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<v Speaker 1>This is the most dramatic podcast ever, and iHeartRadio podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Chris Harrison and Laura Zema comedy You from the home

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<v Speaker 1>office in Austin, Texas, And today I'm excited about this

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<v Speaker 1>episode because Elsie, we haven't done this in a while,

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<v Speaker 1>and that is Q and a Q and Hey, Q

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<v Speaker 1>and Hay, shardon Hey. We take your questions which we

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<v Speaker 1>have gathered and.

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<v Speaker 2>Pay thank you for getting right into shardon Hay.

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<v Speaker 1>Jesse.

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<v Speaker 2>You almost did that like a reflex. I don't know why.

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<v Speaker 2>I love If anybody watched the show, I did Roses

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<v Speaker 2>and Rose. I love Rose, I love Shardonay, but I

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<v Speaker 2>really like to say them with a little hey at

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<v Speaker 2>the end. I've always said if we ever had a boat,

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<v Speaker 2>and I don't want to both, but I'd name it

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<v Speaker 2>the shardon Hey. Well, let's get into some very not

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<v Speaker 2>stupid good questions. So Q and a Q and Hey

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<v Speaker 2>today and we are taking questions from you all that

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<v Speaker 2>you sent into us via Instagram at the most dramatic

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<v Speaker 2>pod ever. Thank you for sending them. And I haven't

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<v Speaker 2>seen any of them. Chris Harrison has them, so my

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<v Speaker 2>actions are going to be real in real time.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know what's funny is the questions. We've done

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<v Speaker 1>this Q and A a few times, and they were very

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<v Speaker 1>generic as we started and people were getting to know

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<v Speaker 1>us together, and clearly people know we're about to get married.

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<v Speaker 1>So I feel like these questions have gotten very personal.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh so they're very good. I mean they're very but

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<v Speaker 1>they seem very specific to us, but something we can

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<v Speaker 1>all relate to.

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<v Speaker 2>Great. I love it people doing their research.

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<v Speaker 1>So Jojo, I don't think it's Jojo Fletcher or Jojo Rodgers.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess has has reached out and says, do you

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<v Speaker 1>think it's important for separate bank accounts? Ooh for a

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<v Speaker 1>couple to have separate bank accounts, have your own money?

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<v Speaker 2>I can should I be in.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, Yeah, you should have an opinion on this.

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<v Speaker 2>We've never discussed this.

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<v Speaker 1>No, we should right now happening live and if we

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<v Speaker 1>break up, we're going to edit this.

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<v Speaker 2>I do. I think it's very couple dependent, and I

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<v Speaker 2>do not think it is necessary to have separate bank accounts.

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<v Speaker 2>I do think it's nestssary to have access to your

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<v Speaker 2>own finances in a way where it's not that the

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<v Speaker 2>partner is controlling everything and you're totally unaware of what's happening.

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<v Speaker 2>I actually have a friend who she's still married to

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<v Speaker 2>this guy, and it's been tough on our friendship. It's

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<v Speaker 2>kind of I've had to pull back on our friendship

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit because I'm sort of so concerned about

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<v Speaker 2>this marriage. Various things concerned me, But one thing that

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<v Speaker 2>concerned me was he would not if she is not

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<v Speaker 2>allowed her own credit card in any way, and she

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<v Speaker 2>has a debit card, but he controls how much money

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<v Speaker 2>gets put on it, and like if she's out, he

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<v Speaker 2>kind of scolds her and says, like, what were you

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<v Speaker 2>spending it on? And you know, I just said to her, babe,

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<v Speaker 2>it scares me that if you needed to, you couldn't

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<v Speaker 2>like buy a plane ticket on your own. Like that

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<v Speaker 2>was kind of my barometer. If you can't get yourself

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<v Speaker 2>somewhere with like a card and you've got your own

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<v Speaker 2>money to do it, that's a little scary. So I

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<v Speaker 2>fear the control. And I also fear if one partner

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<v Speaker 2>has zero idea of the finances of the partnership. I

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<v Speaker 2>think that's a dangerous place to be.

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<v Speaker 1>My advice, Jojo be it's okay to be dependent. One

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<v Speaker 1>may be dependent on the other because there's a stay

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<v Speaker 1>at home dad, stay at home mom, whatever. So it's

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<v Speaker 1>okay to be dependent on someone, but I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>very important to be independent no matter what. And what

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<v Speaker 1>I mean by that is a little bit of what

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<v Speaker 1>Elz is saying right now. I'll be honest. We don't

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<v Speaker 1>have a mutual account, but LZ and I know exactly

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<v Speaker 1>what's in each other's accounts. We're very accountable, and we're

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<v Speaker 1>very open and transparent about very accountable, very accountable. But

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<v Speaker 1>it's important I think that we know what the financial

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<v Speaker 1>picture is for so many reasons. So you live within

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<v Speaker 1>your means, so you know what's going on, and you

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<v Speaker 1>can see problems that you know ahead of time. You

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<v Speaker 1>can help each other. So I think it's okay to

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<v Speaker 1>be independent, keep your independence, but it's important to understand

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<v Speaker 1>and I think I have taught my daughter and my

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<v Speaker 1>son to always be accountable, to always understand what's going

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<v Speaker 1>on in your finances so the rug is not pulled

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<v Speaker 1>out from under you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. I mean, I know people who a partner has

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<v Speaker 2>suddenly died and they had no idea how to access things,

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<v Speaker 2>and they were totally lost, and it's very overwhelming. I

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<v Speaker 2>know people who turns out their partner was in secret

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<v Speaker 2>gambling all the money away and they didn't realize they

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<v Speaker 2>were broke. Like I just think you have to be

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<v Speaker 2>as open as possible and feel like you're both just

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<v Speaker 2>aware of the situation.

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<v Speaker 1>They're responsible conversations you need to have and sometimes they

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<v Speaker 1>can be sensitive. Sometimes it's emotional because money does that

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<v Speaker 1>to people, even within relationships.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, will we get a joint account we get married.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think we need one, but I think we

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<v Speaker 1>can if you want one.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I'm like feeling I'm good to go.

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<v Speaker 1>You're good.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm also very I will say.

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<v Speaker 1>Again, I think it's just important to understand where the

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<v Speaker 1>money is, who has it? You know there is a

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<v Speaker 1>flow should anybody need it. That's the most important thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Agreed, I accounted for Hannah.

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<v Speaker 1>How would you handle a friend or family member who

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't like your partner, that's as a wedding is coming

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<v Speaker 1>up on the horizon.

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<v Speaker 2>My family hates Chris, your family kind of likes me.

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<v Speaker 1>Luckily we are in the camp of our families love

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<v Speaker 1>each other and love us.

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<v Speaker 2>So but have you ever been in that situation? And

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<v Speaker 2>so what did you do? Because I'll be honest, I've

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<v Speaker 2>never really been in that situation.

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<v Speaker 1>Here's the thing at the end of the day, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'll take this, you know, out of my family so

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<v Speaker 1>I don't get anybody in trouble. But I've run into

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<v Speaker 1>this before. And my advice to people is this, All

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<v Speaker 1>you can say is your piece. One time. You can

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<v Speaker 1>explain to your brother, sister, cousin, best friend. One time, Hey, Lauren,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, maybe I'm not seeing what you're seeing in Chris.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, maybe I just want to say, you don't

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<v Speaker 1>have to do this. If you want to get in

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<v Speaker 1>the car and get out of here, I have the

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<v Speaker 1>car running. If you tell me you love Chris and

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<v Speaker 1>that you see something I don't, et cetera, this will

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<v Speaker 1>be the last time we talk about it. And I

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<v Speaker 1>love you. And if you marry this person, they're my

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<v Speaker 1>family too. You get one take at this. That's it.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I totally agree. And also like, once you've said

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<v Speaker 2>your piece, the thing is the person's heard you and

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<v Speaker 2>they're going to do what they want to do, right,

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<v Speaker 2>And so if you keep repeating it and you say

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<v Speaker 2>you don't like them, then you're creating toxicity.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not that they didn't hear you the first time I've.

