1
00:00:00,520 --> 00:00:03,600
Speaker 1: This is the Fred Show. We have your chance to

2
00:00:03,600 --> 00:00:05,720
Speaker 1: win a trip for two to see Kelly Clarkson's return

3
00:00:05,800 --> 00:00:09,400
Speaker 1: to Las Vegas for her brand new residency studio Sessions

4
00:00:09,640 --> 00:00:12,800
Speaker 1: Live at the Coliseum at Caesar's Palace on August first.

5
00:00:13,080 --> 00:00:16,560
Speaker 1: Text Palace to three seven three three seven now for

6
00:00:16,560 --> 00:00:19,760
Speaker 1: a chance to win two tickets to the August first show,

7
00:00:19,960 --> 00:00:23,440
Speaker 1: two nights hotels day July thirty first to August second

8
00:00:23,480 --> 00:00:26,079
Speaker 1: at the Flamingo, Las Vegas, and round trip airfare. A

9
00:00:26,120 --> 00:00:29,040
Speaker 1: confirmation text will be sent. Standard message data rates apply.

10
00:00:29,360 --> 00:00:32,880
Speaker 1: All thanks to the Live Nation Binge three five Kiss FM,

11
00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:35,720
Speaker 1: Chicago's number one at music station. Jason Brown, You're back.

12
00:00:35,880 --> 00:00:38,920
Speaker 1: I am here. You're back. Thank God. Just now I

13
00:00:39,520 --> 00:00:41,280
Speaker 1: can look over and make sure that I'm saying the

14
00:00:41,280 --> 00:00:43,599
Speaker 1: thing I'm supposed to be saying and doing the thing

15
00:00:43,600 --> 00:00:46,000
Speaker 1: I'm supposed to be doing. And you don't have to

16
00:00:46,080 --> 00:00:48,000
Speaker 1: drive down the road or be in your house and

17
00:00:48,080 --> 00:00:51,360
Speaker 1: cuss it me behind my mask. No, damn it, Fred,

18
00:00:51,400 --> 00:00:55,560
Speaker 1: not again. You did it again. Avamax tickets. Got those

19
00:00:55,640 --> 00:00:59,120
Speaker 1: for a Hunting in Bank Pavilion, Northerly Island today seven

20
00:00:59,160 --> 00:01:02,000
Speaker 1: to fifty five. Well, the show not today it's October fourth,

21
00:01:02,080 --> 00:01:03,840
Speaker 1: but we will give it a keyword that you needed

22
00:01:03,880 --> 00:01:09,600
Speaker 1: seven fifty five to get in tomorrow Jonas Brother's tickets. Yes,

23
00:01:09,880 --> 00:01:11,759
Speaker 1: that's another one. I'm getting a lot of d ms,

24
00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:14,160
Speaker 1: a lot of you know, personal text messages and emails

25
00:01:14,160 --> 00:01:16,960
Speaker 1: and people asking for Jonas Brothers tix. A lot of

26
00:01:16,959 --> 00:01:19,360
Speaker 1: people want these things. Who knew the twenty some years

27
00:01:19,440 --> 00:01:21,800
Speaker 1: later I'd be getting dms from grown ass people going

28
00:01:22,440 --> 00:01:23,240
Speaker 1: I gotta have them.

29
00:01:23,360 --> 00:01:26,360
Speaker 2: They're celebrating twenty years and like Nick's doing his solo stuff,

30
00:01:26,600 --> 00:01:30,160
Speaker 2: like Joe's doing like DNC East stuff. It's gonna be like, oh,

31
00:01:30,160 --> 00:01:33,920
Speaker 2: the greatest hits eras tour. Well, Kevin is just gonna

32
00:01:33,920 --> 00:01:35,959
Speaker 2: stand there and play it all. What's the bonus shoness

33
00:01:36,000 --> 00:01:37,399
Speaker 2: to and like turn out the towels?

34
00:01:37,400 --> 00:01:40,479
Speaker 1: And I don't know what Franky's doing. Do you think

35
00:01:40,520 --> 00:01:42,399
Speaker 1: he even gets invited to hang out? Or do you

36
00:01:42,400 --> 00:01:43,960
Speaker 1: think he just sits back while the three of them

37
00:01:44,080 --> 00:01:45,080
Speaker 1: is earnest?

38
00:01:45,319 --> 00:01:47,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, let Frankie out.

39
00:01:47,400 --> 00:01:50,880
Speaker 2: They have a marshmallow and boys like Girls is opening

40
00:01:50,920 --> 00:01:51,480
Speaker 2: for them.

41
00:01:51,520 --> 00:01:55,080
Speaker 1: Wow, I love excited. So tomorrow seven fifty five, we'll

42
00:01:55,080 --> 00:01:57,000
Speaker 1: give you a keyword to win those tickets. And then

43
00:01:57,760 --> 00:02:01,520
Speaker 1: tomorrow also, you are hoping to hear from the woman

44
00:02:01,560 --> 00:02:04,800
Speaker 1: if she survived, who went on the trip, And I

45
00:02:05,120 --> 00:02:07,680
Speaker 1: hope he's wrong now I hope so, but she went

46
00:02:07,720 --> 00:02:11,079
Speaker 1: on the trip. We talked last week about people who

47
00:02:11,080 --> 00:02:13,320
Speaker 1: are who have met folks that they met on the

48
00:02:13,320 --> 00:02:15,440
Speaker 1: internet or that they met through work that they'd never

49
00:02:15,480 --> 00:02:17,640
Speaker 1: actually seen him, like friendships for people that they didn't

50
00:02:17,639 --> 00:02:19,560
Speaker 1: really know or had never met in person. And the

51
00:02:19,600 --> 00:02:22,120
Speaker 1: woman called and said that she was going to meet

52
00:02:22,160 --> 00:02:25,480
Speaker 1: three other women that she had a video game. Is

53
00:02:25,520 --> 00:02:26,960
Speaker 1: that how she met them? No, they were like a

54
00:02:27,040 --> 00:02:29,080
Speaker 1: crafting team or an auction.

55
00:02:28,880 --> 00:02:31,160
Speaker 2: Site, like an auction app or something for like craft

56
00:02:31,320 --> 00:02:32,360
Speaker 2: for literally crafts.

57
00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:34,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, because some people it was video games. For her

58
00:02:34,480 --> 00:02:36,440
Speaker 1: it was crafts. But they'd never met before. And then

59
00:02:36,480 --> 00:02:38,400
Speaker 1: I was kidding around last week and going, ha, you

60
00:02:38,440 --> 00:02:40,480
Speaker 1: guys all gonna like, you know, get it on or whatever,

61
00:02:40,520 --> 00:02:42,840
Speaker 1: and I was kidding and she was like, I don't know. Maybe,

62
00:02:43,280 --> 00:02:44,760
Speaker 1: so tomorrow morning we get the update.

63
00:02:45,800 --> 00:02:48,000
Speaker 4: They all were talking like telling dirty jokes in this

64
00:02:48,080 --> 00:02:49,520
Speaker 4: like auction craft website.

65
00:02:49,560 --> 00:02:51,480
Speaker 1: I was like, what what sort of what sort of

66
00:02:51,520 --> 00:02:55,760
Speaker 1: basket weaving are we doing? Married? Yeah to a man, Yes,

67
00:02:56,680 --> 00:02:58,919
Speaker 1: I don't know. A low Wayne tickets, that's tomorrow. A

68
00:02:58,960 --> 00:03:02,360
Speaker 1: low Wayne tickets this morning, Hot Wheels live tickets, caigoed tickets.

69
00:03:02,400 --> 00:03:04,720
Speaker 1: Got those this morning, all on the Fred Show. Thank

70
00:03:04,760 --> 00:03:06,400
Speaker 1: you for having us on the radio and the iHeart

71
00:03:06,440 --> 00:03:08,640
Speaker 1: app live in anytime. Search for The Fred Show on

72
00:03:08,680 --> 00:03:12,359
Speaker 1: demand and make us a preset morning. I was too

73
00:03:12,360 --> 00:03:15,600
Speaker 1: busy fluffing myself. I was straightening myself up well because

74
00:03:15,600 --> 00:03:17,280
Speaker 1: Giggy gets the camera out, I got to make sure

75
00:03:17,280 --> 00:03:20,080
Speaker 1: everything's you know, like fluffed. That's right, man, That's what

76
00:03:20,080 --> 00:03:23,160
Speaker 1: I'm here for. Picture. Oh, never mind. Fred's Show is

77
00:03:23,480 --> 00:03:26,560
Speaker 1: on Good Morning Everyone, Tuesday, June twenty fourth. It's the

78
00:03:26,600 --> 00:03:31,040
Speaker 1: Fred Show. Hi Klem Hi, Hi, Jason Brown, Hi, Paulina

79
00:03:31,360 --> 00:03:34,800
Speaker 1: Kigky's here shows Shelley one d bucks in the show

