1 00:00:03,040 --> 00:00:07,080 Speaker 1: We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion. Who 2 00:00:07,240 --> 00:00:13,080 Speaker 1: talks back? Hey, welcome to a new episode of We 3 00:00:13,560 --> 00:00:17,080 Speaker 1: Talk Back. It's your girl a j Hello, my babies, 4 00:00:17,200 --> 00:00:19,959 Speaker 1: it's me tam vam. I missed y'all. Girl, you sounding 5 00:00:19,960 --> 00:00:23,400 Speaker 1: like Monique over there, my babies. I'm fat, like mommy, 6 00:00:23,600 --> 00:00:28,280 Speaker 1: no bitch or not. Matter of fact, Monique can't even 7 00:00:28,280 --> 00:00:31,200 Speaker 1: my fatom ward, So I don't know she got fat 8 00:00:31,200 --> 00:00:34,920 Speaker 1: girl sway, she probably still got a fat bit hidden inside. 9 00:00:35,240 --> 00:00:41,760 Speaker 1: She's a fat bit heart, so am I I don't 10 00:00:41,760 --> 00:00:47,800 Speaker 1: want to claim it if we all right, So we're 11 00:00:47,800 --> 00:00:50,519 Speaker 1: doing key to y'all. So we uh we try not 12 00:00:50,600 --> 00:00:53,560 Speaker 1: to be fat, but just at heart and on the outside. Girl, 13 00:00:53,560 --> 00:00:55,960 Speaker 1: I still going one snacks. I'm hungry right now, bitch. 14 00:00:56,080 --> 00:00:58,080 Speaker 1: I'm not going to bite your grass in a minute. 15 00:00:58,160 --> 00:01:02,920 Speaker 1: Oh bitch, let me not this bit with a good 16 00:01:02,960 --> 00:01:08,240 Speaker 1: time exactly. I like this right, I like how to 17 00:01:08,440 --> 00:01:18,240 Speaker 1: start keiss. Well, we got a good show lined up 18 00:01:18,280 --> 00:01:22,119 Speaker 1: for the day. Yeah, this is really entertaining episode right here. 19 00:01:22,440 --> 00:01:25,400 Speaker 1: So you know, our first episode, we had some guys 20 00:01:25,480 --> 00:01:27,920 Speaker 1: on and they were we were trying to figure out 21 00:01:27,920 --> 00:01:31,640 Speaker 1: why men cheat, as if we don't know it's a choice, right. 22 00:01:31,720 --> 00:01:34,000 Speaker 1: So this time, so that men don't feel like we 23 00:01:34,160 --> 00:01:38,560 Speaker 1: just man bash, we have some women on so we 24 00:01:38,600 --> 00:01:43,399 Speaker 1: can better understand why women cheat. Right. But here's the kicker. 25 00:01:43,800 --> 00:01:48,840 Speaker 1: These women are all married. They are not single cheeters. 26 00:01:48,880 --> 00:01:56,840 Speaker 1: They are married cheaters. Excellent, excellent. These women are in 27 00:01:56,920 --> 00:02:02,000 Speaker 1: witness protection. We talked at witness protection to make sure 28 00:02:02,040 --> 00:02:05,040 Speaker 1: that they're safe from your judgment because your motherfucker's dead 29 00:02:05,280 --> 00:02:13,560 Speaker 1: as hell. So listen in. Hello, ladies, how are y'all doing? 30 00:02:13,720 --> 00:02:17,880 Speaker 1: Thank you for coming out. We talked back today. I'm 31 00:02:17,960 --> 00:02:20,120 Speaker 1: so happy to be here. Thank you, thank you for 32 00:02:20,160 --> 00:02:23,440 Speaker 1: having us. So, um, tell us your names and tell 33 00:02:23,520 --> 00:02:27,120 Speaker 1: us a little bit about yourself. Well, my name is 34 00:02:27,200 --> 00:02:31,480 Speaker 1: Time Tisha, and I am a real state agent. I 35 00:02:31,600 --> 00:02:36,520 Speaker 1: have been married to my high school sweetheart for eighteen years. 36 00:02:37,320 --> 00:02:41,280 Speaker 1: We have been getting since fifteen. I have four kids, 37 00:02:41,760 --> 00:02:45,600 Speaker 1: and um, I guess I would say I like traveling 38 00:02:45,840 --> 00:02:48,800 Speaker 1: just kind of you know, getting out, getting out the 39 00:02:48,840 --> 00:02:50,880 Speaker 1: house and kind of just having some self care and 40 00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:54,600 Speaker 1: self time because you know, marriage and kids do all 41 00:02:54,680 --> 00:02:58,200 Speaker 1: got seeds of you know, one seat where you put 42 00:02:58,240 --> 00:03:00,720 Speaker 1: yourself back seat. So I man kind of like this 43 00:03:01,280 --> 00:03:03,520 Speaker 1: leave back to the because you never know when your 44 00:03:03,600 --> 00:03:08,079 Speaker 1: last day will be your last. Dame absolutely So you 45 00:03:08,120 --> 00:03:16,960 Speaker 1: said you were married eighteen years. Yes, yes, same same dick, 46 00:03:17,200 --> 00:03:20,760 Speaker 1: eighteen whole year, whole years. And I'm gonna got a 47 00:03:20,840 --> 00:03:24,800 Speaker 1: cab any being faithful years years. That's what that's the 48 00:03:24,880 --> 00:03:29,680 Speaker 1: tea I'm trying to get to. That's so for social 49 00:03:29,680 --> 00:03:40,200 Speaker 1: Security years. Eighteen years. But we had dated since we 50 00:03:40,200 --> 00:03:43,800 Speaker 1: were fifteen. So alright, real quick, let me just ask 51 00:03:43,840 --> 00:03:47,040 Speaker 1: you this the first time. We're just gonna talk about 52 00:03:47,080 --> 00:03:52,119 Speaker 1: the first time you stepped out. You can introduced the second. First. Oh, 53 00:03:52,360 --> 00:03:55,520 Speaker 1: I was going to the station next. I mean, yeah, 54 00:03:57,080 --> 00:04:00,240 Speaker 1: years got me like you tell me about Eddie lay 55 00:04:00,240 --> 00:04:02,040 Speaker 1: to tell me a little bit about your girl. I'm sorry, 56 00:04:02,080 --> 00:04:06,160 Speaker 1: I almost forgot. Well, I'm Stacy and as they say, 57 00:04:06,240 --> 00:04:11,600 Speaker 1: a domestic engineer, a housewiter. Um, I'm our marriage number two. 58 00:04:11,800 --> 00:04:15,080 Speaker 1: My first marriage was lasted about five years and this 59 00:04:15,200 --> 00:04:19,559 Speaker 1: one is rolling into her seven. Um. I have three 60 00:04:19,640 --> 00:04:26,480 Speaker 1: children of my own and two step children. Um, he says, 61 00:04:26,080 --> 00:04:29,400 Speaker 1: he said. You know, we just like to do our 62 00:04:29,400 --> 00:04:32,520 Speaker 1: own things sometimes. But for the most part, you know 63 00:04:33,120 --> 00:04:37,839 Speaker 1: that nice wife, hpecial baby, that takes care of home, 64 00:04:38,279 --> 00:04:42,440 Speaker 1: that perfect step for wife, m and then the whole 65 00:04:42,440 --> 00:04:45,240 Speaker 1: outside of that. Every now and then, whenever I can 66 00:04:45,320 --> 00:04:52,960 Speaker 1: get a chance, we're talking. Absolutely, I don't open up. 67 00:04:52,960 --> 00:04:57,279 Speaker 1: I'm getting rid. So ladies, all right, So we did 68 00:04:57,400 --> 00:05:02,000 Speaker 1: like a video earlier about women being tired of the shrimp. 69 00:05:02,040 --> 00:05:04,440 Speaker 1: I don't know if y'all got to hear it, but 70 00:05:04,600 --> 00:05:08,600 Speaker 1: we discuss how, you know, in relationships, people get tired 71 00:05:08,680 --> 00:05:11,920 Speaker 1: of the same old thing over and over and over again. 72 00:05:12,200 --> 00:05:15,080 Speaker 1: And that applies not only just to men, it applies 73 00:05:15,160 --> 00:05:18,719 Speaker 1: to women as well. So when that happened, because I 74 00:05:18,720 --> 00:05:20,960 Speaker 1: know y'all have been tired of the shrimp, when that 75 00:05:21,080 --> 00:05:23,160 Speaker 1: happened to y'all, what did you do? How did you 76 00:05:23,200 --> 00:05:25,920 Speaker 1: handle it? How did you move? Because women move a 77 00:05:25,920 --> 00:05:31,240 Speaker 1: lot smarter than men. So this is teacher, Um, I 78 00:05:31,279 --> 00:05:34,160 Speaker 1: guess you know. I always tell people that since we've 79 00:05:34,160 --> 00:05:38,240 Speaker 1: been together so long, my husband and I change. I changed, 80 00:05:38,520 --> 00:05:41,800 Speaker 1: he's changed different seasons, you know. So I'm not the 81 00:05:41,839 --> 00:05:44,400 Speaker 1: same person that I was in my teams, my twenties, 82 00:05:44,440 --> 00:05:48,160 Speaker 1: my thirties authorities. Um, you know, I'm not the same 83 00:05:48,200 --> 00:05:51,560 Speaker 1: person that I was going to be first got together. 84 00:05:51,720 --> 00:05:56,320 Speaker 1: So I've gone from teams to twins, thirties, and when 85 00:05:56,360 --> 00:06:00,560 Speaker 1: I started realizing that things were the same with him, 86 00:06:00,880 --> 00:06:03,720 Speaker 1: but I wasn't. You know, the first thing it to 87 00:06:03,839 --> 00:06:06,520 Speaker 1: us to do is to communicate, and I did. I communicated. 88 00:06:07,040 --> 00:06:10,680 Speaker 1: Now I was born say working. You know, I'm not 89 00:06:10,800 --> 00:06:13,200 Speaker 1: the same person that like this and like that sexually, 90 00:06:13,279 --> 00:06:17,200 Speaker 1: mentally or whatever. And you know, I don't think he 91 00:06:17,279 --> 00:06:19,880 Speaker 1: was receptive known to that. You know, I think he 92 00:06:20,040 --> 00:06:22,880 Speaker 1: was just comfortable with you know, going away in here 93 00:06:23,560 --> 00:06:25,800 Speaker 1: that's what is going to be. And so I think 94 00:06:26,800 --> 00:06:29,680 Speaker 1: what happened is just that, you know, I was out 95 00:06:29,680 --> 00:06:34,160 Speaker 1: working place, friendship turned to one thing or another and 96 00:06:34,160 --> 00:06:37,360 Speaker 1: then go to the first one happening, because there's been 97 00:06:37,440 --> 00:06:42,800 Speaker 1: many it's always the word husband, that game. Hey, look 98 00:06:42,839 --> 00:06:47,479 Speaker 1: you know what he makes for the most part. You know, 99 00:06:47,520 --> 00:06:52,080 Speaker 1: I have a philosophy that, um men, women need a 100 00:06:52,160 --> 00:06:55,760 Speaker 1: reason to cheat. Men oftentimes just need a time and 101 00:06:55,800 --> 00:07:00,200 Speaker 1: a place. So obviously your workplace, the opportunity do you 102 00:07:00,240 --> 00:07:04,120 Speaker 1: present presented itself. But you communicated to your husband, hey 103 00:07:04,160 --> 00:07:09,279 Speaker 1: I'm not happy or um I know, therapy, counseling do 104 00:07:09,360 --> 00:07:11,640 Speaker 1: you did you guys do any therapy anything like that? 105 00:07:12,000 --> 00:07:15,320 Speaker 1: We did that early on, um and but it didn't 106 00:07:15,400 --> 00:07:18,600 Speaker 1: last long. It wasn't lone enough. Um, he's the kind 107 00:07:18,600 --> 00:07:22,040 Speaker 1: of person that he wants that that outside image to 108 00:07:22,160 --> 00:07:24,880 Speaker 1: kind of always look with. So you have to preach 109 00:07:24,960 --> 00:07:30,840 Speaker 1: somebody else in your or your business. You know, No, 110 00:07:31,080 --> 00:07:34,080 Speaker 1: he doesn't want that looks. So unfortunately, I think he 111 00:07:34,120 --> 00:07:37,640 Speaker 1: would be content with the factor knowing that you are 112 00:07:37,760 --> 00:07:40,520 Speaker 1: uncoppy at home, but you're just going to sit back 113 00:07:40,520 --> 00:07:42,560 Speaker 1: and there and bring it because you know we're like that. 114 00:07:42,920 --> 00:07:45,640 Speaker 1: We're like to James, were like the perfect person and 115 00:07:45,680 --> 00:07:48,160 Speaker 1: couple when we're out in the streets, and that was 116 00:07:48,200 --> 00:07:52,400 Speaker 1: okay with him. That I was lonely as well. Every night. 