So,

871
00:35:54,200 --> 00:35:56,080
Speaker 3: if it wasn't enough my mom and my dad and

872
00:35:56,120 --> 00:35:58,040
Speaker 3: all these things, I was a paper broker in Chicago.

873
00:35:58,120 --> 00:36:01,359
Speaker 3: I was engaged for thirteen hours to my sweetheart. Right,

874
00:36:01,440 --> 00:36:03,239
Speaker 3: had I gone to Michigan, maybe I would have worked out.

875
00:36:03,320 --> 00:36:07,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'll tell you. You hear your motivational speaker. I

876
00:36:07,680 --> 00:36:10,160
Speaker 4: just can't imagine like someone coming from Michigan State Like,

877
00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:12,680
Speaker 4: I feel like the only motivation is getting the hell

878
00:36:12,719 --> 00:36:13,040
Speaker 4: out of there.

879
00:36:13,120 --> 00:36:13,239
Speaker 2: Right.

880
00:36:14,040 --> 00:36:15,960
Speaker 4: You have to think to yourself, man, like, that's why

881
00:36:16,040 --> 00:36:18,840
Speaker 4: when you knew man, my mom, my dad. But I

882
00:36:18,880 --> 00:36:20,680
Speaker 4: got the fuck out of this call. That's why other

883
00:36:20,800 --> 00:36:22,719
Speaker 4: thing and and now and now your.

884
00:36:22,640 --> 00:36:25,440
Speaker 2: Motivation is me. I'm really happy for you. You've come

885
00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:25,799
Speaker 2: this far.

886
00:36:26,600 --> 00:36:30,560
Speaker 3: Oh god, so engaged thirteen That won't be the end

887
00:36:30,600 --> 00:36:32,200
Speaker 3: of it either, now that he's opening it up. Yeah,

888
00:36:32,239 --> 00:36:34,400
Speaker 3: so engaged thirteen hours. Thank god? She told me no

889
00:36:34,480 --> 00:36:36,680
Speaker 3: otherwise I wouldn't have the life that I have. I

890
00:36:36,800 --> 00:36:39,080
Speaker 3: go back to the first time I was invited to speak, right,

891
00:36:39,120 --> 00:36:40,880
Speaker 3: I got paid five hundred bucks. I'm like, this is

892
00:36:40,920 --> 00:36:43,080
Speaker 3: the thing. And then like after that, I would get

893
00:36:43,120 --> 00:36:44,520
Speaker 3: coffee cups, you know, And then you got to come

894
00:36:44,520 --> 00:36:45,759
Speaker 3: home and tell your wife like, hey, I got a

895
00:36:45,800 --> 00:36:48,080
Speaker 3: coffee cup to speak. She's looking like, how the hell

896
00:36:48,200 --> 00:36:49,640
Speaker 3: is that going to pay the bills? Right when I

897
00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:51,560
Speaker 3: go to San Diego and they give you this beautiful

898
00:36:51,600 --> 00:36:55,239
Speaker 3: picture book and everybody signs it. Yet they paid my expenses, right, So,

899
00:36:55,360 --> 00:36:57,879
Speaker 3: like you live in this this land where here's my dream,

900
00:36:57,920 --> 00:36:59,600
Speaker 3: here's where I know I can get to. And everybody

901
00:36:59,600 --> 00:37:02,480
Speaker 3: always ask me. They're like, you work for Alabama Football,

902
00:37:03,200 --> 00:37:05,680
Speaker 3: you work for Kansas State, but you've worked for Microsoft,

903
00:37:05,840 --> 00:37:07,759
Speaker 3: Like how did you start. I'm like, well, I didn't

904
00:37:07,800 --> 00:37:10,719
Speaker 3: start there, right. Everybody wants that, and you know, you

905
00:37:10,840 --> 00:37:13,120
Speaker 3: hop on social media these days and everybody's an author,

906
00:37:13,200 --> 00:37:15,839
Speaker 3: everybody's a speaker, and I wish the best everybody because

907
00:37:15,840 --> 00:37:18,440
Speaker 3: I'm an abundant guy, right, But you got to put

908
00:37:18,480 --> 00:37:21,120
Speaker 3: in the work, and everybody wants the end result. Nobody

909
00:37:21,120 --> 00:37:22,600
Speaker 3: wants to do the work and it's like, look, I

910
00:37:22,680 --> 00:37:24,320
Speaker 3: hope you do become a great speaker. I hope you

911
00:37:24,440 --> 00:37:26,400
Speaker 3: do write books, but have a willingness to do the

912
00:37:26,480 --> 00:37:28,400
Speaker 3: work right, right, So I spoke, What did I tell you?

913
00:37:28,440 --> 00:37:30,239
Speaker 3: I spoke to my high school basketball team. That's my

914
00:37:30,280 --> 00:37:32,800
Speaker 3: first work in sports. I've gone back for eight years,

915
00:37:33,040 --> 00:37:35,520
Speaker 3: still giving back to my high school basketball team because

916
00:37:35,560 --> 00:37:37,400
Speaker 3: I love my coaches. They've helped me become the man

917
00:37:37,440 --> 00:37:39,200
Speaker 3: that I am today. Right, you've met him, You've come

918
00:37:39,239 --> 00:37:41,319
Speaker 3: back to my high school. So it's all those little

919
00:37:41,400 --> 00:37:43,279
Speaker 3: things that you have a willingness to do because there's

920
00:37:43,320 --> 00:37:45,600
Speaker 3: passion and you've got to fire inside you to go

921
00:37:45,760 --> 00:37:48,400
Speaker 3: do it rather than focusing on money, focusing on the results.

922
00:37:48,400 --> 00:37:49,680
Speaker 3: And most people don't want to do the work these

923
00:37:49,880 --> 00:37:50,279
Speaker 3: that's whatever.

924
00:37:50,320 --> 00:37:51,600
Speaker 2: That's where everyone wants to quick fix.

925
00:37:51,640 --> 00:37:53,680
Speaker 4: Everyone wants to just be rich and they want to

926
00:37:53,719 --> 00:37:55,880
Speaker 4: be famous in all this and it's like it's we

927
00:37:56,000 --> 00:37:57,959
Speaker 4: talked about it in a podcast before. It's like people

928
00:37:58,080 --> 00:38:00,400
Speaker 4: see the results of what football's done for us, not

929
00:38:00,480 --> 00:38:02,239
Speaker 4: the hard work that we put in to get the

930
00:38:02,280 --> 00:38:05,719
Speaker 4: result of football. Like you know, Sundays are great, but

931
00:38:05,840 --> 00:38:08,520
Speaker 4: there's camped, there's working out, there's literally no off season,

932
00:38:08,640 --> 00:38:09,839
Speaker 4: you have to go. You get a couple of weeks

933
00:38:09,840 --> 00:38:12,200
Speaker 4: of vacation, but you're working out all the time, trying

934
00:38:12,239 --> 00:38:13,480
Speaker 4: to stay on top of it. Me and we are

935
00:38:13,520 --> 00:38:16,400
Speaker 4: always talking about nutrition, We're talking about our workouts, and

936
00:38:16,480 --> 00:38:19,560
Speaker 4: all that stuff accumulates over time, and it's like, you know,

937
00:38:19,880 --> 00:38:22,440
Speaker 4: there's a lot of you always see those little motivational

938
00:38:22,480 --> 00:38:25,279
Speaker 4: posters and it's like a it's a cat hanging from

939
00:38:25,280 --> 00:38:27,240
Speaker 4: a branch and it's like just keep.

940
00:38:27,120 --> 00:38:29,080
Speaker 2: On going or whatever. But then you see like the

941
00:38:29,280 --> 00:38:31,760
Speaker 2: uh with the iceberg, and it like shows the tip.

942
00:38:31,640 --> 00:38:33,720
Speaker 4: Of the iceberg, that success, but you see it built

943
00:38:34,120 --> 00:38:36,200
Speaker 4: like how you build everything, and people don't see all

944
00:38:36,239 --> 00:38:37,320
Speaker 4: the hard work you put in. And then you have

945
00:38:37,360 --> 00:38:39,680
Speaker 4: the tip of the iceberg, which is like what everybody

946
00:38:39,760 --> 00:38:42,800
Speaker 4: actually wants. But anything, anything worth having or doing, you

947
00:38:42,840 --> 00:38:43,279
Speaker 4: have to work for.

948
00:38:43,520 --> 00:38:45,120
Speaker 3: But here, here, here's the crazy thing. You give that

949
00:38:45,160 --> 00:38:47,960
Speaker 3: iceberg example. Here here's the wildness. And sometimes I like

950
00:38:48,000 --> 00:38:50,040
Speaker 3: to be more direct, just to like shake up the

951
00:38:50,080 --> 00:38:52,800
Speaker 3: listeners to realize what we're talking about. Here they see that,

952
00:38:53,040 --> 00:38:55,000
Speaker 3: and they still don't see what's beneath the water, like

953
00:38:55,239 --> 00:38:57,600
Speaker 3: they literally see it. And it's like somebody just like

954
00:38:57,680 --> 00:38:59,719
Speaker 3: that's actually how you get there, right, Like, do you

955
00:38:59,760 --> 00:39:02,320
Speaker 3: want to see the reps that Taylor's put in? You

956
00:39:02,360 --> 00:39:03,759
Speaker 3: want to see the footwork that he's put in, You

957
00:39:03,800 --> 00:39:05,440
Speaker 3: want to see the number of hours that Will's put in,

958
00:39:05,480 --> 00:39:07,480
Speaker 3: all the stuff that's below and you could put that,

959
00:39:07,640 --> 00:39:10,520
Speaker 3: they don't see it. All they still see is the Iceberger.

960
00:39:10,520 --> 00:39:12,640
Speaker 3: It's like people fight the fact that, like you have

961
00:39:12,840 --> 00:39:14,920
Speaker 3: to work in order to get the things that you want.

962
00:39:15,080 --> 00:39:15,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's I.

963
00:39:18,520 --> 00:39:20,319
Speaker 3: Do you do you ever like watch guys like well,

964
00:39:20,320 --> 00:39:21,279
Speaker 3: I appreciate that, thank you.

965
00:39:23,400 --> 00:39:25,760
Speaker 4: Do you ever watch guys like Tony Robbins or Eric Thomas,

966
00:39:25,840 --> 00:39:28,600
Speaker 4: like those individual speakers and like take things from them,

967
00:39:28,680 --> 00:39:30,200
Speaker 4: learn things from them or anything like that.

968
00:39:30,760 --> 00:39:32,800
Speaker 3: So I like to learn from everybody. I mean I

969
00:39:32,880 --> 00:39:35,359
Speaker 3: read books like Crazy. Eric Thomas and I actually hung

970
00:39:35,400 --> 00:39:37,080
Speaker 3: out for a couple of days at BAMA training Camp

971
00:39:37,200 --> 00:39:39,160
Speaker 3: last year, which was a great time. And what I

972
00:39:39,239 --> 00:39:42,160
Speaker 3: pay attention to is how does he interact with people? Right? So, yeah,

973
00:39:42,160 --> 00:39:43,640
Speaker 3: I heard his talk. His talk was great, but like

974
00:39:43,680 --> 00:39:44,719
Speaker 3: how does he interact with people?

975
00:39:44,719 --> 00:39:45,040
Speaker 2: Speaker?

976
00:39:45,160 --> 00:39:47,879
Speaker 3: Yeah, great speaker, but like watching him, you know, we'd

977
00:39:47,920 --> 00:39:50,200
Speaker 3: be eating and it we'd be eating with the players.

978
00:39:50,520 --> 00:39:52,520
Speaker 3: How's he interacting with the that's the stuff I want

979
00:39:52,520 --> 00:39:53,960
Speaker 3: to see, like how do you treat people? How do

980
00:39:54,040 --> 00:39:56,000
Speaker 3: you deal with people? What are the questions that you ask?

981
00:39:56,040 --> 00:39:58,400
Speaker 3: And he's engaging with guys, right, So it's like if

982
00:39:58,440 --> 00:39:59,839
Speaker 3: I meet somebody, like, I don't want to know, Taylor,

983
00:39:59,840 --> 00:40:01,640
Speaker 3: what that makes you great? I want to hear, like

984
00:40:01,719 --> 00:40:03,719
Speaker 3: what did you do to get to where you are? Like,

985
00:40:03,800 --> 00:40:05,839
Speaker 3: I want to learn when you meet somebody. So those

986
00:40:05,880 --> 00:40:07,960
Speaker 3: are the things I look for. And of course, I

987
00:40:08,040 --> 00:40:10,680
Speaker 3: mean the moment you stop growing, you're done, right, I

988
00:40:10,719 --> 00:40:12,120
Speaker 3: mean if you just say, oh, I've made it to

989
00:40:12,200 --> 00:40:14,840
Speaker 3: this point. And we always talk about the seduction of success.