80
00:03:34,800 --> 00:03:37,040
Speaker 1: down in about twenty minutes. You can win that money

81
00:03:37,080 --> 00:03:40,160
Speaker 1: if you can beat her in five questions. Bellahminez, you're

82
00:03:40,160 --> 00:03:41,920
Speaker 1: on the phone and the text eight five five five

83
00:03:42,040 --> 00:03:44,400
Speaker 1: nine one three five on yousue and search for the

84
00:03:44,440 --> 00:03:46,960
Speaker 1: Fred's Show on the iHeartRadio app. Search for the Fred

85
00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:51,080
Speaker 1: Show on demand. Make us a preset. Please let me

86
00:03:51,080 --> 00:03:55,400
Speaker 1: see here. I'll stay her going just a second Jamie

87
00:03:56,480 --> 00:03:59,200
Speaker 1: has an issue with her husband, so she came in

88
00:03:59,280 --> 00:04:02,800
Speaker 1: the right place. This place. We'll tell you how to

89
00:04:02,840 --> 00:04:05,760
Speaker 1: live your life. It's all good what they say, like

90
00:04:05,840 --> 00:04:08,200
Speaker 1: those who can do, those who can't teach, or something

91
00:04:08,240 --> 00:04:09,920
Speaker 1: like that. I don't know if I believe that, but

92
00:04:10,880 --> 00:04:12,560
Speaker 1: in this case it would be true. I have no

93
00:04:12,640 --> 00:04:15,000
Speaker 1: business being married, but I'll tell you how to do it. Yeah,

94
00:04:15,040 --> 00:04:17,720
Speaker 1: and I'm probably right my lot of thanks to I

95
00:04:17,760 --> 00:04:20,159
Speaker 1: firmly believe that the entertainer reports coming up this hour

96
00:04:20,279 --> 00:04:21,320
Speaker 1: as well. What are you working on?

97
00:04:21,400 --> 00:04:24,800
Speaker 3: K a major change coming to movie theaters. Also the

98
00:04:24,839 --> 00:04:26,359
Speaker 3: actor that bit his co star.

99
00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:28,840
Speaker 1: Oh, not supposed to do that. And we're commercial free

100
00:04:28,839 --> 00:04:30,520
Speaker 1: for the next forty five minutes. You don't have to

101
00:04:30,560 --> 00:04:33,480
Speaker 1: go anywhere. Yeah, they talk better than they excited.

102
00:04:33,600 --> 00:04:34,440
Speaker 5: Tell me.

103
00:04:34,960 --> 00:04:37,840
Speaker 1: These are the radio blogs on The Fresh showt for

104
00:04:37,920 --> 00:04:39,840
Speaker 1: writing in our diaries, except we say them aloud. We

105
00:04:39,880 --> 00:04:43,400
Speaker 1: call them blogs. Paulina. Yes, the big day is coming.

106
00:04:43,480 --> 00:04:43,960
Speaker 3: It is coming.

107
00:04:44,000 --> 00:04:46,760
Speaker 1: Take it away, dear blog. Thank you.

108
00:04:46,839 --> 00:04:48,039
Speaker 3: Yes, the big day is coming.

109
00:04:48,120 --> 00:04:51,400
Speaker 6: Bigger than my wedding day, bigger than my twenty first birthday.

110
00:04:51,800 --> 00:04:53,920
Speaker 6: I mean, this is a big day, you guys. This

111
00:04:54,000 --> 00:04:56,680
Speaker 6: is the day of my breast reduction and lyft.

112
00:04:57,520 --> 00:04:59,400
Speaker 1: Well, I mean today, isn't it not today?

113
00:04:59,440 --> 00:04:59,640
Speaker 5: Yeah?

114
00:04:59,640 --> 00:05:01,920
Speaker 6: But I mean I wish it was some of the betters.

115
00:05:01,960 --> 00:05:05,720
Speaker 6: Al Right, Friday, Friday morning, seven am. That's where I'm

116
00:05:05,760 --> 00:05:08,520
Speaker 6: a bee. Wow, I can't wait. I'm so excited, but

117
00:05:08,560 --> 00:05:12,320
Speaker 6: I'm very nervous. I'm very nervous. But I have my

118
00:05:12,400 --> 00:05:14,480
Speaker 6: inso pick, which I told you guys about. I was like, oh,

119
00:05:14,520 --> 00:05:16,680
Speaker 6: you know, my friend she sent me a photo because

120
00:05:16,680 --> 00:05:18,520
Speaker 6: she heard through the great vines that I was, you know.

121
00:05:19,000 --> 00:05:22,160
Speaker 1: Through the great vines, multiple vines, all the different vines. Okay,

122
00:05:22,320 --> 00:05:24,440
Speaker 1: so many vines. Because we talked about this last week

123
00:05:24,440 --> 00:05:27,719
Speaker 1: because you asked your your best friend who's a guy. Yes,

124
00:05:27,839 --> 00:05:29,919
Speaker 1: you were like, hey, her moves are pretty great, verbs,

125
00:05:29,920 --> 00:05:32,000
Speaker 1: her herbs are pretty great. In the great vines are

126
00:05:32,040 --> 00:05:35,480
Speaker 1: pretty great, and so like, I don't know, maybe because

127
00:05:35,520 --> 00:05:37,600
Speaker 1: your doctor had asked you for examples of what you

128
00:05:37,640 --> 00:05:39,360
Speaker 1: wanted them to look like, right, yeah, he's like bringing

129
00:05:39,360 --> 00:05:41,159
Speaker 1: me a photo. This woman was kind enough to just

130
00:05:41,560 --> 00:05:43,600
Speaker 1: put well not un solicited, but you didn't ask her.

131
00:05:43,839 --> 00:05:45,600
Speaker 1: She just received a picture of them.

132
00:05:45,640 --> 00:05:46,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, like a good morning tex.

133
00:05:46,800 --> 00:05:48,840
Speaker 6: She's like, hey, I heard you like these so here's

134
00:05:48,839 --> 00:05:49,920
Speaker 6: a picture, and I would be.

135
00:05:49,800 --> 00:05:52,480
Speaker 1: Like, thank you, that's a great way to wake up.

136
00:05:52,880 --> 00:05:53,719
Speaker 1: It was wonderful.

137
00:05:53,880 --> 00:05:55,680
Speaker 3: I feel like a teenage boy. It was just like

138
00:05:55,760 --> 00:05:56,440
Speaker 3: so many boobs.

139
00:05:56,440 --> 00:05:58,880
Speaker 1: Actually, you've been like boob shopping though lately, right because

140
00:05:59,320 --> 00:06:01,400
Speaker 1: and this is like a board here. We're not even you.

141
00:06:01,400 --> 00:06:04,240
Speaker 1: You were having the reconstruction surgery, You've had a baby.

142
00:06:04,400 --> 00:06:07,200
Speaker 1: These things are Yeah, it's been large your whole life.

143
00:06:07,240 --> 00:06:09,520
Speaker 1: You don't want them to be that way anymore all life?

144
00:06:09,760 --> 00:06:11,440
Speaker 1: Oh yeah no, And they're on the floor like that's

145
00:06:11,440 --> 00:06:13,120
Speaker 1: where I'm at. I'm very pocal about it.

146
00:06:13,160 --> 00:06:15,000
Speaker 6: And I'm just really excited for this new chapter of

147
00:06:15,000 --> 00:06:16,760
Speaker 6: my life where I just feel like I can wear

148
00:06:16,839 --> 00:06:18,599
Speaker 6: certain clothes and again I don't have to like, you know,

149
00:06:18,680 --> 00:06:20,640
Speaker 6: tape things up or pick them off the floor in

150
00:06:20,680 --> 00:06:23,640
Speaker 6: the mornings. So for me, I'm really really excited. And

151
00:06:23,680 --> 00:06:24,960
Speaker 6: I was telling my friend over the week and I

152
00:06:25,000 --> 00:06:27,240
Speaker 6: saw her. She she's shaping me at the moment at

153
00:06:27,279 --> 00:06:29,520
Speaker 6: Shape Chicago shout out really quick. But she's doing a

154
00:06:29,520 --> 00:06:31,679
Speaker 6: little uh you know when you roll people like doughs

155
00:06:31,720 --> 00:06:34,160
Speaker 6: like wood therapy and like they burned fat. It's like

156
00:06:34,160 --> 00:06:34,680
Speaker 6: a whole thing.

157
00:06:34,760 --> 00:06:35,880
Speaker 3: I didn't know yeah.

158
00:06:35,880 --> 00:06:39,919
Speaker 6: Oh, it's a whole movement one like oh, well, you

159
00:06:39,960 --> 00:06:42,000
Speaker 6: know you're actually working out and doing the right stuff.

