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Speaker 1: Sable Advice. Hello, it's Rob Shooter from the Naughty but

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Speaker 1: Nice Podcast. Each weekend we've been doing these special podcasts.

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Speaker 1: So as well as being a celebrity reporter, a gossip columnist,

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Speaker 1: entertainment guru, if I say so myself, I'm also a

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Speaker 1: best selling author. My self help book, The Forward Answer

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Speaker 1: is available now and I'm recognized as one of America's

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Speaker 1: leading experts in change, in habits, in happiness. So on

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Speaker 1: the weekends, in addition to doing our silly podcast that

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Speaker 1: we do Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday and Friday, we do

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Speaker 1: a special bonus addition really focusing on something maybe a

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Speaker 1: little bit more important. Today's podcast is all about you

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Speaker 1: decide the moment that you start over start thinking about

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Speaker 1: your life. Like it is a book. It has an

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Speaker 1: unmistakable beginning when you are born, and a definite end

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Speaker 1: unfortunately when we all pass, and lots and lots and

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Speaker 1: lots of chapters in between. Some of these chapters are long,

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Speaker 1: some of them are short, some of them are interesting,

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Speaker 1: and some of them are a little bit duller. You

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Speaker 1: might even find yourself revisiting the same chapter over and

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Speaker 1: over again, as life seems to repeat itself. When you

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Speaker 1: think about your life like this, it reminds you of

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Speaker 1: something very important. That you are the author of this

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Speaker 1: great adventure and what happens next is up to you.

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Speaker 1: Only you have their power to dis side when a

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Speaker 1: new chapter starts and when an old one ends. It's

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Speaker 1: your life. So if you find yourself in the wrong

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Speaker 1: story or not enjoying the plot, change it. Never forget

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Speaker 1: that you get to decide if you are going to

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Speaker 1: play the villain or the heroer. Remember that there are

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Speaker 1: hundreds and hundreds of ways, maybe thousands, to reach any goal,

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Speaker 1: So don't get stuck really live in the same story

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Speaker 1: over and over again and expecting a different ending that's

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Speaker 1: not going to happen. Hoping to get somewhere newer by

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Speaker 1: doing the same thing isn't going to happen. Instead, embrace

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Speaker 1: change and keep on trying. When you first, second, third,

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Speaker 1: and maybe even fourth time, when those plans don't work out,

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Speaker 1: the biggest mistake people make is giving up. Don't make

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Speaker 1: this mistake. Change your plans, but not your goal, and

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Speaker 1: when things don't work out, be smart and admit it.

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Speaker 1: Remember that watering dead plants is exhausting, and it never

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Speaker 1: ever brings them back to life, so instead close that

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Speaker 1: chapter and start a new one. I love this quote

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Speaker 1: by Bear Grills, the survival expert. He said the following quote,

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Speaker 1: Survival can be summed up in three words, never give up.

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Speaker 1: I love that. If you want to make real change

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Speaker 1: in your life, you have to start changing your habits.

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Speaker 1: Don't be afraid of finding a new route that's going

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Speaker 1: to get you to where you want to be. You

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Speaker 1: have to aren't being totally honest with yourself. You deserve

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Speaker 1: to be in a relationship where you are safe to

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Speaker 1: say uncomfortable things. Every relationship in your life will be

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Speaker 1: stronger when you tell the truth, especially when you are

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Speaker 1: honest with yourself. If that truth leads to breakups, leads

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Speaker 1: to the end of a chapter in your life, or

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Speaker 1: even breaks your heart, in the long run, you will

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Speaker 1: live a much better life because of it. Alvis Presley

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Speaker 1: said the following quote. Truth is like the sun. You

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Speaker 1: can shut it out for a time, but it ain't

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Speaker 1: going anywhere. Focus on taking one small step at a time.

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Speaker 1: Think about the one thing that you can do right now,

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Speaker 1: and then do it. Don't think about running a marathon,

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Speaker 1: think about taking that first writing a book, starts with

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Speaker 1: a single sentence. I know that if you are going

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Speaker 1: to lose one hundred pounds, you have to shed one first.

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Speaker 1: And don't overwhelm yourself worrying about tomorrow. Think about what

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Speaker 1: you can do today. You have to be patient, knowing

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Speaker 1: that big things happen when you make small decisions, not

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Speaker 1: big ones. You have to be patient. Martin Luther King

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Speaker 1: said quote, you don't have to see the whole staircase,

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Speaker 1: just take the first step. Wise words the forward answer.

