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Because 27 00:01:23,480 --> 00:01:26,080 Speaker 1: I've read this book, because it's very engaging. My next 28 00:01:26,080 --> 00:01:29,200 Speaker 1: guest is one of Hollywood's most familiar faces, with more 29 00:01:29,200 --> 00:01:32,959 Speaker 1: than three hundred appearances in film and television. Dubbed a 30 00:01:33,080 --> 00:01:36,720 Speaker 1: national treasure by tv guy dot com, she starts on 31 00:01:36,840 --> 00:01:41,240 Speaker 1: the hit ABC sitcom Blackish, starring my man Anthony Anderson 32 00:01:41,400 --> 00:01:44,600 Speaker 1: with her hilarious portrayal of Ruby Johnson. She has a 33 00:01:44,600 --> 00:01:48,240 Speaker 1: new book or memoir I call the mother of Mother 34 00:01:48,280 --> 00:01:51,400 Speaker 1: of Black Hollywood. Please work with the money making conversations. 35 00:01:51,400 --> 00:02:00,360 Speaker 1: The incredible doctor Jennifer Lewis go, hey, Jennifer, you're not 36 00:02:00,400 --> 00:02:04,480 Speaker 1: gonna throw out that doctor or you do it. See. 37 00:02:04,760 --> 00:02:06,880 Speaker 1: See that's when you read the book. See that's when 38 00:02:06,880 --> 00:02:11,880 Speaker 1: you read the Yeah, that's when you're an honorary doctor 39 00:02:12,000 --> 00:02:16,359 Speaker 1: degree from my alma mater, Webster University in St. Louis, Missouri. 40 00:02:16,480 --> 00:02:20,240 Speaker 1: And it was just a wonderful, wonderful commencement. I was 41 00:02:20,280 --> 00:02:23,720 Speaker 1: the speaker that year. I was very excited. I was 42 00:02:23,760 --> 00:02:27,760 Speaker 1: in the middle of getting an um and what was 43 00:02:27,800 --> 00:02:31,000 Speaker 1: the other thing, a lifetime achieved from the American Black 44 00:02:31,040 --> 00:02:37,400 Speaker 1: Film So. Yeah, So I am Dr Jennifer Lewis. I'm 45 00:02:38,639 --> 00:02:41,040 Speaker 1: waiting for someone to say, is there a doctor in 46 00:02:41,040 --> 00:02:44,919 Speaker 1: to say? Right here? Baby, what's the problem I do? 47 00:02:45,080 --> 00:02:46,480 Speaker 1: I said, you know what, I said, I'm gonna hear 48 00:02:46,520 --> 00:02:50,080 Speaker 1: it with the doctor early. Yeah, I said, if he's cute, 49 00:02:50,120 --> 00:02:54,720 Speaker 1: I'll give it to you too much? You too much? 50 00:02:54,960 --> 00:02:56,840 Speaker 1: You know the great thing about your energy. Here's the 51 00:02:56,840 --> 00:03:00,440 Speaker 1: funny thing about our relationship. Okay you could. You've done 52 00:03:00,480 --> 00:03:02,880 Speaker 1: four projects that I've been a social TV projects and 53 00:03:02,880 --> 00:03:05,920 Speaker 1: film projects, and we've never really ever met. In nteen 54 00:03:06,080 --> 00:03:10,240 Speaker 1: uh eight, you taped an episode of of The Parenthood. 55 00:03:10,400 --> 00:03:15,520 Speaker 1: I was an executive story editor with Robert Town There 56 00:03:15,560 --> 00:03:17,600 Speaker 1: You Go. And then in ninety nine I was co 57 00:03:17,680 --> 00:03:20,720 Speaker 1: executive produced of Jamie Foxx Show and You Take Them, 58 00:03:22,280 --> 00:03:25,440 Speaker 1: And then most recently you did two of my movies, 59 00:03:26,919 --> 00:03:29,920 Speaker 1: Think like a Man, Well you and Thinking Like a 60 00:03:29,960 --> 00:03:34,040 Speaker 1: Man too. I was executive and I didn't even meet you. Well, 61 00:03:34,080 --> 00:03:36,920 Speaker 1: why didn't you come and introduce yourself? You know something 62 00:03:36,920 --> 00:03:39,880 Speaker 1: I'm gonna I stayed were in the back. I stayed 63 00:03:39,880 --> 00:03:45,360 Speaker 1: were in the back. And and you know and that 64 00:03:45,720 --> 00:03:48,000 Speaker 1: you know when when when you say three hundred featured 65 00:03:48,040 --> 00:03:50,320 Speaker 1: films and TV show, I got four of them. So 66 00:03:50,440 --> 00:03:53,280 Speaker 1: I know your body of work, and I know it's 67 00:03:53,320 --> 00:03:55,960 Speaker 1: amazing the gifts that you bring to the table. But 68 00:03:56,080 --> 00:03:57,840 Speaker 1: it was really interesting when I was reading the book 69 00:03:58,200 --> 00:04:00,560 Speaker 1: of the book is called It's The Man Walk the 70 00:04:00,640 --> 00:04:04,160 Speaker 1: Mother of Black Hollywood, which is your story. You were 71 00:04:04,200 --> 00:04:06,800 Speaker 1: talking about getting nervous. And one of my good friends 72 00:04:06,840 --> 00:04:08,920 Speaker 1: that you had a love interest and Think Like a 73 00:04:09,040 --> 00:04:13,440 Speaker 1: Man was j Anthony Brown, comedian Janathany Brown. I love 74 00:04:13,560 --> 00:04:16,240 Speaker 1: me from J Come on now, and that he would 75 00:04:16,320 --> 00:04:20,200 Speaker 1: always get amazingly nervous. And you discussed that when you 76 00:04:20,240 --> 00:04:23,040 Speaker 1: were about to deliver your speech for your for your 77 00:04:23,040 --> 00:04:27,240 Speaker 1: honorary at your alma model, Western University, how nervous you 78 00:04:27,320 --> 00:04:29,680 Speaker 1: got because you just wanted to be so good and 79 00:04:29,760 --> 00:04:34,000 Speaker 1: you wanted to deliver the you you know when you 80 00:04:34,279 --> 00:04:40,040 Speaker 1: are delivering a commencement speech, it has to be the 81 00:04:40,200 --> 00:04:48,560 Speaker 1: most important wow moments. You're sending these young children off 82 00:04:48,720 --> 00:04:52,280 Speaker 1: into the world. What a responsibility. And I have to 83 00:04:52,360 --> 00:04:56,080 Speaker 1: tell you I was honored when the president of West University, 84 00:04:56,279 --> 00:05:00,560 Speaker 1: doctor Elizabeth Scrolls, called me and that asked me to 85 00:05:00,960 --> 00:05:04,120 Speaker 1: be the commencement speaker. I did. I said, could you 86 00:05:04,200 --> 00:05:07,640 Speaker 1: give me a moment and I'll call you back. And 87 00:05:07,760 --> 00:05:11,280 Speaker 1: I said, I remember I had made a fire in 88 00:05:11,400 --> 00:05:13,760 Speaker 1: my fireplace that day because I was reading when she 89 00:05:13,920 --> 00:05:17,000 Speaker 1: called by the fire. It sounds romantic, but it was 90 00:05:17,120 --> 00:05:21,360 Speaker 1: just me. But anyway, but used to say, well that 91 00:05:21,640 --> 00:05:26,400 Speaker 1: night anyway. But anyway, look listen, I cried. I sat 92 00:05:26,480 --> 00:05:33,680 Speaker 1: there and I knew it was like one of those 93 00:05:33,800 --> 00:05:38,920 Speaker 1: moments where you know that if you pass away, your 94 00:05:39,040 --> 00:05:42,360 Speaker 1: life was not in vain. It's just it's just that 95 00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:49,360 Speaker 1: moment was said, my god, I I did something that's 96 00:05:49,360 --> 00:05:57,120 Speaker 1: a big moment. That's a big moment. And I just 97 00:05:57,360 --> 00:06:00,960 Speaker 1: was honored. And I'm telling you, I wrote a speech, baby, 98 00:06:01,560 --> 00:06:04,360 Speaker 1: I wrote a speech for those kids. I told him, 99 00:06:04,400 --> 00:06:09,560 Speaker 1: I said, the elevator to success is broken. Take the stairs. Wow. 100 00:06:11,400 --> 00:06:15,840 Speaker 1: And you sang to him too, and your eyes on 101 00:06:15,920 --> 00:06:18,760 Speaker 1: the sparrows. Absolutely, But the thing about it was that 102 00:06:18,880 --> 00:06:21,440 Speaker 1: you just delivered the message. The thing I liked about 103 00:06:21,760 --> 00:06:23,680 Speaker 1: I wanted to bring that up because the fact that 104 00:06:23,760 --> 00:06:26,280 Speaker 1: you know, I graduated from University of Houston. One of 105 00:06:26,360 --> 00:06:29,799 Speaker 1: my bucket list is I get that call to speak 106 00:06:29,880 --> 00:06:34,320 Speaker 1: to the graduation. You know, that's one of my bucket lists. 