117 00:07:52,680 --> 00:07:55,800 Speaker 1: You know, I'm at home texting and you know, born 118 00:07:56,000 --> 00:07:59,640 Speaker 1: in lonely because I'm you're not listening to me. I'm 119 00:07:59,680 --> 00:08:02,720 Speaker 1: telling you about spoke the person ever and you're just 120 00:08:02,840 --> 00:08:05,720 Speaker 1: not listening to what my needs are. So it was 121 00:08:05,760 --> 00:08:07,680 Speaker 1: almost like you kind of type my names and what 122 00:08:07,680 --> 00:08:10,880 Speaker 1: else do you expect me to be? All right? So 123 00:08:11,520 --> 00:08:14,080 Speaker 1: when you told him like I'm unhappy, did you just 124 00:08:14,160 --> 00:08:16,679 Speaker 1: come out and say it or was it like subliminals 125 00:08:16,840 --> 00:08:20,360 Speaker 1: or like how I wouldn't know how to express that 126 00:08:20,440 --> 00:08:23,560 Speaker 1: to my nigga, Like, baby, yo, Dick, ain't that good? 127 00:08:24,640 --> 00:08:26,680 Speaker 1: But it's not all about sex, right, it's other things 128 00:08:26,720 --> 00:08:29,600 Speaker 1: as well, not just sex. Yeah, it's not even just sex. 129 00:08:29,640 --> 00:08:34,439 Speaker 1: And it was just more of communication, time spent um, sponsority, 130 00:08:34,600 --> 00:08:37,319 Speaker 1: the romance and they keep your mind. We've been together 131 00:08:37,440 --> 00:08:40,480 Speaker 1: for so so long, so you know, it wasn't all 132 00:08:40,520 --> 00:08:42,960 Speaker 1: a long time. I didn't just reword to take everything 133 00:08:42,960 --> 00:08:46,160 Speaker 1: out and just say I hate blah blah blah blah blah. 134 00:08:46,400 --> 00:08:49,800 Speaker 1: You know, it was slowly, you know, a conversation after 135 00:08:49,880 --> 00:08:52,640 Speaker 1: like the next day, ins getting intimate of can we 136 00:08:52,720 --> 00:08:56,800 Speaker 1: try something different and we try this way? And you 137 00:08:56,880 --> 00:08:59,480 Speaker 1: always used to like it that way? Well, yeah, I 138 00:08:59,559 --> 00:09:09,320 Speaker 1: used to being now just like I might want to know, 139 00:09:09,720 --> 00:09:15,080 Speaker 1: you know, I don't know. Yeah, yeah, I mean you 140 00:09:15,120 --> 00:09:17,160 Speaker 1: want to know, Like you know, it's not just like 141 00:09:17,400 --> 00:09:19,679 Speaker 1: different things turn me on as I get older, so 142 00:09:19,880 --> 00:09:21,960 Speaker 1: you know. And I've even asked you to bring a 143 00:09:22,080 --> 00:09:28,320 Speaker 1: female in to and he declined. He declined, Yes, Oh wow, 144 00:09:28,360 --> 00:09:34,280 Speaker 1: that's unusual. Yeah, the old school, old spirit type man. Yes, 145 00:09:35,320 --> 00:09:37,960 Speaker 1: hold on, before we get into anything else, let's pay 146 00:09:38,000 --> 00:09:45,440 Speaker 1: some bills real quick with for women. Intimacy starts in 147 00:09:45,480 --> 00:09:47,280 Speaker 1: the mind. You know what I'm saying. It's not all 148 00:09:47,320 --> 00:09:49,400 Speaker 1: physical like we can't argue all day and not like 149 00:09:49,520 --> 00:09:51,839 Speaker 1: each other all day long, and when it's time to 150 00:09:51,880 --> 00:09:55,280 Speaker 1: go to bed, you're tapping me on my shoulder something, dick, 151 00:09:55,320 --> 00:09:58,640 Speaker 1: and you ain't been nice to me all day. Because 152 00:09:58,960 --> 00:10:05,560 Speaker 1: I I do that, I will start just so we 153 00:10:05,640 --> 00:10:11,640 Speaker 1: can't have like, oh no, y'all toxic toxic don't want 154 00:10:11,679 --> 00:10:17,400 Speaker 1: in toxicana too. Yeah, but sometimes that makes it a 155 00:10:17,440 --> 00:10:20,400 Speaker 1: little bit more intense. You don't feel like that when 156 00:10:20,440 --> 00:10:22,280 Speaker 1: I smashed this pill over your face and try to 157 00:10:22,360 --> 00:10:26,160 Speaker 1: choke you while I'm riding you that. Don't everybody do that? 158 00:10:26,200 --> 00:10:29,719 Speaker 1: But organic arguments? Yeah, y'all want you to sun the 159 00:10:29,720 --> 00:10:31,599 Speaker 1: shot out of me after organic argument. But I'm a 160 00:10:31,640 --> 00:10:34,760 Speaker 1: feel crazy if I started an argument just so you 161 00:10:34,800 --> 00:10:41,160 Speaker 1: can smash me up. I don't understand. It's crazy. So 162 00:10:41,320 --> 00:10:46,880 Speaker 1: no therapy. He didn't. I guess he didn't receive the therapy. 163 00:10:47,360 --> 00:10:50,640 Speaker 1: My question, do you think, uh, your man feels the 164 00:10:50,679 --> 00:10:53,480 Speaker 1: same way about you that you're feeling about him during 165 00:10:53,520 --> 00:10:59,880 Speaker 1: that time? Um? I don't do so, you know because 166 00:11:00,880 --> 00:11:03,840 Speaker 1: I think that if he was pretend and you know 167 00:11:03,960 --> 00:11:06,840 Speaker 1: he has other hobbies outside and you know I used 168 00:11:06,880 --> 00:11:09,720 Speaker 1: to all these thinks like we gotta be up up 169 00:11:09,720 --> 00:11:12,560 Speaker 1: to somebody else. There's no way. But you know he 170 00:11:12,640 --> 00:11:17,440 Speaker 1: comes home, he's the bills. He just has outside our hobbies. 171 00:11:17,640 --> 00:11:20,640 Speaker 1: He likes working on the cars, and so that's his 172 00:11:20,800 --> 00:11:24,719 Speaker 1: hobby to have multiple projects. So that's what I think 173 00:11:24,840 --> 00:11:27,640 Speaker 1: was actually taken away from me because it's almost like 174 00:11:27,679 --> 00:11:30,440 Speaker 1: that hobby was like a few bales. And I don't 175 00:11:30,480 --> 00:11:33,599 Speaker 1: think we understand that if they have video games, that 176 00:11:33,679 --> 00:11:37,480 Speaker 1: they got car projects. So they've got football. That's another woman. 177 00:11:37,760 --> 00:11:41,160 Speaker 1: And so I don't know about anybody else who's listening 178 00:11:41,240 --> 00:11:43,520 Speaker 1: that with you. That's not gonna work. And I don't 179 00:11:43,520 --> 00:11:46,520 Speaker 1: get that attention. I'm gonna find it somewhere else because 180 00:11:46,520 --> 00:11:50,000 Speaker 1: I think that's still really good. What if what if 181 00:11:50,000 --> 00:11:52,280 Speaker 1: he just had you food like you had him food 182 00:11:52,400 --> 00:11:54,480 Speaker 1: and you think he working on the car, but he 183 00:11:54,600 --> 00:12:06,560 Speaker 1: working on caresia casa. So would you feel away if 184 00:12:06,720 --> 00:12:09,760 Speaker 1: like to know that other women are desiring your men, 185 00:12:11,000 --> 00:12:14,240 Speaker 1: like sometimes that bring a little spice, you don't think. 186 00:12:14,280 --> 00:12:18,560 Speaker 1: So yeah, and this is two sha and yes I do, 187 00:12:18,800 --> 00:12:22,160 Speaker 1: because that's the whole point of me trying to bring 188 00:12:22,200 --> 00:12:24,439 Speaker 1: another woman in because I think if I was to 189 00:12:24,480 --> 00:12:27,480 Speaker 1: see him with another woman, watch it, see it I 190 00:12:27,520 --> 00:12:31,199 Speaker 1: want to get that jealous arousal if that makes sense. 191 00:12:31,280 --> 00:12:34,120 Speaker 1: You know. Um, as crazy as it sounds, I've even 192 00:12:34,120 --> 00:12:36,240 Speaker 1: set him up from the beat with the ex girlfriend 193 00:12:36,440 --> 00:12:38,599 Speaker 1: and he went on bait and so I wanted to 194 00:12:38,640 --> 00:12:40,720 Speaker 1: get here play by play. I was hoping he was 195 00:12:40,720 --> 00:12:43,000 Speaker 1: gonna smash so that we came home and we were 196 00:12:43,600 --> 00:12:47,559 Speaker 1: good that night. But he was a gentleman. Nothing happened, 197 00:12:47,559 --> 00:12:51,320 Speaker 1: and I'm like, ship, you know what he just what 198 00:12:51,440 --> 00:12:53,800 Speaker 1: if he doesn't know that that's what you want to hear? 199 00:12:53,880 --> 00:12:57,240 Speaker 1: So he he knows when I tell you, like, hey, 200 00:12:57,559 --> 00:12:59,240 Speaker 1: I want this is what we need to do. I 201 00:12:59,280 --> 00:13:02,760 Speaker 1: want you to hear. Hey, I we're recorded on it. 202 00:13:02,800 --> 00:13:05,600 Speaker 1: I want to see it, you know. So I'm that wife. 203 00:13:05,679 --> 00:13:07,480 Speaker 1: I mean, I think we've been gonna so long that 204 00:13:07,559 --> 00:13:10,240 Speaker 1: you got to get creative. So it might sound crazy 205 00:13:10,280 --> 00:13:13,000 Speaker 1: to some viewers, but whenever you get in your household 206 00:13:13,040 --> 00:13:18,600 Speaker 1: that works for you, guys, let it. Do ain't long 207 00:13:18,720 --> 00:13:22,040 Speaker 1: for that ship, Okay, Now, I do want my man 208 00:13:22,120 --> 00:13:24,959 Speaker 1: to be desirable, you know, like if I taught him cheating, 209 00:13:25,120 --> 00:13:28,760 Speaker 1: I probably wouldn't leave. How well, burn, I ain't set 210 00:13:28,840 --> 00:13:34,960 Speaker 1: me nigga up because I know people. I know that 211 00:13:35,080 --> 00:13:37,680 Speaker 1: for certain, because when we got together, I knew he 212 00:13:37,760 --> 00:13:41,360 Speaker 1: was the home and that's what made him desirable for me, 213 00:13:41,440 --> 00:13:44,160 Speaker 1: because he tried to get with me prior to me 214 00:13:44,240 --> 00:13:47,520 Speaker 1: getting married the first time, and I turned him down 215 00:13:47,720 --> 00:13:50,120 Speaker 1: because I was like, no, you worked too hard. I 216 00:13:50,160 --> 00:13:51,880 Speaker 1: don't want me to go to work all the time. 217 00:13:51,920 --> 00:13:53,439 Speaker 1: I want me to don't boy, And that's what I 218 00:13:53,559 --> 00:13:57,360 Speaker 1: got and I'm married and that should get worked. Yeah, 219 00:13:57,400 --> 00:14:01,440 Speaker 1: don't you don't want a dope boy no more? Because 220 00:14:03,360 --> 00:14:06,000 Speaker 1: this regularly the office new security. That's why I'm a 221 00:14:06,040 --> 00:14:09,120 Speaker 1: domestic engineer. I can stay home and do whatever I want. 222 00:14:09,400 --> 00:14:12,400 Speaker 1: I drive a very very nice car. You know, I 223 00:14:12,440 --> 00:14:15,520 Speaker 1: have a very nice home. He tells me, I don't 224 00:14:15,559 --> 00:14:16,839 Speaker 1: want you to go to work, and I have no 225 00:14:16,960 --> 00:14:20,280 Speaker 1: desire to go to work, you know, So that part 226 00:14:20,760 --> 00:14:23,560 Speaker 1: is what I desire from a dope boy. But of course, 227 00:14:23,920 --> 00:14:26,200 Speaker 1: you know, I come from an era we thought about 228 00:14:26,240 --> 00:14:29,400 Speaker 1: like New Jack City Ship like that, like wee me 229 00:14:29,600 --> 00:14:32,200 Speaker 1: and Teacher grow up in the nineties. So that's mean, 230 00:14:32,760 --> 00:14:35,560 Speaker 1: you know, rewards sold dope. There wasn't nothing me to 231 00:14:35,560 --> 00:14:37,800 Speaker 1: give you, like seeing grand or twenty grand. You know, 232 00:14:37,920 --> 00:14:40,040 Speaker 1: do what you want. But these new dope boys they're 233 00:14:40,080 --> 00:14:42,240 Speaker 1: making no money. Now you got to get them in 234 00:14:42,280 --> 00:14:49,400 Speaker 1: a little for one kicked me. I gotta worry about 235 00:14:49,400 --> 00:14:51,800 Speaker 1: nobody keeping in my dough. You know, I know that 236 00:14:51,960 --> 00:14:54,720 Speaker 1: for sure he's gonna pay the bills and things like that. 237 00:14:54,920 --> 00:14:58,400 Speaker 1: So if he did step out, I wasn't sure because 238 00:14:58,400 --> 00:15:01,680 Speaker 1: I ain't gon towere. I'm seven years. I've had two 239 00:15:01,720 --> 00:15:04,840 Speaker 1: more years before I could get part of you know, 240 00:15:06,800 --> 00:15:14,680 Speaker 1: years and one day. But you know, right, I mean, 241 00:15:15,120 --> 00:15:20,120 Speaker 1: just like said, it's for someone else to design that 242 00:15:20,160 --> 00:15:24,360 Speaker 1: turns you on because you're like, okay, but that that 243 00:15:24,440 --> 00:15:26,560 Speaker 1: feeling came along with time, right, because if y'all were 244 00:15:26,600 --> 00:15:30,120 Speaker 1: fresh in a relationship, you wouldn't be okay with somebody. 