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Speaker 1: My book was started after I was inspired by watching

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Speaker 1: a movie, but it was finished after I worked on

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Speaker 1: it every single day for about thirty minutes a day.

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Speaker 1: That's all. That's all I did. That was it. I

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Speaker 1: found half an hour every single day, and I actually

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Speaker 1: found it in two fifteen minute intervals. I couldn't find

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Speaker 1: a whole thirty minutes, but I could find two fifteen

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Speaker 1: minutes of each day, seven days a week, where I

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Speaker 1: disappeared into a quiet corner of my apartment, or I

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Speaker 1: walked down to the river to find an empty bench

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Speaker 1: under a tree, and I did the work knowing that

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Speaker 1: what I did today would mean I would finish one

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Speaker 1: day sooner. What kept me going was not biting off

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Speaker 1: more than I could chew, never overwhelming myself with the

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Speaker 1: enormity of the task at hand, but rather being smart

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Speaker 1: enough to believe in myself. Never forget that every professional

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Speaker 1: was once an amateur. That is true for everybody. Look around.

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Speaker 1: Think of your sports heroes, your favorite pop stars, your

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Speaker 1: favorite actor actress. There was a time when they too

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Speaker 1: were an amateur. Every night, before you go to bed,

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Speaker 1: write down one thing that you are going to accomplish

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Speaker 1: the next day, one small task that will get you

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Speaker 1: closer to your final goal. This approach has literally changed

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Speaker 1: my life. Doing this each day has not only transformed

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Speaker 1: my productivity levels, but it has also increased my level

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Speaker 1: of happiness, because nothing feels better than getting it done.

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Speaker 1: When you were disciplined and focused on the next fifteen minutes,

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Speaker 1: the next fifteen years will take care of themselves. Focus

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Speaker 1: on now, right now, the next fifteen minutes. Take a

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Speaker 1: deep breath, and think about the one thing you are

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Speaker 1: going to start doing today. The next time you have

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Speaker 1: a bad day, remember that a bad moment is simply

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Speaker 1: that it's just the moment, It's just the day. Er

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Speaker 1: Ask yourself, are you really having a bad day, or

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Speaker 1: is it just a bad moment that you turned into

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Speaker 1: a bad day by obsessing about it. When you fight

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Speaker 1: with your partner, or your kids or your parents, or

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Speaker 1: you get cut off in traffic, or you miss your train,

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Speaker 1: or when you get the wrong coffee at Starbucks as

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Speaker 1: you're rushing to the office, you get to choose if

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Speaker 1: you are going to dwell on that for the entire

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Speaker 1: day or if you are going to move on. You

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Speaker 1: only have a bad day when you choose to have one.

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Speaker 1: I love this quote by Justin timber Lyck. He said, quote,

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Speaker 1: cry me a river, build a bridge and get over it.

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Speaker 1: Get over it. If whatever is wrong isn't going to

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Speaker 1: matter four minutes, four days, or four years from now,

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Speaker 1: why are you refusing to say goodbye to it? Like Beyonce,

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Speaker 1: find the good in goodbye, and never forget that you

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Speaker 1: have the power and the right to decide when you

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Speaker 1: start over, which, my friends, is right now. Let's end

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Speaker 1: with this amazing quote from ts Eliot. Quote. What we

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Speaker 1: call the beginning is often the end, and to make

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Speaker 1: an end is to make a beginning. The end is

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Speaker 1: where we start from. Just beautiful. Don't forget, my friends,

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Speaker 1: that you get to decide the moment you start over,

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Speaker 1: and that moment is right now. Hey, thank you so

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Speaker 1: much for listening to these short ten minutes or so

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Speaker 1: podcast we do on the weekends. I can't tell you

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Speaker 1: a am so flattered by all the response that I

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Speaker 1: have been receiving for these I love your dms, who

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Speaker 1: just the sheer number of people that are listening tells

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Speaker 1: me we've really touched a nerve here. Yes, we all

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Speaker 1: love celebrity gossip. There's nothing wrong with that. I'm proud

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Speaker 1: I love gossiping about celebrities. But we all deserve to

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Speaker 1: have a minute, a moment when we think about ourselves,

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Speaker 1: and that's what these podcasts are all about. They're not

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Speaker 1: about celebrities, they're not about famous people. They're about the

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Speaker 1: real star in your life, which is you. Hey, everybody

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Speaker 1: sing along to our tagline. Remember, if you're going to

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Speaker 1: be naughty, you've got to be nice. Take care of everybody.

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Speaker 1: I shall see you Monday. With all the breaking news,

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