107 00:06:34,320 --> 00:06:36,040 Speaker 1: So so I had to bring that. I had to 108 00:06:36,080 --> 00:06:41,800 Speaker 1: give you that, Doctor Jennifer Lewis love the first time that, 109 00:06:41,920 --> 00:06:45,200 Speaker 1: ladies and gentlemen, I give you Dr Jennifer Lewis. I 110 00:06:45,279 --> 00:06:52,960 Speaker 1: was like that. So it's just it rang true? Did 111 00:06:53,080 --> 00:06:58,000 Speaker 1: it true that that I had to rise, that I 112 00:06:58,160 --> 00:07:02,120 Speaker 1: had gone full So a little country girl from Missouri, 113 00:07:02,279 --> 00:07:06,760 Speaker 1: that little yeah, from that little freshman on the first 114 00:07:06,839 --> 00:07:11,360 Speaker 1: day of college and here I was back back, you know, 115 00:07:11,720 --> 00:07:17,320 Speaker 1: And that's big and that's what popular. Absolutely, Absolutely, let's 116 00:07:17,400 --> 00:07:18,760 Speaker 1: talk to the about that. That's that's one of the 117 00:07:18,880 --> 00:07:20,560 Speaker 1: things of the book. One of the things that stood 118 00:07:20,560 --> 00:07:22,480 Speaker 1: out in the book. You said this, the Mother of 119 00:07:22,520 --> 00:07:25,520 Speaker 1: Black Hollywood is not a Hollywood tell hall, but a 120 00:07:25,680 --> 00:07:28,560 Speaker 1: life tell all. That's right. I don't go in for 121 00:07:28,680 --> 00:07:33,280 Speaker 1: all of that goss, that negativity and who's doing who 122 00:07:33,520 --> 00:07:36,600 Speaker 1: and all of that stuff. Oh honey, that's such a 123 00:07:36,760 --> 00:07:40,320 Speaker 1: waste of life. And you know there's that line in 124 00:07:40,440 --> 00:07:43,440 Speaker 1: my book. I made sure it would want on one 125 00:07:44,320 --> 00:07:48,160 Speaker 1: line by itself. I don't want any more words around it. 126 00:07:49,000 --> 00:07:56,760 Speaker 1: People love the gossip. I don't. It's painful. We waste 127 00:07:57,080 --> 00:08:02,240 Speaker 1: so much energy concerned what other people are doing. Such 128 00:08:02,240 --> 00:08:06,680 Speaker 1: a waste of life and attention to you. And and 129 00:08:06,760 --> 00:08:10,360 Speaker 1: here's the bottom lines. It has to be in you 130 00:08:11,400 --> 00:08:14,800 Speaker 1: to see it in them. M hm. So what are 131 00:08:14,840 --> 00:08:17,800 Speaker 1: you talking about? It's really interesting, you know. I always 132 00:08:17,840 --> 00:08:19,840 Speaker 1: tell people, if you want to know who you are, 133 00:08:19,960 --> 00:08:23,280 Speaker 1: you want to read your life story, read your comments, 134 00:08:23,880 --> 00:08:25,800 Speaker 1: but you put on the one to know that's your 135 00:08:25,920 --> 00:08:30,640 Speaker 1: life story. Mm. So you're sitting there talking about people 136 00:08:30,720 --> 00:08:35,160 Speaker 1: and trolling and carrying on. That's who you are. And 137 00:08:35,360 --> 00:08:38,280 Speaker 1: and nobody's looking in the mirror when you're brushing your teeth. 138 00:08:38,360 --> 00:08:41,600 Speaker 1: But you you know what you have to offer the world. 139 00:08:41,800 --> 00:08:43,839 Speaker 1: You know how you look, You know what was looking 140 00:08:43,880 --> 00:08:46,520 Speaker 1: back at you. You know if the tee that's what 141 00:08:46,640 --> 00:08:49,360 Speaker 1: I'm talking about. That what Michael Jackson said, that man 142 00:08:49,480 --> 00:08:51,720 Speaker 1: in the book. Now when you when when I when 143 00:08:51,720 --> 00:08:55,280 Speaker 1: I'm reading this book, which is really a journey, a 144 00:08:55,400 --> 00:08:58,880 Speaker 1: life journey for when you you know, and it was 145 00:08:58,960 --> 00:09:03,240 Speaker 1: its highly charged, uh, the sexual journey. It's certain certain 146 00:09:03,320 --> 00:09:06,199 Speaker 1: chapters in the well. I was bipolar. I want to 147 00:09:06,240 --> 00:09:09,760 Speaker 1: talk about