WEBVTT - Ep. 9 "Tired of the Shrimp?" 0:00:03.040 --> 0:00:07.080 We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion. Who 0:00:07.240 --> 0:00:13.080 talks back? Hey, welcome to a new episode of We 0:00:13.560 --> 0:00:17.080 Talk Back. It's your girl a j Hello, my babies, 0:00:17.200 --> 0:00:19.959 it's me tam vam. I missed y'all. Girl, you sounding 0:00:19.960 --> 0:00:23.400 like Monique over there, my babies. I'm fat, like mommy, 0:00:23.600 --> 0:00:28.280 no bitch or not. Matter of fact, Monique can't even 0:00:28.280 --> 0:00:31.200 my fatom ward, So I don't know she got fat 0:00:31.200 --> 0:00:34.920 girl sway, she probably still got a fat bit hidden inside. 0:00:35.240 --> 0:00:41.760 She's a fat bit heart, so am I I don't 0:00:41.760 --> 0:00:47.800 want to claim it if we all right, So we're 0:00:47.800 --> 0:00:50.519 doing key to y'all. So we uh we try not 0:00:50.600 --> 0:00:53.560 to be fat, but just at heart and on the outside. Girl, 0:00:53.560 --> 0:00:55.960 I still going one snacks. I'm hungry right now, bitch. 0:00:56.080 --> 0:00:58.080 I'm not going to bite your grass in a minute. 0:00:58.160 --> 0:01:02.920 Oh bitch, let me not this bit with a good 0:01:02.960 --> 0:01:08.240 time exactly. I like this right, I like how to 0:01:08.440 --> 0:01:18.240 start keiss. Well, we got a good show lined up 0:01:18.280 --> 0:01:22.119 for the day. Yeah, this is really entertaining episode right here. 0:01:22.440 --> 0:01:25.400 So you know, our first episode, we had some guys 0:01:25.480 --> 0:01:27.920 on and they were we were trying to figure out 0:01:27.920 --> 0:01:31.640 why men cheat, as if we don't know it's a choice, right. 0:01:31.720 --> 0:01:34.000 So this time, so that men don't feel like we 0:01:34.160 --> 0:01:38.560 just man bash, we have some women on so we 0:01:38.600 --> 0:01:43.399 can better understand why women cheat. Right. But here's the kicker. 0:01:43.800 --> 0:01:48.840 These women are all married. They are not single cheeters. 0:01:48.880 --> 0:01:56.840 They are married cheaters. Excellent, excellent. These women are in 0:01:56.920 --> 0:02:02.000 witness protection. We talked at witness protection to make sure 0:02:02.040 --> 0:02:05.040 that they're safe from your judgment because your motherfucker's dead 0:02:05.280 --> 0:02:13.560 as hell. So listen in. Hello, ladies, how are y'all doing? 0:02:13.720 --> 0:02:17.880 Thank you for coming out. We talked back today. I'm 0:02:17.960 --> 0:02:20.120 so happy to be here. Thank you, thank you for 0:02:20.160 --> 0:02:23.440 having us. So, um, tell us your names and tell 0:02:23.520 --> 0:02:27.120 us a little bit about yourself. Well, my name is 0:02:27.200 --> 0:02:31.480 Time Tisha, and I am a real state agent. I 0:02:31.600 --> 0:02:36.520 have been married to my high school sweetheart for eighteen years. 0:02:37.320 --> 0:02:41.280 We have been getting since fifteen. I have four kids, 0:02:41.760 --> 0:02:45.600 and um, I guess I would say I like traveling 0:02:45.840 --> 0:02:48.800 just kind of you know, getting out, getting out the 0:02:48.840 --> 0:02:50.880 house and kind of just having some self care and 0:02:51.000 --> 0:02:54.600 self time because you know, marriage and kids do all 0:02:54.680 --> 0:02:58.200 got seeds of you know, one seat where you put 0:02:58.240 --> 0:03:00.720 yourself back seat. So I man kind of like this 0:03:01.280 --> 0:03:03.520 leave back to the because you never know when your 0:03:03.600 --> 0:03:08.079 last day will be your last. Dame absolutely So you 0:03:08.120 --> 0:03:16.960 said you were married eighteen years. Yes, yes, same same dick, 0:03:17.200 --> 0:03:20.760 eighteen whole year, whole years. And I'm gonna got a 0:03:20.840 --> 0:03:24.800 cab any being faithful years years. That's what that's the 0:03:24.880 --> 0:03:29.680 tea I'm trying to get to. That's so for social 0:03:29.680 --> 0:03:40.200 Security years. Eighteen years. But we had dated since we 0:03:40.200 --> 0:03:43.800 were fifteen. So alright, real quick, let me just ask 0:03:43.840 --> 0:03:47.040 you this the first time. We're just gonna talk about 0:03:47.080 --> 0:03:52.119 the first time you stepped out. You can introduced the second. First. Oh, 0:03:52.360 --> 0:03:55.520 I was going to the station next. I mean, yeah, 0:03:57.080 --> 0:04:00.240 years got me like you tell me about Eddie lay 0:04:00.240 --> 0:04:02.040 to tell me a little bit about your girl. I'm sorry, 0:04:02.080 --> 0:04:06.160 I almost forgot. Well, I'm Stacy and as they say, 0:04:06.240 --> 0:04:11.600 a domestic engineer, a housewiter. Um, I'm our marriage number two. 0:04:11.800 --> 0:04:15.080 My first marriage was lasted about five years and this 0:04:15.200 --> 0:04:19.559 one is rolling into her seven. Um. I have three 0:04:19.640 --> 0:04:26.480 children of my own and two step children. Um, he says, 0:04:26.080 --> 0:04:29.400 he said. You know, we just like to do our 0:04:29.400 --> 0:04:32.520 own things sometimes. But for the most part, you know 0:04:33.120 --> 0:04:37.839 that nice wife, hpecial baby, that takes care of home, 0:04:38.279 --> 0:04:42.440 that perfect step for wife, m and then the whole 0:04:42.440 --> 0:04:45.240 outside of that. Every now and then, whenever I can 0:04:45.320 --> 0:04:52.960 get a chance, we're talking. Absolutely, I don't open up. 0:04:52.960 --> 0:04:57.279 I'm getting rid. So ladies, all right, So we did 0:04:57.400 --> 0:05:02.000 like a video earlier about women being tired of the shrimp. 0:05:02.040 --> 0:05:04.440 I don't know if y'all got to hear it, but 0:05:04.600 --> 0:05:08.600 we discuss how, you know, in relationships, people get tired 0:05:08.680 --> 0:05:11.920 of the same old thing over and over and over again. 0:05:12.200 --> 0:05:15.080 And that applies not only just to men, it applies 0:05:15.160 --> 0:05:18.719 to women as well. So when that happened, because I 0:05:18.720 --> 0:05:20.960 know y'all have been tired of the shrimp, when that 0:05:21.080 --> 0:05:23.160 happened to y'all, what did you do? How did you 0:05:23.200 --> 0:05:25.920 handle it? How did you move? Because women move a 0:05:25.920 --> 0:05:31.240 lot smarter than men. So this is teacher, Um, I 0:05:31.279 --> 0:05:34.160 guess you know. I always tell people that since we've 0:05:34.160 --> 0:05:38.240 been together so long, my husband and I change. I changed, 0:05:38.520 --> 0:05:41.800 he's changed different seasons, you know. So I'm not the 0:05:41.839 --> 0:05:44.400 same person that I was in my teams, my twenties, 0:05:44.440 --> 0:05:48.160 my thirties authorities. Um, you know, I'm not the same 0:05:48.200 --> 0:05:51.560 person that I was going to be first got together. 0:05:51.720 --> 0:05:56.320 So I've gone from teams to twins, thirties, and when 0:05:56.360 --> 0:06:00.560 I started realizing that things were the same with him, 0:06:00.880 --> 0:06:03.720 but I wasn't. You know, the first thing it to 0:06:03.839 --> 0:06:06.520 us to do is to communicate, and I did. I communicated. 0:06:07.040 --> 0:06:10.680 Now I was born say working. You know, I'm not 0:06:10.800 --> 0:06:13.200 the same person that like this and like that sexually, 0:06:13.279 --> 0:06:17.200 mentally or whatever. And you know, I don't think he 0:06:17.279 --> 0:06:19.880 was receptive known to that. You know, I think he 0:06:20.040 --> 0:06:22.880 was just comfortable with you know, going away in here 0:06:23.560 --> 0:06:25.800 that's what is going to be. And so I think 0:06:26.800 --> 0:06:29.680 what happened is just that, you know, I was out 0:06:29.680 --> 0:06:34.160 working place, friendship turned to one thing or another and 0:06:34.160 --> 0:06:37.360 then go to the first one happening, because there's been 0:06:37.440 --> 0:06:42.800 many it's always the word husband, that game. Hey, look 0:06:42.839 --> 0:06:47.479 you know what he makes for the most part. You know, 0:06:47.520 --> 0:06:52.080 I have