160
00:06:42,040 --> 00:06:45,080
Speaker 6: I'm cheating a little bit over here. But she is

161
00:06:45,080 --> 00:06:47,800
Speaker 6: making me uh snatched. And she and I were talking

162
00:06:47,800 --> 00:06:49,360
Speaker 6: about this. I'm like, hey, you know, Friday, I'm gonna

163
00:06:49,360 --> 00:06:51,520
Speaker 6: do this whatever and she goes, oh, yeah, I'm a

164
00:06:51,600 --> 00:06:53,600
Speaker 6: sea and she's a mom too, And I was like,

165
00:06:53,600 --> 00:06:54,880
Speaker 6: oh really and she goes yeah.

166
00:06:54,880 --> 00:06:57,200
Speaker 3: And I'm like can I see it? And she's like yeah,

167
00:06:57,360 --> 00:06:58,919
Speaker 3: and she just went and showed me.

168
00:06:59,040 --> 00:07:04,320
Speaker 1: So police's walking in asking everybody, I would those look nice?

169
00:07:04,320 --> 00:07:06,280
Speaker 1: Would you mind?

170
00:07:06,400 --> 00:07:06,920
Speaker 3: Do you want to see?

171
00:07:07,760 --> 00:07:07,920
Speaker 7: Yeah?

172
00:07:12,560 --> 00:07:15,720
Speaker 1: No one asked me or Jason, are you?

173
00:07:16,120 --> 00:07:18,240
Speaker 6: Are you a nice sea cup? That's what I'm rolling for.

174
00:07:18,880 --> 00:07:22,120
Speaker 6: Well I need to look ladies. Everybody line up on

175
00:07:22,120 --> 00:07:22,440
Speaker 6: the wall.

176
00:07:22,480 --> 00:07:24,920
Speaker 1: Wow, so you're you're shopping and then Friday will go

177
00:07:24,960 --> 00:07:26,320
Speaker 1: in and be like a little bit of this and

178
00:07:26,360 --> 00:07:28,200
Speaker 1: a little bit of that and then boom.

179
00:07:28,000 --> 00:07:29,920
Speaker 6: There's so much info now now I don't know where

180
00:07:29,960 --> 00:07:32,200
Speaker 6: you thank you, But that's a real girls girl. I

181
00:07:32,240 --> 00:07:34,880
Speaker 6: was just you know, literally like talking and she hers

182
00:07:34,880 --> 00:07:36,080
Speaker 6: were perfect, not even.

183
00:07:35,880 --> 00:07:38,000
Speaker 3: She can't forget them done. Text us your seas if

184
00:07:38,040 --> 00:07:38,560
Speaker 3: you got them.

185
00:07:38,640 --> 00:07:43,000
Speaker 1: Oh god, I don't want to be that. I don't

186
00:07:43,000 --> 00:07:46,040
Speaker 1: want to be responsible. I don't well, I don't want

187
00:07:46,040 --> 00:07:46,760
Speaker 1: to be responsible.

188
00:07:46,840 --> 00:07:48,720
Speaker 3: Yeah.

189
00:07:47,040 --> 00:07:51,040
Speaker 1: Well, when we get them, my brain is still on

190
00:07:51,080 --> 00:07:53,480
Speaker 1: this rolling thing. So where where are you rolling it to,

191
00:07:53,840 --> 00:07:56,000
Speaker 1: like your big toe or something. No, where do we

192
00:07:56,080 --> 00:07:58,000
Speaker 1: roll it to because eventually it doesn't have to come out.

193
00:07:58,240 --> 00:08:02,160
Speaker 6: So yeah, So it's a lymphatic drainage like massage type things.

194
00:08:02,160 --> 00:08:04,160
Speaker 6: So like they do your stomach, they melt your fat

195
00:08:04,200 --> 00:08:05,120
Speaker 6: with this like machine.

196
00:08:05,320 --> 00:08:08,239
Speaker 3: Then she does a massage, then she does what therapy. Guys,

197
00:08:08,240 --> 00:08:11,000
Speaker 3: I'm me a whole new person. Gave me like a month.

198
00:08:11,560 --> 00:08:13,840
Speaker 1: Well yeah, there's nothing wrong with the person that you are.

199
00:08:13,960 --> 00:08:15,240
Speaker 3: Oh thank you. No, she was fun.

200
00:08:15,280 --> 00:08:17,360
Speaker 6: I love I love me, but I'm gonna love me

201
00:08:17,440 --> 00:08:20,680
Speaker 6: more with my with my new boobs and my rold tummy.

202
00:08:20,800 --> 00:08:23,800
Speaker 1: It's gonna be quite the vacation. I'm getting my closets

203
00:08:23,880 --> 00:08:27,080
Speaker 1: organized and uh he is getting new boobs.

204
00:08:27,840 --> 00:08:28,640
Speaker 3: I can't wait.

205
00:08:28,800 --> 00:08:30,840
Speaker 1: But you know, you better, you better get your fill

206
00:08:30,920 --> 00:08:33,160
Speaker 1: of asking everyone if you can see their stuff, because

207
00:08:33,200 --> 00:08:36,040
Speaker 1: like you know, come Friday, then the surgery's already happened,

208
00:08:36,080 --> 00:08:38,400
Speaker 1: so it won't work anymore. No, Yeah, I was wondering

209
00:08:38,440 --> 00:08:40,080
Speaker 1: why you were walking around the office going, hey, would

210
00:08:40,120 --> 00:08:42,920
Speaker 1: you mind stay or go? A lot of people don't

211
00:08:42,960 --> 00:08:45,240
Speaker 1: know that I'm the guy playing those big drums with

212
00:08:45,280 --> 00:08:47,640
Speaker 1: the big you know, with the sticks with the big

213
00:08:47,960 --> 00:08:50,319
Speaker 1: fat thing on the end of it, boom boom. A

214
00:08:50,320 --> 00:08:51,839
Speaker 1: lot of people don't know I'm the guys sure the

215
00:08:51,880 --> 00:08:55,640
Speaker 1: harpist not on that track. No, No, I mean I

216
00:08:55,679 --> 00:08:57,560
Speaker 1: am a studio artist, and I've been known to a

217
00:08:57,600 --> 00:08:58,920
Speaker 1: session artist. I've been known to do a lot of

218
00:08:58,920 --> 00:09:02,920
Speaker 1: different things on this when I'm the boom boom guy. Yes,

219
00:09:03,040 --> 00:09:06,599
Speaker 1: every time you hear boom boom, you ate right on.

220
00:09:06,679 --> 00:09:08,760
Speaker 1: I explained that that's really kind of my thing. A

221
00:09:08,800 --> 00:09:11,720
Speaker 1: lot of people don't know them. Yeah. Yeah, thanks for

222
00:09:11,760 --> 00:09:14,000
Speaker 1: keeping that a secret because there was a non disclosure

223
00:09:14,040 --> 00:09:16,680
Speaker 1: and stuff, because I think the guy who actually plays

224
00:09:16,720 --> 00:09:18,320
Speaker 1: the bongos, who is sick that day, he don't want

225
00:09:18,320 --> 00:09:23,080
Speaker 1: people to know. Hey, Jamie, good morning. I don't know

226
00:09:23,080 --> 00:09:26,360
Speaker 1: what the instrument's called, but I play it. You just

227
00:09:26,400 --> 00:09:29,040
Speaker 1: hand me one. I just can do it, Jamie. Hi, welcome,

228
00:09:29,120 --> 00:09:32,080
Speaker 1: so welcome to stair Go. Thank you for your note

229
00:09:32,080 --> 00:09:35,600
Speaker 1: to us. Fredshire Radio on the socials freadshare radio dot com.

230
00:09:35,600 --> 00:09:40,640
Speaker 1: You can get us that way too. You are married, right, yes, okay,

231
00:09:40,760 --> 00:09:44,560
Speaker 1: you're married, and you recently got into your husband's car

232
00:09:45,280 --> 00:09:46,120
Speaker 1: and what happened?

233
00:09:48,720 --> 00:09:52,840
Speaker 7: So I got into my husband's car and I saw

234
00:09:53,080 --> 00:09:55,360
Speaker 7: that another woman had connected to his bluetooth.

235
00:09:55,920 --> 00:09:58,280
Speaker 1: No, boy, And how did you see that? Because it said, like,

236
00:09:59,120 --> 00:10:03,000
Speaker 1: you know, big movie, big movie, Paul in his car

237
00:10:03,440 --> 00:10:05,760
Speaker 1: phone or again, I don't know, like what people people

238
00:10:05,840 --> 00:10:08,199
Speaker 1: name their phone, right, so like sometimes people are funny

239
00:10:08,240 --> 00:10:09,839
Speaker 1: about it. But so how did you know because it

240
00:10:09,920 --> 00:10:11,320
Speaker 1: said someone's iPhone or something.

241
00:10:13,000 --> 00:10:15,200
Speaker 7: Yeah, I went to connect my phone so I could

242
00:10:15,200 --> 00:10:17,120
Speaker 7: play some music when we were going to the store,

243
00:10:17,360 --> 00:10:21,680
Speaker 7: and I saw that Stephanie's iPhone was the one to

244
00:10:21,800 --> 00:10:23,320
Speaker 7: last connect to his car.