245 00:15:30,320 --> 00:15:32,440 Speaker 1: None of us want a man that nobody else wants. 246 00:15:32,480 --> 00:15:35,760 Speaker 1: I always say that, like I want my man to 247 00:15:35,960 --> 00:15:38,080 Speaker 1: be able to get bitches. I'm not necessarily saying I 248 00:15:38,080 --> 00:15:40,360 Speaker 1: want him to have fucking bitches, but I want to 249 00:15:40,440 --> 00:15:43,360 Speaker 1: know that I'm not just desirable. Yeah, I don't want 250 00:15:43,360 --> 00:15:45,040 Speaker 1: to be the only person want my nigger, Like I 251 00:15:45,080 --> 00:15:50,600 Speaker 1: don't want you at that point, just like right, I 252 00:15:50,600 --> 00:15:57,280 Speaker 1: don't have me like they please. I don't want nobody 253 00:15:57,800 --> 00:16:01,480 Speaker 1: for a start, sunny, because it's words getting played by nothing. 254 00:16:01,520 --> 00:16:04,720 Speaker 1: That's nigga the most man that you know other bitches want, 255 00:16:05,040 --> 00:16:08,440 Speaker 1: like you understand why women want him, but some nigga 256 00:16:08,440 --> 00:16:11,080 Speaker 1: you're don't settled for and he's pep playing. You know, 257 00:16:11,240 --> 00:16:14,320 Speaker 1: I can't handle it, Like I know you're ugly play me. 258 00:16:14,320 --> 00:16:16,200 Speaker 1: I'm gonna do my best to get your ass back 259 00:16:16,280 --> 00:16:20,720 Speaker 1: so I can drop you. You ain't gonna with men. 260 00:16:22,440 --> 00:16:24,800 Speaker 1: So look, before we move on to the next segment, 261 00:16:25,560 --> 00:16:32,000 Speaker 1: let's have a word for our sponsors. So let me 262 00:16:32,040 --> 00:16:36,120 Speaker 1: ask you this. Have you ever been caught doing something 263 00:16:36,160 --> 00:16:41,280 Speaker 1: wrong and how did you get out of it? Story 264 00:16:43,320 --> 00:16:48,600 Speaker 1: Once upon a time not long ago. Yeah, um, yeah, 265 00:16:48,880 --> 00:16:53,600 Speaker 1: so I switched phones. My phone die and so that's 266 00:16:53,600 --> 00:16:57,120 Speaker 1: my thing. I'm still talking to that. Um. So, yeah, 267 00:16:57,120 --> 00:17:00,240 Speaker 1: I switched phones because my phone had died or some thing. 268 00:17:00,240 --> 00:17:04,080 Speaker 1: And so, um my husband's in kind of like the 269 00:17:04,119 --> 00:17:07,399 Speaker 1: computer field, so he's he's savvy on that. So I 270 00:17:07,480 --> 00:17:11,280 Speaker 1: went to Atlanta and met up with an old friend 271 00:17:11,680 --> 00:17:16,120 Speaker 1: and apparently I was did not disable my message your account, 272 00:17:16,680 --> 00:17:19,199 Speaker 1: and so my husband was able to see all of 273 00:17:19,200 --> 00:17:22,440 Speaker 1: my messages and so I get to call it my hotel, 274 00:17:23,200 --> 00:17:27,680 Speaker 1: Like did you Funa whoa what we're talking about? And 275 00:17:28,000 --> 00:17:30,120 Speaker 1: you know, I've been doing this long enough that when 276 00:17:30,119 --> 00:17:32,520 Speaker 1: you started asking specific questions, you know, some ships, so 277 00:17:32,520 --> 00:17:38,840 Speaker 1: I can't not and so, um, pretty much, yeah, he 278 00:17:38,840 --> 00:17:41,000 Speaker 1: he found out about it. He knew he read all 279 00:17:41,000 --> 00:17:43,399 Speaker 1: the text text messages from the fact that, you know, 280 00:17:43,760 --> 00:17:46,280 Speaker 1: the guy was all in my good night before and 281 00:17:46,359 --> 00:17:49,360 Speaker 1: how store I was, and he read every day detail. 282 00:17:50,240 --> 00:17:53,439 Speaker 1: And um, that was to get out of it. I 283 00:17:53,440 --> 00:17:55,119 Speaker 1: don't think it's gonna get out of it because I 284 00:17:55,119 --> 00:17:59,400 Speaker 1: still think that he's hurt to this day. But um, 285 00:17:59,480 --> 00:18:03,520 Speaker 1: that was probably about two years ago. Did you did 286 00:18:03,560 --> 00:18:07,600 Speaker 1: you from around? To be honest with you, he's been 287 00:18:07,640 --> 00:18:13,399 Speaker 1: around for about four of my affairs. No wait wait 288 00:18:13,560 --> 00:18:17,359 Speaker 1: what the side? The side nigga been around? No, my 289 00:18:17,480 --> 00:18:20,960 Speaker 1: husband has stayed after learned about four different affairs. And 290 00:18:21,320 --> 00:18:24,880 Speaker 1: how many affairs have you learned about? Um? None? Oh 291 00:18:24,920 --> 00:18:30,800 Speaker 1: you're the nigger? Yeah, yeah, that's name. Yeah, I'm sorry 292 00:18:30,800 --> 00:18:38,400 Speaker 1: to ask this, but what what is your husband's dick like? Um, 293 00:18:37,359 --> 00:18:46,119 Speaker 1: it's medium, it's the shp It's it's medium shrimpish, you know. 294 00:18:46,680 --> 00:18:50,199 Speaker 1: But yeah, so it's medium shrimpish. But at the end 295 00:18:50,240 --> 00:18:52,680 Speaker 1: of the day, I think that was not a gil 296 00:18:52,760 --> 00:18:55,320 Speaker 1: breaker because I know I had a game provider. Like, 297 00:18:55,440 --> 00:18:58,240 Speaker 1: he's a great husband, he's a great kid, um, you know, 298 00:18:58,600 --> 00:19:02,080 Speaker 1: great father to the kids. Um. So it was like 299 00:19:02,880 --> 00:19:05,880 Speaker 1: I've had worse, but also didn't have all these other 300 00:19:05,960 --> 00:19:09,760 Speaker 1: plusses with Okay, so we're talking about so he has 301 00:19:09,840 --> 00:19:12,720 Speaker 1: the eighty and you're you've been going out to complete 302 00:19:12,720 --> 00:19:16,800 Speaker 1: your happiness trying to find this twenty right damn it man. 303 00:19:16,880 --> 00:19:19,000 Speaker 1: So now women who like some women like you know 304 00:19:19,240 --> 00:19:20,800 Speaker 1: you asked him like, hey, can you live with a 305 00:19:20,840 --> 00:19:22,480 Speaker 1: man with bad sex? Could you be with a man 306 00:19:22,480 --> 00:19:25,479 Speaker 1: with bad sex? Women always say yes, but it's obviously 307 00:19:25,520 --> 00:19:29,120 Speaker 1: a lie. You're gonna eventually cheat, right, Yeah, I think 308 00:19:29,280 --> 00:19:31,800 Speaker 1: I believe it's if it doesn't if you don't do 309 00:19:31,800 --> 00:19:33,399 Speaker 1: what I think it's gonna be, it's definitely gonna be 310 00:19:33,520 --> 00:19:40,600 Speaker 1: close to you doing it. This is stacy now for me, 311 00:19:41,600 --> 00:19:46,080 Speaker 1: I have not cheated at all. All the reason why 312 00:19:47,400 --> 00:19:59,320 Speaker 1: it's like I really times I'll be reading about me 313 00:20:00,080 --> 00:20:05,120 Speaker 1: because I think with me and my husband, like I said, 314 00:20:05,119 --> 00:20:08,680 Speaker 1: we've been married for seven years and we've known each 315 00:20:08,680 --> 00:20:12,399 Speaker 1: other for a little bit of time. Matter of fact, 316 00:20:13,440 --> 00:20:19,080 Speaker 1: he he we started dating because I was sucking his 317 00:20:19,200 --> 00:20:24,879 Speaker 1: best friend and what his myst friend. RCA went and 318 00:20:24,920 --> 00:20:29,800 Speaker 1: told him about me, about what we were doing, and 319 00:20:29,840 --> 00:20:32,000 Speaker 1: he told him. He was like, you know, y'all, needuld 320 00:20:32,040 --> 00:20:35,159 Speaker 1: be together because we like crazy bitches and she crazy. 321 00:20:36,000 --> 00:20:39,840 Speaker 1: And so after that he started presuminging. So when we 322 00:20:39,920 --> 00:20:43,280 Speaker 1: started dating, you know, I was I always you know, 323 00:20:43,680 --> 00:20:45,760 Speaker 1: it was a little stand office because I'm like, you know, 324 00:20:45,760 --> 00:20:47,560 Speaker 1: I don't want to come between your best friend. But 325 00:20:47,800 --> 00:20:49,959 Speaker 1: clearly he wanted me that bad because he was like, 326 00:20:50,040 --> 00:20:53,880 Speaker 1: he doesn't matter about the best friend. But even though 327 00:20:53,880 --> 00:20:56,600 Speaker 1: we've been married, you know for seven years, I think 328 00:20:56,640 --> 00:21:00,159 Speaker 1: there's between us. We don't trust each other and up 329 00:21:01,040 --> 00:21:03,119 Speaker 1: because I don't trust to say, as far as he 330 00:21:03,200 --> 00:21:05,600 Speaker 1: can throw you know, he don't trust me as far 331 00:21:05,640 --> 00:21:07,400 Speaker 1: as he can. But you're not cheating on each other. 332 00:21:08,359 --> 00:21:12,680 Speaker 1: So why why is the trust only as far as 333 00:21:12,680 --> 00:21:15,280 Speaker 1: you can throw me? I guess you know, well, my 334 00:21:15,359 --> 00:21:18,720 Speaker 1: opinion is is probably because how he acquired you, maybe 335 00:21:19,040 --> 00:21:22,800 Speaker 1: how he acquired me, and because I know I know 336 00:21:22,880 --> 00:21:26,760 Speaker 1: firsthand his past. You know, it's it's different when you 337 00:21:26,880 --> 00:21:31,639 Speaker 1: marry someone, um you know that nobody knows about you know, 338 00:21:31,800 --> 00:21:35,399 Speaker 1: where we're from is very small here, So I probably 339 00:21:35,440 --> 00:21:38,560 Speaker 1: know about five or six girls that he's spoke and 340 00:21:38,640 --> 00:21:41,640 Speaker 1: their friends we can not really friends, but associated with me, 341 00:21:41,920 --> 00:21:44,920 Speaker 1: you know. And I mean I'm sure he he thinks 342 00:21:44,920 --> 00:21:47,080 Speaker 1: he knows about what I've done in the past, but 343 00:21:47,240 --> 00:21:49,600 Speaker 1: you don't really know. You really really don't know what 344 00:21:49,680 --> 00:21:52,720 Speaker 1: we probably would have married. Yeah, I think sometimes men 345 00:21:52,840 --> 00:21:54,920 Speaker 1: find comfort and knowing. Like you said, just y'all from 346 00:21:54,920 --> 00:21:56,960 Speaker 1: a small time town. So he can find out about 347 00:21:57,000 --> 00:21:58,720 Speaker 1: you if he needed to, if he wanted to, and 348 00:21:58,720 --> 00:22:03,400 Speaker 1: he probably has. So he probably may not say anything, 349 00:22:03,440 --> 00:22:06,119 Speaker 1: but he probably knows some ship. Why because the means 350 00:22:06,200 --> 00:22:09,000 Speaker 1: like trust. I don't trust no fucking body. I have 351 00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:11,800 Speaker 1: faith that people do do the right thing. That doesn't 352 00:22:11,920 --> 00:22:15,080 Speaker 1: necessarily just for my lover, but just people in general. 