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<v Speaker 2>Said it before. No one in the history of time

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<v Speaker 2>has ever broken up with someone because their family told

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<v Speaker 2>them to. They got to come to it in their

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<v Speaker 2>own time. But I think this question, if I may

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<v Speaker 2>go back, and that was very good advice, But is

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<v Speaker 2>this question asking what you do personally if you are

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<v Speaker 2>dating someone your family doesn't.

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<v Speaker 1>It, just as how would you handle a friend or

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<v Speaker 1>family member who doesn't like your partner?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, well, so you were in that situation you gave

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<v Speaker 2>the advice on when you didn't like your family member's person,

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<v Speaker 2>But you were also in the situation where you dated

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<v Speaker 2>someone and your family did not like the person you

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<v Speaker 2>were dating. What were you aware of it? And if so,

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<v Speaker 2>what did you do in that moment? Did you take

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<v Speaker 2>it seriously? Did you discount it?

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<v Speaker 1>What I would have respected? Because there was someone I

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<v Speaker 1>dated there where my friends especially didn't love her and

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<v Speaker 1>didn't did they tell you?

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<v Speaker 2>Were you aware?

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<v Speaker 1>No? That's the thing is Here's the thing is I

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<v Speaker 1>look back, I realized they kind of ghosted me a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit. There were times when we'd be on the

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<v Speaker 1>road or whatever and they're like, oh, yeah, we avoided

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<v Speaker 1>you like the plague. They told me this later, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, hey, man, like, why didn't y'all say something?

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<v Speaker 1>And of course the obvious answer is, you know, you

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to make people choose sides. You don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to cause problems. So I get that, But at the

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<v Speaker 1>same time, I wish they had respectfully just pulled me

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<v Speaker 1>aside and say, hey, I'm going to say this once

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<v Speaker 1>I don't see what you say.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think you should say it. I will in

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<v Speaker 2>my I had a past relationship where yeah, I should have.

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<v Speaker 2>I let me clarify my earlier statement. I've never been

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<v Speaker 2>in this situation where I knew my friends and family

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<v Speaker 2>didn't like the person I also found out later, and

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<v Speaker 2>I wish they would have said something, But I also

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<v Speaker 2>know if they'd said something, I don't think it would

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<v Speaker 2>have made a difference.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know now they think about it. I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like a hypocrite because I had a phone call yesterday

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<v Speaker 1>with someone I really love and they just went through

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<v Speaker 1>a breakup. And it's something It's something I felt long before.

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<v Speaker 1>It's when they were dating, and I never said anything

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<v Speaker 1>to them while they were dating.

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<v Speaker 2>M h.

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<v Speaker 1>I said it yesterday on the phone call, thankes. So

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a hypocrite. I need to start taking some of

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<v Speaker 1>my own advice. I advocate I should have said something.

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<v Speaker 2>We should have sayd that I would advocate and say,

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<v Speaker 2>if you think there's an issue in your friend or

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<v Speaker 2>family member's relationship with their partner, you should say something.

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<v Speaker 2>But like you said, say it one time. Yeah, but

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<v Speaker 2>yeah you have you have to say it for them,

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<v Speaker 2>and you have to say it so you can put

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<v Speaker 2>your head on your pillow at night and.

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<v Speaker 1>Not to go too deep on all these layers. But

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<v Speaker 1>it is difficult too. When someone's just dating. You're like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll see if this is even yeah, and then it's like.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, cra by the way, not to go do deep.

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<v Speaker 2>That's literally the point of this podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>You're going to You're going deep.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, what's next?

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<v Speaker 1>Connor Gentlemen says, are sparks a thing? How many dates

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<v Speaker 1>should you give it for sparks to fly?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh? Sparks butterflies?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah? I love it first sight? That immediate?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you believe in love it first sight?

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<v Speaker 1>I believe it a crush and a heavy, heavy crush,

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<v Speaker 1>and then later you can look back and be like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I knew, Like honestly, that's how I felt with you,

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<v Speaker 1>like I knew it was different right away. I knew,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, I can look back in hindsight and

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<v Speaker 1>be like.

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<v Speaker 2>But you mean our first date. I mean we worked

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<v Speaker 2>together for years before. I don't think we had that right.

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<v Speaker 1>We worked the first time you and I intimately went

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<v Speaker 1>out with the object of this is romantic.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm saying I don't believe in love at first sight.

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<v Speaker 2>I've heard stories from people before who say, Oh, she

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<v Speaker 2>walked in and I looked and said, that's the woman

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to marry. I don't know if that's that

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<v Speaker 2>you like knew, or if then your mind just manifested

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<v Speaker 2>that and you were like, okay, this is and then

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<v Speaker 2>you went with it. You know what came first, the

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<v Speaker 2>chicken or the egg. But I do think I believe

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<v Speaker 2>an incredible attraction at first sight and sparks. How do

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<v Speaker 2>you know when to let the sparks fly? I actually

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<v Speaker 2>have a rule on this. I am an advocate of

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<v Speaker 2>always giving a second date. I think first dates can

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<v Speaker 2>be really weird. It's like a job interview. It's awkward.

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<v Speaker 2>People are nervous, like they can.

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<v Speaker 1>Go really great.

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<v Speaker 2>But I also know people who had like a disaster

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<v Speaker 2>of first date and then ended up with that person.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's just like you know, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just saying it's a big, high stake situation, and

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes people aren't totally themselves because they're very nervous. So

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<v Speaker 2>I think, if you get through a first date and

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<v Speaker 2>it seems okay, don't be worried if there aren't.

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<v Speaker 1>Sparks, yeah, that you're not madly in love.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, give it a second date.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and see i'd say three dates really yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>If I'm not doing.

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<v Speaker 1>That, that's not trying to like really salvage something. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just saying, if you're not sure, it's okay to give

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<v Speaker 1>it three dates, If you're really not feeling it after

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<v Speaker 1>date two or three, then that's a big sign. That's

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<v Speaker 1>a big red flag.

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<v Speaker 2>To me, because I do think for me, even for us,

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<v Speaker 2>like I thought our first date went really well, yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>And there was chemistry and there were sparks.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but I still wasn't like probably by you know,

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<v Speaker 2>the second or third date. Then I then I kind

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<v Speaker 2>of went home and thought, oh, I really like for

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<v Speaker 2>me it.

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<v Speaker 1>Was after Yeah, definitely had a conversation with some people

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<v Speaker 1>after date one, but after day two.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, then I was in restaurant for sure. Yes, Then

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, oh, I really like him. And then

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<v Speaker 2>I actually became more nervous about us dating because then

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<v Speaker 2>I really liked you well.

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<v Speaker 1>And date one, if you remember, we did the modern

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<v Speaker 1>version of we met at the place.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, then on day two and day two I picked.

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<v Speaker 1>You up, Yes, which is more my speed.

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<v Speaker 2>The thing is, I think sparks have to be to

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<v Speaker 2>a certain extent created.

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<v Speaker 1>You should have that excitement, though you should if you're

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<v Speaker 1>not feeling the excitement.

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<v Speaker 2>No, no, totally. But I'm saying like, don't discount someone

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<v Speaker 2>after the first date if you feel like there's no sparks,

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<v Speaker 2>because a sparks can happen, Oh you just see someone

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<v Speaker 2>in a bar and you think they're they're hot.

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<v Speaker 1>But also sparks.

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<v Speaker 2>Can happen because you've created a connection and an environment,

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<v Speaker 2>and the sparks can grow from there.

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<v Speaker 1>For sure, A good conversation can all of a sudden create.

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<v Speaker 2>You can be building that fire.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't be so don't succumb to the the movie version

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<v Speaker 1>of if I'm not feeling this. As soon as we

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<v Speaker 1>met at the Empire State Building, We're going to take

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit of a sideways turn here. This is

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<v Speaker 1>really having to do with you. Oh, this is from Elijah.

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<v Speaker 1>Not love related, but have to know favorite Harry Potter character.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh why gosh.

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<v Speaker 1>Please don't make this an hour long answer.

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<v Speaker 2>I will just go with my gut, which is what

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<v Speaker 2>I always It's very difficult.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, my gut is choosing your favorite child.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm doing my annual re listen. I re listened to.