245
00:10:24,559 --> 00:10:27,400
Speaker 1: Okay, did he loan his car out? I mean? Who

246
00:10:27,440 --> 00:10:31,480
Speaker 1: is Stephanie? Okay, I don't mean to bury the lead here.

247
00:10:31,480 --> 00:10:34,760
Speaker 1: Who's Stephanie? Do we know? I?

248
00:10:34,760 --> 00:10:37,439
Speaker 7: I didn't know until I asked my husband. I had

249
00:10:37,440 --> 00:10:40,800
Speaker 7: never heard of a Stephanie. He had never mentioned a Stephanie,

250
00:10:40,880 --> 00:10:44,559
Speaker 7: And so when I asked him who Stephanie is, he

251
00:10:44,880 --> 00:10:48,120
Speaker 7: immediately told me that it was his coworker. And he

252
00:10:48,240 --> 00:10:51,080
Speaker 7: explained that they went one day to go get lunch

253
00:10:51,200 --> 00:10:53,120
Speaker 7: and she wanted to play music on the way.

254
00:10:54,600 --> 00:10:57,480
Speaker 1: Okay, I mean if Caylen and I left here to

255
00:10:57,480 --> 00:10:59,840
Speaker 1: go to breakfast right now, we drove somewhere, that would

256
00:10:59,840 --> 00:11:02,719
Speaker 1: not necessarily be an uncommon thing for Kaylin to want

257
00:11:02,760 --> 00:11:05,680
Speaker 1: to do. Because Kaylen actually has great music taste and

258
00:11:05,679 --> 00:11:07,640
Speaker 1: and she takes over the ox court. I don't have

259
00:11:07,640 --> 00:11:09,040
Speaker 1: a problem with it because she does a good job.

260
00:11:09,280 --> 00:11:13,120
Speaker 1: Some people take over the ox cord and I'm like, like,

261
00:11:13,120 --> 00:11:15,280
Speaker 1: my bluetooth doesn't I'm not looking at you. I'm just saying, like,

262
00:11:15,559 --> 00:11:18,480
Speaker 1: there I have friends who I'm like, yeah, my bluetooth

263
00:11:18,480 --> 00:11:21,040
Speaker 1: doesn't work, you know, or something so like the family.

264
00:11:21,280 --> 00:11:23,760
Speaker 1: But but Calain and I aren't doing anything like anymore.

265
00:11:23,840 --> 00:11:26,360
Speaker 1: I mean we obviously we obviously used to. But that

266
00:11:26,480 --> 00:11:29,920
Speaker 1: was everyone's speculation. But but so that wouldn't be I

267
00:11:29,920 --> 00:11:32,040
Speaker 1: guess if I were seeing someone they got in my

268
00:11:32,080 --> 00:11:34,520
Speaker 1: car and I said, Kaylen's iPhone on my car, I

269
00:11:34,559 --> 00:11:37,480
Speaker 1: don't that wouldn't mean anything, right. That would mean that

270
00:11:37,559 --> 00:11:39,320
Speaker 1: she was in the car with me and wanted to

271
00:11:39,320 --> 00:11:42,080
Speaker 1: control the music. That's what that would mean. But you're

272
00:11:42,120 --> 00:11:45,800
Speaker 1: saying you didn't know who this woman was and you

273
00:11:45,840 --> 00:11:49,600
Speaker 1: don't know why she's connecting to the phone, and and

274
00:11:49,600 --> 00:11:51,720
Speaker 1: and so what else concerns you about this? Or could

275
00:11:51,840 --> 00:11:53,120
Speaker 1: the car phone to the car rather?

276
00:11:55,400 --> 00:11:57,960
Speaker 7: I mean, even though he was honest right away, it's

277
00:11:58,160 --> 00:12:01,320
Speaker 7: just to me it's unaccepted will behavior to have another

278
00:12:01,360 --> 00:12:04,840
Speaker 7: woman in your car if you're married. I just don't

279
00:12:04,880 --> 00:12:05,480
Speaker 7: think that's.

280
00:12:05,280 --> 00:12:09,120
Speaker 1: What was Okay, now wait, whoa wa wa?

281
00:12:09,120 --> 00:12:11,439
Speaker 7: Why wasn't he could have driven herself to lunch? She

282
00:12:11,559 --> 00:12:13,920
Speaker 7: drove herself to work. She clearly has a ride, so

283
00:12:14,080 --> 00:12:16,760
Speaker 7: I don't understand why she had a ride with my husband.

284
00:12:16,920 --> 00:12:19,080
Speaker 1: Do we not care about the planet? Lunch? We don't

285
00:12:19,080 --> 00:12:21,439
Speaker 1: care about the environment? Jamie? I mean, come on, not

286
00:12:21,760 --> 00:12:24,800
Speaker 1: really that, Jamie. Not Jamie, No.

287
00:12:24,960 --> 00:12:30,240
Speaker 8: Really, like Jamie, don't play your husband is not allowed

288
00:12:30,280 --> 00:12:33,760
Speaker 8: to have other women in the car.

289
00:12:34,800 --> 00:12:36,800
Speaker 7: Well, let me add this then, because this was the

290
00:12:36,880 --> 00:12:39,280
Speaker 7: other thing that really upset me was that he also

291
00:12:39,360 --> 00:12:41,800
Speaker 7: paid for her lunch. So not only did he have

292
00:12:41,960 --> 00:12:45,559
Speaker 7: her in his car playing music for him, but then

293
00:12:45,679 --> 00:12:48,320
Speaker 7: he went ahead and paid for his lunch, Like is

294
00:12:48,360 --> 00:12:48,920
Speaker 7: this a date?

295
00:12:49,320 --> 00:12:49,400
Speaker 9: Now?

296
00:12:50,240 --> 00:12:52,319
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, now that you bring up the music and

297
00:12:52,120 --> 00:12:54,120
Speaker 1: the and the lunch, okay, well, now.

298
00:12:54,080 --> 00:12:57,760
Speaker 4: Now, come on, I would also pay for my lunch.

299
00:12:58,240 --> 00:12:59,440
Speaker 4: And still nothing's happening.

300
00:12:59,520 --> 00:13:03,160
Speaker 1: I don't think either one of those things speak to anything.

301
00:13:04,800 --> 00:13:11,040
Speaker 1: What are you doing your stretches again? Over there? No, Kicky, go.

302
00:13:11,160 --> 00:13:15,520
Speaker 8: Huh because sheat Now Now, we're not gonna just act

303
00:13:15,559 --> 00:13:22,120
Speaker 8: like Stephane's feelings aren't valid. That's she's right, You're exactly right.

304
00:13:22,480 --> 00:13:25,760
Speaker 1: Stepanie the coworker is getting free lunch and control the music.

305
00:13:25,800 --> 00:13:30,600
Speaker 1: Her feelings are valid. You're exactly right. Jamie is the wife, Jamie.

306
00:13:30,720 --> 00:13:33,000
Speaker 1: So we're talking to you, and Jamie is the one

307
00:13:33,120 --> 00:13:36,480
Speaker 1: saying that this is inappropriate, and I think that that

308
00:13:36,679 --> 00:13:37,760
Speaker 1: is crazy talk.

309
00:13:38,040 --> 00:13:41,840
Speaker 8: I think Jamie's feelings are valid though she knows her husband,

310
00:13:42,200 --> 00:13:44,320
Speaker 8: and there's a reason she feels this way about him

311
00:13:44,320 --> 00:13:45,400
Speaker 8: having another woman.

312
00:13:45,160 --> 00:13:45,600
Speaker 3: In the car.

313
00:13:45,800 --> 00:13:47,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, why do you feel that way? Is there a reason?

314
00:13:48,080 --> 00:13:50,920
Speaker 1: Like because you wrote in your note to us that

315
00:13:50,960 --> 00:13:54,280
Speaker 1: you've never suspected this guy of cheating. So again, I

316
00:13:54,280 --> 00:13:56,040
Speaker 1: feel like there's a common theme in a lot of

317
00:13:56,040 --> 00:13:58,280
Speaker 1: these things that we talk about when it comes to

318
00:13:58,320 --> 00:14:01,479
Speaker 1: cheating her in fidelity, and it's it's trust into context,

319
00:14:01,880 --> 00:14:05,760
Speaker 1: it's history, Like, so the guy has a female coworker,

320
00:14:05,800 --> 00:14:09,319
Speaker 1: he goes to lunch with You've never suspected him of cheating, Jamie,

321
00:14:10,200 --> 00:14:13,160
Speaker 1: So why are we now saying that he is out

322
00:14:13,200 --> 00:14:15,559
Speaker 1: of nowhere. That's not fair to him because.

