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Speaker 1: All right, break it down.

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Speaker 2: If you ever have feelings that you just won'ts home,

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Speaker 2: Amy and Cat got you covin locking, No, brother, ladies

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Speaker 2: and felts, you just follow an the spirit where it's

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Speaker 2: tell us the front real stuff to the chill stuff

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Speaker 2: and the m but Twayne, sometimes the best thing you

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Speaker 2: feeling things with.

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Speaker 3: Amy and Kat. Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things.

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Speaker 1: I'm Amy and I'm Cat, and today we're going to

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Speaker 1: get into things you can tell yourself so that you're

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Speaker 1: gonna think it's okay when it's really not okay.

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Speaker 3: That's not what we're talking about.

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Speaker 4: It seems to say when you're not sure if it's

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Speaker 4: gonna be okay.

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Speaker 3: That's its close.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Cat being the licensed therapist, Yeah, she's gonna guide

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Speaker 1: us through five things to say instead.

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Speaker 3: Of it will be okay. Yeah, that's more like it.

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Speaker 1: But before we get into that, I want to talk

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Speaker 1: about like we're reading or watching, what we're listening to

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Speaker 3: Can I share my feeling in the day first? Well, yeah,

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Speaker 3: that's normally how we start things.

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Speaker 4: Okay, this was hard for me because I wanted to

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Speaker 4: say I was excited, but I'm not feeling excited. I

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Speaker 4: so it took me a while to get here. I'm

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Speaker 4: like I operate in like a you know, to both

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Speaker 1: I like that you're sharing like a middle of the

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Speaker 1: road feeling because it normalizes it, like, yeah, because a

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Speaker 1: lot of times feelings are extreme. Yeah, and it's like

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Speaker 3: And there's nothing wrong with that, right.

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Speaker 4: But if I'm just feeling content and I'm not usually

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Speaker 4: you know, because I'm not like hey, just like, Hi, what.

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Speaker 3: Are you all doing for Valentine's Day?

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Speaker 1: Well, and this case, this is popping to my head

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Speaker 1: because I was texting with another friend earlier and she

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Speaker 1: always meh, and I was like, yeah, meh is a

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Speaker 3: We could add it to the wheel.

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Speaker 1: We could add to the wheel of feelings just meh.

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Speaker 1: So she's like, I don't really have high expectations. Just

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Speaker 4: I don't feel well, maybe I do feel mad about

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Speaker 4: Valentine's Day. It's just so close to our anniversary because

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Speaker 4: our anniversary is the sixteenth, which I chose that I

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Speaker 1: Right, And you don't have to get dressed up for

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Speaker 3: You don't even want to get dressed up for my anniversary.

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Speaker 1: Well I was thinking, gosh, if you have to get

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Speaker 3: Well, and you know me, I like to look forward

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Speaker 4: So it's kind of annoying that these things are back

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Speaker 3: So last year we did good at well that's my idea.

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Speaker 4: So I did good, but we ordered this is where

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Speaker 4: At home Pottery Kit and made pizza at home. The

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Speaker 3: In our pajamas. Oh yeah, I love that. Okay, this

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Speaker 1: I mean, you don't have to we all. I mean,

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Speaker 4: But also I feel like Valentine's Day is stressful to

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Speaker 1: And it's on a Saturday night this year, or with

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Speaker 4: And a lot of those restaurants do like prefixed menus,

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Speaker 1: That's so funny because like, I love a prefix menu

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Speaker 3: No, it just is what it is.

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Speaker 1: But what if you want something, I don't have to

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Speaker 1: Going to the UVA versus Ohio basketball game at Bridgestone.

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Speaker 3: You don't sound excited.

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Speaker 1: I mean, it is what it is. It's on Valentine's Day,

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Speaker 3: You don't think I'm going to the basketball.

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Speaker 1: Game on the Valentine's weekend. But it's at Bridgetone here

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so I don't know we're doing we're doing that.

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Speaker 3: They're all coming to Nashville.

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Speaker 4: you get to have like a little round shoo, and.

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Speaker 3: So that's our big plan.

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Speaker 1: But I like the idea of also if we were

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Speaker 3: I don't see you and Alex to be potter. It's

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Speaker 3: like that we'll be like, whose ideal with that was?

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Speaker 3: Okay, well then I challenge you to make pottery.

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Speaker 3: The thing is, I don't know I want to do that. Okay, Well,

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Speaker 3: if you change your mind, I have all the supplies,

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Speaker 3: so just call me. Okay, what are you watching on TV?

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Speaker 1: I'm desperate for something to watch. I finished my documentary.

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Speaker 4: Well we can talk about that. But I feel like

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Speaker 4: I'm now watching The Pit season two. Here's the problem.

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Speaker 3: Season one.

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Speaker 1: Right? I think that I've I have a love hate

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Speaker 3: Also watching Traders, which is one episode a week. Are

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Speaker 3: I haven't yet, but yes I would when my desire that.

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Speaker 1: I don't, okay, but I would do it if you

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Speaker 1: When I see other people do it, I'm intrigued and

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Speaker 3: Lot, which is good. Don't you think eventually it'll become streamable?

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Speaker 1: So my frustration was I wish this was free to

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Speaker 1: Like I don't know how anybody ever downloads the HD version,

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Speaker 1: Please it did make me think about my marriage, though

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Speaker 1: Yeah, ANYWAY i thought it was really interesting AND i

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Speaker 4: Wrong he was, like but also, LIKE i hope men

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Speaker 1: Cannot well they mentioned this a little bit And i'm,

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Speaker 1: Puberty every, month we go through a change every single

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Speaker 1: Have you take into account, pregnancies, MISCARRIAGES i, mean there's

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Speaker 1: Perimenopause but even from my golfer, zelbow that's, perimenopause like

443
00:19:31,600 --> 00:19:33,480
Speaker 1: my ache and MY i KNOW i don't, golf but

444
00:19:33,520 --> 00:19:35,679
Speaker 1: that's what it's. CALLED i did get golf pants For,

445
00:19:35,720 --> 00:19:39,640
Speaker 1: christmas THOUGH i never gotten to wear them At they're very.

446
00:19:39,680 --> 00:19:41,320
Speaker 3: Cute do you prefer a pant or a?

447
00:19:41,359 --> 00:19:44,760
Speaker 1: Skirt, well It's, christmas so. WINTERTIME i prefer. Either but

448
00:19:44,800 --> 00:19:47,439
Speaker 1: these were really cute plaid pants THAT i mentioned in

449
00:19:47,520 --> 00:19:49,600
Speaker 1: passing once to my, boyfriend AND i guess he must

450
00:19:49,600 --> 00:19:49,960
Speaker 1: have ordered.

451
00:19:50,000 --> 00:19:51,720
Speaker 3: Them in that. Moment i'm, LIKE.

452
00:19:51,880 --> 00:19:56,879
Speaker 1: I know there's other Things i've, mentioned but that's, okay that's, right.

453
00:19:57,040 --> 00:19:58,120
Speaker 3: That's the one that's.

454
00:20:00,560 --> 00:20:09,080
Speaker 1: Off must order golf fans, Though, okay so my golfer's

455
00:20:09,080 --> 00:20:13,960
Speaker 1: elbow is my. Perimenopause but it's like knowing now that

456
00:20:14,160 --> 00:20:16,840
Speaker 1: hearing other women talk about the different eggs and pains

457
00:20:16,840 --> 00:20:21,159
Speaker 1: that they, feel and we have this. Validation now it

458
00:20:21,320 --> 00:20:22,520
Speaker 1: helps with the sanity.

459
00:20:22,560 --> 00:20:22,840
Speaker 3: Part.

460
00:20:23,119 --> 00:20:27,119
Speaker 1: YEAH i think of the generation before us where they

461
00:20:27,119 --> 00:20:29,720
Speaker 1: didn't have that information and they just had all these

462
00:20:29,800 --> 00:20:36,040
Speaker 1: different physical and emotional ailments and they had.

463
00:20:35,880 --> 00:20:36,879
Speaker 3: No there's no.

464
00:20:37,440 --> 00:20:40,639
Speaker 1: Excuse, yeah like, okay what's this?

465
00:20:40,760 --> 00:20:41,320
Speaker 3: Pain what's this?

466
00:20:41,359 --> 00:20:43,320
Speaker 1: Pain almost like you would think if you went to

467
00:20:43,400 --> 00:20:45,720
Speaker 1: a doctor and started explaining everything like this woman's a

468
00:20:45,720 --> 00:20:47,600
Speaker 1: little like it's in your, head like you have, okay

469
00:20:47,600 --> 00:20:48,720
Speaker 1: you have everything wrong with?

470
00:20:48,760 --> 00:20:49,919
Speaker 3: You, yes.

471
00:20:51,320 --> 00:20:54,320
Speaker 1: It feels like everything is wrong with. Me, yeah you,

472
00:20:54,359 --> 00:20:56,399
Speaker 1: know there's good days and bad, days and the good

473
00:20:56,480 --> 00:20:59,119
Speaker 1: days are harder to. Find that's where a lot of

474
00:20:59,160 --> 00:21:02,399
Speaker 1: women it. Was they're LIKE i just overall LIKE i

475
00:21:02,640 --> 00:21:06,359
Speaker 1: just don't feel. Joy they're, like it's SO i can't

476
00:21:06,400 --> 00:21:10,439
Speaker 1: find it, anywhere and they're. Trying it's not for lack of,

477
00:21:10,480 --> 00:21:12,240
Speaker 1: trying and they have things to be happy, about and

478
00:21:12,280 --> 00:21:14,280
Speaker 1: they're not trying to be Like Debbie, downer but they're just,

479
00:21:14,320 --> 00:21:15,639
Speaker 1: Like i'm a shelle of WHO i used to.

480
00:21:15,720 --> 00:21:19,240
Speaker 3: Be, yeah everything's, great And i'm, like so are you feeling?

481
00:21:19,280 --> 00:21:21,640
Speaker 1: That it made me think of like a couple months,

482
00:21:21,640 --> 00:21:23,200
Speaker 1: ago there was this One MONDAY i felt.

483
00:21:23,200 --> 00:21:25,800
Speaker 3: Great he's been a couple months.

484
00:21:25,800 --> 00:21:28,480
Speaker 1: Ago, Yeah AND i was, like what WAS i doing

485
00:21:28,520 --> 00:21:30,840
Speaker 1: around that? Time you, Know i'm trying to like piece it.

486
00:21:30,840 --> 00:21:33,480
Speaker 1: Together i'm, like WAS i going to more? Pilates WAS

487
00:21:33,520 --> 00:21:35,359
Speaker 1: i moving? More WAS i eating?

488
00:21:35,400 --> 00:21:36,919
Speaker 3: Differently? Like what WAS i?

489
00:21:36,960 --> 00:21:39,280
Speaker 1: Doing BECAUSE i remember That monday as being, like this

490
00:21:39,320 --> 00:21:40,960
Speaker 1: is a good. Day AND i know it was A

491
00:21:40,960 --> 00:21:43,920
Speaker 1: monday because we had recorded that. Day and then AFTERWARDS

492
00:21:43,960 --> 00:21:48,080
Speaker 1: i went over to my boyfriend's AND i just remember

493
00:21:48,080 --> 00:21:50,760
Speaker 1: it was on that, Drive i'm, Like i'm feeling great.

494
00:21:50,800 --> 00:21:53,280
Speaker 1: Today that's that's the last TIME i felt.

495
00:21:53,320 --> 00:21:56,960
Speaker 4: Great your job is a hard job to have all.

496
00:21:57,080 --> 00:21:58,480
Speaker 4: Feeling why are you looking at it like?

497
00:21:58,520 --> 00:22:00,359
Speaker 3: That, well now that you're finishing, Yourself so it was,

498
00:22:00,400 --> 00:22:05,639
Speaker 3: like my job's are. HARD i think your job is.

499
00:22:05,680 --> 00:22:07,959
Speaker 1: Hard, oh it would be hard with WHAT i feel,

500
00:22:08,720 --> 00:22:10,840
Speaker 1: like but BECAUSE i don't want to cry.

501
00:22:10,840 --> 00:22:12,440
Speaker 3: On the radio, sometimes.

502
00:22:12,040 --> 00:22:14,600
Speaker 4: But your job is maybe it's not as hard as

503
00:22:14,600 --> 00:22:16,359
Speaker 4: like brain, surgery but your job would be hard for.

504
00:22:16,400 --> 00:22:19,439
Speaker 4: Me so but in, GENERAL i just don't think i'd be.

505
00:22:19,440 --> 00:22:19,760
Speaker 3: Good at your.

506
00:22:19,800 --> 00:22:22,600
Speaker 4: Job but you have to have a hard job to

507
00:22:22,680 --> 00:22:24,919
Speaker 4: be going through this because you just me saying, like

508
00:22:24,960 --> 00:22:27,800
Speaker 4: when's the last time you like That? Monday months? Ago

509
00:22:28,200 --> 00:22:30,159
Speaker 4: but you can't act like that on the, radio and

510
00:22:30,160 --> 00:22:30,960
Speaker 4: you're on the radio every.

511
00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:33,800
Speaker 3: Day, yeah and you, mean let me be, Clear i've

512
00:22:33,840 --> 00:22:34,640
Speaker 3: had good.

513
00:22:34,720 --> 00:22:38,600
Speaker 1: Days i'm saying That monday was a really day like

514
00:22:38,800 --> 00:22:42,400
Speaker 1: THAT i felt, really really. Good and you, know we've

515
00:22:42,400 --> 00:22:46,040
Speaker 1: talked about whimsy a, lot AND i just think MAYBE

516
00:22:46,080 --> 00:22:48,439
Speaker 1: i need to be more intentional about my whimsy because

517
00:22:49,000 --> 00:22:51,280
Speaker 1: but then it's, like why is the whimsy even more?

518
00:22:51,359 --> 00:22:54,520
Speaker 1: Difficult and it's like we're not getting any. Better it's

519
00:22:54,520 --> 00:22:56,879
Speaker 1: sort of like If i'm depleted of, SOMETHING i can't

520
00:22:56,920 --> 00:22:58,640
Speaker 1: just expect for it to get.