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<v Speaker 1>The books everywhere. This is Elijah. This is perfect timing.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm on my favorite book right now, which is Book four,

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<v Speaker 2>Gobblet of Fire. I always re listen in the fall

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<v Speaker 2>through the holidays because it's the perfect festive listen. I

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<v Speaker 2>can't take too much time with this. He's looking at me. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>my gut instinct answer is Dobby. I love Dobby the elf.

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<v Speaker 2>Chris is looking at me confused.

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<v Speaker 1>Really no, no, I know, I know who that is,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'm just that's not one of the main characters.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not one of the main actors. It's why why

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<v Speaker 1>Now I have to follow up why?

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<v Speaker 2>Because Dobby is so heartbreakingly like sweet and funny, and

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<v Speaker 2>you kind of get all the emotions from Dobby. You're

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<v Speaker 2>rooting for Dobby you're laughing.

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<v Speaker 1>You're gonna ask a stupid Harry Potter question. Potterheads don't

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<v Speaker 1>come at me. Is Dobby in all the books? Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so don't you know, don't don't don't no spoiler alerts

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<v Speaker 1>of where Dobby goes away, but Dobby is at least

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<v Speaker 1>through book four because that's where you.

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<v Speaker 2>Are spoiler alert. It's like it's been out so long.

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<v Speaker 2>They're talking about making a new TV series, which I

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<v Speaker 2>have thoughts on. I could rant about that. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>think we should just be recycling the material. Why are

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<v Speaker 2>we doing a Harry Potter TV series Because it's lazy

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<v Speaker 2>and so they're just trying to make money and I

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<v Speaker 2>think they should be doing a Marauder series and doing

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<v Speaker 2>something more original. But anyway, let's get back to what

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<v Speaker 2>people got.

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<v Speaker 1>Elijah, thank you for bringing up because I learned something

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<v Speaker 1>today I never knew. Dobby Elena, how do I navigate

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<v Speaker 1>challenging in laws? Also, how do I not let this

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<v Speaker 1>cause tension between my husband Andy?

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<v Speaker 2>Ooh okay, so I've gotten some good advice about this

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<v Speaker 2>in the past, so I will repeat the advice that

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<v Speaker 2>I was told years ago, which was one when it

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<v Speaker 2>comes to your parents and in laws, be very careful

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<v Speaker 2>what you share because I do think that people have

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<v Speaker 2>like that's family, you know, and like say with your

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<v Speaker 2>own parents. I think if you get in a fight

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<v Speaker 2>with your spouse, your parents might be you might forgive

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<v Speaker 2>your spouse more quickly than your parent does. I think

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<v Speaker 2>be careful with your in laws on like what you're

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<v Speaker 2>saying about their child. Even if you feel comfortable with them,

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<v Speaker 2>they it's still that's their kid. And then another portion

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<v Speaker 2>of that piece of advice was, look, even if this

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<v Speaker 2>person is driving you nuts, if your partner knows that

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<v Speaker 2>their parent is wild, then just let it go. Try

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<v Speaker 2>not to repeat it and feed into it because they know,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, they know, And what are they going to do,

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<v Speaker 2>like not stop talking to their mom or their dad.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not going to happen. So navigate it together. And

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's a tougher situation. And I have some

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<v Speaker 2>friends who maybe mom is why and their husband like

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<v Speaker 2>is totally lacking an awareness and like things mom among

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<v Speaker 2>the moon And that's a tough situation.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, and it's you know, hopefully you can have a discussion.

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<v Speaker 1>It's I know, it's a tough thing because if we

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<v Speaker 1>are sensitive about anything. It's coming after our moms or dads.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's a difficult conversation to have. But if you

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<v Speaker 1>can set some boundaries, I mean, for if they don't

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<v Speaker 1>live near you, it's hey, let's all just keep in

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<v Speaker 1>perspective the fact that this is like one two three

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<v Speaker 1>percent of our time. We deal with it when we

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<v Speaker 1>have to. It's like dealing with an X. But sometimes moms, dads,

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<v Speaker 1>in laws have to live near you with you, so

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<v Speaker 1>that makes it a little bit tougher.

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<v Speaker 2>I think boundaries and creating successful situations are important. Like

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<v Speaker 2>I do think it's okay no matter how tough your

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<v Speaker 2>in law is to draw a boundary, like they can't

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<v Speaker 2>come over to your house any time they want for

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<v Speaker 2>you know, without telling you. I also think that you

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<v Speaker 2>can create in any relationship a successful situation, like if

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<v Speaker 2>you know you're in your mother in law loves to

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<v Speaker 2>shop and she kind of drives you crazy, offer to

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<v Speaker 2>take her shopping for an hour and that should like

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<v Speaker 2>fill a bucket for a little bit and it'll hopefully

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<v Speaker 2>be hur at her best. And then I also think

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<v Speaker 2>I find it in any situation it helps to be

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<v Speaker 2>like vulnerable yourself, Like if you think that your partner

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't see some issues that their parents have. I would

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<v Speaker 2>share like issues that you think about your own parents

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<v Speaker 2>and see if you being open inspires them to open up,

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<v Speaker 2>and then two morek and then through that you can

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<v Speaker 2>get on the same page about the parent.

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<v Speaker 1>Interesting question here from Jacqueline. I'm interested to get your reaction.

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<v Speaker 1>Is it okay for your partner to tell you that

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<v Speaker 1>they prefer you without makeup?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh? Well, it sounds like a nice thing to say,

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't it? Like I love you?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I have. I have a theory about this, as

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to hear you should I go first, go

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<v Speaker 1>for it? So Jacqueline, and I don't mean this to

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<v Speaker 1>be roal fod And maybe this doesn't pertain to you,

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<v Speaker 1>but if somebody says I prefer you with less makeup

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<v Speaker 1>or without makeup, maybe it just means they don't love

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<v Speaker 1>the way you do your makeup. I saw this on

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<v Speaker 1>The Bachelor and Bacherette for twenty years, left to our

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<v Speaker 1>own devices, we're not always great at doing our own

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<v Speaker 1>makeup and hair and all those things there. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>for a long time, you know, people ask me on

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<v Speaker 1>the show did you dress these people? Did you do there?

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<v Speaker 1>The first night, we really wanted to leave the women

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<v Speaker 1>to their own devices because it's important to see where

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<v Speaker 1>they are, where they're from, they're going to dress kind

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<v Speaker 1>of I'm from the South, I'm from New York, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>from San Francis.

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<v Speaker 2>To be themselves genuinely, not a TV change of themselves.

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<v Speaker 1>But oftentimes the idea of makeup for people is more

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<v Speaker 1>is more, and especially when they think they're going to

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<v Speaker 1>be on TV or whatever. So, you know, Jacqueline, again,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not saying specifically, I don't know you, and so

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if this is for you, but I

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<v Speaker 1>think sometimes maybe a partner's trying to say, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe a little less or maybe like go to the

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<v Speaker 1>department store and maybe get a tutorial. Maybe you know,

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<v Speaker 1>the bright, bright red lipstick you wear every single day

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<v Speaker 1>is a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe you say back to them, why.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's just soay? Yeah, what is there anything interesting?

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<v Speaker 1>That's a good point.

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<v Speaker 2>I never thought about it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, So, I you know, maybe this person's trying to

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<v Speaker 1>say something else, and Lauren's right, what you should say

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<v Speaker 1>back to them is say, hey, just tell me, is

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<v Speaker 1>there anything specific? Because I kind of would like to

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<v Speaker 1>look good for you and with you. So if there's

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<v Speaker 1>something that bugs you, please tell me. All right on

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<v Speaker 1>to the next that's a tough one. You nailed it, Wendy.

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<v Speaker 1>How do you feel this will be a quick one.

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<v Speaker 1>How do you feel about women being called cougars when

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<v Speaker 1>they date younger men? Not a fair li.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, not a I mean, not a fan. It's with anything.

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<v Speaker 2>I guess it depends on the way you're saying it,

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<v Speaker 2>like if it's kind of funny or affectionate. But I

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<v Speaker 2>don't love it because I do think inherently it has

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<v Speaker 2>this negative connotation, and it seems generally to be more

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<v Speaker 2>accepted by society for men to day younger women than

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<v Speaker 2>it is for women today younger men.

