WEBVTT - Reckless Replay: Messy Mommy 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.159 Welcome to Can't Fully Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio 0:00:03.279 --> 0:00:04.080 and the Black Effect. 0:00:15.840 --> 0:00:16.960 Oh shit, we on the air. 0:00:17.040 --> 0:00:19.479 Welcome back to get another carefully reckless episode with your 0:00:19.480 --> 0:00:23.600 girl ess hilarious. Guess what you're so Last Friday at work, 0:00:23.600 --> 0:00:25.640 I felt my baby cack for the first time, and 0:00:25.680 --> 0:00:28.720 I was so so, so, so fucking happy. At first, 0:00:28.840 --> 0:00:30.080 you know, I thought it was just, you know, I 0:00:30.080 --> 0:00:32.160 had a little gas or something like that, just moving 0:00:32.200 --> 0:00:34.560 around on my stomach. But I'm like, oh no, no, 0:00:35.000 --> 0:00:37.919 this is really the baby. And y'all can refer to 0:00:38.040 --> 0:00:41.800 my page. I put it video on Instagram, like because 0:00:41.800 --> 0:00:44.519 they caught my reaction here at work and for her 0:00:44.600 --> 0:00:46.559 to kick me. And mind you, I keep saying her 0:00:46.680 --> 0:00:48.319 because that's what I'm wishing for it, that's what I'm 0:00:48.320 --> 0:00:50.920 hoping for. I'm saying her, That's what I'm manifesting my 0:00:50.960 --> 0:00:53.120 girl yet. But I have not found out the gender 0:00:53.159 --> 0:00:56.560 of the baby yet, right, but I felt her kick 0:00:56.720 --> 0:00:59.720 for the first time, and it's just amazing that they 0:00:59.800 --> 0:01:02.920 call that on air, right, Like, oh my god, I 0:01:02.960 --> 0:01:06.000 was so happy. I didn't know whether to screamshout, call 0:01:06.080 --> 0:01:09.080 my man, call my mom, call my sister. I was 0:01:09.200 --> 0:01:12.160 just so fucking happy now. I put the video up, 0:01:12.160 --> 0:01:13.959 and of course I go through my own comments, and 0:01:14.000 --> 0:01:16.880 I seen people in the comments like she had like 0:01:16.920 --> 0:01:19.920 Shane never had a baby before, Like, and I'm blocking y'all, 0:01:20.000 --> 0:01:22.920 Yes I am, Yeah, I'm blocking y'all because what the 0:01:22.959 --> 0:01:24.400 fuck bitch? 0:01:24.959 --> 0:01:25.880 I was nineteen. 0:01:26.480 --> 0:01:30.280 First of all, I don't even fucking remember like the 0:01:30.319 --> 0:01:34.520 specifics of my pregnancy. I remember me finding out at 0:01:34.600 --> 0:01:37.679 four months that I was pregnant. After that, I was 0:01:37.760 --> 0:01:40.160 just scared because, you know, I was like, oh my god, 0:01:40.160 --> 0:01:41.600 I don't know what my mom gonna think. It was 0:01:41.640 --> 0:01:44.840 so much going through my fucking mind, Like a lot 0:01:44.840 --> 0:01:47.080 of things going through my fucking mind as a young 0:01:47.240 --> 0:01:50.920 mom soon to be mom, like don't fucking play with me, 0:01:51.000 --> 0:01:54.600 because y'all don't fucking know men. And not to mention, 0:01:54.720 --> 0:01:57.320 I was a fucking kid, I you know, I was. 0:01:57.400 --> 0:02:00.600 I was legal eighteen, but I wasn't adult. I was 0:02:00.600 --> 0:02:03.360 still living in my mother's house, you know, me and Rome, 0:02:03.440 --> 0:02:04.080 we were young. 0:02:04.280 --> 0:02:07.040 I wasn't. I wasn't really in tune with my own 0:02:07.080 --> 0:02:07.760 body like that. 0:02:08.360 --> 0:02:10.880 So No, I don't remember the first time I felt 0:02:10.880 --> 0:02:12.440 Ashton kick when he was in my stomach. 