it, and I want yeah. When I arrived 148 00:09:09,800 --> 00:09:13,800 Speaker 1: in New York City. Um, sometimes mental illness will hit 149 00:09:13,920 --> 00:09:17,840 Speaker 1: you somewhere around the teams where you'll you'll really discover 150 00:09:18,000 --> 00:09:22,319 Speaker 1: that something is not right, something is off here. And 151 00:09:23,800 --> 00:09:26,400 Speaker 1: one of the things that happens, you know, two things 152 00:09:26,520 --> 00:09:30,760 Speaker 1: will change as human being, will be are sure to 153 00:09:31,000 --> 00:09:34,360 Speaker 1: change as human being, and one is a life threatening disease. 154 00:09:35,200 --> 00:09:38,600 Speaker 1: The other is you just gotta get You get sick 155 00:09:38,679 --> 00:09:42,640 Speaker 1: and tired of being sick and tired. You just get 156 00:09:42,800 --> 00:09:47,480 Speaker 1: tired and you say enough and you change. And I 157 00:09:47,679 --> 00:09:51,839 Speaker 1: wanted to do well. I wanted on my face the 158 00:09:52,000 --> 00:09:55,880 Speaker 1: smile that I put on everybody else's face. I wanted 159 00:09:55,920 --> 00:10:02,600 Speaker 1: to be happy. But bipolar disorder is the telling. It's 160 00:10:02,640 --> 00:10:09,199 Speaker 1: the extreme of manic behavior. Rage, um, you know, speeding, 161 00:10:09,440 --> 00:10:15,559 Speaker 1: walking fast, talking fast. These are examples of being manic 162 00:10:16,280 --> 00:10:21,520 Speaker 1: or mania. Describing mania. When you're um, that cousin that's 163 00:10:21,559 --> 00:10:24,480 Speaker 1: on top of the picnic table at the reunion, pulling 164 00:10:24,520 --> 00:10:28,720 Speaker 1: down its hands, that that sister that stays locked up 165 00:10:28,880 --> 00:10:32,640 Speaker 1: in the basement and never comes out, that friend that 166 00:10:32,760 --> 00:10:36,679 Speaker 1: will disappear for two weeks and not uh communicate. You 167 00:10:36,800 --> 00:10:40,360 Speaker 1: have to keep an eye on people who locked themselves 168 00:10:40,480 --> 00:10:42,800 Speaker 1: up in rooms and stay in the dark and eat 169 00:10:42,880 --> 00:10:46,440 Speaker 1: themselves to death and drink themselves and that these are 170 00:10:46,600 --> 00:10:51,520 Speaker 1: these are the symptoms of mental illness. People running away 171 00:10:51,559 --> 00:10:53,800 Speaker 1: from life, you know. And that's one of the that's 172 00:10:53,840 --> 00:10:55,520 Speaker 1: one of the great charges that you want to get 173 00:10:55,559 --> 00:10:57,959 Speaker 1: out and telling this story, you know, because of the 174 00:10:58,440 --> 00:11:01,959 Speaker 1: cosolutely let go of that digma of mental illness. You 175 00:11:02,040 --> 00:11:05,559 Speaker 1: have to reach out and help your relatives and your 176 00:11:05,800 --> 00:11:10,760 Speaker 1: friends and yourself. Let's talk about the self, talk about 177 00:11:10,840 --> 00:11:14,679 Speaker 1: looking in the mirror. I did a signing at Facebook 178 00:11:15,280 --> 00:11:19,679 Speaker 1: on the Compound in Silicon Valley two days ago, and 179 00:11:19,800 --> 00:11:22,960 Speaker 1: the young man interviewing me admitted for the first time 180 00:11:23,040 --> 00:11:27,880 Speaker 1: that he suffers with depression. Um. What I'm finding as 181 00:11:27,920 --> 00:11:30,600 Speaker 1: I'm traveling around the United States on this book tour 182 00:11:31,040 --> 00:11:34,920 Speaker 1: is so many people, you know, because I played the 183 00:11:35,080 --> 00:11:39,319 Speaker 1: mother and the aunt on television and these many roles 184 00:11:39,400 --> 00:11:42,640 Speaker 1: that I played, people have a special connection with me. 185 00:11:43,520 --> 00:11:46,160 Speaker 1: I'm finding that it's like they see me as their 186 00:11:46,240 --> 00:11:50,720 Speaker 1: auntie and their mother, and they are able to express 187 00:11:50,800 --> 