a philosophy that, um men, women need a 0:06:52.160 --> 0:06:55.760 reason to cheat. Men oftentimes just need a time and 0:06:55.800 --> 0:07:00.200 a place. So obviously your workplace, the opportunity do you 0:07:00.240 --> 0:07:04.120 present presented itself. But you communicated to your husband, hey 0:07:04.160 --> 0:07:09.279 I'm not happy or um I know, therapy, counseling do 0:07:09.360 --> 0:07:11.640 you did you guys do any therapy anything like that? 0:07:12.000 --> 0:07:15.320 We did that early on, um and but it didn't 0:07:15.400 --> 0:07:18.600 last long. It wasn't lone enough. Um, he's the kind 0:07:18.600 --> 0:07:22.040 of person that he wants that that outside image to 0:07:22.160 --> 0:07:24.880 kind of always look with. So you have to preach 0:07:24.960 --> 0:07:30.840 somebody else in your or your business. You know, No, 0:07:31.080 --> 0:07:34.080 he doesn't want that looks. So unfortunately, I think he 0:07:34.120 --> 0:07:37.640 would be content with the factor knowing that you are 0:07:37.760 --> 0:07:40.520 uncoppy at home, but you're just going to sit back 0:07:40.520 --> 0:07:42.560 and there and bring it because you know we're like that. 0:07:42.920 --> 0:07:45.640 We're like to James, were like the perfect person and 0:07:45.680 --> 0:07:48.160 couple when we're out in the streets, and that was 0:07:48.200 --> 0:07:52.400 okay with him. That I was lonely as well. Every night. 0:07:52.680 --> 0:07:55.800 You know, I'm at home texting and you know, born 0:07:56.000 --> 0:07:59.640 in lonely because I'm you're not listening to me. I'm 0:07:59.680 --> 0:08:02.720 telling you about spoke the person ever and you're just 0:08:02.840 --> 0:08:05.720 not listening to what my needs are. So it was 0:08:05.760 --> 0:08:07.680 almost like you kind of type my names and what 0:08:07.680 --> 0:08:10.880 else do you expect me to be? All right? So 0:08:11.520 --> 0:08:14.080 when you told him like I'm unhappy, did you just 0:08:14.160 --> 0:08:16.679 come out and say it or was it like subliminals 0:08:16.840 --> 0:08:20.360 or like how I wouldn't know how to express that 0:08:20.440 --> 0:08:23.560 to my nigga, Like, baby, yo, Dick, ain't that good? 0:08:24.640 --> 0:08:26.680 But it's not all about sex, right, it's other things 0:08:26.720 --> 0:08:29.600 as well, not just sex. Yeah, it's not even just sex. 0:08:29.640 --> 0:08:34.439 And it was just more of communication, time spent um, sponsority, 0:08:34.600 --> 0:08:37.319 the romance and they keep your mind. We've been together 0:08:37.440 --> 0:08:40.480 for so so long, so you know, it wasn't all 0:08:40.520 --> 0:08:42.960 a long time. I didn't just reword to take everything 0:08:42.960 --> 0:08:46.160 out and just say I hate blah blah blah blah blah. 0:08:46.400 --> 0:08:49.800 You know, it was slowly, you know, a conversation after 0:08:49.880 --> 0:08:52.640 like the next day, ins getting intimate of can we 0:08:52.720 --> 0:08:56.800 try something different and we try this way? And you 0:08:56.880 --> 0:08:59.480 always used to like it that way? Well, yeah, I 0:08:59.559 --> 0:09:09.320 used to being now just like I might want to know, 0:09:09.720 --> 0:09:15.080 you know, I don't know. Yeah, yeah, I mean you 0:09:15.120 --> 0:09:17.160 want to know, Like you know, it's not just like 0:09:17.400 --> 0:09:19.679 different things turn me on as I get older, so 0:09:19.880 --> 0:09:21.960 you know. And I've even asked you to bring a 0:09:22.080 --> 0:09:28.320 female in to and he declined. He declined, Yes, Oh wow, 0:09:28.360 --> 0:09:34.280 that's unusual. Yeah, the old school, old spirit type man. Yes, 0:09:35.320 --> 0:09:37.960 hold on, before we get into anything else, let's pay 0:09:38.000 --> 0:09:45.440 some bills real quick with for women. Intimacy starts in 0:09:45.480 --> 0:09:47.280 the mind. You know what I'm saying. It's not all 0:09:47.320 --> 0:09:49.400 physical like we can't argue all day and not like 0:09:49.520 --> 