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Speaker 1: On this week's episode of Cultivating her Space.

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Speaker 2: When you are raised in a toxic environment, are you

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Speaker 2: not see how those micro moments have an impact on you,

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Speaker 2: but it does. It's ministering to your spirit, it's impacting

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Speaker 2: your body and how you show up. And so for me,

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Speaker 2: affirmation has allowed me to reprogram my mind and my

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Speaker 2: way of thinking and create new neural pathways.

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Speaker 1: Today's episode is sure to provide you with motivation, inspiration,

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Speaker 1: or a fresh perspective. If you have any AHA moments

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Speaker 3: Welcome to Cultivating her Space, a podcast dedicated to uplifting

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Speaker 3: women like you. We're your hosts, doctor Dominique Broussard, a

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Speaker 3: college professor and psychologist.

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Speaker 2: And Terry Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker. In a

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Speaker 2: world where black women are often misrepresented and misunderstood, please

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Speaker 2: join us as we initiate authentic conversations on everything from

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Speaker 2: fibroids to fake friends, and create a safe space where

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Speaker 3: Be Our quote of the day, I am self reflective

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Speaker 3: and invest in my own development and growth, y'all, I'm

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Speaker 3: gonna say this one more time for the people in

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Speaker 3: this conversation today. I am self reflective and invest in

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Speaker 2: Tea.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I'm gonna ask you what you think, but

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Speaker 3: I'm already I already know that you embody this, that

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Speaker 3: on this quote that we have today?

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Speaker 2: Girl, you know me, well you read my mind because literally,

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Speaker 2: when you're reading it, I'm like, I fused with this quote.

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Speaker 2: I was like, okay, I because that's literally I feel

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Speaker 2: the self reflective part, I think is so important. I

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Speaker 2: think as human beings, it's just so important for us

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Speaker 2: just being aware of self is so powerful to me

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Speaker 2: And then the second part of that is investing in

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Speaker 2: one's own development and growth. Personal development, personal and professional

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Speaker 2: development is so important to me, and so I think

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Speaker 2: this is just such a great I think it's a

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Speaker 2: to be for you, I think it's great. I think

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Speaker 2: it's really great because it leads to becoming your best self.

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Speaker 2: Right if you follow this guidance. I guess you could say,

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Speaker 2: what about you, Dom, what do you think I mean?

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Speaker 2: I think you said it beautifully.

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Speaker 3: I think that, yeah, you as a people, it's important

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Speaker 3: And I'm real particular about not using the word better,

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Speaker 2: I absolutely love that, don I think that's spot on.

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Speaker 2: And when I think about affirmations in general, I think

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Speaker 2: So Donald, let's just I'm gonna let you. I'm gonna

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Speaker 3: All right, you already know. I will trust the process,

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Speaker 2: That's it. I love it. You hit the nail on

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Speaker 3: Number five. I love this one, y'all. My play is

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Speaker 2: Number six is I can use no as a complete sentence,

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Speaker 2: Perfect. And I'm just going to piggyback off of that

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Speaker 2: That you're saying, all right. Number fourteen now unforting is

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Speaker 3: That's that only. That's that on it, And that takes

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Speaker 3: We ain't out here asking no for us to be great.

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Speaker 2: number sixteen, We are halfway there, lady. Number sixteen is

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Speaker 3: Yes, yes, yes, I love that one all right. So

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Speaker 3: Bring it on in abundance, bring me all the love right,

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Speaker 2: takes us on to number eighteen, which is I know

436
00:27:21,160 --> 00:27:24,760
Speaker 2: that everything is working out for my good even when

437
00:27:24,880 --> 00:27:28,479
Speaker 2: things don't go as planned. This is another classic for me.

