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Speaker 1: Its your co host aj Holiday. What's up to him?
Speaker 1: Hey boo, Hey y'all. Happy New Year's me tread my throat? Yeah,
Speaker 1: fun I did. I went to the basketball game last night.
Speaker 1: I was screaming. Lebron was out there whooping my ass. Shame.
Speaker 1: I was like, stop Lebron, stop that nigger. I've never
Speaker 1: seen Lebron. No, I have seen Lebron play. I can't
Speaker 1: remember when, but I have seen him. Might have been
Speaker 1: in Charlotte a while ago. Everybody was at the game
Speaker 1: last night. It was seen. Who are you seen? I seen?
Speaker 1: The baby? Was this courtside? I was? I went in
Speaker 1: courseide yall. I couldn't afford them tickets last night. I
Speaker 1: was in the suite. I didn't really that's the only
Speaker 1: person I saw that with celebrity. I wasn't paying much attention, honestly,
Speaker 1: but it was packed and the nosebleed seats was a
Speaker 1: hundred ten dollars right up on the against the wall.
Speaker 1: Shame that I am. Luckily, you don't gotta paid for
Speaker 1: no tickets, you know, right exactly, I ain't paid for
Speaker 1: a game ticket yet. Um. I just God came over
Speaker 1: me this morning, and I have a message for everybody listening.
Speaker 1: He wanted me. I don't know who needed to hear this,
Speaker 1: But clean your makeup brushes, ladies. Some of y'all ain't clean.
Speaker 1: Y'all makeup brushes sists before the pandemic. Go get your
Speaker 1: makeup brushes and clean them this week in the name
Speaker 1: of Jesus. Okay, Amen, ain't wonder why they got acne.
Speaker 1: You ain't changing the pillow cases. You ain't changing pillows.
Speaker 1: You know, pillers be heavy. It's had with all them
Speaker 1: skin cells in there. Throw them damn pillars out for
Speaker 1: the new year. And washing brushes, yes, janging mattress cuff.
Speaker 1: But just do all the things. We're doing all the things. Okay.
Speaker 1: So I was your weekend. Aside from that crazy I've
Speaker 1: been manifesting it, I was like, I haven't been to
Speaker 1: no games this season. This week I went to literally
Speaker 1: three weeks since seven three games in seven days. So
Speaker 1: on New Year's Eve, I went to another game. I
Speaker 1: can't even remember who we played. Went to the game
Speaker 1: and everybody was hanging out after the game. But I
Speaker 1: came home. I came home and I, um, so, they
Speaker 1: do the Charlotte celebration, like right on the side of
Speaker 1: my building, so where the Queen the Queen crown goes
Speaker 1: in the sky at midnight, it's literally right. I can
Speaker 1: see it from outside my patio. So I just went
Speaker 1: on my patio and watched the festivities and listen to
Speaker 1: the music. And baby, they did the fireworks show. Bitch,
Speaker 1: I thought that ship was coming in my house. It
Speaker 1: was so intense. I was out there screaming on from
Speaker 1: the time I had to run in the house. I
Speaker 1: was scared. But it was a good time and I
Speaker 1: just brought it in by myself. What about you? Um oh,
Speaker 1: hold on, I want to say, did you know that
Speaker 1: Charlotte is named after a black woman queen, Queen Charlotte Mecklenburg. Yes,
Speaker 1: in case you'all ain't know royals in the South. Um So,
Speaker 1: I had like a little house party. I went to
Speaker 1: one of my friends. I helped her plan a house
Speaker 1: party on Friday for her birthday. So that was really nice.
Speaker 1: A lot of CHERRYO. Yeah, you know, I take my
Speaker 1: mic everywhere, so I was fucking entertaining. Bitch. Now I'm
Speaker 1: feeling under the weather. Excuse me, y'all. This bitch really
Speaker 1: karaoke mic just randomly with her kind U bitch, big wheels,
Speaker 1: keep on turning, proud Mary. Whatever, whatever, I feel like,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do it. I'm an entertainer, okay. Um. New
Speaker 1: Year's Eve was Saturday. Um. I hung out with a friend. Okay,
Speaker 1: we ate oysters and had a ski boards, both phones
Speaker 1: for the New Year. Happy New Year, and like my
Speaker 1: one of my resolutions, I was like, not even a resolution.
Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, for the first three months,
Speaker 1: I'm not having sex and then New Year. But I said, okay,
Speaker 1: that's it, the new Year, no more, no for three months.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna really try to do it. Okay, that's good.
Speaker 1: And look that takes us into our our stupid internet news.
Speaker 1: What are the sins of this sweet so um just
Speaker 1: the one thing I think that associates with me not
Speaker 1: having sex. Hopefully, I'm gonna try real fucking hard. But
Speaker 1: I saw um to Rogi p Henson. She did an
Speaker 1: interview with h um Angie Martinez this week and she
Speaker 1: was saying how she hadn't been happy in a long time.
Speaker 1: And I was like, you know what, one of my
Speaker 1: I feel like one of my resolutions for last year,
Speaker 1: I wanted to be like when somebody asking like, hey girl, Agie,
Speaker 1: how you doing, I want to be able to say, girl,
Speaker 1: you know I'm the happiest I've ever been. I've never
Speaker 1: been able to do that. So just yesterday I was
Speaker 1: saying how I wanted to, um, like plan a trip,
Speaker 1: go someplace for a month by myself, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. So Taragi p Henson was saying, you know
Speaker 1: how important mental health is and and being happy and
Speaker 1: nobody outside of you can make you happy. So she
Speaker 1: was saying, how, um, she's going to go to Bali
Speaker 1: for a month by herself. And I'm like, damn, that's
Speaker 1: confirmation for me. That's what I need to be doing
Speaker 1: to get me together. Do you feel like you're not happy?
Speaker 1: Not like um like ultimate happy? No? And I think
Speaker 1: that most people fluctuate, you know, but I just want
Speaker 1: to be like all around happy, good mental health. No,
Speaker 1: I can't say that that's me throughout the entire year.
Speaker 1: I don't think nobody is ultimate happy all year long.
Speaker 1: I think it's possible, though, you know what I'm saying, happy,
Speaker 1: I think it's possible because you know, like when they'd
Speaker 1: be like, oh, do to work, like the work has
Speaker 1: an end date. You shouldn't always be having to do
Speaker 1: to work your whole life. Do you see what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So at some point that has to be I don't
Speaker 1: mean completely healed from every yes, like it has to
Speaker 1: be up sixty five by the time. You don't have
Speaker 1: to be like that. Though I don't. I feel like
Speaker 1: I'm happier then I feel like pandemic. I was tormented.
Speaker 1: I was pandemic. Was tormented me like it wasn't him,
Speaker 1: It was just my life choices, you know that I
Speaker 1: was tormented by. But now I feel free. But I
Speaker 1: feel good. I just feel like it's some things I
Speaker 1: want to do top of this year. You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. I think that will really kick it off,
Speaker 1: to make sure I reach all my um myum my
Speaker 1: goals this year. That's all little solitude I think I
Speaker 1: asked somehow got to a place where the opinions of
Speaker 1: others just stopped mattering at all. To me, that's a
Speaker 1: good place, which especially in this industry. Yeah, it feels
Speaker 1: so good, you know that a dookie story. I was
Speaker 1: in my feelings for like two minutes about it, and
Speaker 1: then it was like, I don't care. People got worse,
Speaker 1: like embarrassing sexual moments than that. The funk I got
Speaker 1: a few worse ones than that. Ship. All right, what
Speaker 1: else happened in our stupid internet news? Well, this isn't
Speaker 1: this really isn't stupid internet news. So yesterday, um, and
Speaker 1: I actually was watching the football game and it's happened. Um,
Speaker 1: And then I started started seeing people tweeting like damn
Speaker 1: that I just watched somebody die on the field. But
Speaker 1: he did not pass. But um, right now, the mar
Speaker 1: Hat Hammling he is in intensive care after having basically
Speaker 1: a heart attack last night after tackling somebody. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: Buffalo Bills in Cincinnati Bengals game, if y'all missed it, Yeah,
Speaker 1: And you know, it just brings up the conversation because
Speaker 1: maybe he had a hard condition already and we don't
Speaker 1: we didn't know about it. But what type of testing
Speaker 1: are they doing on these young men to make sure
Speaker 1: that they're healthy enough to play? In this game, and
Speaker 1: is this game really a safe game? You think about
Speaker 1: CTE things like that, and all the concussions and brain
Speaker 1: damage and things like that that happened with you know,
Speaker 1: this sport, and it's just it's a sad chain of events.