0:09:51.839 each other all day long, and when it's time to 0:09:51.880 --> 0:09:55.280 go to bed, you're tapping me on my shoulder something, dick, 0:09:55.320 --> 0:09:58.640 and you ain't been nice to me all day. Because 0:09:58.960 --> 0:10:05.560 I I do that, I will start just so we 0:10:05.640 --> 0:10:11.640 can't have like, oh no, y'all toxic toxic don't want 0:10:11.679 --> 0:10:17.400 in toxicana too. Yeah, but sometimes that makes it a 0:10:17.440 --> 0:10:20.400 little bit more intense. You don't feel like that when 0:10:20.440 --> 0:10:22.280 I smashed this pill over your face and try to 0:10:22.360 --> 0:10:26.160 choke you while I'm riding you that. Don't everybody do that? 0:10:26.200 --> 0:10:29.719 But organic arguments? Yeah, y'all want you to sun the 0:10:29.720 --> 0:10:31.599 shot out of me after organic argument. But I'm a 0:10:31.640 --> 0:10:34.760 feel crazy if I started an argument just so you 0:10:34.800 --> 0:10:41.160 can smash me up. I don't understand. It's crazy. So 0:10:41.320 --> 0:10:46.880 no therapy. He didn't. I guess he didn't receive the therapy. 0:10:47.360 --> 0:10:50.640 My question, do you think, uh, your man feels the 0:10:50.679 --> 0:10:53.480 same way about you that you're feeling about him during 0:10:53.520 --> 0:10:59.880 that time? Um? I don't do so, you know because 0:11:00.880 --> 0:11:03.840 I think that if he was pretend and you know 0:11:03.960 --> 0:11:06.840 he has other hobbies outside and you know I used 0:11:06.880 --> 0:11:09.720 to all these thinks like we gotta be up up 0:11:09.720 --> 0:11:12.560 to somebody else. There's no way. But you know he 0:11:12.640 --> 0:11:17.440 comes home, he's the bills. He just has outside our hobbies. 0:11:17.640 --> 0:11:20.640 He likes working on the cars, and so that's his 0:11:20.800 --> 0:11:24.719 hobby to have multiple projects. So that's what I think 0:11:24.840 --> 0:11:27.640 was actually taken away from me because it's almost like 0:11:27.679 --> 0:11:30.440 that hobby was like a few bales. And I don't 0:11:30.480 --> 0:11:33.599 think we understand that if they have video games, that 0:11:33.679 --> 0:11:37.480 they got car projects. So they've got football. That's another woman. 0:11:37.760 --> 0:11:41.160 And so I don't know about anybody else who's listening 0:11:41.240 --> 0:11:43.520 that with you. That's not gonna work. And I don't 0:11:43.520 --> 0:11:46.520 get that attention. I'm gonna find it somewhere else because 0:11:46.520 --> 0:11:50.000 I think that's still really good. What if what if 0:11:50.000 --> 0:11:52.280 he just had you food like you had him food 0:11:52.400 --> 0:11:54.480 and you think he working on the car, but he 0:11:54.600 --> 0:12:06.560 working on caresia casa. So would you feel away if 0:12:06.720 --> 0:12:09.760 like to know that other women are desiring your men, 0:12:11.000 --> 0:12:14.240 like sometimes that bring a little spice, you don't think. 0:12:14.280 --> 0:12:18.560 So yeah, and this is two sha and yes I do, 0:12:18.800 --> 0:12:22.160 because that's the whole point of me trying to bring 0:12:22.200 --> 0:12:24.439 another woman in because I think if I was to 0:12:24.480 --> 0:12:27.480 see him with another woman, watch it, see it I 0:12:27.520 --> 0:12:31.199 want to get that jealous arousal if that makes sense. 0:12:31.280 --> 0:12:34.120 You know. Um, as crazy as it sounds, I've even 0:12:34.120 --> 0:12:36.240 set him up from the beat with the ex girlfriend 0:12:36.440 --> 0:12:38.599 and he went on bait and so I wanted to 0:12:38.640 --> 0:12:40.720 get here play by play. I was hoping he was 0:12:40.720 --> 0:12:43.000 gonna smash so that we came home and we were 0:12:43.600 --> 0:12:47.559 good that night. But he was a gentleman. Nothing happened, 0:12:47.559 --> 0:12:51.320 and I'm like, ship, you know what he just what 0:12:51.440 --> 0:12:53.800 if he doesn't know that that's what you want to hear? 0:12:53.880 --> 0:12:57.240 So he he knows when I tell