521
00:22:58,680 --> 00:23:00,440
Speaker 3: Better out.

522
00:23:00,560 --> 00:23:04,240
Speaker 1: Help i'm going to find a hormone. DOCTOR i already found.

523
00:23:04,280 --> 00:23:06,680
Speaker 1: ONE i just need to make the. Appointment And i've

524
00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:08,520
Speaker 1: had my blood work done, before but THEN i don't

525
00:23:08,520 --> 00:23:13,359
Speaker 1: follow through just CLASSIC. Adhd but THEN i want to

526
00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:15,400
Speaker 1: go actually WHERE i had it. DONE i don't know

527
00:23:15,480 --> 00:23:17,760
Speaker 1: that they would have been able to specifically guide me

528
00:23:17,880 --> 00:23:20,399
Speaker 1: LIKE i. Want like a, FEMALE i want you to,

529
00:23:20,480 --> 00:23:23,920
Speaker 1: KNOW i want you to experience What i'm talking, about

530
00:23:24,000 --> 00:23:25,480
Speaker 1: because IF i go to a man and be like,

531
00:23:25,560 --> 00:23:30,280
Speaker 1: you nothing against. MEN i love, men but they only

532
00:23:30,320 --> 00:23:30,760
Speaker 1: go through one.

533
00:23:30,880 --> 00:23:34,080
Speaker 4: Change, Yeah i'm one of those people who's like you

534
00:23:34,119 --> 00:23:35,879
Speaker 4: don't have, to like as a, THERAPIST i don't have

535
00:23:35,880 --> 00:23:39,000
Speaker 4: to like go through everything to be able to help my.

536
00:23:39,040 --> 00:23:44,280
Speaker 3: Clients, true and and sometimes it, helps sometimes.

537
00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:47,400
Speaker 4: Help SO i get that if there's, possible if there's

538
00:23:47,400 --> 00:23:49,440
Speaker 4: a possibility for you to have a FEMALE i think

539
00:23:49,480 --> 00:23:52,000
Speaker 4: you might be able to get a different level of

540
00:23:52,000 --> 00:23:55,600
Speaker 4: compassion that just wouldn't be accessible to a guy because

541
00:23:55,640 --> 00:23:59,160
Speaker 4: he just you can't explain, it no to the full.

542
00:23:59,200 --> 00:24:03,520
Speaker 3: Extent, yeah, okay well that's really good. Time what? Else

543
00:24:05,280 --> 00:24:06,320
Speaker 3: i've been reading a.

544
00:24:06,359 --> 00:24:08,959
Speaker 1: Lot this is my year of, reading And i've been

545
00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:12,520
Speaker 1: reading so much or listening on audible and, reading AND

546
00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:16,000
Speaker 1: i am thoroughly enjoying. It and it's so funny Because

547
00:24:16,200 --> 00:24:17,960
Speaker 1: kat AND, I i'll tell this to the. Listeners CAN

548
00:24:17,960 --> 00:24:18,800
Speaker 1: i tell them About Beach?

549
00:24:18,840 --> 00:24:20,600
Speaker 3: Read of, Course, well you're.

550
00:24:20,800 --> 00:24:24,439
Speaker 1: Because your memory because one thing that perimenopause is like

551
00:24:24,520 --> 00:24:30,680
Speaker 1: memory is LIKE i can't remember, anything a SIGN i don't.

552
00:24:30,480 --> 00:24:31,639
Speaker 3: Think you're perimenopausal.

553
00:24:31,720 --> 00:24:35,200
Speaker 1: Yet BUT i was talking about one Of Emily henry's,

554
00:24:35,240 --> 00:24:38,040
Speaker 1: Book Beach, read and How i'm not really it's not

555
00:24:38,080 --> 00:24:41,480
Speaker 1: my favorite like her other. BOOKS i have really really

556
00:24:41,560 --> 00:24:44,960
Speaker 1: Enjoyed Happy place In Book. LOVERS i loved and then Beat.

557
00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:47,120
Speaker 1: Read i'm, like, nah and what.

558
00:24:47,080 --> 00:24:50,800
Speaker 3: Would you write it out of? Five out of? Five, yeah,

559
00:24:50,840 --> 00:24:52,440
Speaker 3: like if you were On, goodreads what would you read?

560
00:24:52,480 --> 00:24:52,600
Speaker 5: It?

561
00:24:53,280 --> 00:24:55,400
Speaker 3: Okay, three two point.

562
00:24:55,440 --> 00:24:58,480
Speaker 4: Five i'm not reading a book that somebody gave a

563
00:24:58,520 --> 00:24:58,960
Speaker 4: two point.

564
00:24:58,960 --> 00:25:01,160
Speaker 1: Five, okay, Three i'll give it a three because it's

565
00:25:01,160 --> 00:25:04,000
Speaker 1: not totally, terrible it just Meant BUT i give Like

566
00:25:04,040 --> 00:25:06,640
Speaker 1: Book lovers And Happy place a five for the rom com.

567
00:25:06,680 --> 00:25:10,439
Speaker 3: Category you gave them a five for the. Category that

568
00:25:10,480 --> 00:25:15,120
Speaker 3: means your three is really? Two, really, well you wouldn't

569
00:25:15,119 --> 00:25:17,040
Speaker 3: give a book of?

570
00:25:17,119 --> 00:25:19,439
Speaker 4: Five. Okay, WELL i can't speak on those, books BUT

571
00:25:19,680 --> 00:25:22,960
Speaker 4: i wouldn't give either of The Emily henry books THAT

572
00:25:23,000 --> 00:25:23,439
Speaker 4: i read a.

573
00:25:23,520 --> 00:25:27,600
Speaker 3: Five they're good. STORIES i just wouldn't give them A

574
00:25:28,240 --> 00:25:29,119
Speaker 3: i would give them a.

575
00:25:29,200 --> 00:25:29,440
Speaker 6: Four.

576
00:25:29,680 --> 00:25:32,520
Speaker 1: Okay i'm just still pretty hard FOR i go for the.

577
00:25:32,520 --> 00:25:36,359
Speaker 1: Category but like also The nightingale for historical fiction, five.

578
00:25:36,680 --> 00:25:40,399
Speaker 3: Right but how would you compare That nightingale To Emily.

579
00:25:40,440 --> 00:25:42,760
Speaker 3: Henry you can't compare. Them they're totally.

580
00:25:42,760 --> 00:25:47,160
Speaker 1: Different like HOW i would compare them is In Book

581
00:25:47,160 --> 00:25:51,280
Speaker 1: lovers there's a sister, relationship and In nightingale there's a sister,

582
00:25:51,359 --> 00:25:53,480
Speaker 1: relationship and both books made me want to call my.

583
00:25:53,520 --> 00:25:54,920
Speaker 3: Sister oh that's.

584
00:25:54,920 --> 00:25:57,080
Speaker 1: Sweet, yeah so that's how they're the same to.

585
00:25:57,080 --> 00:26:00,640
Speaker 3: Me, okay, okay well back to be. Three oh.

586
00:26:00,680 --> 00:26:03,000
Speaker 1: Yeah So kat's, like oh my, GOSH i read. That

587
00:26:03,880 --> 00:26:07,080
Speaker 1: and then you were, like wait a, SECOND i DON'T

588
00:26:07,720 --> 00:26:09,520
Speaker 1: i THINK i read, that BUT i don't really remember.

589
00:26:09,520 --> 00:26:11,800
Speaker 1: Anything i'm, like, yeah that's because it's not any good.

590
00:26:12,320 --> 00:26:12,919
Speaker 3: What's in my.

591
00:26:13,040 --> 00:26:16,159
Speaker 4: Audible so IT'S i IF i downloaded and used my

592
00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:19,199
Speaker 4: one credit a, month BECAUSE i take those credit very,

593
00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:22,000
Speaker 4: SERIOUSLY i had to have listened to. IT i would

594
00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:25,240
Speaker 4: not waste a. CREDIT i wait until the sixth of

595
00:26:25,240 --> 00:26:27,320
Speaker 4: the month SO i can get that new. Credit BUT

596
00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:28,760
Speaker 4: i don't remember reading it at.

597
00:26:28,760 --> 00:26:31,639
Speaker 1: All. Yeah, well then later you determined, like OH i

598
00:26:31,680 --> 00:26:34,480
Speaker 1: haven't read. IT i thought you determined you have not read.

599
00:26:34,480 --> 00:26:36,840
Speaker 3: It OH i. DETERMINED i don't know IF i, did

600
00:26:37,280 --> 00:26:38,840
Speaker 3: because it says BUT i gave.

601
00:26:38,680 --> 00:26:40,600
Speaker 1: You all of like the. KEY i gave you everything

602
00:26:40,640 --> 00:26:41,840
Speaker 1: that would trigger, them.

603
00:26:41,840 --> 00:26:44,560
Speaker 3: Right like what WAS i going through in?

604
00:26:44,680 --> 00:26:48,600
Speaker 1: Life, yeah like you just coasted through and listen to.

605
00:26:48,640 --> 00:26:49,439
Speaker 3: Something you know how.

606
00:26:49,280 --> 00:26:51,160
Speaker 4: Sometimes when you read a, book you read a page

607
00:26:51,160 --> 00:26:51,919
Speaker 4: and you don't remember what you.

608
00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:53,520
Speaker 3: READ i THINK i was like that the whole TIME

609
00:26:53,560 --> 00:26:53,760
Speaker 3: i was.

610
00:26:53,760 --> 00:26:56,640
Speaker 1: Listening to, IT i was, like WHEN i was giving

611
00:26:56,680 --> 00:26:58,560
Speaker 1: you all the little things that, Happened i'm, like surely

612
00:26:58,600 --> 00:27:00,639
Speaker 1: you remember this. PART i don't want to say it

613
00:27:00,640 --> 00:27:02,560
Speaker 1: in case someone's, LIKE i just got be treated in

614
00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:04,920
Speaker 1: the mail and you just gave the entire.

615
00:27:05,000 --> 00:27:08,600
Speaker 3: Thing WHY i downloaded it and didn't that is.

616
00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:12,720
Speaker 4: Weird but Now i'm going to have to listen to

617
00:27:12,760 --> 00:27:14,040
Speaker 4: it Because i've used a credit on.

618
00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:17,800
Speaker 1: It, yeah AND i Don't maybe you'll love. It maybe

619
00:27:17,840 --> 00:27:19,920
Speaker 1: maybe you'll love. It maybe it'll be right up your. Alley,

620
00:27:19,960 --> 00:27:23,520
Speaker 1: okay let's get to the things to say instead of

621
00:27:23,560 --> 00:27:26,600
Speaker 1: it will be, okay because like even with my pyramid ofpaust,

622
00:27:26,600 --> 00:27:28,359
Speaker 1: stuff you might be able to well it'll be.

623
00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:31,240
Speaker 4: Okay there is a time and a place to hear

624
00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:34,760
Speaker 4: it's going to be, okay especially if you know it's

625
00:27:34,800 --> 00:27:38,040
Speaker 4: going to be you, know LIKE i don't know if

626
00:27:38,520 --> 00:27:42,000
Speaker 4: you break your leg and you're going to be able

627
00:27:42,000 --> 00:27:44,159
Speaker 4: to walk again one, Day like we know it's going

628
00:27:44,240 --> 00:27:46,359
Speaker 4: to be, okay but then there are times and we

629
00:27:46,400 --> 00:27:48,880
Speaker 4: don't really know the. Outcome and what made me think

630
00:27:48,880 --> 00:27:50,520
Speaker 4: of this and this is kind of like old, news

631
00:27:50,560 --> 00:27:53,880
Speaker 4: but a couple of weeks ago with ice, storm so.

632
00:27:53,880 --> 00:27:54,480
Speaker 3: Much was going.

633
00:27:54,520 --> 00:27:58,239
Speaker 4: On people you didn't have, power and SO i was, like,

634
00:27:58,280 --> 00:27:59,800
Speaker 4: oh you, know, like what do you say to people

635
00:27:59,800 --> 00:28:01,160
Speaker 4: when they don't have power and you don't know when

636
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:01,680
Speaker 4: they're going to get.

637
00:28:01,680 --> 00:28:04,080
Speaker 1: Back, well, yeah let's clarify, this because cat had power

638
00:28:04,160 --> 00:28:09,080
Speaker 1: the whole. Time she had Power Wi Fi, yeah. Cryo

639
00:28:09,160 --> 00:28:09,680
Speaker 1: cat had.

640
00:28:09,720 --> 00:28:13,840
Speaker 3: It she had it in, here she had. It everybody

641
00:28:13,840 --> 00:28:16,679
Speaker 3: in this room was living. Large AND i was like

642
00:28:16,800 --> 00:28:23,200
Speaker 3: in the eighteen, hundred like with, BREATH i was reading my, candlelight.

643
00:28:22,880 --> 00:28:25,439
Speaker 1: Yes and that's honestly HOW i got To someone was,

644
00:28:25,480 --> 00:28:27,639
Speaker 1: LIKE i don't think that my reading is going to

645
00:28:27,640 --> 00:28:30,600
Speaker 1: stay at this pace for the. Year BUT i THINK

646
00:28:30,640 --> 00:28:32,639
Speaker 1: i was able to get ahead on reading because there

647
00:28:32,680 --> 00:28:36,800
Speaker 1: were several, hours like many many hours THAT i was

648
00:28:36,880 --> 00:28:40,080
Speaker 1: just laying by the fireplace reading BECAUSE i had nothing

649
00:28:40,120 --> 00:28:40,480
Speaker 1: else to.

650
00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:43,040
Speaker 3: Do, exactly, well at least you had those.

651
00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:45,480
Speaker 4: BOOKS i tried to prepare and charge my, kindle and my,

652
00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:47,360
Speaker 4: KINDLES i guess broken wasn't.

653
00:28:47,400 --> 00:28:51,840
Speaker 3: Charge so IF i, CHARGE i couldn't charge before the.

654
00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:55,000
Speaker 4: Storm, okay if anybody has any, tips let me know.

