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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys.

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Speaker 2: Online at Advocateslaw dot com.

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Speaker 3: Raven is on the phone today for a first day

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Speaker 3: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Curtis.

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Speaker 3: So in a few minutes we'll call him and see

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Speaker 3: if you'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe

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Speaker 3: get her a second date. But first, Raven, how long

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Speaker 3: has it been since you heard from Curtis.

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Speaker 4: It's been a couple of weeks.

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Speaker 5: Okay, that's kind of a while. Have you tried to

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Speaker 5: reach out to him in that time.

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Speaker 1: I've texted and called, but he just hasn't returned my calls.

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Speaker 5: Oh no, okay, Well, why don't you tell us about

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Speaker 5: the date?

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Speaker 4: Okay?

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Speaker 1: Well, the date went really well, which is why this

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Speaker 1: is like so confusing.

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Speaker 4: We had instant chemistry.

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Speaker 6: He's super confident and really attractive, and he was a

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Speaker 6: good listener, which is also really attractive, So it just went.

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Speaker 4: Really really well.

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Speaker 6: We went to a brewery and there was like a

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Speaker 6: late night pop up comedy show.

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Speaker 1: You know, it was loud, but it was like intimate.

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Speaker 1: It was small, and you know, we shared a bench,

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Speaker 1: so I don't know, and just like the chemistry was

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Speaker 1: off the charts. There was lots of leaning in inside jokes.

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Speaker 1: We were really flirty and laughing and it just felt

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Speaker 1: like such.

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Speaker 4: An amazing date.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, we just had the same kind of

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Speaker 1: sense of humor, you know. So the day went well.

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Speaker 1: We ended up going back to Curtis's place after and well, you.

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Speaker 4: Know, it went really well.

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Speaker 6: So you know, we're laying in bed afterwards, everything's relaxed,

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Speaker 6: where I like having some pillow talk.

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Speaker 1: It was really soft and quiet.

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Speaker 2: So you went back.

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Speaker 5: And it wasn't just like to play games or for

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Speaker 5: a nightcap, like it really really really well.

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Speaker 4: It went really really really wow.

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Speaker 5: Thank you for.

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Speaker 1: So we're joking a little bit and then here's where.

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Speaker 6: I don't know, I can't. This is the moment that

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Speaker 6: I can't get out of my brain. It's mortifying. Okay,

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Speaker 6: So we're joking and I was laughing at something small,

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Speaker 6: you know, and then I just like.

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Speaker 4: My laugh like escalated and I started snorting, okay, and

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Speaker 1: Catch my breath and I started choking. So I was

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Speaker 1: likeing and like couldn't, couldn't just like stop, And he's

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Speaker 1: sitting up, he's patting my back. He got me some water,

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Speaker 1: but like I clocked it, Curtis looked terrified.

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Speaker 4: Like what is happening with this chick right now? It

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Speaker 4: was just not great.

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Speaker 5: Oh well, it's definitely awkward. I feel like it would

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Speaker 5: be very dramatic if he decided to be like oh,

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Speaker 5: she snorted and choked. I mean, it's highly possible. I

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Speaker 5: wouldn't put anything above a dude. But how did you

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Speaker 5: leave it? Like, so, did you just like get up

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Speaker 5: and go okay, thanks.

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Speaker 1: I'm alive by Yeah, I just left, you know, I

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Speaker 1: just we woke up the next morning and I was like, okay.

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Speaker 7: I jan since and you've heard nothing from him?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I didn't. I didn't text like right

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Speaker 1: away that day. I waited like two days and then

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Speaker 1: I texted, and then I waited like another day before

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Speaker 1: I called. And I just haven't turned back. And I

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Speaker 1: don't want to be overbearing.

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Speaker 5: I just don't love ghosting.

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Speaker 3: After a hook cut, Raven is on the phone and

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Speaker 3: she's getting ghosted by a guy named Curtis. So we're

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Speaker 3: about to call him and see if he'll tell us

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Speaker 3: why he's ghostinger and maybe get her a second date.