438
00:27:28,560 --> 00:27:31,400
Speaker 2: I love this. I say this often throughout my day,

439
00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:34,959
Speaker 2: especially you know when things happen, like you're driving and

440
00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:37,639
Speaker 2: I don't know if someone hits the car, which happened

441
00:27:37,640 --> 00:27:40,199
Speaker 2: like a couple months ago. Or you're looking for a

442
00:27:40,240 --> 00:27:44,080
Speaker 2: parking space and it's way in back and it's not

443
00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:46,200
Speaker 2: by the by the front of the stove, you know

444
00:27:46,240 --> 00:27:48,400
Speaker 2: what I mean. Like, whatever it might be, I really

445
00:27:48,400 --> 00:27:50,199
Speaker 2: do believe that everything's working out for my good. And

446
00:27:50,200 --> 00:27:52,840
Speaker 2: I can honestly say, as someone who has experienced a

447
00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:55,680
Speaker 2: lot of adversity and struggle in life, when I look

448
00:27:55,760 --> 00:28:00,800
Speaker 2: back all my experiences, everything really did work off for

449
00:28:00,840 --> 00:28:03,120
Speaker 2: my good. I didn't realize it at the moment, but

450
00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:05,480
Speaker 2: hindsight is twenty twenty. When I look back, I can

451
00:28:05,520 --> 00:28:08,600
Speaker 2: connect the dots and easily see how things were happening

452
00:28:08,720 --> 00:28:12,080
Speaker 2: for me versus happening to me. So I really do

453
00:28:12,240 --> 00:28:13,600
Speaker 2: want that one.

454
00:28:13,840 --> 00:28:17,440
Speaker 3: Yeah that's a good one. Yeah all right. So then

455
00:28:17,440 --> 00:28:25,919
Speaker 3: that takes us to number nineteen. Anything I want, I attract,

456
00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:33,840
Speaker 3: whether that's the love of your life, the job of

457
00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:43,960
Speaker 3: your dream, whatever it is that you want, that new car,

458
00:28:45,360 --> 00:28:53,400
Speaker 3: that new condo, that big house, that dream vacation. Anything

459
00:28:53,560 --> 00:28:59,200
Speaker 3: you want, you attract. So be mindful of your thoughts

460
00:28:59,280 --> 00:29:05,240
Speaker 3: because you are you are attracting the things that you want.

461
00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:08,760
Speaker 3: Be intentional about what you say you want, because you're

462
00:29:08,800 --> 00:29:09,440
Speaker 3: attracting it.

463
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Speaker 2: Yes, yes, all right, all right. That takes us to

464
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Speaker 2: number twenty, which is I am beautiful, strong, and worthy

465
00:29:20,480 --> 00:29:24,280
Speaker 2: of love. I think this is such an important one

466
00:29:24,320 --> 00:29:28,080
Speaker 2: because one, it's just it's important that we think highly

467
00:29:28,120 --> 00:29:31,680
Speaker 2: of ourselves, right, It's important that we love on ourselves,

468
00:29:31,720 --> 00:29:35,600
Speaker 2: and we should be comfortable telling ourselves that we're beautiful.

469
00:29:35,640 --> 00:29:38,240
Speaker 2: I know many of us maybe didn't hear that growing up.

470
00:29:38,520 --> 00:29:41,520
Speaker 2: Some of us did, others did not, And I think

471
00:29:41,520 --> 00:29:45,200
Speaker 2: it's important for us to cultivate that relationship with ourselves

472
00:29:45,280 --> 00:29:46,920
Speaker 2: so that when we meet other people, when we go

473
00:29:47,000 --> 00:29:49,640
Speaker 2: out in the world, whether you're dating or you're just

474
00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:52,200
Speaker 2: meeting new people in general, people can pick up on

475
00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:57,760
Speaker 2: how you feel about yourself. Oftentimes they're unspoken, right, unspoken

476
00:29:57,840 --> 00:30:02,080
Speaker 2: vibes and energy that were And it's important because people

477
00:30:02,120 --> 00:30:04,280
Speaker 2: may take advantage of us, right they see that, oh,

478
00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:07,080
Speaker 2: this person lacks confidence and they're not really feeling themselves right.

479
00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:09,720
Speaker 2: They can easily try to flatter you, and you know,

480
00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:12,560
Speaker 2: have ulterior motives. So it's really important for us to

481
00:30:13,480 --> 00:30:17,200
Speaker 2: think highly of ourselves and cultivate that personal relationship. And

482
00:30:18,160 --> 00:30:21,480
Speaker 2: remember that the self love begins at home, it begins

483
00:30:21,520 --> 00:30:23,760
Speaker 2: inside Oh I love that.

