1 00:00:03,720 --> 00:00:06,240 Speaker 1: What's up, everybody, It's Coach Bill Courtney with an army 2 00:00:06,240 --> 00:00:09,320 Speaker 1: of normal folks. I'm recording this right now on my 3 00:00:09,520 --> 00:00:13,360 Speaker 1: iPhone because I really wasn't planning on bringing you a 4 00:00:13,400 --> 00:00:17,360 Speaker 1: special Father's Day episode, but at the last minute, I 5 00:00:17,400 --> 00:00:19,759 Speaker 1: thought maybe you might find what I'm about to say 6 00:00:20,000 --> 00:00:24,720 Speaker 1: thought provoking. So headed into Father's Day weekend, I thought, 7 00:00:24,720 --> 00:00:28,159 Speaker 1: why not. It's my own story that we titled I 8 00:00:28,280 --> 00:00:32,520 Speaker 1: was miserable on Father's Day until But before we share 9 00:00:32,560 --> 00:00:34,760 Speaker 1: it with you, we've got a few messages from our 10 00:00:34,800 --> 00:00:48,720 Speaker 1: sponsors who make this podcast possible. Okay, everybody, welcome back. 11 00:00:48,800 --> 00:00:52,280 Speaker 1: So a few weeks ago, we were recording some video 12 00:00:52,400 --> 00:00:57,800 Speaker 1: content and during that the following is what I had 13 00:00:57,840 --> 00:01:01,200 Speaker 1: to say about Father's Day. I hope you find it meaningful. 14 00:01:04,319 --> 00:01:11,200 Speaker 1: My dad left home when I was four, and we 15 00:01:11,319 --> 00:01:14,400 Speaker 1: really didn't have much of a relationship. He actually passed 16 00:01:14,440 --> 00:01:18,039 Speaker 1: not too long ago, and it was my stepbrother that 17 00:01:18,160 --> 00:01:23,000 Speaker 1: actually told me, and I had nothing to do with it. 18 00:01:24,280 --> 00:01:30,920 Speaker 1: We had no relationship, and there were a lot of 19 00:01:31,480 --> 00:01:34,760 Speaker 1: There are a lot of My mother was very well intentioned, 20 00:01:34,800 --> 00:01:37,920 Speaker 1: and I don't want to make it sound like she's evil, 21 00:01:39,000 --> 00:01:42,319 Speaker 1: but there were a lot of guys after that that 22 00:01:44,040 --> 00:01:48,320 Speaker 1: came into my life, and there are a lot of 23 00:01:48,320 --> 00:01:56,320 Speaker 1: guys that left, and so as a result, Father's Day 24 00:01:56,360 --> 00:02:00,720 Speaker 1: has always been a really kind of source spot for me. 25 00:02:02,040 --> 00:02:04,680 Speaker 1: I didn't even recognize it. But in my early forties, 26 00:02:05,360 --> 00:02:12,680 Speaker 1: Lisa pointed out to me, more than pointed out, very frustratingly, said, 27 00:02:13,280 --> 00:02:16,840 Speaker 1: you know, quit being an asshole on Father's Day. It's 28 00:02:16,919 --> 00:02:19,880 Speaker 1: not about you anymore. You have your own children and 29 00:02:19,960 --> 00:02:21,840 Speaker 1: now you are a father. So I know you can't 30 00:02:21,880 --> 00:02:24,600 Speaker 1: celebrate Father's Day from a standpoint of celebrating a father, 31 00:02:25,280 --> 00:02:28,400 Speaker 1: but you can you can celebrate Father's Day from the 32 00:02:28,400 --> 00:02:32,120 Speaker 1: standpoint of being a father. And I didn't even recognize 33 00:02:32,120 --> 00:02:34,720 Speaker 1: that I got miserable on Father's Day, but I but 34 00:02:34,840 --> 00:02:41,280 Speaker 1: I did. And the truth is, you know, I identified as 35 00:02:41,360 --> 00:02:44,960 Speaker 1: a as a kid. Now I identify with the kids 36 00:02:45,000 --> 00:02:49,040 Speaker 1: of a Nassis a lot more closely than I identified 37 00:02:49,080 --> 00:02:52,000 Speaker 1: with my own children. In terms of my reality, I 38 00:02:52,080 --> 00:02:56,000 Speaker 1: understand growing up without a father. I understand the kind 39 00:02:56,040 --> 00:03:02,840 Speaker 1: of hopelessness and sadlessness that accompanies having a father in 40 00:03:02,880 --> 00:03:09,640 Speaker 1: your life and all that that entails. And I