655
00:28:55,720 --> 00:28:57,960
Speaker 4: Anyway SO i was, thinking, like what it would be

656
00:28:58,000 --> 00:29:00,720
Speaker 4: helpful to have these for any, time but also the

657
00:29:00,760 --> 00:29:03,480
Speaker 4: next time there's a natural disaster like, this of what

658
00:29:03,480 --> 00:29:06,960
Speaker 4: what is helpful to hear outside of it's going to

659
00:29:07,000 --> 00:29:09,880
Speaker 4: be okay when we don't, know because that can actually

660
00:29:09,920 --> 00:29:15,560
Speaker 4: really invalidate somebody OR i don't. Know sometimes it makes me,

661
00:29:15,640 --> 00:29:19,320
Speaker 4: mad like gives me a little, rage AND i want to,

662
00:29:19,400 --> 00:29:21,800
Speaker 4: like you don't know, that or that's not helpful LIKE i.

663
00:29:21,840 --> 00:29:24,120
Speaker 4: Want it's almost like when you ask the question what

664
00:29:24,120 --> 00:29:25,640
Speaker 4: does this make? Possible a little too?

665
00:29:25,760 --> 00:29:29,080
Speaker 3: Early you, Know, yeah SO i have a list of.

666
00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:32,480
Speaker 4: Five this is not a comprehensive, list but you know it's.

667
00:29:32,520 --> 00:29:34,160
Speaker 3: Digestible are you ready?

668
00:29:34,280 --> 00:29:38,840
Speaker 4: Ready the first one is just saying something like, Validating so,

669
00:29:39,000 --> 00:29:42,000
Speaker 4: gosh that sounds really hard and these are, simple so

670
00:29:42,040 --> 00:29:43,920
Speaker 4: these aren't going to be like mind. Boggling AND i

671
00:29:43,960 --> 00:29:47,000
Speaker 4: think that's something to think. About often when we want

672
00:29:47,040 --> 00:29:49,360
Speaker 4: to say it's going to be, okay it's because we're

673
00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:52,600
Speaker 4: uncomfortable and we want to make that person feel more,

674
00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:56,160
Speaker 4: comfortable or we want to say something because it's uncomfortable

675
00:29:56,240 --> 00:29:56,720
Speaker 4: to sit in the.

676
00:29:56,840 --> 00:29:59,840
Speaker 1: UNKNOWN i feel like any of our male listeners right,

677
00:29:59,880 --> 00:30:01,160
Speaker 1: now this would be a good one to keep in

678
00:30:01,200 --> 00:30:03,719
Speaker 1: your back pocket if your wife is hormonal or anything

679
00:30:03,800 --> 00:30:06,160
Speaker 1: like that because you can't understand. It because remember you

680
00:30:06,200 --> 00:30:10,960
Speaker 1: only have one change one. Puberty you could be, like,

681
00:30:11,160 --> 00:30:14,520
Speaker 1: gosh you have so many hormone things happening all the.

682
00:30:14,560 --> 00:30:16,280
Speaker 3: Time that sounds. Hard, OKAY i was, like where are

683
00:30:16,280 --> 00:30:20,440
Speaker 3: you going with? It, gosh you're a lot right, now or.

684
00:30:20,480 --> 00:30:22,800
Speaker 1: Just, like, gosh this sounds hard To nagai.

685
00:30:22,600 --> 00:30:25,520
Speaker 3: The gate for you and for. Me, Yeah i'm just

686
00:30:25,560 --> 00:30:29,480
Speaker 3: getting laid that part. Out just end the sentence, early but, yeah.

687
00:30:29,400 --> 00:30:32,000
Speaker 4: That's, gosh that sounds hard, period because that to, me

688
00:30:32,120 --> 00:30:34,960
Speaker 4: When i'm struggling with, something it feels good to be

689
00:30:35,000 --> 00:30:37,440
Speaker 4: like seen in that way for somebody, like, yeah you're

690
00:30:37,480 --> 00:30:40,120
Speaker 4: not being, dramatic like that does sound really. Hard so

691
00:30:40,280 --> 00:30:42,320
Speaker 4: very simple goes a very long, way got?

692
00:30:42,320 --> 00:30:42,400
Speaker 1: It?

693
00:30:42,440 --> 00:30:45,280
Speaker 4: Okay number Two now this is twofold when we're going

694
00:30:45,360 --> 00:30:46,240
Speaker 4: to get to the second part.

695
00:30:46,320 --> 00:30:50,440
Speaker 3: Later but asking somebody what do you need from me right?

696
00:30:50,480 --> 00:30:55,040
Speaker 4: Now and this is in the context of if somebody

697
00:30:55,680 --> 00:30:57,520
Speaker 4: is talking to you and you don't, know like they're wanting,

698
00:30:57,560 --> 00:31:00,520
Speaker 4: advice you don't know if they just want, event you

699
00:31:00,520 --> 00:31:02,040
Speaker 4: don't know if there's a task.

700
00:31:01,880 --> 00:31:02,480
Speaker 3: That they could.

701
00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:07,200
Speaker 4: Do so saying asking before giving any other information out

702
00:31:07,200 --> 00:31:09,640
Speaker 4: before saying it's gonna be, okay because maybe that is

703
00:31:09,680 --> 00:31:12,200
Speaker 4: what they want to. Hear that could be the ANSWER i.

704
00:31:12,160 --> 00:31:13,280
Speaker 3: Just want you to tell me it's gonna be.

705
00:31:13,320 --> 00:31:16,000
Speaker 4: Okay but they also might just SAY i just want

706
00:31:16,000 --> 00:31:17,240
Speaker 4: you to listen to, me OR i just want you

707
00:31:17,320 --> 00:31:17,600
Speaker 4: to sit.

708
00:31:17,640 --> 00:31:17,840
Speaker 3: Here.

709
00:31:18,920 --> 00:31:22,120
Speaker 4: Now i'm gonna skip to the next one because it's

710
00:31:22,360 --> 00:31:25,960
Speaker 4: piggybacks off this because sometimes when you ask people what

711
00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:30,160
Speaker 4: do you, need you don't, know and that can be very.

712
00:31:30,200 --> 00:31:35,640
Speaker 4: Overwhelming so if somebody SAYS i don't, know then one

713
00:31:35,880 --> 00:31:37,640
Speaker 4: you can do, this but, two you don't even have

714
00:31:37,680 --> 00:31:39,240
Speaker 4: to ask the question to do. This if you know

715
00:31:39,320 --> 00:31:44,280
Speaker 4: somebody's struggling and they're, overwhelmed just say, Like, Hey i'm

716
00:31:44,360 --> 00:31:47,200
Speaker 4: gonna come drop cookies off at your front. Door Or

717
00:31:47,320 --> 00:31:50,760
Speaker 4: i'm at the grocery, Store i'm PICKING i saw your favorite,

718
00:31:50,800 --> 00:31:54,640
Speaker 4: Whatever i'm picking some up for. You OR i got

719
00:31:54,640 --> 00:31:57,080
Speaker 4: too much, chicken So i'm bringing you some manchiladas AND

720
00:31:57,080 --> 00:31:58,560
Speaker 4: i want to put them by your front door.

721
00:31:58,480 --> 00:32:00,800
Speaker 3: Or something like. That Or i'm coming over with a.

722
00:32:00,840 --> 00:32:03,120
Speaker 3: MOVIE i really want to watch. It let's watch. Together

723
00:32:03,400 --> 00:32:06,200
Speaker 3: you just do. Something they might want to be left.

724
00:32:06,240 --> 00:32:09,440
Speaker 1: Alone that's WHAT i, Say, well you just showed up

725
00:32:09,440 --> 00:32:10,960
Speaker 1: and you're gonna watch an entire movie with.

726
00:32:11,000 --> 00:32:13,280
Speaker 3: Them that depends on the. Person there's some people THAT i,

727
00:32:13,440 --> 00:32:14,320
Speaker 3: like don't come in my.

728
00:32:14,360 --> 00:32:16,800
Speaker 4: House, Yeah but then there's you, know there's some, people

729
00:32:16,840 --> 00:32:18,160
Speaker 4: like the type of friends that can just walk in

730
00:32:18,200 --> 00:32:21,200
Speaker 4: your house and like hang out like that might be,

731
00:32:21,320 --> 00:32:23,560
Speaker 4: okay and you're probably close enough to be, like, hey

732
00:32:23,560 --> 00:32:24,280
Speaker 4: can you just drop the?

733
00:32:24,320 --> 00:32:24,560
Speaker 1: Movie?

734
00:32:24,920 --> 00:32:27,760
Speaker 3: YEAH i need to be. Alone yeah.

735
00:32:28,360 --> 00:32:32,160
Speaker 4: Okay so that's, one, two, three four is saying something,

736
00:32:32,240 --> 00:32:35,560
Speaker 4: normalizing so that can be as simple as just to,

737
00:32:35,600 --> 00:32:38,120
Speaker 4: me it sounds like you're having a human reaction to

738
00:32:38,240 --> 00:32:41,680
Speaker 4: what's going, on, because LIKE i said, earlier sometimes people

739
00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:43,640
Speaker 4: feel like they're WHICH.

740
00:32:43,360 --> 00:32:45,360
Speaker 3: I don't know if you felt like, THIS i feel

741
00:32:45,360 --> 00:32:48,520
Speaker 3: like you You i'm just gonna say.

742
00:32:48,520 --> 00:32:51,000
Speaker 4: It you kind of minimized what you were going through

743
00:32:51,720 --> 00:32:55,400
Speaker 4: with the no, power, REALLY i think so you were, like,

744
00:32:55,560 --> 00:32:58,240
Speaker 4: yeah me and stevensonkince here her, breath, Haha.

745
00:32:59,200 --> 00:33:04,640
Speaker 1: Well that's the day to be clear when he said, no.

746
00:33:04,880 --> 00:33:09,120
Speaker 1: Okay so we had spent a few nights in the

747
00:33:09,160 --> 00:33:12,160
Speaker 1: house in the, cold and we had invites to go.

748
00:33:12,280 --> 00:33:15,000
Speaker 1: ELSEWHERE i just was really being stubborn about that BECAUSE

749
00:33:15,040 --> 00:33:17,720
Speaker 1: i kept, thinking, also if the power is going to come,

750
00:33:17,720 --> 00:33:21,680
Speaker 1: back and then like day, three it's, like oh or

751
00:33:21,760 --> 00:33:25,240
Speaker 1: day four maybe because we lost. It so we Spent sunday,

752
00:33:25,280 --> 00:33:29,040
Speaker 1: Night monday, Night tuesday, night and it Was, wednesday at

753
00:33:29,080 --> 00:33:31,120
Speaker 1: like about five pm THAT i decided to. Leave so

754
00:33:31,120 --> 00:33:32,880
Speaker 1: we were about to spend our fourth night in the,

755
00:33:32,880 --> 00:33:37,000
Speaker 1: cold And stevenson was, like, MOM i can see my

756
00:33:37,120 --> 00:33:41,000
Speaker 1: breath Like i'm, cold AND i was, like, Okay i'm me, too,

757
00:33:41,040 --> 00:33:45,240
Speaker 1: Buddy like, okay, so AND i hit my breaking point at.

758
00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:47,160
Speaker 1: THAT i know THAT i was laughing about, it but

759
00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:48,200
Speaker 1: also in that MOMENT i was.

760
00:33:48,240 --> 00:33:49,840
Speaker 3: Crying, OKAY i didn't see the.

761
00:33:49,880 --> 00:33:53,080
Speaker 1: TIME i was sitting by the fire and trying to figure.

762
00:33:53,080 --> 00:33:55,080
Speaker 1: Out so THEN i wanted to start even though we

763
00:33:55,120 --> 00:33:58,360
Speaker 1: had offers to go. PLACES i started calling hotels AND

764
00:33:58,440 --> 00:34:00,440
Speaker 1: i think it was just THAT i come with like

765
00:34:00,520 --> 00:34:03,600
Speaker 1: a kid and a dog and a. Cat, yeah and

766
00:34:04,240 --> 00:34:08,120
Speaker 1: like with, me yeah a lot so AND i wasn't

767
00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:11,360
Speaker 1: gonna like leave my. Cat and then my friend was

768
00:34:11,360 --> 00:34:12,680
Speaker 1: at a hotel down the street and she was, like,

769
00:34:12,760 --> 00:34:14,960
Speaker 1: yeah there's all these animals. There she's, like, honestly it's

770
00:34:15,000 --> 00:34:16,680
Speaker 1: kind of, chaotic AND i was, like, oh that sounds,

771
00:34:16,719 --> 00:34:19,279
Speaker 1: Exhausting like it just seems easier to just bundle up

772
00:34:19,320 --> 00:34:21,880
Speaker 1: and stay. Here BUT i was sitting by the fire

773
00:34:22,000 --> 00:34:23,920
Speaker 1: and THEN i started. Crying and Then stevenson saw me

774
00:34:23,960 --> 00:34:25,799
Speaker 1: crying and he came over and he put his arm

775
00:34:25,840 --> 00:34:28,239
Speaker 1: around me and he was, like, Mom BECAUSE i was

776
00:34:28,280 --> 00:34:30,160
Speaker 1: thinking at that point he would maybe go to his

777
00:34:30,239 --> 00:34:31,319
Speaker 1: dad's because his dad had.

778
00:34:31,400 --> 00:34:35,799
Speaker 3: Power could he have not taken the? Air we could?

779
00:34:35,840 --> 00:34:38,440
Speaker 1: Have But ben has a Like ben has his own

780
00:34:38,480 --> 00:34:40,920
Speaker 1: life in a, relationship Like i'm not going to be,

781
00:34:40,960 --> 00:34:41,920
Speaker 1: like can you take my?

782
00:34:42,080 --> 00:34:47,520
Speaker 3: Cat like, no not in a million years. Ever, okay

783
00:34:47,600 --> 00:34:50,360
Speaker 3: car is kind of His, yeah he would take the.

784
00:34:50,400 --> 00:34:53,719
Speaker 1: Dog he took the dog, eventually because eventually the kids

785
00:34:53,760 --> 00:34:54,480
Speaker 1: went back to be With.