353 00:22:16,720 --> 00:22:20,520 Speaker 1: And see, I think with us, it's like, um My 354 00:22:20,720 --> 00:22:24,239 Speaker 1: Musban likes the floss, he likes really nice things, you know, 355 00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:27,760 Speaker 1: he likes, he takes joy. And now I'm saying, Okay, 356 00:22:27,800 --> 00:22:29,639 Speaker 1: I can do this for my wife. I've give him 357 00:22:29,680 --> 00:22:31,960 Speaker 1: my wife this, I can do this that the third 358 00:22:32,320 --> 00:22:34,479 Speaker 1: and plus when a lot of people see us together, 359 00:22:34,600 --> 00:22:36,880 Speaker 1: like damn, how do y'all you know together? I mean, 360 00:22:36,880 --> 00:22:39,280 Speaker 1: he's not a bad thing guy at all. But I 361 00:22:39,320 --> 00:22:44,919 Speaker 1: mean I'm pretty straight, you know. So they as like, well, 362 00:22:44,960 --> 00:22:47,080 Speaker 1: how do you end up with her? So I think 363 00:22:47,359 --> 00:22:50,199 Speaker 1: I'm just one of those nice things that he's acquired, 364 00:22:51,200 --> 00:22:53,600 Speaker 1: and you know, therefore he'll do whatever he has to 365 00:22:53,600 --> 00:22:56,200 Speaker 1: do in order to keep me happy and keep me here. 366 00:22:56,680 --> 00:22:58,919 Speaker 1: And I think the same thing with mine. Mine is 367 00:22:59,160 --> 00:23:03,440 Speaker 1: very not flossy to himself, not somebody that's on social 368 00:23:03,480 --> 00:23:05,639 Speaker 1: media like that. Don't want people in this business is 369 00:23:05,760 --> 00:23:09,719 Speaker 1: marriage country country boy, And here I am coming from Jersey. 370 00:23:09,800 --> 00:23:13,159 Speaker 1: When I live down here, um a city like Nade 371 00:23:13,320 --> 00:23:16,159 Speaker 1: country boy, that didn't work, you know, So I like 372 00:23:16,240 --> 00:23:18,320 Speaker 1: the attention. I like, you know, if I walk into 373 00:23:18,320 --> 00:23:20,760 Speaker 1: a room, I'm I'm only got that room, not about 374 00:23:20,760 --> 00:23:26,119 Speaker 1: fifteen twenty people. So being that he's so quiet and 375 00:23:26,160 --> 00:23:29,600 Speaker 1: prison just to himself, we didn't Nash, you know, But 376 00:23:30,840 --> 00:23:37,000 Speaker 1: eighteen years later, here we are basically yeah. Yeah, and 377 00:23:37,080 --> 00:23:39,520 Speaker 1: it works sometimes, you know, but also when you get 378 00:23:39,520 --> 00:23:42,960 Speaker 1: to other categories like sets, intimacy and things like that, 379 00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:45,760 Speaker 1: it doesn't work. It works when we're paying deals, it 380 00:23:45,800 --> 00:23:48,480 Speaker 1: works more discipline these kids. It works when we're trying 381 00:23:48,480 --> 00:23:51,320 Speaker 1: to be empires and things like that. But it doesn't 382 00:23:51,320 --> 00:23:54,959 Speaker 1: work in all areas with that union game. So it's okay. 383 00:23:54,960 --> 00:23:57,320 Speaker 1: So have y'all had because we've we've had episodes about 384 00:23:57,400 --> 00:23:59,880 Speaker 1: open relationships. We actually had a guy on who has 385 00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:04,479 Speaker 1: been an open marriage for open relationship for five years. 386 00:24:04,640 --> 00:24:07,840 Speaker 1: Have y'all ever had a discussion with your husband's like, hey, 387 00:24:08,119 --> 00:24:10,199 Speaker 1: we should just be in an open marriage. Like, I 388 00:24:10,280 --> 00:24:11,919 Speaker 1: love you, I want to spend the rest of my 389 00:24:11,960 --> 00:24:15,920 Speaker 1: life with you, but sometimes I want to experience other people. Yeah, 390 00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:18,919 Speaker 1: I have, because you know, you know, you realize my 391 00:24:19,040 --> 00:24:23,480 Speaker 1: track record is something wrong. Yeah this is teacher apparently 392 00:24:23,560 --> 00:24:27,520 Speaker 1: something about working and so yeah, I did I get 393 00:24:27,560 --> 00:24:30,760 Speaker 1: approaching with that and once again being that old school 394 00:24:31,119 --> 00:24:34,600 Speaker 1: country boy, No, we're not having that at all, you know. 395 00:24:34,720 --> 00:24:38,400 Speaker 1: And I'm like, well, we're gonna keep following the same 396 00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:41,560 Speaker 1: path because apparently you're not the most to me. You 397 00:24:41,680 --> 00:24:44,359 Speaker 1: like to keep this trophy wife. But at the same time, 398 00:24:44,400 --> 00:24:46,600 Speaker 1: you know, I have needs, you know, you know, because 399 00:24:46,640 --> 00:24:52,760 Speaker 1: even to this day, I have a twenty twenty three 400 00:24:52,880 --> 00:24:56,080 Speaker 1: year old dope boy right now, um, and I am 401 00:24:56,160 --> 00:25:00,439 Speaker 1: like in my forties, and so it's like, I, you know, 402 00:25:00,480 --> 00:25:06,320 Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know sor right when you 403 00:25:03,600 --> 00:25:13,560 Speaker 1: laugh and I'm drinking that possibly goes over here. I'm 404 00:25:16,880 --> 00:25:19,080 Speaker 1: so all right, all right when you're you said your 405 00:25:19,160 --> 00:25:22,399 Speaker 1: husband has found out four different occasions you're not really 406 00:25:22,440 --> 00:25:24,360 Speaker 1: good at how your ship. I just want to say 407 00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:31,480 Speaker 1: that you shouldn't. That's part for but yeah, more times. Okay, 408 00:25:32,680 --> 00:25:35,680 Speaker 1: that what you have to think about. It's been through 409 00:25:35,760 --> 00:25:39,360 Speaker 1: the duration of um twenty years plus known each other. 410 00:25:39,520 --> 00:25:42,479 Speaker 1: So some of those things were before we got married, 411 00:25:42,520 --> 00:25:44,879 Speaker 1: got together, things like that. So I mean some of 412 00:25:44,920 --> 00:25:47,359 Speaker 1: the things we would have times we're here, let's start fresh, 413 00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:49,600 Speaker 1: let's go in and see what we've done, let's talk 414 00:25:49,640 --> 00:25:52,600 Speaker 1: about stuff or whatever, that kind of thing. So, um, no, 415 00:25:52,920 --> 00:25:56,159 Speaker 1: I'm good. The only thing about getting caught was that 416 00:25:56,160 --> 00:26:00,800 Speaker 1: phone situation. But the other times it more like before 417 00:26:00,840 --> 00:26:03,680 Speaker 1: we really got good into our marriage. You know that 418 00:26:03,840 --> 00:26:06,920 Speaker 1: it was more or less before we got married, when 419 00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:11,359 Speaker 1: we were college things like that. Tica. Did you ever 420 00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:20,000 Speaker 1: have fear of losing your husband? No, that's yeah, yeah, 421 00:26:20,040 --> 00:26:22,800 Speaker 1: and you know what I used to. But I actually 422 00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:26,200 Speaker 1: think that I don't know if marriage materials for me, 423 00:26:26,520 --> 00:26:28,880 Speaker 1: you know, being marriage is for me. But I think 424 00:26:28,920 --> 00:26:33,480 Speaker 1: I stayed because I came from um a household where 425 00:26:33,560 --> 00:26:36,320 Speaker 1: it was a single bomb trying to raise kids, and 426 00:26:36,400 --> 00:26:38,400 Speaker 1: I see it that game to me and my siblings, 427 00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:41,200 Speaker 1: and so I think I stayed more for the children. 428 00:26:41,680 --> 00:26:46,920 Speaker 1: To be honest, I think I did. You know, if 429 00:26:46,920 --> 00:26:49,159 Speaker 1: you could hear this, he'll slap your heads between the 430 00:26:49,160 --> 00:26:51,360 Speaker 1: way I told you can come get slipping with y'all. 431 00:26:56,240 --> 00:26:58,440 Speaker 1: Same way. Though, this is the only thing like when 432 00:26:58,440 --> 00:27:00,640 Speaker 1: a woman says, it's like so on, but these men 433 00:27:00,680 --> 00:27:06,080 Speaker 1: are feeling the same exactly. Yeah, they just they kind 434 00:27:06,080 --> 00:27:07,600 Speaker 1: of put us on a pedestal. You know, I asked 435 00:27:07,600 --> 00:27:09,280 Speaker 1: my fiance, they don't put me on a pedestal. And 436 00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:11,679 Speaker 1: that's not saying like, don't think highly of me, but 437 00:27:11,880 --> 00:27:14,600 Speaker 1: don't think that I'm supposed to be just this perfect 438 00:27:14,640 --> 00:27:17,760 Speaker 1: person because you aren't, right and I'm you know, I'm 439 00:27:17,800 --> 00:27:21,679 Speaker 1: not perfect. I'm gonna fall short. But for whatever reason, 440 00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:24,159 Speaker 1: like men pet women put women on this pedestal, I 441 00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:29,280 Speaker 1: guess we probably contribute to that because we lie, you 442 00:27:29,320 --> 00:27:34,479 Speaker 1: know what I'm like, We don't tell people everything a 443 00:27:34,480 --> 00:27:36,560 Speaker 1: lot of times, you know what I'm saying. So I'm 444 00:27:36,600 --> 00:27:41,840 Speaker 1: a really honest person. Why I well, no, I'm on 445 00:27:41,920 --> 00:27:43,760 Speaker 1: this person right, So I like to be able to 446 00:27:43,760 --> 00:27:46,480 Speaker 1: tell people exactly who I am, right, But then sometimes 447 00:27:46,480 --> 00:27:50,000 Speaker 1: some men are used that against you, like some women 448 00:27:50,080 --> 00:27:52,240 Speaker 1: just like, oh, I'm you know I have only been 449 00:27:52,240 --> 00:27:54,119 Speaker 1: with two people, But that's a fucking lie, like you 450 00:27:54,160 --> 00:27:58,800 Speaker 1: know what exactly exactly why lie? And then when you 451 00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:00,960 Speaker 1: when a man comes to me, is like, I'm not 452 00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:02,639 Speaker 1: a liar. I'm gonna tell you what it is and 453 00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:04,440 Speaker 1: then you're gonna do it in my face and your 454 00:28:04,480 --> 00:28:10,879 Speaker 1: parents to Now this is Stacy talking. I learned this 455 00:28:11,080 --> 00:28:14,280 Speaker 1: from my being married the first time. You know, you 456 00:28:14,400 --> 00:28:18,919 Speaker 1: try to be open honest things like that, and um 457 00:28:18,960 --> 00:28:21,879 Speaker 1: that will always come about you and ass So the 458 00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:25,320 Speaker 1: second term around, it's not that I lie at all 459 00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:27,840 Speaker 1: as far as things like you know how many people 460 00:28:27,840 --> 00:28:29,280 Speaker 1: are being with or whatever, because I mean if I 461 00:28:29,400 --> 00:28:31,399 Speaker 1: tried to lie about that, I was gonna give me 462 00:28:31,440 --> 00:28:36,240 Speaker 1: the side out like I know, I know, damn well, 463 00:28:36,359 --> 00:28:39,320 Speaker 1: I see you out so I know. But you know, 464 00:28:39,800 --> 00:28:42,720 Speaker 1: like I mean, the things that I feel that we 465 