323
00:14:16,200 --> 00:14:19,360
Speaker 7: It sends the wrong message to his coworker, like I

324
00:14:19,840 --> 00:14:23,120
Speaker 7: don't think he's cheating, but in her mind like, Okay,

325
00:14:23,200 --> 00:14:26,040
Speaker 7: you just got a ride with him, he's all letting

326
00:14:26,120 --> 00:14:28,720
Speaker 7: you pick some music and buying your lunch. It's just

327
00:14:29,080 --> 00:14:31,280
Speaker 7: it's a terrible way to be if you're married. I

328
00:14:31,320 --> 00:14:33,360
Speaker 7: feel like it sends the wrong message to her.

329
00:14:34,240 --> 00:14:36,720
Speaker 1: I think I gotta be honest with you, Jamie. If

330
00:14:36,720 --> 00:14:39,960
Speaker 1: I were married or in a relationship and my wife

331
00:14:40,000 --> 00:14:44,040
Speaker 1: found out that I was like, no, you can get

332
00:14:44,080 --> 00:14:46,680
Speaker 1: your bluetooth. Are you trying to control my radio station out, Jamie?

333
00:14:47,320 --> 00:14:49,120
Speaker 1: Been trying to connect your trying to connect your phone

334
00:14:49,120 --> 00:14:52,880
Speaker 1: in my radio station. If my wife found out that

335
00:14:52,960 --> 00:14:56,640
Speaker 1: I a girlfriend whomever, that I I made to her

336
00:14:56,720 --> 00:15:00,760
Speaker 1: drive a separate car and then wouldn't pay for her lunch,

337
00:15:00,920 --> 00:15:04,880
Speaker 1: all because I was afraid, and all under the pretense

338
00:15:04,880 --> 00:15:07,360
Speaker 1: that my wife would be upset. If I did any

339
00:15:07,440 --> 00:15:09,600
Speaker 1: of that, I would think that anyone I would be

340
00:15:09,640 --> 00:15:12,240
Speaker 1: with and be like, you're an idiot, Like, that's ridiculous,

341
00:15:12,480 --> 00:15:14,360
Speaker 1: and I'm not going to again. I'm not saying, Jamie

342
00:15:14,360 --> 00:15:16,520
Speaker 1: that you're an idiot or that you're being ridiculous, But

343
00:15:16,520 --> 00:15:18,640
Speaker 1: I guess what I'm saying is I don't think that

344
00:15:18,760 --> 00:15:24,120
Speaker 1: either one of those things inherently leads to cheating. I mean,

345
00:15:25,240 --> 00:15:27,440
Speaker 1: it's not like you found a hotel room key in

346
00:15:27,480 --> 00:15:31,040
Speaker 1: the car too, or like you know, condom wrappers or something.

347
00:15:31,280 --> 00:15:35,320
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm being serious, and whatever your concerns are

348
00:15:35,400 --> 00:15:37,640
Speaker 1: can be your concerns. But I don't think those two

349
00:15:37,720 --> 00:15:41,120
Speaker 1: things in and of themselves mean that someone is cheating.

350
00:15:44,600 --> 00:15:47,360
Speaker 7: Yeah, I just don't want his coworker, Stephanie to think

351
00:15:47,400 --> 00:15:49,760
Speaker 7: that he's interested in her, and I really think this

352
00:15:49,920 --> 00:15:52,880
Speaker 7: opens that door for her. I mean, oh, I'll just

353
00:15:52,920 --> 00:15:55,800
Speaker 7: take you to lunch and I'll drive you, Like it

354
00:15:55,920 --> 00:15:58,640
Speaker 7: just seems weird. I wouldn't do that with my coworker.

355
00:15:58,800 --> 00:16:03,040
Speaker 1: Did you get mad at him?

356
00:16:03,160 --> 00:16:04,680
Speaker 7: I mean we talked about it, and I had to

357
00:16:04,720 --> 00:16:07,200
Speaker 7: walk away because I felt like I was getting really

358
00:16:07,320 --> 00:16:09,920
Speaker 7: upset about it and it wasn't going to be productive.

359
00:16:10,000 --> 00:16:13,359
Speaker 7: So I guess yes, I'm kind of upset with him because.

360
00:16:13,160 --> 00:16:16,400
Speaker 1: I'll tell you what happens then, is now he's not

361
00:16:16,440 --> 00:16:20,480
Speaker 1: going to tell you about stuff like I don't know

362
00:16:20,520 --> 00:16:22,440
Speaker 1: that he stops going to lunch with a woman he's

363
00:16:22,440 --> 00:16:24,920
Speaker 1: not cheating with. Let's just assume he's not because you

364
00:16:24,920 --> 00:16:27,440
Speaker 1: don't suspect him of him infidelity and you never have,

365
00:16:27,560 --> 00:16:29,080
Speaker 1: so let's just give him the benefit of the doubt

366
00:16:29,080 --> 00:16:31,680
Speaker 1: for a second and say he's not cheating. Now he's

367
00:16:31,800 --> 00:16:34,440
Speaker 1: he's probably not gonna stop going to lunch with his teammate,

368
00:16:35,440 --> 00:16:37,920
Speaker 1: and so now he's not going to tell you because

369
00:16:37,920 --> 00:16:39,840
Speaker 1: he doesn't want to fight with you about it. And

370
00:16:39,880 --> 00:16:43,120
Speaker 1: I feel like sometimes you know, and this is from

371
00:16:43,120 --> 00:16:44,800
Speaker 1: the male perspective here, any You're right, I'm not in

372
00:16:44,800 --> 00:16:47,280
Speaker 1: a relationship, so maybe I got this all wrong. But

373
00:16:47,360 --> 00:16:50,280
Speaker 1: if I'm being respectful and honest and transparent and I'm

374
00:16:50,280 --> 00:16:52,600
Speaker 1: not doing anything wrong, and then the person I'm with

375
00:16:52,640 --> 00:16:54,040
Speaker 1: tells me now all of a sudden, I can't do

376
00:16:54,160 --> 00:16:58,400
Speaker 1: that thing, then am I gonna stop doing that thing?

377
00:16:58,440 --> 00:16:59,800
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm gonna I'm gonna listen to you, and

378
00:16:59,800 --> 00:17:02,440
Speaker 1: I'm to take into consideration you're needs and concerns. But

379
00:17:02,480 --> 00:17:04,760
Speaker 1: if I'm not doing anything wrong and it's a normal activity,

380
00:17:05,040 --> 00:17:07,000
Speaker 1: then maybe I keep doing it and just don't tell

381
00:17:07,040 --> 00:17:09,879
Speaker 1: you anymore because I don't feel like an argument. And

382
00:17:09,920 --> 00:17:13,119
Speaker 1: I think sometimes that's what happens when we get upset

383
00:17:13,160 --> 00:17:16,760
Speaker 1: about things that might not be sinister. Is that then

384
00:17:16,800 --> 00:17:19,920
Speaker 1: we want to know why there's not more transparency in relationships.

385
00:17:20,040 --> 00:17:22,280
Speaker 1: But it's because you're sort of penalizing the guy for

386
00:17:22,400 --> 00:17:24,040
Speaker 1: not necessarily doing anything wrong.

387
00:17:27,440 --> 00:17:29,199
Speaker 7: Yeah, but it's not like he just straight up told

388
00:17:29,240 --> 00:17:30,879
Speaker 7: me you went to lunch with that girl. I had

389
00:17:30,920 --> 00:17:33,040
Speaker 7: to find out because of her phone being locked.

390
00:17:32,800 --> 00:17:33,520
Speaker 2: Into his car.

391
00:17:33,920 --> 00:17:35,000
Speaker 3: That's a good point, you know.

392
00:17:35,080 --> 00:17:36,920
Speaker 7: If he would have been like, hey, I went out

393
00:17:36,920 --> 00:17:39,040
Speaker 7: to lunch with Stephanie today, or hey I'm going out

394
00:17:39,040 --> 00:17:41,359
Speaker 7: to lunch with my coworker, it'd be different than me

395
00:17:41,400 --> 00:17:42,359
Speaker 7: having to find out.

396
00:17:44,880 --> 00:17:46,760
Speaker 4: So you want him to tell you every time he

397
00:17:47,240 --> 00:17:51,000
Speaker 4: does something with another woman, Yeah.

398
00:17:50,720 --> 00:17:52,760
Speaker 7: So that we can have a conversation because I would

399
00:17:52,800 --> 00:17:55,040
Speaker 7: have told him this is unacceptable to do before he

400
00:17:55,080 --> 00:17:56,600
Speaker 7: did it, and then this wouldn't be a problem.

401
00:17:56,720 --> 00:17:59,920
Speaker 1: Well, maybe that's why he didn't tell you. And again, Jamie,

402
00:17:59,920 --> 00:18:02,639
Speaker 1: I'm not coming down on you, but like I get it,

403
00:18:02,680 --> 00:18:05,119
Speaker 1: you that's a fair that's a fair request. Have you

404
00:18:05,160 --> 00:18:07,560
Speaker 1: made that request? Before. Have you said to him, Hey,

405
00:18:07,560 --> 00:18:09,040
Speaker 1: if you're going to hang out with any women that

406
00:18:09,119 --> 00:18:10,840
Speaker 1: aren't me, I need to know about it. Have you

407
00:18:10,840 --> 00:18:12,520
Speaker 1: said that to him?