Speaker 1: I would not want my son. If I had a son,
Speaker 1: I would not want him to play football. I would
Speaker 1: want him to learn how to play baseball. I actually
Speaker 1: love football. I don't like any other sport like that.
Speaker 1: I like football. I like contact sports for the most part,
Speaker 1: and a lot of the times like that should be
Speaker 1: these boys lives. A lot of these guys are playing
Speaker 1: football from little kids get up elementary to the pros,
Speaker 1: so they their body is definitely going through a lot.
Speaker 1: You know. I would like to think that they have
Speaker 1: medical where they have to do some type of um
Speaker 1: rigorous testing to make sure these players are healthy enough.
Speaker 1: But we see what happened with Antonio Brown, and Tonio
Speaker 1: Brown said he was hurt that game. We saw him
Speaker 1: while out of his last game. He said he was
Speaker 1: hurt and forced to play. I believe him because you
Speaker 1: know the saying they call him like forty million dollar slaves,
Speaker 1: like y'all. And then in the football in in in NFL. Um.
Speaker 1: They don't have guaranteed contracts, right, so you out there
Speaker 1: smashing your body up and your career could be over
Speaker 1: in a blink of an eye. And I know during
Speaker 1: COVID they were forcing you know, all these players that
Speaker 1: get vaccinated. A lot of them got caught with caught
Speaker 1: with fake vaccination cars, but majority of them are vaccinated.
Speaker 1: And one of the things that's being found um with
Speaker 1: all the different um you know, the fiser the maderna
Speaker 1: is mirco didis. Mirco didis is like a hard condition
Speaker 1: and it's it's been affecting men, specifically teenage men up
Speaker 1: to like forties in the early forties. And that's one
Speaker 1: of the these leading causes of cardiac arrest. So that's
Speaker 1: something they need to dive into too. Another football player
Speaker 1: died today at home. A former football player thirty eight
Speaker 1: years old dropped dead from a heart attack at home
Speaker 1: in his bedroom today. They so people are people are
Speaker 1: dropping dead. We're not living as long as we think
Speaker 1: right now today y'all, this is recorded on Tuesday, so
Speaker 1: by the time of year, it won't be today anymore.
Speaker 1: But uh yeah, that's and that's why I would I
Speaker 1: don't want I wouldn't want my son to play football,
Speaker 1: as much as I do enjoy the sport, because I
Speaker 1: do enjoy its intense and it's, you know, a good
Speaker 1: time to see. It's just very scary. And you know,
Speaker 1: I hope that this young man makes a full recovery.
Speaker 1: And I'm sure he's not gonna play football anymore after that.
Speaker 1: But as long as he got his life, you know,
Speaker 1: so y'all lift him up in prayer. Let's all lift
Speaker 1: him up. You know, the voice of many to the Lord,
Speaker 1: he hears us. So, y'all pray for my boy. I
Speaker 1: guess you know. Questioning skip Bayliss's tweet from last night
Speaker 1: because he says, no doubt the NFL is considering postponing
Speaker 1: the rest of this game. It took him an hour
Speaker 1: to postpone the game, y'all. So, and he says, this
Speaker 1: late in the season, a game of this magnitude is
Speaker 1: crucial to the regular season outcome, which suddenly seems so
Speaker 1: so irrelevant. It is irrelevant. It's very fucking irrelevant. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so he can your word, you're right. He came back
Speaker 1: and said that people misinterpreted his tweet, but that's the
Speaker 1: problem with text. Okay, you leave it to your reader
Speaker 1: to interpret your demeanor in context if they can't hear you,
Speaker 1: so stop sucking tweeting. If you ain't got nothing like straight,
Speaker 1: clear dry to say, don't say it. It's hard with
Speaker 1: because I know I didn't felt out with bitches and
Speaker 1: niggas about a text that I meant something totally different
Speaker 1: than we see, you know, right, so I can get that.
Speaker 1: You know, I call if I feel like you misinterpreted
Speaker 1: some sh I'm saying, I'm going to call. Yeah, yep,
Speaker 1: you don't call me before because we me and you
Speaker 1: don't went back and forth in some text messages. And yeah,
Speaker 1: cause your ass is passive aggressive, let's be clear, very
Speaker 1: mention I'm not. I'm very direct. Okay, let's talk so
Speaker 1: you can hear, so you can hear high really mean, Okay, y'all.
Speaker 1: Tammy asks me real nasty, nice nasty Okay, her assay
Speaker 1: real me and ship nicely texted or verbally, and I'd
Speaker 1: be yelling at the talk of my mother, sucking lungs.
Speaker 1: Me and y'all we'll be on here laughing. But me
Speaker 1: and this bitch going at it sometimes, we'd really be
Speaker 1: going at it sometimes I love you nothing less arguing
Speaker 1: with other bit period but listen, um sadly and this
Speaker 1: one uh me and Gangster Booth follow each other on Twitter.
Speaker 1: She passed away over the weekend on New Year's Day,
Speaker 1: wasn't it? On New Year's Day? She passed away? And
Speaker 1: they're saying it's another fan and all death or another overdose.
Speaker 1: I would say overdose, but we know, like right now,
Speaker 1: that's the real epidemic. That's the real pandemic right now.
Speaker 1: We just said what we I just said I wanted
Speaker 1: to leave that ship in two but I knew it
Speaker 1: was gonna come with us here that I hate that ship.
Speaker 1: I really hate that ship. And here we are. So
Speaker 1: you know, I just saw an article came out on
Speaker 1: on site said that, um, she was just booted off
Speaker 1: of marriage boot camp because they apparently found a little
Speaker 1: small baggy in her and her husband's or her significant
Speaker 1: others um bedroom just you know, just recently and so
Speaker 1: now here it is she's had a drug overdose. Um.
Speaker 1: They also said her brother was in the hospital of
Speaker 1: the day before she passed from a drug over dose.
Speaker 1: They probably you know, using the same drugs from the
Speaker 1: same source. And this ship is not fucking safe. But
Speaker 1: like you're literally playing Russian Roulette right now. If you
Speaker 1: can't kick the coke right, you don't know when your
Speaker 1: time gonna be up. But here's the thing. That's the
Speaker 1: thing about drugs. You know it is addictive. It is addictive.
Speaker 1: So you know that there is a chance that I
Speaker 1: might have a bad badge, but you still change it
Speaker 1: because you're addicted to this substance and that and that's
Speaker 1: the scary part about it. I've seen this article, um
Speaker 1: I followed like a lot of financial Instagram pages so on.
Speaker 1: This is a business week. They have an article that
Speaker 1: says the Golden Age of cocaine is happening right now.
Speaker 1: They're saying there's more poppy fields and never there's more
Speaker 1: acreage of cocaine growing, It's being shipped more places in
Speaker 1: the world. What the fuck are calling at the golden age?
Speaker 1: I don't know. It says we're living in the golden
Speaker 1: age of cocaine, said Toby muse To, author of the
Speaker 1: book Kilo Inside the Deadliest Cocaine Cartels, who has been
Speaker 1: reporting on the Colombian drug trade for more than two decades.
Speaker 1: Cocaine is reaching corners of the planet that I've never
Speaker 1: seen it before because there is so much of the drug.
Speaker 1: So we all watched Ozark. I know you watched that
Speaker 1: on Netflix, and you remember, like during that old season
Speaker 1: where they were cutting the cocaine with fitting all like
Speaker 1: it's showing you and all these people were coming up dead.
Speaker 1: They're gonna try to find these people. You get a
Speaker 1: lot of time if they need to find every last
Speaker 1: one on them, lock them up because they don't ruin cocaine.
Speaker 1: It's wild, It's really wild. It's really wild. I don't know.
Speaker 1: That's something I would never try now. Never said now,
Speaker 1: were you considering it before? I hate you? I hate you. No,
Speaker 1: I want to try at some point, maybe when I
Speaker 1: was younger, like college age, I thought about it, but
Speaker 1: I just seen the ramifications of addiction like firsthand in
Speaker 1: my life, so I was always like, I'm cool. Never
Speaker 1: nothing ever crossed my mind. I said, you know what,
Speaker 1: one day, I'm gonna do something a little I just
Speaker 1: like a little bit. I spent a lot of time
Speaker 1: around white people. No shade to y'all, but y'all be
Speaker 1: doing coke aline period and they'd be having fun. I
Speaker 1: remember one time we were at a club. This is
Speaker 1: when I was living in Florida and this black guy
Speaker 1: came up. Two white home girls got them a little baggy.