understand 41 00:03:09,720 --> 00:03:14,919 Speaker 1: the sadness, and I understand that when you're a fourteen 42 00:03:15,040 --> 00:03:17,360 Speaker 1: fifteen year old, strapping guy, and you look at the 43 00:03:17,400 --> 00:03:21,440 Speaker 1: mirror and your father has no interest in you. I understand, 44 00:03:21,440 --> 00:03:24,040 Speaker 1: look in the mirror and thinking something must be wrong 45 00:03:24,120 --> 00:03:30,919 Speaker 1: with me. You know, why is it that I lack 46 00:03:31,080 --> 00:03:33,760 Speaker 1: such value that my own father doesn't even want to 47 00:03:33,760 --> 00:03:38,400 Speaker 1: spend time with me, especially on Father's Day? And I 48 00:03:38,920 --> 00:03:41,040 Speaker 1: thought that for many years, and I know many of 49 00:03:41,040 --> 00:03:42,960 Speaker 1: the kids have played football for me. I an ass 50 00:03:43,160 --> 00:03:47,760 Speaker 1: fought that for many years. And so on the one hand, 51 00:03:48,240 --> 00:03:50,839 Speaker 1: you see a grown man with a business and some 52 00:03:50,920 --> 00:03:54,360 Speaker 1: success and been married to his wife for thirty years, 53 00:03:54,400 --> 00:03:57,640 Speaker 1: and these beautiful four children who've grown up well adjusted 54 00:03:57,680 --> 00:04:00,680 Speaker 1: and happy and healthy, and you think, go, well, I 55 00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:02,800 Speaker 1: know what that guy's life looks like. But the truth 56 00:04:02,840 --> 00:04:08,920 Speaker 1: is you don't. You have no idea the trauma that 57 00:04:09,560 --> 00:04:13,200 Speaker 1: preceded the life that I have now. And as a 58 00:04:13,240 --> 00:04:15,880 Speaker 1: result of that, people have always asked me, how do 59 00:04:15,920 --> 00:04:17,920 Speaker 1: you think you connected so well with the kids of 60 00:04:17,960 --> 00:04:22,040 Speaker 1: the masses, being this white business guy. And the truth is, 61 00:04:22,400 --> 00:04:27,520 Speaker 1: I don't identify as a white business guy. Identify as 62 00:04:27,560 --> 00:04:30,279 Speaker 1: a kid that came from a lot of trauma. And 63 00:04:30,360 --> 00:04:35,839 Speaker 1: so the truth is not really understand them more and 64 00:04:35,960 --> 00:04:39,800 Speaker 1: their reality more than I understand my own kid's reality 65 00:04:39,920 --> 00:04:45,000 Speaker 1: because I didn't grow up like my kids did, so 66 00:04:46,040 --> 00:04:47,760 Speaker 1: it took a lot of work to get to a 67 00:04:47,800 --> 00:04:50,480 Speaker 1: place that Father's Days a happy day around my house. 68 00:04:50,600 --> 00:04:54,360 Speaker 1: But Lisa whip mass and the shape like she normally does, 69 00:04:54,400 --> 00:04:56,960 Speaker 1: and now we have good Father's Days, but it took 70 00:04:57,000 --> 00:05:04,880 Speaker 1: a long time to get them. So there it is, folks, 71 00:05:05,000 --> 00:05:10,360 Speaker 1: that's my Father's Day story. I think holidays being different 72 00:05:10,360 --> 00:05:12,920 Speaker 1: things to different people, and Father's Day for me really 73 00:05:12,960 --> 00:05:17,359 Speaker 1: means redemption. My wife and my children, my family have 74 00:05:17,480 --> 00:05:20,479 Speaker 1: redeemed me in so many ways. And what I have 75 00:05:20,880 --> 00:05:24,159 Speaker 1: so much to be thankful for on Father's Day now 76 00:05:24,320 --> 00:05:28,279 Speaker 1: is the four beautiful children I have and what they 77 00:05:28,400 --> 00:05:32,440 Speaker 1: have meant, and my wife and what they have meant 78 00:05:32,520 --> 00:05:35,240 Speaker 1: to fulfill my life and a place that I was 79 00:05:36,360 --> 00:05:39,640 Speaker 1: very empty. So to my wife and to my children, 80 00:05:39,680 --> 00:05:45,440 Speaker 1: to my family, I love you and I thank you. 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