484
00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:29,200
Speaker 3: Yes that self love begives at home. Save that again. Okay,

485
00:30:31,120 --> 00:30:36,720
Speaker 3: all right, So our next one just a heavy one, y'all.

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Speaker 3: I forgive myself and I deserve to forgive and be forgiven.

487
00:30:48,960 --> 00:30:52,960
Speaker 3: So I will forgive myself because I am not perfect.

488
00:30:53,120 --> 00:31:01,160
Speaker 3: I do wrong, and I deserve for others to forgive

489
00:31:01,280 --> 00:31:04,200
Speaker 3: me and have grace and compassion with me when I

490
00:31:04,320 --> 00:31:12,400
Speaker 3: make mistakes, and in turn, I will learn to forgive

491
00:31:12,960 --> 00:31:17,480
Speaker 3: the mistakes of others. So just as I want to

492
00:31:17,520 --> 00:31:21,720
Speaker 3: be forgiven, I will learn to forgive those around me.

493
00:31:24,400 --> 00:31:28,680
Speaker 3: Does not make the behavior, Okay. We are not indulging

494
00:31:28,760 --> 00:31:33,960
Speaker 3: anyone of anything that they have done. We are simply

495
00:31:34,040 --> 00:31:42,080
Speaker 3: forgiving them. Forgiveness breathe up a whole lot of space

496
00:31:45,040 --> 00:31:48,120
Speaker 3: for you mentally, spiritually, emotionally.

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Speaker 2: Yes, all I can say, dom is I second that.

498
00:31:53,360 --> 00:31:56,360
Speaker 2: Amen to that. We have a few episodes about forgiveness

499
00:31:56,360 --> 00:31:58,360
Speaker 2: that you should definitely check out, ladies, So just google

500
00:31:58,800 --> 00:32:01,440
Speaker 2: forgiveness her Space podcasts and you'll see that come up,

501
00:32:01,520 --> 00:32:05,400
Speaker 2: or forgive per Space podcast. Okay. The next one here

502
00:32:05,720 --> 00:32:08,880
Speaker 2: is let's get ready to get ready. I've made it

503
00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:12,760
Speaker 2: through hard times before, and I've come out stronger and

504
00:32:12,880 --> 00:32:16,320
Speaker 2: better because of them. Again, that goes back to what

505
00:32:16,360 --> 00:32:20,080
Speaker 2: we said earlier. Hindsight is twenty twenty. Oftentimes, in my

506
00:32:20,200 --> 00:32:24,600
Speaker 2: personal experience, when I have overcome a situation and then

507
00:32:24,600 --> 00:32:27,000
Speaker 2: I have another tough situation that comes up in life,

508
00:32:27,280 --> 00:32:29,680
Speaker 2: I often go back to those moments where I have

509
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Speaker 2: overcome and I'm like, oh that boot, you did this here,

510
00:32:34,160 --> 00:32:36,400
Speaker 2: so you could do it again, like you got this right,

511
00:32:36,560 --> 00:32:38,680
Speaker 2: Or if I'm like I don't know if I could

512
00:32:38,720 --> 00:32:40,600
Speaker 2: do it this time, I think about the tools that

513
00:32:40,680 --> 00:32:43,320
Speaker 2: I glean from that time, right, Like what tools that

514
00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:45,719
Speaker 2: I develop? What can I take with me on this

515
00:32:45,800 --> 00:32:49,760
Speaker 2: journey to help me this time around? So got this?

516
00:32:49,920 --> 00:32:50,760
Speaker 2: You got this boot?