990
00:40:15,280 --> 00:40:17,719
Speaker 3: You can't be seduced by success, right, you have to

991
00:40:17,800 --> 00:40:20,120
Speaker 3: have that belief and pa, I mean standard over feelings,

992
00:40:20,160 --> 00:40:22,000
Speaker 3: which is what I learned. Man, we can clear this up.

993
00:40:22,080 --> 00:40:23,520
Speaker 2: What do you mean by that you can't be seduced

994
00:40:23,560 --> 00:40:24,160
Speaker 2: by success?

995
00:40:24,480 --> 00:40:27,040
Speaker 3: So Will taught me something called standard over feelings.

996
00:40:27,200 --> 00:40:28,440
Speaker 1: I got that from Tony Robbins.

997
00:40:28,680 --> 00:40:33,040
Speaker 3: Okay, so standard over standard, standard over feelings. So and

998
00:40:33,120 --> 00:40:34,960
Speaker 3: then I came up with seduction of success.

999
00:40:35,080 --> 00:40:35,200
Speaker 1: Right.

1000
00:40:35,239 --> 00:40:36,839
Speaker 3: So as he kind of took me through this, I said,

1001
00:40:36,840 --> 00:40:38,680
Speaker 3: all right, well, from what I've seen the people I've

1002
00:40:38,680 --> 00:40:41,080
Speaker 3: shared the stage with, the people that I've learned from

1003
00:40:41,160 --> 00:40:43,920
Speaker 3: books I've read. The highest performers are not seduced by success.

1004
00:40:44,000 --> 00:40:46,759
Speaker 3: So the moment that you have achievement, you actually crave more.

1005
00:40:47,080 --> 00:40:49,120
Speaker 3: You realize, like, because of that achievement that makes me

1006
00:40:49,200 --> 00:40:50,920
Speaker 3: realize what I can, I'm gonna go get after it

1007
00:40:50,920 --> 00:40:54,439
Speaker 3: again tomorrow. And most people, let's give sales right, business world,

1008
00:40:54,680 --> 00:40:57,040
Speaker 3: they sell something great yesterday, they walk into the office. Man,

1009
00:40:57,080 --> 00:40:58,719
Speaker 3: I'm not going to dial the phone for like a week.

1010
00:40:59,040 --> 00:41:00,800
Speaker 3: I may not dial the phone. You see that commission

1011
00:41:00,840 --> 00:41:02,719
Speaker 3: check I'm going to get And the next thing, you know,

1012
00:41:03,200 --> 00:41:06,040
Speaker 3: three months later, they're like, what happened to my business? Right?

1013
00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:08,000
Speaker 3: And you're like, dude, you didn't work for three months.

1014
00:41:08,120 --> 00:41:10,640
Speaker 3: Now we average out that big commission over three months,

1015
00:41:10,719 --> 00:41:13,560
Speaker 3: it's average. And then they're upset what happened? You got

1016
00:41:13,600 --> 00:41:16,399
Speaker 3: seduced by your success rather than realizing that's the moment

1017
00:41:16,440 --> 00:41:18,920
Speaker 3: where you really grow if I don't define myself by

1018
00:41:19,000 --> 00:41:20,919
Speaker 3: that check and I say, man, I can get after

1019
00:41:20,920 --> 00:41:22,759
Speaker 3: it again tomorrow, And then you say, how can I

1020
00:41:22,800 --> 00:41:24,759
Speaker 3: get better tomorrow? And that becomes a cycle. You do

1021
00:41:24,840 --> 00:41:27,239
Speaker 3: it over and over and over again. That's grit, you know,

1022
00:41:27,360 --> 00:41:30,400
Speaker 3: that's conviction, passion, perseverance, getting after it one day at

1023
00:41:30,400 --> 00:41:31,680
Speaker 3: a time. That's how you become great.

1024
00:41:31,800 --> 00:41:35,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's definitely it.

1025
00:41:37,600 --> 00:41:40,080
Speaker 1: No, that's what. No, that's what I said. I like

1026
00:41:40,200 --> 00:41:43,040
Speaker 1: the seduction of success because it's all about the whole standard.

1027
00:41:43,040 --> 00:41:45,240
Speaker 1: Old feelings is the thing that I learned from Tony Robbins.

1028
00:41:45,320 --> 00:41:48,000
Speaker 1: Listen to all his YouTube stuff. You have this standard.

1029
00:41:48,120 --> 00:41:49,919
Speaker 1: Like me personally, like when I listen when I listen

1030
00:41:50,000 --> 00:41:55,240
Speaker 1: to that, whenever he was talking, it's like, Okay, Will Compton,

1031
00:41:55,600 --> 00:41:56,840
Speaker 1: what do I want to be? Okay, I want to

1032
00:41:56,840 --> 00:41:58,879
Speaker 1: be a Pro Bowl linebacker? What does a Pro Bowl? Okay?

1033
00:41:59,000 --> 00:42:00,759
Speaker 1: Are you start with the end of mind? So okay,

1034
00:42:00,800 --> 00:42:02,680
Speaker 1: it's Pro Bowl? Right? I want to be great. I

1035
00:42:02,719 --> 00:42:04,359
Speaker 1: want to be a great linebacker. What is a great

1036
00:42:04,400 --> 00:42:06,800
Speaker 1: linebacker do on a daily basis? And it's that standard

1037
00:42:06,840 --> 00:42:09,520
Speaker 1: you write out for yourself. Because day one, Will Compton,

1038
00:42:09,640 --> 00:42:12,080
Speaker 1: when we're motivated in the off season and we're about

1039
00:42:12,080 --> 00:42:13,840
Speaker 1: to go day one, the boy gets in talent and

1040
00:42:13,880 --> 00:42:15,960
Speaker 1: we're ready to go day one, that same Will Compton

1041
00:42:16,080 --> 00:42:18,040
Speaker 1: is not going to feel the same as day thirty,

1042
00:42:18,080 --> 00:42:21,440
Speaker 1: Will Compton, Day thirty, we'll start having his feelings like

1043
00:42:21,680 --> 00:42:23,319
Speaker 1: you wake up, you might want to snooze that alarm

1044
00:42:23,360 --> 00:42:24,640
Speaker 1: a extra more times, we might want to take a

1045
00:42:24,719 --> 00:42:26,759
Speaker 1: day off. But if you have that standard written out

1046
00:42:26,800 --> 00:42:29,800
Speaker 1: of what the pro bowl version of Will Compton looks like,

1047
00:42:29,840 --> 00:42:30,880
Speaker 1: and what does a pro bowl or doing on a

1048
00:42:30,920 --> 00:42:32,719
Speaker 1: daily basis, how does he eat, how does he talk

1049
00:42:32,760 --> 00:42:34,680
Speaker 1: to himself, what does he listen to, what is he reading?

1050
00:42:35,040 --> 00:42:37,160
Speaker 1: And how does he go about his life? Compared to

1051
00:42:37,320 --> 00:42:38,879
Speaker 1: if you just go by your feelings all the time,

1052
00:42:39,200 --> 00:42:41,319
Speaker 1: you're gonna wake up, You're gonna you feel sorry. Here,

1053
00:42:41,440 --> 00:42:43,960
Speaker 1: I'm a little more soret today. I'm gonna eat this food.

1054
00:42:43,960 --> 00:42:46,560
Speaker 1: I'm gonna eat these treats are desserts. I'm going to,

1055
00:42:47,080 --> 00:42:51,120
Speaker 1: you know, talk to myself in in a feeling sorry way, like, Okay,

1056
00:42:51,320 --> 00:42:53,279
Speaker 1: you put all this work in yesterday, get seduced a

1057
00:42:53,280 --> 00:42:55,680
Speaker 1: little bit by that success, and you don't continue to

1058
00:42:55,760 --> 00:42:57,360
Speaker 1: live out that standard that you wrote for yourself on

1059
00:42:57,480 --> 00:43:00,359
Speaker 1: day one. That's why I think it's super important things

1060
00:43:00,440 --> 00:43:03,200
Speaker 1: down because you see it and you remind yourself, Okay,

1061
00:43:03,280 --> 00:43:05,120
Speaker 1: this is where I was when I was super motivated

1062
00:43:05,320 --> 00:43:07,960
Speaker 1: compared to how I'm feeling now in the dog days

1063
00:43:07,960 --> 00:43:09,920
Speaker 1: of a season or a training camp and stuff like that.

1064
00:43:10,160 --> 00:43:13,520
Speaker 1: So that's, uh, that's why I like the whole standard

1065
00:43:13,560 --> 00:43:14,400
Speaker 1: over feelings mantra.

1066
00:43:14,719 --> 00:43:16,719
Speaker 4: The unfortunate thing is a lot of times people do

1067
00:43:16,840 --> 00:43:19,680
Speaker 4: have success and they're not going to want success again

1068
00:43:19,760 --> 00:43:22,320
Speaker 4: until they have that failure next. Yeah, they'll go and

1069
00:43:22,360 --> 00:43:24,640
Speaker 4: they'll this is so great, and then you think you're

1070
00:43:24,680 --> 00:43:26,640
Speaker 4: so great, and then all of a sudden a couple

1071
00:43:26,640 --> 00:43:28,200
Speaker 4: of things happen and you're like, well, maybe I'm not

1072
00:43:28,280 --> 00:43:30,640
Speaker 4: so good. You feel sorry for yourself, then yeah, take

1073
00:43:30,680 --> 00:43:34,440
Speaker 4: it up and make yourself and it makes you appreciate

1074
00:43:34,520 --> 00:43:36,719
Speaker 4: what the success actually was that day to.

1075
00:43:36,760 --> 00:43:40,120
Speaker 1: Day absolutely, and then overcoming that you you your character

1076
00:43:40,239 --> 00:43:43,439
Speaker 1: is built through how you respond in adversity, right, Like, yeah,

1077
00:43:43,800 --> 00:43:45,920
Speaker 1: we're all gonna be successful at certain periods of time,

1078
00:43:46,000 --> 00:43:47,840
Speaker 1: but like you just say, like, you're gonna get humbled,

1079
00:43:47,840 --> 00:43:50,080
Speaker 1: you're gonna get kind of shaken, a little bit, But

1080
00:43:50,200 --> 00:43:52,040
Speaker 1: how you respond is ultimately who you were in the

1081
00:43:52,040 --> 00:43:54,520
Speaker 1: first place. You just needed to realize that, you know,

1082
00:43:54,640 --> 00:43:56,799
Speaker 1: my shit isn't what I thought it smelt like all

1083
00:43:56,840 --> 00:43:58,879
Speaker 1: the time. And then you overcome that, and then you're

1084
00:43:58,880 --> 00:44:01,400
Speaker 1: even more of a fucking bad as Yes, more of

1085
00:44:01,440 --> 00:44:02,439
Speaker 1: a fucking wolf, I guess.

1086
00:44:02,560 --> 00:44:04,000
Speaker 3: But I've always believed that if you put it in

1087
00:44:04,080 --> 00:44:06,840
Speaker 3: the hard work, then you're prepared when the bad stuff happens.

1088
00:44:07,160 --> 00:44:08,920
Speaker 3: And if you don't put in the work, you're not prepared.

1089
00:44:08,920 --> 00:44:10,520
Speaker 3: And a lot of that is the mental side, right,

1090
00:44:10,600 --> 00:44:13,200
Speaker 3: That's the big difference, is the mental side, because maybe

1091
00:44:13,239 --> 00:44:14,839
Speaker 3: a young guy does come in, right and he all

1092
00:44:14,880 --> 00:44:16,880
Speaker 3: of a sudden he's pushing you. But then it's your

1093
00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:18,960
Speaker 3: mental belief in yourself. It's the push. It's all those

1094
00:44:19,040 --> 00:44:20,759
Speaker 3: reps that start to come out. It's that belief and

1095
00:44:20,800 --> 00:44:22,279
Speaker 3: you're like, I don't care who this guy is, I

1096
00:44:22,280 --> 00:44:24,879
Speaker 3: don't care what the position is. Nobody's taking anything away

1097
00:44:24,880 --> 00:44:26,799
Speaker 3: from me because I own this right right, And it's

1098
00:44:26,840 --> 00:44:28,759
Speaker 3: just a different level of belief that comes out. Man,

1099
00:44:28,800 --> 00:44:30,440
Speaker 3: that fire lights up in your eyes and you could

1100
00:44:30,480 --> 00:44:31,800
Speaker 3: just I mean, it's just you just attack it.

1101
00:44:32,520 --> 00:44:34,800
Speaker 1: We're getting super motivated in this pod right now. Boys.

1102
00:44:36,000 --> 00:44:38,000
Speaker 4: I always wonder about that, like you just have a

1103
00:44:38,040 --> 00:44:39,480
Speaker 4: good point. Like I always wonder like, when is he

1104
00:44:39,520 --> 00:44:41,680
Speaker 4: going to be the point where someone does come in

1105
00:44:42,080 --> 00:44:44,120
Speaker 4: and challenge They will not challenge me, but so they

1106
00:44:44,160 --> 00:44:46,839
Speaker 4: do draft left tackle and I do you have like, Okay,

1107
00:44:46,920 --> 00:44:49,399
Speaker 4: this is the guy that's going to take over lawan spot.

