WEBVTT - Keep track of others' big days

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio.

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<v Speaker 2>Good Morning.

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<v Speaker 3>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 3>tip is to keep track of big days in the

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<v Speaker 3>lives of.

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<v Speaker 2>People you care about.

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<v Speaker 4>I am not just talking birthdays, though it is good

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<v Speaker 4>to remember birthdays. I am talking about other momentous occasions

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<v Speaker 4>as well, like when someone is dropping their first kid

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<v Speaker 4>off at college or giving a major presentation at work.

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<v Speaker 2>You want to be aware of when the people you

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<v Speaker 2>care about might appreciate a little extra care. Noting these

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<v Speaker 2>days is a great way to show that you well care.

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<v Speaker 2>So as I go through life, I realize that some

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<v Speaker 2>people are naturally emotionally attuned to others. They automatically devote

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<v Speaker 2>time and energy to understanding what is important to other people.

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<v Speaker 2>Some of us are just not so naturally skilled in

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<v Speaker 2>these areas, But like anything, friendship skills and interpersonal skills

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<v Speaker 2>can be learned and practiced. Keeping track of important dates

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<v Speaker 2>is one such skill. The key realization here is that

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<v Speaker 2>everyone has various events in their lives that will be

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<v Speaker 2>front of mind for them. When other people acknowledge those events,

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<v Speaker 2>they feel seen as most of us aren't very good

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<v Speaker 2>at remembering other people's events, we need a good system

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<v Speaker 2>to keep track of them. Fortunately, this is not that difficult.

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<v Speaker 2>If you can schedule a meeting with your sales team

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<v Speaker 2>for next Friday, then you are equally capable of noting

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<v Speaker 2>on your calendar that your neighbor will be dropping her

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<v Speaker 2>child off at overnight camp for the first time on

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<v Speaker 2>July ninth, So you can then text your neighbor on

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<v Speaker 2>the ninth with Hey, big day for you guys, hoping

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<v Speaker 2>it all goes well. I am sure Henry will love

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<v Speaker 2>this adventure. If you can note on your calendar that

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<v Speaker 2>you have a dentist appointment next Wednesday, then you can

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<v Speaker 2>also pay attention when your running buddy tells you that

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<v Speaker 2>next Wednesday she's going to meet with her boss and

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<v Speaker 2>ask for a raise. You can then text her next

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<v Speaker 2>Wednesday morning to say encouraging things and offer to be

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<v Speaker 2>a sounding board for anything she wants to process afterwards.

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<v Speaker 2>This isn't difficult, but it requires listening when other people

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<v Speaker 2>mention things that matter to them, and then having some

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<v Speaker 2>system for noting the date when some support would be nice.

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<v Speaker 2>One easy way to do this is just to email yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>You probably have your phone with you all the time,

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<v Speaker 2>so just email a note like h camp drop off

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<v Speaker 2>seven to nine. I'm guessing the majority of people listening

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<v Speaker 2>to this have some system for processing their primary inbox

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<v Speaker 2>to completion, So when you are sitting down to do

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<v Speaker 2>that processing, you will get the note about your neighbor's

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<v Speaker 2>kid at a time when you probably have your calendar

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<v Speaker 2>available and you are in the mode of getting stuff

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<v Speaker 2>on there. Then you just need to remember to look

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<v Speaker 2>at your calendar regularly. But again, if you do this

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<v Speaker 2>when you check when you are meeting with that sales

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<v Speaker 2>team or have your dentist appointment, then you will see

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<v Speaker 2>any messages about other people's important dates as well. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>I suspect that some people listening to this probably think

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<v Speaker 2>this whole episode is strange. I mean, doesn't everyone do

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<v Speaker 2>things like remember the date that their best friend's mother

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<v Speaker 2>passed away. Doesn't everyone make sure to be extra supportive

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<v Speaker 2>of their friend on that grief anniversary? And you know what,

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<v Speaker 2>It would be nice if everyone was this emotionally intelligent

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<v Speaker 2>and organized, but unfortunately that isn't always the case. For

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<v Speaker 2>those who are not so naturally attuned, keeping track of

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<v Speaker 2>other people's important dates is a smart way to be

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<v Speaker 2>kinder and more supportive of those around us. Maybe it

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<v Speaker 2>feels forced, but so what. Your friend would rather you

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<v Speaker 2>send her an encouraging note on the day she asks

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<v Speaker 2>for that raise than you not sending an encouraging note.

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<v Speaker 2>Even if she finds the entry on your calendar funny

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<v Speaker 2>should she ever see.

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<v Speaker 1>It, so do it.

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<v Speaker 2>You will probably be glad you did.

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<v Speaker 1>In the meantime.

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<v Speaker 2>This is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making the.

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