Speaker 1: We all went to the bathroom. They was like, try it, Tama,
Speaker 1: try it. I was like, no, I'm cool, I'm cool.
Speaker 1: Just do it, gummy, Just do it, gummy, just a
Speaker 1: little on your gumps. I was like, no, I'm cool.
Speaker 1: So I didn't take any They did their thing immediately
Speaker 1: w w in the bathroom. They're wrestling all over. I mean,
Speaker 1: it's so much. It was funny as fun though, like
Speaker 1: they just started but they're actually fighting. No, it's just fun. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and I like the wrestle. So I was like, I
Speaker 1: want to try it. But I was like, nah, I'm cool.
Speaker 1: I'm glad I don't have a m I'm glad I
Speaker 1: don't have an addictive personality. Now. I am addicted to
Speaker 1: fucking food fresh bait goods specifically, and people. But but
Speaker 1: food kill more people than cocaine. Just know that I
Speaker 1: eat good food. You know how pickure I am about food.
Speaker 1: So I'm beating good now. But that's that's my damn problem,
Speaker 1: food and people. Because I let your ass linger a
Speaker 1: little too fucking long. Yeah, um, child like Keith Stanfield.
Speaker 1: So he apparently has a newborn baby and also a
Speaker 1: new engagement, and the child's mother took to social media
Speaker 1: to say, you know, uh, she decided to leave being
Speaker 1: someone's secret family in two meet Apolo Steinfield. M hm, yep,
Speaker 1: congratulations with Keith on your new families like, and he
Speaker 1: came to reinforce his engagement, said, I love the holidays
Speaker 1: and spending time with family, some really great moments with
Speaker 1: loved ones, beautiful time with my fiance and the reinforcement
Speaker 1: of our bond in the midst of any kind of climate,
Speaker 1: and I feel like this more. He goes on and
Speaker 1: say some more ship but not nothing about yes, like
Speaker 1: how do you spend the holidays without a newborn right
Speaker 1: or even acknowledging the newborn in your post about family?
Speaker 1: That's so hurtful and that's baby's gonna see that when
Speaker 1: they get old. Yes, I have a problem. I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't particularly care for like Keith Stanfield. He used
Speaker 1: to be on Clubhouse a lot, and you get to
Speaker 1: really see people personalities and also how he was coming
Speaker 1: from my mother fucking brother Charlomagne before. Yeah, you could
Speaker 1: kiss my whole ass. Okay, I really don't particularly care
Speaker 1: for him. I think he's like kind of weird, So
Speaker 1: you're weird for having a baby for him, but whatever
Speaker 1: you knew. That's mean. Yeah, that's okay. Uh, congratulations to
Speaker 1: keep Stanfield and his family and engage his families his families.
Speaker 1: I wish him best of luck and congratulations to the
Speaker 1: mother of a new child with a blessing to have
Speaker 1: a baby. That's all I'm gonna say about that. I
Speaker 1: guess okay. So, y'all spoiler alert. If you hadn't seen
Speaker 1: the Best Man series that just came out, you might
Speaker 1: as well go watch it and then come back and
Speaker 1: listen to this episode because we're about to get into it,
Speaker 1: all the way into it. I finally got a j
Speaker 1: to sit down and watch some television, you know, So
Speaker 1: I got her to watch it, and we're gonna discuss
Speaker 1: all the situations in that show. So come back, y'all,
Speaker 1: we'll be right back. We're bad guys, and now we're
Speaker 1: gonna get into it. So we're just going to discuss
Speaker 1: each character with their counterpart. And I just want to
Speaker 1: hear a J views because she's crazy, all right. There's
Speaker 1: a lot of social issues they I feel like TV now,
Speaker 1: and even with comedy, they're cramming all social issues into.
Speaker 1: So this was eight eight episodes, but I've seen them
Speaker 1: cramming into fifteen I mean our fifteen minute comedy shows,
Speaker 1: like can we just get I don't need reality TV
Speaker 1: all the time? Yeah, me neither. I don't need reality
Speaker 1: little reality TV anytime? Right, I don't. I don't like
Speaker 1: it no more? All right, So Shelby in Quintin mm hmm.
Speaker 1: So no, Shelby came back and got her man. Don't
Speaker 1: play with her. I was here for all of that.
Speaker 1: If that's the nigga that you love, you're supposed to
Speaker 1: fight for that ship funk that bit Siamara, Seeamarra, that
Speaker 1: wasn't even real. That was fake, and she'sa all right
Speaker 1: through it. So she went there to get her man
Speaker 1: and did well, I guess because she felt like he
Speaker 1: wasn't being himself with this person, right, like that's my man.
Speaker 1: But she realized she had two marriages, right that he
Speaker 1: had to sit through and watch publicly, you know, and
Speaker 1: you come crap when this man finally finds somebody he
Speaker 1: wants to be with, you come crash his wedding. Essentially,
Speaker 1: you fuck him m hm. And he had such an
Speaker 1: understanding fiance that would be me like, oh yeah, what
Speaker 1: everyone's will all right, cool, don't get mad what I
Speaker 1: do it though? You went so if your husband, your
Speaker 1: fiance fucked his ex girlfriend the night before our wedding
Speaker 1: at your wedding resort, obviously I'm sensationalizing some things, right,
Speaker 1: So of course not like bitch, why are you even here? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I really just in life in general, Like, if that's
Speaker 1: somebody you feel like you need to be okay, mm hmm,
Speaker 1: maybe we can have a dicession about it. M m.
Speaker 1: That's all I'm saying to tell you something. I'm here
Speaker 1: for Shelby doing what she did. But if I was
Speaker 1: a hole, if I would see Amara Shelby wasn't a hole,
Speaker 1: She'll be head a whole kid and married two other
Speaker 1: niggas from this man. Now, that was wild that she
Speaker 1: hit the kid. That part was kind of left field,
Speaker 1: like they could have just left it at somebody else. Baby.
Speaker 1: I don't know why the writing because they didn't have
Speaker 1: a whole storyline on that. It should have been like
Speaker 1: a huge conversation about that therapy and all kind of
Speaker 1: ship you're calling that got that baby calling him uncle daddy.
Speaker 1: That's that's wild to me. And she had to pretend
Speaker 1: like he was having a heart at act for her
Speaker 1: to call him daddy. He didn't. He wasn't pretended, Yeah
Speaker 1: he was. Yeah, he thought he was having a heart
Speaker 1: attack anyway. Yeah, another one. Yeah. But what I was
Speaker 1: gonna say is that part was fake with Shelby marrying
Speaker 1: him there, because Shelby, if she made it down at all,
Speaker 1: she would have made it down with a black eye
Speaker 1: busted lip because we would have beat me and my
Speaker 1: sisters would have beat the dog shit out of Shelby
Speaker 1: before she made it down, right, yes, rightfully. So like
Speaker 1: I don't respect that, and I don't feel like that
Speaker 1: would actually happen in real life. It's not real. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't respect that up but just for the sake
Speaker 1: of the show and the review of the show since
Speaker 1: I did watch it, I don't respect that. She should
Speaker 1: have never showed her ass up there. He should have
Speaker 1: never been marrying somebody all while you know in your
Speaker 1: heart is someplace else. I respected, because go after what
Speaker 1: you want, bitch. If that's what you would, you had
Speaker 1: to go for it, if ye, But you don't want
Speaker 1: him to tell he got somebody else that's him selfish,
Speaker 1: it is. I understand why you were late with that.
Speaker 1: But anyway we can move on to what that means.
Speaker 1: The shade at all, mother's shade. I believe in going
Speaker 1: after what you want. That's a period point like period okay,
Speaker 1: even if it's somebody else. Husband, No, I don't do that.
Speaker 1: They were marrying on this playing. I'm just playing. They
Speaker 1: wasn't married yet. Oh they definitely weren't. But yes, you
Speaker 1: were like okay, so what's the what's the cut off? Right?