00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:48,000 Speaker 1: lie aboll is married women. It's like, you know, like 466 00:28:48,080 --> 00:28:51,080 Speaker 1: I've heard on this on the should before when um 467 00:28:51,080 --> 00:28:54,560 Speaker 1: Tam Bawn said, you know you sleep with the guys 468 00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:57,080 Speaker 1: like five minutes or whatever. He feels like he just 469 00:28:57,160 --> 00:29:00,160 Speaker 1: knocked it out the part. You know, as a single woman, 470 00:29:00,440 --> 00:29:04,440 Speaker 1: you're not apt to say you know that ship was barby, 471 00:29:04,800 --> 00:29:08,080 Speaker 1: you know, as a married room, your spirit, those feelings, 472 00:29:08,440 --> 00:29:11,520 Speaker 1: you're like, oh that's great, waiting for the fall asleep 473 00:29:11,520 --> 00:29:13,080 Speaker 1: and you need to pull out your toy, do what 474 00:29:13,120 --> 00:29:15,840 Speaker 1: you gotta do or what you're gonna work the next day. 475 00:29:16,160 --> 00:29:18,760 Speaker 1: Oh gosh, I just I'm still feeling. I'm on age. 476 00:29:18,800 --> 00:29:21,160 Speaker 1: So you gotta go in and just help, you know, 477 00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:24,880 Speaker 1: relieve yourself, you know, because you just try to spare 478 00:29:24,920 --> 00:29:27,440 Speaker 1: feeling and just try to keep the home happy. You know. 479 00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:32,360 Speaker 1: In my case, you know, if I'd rather not purchase 480 00:29:32,440 --> 00:29:34,200 Speaker 1: give us because I know the ship. Even though he 481 00:29:34,280 --> 00:29:37,560 Speaker 1: may he may act like he's taking the constructive criticism, 482 00:29:37,600 --> 00:29:40,600 Speaker 1: but that ship's gonna through with his ego for months 483 00:29:40,600 --> 00:29:42,600 Speaker 1: and months to come. Yeah, and they can be honest 484 00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:44,520 Speaker 1: with us, like my man can tell me like I 485 00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:47,560 Speaker 1: don't then had all these three sims out of your 486 00:29:47,560 --> 00:29:49,480 Speaker 1: cousin as long as you ain't sucking them right now, 487 00:29:49,520 --> 00:29:53,480 Speaker 1: I really don't give a fun. But you can't tell 488 00:29:53,560 --> 00:29:58,040 Speaker 1: him about anything anything you've done. Um, you can't tell 489 00:29:58,120 --> 00:30:00,440 Speaker 1: him about any man. You know, I'm fun like it's 490 00:30:00,480 --> 00:30:03,320 Speaker 1: gonna come up. So basically, okay, I'm engaged, I'm not 491 00:30:03,360 --> 00:30:06,160 Speaker 1: married yet, So basically with y'all bitches, y'all married bitches 492 00:30:06,200 --> 00:30:10,240 Speaker 1: is telling me to lie. Well, I don't think it's PA's. 493 00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:14,200 Speaker 1: It's probably about keep the feast, because once you get married, 494 00:30:14,560 --> 00:30:16,760 Speaker 1: you gotta think about it. People are in it for 495 00:30:16,960 --> 00:30:20,640 Speaker 1: the long run from forever. So do you want to 496 00:30:20,680 --> 00:30:23,760 Speaker 1: bruce his ego and chip away at his ego or 497 00:30:23,880 --> 00:30:28,920 Speaker 1: his heart every year that you're married because you're too honest? 498 00:30:29,720 --> 00:30:32,320 Speaker 1: Is it that women's hearts are stronger than men? Then? 499 00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:34,479 Speaker 1: Because you can tell me anything and it's not going 500 00:30:34,520 --> 00:30:36,800 Speaker 1: to bother me to the point to where I'm not 501 00:30:36,800 --> 00:30:38,640 Speaker 1: gonna let you sleep at night. I'm gonna bring it 502 00:30:38,720 --> 00:30:41,880 Speaker 1: up every other day. It takes too much energy had 503 00:30:41,920 --> 00:30:44,240 Speaker 1: to be to be mad about it. I think that 504 00:30:44,320 --> 00:30:47,280 Speaker 1: women have always been stronger. But I also will say, 505 00:30:47,480 --> 00:30:50,680 Speaker 1: once you get married and do two years in, let's 506 00:30:50,720 --> 00:30:53,520 Speaker 1: have this conversation again, because that strong heart that I 507 00:30:53,680 --> 00:30:56,120 Speaker 1: was as a single woman is not the same heart 508 00:30:56,200 --> 00:30:58,560 Speaker 1: that has as a married woman. Because when you start 509 00:30:58,600 --> 00:31:03,040 Speaker 1: having your children, when you start having you know, married 510 00:31:03,080 --> 00:31:06,920 Speaker 1: life careers, all that you change it's not the same 511 00:31:07,000 --> 00:31:10,040 Speaker 1: single life, because I swear I wouldn't have to have 512 00:31:10,120 --> 00:31:12,840 Speaker 1: him feel like I was single. Everything, Like, hey, I 513 00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:14,719 Speaker 1: gonna move on to the next one. But when you 514 00:31:14,840 --> 00:31:16,680 Speaker 1: are in for the long run and you have other 515 00:31:16,720 --> 00:31:19,680 Speaker 1: people looking up to you or waiting or expecting or 516 00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:22,960 Speaker 1: in the result, you change a little bit. So yeah, 517 00:31:23,120 --> 00:31:26,080 Speaker 1: let's but we'll have this conversation after you get married, um, 518 00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:27,960 Speaker 1: and then see if it's that same heart and the 519 00:31:28,080 --> 00:31:32,320 Speaker 1: same honesty driven. Um, you know you're choose, You'll choose 520 00:31:32,400 --> 00:31:35,040 Speaker 1: your battles. You're just like, okay, this shi even worth 521 00:31:35,640 --> 00:31:37,800 Speaker 1: you know, and acting like a little bit because trust me, 522 00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:41,800 Speaker 1: you tell them and you hurt their feelings. It's different world. 523 00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:46,040 Speaker 1: They'll never let you forget it. They're like they'll dwell 524 00:31:46,160 --> 00:31:50,680 Speaker 1: on that ship forever. You're saying you're going out somewhere, 525 00:31:50,720 --> 00:31:53,080 Speaker 1: and you didn't told him something that I already can't 526 00:31:53,080 --> 00:31:58,760 Speaker 1: go to Walmart. So hey, look, I'm at a whole 527 00:31:58,840 --> 00:32:02,240 Speaker 1: nigger house. When I'm at a Mark and I literally 528 00:32:02,280 --> 00:32:06,160 Speaker 1: being t J Max for two hours sometimes obviously I 529 00:32:06,200 --> 00:32:08,400 Speaker 1: was sucking dicking them to hours and I didn't even 530 00:32:08,400 --> 00:32:14,680 Speaker 1: know that all. Yeah, so don't come on tired because 531 00:32:14,680 --> 00:32:19,640 Speaker 1: if you come on time, damn what the fuck? So 532 00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:22,680 Speaker 1: y'all really don't think y'all men fucking anybody else. I 533 00:32:22,720 --> 00:32:26,000 Speaker 1: honestly feel like side, really feel like they both they 534 00:32:26,160 --> 00:32:31,400 Speaker 1: definitely be. They gotta be. It's no way especially um no, 535 00:32:31,800 --> 00:32:34,320 Speaker 1: I promise. And when I tell you that, I wouldn't 536 00:32:34,320 --> 00:32:36,600 Speaker 1: even be surprised or hurt because I've been like, yeah, 537 00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:40,680 Speaker 1: I deserve. I'm just waiting for it, and I think 538 00:32:40,720 --> 00:32:42,680 Speaker 1: I'm getting it through my kids acting up, but I'm 539 00:32:42,680 --> 00:32:45,160 Speaker 1: not getting it through him. Like we have this app 540 00:32:45,200 --> 00:32:46,960 Speaker 1: for our kids and we can keep up with them 541 00:32:47,000 --> 00:32:49,080 Speaker 1: and we're all on the app. I don't don't have 542 00:32:49,120 --> 00:32:51,000 Speaker 1: got damn app because I know I don't know what 543 00:32:51,080 --> 00:32:53,280 Speaker 1: I'm adventure out. So I don't want to be at 544 00:32:54,680 --> 00:32:58,160 Speaker 1: My ex boyfriend is in prison, right, my ex boyfriend. 545 00:32:58,240 --> 00:33:01,320 Speaker 1: I never was thinking he was eating, but this nigga 546 00:33:01,480 --> 00:33:04,240 Speaker 1: like was literally fucking bitches five o'clock in the morning. 547 00:33:04,280 --> 00:33:06,520 Speaker 1: So pussy is open at five am, they's supposed to 548 00:33:06,520 --> 00:33:09,560 Speaker 1: be getting fucked. I didn't realize this ship was that 549 00:33:09,640 --> 00:33:11,720 Speaker 1: deep until like he's in prison now, right, so now 550 00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:13,360 Speaker 1: he has a whole kid out here at the same 551 00:33:13,400 --> 00:33:15,720 Speaker 1: age as how long he's been in jail, So you 552 00:33:15,800 --> 00:33:19,480 Speaker 1: were cheating. But I didn't know you were cheating because 553 00:33:20,160 --> 00:33:22,280 Speaker 1: of how he moved like he literally was always in 554 00:33:22,280 --> 00:33:25,080 Speaker 1: the house. But the thing about it, and you know 555 00:33:25,240 --> 00:33:29,000 Speaker 1: every situation right with mine, I'm talking to you several 556 00:33:29,000 --> 00:33:31,720 Speaker 1: times during the day because it's something that on house related. 557 00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:35,520 Speaker 1: When you get off, you're calling me. Um. With that app, 558 00:33:35,600 --> 00:33:38,120 Speaker 1: I'm seeing where you're app and then you pull up 559 00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:40,400 Speaker 1: the same time each day and that is seven days 560 00:33:40,400 --> 00:33:43,200 Speaker 1: a week. So you got your nigga on the app, 561 00:33:43,240 --> 00:33:48,040 Speaker 1: but you on the app. Yeah, I refused him, but 562 00:33:48,080 --> 00:33:50,239 Speaker 1: I used the excuse that I told my kids, I'm 563 00:33:50,280 --> 00:33:52,240 Speaker 1: not being on the app seat I can't catch y'all 564 00:33:52,280 --> 00:33:54,040 Speaker 1: because I want y'all. I want to sneak up on 565 00:33:54,120 --> 00:33:56,080 Speaker 1: y'all because I want to make sure y'all doing right. 566 00:33:56,440 --> 00:33:58,960 Speaker 1: So I'm not on the app though. You real slick 567 00:33:59,080 --> 00:34:03,280 Speaker 1: T think you got a big dick. Okay, got a 568 00:34:03,280 --> 00:34:11,880 Speaker 1: big y. She gotta check all right in your relationship? 569 00:34:11,920 --> 00:34:14,000 Speaker 1: Are you the alpha and he's definitely the beta male? 570 00:34:14,160 --> 00:34:15,920 Speaker 1: Is he a beta mail or would you consider him 571 00:34:15,960 --> 00:34:21,080 Speaker 1: an alpha male? He's a beta male? What about you, Stacy? 