408
00:18:12,840 --> 00:18:13,000
Speaker 5: Well?

409
00:18:13,000 --> 00:18:14,640
Speaker 1: No, I know because by the way, I know we're

410
00:18:14,640 --> 00:18:17,159
Speaker 1: all laughing because and in fairness, that sounds kind of

411
00:18:17,200 --> 00:18:21,960
Speaker 1: ridiculous to say out loud. But if he if you

412
00:18:22,000 --> 00:18:24,280
Speaker 1: said that, here are my concerns, and that he didn't.

413
00:18:24,359 --> 00:18:27,920
Speaker 1: You know, he wasn't receptive to communication, that's one thing.

414
00:18:27,920 --> 00:18:30,200
Speaker 1: But I would imagine you've never said that to him, right,

415
00:18:32,040 --> 00:18:32,439
Speaker 1: I mean, we.

416
00:18:32,480 --> 00:18:35,440
Speaker 7: Had conversations about going and hanging out with women outside

417
00:18:35,440 --> 00:18:37,639
Speaker 7: of work, but we never talked about co workers. I

418
00:18:37,640 --> 00:18:41,680
Speaker 7: guess I should have included that because I wasn't comfortable

419
00:18:41,720 --> 00:18:44,360
Speaker 7: with him going out with like his little girlfriends when

420
00:18:44,359 --> 00:18:47,000
Speaker 7: we first got together, because some of them were kind

421
00:18:47,000 --> 00:18:49,040
Speaker 7: of into him at scenes. So like we had that

422
00:18:49,160 --> 00:18:51,760
Speaker 7: conversation of how I wasn't comfortable with him going out

423
00:18:51,760 --> 00:18:54,520
Speaker 7: with them alone. But I didn't think I needed to

424
00:18:54,520 --> 00:18:57,520
Speaker 7: worry about coworkers. I thought he'd be professional at work.

425
00:18:58,480 --> 00:19:01,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, I hmm, yeah, I don't know, Jamie. Let me

426
00:19:01,840 --> 00:19:03,480
Speaker 1: take some phone calls on it. I've said enough on

427
00:19:03,520 --> 00:19:06,960
Speaker 1: the topic. But eight five five five three five Jamie,

428
00:19:06,960 --> 00:19:09,520
Speaker 1: thank you for the call, and I honestly no judgment here.

429
00:19:09,520 --> 00:19:12,560
Speaker 1: I wish you the best. I'd be careful maybe with

430
00:19:12,680 --> 00:19:16,439
Speaker 1: some of this, because it's like it seems a little controlling,

431
00:19:16,600 --> 00:19:18,800
Speaker 1: and it seems a little bit like you're giving this guy,

432
00:19:19,560 --> 00:19:22,160
Speaker 1: you're penalizing him, when in fact he may have done

433
00:19:22,320 --> 00:19:25,200
Speaker 1: nothing wrong. I mean again, like if I go out

434
00:19:25,240 --> 00:19:27,200
Speaker 1: with people from work, or I go out with clients,

435
00:19:27,320 --> 00:19:30,400
Speaker 1: or I go out with you know whomever, and they're female,

436
00:19:30,840 --> 00:19:32,760
Speaker 1: and I don't run that by you before I go

437
00:19:32,840 --> 00:19:35,160
Speaker 1: out with you, that doesn't mean I'm cheating. It means

438
00:19:35,160 --> 00:19:37,560
Speaker 1: I'm doing my job. It means i'm It means I'm

439
00:19:37,600 --> 00:19:39,760
Speaker 1: being a good teammate. It means I'm bonding with the

440
00:19:39,760 --> 00:19:41,280
Speaker 1: people I work with every day and spend a lot

441
00:19:41,320 --> 00:19:43,560
Speaker 1: of time with. I don't think that inherently means that

442
00:19:43,720 --> 00:19:45,560
Speaker 1: there's infidelity. But let me take some calls and we'll

443
00:19:45,560 --> 00:19:48,159
Speaker 1: see it. Maybe people think I'm dead as wrong. Thank you, Jamie,

444
00:19:48,200 --> 00:19:48,760
Speaker 1: have a good day.

445
00:19:49,840 --> 00:19:51,000
Speaker 3: Thank you you as well.

446
00:19:51,200 --> 00:19:53,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, she's gone NOWT what do we really

447
00:19:53,040 --> 00:19:55,359
Speaker 1: think She's been hurt before?

448
00:19:55,480 --> 00:19:57,520
Speaker 2: And I think she needs therapy and I think she

449
00:19:57,560 --> 00:19:59,879
Speaker 2: needs to work through stuff. Oh, because it just sounds

450
00:19:59,880 --> 00:20:02,879
Speaker 2: like like if you have that heart of a you know,

451
00:20:03,000 --> 00:20:06,919
Speaker 2: opinion about your partner hanging out with people, Like every

452
00:20:07,000 --> 00:20:09,240
Speaker 2: time another man gets in my car, I have to

453
00:20:09,320 --> 00:20:12,280
Speaker 2: let my boyfriend know. Oh there's a man entering my car.

454
00:20:12,359 --> 00:20:14,720
Speaker 2: You better Like that's crazy, Like, I'm sorry, that's a

455
00:20:14,760 --> 00:20:15,600
Speaker 2: little over the line.

456
00:20:15,880 --> 00:20:18,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just I don't know. I think it's just yeah,

457
00:20:19,000 --> 00:20:21,520
Speaker 1: like what there's a common theme in all of these

458
00:20:21,520 --> 00:20:24,920
Speaker 1: and it's trust. Like if you don't trust him, even

459
00:20:24,960 --> 00:20:28,760
Speaker 1: though you said, she said herself, I've never believed that

460
00:20:28,800 --> 00:20:30,639
Speaker 1: he was cheating on me. I have no reason to

461
00:20:30,640 --> 00:20:32,280
Speaker 1: believe that he's cheating. Well, then we got to have

462
00:20:32,400 --> 00:20:35,159
Speaker 1: trust because this is a slippery slope. Now he's not

463
00:20:35,160 --> 00:20:37,920
Speaker 1: gonna tell you about Stephanie, and before long you're gonna

464
00:20:37,920 --> 00:20:40,320
Speaker 1: start finding things now that he's not telling you because

465
00:20:40,320 --> 00:20:42,200
Speaker 1: he doesn't want to get yelled at and or penalized.

466
00:20:42,240 --> 00:20:45,359
Speaker 1: He's not doing anything wrong, so he's protecting himself and

467
00:20:45,400 --> 00:20:48,640
Speaker 1: he's protecting a relationship from unnecessary arguments. But then you're

468
00:20:48,640 --> 00:20:51,360
Speaker 1: gonna accuse him of lying or omission, and then it's

469
00:20:51,400 --> 00:20:53,560
Speaker 1: going to lead to you believing that he's hiding something,

470
00:20:53,680 --> 00:20:56,120
Speaker 1: but he's not really hiding anything. He just doesn't want

471
00:20:56,119 --> 00:20:56,480
Speaker 1: to fight.

472
00:20:56,920 --> 00:20:57,520
Speaker 3: That's true.

473
00:20:57,560 --> 00:20:59,879
Speaker 4: It's such a trust thing because in my past, for

474
00:21:00,440 --> 00:21:02,959
Speaker 4: I would have felt that way, but like now, I

475
00:21:02,960 --> 00:21:04,880
Speaker 4: mean just the other day, my boyfriend needed a plus

476
00:21:04,920 --> 00:21:07,000
Speaker 4: one for some dinner and he couldn't find someone and

477
00:21:07,040 --> 00:21:09,200
Speaker 4: I couldn't go. And I literally was like, oh, just

478
00:21:09,240 --> 00:21:11,560
Speaker 4: take one of my friends. Like that's how trusting I

479
00:21:11,600 --> 00:21:14,080
Speaker 4: feel now. So I think that's a good point.

480
00:21:14,640 --> 00:21:18,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, Michelle, Hi, Hi, Hey, good morning. What do you

481
00:21:18,720 --> 00:21:19,440
Speaker 1: think there? Go?

482
00:21:21,000 --> 00:21:25,320
Speaker 5: I think go. I think that if Stephanie is such

483
00:21:25,359 --> 00:21:28,720
Speaker 5: a good friend of the husband, then why did she

484
00:21:28,960 --> 00:21:32,080
Speaker 5: not know about Stephanie Pryor too? And I'm going to

485
00:21:32,160 --> 00:21:36,200
Speaker 5: lunch thank you by my friends at work. My husband

486
00:21:36,240 --> 00:21:38,840
Speaker 5: knows about them, so it wouldn't be a surprise if

487
00:21:38,840 --> 00:21:41,320
Speaker 5: he found out were out to lunch. I think that

488
00:21:41,400 --> 00:21:45,320
Speaker 5: when you don't communicate cane to day's stuff with your partner,

489
00:21:45,520 --> 00:21:48,000
Speaker 5: it can look like you're hiding stuff, to which you

490
00:21:48,119 --> 00:21:48,680
Speaker 5: probably are.

