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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letter. All right, thank you. Nephew.

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Speaker 1: Steve's out today, so it'll be me junior and then

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Speaker 1: the nephew. Oh lord, yea, yea, let's go. Let us pray.

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Speaker 1: All right? Can you turn a hoe into a husband?

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Speaker 1: That's what it is? Yeah, that's what it says. Just

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Speaker 1: dear Steve. I don't I don't like saying that. What's wrong?

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Speaker 1: That's what they wrote on a letter. You didn't say

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Speaker 1: That's not what they're saying. I like that much better.

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Speaker 1: Here we go, Dear Stephen Shirley. I am a thirty

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Speaker 1: He told me that he used to be a male

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Speaker 1: calling the kettle black here? Okay, you're judging him, But

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Speaker 1: So again, who are you to judge? People can change,

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Speaker 1: All right, nephew, let's go. She wants to know can

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Speaker 1: turn him into a husband? Is he husband material? I

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Speaker 1: Pimping ain't easy, but it's necessary, Shirley. So you want

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Speaker 1: you idiot. Let's quit worn about relationship. Let's get this money.

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Speaker 1: Turn a garden tool into a better garden tool. Stop

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Speaker 1: looking for your husband right now. Let's get this paper,

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Speaker 1: baby girl. You know the rules, pretty Tony. Come on me. Now,

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Speaker 1: Let's get this paper. Don't just quote wait, wait, wait,

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Speaker 1: don't you quote one of my favorite movies of all time,

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Speaker 1: The Maco I had to You know the rules, pretty too, Yes,

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Speaker 1: dropped this boy, Oh, this Brazilian boy, and let's get

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Speaker 1: you lemons, Grab tequila and salt. Do you understand what

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Speaker 1: once again. We got to go back to one night staying. No.

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Speaker 1: I know she did have a one night stand with Katie.

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Speaker 1: be that righteous cant time is right there, Timmy? Is

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Speaker 1: that old people go to nursing homes to see what

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Speaker 1: is ticking all of that. Actually, why do you not

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Speaker 1: We're hitting the spas, we're hitting upscale malls. We're rocking. Baby.

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Speaker 1: We look up a year later, we six figures deep strong.

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Speaker 1: What are we talking about? Everybody got a house? Okay,

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Speaker 1: you're gonna let You're gonna let love, get in with

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Speaker 1: yes I am, And what does he do for a living?

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Speaker 1: And he's got to come home to me every night.

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Speaker 1: making a sacrifice. It is tough. Give somebody some medication

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Speaker 1: for we laid out that is hard work. He just

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Speaker 1: said older. He didn't say hey, hey, Hey, didn't hey, Rich,

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