Speaker 1: So no, I always say like, I don't fun with
Speaker 1: somebody boyfriend, but I don't with nobody husband, not saying
Speaker 1: that I've never been in those type of situations because
Speaker 1: I have right. But you know, play your fucking part, bitch,
Speaker 1: But what's the cut off? Like when you're in a relationship,
Speaker 1: you get engaged, like that's damn, they're married. You know,
Speaker 1: you can't say, oh, you ain't married until the ring
Speaker 1: go on and y'all make vows before God in the law.
Speaker 1: Well obviously that's what um what Quentin thought, because he
Speaker 1: while he was he was like, I I ain't married
Speaker 1: that she came there and she left. She was in
Speaker 1: the airport. The nigga followed her to the airport. She
Speaker 1: was gonna let them have their happy nup shals. And
Speaker 1: she said, a bitch, if you hurt him, it ain't
Speaker 1: way in hell. I ain't gonna beat your ass, and
Speaker 1: then left, so Queinn came to get her. So let's
Speaker 1: be honest about what happened. Then c Mr burnt that
Speaker 1: ship down before she left, bitch waving the stage, and
Speaker 1: there got the funk about it there. C Mr didn't
Speaker 1: really love him, She just loved her. You think that's
Speaker 1: what it was. I don't feel like she really loved
Speaker 1: him like that. I don't know. One. She left too easy.
Speaker 1: She burned some ship down before she left. Though they skipped,
Speaker 1: that's still too easy. This is because that's the writing.
Speaker 1: We don't know what What would you have done? If
Speaker 1: I told you? Shelby would have been black and blue
Speaker 1: limping her ass down the aisle. Honestly, I had to
Speaker 1: wear her ass out right. Thank god, it's a movie,
Speaker 1: right in, not real life. Alright, alright, let's talk about
Speaker 1: Merchant and Candice. I they were my like, um I
Speaker 1: would say favorite couple. M hm, No, yeah, they were
Speaker 1: my favorite couple, and I felt him because we had
Speaker 1: a guest on recently and he pretty much told us
Speaker 1: that his um his therapists essentially was trying to tell him, hey,
Speaker 1: you're a simple so that kind of it would be
Speaker 1: like Merchant's character, like he's the simple like everybody think
Speaker 1: he is simp anyway, but he's a real man, right,
Speaker 1: And a part of him was thinking he was as
Speaker 1: sim as well. You know, he's feeling like I've been
Speaker 1: a bitch ass nigga far too long. They betrayed me,
Speaker 1: like this bitch ass nigga in the movie My Best Friends.
Speaker 1: They don't respect me as the man that I am.
Speaker 1: This white lady trying to play with me like my
Speaker 1: little girls, one of my little girls, like Daddy didn't
Speaker 1: do ship he you know, like coming in the house
Speaker 1: acting like I can't hear her talking about me and
Speaker 1: his wife is so understanding that. One thing I did
Speaker 1: not like about this couple is Candice is hair. I
Speaker 1: felt like Tyler Perry was producing a little bit so
Speaker 1: yeah that week that week, because she's a beautiful woman,
Speaker 1: that way do her any justice? Yeah, I agree, but
Speaker 1: that was small in comparison to the character, right, the
Speaker 1: character was a good woman. You know, she was far.
Speaker 1: I think they wanted us to say, you think about
Speaker 1: like how strippers are portrayed, and they made her a
Speaker 1: super conservative. Yeah, like she danced at one time in
Speaker 1: their life. We look at her, use the all the adjectives.
Speaker 1: She's the educator, black progressive educator of the year. He
Speaker 1: got that award, and she had a situation with the advisor.
Speaker 1: And I so as soon as he sat his ass
Speaker 1: up on that desk with his legs open behind her,
Speaker 1: already knew what time it was because I didn't see
Speaker 1: that stands the time or to life from um yeah,
Speaker 1: men who were in leadership in my life. So I
Speaker 1: know exactly how that was about to go. But then,
Speaker 1: all right, so this is the crazy part for me, y'all,
Speaker 1: because he grabbed her shoulders and then he slid down
Speaker 1: to her breast or whatever, and obviously he violated her.
Speaker 1: She didn't go home to her nigga and tell her man.
Speaker 1: I didn't understand why she felt like she couldn't say
Speaker 1: nothing to her man about it, And I didn't see
Speaker 1: why she was crying either. And then maybe maybe that
Speaker 1: means that I'm too comfortable with abuse That's what I
Speaker 1: was thinking. Am I too comfortable with abuse? Because why
Speaker 1: am I life? Why she about it, Niga grabbing her TV?
Speaker 1: I was just told my man, we would have went
Speaker 1: to ride on him, right. So remember when she finally
Speaker 1: did tell him in the kitchen after she saw him fighting,
Speaker 1: how strong her man was. Um, Not that that had
Speaker 1: anything to do with the two, but she said, you know,
Speaker 1: I went through this thing time and time and time again.
Speaker 1: In my mind, there's nothing I could have done any different.
Speaker 1: That's what it was. She was blaming herself, and it's like,
Speaker 1: did I do something to provoke this thing? Like did
Speaker 1: I do something to send him the wrong cueues or
Speaker 1: something like that. That's what women go through when you
Speaker 1: get violated by somebody's like what did I do to
Speaker 1: invite this? Right? So, when she was explaining to her
Speaker 1: husband what had happened, and she told him, you know,
Speaker 1: it's just him. He's a pig. He was gonna do
Speaker 1: that no matter what. So that's why she didn't come
Speaker 1: straight home and tell her husband because I think a
Speaker 1: part of her, and also from having been a stripper
Speaker 1: at some point, being um objectified in that way, she
Speaker 1: might have felt like, did I do something to deserve this,
Speaker 1: and a lot of women go through that before they
Speaker 1: actually tell the truth. Girl in front pas shirts in
Speaker 1: that ugly wig, you didn't do nothing. You didn't do nothing.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have I don't know. I wouldn't have thought that,
Speaker 1: and I don't think I would have been that upset
Speaker 1: over it. What I wanted to see next though, I
Speaker 1: wanted in my mind, I'm like, Okay, now her nigga
Speaker 1: is doing kickboxing and all that ship. She about to
Speaker 1: tell him this nigga that violated her. He's about to
Speaker 1: pull up at that school. I wanted that. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: wanted that, but it wasn't written in so I thought.
Speaker 1: I thought Merch was going with heartber ass at one time, like, Oh,
Speaker 1: he's gonna be heart grass up. I liked that for Merch. Yeah,
Speaker 1: me too. I was happy for Merch because we twenty
Speaker 1: years we've been seeing him be a bit yass nigga.
Speaker 1: You know, so I can't hold water just doing goofy ship,
Speaker 1: neurotic and goofy and socially awkward, acting weird about the
Speaker 1: best man. But they're the best couple. They got the
Speaker 1: healthiest marriage. Qua Mara Oh witnesses bow to the Union
Speaker 1: of c Mar. I was like, oh my god, March,
Speaker 1: you are so lame. Who snacks? Go Let's go go
Speaker 1: I Harry, or let's get into it. Uh first, let's
Speaker 1: just talk about Lance by himself. You know, when we
Speaker 1: saw him like using sex as a tool to cope,
Speaker 1: and you know, we had an episode on howen doesn't
Speaker 1: heal and that just doesn't apply to women. You know,
Speaker 1: we were speaking about women because we are that, but
Speaker 1: Lance is just, you know, representation of how holing for
Speaker 1: anyone does not heal you when you're exactly. I think
Speaker 1: a lot of men, a lot of men don't associate
Speaker 1: like being promiscuous with some type of trauma. Mm hmm.
Speaker 1: So he was using women as an outlet for what
Speaker 1: he was actually going through in his life. So he's
Speaker 1: just going to swimming pool but naked in front of
Speaker 1: all these was I'm like, wait, is this a nude resort?
Speaker 1: What the fund is happening on this on the show.
Speaker 1: He looks good though, Let's just talk about that. So
Speaker 1: so so mor shots not don't look like y'alla mean, no, no,
Speaker 1: he just not. I think they look alike. They at
Speaker 1: least look like Ken. They look like family members. If
Speaker 1: you're saying two black men with ball heads. Yes, but
Speaker 1: look shout out to whoever did his motherfucking lace front
Speaker 1: for the the back scene when he was in the hospital,
Speaker 1: but his son having a baby? They did a good
Speaker 1: hair was nice. Okay, it looked nice on here. You
Speaker 1: should keep it? Or was that a scene from that time?