you, like, hey, 0:12:57.559 --> 0:12:59.240 I want this is what we need to do. I 0:12:59.280 --> 0:13:02.760 want you to hear. Hey, I we're recorded on it. 0:13:02.800 --> 0:13:05.600 I want to see it, you know. So I'm that wife. 0:13:05.679 --> 0:13:07.480 I mean, I think we've been gonna so long that 0:13:07.559 --> 0:13:10.240 you got to get creative. So it might sound crazy 0:13:10.280 --> 0:13:13.000 to some viewers, but whenever you get in your household 0:13:13.040 --> 0:13:18.600 that works for you, guys, let it. Do ain't long 0:13:18.720 --> 0:13:22.040 for that ship, Okay, Now, I do want my man 0:13:22.120 --> 0:13:24.959 to be desirable, you know, like if I taught him cheating, 0:13:25.120 --> 0:13:28.760 I probably wouldn't leave. How well, burn, I ain't set 0:13:28.840 --> 0:13:34.960 me nigga up because I know people. I know that 0:13:35.080 --> 0:13:37.680 for certain, because when we got together, I knew he 0:13:37.760 --> 0:13:41.360 was the home and that's what made him desirable for me, 0:13:41.440 --> 0:13:44.160 because he tried to get with me prior to me 0:13:44.240 --> 0:13:47.520 getting married the first time, and I turned him down 0:13:47.720 --> 0:13:50.120 because I was like, no, you worked too hard. I 0:13:50.160 --> 0:13:51.880 don't want me to go to work all the time. 0:13:51.920 --> 0:13:53.439 I want me to don't boy, And that's what I 0:13:53.559 --> 0:13:57.360 got and I'm married and that should get worked. Yeah, 0:13:57.400 --> 0:14:01.440 don't you don't want a dope boy no more? Because 0:14:03.360 --> 0:14:06.000 this regularly the office new security. That's why I'm a 0:14:06.040 --> 0:14:09.120 domestic engineer. I can stay home and do whatever I want. 0:14:09.400 --> 0:14:12.400 I drive a very very nice car. You know, I 0:14:12.440 --> 0:14:15.520 have a very nice home. He tells me, I don't 0:14:15.559 --> 0:14:16.839 want you to go to work, and I have no 0:14:16.960 --> 0:14:20.280 desire to go to work, you know, So that part 0:14:20.760 --> 0:14:23.560 is what I desire from a dope boy. But of course, 0:14:23.920 --> 0:14:26.200 you know, I come from an era we thought about 0:14:26.240 --> 0:14:29.400 like New Jack City Ship like that, like wee me 0:14:29.600 --> 0:14:32.200 and Teacher grow up in the nineties. So that's mean, 0:14:32.760 --> 0:14:35.560 you know, rewards sold dope. There wasn't nothing me to 0:14:35.560 --> 0:14:37.800 give you, like seeing grand or twenty grand. You know, 0:14:37.920 --> 0:14:40.040 do what you want. But these new dope boys they're 0:14:40.080 --> 0:14:42.240 making no money. Now you got to get them in 0:14:42.280 --> 0:14:49.400 a little for one kicked me. I gotta worry about 0:14:49.400 --> 0:14:51.800 nobody keeping in my dough. You know, I know that 0:14:51.960 --> 0:14:54.720 for sure he's gonna pay the bills and things like that. 0:14:54.920 --> 0:14:58.400 So if he did step out, I wasn't sure because 0:14:58.400 --> 0:15:01.680 I ain't gon towere. I'm seven years. I've had two 0:15:01.720 --> 0:15:04.840 more years before I could get part of you know, 0:15:06.800 --> 0:15:14.680 years and one day. But you know, right, I mean, 0:15:15.120 --> 0:15:20.120 just like said, it's for someone else to design that 0:15:20.160 --> 0:15:24.360 turns you on because you're like, okay, but that that 0:15:24.440 --> 0:15:26.560 feeling came along with time, right, because if y'all were 0:15:26.600 --> 0:15:30.120 fresh in a relationship, you wouldn't be okay with somebody. 0:15:30.320 --> 0:15:32.440 None of us want a man that nobody else wants. 0:15:32.480 --> 0:15:35.760 I always say that, like I want my man to 0:15:35.960 --> 0:15:38.080 be able to get bitches. I'm not necessarily saying I 0:15:38.080 --> 0:15:40.360 want him to have fucking bitches, but I want to 0:15:40.440 --> 0:15:43.360 know that I'm not just desirable. Yeah, I don't want 0:15:43.360 --> 0:15:45.040 to be the only person want my nigger, Like I 0:15:45.080 --> 0:15:50.600 don't want you at that point, just like right, I 0:15:50.600 --> 0:15:57.280 don't have me like they please. I don't want nobody 0:15:57.800 --> 0:16:01.480 for a start, sunny, because it's words getting played by nothing. 