0:02:12.639 --> 0:02:13.240 No, I don't. 0:02:13.360 --> 0:02:16.239 I didn't really fully embrace my pregnancy because I was 0:02:16.280 --> 0:02:18.440 scared for my fucking parents to find out I didn't. 0:02:18.480 --> 0:02:20.359 I mean, I never wanted an abortion, and then by 0:02:20.440 --> 0:02:22.239 then I think it was too late for me to 0:02:22.280 --> 0:02:24.440 get one anyway, if I had even thought about going 0:02:24.440 --> 0:02:25.640 that route, which I never did. 0:02:25.919 --> 0:02:27.920 You know, Thank God for my son today. 0:02:28.320 --> 0:02:31.960 But bitch, y'all don't know me, so stop playing with me, okay, 0:02:32.040 --> 0:02:33.640 and I and it's been a long time since I 0:02:33.680 --> 0:02:36.280 called people some bitches. You know what I'm saying. But 0:02:36.680 --> 0:02:38.680 that's why y'all getting blocked. So I know a lot 0:02:38.680 --> 0:02:41.200 of people that I do block and that I have blocked. 0:02:41.200 --> 0:02:43.160 They reached out to me on my other pages, like 0:02:43.160 --> 0:02:44.519 why did you block me? 0:02:45.160 --> 0:02:47.160 Because your ass sitting up there. 0:02:48.080 --> 0:02:50.079 So then y'all be rude and nasty with it talking 0:02:50.120 --> 0:02:52.160 about she really would set up be in a egg 0:02:52.240 --> 0:02:55.400 like she ain't never fill a baby kick before. Bitch, No, 0:02:56.160 --> 0:02:58.200 I didn't say I didn't fill a baby kick before. 0:02:58.720 --> 0:03:02.119 I said, I don't remember the first time my son 0:03:02.240 --> 0:03:03.840 kicked when I was pregnant with him. 0:03:03.880 --> 0:03:04.679 I don't. 0:03:04.880 --> 0:03:07.160 But this is what I'm looking for with this pregnancy. 0:03:07.240 --> 0:03:11.040 This pregnancy is different. It's twelve years later, dumbass, and 0:03:11.320 --> 0:03:14.600 now this is a planned baby, and it's a planned 0:03:14.639 --> 0:03:18.200 baby with the man of my dreams, the man, the 0:03:18.200 --> 0:03:21.079 love of my life, like my best friend, my man, 0:03:21.200 --> 0:03:23.680 my boyfriend, my soon to be fucking husband. 0:03:23.680 --> 0:03:24.840 Like this is different. 0:03:24.880 --> 0:03:26.920 I'm very much in a different space than I was 0:03:27.240 --> 0:03:29.359 eleven twelve years ago, when I was nineteen, just out 0:03:29.400 --> 0:03:30.200 here doing my thang. 0:03:30.400 --> 0:03:31.160 You know what I'm saying. 0:03:31.480 --> 0:03:33.880 So give me some of my fucking grace and I can 0:03:33.919 --> 0:03:37.080 be happy about my baby. She my son is my son. 0:03:37.240 --> 0:03:39.600 Was like, you felt her kick and she ain't kick 0:03:39.680 --> 0:03:43.040 for me. I was like, ah, she gonna kick way, way, 0:03:43.040 --> 0:03:44.760 way more when I get a little bit bigger. You 0:03:44.800 --> 0:03:46.320 wanna say, that's why I need to be in Jersey 0:03:46.320 --> 0:03:48.080 with you, because I need to know when she kicking. 0:03:48.720 --> 0:03:51.200 I love my son, but yeah, don't play with me, y'all. 0:03:51.600 --> 0:03:53.360 I'm just laying y'all know, don't play with me, and 0:03:53.400 --> 0:03:55.560 y'all won't get blocked because y'all think I like blocking. 0:03:55.640 --> 0:03:55.920 Y'all. 0:03:56.360 --> 0:03:59.160 Y'all think I like that shit, especially when you know 0:03:59.800 --> 0:04:02.680 YA really going against me. But y'all definitely sitting fucking air. 0:04:02.800 --> 0:04:06.680 Y'all sitting there playing and shit like, don't play with me. Yeah, 0:04:06.720 --> 0:04:09.920 and I'm emotional too, so I'm definitely bit blocking your 0:04:09.960 --> 0:04:11.920 ways if I feel like you're playing with me. So 0:04:12.960 --> 0:04:15.200 now let's get into it. We have a story that 0:04:15.320 --> 0:04:18.080 somebody's hyped and they want me to fix their mess. 0:04:18.320 --> 0:04:20.680 Hey, Jess, So I'm a lesbian, but I have yet 0:04:20.720 --> 0:04:23.400 to come out yet. My family is very homophobic, so 0:04:23.440 --> 0:04:24.440 it makes it even harder. 