Speaker 1: I don't remember that. Yeah it wasn't. Yeah, that's a
Speaker 1: nice ass uh little uh fade lace front? He had
Speaker 1: a right? Whoever did that? We should have did? Uh
Speaker 1: Candice Week? Okay, So let's talk about Lance in LJ
Speaker 1: in their relationship, because that is a huge dynamic within
Speaker 1: our culture right now, especially with young people and their
Speaker 1: parents and people our age trying to understand their kids
Speaker 1: and understanding like having different pronouns and things like that
Speaker 1: and sexuality and come into terms with that. What what
Speaker 1: were your thoughts on it? So again, this is like
Speaker 1: one of the many social issues they had in uh
Speaker 1: Best Man final chapters. And I feel like it was
Speaker 1: necessary because these people exist, right that this is a
Speaker 1: new thing. The pronouns and all that stuff now that
Speaker 1: they them, that's the one that confuses me the most. Okay,
Speaker 1: if it's my child, I would try my best to
Speaker 1: do the things, but I don't have any kids. I'm
Speaker 1: not doing that in my real life for people, like
Speaker 1: I'll just really, you call people by their names anyway,
Speaker 1: like just name. I wouldn't have to say they them
Speaker 1: to them for real unless I'm talking to other people
Speaker 1: about them. Right, But if you're talking to other people
Speaker 1: about them, are you going to use the pronouns that
Speaker 1: they desire? If the person I'm talking to also requires that,
Speaker 1: because you notice his friend was like, who are you
Speaker 1: talking about? That's that's just too much. So if you
Speaker 1: antagonizing this man and his son is missing. So I
Speaker 1: just feel like it's just a little I don't know
Speaker 1: if it was antiged antagonized, And I think it was
Speaker 1: more about why they why he gone in the first place,
Speaker 1: Like you're still doing this ship and this is why
Speaker 1: he's not here. This is why you're searching for him
Speaker 1: right now. It's because this reason right here. You don't
Speaker 1: respect who he is as an individual. But I feel like,
Speaker 1: so he was a high school student, right, this boy
Speaker 1: was still in high school. You're raised by a masculine,
Speaker 1: masculine man, right, he's a single parent, he went through
Speaker 1: a lot loss his wife. Now he's trying to raise
Speaker 1: three children by himself. I think as kids we don't
Speaker 1: give our parents enough grace as kids, and even sometimes
Speaker 1: as adults, we don't be giving him enough grace. He
Speaker 1: needed more time to adjust to that too, like that
Speaker 1: that was that was his initial response. But if that's
Speaker 1: not something that you anticipated for your child, and now
Speaker 1: here it is, smack me in the face. And he
Speaker 1: didn't have the decency to talk to him about it.
Speaker 1: He felt like he didn't need to tell us dad
Speaker 1: about it. But you upstairs in my friend's house with
Speaker 1: lipstick on, Like I do feel like that that should
Speaker 1: have been a conversation he had with his dad. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think, uh, he was afraid, you know, he was scared.
Speaker 1: I don't think it was he just like funk man,
Speaker 1: he don't need to know my business. I think it
Speaker 1: was more I'm afraid to tell my father because of
Speaker 1: all these things that you said, because Mama ain't here,
Speaker 1: because I don't think he'll accept me because he's so masculine.
Speaker 1: So I think that was the reason why he kept
Speaker 1: from his father, not because he didn't respect to him
Speaker 1: enough to tell him. You know, when I feel but
Speaker 1: I think he needed a little bit more grace to
Speaker 1: be okay with it, and maybe it took that traumatic event.
Speaker 1: And thank you, regardless of what's going on, thank you
Speaker 1: about to lose your child. Does this eat this this,
Speaker 1: does this thing? However your child wants identified, does it
Speaker 1: even matter right because it's still your child that part,
Speaker 1: you know. I have one of my closest friends, her
Speaker 1: daughter see her son has you know, decided that they
Speaker 1: identify as male, and you know, me knowing him his
Speaker 1: whole life, I struggle greatly, as you can see right
Speaker 1: now just having a conversation with you. I struggle so
Speaker 1: much saying he and calling him by the name that
Speaker 1: he's chosen for himself because of I just in my mind,
Speaker 1: I see him as this person that I've known since
Speaker 1: they came out of the wound, you know. And I
Speaker 1: struggle with it so much, and I'm always apologizing because
Speaker 1: I don't want to offend anybody. I don't want to,
Speaker 1: you know, make him feel like I'm rude to how
Speaker 1: he sees himself. But it's hard for me. It's hard
Speaker 1: for me. Do they visually look like him now? Not
Speaker 1: to me? Well, they present themselves as male okay, but
Speaker 1: just in my in my psyche, it's just very hard,
Speaker 1: you know. I tried my best, though, and I'll continue
Speaker 1: to try and eventually I'll get it. So that's what
Speaker 1: I'm talking about. They have to have more grace with
Speaker 1: us too. This is new. This is really really new.
Speaker 1: Like I don't know when it came about, but um,
Speaker 1: I have a friend. She's a chiropractor, and one of
Speaker 1: her patients presents as a woman. When I say presents
Speaker 1: as a woman, she still looks like a woman, right,
Speaker 1: She's dressed as like a woman. She's married to a transwoman. Okay,
Speaker 1: so a trans woman as a man? I was born
Speaker 1: a man, right, Okay? Okay, So this is a black woman,
Speaker 1: she's a trans man, and she's married to a trans woman,
Speaker 1: a white trans woman. So are they gay or no?
Speaker 1: That's what I'm getting to, right, So she doesn't physically
Speaker 1: look like a man, right, I think you need the
Speaker 1: visuals to go with it also, But she wants to
Speaker 1: be addressed as him, you know, he. But I have
Speaker 1: to then trick my mind to accommodate you in that way.
Speaker 1: And it's hard, especially if you know sometimes like I
Speaker 1: have a couple of guys that I might hang out
Speaker 1: like hang out with in my social circle that are
Speaker 1: gay guys, and because of their demeanor, it almost automatically
Speaker 1: like comes out even like girl, ha ha ha, because
Speaker 1: of how they act. But if you are physically acting
Speaker 1: like a woman, looking like a woman, but you want
Speaker 1: to be called him and he, that is very and
Speaker 1: then how many other people? I gotta do this for life?
Speaker 1: It's it's hard, it is difficult, but you know, you
Speaker 1: want to respect everybody's choices. And that's why when I
Speaker 1: say I'm thirty two, I just feel like people should
Speaker 1: just respect that show I'm thirty two years old, and
Speaker 1: I just feel thirty two inside. I don't feel like older.
Speaker 1: So why the fund do I gotta be? With my
Speaker 1: birth certificate says it is I'm thirty two. Bits trying
Speaker 1: to get me cakes with that other number on it.
Speaker 1: When I told you that ain't my motherfucking number. Period.
Speaker 1: There are allowed to change in sex and stuff like
Speaker 1: that on and birth certificates. Now, why I can't be younger? Trans?
Speaker 1: I can't change my age. Yeah, I'm trans age. God damn,
Speaker 1: I'm starting a new uh, we're starting a new movement.
Speaker 1: Bit Actually, I'm caring Okay, y'all, we're gonna go to
Speaker 1: break right quick. We'll be right back, all right. So
Speaker 1: the final group of people, Harper, you know what, Before
Speaker 1: we get into Harper and Robbing, let's just talk about
Speaker 1: Jordan by herself. Okay. I identified with Jordan's in a
Speaker 1: lot of ways. I know you would say that. I
Speaker 1: really you too, Did you feel like that? I think
Speaker 1: a lot of single black women did with no children
Speaker 1: identified with Jordan's. Yes, I did. In um when she
Speaker 1: was like sitting in that boardroom and her brain like
Speaker 1: she couldn't even see and she just was not prioritizing
Speaker 1: her health the way she should, and she's just taking
Speaker 1: on everybody ship and not concerning with her own the
Speaker 1: way she should. Baby, that was like, M I need
Speaker 1: to I need to. Aren't take a lesson from this
Speaker 1: moment right here, because you know, I have MS and
Speaker 1: I don't always prioritize it like I should. I know,
Speaker 1: like I just kind of like treated, I feel like
Speaker 1: I do this thing in my mind, like I don't
Speaker 1: feel like I have it, so I don't period. And
Speaker 1: I think that that has helped me in many many
Speaker 1: ways because I see so many people struggling with it
Speaker 1: that in a way that I don't, but I'm gonna would.