0:16:01.520 --> 0:16:04.720 That's nigga the most man that you know other bitches want, 0:16:05.040 --> 0:16:08.440 like you understand why women want him, but some nigga 0:16:08.440 --> 0:16:11.080 you're don't settled for and he's pep playing. You know, 0:16:11.240 --> 0:16:14.320 I can't handle it, Like I know you're ugly play me. 0:16:14.320 --> 0:16:16.200 I'm gonna do my best to get your ass back 0:16:16.280 --> 0:16:20.720 so I can drop you. You ain't gonna with men. 0:16:22.440 --> 0:16:24.800 So look, before we move on to the next segment, 0:16:25.560 --> 0:16:32.000 let's have a word for our sponsors. So let me 0:16:32.040 --> 0:16:36.120 ask you this. Have you ever been caught doing something 0:16:36.160 --> 0:16:41.280 wrong and how did you get out of it? Story 0:16:43.320 --> 0:16:48.600 Once upon a time not long ago. Yeah, um, yeah, 0:16:48.880 --> 0:16:53.600 so I switched phones. My phone die and so that's 0:16:53.600 --> 0:16:57.120 my thing. I'm still talking to that. Um. So, yeah, 0:16:57.120 --> 0:17:00.240 I switched phones because my phone had died or some thing. 0:17:00.240 --> 0:17:04.080 And so, um my husband's in kind of like the 0:17:04.119 --> 0:17:07.399 computer field, so he's he's savvy on that. So I 0:17:07.480 --> 0:17:11.280 went to Atlanta and met up with an old friend 0:17:11.680 --> 0:17:16.120 and apparently I was did not disable my message your account, 0:17:16.680 --> 0:17:19.199 and so my husband was able to see all of 0:17:19.200 --> 0:17:22.440 my messages and so I get to call it my hotel, 0:17:23.200 --> 0:17:27.680 Like did you Funa whoa what we're talking about? And 0:17:28.000 --> 0:17:30.120 you know, I've been doing this long enough that when 0:17:30.119 --> 0:17:32.520 you started asking specific questions, you know, some ships, so 0:17:32.520 --> 0:17:38.840 I can't not and so, um, pretty much, yeah, he 0:17:38.840 --> 0:17:41.000 he found out about it. He knew he read all 0:17:41.000 --> 0:17:43.399 the text text messages from the fact that, you know, 0:17:43.760 --> 0:17:46.280 the guy was all in my good night before and 0:17:46.359 --> 0:17:49.360 how store I was, and he read every day detail. 0:17:50.240 --> 0:17:53.439 And um, that was to get out of it. I 0:17:53.440 --> 0:17:55.119 don't think it's gonna get out of it because I 0:17:55.119 --> 0:17:59.400 still think that he's hurt to this day. But um, 0:17:59.480 --> 0:18:03.520 that was probably about two years ago. Did you did 0:18:03.560 --> 0:18:07.600 you from around? To be honest with you, he's been 0:18:07.640 --> 0:18:13.399 around for about four of my affairs. No wait wait 0:18:13.560 --> 0:18:17.359 what the side? The side nigga been around? No, my 0:18:17.480 --> 0:18:20.960 husband has stayed after learned about four different affairs. And 0:18:21.320 --> 0:18:24.880 how many affairs have you learned about? Um? None? Oh 0:18:24.920 --> 0:18:30.800 you're the nigger? Yeah, yeah, that's name. Yeah, I'm sorry 0:18:30.800 --> 0:18:38.400 to ask this, but what what is your husband's dick like? Um, 0:18:37.359 --> 0:18:46.119 it's medium, it's the shp It's it's medium shrimpish, you know. 0:18:46.680 --> 0:18:50.199 But yeah, so it's medium shrimpish. But at the end 0:18:50.240 --> 0:18:52.680 of the day, I think that was not a gil 0:18:52.760 --> 0:18:55.320 breaker because I know I had a game provider. Like, 0:18:55.440 --> 0:18:58.240 he's a great husband, he's a great kid, um, you know, 0:18:58.600 --> 0:19:02.080 great father to the kids. Um. So it was like 0:19:02.880 --> 0:19:05.880 I've had worse, but also didn't have all these other 0:19:05.960 --> 0:19:09.760 plusses with Okay, so we're talking about so he has 0:19:09.840 --> 0:19:12.720 the eighty and you're you've been