1108
00:44:49,400 --> 00:44:51,440
Speaker 4: He's getting old, he's this that, Like I wonder how

1109
00:44:51,480 --> 00:44:54,239
Speaker 4: I'm gonna hopefully, like I always think about that. I

1110
00:44:54,360 --> 00:44:57,719
Speaker 4: hope I handle that with poise, and I hope I

1111
00:44:57,920 --> 00:44:59,840
Speaker 4: like I help that guy because when I came in,

1112
00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:01,520
Speaker 4: I didn't get a lot of help from the older guys,

1113
00:45:01,920 --> 00:45:03,759
Speaker 4: and so I had to go do it kind of

1114
00:45:03,880 --> 00:45:05,800
Speaker 4: go do it on my own. And I hope that

1115
00:45:06,440 --> 00:45:08,600
Speaker 4: when the guy comes in, whoever that person might be,

1116
00:45:08,760 --> 00:45:11,560
Speaker 4: hopefully he's in elementary school right now, like he comes

1117
00:45:12,360 --> 00:45:14,680
Speaker 4: and let me, let me take you through this, like

1118
00:45:14,760 --> 00:45:16,160
Speaker 4: this is how I learned to be a better play

1119
00:45:16,280 --> 00:45:19,200
Speaker 4: this is that, but still like obviously play like that.

1120
00:45:19,360 --> 00:45:20,240
Speaker 2: I think that's the difference.

1121
00:45:20,320 --> 00:45:23,839
Speaker 4: Like being motivated isn't like, you know, knocking someone down

1122
00:45:23,880 --> 00:45:26,480
Speaker 4: to take a step up. It's if you help everybody

1123
00:45:26,600 --> 00:45:28,440
Speaker 4: go up, like being the best time you learn is

1124
00:45:28,480 --> 00:45:31,880
Speaker 4: when you're teaching. So I'm helping that person whoever, whoever

1125
00:45:32,000 --> 00:45:36,560
Speaker 4: he is. You know, hopefully he's in diaperson. I'll be

1126
00:45:36,600 --> 00:45:39,880
Speaker 4: able to handle aver. If you called himself new Dell,

1127
00:45:39,920 --> 00:45:40,200
Speaker 4: we have to.

1128
00:45:40,200 --> 00:45:40,600
Speaker 1: Fight, yea.

1129
00:45:40,640 --> 00:45:43,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, the window right there I don't know if you

1130
00:45:43,480 --> 00:45:45,640
Speaker 3: guys have shared this yet, if you talked much about

1131
00:45:45,640 --> 00:45:48,600
Speaker 3: London Fletcher, but exactly what you're describing is exactly how

1132
00:45:48,640 --> 00:45:51,680
Speaker 3: London Fletcher treated you. Yeah, for sure, you know London Fletcher.

1133
00:45:51,800 --> 00:45:54,080
Speaker 3: I just remember the stories you told me of you know,

1134
00:45:54,160 --> 00:45:56,399
Speaker 3: he would literally wait in the hot tub and he'd

1135
00:45:56,440 --> 00:45:58,160
Speaker 3: be waiting and you would chat and you'd ask him

1136
00:45:58,200 --> 00:46:01,080
Speaker 3: questions and he'd answer, and the reality was like he

1137
00:46:01,239 --> 00:46:03,840
Speaker 3: was on his last legs, he was finishing his career,

1138
00:46:03,920 --> 00:46:05,040
Speaker 3: and he could have been like why am I going

1139
00:46:05,080 --> 00:46:06,600
Speaker 3: to get He knows he's a Hall of Famer and

1140
00:46:06,719 --> 00:46:08,759
Speaker 3: he knows. I mean, why would I talk to this

1141
00:46:08,880 --> 00:46:10,480
Speaker 3: kid like why am I going to give him any busins?

1142
00:46:10,920 --> 00:46:13,600
Speaker 4: It's way easier to be that guy when you know

1143
00:46:13,680 --> 00:46:14,920
Speaker 4: you're gonna be a Hall of Famer or you know,

1144
00:46:15,120 --> 00:46:17,840
Speaker 4: like you've hit the top. It's those guys that you

1145
00:46:17,920 --> 00:46:20,720
Speaker 4: know had some success, was kind of consistent in that area,

1146
00:46:21,120 --> 00:46:22,960
Speaker 4: but never really got I think, did it big.

1147
00:46:23,560 --> 00:46:25,600
Speaker 3: But you know, but London London was always that dude.

1148
00:46:25,600 --> 00:46:27,560
Speaker 1: I know, I know you're saying because literally you're saying that,

1149
00:46:27,800 --> 00:46:31,279
Speaker 1: and I'm kind of thinking, like I was. It was

1150
00:46:31,360 --> 00:46:33,520
Speaker 1: hard sometimes to step out of my zone and help

1151
00:46:33,560 --> 00:46:36,000
Speaker 1: her Shawn for Sewan because I was kind of like,

1152
00:46:36,080 --> 00:46:37,239
Speaker 1: it's not like I know I'm going to be some

1153
00:46:37,320 --> 00:46:38,920
Speaker 1: Hall of Famer and I've already done what I've done

1154
00:46:38,920 --> 00:46:40,840
Speaker 1: in the NFL. It's like I knew they drafted a

1155
00:46:40,840 --> 00:46:43,520
Speaker 1: guy in the first round. I signed here to challenge

1156
00:46:43,560 --> 00:46:44,640
Speaker 1: and have a role on the team.

1157
00:46:44,840 --> 00:46:46,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you can say that to be humble. But

1158
00:46:46,640 --> 00:46:48,640
Speaker 3: I remember last year when we talked and you were helping,

1159
00:46:49,000 --> 00:46:49,840
Speaker 3: you were helping Rashan.

1160
00:46:50,000 --> 00:46:52,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I definitely I definitely helped him, helping them.

1161
00:46:53,680 --> 00:46:55,920
Speaker 1: In my mind, he's talking about battle.

1162
00:46:55,960 --> 00:46:57,440
Speaker 3: Absolute yeah, absolutely right.

1163
00:46:57,520 --> 00:47:00,160
Speaker 1: Like you're sitting there like do I want to do

1164
00:47:00,280 --> 00:47:02,360
Speaker 1: I want to fully help him because I want to

1165
00:47:02,480 --> 00:47:04,120
Speaker 1: play the spot he's playing.

1166
00:47:04,239 --> 00:47:06,359
Speaker 3: But to me, to me this now you're talking about

1167
00:47:06,360 --> 00:47:09,320
Speaker 3: what legacy is. Right, So you didn't want to do it,

1168
00:47:09,400 --> 00:47:11,440
Speaker 3: but you did it. Something tells me if you ever

1169
00:47:11,520 --> 00:47:13,400
Speaker 3: get that feeling, you may not want to do it,

1170
00:47:13,520 --> 00:47:15,080
Speaker 3: but you just vocaliz you're gonna do it.

1171
00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:15,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm gonna do it.

1172
00:47:16,000 --> 00:47:17,239
Speaker 3: And then you're gonna be home and you're gonna be

1173
00:47:17,280 --> 00:47:19,320
Speaker 3: touching that guy. You're gonna be like bro man, I

1174
00:47:19,400 --> 00:47:21,000
Speaker 3: had a hell of a run. I love this game.

1175
00:47:21,120 --> 00:47:23,360
Speaker 3: This game was good to me. And man, I'm watching,

1176
00:47:23,400 --> 00:47:25,600
Speaker 3: I'm enjoying what you're doing out there, and you're gonna

1177
00:47:25,640 --> 00:47:28,839
Speaker 3: know you're gonna have a piece of the next flip

1178
00:47:28,920 --> 00:47:30,680
Speaker 3: of that belief in him that caused him to go

1179
00:47:30,760 --> 00:47:32,640
Speaker 3: on and have a great career. That's what legacy is

1180
00:47:32,640 --> 00:47:33,040
Speaker 3: all about.

1181
00:47:33,200 --> 00:47:36,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's just crazy. How like I'm twenty eight now,

1182
00:47:36,880 --> 00:47:39,960
Speaker 2: so I'm old as fuck, but I remember being like.

1183
00:47:39,920 --> 00:47:41,640
Speaker 4: In high school, and I remember being like my first

1184
00:47:41,680 --> 00:47:43,640
Speaker 4: couple of years in college, even the end of college,

1185
00:47:43,680 --> 00:47:45,279
Speaker 4: and my first couple of years in the NFL, thinking

1186
00:47:45,400 --> 00:47:47,879
Speaker 4: like this is the only thing that matters. I think,

1187
00:47:48,320 --> 00:47:50,560
Speaker 4: how good like how you're known in football, and the

1188
00:47:50,680 --> 00:47:52,480
Speaker 4: older you get, you get married. He said that you

1189
00:47:52,560 --> 00:47:56,279
Speaker 4: have a kid like he realized, like just being you know,

1190
00:47:56,360 --> 00:47:57,880
Speaker 4: your character of who you are off the field is

1191
00:47:57,920 --> 00:48:01,799
Speaker 4: the most important thing. So if I'm if I'm meet

1192
00:48:01,880 --> 00:48:03,640
Speaker 4: some kid who's trying to take my job and I

1193
00:48:03,719 --> 00:48:06,120
Speaker 4: treat him like an asshole, He's always going to remember

1194
00:48:06,160 --> 00:48:07,680
Speaker 4: me as an asshole. He's never going to remember me

1195
00:48:07,800 --> 00:48:10,520
Speaker 4: for who I know I am, or how I treat

1196
00:48:10,600 --> 00:48:13,200
Speaker 4: my friends. And so that would be more important to me.

1197
00:48:13,239 --> 00:48:16,480
Speaker 4: I think that would override any egotistical battle. I hope

1198
00:48:17,080 --> 00:48:19,400
Speaker 4: with like, you know, playing the game of football, like

1199
00:48:19,520 --> 00:48:20,799
Speaker 4: I want to be this, I want to play ten

1200
00:48:20,800 --> 00:48:22,400
Speaker 4: more years. I want to do, like you know, achieve

1201
00:48:22,440 --> 00:48:24,719
Speaker 4: all these you know goals that really at the end

1202
00:48:24,719 --> 00:48:27,400
Speaker 4: of they don't mean very much. It's a team spoil

1203
00:48:27,440 --> 00:48:30,080
Speaker 4: you know, these individuals don't truly mean as much as

1204
00:48:30,080 --> 00:48:31,080
Speaker 4: you feel that they do when you're in.

1205
00:48:31,120 --> 00:48:33,520
Speaker 1: The moment, Yeah, there is there a moment where that

1206
00:48:33,640 --> 00:48:35,040
Speaker 1: kind of clicks for you and you thought that way

1207
00:48:35,120 --> 00:48:36,640
Speaker 1: or is it kind of a combination or was there

1208
00:48:36,640 --> 00:48:39,759
Speaker 1: a conversation maybe a vet I know when you were

1209
00:48:39,760 --> 00:48:41,719
Speaker 1: telling me this sort about Whitworth and guys you look

1210
00:48:41,800 --> 00:48:44,359
Speaker 1: up to, like, was there ever a moment where you're like, yo,

1211
00:48:44,480 --> 00:48:47,279
Speaker 1: this is I'm changing my perspective or maybe a drive

1212
00:48:47,360 --> 00:48:48,120
Speaker 1: home and your listeners.

1213
00:48:48,280 --> 00:48:51,480
Speaker 4: My I think my moment for me was after this

1214
00:48:51,640 --> 00:48:56,160
Speaker 4: last season, the twenty eighteen season, I hated football. I

1215
00:48:56,640 --> 00:48:58,640
Speaker 4: I really did not like playing the game at all.

1216
00:48:58,719 --> 00:49:00,919
Speaker 4: I didn't I was met at the coaches. I didn't

1217
00:49:00,920 --> 00:49:03,400
Speaker 4: get along with my offensive line coach. Me and Rabel

1218
00:49:03,440 --> 00:49:05,640
Speaker 4: got back got out a lot and I was like

1219
00:49:05,719 --> 00:49:08,640
Speaker 4: what the fuck? Like I was, I just I was like,

1220
00:49:08,680 --> 00:49:10,960
Speaker 4: how do because I told will Wi first mail, I'll

1221
00:49:10,960 --> 00:49:12,719
Speaker 4: play it forever, I don't even care, and I like,

1222
00:49:12,880 --> 00:49:14,640
Speaker 4: I still wanted to play more. But I was also

1223
00:49:14,760 --> 00:49:17,960
Speaker 4: like mad about football and all these different things. And

1224
00:49:18,040 --> 00:49:21,000
Speaker 4: what I learned was is it wasn't any of their fault.