491
00:21:49,720 --> 00:21:51,240
Speaker 1: Now that's the jump, Michelle. What do you do?

492
00:21:51,320 --> 00:21:54,600
Speaker 5: Michelle, I'm work in corporate.

493
00:21:54,560 --> 00:21:57,320
Speaker 1: So let me ask you anything like this, Like when

494
00:21:57,320 --> 00:21:59,040
Speaker 1: I got up there, I got plans. You know, I'm

495
00:21:59,080 --> 00:22:01,600
Speaker 1: traveling today, but like, I don't know. Yesterday, I got up,

496
00:22:01,640 --> 00:22:05,000
Speaker 1: I came to work, and we did our show. And

497
00:22:05,040 --> 00:22:06,879
Speaker 1: then it's not uncommon for us to be like, hey,

498
00:22:06,920 --> 00:22:08,800
Speaker 1: you want to grab lunch or go to go to breakfast,

499
00:22:08,920 --> 00:22:11,280
Speaker 1: or hey let's go do that whatever, Hey, whatever, and

500
00:22:11,320 --> 00:22:14,679
Speaker 1: there's no forethought, no planning, nothing. And people keep saying

501
00:22:15,680 --> 00:22:17,959
Speaker 1: on the text that the radio show example is not

502
00:22:18,000 --> 00:22:20,240
Speaker 1: fair because we're all close in friends in the back,

503
00:22:20,359 --> 00:22:24,520
Speaker 1: But that's that's no everywhere. That's no different than people

504
00:22:24,720 --> 00:22:27,960
Speaker 1: people listening have exposure to our relationship. But the fact is,

505
00:22:28,160 --> 00:22:30,919
Speaker 1: there are any business out there, there are friendships that

506
00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:32,880
Speaker 1: exist between men and women in the office that are

507
00:22:32,880 --> 00:22:36,199
Speaker 1: not crossing the line. And maybe I didn't know Michelle

508
00:22:36,240 --> 00:22:37,480
Speaker 1: that I was going to go to breakfast, so I

509
00:22:37,560 --> 00:22:39,760
Speaker 1: did not tell you because I didn't want you to know.

510
00:22:39,800 --> 00:22:41,040
Speaker 1: I didn't tell you because I didn't know.

511
00:22:41,880 --> 00:22:44,400
Speaker 5: I understand that, But I think that the wife should

512
00:22:44,440 --> 00:22:48,680
Speaker 5: have already known that her husband is good friends with

513
00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:52,320
Speaker 5: a coworker named Stephanie, so that it doesn't seem on

514
00:22:53,359 --> 00:22:56,120
Speaker 5: warranton for them to be going out to lunch. Yeah,

515
00:22:56,240 --> 00:22:58,919
Speaker 5: that's fair, such good if I'm such good friends with

516
00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:03,200
Speaker 5: a man, my coor friend John, my huntsband knows about

517
00:23:03,200 --> 00:23:05,520
Speaker 5: them and knows their name because I'm talking about them

518
00:23:05,560 --> 00:23:07,760
Speaker 5: and telling them about what we do at work and

519
00:23:08,400 --> 00:23:09,640
Speaker 5: different things like that.

520
00:23:09,960 --> 00:23:12,359
Speaker 1: That's fair. That's fair. Thank you so much, Michelle. Have

521
00:23:12,400 --> 00:23:13,800
Speaker 1: a good day. I'm glad you called too.

522
00:23:13,920 --> 00:23:15,440
Speaker 3: Love you guys, Yeah, I love you too.

523
00:23:16,040 --> 00:23:19,080
Speaker 1: Yeah. My whole thing when we get into this kind

524
00:23:19,080 --> 00:23:21,160
Speaker 1: of topic is I just don't want people to feed

525
00:23:21,200 --> 00:23:23,720
Speaker 1: into a narrative that wasn't there before that then leads

526
00:23:23,760 --> 00:23:25,399
Speaker 1: to a whole bunch of other issues, when really the

527
00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:27,879
Speaker 1: issue is that you're not trusting for some reason, and

528
00:23:27,960 --> 00:23:31,080
Speaker 1: let's talk about that. Let's talk about why you don't

529
00:23:31,080 --> 00:23:33,400
Speaker 1: trust for whatever reason. We don't have to talk about

530
00:23:33,400 --> 00:23:36,240
Speaker 1: Stephanie or anything else, because I will say, the more

531
00:23:36,240 --> 00:23:40,359
Speaker 1: that you start to control someone's behavior or criticize benign behavior,

532
00:23:40,760 --> 00:23:43,560
Speaker 1: then the more it starts to feed into this narrative

533
00:23:43,600 --> 00:23:45,600
Speaker 1: that something's going on. Because again, if I'm not doing

534
00:23:45,640 --> 00:23:47,840
Speaker 1: anything wrong and you're telling me I'm doing something wrong,

535
00:23:48,480 --> 00:23:51,119
Speaker 1: and now you're limiting my ability to make friendships at work,

536
00:23:51,480 --> 00:23:53,400
Speaker 1: then I'm going to stop telling you because I don't

537
00:23:53,400 --> 00:23:55,480
Speaker 1: want to fight with you when I'm not doing anything wrong.

538
00:23:55,600 --> 00:23:57,520
Speaker 8: That's not right, though, But I think the issue here

539
00:23:57,560 --> 00:24:01,200
Speaker 8: is being surprised. Right now, we communicate every day when

540
00:24:01,240 --> 00:24:02,680
Speaker 8: we go home, Hey, how was your day?

541
00:24:02,720 --> 00:24:03,200
Speaker 3: What'd you do?

542
00:24:03,520 --> 00:24:05,000
Speaker 8: That would be something that you would bring up in

543
00:24:05,000 --> 00:24:07,520
Speaker 8: a conversation. I shouldn't get in your car and connect

544
00:24:07,560 --> 00:24:09,760
Speaker 8: my bluetooth and see Stephanie.

545
00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:10,800
Speaker 3: Who is Stephanie?

546
00:24:11,000 --> 00:24:12,960
Speaker 8: Because now now I got all kinds of things going

547
00:24:13,000 --> 00:24:15,280
Speaker 8: on in my mind. Not that you've done anything wrong,

548
00:24:15,320 --> 00:24:17,600
Speaker 8: but you just didn't communicate that with me, And I'm like,

549
00:24:17,680 --> 00:24:20,600
Speaker 8: why why wasn't this communicated? Why you know you didn't

550
00:24:20,600 --> 00:24:21,800
Speaker 8: think that was something to bring up.

551
00:24:22,000 --> 00:24:23,560
Speaker 3: So that's all it is. It's not the being in

552
00:24:23,600 --> 00:24:25,960
Speaker 3: the car or the paying for lunch. It's just because I.

553
00:24:25,920 --> 00:24:27,879
Speaker 8: Go out with my male friends all the time and

554
00:24:28,280 --> 00:24:31,280
Speaker 8: you know, we go to lunch or whatever. But surprising.

555
00:24:31,680 --> 00:24:33,760
Speaker 8: I just don't like being surprised or left out. Who

556
00:24:33,800 --> 00:24:34,320
Speaker 8: is Stephanie?

557
00:24:34,720 --> 00:24:38,720
Speaker 1: You know what? Understanding? I understand, like why do I

558
00:24:38,720 --> 00:24:41,600
Speaker 1: want to know who this person is? That's fair, But

559
00:24:42,000 --> 00:24:46,000
Speaker 1: I also think that maybe when I if that happened,

560
00:24:46,000 --> 00:24:47,760
Speaker 1: and I have a good explanation and I tell you

561
00:24:47,800 --> 00:24:51,280
Speaker 1: who Stephanie is and why it's then that's the end

562
00:24:51,320 --> 00:24:53,840
Speaker 1: of it, because again, if you don't have any reason

563
00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:55,879
Speaker 1: to doubt me, the worst thing in the world is

564
00:24:55,880 --> 00:24:57,760
Speaker 1: when you're not doing anything wrong and someone's telling you

565
00:24:57,760 --> 00:25:00,840
Speaker 1: you're doing something wrong. That's terrible in a relationship. Hey, Maya,

566
00:25:01,080 --> 00:25:02,400
Speaker 1: how you doing, good morning.

567
00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:03,640
Speaker 10: Good morning?