Speaker 1: God pray I don't start. But I know that I
Speaker 1: need to like do more when it comes to health,
Speaker 1: and I gotta like I work a lot, Like I
Speaker 1: feel like my whole life is like, you know, go go.
Speaker 1: Every time I wake up, it's like go go go,
Speaker 1: go go go, you know. Like, so I need to
Speaker 1: find a way to cut back on that and stop.
Speaker 1: I mean, I love money, y'all. I love money. I
Speaker 1: love it. Give me something. If y'all love me, cash
Speaker 1: at me right now. But I need to like not
Speaker 1: chase the bag so much. Yeah, because you stress will
Speaker 1: literally take you out. M It would literally take you out.
Speaker 1: And I have seen people who have went blind temporarily
Speaker 1: from stress. So you definitely got to prioritize your health
Speaker 1: over everything. If you ain't good, like none of that
Speaker 1: should gonna matter. You can't take the money with you,
Speaker 1: You can't take none of this ship with you. Be
Speaker 1: up out of here on the other side looking like damn,
Speaker 1: that's my purse, my sister where Yeah, that's what it
Speaker 1: would be. Um with with Jordan's um, I identified with
Speaker 1: like the especially the relationship in particular that she has
Speaker 1: with Harper. I have a couple of men that I
Speaker 1: have dated in the past and who have went off,
Speaker 1: got married, stuff like that, and for whatever reason, and
Speaker 1: I don't talk to them often, but they'll periodically throughout
Speaker 1: the year text me. These should have would have could
Speaker 1: have text messages, and I do not find them flattering
Speaker 1: at all. I'm not your fucking safe space. Yes, I'm
Speaker 1: exact exactly, that's what she said. And I felt that
Speaker 1: because I feel like I've been that for a couple
Speaker 1: of guys like y'all have went on built lives with
Speaker 1: other women. You didn't choose me, and you realize maybe
Speaker 1: because this this thing that you're in and ain't it
Speaker 1: ain't what it is, it ain't me m M. And
Speaker 1: you want to know, nigga, if you ain't choose me
Speaker 1: the first time, sunk off my phone. But I've had
Speaker 1: the same phone number for so long. It's like people
Speaker 1: just be I don't even know, maybe don't even want you.
Speaker 1: Maybe I didn't want to know. They still have access
Speaker 1: access to you. A lot of times people confusing this
Speaker 1: nigga that I used to deal with. I would like
Speaker 1: always allow him to come back in my space because
Speaker 1: we had so much fun together, be like we just
Speaker 1: got soul ties. I would say that and just let him.
Speaker 1: But finally during the pandemic, I was like, no more
Speaker 1: started to funk away from me. Maybe I started getting
Speaker 1: all kind of I'm this nigga me a d M
Speaker 1: from a page that I don't because I blocked this
Speaker 1: page from mine. The d M said, I'm gonna beat
Speaker 1: you up on site and I'm gonna shooting'ty nigga as.
Speaker 1: You ain't gonna bust a grade y'all. But he just
Speaker 1: mad because he don't have access anymore. Niggas. Really, that's
Speaker 1: all they want is the access and didn't even really
Speaker 1: want you. It's just to know they still got access. Right,
Speaker 1: He ain't gonna buy'all. Don't be worried about that. He
Speaker 1: just talking shit. Right. What about Jordan's um the motherhood
Speaker 1: cry she was set in the car was not fresh?
Speaker 1: Ohoo foo foo. We have to talk about that because
Speaker 1: I mean, okay, we don't have any kids, we aren't
Speaker 1: as young. You know, Tammy's thirty two. Yay, I'm thirty eight,
Speaker 1: and I mean it's that is like a reality at
Speaker 1: this point, right. But what science people are having children
Speaker 1: a lot later. Do I want to have to funk
Speaker 1: with science to get a baby? That would be probably
Speaker 1: be like my last like last resort for real. But
Speaker 1: you can still have a baby. She could still have
Speaker 1: a baby. But it is like a thing for a
Speaker 1: lot of women. And it's not just black women who
Speaker 1: are having fertility issues. It's like across the board because
Speaker 1: of our food, the health care system, it's a lot
Speaker 1: of different you know things going on right now that's
Speaker 1: affecting people having kids. Like all of our grandparents had
Speaker 1: a lot of kids. What's happening like now you're down
Speaker 1: to like one to three. Let's talk about playing bs
Speaker 1: in abortion to they didn't have that option because some
Speaker 1: of y'all, Grandma, y'all wouldn't have been here, can be option.
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna yo, Grandma CoA gotta play be some
Speaker 1: of my I don't know if I would have been
Speaker 1: here right now. It's wallowing, it's playing a Let's be clear.
Speaker 1: They probably ain't been down for that. Shouldn't neither. Granny
Speaker 1: probably like why in my mouth, it's not no get
Speaker 1: somebody else to do it exactly because grandpa had a
Speaker 1: family down the street anyway, Huh, See that's what I'm
Speaker 1: talking about, keeping peace. Keeping peace. Sometimes you'll been you
Speaker 1: need to outsource your nigga to somebody else, Like I
Speaker 1: know because I've been thinking, I'm alright, so I have
Speaker 1: been singing for a minute. But I used to remember
Speaker 1: my in my relationship, I used to think, like, damn,
Speaker 1: I wish my nigga had another bitch, say annoyed right now?
Speaker 1: Like is there not somebody else who you could go? Right? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I used to feel like that, stupid Listen, Harper and
Speaker 1: Jordans could never be together. Or maybe this is why
Speaker 1: they think that them in a relationship with work is
Speaker 1: because they equally work a lot. See um Robbin Harper's
Speaker 1: wife Rob and she didn't she became a mother, She
Speaker 1: didn't chase any of her dreams. So he was used
Speaker 1: to that. He was used to her, you know, just
Speaker 1: being his sidekick. Oh wow, Like your woman has things
Speaker 1: that she wanted, ambitions that she wants to do. So
Speaker 1: she pretty much gave her life up for his career
Speaker 1: and to raise his child and all that stuff. And
Speaker 1: then your home girl, you know, Jordan, and Jordan is
Speaker 1: out here chasing her dreams doing a damn thing. She's
Speaker 1: sad now because she doesn't have a family. So you
Speaker 1: see both of these dynamics. You miss what you've never had. Well,
Speaker 1: they say you can't miss what you never had, but
Speaker 1: people do, right, So you see ends of the spectrum.
Speaker 1: But in Harper's defense, he felt like he was doing
Speaker 1: He felt like he was doing like by tracing his dream,
Speaker 1: he was providing all the things that his family could
Speaker 1: ever need. The big house. That she was a little selfish.
Speaker 1: She was a little selfish. I under when they argued
Speaker 1: about the jazz clubs that that that she wanted. I
Speaker 1: under stood his perspective too. I'm out of town. I
Speaker 1: didn't get to see it. Yeah, I trust you, but
Speaker 1: you know it's still a big purchase. It's pricey. You
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. You've done all these things. And
Speaker 1: I identified with Jordans on this. I'm not sorry, I'm
Speaker 1: not Jordan's um identified with Robin on this. I am
Speaker 1: the type of person who starts with ship and don't finish.
Speaker 1: So that's another thing I'm doing for executing. Right. So
Speaker 1: her husband was like, I have supported you. You did this,
Speaker 1: we did that. You stop you did this, you stopped
Speaker 1: doing that, Like there could be another thing, right and
Speaker 1: you just want me to jump out here and buy
Speaker 1: something off the whim because you called me and say
Speaker 1: I need it right now. That's kind of hard. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So I can I understand where he might have been, like,
Speaker 1: you know, I'm a bad ship, you know, like can
Speaker 1: we find a different building? You know, he was a
Speaker 1: little bit insensitive, and I think that's where like the
Speaker 1: tone comes in, just how you say things, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, because he didn't he didn't think it
Speaker 1: was such a big deal, and it was. He didn't
Speaker 1: realize how big of a deal it was for her
Speaker 1: because he didn't even text her Happy New Year. His
Speaker 1: assistant did. His assistant sent the Happy New Year because
Speaker 1: she she had called him. She was trying to reach
Speaker 1: him so that they could talk about the building, and
Speaker 1: she couldn't reach him, and then you get the Happy
Speaker 1: New Year, I Love you text message. His assistant probably
Speaker 1: sent that ship. So now it's like I really wanted
Speaker 1: this thing, but we couldn't even communicate about it, and
Speaker 1: now you acting like it's nothing and I'm in this
Speaker 1: colde the house cold, and you know he I thought
Speaker 1: that nigger was trying to save money or something. The
Speaker 1: house that you wanted. I didn't even want this house.