572 00:34:22,360 --> 00:34:27,040 Speaker 1: My husband, Um, I let him in the alpha. I 573 00:34:27,200 --> 00:34:30,239 Speaker 1: let him feel like this is idea, Oh so she 574 00:34:30,280 --> 00:34:34,840 Speaker 1: didn't just that if I want something, I'm knocking the 575 00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:38,759 Speaker 1: let up. So if I wanted, I'm gonna keep and 576 00:34:38,760 --> 00:34:40,479 Speaker 1: if you're telling me you're gonna do it, I'm gonna 577 00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:42,799 Speaker 1: hold your ass to it, you know. So I let 578 00:34:42,880 --> 00:34:44,960 Speaker 1: him be the man. You know, I knew that if 579 00:34:44,960 --> 00:34:47,640 Speaker 1: I if I want to take control, I can. But 580 00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:50,880 Speaker 1: because of the position that I played, you know, I 581 00:34:50,920 --> 00:34:53,840 Speaker 1: allowed him to. It makes him feel good to say, Okay, 582 00:34:53,840 --> 00:34:56,600 Speaker 1: I'll pay you all the deals. I'm like, that's great, 583 00:34:56,760 --> 00:34:58,360 Speaker 1: you know gold to dude, you gotta do. But I 584 00:34:58,440 --> 00:35:01,600 Speaker 1: know if I had to good, But you know, it's 585 00:35:01,640 --> 00:35:03,840 Speaker 1: just I just sit back and let him do what 586 00:35:03,880 --> 00:35:07,279 Speaker 1: he do. You know, I feel good with allowing me 587 00:35:07,400 --> 00:35:09,759 Speaker 1: to have the alpha role. I don't want to be 588 00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:14,359 Speaker 1: the head bach in charge. I really don't. It is. 589 00:35:14,400 --> 00:35:17,440 Speaker 1: It's very exhausted, and I guess my my alpha roll 590 00:35:17,520 --> 00:35:21,839 Speaker 1: comes in from more make sure, householders in order, kids online, 591 00:35:21,960 --> 00:35:24,879 Speaker 1: things like that. But from a financial aspect, I don't 592 00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:30,080 Speaker 1: have to pay anything. Everything's taking care of about him. 593 00:35:30,520 --> 00:35:33,000 Speaker 1: But because he's that keep the peace type person, he 594 00:35:33,080 --> 00:35:35,879 Speaker 1: really gonna argue when the kids try to jump bad 595 00:35:36,320 --> 00:35:37,960 Speaker 1: if you want to sit back and I argue, but 596 00:35:38,040 --> 00:35:40,359 Speaker 1: I'm really like, I'm trapping on my shoes, Like, Okay, 597 00:35:40,440 --> 00:35:42,439 Speaker 1: we want to fight, I'm gonna have a conversation. Kids 598 00:35:42,640 --> 00:35:45,000 Speaker 1: like don't you probably gonna do so he's that keep 599 00:35:45,040 --> 00:35:48,319 Speaker 1: the peace. But it's because we were raised different, and 600 00:35:48,360 --> 00:35:50,960 Speaker 1: you know, when you get to know him, I realized 601 00:35:51,120 --> 00:35:54,440 Speaker 1: our up room is different. I'm from the city he's from. 602 00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:56,320 Speaker 1: I introduced him to a lot of things that he 603 00:35:56,400 --> 00:35:59,440 Speaker 1: didn't have, Like they never really did a Christmas tree. 604 00:35:59,719 --> 00:36:03,120 Speaker 1: You know, We've traveled so many different places. I was 605 00:36:03,760 --> 00:36:06,120 Speaker 1: his first time ever on a plane, and so it 606 00:36:06,239 --> 00:36:08,880 Speaker 1: was just so many different things. I think that's what's 607 00:36:08,920 --> 00:36:12,680 Speaker 1: made his love for me really beat because I introduced 608 00:36:12,719 --> 00:36:14,319 Speaker 1: him to a lot of things he would have never 609 00:36:14,360 --> 00:36:16,600 Speaker 1: done before. So you got turned to go out the woods. 610 00:36:17,440 --> 00:36:25,160 Speaker 1: You're pretty much those be the best ways though some 611 00:36:25,320 --> 00:36:28,480 Speaker 1: day Yeah, until they started sucking their cousin or something. 612 00:36:32,360 --> 00:36:35,960 Speaker 1: You're his whole first cousin. Hey, look that's what they're 613 00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:44,040 Speaker 1: cheating with family. Yeah, that's my You're gonna see some 614 00:36:44,120 --> 00:36:49,680 Speaker 1: damn text messages in video footage of cousin think This 615 00:36:49,760 --> 00:36:53,880 Speaker 1: is stacy like um with me and my husband. You know, 616 00:36:53,960 --> 00:36:55,759 Speaker 1: we don't touch like some people like I know I 617 00:36:55,920 --> 00:36:58,680 Speaker 1: was called to his phone. You know, we don't touch 618 00:36:58,719 --> 00:37:02,120 Speaker 1: each other's phones. We don't. You know, there's a lot 619 00:37:02,160 --> 00:37:05,279 Speaker 1: of things not Sometimes it's like a double edged sword 620 00:37:05,320 --> 00:37:07,200 Speaker 1: because I don't know a lot of ship, you know, 621 00:37:07,280 --> 00:37:11,400 Speaker 1: not because I'm like you know, if I look for it, 622 00:37:11,440 --> 00:37:15,200 Speaker 1: then I'll find as you know, for him. You know, 623 00:37:15,280 --> 00:37:17,000 Speaker 1: I could be doing my own things this. They could 624 00:37:17,000 --> 00:37:19,360 Speaker 1: be on the phone all day long. You're don thinking 625 00:37:19,360 --> 00:37:21,640 Speaker 1: he's looking at TikTok and ship. But I come downstairs, 626 00:37:21,719 --> 00:37:23,719 Speaker 1: I looking over that shoulder, I'd be seeing fucking em. 627 00:37:26,160 --> 00:37:27,719 Speaker 1: But you know what, I don't even get because I 628 00:37:27,719 --> 00:37:30,480 Speaker 1: don't want you to ask for my phone, right and 629 00:37:30,640 --> 00:37:33,480 Speaker 1: look that's me all day long. Don't touch my phone. 630 00:37:33,480 --> 00:37:35,680 Speaker 1: I'm not touching yours because I'm not into her in 631 00:37:35,719 --> 00:37:38,279 Speaker 1: my own feelings. Yeah, and I'm good with that, you know, 632 00:37:39,719 --> 00:37:42,040 Speaker 1: just having our lives to do over and us having 633 00:37:42,040 --> 00:37:46,400 Speaker 1: our lives separate, you have to maintain some type of individuality. 634 00:37:47,000 --> 00:37:50,400 Speaker 1: Well yeah, definitely. Yeah, and this is shure. My phone 635 00:37:50,440 --> 00:37:55,200 Speaker 1: has locked on it and know I over at night. Yeah, 636 00:37:55,239 --> 00:37:58,440 Speaker 1: we're unlocking this phone. But I have his code, and 637 00:37:58,520 --> 00:38:00,600 Speaker 1: you know my kids have the code. Took my phone 638 00:38:00,600 --> 00:38:02,400 Speaker 1: in and the again, something was that happened to me, 639 00:38:02,560 --> 00:38:06,120 Speaker 1: But he doesn't have to hold to it. But now, 640 00:38:06,920 --> 00:38:09,640 Speaker 1: because like you said, I mean, I need something that's mine. 641 00:38:09,840 --> 00:38:12,560 Speaker 1: You know, if everything is open and joined and shared, 642 00:38:13,040 --> 00:38:14,759 Speaker 1: what is it that I have? You know, I don't 643 00:38:14,800 --> 00:38:19,879 Speaker 1: have anything. And I start feeling like you lose yourself, Yes, 644 00:38:20,239 --> 00:38:24,239 Speaker 1: you lose your identity. Yeah, so you're not even on 645 00:38:24,320 --> 00:38:31,920 Speaker 1: the same phone, man. And when I go with like 646 00:38:31,960 --> 00:38:33,560 Speaker 1: when I've had a couple of surgery, when I go 647 00:38:33,600 --> 00:38:37,600 Speaker 1: on with surgery, I said, my phone into surgery, I 648 00:38:37,680 --> 00:38:39,800 Speaker 1: have my home. Brother, Like, there's something happens to me. 649 00:38:39,920 --> 00:38:47,520 Speaker 1: Take the mother, smash it against break this long. I'll 650 00:38:47,560 --> 00:38:51,439 Speaker 1: be talking to others. I've experienced that though my one 651 00:38:51,440 --> 00:38:54,719 Speaker 1: of my cousins, her um long term. She was a 652 00:38:54,719 --> 00:38:57,320 Speaker 1: long term side bitch basically because this is somebody else's 653 00:38:57,360 --> 00:39:00,360 Speaker 1: husband that she was living with. They were living together. 654 00:39:00,520 --> 00:39:03,879 Speaker 1: This nigger had a heart attack and his phone was there, 655 00:39:03,960 --> 00:39:07,800 Speaker 1: like he died, and I literally watched her fucking face 656 00:39:07,920 --> 00:39:11,719 Speaker 1: her and like from sad to angry as fuck. While 657 00:39:12,480 --> 00:39:15,799 Speaker 1: this nigger was dead. I said, I don't want to 658 00:39:15,880 --> 00:39:20,640 Speaker 1: end up from having at getting cleanated, because all right, 659 00:39:21,920 --> 00:39:26,960 Speaker 1: put the bitch in the dirt, watched that bitch down 660 00:39:26,960 --> 00:39:33,399 Speaker 1: the saint. Nobody in the house, none of my ship. 661 00:39:33,440 --> 00:39:35,719 Speaker 1: He's gonna burn it all. Look, I tell you right now, 662 00:39:35,719 --> 00:39:38,920 Speaker 1: all my messages get deleted. I am not keeping anything. 663 00:39:39,120 --> 00:39:44,400 Speaker 1: Names have been changed to the anti flow Joyce keeping 664 00:39:44,440 --> 00:39:47,200 Speaker 1: nothing in there. Every message, every picture goes into a 665 00:39:47,239 --> 00:39:53,560 Speaker 1: special vault. No man him while plant emoji exactly. You know, 666 00:39:55,840 --> 00:40:00,239 Speaker 1: you know, trying to get with this new age. So 667 00:40:00,560 --> 00:40:03,000 Speaker 1: the three year old dope boy that you got on 668 00:40:03,040 --> 00:40:06,279 Speaker 1: the side, does he know that you're married or do 669 00:40:06,400 --> 00:40:11,160 Speaker 1: you like, how do you engage with these men outside? Like, yeah, yeah, 670 00:40:11,239 --> 00:40:14,520 Speaker 1: he knows that I'm married. He has his son's mother 671 00:40:14,600 --> 00:40:18,080 Speaker 1: who he's with, just because if they aren't. She's saying, 672 00:40:18,120 --> 00:40:19,920 Speaker 1: oh you won't see him, y'all have y'all to that 673 00:40:19,960 --> 00:40:22,560 Speaker 1: type thing. And I could care less about it because 674 00:40:22,600 --> 00:40:25,279 Speaker 1: you know, I have a house and the take care 675 00:40:25,320 --> 00:40:27,760 Speaker 1: of so it's more or less a fun thing whenever, 676 00:40:28,440 --> 00:40:31,799 Speaker 1: um we meet up. But you know one thing, like 677 00:40:31,920 --> 00:40:34,839 Speaker 1: I just had a conversation with him last night. I 678 00:40:34,880 --> 00:40:37,239 Speaker 1: told him, look, I got some street smarts to me. 679 00:40:37,280 --> 00:40:40,480 Speaker 1: I'm from Jersey, so don't play with me when it 680 00:40:40,520 --> 00:40:42,920 Speaker 1: comes to you trying to say, hey, I'll give you 681 00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:45,680 Speaker 1: twenty grand to leave, like I asked him that you 682 00:40:45,719 --> 00:40:48,600 Speaker 1: give me twenty graham, so you're coming with me, like 683 00:40:48,640 --> 00:40:51,200 Speaker 1: we're gonna be together. No, I'm still gonna be over here. 684 00:40:51,239 --> 00:40:53,120 Speaker 1: But then I ain't going nowhere because I could triple 685 00:40:53,160 --> 00:40:56,120 Speaker 1: that twenty grand stand over here where I'm at. So 686 00:40:56,320 --> 00:40:58,200 Speaker 1: you know, it's a matter of I think because he 687 00:40:58,239 --> 00:41:00,359 Speaker 1: thinks I'm older and he's young, and he's feel he's 688 00:41:00,360 --> 00:41:02,359 Speaker 1: gonna be able to get me. But I've been doing 689 00:41:02,360 --> 00:41:07,440 Speaker 1: this because I'm a nigga so exactly. And it's also 690 00:41:07,520 --> 00:41:10,600 Speaker 1: the unattainability that he's probably obsessed with, like trying to 691 00:41:10,640 --> 00:41:13,560 Speaker 1: get you, keep you man like he probably don't really 692 00:41:13,560 --> 00:41:15,400 Speaker 1: want you. It's only two niggas in this world. I 693 00:41:15,440 --> 00:41:18,239 Speaker 1: really want you, and that's a nigga who really loves 694 00:41:18,280 --> 00:41:25,520 Speaker 1: you and one who ain't suck it. And I told him, 695 00:41:25,560 --> 00:41:27,360 Speaker 1: I was like, look, I would risk it off. You 696 00:41:27,400 --> 00:41:29,160 Speaker 1: tell me he was gonna be with me a hundred percent. 