786
00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:55,560
Speaker 3: Ben, yes he would take the.

787
00:34:55,560 --> 00:34:58,880
Speaker 1: Dog, Okay so where WAS? I, oh So i'm calling

788
00:34:58,880 --> 00:35:02,439
Speaker 1: hotels and then everywhere full and so Then i'm crying

789
00:35:02,480 --> 00:35:04,839
Speaker 1: and Then stevenson comes. Over oh he was gonna leave

790
00:35:05,680 --> 00:35:07,759
Speaker 1: me Because i'm, like you should just go and Then i'll.

791
00:35:07,680 --> 00:35:08,120
Speaker 3: Stay with the.

792
00:35:08,120 --> 00:35:10,160
Speaker 1: Pets and then WHEN i saw me, crying he came

793
00:35:10,200 --> 00:35:11,840
Speaker 1: over and he was, Like, Mom i'm not leaving. You

794
00:35:12,160 --> 00:35:16,759
Speaker 1: AND i was like, well that's really. Sweet, HOWEVER i

795
00:35:16,800 --> 00:35:19,520
Speaker 1: can handle this AND i want you to be. WARM

796
00:35:19,560 --> 00:35:22,200
Speaker 1: i Think i'm Just i've hit the emotional wall of,

797
00:35:22,640 --> 00:35:26,400
Speaker 1: this like this is All we're, Okay like we have a,

798
00:35:26,400 --> 00:35:29,959
Speaker 1: fireplace we have a gas, stove, like we have candle.

799
00:35:30,040 --> 00:35:31,759
Speaker 1: Lights some people didn't even have, that and they were

800
00:35:31,760 --> 00:35:34,560
Speaker 1: in their homes LIKE i cannot even, imagine and they weren't,

801
00:35:34,600 --> 00:35:36,880
Speaker 1: leaving and they also maybe didn't have invites or.

802
00:35:36,920 --> 00:35:40,759
Speaker 3: OPTIONS i was being just LIKE i didn't want to inconvenience.

803
00:35:40,800 --> 00:35:44,040
Speaker 1: People so, anyway Then i'm talking To shannon and she's, Like,

804
00:35:44,120 --> 00:35:47,600
Speaker 1: amy you are, coming like and so then we went

805
00:35:47,680 --> 00:35:49,640
Speaker 1: upstairs and we packed our. Bags And shannon has a,

806
00:35:49,680 --> 00:35:53,000
Speaker 1: cat so that was, good and she Knows kara and the.

807
00:35:53,080 --> 00:35:57,640
Speaker 1: Caid like everything just felt more, comfortable and So stevens

808
00:35:57,640 --> 00:35:59,640
Speaker 1: AND i just ran up because it was about to be.

809
00:35:59,719 --> 00:36:01,919
Speaker 1: Dark this it's five o'clock and we're about to lose.

810
00:36:01,960 --> 00:36:05,239
Speaker 1: Sunlight AND i didn't want to a pack by. Candlelight

811
00:36:05,520 --> 00:36:06,840
Speaker 1: so then we threw stuff in a bag and we,

812
00:36:06,920 --> 00:36:09,440
Speaker 1: left AND i was very thankful for. That so then

813
00:36:09,480 --> 00:36:11,080
Speaker 1: we spent three nights At shannon's and it was so

814
00:36:11,239 --> 00:36:15,200
Speaker 1: cozy and.

815
00:36:15,440 --> 00:36:16,160
Speaker 3: It just it.

816
00:36:16,239 --> 00:36:20,759
Speaker 1: Worked everything worked, out even THOUGH i had, offers because

817
00:36:20,880 --> 00:36:23,319
Speaker 1: it's even, like, Okay cryocat's like the cryocat has two.

818
00:36:23,400 --> 00:36:26,239
Speaker 1: Dogs one of the dogs is okay with, it the

819
00:36:26,280 --> 00:36:28,919
Speaker 1: other dog. Not and THEN i had other invites where

820
00:36:28,920 --> 00:36:31,400
Speaker 1: they literally were, like you can, come but not with the,

821
00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:34,680
Speaker 1: cat WHICH i. Understand like if there are people are

822
00:36:34,680 --> 00:36:36,920
Speaker 1: allergic to, cats some people just hate.

823
00:36:36,960 --> 00:36:39,960
Speaker 3: Cats, yeah, cats dogs would kill my.

824
00:36:39,920 --> 00:36:43,920
Speaker 1: Cat so ok wouldn't Want there's lots of, reasons like

825
00:36:43,960 --> 00:36:47,560
Speaker 1: it wasn't just like you, know SO i want one

826
00:36:47,600 --> 00:36:49,239
Speaker 1: of my. Friends i'm pretty sure her husband was like, you,

827
00:36:49,239 --> 00:36:49,799
Speaker 1: NO i don't do.

828
00:36:49,760 --> 00:36:53,680
Speaker 3: Cats, okay but there is a cat to be. Had maggie.

829
00:36:53,760 --> 00:36:56,319
Speaker 3: Sweet she just like she doesn't do.

830
00:36:56,360 --> 00:37:09,759
Speaker 6: Anything, yeah, Okay well the whole point of, this you

831
00:37:09,800 --> 00:37:11,239
Speaker 6: were SAYING i was minimizing, It.

832
00:37:11,200 --> 00:37:13,400
Speaker 3: But, okay maybe you. Weren't maybe my experience AND i

833
00:37:13,440 --> 00:37:14,200
Speaker 3: don't know that we talked a.

834
00:37:14,239 --> 00:37:16,040
Speaker 1: Lot i'm just SAYING i don't think i'm cheering with

835
00:37:16,080 --> 00:37:18,880
Speaker 1: you like HOW i was. INTERNALLY i don't THINK i

836
00:37:19,000 --> 00:37:23,640
Speaker 1: vocalized how bad it was or how Difficult wednesday.

837
00:37:23,800 --> 00:37:24,400
Speaker 3: Was it was A.

838
00:37:24,440 --> 00:37:26,799
Speaker 1: Wednesday i'll never forget, it just like That.

839
00:37:26,840 --> 00:37:31,320
Speaker 3: Monday it happened on A. Wednesday it's A. WEDNESDAY i JUST.

840
00:37:31,600 --> 00:37:33,480
Speaker 1: I can't remember certain, things BUT i do KNOW i

841
00:37:33,520 --> 00:37:34,640
Speaker 1: felt extreme joy.

842
00:37:34,480 --> 00:37:38,360
Speaker 3: On that One. Monday, yeah well on That, WEDNESDAY i finally.

843
00:37:38,400 --> 00:37:41,360
Speaker 3: Caved it sounds like you were reacting very normal.

844
00:37:41,400 --> 00:37:43,520
Speaker 1: Too, YES i was having a normal reaction to my.

845
00:37:43,560 --> 00:37:47,520
Speaker 4: Experience so that is number fours to normalize that. Experience

846
00:37:48,160 --> 00:37:49,520
Speaker 4: And i'm glad that you did find.

847
00:37:49,560 --> 00:37:54,399
Speaker 1: Warmth thank you me, too and THAT i. Accepted that's

848
00:37:54,440 --> 00:37:57,520
Speaker 1: another thing for. PEOPLE i don't know why sometimes it's

849
00:37:57,560 --> 00:38:01,640
Speaker 1: so hard to just, accept like BECAUSE i would say

850
00:38:01,680 --> 00:38:03,920
Speaker 1: it and mean. It it's not THAT i don't think

851
00:38:03,960 --> 00:38:05,880
Speaker 1: people mean, it but it's just more of like the

852
00:38:07,120 --> 00:38:07,840
Speaker 1: some people.

853
00:38:07,640 --> 00:38:08,239
Speaker 3: Might not mean.

854
00:38:08,280 --> 00:38:11,279
Speaker 4: It, Yeah LIKE i think some people say let me

855
00:38:11,320 --> 00:38:12,960
Speaker 4: know if you need anything and don't mean.

856
00:38:13,000 --> 00:38:15,239
Speaker 3: It it's just like a thing to, say SO i

857
00:38:15,520 --> 00:38:16,600
Speaker 3: don't want, to, like do.

858
00:38:16,560 --> 00:38:18,000
Speaker 1: You think like in their mind they're, like let me,

859
00:38:18,040 --> 00:38:20,040
Speaker 1: know and you mean? Anything and in their, head WHAT

860
00:38:20,239 --> 00:38:23,200
Speaker 1: i just, SAY i mean. ANYTHING i don't know what

861
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:25,240
Speaker 1: words just came out of my. Mouth but they might, say,

862
00:38:25,880 --> 00:38:27,960
Speaker 1: yeah let me know if you need, anything and then

863
00:38:27,960 --> 00:38:29,200
Speaker 1: they get in their car and in their mind.

864
00:38:29,080 --> 00:38:32,160
Speaker 4: They're, like let it sure. Home, no, YES i, do

865
00:38:32,560 --> 00:38:35,720
Speaker 4: AND i THINK i. DON'T i might not be immune

866
00:38:35,719 --> 00:38:37,279
Speaker 4: from that depends on who it is and what it.

867
00:38:37,320 --> 00:38:39,759
Speaker 4: Is but that has become like just a thing to.

868
00:38:39,800 --> 00:38:42,560
Speaker 4: Say and that's WHY i think when you say when

869
00:38:42,600 --> 00:38:46,040
Speaker 4: people are, like, Hey i'm bringing this, over it can

870
00:38:46,080 --> 00:38:49,520
Speaker 4: be more helpful because like, you IF i would have been, like, Hey,

871
00:38:49,560 --> 00:38:52,520
Speaker 4: Amy i'm coming over to pick you, UP i would

872
00:38:52,520 --> 00:38:54,080
Speaker 4: have gotten here and you would have gotten in my.

873
00:38:54,120 --> 00:38:56,880
Speaker 3: Car, Right AND i gotta, SAY i didn't invite you

874
00:38:56,920 --> 00:38:57,080
Speaker 3: to my.

875
00:38:57,200 --> 00:39:03,839
Speaker 1: House you had, GUESTS i, know but you did it Later, Okay, okay.

876
00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:05,320
Speaker 3: OKAY i was, LIKE i feel.

877
00:39:05,320 --> 00:39:07,080
Speaker 4: BAD i would have let your animals, come And i'm

878
00:39:07,120 --> 00:39:09,400
Speaker 4: not an animal. Person we did have a dog at our.

879
00:39:09,400 --> 00:39:13,520
Speaker 1: House, No, no you texted me and, said, hey we

880
00:39:13,600 --> 00:39:15,919
Speaker 1: have a, room oh if you want to, come And i'm,

881
00:39:15,920 --> 00:39:16,880
Speaker 1: like already settled in.

882
00:39:16,920 --> 00:39:20,640
Speaker 3: It, Shannon, okay, okay who? House like oh my god bed. Friend.

883
00:39:22,120 --> 00:39:24,600
Speaker 1: No but ALSO i Mean shannon is five minutes her

884
00:39:24,600 --> 00:39:27,120
Speaker 1: house is like five minutes for my, WORK i work

885
00:39:27,160 --> 00:39:27,400
Speaker 1: with her.

886
00:39:27,440 --> 00:39:29,720
Speaker 3: Already like there was a lot of.

887
00:39:30,040 --> 00:39:33,560
Speaker 1: That made sense because even during the, day like with

888
00:39:33,719 --> 00:39:36,759
Speaker 1: kids and pets and like it just made sense you

889
00:39:36,880 --> 00:39:40,360
Speaker 1: live other, Direction BUT i would have been grateful.

890
00:39:40,440 --> 00:39:43,080
Speaker 3: If IF i was the only house, available you would have.

891
00:39:43,080 --> 00:39:46,920
Speaker 4: Come, yes, okay but it's better to just show up

892
00:39:46,960 --> 00:39:49,160
Speaker 4: if if but that's if you know the person is

893
00:39:49,200 --> 00:39:50,880
Speaker 4: going to struggle to accept.

894
00:39:50,920 --> 00:39:52,960
Speaker 3: Help so it would.

895
00:39:52,800 --> 00:39:54,440
Speaker 4: Have been more helpful for me just to show up

896
00:39:54,560 --> 00:39:56,239
Speaker 4: or to like IF i had a, generator like come

897
00:39:56,280 --> 00:39:58,080
Speaker 4: bring it to your, house versus do you want my?

898
00:39:58,120 --> 00:40:00,840
Speaker 3: Generator because who? Knows you would have been, like, fine

899
00:40:01,280 --> 00:40:05,560
Speaker 3: we're just. Camping, YEAH i actually don't.

900
00:40:05,680 --> 00:40:08,000
Speaker 1: Know IF i would have, LIKE i would have to

901
00:40:08,000 --> 00:40:10,120
Speaker 1: take a lot of responsibility.

902
00:40:09,400 --> 00:40:11,239
Speaker 3: To like fill it up with, gas and it is

903
00:40:11,280 --> 00:40:11,560
Speaker 3: a lot of.

904
00:40:11,600 --> 00:40:14,879
Speaker 1: Work yeah, YEAH i was, like.

905
00:40:16,400 --> 00:40:19,520
Speaker 3: BUT i think what it's helpful because SOMETIMES i struggle

906
00:40:19,560 --> 00:40:22,200
Speaker 3: to accept things when people are, like oh do, This i'm,

907
00:40:22,200 --> 00:40:22,480
Speaker 3: Like i'm.

908
00:40:22,480 --> 00:40:26,759
Speaker 4: Fine is think of it as you're taking away an

909
00:40:26,800 --> 00:40:31,240
Speaker 4: opportunity for your friend for, them, Right like it feels

910
00:40:31,239 --> 00:40:33,959
Speaker 4: good to help. People so WHEN i allow somebody to help,

911
00:40:34,080 --> 00:40:37,840
Speaker 4: Me i'm not burdening. Them i'm actually giving them a, gift.