going out to complete 0:19:12.720 --> 0:19:16.800 your happiness trying to find this twenty right damn it man. 0:19:16.880 --> 0:19:19.000 So now women who like some women like you know 0:19:19.240 --> 0:19:20.800 you asked him like, hey, can you live with a 0:19:20.840 --> 0:19:22.480 man with bad sex? Could you be with a man 0:19:22.480 --> 0:19:25.479 with bad sex? Women always say yes, but it's obviously 0:19:25.520 --> 0:19:29.120 a lie. You're gonna eventually cheat, right, Yeah, I think 0:19:29.280 --> 0:19:31.800 I believe it's if it doesn't if you don't do 0:19:31.800 --> 0:19:33.399 what I think it's gonna be, it's definitely gonna be 0:19:33.520 --> 0:19:40.600 close to you doing it. This is stacy now for me, 0:19:41.600 --> 0:19:46.080 I have not cheated at all. All the reason why 0:19:47.400 --> 0:19:59.320 it's like I really times I'll be reading about me 0:20:00.080 --> 0:20:05.120 because I think with me and my husband, like I said, 0:20:05.119 --> 0:20:08.680 we've been married for seven years and we've known each 0:20:08.680 --> 0:20:12.399 other for a little bit of time. Matter of fact, 0:20:13.440 --> 0:20:19.080 he he we started dating because I was sucking his 0:20:19.200 --> 0:20:24.879 best friend and what his myst friend. RCA went and 0:20:24.920 --> 0:20:29.800 told him about me, about what we were doing, and 0:20:29.840 --> 0:20:32.000 he told him. He was like, you know, y'all, needuld 0:20:32.040 --> 0:20:35.159 be together because we like crazy bitches and she crazy. 0:20:36.000 --> 0:20:39.840 And so after that he started presuminging. So when we 0:20:39.920 --> 0:20:43.280 started dating, you know, I was I always you know, 0:20:43.680 --> 0:20:45.760 it was a little stand office because I'm like, you know, 0:20:45.760 --> 0:20:47.560 I don't want to come between your best friend. But 0:20:47.800 --> 0:20:49.959 clearly he wanted me that bad because he was like, 0:20:50.040 --> 0:20:53.880 he doesn't matter about the best friend. But even though 0:20:53.880 --> 0:20:56.600 we've been married, you know for seven years, I think 0:20:56.640 --> 0:21:00.159 there's between us. We don't trust each other and up 0:21:01.040 --> 0:21:03.119 because I don't trust to say, as far as he 0:21:03.200 --> 0:21:05.600 can throw you know, he don't trust me as far 0:21:05.640 --> 0:21:07.400 as he can. But you're not cheating on each other. 0:21:08.359 --> 0:21:12.680 So why why is the trust only as far as 0:21:12.680 --> 0:21:15.280 you can throw me? I guess you know, well, my 0:21:15.359 --> 0:21:18.720 opinion is is probably because how he acquired you, maybe 0:21:19.040 --> 0:21:22.800 how he acquired me, and because I know I know 0:21:22.880 --> 0:21:26.760 firsthand his past. You know, it's it's different when you 0:21:26.880 --> 0:21:31.639 marry someone, um you know that nobody knows about you know, 0:21:31.800 --> 0:21:35.399 where we're from is very small here, So I probably 0:21:35.440 --> 0:21:38.560 know about five or six girls that he's spoke and 0:21:38.640 --> 0:21:41.640 their friends we can not really friends, but associated with me, 0:21:41.920 --> 0:21:44.920 you know. And I mean I'm sure he he thinks 0:21:44.920 --> 0:21:47.080 he knows about what I've done in the past, but 0:21:47.240 --> 0:21:49.600 you don't really know. You really really don't know what 0:21:49.680 --> 0:21:52.720 we probably would have married. Yeah, I think sometimes men 0:21:52.840 --> 0:21:54.920 find comfort and knowing. Like you said, just y'all from 0:21:54.920 --> 0:21:56.960 a small time town. So he can find out about 0:21:57.000 --> 0:21:58.720 you if he needed to, if he wanted to, and 0:21:58.720 --> 0:22:03.400 he probably has. So he probably may not say anything, 0:22:03.440 --> 0:22:06.119 but he probably knows some ship. Why because the means 0:22:06.200 --> 0:22:09.000 like trust. I don't trust no fucking body. I have 0:22:09.320 --> 0:22:11.800 faith that people do do the right thing. That doesn't 0:22:11.920 --> 0:22:15.080 necessarily just for my lover, but just people in general. 