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Speaker 1: T LC's new series Unexpected explores the ups and downs

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Speaker 1: them through this huge life change. Don't miss the revealing

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Speaker 1: new series Unexpected Sunday, November twelve at ten nine Central

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Speaker 1: let's get to the letter, nephews, bug, hold on tight,

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Speaker 1: we got it for you. Here it is Strawberry letter,

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Speaker 1: subject sister Drama. Hello all, I would like to ask

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Speaker 1: her advice about my sister. I am thirty seven years

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Speaker 1: old and I am going through a divorce. My husband

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Speaker 1: and I separated because he hit me. That was the

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Speaker 1: second time he had done that, and my father didn't

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Speaker 1: raise no fool. I left him and filed a charge

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Speaker 1: against him. My older sister, she was at the house

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Speaker 1: and witnessed my husband hit me. Now, during the time

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Speaker 1: before we went to court, my husband was frequently visiting

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Speaker 1: my sister. Now, during the time before we went to court,

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Speaker 1: my husband was frequently visiting my sister. My daughter, who

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Speaker 1: was nine years old, told me she heard my sister

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Speaker 1: tell her daddy that she had his back. I was

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Speaker 1: a little concerned. However, I did not think my sister

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Speaker 1: would come to court and lie for my husband. Well

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Speaker 1: she did. The first time we went to court, she

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Speaker 1: voluntarily came and testified that when I was pointing at

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Speaker 1: him to go on about his business, it was possible

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Speaker 1: that my finger touched his eye, which meant I gave

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Speaker 1: the first initial contact. After all the evidence was presented,

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Speaker 1: the judge ruled in my favor and I got my

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Speaker 1: two year protective order against my husband. We had to

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Speaker 1: go to court a second time, in which it was

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Speaker 1: clear my sister did not want to be there. However,

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Speaker 1: because of her first testimony, my husband's lawyer subpoena's her

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Speaker 1: to come. My husband was found not guilty of assault.

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Speaker 1: My divorce will be final in a couple of months.

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Speaker 1: I have not spoken to my sister since uh this

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Speaker 1: all has taken place. She is now planning a wedding

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Speaker 1: of her own. She is getting married in September of

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Speaker 1: this year and asked me to be in her wedding.

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Speaker 1: She had my niece asked me because of our relationship

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Speaker 1: at this point. It was very hard for me to

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Speaker 1: go through the fact that my sister betrayed me for

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Speaker 1: my husband. I think I have forgiven her, However, I

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Speaker 1: don't think our relationship will ever be the same. I

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Speaker 1: have prayed about this a lot. My question to you

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Speaker 1: all is should I be in her wedding? Uh? My

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Speaker 1: initial response was yet, because I believe in forgiveness. However,

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Speaker 1: forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could

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Speaker 1: have been any different. I learned that from Oprah. I

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Speaker 1: have forgiven her. However, I do not wish to be

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Speaker 1: a part of her life. My family says that I

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Speaker 1: should put all this aside and be in her wedding. Um, However,

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Speaker 1: I just don't feel this is what I want to do.

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Speaker 1: I would like to mention my sister and I were

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Speaker 1: close prior to to this. I think my sister had

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Speaker 1: a thing for my husband and was hoping for something

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Speaker 1: between those two, but that was never my husband's intention.

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Speaker 1: See if every morning show what should I do? I

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Speaker 1: listened to you guys every morning, and your advice is

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Speaker 1: on point. Please advise me as to what to do

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Speaker 1: about my sister and her wedding. Wow, this is deep. Um,

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Speaker 1: you know this family stuff. Um, you know, and it's

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Speaker 1: a tough one too because I believe in forgiveness as well.

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Speaker 1: But um, this, I couldn't forget this. I'm sorry, uh,

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Speaker 1: and your feelings are still hurt a little sister. And

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Speaker 1: I totally can understand that what your sister did to

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Speaker 1: you was awful. I mean, she testified against you in

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Speaker 1: court voluntarily. Nobody even asked her to show up, and

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Speaker 1: she did to testify against you. That's hurt. You know,

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Speaker 1: when your blood goes against you like that and betrays

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Speaker 1: you like that, it's really hard to swallow. You know.

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Speaker 1: I gotta ask, where are her loyalties? Nowhere in your letter,

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Speaker 1: you know, did you say that she's come to you

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Speaker 1: try to make up, try to you know, ask for

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Speaker 1: your forgiveness, or to even tell you that she was sorry.

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Speaker 1: Nowhere in your letter, you know. Um. Uh, that's the

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Speaker 1: part to me that's really really hurtful. Um. You know, Um,

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Speaker 1: she hasn't even come to you to try to work

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Speaker 1: do it. Um, I think that's pretty cowardly. I really

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Speaker 1: really do. You don't have to be in this wedding.

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Speaker 1: There's nothing that says you have to be in this wedding.