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Speaker 3: But first, Raven why don't you break down your day again.

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Speaker 7: For us real quick?

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Speaker 1: So I went to this little comedy pop up at

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Speaker 6: Our chemistry was off the charts and we were really flirty.

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Speaker 1: We went back to his place, we had a really

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Speaker 4: I was laughing.

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Speaker 1: The laugh just escalated into a snort into.

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Speaker 1: Just then wouldn't stop, and I think it freaked him out.

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Speaker 1: And I left the next day and I haven't heard

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Speaker 7: Okay, well, are you ready for us to call? Yeah,

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Speaker 7: all right, let's do it. Here we go. Hello, Hi, man,

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Speaker 7: I speak to Curtis. Please. This is so Hey Curtis,

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Speaker 7: how are you. This is a radio show. It's called

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Speaker 7: The Jewbil Show.

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Speaker 5: Hi, Curtis. I'mina.

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Speaker 7: Hi, I'm Victoria and my name is Jubil. What's up?

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Speaker 8: What's up with this all about?

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Speaker 7: Have you ever heard of the show before?

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Speaker 8: Yeah? Of course?

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Speaker 3: Okay, great, Well we do the second on the show

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Speaker 3: called the First Day follow Up. That's where if you

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Speaker 3: ghost somebody, they can email us to call you and

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Speaker 3: ask why you're ghosting them. And we got an email

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Speaker 3: about you from Raven.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, what happened?

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Speaker 8: This? Is this is gonna be on the This is

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Speaker 8: on the radio.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: She told us all about your date. She said that

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Speaker 3: it was probably the best date she's ever had, the

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Speaker 3: most chemistry she's ever had with anybody. But now you're

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Speaker 3: ghostinger and she doesn't know. Why would you mind telling us? Uh?

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Speaker 1: Uh?

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Speaker 7: Yeah?

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Speaker 8: I oh my god? Okay wow? Uh sure.

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Speaker 9: So the morning after Raven left, I went back in

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Speaker 9: the bedroom and I noticed that my AirPods were gone.

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Speaker 2: Do you think she saw your AirPods?

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Speaker 8: Well? I checked the night stand out there, checked my charger,

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Speaker 8: not there. I checked my bed, not there. They were

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Speaker 5: When was the last there? Like, but when did you

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Speaker 5: see them last? It sounds like there were some activities

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Speaker 5: focus on air pods in the moment. So when was

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Speaker 5: the last time you saw them? Right there?

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Speaker 8: But I mean before I went to bed, like before

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Speaker 7: Okay, hmmm, so you think she stole.

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Speaker 8: I remember looking at them. I didn't use them.

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Speaker 7: But so you think she stole your AirPods?

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Speaker 8: Absolutely? Yeah?

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Speaker 5: Huh Why would she steal your air pods?

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Speaker 8: Maybe hers hers broke? She she she loved mine.

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Speaker 9: I mean they are you know, they're in the newer models,

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Speaker 9: so maybe they were attracted to her.

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Speaker 7: I don't I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Well that's pretty uh like, I don't see anyone like

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Speaker 5: And I mean, but it still is a mystery. If

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Speaker 5: his aeropods are missing, then what would have happened? I mean,

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Speaker 5: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Could you have just lost them or misplaced them?

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Speaker 7: Are they under the bed?

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Speaker 8: I checked?

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Speaker 9: I checked, literally, I even checked the bathroom, you know.

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Speaker 9: So yeah, I don't want to date somebody who steals

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Speaker 9: my stuff. That's why I didn't call her back.

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Speaker 3: Okay, that's understandable. I wouldn't wan to date someody who

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Speaker 3: steals my stuff either. And Curtis Raven is on the

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Speaker 8: Oh that's right, she's here. She's on the phone. Listen.

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Speaker 8: I'm not calling you back because you are a thief.

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Speaker 4: No, I'm not a thief.

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Speaker 1: I didn't steal your air pods. Those were my AirPods.