Speaker 1: And now I ain't got no heat in his motherfucker
Speaker 1: And here comes to his finance. Nigga what he does
Speaker 1: and I'm not sucking his You need to hurry up
Speaker 1: and come get here. You need to get So that's
Speaker 1: where I also identified with Robbin, because here's the thing
Speaker 1: I feel like, and I always say that women need
Speaker 1: a reason. Men just needed time and place. Mm hmm.
Speaker 1: Robin was ready to risk it off real because this
Speaker 1: man saw her vision. He was supportive. He went with her,
Speaker 1: you know, to see the building and all this stuff
Speaker 1: that and it seems like that's a relationship. He found
Speaker 1: the building for her. Yeah, and it seems like did
Speaker 1: did Harper even know about this guy? M It didn't
Speaker 1: seem that way. It wasn't written in there in that way. Meanwhile,
Speaker 1: after Lance's um retirement event and Harper ends up at
Speaker 1: the house with Jordan's they about to smash if the
Speaker 1: phone didn't ring about Quentin, you didn't have a reason
Speaker 1: that you didn't your wife. No, that wasn't after the
Speaker 1: retirement of it. That was that was after UM New
Speaker 1: Year's Eve. Yeah, No, it was after his premiere oh,
Speaker 1: you're right. That was after the premiere. M hmm. So
Speaker 1: after the premiere, Harper and Jordan and dep together and
Speaker 1: they were getting pretty intimate. What reason did he have
Speaker 1: to do that other than just being selfish because he's selfish.
Speaker 1: She's like the selfish character. The crazy part was his
Speaker 1: wife are selfish. So yeah, so she had the event.
Speaker 1: They compromised, right, so she came to his event, then
Speaker 1: he came to support her, and then it was the
Speaker 1: active party. She was like, no, just go ahead, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna stay here. I would have never sent my man
Speaker 1: nowhere with Jordan's ever. Maybe she wanted something to happen,
Speaker 1: don't because I would have been like low key intimidated
Speaker 1: by that woman all the time, just because I know
Speaker 1: and fine and flies, no kid, no kids, it's just
Speaker 1: fun over there. We just watched the movie where they
Speaker 1: fake fuck. Even we know it wasn't them, but it's
Speaker 1: you know, in the movie, it's portrayed like they those
Speaker 1: two had sex, so that the gee is already in
Speaker 1: the space you think I'm sending you boy, you better
Speaker 1: way here with me and we're gonna go. I feel
Speaker 1: like she was already out the door at that point. Anyway,
Speaker 1: she was one ft at the door once she started
Speaker 1: entertaining somebody else, Like usually you'd be looking for a
Speaker 1: little replacement, a little bit, you're trying to get the fuck.
Speaker 1: But so I was, you know, talking to this guy
Speaker 1: at one point, right and I told him how I
Speaker 1: wasn't working with him anymore. And he goes to say, like,
Speaker 1: you can't just arbitrally make that decision on your own.
Speaker 1: I'm like, what do you mean? I said, so, if
Speaker 1: I'm not like feeling you like that anymore, are you
Speaker 1: telling me I can't walk away? And he was like, no,
Speaker 1: you're not in this by yourself. You can't just call
Speaker 1: me and say you're not a funking with me no more.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, why not? Exactly? How does that work?
Speaker 1: One part of my brain was like, all right, that
Speaker 1: kind of makes sense. The other side was like, boy,
Speaker 1: if I don't want to focus you like I'm gonna
Speaker 1: if I gotta put a restraint in order you, that's
Speaker 1: what's going to happen. But we don't realize once you
Speaker 1: connect on people, connect with people, especially in a marriage
Speaker 1: and with a child, you aren't in that situation by
Speaker 1: yourself anymore. And even when you don't have kids involved,
Speaker 1: and even if you're not married and you're connecting with
Speaker 1: somebody like in a real way, it's no longer like
Speaker 1: I guess at some point you'll have to mutually say
Speaker 1: we funk with you like this. This was this guy's point.
Speaker 1: We gotta mutually walk away. You can't just arbitrailly saying
Speaker 1: I can't just arbitrailly say a bit you ain't you
Speaker 1: bulls bullshit. You can wake up today and decide not
Speaker 1: the funk with nobody somebody, and that's your prerogative, and
Speaker 1: they just have to figure out how they want to
Speaker 1: navigate their own life after that. How do you want
Speaker 1: to learn to live without you? Essentially exactly because but
Speaker 1: just we ain't gotta mutually agree on ship, but just
Speaker 1: think about times where just think about like it's really
Speaker 1: hard to get over relationships. And I was saying, like,
Speaker 1: you should just stay with someone when you're unhappy. Um,
Speaker 1: but I know you've left somebody before you see how
Speaker 1: it affects them. I don't know. I actually went through
Speaker 1: like breakup therapy before I left my ex, Like I
Speaker 1: had to actually talk to somebody to help me through
Speaker 1: the process with leaving and staying gone because it is
Speaker 1: a process. So now when you got a child involved,
Speaker 1: she's taking herr child to a whole another continent. You're
Speaker 1: not in this thing, You're not in this life by
Speaker 1: yourself anymore. You gotta take your ex husband into consideration,
Speaker 1: and you have to take your child into consideration. It's
Speaker 1: not just what you want to do. Because you felt
Speaker 1: like you've been supporting all the things he wanted to do.
Speaker 1: That man would have never moved to another continent. Women
Speaker 1: we take things to the extreme a lot of times.
Speaker 1: Because I've definitely moved moved twice to get away from
Speaker 1: a nigger. I moved to another continent to get a
Speaker 1: away from a name I really did. I moved to
Speaker 1: Europe right to get away from a nigga. I moved
Speaker 1: to the Midwest. I moved to Atlanta first, that wasn't
Speaker 1: far enough, and then I moved to St. Louis and
Speaker 1: he wasn't coming up there. So yeah, like, we definitely
Speaker 1: take things to the extreme, which what men won't do.
Speaker 1: But sometimes it requires that you don't feel like it.
Speaker 1: That was one of the best decisions I ever made
Speaker 1: for myself, to move far, far, far away. So and
Speaker 1: but then you don't have any kids, so that's enough.
Speaker 1: Like your life is not your own once you have kids.
Speaker 1: It's just not. And that little girl was already missing
Speaker 1: her dad, so now you didn't give a funk. It's
Speaker 1: what you want to do, what you you you think
Speaker 1: that's best for her. You're not taking into consideration that, um,
Speaker 1: she needs her daddy, especially if they're used to being
Speaker 1: in the house. And you made a decision that you
Speaker 1: wanted to leave the marriage, right, you had had enough
Speaker 1: and you didn't care how he felt. And I don't
Speaker 1: understand how she got mad because he asked for um,
Speaker 1: he was trying to push for custody of his daughter.
Speaker 1: That would be the advice I'd give any of my
Speaker 1: guy friends that they called me in the same situation.
Speaker 1: Try to get your child, I would, you know, make
Speaker 1: especially if you're an active parent. But I guess the
Speaker 1: course were then taken to consideration that he's gone a lot,
Speaker 1: because it was she was in a house alone a lot. Right.
Speaker 1: And then here's the thing, So the primary custodian parent
Speaker 1: was Robin. She was always there with that child. The
Speaker 1: happiest version of her was in Ghana. You know, don't
Speaker 1: you want your child to have the custodio parents be
Speaker 1: the happiest they could be. Right, So I'm torn on that.
Speaker 1: I'm torn on that, you know. You know, I'm just
Speaker 1: trying to put myself in Robin's shoes. And she puts
Speaker 1: Gohna on her vision board many many many years ago.
Speaker 1: You know, this is something that she has aspired to
Speaker 1: for a long time in her life, and the opportunity
Speaker 1: and the universe conspired to have that for her. So
Speaker 1: why should she not going This man out here gallivant
Speaker 1: and were bitches from his past and can't even keep
Speaker 1: the heat on in the house because he's so gone.