912
00:40:38,800 --> 00:40:42,239
Speaker 1: Robbing them of the opportunity to support you and show

913
00:40:42,320 --> 00:40:45,080
Speaker 1: up for, you and which then can bring them. Joy

914
00:40:45,239 --> 00:40:47,080
Speaker 1: this makes you think of when my mom was sick

915
00:40:47,120 --> 00:40:49,000
Speaker 1: and we had like a revolving door of people at

916
00:40:49,000 --> 00:40:51,719
Speaker 1: my sister's house because that's where we had, hospice and

917
00:40:51,760 --> 00:40:54,960
Speaker 1: the house was full of, people quite, honestly and my

918
00:40:55,040 --> 00:40:57,040
Speaker 1: sister AND i spent most of the time by my mom's,

919
00:40:57,080 --> 00:41:01,239
Speaker 1: bedside and my sister had four kids, herself AND i

920
00:41:01,320 --> 00:41:04,920
Speaker 1: wasn't a mom. Yet my husband was In afghanistan at the.

921
00:41:04,920 --> 00:41:08,520
Speaker 1: Time like there was just a lot going on and,

922
00:41:09,440 --> 00:41:11,919
Speaker 1: people some of the people that were the revolving door,

923
00:41:11,960 --> 00:41:14,680
Speaker 1: though would just like walk in grab all the dirty

924
00:41:14,680 --> 00:41:17,080
Speaker 1: clothes because my sister had four, kids take the laundry

925
00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:19,360
Speaker 1: to their, house wash it and bring it back folded and.

926
00:41:19,400 --> 00:41:23,120
Speaker 1: Clean like they didn't even, ask and they didn't even

927
00:41:23,160 --> 00:41:25,960
Speaker 1: run the laundry. There they just they were like put

928
00:41:25,960 --> 00:41:26,840
Speaker 1: it in trash bags and.

929
00:41:26,920 --> 00:41:28,400
Speaker 3: Left that's the way to do.

930
00:41:28,440 --> 00:41:30,760
Speaker 1: It weren't in the, way and that was my sister's,

931
00:41:30,760 --> 00:41:32,040
Speaker 1: community and that's how they showed.

932
00:41:32,120 --> 00:41:34,080
Speaker 3: Up AND i was, like, oh, wow that's really, cool

933
00:41:34,200 --> 00:41:34,640
Speaker 3: so good.

934
00:41:34,680 --> 00:41:36,880
Speaker 4: Idea if you don't know what to do for somebody that,

935
00:41:36,920 --> 00:41:38,640
Speaker 4: could you don't have to bring a movie and make

936
00:41:38,680 --> 00:41:39,239
Speaker 4: them watch it with.

937
00:41:39,280 --> 00:41:42,359
Speaker 3: You you can do the. Laundry shannon just typed in our.

938
00:41:42,400 --> 00:41:44,040
Speaker 1: Dock she said the first TIME i Asked amy to

939
00:41:44,080 --> 00:41:46,000
Speaker 1: come over to my house during the, storm she said

940
00:41:46,000 --> 00:41:49,640
Speaker 1: she didn't feel like dealing with manually opening the garage,

941
00:41:49,719 --> 00:41:50,360
Speaker 1: door which is.

942
00:41:50,400 --> 00:41:52,680
Speaker 3: True i'm, like this seems like a, lot LIKE i

943
00:41:52,719 --> 00:41:55,760
Speaker 3: will get a hypothermia BEFORE i opened the car.

944
00:41:55,880 --> 00:41:57,359
Speaker 1: Right, well because THEN i was gonna have to look.

945
00:41:57,440 --> 00:42:00,359
Speaker 1: Up and Then bobby had called and was like checking

946
00:42:00,360 --> 00:42:01,600
Speaker 1: on me or, whatever and he was, like, WELL i

947
00:42:01,680 --> 00:42:05,680
Speaker 1: just chatgbted how to how do you famly water heater or,

948
00:42:05,680 --> 00:42:08,680
Speaker 1: something because they were inviting me over, Too AND i was,

949
00:42:08,840 --> 00:42:10,319
Speaker 1: like it's really not that.

950
00:42:10,400 --> 00:42:15,040
Speaker 3: Hard it's. Not it seems more difficult to. Me were difficult,

951
00:42:15,040 --> 00:42:16,439
Speaker 3: Probably AND i was, like oh that's.

952
00:42:16,440 --> 00:42:19,759
Speaker 1: Smart so THEN i just googled it and it really was, like,

953
00:42:19,800 --> 00:42:22,000
Speaker 1: oh this is. Easy and Then stevenson helped me and

954
00:42:22,040 --> 00:42:22,960
Speaker 1: he had to get up on a stool and we

955
00:42:22,960 --> 00:42:24,680
Speaker 1: couldn't get to, stay but then he held it up

956
00:42:24,680 --> 00:42:26,120
Speaker 1: with the stool and THEN i backed out.

957
00:42:26,440 --> 00:42:27,319
Speaker 3: And then we were.

958
00:42:27,360 --> 00:42:31,960
Speaker 1: Good but the thought of that seemed so, oh it's

959
00:42:31,960 --> 00:42:33,200
Speaker 1: easier to just stay in the.

960
00:42:33,239 --> 00:42:35,759
Speaker 3: Cold, NO i get. It that's like sometimes when you're

961
00:42:35,800 --> 00:42:38,000
Speaker 3: like laying down and Your But.

962
00:42:38,000 --> 00:42:39,839
Speaker 1: I'm GLAD i learned because it's really not that, hard

963
00:42:40,040 --> 00:42:41,400
Speaker 1: sort of like MAYBE i would learn with the.

964
00:42:41,440 --> 00:42:43,719
Speaker 3: Generator it's not that hard and it actually could come in.

965
00:42:43,760 --> 00:42:47,000
Speaker 4: Handy, YEAH i Guess i've never thought about opening the

966
00:42:47,000 --> 00:42:48,320
Speaker 4: garage door manually.

967
00:42:49,040 --> 00:42:51,520
Speaker 1: In a tough, situation forced to figure it.

968
00:42:51,520 --> 00:42:54,400
Speaker 4: Out speaking of hot water, heaters we ran out of

969
00:42:54,400 --> 00:42:56,040
Speaker 4: hot water for about four.

970
00:42:56,040 --> 00:43:01,879
Speaker 3: Hours oh the tragic during the ice.

971
00:43:01,880 --> 00:43:05,640
Speaker 4: Store it, FROZE i, guess so so.

972
00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:11,480
Speaker 3: Hard SO i felt. Something but then my dad came

973
00:43:11,480 --> 00:43:13,279
Speaker 3: over and fixed. It it was just. Frozen it's.

974
00:43:13,560 --> 00:43:14,040
Speaker 1: Dad he was.

975
00:43:14,080 --> 00:43:19,400
Speaker 3: Alive, OKAY i take it. BACK i wish my dad was.

976
00:43:19,440 --> 00:43:19,800
Speaker 1: Alive.

977
00:43:20,160 --> 00:43:25,719
Speaker 4: Okay also is your dad, Now, okay that's.

978
00:43:25,719 --> 00:43:26,239
Speaker 1: True your.

979
00:43:26,320 --> 00:43:29,600
Speaker 3: Dad he helped me with my water. Heater oh, really

980
00:43:29,719 --> 00:43:30,080
Speaker 3: that's what he.

981
00:43:30,120 --> 00:43:32,520
Speaker 1: Has a couple of weeks, AGO i had no hot

982
00:43:32,560 --> 00:43:36,600
Speaker 1: water and THEN i thought it was a plug thing

983
00:43:36,600 --> 00:43:39,400
Speaker 1: because it's plugged in in the, garage and SO i

984
00:43:39,560 --> 00:43:43,160
Speaker 1: thought it was a a breaker. Thing but he, said

985
00:43:43,440 --> 00:43:46,560
Speaker 1: go around your garage and look for an outlet that

986
00:43:46,600 --> 00:43:49,600
Speaker 1: has a reset. Button and he's, like it'll have a little,

987
00:43:49,640 --> 00:43:52,640
Speaker 1: light hit the reset button and see what. Happens sure,

988
00:43:52,719 --> 00:43:54,719
Speaker 1: ENOUGH i walk around the garage AND i seen an.

989
00:43:54,719 --> 00:43:57,120
Speaker 1: Outlet it has a reset button with a little, light

990
00:43:57,160 --> 00:44:00,480
Speaker 1: AND i hit it and then wouldn't you, know when you,

991
00:44:00,520 --> 00:44:02,800
Speaker 1: know the outlet over in the other corner started working

992
00:44:02,840 --> 00:44:04,200
Speaker 1: that the water heater was plugged.

993
00:44:04,200 --> 00:44:05,399
Speaker 3: Into isn't it?

994
00:44:05,440 --> 00:44:08,520
Speaker 4: Weird like how you would like to, know like how

995
00:44:08,520 --> 00:44:08,920
Speaker 4: to fix.

996
00:44:08,960 --> 00:44:11,040
Speaker 3: EVERYTHING i was, like this is exactly like you and

997
00:44:11,080 --> 00:44:11,600
Speaker 3: my dad are the.

998
00:44:11,640 --> 00:44:13,680
Speaker 1: Same Like i'm so. GLAD i was, Like i'm adopting.

999
00:44:13,719 --> 00:44:15,080
Speaker 1: You and he said, okay and.

1000
00:44:15,000 --> 00:44:16,440
Speaker 3: Then he left his sunglasses here as a.

1001
00:44:16,520 --> 00:44:19,279
Speaker 1: Momentum well that he that was that was on the

1002
00:44:19,280 --> 00:44:21,040
Speaker 1: phone one day he left his sunglasses. Here when he

1003
00:44:21,080 --> 00:44:24,719
Speaker 1: came and sprayed the mold in my bathroom With clorox,

1004
00:44:25,680 --> 00:44:26,360
Speaker 1: bleach he.

1005
00:44:26,360 --> 00:44:27,759
Speaker 3: Showed me how to do. IT i was, like, oh that's,

1006
00:44:27,760 --> 00:44:29,080
Speaker 3: easy Which i'm not living with.

1007
00:44:29,239 --> 00:44:32,959
Speaker 1: Mold by the, way, HOWEVER i had a little leak

1008
00:44:33,800 --> 00:44:37,480
Speaker 1: in my roof and it caused a little, mold but

1009
00:44:37,520 --> 00:44:39,879
Speaker 1: it thankfully hasn't. Spread so WHEN i cut a hole

1010
00:44:40,040 --> 00:44:42,240
Speaker 1: just to see about the, LEAK i saw the black

1011
00:44:42,800 --> 00:44:44,759
Speaker 1: mold and then he was, like, Oh i'm going to

1012
00:44:44,800 --> 00:44:47,400
Speaker 1: spray that for you and then we could patch up the.

1013
00:44:47,400 --> 00:44:52,000
Speaker 3: Hole and that's when he left his. Glasses so, anyway

1014
00:44:52,920 --> 00:44:53,160
Speaker 3: it is.

1015
00:44:53,200 --> 00:44:55,840
Speaker 1: Good do you have your dad So i'm, sorry you

1016
00:44:55,880 --> 00:44:58,879
Speaker 1: can help your. Friends, no you don't say you're. Sorry

1017
00:44:58,920 --> 00:45:01,520
Speaker 1: i'm the one that made the. Joke you've brought up your.

1018
00:45:01,600 --> 00:45:03,520
Speaker 1: Dad and THEN i made the. Joke, Okay i'm, like,

1019
00:45:03,560 --> 00:45:06,160
Speaker 1: oh you had no hot water for.

1020
00:45:07,080 --> 00:45:09,480
Speaker 3: Four four, hours and oh.

1021
00:45:09,400 --> 00:45:11,960
Speaker 4: WELL i was just saying that BECAUSE i thought it

1022
00:45:12,000 --> 00:45:14,480
Speaker 4: was a big. Issue this was more like A psa for.

1023
00:45:14,560 --> 00:45:17,839
Speaker 4: Anybody it was just, frozen and you can actually fix

1024
00:45:17,920 --> 00:45:20,440
Speaker 4: that by taking a hair dryer and holding it on,

1025
00:45:20,520 --> 00:45:23,960
Speaker 4: it melting. It, really that's what he. Did he told

1026
00:45:24,000 --> 00:45:25,680
Speaker 4: me to put like a space heater in front of.

1027
00:45:25,719 --> 00:45:27,440
Speaker 4: It but then he came over AND i think he

1028
00:45:27,560 --> 00:45:30,719
Speaker 4: just used to hair. Dryer, yeah he walked into my

1029
00:45:30,800 --> 00:45:32,680
Speaker 4: room AS i was like on a zoom. CALL i was, Like,

1030
00:45:32,760 --> 00:45:34,040
Speaker 4: Dad i'm on a, meeting and he just was, LIKE

1031
00:45:34,080 --> 00:45:35,399
Speaker 4: i need a hair, dryer AND i was, like.

1032
00:45:39,840 --> 00:45:41,239
Speaker 3: BUT i was very grateful that he fixed.

1033
00:45:41,280 --> 00:45:42,880
Speaker 1: That there was some story in the news of a

1034
00:45:42,880 --> 00:45:46,799
Speaker 1: guy that was trying to like defrost his pipes or

1035
00:45:46,800 --> 00:45:48,560
Speaker 1: something and he used to blow, torch but it was

1036
00:45:48,600 --> 00:45:52,640
Speaker 1: like near. Gas oh my, gosh like not good, Obviously,

1037
00:45:52,719 --> 00:45:55,680
Speaker 1: yeah we didn't do that that caused. Problems, YEAH i

1038
00:45:55,680 --> 00:45:57,640
Speaker 1: don't know if you saw. This and THEN i Promise

1039
00:45:57,680 --> 00:45:58,800
Speaker 1: i'll get to the fifth thing.

1040
00:46:01,239 --> 00:46:03,759
Speaker 3: Where it all. Began now it began to, outweigh and

1041
00:46:03,760 --> 00:46:03,920
Speaker 3: now we.

1042
00:46:04,239 --> 00:46:06,840
Speaker 4: Did there was like a VIDEO i saw on TikTok

1043
00:46:06,880 --> 00:46:09,480
Speaker 4: or something where somebody's house burnt down because they had

1044
00:46:10,200 --> 00:46:12,600
Speaker 4: like a lithium, battery like a battery from like a

1045
00:46:13,080 --> 00:46:15,400
Speaker 4: what are those leaf blower or something like that plugged

1046
00:46:15,400 --> 00:46:15,680
Speaker 4: it in their.