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Speaker 1: I took them out of my bag when we got

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Speaker 1: to your place, and I put them on the charger

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Speaker 1: so I would have them. Because one I didn't know

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Speaker 1: how the night was going to go, so they needed

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Speaker 1: night and I need my AirPods to sleep.

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Speaker 4: I need to listen to a.

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Speaker 1: Podcast or music or something because I can't sleep.

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Speaker 4: I need some white noise.

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Speaker 8: Okay, that makes it worse, That's what I do.

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Speaker 2: Why is that worse?

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Speaker 4: How does that make it worse?

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Speaker 9: Okay, because now I'm picturing you coming over with backup

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Speaker 9: ear pods AirPods.

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Speaker 2: So that she isn't still yours.

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Speaker 4: Now back up. I just bring them everywhere. I just

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Speaker 1: I just wanted to charge them again in case I

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Speaker 1: was going home that night, I don't know, wanted them

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Speaker 1: to have to listen to. But then also I slipt

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Speaker 1: over and I need to listen to things to sleep.

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Speaker 1: I can't just.

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Speaker 4: Sleep in a new place with no noise.

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Speaker 1: I need a little bit of background something, So I

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Speaker 1: put on a podcast.

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Speaker 9: Okay, you just said you listen to AirPods when you sleep.

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Speaker 9: You were in my bed. My AirPods disappear. I'm just

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Speaker 5: Is it possible or even that you accidentally used his

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 1: Absolutely not like they're basically part of my sleep routine.

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Speaker 6: Like I just I know my headphones, you know what

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Speaker 6: I mean? Like that, I didn't take your AirPods?

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Speaker 8: Okay, so then what happened to mine?

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Speaker 4: I have no idea.

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Speaker 1: Well, I don't know where you put yours. I'm I took.

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Speaker 4: Air pods this the next morning, they were on the charger.

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Speaker 8: And now they're gone. So that I mean, I.

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Speaker 1: Put mine on the charger and I took them. So

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Speaker 1: I took the AirPods.

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Speaker 2: See what you put yours on his charger?

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Speaker 5: Did you move his AirPods?

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Speaker 6: I know there were no air pods, but I put

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Speaker 5: Were you guys drinking?

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Speaker 9: I had a couple of beers, but enough to remember.

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Speaker 9: I mean, I would have remembered if she busted out

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Speaker 9: some AirPods and put them on the night stand. Yeah,

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Speaker 9: you're a thief, is what it is.

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Speaker 8: You know. I respect that.

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Speaker 9: I mean, I don't respect it. But that's that's just you.

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Speaker 9: You do you, And that's why I ghosted. That's why

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Speaker 9: I didn't call, because I'm I'm not going to be

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Speaker 9: dating a thief. First, it's their pods, and then it's

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Speaker 9: my wallet.

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Speaker 8: What's next?

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, Oh my god, I didn't take your AirPods?

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Speaker 4: Dude? Why would I take yours if I have my own?

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Speaker 8: Yes, you did, you took them. You're a thief.

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Speaker 1: Okay, fine, you say I'm a thief. There's no place

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Speaker 1: they could be other than your nightstand.

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Speaker 8: No, there's not.

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Speaker 9: Oh you know what what I I.

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Speaker 8: Think I may have less them than my gym bag.

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Speaker 8: What are you?

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Speaker 4: Are you serious? Right now?

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Speaker 1: You didn't check your gym bag, you didn't check everywhere else.

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Speaker 4: In your apartment.

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Speaker 6: Before you start blaming me calling me a thief, I'm

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Speaker 7: Are they there?

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Speaker 4: This is unbelievable.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, okay, yeah, yeah, there they are. I Uh, I'm.

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Speaker 7: Curtis. Would you like to go on another day with Raven?

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Speaker 7: We'll pay for.

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Speaker 8: It, you know what if if she's up for it?

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Speaker 4: Uh no, thank you? Uh you and your AirPods?

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Speaker 3: Man.

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Speaker 8: That's fair, Yes, that's warranted. But at least I found

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Speaker 8: my AirPods.

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Speaker 2: Jubile's first day fall