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<v Speaker 1>Renee asked, how did you navigate integrating into the lives

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<v Speaker 1>of Chris's kids.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I mean We've talked a lot about this before,

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<v Speaker 2>but just the literal integration into their daily lives. I

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<v Speaker 2>think that I really tried to like find out what

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<v Speaker 2>their likes and interests were, honestly, Like I would try

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<v Speaker 2>to talk to Josh about Star Wars because I knew

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<v Speaker 2>he was into Star Wars. I didn't know all his

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<v Speaker 2>video games, but I'm a Star Wars fan, so I

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<v Speaker 2>tried to connect with him on that. Taylor was, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>a teenage girl in high school, so I talked to

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<v Speaker 2>her about crushes she had and also I just tried

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<v Speaker 2>to Yeah. I mean it was like about putting them first,

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<v Speaker 2>like what their interests were in their activities where I

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<v Speaker 2>remember Taylor had her driver, was getting her permit, so

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<v Speaker 2>I said, like, I'll help you learn to drive, or

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<v Speaker 2>she and I both love coffee, so we go get coffee. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I guess that was it. I think you're never in

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<v Speaker 2>any relationship with anybody. You're going to create a relationship

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<v Speaker 2>if you ask that person about themselves and show interest

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<v Speaker 2>in what they're interested in.

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<v Speaker 1>So true, but just great advice in general. Yeah, this

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<v Speaker 1>is interesting and I think I know the answer for you,

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<v Speaker 1>but I need to find out. Paige says, have either

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<v Speaker 1>of you ever gone on a date or had a

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<v Speaker 1>crush with someone from the Bachelor franchise?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, me with you.

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<v Speaker 1>I think what they're saying is outside of each other.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh no, I never dated or had a crush on

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<v Speaker 2>anyone else in the franchise.

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<v Speaker 1>I did, and I have multiple dates, multiple crushes. This

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<v Speaker 1>is when they were single with Wells and ben true

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<v Speaker 1>love them in very different ways. And I guess I

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<v Speaker 1>could throw Bob Guiney and Andrew Firestone in there too.

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<v Speaker 2>God, you've done so many that's so many affairs.

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<v Speaker 1>One more serious one was Lauren intimidated or nervous to

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<v Speaker 1>meet my ex wife.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sure I was probably a little nervous.

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<v Speaker 1>Definitely not intimidated.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I mean, I think I've just wanted to go well.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a really big believer in like beautiful blended families

0:22:56.160 --> 0:22:58.879
<v Speaker 2>and build bridges, don't burn them, and I'd rather have

0:22:59.000 --> 0:23:02.320
<v Speaker 2>love than animosity. So I just really wanted it to

0:23:02.400 --> 0:23:07.360
<v Speaker 2>go well. I wanted to show her the respect that

0:23:07.720 --> 0:23:10.640
<v Speaker 2>I knew she was your kid's mom and I and

0:23:10.840 --> 0:23:13.640
<v Speaker 2>she raised beautiful, wonderful kids, and I wanted to compliment

0:23:13.640 --> 0:23:16.959
<v Speaker 2>her on that. And yeah, again going back to like

0:23:17.000 --> 0:23:19.840
<v Speaker 2>in any relationship, show interest in what that person's into

0:23:19.920 --> 0:23:22.560
<v Speaker 2>and try to get to know them. So that's all

0:23:22.560 --> 0:23:25.360
<v Speaker 2>that I wanted to do. But I was probably nervous

0:23:25.480 --> 0:23:28.200
<v Speaker 2>just because like, that's your kid's mom. I mean, that's

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<v Speaker 2>a big I certainly didn't want to have a bad relationship,

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<v Speaker 2>so I wanted it to go well. If you and

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<v Speaker 2>I were going to be serious that I knew that

0:23:35.720 --> 0:23:36.920
<v Speaker 2>was going to make life a lot easier.

0:23:37.040 --> 0:23:39.800
<v Speaker 1>And I have to just gush a little bit on

0:23:40.359 --> 0:23:44.200
<v Speaker 1>the job Elsie did with the kid, bridging the gap

0:23:44.240 --> 0:23:47.040
<v Speaker 1>with the kids, with the X all of it just

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, just again a masterclass. We've talked about it before,

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<v Speaker 1>but just so brilliant.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, you know, it's I think a lot of it

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<v Speaker 2>was like I was really raised by my parents to

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<v Speaker 2>be a bit maybe it's a Midwestern or I don't know,

0:24:01.520 --> 0:24:05.360
<v Speaker 2>but to be sort of overly, like when you first

0:24:05.400 --> 0:24:09.199
<v Speaker 2>meet someone, overly ask them questions about themselves. When you

0:24:09.280 --> 0:24:11.840
<v Speaker 2>are thanking someone, go over the top with the thank

0:24:11.880 --> 0:24:14.200
<v Speaker 2>you gift in the card, like do It's like it's

0:24:14.240 --> 0:24:17.159
<v Speaker 2>better to be overdressed than underdressed. I totally agree, you

0:24:17.200 --> 0:24:19.720
<v Speaker 2>know so, I think like when I was meeting your ex,

0:24:19.720 --> 0:24:23.840
<v Speaker 2>for example, and then as our relationship grew, like I

0:24:23.880 --> 0:24:25.960
<v Speaker 2>sent her stuff on mother I sent her gifts on

0:24:25.960 --> 0:24:28.199
<v Speaker 2>Mother's Day, or I sent her texts because and by

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<v Speaker 2>the way, I really do she's an incredible mom. I

0:24:30.320 --> 0:24:33.159
<v Speaker 2>wanted her to know that. I think if you praise

0:24:33.280 --> 0:24:37.120
<v Speaker 2>people and show them love, like I don't know, that's

0:24:37.119 --> 0:24:38.760
<v Speaker 2>also a great way to keep your side of the

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<v Speaker 2>street clean and feel good, and then also hopefully it

0:24:42.040 --> 0:24:44.320
<v Speaker 2>opens them up and makes them vulnerable to show that back.

0:24:44.440 --> 0:24:45.880
<v Speaker 1>We just did and you can go back and listen

0:24:45.880 --> 0:24:48.199
<v Speaker 1>to this podcast with Brian Austin Green and Sharna, and

0:24:48.200 --> 0:24:51.320
<v Speaker 1>Sharna talked about running into Megan Fox and reaching out

0:24:51.359 --> 0:24:57.240
<v Speaker 1>to her and just creating that environment in that bridge

0:24:57.680 --> 0:25:01.320
<v Speaker 1>that hey, I respect you, Stan, You've done a good job.

0:25:01.560 --> 0:25:04.280
<v Speaker 1>I just want to be a value add here. This

0:25:04.400 --> 0:25:06.720
<v Speaker 1>isn't a competition because I think immediately we all just

0:25:06.720 --> 0:25:10.720
<v Speaker 1>feel competitive. You know, no one's replacing anybody. And I

0:25:10.720 --> 0:25:12.480
<v Speaker 1>think as soon as you feel like, hey, I just

0:25:12.520 --> 0:25:15.480
<v Speaker 1>want to bolster what you've already done and it's out

0:25:15.480 --> 0:25:17.879
<v Speaker 1>of kindness and love, it definitely helps. And then I thought,

0:25:18.160 --> 0:25:19.960
<v Speaker 1>you know, Sharna talked a lot about that with Megan.

0:25:20.040 --> 0:25:23.520
<v Speaker 1>I thought it was very very apropos I'll take you

0:25:23.520 --> 0:25:25.080
<v Speaker 1>out the hot seat and I'll bring it back here.

0:25:25.920 --> 0:25:30.320
<v Speaker 1>Catherine asked, Chris, I have to ask, how do you

0:25:30.359 --> 0:25:32.800
<v Speaker 1>feel when people say the show is not the same

0:25:32.840 --> 0:25:38.680
<v Speaker 1>without you? Does that make you happy? You know, it's

0:25:38.840 --> 0:25:41.880
<v Speaker 1>it doesn't make me happy or sad, honestly, Catherine, It well,

0:25:41.960 --> 0:25:45.520
<v Speaker 1>that's not true. I guess it makes me feel appreciated.