1225
00:49:21,040 --> 00:49:22,920
Speaker 2: It was mine. Like I was the one that was

1226
00:49:22,960 --> 00:49:26,280
Speaker 2: being a cancer. I was the one that was self entitled.

1227
00:49:26,680 --> 00:49:29,520
Speaker 1: Not necessarily people as like he's he wasn't a cancer.

1228
00:49:29,600 --> 00:49:31,520
Speaker 1: I know what you're saying, Yeah in your own mind.

1229
00:49:31,600 --> 00:49:33,759
Speaker 4: My mind, in my mind, I guess more than anything,

1230
00:49:33,800 --> 00:49:35,680
Speaker 4: I was a cancer to myself right right, So like

1231
00:49:35,840 --> 00:49:37,840
Speaker 4: I wasn't going in the locker room like saying a

1232
00:49:37,880 --> 00:49:39,239
Speaker 4: bunch of stuff for any musicst in to that. But

1233
00:49:39,320 --> 00:49:43,080
Speaker 4: what I did do was I I did feel a

1234
00:49:43,120 --> 00:49:45,279
Speaker 4: little self entitled. I signed a big contract, and I felt,

1235
00:49:45,719 --> 00:49:47,359
Speaker 4: you know, I deserve this and I deserve that. Why

1236
00:49:47,360 --> 00:49:49,800
Speaker 4: are they treating me like this and not taking on

1237
00:49:49,920 --> 00:49:52,440
Speaker 4: that master responsibility. I still played well. I had a

1238
00:49:52,480 --> 00:49:55,840
Speaker 4: good season last year, but I didn't really see the

1239
00:49:55,920 --> 00:49:59,080
Speaker 4: responsibility that I had when I signed that big contract,

1240
00:49:59,120 --> 00:50:01,000
Speaker 4: And I think I thought things are more owde to

1241
00:50:01,080 --> 00:50:04,640
Speaker 4: me than that. I actually, you know, I should have

1242
00:50:04,680 --> 00:50:07,560
Speaker 4: been giving instead of receiving. So I'm looking at myself.

1243
00:50:07,560 --> 00:50:10,000
Speaker 4: I'm in California and I'm sitting there and I'm listening

1244
00:50:10,040 --> 00:50:12,200
Speaker 4: in the ocean. I'm sitting on the beach looking out,

1245
00:50:12,239 --> 00:50:15,120
Speaker 4: and I'm like, it's not It's not anybody's fault of

1246
00:50:15,160 --> 00:50:17,960
Speaker 4: mind that I'm feeling this way. Like I that resistance

1247
00:50:18,000 --> 00:50:19,560
Speaker 4: I was getting from verybel He's a great he's a

1248
00:50:19,600 --> 00:50:21,960
Speaker 4: great coach, and you know, there's always gonna be things

1249
00:50:22,000 --> 00:50:24,400
Speaker 4: that he and I agree and disagree on, but at

1250
00:50:24,400 --> 00:50:25,600
Speaker 4: the end of the day, like his goal is to

1251
00:50:25,640 --> 00:50:27,800
Speaker 4: make sure a team goes in the right direction. And

1252
00:50:27,880 --> 00:50:30,600
Speaker 4: I was causing resistance. I was I was dragging them

1253
00:50:30,640 --> 00:50:32,600
Speaker 4: down a little bit in that, whether it was in

1254
00:50:32,680 --> 00:50:36,920
Speaker 4: my head or not. So having that control, having the

1255
00:50:37,000 --> 00:50:38,759
Speaker 4: understanding of knowing what you can control, is the only

1256
00:50:38,800 --> 00:50:41,200
Speaker 4: thing that actually matters. And if someone comes to you,

1257
00:50:41,560 --> 00:50:43,399
Speaker 4: if someone came to me and said fuck you, well

1258
00:50:43,480 --> 00:50:46,400
Speaker 4: I know that that probably has nothing to do with.

1259
00:50:46,480 --> 00:50:47,759
Speaker 2: Me the words that they said. It has more to

1260
00:50:47,800 --> 00:50:49,080
Speaker 2: do everything that's going on with them.

1261
00:50:49,560 --> 00:50:51,520
Speaker 4: And I was the guy saying fuck you the whole

1262
00:50:51,560 --> 00:50:54,920
Speaker 4: time because I was, you know, I felt all these

1263
00:50:54,960 --> 00:50:57,680
Speaker 4: things that I thought I deserved when and reality wasn't real,

1264
00:50:58,120 --> 00:50:59,840
Speaker 4: And so I had to start reading more. I started,

1265
00:51:00,320 --> 00:51:01,839
Speaker 4: you know, I actually like I had to get off

1266
00:51:01,920 --> 00:51:03,680
Speaker 4: my phone more. I had to like start doing things

1267
00:51:03,719 --> 00:51:06,040
Speaker 4: to make myself grow. And now I went in and

1268
00:51:06,120 --> 00:51:09,319
Speaker 4: these OTAs have been the most fun OTAs. The camp

1269
00:51:09,360 --> 00:51:11,719
Speaker 4: has been the most fun. Like it's because I'm only

1270
00:51:11,719 --> 00:51:14,160
Speaker 4: focusing on the things of control and accepting the responsibility

1271
00:51:14,160 --> 00:51:17,000
Speaker 4: that I do have on this team, and so those

1272
00:51:17,080 --> 00:51:19,160
Speaker 4: are it's always hard to admit because you never want

1273
00:51:19,200 --> 00:51:20,520
Speaker 4: to be the bad guy or feel like the villain.

1274
00:51:20,560 --> 00:51:23,200
Speaker 4: But it was definitely something that I needed to start

1275
00:51:23,280 --> 00:51:25,799
Speaker 4: taking a hold of and understanding, like, you know, you're

1276
00:51:26,280 --> 00:51:29,160
Speaker 4: in your six you got to you gotta be a leader.

1277
00:51:29,520 --> 00:51:31,279
Speaker 4: You know, you got to be a guy that you

1278
00:51:31,320 --> 00:51:32,840
Speaker 4: can't just be dicking around all the time and just

1279
00:51:32,880 --> 00:51:34,719
Speaker 4: be laughing. And you got to know when's a good

1280
00:51:34,760 --> 00:51:36,640
Speaker 4: time to joke, when's a good time to you know,

1281
00:51:36,960 --> 00:51:40,320
Speaker 4: be serious, and and finding that balance of stuff like that.

1282
00:51:40,840 --> 00:51:42,759
Speaker 2: But and so those things definitely helped me.

1283
00:51:43,120 --> 00:51:45,800
Speaker 4: Kind of realize that it's not as important to have

1284
00:51:45,920 --> 00:51:48,239
Speaker 4: the accolades and stuff like that. It's more important when

1285
00:51:48,280 --> 00:51:50,799
Speaker 4: I leave this locker room whenever it is that these

1286
00:51:50,880 --> 00:51:52,560
Speaker 4: coaches and these players that I play with, said, man,

1287
00:51:52,640 --> 00:51:54,960
Speaker 4: Taylor is a good dude, Like he cared about the boys.

1288
00:51:55,440 --> 00:51:57,880
Speaker 4: You know, they'll their kids will hang out with my

1289
00:51:58,000 --> 00:52:00,359
Speaker 4: daughter and be like, yeah, my dad, my dad looked dead.

1290
00:52:00,719 --> 00:52:00,880
Speaker 1: You know.

1291
00:52:01,040 --> 00:52:03,920
Speaker 4: That's that's the ship. I was like, man, like, it's

1292
00:52:04,040 --> 00:52:07,480
Speaker 4: so important. It's so important to be It's not important

1293
00:52:07,520 --> 00:52:09,759
Speaker 4: that how people view you, but it's important to have

1294
00:52:09,920 --> 00:52:12,520
Speaker 4: peace in your own self right. You know, people people say,

1295
00:52:12,560 --> 00:52:14,280
Speaker 4: don't be so self centered. I think it's really important

1296
00:52:14,280 --> 00:52:16,440
Speaker 4: to be self centered, because what is self centerce we

1297
00:52:16,480 --> 00:52:18,960
Speaker 4: have the center of yourself, you know, and understanding like

1298
00:52:19,120 --> 00:52:23,399
Speaker 4: who you are and how what motivates you and your character. So, yeah,

1299
00:52:23,400 --> 00:52:25,040
Speaker 4: it was tough. It was definitely a tough off season

1300
00:52:25,080 --> 00:52:27,320
Speaker 4: for sure. But it's like, I'm really grateful once I

1301
00:52:27,440 --> 00:52:30,320
Speaker 4: started to figure it out, really grateful to know that,

1302
00:52:31,400 --> 00:52:34,520
Speaker 4: you know, it's the the dislike or displeasure of football

1303
00:52:34,600 --> 00:52:37,359
Speaker 4: is totally within my own hands, whether it's going I'm

1304
00:52:37,360 --> 00:52:40,400
Speaker 4: playing well or not, Like it's all that perception, you know,

1305
00:52:40,680 --> 00:52:41,600
Speaker 4: Perception is reality.

1306
00:52:41,640 --> 00:52:44,680
Speaker 1: That's what I hear that's why I hang out with

1307
00:52:44,719 --> 00:52:45,360
Speaker 1: that motherfucker.

1308
00:52:46,600 --> 00:52:47,800
Speaker 2: Well, I kind of think I went all over the

1309
00:52:47,800 --> 00:52:48,160
Speaker 2: place too.

1310
00:52:48,560 --> 00:52:50,840
Speaker 3: No, so here, here's what I captured in hearing that,

1311
00:52:51,000 --> 00:52:53,080
Speaker 3: and I would go even just a little bit deeper.

1312
00:52:53,800 --> 00:52:56,919
Speaker 3: Is the stories people are going to tell your daughter

1313
00:52:57,719 --> 00:53:01,920
Speaker 3: about how in year six you flip the switch where

1314
00:53:01,960 --> 00:53:03,520
Speaker 3: you already have this in you. I mean, I've watched

1315
00:53:03,560 --> 00:53:05,040
Speaker 3: you play, I watched him try to take you off

1316
00:53:05,080 --> 00:53:07,200
Speaker 3: the field, and you're coming back on the field, but

1317
00:53:07,400 --> 00:53:10,560
Speaker 3: literally this mentality that you've never approached six seconds of

1318
00:53:10,640 --> 00:53:13,200
Speaker 3: play as intently as and intentionally with as much fire

1319
00:53:13,239 --> 00:53:15,319
Speaker 3: as you do now because of your daughter, and because

1320
00:53:15,360 --> 00:53:17,080
Speaker 3: people are going to say you had to scrape daddy

1321
00:53:17,160 --> 00:53:19,080
Speaker 3: off the field to get him off the field, you

1322
00:53:19,239 --> 00:53:20,840
Speaker 3: had to pull him out of the locker room, to

1323
00:53:20,840 --> 00:53:22,120
Speaker 3: get him out of the locker roo because he would

1324
00:53:22,120 --> 00:53:24,120
Speaker 3: have done anything for his teammates, whether it was on

1325
00:53:24,239 --> 00:53:26,319
Speaker 3: the field or in the locker room. And it's all

1326
00:53:26,360 --> 00:53:29,040
Speaker 3: about legacy. And I think you flip that switch to

1327
00:53:29,120 --> 00:53:31,040
Speaker 3: having the ability to look your daughter in the eyes

1328
00:53:31,040 --> 00:53:33,680
Speaker 3: because reality is you're probably gonna be playing ten years

1329
00:53:33,719 --> 00:53:37,040
Speaker 3: from now. Right Well maybe okay, so.

1330
00:53:38,800 --> 00:53:43,640
Speaker 2: Probably will, but I don't have an ego, right, But

1331
00:53:43,719 --> 00:53:44,240
Speaker 2: you know what I'm.

1332
00:53:44,080 --> 00:53:45,880
Speaker 3: Saying, Like when it comes to your daughter, she may

1333
00:53:46,000 --> 00:53:48,359
Speaker 3: not get to see you in your prime, and your

1334
00:53:48,440 --> 00:53:50,600
Speaker 3: prime is right here, and embrace it like you never

1335
00:53:50,719 --> 00:53:53,960
Speaker 3: have before, because your daughter is watching every single move

1336
00:53:54,040 --> 00:53:56,120
Speaker 3: that you make. And that's not what I realize. Like

1337
00:53:56,239 --> 00:53:58,440
Speaker 3: with my mom, Like people are like, man, like your

1338
00:53:58,480 --> 00:54:00,320
Speaker 3: mom died eleven days for your eighth birth How do

1339
00:54:00,360 --> 00:54:03,000
Speaker 3: you remember any of this? And that's all I had, right,

1340
00:54:03,640 --> 00:54:06,520
Speaker 3: all I had was eleven days for my eighth birthday.

1341
00:54:06,680 --> 00:54:10,840
Speaker 3: That's it, right, So kids pay attention. Right, everybody's watching

1342
00:54:11,000 --> 00:54:13,480
Speaker 3: your behavior, and I think it's an exciting time for you.