0:04:24.760 --> 0:04:26.400 I've been talking to this girl and. 0:04:26.400 --> 0:04:28.880 Have been though key hiding it because I'm around my 0:04:28.960 --> 0:04:31.640 family all the time and i know they would question 0:04:31.760 --> 0:04:33.560 me about it, and it's putting me in a deep 0:04:33.600 --> 0:04:36.720 depression because I want to be able to tell my family, 0:04:36.920 --> 0:04:38.839 but I don't want them to judge me or treat 0:04:38.839 --> 0:04:40.960 me any different. I am still the same O me, 0:04:41.240 --> 0:04:43.440 but I want to freely be a me. I feel 0:04:43.440 --> 0:04:46.080 what's really holding me back is that sometimes my family 0:04:46.120 --> 0:04:49.320 can make some pretty homophobic comments. And sometimes it isn't 0:04:49.320 --> 0:04:51.719 a joking matter, but I don't find it very funny. 0:04:51.760 --> 0:04:55.000 At times, I would literally fake a smile and walk away, 0:04:55.320 --> 0:04:57.839 but it literally kills me and bother me so much 0:04:57.880 --> 0:05:00.440 that they play around with it like that. Mom is 0:05:00.480 --> 0:05:02.760 like my best best friend, but it's that she's the 0:05:02.760 --> 0:05:04.640 main one to do it, so it's like a and 0:05:04.680 --> 0:05:06.560 it makes me mad at her. I want to be 0:05:06.600 --> 0:05:09.040 able to sit down with my family and tell them 0:05:09.040 --> 0:05:11.279 that I am a lesbian and that there is someone 0:05:11.360 --> 0:05:14.239 because I honestly do see myself getting somewhere with this girl, 0:05:14.279 --> 0:05:16.760 and I can even say I'm growing to love her. 0:05:17.040 --> 0:05:19.280 So of course I would want my family to know 0:05:19.320 --> 0:05:22.200 about this. But if my family doesn't take it how 0:05:22.240 --> 0:05:25.000 I expect or doesn't accept me, I know it would 0:05:25.000 --> 0:05:27.440 definitely crush me. But I will not change who I 0:05:27.480 --> 0:05:28.320 am to please them. 0:05:29.000 --> 0:05:33.200 Wow. So okay, I definitely do understand. 0:05:33.600 --> 0:05:38.000 I can empathize with you because I have a little 0:05:38.040 --> 0:05:42.960 sister and I'm not sure if she's bisexual or just homosexual, but. 0:05:44.560 --> 0:05:46.400 I do know that she's. 0:05:46.279 --> 0:05:49.280 Exploring women, and I know the first time that she's 0:05:49.320 --> 0:05:51.839 come to me and she told me about it, I 0:05:51.920 --> 0:05:54.800 kind of laughed it off because I just wasn't expecting it. 0:05:54.880 --> 0:05:56.800 Not that I was making fun of gaze or anything. 0:05:56.800 --> 0:05:58.400 I know. I know a lot of gays, you know 0:05:58.440 --> 0:06:01.880 what I'm saying, making fun. I am a comedian, but 0:06:01.920 --> 0:06:04.000 before I'm a comedian, I was always just like, that's 0:06:04.040 --> 0:06:06.760 my personality anyway, to always play about everything, even things 0:06:06.800 --> 0:06:09.520 that I go through or things that about myself, you 0:06:09.520 --> 0:06:12.800 know what I'm saying. And my sister, I'm not sure 0:06:12.839 --> 0:06:14.640 if she ever thought that I can't come to my 0:06:14.680 --> 0:06:16.800 sister and talk to her and she'd be serious, because 0:06:16.880 --> 0:06:19.599 I do. I make fun of straight people, gay people, 0:06:19.920 --> 0:06:22.480 whoever the fuck you are. I mean, if you talk 0:06:22.520 --> 0:06:25.279 about ABU, I'm you know, I'm gonna play around or whatever. 0:06:25.680 --> 0:06:29.000 But I guess I never took into account how she 0:06:29.120 --> 0:06:33.440 would feel about that until just recently, like maybe a 0:06:33.480 --> 0:06:35.719 month or two ago, she told me she was getting 0:06:35.760 --> 0:06:38.200 serious with this girl. 0:06:38.680 --> 0:06:40.560 And I know the girl, you know what I mean. 0:06:40.600 --> 0:06:42.440 And I've known the girl to be gay for a 0:06:42.480 --> 0:06:45.000 long time, you know, far much longer than my sister. 