517
00:32:52,080 --> 00:33:01,120
Speaker 3: Yes? Yes, yes, all right? Number twenty three. I am

518
00:33:01,240 --> 00:33:10,760
Speaker 3: committed to all possibilities that lead to a greater purpose. Lady,

519
00:33:10,800 --> 00:33:12,400
Speaker 3: I don't know if you've been paying attention, but we

520
00:33:12,480 --> 00:33:15,920
Speaker 3: have several affirmations that are centered around that theme of

521
00:33:16,000 --> 00:33:24,040
Speaker 3: trusting the process, right, that you are not aligned to

522
00:33:24,200 --> 00:33:30,840
Speaker 3: one specific outcome, that you recognize that there are multiple

523
00:33:30,960 --> 00:33:35,960
Speaker 3: paths to get to that thing that you are trying

524
00:33:35,960 --> 00:33:40,960
Speaker 3: to achieve in life. I'm just saying we have it

525
00:33:41,040 --> 00:33:44,920
Speaker 3: in here, said in different ways. So that if you

526
00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:45,440
Speaker 3: catch that.

527
00:33:47,440 --> 00:33:54,479
Speaker 2: Facts facts all right, y'all. The next mantra here is

528
00:33:54,760 --> 00:33:58,600
Speaker 2: just because I can do it all doesn't mean I

529
00:33:58,720 --> 00:34:01,320
Speaker 2: have to do it all. This goes back to the

530
00:34:01,320 --> 00:34:04,280
Speaker 2: other mont where we share, where we said no is

531
00:34:04,320 --> 00:34:09,360
Speaker 2: a complete sentence. I remember again, I'm a recovering people pleaser.

532
00:34:09,400 --> 00:34:11,239
Speaker 2: So there was a time in life where I would

533
00:34:11,280 --> 00:34:12,839
Speaker 2: just say yes, yes, yes, and try to do all

534
00:34:12,880 --> 00:34:14,759
Speaker 2: the things just because I could do them. I knew

535
00:34:14,760 --> 00:34:16,600
Speaker 2: how to do it. So I was like, okay, But

536
00:34:16,680 --> 00:34:19,200
Speaker 2: I realized that when you say no, or when you

537
00:34:19,239 --> 00:34:20,759
Speaker 2: say yes to things that you don't want to say

538
00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:22,919
Speaker 2: yes to, and you do it all, then you ribe

539
00:34:23,000 --> 00:34:27,680
Speaker 2: yourself of some me time, some family time, time to

540
00:34:27,840 --> 00:34:30,080
Speaker 2: just be. Sometimes I think we get caught up in

541
00:34:30,120 --> 00:34:34,680
Speaker 2: this idea of well, if I'm not doing anything, then

542
00:34:34,800 --> 00:34:37,279
Speaker 2: maybe this is a free slide on my calendar, when

543
00:34:37,320 --> 00:34:41,799
Speaker 2: in all actuality, not doing something can literally be just that,

544
00:34:41,920 --> 00:34:44,480
Speaker 2: a block on the calendar, a time period where you're

545
00:34:44,480 --> 00:34:47,239
Speaker 2: not available for anyone else but yourself. And so just

546
00:34:47,280 --> 00:34:49,000
Speaker 2: because you can do it all doesn't mean you have

547
00:34:49,040 --> 00:34:51,120
Speaker 2: to do it all. It's okay to pause, it's okay

548
00:34:51,120 --> 00:34:54,040
Speaker 2: to say no, it's okay to just have me time

549
00:34:54,120 --> 00:34:57,960
Speaker 2: when you need doing shit. You're just chilling, just chilling,

550
00:34:58,280 --> 00:34:58,840
Speaker 2: just chilling.

551
00:35:00,160 --> 00:35:03,160
Speaker 3: Escape save this kicking it. I'm just saying you no,

552
00:35:05,280 --> 00:35:09,120
Speaker 3: all right. That takes us to number twenty five, and lady,

553
00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:12,759
Speaker 3: we are in the home stretch here. This one is

554
00:35:12,800 --> 00:35:14,840
Speaker 3: another good one. I mean, they're all good ones, but

555
00:35:14,880 --> 00:35:22,360
Speaker 3: you know this is an important reminder. My body has

556
00:35:22,480 --> 00:35:29,040
Speaker 3: done and will continue to do amazing things. It is beautiful.