1343
00:54:14,000 --> 00:54:16,080
Speaker 3: Where now that you've made it through that mentally and

1344
00:54:16,160 --> 00:54:18,080
Speaker 3: you just watch what happens, right, you'll turn up to

1345
00:54:18,080 --> 00:54:18,839
Speaker 3: a whole other level.

1346
00:54:19,040 --> 00:54:22,000
Speaker 4: The thing is, it's not like the the blessing and

1347
00:54:22,040 --> 00:54:23,960
Speaker 4: the curse of like the mind is. It's not just

1348
00:54:24,080 --> 00:54:25,279
Speaker 4: like a oh, I've reached.

1349
00:54:25,040 --> 00:54:26,000
Speaker 2: That level and that's it.

1350
00:54:26,200 --> 00:54:28,480
Speaker 4: Like it's a constant maintenance and constant work. It like,

1351
00:54:28,840 --> 00:54:31,359
Speaker 4: stay on top of those things, right, bless them now.

1352
00:54:31,680 --> 00:54:34,040
Speaker 4: And if I if I don't, like you know, stay

1353
00:54:34,120 --> 00:54:38,279
Speaker 4: reading or or keep up on you myself or you know,

1354
00:54:38,480 --> 00:54:41,680
Speaker 4: I always my wife is such My wife is so smart,

1355
00:54:41,880 --> 00:54:45,960
Speaker 4: she's so incredibly intelligent, and she's she can break things down.

1356
00:54:46,640 --> 00:54:49,600
Speaker 4: And the story I loved telling is when I was

1357
00:54:49,680 --> 00:54:52,120
Speaker 4: in year two, after my second season, people are talking

1358
00:54:52,120 --> 00:54:54,840
Speaker 4: about replacing me, Matt Neely keyboard Warriors, probably saying we

1359
00:54:54,840 --> 00:54:57,239
Speaker 4: gotta get we hear this guy. You know those types

1360
00:54:57,280 --> 00:54:57,600
Speaker 4: of guys.

1361
00:54:58,480 --> 00:55:01,800
Speaker 2: Listen, Matt, I'm just kidding's now, you know that.

1362
00:55:01,920 --> 00:55:04,920
Speaker 3: I yeah, that's always.

1363
00:55:04,719 --> 00:55:05,040
Speaker 2: Been a fan.

1364
00:55:05,080 --> 00:55:07,160
Speaker 4: But I do say that there are big titan faithful

1365
00:55:07,280 --> 00:55:11,040
Speaker 4: people that wanted me out. And I met my wife right.

1366
00:55:11,000 --> 00:55:11,680
Speaker 2: After that offseason.

1367
00:55:11,719 --> 00:55:14,800
Speaker 4: I met her June thirty July January thirty first a

1368
00:55:14,840 --> 00:55:19,360
Speaker 4: proposer five weeks later, and she helped me just like

1369
00:55:19,480 --> 00:55:21,600
Speaker 4: kind of realize the bigger picture. And the one thing

1370
00:55:21,640 --> 00:55:23,200
Speaker 4: that always sat with me is like, if your life

1371
00:55:23,800 --> 00:55:26,400
Speaker 4: was like a garden and you have all these different

1372
00:55:26,480 --> 00:55:30,080
Speaker 4: pieces of your life, whether it's social life, your business life,

1373
00:55:30,160 --> 00:55:32,920
Speaker 4: your family life, and all I gave these pots and

1374
00:55:33,040 --> 00:55:35,520
Speaker 4: if I'm watering the football one all the time, that's great,

1375
00:55:35,520 --> 00:55:36,840
Speaker 4: and that one's going to grow, but look at all

1376
00:55:36,880 --> 00:55:39,080
Speaker 4: these other ones dying around it, and you're and if

1377
00:55:39,120 --> 00:55:41,759
Speaker 4: those die that's going to affect the plant that's living too,

1378
00:55:42,280 --> 00:55:44,759
Speaker 4: And so you got to continuously water all these plants

1379
00:55:44,800 --> 00:55:46,400
Speaker 4: all the time and stay on top of it and

1380
00:55:46,520 --> 00:55:48,480
Speaker 4: kind of check and balances when you get to watch

1381
00:55:48,520 --> 00:55:50,800
Speaker 4: yourself a little bit like Okay, I'm dipping into the

1382
00:55:50,800 --> 00:55:52,360
Speaker 4: negative a little over here. I gotta go water that

1383
00:55:52,440 --> 00:55:55,160
Speaker 4: plant for a second. Stay on top of those things.

1384
00:55:55,400 --> 00:55:57,920
Speaker 4: If you're not so anally focused.

1385
00:55:58,000 --> 00:55:58,520
Speaker 2: That's what I was.

1386
00:55:58,600 --> 00:55:59,680
Speaker 4: I was like, I gotta do this. I got to

1387
00:55:59,719 --> 00:56:01,920
Speaker 4: do foot both. I got to I was like strangling

1388
00:56:02,040 --> 00:56:04,200
Speaker 4: myself that it was actually holding me back. And once

1389
00:56:04,280 --> 00:56:07,160
Speaker 4: I let go and allowed myself to, you know, have

1390
00:56:07,239 --> 00:56:09,200
Speaker 4: a relationship like I do with my wife and you know,

1391
00:56:09,560 --> 00:56:10,719
Speaker 4: socially and everywhere else.

1392
00:56:10,760 --> 00:56:13,000
Speaker 2: And I am more like a healthy version of all that.

1393
00:56:13,640 --> 00:56:15,440
Speaker 4: Like I've sense that I made three Pro bowls in

1394
00:56:15,440 --> 00:56:17,520
Speaker 4: a row and it's just crazy and I have like

1395
00:56:18,280 --> 00:56:21,319
Speaker 4: we joke all the time. She goes, uh, the first

1396
00:56:21,400 --> 00:56:23,600
Speaker 4: contract that was yours, that second contract's mine.

1397
00:56:23,920 --> 00:56:29,080
Speaker 2: I was like, you damn, You're damn right. She's awesome, man.

1398
00:56:29,800 --> 00:56:32,880
Speaker 4: But it does it definitely puts things in perspective. And

1399
00:56:33,120 --> 00:56:35,719
Speaker 4: I say that when we talked about earlier, how you know,

1400
00:56:36,239 --> 00:56:38,160
Speaker 4: sometimes you got to fall, like you have that success,

1401
00:56:38,200 --> 00:56:40,560
Speaker 4: you got to fall to know how good that success tasted.

1402
00:56:40,960 --> 00:56:43,880
Speaker 4: Because my first year I didn't play the first five games,

1403
00:56:44,080 --> 00:56:46,080
Speaker 4: I still made All Rookie Team. I was a first

1404
00:56:46,160 --> 00:56:47,360
Speaker 4: round draft pick, and I felt like I was on

1405
00:56:47,400 --> 00:56:47,960
Speaker 4: top of the world.

1406
00:56:48,239 --> 00:56:48,719
Speaker 2: Well after that.

1407
00:56:48,760 --> 00:56:50,600
Speaker 4: Second season, I was like, I was like, holy shit,

1408
00:56:50,760 --> 00:56:53,040
Speaker 4: like I might be at a league in a couple

1409
00:56:53,040 --> 00:56:56,040
Speaker 4: of years. People are calling for my head and like

1410
00:56:56,160 --> 00:56:58,040
Speaker 4: that motivates you, it makes you want to be better.

1411
00:56:58,080 --> 00:57:01,800
Speaker 4: But I know now going through both those that someday,

1412
00:57:02,040 --> 00:57:03,879
Speaker 4: if you're going to be hey, you too old, Bud,

1413
00:57:04,239 --> 00:57:06,040
Speaker 4: You're too old, there's a faster kid out there that's

1414
00:57:06,040 --> 00:57:08,080
Speaker 4: gonna take your job. And if you don't stay on

1415
00:57:08,160 --> 00:57:09,879
Speaker 4: top of it, you know, you get last a year

1416
00:57:10,200 --> 00:57:12,759
Speaker 4: or two longer after that, but eventually it's gonna catch

1417
00:57:12,840 --> 00:57:13,000
Speaker 4: up to you.

1418
00:57:13,080 --> 00:57:14,239
Speaker 2: Except for Tom Brady.

1419
00:57:14,120 --> 00:57:17,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, no, no doubt, man, I think uh, I

1420
00:57:17,720 --> 00:57:19,880
Speaker 1: think that just kind of is relatable to everybody, that

1421
00:57:20,080 --> 00:57:24,280
Speaker 1: everybody constantly fucking goes through speed bumps. Right Like you're

1422
00:57:24,320 --> 00:57:27,360
Speaker 1: sitting there saying that, I'm thinking about my rookie year,

1423
00:57:27,400 --> 00:57:28,760
Speaker 1: like when I didn't get activated and I was on

1424
00:57:28,800 --> 00:57:30,200
Speaker 1: peace squad the whole year, and when I was like

1425
00:57:30,320 --> 00:57:32,360
Speaker 1: really bitter about it and pissed off that like when

1426
00:57:32,440 --> 00:57:34,920
Speaker 1: somebody tore their ACL they went out and got you know,

1427
00:57:35,320 --> 00:57:37,840
Speaker 1: somebody else to play special teams and not be the backup.

1428
00:57:38,000 --> 00:57:39,560
Speaker 1: And it's like, yo, I thought you guys were gonna

1429
00:57:39,600 --> 00:57:41,320
Speaker 1: activate me, and you know, dude.

1430
00:57:41,120 --> 00:57:43,880
Speaker 3: You called me week thirty. Every week from week thirteen

1431
00:57:43,920 --> 00:57:46,360
Speaker 3: on he was activated, the coach told him this, bro,

1432
00:57:46,560 --> 00:57:49,200
Speaker 3: this is the week. Yeah, literally from week thirteen on.

1433
00:57:49,360 --> 00:57:52,400
Speaker 1: Hey, and I'd be so pissed off, and you had

1434
00:57:52,400 --> 00:57:55,040
Speaker 1: asked if I'm still doing the prize Frider day, like

1435
00:57:55,160 --> 00:57:57,120
Speaker 1: still check marking the boxes and the things that kind

1436
00:57:57,120 --> 00:57:57,920
Speaker 1: of got me to where I was.

1437
00:57:58,160 --> 00:57:59,120
Speaker 2: I was a prize fighter day.

1438
00:57:59,440 --> 00:58:01,520
Speaker 3: So I believe similar to what you just said about

1439
00:58:01,560 --> 00:58:03,680
Speaker 3: water in the plants, I share what I call a

1440
00:58:03,760 --> 00:58:06,440
Speaker 3: price fighter day. So it's doing things that are personal,

1441
00:58:06,800 --> 00:58:09,800
Speaker 3: professional athletic, or of service to others and make sure

1442
00:58:09,840 --> 00:58:12,000
Speaker 3: every day you're checking something in all those boxes that

1443
00:58:12,080 --> 00:58:14,040
Speaker 3: are one hundred percent in your control, putting all your

1444
00:58:14,040 --> 00:58:15,960
Speaker 3: effort in so you can say I won the day.

1445
00:58:16,400 --> 00:58:18,040
Speaker 3: And if you can stack winning those days, you can

1446
00:58:18,120 --> 00:58:20,160
Speaker 3: actually have balance in your life. Right, an all pro

1447
00:58:20,560 --> 00:58:23,000
Speaker 3: professional football player can have balance, right, be a hell

1448
00:58:23,000 --> 00:58:25,280
Speaker 3: of a dad, be a hell of a husband, read books,

1449
00:58:25,320 --> 00:58:27,720
Speaker 3: and do all those water the water the right plants

1450
00:58:27,800 --> 00:58:30,160
Speaker 3: every day. Not go he it's football season, don't I

1451
00:58:30,240 --> 00:58:32,720
Speaker 3: won't read a book. It's football season. I won't hang

1452
00:58:32,760 --> 00:58:34,760
Speaker 3: out with my wife. No, it's you can do those

1453
00:58:34,840 --> 00:58:36,320
Speaker 3: things if you choose to do them, and that that's

1454
00:58:36,360 --> 00:58:36,960
Speaker 3: what he's referring to.

1455
00:58:37,120 --> 00:58:38,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, still find that balance too.