0:06:45.440 --> 0:06:47.880 And so what I had told my sister is well, 0:06:48.120 --> 0:06:49.880 to be honest with you, No, I didn't take you serious, 0:06:49.880 --> 0:06:52.480 you know, because you were dating guys before. But I 0:06:52.520 --> 0:06:56.160 wanted you to take her serious, or take you know, 0:06:57.360 --> 0:06:59.720 being gay serious if that's what you are, or by 0:06:59.760 --> 0:07:03.600 sc serious, if that's what you are, because for some 0:07:03.640 --> 0:07:06.120 people it's a trend, for others, it's a lifestyle. You 0:07:06.120 --> 0:07:09.320 get what I'm saying, like this is a sexual preference. 0:07:09.400 --> 0:07:11.320 You get what I mean, Like, this is not just 0:07:11.320 --> 0:07:13.440 something you can put on and take off like a costume. 0:07:13.600 --> 0:07:14.920 Like you can't do that. 0:07:15.280 --> 0:07:17.280 So I want you to be serious because people get 0:07:17.360 --> 0:07:19.520 hurt over relationships, and I was letting her know, I 0:07:19.600 --> 0:07:22.880 don't want you to end up hurting this girl. 0:07:23.080 --> 0:07:23.360 You know. 0:07:23.680 --> 0:07:25.560 Not that I cared more about the girl than my feeling, 0:07:25.600 --> 0:07:28.160 I mean, than my sister, but I know the girl 0:07:28.240 --> 0:07:30.400 was serious about her. You know, I could see after 0:07:30.840 --> 0:07:33.360 my sister sharing some things with me, I could see 0:07:33.360 --> 0:07:34.000 the girl was serious. 0:07:34.040 --> 0:07:36.840 And I could see that my sister was getting serious. 0:07:36.880 --> 0:07:39.840 She was getting there, and I just wanted her to 0:07:39.960 --> 0:07:43.000 think and you know, and to take something like this 0:07:43.160 --> 0:07:46.920 serious because, like I said, you don't want to play 0:07:46.960 --> 0:07:50.240 around with gay people. You just don't like, you know, 0:07:50.720 --> 0:07:52.360 just to say, oh, yeah, I fucked the girl before. 0:07:52.400 --> 0:07:54.280 You know what I mean, like you in Layman's terms, 0:07:54.280 --> 0:07:55.920 like that's what it is, because that's what I did 0:07:55.920 --> 0:07:57.280 when I was younger. You get what I'm saying. I 0:07:57.400 --> 0:07:59.360 wasn't really ready to be gay. I was just doing 0:07:59.400 --> 0:08:01.960 it because shit, like I was a track considers one girl. 0:08:02.200 --> 0:08:03.720 So I'm like shit, I'm a fucking around with her. 0:08:04.040 --> 0:08:06.000 And then after she broke my heart, I was like, 0:08:06.000 --> 0:08:07.400 oh no, fuck Dad, like I don't want to do 0:08:07.440 --> 0:08:08.920 it no more. But I was really just trying it 0:08:08.960 --> 0:08:10.680 any way to see what it was about. And that's 0:08:10.680 --> 0:08:14.200 okay to be curious as well, but to lead somebody on, 0:08:14.320 --> 0:08:16.320 I think is what I was trying to tell my sister. 0:08:16.400 --> 0:08:19.000 Don't do like because the girl was serious about her. 0:08:19.080 --> 0:08:21.040 So you know in your situation. That's why I can 0:08:21.040 --> 0:08:22.160 say I can relate to that. 0:08:22.440 --> 0:08:23.280 Hold up, Hold up. 0:08:23.240 --> 0:08:25.160 I know the shit getting good. But listen to just 0:08:25.240 --> 0:08:27.240 a couple seconds of a commercial. If you love me, 0:08:27.320 --> 0:08:32.800 you'll listen. Now as far as your family, was your 0:08:32.840 --> 0:08:36.040 family like that before? You know, like, because if they've 0:08:36.080 --> 0:08:38.920 always been that way, I don't think that it's a 0:08:40.280 --> 0:08:42.600 it's a direct jab to you being gay. 0:08:43.120 --> 0:08:43.920 You get what I'm saying. 