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Speaker 1: Before I get into the paradise chat, I just want

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Speaker 1: to give a shout out to our hotel. We're staying

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Speaker 1: at the Porto Fino Hotel and Marina. At the Portofino

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Speaker 1: Hotel and Marina and Redondo Beach, every moment comes with

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Speaker 1: a view from your elegant guest room. Gaze across the

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Speaker 1: Pacific and watch the boats drift by at Beleen Kitchen,

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Speaker 1: dying steps from the marina, and savor coastal inspired Soacao

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Speaker 1: cuisine for a touch of adventure. Dockside Adventure Center offers kayaks, paddleboards,

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Speaker 1: and complimentary bikes for a scenic coastal ride. Then return

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Speaker 1: to the hotel's living room, where the Portofino poor self

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Speaker 1: breath taking coastal sunset. Discover your seaside escape at the

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Speaker 1: Porto Fino Hotel and Marina. Now let's get back to

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Speaker 1: our interview.

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Speaker 2: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast

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Speaker 2: with iHeartRadio.

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Speaker 1: Everybody's been here with the Almost Fi podcast. We have

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Speaker 1: one of the very successful couples from pair, Jess and

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Speaker 1: Spencer with us today. You just got off the reunion show.

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Speaker 1: I was not worried about Green Show for you too,

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Speaker 1: Were you worried about it for other people?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 4: Definitely.

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Speaker 5: I honestly expected a little bit more chaos than we got.

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Speaker 5: I got anxiety hives a few times, so hopefully you

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Speaker 5: can't see that when they when they release the video footage.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I was proud of everyone for keeping it way more

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Speaker 3: tame than I thought.

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Speaker 1: There were moments, there were moments I think it could

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Speaker 1: have really spiraled. Here's one of my favorite parts of

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Speaker 1: the season that never got talked about, and it happened

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Speaker 1: with you, Spencer, and it includes drama.

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Speaker 3: Me and drama.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the I think whatever they're calling the judges, what

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Speaker 1: did they call the judges that came.

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Speaker 4: The Parliament of Paradise.

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Speaker 1: They come out and Sean and Alicia start doing their talk,

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Speaker 1: and they flashed to the current contestants and it shows

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Speaker 1: Spencer kind of in the back of the TV and

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Speaker 1: you're standing there looking like you want to shrivel up

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Speaker 1: into a ball and disappear because it's so awkward.

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Speaker 3: I mean, as soon as we got to the point

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Speaker 3: of airing out people's personal details that weren't part of

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Speaker 3: the season. Yeah, I was cringing from the inside out.

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Speaker 3: I was like, oh God, this is so many, Like

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Speaker 3: can I just go hang out with my friends? Because

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Speaker 3: when they all showed up, I was actually.

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Speaker 5: So we were so excited, and then it was like, well,

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Speaker 5: now we're plummeting going down, and I was like.

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Speaker 3: Can we just excess stage righte? And can we can

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Speaker 3: we go hang out somewhere else? We're not gonna show

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Speaker 3: us anyway, So it's like the.

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Speaker 1: And I do I want to be in all sincerity,

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Speaker 1: congratulations to the two of you. I mean thank I

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Speaker 1: just got off recording with Wells and we were talking

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Speaker 1: about you two as a couple. And I think one

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Speaker 1: of the the markers for a successful season of Paradise

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Speaker 1: or Bachelor or Bachelorette should be and always has been

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Speaker 1: the couples that come out of it. And I think

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Speaker 1: has been one of the most successful seasons we've ever

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Speaker 1: had because the two of you, uh just seemed to work.

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Speaker 1: And I will say this Paradise tried to make it

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Speaker 1: look like you two.

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Speaker 4: Weren't gonna work.

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Speaker 1: I know it was a little bit really hard hard,

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Speaker 1: and I think I think when you walked up the stairs.

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Speaker 1: two we could see it that your connection was real.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, there was. Honestly, there was no question for me

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Speaker 5: on whether I was choosing love or money. I just like,

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Speaker 5: I've never felt the way that I feel about him

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Speaker 4: It was never a question then, never a question.

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Speaker 3: Jesse and I started laughing when he offered me the money. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: it wasn't a question for me.