0:25:45.560 --> 0:25:48.440
<v Speaker 1>It makes me feel loved, and I appreciate when people

0:25:48.440 --> 0:25:51.719
<v Speaker 1>do say that. I know where it comes from, and

0:25:51.760 --> 0:25:56.160
<v Speaker 1>I do. I do hear that a lot. It makes

0:25:56.200 --> 0:25:59.560
<v Speaker 1>me feel like we had because I always felt like

0:25:59.560 --> 0:26:03.680
<v Speaker 1>we had a connection for twenty years. It's a relationship

0:26:03.800 --> 0:26:05.760
<v Speaker 1>that I worked on really hard with all of you,

0:26:06.320 --> 0:26:08.280
<v Speaker 1>and it meant a lot to me. And I tried

0:26:08.280 --> 0:26:10.879
<v Speaker 1>to be very transparent. You know, I knew I was

0:26:10.880 --> 0:26:13.800
<v Speaker 1>doing a show, and sometimes I kind of needed to

0:26:13.800 --> 0:26:16.560
<v Speaker 1>mislead you so it'd be more entertaining or exciting. But

0:26:16.640 --> 0:26:18.480
<v Speaker 1>at the same time, I tried to be very honest,

0:26:18.480 --> 0:26:21.359
<v Speaker 1>and when I was doing interviews, I tried to ask

0:26:21.400 --> 0:26:24.600
<v Speaker 1>the question that I thought you were screaming and yelling

0:26:24.680 --> 0:26:27.359
<v Speaker 1>from your couch. And so when people come up to

0:26:27.400 --> 0:26:29.320
<v Speaker 1>me and say we miss you, I miss you, I

0:26:29.320 --> 0:26:33.320
<v Speaker 1>miss your voice. You know, we grew up with you. You

0:26:32.920 --> 0:26:35.920
<v Speaker 1>were there when I bonded with my mom or whatever

0:26:36.000 --> 0:26:39.480
<v Speaker 1>those stories are that I hear so often. That definitely

0:26:39.480 --> 0:26:42.119
<v Speaker 1>warms my heart because it makes me feel like that

0:26:42.280 --> 0:26:45.120
<v Speaker 1>relationship that was so important to me was also important

0:26:45.160 --> 0:26:49.639
<v Speaker 1>to you, if that makes sense. And here's an interesting

0:26:49.640 --> 0:26:55.160
<v Speaker 1>one a noon as an anonymous Oh, you've mentioned Call

0:26:55.240 --> 0:26:58.680
<v Speaker 1>Her Daddy on the podcast to Call Her Daddy podcast?

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<v Speaker 1>Would you ever be a guest on Call Her Daddy

0:27:02.520 --> 0:27:04.960
<v Speaker 1>if they ever asked you? Are you open when it

0:27:05.000 --> 0:27:10.040
<v Speaker 1>comes to talking about sex? So for sure I would

0:27:10.040 --> 0:27:12.840
<v Speaker 1>go on their podcast if they asked me. It's fun.

0:27:12.880 --> 0:27:14.359
<v Speaker 1>I think they do a great job. I think it

0:27:14.440 --> 0:27:17.200
<v Speaker 1>hits their target audience, and they're really good. I always

0:27:17.240 --> 0:27:20.520
<v Speaker 1>respect anybody who's good at what they do and creating

0:27:20.560 --> 0:27:22.920
<v Speaker 1>a show and hitting their audience and really driving. I

0:27:23.160 --> 0:27:27.439
<v Speaker 1>always pay attention to what other hosts are doing. So

0:27:27.560 --> 0:27:29.080
<v Speaker 1>if anyway, if I ever got asked to do Call

0:27:29.080 --> 0:27:34.360
<v Speaker 1>Her Daddy, for sure. The sex thing is interesting. I

0:27:34.400 --> 0:27:38.800
<v Speaker 1>don't mind talking about sexual things. I'm not embarrassed by

0:27:38.880 --> 0:27:42.080
<v Speaker 1>it or whatever. I am old school when it comes

0:27:42.119 --> 0:27:45.560
<v Speaker 1>to talking about sex between the woman I love and

0:27:45.640 --> 0:27:48.120
<v Speaker 1>I I'm not open about them.

0:27:48.560 --> 0:27:50.679
<v Speaker 2>That's such a good point. And you and I have

0:27:50.720 --> 0:27:52.520
<v Speaker 2>talked about this before because I was just sort of

0:27:53.080 --> 0:27:54.880
<v Speaker 2>as I was listening to you, I'm picturing what would

0:27:54.920 --> 0:28:00.960
<v Speaker 2>I say to this. I I'm pretty openly talk about

0:28:01.000 --> 0:28:04.520
<v Speaker 2>sex with my friends. I don't know if I would

0:28:04.560 --> 0:28:09.399
<v Speaker 2>with like the whole world, and I think especially, yeah,

0:28:09.400 --> 0:28:13.639
<v Speaker 2>there's something about your relationship when it's your partner. For

0:28:13.760 --> 0:28:16.400
<v Speaker 2>me anyway, it's maybe just this respect thing or that

0:28:16.400 --> 0:28:18.840
<v Speaker 2>that's intimate and just for us. I would sort of

0:28:18.920 --> 0:28:22.639
<v Speaker 2>be more open to talking about my past than I

0:28:22.680 --> 0:28:23.680
<v Speaker 2>would me too.

0:28:23.840 --> 0:28:26.560
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, present totally and if I could speak in generalities

0:28:26.600 --> 0:28:28.080
<v Speaker 1>about things, and I would.

0:28:27.840 --> 0:28:30.359
<v Speaker 2>Never name someone specific. I don't love what people like

0:28:30.440 --> 0:28:32.439
<v Speaker 2>go on podcasts and like I know is.

0:28:32.560 --> 0:28:34.240
<v Speaker 1>To get to out people. It's like, yeah, you don't

0:28:34.240 --> 0:28:36.760
<v Speaker 1>get to do that, just because I think information is

0:28:36.840 --> 0:28:40.200
<v Speaker 1>power and it's powerful and it needs to be used

0:28:40.280 --> 0:28:43.080
<v Speaker 1>very carefully. And this comes from someone who kept secrets

0:28:43.080 --> 0:28:45.080
<v Speaker 1>for twenty years about the show they were hosting. In

0:28:45.120 --> 0:28:48.400
<v Speaker 1>that my whole life with secrets, I think it's important

0:28:48.480 --> 0:28:51.440
<v Speaker 1>that people can trust you and value that, so, you know,

0:28:51.560 --> 0:28:53.480
<v Speaker 1>it would be difficult. I agree, it would be easier

0:28:53.480 --> 0:28:55.880
<v Speaker 1>to talk about my past. I'm you know, if someone said, hey,

0:28:55.880 --> 0:28:57.640
<v Speaker 1>what is Lauren like, you know, what are the things

0:28:57.720 --> 0:28:59.920
<v Speaker 1>she really likes in bed? It's like, I'm never going

0:29:00.160 --> 0:29:00.800
<v Speaker 1>to talk about that.

0:29:00.880 --> 0:29:01.560
<v Speaker 2>It feels weird.

0:29:01.640 --> 0:29:03.680
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's like that's none of your damn business. That's

0:29:03.720 --> 0:29:05.080
<v Speaker 1>between you know, Laura and I.

0:29:05.480 --> 0:29:07.560
<v Speaker 2>You know, it's going to be really exciting for us

0:29:07.600 --> 0:29:09.160
<v Speaker 2>to have sex the first time on the wedding line.

0:29:09.200 --> 0:29:12.440
<v Speaker 1>I can't wait. I've heard so many good things about it.

0:29:12.880 --> 0:29:15.680
<v Speaker 1>You know. It kind of reminds me about Howard Stern.

0:29:16.080 --> 0:29:18.840
<v Speaker 1>Howard Stern is someone I really admire as a host.