697 00:41:29,320 --> 00:41:31,279 Speaker 1: You know I'm lying, But ship is sounded again in 698 00:41:31,280 --> 00:41:33,560 Speaker 1: the nest you know, in the next stage. But I'm like, look, 699 00:41:34,280 --> 00:41:36,760 Speaker 1: tell me you want me, I'll risk all that's fine, 700 00:41:37,080 --> 00:41:39,600 Speaker 1: and so I'll light you later. Yeah, I bet you 701 00:41:39,680 --> 00:41:42,040 Speaker 1: will because you're not And so I don't care how 702 00:41:42,120 --> 00:41:44,160 Speaker 1: much you want to throw this way. I'm not leaving 703 00:41:44,239 --> 00:41:46,920 Speaker 1: where I'm at when I have equity and I have 704 00:41:47,080 --> 00:41:53,799 Speaker 1: houses and we have cars and so, you know, it's 705 00:41:53,840 --> 00:41:55,640 Speaker 1: one of those things like yes we can play, we 706 00:41:55,719 --> 00:41:57,600 Speaker 1: can meet up and things like that, and yes, you 707 00:41:57,680 --> 00:42:00,680 Speaker 1: make me feel young because you are Austin telling me 708 00:42:00,719 --> 00:42:02,640 Speaker 1: I'm the most beautiful thing in the world. And when 709 00:42:02,680 --> 00:42:05,080 Speaker 1: I send you pictures, I get compidents from him, so 710 00:42:05,160 --> 00:42:07,759 Speaker 1: I don't get from my own household, you know. So 711 00:42:08,160 --> 00:42:11,000 Speaker 1: it feels good. But at the same time, I know 712 00:42:11,719 --> 00:42:17,120 Speaker 1: actually speaks out of the words and I'm stupid. Mm hmm, yeah, girl, 713 00:42:17,160 --> 00:42:21,959 Speaker 1: on leave your young niggas. They did me a little 714 00:42:22,000 --> 00:42:27,480 Speaker 1: tangy anyway, nobody got time to be packing the bag 715 00:42:27,600 --> 00:42:29,879 Speaker 1: lunch for no young niggas. You gotta take that dick 716 00:42:29,960 --> 00:42:34,239 Speaker 1: off and drop that dick off. All of them, all 717 00:42:34,320 --> 00:42:38,279 Speaker 1: about our husbands were young niggas too. You know. It 718 00:42:38,480 --> 00:42:40,879 Speaker 1: was different, is, you know, than what it is now. 719 00:42:41,400 --> 00:42:44,040 Speaker 1: You know, like in the beginning, everything was fresh hot, 720 00:42:44,200 --> 00:42:46,280 Speaker 1: you know, you just beating my bast out like nobody, 721 00:42:46,600 --> 00:42:48,759 Speaker 1: you know, like like you was working for a job 722 00:42:48,840 --> 00:42:51,320 Speaker 1: and I was like, okay, yeah, you got the position. 723 00:42:51,760 --> 00:42:54,040 Speaker 1: But then when they get older, all of young needs 724 00:42:54,120 --> 00:42:57,640 Speaker 1: turned over and they go through changes and there dick 725 00:42:57,719 --> 00:43:00,600 Speaker 1: don't get hard like it's used to ship. It changes. 726 00:43:01,480 --> 00:43:03,799 Speaker 1: That's where it's wives. We have to still make them 727 00:43:03,880 --> 00:43:14,000 Speaker 1: feel like it's still that young bull before reality it 728 00:43:14,200 --> 00:43:17,400 Speaker 1: is it is you know, I have that sex. It's 729 00:43:17,480 --> 00:43:22,560 Speaker 1: vacations or like we'll do staycations, We'll leave the kids 730 00:43:22,640 --> 00:43:25,239 Speaker 1: and trying to go, um you know, get a room 731 00:43:25,320 --> 00:43:27,080 Speaker 1: for a couple of days or whatever because they're old 732 00:43:27,200 --> 00:43:29,239 Speaker 1: enough to stay home and watch themselves. But that's the 733 00:43:29,320 --> 00:43:32,520 Speaker 1: best sex. And I think it's because you don't have 734 00:43:32,600 --> 00:43:34,720 Speaker 1: to think about the stresses of every day or whatever. 735 00:43:34,960 --> 00:43:37,360 Speaker 1: And so yeah, that's the best one. Now, So what 736 00:43:37,440 --> 00:43:39,120 Speaker 1: do you think y'all could do, like to make your 737 00:43:39,200 --> 00:43:41,680 Speaker 1: relationship is better with your husbands where you don't or 738 00:43:41,719 --> 00:43:43,279 Speaker 1: do you think this is just gonna be it? This 739 00:43:43,440 --> 00:43:45,000 Speaker 1: is just how your life is going to be. I know, 740 00:43:45,320 --> 00:43:51,919 Speaker 1: um Stacy. Stacy said she hadn't cheated no, not, because 741 00:43:51,960 --> 00:43:55,239 Speaker 1: I mean I've had some spectacular bit in my life. 742 00:43:56,080 --> 00:44:00,040 Speaker 1: So really, I mean for me, if I reach, it 743 00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:03,359 Speaker 1: would be more an emotional cheat. And once I go there, 744 00:44:03,360 --> 00:44:05,600 Speaker 1: I don't think that I can go back. So you know, 745 00:44:05,960 --> 00:44:08,759 Speaker 1: if I have a little bit stocking ego, that's the 746 00:44:08,840 --> 00:44:11,239 Speaker 1: beast I can do. But what I'm getting out of it, 747 00:44:11,760 --> 00:44:14,279 Speaker 1: you know, So I don't think that I would cheat 748 00:44:14,280 --> 00:44:17,640 Speaker 1: because if I cheat, I'm gone. So your sexual fulfillment 749 00:44:17,719 --> 00:44:19,759 Speaker 1: takes a back seat to everything else for the rest 750 00:44:19,800 --> 00:44:22,760 Speaker 1: of your life, for the rest of my life, because 751 00:44:22,760 --> 00:44:25,200 Speaker 1: I mean at times we get gremors of light here 752 00:44:25,239 --> 00:44:29,160 Speaker 1: and then you know it's not awful, right. But I 753 00:44:29,320 --> 00:44:33,120 Speaker 1: think really where my downfall was in the beginning is 754 00:44:33,200 --> 00:44:36,200 Speaker 1: that I didn't communicate as much as I needed to, 755 00:44:36,760 --> 00:44:39,759 Speaker 1: as far as telling him like that's you, you know, 756 00:44:40,200 --> 00:44:42,640 Speaker 1: so I would just need you know. But now that 757 00:44:42,719 --> 00:44:44,479 Speaker 1: I'm gonna go, oh, do you know how old people 758 00:44:44,520 --> 00:44:48,200 Speaker 1: say with something to see what's on my mind? Because 759 00:44:48,200 --> 00:44:49,680 Speaker 1: I mean, what you're gonna think you're gonna leave me 760 00:44:49,680 --> 00:44:52,759 Speaker 1: because I was working honest right right, Let's see, I 761 00:44:52,880 --> 00:44:54,680 Speaker 1: just want to be honest from the beginning because to me, 762 00:44:54,800 --> 00:44:57,200 Speaker 1: that's all the open relationship is like the open lines 763 00:44:57,239 --> 00:44:59,479 Speaker 1: of communication, Like I should be able to say something 764 00:44:59,560 --> 00:45:03,239 Speaker 1: to you what out having it come back in my face. Yeah, 765 00:45:03,440 --> 00:45:07,080 Speaker 1: you should, But it just really depends on the type 766 00:45:07,080 --> 00:45:09,000 Speaker 1: of man that you have. And it's okay because we 767 00:45:09,120 --> 00:45:12,360 Speaker 1: all we're supposed to change and evolved and things like that. 768 00:45:12,520 --> 00:45:15,040 Speaker 1: Our bodies change, you know, like I have to explain 769 00:45:15,120 --> 00:45:17,560 Speaker 1: to my husband before you know, you might haven't even 770 00:45:17,560 --> 00:45:19,759 Speaker 1: took my right TV and just roll over and put 771 00:45:19,840 --> 00:45:22,200 Speaker 1: it in just splitch flash. But now you know I'm 772 00:45:22,239 --> 00:45:24,439 Speaker 1: not a microwave. I'm over the crop part. You gotta 773 00:45:27,640 --> 00:45:30,320 Speaker 1: damn you get flowing. Wants to get flown good. But 774 00:45:30,880 --> 00:45:33,000 Speaker 1: you can't just think you just push on button and 775 00:45:33,160 --> 00:45:41,960 Speaker 1: she's right, pressure is yours in a microwave. Air Fryertle 776 00:45:41,960 --> 00:45:49,719 Speaker 1: air Fryer puts out right there, little christ and I 777 00:45:49,920 --> 00:45:52,160 Speaker 1: like the question. I'm not sure who asked it by saying, 778 00:45:52,480 --> 00:45:54,880 Speaker 1: you know, it's ours. Our sexual desire is going to 779 00:45:54,960 --> 00:45:58,799 Speaker 1: have to be that seat, you know, possibly it will 780 00:45:59,040 --> 00:46:01,400 Speaker 1: it possibly will be that seat. But at the end 781 00:46:01,440 --> 00:46:05,239 Speaker 1: of the day, if I was to give up the 782 00:46:05,400 --> 00:46:08,719 Speaker 1: eight for the twenty, would it be worth it? Because 783 00:46:08,760 --> 00:46:10,279 Speaker 1: if I have some money. You would just you know, 784 00:46:10,400 --> 00:46:12,640 Speaker 1: blow my back out every night. Am I gonna have 785 00:46:12,719 --> 00:46:15,759 Speaker 1: to worry that you're bringing me home STD, bringing on 786 00:46:15,880 --> 00:46:18,240 Speaker 1: another baby to care for? You know that kind of stuff. 787 00:46:18,360 --> 00:46:21,719 Speaker 1: So that's not having ship. Yeah, And so I think 788 00:46:21,840 --> 00:46:23,640 Speaker 1: at the end of the day, I think I'm okay 789 00:46:23,960 --> 00:46:27,320 Speaker 1: probably with um letting that stay back seat because I 790 00:46:27,480 --> 00:46:30,800 Speaker 1: know the AD is far greater than that. So you know, 791 00:46:30,880 --> 00:46:33,800 Speaker 1: I've been able to kind of sit back and you know, 792 00:46:33,960 --> 00:46:38,000 Speaker 1: talking with Casey and some other friends about business opportunities 793 00:46:38,040 --> 00:46:41,040 Speaker 1: and starting things because I'm trying to put my energy 794 00:46:41,360 --> 00:46:44,960 Speaker 1: of what's lacking there in my need for attention and 795 00:46:44,960 --> 00:46:47,319 Speaker 1: stuff like that into business moves, right, And now I've 796 00:46:47,320 --> 00:46:50,040 Speaker 1: been able to open up a couple we put it 797 00:46:50,120 --> 00:46:52,600 Speaker 1: into like you know, starting the businesses and things like that. 798 00:46:52,800 --> 00:46:54,279 Speaker 1: So that's what I've been kind of you and so 799 00:46:54,600 --> 00:46:56,080 Speaker 1: you know it's gonna be a safe space for me. 800 00:46:56,160 --> 00:47:00,800 Speaker 1: I believe. Well, that's good, that's healthy. This was Oh good, y'all. 801 00:47:01,760 --> 00:47:06,960 Speaker 1: Thank you for sharing your hotels. Ain't got no hotel, 802 00:47:07,080 --> 00:47:10,640 Speaker 1: Stacey hotels living her goddamn head. I don't Stacy to 803 00:47:10,719 --> 00:47:12,360 Speaker 1: get fucked. I don't know how are you gonna do that, 804 00:47:12,800 --> 00:47:17,439 Speaker 1: but it's a guy out here that we can line 805 00:47:17,520 --> 00:47:22,080 Speaker 1: up for me. Look, I do got a dick delivery service, 806 00:47:29,239 --> 00:47:33,520 Speaker 1: no attachments, no feelings, just dropping dick off and go ahead. 