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Speaker 1: The behind the scene spencer, for you standing there in

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Speaker 1: I know they're really good at makings you get inside

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Speaker 3: I was there for a while. Yeah, I was like,

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Speaker 3: Did you ever start to doubt it? No. I thought

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Speaker 3: down at the money. Like I was like, I'll work

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Speaker 4: So oh my goodness.

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Speaker 1: I mean that moment of a proposal, knowing the situation

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Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, so let me speak on that. I am

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Speaker 5: the worst morning person in the entire world. I don't

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Speaker 5: hour and a half, Like he's he learned that very nonverbal.

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Speaker 5: Honestly, we we thought we started dying laughing when we

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Speaker 5: just that checks so much, because I'm just like, I'm

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Speaker 5: And so it was honestly, like obviously because we knew

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Speaker 5: We were confident about the decision that we were making

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Speaker 3: And we discussed the engagement at that point.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, watching that clip, we were it was so funny

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Speaker 5: that's so funny that they used me half asleep, like

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Speaker 4: But she loved it. They're like, this is perfect. Don't

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Speaker 5: Seriously, I was the last person going to walk out

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Speaker 3: Morning, sitting there with her breakfast travels. I already got

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Speaker 4: Yeah, show like three.

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Speaker 5: Times, and I'm just like finally getting up.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you'll appreciate that in ridge one day, because you

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Speaker 3: And looking like this takes time. So I'm understanding, you know,

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Speaker 1: dot com. It's interesting too to me how different people's

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Speaker 1: always kind of adding in depth. You were great in competitions,

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Speaker 1: You stayed out of the drama, you watch from the sidelines.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and I think at the end of the day

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Speaker 3: oh dude, you're done. Like I don't care how strong

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Speaker 3: single day we had in Paradise it was like a week.

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Speaker 3: It was like a week the real Yeah, like legitimately

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Speaker 1: I mean, I think you said during the reunion that

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Speaker 1: But the cool part it is, I do believe you

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Speaker 3: She's my absolute best friend. I don't care if we're

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Speaker 1: It's a really incredible thing. And for anybody out there,

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Speaker 1: Can Bachelor in Paradise really work? I think you two

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Speaker 3: Now.

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Speaker 3: So I was just living my life in Dallas, and

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Speaker 5: It's funny to see the comments though, Like I've seen

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Speaker 4: They definitely need each other.

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Speaker 3: They have each other's numbers. I had to get our

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Speaker 4: At least we knew him the government name.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I think I think that's just a good tidbit.

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Speaker 3: So it was like her energy and what she brought

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Speaker 4: I think he's cute, and I.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but you got some more money out of it.

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Speaker 3: They got a lot bit moneyla.

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Speaker 1: I think Spencer was very excited about starting a family.

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Speaker 1: I have a seven month old daughter. I will tell

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Speaker 1: It is nothing but a blessing. So catch us up now.

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Speaker 4: What's next?

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Speaker 5: So we went back and forth the entire time since

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Speaker 5: I think for our future right now, Dallas just makes

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Speaker 5: We did the sign on Dallas, and I'm going to

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and then with everything else, we're taking a step

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Speaker 5: Yeah, he's been so patient with just like because I

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Speaker 5: And yeah, so we're we're with all that being said,

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Speaker 5: I don't want anyone out there to think like I'm like, whoa, buddy,

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Speaker 3: it's not crazy.

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Speaker 4: You're in the same.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's the same. Like I can give her take

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Speaker 3: a couple of years, honey, exactly.

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Speaker 1: It's not to give unsolicited advice. But here's my advice.

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Speaker 1: Let it be good. It is good, it seems good.

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Speaker 1: Just let it be good. And if it wasn't good,

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Speaker 1: somebody would tell you, and they haven't yet, and I

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Speaker 1: won't tell you.

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Speaker 4: This has been the Almost Famous podcast.

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Speaker 1: We have an incredible couple from Paradise that we will

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Speaker 1: all celebrate and we are celebrating. Congratulations again on the

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Speaker 1: engagement and also the one hundred and some thousand dollars

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Speaker 1: that you walk away away. That's pretty exciting. Justin Spencer,

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Speaker 1: thank you for joining us.

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