0:08:44.160 --> 0:08:46.920 If you got imagine being in the Waynes family and 0:08:47.000 --> 0:08:50.560 you come out with Marlin and Damon, Wayne's and all 0:08:50.559 --> 0:08:52.400 the imagine being in that family and you come out 0:08:52.480 --> 0:08:54.520 them people have always played like that. You can tell 0:08:54.520 --> 0:08:57.480 they're a very tight knit, close family that play about everything. 0:08:57.520 --> 0:08:59.719 They joke on each other for each other's problems and 0:08:59.720 --> 0:09:00.280 shit like that. 0:09:00.320 --> 0:09:01.040 You get what I'm saying. 0:09:01.800 --> 0:09:04.160 Imagine that now is it one of those things or 0:09:04.160 --> 0:09:07.080 do you feel like they personally attack you because you're gay. 0:09:07.640 --> 0:09:10.520 Now that's two different things. You know, you gotta let 0:09:10.559 --> 0:09:12.079 me know. But I think you should actually say, this 0:09:12.120 --> 0:09:14.520 is your family. You know, these ain't just strangers. Sit 0:09:14.559 --> 0:09:16.040 down and talk to them and tell them how that 0:09:16.080 --> 0:09:18.959 makes you feel. Now, they may be able to censor 0:09:19.080 --> 0:09:22.840 sometimes when they feel certain ways, and maybe sometimes you 0:09:23.040 --> 0:09:25.079 still may even get those jokes, bea the butt of 0:09:25.160 --> 0:09:27.160 some of those jokes. You have to learn how to 0:09:27.160 --> 0:09:30.199 be confident within yourself though, you get what I'm saying. 0:09:30.400 --> 0:09:34.360 You got to learn how to like really really not 0:09:34.400 --> 0:09:36.240 gonna say, have tough skin. I mean, but you know 0:09:36.280 --> 0:09:38.360 what comes with being gay, you know what I mean? Like, 0:09:38.480 --> 0:09:41.080 it's so many that came before you that it's so 0:09:41.120 --> 0:09:46.240 many stories that you know, and this goes for gays, trans, bisexual, 0:09:46.679 --> 0:09:47.760 pant sexual. 0:09:47.480 --> 0:09:50.000 Whatever you are other than heterosexual. 0:09:50.080 --> 0:09:53.280 If you know, these are just the struggles and the critique, 0:09:53.320 --> 0:09:56.200 the criticism that comes along with it. And we also 0:09:56.240 --> 0:09:59.400 live in the world today where nobody takes anything serious, 0:09:59.480 --> 0:10:02.600 but they make everything serious. You get what I'm saying, 0:10:02.840 --> 0:10:05.679 And I know that's contradicting, but so is everything else. 0:10:05.720 --> 0:10:09.120 So is this motherfucking world in these times. 0:10:09.200 --> 0:10:09.720 You get me. 0:10:10.120 --> 0:10:16.000 So you just have to prepare yourself for certain backlash, 0:10:16.040 --> 0:10:17.959 whether it be from your family or not, and you 0:10:18.080 --> 0:10:21.040 gotta stand in that shit. Look, I'm gay, I'm a 0:10:21.080 --> 0:10:24.320 homosexual woman. I'm in love with my girlfriend, and yeah, 0:10:24.400 --> 0:10:26.319 we you know what I'm saying, There's so many other 0:10:26.360 --> 0:10:28.360 things to worry about, and it is somebody criticizing you 0:10:28.400 --> 0:10:30.880 for your sexuality. Fuck them people, because they don't have 0:10:30.920 --> 0:10:33.120 to go to sleep with you. They ain't gotta wake 0:10:33.200 --> 0:10:34.520 up to you. They don't know you, they don't know 0:10:34.559 --> 0:10:36.520 what your heart is like, you know what I'm saying. 