1456
00:58:38,560 --> 00:58:41,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm sure, sorry for sure. But all I'm saying

1457
00:58:41,280 --> 00:58:43,240
Speaker 1: is like you need those people in your life to

1458
00:58:43,360 --> 00:58:44,760
Speaker 1: check you and kind of like you got to look

1459
00:58:44,800 --> 00:58:46,360
Speaker 1: in the mirror, like, yo, okay, will are you doing

1460
00:58:46,400 --> 00:58:48,320
Speaker 1: these things that Ben asked you about? Like this year

1461
00:58:48,360 --> 00:58:49,880
Speaker 1: when I, you know, when stuff would go down with

1462
00:58:50,000 --> 00:58:51,400
Speaker 1: me and I had that injury and I was out

1463
00:58:51,400 --> 00:58:53,320
Speaker 1: for like four or five weeks, and you know, I

1464
00:58:53,440 --> 00:58:55,680
Speaker 1: wasn't having the most fun either, and kind of taking

1465
00:58:55,760 --> 00:58:58,600
Speaker 1: on my new role of being a guy in the

1466
00:58:58,640 --> 00:59:01,400
Speaker 1: background and kind of just being a camaraderie guy. And

1467
00:59:01,560 --> 00:59:04,680
Speaker 1: then charl would question me a lot about like you

1468
00:59:04,720 --> 00:59:06,720
Speaker 1: don't think you're just going through a phase, or Hey,

1469
00:59:06,840 --> 00:59:09,520
Speaker 1: how's that new book that you're reading? Or I thought

1470
00:59:09,560 --> 00:59:11,240
Speaker 1: you weren't gonna I thought you said you were gonna

1471
00:59:11,240 --> 00:59:13,480
Speaker 1: eat those things, or they kind of just check you

1472
00:59:13,600 --> 00:59:15,920
Speaker 1: and to make you look in the mirror and realize, like,

1473
00:59:16,400 --> 00:59:19,080
Speaker 1: am I being holding my own self accountable through like

1474
00:59:19,160 --> 00:59:21,720
Speaker 1: these questions. That's why it's so it's super important to

1475
00:59:21,760 --> 00:59:25,120
Speaker 1: have people in your life that hold you accountable, check you,

1476
00:59:25,320 --> 00:59:27,400
Speaker 1: check up on you, review with you what's going on

1477
00:59:27,920 --> 00:59:29,960
Speaker 1: and whether or not you might say something that might

1478
00:59:30,000 --> 00:59:32,439
Speaker 1: be a white lie. In the beginning, you're still standing

1479
00:59:32,480 --> 00:59:35,040
Speaker 1: there brushing my teeth at night, knowing, Okay, am I

1480
00:59:35,160 --> 00:59:37,840
Speaker 1: really doing these things that that they asked me about

1481
00:59:37,880 --> 00:59:39,480
Speaker 1: that like Ben asked me about that, Charle asked me

1482
00:59:39,520 --> 00:59:41,680
Speaker 1: about like am I holding myself accountable in that nature?

1483
00:59:41,720 --> 00:59:42,880
Speaker 1: Or am I just going through a phase and just

1484
00:59:42,920 --> 00:59:45,680
Speaker 1: kind of feeling sorry for myself? So everybody goes through

1485
00:59:45,720 --> 00:59:48,080
Speaker 1: that shit, man, That's why it's important you are. You

1486
00:59:48,200 --> 00:59:50,760
Speaker 1: are who you surround yourself with. That's why we're around

1487
00:59:50,800 --> 00:59:52,240
Speaker 1: each other all the time. That's why we're always like

1488
00:59:52,320 --> 00:59:55,000
Speaker 1: feeding each other's minds with like with stuff. We have

1489
00:59:55,120 --> 00:59:57,440
Speaker 1: our partners at home, you have our mentors, You have

1490
00:59:57,560 --> 00:59:59,520
Speaker 1: guys that you want to lean on, like yo, or

1491
00:59:59,560 --> 01:00:01,640
Speaker 1: a younger that you want to teach and you're actually

1492
01:00:01,680 --> 01:00:04,880
Speaker 1: getting something from him even though you don't realize it.

1493
01:00:04,960 --> 01:00:06,680
Speaker 1: Like you're getting something from somebody younger than you that

1494
01:00:06,760 --> 01:00:08,760
Speaker 1: you're giving to and you're just like kind of clinging

1495
01:00:08,800 --> 01:00:11,080
Speaker 1: on to them. It's super important, it's super important.

1496
01:00:11,560 --> 01:00:14,640
Speaker 2: It's it's uh, I don't know, man.

1497
01:00:14,840 --> 01:00:18,160
Speaker 4: People People have such a knack for feeling fucking sorry

1498
01:00:18,200 --> 01:00:21,000
Speaker 4: for themselves. It's a wild now, It's it's crazy. How

1499
01:00:21,040 --> 01:00:23,240
Speaker 4: if you just if you just took a moment and

1500
01:00:23,520 --> 01:00:25,880
Speaker 4: learned about yourself five minutes a day, sat there, didn't

1501
01:00:25,880 --> 01:00:27,840
Speaker 4: do anything, and you don't have to cross your legs

1502
01:00:27,840 --> 01:00:30,840
Speaker 4: and say, oh, you know, and meditation is in all forms.

1503
01:00:30,880 --> 01:00:32,880
Speaker 4: I could sit here like this for five minutes just

1504
01:00:33,000 --> 01:00:36,000
Speaker 4: kill myself. What's bothering me? Why is it bothering me?

1505
01:00:36,480 --> 01:00:38,560
Speaker 4: And the more you learn that it's not gonna be

1506
01:00:38,600 --> 01:00:40,200
Speaker 4: like you're gonna have the perfect attitude all the time.

1507
01:00:40,240 --> 01:00:42,240
Speaker 4: But what it does do is if when I do snap,

1508
01:00:43,440 --> 01:00:44,960
Speaker 4: it gives me a chance to say, five minutes later,

1509
01:00:45,040 --> 01:00:46,360
Speaker 4: be like, Okay, why is that bothering?

1510
01:00:46,480 --> 01:00:46,600
Speaker 2: Well?

1511
01:00:46,680 --> 01:00:50,120
Speaker 4: This is going on distresses on me. Well I can't

1512
01:00:50,160 --> 01:00:53,040
Speaker 4: let that affect this. So I can go and you know,

1513
01:00:53,520 --> 01:00:55,640
Speaker 4: diffuse any situation and I'll let it build on top

1514
01:00:55,680 --> 01:00:56,160
Speaker 4: of itself.

1515
01:00:56,320 --> 01:00:57,480
Speaker 2: But if you never take the time.

1516
01:00:57,360 --> 01:01:00,400
Speaker 4: To learn anything about you, you're gonna always it's like

1517
01:01:00,760 --> 01:01:03,240
Speaker 4: blame other people. And if you blame other people, you're

1518
01:01:03,320 --> 01:01:06,240
Speaker 4: it's most of the time, if you're pointing at somebody

1519
01:01:06,240 --> 01:01:07,000
Speaker 4: else and it's your.

1520
01:01:06,920 --> 01:01:10,160
Speaker 2: Fault, it's probably something you've done right, you know.

1521
01:01:10,640 --> 01:01:13,640
Speaker 4: That's why it's so it's depression is a huge thing,

1522
01:01:13,840 --> 01:01:17,280
Speaker 4: and especially now in twenty nineteen, it's so huge because

1523
01:01:18,040 --> 01:01:20,680
Speaker 4: there's so many ways to not sit with yourself or

1524
01:01:20,720 --> 01:01:22,400
Speaker 4: it's almost mind numbing for people. You can get on

1525
01:01:22,480 --> 01:01:24,960
Speaker 4: social media and sit there on Twitter for hours, Instagram

1526
01:01:25,040 --> 01:01:26,560
Speaker 4: for hours and you never have to actually check in

1527
01:01:26,640 --> 01:01:27,760
Speaker 4: with the reality.

1528
01:01:27,720 --> 01:01:29,720
Speaker 2: That's hurting you in the back end. Yeah, you know,

1529
01:01:31,120 --> 01:01:32,080
Speaker 2: one thing leads to another.

1530
01:01:32,160 --> 01:01:34,200
Speaker 4: They keep compounding on top of each other and then

1531
01:01:34,320 --> 01:01:36,600
Speaker 4: people start blaming Well, you're just you're a fuck.

1532
01:01:36,640 --> 01:01:38,600
Speaker 2: You're a football player and you live the best.

1533
01:01:38,680 --> 01:01:41,360
Speaker 4: Like listen, I've had my own adversity with my family,

1534
01:01:41,520 --> 01:01:43,120
Speaker 4: Like I've grown up a certain way that I mean,

1535
01:01:43,200 --> 01:01:45,000
Speaker 4: they're you know, live and around. So I'm not going

1536
01:01:45,080 --> 01:01:47,440
Speaker 4: to like dive in you know, on a podcast about it.

1537
01:01:47,520 --> 01:01:49,360
Speaker 4: But you know, we've had We've had a lot of

1538
01:01:49,400 --> 01:01:50,960
Speaker 4: issues that I've had that I've had to work through.

1539
01:01:51,040 --> 01:01:53,080
Speaker 4: But it's not like I just came out of the

1540
01:01:53,160 --> 01:01:56,200
Speaker 4: room with a goal, with a cape on, with a conta.

1541
01:01:56,680 --> 01:01:58,680
Speaker 2: Nothing goes on and we've done it everyone else.

1542
01:01:59,400 --> 01:02:01,080
Speaker 4: It's just like it's it's like the more you feel

1543
01:02:01,080 --> 01:02:03,080
Speaker 4: sorry for yourself, the more you're gonna you're have more

1544
01:02:03,080 --> 01:02:05,560
Speaker 4: things to feel sorry for yourself about. So stop, like,

1545
01:02:06,280 --> 01:02:09,280
Speaker 4: stop complaining people. It's so easy to find things to

1546
01:02:09,320 --> 01:02:12,040
Speaker 4: complain about, and it's really it's really hard to.

1547
01:02:12,080 --> 01:02:14,320
Speaker 2: Find things to be happy about. It's crazy.

1548
01:02:14,360 --> 01:02:16,200
Speaker 4: If you on your if like people tell me the

1549
01:02:16,280 --> 01:02:17,840
Speaker 4: journal all the time, I really do need to start

1550
01:02:17,880 --> 01:02:19,320
Speaker 4: doing it. But if you just say five things a day,

1551
01:02:19,560 --> 01:02:22,240
Speaker 4: you're grateful for the positivity and it's the law of

1552
01:02:22,240 --> 01:02:23,760
Speaker 4: attraction and see it's the universe.

1553
01:02:23,760 --> 01:02:24,640
Speaker 2: If you just if you.

1554
01:02:24,720 --> 01:02:28,000
Speaker 4: Speaking positive, you speak in a positive tone all the time,

1555
01:02:28,520 --> 01:02:31,040
Speaker 4: it's gonna it's gonna end up that way. But if

1556
01:02:31,080 --> 01:02:33,160
Speaker 4: you're constantly shitting on yourself, whether it's a joke or not,

1557
01:02:33,320 --> 01:02:35,600
Speaker 4: you're gonna that you're gone, it's gonna come. It's gonna

1558
01:02:35,600 --> 01:02:37,720
Speaker 4: come get you people, gonna stop feeling sorry for yourself.

1559
01:02:37,920 --> 01:02:38,120
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1560
01:02:39,160 --> 01:02:42,000
Speaker 3: I always talk about the burn, as I mentioned earlier,

1561
01:02:42,200 --> 01:02:45,360
Speaker 3: and the burn is that underlying fire that really lights

1562
01:02:45,400 --> 01:02:46,920
Speaker 3: the purpose and the why, because I think there's a

1563
01:02:46,920 --> 01:02:49,040
Speaker 3: lot of guys talk about purpose and why and and

1564
01:02:49,120 --> 01:02:51,000
Speaker 3: it's like, well, man, I don't really know what those

1565
01:02:51,080 --> 01:02:52,920
Speaker 3: things are. Well, tell me what the burn is. Tell

1566
01:02:52,960 --> 01:02:56,080
Speaker 3: me like when you think about this, like taking no

1567
01:02:56,280 --> 01:02:58,280
Speaker 3: action is not on the other side of these thoughts, right.

1568
01:02:58,360 --> 01:03:00,640
Speaker 3: So for me, every day waking up thinking about my

1569
01:03:00,760 --> 01:03:04,120
Speaker 3: mom and I actually put together this burn challenge where

1570
01:03:04,120 --> 01:03:06,280
Speaker 3: I encourage people every day, first thing you do, before

1571
01:03:06,280 --> 01:03:08,560
Speaker 3: you check text message, before you do this, wake up

1572
01:03:09,040 --> 01:03:10,760
Speaker 3: and just write out what your burn is in a

1573
01:03:10,840 --> 01:03:14,720
Speaker 3: journal for thirty days. Just write one sentence. Yeah, one sentence,

1574
01:03:15,280 --> 01:03:17,080
Speaker 3: and I'm on day twenty two right now. I don't

1575
01:03:17,080 --> 01:03:18,640
Speaker 3: even need to do this. I've been thinking about my

1576
01:03:18,720 --> 01:03:20,960
Speaker 3: purpose and my burn every day, my whole damn life

1577
01:03:20,960 --> 01:03:23,560
Speaker 3: because of what I had to see. I'm setting an example.

