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Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio.

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Speaker 2: Good Morning.

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Speaker 3: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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Speaker 3: tip is to keep track of big days in the

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Speaker 3: lives of.

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Speaker 2: People you care about.

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Speaker 4: I am not just talking birthdays, though it is good

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Speaker 4: to remember birthdays. I am talking about other momentous occasions

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Speaker 4: as well, like when someone is dropping their first kid

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Speaker 4: off at college or giving a major presentation at work.

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Speaker 2: You want to be aware of when the people you

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Speaker 2: care about might appreciate a little extra care. Noting these

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Speaker 2: days is a great way to show that you well care.

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Speaker 2: So as I go through life, I realize that some

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Speaker 2: people are naturally emotionally attuned to others. They automatically devote

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Speaker 2: time and energy to understanding what is important to other people.

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Speaker 2: Some of us are just not so naturally skilled in

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Speaker 2: these areas, But like anything, friendship skills and interpersonal skills

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Speaker 2: can be learned and practiced. Keeping track of important dates

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Speaker 2: is one such skill. The key realization here is that

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Speaker 2: everyone has various events in their lives that will be

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Speaker 2: front of mind for them. When other people acknowledge those events,

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Speaker 2: they feel seen as most of us aren't very good

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Speaker 2: at remembering other people's events, we need a good system

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Speaker 2: to keep track of them. Fortunately, this is not that difficult.

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Speaker 2: If you can schedule a meeting with your sales team

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Speaker 2: for next Friday, then you are equally capable of noting

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Speaker 2: on your calendar that your neighbor will be dropping her

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Speaker 2: child off at overnight camp for the first time on

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Speaker 2: July ninth, So you can then text your neighbor on

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Speaker 2: the ninth with Hey, big day for you guys, hoping

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Speaker 2: it all goes well. I am sure Henry will love

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Speaker 2: this adventure. If you can note on your calendar that

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Speaker 2: you have a dentist appointment next Wednesday, then you can

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Speaker 2: also pay attention when your running buddy tells you that

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Speaker 2: next Wednesday she's going to meet with her boss and

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Speaker 2: ask for a raise. You can then text her next

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Speaker 2: Wednesday morning to say encouraging things and offer to be

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Speaker 2: a sounding board for anything she wants to process afterwards.

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Speaker 2: This isn't difficult, but it requires listening when other people

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Speaker 2: mention things that matter to them, and then having some

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Speaker 2: system for noting the date when some support would be nice.

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Speaker 2: One easy way to do this is just to email yourself.

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Speaker 2: You probably have your phone with you all the time,

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Speaker 2: so just email a note like h camp drop off

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Speaker 2: seven to nine. I'm guessing the majority of people listening

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Speaker 2: to this have some system for processing their primary inbox

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Speaker 2: to completion, So when you are sitting down to do

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Speaker 2: that processing, you will get the note about your neighbor's

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Speaker 2: kid at a time when you probably have your calendar

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Speaker 2: available and you are in the mode of getting stuff

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Speaker 2: on there. Then you just need to remember to look

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Speaker 2: at your calendar regularly. But again, if you do this

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Speaker 2: when you check when you are meeting with that sales

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Speaker 2: team or have your dentist appointment, then you will see

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Speaker 2: any messages about other people's important dates as well. Now,

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Speaker 2: I suspect that some people listening to this probably think

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Speaker 2: this whole episode is strange. I mean, doesn't everyone do

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Speaker 2: things like remember the date that their best friend's mother

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Speaker 2: passed away. Doesn't everyone make sure to be extra supportive

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Speaker 2: of their friend on that grief anniversary? And you know what,

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Speaker 2: It would be nice if everyone was this emotionally intelligent

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Speaker 2: and organized, but unfortunately that isn't always the case. For

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Speaker 2: those who are not so naturally attuned, keeping track of

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Speaker 2: other people's important dates is a smart way to be

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Speaker 2: kinder and more supportive of those around us. Maybe it

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Speaker 2: feels forced, but so what. Your friend would rather you

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Speaker 2: send her an encouraging note on the day she asks

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Speaker 2: for that raise than you not sending an encouraging note.

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Speaker 2: Even if she finds the entry on your calendar funny

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Speaker 2: should she ever see.

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Speaker 1: It, so do it.

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Speaker 2: You will probably be glad you did.

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Speaker 1: In the meantime.

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Speaker 2: This is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making the.

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