00:11:54,120 Speaker 1: themselves to me a lot. I didn't expect this kind 188 00:11:54,280 --> 00:11:58,400 Speaker 1: of reception. I don't know what that's as you can 189 00:11:58,400 --> 00:12:00,320 Speaker 1: see the direction I wanted to take this. But because 190 00:12:00,320 --> 00:12:02,160 Speaker 1: we're gonna be right back to talk about more of 191 00:12:02,240 --> 00:12:07,960 Speaker 1: with Jennifer Lewes, the real mother Black Hollywood, the AUNTI, 192 00:12:08,760 --> 00:12:10,880 Speaker 1: your cousin, and your sister. She was all those people, 193 00:12:10,880 --> 00:12:12,439 Speaker 1: and I read this book. We were right back with 194 00:12:12,520 --> 00:12:16,200 Speaker 1: more Jennifer. You know now we know each other now, 195 00:12:16,360 --> 00:12:19,120 Speaker 1: so I can you know we're good. We're right back 196 00:12:19,160 --> 00:12:22,640 Speaker 1: with more Jennifer Lewish just for Sean McDonald, the host 197 00:12:22,720 --> 00:12:25,560 Speaker 1: of Money Making Conversations. She's still here. I still got 198 00:12:25,640 --> 00:12:29,640 Speaker 1: online Jennifer Lewis. I've worked with her, you know, I've 199 00:12:29,679 --> 00:12:31,839 Speaker 1: seen her work on four of my projects over the year, 200 00:12:32,880 --> 00:12:37,840 Speaker 1: and she's amazing. Over three hundred, over three hundred TIM 201 00:12:37,960 --> 00:12:40,360 Speaker 1: films and TV. She was on the Coach stars of 202 00:12:40,440 --> 00:12:44,000 Speaker 1: the hit ABC sitcom black Ish Coming Back. We were 203 00:12:44,080 --> 00:12:46,920 Speaker 1: just talking about bipolar was talking about one and let 204 00:12:46,960 --> 00:12:50,040 Speaker 1: everybody know a clear definition. People were bipolar dis order 205 00:12:50,120 --> 00:12:55,679 Speaker 1: typically self medicate with gambling, food, drugs, alcohol, even overspending. 206 00:12:57,040 --> 00:12:59,280 Speaker 1: And the great thing about when I was reading your book, 207 00:12:59,320 --> 00:13:02,400 Speaker 1: you said, once you control, can control your bipolar and 208 00:13:02,559 --> 00:13:07,839 Speaker 1: help you win in Hollywood. Absolutely well, when first of all, 209 00:13:08,080 --> 00:13:12,480 Speaker 1: when you're creating a character in movie, film or theater, 210 00:13:13,160 --> 00:13:15,679 Speaker 1: you have to know who you are in order to 211 00:13:15,800 --> 00:13:19,959 Speaker 1: create somebody else. So here's the thing. I knew I 212 00:13:20,120 --> 00:13:23,199 Speaker 1: needed to go and get help. I knew that something 213 00:13:23,360 --> 00:13:26,160 Speaker 1: was wrong. And when I made the decision, when I 214 00:13:26,320 --> 00:13:30,079 Speaker 1: listened to a good friend who said, something's going on, 215 00:13:31,440 --> 00:13:35,880 Speaker 1: I want to go help UM. And I stayed in 216 00:13:36,040 --> 00:13:42,480 Speaker 1: therapy and eventually I UM got on medication because it 217 00:13:42,840 --> 00:13:46,719 Speaker 1: helped me to level myself so that I could um 218 00:13:48,080 --> 00:13:55,160 Speaker 1: balance my life and um enjoy my success instead of 219 00:13:55,280 --> 00:13:58,959 Speaker 1: being depressed all the time or in a manic state 220 00:13:59,480 --> 00:14:04,160 Speaker 1: all the time. Bipolar disorder is a dangerous mental illness. 221 00:14:04,320 --> 00:14:07,959 Speaker 1: It is a dangerous disease because it is a chemical 222 00:14:08,080 --> 00:14:11,439 Speaker 1: imbalance in the brain. And ladies and gentlemen, listen to 223 00:14:11,520 --> 00:14:17,440 Speaker 1: me very carefully, there is no shame in mental illness. 