0:29:18.880 --> 0:29:20.320
<v Speaker 1>And I know some people might be like, are you

0:29:20.400 --> 0:29:23.920
<v Speaker 1>kidding me? But whether you love him or hate him,

0:29:23.920 --> 0:29:26.440
<v Speaker 1>and that's I think that's a good thing about having

0:29:26.520 --> 0:29:30.880
<v Speaker 1>a visceral reaction to somebody. He is genius at what

0:29:30.960 --> 0:29:34.120
<v Speaker 1>he does. He created a niche he filled a hole,

0:29:34.640 --> 0:29:36.760
<v Speaker 1>and he's one of the best interviewers of our time.

0:29:37.160 --> 0:29:39.080
<v Speaker 1>Whether you love or hate him, you have to understand

0:29:39.440 --> 0:29:43.920
<v Speaker 1>the power he's had in our world. And I've always

0:29:43.920 --> 0:29:45.720
<v Speaker 1>thought about sitting down with him. He was a huge

0:29:45.760 --> 0:29:47.800
<v Speaker 1>Bacher fan. Maybe he still is. I don't know if

0:29:47.840 --> 0:29:49.800
<v Speaker 1>he talks about the show, but he used to be

0:29:49.840 --> 0:29:52.640
<v Speaker 1>a massive, massive Bacher fan, and I always thought about

0:29:52.720 --> 0:29:55.600
<v Speaker 1>going on his show. But I was always reluctant because

0:29:56.560 --> 0:30:00.480
<v Speaker 1>I think I know the interview Howard would want, and

0:30:00.560 --> 0:30:04.520
<v Speaker 1>also the interview Howard deserves, and I don't know if

0:30:04.600 --> 0:30:05.560
<v Speaker 1>I can give him that.

0:30:05.920 --> 0:30:08.000
<v Speaker 2>What do you mean like revealing stuff about the franchise.

0:30:08.120 --> 0:30:10.880
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, revealing stuff about the franchise. He'd probably get a

0:30:10.920 --> 0:30:14.760
<v Speaker 1>little sexual. He'd probably get, you know. And I just

0:30:14.800 --> 0:30:17.480
<v Speaker 1>there's certain things I won't talk about. Again. I'm not

0:30:17.520 --> 0:30:21.320
<v Speaker 1>going to go, you know, talk about Ben Higgins and

0:30:21.400 --> 0:30:23.240
<v Speaker 1>Sean Lowe. I just you know, if I knew some

0:30:23.360 --> 0:30:25.200
<v Speaker 1>dirt about them, I'm not just going to bury those

0:30:25.240 --> 0:30:27.120
<v Speaker 1>guys because I think it would make a good clickbait

0:30:27.160 --> 0:30:31.240
<v Speaker 1>headline and make me popular. So I always was. And

0:30:31.280 --> 0:30:33.400
<v Speaker 1>again Howard has not asked me, but I would be

0:30:33.440 --> 0:30:36.240
<v Speaker 1>reluctant because I would be afraid I would let him down.

0:30:36.640 --> 0:30:38.360
<v Speaker 1>And the last thing I would want to do is

0:30:38.440 --> 0:30:41.680
<v Speaker 1>not give Howard Stern the interview that he deserves because

0:30:41.960 --> 0:30:45.480
<v Speaker 1>he's so good and I wouldn't want to suck it.

0:30:45.520 --> 0:30:47.280
<v Speaker 1>Kind of reminds me of David Letterman. You know, I've

0:30:47.280 --> 0:30:50.400
<v Speaker 1>done Kimmel a bunch, I've done a million talk shows,

0:30:50.440 --> 0:30:52.480
<v Speaker 1>and you can kind of get through those. But there's

0:30:52.520 --> 0:30:55.160
<v Speaker 1>certain people that I would not want to let down.

0:30:56.040 --> 0:30:58.239
<v Speaker 2>So I remember Larry King was on your bucket list,

0:30:58.280 --> 0:30:59.760
<v Speaker 2>and you did Larry I did Larry.

0:30:59.600 --> 0:31:04.240
<v Speaker 1>King, although on one time I sat down with Larry King,

0:31:04.320 --> 0:31:06.920
<v Speaker 1>which was a highlight before he passed away. It was

0:31:06.960 --> 0:31:09.840
<v Speaker 1>a dream. It was everything I wanted because he's also

0:31:09.880 --> 0:31:12.240
<v Speaker 1>one of the great interviewers of our time. And then

0:31:12.240 --> 0:31:14.280
<v Speaker 1>Dennis Miller was filling in for Larry King when I

0:31:14.280 --> 0:31:16.960
<v Speaker 1>went on the second time, Big Dennis Miller fan and

0:31:17.000 --> 0:31:29.760
<v Speaker 1>that was very interesting as well.

0:31:29.840 --> 0:31:32.840
<v Speaker 2>Let's pipe in with this one because somebody DMed me

0:31:32.920 --> 0:31:36.320
<v Speaker 2>this just asking for my advice, and I said, wow,

0:31:36.360 --> 0:31:38.000
<v Speaker 2>this is so interesting. Can I bring it to the pod?

0:31:38.000 --> 0:31:42.240
<v Speaker 2>And she said yes, So she DMed me, I wanted

0:31:42.240 --> 0:31:44.520
<v Speaker 2>to ask your advice. I'm a thirty three year old

0:31:44.560 --> 0:31:48.240
<v Speaker 2>single woman who someday wants kids, so she's thinking about relationships.

0:31:48.600 --> 0:31:52.080
<v Speaker 2>But she said, I just went through a really traumatic

0:31:52.160 --> 0:31:55.360
<v Speaker 2>breakup with the person I thought was my forever person.

0:31:56.400 --> 0:31:58.520
<v Speaker 2>I have made my peace with waiting for the right

0:31:58.560 --> 0:32:01.280
<v Speaker 2>person to come into my life. But my family is

0:32:01.320 --> 0:32:04.480
<v Speaker 2>saying the most hurtful things. They're saying I'm the problem.

0:32:04.600 --> 0:32:07.880
<v Speaker 2>I'm probably crazy, asking me what did I do. Even

0:32:08.000 --> 0:32:10.440
<v Speaker 2>one person said to me that I can't keep a man.

0:32:10.760 --> 0:32:11.480
<v Speaker 1>Oh yikes.

0:32:11.760 --> 0:32:14.040
<v Speaker 2>She said, I'm really questioning my worth and my value

0:32:14.040 --> 0:32:15.880
<v Speaker 2>because of this breakup, and this is making it even

0:32:15.880 --> 0:32:17.640
<v Speaker 2>worse and destroying me. What do I do?

0:32:19.440 --> 0:32:20.280
<v Speaker 1>Shall I go first?

0:32:20.440 --> 0:32:20.960
<v Speaker 2>Go for it?

0:32:21.560 --> 0:32:22.600
<v Speaker 1>Does this person have a name?

0:32:23.280 --> 0:32:23.840
<v Speaker 2>Christine?

0:32:24.000 --> 0:32:29.600
<v Speaker 1>Christine number one. Give yourself some grace and give yourself

0:32:29.600 --> 0:32:34.560
<v Speaker 1>some time trying to find answers immediately when anything traumatic

0:32:34.600 --> 0:32:37.160
<v Speaker 1>has happened in your life, whether you've lost somebody, broken up,

0:32:37.200 --> 0:32:40.160
<v Speaker 1>whatever it is, lost a job, Trying to find an

0:32:40.200 --> 0:32:44.680
<v Speaker 1>answer the next day or that night is impossible. Give

0:32:44.760 --> 0:32:47.160
<v Speaker 1>yourself a little time and a little grace. Take a

0:32:47.200 --> 0:32:51.800
<v Speaker 1>deep breath, Go find your happy place, go paddleboarding, go hiking,

0:32:52.120 --> 0:32:54.160
<v Speaker 1>whatever it is that takes you away from things. Read

0:32:54.200 --> 0:32:57.280
<v Speaker 1>a book, go go into your defense mechanism for a

0:32:57.320 --> 0:33:00.800
<v Speaker 1>little bit. Do some self care, take care of yourself.