557
00:35:31,239 --> 00:35:34,920
Speaker 3: I gotta go. I say it one more time. My

558
00:35:35,120 --> 00:35:41,759
Speaker 3: body has done and will continue to do amazing things.

559
00:35:42,520 --> 00:35:52,000
Speaker 3: It is beautiful. Lady, listen. At the time of this recording,

560
00:35:52,680 --> 00:35:55,839
Speaker 3: I am forty okay, and we're gonna do a whole

561
00:35:55,840 --> 00:35:59,400
Speaker 3: episode where we talk about like different stages of life

562
00:35:59,560 --> 00:36:06,120
Speaker 3: and what our bodies go through. I feel God willing

563
00:36:06,760 --> 00:36:09,440
Speaker 3: have a whole lot more living to do. But what

564
00:36:09,640 --> 00:36:12,960
Speaker 3: I know for sure is that the things that my

565
00:36:13,120 --> 00:36:20,600
Speaker 3: body has done, the things that my body has been through,

566
00:36:23,719 --> 00:36:28,320
Speaker 3: my body is beautiful and I'm thankful for it. Even

567
00:36:28,480 --> 00:36:31,000
Speaker 3: when there are moments when I might not be pleased

568
00:36:31,080 --> 00:36:36,320
Speaker 3: with what it is doing at that time, the totality

569
00:36:36,960 --> 00:36:41,800
Speaker 3: of what my body is and has done beyond grateful,

570
00:36:43,680 --> 00:36:45,240
Speaker 3: beyond grateful.

571
00:36:47,800 --> 00:36:51,279
Speaker 2: I feel you there one hundred percent, and especially being

572
00:36:51,360 --> 00:36:56,359
Speaker 2: two months or two months too, Lord, two years postpartum,

573
00:36:56,480 --> 00:37:00,000
Speaker 2: it's been a journey in these streets. So yes, I said,

574
00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:04,200
Speaker 2: and everything you just said. I love this affirmation. And lady, again,

575
00:37:04,239 --> 00:37:05,799
Speaker 2: we're in the home stretch. We're gonna take you on

576
00:37:05,840 --> 00:37:09,560
Speaker 2: to number twenty six, which is I am comfortable setting

577
00:37:09,600 --> 00:37:13,920
Speaker 2: boundaries and sticking with them. Again. This goes back to

578
00:37:14,000 --> 00:37:15,680
Speaker 2: kind of some of the stuff we said earlier about

579
00:37:15,680 --> 00:37:18,280
Speaker 2: saying no, and just because you can do it all,

580
00:37:18,880 --> 00:37:20,759
Speaker 2: don't you gotta do it all? So I'm gonna just

581
00:37:20,840 --> 00:37:22,600
Speaker 2: leave that one right there. Don unless you have something

582
00:37:22,600 --> 00:37:25,520
Speaker 2: to add to that one. No, we're gonna leave that

583
00:37:25,600 --> 00:37:31,160
Speaker 2: right then. And that takes us to number twenty seven.

584
00:37:33,800 --> 00:37:38,520
Speaker 2: My future is bright like Rihanna Fisch. I'm bright like

585
00:37:38,560 --> 00:37:44,280
Speaker 2: a diamond. My future is right and that's on period

586
00:37:44,320 --> 00:37:50,400
Speaker 2: poo all right, And number twenty eight. I am filled

587
00:37:50,480 --> 00:37:56,320
Speaker 2: with positive energy and evolving with purpose every single day.

588
00:37:58,560 --> 00:38:02,480
Speaker 2: Yes it that's like a great morning affirmation, a great

589
00:38:02,480 --> 00:38:04,360
Speaker 2: way to start the day off with yourself in the mirror,

590
00:38:04,719 --> 00:38:07,080
Speaker 2: Smile at yourself, give yourself a big old hood, and

591
00:38:07,160 --> 00:38:08,040
Speaker 2: say that affirmation.

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00:38:09,800 --> 00:38:16,120
Speaker 3: Yes, all right, number twenty nine. Now, this has been one.

593
00:38:16,320 --> 00:38:21,080
Speaker 3: This was one of our us what's meant for me

594
00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:26,520
Speaker 3: will never miss me. I don't have to chase there.