1047
00:46:15,719 --> 00:46:18,160
Speaker 3: Garage SO i went to my garage AND i unplugged.

1048
00:46:18,160 --> 00:46:18,319
Speaker 1: Them.

1049
00:46:18,320 --> 00:46:22,760
Speaker 3: All, wait DO i have a battery plugged? In oh my. Gosh,

1050
00:46:23,040 --> 00:46:24,520
Speaker 3: NO i didn't need to scare.

1051
00:46:24,560 --> 00:46:26,560
Speaker 4: You BUT i also didn't fact check, this so this

1052
00:46:26,600 --> 00:46:29,480
Speaker 4: could have been like fear mongreen video on. TikTok BUT

1053
00:46:30,120 --> 00:46:32,879
Speaker 4: i did, think, like, WAIT i have we have all

1054
00:46:32,920 --> 00:46:35,120
Speaker 4: of our power tool batteries plugged?

1055
00:46:35,160 --> 00:46:36,920
Speaker 3: IN i had a fact check.

1056
00:46:36,960 --> 00:46:39,399
Speaker 1: Everything A'S thee online these, Days, yes because like there's

1057
00:46:39,440 --> 00:46:41,360
Speaker 1: so much out there and that comes And i'm, like

1058
00:46:41,400 --> 00:46:44,319
Speaker 1: SO i take it and THEN i google and THEN

1059
00:46:44,360 --> 00:46:47,080
Speaker 1: i do my due diligence BEFORE i freak, Out like SO.

1060
00:46:47,040 --> 00:46:48,799
Speaker 3: I should have done that with this before talking about.

1061
00:46:48,800 --> 00:46:51,439
Speaker 1: It we can talk about it here because you're also

1062
00:46:51,440 --> 00:46:53,960
Speaker 1: giving a disclaimer of, like so now people can hear

1063
00:46:54,000 --> 00:46:56,279
Speaker 1: it from us and then they can go google it

1064
00:46:56,520 --> 00:47:00,600
Speaker 1: do their. Research but it's uh like even something like

1065
00:47:00,680 --> 00:47:03,880
Speaker 1: with the lyrics like. This one girl got on a

1066
00:47:04,000 --> 00:47:07,200
Speaker 1: video On instagram and she was just like talking about

1067
00:47:07,360 --> 00:47:10,120
Speaker 1: The Super bowl halftime shows and she was, Like i'm

1068
00:47:10,160 --> 00:47:13,920
Speaker 1: not watching The i'm not gonna watch The Bad bunny

1069
00:47:14,000 --> 00:47:18,759
Speaker 1: performance because he has a lyric about how he likes them,

1070
00:47:18,840 --> 00:47:22,160
Speaker 1: young and some call that, predatory but he calls it.

1071
00:47:22,200 --> 00:47:23,160
Speaker 3: Mandatory and then she.

1072
00:47:23,200 --> 00:47:27,680
Speaker 1: Pauses she, goes oh, wait that's Kid rock and he's

1073
00:47:27,719 --> 00:47:30,799
Speaker 1: the headliner For Turning. Point AND i was, like does

1074
00:47:30,880 --> 00:47:33,799
Speaker 1: Kid rock have a song with those? Lyrics so THEN

1075
00:47:33,840 --> 00:47:36,560
Speaker 1: i go AND i google, it and sure, enough if

1076
00:47:36,719 --> 00:47:39,880
Speaker 1: he has a song like Cool Daddy cool or something like.

1077
00:47:39,920 --> 00:47:43,920
Speaker 1: That it's from two thousand and, one and the lyric

1078
00:47:44,160 --> 00:47:47,960
Speaker 1: literally WAS i like him. Young some call, it hold,

1079
00:47:48,040 --> 00:47:50,680
Speaker 1: ON i can look it. Up oh, NO i like him.

1080
00:47:50,760 --> 00:47:54,399
Speaker 1: Underage see some stay that, statutory BUT i say it's

1081
00:47:54,400 --> 00:47:58,280
Speaker 1: Mandatory Old Daddy, Cool and So i'm, like, okay.

1082
00:47:58,400 --> 00:48:01,040
Speaker 4: Yeah so, okay this is funny you for looking that

1083
00:48:01,440 --> 00:48:03,959
Speaker 4: up before you're telling everybody that that was his, song,

1084
00:48:04,040 --> 00:48:06,279
Speaker 4: right because what if it wasn't exactly but it was

1085
00:48:06,360 --> 00:48:11,000
Speaker 4: so and it was. Okay shannon just found while generally

1086
00:48:11,160 --> 00:48:16,920
Speaker 4: safe with modern smart, chargers leaving leaf blower lithium ion

1087
00:48:17,040 --> 00:48:20,960
Speaker 4: batteries plugged in and definitely is not recommended due to

1088
00:48:20,960 --> 00:48:25,640
Speaker 4: potential long term. Degradation why that's a what does that?

1089
00:48:25,719 --> 00:48:28,360
Speaker 4: Mean like like it makes the battery none us?

1090
00:48:28,400 --> 00:48:31,000
Speaker 3: Good, okay got it.

1091
00:48:30,160 --> 00:48:33,080
Speaker 4: And minor fire, Risks so the risks are, minor but

1092
00:48:33,120 --> 00:48:34,759
Speaker 4: it could happen and so it's not worth it for.

1093
00:48:34,840 --> 00:48:38,399
Speaker 1: ME a family put up AT psa and it was their,

1094
00:48:38,480 --> 00:48:40,319
Speaker 1: kid like riding a bike when he was, YOUNG i

1095
00:48:40,320 --> 00:48:43,319
Speaker 1: guess before he, died and THIS i know to be.

1096
00:48:43,400 --> 00:48:45,920
Speaker 1: TRUE i don't know their whole, story BUT i was, like,

1097
00:48:46,000 --> 00:48:50,040
Speaker 1: wow what a powerful. Thing and it wasn't a commercial or.

1098
00:48:50,080 --> 00:48:52,880
Speaker 1: Anything it was just a. Family like it was a

1099
00:48:52,920 --> 00:48:56,279
Speaker 1: real On instagram of A psa to not store your

1100
00:48:56,360 --> 00:48:59,680
Speaker 1: pro paying takes in your garage because they had a

1101
00:48:59,719 --> 00:49:02,200
Speaker 1: propae tank in their garage and it exploded and caught

1102
00:49:02,200 --> 00:49:04,799
Speaker 1: their house on fire and that was they were able

1103
00:49:04,800 --> 00:49:07,120
Speaker 1: to get out with their other, children and then that

1104
00:49:07,200 --> 00:49:10,360
Speaker 1: child wasn't able to get out and he. Died and

1105
00:49:10,400 --> 00:49:12,520
Speaker 1: so that was just a reminder of like not even keeping,

1106
00:49:12,560 --> 00:49:15,959
Speaker 1: them oh my, god near the house so like where

1107
00:49:16,000 --> 00:49:18,960
Speaker 1: you store, things and they just like didn't. THINK i don't,

1108
00:49:18,960 --> 00:49:21,600
Speaker 1: know if they didn't know or they just weren't thinking about,

1109
00:49:21,600 --> 00:49:23,520
Speaker 1: IT i wouldn't have. Thought so that's why they wanted

1110
00:49:23,520 --> 00:49:26,520
Speaker 1: to use their story as a reminder to, people because,

1111
00:49:27,040 --> 00:49:29,080
Speaker 1: YEAH i MEAN i could see as like a single like,

1112
00:49:29,120 --> 00:49:32,560
Speaker 1: SAY i got into, grilling Like, Stashira my daughter was

1113
00:49:32,600 --> 00:49:34,800
Speaker 1: grilling the other day and she had the propane turned

1114
00:49:34,880 --> 00:49:38,400
Speaker 1: up to, high and the firelight came out when she

1115
00:49:38,719 --> 00:49:41,160
Speaker 1: turned it when she lit, it and it like singed her.

1116
00:49:41,160 --> 00:49:43,320
Speaker 3: Eyebrows i'm proud of her.

1117
00:49:43,239 --> 00:49:45,359
Speaker 1: For figuring it, out wanting to girl on her, own

1118
00:49:45,440 --> 00:49:47,600
Speaker 1: but it's like now she needs to pay attention and

1119
00:49:47,680 --> 00:49:49,160
Speaker 1: no to not have it up.

1120
00:49:49,200 --> 00:49:51,759
Speaker 3: High that sort of stuff just breaks me. Out, yeah that's.

1121
00:49:51,760 --> 00:49:55,320
Speaker 3: Scary so fifth. Thing, yeah the people were, like what

1122
00:49:55,360 --> 00:49:55,680
Speaker 3: are you talking?

1123
00:49:55,680 --> 00:49:59,840
Speaker 4: About so this is the fifth thing to say instead

1124
00:50:00,080 --> 00:50:02,160
Speaker 4: of it's gonna be okay when you don't know if you,

1125
00:50:02,160 --> 00:50:03,759
Speaker 4: forgot we're talking about if you don't know if it's

1126
00:50:03,760 --> 00:50:18,720
Speaker 4: gonna be. Okay so this is the fifth thing to

1127
00:50:18,760 --> 00:50:21,640
Speaker 4: say instead of it's gonna be okay when you don't

1128
00:50:21,640 --> 00:50:23,279
Speaker 4: know if you. Forgot we're talking about if you don't

1129
00:50:23,320 --> 00:50:25,720
Speaker 4: know if it's gonna be. Okay and it's actually maybe

1130
00:50:25,760 --> 00:50:29,480
Speaker 4: the most simple also could be for some people the

1131
00:50:29,560 --> 00:50:32,360
Speaker 4: most difficult to just, SAY i don't really know the

1132
00:50:32,440 --> 00:50:34,919
Speaker 4: right thing to, say But i'm, here so just being

1133
00:50:34,960 --> 00:50:36,600
Speaker 4: present with, SOMEBODY.

1134
00:50:36,520 --> 00:50:39,080
Speaker 1: I can put the all five things in the show,

1135
00:50:39,120 --> 00:50:43,640
Speaker 1: notes like in a simple they're LIKE i was trying

1136
00:50:43,640 --> 00:50:46,160
Speaker 1: to take, notes but y'all are all the place talking about.

1137
00:50:46,200 --> 00:50:48,399
Speaker 1: Things and then that way you can just have these

1138
00:50:48,480 --> 00:50:50,840
Speaker 1: because sometimes it's good to write stuff down and just

1139
00:50:50,840 --> 00:50:52,840
Speaker 1: have it that you can, reference like email it to

1140
00:50:52,880 --> 00:50:54,840
Speaker 1: yourself or put it in your notes app of like

1141
00:50:54,880 --> 00:50:57,920
Speaker 1: your little folder for like if someone's going through something

1142
00:50:57,960 --> 00:51:00,279
Speaker 1: and you have the urge to be like it's to be,

1143
00:51:00,320 --> 00:51:03,640
Speaker 1: okay you, like, wait, oh wait a second BEFORE i do.

1144
00:51:03,719 --> 00:51:05,600
Speaker 1: THAT i could do that with a lot of my therapy,

1145
00:51:05,640 --> 00:51:08,000
Speaker 1: stuff even with my. Kids several years, ago there was

1146
00:51:08,000 --> 00:51:10,759
Speaker 1: some stuff with my son and the therapist we had

1147
00:51:10,760 --> 00:51:14,400
Speaker 1: for the time was dropping all kinds of, gold like

1148
00:51:14,480 --> 00:51:16,960
Speaker 1: perfect nuggets and like, scripts LIKE.

1149
00:51:17,719 --> 00:51:19,200
Speaker 3: I love a. SCRIPT i love a.

1150
00:51:19,200 --> 00:51:21,279
Speaker 1: Script it's funny even my ex husband. Knows like we

1151
00:51:21,280 --> 00:51:23,040
Speaker 1: were on a call the other day with this mentor

1152
00:51:23,080 --> 00:51:26,120
Speaker 1: that we work, with and he was, like can you

1153
00:51:26,160 --> 00:51:27,000
Speaker 1: just Give amy a script?

1154
00:51:27,040 --> 00:51:29,200
Speaker 3: Please she loves a, script And i'm, like, YES i.

1155
00:51:29,239 --> 00:51:32,279
Speaker 1: Do it's just like simple one liner things that you

1156
00:51:32,320 --> 00:51:35,120
Speaker 1: can say to help you yourself hold a. Boundary AND

1157
00:51:35,200 --> 00:51:37,719
Speaker 1: i need that because if not you, start IF i,

1158
00:51:37,760 --> 00:51:41,799
Speaker 1: start if the floodgate, opens it's word salad central over,

1159
00:51:41,840 --> 00:51:45,839
Speaker 1: here AND i am like digging Because i'm, uncomfortable AND

1160
00:51:45,880 --> 00:51:50,319
Speaker 1: i just start using more words with my, discomfort.

1161
00:51:49,880 --> 00:51:51,880
Speaker 3: And then it just ends up being And i'm, like

1162
00:51:52,360 --> 00:51:53,000
Speaker 3: what HAVE i even?

1163
00:51:53,040 --> 00:51:57,239
Speaker 1: Said and Now i'm not being clear and clear is

1164
00:51:57,320 --> 00:52:00,200
Speaker 1: kind and unclear is. Unkind and the more WORDS i,

1165
00:52:00,239 --> 00:52:04,600
Speaker 1: add unless it's a podcast, reform of, course in a

1166
00:52:04,640 --> 00:52:07,279
Speaker 1: situation like, that the more WORDS i, add.

1167
00:52:08,520 --> 00:52:09,680
Speaker 3: The worst off we.