1578
01:03:23,840 --> 01:03:25,520
Speaker 3: And you know how many people they message me on

1579
01:03:25,600 --> 01:03:28,120
Speaker 3: Instagram like what is this? You know, and it's what

1580
01:03:28,360 --> 01:03:30,440
Speaker 3: is this? And then it's like that you can just

1581
01:03:30,560 --> 01:03:32,800
Speaker 3: tell from their tone like what kind of nonsense? It's

1582
01:03:32,840 --> 01:03:33,680
Speaker 3: what nonsense?

1583
01:03:33,800 --> 01:03:34,200
Speaker 1: Is this not?

1584
01:03:34,600 --> 01:03:36,640
Speaker 3: Hey, help me understand the meaning of this. And then

1585
01:03:36,680 --> 01:03:39,440
Speaker 3: some people can make but people don't realize what you

1586
01:03:39,560 --> 01:03:42,440
Speaker 3: think about. You one hundred percent control your mindset. You

1587
01:03:42,520 --> 01:03:45,280
Speaker 3: can either control your mindset and say papers wrote about me,

1588
01:03:45,400 --> 01:03:47,840
Speaker 3: papers said this paper did that, or I mean, if

1589
01:03:47,880 --> 01:03:49,880
Speaker 3: we had more time, we could sit here and say,

1590
01:03:50,040 --> 01:03:52,360
Speaker 3: what did you really think about when the paper saw that? Right,

1591
01:03:52,440 --> 01:03:54,400
Speaker 3: there was some fire that said, man, I'm gonna go

1592
01:03:54,440 --> 01:03:57,120
Speaker 3: into the weight room now with your with your baby girl. Right,

1593
01:03:57,560 --> 01:03:59,600
Speaker 3: you wake up every day and you think about the

1594
01:03:59,680 --> 01:04:01,760
Speaker 3: example that you set for your baby girl. The other

1595
01:04:01,880 --> 01:04:03,600
Speaker 3: side of that is not getting your reps in in

1596
01:04:03,640 --> 01:04:05,680
Speaker 3: the gym. The other side of that is not doing

1597
01:04:06,040 --> 01:04:07,480
Speaker 3: what it takes to be recognized as one of the

1598
01:04:07,520 --> 01:04:09,480
Speaker 3: greatest left tackles to ever play the game. Right, You've

1599
01:04:09,520 --> 01:04:11,400
Speaker 3: done the Pro Bowls, but now we take it to

1600
01:04:11,480 --> 01:04:13,800
Speaker 3: the next level. Right, And most people don't realize you

1601
01:04:13,960 --> 01:04:16,920
Speaker 3: control those thoughts. And as you have those, life changes

1602
01:04:16,960 --> 01:04:19,320
Speaker 3: and things change. First, baby I had man. Life changed.

1603
01:04:19,560 --> 01:04:21,440
Speaker 3: It's like, now you're an example for somebody else. Now

1604
01:04:21,560 --> 01:04:23,880
Speaker 3: legacy means something else. Now I'm taking the pen that

1605
01:04:23,960 --> 01:04:25,960
Speaker 3: my mother passed to me, I get to pass it

1606
01:04:26,000 --> 01:04:27,720
Speaker 3: to my son. I get to pass it to my daughter.

1607
01:04:28,040 --> 01:04:30,120
Speaker 3: That's a hell of a responsibility and something I will

1608
01:04:30,160 --> 01:04:33,200
Speaker 3: absolutely attack every single day to make sure I can

1609
01:04:33,240 --> 01:04:35,560
Speaker 3: touch as many lives as I can. And like to me,

1610
01:04:35,680 --> 01:04:37,560
Speaker 3: you think about something like that, you think about your

1611
01:04:37,640 --> 01:04:41,480
Speaker 3: daughter in that context, getting after it right, one play

1612
01:04:41,480 --> 01:04:44,600
Speaker 3: at a time. That's like it's easy, but most people

1613
01:04:44,680 --> 01:04:48,080
Speaker 3: don't realize you one hundred percent can control thinking that way.

1614
01:04:48,280 --> 01:04:50,560
Speaker 3: They'd rather get up and say, gosh, my boss did

1615
01:04:50,640 --> 01:04:54,560
Speaker 3: this yesterday, And that's because it's easier. I'd rather have

1616
01:04:54,760 --> 01:04:57,280
Speaker 3: that than actually do what it takes to control your mind.

1617
01:04:57,320 --> 01:04:58,480
Speaker 2: It's a victim's mentality.

1618
01:04:58,560 --> 01:05:00,800
Speaker 3: Absolutely, it's crazy.

1619
01:05:01,320 --> 01:05:03,439
Speaker 4: Like I'll watch my daughter. I'll watch my daughter watch

1620
01:05:03,480 --> 01:05:05,120
Speaker 4: my wife, and my wife will go do something. It

1621
01:05:05,200 --> 01:05:07,080
Speaker 4: might she'll walk away and then the wind will come

1622
01:05:07,160 --> 01:05:08,840
Speaker 4: up behind her and pretend to do the same thing.

1623
01:05:09,240 --> 01:05:10,560
Speaker 4: And then they'll go the next thing, and like my

1624
01:05:11,240 --> 01:05:14,560
Speaker 4: she coughs, my daughter will be like like pretending to cough.

1625
01:05:14,640 --> 01:05:17,240
Speaker 4: Like the bean is she's a sponge. I mean it's

1626
01:05:17,280 --> 01:05:19,240
Speaker 4: not just the bean, it's everybody. But might call my

1627
01:05:19,320 --> 01:05:20,200
Speaker 4: daughter the bean for those.

1628
01:05:20,040 --> 01:05:24,040
Speaker 2: Who are listening. She's a complete stuff. She's so awesome.

1629
01:05:24,080 --> 01:05:26,320
Speaker 1: Did we drop the fucking gym today?

1630
01:05:27,880 --> 01:05:29,800
Speaker 2: Is there anything else where we really need to hit on?

1631
01:05:30,800 --> 01:05:31,960
Speaker 1: Yeah? Ben, you got anything else?

1632
01:05:32,560 --> 01:05:35,040
Speaker 2: And then you want to do you have for people?

1633
01:05:35,200 --> 01:05:38,400
Speaker 4: For people that do have connected with the things they've

1634
01:05:38,440 --> 01:05:39,840
Speaker 4: heard on this that they can follow you. What kind

1635
01:05:39,840 --> 01:05:40,840
Speaker 4: of social media is you got?

1636
01:05:41,120 --> 01:05:41,280
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1637
01:05:41,360 --> 01:05:45,120
Speaker 3: So at continued fight is uh is my social media?

1638
01:05:45,640 --> 01:05:46,720
Speaker 2: That's the primary?

1639
01:05:46,760 --> 01:05:49,560
Speaker 3: Well, that's that's Instagram, that's Twitter, and those are the

1640
01:05:49,720 --> 01:05:50,520
Speaker 3: most popular ones.

1641
01:05:50,600 --> 01:05:51,000
Speaker 2: That's awesome.

1642
01:05:51,040 --> 01:05:51,880
Speaker 1: What about a website?

1643
01:05:52,000 --> 01:05:55,440
Speaker 3: Website is Ben Newman dot net, Okay dot net And

1644
01:05:55,480 --> 01:05:57,480
Speaker 3: if you go to b n C speakers dot com,

1645
01:05:57,920 --> 01:05:59,600
Speaker 3: you go to b n C speakers dot com, you'll

1646
01:05:59,640 --> 01:06:02,760
Speaker 3: find Big Willie over here, one of our speakers. We've

1647
01:06:02,760 --> 01:06:04,480
Speaker 3: been on the road. We've probably done thirty something speaking

1648
01:06:04,560 --> 01:06:07,240
Speaker 3: engagements together. And Will's a hell of a speaker. I

1649
01:06:07,360 --> 01:06:08,960
Speaker 3: told you I was joking that you couldn't get him

1650
01:06:08,960 --> 01:06:10,680
Speaker 3: off the stage. Yeah, but I'll tell you what, this

1651
01:06:11,080 --> 01:06:12,840
Speaker 3: is one of the most intelligent guys I've met. I

1652
01:06:12,880 --> 01:06:15,360
Speaker 3: remember we went to North Dakota State. We had just

1653
01:06:15,480 --> 01:06:18,840
Speaker 3: come off of actually, so I was there four years

1654
01:06:18,880 --> 01:06:20,880
Speaker 3: for the head coach, took me to Kansas State with him,

1655
01:06:21,360 --> 01:06:23,720
Speaker 3: and three of the four years we won a national championship.

1656
01:06:23,760 --> 01:06:26,160
Speaker 3: He comes in the year after we had followed short

1657
01:06:26,200 --> 01:06:28,960
Speaker 3: of winning the national championship, and the way he inspired

1658
01:06:29,000 --> 01:06:31,160
Speaker 3: those kids, man, they still fricking talk about it, and

1659
01:06:31,160 --> 01:06:33,439
Speaker 3: we ended up going back to back the years after

1660
01:06:33,520 --> 01:06:35,720
Speaker 3: that man inspired the quarterback who just got drafted by

1661
01:06:35,760 --> 01:06:40,400
Speaker 3: the Chargers, Like his level of inspiration is really something else.

1662
01:06:40,440 --> 01:06:42,960
Speaker 3: And that's why I know for him that fire because

1663
01:06:42,960 --> 01:06:45,880
Speaker 3: I think back to when we were in your apartment,

1664
01:06:46,040 --> 01:06:47,960
Speaker 3: when you were on practice squad. We went out to

1665
01:06:48,040 --> 01:06:50,000
Speaker 3: dinner to celebrate it. I came out to see him

1666
01:06:50,200 --> 01:06:52,200
Speaker 3: and he was right now, he's on practice squad talking

1667
01:06:52,200 --> 01:06:54,240
Speaker 3: about I'm gonna have camps, I'm gonna give back in

1668
01:06:54,320 --> 01:06:56,600
Speaker 3: my community, I'm gonna speak, I'm gonna do all these things.

1669
01:06:56,720 --> 01:06:58,200
Speaker 3: He didn't hold back the fact that he was on

1670
01:06:58,320 --> 01:07:00,760
Speaker 3: practice squad to keep him from believing he would have camps,

1671
01:07:00,840 --> 01:07:03,080
Speaker 3: believing he would save money. You wrote down you believe

1672
01:07:03,120 --> 01:07:05,640
Speaker 3: you'd invest in real estate. And far too many people

1673
01:07:05,680 --> 01:07:07,480
Speaker 3: are worried about the chapter where they are and how

1674
01:07:07,480 --> 01:07:09,480
Speaker 3: they're never going to get to where they're going rather

1675
01:07:09,560 --> 01:07:11,880
Speaker 3: than recognizing the chapter where you are right now might

1676
01:07:11,920 --> 01:07:14,520
Speaker 3: be the best damned chapter, and you solidifying the foundation

1677
01:07:14,640 --> 01:07:16,640
Speaker 3: that's going to give you the mindset to go conquer

1678
01:07:16,680 --> 01:07:18,480
Speaker 3: and achieve everything you want in your life. And that's

1679
01:07:18,520 --> 01:07:20,640
Speaker 3: what you've done. And that's why I love this guy

1680
01:07:20,680 --> 01:07:22,520
Speaker 3: to death. I'm sure you can tell, but he's like

1681
01:07:22,560 --> 01:07:24,920
Speaker 3: an uncle to my kids. I would do anything for

1682
01:07:25,040 --> 01:07:26,960
Speaker 3: this guy, and that's why I want the listeners to know.

1683
01:07:27,040 --> 01:07:29,880
Speaker 3: Forget following me like I would do anything for this dude,

1684
01:07:29,880 --> 01:07:31,520
Speaker 3: and that, to me, that's what life is all about.

1685
01:07:31,600 --> 01:07:33,960
Speaker 3: It's about knowing you've got relationships like this. I could

1686
01:07:34,000 --> 01:07:35,920
Speaker 3: call this dude at three o'clock in the morning and say, Bro,

1687
01:07:36,080 --> 01:07:38,520
Speaker 3: something went down in Saint Louis, And unless there was

1688
01:07:38,600 --> 01:07:40,560
Speaker 3: something that he absolutely couldn't do it, he'd be like, bro,

1689
01:07:40,560 --> 01:07:41,800
Speaker 3: I'm in the car. He'd be like, brow, I'm in

1690
01:07:41,840 --> 01:07:47,520
Speaker 3: the car. And I always dreamed he would answer that

1691
01:07:47,600 --> 01:07:48,920
Speaker 3: he would come for me, and now he tells me

1692
01:07:49,000 --> 01:07:49,480
Speaker 3: he'd sleep.

1693
01:07:49,680 --> 01:07:50,440
Speaker 1: I appreciate it.

1694
01:07:51,160 --> 01:07:53,120
Speaker 3: I'll go looking for a new friend, doing good.

1695
01:07:53,200 --> 01:07:56,360
Speaker 1: Joe hyping me up. There's an Alabama transfer. It was

1696
01:07:56,440 --> 01:07:58,240
Speaker 1: that long snapper. He came from Bama.