224 00:14:18,040 --> 00:14:21,800 Speaker 1: We have to get away from that stigma. And I'm 225 00:14:21,920 --> 00:14:26,560 Speaker 1: also very proud of the churches that are now offering 226 00:14:26,760 --> 00:14:34,000 Speaker 1: counseling to their congregation I am very pleased that mental 227 00:14:34,120 --> 00:14:38,640 Speaker 1: illness it's coming to the four of leading thought right 228 00:14:38,760 --> 00:14:44,600 Speaker 1: now in the world. People are really gathering around um 229 00:14:45,000 --> 00:14:50,800 Speaker 1: this issue and they are confronting it head on. And 230 00:14:51,000 --> 00:14:54,320 Speaker 1: I am a spokesman noun for mental illness. They're proud 231 00:14:54,440 --> 00:14:56,840 Speaker 1: of it, and I just want everybody to know that 232 00:14:57,040 --> 00:15:01,680 Speaker 1: you can live a good life with it, right, because 233 00:15:01,720 --> 00:15:06,960 Speaker 1: you're showing that. You're showing that, And that is the 234 00:15:07,040 --> 00:15:12,160 Speaker 1: only reason I had a right two right the mother 235 00:15:12,280 --> 00:15:16,560 Speaker 1: of Black Hollywood. Yes, I suffered this, I suffered that, 236 00:15:17,000 --> 00:15:21,160 Speaker 1: but I came through the fire. I came through the fire, 237 00:15:21,280 --> 00:15:24,440 Speaker 1: and so can you. But you have to look in 238 00:15:24,520 --> 00:15:29,080 Speaker 1: the mirror and address your issues. That's the first step. 239 00:15:30,480 --> 00:15:35,920 Speaker 1: It's not what's wrong, it's mostly what happened. You know, 240 00:15:35,960 --> 00:15:38,400 Speaker 1: when you have a career, when you have a career 241 00:15:38,440 --> 00:15:43,360 Speaker 1: as amazing as your career, you know, in in theater 242 00:15:43,880 --> 00:15:47,320 Speaker 1: in Hollywood, because you know you said your your first husband, 243 00:15:47,600 --> 00:15:50,000 Speaker 1: your only husband, really with New York City, because your 244 00:15:50,080 --> 00:15:53,040 Speaker 1: love from New York City. And then you then you 245 00:15:53,120 --> 00:15:55,520 Speaker 1: moved to l A and found even greater love of success. 246 00:15:55,600 --> 00:15:57,680 Speaker 1: You toward all his country, to all of his all 247 00:15:57,680 --> 00:16:00,760 Speaker 1: of his world, really doing different plays, the events like that. 248 00:16:01,240 --> 00:16:07,000 Speaker 1: But the AIDS absolutely I really affected. You tell us 249 00:16:07,040 --> 00:16:13,960 Speaker 1: about that, wellipment, yes, yes, yes, I had so many 250 00:16:14,160 --> 00:16:18,440 Speaker 1: friends and associates that passed away from AIDS at the 251 00:16:18,600 --> 00:16:22,680 Speaker 1: height of the plague. We called it the plague. It 252 00:16:22,800 --> 00:16:26,360 Speaker 1: to me, it was a silent war that was never declared. 253 00:16:27,000 --> 00:16:31,320 Speaker 1: And after so many deaths and my father passing from 254 00:16:31,360 --> 00:16:35,480 Speaker 1: a massive heart attack, Um, I just I had a 255 00:16:35,560 --> 00:16:39,480 Speaker 1: nervous breakdown and I just that was just so much death. 256 00:16:40,080 --> 00:16:43,240 Speaker 1: It just came friend after friend after friend. You know, 257 00:16:43,400 --> 00:16:48,720 Speaker 1: makeup artists, my backup singers, my pianist, my my writers, my, 258 00:16:49,240 --> 00:16:53,880 Speaker 1: oh my god, they I'm telling you, they dropped like fly. 259 00:16:54,840 --> 00:16:57,080 Speaker 1: And we were so young. We did not know how 260 00:16:57,160 --> 00:17:02,040 Speaker 1: to handle this kind of on slot of death. And 261 00:17:03,160 --> 00:17:06,359 Speaker 1: I had a mental break And that was when a 262 00:17:06,440 --> 00:17:09,400 Speaker 1: good friend took my hand and said, come on, Jennifer, 263 00:17:09,880 --> 00:17:13,240 Speaker 1: you need help. And I resisted. Of course I resist. 