807 00:47:37,760 --> 00:47:41,880 Speaker 1: I'm not need to start a company like that. Dull 808 00:47:41,920 --> 00:47:48,239 Speaker 1: be a multimillion dollar damn started started. I'm joking that 809 00:47:48,400 --> 00:47:51,040 Speaker 1: never happened. But no, I wouldn't say for anybody who 810 00:47:51,280 --> 00:47:54,520 Speaker 1: istincting about getting married in a serious relationship, just to 811 00:47:54,600 --> 00:47:57,719 Speaker 1: find just listen to what we're saying. Make sure you 812 00:47:57,880 --> 00:48:02,160 Speaker 1: know who you're marrying, over all the scenarios of what 813 00:48:02,440 --> 00:48:06,960 Speaker 1: comes with being married, and understand that. You know, it's 814 00:48:07,000 --> 00:48:09,240 Speaker 1: okay to walk away before you go down the altar, 815 00:48:09,360 --> 00:48:10,799 Speaker 1: you know, and you don't have to see up here 816 00:48:10,800 --> 00:48:13,759 Speaker 1: and married that person if it it's not fit. You know, 817 00:48:13,880 --> 00:48:16,760 Speaker 1: I think we're trying to put we, you know, square 818 00:48:16,840 --> 00:48:19,000 Speaker 1: pigs in a circle hole, and it's not gonna work 819 00:48:19,120 --> 00:48:21,680 Speaker 1: like that, you know, So if you can do me, 820 00:48:21,840 --> 00:48:23,520 Speaker 1: if I had to do it over again, if I 821 00:48:23,680 --> 00:48:25,640 Speaker 1: had to read this, I would not be married to 822 00:48:25,680 --> 00:48:27,320 Speaker 1: the person where I'm with. And I say that with 823 00:48:27,440 --> 00:48:31,200 Speaker 1: everything because I know I have heard him tremendously and 824 00:48:31,400 --> 00:48:34,600 Speaker 1: I really didn't do it on personally on purpose. But 825 00:48:34,920 --> 00:48:37,640 Speaker 1: I really would not go down this path. I would 826 00:48:37,680 --> 00:48:42,520 Speaker 1: have took my twenties into um embrace them and kind 827 00:48:42,560 --> 00:48:44,400 Speaker 1: and do things to kind of live. And that's what 828 00:48:44,520 --> 00:48:46,680 Speaker 1: I tell my kids because I don't want them to 829 00:48:46,800 --> 00:48:49,520 Speaker 1: end up like me and their father. I don't want 830 00:48:49,520 --> 00:48:51,440 Speaker 1: to be You shouldn't be a wife in your twenties. 831 00:48:51,480 --> 00:48:55,239 Speaker 1: You should be living miamiing worlver you want to, you know. 832 00:48:55,360 --> 00:48:57,279 Speaker 1: And I tell my daughter that I'm more all with her? 833 00:48:57,560 --> 00:48:59,359 Speaker 1: Do you miss your whole face? And now you're making 834 00:48:59,840 --> 00:49:03,359 Speaker 1: my hopefully exactly on this whole stays to hand her 835 00:49:03,400 --> 00:49:06,160 Speaker 1: whole face. So that's why I have not cheated. Yeah, 836 00:49:07,040 --> 00:49:10,080 Speaker 1: oh yeah, so and that makes sense. I guess that's 837 00:49:10,120 --> 00:49:12,640 Speaker 1: where you've got two perspectives of one who missed their 838 00:49:12,680 --> 00:49:15,920 Speaker 1: whole phase, one you did not, and then the outcome 839 00:49:16,000 --> 00:49:19,759 Speaker 1: of it seventy years later, basically the same. We're both 840 00:49:20,120 --> 00:49:24,560 Speaker 1: lines of the movie. Because your twenties, for any young 841 00:49:24,640 --> 00:49:28,319 Speaker 1: women listening, your twenties is for firing niggas when they 842 00:49:28,440 --> 00:49:33,840 Speaker 1: don't act right. It is not for constant compromise. You twenties. 843 00:49:34,040 --> 00:49:37,839 Speaker 1: You have the option to pick, choose and refused. Yes, 844 00:49:38,760 --> 00:49:41,200 Speaker 1: thank you. Ladies so much for coming on our show 845 00:49:41,280 --> 00:49:43,719 Speaker 1: and sharing your lives and your stories with us. We 846 00:49:43,800 --> 00:49:47,319 Speaker 1: appreciate you. Yes, and we won't be following up because 847 00:49:47,320 --> 00:49:50,200 Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure listeners are going to enjoy this episode, right, 848 00:49:50,480 --> 00:49:53,040 Speaker 1: So if they have questions, just just if you got 849 00:49:53,239 --> 00:49:59,120 Speaker 1: questions for Staysty and Teacher, let us know. Anyways, hold 850 00:49:59,160 --> 00:50:01,960 Speaker 1: on before we go. Yeah, so y'all have any great 851 00:50:02,200 --> 00:50:05,000 Speaker 1: dumb bit stories to share with us aside from I'm 852 00:50:05,040 --> 00:50:07,160 Speaker 1: not calling your situations dumb bit shit because it's just 853 00:50:07,239 --> 00:50:10,360 Speaker 1: a regular life ship, but like any situations where you 854 00:50:10,560 --> 00:50:17,240 Speaker 1: just felt played right mm hmmm, um, I would say 855 00:50:17,880 --> 00:50:21,760 Speaker 1: what I was in my twenties before I got married. 856 00:50:22,320 --> 00:50:25,600 Speaker 1: I slept with like up and Kim of NFL player, 857 00:50:25,800 --> 00:50:28,279 Speaker 1: and you know, at that point, I'm thinking like, let 858 00:50:28,320 --> 00:50:30,680 Speaker 1: me go ahead and get the piston whoever who is 859 00:50:30,719 --> 00:50:32,759 Speaker 1: going to take care of the long term. And so 860 00:50:33,360 --> 00:50:39,600 Speaker 1: after we stepped together, he blocked me. I don't know. 861 00:50:39,640 --> 00:50:41,480 Speaker 1: I thought it was good. My ship was wet like 862 00:50:41,560 --> 00:50:43,360 Speaker 1: I was twenty and so it was like get you 863 00:50:43,480 --> 00:50:45,920 Speaker 1: like an ocean. So I don't know why I got blocked, 864 00:50:46,160 --> 00:50:48,000 Speaker 1: but I just think it was a game. But here 865 00:50:48,000 --> 00:50:51,320 Speaker 1: I am thinking of I can capitulated plan and with 866 00:50:51,560 --> 00:50:54,680 Speaker 1: him it was just you know, everything else. So I did. 867 00:50:54,760 --> 00:50:57,320 Speaker 1: I felt played because I thought I was gonna be 868 00:50:57,400 --> 00:51:00,920 Speaker 1: one of those girls at the NFL pick way, catch them, 869 00:51:01,080 --> 00:51:03,160 Speaker 1: you know, kissing them on the field. And it was 870 00:51:03,280 --> 00:51:06,600 Speaker 1: not that way, So you don't be my story. It 871 00:51:07,000 --> 00:51:10,319 Speaker 1: was that T shirt, Stacy, that was T shirt. That's 872 00:51:10,360 --> 00:51:20,520 Speaker 1: my T shirts been hurt. Stay do you have one? 873 00:51:21,920 --> 00:51:25,560 Speaker 1: You know? I mean, let's just leave. I don't think 874 00:51:25,600 --> 00:51:27,920 Speaker 1: I do have one, only because I always had a 875 00:51:28,200 --> 00:51:32,880 Speaker 1: mentality them to get that nigga before getting so like 876 00:51:33,080 --> 00:51:34,719 Speaker 1: when I was going through my own fingers, I was 877 00:51:34,800 --> 00:51:37,520 Speaker 1: really sucking home like there was no screws attached, Like 878 00:51:38,600 --> 00:51:40,640 Speaker 1: I didn't care if he was in the NFL. I'm 879 00:51:41,200 --> 00:51:47,759 Speaker 1: in your home boy, And then both of y'all, yes, 880 00:51:48,120 --> 00:51:54,120 Speaker 1: I have before. I mean I think one time I 881 00:51:54,640 --> 00:51:59,719 Speaker 1: gave even nigging my like my PlayStation or something younger 882 00:51:59,760 --> 00:52:02,239 Speaker 1: than or whatever, and he was in collegue and he 883 00:52:02,360 --> 00:52:05,839 Speaker 1: hit the fourth I was pretty spectacical, so I did. 884 00:52:05,960 --> 00:52:09,560 Speaker 1: I bought game PlayStation and after that we were talking 885 00:52:09,600 --> 00:52:16,440 Speaker 1: to some good dumb bit stories. They ain't really dumb 886 00:52:16,480 --> 00:52:20,279 Speaker 1: bit stories. That's fight all us put some head one time, 887 00:52:20,719 --> 00:52:26,960 Speaker 1: and he's I think it's so fired all about my 888 00:52:27,040 --> 00:52:32,719 Speaker 1: pocketbook while he was eating his pussy. You know, my 889 00:52:32,840 --> 00:52:35,560 Speaker 1: body was gone until I got to the gas station 890 00:52:35,600 --> 00:52:37,160 Speaker 1: because I didn't let him funk. I just he just 891 00:52:37,360 --> 00:52:41,120 Speaker 1: ate my pussy. So now trying to buy some batteries 892 00:52:41,200 --> 00:52:44,000 Speaker 1: for my vibrator and my fucking five dollars is gone. 893 00:52:45,920 --> 00:52:48,239 Speaker 1: I don't think, yeah, you got me beat because I 894 00:52:48,280 --> 00:52:54,000 Speaker 1: guess my story didn't work. I'm sorry you want the 895 00:52:55,280 --> 00:53:00,840 Speaker 1: up got it? It probably don't even fight dollars. It 896 00:53:00,960 --> 00:53:04,520 Speaker 1: might have been like from two to fight all. You 897 00:53:04,520 --> 00:53:12,759 Speaker 1: should have been right, all right, really appreciate it, y'all 898 00:53:12,800 --> 00:53:23,200 Speaker 1: have a good word. Thank you again. Alright, girl, I 899 00:53:23,400 --> 00:53:25,320 Speaker 1: just don't know what type of bitch I'm gonna be 900 00:53:25,400 --> 00:53:29,239 Speaker 1: in the marriage. Will I be uh Mary Magdalene over 901 00:53:29,320 --> 00:53:32,520 Speaker 1: here or will I be like Stacy? I don't know. 902 00:53:33,160 --> 00:53:35,680 Speaker 1: I guess it depends on the dick. Huh. I definitely 903 00:53:35,719 --> 00:53:37,320 Speaker 1: don't want to be married for a long time and 904 00:53:37,640 --> 00:53:41,480 Speaker 1: halfway miserable. For none of them sounded miserable though. They 905 00:53:41,600 --> 00:53:44,560 Speaker 1: just sounded like they have decided that this is what 906 00:53:44,680 --> 00:53:46,600 Speaker 1: it is and this is how it's gonna be. And 907 00:53:46,680 --> 00:53:57,160 Speaker 1: they decided. Though, so how do men field like, God, damn, girl, 908 00:53:57,239 --> 00:54:01,480 Speaker 1: fuck your husband. Good. But here's the thing, all we 909 00:54:01,640 --> 00:54:04,720 Speaker 1: know is what they told us. They might be securing 910 00:54:04,760 --> 00:54:07,239 Speaker 1: their marriage because their men are keeping what they're doing 911 00:54:07,680 --> 00:54:09,759 Speaker 1: so secret. They're moving like they got a dead white 912 00:54:09,800 --> 00:54:11,919 Speaker 1: beach in the trunk, you know what I'm saying. That's 913 00:54:11,920 --> 00:54:14,239 Speaker 1: how they're moving with it. You think he's working on 914 00:54:14,320 --> 00:54:16,560 Speaker 1: the car, but really he really, you know, doing his thing. 915 00:54:16,680 --> 00:54:19,200 Speaker 1: And if you're doing it that way, that's how I 916 00:54:19,239 --> 00:54:24,080 Speaker 1: wanted to be done. I wanted so secure that yes, 917 00:54:24,239 --> 00:54:26,359 Speaker 1: expect I mean, people are gonna do show. You can't 918 00:54:26,400 --> 00:54:29,440 Speaker 1: be married for eighteen fifty years and you know nothing happened. 919 00:54:29,840 --> 00:54:33,680 Speaker 1: Nothing happens in your relationship like that to me is respect. 920 00:54:33,840 --> 00:54:38,840 Speaker 1: We never finding out either we open with it or 921 00:54:38,960 --> 00:54:46,480 Speaker 1: just move stealthily. Nigga. So if you enjoyed this episode, 922 00:54:46,600 --> 00:54:51,120 Speaker 1: hit us up We Talked Back podcast on Instagram. Um, 923 00:54:51,239 --> 00:54:54,120 Speaker 1: if you have any dumbing stories sept Series, hit us 924 00:54:54,200 --> 00:54:56,560 Speaker 1: up on We Talked Back p O d at gmail 925 00:54:56,640 --> 00:54:59,520 Speaker 1: dot com. Y'all hit us up. We out by