0:22:16.720 --> 0:22:20.520 And see, I think with us, it's like, um My 0:22:20.720 --> 0:22:24.239 Musban likes the floss, he likes really nice things, you know, 0:22:24.600 --> 0:22:27.760 he likes, he takes joy. And now I'm saying, Okay, 0:22:27.800 --> 0:22:29.639 I can do this for my wife. I've give him 0:22:29.680 --> 0:22:31.960 my wife this, I can do this that the third 0:22:32.320 --> 0:22:34.479 and plus when a lot of people see us together, 0:22:34.600 --> 0:22:36.880 like damn, how do y'all you know together? I mean, 0:22:36.880 --> 0:22:39.280 he's not a bad thing guy at all. But I 0:22:39.320 --> 0:22:44.919 mean I'm pretty straight, you know. So they as like, well, 0:22:44.960 --> 0:22:47.080 how do you end up with her? So I think 0:22:47.359 --> 0:22:50.199 I'm just one of those nice things that he's acquired, 0:22:51.200 --> 0:22:53.600 and you know, therefore he'll do whatever he has to 0:22:53.600 --> 0:22:56.200 do in order to keep me happy and keep me here. 0:22:56.680 --> 0:22:58.919 And I think the same thing with mine. Mine is 0:22:59.160 --> 0:23:03.440 very not flossy to himself, not somebody that's on social 0:23:03.480 --> 0:23:05.639 media like that. Don't want people in this business is 0:23:05.760 --> 0:23:09.719 marriage country country boy, And here I am coming from Jersey. 0:23:09.800 --> 0:23:13.159 When I live down here, um a city like Nade 0:23:13.320 --> 0:23:16.159 country boy, that didn't work, you know, So I like 0:23:16.240 --> 0:23:18.320 the attention. I like, you know, if I walk into 0:23:18.320 --> 0:23:20.760 a room, I'm I'm only got that room, not about 0:23:20.760 --> 0:23:26.119 fifteen twenty people. So being that he's so quiet and 0:23:26.160 --> 0:23:29.600 prison just to himself, we didn't Nash, you know, But 0:23:30.840 --> 0:23:37.000 eighteen years later, here we are basically yeah. Yeah, and 0:23:37.080 --> 0:23:39.520 it works sometimes, you know, but also when you get 0:23:39.520 --> 0:23:42.960 to other categories like sets, intimacy and things like that, 0:23:43.240 --> 0:23:45.760 it doesn't work. It works when we're paying deals, it 0:23:45.800 --> 0:23:48.480 works more discipline these kids. It works when we're trying 0:23:48.480 --> 0:23:51.320 to be empires and things like that. But it doesn't 0:23:51.320 --> 0:23:54.959 work in all areas with that union game. So it's okay. 0:23:54.960 --> 0:23:57.320 So have y'all had because we've we've had episodes about 0:23:57.400 --> 0:23:59.880 open relationships. We actually had a guy on who has 0:24:00.040 --> 0:24:04.479 been an open marriage for open relationship for five years. 0:24:04.640 --> 0:24:07.840 Have y'all ever had a discussion with your husband's like, hey, 0:24:08.119 --> 0:24:10.199 we should just be in an open marriage. Like, I 0:24:10.280 --> 0:24:11.919 love you, I want to spend the rest of my 0:24:11.960 --> 0:24:15.920 life with you, but sometimes I want to experience other people. Yeah, 0:24:16.000 --> 0:24:18.919 I have, because you know, you know, you realize my 0:24:19.040 --> 0:24:23.480 track record is something wrong. Yeah this is teacher apparently 0:24:23.560 --> 0:24:27.520 something about working and so yeah, I did I get 0:24:27.560 --> 0:24:30.760 approaching with that and once again being that old school 0:24:31.119 --> 0:24:34.600 country boy, No, we're not having that at all, you know. 0:24:34.720 --> 0:24:38.400 And I'm like, well, we're gonna keep following the same 0:24:38.480 --> 0:24:41.560 path because apparently you're not the most to me. You 0:24:41.680 --> 0:24:44.359 like to keep this trophy wife. But at the same time, 0:24:44.400 --> 0:24:46.600 you know, I have needs, you know, you know, because 0:24:46.640 --> 0:24:52.760 even to this day, I have a twenty twenty three 0:24:52.880 --> 0:24:56.080 year old dope boy right now, um, and I am 0:24:56.160 --> 0:25:00.439