264 00:17:13,359 --> 00:17:18,399 Speaker 1: We all resist. Uh. Nobody wants to know that something 265 00:17:18,560 --> 00:17:21,560 Speaker 1: could possibly be wrong with me. It's not what's wrong, 266 00:17:22,080 --> 00:17:26,000 Speaker 1: it's what can we make better? What can we How 267 00:17:26,119 --> 00:17:30,720 Speaker 1: can we make your life more balanced so that you 268 00:17:30,920 --> 00:17:33,920 Speaker 1: can live a good life, so that you can function 269 00:17:34,359 --> 00:17:38,240 Speaker 1: in this world, And I say to people, the world 270 00:17:38,400 --> 00:17:44,280 Speaker 1: is beautiful, such a beautiful, beautiful planet. You want to 271 00:17:44,440 --> 00:17:47,800 Speaker 1: have a great experience here, You want to And I'm 272 00:17:47,920 --> 00:17:50,720 Speaker 1: starting to use a phrase that I never thought I 273 00:17:50,760 --> 00:17:59,400 Speaker 1: would use, the pursuit of happiness. We have a right 274 00:18:00,320 --> 00:18:04,880 Speaker 1: to that and what every takes. And people say, Jennifer, well, 275 00:18:06,040 --> 00:18:08,520 Speaker 1: how do I know? How do I find my passion? 276 00:18:09,040 --> 00:18:14,760 Speaker 1: You find your passion? It's really kind of easy. What 277 00:18:15,160 --> 00:18:22,280 Speaker 1: makes you laugh? What makes you smile? What makes yourselves dance? 278 00:18:23,359 --> 00:18:27,440 Speaker 1: What makes you what makes you dance in the Morning's 279 00:18:28,000 --> 00:18:33,640 Speaker 1: absolutely and need do me a favor. Lead when you're 280 00:18:33,720 --> 00:18:38,040 Speaker 1: living your day to day life. If you wanted to 281 00:18:38,119 --> 00:18:43,280 Speaker 1: go as smooth as it possibly can, do this one thing. 282 00:18:45,040 --> 00:18:53,639 Speaker 1: Need with love. If you're going into a meeting, deed 283 00:18:53,720 --> 00:18:56,639 Speaker 1: with love. If you're going shopping, lead with love. If 284 00:18:56,640 --> 00:19:02,520 Speaker 1: you're getting in your car, lead with love. Just respect 285 00:19:02,640 --> 00:19:04,399 Speaker 1: that the people on the road. You know how I 286 00:19:04,640 --> 00:19:10,440 Speaker 1: stopped road rage. A good friend of mine was in 287 00:19:10,520 --> 00:19:14,679 Speaker 1: the passenger seat and somebody cut me on for somepany. 288 00:19:14,680 --> 00:19:17,640 Speaker 1: This is when I first got to l A. Mybody 289 00:19:17,760 --> 00:19:20,600 Speaker 1: cutting me off. They still cutting people off. They still 290 00:19:20,640 --> 00:19:22,560 Speaker 1: cutting people off in l A. You know, you cut 291 00:19:22,680 --> 00:19:25,879 Speaker 1: them out in the car and my girlfriend I flipped 292 00:19:25,920 --> 00:19:28,720 Speaker 1: them off and I was like yes, And you know 293 00:19:28,800 --> 00:19:33,359 Speaker 1: what my girlfriend said to me, she said, Jennifer, I 294 00:19:33,520 --> 00:19:36,200 Speaker 1: was like, you saw that son? I said that. She said, 295 00:19:37,160 --> 00:19:43,080 Speaker 1: what is just? What is that person's mother just passed 296 00:19:43,119 --> 00:19:48,119 Speaker 1: away and they're driving a little shake. I was like, 297 00:19:48,600 --> 00:19:53,400 Speaker 1: oh my god, I never really thought about that other 298 00:19:53,520 --> 00:19:57,440 Speaker 1: person in the car. That's another person in that car 299 00:19:57,600 --> 00:20:01,440 Speaker 1: with feelings and a life just like you. So that 300 00:20:01,600 --> 00:20:05,320 Speaker 1: stopped last. And if we use that in everything, you know, 301 00:20:05,400 --> 00:20:07,640 Speaker 1: if a person is having a problem, don't be going 302 00:20:07,680 --> 00:20:12,159 Speaker 1: around to about what's wrong. Ask yourself what could have 303 00:20:12,280 --> 00:20:14,639 Speaker 1: happened to that person that they're acting like that? And 304 00:20:14,720 --> 00:20:17,760 Speaker 1: it'll make you feel more compassionate. Hey, jennif I want 305 00:20:17,800 --> 00:20:19,240 Speaker 1: to talk about I want to make sure people know 306 00:20:19,320 --> 00:20:21,639 Speaker 1: that you have a book tour coming up. Uh and 307 00:20:21,760 --> 00:20:23,640 