0:10:36.559 --> 0:10:39.000 They don't know you. You know, some people hear the 0:10:39.040 --> 0:10:41.320 word gay and just bust out laughing just because of 0:10:41.400 --> 0:10:44.440 so many jokes and you know, stigmas that has been 0:10:44.480 --> 0:10:46.040 built around it, you know what I mean. 0:10:46.480 --> 0:10:47.240 Fuck that. 0:10:47.240 --> 0:10:48.800 That's why a lot of people don't even like to 0:10:48.800 --> 0:10:51.880 be classified as gay, a lot of people, you know, 0:10:51.960 --> 0:10:54.400 and in certain states they're trying to even ban the 0:10:54.440 --> 0:10:57.520 fucking word, you know what I mean. But if you 0:10:57.600 --> 0:11:00.240 focus too much on that shit, that shit can brain 0:11:00.320 --> 0:11:02.440 you and take away from your happiness and who you 0:11:02.480 --> 0:11:02.920 really are. 0:11:03.559 --> 0:11:04.760 Fuck that, fuck all that. 0:11:05.000 --> 0:11:07.520 You get what I'm saying, you know, because trust me, 0:11:08.080 --> 0:11:10.080 you ain't the only one going through this. You know, 0:11:10.559 --> 0:11:14.040 but I love a person who still can stand in 0:11:14.400 --> 0:11:17.000 their originality, standing who the fuck they are. 0:11:17.320 --> 0:11:19.880 And I can tell it really really bothers you. 0:11:19.920 --> 0:11:22.160 But sit down and talk to your family, because communication 0:11:22.280 --> 0:11:24.960 is the best thing, especially for families. 0:11:25.000 --> 0:11:25.480 You get me. 0:11:26.000 --> 0:11:27.440 I want you to know that, and I want you 0:11:27.480 --> 0:11:31.319 to update me. And congratulations on you and your new love. Man, 0:11:31.360 --> 0:11:33.400 you're saying you falling in love with her, you know 0:11:33.440 --> 0:11:36.200 you really really care about her and stuff like that. 0:11:36.520 --> 0:11:38.440 Shit like that is hard to find these days. 0:11:38.559 --> 0:11:42.480 You know. Everybody is either superficial, damaged and fucking hurt 0:11:42.520 --> 0:11:45.520 from previous relationships, and before they heal themselves, they trying 0:11:45.520 --> 0:11:48.559 to jump in other relationships and make the new person 0:11:48.600 --> 0:11:50.720 pay for what the old motherfucker put them through and 0:11:50.800 --> 0:11:54.000 all of that. Love is just not easy. Love was 0:11:54.040 --> 0:11:58.080 never easy, but it seemed like it's beyond hard to 0:11:58.160 --> 0:11:59.559 find genuine. 0:11:59.080 --> 0:12:00.000 Love these days. 0:12:00.440 --> 0:12:02.280 So I say, if that's where you're getting it from, 0:12:02.520 --> 0:12:04.800 and you genuinely feeling in your heart that this person 0:12:04.880 --> 0:12:07.360 is for you. Keep on pushing with that, Mama. That's 0:12:07.400 --> 0:12:09.600 all I can say to you. But definitely sit down, 0:12:10.040 --> 0:12:12.160 have a talk with your family moving forward. Let them 0:12:12.200 --> 0:12:16.240 know and then the conversation. Let them know that you 0:12:16.360 --> 0:12:18.760 still love them and you expect for them to love 0:12:18.800 --> 0:12:21.680 you no matter who you bring home, no matter what 0:12:21.920 --> 0:12:24.319 sex you are attracted to you or whatever, you know 0:12:24.400 --> 0:12:26.840 what I mean. Let them know that this is serious 0:12:26.880 --> 0:12:28.920 for you and they hurt your feelings a lot of 0:12:29.000 --> 0:12:30.400 times with a lot of their jokes. 0:12:30.440 --> 0:12:31.440 Now, also let them know. 0:12:31.559 --> 0:12:33.640 I'm not expecting for y'all to get quiet when I 0:12:33.679 --> 0:12:36.240 come around, you know, but just have some respect for 0:12:36.320 --> 0:12:40.160 me in that right, you know, respect me, don't disrespect me. 0:12:40.400 --> 0:12:42.199 I'm cool with a little joke here in there, you know, 0:12:42.280 --> 0:12:45.080 unless you're not. But you can't expect for nobody not 0:12:45.080 --> 0:12:46.360 not to say nothing, you know what I mean. 0:12:46.480 --> 0:12:48.280 Let's just be real and then shit. 0:12:48.400 --> 0:12:51.080 I'm the type I'll start making jokes about they ass. 0:12:51.120 --> 0:12:54.120 Somebody broke, somebody lost