595
00:38:26,600 --> 00:38:29,160
Speaker 3: I was trying to channel your voice. I would not

596
00:38:29,160 --> 00:38:33,160
Speaker 3: would say because I know you record our heart episode.

597
00:38:33,400 --> 00:38:38,000
Speaker 3: But I love this one because, yeah, if it's meant

598
00:38:38,000 --> 00:38:42,720
Speaker 3: for me, it's gonna come to me. I'm no chasing,

599
00:38:43,200 --> 00:38:44,920
Speaker 3: no chasing, it will come for me.

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00:38:46,960 --> 00:38:48,440
Speaker 2: I saw what you were trying to do their dom.

601
00:38:48,560 --> 00:38:50,279
Speaker 2: I like it. You did a good job. I say,

602
00:38:50,320 --> 00:38:54,160
Speaker 2: A plus A plus lady, you got it. Yes, I

603
00:38:54,200 --> 00:38:55,759
Speaker 2: love this one. I think you hit the nail on

604
00:38:55,760 --> 00:38:58,839
Speaker 2: the head job. I'm just gonna take us, take us home,

605
00:38:58,920 --> 00:39:02,280
Speaker 2: y'all were number thirty, which is get ready to get ready,

606
00:39:03,160 --> 00:39:05,279
Speaker 2: get ready to get ready? All right, number thirty. Our

607
00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:15,200
Speaker 2: thirtieth affirmation is I am enough or you are enough? So, lady,

608
00:39:15,239 --> 00:39:19,080
Speaker 2: this is a great affirmation, a great reminder if you

609
00:39:19,320 --> 00:39:23,120
Speaker 2: are I don't know, in a tough relationship and you're

610
00:39:23,239 --> 00:39:25,440
Speaker 2: questioning your worth because of some things that may have

611
00:39:25,480 --> 00:39:30,080
Speaker 2: gone down, or if someone else is not seeing your

612
00:39:30,120 --> 00:39:33,319
Speaker 2: worth and they're not acknowledging your worth and you just

613
00:39:33,360 --> 00:39:35,359
Speaker 2: really need a reminder sometimes you have to let your

614
00:39:35,480 --> 00:39:37,759
Speaker 2: Sometimes you have to be your own cheerleader. Sometimes you

615
00:39:37,760 --> 00:39:39,799
Speaker 2: have to let yourself know and remind yourself with something

616
00:39:39,800 --> 00:39:42,120
Speaker 2: even if no one else is there to do it.

617
00:39:42,680 --> 00:39:45,800
Speaker 2: I'm a huge fan and advocate of being a victor

618
00:39:46,560 --> 00:39:49,040
Speaker 2: of my own story, and so sometimes we have to

619
00:39:49,080 --> 00:39:51,560
Speaker 2: be that shoulder that we can cry on, right if

620
00:39:51,560 --> 00:39:53,359
Speaker 2: we don't have anyone else. And so I think this

621
00:39:53,440 --> 00:39:57,240
Speaker 2: is a great affirmation to lean into when we're having

622
00:39:57,280 --> 00:40:01,440
Speaker 2: those tough moments right questioning yourself at work or just

623
00:40:01,520 --> 00:40:03,960
Speaker 2: questioning your worthiness in general because of what you've been

624
00:40:04,000 --> 00:40:06,680
Speaker 2: through or what you what mistakes you've made. Like you

625
00:40:06,719 --> 00:40:11,359
Speaker 2: are enough. You are, you are enough. That's a great

626
00:40:11,360 --> 00:40:13,640
Speaker 2: place to end it, Mike Job. We're gonna go ahead

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Speaker 2: and record the after show, ladies, so visit us her

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Speaker 2: uye with us and see some behind the scenes footage.

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Speaker 3: See Hey, lady, is doctor dom here from the Cultivating

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Speaker 3: her Space podcast. Are you currently a resident of the

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Speaker 3: state of California and contemplating starting your therapy journey? Well,

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Speaker 3: if so, please reach out to me at doctor Dominique

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