1697
01:07:58,560 --> 01:08:00,880
Speaker 3: Yup, Scott, he's a band now, Yeah, Scott.

1698
01:08:00,960 --> 01:08:02,560
Speaker 1: He came up to me when we were there working

1699
01:08:02,600 --> 01:08:04,680
Speaker 1: on He's like, hey, do you know Ben Newman? And

1700
01:08:04,800 --> 01:08:07,120
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, I know Newman. He's like, Yo,

1701
01:08:07,240 --> 01:08:10,080
Speaker 1: He's talked about you a lot. Man Like it was

1702
01:08:10,120 --> 01:08:12,400
Speaker 1: probably it was a really cool thing. Knowing he transferred

1703
01:08:12,400 --> 01:08:14,280
Speaker 1: from there and came from somewhere I've never even been,

1704
01:08:15,040 --> 01:08:18,360
Speaker 1: and knowing that you probably you know, said say these

1705
01:08:18,479 --> 01:08:19,680
Speaker 1: nice things. I really appreciate it.

1706
01:08:19,920 --> 01:08:20,080
Speaker 2: Well.

1707
01:08:20,240 --> 01:08:22,960
Speaker 3: I remember one of the linebackers from Bama before the

1708
01:08:23,080 --> 01:08:25,639
Speaker 3: National Championship last year, you mentioned on an elevator somewhere.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it was cool. He say. We were at the

1710
01:08:27,439 --> 01:08:31,479
Speaker 1: Pro Bowl. J Mosley's brother cousin Jamie.

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01:08:31,680 --> 01:08:32,519
Speaker 3: Yeah, brother, and we.

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01:08:32,520 --> 01:08:34,600
Speaker 1: Were on the elevator at the Pro Bowl and he

1713
01:08:34,680 --> 01:08:36,920
Speaker 1: said the same thing, like you know Ben Newman. I

1714
01:08:36,960 --> 01:08:39,240
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, I know Ben. That's my boy. He's like, man,

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01:08:39,280 --> 01:08:41,200
Speaker 1: he always comes to Baman and says a lot of

1716
01:08:41,200 --> 01:08:44,880
Speaker 1: great stuffcause'mitting there thinking, I always get curious, knowing you're

1717
01:08:44,880 --> 01:08:49,000
Speaker 1: about to go in another locker room, what is going

1718
01:08:49,040 --> 01:08:51,639
Speaker 1: to be the feedback just because you know you stepped

1719
01:08:51,640 --> 01:08:54,240
Speaker 1: in the sports world, not like that long ago, like

1720
01:08:54,320 --> 01:08:56,479
Speaker 1: I what five however long seven years ago?

1721
01:08:56,520 --> 01:08:58,040
Speaker 3: Now twenty thirteen was the first time.

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01:08:58,040 --> 01:08:59,840
Speaker 1: I'm always wondering, like when you step in these new

1723
01:08:59,880 --> 01:09:01,400
Speaker 1: life locker rooms, like how guys are going to take

1724
01:09:01,400 --> 01:09:02,920
Speaker 1: some of this stuff in. I always get curious. I

1725
01:09:02,960 --> 01:09:04,639
Speaker 1: know how I took it in, But you know, there's

1726
01:09:04,680 --> 01:09:07,120
Speaker 1: a sometimes there's levels of think you know, think about it.

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01:09:07,160 --> 01:09:08,880
Speaker 3: There's two things going through my mind that I that

1728
01:09:08,960 --> 01:09:11,240
Speaker 3: I got to share before we stop. First one is

1729
01:09:11,400 --> 01:09:14,000
Speaker 3: every message has to be different. When coach Climbing went

1730
01:09:14,000 --> 01:09:16,840
Speaker 3: from North Kota State and he went to Kansas State

1731
01:09:17,160 --> 01:09:18,840
Speaker 3: and we sat down because he would always have me

1732
01:09:18,920 --> 01:09:20,880
Speaker 3: develop a theme for the season, right, and this season

1733
01:09:20,920 --> 01:09:22,880
Speaker 3: it's pound the Stone. I've never used pound the Stone

1734
01:09:22,920 --> 01:09:25,040
Speaker 3: at Alabama. I've never used pund the Stone at North

1735
01:09:25,120 --> 01:09:27,240
Speaker 3: Kota State, never used it with the Dolphin, never used

1736
01:09:27,240 --> 01:09:29,640
Speaker 3: it anywhere, right, So for me, like, it's got to

1737
01:09:29,680 --> 01:09:31,080
Speaker 3: be something fresh, it's got to be something new. And

1738
01:09:31,120 --> 01:09:32,680
Speaker 3: too many coaches think, well, I'll go from here and

1739
01:09:32,680 --> 01:09:34,519
Speaker 3: I'll just pick it up and I'll put it over here. Man,

1740
01:09:34,560 --> 01:09:36,120
Speaker 3: you got to find out how those guys tick. You

1741
01:09:36,160 --> 01:09:37,720
Speaker 3: got to find out what's in their locker room. You

1742
01:09:37,760 --> 01:09:39,600
Speaker 3: got to find out how they think. And then I

1743
01:09:39,640 --> 01:09:41,479
Speaker 3: had a buddy of mine, Joshua Medcalf, who wrote a

1744
01:09:41,479 --> 01:09:43,080
Speaker 3: book called Pound the Stone. Let me use it. But

1745
01:09:43,360 --> 01:09:45,800
Speaker 3: I think it's finding what's actually going to resonate. And

1746
01:09:45,880 --> 01:09:47,479
Speaker 3: it's been a blessing that we've been able to find

1747
01:09:47,520 --> 01:09:50,000
Speaker 3: these messages that have worked, and they have and then

1748
01:09:50,040 --> 01:09:52,120
Speaker 3: the behavior comes behind it. They rally around it. No

1749
01:09:52,240 --> 01:09:54,800
Speaker 3: different than for the boys. Right I'm sitting here watching

1750
01:09:54,880 --> 01:09:57,519
Speaker 3: from home knowing you two dudes were the ones who

1751
01:09:57,600 --> 01:09:59,800
Speaker 3: did that, and that was one of the proudest moments, no,

1752
01:10:00,040 --> 01:10:02,000
Speaker 3: and that like, even though you weren't getting everything that

1753
01:10:02,080 --> 01:10:04,120
Speaker 3: you wanted last year and the time that you wanted it,

1754
01:10:04,479 --> 01:10:06,800
Speaker 3: you were in there, the two of you for the boys,

1755
01:10:06,880 --> 01:10:08,800
Speaker 3: getting those guys to rally, getting those guys to give

1756
01:10:08,800 --> 01:10:11,719
Speaker 3: all them stuffs. Dude, that's the stuff that it's all about.

1757
01:10:12,040 --> 01:10:14,200
Speaker 3: It's keep it's continuing to fight when you don't want

1758
01:10:14,200 --> 01:10:16,880
Speaker 3: to do it. And here here's the beauty of this formain.

1759
01:10:16,920 --> 01:10:19,120
Speaker 3: I've got to tell this story because we wouldn't be

1760
01:10:19,160 --> 01:10:22,000
Speaker 3: sitting on this bus right now, and none of these

1761
01:10:22,080 --> 01:10:24,559
Speaker 3: stories of people you've met in my ability to share

1762
01:10:24,640 --> 01:10:27,120
Speaker 3: your story to inspire others. And it's a crazy inspiration.

1763
01:10:27,240 --> 01:10:30,240
Speaker 3: Bro that first training camp that I go to to

1764
01:10:30,280 --> 01:10:32,280
Speaker 3: see him, right, So for four weeks we get together,

1765
01:10:32,320 --> 01:10:34,519
Speaker 3: We're doing all this mental training stuff. This is the story,

1766
01:10:34,840 --> 01:10:37,640
Speaker 3: none of this. We're not here right, all right? So

1767
01:10:38,000 --> 01:10:38,840
Speaker 3: I literally.

1768
01:10:40,600 --> 01:10:45,400
Speaker 2: This train got I gotta put it out.

1769
01:10:45,400 --> 01:10:45,719
Speaker 1: Go ahead.

1770
01:10:45,720 --> 01:10:48,439
Speaker 3: Sorry. So he calls me the day before I'm supposed

1771
01:10:48,479 --> 01:10:49,760
Speaker 3: to get there and he says, Bro, he goes, there's

1772
01:10:49,760 --> 01:10:51,800
Speaker 3: something really bad with my hamstrings. So I get there.

1773
01:10:52,120 --> 01:10:53,479
Speaker 3: Turns out we didn't know and at the time he

1774
01:10:53,479 --> 01:10:55,519
Speaker 3: had a torn hamstring. So he comes from practice, he says,

1775
01:10:55,560 --> 01:10:57,720
Speaker 3: meet me at the Team hotel. And I'm thinking I'm

1776
01:10:57,720 --> 01:10:59,320
Speaker 3: just gonna be hanging out at training camp, and it's like,

1777
01:10:59,360 --> 01:11:01,120
Speaker 3: oh man, we got to go work. So we meet

1778
01:11:01,160 --> 01:11:04,240
Speaker 3: across from the Starbucks. We're at the Omni Hotel in Richmond, Virginia,

1779
01:11:04,240 --> 01:11:05,640
Speaker 3: and I sit across from him and I looked at

1780
01:11:05,680 --> 01:11:06,880
Speaker 3: him and I said, Bro, I'm like, can you go?

1781
01:11:07,520 --> 01:11:09,080
Speaker 3: And He's like, I could go, I could go, And

1782
01:11:09,120 --> 01:11:11,880
Speaker 3: I'm like, who knows. What's the situation is? Can you

1783
01:11:12,040 --> 01:11:15,559
Speaker 3: go without hurting yourself and causing long term damage? Can

1784
01:11:15,640 --> 01:11:17,360
Speaker 3: you go and he's like, bro, I can go. I'm

1785
01:11:17,400 --> 01:11:19,200
Speaker 3: gonna get this thing strapped up. There's one trainer I

1786
01:11:19,200 --> 01:11:20,559
Speaker 3: can trust. I'm gonna go in there. I'm gonna get

1787
01:11:20,560 --> 01:11:23,240
Speaker 3: strapped up. I can go. I said, go do your thing,

1788
01:11:23,320 --> 01:11:25,959
Speaker 3: Go take what belongs to you. He went out that practice,

1789
01:11:26,360 --> 01:11:28,519
Speaker 3: he had an interception, he had a pick six on

1790
01:11:28,640 --> 01:11:31,120
Speaker 3: Kirk Cousins, and another ball that you dropped for an interception.

1791
01:11:31,640 --> 01:11:33,920
Speaker 3: And it was that day where he became a member

1792
01:11:33,920 --> 01:11:37,560
Speaker 3: of the Washington Redskins. But he made the choice to

1793
01:11:37,720 --> 01:11:39,640
Speaker 3: fight through the pain and then we find out what

1794
01:11:39,760 --> 01:11:42,320
Speaker 3: was it two years later. He actually played on a

1795
01:11:42,400 --> 01:11:44,960
Speaker 3: fully torn hamstring for almost two full years. And you've

1796
01:11:45,000 --> 01:11:47,639
Speaker 3: got people bitching that they can't take the nuts step

1797
01:11:47,680 --> 01:11:50,240
Speaker 3: in their life. If anybody's tweaked their hamstring, they don't

1798
01:11:50,240 --> 01:11:52,200
Speaker 3: want to walk. And you've played on it for two

1799
01:11:52,320 --> 01:11:55,200
Speaker 3: years and everything that has happened in this entire story,

1800
01:11:55,400 --> 01:11:57,600
Speaker 3: You guys wouldn't have this relationship if you wouldn't have

1801
01:11:57,600 --> 01:11:59,240
Speaker 3: stepped on that field. Because when you're seven out of

1802
01:11:59,280 --> 01:12:01,800
Speaker 3: seven on the depth chart, right when you're seven out

1803
01:12:01,840 --> 01:12:03,320
Speaker 3: of seven and you go in there and say I

1804
01:12:03,400 --> 01:12:06,240
Speaker 3: got a bad Hammy Taylor what do they do? Hey, bro,

1805
01:12:06,400 --> 01:12:07,960
Speaker 3: go ahead and pack your bags and get out of here.

1806
01:12:08,000 --> 01:12:09,439
Speaker 3: We don't have time to worry about you. We're gonna

1807
01:12:09,439 --> 01:12:12,400
Speaker 3: get somebody else. And you always fought, man, I've always fought.

1808
01:12:13,080 --> 01:12:18,200
Speaker 1: Thank you. That's unbelievable at continued fight. Appreciate you wolves.

1809
01:12:18,320 --> 01:12:21,360
Speaker 1: Go out there and be a fucking wolf today. That's

1810
01:12:21,400 --> 01:12:25,600
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1811
01:12:25,680 --> 01:12:28,840
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1812
01:12:29,000 --> 01:12:33,120
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