Speaker 1: they can see you live, they can touch you, take 308 00:20:23,720 --> 00:20:30,000 Speaker 1: photos with you. That's right, that's coming out South Florida. Okay, 309 00:20:30,520 --> 00:20:33,080 Speaker 1: Go'll be down there doing your thing on April twelve 310 00:20:33,200 --> 00:20:35,920 Speaker 1: and April thirteen. So go to the website, go to 311 00:20:36,000 --> 00:20:39,120 Speaker 1: follow her on social media. You know, Jennifer lewis for real. 312 00:20:42,119 --> 00:20:45,320 Speaker 1: You understand. I'm selling you. I'm selling I know your story. Now. 313 00:20:45,400 --> 00:20:47,720 Speaker 1: I don't know where else you've been interviewing with you 314 00:20:47,880 --> 00:20:52,680 Speaker 1: know what. You read the post, You've got the questions. 315 00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:56,359 Speaker 1: I am loving this interview. And that's just then on 316 00:20:56,720 --> 00:20:59,800 Speaker 1: April fifteen, you know, and then you're gonna be in Chicago, 317 00:21:00,040 --> 00:21:01,919 Speaker 1: my favorite city, when my favorite fit city is, You're 318 00:21:01,920 --> 00:21:06,560 Speaker 1: gonna be up there, speak sister speak fled Michigan, Detroit, Michigan. 319 00:21:06,920 --> 00:21:08,960 Speaker 1: But before we go, it was a couple of pictures 320 00:21:09,040 --> 00:21:11,639 Speaker 1: in the book. I know Miguel, you know, he was 321 00:21:11,720 --> 00:21:15,280 Speaker 1: important in your life, and Quentin Quinn quin quitman Equipment, 322 00:21:15,320 --> 00:21:17,520 Speaker 1: Equipment in your life. But I did not see a 323 00:21:17,600 --> 00:21:21,360 Speaker 1: picture of your man Thomas and your man Terrence. Why 324 00:21:21,480 --> 00:21:23,840 Speaker 1: do I not see any photos of those two in 325 00:21:23,920 --> 00:21:31,159 Speaker 1: your book? Well, because, um, Miguel was the love of 326 00:21:31,240 --> 00:21:35,840 Speaker 1: my life absolutely, and Equipment would have married him if 327 00:21:35,840 --> 00:21:39,320 Speaker 1: he wasn't hot, Gay said, right, darling, those were the 328 00:21:39,440 --> 00:21:43,160 Speaker 1: two men that made my soul thing. But you kept 329 00:21:43,200 --> 00:21:47,520 Speaker 1: going back to Thomas. Well, that's true, that's true. And 330 00:21:48,119 --> 00:21:50,560 Speaker 1: I'll give you a little secret there about the book. 331 00:21:51,240 --> 00:21:54,520 Speaker 1: Some of the names were changed. That's fine, that's fine. 332 00:21:54,720 --> 00:21:56,840 Speaker 1: I'm just working on I have to tell you I 333 00:21:57,080 --> 00:22:01,080 Speaker 1: called most of my I called most of my lovers. 334 00:22:01,240 --> 00:22:03,119 Speaker 1: I did to ask him if they wanted me to 335 00:22:03,440 --> 00:22:11,159 Speaker 1: use their real names. Okay some of them. Okay, okay, okay, 336 00:22:11,240 --> 00:22:13,640 Speaker 1: Now I understand. Now I understand why I don't see 337 00:22:13,640 --> 00:22:17,879 Speaker 1: a Thomas, why I don't see a good I do 338 00:22:17,960 --> 00:22:19,800 Speaker 1: want to tell you, I thank you for coming on 339 00:22:19,880 --> 00:22:24,159 Speaker 1: my show, Money Making Conversations. You You're a blessing and 340 00:22:24,280 --> 00:22:28,200 Speaker 1: I'm so proud that I was involved with four projects 341 00:22:28,240 --> 00:22:32,480 Speaker 1: and your amazing career. People everywhere. You know Jennifer Lewis 342 00:22:32,600 --> 00:22:36,119 Speaker 1: for real, She is the deal on Twitter. She just 343 00:22:36,240 --> 00:22:38,760 Speaker 1: Jennifer Lewis on Twitter. You know, just Diennifer Lewis on Twitter. 344 00:22:39,520 --> 00:22:48,280 Speaker 1: The one end, One End, It's one End. I love you. 345 00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:51,920 Speaker 1: I'm a fan. Rian mcdal's a fan. 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