0:33:01.120 --> 0:33:04.479
<v Speaker 1>You need to heal when the shock wears off. I

0:33:04.520 --> 0:33:09.000
<v Speaker 1>do think it's important to look in the mirror and

0:33:09.080 --> 0:33:12.000
<v Speaker 1>take some self stock of because it's easy for us

0:33:12.040 --> 0:33:15.239
<v Speaker 1>to say, oh, she did this, he was that. But

0:33:15.600 --> 0:33:18.440
<v Speaker 1>I think it's always important that it's it's there's always

0:33:18.480 --> 0:33:21.600
<v Speaker 1>it takes two to tango, and so it is important

0:33:21.600 --> 0:33:24.240
<v Speaker 1>to look in the mirror and where there are things

0:33:24.280 --> 0:33:27.480
<v Speaker 1>that you overlooked, Where the red flags you overlooked, Where

0:33:27.480 --> 0:33:29.920
<v Speaker 1>are there things that you are doing in your life,

0:33:30.000 --> 0:33:33.200
<v Speaker 1>or maybe things habits you have or things that are

0:33:33.280 --> 0:33:35.720
<v Speaker 1>driving a wedge between you and the people you love.

0:33:36.040 --> 0:33:38.719
<v Speaker 1>So I think it is healthy to look inside, but

0:33:39.320 --> 0:33:44.640
<v Speaker 1>be careful about those demonstrative statements of you can't keep

0:33:44.680 --> 0:33:48.240
<v Speaker 1>a man. I mean, you know, what did you do?

0:33:49.160 --> 0:33:52.040
<v Speaker 1>You know the blame game, and that is quite silly

0:33:52.080 --> 0:33:54.440
<v Speaker 1>to me, and that's very superficial. And I'm sorry you

0:33:54.440 --> 0:33:56.240
<v Speaker 1>have people in your life that would say.

0:33:56.360 --> 0:33:58.880
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm sorry that your family is saying that, and

0:33:59.240 --> 0:34:03.800
<v Speaker 2>I just I'm yes, I'm sorry that your family is

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<v Speaker 2>saying that. And I I think at the end of

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<v Speaker 2>the day, nobody knows what's going on in a relationship

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<v Speaker 2>other than the two people who are really in it.

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<v Speaker 2>So important, I think you just need to be really

0:34:14.200 --> 0:34:15.960
<v Speaker 2>if you haven't, you need to be really clear with

0:34:16.040 --> 0:34:19.440
<v Speaker 2>your family and say what you're saying is not helping

0:34:19.440 --> 0:34:25.400
<v Speaker 2>me right now. You're saying it too bluntly. It's not productive.

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<v Speaker 2>If you want to really, like have a deep conversation

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<v Speaker 2>with me, I would love that because I have value

0:34:31.560 --> 0:34:34.239
<v Speaker 2>your opinion. But you're actually hurting me. I found with

0:34:34.280 --> 0:34:37.600
<v Speaker 2>my own family, Like, if you say you're hurting me

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<v Speaker 2>right now, if that family member loves you, they do

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<v Speaker 2>they take a step back real quick, or just say

0:34:43.080 --> 0:34:44.080
<v Speaker 2>they calm down real quick.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, the way you're saying that I can't keep a man,

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<v Speaker 1>can we have a real conversation of do you think

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<v Speaker 1>there's things in my life that are causing this?

0:34:52.040 --> 0:34:53.920
<v Speaker 2>Like feel like that person also needs to have a

0:34:53.920 --> 0:34:56.479
<v Speaker 2>real conversation about why they think it should be whether

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<v Speaker 2>a woman can quote keep a man.

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<v Speaker 1>And here's the thing too, when people are so demonstrative

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<v Speaker 1>and they're so emotional, and it sucks for you because Christine,

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<v Speaker 1>this just happened to you, so you're the one going

0:35:08.480 --> 0:35:11.520
<v Speaker 1>through this, Yet you have to console people. Maybe these

0:35:11.560 --> 0:35:13.839
<v Speaker 1>people really loved the person you were with and they're

0:35:13.920 --> 0:35:18.080
<v Speaker 1>just they're upset too, and they're just kind of firing

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<v Speaker 1>from the hip because they're emotional about it. It's not fair,

0:35:21.160 --> 0:35:24.680
<v Speaker 1>it's not right. But maybe also give them a minute

0:35:24.800 --> 0:35:26.480
<v Speaker 1>because maybe they're just upset.

0:35:26.640 --> 0:35:28.319
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you might want to pull back. I mean, look,

0:35:28.400 --> 0:35:32.160
<v Speaker 2>sometimes relationships ebb and flow. You don't have to be

0:35:32.280 --> 0:35:34.719
<v Speaker 2>in constant contact with certain family members all the time.

0:35:34.880 --> 0:35:36.480
<v Speaker 2>Sometimes we need a little break from people.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's end on this one. As our wedding approaches It's

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<v Speaker 1>a very good question, and that is when did you

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<v Speaker 1>know you were the one? When did you know I

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<v Speaker 1>was the one? Was there a moment?

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<v Speaker 2>Wow? This is a hard question.

0:35:56.280 --> 0:35:57.320
<v Speaker 1>I know it's kind of interesting.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you know that your answer, I don't.

0:35:58.960 --> 0:36:01.280
<v Speaker 1>Think there was ever that one flip of the switch

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<v Speaker 1>as opposed to a steady assent.

0:36:05.920 --> 0:36:08.319
<v Speaker 2>I was going to say the exact same thing. It's

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<v Speaker 2>hard because I think people want to know what was

0:36:10.280 --> 0:36:12.480
<v Speaker 2>that moment because everyone hopes for that moment. We all

0:36:12.560 --> 0:36:14.160
<v Speaker 2>hope for that clarity and relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I can tell you the moment where I

0:36:15.760 --> 0:36:18.720
<v Speaker 1>thought I if I go back to that spark plug moment,

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<v Speaker 1>but I still wouldn't have if you had stopped me

0:36:21.280 --> 0:36:23.920
<v Speaker 1>and interviewed me in a reality TV moment of in

0:36:23.960 --> 0:36:26.920
<v Speaker 1>the moment interview, I wouldn't have said I'm probably gonna

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<v Speaker 1>marry her.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh wait, which moment?

0:36:29.200 --> 0:36:31.040
<v Speaker 1>Uh? In the parking lot after our first.

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<v Speaker 2>Date, what when I kissed you? Yes, you knew from

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<v Speaker 2>the kiss.

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<v Speaker 1>It wasn't the kiss. It was the conversation we had

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<v Speaker 1>had for probably two hours leading up to that, and

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<v Speaker 1>then the brief conversation we had in the parking lot

0:36:45.719 --> 0:36:49.080
<v Speaker 1>that led to the first kiss where I'm like, Okay,

0:36:49.160 --> 0:36:52.800
<v Speaker 1>she's different. She's different than anyone I've ever dated before.

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<v Speaker 2>What did we say that conversation?

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<v Speaker 1>We just had a conversation if we were going to

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<v Speaker 1>do this.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh and did go out again?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah? Not have sex. We did not have sex. I

0:37:02.239 --> 0:37:03.719
<v Speaker 1>don't know if you remember we did not want sex

0:37:03.800 --> 0:37:04.319
<v Speaker 1>our first date.

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<v Speaker 2>No, we didn't.

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<v Speaker 1>And by the way, we drove separately and went home separately,

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<v Speaker 1>Yes we did.

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<v Speaker 2>And I do recommend that, Actually.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I do too.

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<v Speaker 2>I think when you bring up I'm not a like, listen,

0:37:13.560 --> 0:37:15.920
<v Speaker 2>I'm not like, wait for this or you have to

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<v Speaker 2>wait a long time. But I don't think sex on

0:37:17.600 --> 0:37:19.040
<v Speaker 2>the first date is a good idea. I think you

0:37:19.320 --> 0:37:23.040
<v Speaker 2>get physical too quickly and it sort of over states

0:37:23.040 --> 0:37:23.640
<v Speaker 2>the connection, you.

0:37:23.800 --> 0:37:27.719
<v Speaker 1>Know, what, I think is fun and great texting afterwards

0:37:27.800 --> 0:37:31.000
<v Speaker 1>or calling them afterwards, being excited of what you may

0:37:31.000 --> 0:37:32.800
<v Speaker 1>have just discovered, like all that stuff.