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Speaker 1: If you want to forgive her, I can certainly understand that. Um,

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Speaker 1: you can forgive her. You don't have to forget what happened.

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Speaker 1: You know. I know what your family saying. They're probably

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Speaker 1: making you feel guilty, especially if you guys were close.

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Speaker 1: You know, they're telling you that happened in the past.

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Speaker 1: Forget it, let it go. But it's all about how

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Speaker 1: think you can go there, you know, and not have

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Speaker 1: those old feelings come up, you haven't let it go yet,

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Speaker 1: you know, then maybe now is not the time. You know.

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Speaker 1: I probably wouldn't go to the wedding. I just probably

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Speaker 1: wouldn't go. That's not to say that my sister and

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Speaker 1: I will never, ever, ever in life have a relationship.

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Speaker 1: But right now, the way you feel I wouldn't go

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Speaker 1: to the wedding, I just I just wouldn't go. Um.

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Speaker 1: And that's about it. You know, forgive her when you

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Speaker 1: can forgive her when when you're hurt, feelings are are done.

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Speaker 1: You know when you're done being hurt. But right now

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Speaker 1: it doesn't sound like it is. And you don't want

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Speaker 1: to be a part of your her life. You've said that,

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Speaker 1: so don't go. Don't put yourself through that, all right,

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Speaker 1: after this. When a teenager gets pregnant, it becomes a

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Speaker 1: revealing new series un Expected Sunday, November twelve at ten

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Speaker 1: now your response you rich behind First of all, Shelley

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Speaker 1: was writing everything she said, but just let me go

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Speaker 1: on and get to this. Come on, you know your

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Speaker 1: sister that came to court and testified for her husband,

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Speaker 1: for your gift for your husband or gives you see,

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Speaker 1: my brother can't come to court and say nothing crazy

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Speaker 1: about me, And so I don't think your sisters should

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Speaker 1: be able to come court and say nothing crazy. Here's

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Speaker 1: a part that says she testified the first time we

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Speaker 1: I was pointing at him to go on about his business,

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Speaker 1: it was possible that my finger touched his eye, which

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Speaker 1: have done that, I'd have stood up and walked over

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Speaker 1: to my sister, said, oh you mean like this, I'd

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Speaker 1: Because what you ain't gonna do is testify against me.

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Speaker 1: And I'm your damn brother, you're my sister. I have

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Speaker 1: stuck my finger in that hill f I right there?

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Speaker 1: You mean like this? Excuse me? Now? You want to

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Speaker 1: know if you are to be in the wedding. I

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Speaker 1: think you should be in the wed I think you

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Speaker 1: should I say going in the wedding, but du the

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Speaker 1: whole wedding under protest you were going there and turn

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Speaker 1: the wedding out. When the man says, I think they

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Speaker 1: still do this, I ain't show is that anyone here

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Speaker 1: who thinks these two should not be joined together. You

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Speaker 1: ain't gotta do nothing. Credit do not credit. Just clear

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Speaker 1: your thoat right there is there anybody here that starts

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Speaker 1: it off? Then just going to get in the wedding.

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Speaker 1: But then you can approach it here, wear black dress

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Speaker 1: to the wed Damn what let everybody else got on?

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Speaker 1: You come in black? You put your black dress in on,

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Speaker 1: going right there. Here's another way you could protest. If

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Speaker 1: you're in the wedding, and you're in the wedding to protest,

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Speaker 1: take your bride's maid dress and cut a hole in

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Speaker 1: the butt out. Just cut the butt out in your

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Speaker 1: bride's maide gown. That's your personal protests about your sister's

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Speaker 1: wed That's a kiss my blank statement. If I've ever

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Speaker 1: heard a kiss my boy, cut your butt out your

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Speaker 1: bride's maid down. Just wear your whole thing hanging out.

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Speaker 1: Here's another one you can do. When you're coming down there,

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Speaker 1: gown with a plastic knife in your back. Ain't that

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Speaker 1: what the heller did? Do? You stabbed you in your back?

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Speaker 1: You got to protest these types of things like this. Here.

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Speaker 1: Here's a couple other things right here, right now, when

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Speaker 1: she sent her niece, when she sent the knee used

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Speaker 1: to invite you to be in the wedding, What you

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Speaker 1: should have did was you should have gave your niece

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Speaker 1: a brown paper bag and put a dead fish in it,

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Speaker 1: like the like the Godfather. Send that back to your

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Speaker 1: sister and the little note in there. You'll soon be

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Speaker 1: sleeping with the fishes. I've got to do gangster stuff

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Speaker 1: to people when they do stuff to you. What else?

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Speaker 1: When she wake up in the morning half a horsehead

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Speaker 1: in the beach, let's just go with it. Not in

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Speaker 1: horsehead laying in the bad I can tell how to

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Speaker 1: get back to Jesse. Thank you, Steve, we have to go.

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