1168
00:52:09,719 --> 00:52:13,359
Speaker 1: Are SO i need clear and kind AND i really

1169
00:52:13,400 --> 00:52:16,040
Speaker 1: appreciate a. Script but he would give he had like

1170
00:52:16,080 --> 00:52:19,480
Speaker 1: the best, scripts AND i would sometimes in the middle

1171
00:52:19,520 --> 00:52:22,440
Speaker 1: of my parenting, SITUATION i THINK i told you this,

1172
00:52:22,480 --> 00:52:25,880
Speaker 1: Before LIKE i would just pause and like run to

1173
00:52:25,920 --> 00:52:28,160
Speaker 1: my room and like open my computer and pull up

1174
00:52:28,160 --> 00:52:30,239
Speaker 1: some of this, stuff And i'd be, like, okay and

1175
00:52:30,280 --> 00:52:31,759
Speaker 1: THEN i would know AND i would go back out

1176
00:52:31,760 --> 00:52:33,840
Speaker 1: AND i would say it, verbatim but it was like

1177
00:52:33,920 --> 00:52:36,560
Speaker 1: gold because it was the way my son was receiving.

1178
00:52:36,600 --> 00:52:38,920
Speaker 3: It it's like IF i said it the exact, way it.

1179
00:52:39,000 --> 00:52:40,520
Speaker 3: Worked IF i.

1180
00:52:40,480 --> 00:52:44,680
Speaker 1: Didn't there was wickle room and it wasn't. Clear and

1181
00:52:44,680 --> 00:52:46,799
Speaker 1: SO i was, LIKE i want to say this exactly

1182
00:52:46,840 --> 00:52:48,279
Speaker 1: like he's saying BECAUSE i don't want to mess it

1183
00:52:48,360 --> 00:52:51,440
Speaker 1: up because he's the. Expert so, Anyways i'll put these

1184
00:52:51,440 --> 00:52:55,760
Speaker 1: in the show notes all that to say in case

1185
00:52:55,840 --> 00:52:58,360
Speaker 1: you want one place to find them. All AND i

1186
00:52:58,400 --> 00:53:02,240
Speaker 1: really am glad that we gave like solid, information especially

1187
00:53:02,280 --> 00:53:05,520
Speaker 1: because we got a voicemail and this voicemail is actually really,

1188
00:53:05,560 --> 00:53:06,080
Speaker 1: sweet but.

1189
00:53:06,120 --> 00:53:10,000
Speaker 4: It's in reference to another, voicemail our email.

1190
00:53:10,400 --> 00:53:12,839
Speaker 1: Email, yeah the email we, got and we talked about

1191
00:53:12,880 --> 00:53:15,960
Speaker 1: it during the intro of last Week's Feeling things of

1192
00:53:16,000 --> 00:53:19,680
Speaker 1: the the listener that was no longer, listening the one that,

1193
00:53:19,760 --> 00:53:21,920
Speaker 1: SAID i Know i'm not at airport AND i don't

1194
00:53:21,960 --> 00:53:26,320
Speaker 1: need to announce my, departure But i'm done AND i

1195
00:53:26,400 --> 00:53:28,719
Speaker 1: can't remember everything she, said But, honestly the way she

1196
00:53:28,760 --> 00:53:30,799
Speaker 1: described our podcast was, like, yeah BECAUSE i wouldn't listen.

1197
00:53:30,880 --> 00:53:35,440
Speaker 1: Either oh you know Our chick Fil a, order stuff like,

1198
00:53:35,480 --> 00:53:39,800
Speaker 1: that my t. Shirts so hopefully we offered some value.

1199
00:53:40,000 --> 00:53:42,960
Speaker 3: Here that's why we.

1200
00:53:43,120 --> 00:53:46,240
Speaker 1: Tried i'm gonna throw the five things in the show.

1201
00:53:46,280 --> 00:53:49,200
Speaker 1: Notes and we're also now like a little mini book,

1202
00:53:49,200 --> 00:53:50,560
Speaker 1: club maybe because this is my year of.

1203
00:53:50,600 --> 00:53:54,560
Speaker 3: Reading, well do you want to read? Together, yeah that's

1204
00:53:54,600 --> 00:53:57,879
Speaker 3: what a book club. Does, OKAY i don't.

1205
00:53:57,920 --> 00:53:59,759
Speaker 1: Know one.

1206
00:53:59,840 --> 00:54:01,360
Speaker 3: Day well, okay Now i'm getting.

1207
00:54:01,360 --> 00:54:04,600
Speaker 1: Excited but what if what if we pick a month

1208
00:54:04,719 --> 00:54:07,279
Speaker 1: at some point this year and y'all can email us

1209
00:54:07,400 --> 00:54:09,200
Speaker 1: or leave a voicemail about this or talk about.

1210
00:54:09,239 --> 00:54:10,719
Speaker 3: It does anybody have an?

1211
00:54:10,760 --> 00:54:15,560
Speaker 1: Idea and maybe we have like a big zoom call

1212
00:54:15,719 --> 00:54:17,279
Speaker 1: with anybody that wants to hop on.

1213
00:54:17,480 --> 00:54:20,759
Speaker 3: Like a virtual book. Club but we have to get

1214
00:54:20,760 --> 00:54:21,280
Speaker 3: on the same.

1215
00:54:21,360 --> 00:54:23,880
Speaker 1: Reading, yeah we have to pick a month and a.

1216
00:54:23,920 --> 00:54:26,200
Speaker 3: Book yeah, okay, well well we can work on. That

1217
00:54:27,080 --> 00:54:28,080
Speaker 3: are we going to do historical?

1218
00:54:28,160 --> 00:54:32,120
Speaker 1: FICTION i feel like that would be quite studious of.

1219
00:54:32,239 --> 00:54:38,120
Speaker 3: Us, yeah it'd be. Expected, Probably i'm just. Kidding who

1220
00:54:38,120 --> 00:54:40,440
Speaker 3: we ARE i don't, Know but what should we? Do

1221
00:54:40,520 --> 00:54:41,319
Speaker 3: we'll Take we'll take.

1222
00:54:41,360 --> 00:54:44,600
Speaker 1: Suggestions, YEAH i feel like some, people if a lot

1223
00:54:44,600 --> 00:54:46,000
Speaker 1: of books have been out for a, while it's. Hard

1224
00:54:46,000 --> 00:54:47,800
Speaker 1: maybe we need to pick something that's Like hot The,

1225
00:54:47,880 --> 00:54:48,960
Speaker 1: Press hot The.

1226
00:54:49,040 --> 00:54:52,400
Speaker 4: Press hadn't Read The nightingale BECAUSE i need to be

1227
00:54:52,480 --> 00:54:53,239
Speaker 4: forced to read.

1228
00:54:53,280 --> 00:54:55,280
Speaker 1: It it's so, good, THOUGH.

1229
00:54:55,160 --> 00:54:57,759
Speaker 4: I, know BUT i want to read it and not

1230
00:54:57,880 --> 00:55:01,520
Speaker 4: listen to. It, Okay and so you know my kindle's.

1231
00:55:01,520 --> 00:55:02,839
Speaker 4: Broken WELL i don't.

1232
00:55:02,840 --> 00:55:04,520
Speaker 1: KNOW i, MEAN i guess we still do it AND

1233
00:55:04,520 --> 00:55:05,560
Speaker 1: i could just talk about it.

1234
00:55:05,800 --> 00:55:08,279
Speaker 3: That, no that's not that's that's not that's the.

1235
00:55:08,360 --> 00:55:10,080
Speaker 4: Lame we need to be both reading it so we

1236
00:55:10,080 --> 00:55:12,239
Speaker 4: can be excited and like talk about it at the same.

1237
00:55:12,280 --> 00:55:14,759
Speaker 3: Time, Okay so future thing we'll figure.

1238
00:55:14,760 --> 00:55:16,759
Speaker 1: Out, yeah and, listeners if y'all have any thoughts on,

1239
00:55:16,800 --> 00:55:20,319
Speaker 1: that then send it on. In we will close with

1240
00:55:20,360 --> 00:55:25,799
Speaker 1: this voicemail that we got From heather In, Alberta.

1241
00:55:25,920 --> 00:55:30,120
Speaker 3: CANADA i thought she said she was FROM. Vamp she

1242
00:55:30,200 --> 00:55:33,040
Speaker 3: said she said they're close TO. Vamp oh, Okay, OKAY i was,

1243
00:55:33,080 --> 00:55:33,960
Speaker 3: LIKE i didn't make that.

1244
00:55:34,080 --> 00:55:37,720
Speaker 1: Up, Cool AND i feel like it's just a, reminder,

1245
00:55:37,880 --> 00:55:39,440
Speaker 1: yeah that we're all over the world.

1246
00:55:41,360 --> 00:55:43,719
Speaker 3: Feeling things is. Global do we have one listener In.

1247
00:55:43,800 --> 00:55:45,000
Speaker 3: Nigeria we.

1248
00:55:45,040 --> 00:55:46,799
Speaker 4: DID i don't know if we still. Do it could

1249
00:55:46,800 --> 00:55:50,560
Speaker 4: have been somebody from like, that like on.

1250
00:55:50,640 --> 00:55:53,560
Speaker 3: Vacation, YEAH i went over. THERE i was, listening BUT

1251
00:55:54,160 --> 00:55:54,399
Speaker 3: i don't.

1252
00:55:54,440 --> 00:55:57,319
Speaker 1: Know we have this one, loaded, okay, Perfect so we're

1253
00:55:57,320 --> 00:55:59,560
Speaker 1: gonna play this voicemail From.

1254
00:55:59,600 --> 00:56:00,560
Speaker 3: HEATHER i hear.

1255
00:56:00,640 --> 00:56:02,640
Speaker 7: It, Hi amy And.

1256
00:56:02,760 --> 00:56:06,240
Speaker 5: Kat my name Is. Heather i'm calling Some, Alberta. Canada

1257
00:56:06,480 --> 00:56:07,520
Speaker 5: we're kind of close.

1258
00:56:07,320 --> 00:56:08,520
Speaker 8: To bout because you've never heard of.

1259
00:56:08,600 --> 00:56:13,400
Speaker 9: Band AND i am calling just BECAUSE i just finished

1260
00:56:13,440 --> 00:56:17,640
Speaker 9: listening to today's, podcast which was kind of a bit

1261
00:56:17,640 --> 00:56:23,320
Speaker 9: of a mixture of live and a previously recorded episode

1262
00:56:23,360 --> 00:56:27,160
Speaker 9: because of the freezing stuff going on down, there AND

1263
00:56:27,480 --> 00:56:29,719
Speaker 9: i am going to share my feeling THAT i am

1264
00:56:29,760 --> 00:56:34,000
Speaker 9: feeling very protective of you, too And Mama perish and

1265
00:56:34,640 --> 00:56:38,760
Speaker 9: because of the email that you read about the woman

1266
00:56:38,840 --> 00:56:42,080
Speaker 9: wanting to leave and announce her leaving.

1267
00:56:41,800 --> 00:56:42,560
Speaker 5: Even though it wasn't in.

1268
00:56:42,600 --> 00:56:49,200
Speaker 7: Airport and, yeah the things that you share randomly and

1269
00:56:49,520 --> 00:56:53,200
Speaker 7: all the giggles you, have that's WHAT i love about your.

1270
00:56:53,200 --> 00:56:56,160
Speaker 5: Podcast will make me very angry that someone would hold

1271
00:56:56,160 --> 00:56:56,680
Speaker 5: that against.

1272
00:56:56,719 --> 00:56:57,600
Speaker 7: YOU i love the.

1273
00:56:57,680 --> 00:56:59,200
Speaker 5: RANDOMNESS i love.

1274
00:56:59,040 --> 00:57:01,239
Speaker 8: That it's just feels Like i'm listening to.

1275
00:57:01,360 --> 00:57:04,759
Speaker 5: FRIENDS i literally laugh out loud When i'm, listening and,

1276
00:57:05,520 --> 00:57:10,479
Speaker 5: yeah through some really difficult drives lately because my dad

1277
00:57:10,560 --> 00:57:14,719
Speaker 5: is in the hospital with some decline due to, dementia

1278
00:57:15,000 --> 00:57:17,000
Speaker 5: and SO i have a fifty minute.

1279
00:57:16,800 --> 00:57:17,880
Speaker 8: Drive to the hospital each.

1280
00:57:17,960 --> 00:57:20,040
Speaker 5: Time AND i am just so.

1281
00:57:20,040 --> 00:57:22,440
Speaker 8: Excited that WHENEVER i see a new, episode BECAUSE i

1282
00:57:22,480 --> 00:57:25,640
Speaker 8: know it's going to lighten my mood and get me

1283
00:57:25,680 --> 00:57:28,720
Speaker 8: giggling with. You SO i just want to affirm that

1284
00:57:28,720 --> 00:57:30,640
Speaker 8: you guys are doing a great, job even if it's

1285
00:57:30,680 --> 00:57:33,320
Speaker 8: just talking About chick Fil a or. WHATEVER i love

1286
00:57:33,400 --> 00:57:36,240
Speaker 8: every minute of your. Podcast THEN i hope you have

1287
00:57:36,360 --> 00:57:38,080
Speaker 8: a day you need to have and know that This

1288
00:57:38,640 --> 00:57:40,840
Speaker 8: Mama bear is wanting to defend.

1289
00:57:40,440 --> 00:57:40,840
Speaker 1: You from a.

1290
00:57:40,920 --> 00:57:42,760
Speaker 7: Bar thank you have a great.

1291
00:57:42,840 --> 00:57:44,479
Speaker 5: Day, OH i flew.

1292
00:57:44,520 --> 00:57:46,720
Speaker 8: It it's supposed to be how the day you need to. Have,

1293
00:57:46,920 --> 00:57:48,880
Speaker 8: OKAY i want you to have a good, day, though

1294
00:57:49,760 --> 00:57:51,040
Speaker 8: there you good bye for.

1295
00:57:51,160 --> 00:57:56,280
Speaker 4: NOW i love that she seems like a bright. LIGHT

1296
00:57:56,440 --> 00:57:57,680
Speaker 4: i want to hang out with her.