0:37:32.840 --> 0:37:35.919
<v Speaker 2>So I do think there were things on our first date,

0:37:36.560 --> 0:37:40.920
<v Speaker 2>for sure, that made me new I was potentially very

0:37:41.000 --> 0:37:44.560
<v Speaker 2>interested in you, like, and it was sort of simple

0:37:44.600 --> 0:37:46.640
<v Speaker 2>things like the fact that when we got home we

0:37:46.719 --> 0:37:48.560
<v Speaker 2>drove separately. You texted me and asked if I was

0:37:48.680 --> 0:37:51.040
<v Speaker 2>you got home okay, and you right away said like,

0:37:51.080 --> 0:37:54.000
<v Speaker 2>I want to see you again. I thought, I thought, oh,

0:37:54.080 --> 0:37:56.840
<v Speaker 2>this guy's different, Like this is a man, like he

0:37:56.960 --> 0:38:00.520
<v Speaker 2>is making it clear what he wants. He isn't playing games.

0:38:01.480 --> 0:38:05.080
<v Speaker 2>I mean, some games are fun. And also, as you

0:38:05.200 --> 0:38:08.080
<v Speaker 2>just mentioned everybody, I went in for the kiss. I

0:38:08.120 --> 0:38:10.840
<v Speaker 2>went and kissed Chris Harrison. One of the questions we

0:38:10.840 --> 0:38:14.200
<v Speaker 2>had earlier was you know, how how do you know

0:38:14.239 --> 0:38:16.880
<v Speaker 2>when there are sparks? I wanted to find out. I

0:38:16.920 --> 0:38:19.360
<v Speaker 2>really liked the conversation, and I thought, I'm going to

0:38:19.440 --> 0:38:22.600
<v Speaker 2>kiss him because A you don't always have to wait

0:38:22.600 --> 0:38:24.360
<v Speaker 2>for the kiss. First of all, when you go in

0:38:24.400 --> 0:38:26.560
<v Speaker 2>for the kiss as the woman, then that kind of

0:38:26.560 --> 0:38:29.239
<v Speaker 2>puts the control in your hands, which I like, I'm

0:38:29.280 --> 0:38:31.440
<v Speaker 2>like a big shoot your shot and own your situation.

0:38:31.680 --> 0:38:33.680
<v Speaker 1>It's sexy as hell, by the way, thank you.

0:38:33.920 --> 0:38:36.839
<v Speaker 2>And then I just wanted to see Okay. I feel

0:38:36.880 --> 0:38:38.480
<v Speaker 2>like I had good conversation, But do I have a

0:38:38.520 --> 0:38:43.240
<v Speaker 2>physical connection. I think, especially because we had done interviews

0:38:43.239 --> 0:38:47.040
<v Speaker 2>for years and I had never felt that attraction in interviews.

0:38:47.440 --> 0:38:49.800
<v Speaker 2>I thought, I've got to like take this next physical

0:38:49.800 --> 0:38:50.720
<v Speaker 2>step to see see.

0:38:50.560 --> 0:38:52.600
<v Speaker 1>This kiss gonna feel like one of our long interviews

0:38:53.120 --> 0:38:54.440
<v Speaker 1>or is there going to be a spark here?

0:38:54.560 --> 0:38:56.560
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like did we just do a long interview in

0:38:56.680 --> 0:38:58.719
<v Speaker 2>this date and was it a date or was in

0:38:58.800 --> 0:38:59.240
<v Speaker 2>an interview?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, Eli, it felt different, yes.

0:39:03.440 --> 0:39:05.160
<v Speaker 2>But I agree with you that it was such a

0:39:05.200 --> 0:39:10.840
<v Speaker 2>steady progression. I think honestly, I think I don't have

0:39:10.920 --> 0:39:13.359
<v Speaker 2>a time point when it happened, but I know the

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<v Speaker 2>reason in large part that I knew you were the one,

0:39:16.760 --> 0:39:20.080
<v Speaker 2>I mean, all of your qualities, But a huge part

0:39:20.120 --> 0:39:22.280
<v Speaker 2>of it has been that our relationship has always been easy,

0:39:22.800 --> 0:39:27.000
<v Speaker 2>that that natural, steady progression did happen Like this whole

0:39:27.000 --> 0:39:31.719
<v Speaker 2>time that we've been together, We've never questioned. We've never

0:39:31.760 --> 0:39:35.000
<v Speaker 2>ever questioned like should we break up? Is this going right?

0:39:35.200 --> 0:39:37.680
<v Speaker 2>I've never questioned is this guy the right guy?

0:39:37.880 --> 0:39:40.200
<v Speaker 1>It hasn't been a roller coaster ride where either one

0:39:40.200 --> 0:39:42.160
<v Speaker 1>of us have had to be like, well, she's not this,

0:39:42.400 --> 0:39:45.080
<v Speaker 1>but she's this red flats.

0:39:45.719 --> 0:39:48.080
<v Speaker 2>So I think that that the fact that there's never

0:39:48.120 --> 0:39:49.319
<v Speaker 2>been questions like that.

0:39:50.640 --> 0:39:53.000
<v Speaker 1>And that's not to say we don't fight. It's not

0:39:53.040 --> 0:39:57.720
<v Speaker 1>to say we don't disagree, Lauren does. There's many times

0:39:57.760 --> 0:40:02.239
<v Speaker 1>I've been wrong, but I appreciate that, and I think

0:40:02.239 --> 0:40:07.840
<v Speaker 1>we both agree. Thank you so much for your questions, Elsie,

0:40:07.880 --> 0:40:10.719
<v Speaker 1>think you for your answers. Love hearing from everybody, and

0:40:10.719 --> 0:40:13.120
<v Speaker 1>I love where these questions have gone. You can tell

0:40:13.520 --> 0:40:16.280
<v Speaker 1>they've definitely turned and gotten a little bit more serious

0:40:16.320 --> 0:40:18.200
<v Speaker 1>and a little bit more personal as we've gone along.

0:40:18.960 --> 0:40:21.440
<v Speaker 2>Heck, yes, and we love hearing from you all always.

0:40:22.400 --> 0:40:25.120
<v Speaker 2>I feel thy selfishly like it because these questions kind

0:40:25.160 --> 0:40:27.759
<v Speaker 2>of make me reflect on our relationship as well, and

0:40:28.480 --> 0:40:30.719
<v Speaker 2>we can't wait to get married and share all that

0:40:30.760 --> 0:40:31.480
<v Speaker 2>with you guys too.

0:40:31.840 --> 0:40:35.040
<v Speaker 1>And look as I read through some of these questions,

0:40:35.440 --> 0:40:38.120
<v Speaker 1>a lot of them, many of them come from traumatic

0:40:38.160 --> 0:40:42.440
<v Speaker 1>moments and breakups and pain. And just know that we

0:40:42.560 --> 0:40:46.319
<v Speaker 1>love you, we feel you, we can all relate to it.

0:40:46.320 --> 0:40:48.640
<v Speaker 1>That's what makes listening to this podcast and doing this

0:40:48.680 --> 0:40:52.719
<v Speaker 1>podcast so helpful. You're not alone, and just know that

0:40:52.800 --> 0:40:55.160
<v Speaker 1>you are loved and whatever you're going through, this too

0:40:55.200 --> 0:40:57.880
<v Speaker 1>shall pass. You will get through it and we are

0:40:57.960 --> 0:41:02.360
<v Speaker 1>right there with you. And take care of yourself. Take

0:41:02.400 --> 0:41:05.840
<v Speaker 1>care of yourself. And if you know someone is hurting,

0:41:06.000 --> 0:41:08.760
<v Speaker 1>reach out to them. As Lauren just said, your words

0:41:09.000 --> 0:41:12.759
<v Speaker 1>have power and they have meaning, so use them. And

0:41:12.880 --> 0:41:16.359
<v Speaker 1>choose them carefully. Love you all, Thank you so much,

0:41:16.360 --> 0:41:18.200
<v Speaker 1>and we'll talk to you again next time because we

0:41:18.280 --> 0:41:21.320
<v Speaker 1>have a lot more to talk about. Thanks for listening.

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