their job, somebody can't afford you 0:12:54.120 --> 0:12:56.480 know what I'm saying, like shit, start cracking back at 0:12:56.520 --> 0:12:57.920 they ass. If you don't want to sit down and 0:12:57.960 --> 0:13:01.839 talk shit, and then when they want high lanst you like, yo, 0:13:01.840 --> 0:13:04.080 why you say that? The same reason why y'all coming 0:13:04.120 --> 0:13:06.520 at me for my sexuality, the same reason why y'all 0:13:06.520 --> 0:13:08.080 feel like y'all can make jokes like I'm not a 0:13:08.120 --> 0:13:09.920 real person and this is not my real life. 0:13:09.960 --> 0:13:10.640 You get what I'm saying. 0:13:10.640 --> 0:13:12.880 You can either go that route, that mediation where you 0:13:12.880 --> 0:13:15.480 can sit down and talk to them, or you can 0:13:15.520 --> 0:13:17.600 start giving them a taste of their own medicine, and 0:13:17.640 --> 0:13:20.720 then before you know it, somebody ain't gonna be comfortable, 0:13:21.120 --> 0:13:22.880 somebody gonna open them off and say something. 0:13:23.000 --> 0:13:25.120 All right, what's up with you? What's up with me? 0:13:25.240 --> 0:13:28.559 Is I'm fucking gay, and y'all keep on shooting at 0:13:28.559 --> 0:13:31.560 me with these fucking jokes. But you ain't had a 0:13:31.640 --> 0:13:34.640 job since, you know, three years ago. You know what 0:13:34.679 --> 0:13:35.160 I'm saying. 0:13:35.760 --> 0:13:38.920 You ain't been able to afford your groceries for three years. Now. 0:13:39.200 --> 0:13:42.360 You got five different baby daddies. You know what I'm saying. 0:13:42.360 --> 0:13:44.640 That's why I'm gay, because I don't want five different 0:13:44.679 --> 0:13:45.240 baby daddy. 0:13:45.320 --> 0:13:45.960 You know what I'm saying. 0:13:46.000 --> 0:13:48.520 Start getting funny back with theirs now. I know that's 0:13:48.559 --> 0:13:50.120 promoting a little bit of violence. 0:13:50.360 --> 0:13:50.880 I know that. 0:13:51.200 --> 0:13:54.040 I know how that may sound, but I want you 0:13:54.080 --> 0:13:56.200 to know that that comes with that tough skin, that 0:13:56.240 --> 0:13:58.480 come with that thick skin. Fuck that lets some of 0:13:58.480 --> 0:14:01.240 that shit roll down your back, because, like I said, 0:14:01.240 --> 0:14:03.080 at the end of the day, you're loved, you're happy. 0:14:03.320 --> 0:14:05.800 But yeah, talk to your family and if they ain't 0:14:05.800 --> 0:14:08.440 to talking too tight, like I said, go to Option B, 0:14:08.960 --> 0:14:10.960 Plan B. I bet you the motherfucker's ease up off 0:14:11.040 --> 0:14:11.400 your back. 0:14:11.480 --> 0:14:13.800 I bet you. But keep me updated. 0:14:13.840 --> 0:14:16.880 Girl, If you love me, you'll listen to this commercial 0:14:17.040 --> 0:14:18.160 and then we'll be right back. 0:14:20.120 --> 0:14:20.640 Okay, y'all. 0:14:20.720 --> 0:14:23.200 So next I want to do one of the just 0:14:23.240 --> 0:14:26.520 Fix My message that I did on Breakfast Club. So 0:14:27.280 --> 0:14:30.520 this woman had called up and she was saying how 0:14:30.640 --> 0:14:35.080 she had been married to her husband for I can't 0:14:35.120 --> 0:14:37.600 remember the amount of years, but they were together for 0:14:37.680 --> 0:14:42.040 a long time, and when they first got together, he 0:14:42.360 --> 0:14:44.760 started cheating on her and she tried to leave him, 0:14:44.760 --> 0:14:46.440 but he said that he would off himself, you know, 0:14:46.480 --> 0:14:49.560 he would unlive himself, basically commit suicide if he couldn't 0:14:49.560 --> 0:14:51.360 be with her, and blah blah blah blah blah. So 0:14:51.480 --> 0:14:54.200 she went back to him because of course, she cares 0:14:54.200 --> 0:14:56.400 about those who she loved, and although he cheated on her, 0:14:56.600 --> 0:14:59.160 she still loved him, and she loved him enough to 0:14:59.200 --> 0:15:02.360 go back because he and to kill himself. Now I 0:15:02.440 --> 0:15:06.880 stopped there just for a minute. I usually I'm not 0:15:06.880 --> 0:15:09.040 gonna say I don't take that type of shit serious. 