Speaker 1: Why shouldn't she go do what she's been wanting to do,
Speaker 1: you know. So a part of me looks at it
Speaker 1: like that, But then I also understand staying in New
Speaker 1: York for her child to have a close relationship with
Speaker 1: the father. Right, And then ultimately in the end he
Speaker 1: thinked her thanked Robin because I guess once you have time,
Speaker 1: because two years later now he's still doing his thing,
Speaker 1: He's still want a pullit surprise exactly. So imagine the
Speaker 1: work that took. Did you even have time for a
Speaker 1: family for real? So maybe you know, Jordan might have
Speaker 1: been a better meet for him right at that point,
Speaker 1: but he got to have at the end of it,
Speaker 1: he got to have everything he wanted. He got the
Speaker 1: he had the wife experience, he had the child, he
Speaker 1: bought the four fun Jordan's soon seems like, and he
Speaker 1: got the poblic surprize. He won, right, he did one,
Speaker 1: but he is I believe him and his wife they
Speaker 1: have the most complex relationship out of all the couples.
Speaker 1: And it always been that way. Mmm. Girl, you got
Speaker 1: engaged to that nigga at Mia and lace wedded after
Speaker 1: he got his ass wood for fucking the bride, all right,
Speaker 1: so you kind of fined up for this ship, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. And he told you he was
Speaker 1: about to funk Jordan that night before you came, and
Speaker 1: you stayed. So I mean you gotta take some accountability. Name.
Speaker 1: I don't remember all that stuff, y'all, soo real TV
Speaker 1: motherfucker's Okay, I don't even remember all those details, but
Speaker 1: now I do. Yeah, that is wild and it's real.
Speaker 1: You lose him, how you get him? M hmm. Oftentimes
Speaker 1: he was about to funk George and while he was
Speaker 1: your man, the night before y'all got engaged. Shame, shame.
Speaker 1: I don't know, isn't that okay? And this is this
Speaker 1: is a high. Also relate with Jordan's some more. I
Speaker 1: know I'm not the safe wife. I'm not the safe girlfriend.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna make you cry. I'm gonna give you something
Speaker 1: to deal with. You're like, men want to be able
Speaker 1: to do all these I'm not going to actually do it,
Speaker 1: but if you do, some ship to me like, there's
Speaker 1: gonna be like repercussions. So I think that he Jordan
Speaker 1: wasn't safe. You know, men oftentimes they don't marry the
Speaker 1: woman that they actually want. They marry safe. They're homely safe. Yeah,
Speaker 1: they marry safe and then they go outside and do
Speaker 1: their little thing with the people they actually like. All right.
Speaker 1: You know one other thing that I just didn't like
Speaker 1: about the series. Why they had that financed black man
Speaker 1: will in the story? Is she fuck them? Yeah? So
Speaker 1: man like like he was purposeless to the story, Like
Speaker 1: he didn't come to New York and fuck her? Like,
Speaker 1: why is he here being all fine and chocolate. I
Speaker 1: would have took that swordfish. I would be like, you
Speaker 1: only got one piece sordfish, sir, m hmmm, because I
Speaker 1: was like, I had a snapper. I had a snapper. Yeah,
Speaker 1: because look, jas Fish, Yes, we gotta split it. We
Speaker 1: definitely would have been eating off the same fork. And
Speaker 1: that night we're gonna know. No one's gonna know who's
Speaker 1: gonna They're not gonna find out. But jazz And made
Speaker 1: her way to goddamn New York somehow. I don't understand
Speaker 1: why old boy made his way will Yeah, Jasmine came
Speaker 1: to me so all right. I like the part that
Speaker 1: they made her. She was flirting. Now, she was being flirting,
Speaker 1: but she was engaged, and she let him know that
Speaker 1: I'm loyal and I'm spoken for, so don't even try
Speaker 1: because it's not happening. And I think they wanted us
Speaker 1: to see that this character could be loyal to the
Speaker 1: person that she's with. Yeah, a little frattenizing is healthy.
Speaker 1: You know. I got in trouble a lot in my
Speaker 1: last relationship for frattonizing. But it's not because he didn't frattenize.
Speaker 1: Is because I didn't snoop to see what he was doing. Um,
Speaker 1: and it just would dropping my lap. But I think
Speaker 1: that everybody does it. Everybody like had these little chit
Speaker 1: chat little sneaky little things they do with people that
Speaker 1: they have some type of connection with. But it's not cheating,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Like and and as soon
Speaker 1: as she told him, hey, when she felt like he
Speaker 1: was liking her, she said, you know, I'm I'm engaged,
Speaker 1: and that's just how it should be. I feel like
Speaker 1: you should be able to have friends of the opposite sex. Yeah,
Speaker 1: me too. Yeah, and if and even if you meet
Speaker 1: them later on in life, like if you're in a
Speaker 1: relationship and you like, why can't I meet a new
Speaker 1: man and and not be somebody I want to have
Speaker 1: sex with? Well, they did want to funk, though they did.
Speaker 1: The energy was there. Overall, it was good. I enjoyed it.
Speaker 1: I hope they have a part too. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I think it might be the end of it because
Speaker 1: they said the final chapters, but it would It's a
Speaker 1: story that could keep going. Honestly, we everybody loves these characters.
Speaker 1: They've been part of our lives for twenty years, so
Speaker 1: I would I would watch another round. Well, maybe people
Speaker 1: are watching my movie when it comes out. I haven't.
Speaker 1: I can't tell you. I can't tell the people. I'll
Speaker 1: tell you once I get you to sign this verbal
Speaker 1: sign a verbal in d A. But it's essentially like
Speaker 1: uh mixture between and some of the ship I was seeing.
Speaker 1: I'm like, you know, when you think something and you
Speaker 1: put it in the university, need to hurry up and
Speaker 1: do it because I think once you put it out
Speaker 1: in it in the ethers, other people pick it up somehow.
Speaker 1: Because some of the like little things I wanted to
Speaker 1: do in my movie is in Motherfucker best Man. So
Speaker 1: so it's like a mix between Best Man and what's
Speaker 1: that movie? Um, it's like white guys and they go
Speaker 1: um on a bachelor party like in Vegas on one Hangover,
Speaker 1: Hungo Hangover. So it's like a mix between those two.
Speaker 1: Can I be a character in it? Yeah, you could
Speaker 1: be a character in it. I literally have like I'm
Speaker 1: looking at people like on social media. It's like some
Speaker 1: people I want that are like aspiring actresses and stuff
Speaker 1: like that that I won't get. You know, we canst
Speaker 1: lines like they wait that way. I want to roll extra,
Speaker 1: extra extra. I want to be just walking by on
Speaker 1: the phone, like like one of my characters is like
Speaker 1: an Erica Bad type person. And so when I saw
Speaker 1: the one character in the movie. I mean not like
Speaker 1: that though. I want her to actually be like an
Speaker 1: Erica Bad type type in real life. Yeah, she wasn't.
Speaker 1: That was the one who um was went Quentin was
Speaker 1: gonna marry Quentin. Yeah, Cmara. So see it's like a
Speaker 1: CMR type character, but like a real one, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So that's one of the characters in
Speaker 1: my movie that's gonna like, um, you know, make one
Speaker 1: of the other guys, the corporate thug nigga like change,
Speaker 1: who got all the bitch is like change? Okay, coming soon, y'all,
Speaker 1: I'll be here in a movie. So anyway, I enjoyed it. Nonetheless,
Speaker 1: I stayed up til three o'clock last night because y'all
Speaker 1: asked wanted to talk about this, But I enjoyed it.
Speaker 1: It was watched this ship so we can talk about
Speaker 1: it with our listening. I've been watching uh, His His
Speaker 1: Dark Materials on HBO Max. That's that's the show I've
Speaker 1: been currently watching. It's really good, y'all. Time travel married up. No,
Speaker 1: it's like, um no, it's mixed. It's different people. It's
Speaker 1: like going in between different universes and she like that
Speaker 1: is stuff by the Bible. They got Metatron in there.
Speaker 1: It's it's real. Um, it's really good. But that's the
Speaker 1: time you shouldn't be like going to watch anyway, y'all.
Speaker 1: Maybe we'll do these little reviews more often on the
Speaker 1: Black Black cinema type movies that people have been following
Speaker 1: for years and years and years. But yep, so listen.
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