1297
00:57:58,160 --> 00:58:01,520
Speaker 1: ATTITUDE i, know, no you didn't mess it up because

1298
00:58:01,520 --> 00:58:03,200
Speaker 1: she actually had said had THAT i need to have

1299
00:58:03,240 --> 00:58:05,960
Speaker 1: before that and, then BUT i do appreciate because sometimes

1300
00:58:06,000 --> 00:58:08,320
Speaker 1: that's how when we're ending the podcast like we'll say

1301
00:58:08,360 --> 00:58:09,600
Speaker 1: it and Then i'll say something. Else i'll be, like,

1302
00:58:09,600 --> 00:58:12,200
Speaker 1: shoot we got to do it. Again So, heather it's

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00:58:12,280 --> 00:58:15,120
Speaker 1: just like. Us And i'm sorry to hear two that

1304
00:58:15,160 --> 00:58:18,200
Speaker 1: you're going through that with your dad and, That, yeah

1305
00:58:18,240 --> 00:58:21,280
Speaker 1: we can be by your, side like in the car

1306
00:58:21,480 --> 00:58:25,760
Speaker 1: for your drives and be a little distraction from what

1307
00:58:25,800 --> 00:58:28,160
Speaker 1: you have that's going, on or maybe even helpful depending

1308
00:58:28,160 --> 00:58:29,040
Speaker 1: on what we're talking.

1309
00:58:29,040 --> 00:58:30,680
Speaker 3: About so thank you for that.

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00:58:30,960 --> 00:58:34,880
Speaker 4: Voicemail and what a good reminder for like different strokes

1311
00:58:34,880 --> 00:58:38,560
Speaker 4: for different, Folks like somebody might hate this podcast and that's,

1312
00:58:38,600 --> 00:58:40,920
Speaker 4: okay we don't need to change it because there's also

1313
00:58:40,920 --> 00:58:43,840
Speaker 4: people that like it and not everybody is gonna like. Anything,

1314
00:58:44,200 --> 00:58:45,720
Speaker 4: yeah so thank you for.

1315
00:58:45,800 --> 00:58:48,240
Speaker 1: That, yeah what are all the different strokes for different?

1316
00:58:48,280 --> 00:58:50,280
Speaker 1: Folks not your cup of?

1317
00:58:50,320 --> 00:58:52,160
Speaker 3: Tea, yeah eether' more.

1318
00:58:54,640 --> 00:58:58,760
Speaker 1: Not not your can't date everybody.

1319
00:58:59,760 --> 00:59:01,960
Speaker 3: From the month are they were Stak.

1320
00:59:04,240 --> 00:59:08,640
Speaker 4: You could just make anything up, right not Your how

1321
00:59:08,680 --> 00:59:10,080
Speaker 4: you like your meat, Cooked.

1322
00:59:11,800 --> 00:59:14,480
Speaker 1: Some people like it well, done some people like it

1323
00:59:15,080 --> 00:59:17,240
Speaker 1: unless you're eating ground, beef of, course or a.

1324
00:59:17,280 --> 00:59:19,680
Speaker 3: Hamburger you're always supposed to get it well. Done.

1325
00:59:20,480 --> 00:59:24,640
Speaker 1: Period my niece married a meat. Scientist, wait so a, steak,

1326
00:59:24,840 --> 00:59:27,600
Speaker 1: no not a steak a hamburger because it's ground. MEAT

1327
00:59:27,760 --> 00:59:28,600
Speaker 1: a steak is a.

1328
00:59:29,200 --> 00:59:32,800
Speaker 4: Meat wait a, second are you saying if you're eating ground,

1329
00:59:32,800 --> 00:59:33,919
Speaker 4: meat it needs to be well?

1330
00:59:33,960 --> 00:59:38,200
Speaker 3: Done, Yeah i'm, saying, yeah that's WHAT i.

1331
00:59:38,240 --> 00:59:41,720
Speaker 4: SAID i Am that makes me feel good BECAUSE i

1332
00:59:41,880 --> 00:59:46,880
Speaker 4: like everything well done and WELL i say, medium, well

1333
00:59:46,920 --> 00:59:49,040
Speaker 4: BUT i, really in my heart usually want it.

1334
00:59:48,960 --> 00:59:51,920
Speaker 3: Well, done like on a, HAMBURGER i WANT i want a. Steak,

1335
00:59:52,080 --> 00:59:53,800
Speaker 3: NO i, know but steaks is not yes we're talking

1336
00:59:53,800 --> 00:59:55,360
Speaker 3: about but like. Yes when people ask you how you

1337
00:59:55,400 --> 00:59:56,480
Speaker 3: want your burger, Cooked i'm.

1338
00:59:56,320 --> 00:59:58,280
Speaker 1: Like all the way and that's what you should. Say

1339
00:59:58,320 --> 01:00:01,560
Speaker 1: but then why if you value your? Life, okay that's

1340
01:00:01,600 --> 01:00:03,240
Speaker 1: according TO i wonder.

1341
01:00:03,560 --> 01:00:05,360
Speaker 3: My nephew in.

1342
01:00:05,440 --> 01:00:09,560
Speaker 1: Law your nephew in my niece married a meat scientist

1343
01:00:10,000 --> 01:00:15,640
Speaker 1: and he stands by. This if you're eating ground, meat

1344
01:00:15,680 --> 01:00:17,880
Speaker 1: which is what a hamburger patty is made. From, now,

1345
01:00:17,960 --> 01:00:20,360
Speaker 1: obviously if you're doing like ground meat to put in

1346
01:00:20,360 --> 01:00:22,000
Speaker 1: your pasta, sauce you're going to cook it all the way.

1347
01:00:22,000 --> 01:00:25,320
Speaker 1: Through the same should be true of your hamburger patty

1348
01:00:25,640 --> 01:00:28,240
Speaker 1: because of all the bacteria when it's being ground, together

1349
01:00:28,400 --> 01:00:31,360
Speaker 1: it's getting all ground together when you have a contained

1350
01:00:31,400 --> 01:00:34,200
Speaker 1: piece of, meat like you can see it like nothing

1351
01:00:34,200 --> 01:00:37,600
Speaker 1: else is mixing, in nothing's getting in but the. Ground

1352
01:00:37,640 --> 01:00:39,960
Speaker 1: it's a totally different. Situation and he was, like you

1353
01:00:40,000 --> 01:00:42,440
Speaker 1: would never catch. Meat and he's like a big beef.

1354
01:00:42,480 --> 01:00:46,640
Speaker 1: Guy he probably eats steak that, is you, know rare

1355
01:00:46,800 --> 01:00:48,720
Speaker 1: ish like he loves a good piece of. Meat but

1356
01:00:48,760 --> 01:00:52,480
Speaker 1: if he's eating anything ground like a, Hamburger, okay you

1357
01:00:52,480 --> 01:00:55,400
Speaker 1: will never see me eating anything that is not well.

1358
01:00:55,440 --> 01:00:58,000
Speaker 3: Done thank you for this piece of. Information i've had

1359
01:00:58,040 --> 01:00:59,560
Speaker 3: him on The Bobby Bone show Before next.

1360
01:00:59,600 --> 01:01:02,600
Speaker 4: Time sobody asked me IF i want how my burger,

1361
01:01:02,600 --> 01:01:04,720
Speaker 4: cooked and me, like the right, way well?

1362
01:01:04,720 --> 01:01:08,560
Speaker 1: Done, yeah you're trying to kill.

1363
01:01:08,560 --> 01:01:09,360
Speaker 3: Me SHOULD i tell.

1364
01:01:09,240 --> 01:01:11,600
Speaker 4: Them, like, well according to meat, scientists it should always

1365
01:01:11,600 --> 01:01:12,920
Speaker 4: be well? Done and then they'll be, like.

1366
01:01:12,880 --> 01:01:15,960
Speaker 3: Okay like whatever Does patrick get?

1367
01:01:16,000 --> 01:01:18,800
Speaker 1: Them like he rare or well done or?

1368
01:01:18,880 --> 01:01:22,919
Speaker 3: Medium he gets like steak medium. Rare But i'm talking about.

1369
01:01:22,920 --> 01:01:25,680
Speaker 3: STEAK i Know i'm giving you the whole. Picture, okay

1370
01:01:25,840 --> 01:01:26,520
Speaker 3: be patient with.

1371
01:01:26,560 --> 01:01:32,840
Speaker 1: Me, sorry you know if we get this email of,

1372
01:01:32,920 --> 01:01:35,120
Speaker 1: Like i'm not listening to your podcast to figure out

1373
01:01:35,120 --> 01:01:36,640
Speaker 1: How kat's husband orders his.

1374
01:01:36,760 --> 01:01:41,280
Speaker 3: Steak literally nobody, cares But i'm gonna tell. You. WELL

1375
01:01:41,320 --> 01:01:44,000
Speaker 3: i asked how he gets his, hamburgerss.

1376
01:01:43,600 --> 01:01:47,160
Speaker 4: BUT i feel like when they asked, that he probably

1377
01:01:47,200 --> 01:01:50,480
Speaker 4: says like medium or. Something one time recently he got

1378
01:01:50,480 --> 01:01:53,000
Speaker 4: a BURGER i won't say, where BUT i was going

1379
01:01:53,040 --> 01:01:54,240
Speaker 4: to take a bite of, it AND i was, like

1380
01:01:55,000 --> 01:01:55,720
Speaker 4: you need to send that.

1381
01:01:55,800 --> 01:01:57,880
Speaker 3: Back but then he was like fine with. It why

1382
01:01:57,920 --> 01:02:01,320
Speaker 3: because it was bleeding well like what it was? RAW i,

1383
01:02:01,360 --> 01:02:02,880
Speaker 3: know but some people like their burger that.

1384
01:02:02,920 --> 01:02:05,560
Speaker 4: Way he ate, it, yeah but then he later was, like,

1385
01:02:05,640 --> 01:02:07,080
Speaker 4: yeah it wasn't done all the. Way i'm, like oh my,

1386
01:02:07,120 --> 01:02:10,520
Speaker 4: GOSH i would you would never catch me eating a pink.

1387
01:02:10,920 --> 01:02:14,080
Speaker 4: Burger But i'm, also again very, picky SO i try

1388
01:02:14,120 --> 01:02:16,640
Speaker 4: not to be too judgy Because i'm not adventurous with my.

1389
01:02:16,720 --> 01:02:17,520
Speaker 3: Food but NOW i.

1390
01:02:17,480 --> 01:02:21,480
Speaker 4: Feel more rooted and Like i'm doing it well. Done

1391
01:02:21,640 --> 01:02:24,320
Speaker 4: i'm gonna live live longer than. YOU i don't want

1392
01:02:24,360 --> 01:02:27,160
Speaker 4: to get. Poisoned well also, food if you get food

1393
01:02:27,200 --> 01:02:29,160
Speaker 4: poisoning from, THAT i wouldn't.

1394
01:02:29,160 --> 01:02:31,480
Speaker 1: WANT i came across this one video not to be

1395
01:02:31,600 --> 01:02:34,200
Speaker 1: like a fear, longer but you, know it's like all,

1396
01:02:34,320 --> 01:02:37,760
Speaker 1: natural like if you on, anything it's, like, well this is. Natural,

1397
01:02:38,160 --> 01:02:40,600
Speaker 1: yeah like it falls into the category of, natural and

1398
01:02:40,600 --> 01:02:42,920
Speaker 1: it's like natural isn't always, good, Right like.

1399
01:02:42,720 --> 01:02:44,560
Speaker 4: When people were like the way the cavemen did, it

1400
01:02:44,600 --> 01:02:46,560
Speaker 4: and it's, like, well we've, evolved we shouldn't do it that.

1401
01:02:46,600 --> 01:02:50,440
Speaker 1: Way the mold in my bathroom that your dad clorox is,

1402
01:02:50,520 --> 01:02:54,320
Speaker 1: Natural like just because something says it's natural doesn't mean

1403
01:02:54,400 --> 01:02:57,240
Speaker 1: we need to be taking. It and even with the perimenopause.

1404
01:02:57,280 --> 01:02:58,600
Speaker 3: Stuff you.

1405
01:02:58,640 --> 01:03:01,480
Speaker 1: Know, ME i love a good natural, supplement you. KNOW

1406
01:03:01,600 --> 01:03:03,520
Speaker 1: i feel like AFTER i watch a, documentary they're, like,

1407
01:03:04,360 --> 01:03:08,240
Speaker 1: guys the only way you're gonna help this is.

1408
01:03:08,200 --> 01:03:09,240
Speaker 3: Like take some meds with.

1409
01:03:09,280 --> 01:03:14,360
Speaker 1: Hormones, Yeah like sure you can like eat cilantro and

1410
01:03:14,400 --> 01:03:15,800
Speaker 1: see what, happens but like it's.

1411
01:03:15,880 --> 01:03:19,040
Speaker 3: Time it's probably not.

1412
01:03:19,000 --> 01:03:21,840
Speaker 1: Because so like just before you go spending a bunch

1413
01:03:21,880 --> 01:03:24,080
Speaker 1: of money And i'm someone WHO i have spent money

1414
01:03:24,160 --> 01:03:25,480
Speaker 1: on certain things And i'm, like.

1415
01:03:25,440 --> 01:03:28,120
Speaker 3: Oh, dang show was never gonna.

1416
01:03:28,120 --> 01:03:31,320
Speaker 1: Help, yeah and then it's hard because we're. Inundated and

1417
01:03:31,360 --> 01:03:33,120
Speaker 1: then IF i do it AND i like, it AND

1418
01:03:33,160 --> 01:03:35,040
Speaker 1: i Think i'm seeing a difference for, Myself LIKE i

1419
01:03:35,080 --> 01:03:37,000
Speaker 1: don't mind talking about something IF i feel Like i've

1420
01:03:37,000 --> 01:03:39,400
Speaker 1: had a good, experience but THEN i don't.

1421
01:03:39,400 --> 01:03:41,880
Speaker 3: Know it's just. Hard it's. Hard it's. Hard it's rough out.

1422
01:03:41,880 --> 01:03:44,440
Speaker 3: There get your hamburger, cooked, yeah cook it all the,

1423
01:03:44,440 --> 01:03:46,760
Speaker 3: way and have the day you need to. Have, yay, Yay.

1424
01:03:46,960 --> 01:03:47,880
Speaker 3: Okay bye