0:15:09.080 --> 0:15:11.480 But my thing is my nigga, you want me to 0:15:11.520 --> 0:15:14.720 come back to you after you fucking cheated on me 0:15:14.800 --> 0:15:16.480 all because you said you're about to end your life, 0:15:16.960 --> 0:15:19.480 and then I will say some shit like, well end it, 0:15:19.520 --> 0:15:21.000 you know what I'm saying, just to call their bluff. 0:15:21.400 --> 0:15:23.680 However, she got back with them. 0:15:23.720 --> 0:15:28.440 They had kids, they had three children, and he was 0:15:28.560 --> 0:15:30.480 doing good for a while, and then he started creeping 0:15:30.520 --> 0:15:34.280 around on her again, cheating throughout the years on this woman, 0:15:34.640 --> 0:15:36.680 and she got to a point where she was like, listen, 0:15:36.960 --> 0:15:39.120 I want a divorce. I'm leaving your ass again, and 0:15:39.240 --> 0:15:41.160 this time I'm staying gone, you know what I'm saying. 0:15:41.720 --> 0:15:45.880 And he actually really did kill himself because she left him. 0:15:46.320 --> 0:15:50.360 What I got from that was those were deeper issues, 0:15:50.680 --> 0:15:52.480 you know what I'm saying that that guy had. 0:15:52.600 --> 0:15:54.120 You know, he had the love of his life. 0:15:54.160 --> 0:15:57.160 Obviously, he was totally in love with his wife for sure, 0:15:57.640 --> 0:16:00.640 but I think it was more of abandonment starting from 0:16:00.680 --> 0:16:03.120 the root of his childhood or something like that. Somebody 0:16:03.120 --> 0:16:06.080 had to leave him. Somebody who he cared so much 0:16:06.160 --> 0:16:07.960 about left his ass. I don't know if it was 0:16:07.960 --> 0:16:11.920 one of his parents or a sibling or a grandmother 0:16:12.040 --> 0:16:16.360 or somebody. But you don't just kill yourself when your 0:16:16.400 --> 0:16:18.920 lover leaves you, when it's your fault. 0:16:19.520 --> 0:16:21.640 You get what I'm saying, Like, Yo, you cheated on 0:16:21.680 --> 0:16:22.160 this lady. 0:16:22.600 --> 0:16:25.720 She tried to leave you before, and you told her 0:16:25.760 --> 0:16:27.600 that she was going to kill yourself, so she came 0:16:27.640 --> 0:16:29.520 back to you. She gave you another chance, and you 0:16:29.640 --> 0:16:35.360 come back married, you gave you children. Cheated on her 0:16:35.400 --> 0:16:38.720 again and again and again, she said. Throughout years of 0:16:38.760 --> 0:16:42.800 their marriage, he cheated, and she finally got enough of 0:16:42.840 --> 0:16:45.960 it and was fed up, mustered up the strength to 0:16:46.000 --> 0:16:49.560 divorce him, and he killed himself because she left. 0:16:49.800 --> 0:16:50.680 He couldn't deal with it. 0:16:51.080 --> 0:16:54.960 So she was saying that she had blamed herself for 0:16:55.000 --> 0:16:57.560 a while, you know, because they not It wasn't just them, 0:16:57.640 --> 0:17:01.560 They had three children, you know, and and she just 0:17:01.560 --> 0:17:03.920 didn't know how to face them and deal with that. 0:17:04.080 --> 0:17:06.040 And you know, and still have to grieve. 0:17:06.320 --> 0:17:09.120 You know what I'm saying, Like for her a longtime lover, 0:17:09.240 --> 0:17:12.000 you know, and the father of her children. But the 0:17:12.040 --> 0:17:15.320 advice I gave her is not not to blame yourself. 0:17:15.320 --> 0:17:17.879 I've never been our predicament, nor have I ever been married, 0:17:18.200 --> 0:17:21.880