568
00:25:03,920 --> 00:25:05,520
Speaker 1: Hi? What do you think star? By the way, that

569
00:25:05,600 --> 00:25:07,879
Speaker 1: the woman who called Jamie was upset because she got

570
00:25:07,960 --> 00:25:11,480
Speaker 1: her husband's car a woman her phone was connected to

571
00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:13,680
Speaker 1: the bluetooth, or had been connected to the bluetooth, and

572
00:25:13,720 --> 00:25:15,560
Speaker 1: when she asked her husband, it was, oh, that's my coworker.

573
00:25:15,560 --> 00:25:18,119
Speaker 1: We went to lunch, I bought her lunch, and she

574
00:25:18,200 --> 00:25:20,160
Speaker 1: connected her phone in my car to listen to a song.

575
00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:22,640
Speaker 1: And now Jamie's saying that all of that was out

576
00:25:22,680 --> 00:25:23,880
Speaker 1: of bounds. What do you think.

577
00:25:25,400 --> 00:25:27,600
Speaker 10: I'm gonna have to side with wife? It's wrong what

578
00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:31,240
Speaker 10: he did. I'm sorry. I'm not saying he necessarily is cheating,

579
00:25:31,480 --> 00:25:35,119
Speaker 10: but it's if you're married, you have no business going

580
00:25:35,640 --> 00:25:39,200
Speaker 10: to lunch with a woman coworker. You just don't really

581
00:25:39,400 --> 00:25:42,880
Speaker 10: want to do it. Yeah, I'm sorry, It's just it's

582
00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:45,720
Speaker 10: a respect thing. You should respect your wife and the

583
00:25:45,760 --> 00:25:47,680
Speaker 10: way that she found out. I mean, if he came

584
00:25:47,720 --> 00:25:50,520
Speaker 10: home and said, hey, I went out to lunch, you know,

585
00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:53,280
Speaker 10: with my female co worker, that's different. But the way

586
00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:55,919
Speaker 10: that she found out, I think it's just it's not

587
00:25:56,200 --> 00:25:57,440
Speaker 10: it's so disrespectful.

588
00:25:57,640 --> 00:25:59,840
Speaker 4: What if it slipped his mind, Like is that possible

589
00:26:00,000 --> 00:26:04,320
Speaker 4: because there's nothing to it, right, I mean, how.

590
00:26:04,160 --> 00:26:05,200
Speaker 10: Does it put your mind?

591
00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:05,360
Speaker 1: Though?

592
00:26:05,400 --> 00:26:07,320
Speaker 10: How is your day? Honey? Oh, I went to lunch

593
00:26:07,359 --> 00:26:08,160
Speaker 10: with my coworker.

594
00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:08,400
Speaker 7: Oh?

595
00:26:08,600 --> 00:26:09,320
Speaker 10: I mean, I don't know.

596
00:26:09,440 --> 00:26:11,080
Speaker 3: If it's benign, you don't think about it.

597
00:26:13,359 --> 00:26:15,520
Speaker 10: I don't know. I just I don't think.

598
00:26:15,600 --> 00:26:17,639
Speaker 1: It just makes me. It makes me sad, Maya. It

599
00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:19,760
Speaker 1: does make me a little sad that that's And you're

600
00:26:19,760 --> 00:26:22,040
Speaker 1: allowed to have whatever boundaries you want and establish them.

601
00:26:22,080 --> 00:26:23,720
Speaker 1: And by the way, if you communicate that, which she

602
00:26:23,760 --> 00:26:26,280
Speaker 1: admits she never did. She never said you can't go

603
00:26:26,320 --> 00:26:28,760
Speaker 1: to lunch with I'm uncomfortable with you having lunch one

604
00:26:28,800 --> 00:26:31,199
Speaker 1: on one with female coworkers. If you have gone to

605
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:33,320
Speaker 1: your husband, Maya, and said, hey, this is what I

606
00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:35,199
Speaker 1: need from you, and he agrees to it, and then

607
00:26:35,200 --> 00:26:37,800
Speaker 1: he does it anyway, that's the thing, I guess if

608
00:26:37,800 --> 00:26:40,480
Speaker 1: you both agree to it. But like wouldn't you agree

609
00:26:40,480 --> 00:26:42,520
Speaker 1: that it kind of sucks that if you have a

610
00:26:42,560 --> 00:26:44,480
Speaker 1: husband that he's out there not able to make the

611
00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:47,119
Speaker 1: same kind of friendships and the same I have the

612
00:26:47,160 --> 00:26:49,439
Speaker 1: same kind of bonding experience with his coworkers because his

613
00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:52,760
Speaker 1: wife says, no, you.

614
00:26:52,760 --> 00:26:55,240
Speaker 10: Know what, we live in a different world. Now. It's sad,

615
00:26:55,560 --> 00:26:58,320
Speaker 10: it really is. But I just I find it to

616
00:26:58,359 --> 00:27:01,560
Speaker 10: be a little bit disrespectful. Just okay, that she found out.

617
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:04,679
Speaker 10: I feel if she came home and told her, I

618
00:27:04,680 --> 00:27:07,000
Speaker 10: feel she would feel differently about it, do you know

619
00:27:07,000 --> 00:27:09,200
Speaker 10: what I mean? But the way that she found out,

620
00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:10,520
Speaker 10: that's what.

621
00:27:11,320 --> 00:27:13,639
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, fair enough, fair enough, there could be

622
00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:16,160
Speaker 1: more communication, and then that that that also takes away

623
00:27:16,200 --> 00:27:17,840
Speaker 1: from this sort of obscurity of it. Yeah, I got it.

624
00:27:18,040 --> 00:27:19,320
Speaker 1: Thank you, Maya. I have a good day.

625
00:27:20,119 --> 00:27:20,960
Speaker 5: We can't thank you.

626
00:27:21,040 --> 00:27:22,760
Speaker 1: I'm glad you called. I guess I'm team being a

627
00:27:22,800 --> 00:27:25,280
Speaker 1: relationship and team. I'm there because I trust the person

628
00:27:25,320 --> 00:27:27,679
Speaker 1: and team. I'm not going to ride ride them and

629
00:27:27,680 --> 00:27:29,960
Speaker 1: make rules for them that they can then walk them

630
00:27:30,040 --> 00:27:31,720
Speaker 1: walk into traps all the time for doing things that

631
00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:32,200
Speaker 1: are normal.

632
00:27:32,280 --> 00:27:35,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, but team communicate as well. That's all.

633
00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:38,119
Speaker 1: So if hobby had lunch with a female firefighter was

634
00:27:38,560 --> 00:27:40,600
Speaker 1: and didn't and didn't necessarily announce to you that he

635
00:27:40,640 --> 00:27:41,520
Speaker 1: was doing it ahead of time.

636
00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:42,280
Speaker 3: That would bother me.

637
00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:44,320
Speaker 6: Just tell you because we communicate with him, and I

638
00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:47,280
Speaker 6: have a relationship where we've established communication. I'll say, oh,

639
00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:49,720
Speaker 6: I'm going to lunch with Fred and Jason whatever. I'll

640
00:27:49,720 --> 00:27:52,320
Speaker 6: tell him because it's just how we talk. Maybe that's

641
00:27:52,359 --> 00:27:54,679
Speaker 6: the thing when every marriage is the same. Rightly, Caya

642
00:27:54,720 --> 00:27:56,440
Speaker 6: made a point that you might have forgot. Maybe you

643
00:27:56,480 --> 00:27:58,280
Speaker 6: don't go home in debrief right and have like a

644
00:27:58,320 --> 00:28:00,760
Speaker 6: whole meeting of how your day was. Me and my husband,

645
00:28:00,840 --> 00:28:03,000
Speaker 6: my husband and I we have that. I think it's

646
00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:05,200
Speaker 6: important to communicate, especially because that's kind of how we've

647
00:28:05,280 --> 00:28:06,240
Speaker 6: built our relationship.

648
00:28:06,400 --> 00:28:08,080
Speaker 3: It's always been very open communicator.

649
00:28:08,680 --> 00:28:11,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, it is Jim Sarah, Hi, good morning.

650
00:28:12,560 --> 00:28:13,159
Speaker 2: Good morning.

651
00:28:13,200 --> 00:28:14,159
Speaker 7: How are you Hi?

652
00:28:14,320 --> 00:28:17,719
Speaker 1: Doing well? So you take the other side, you're saying stay,

653
00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:19,040
Speaker 1: I'm saying stay.

654
00:28:19,280 --> 00:28:22,600
Speaker 9: I don't think this is something that you get rid

655
00:28:22,640 --> 00:28:26,360
Speaker 9: of your husband for. But I do think that if

656
00:28:26,359 --> 00:28:28,879
Speaker 9: this is an issue that she has, she just needs

657
00:28:28,920 --> 00:28:32,679
Speaker 9: to be honest and betimes, it's what we do for

658
00:28:32,760 --> 00:28:35,840
Speaker 9: each other. We have to take in how other people

659
00:28:35,920 --> 00:28:38,320
Speaker 9: feel and know that it's something that bothers her and

660
00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:41,120
Speaker 9: maybe something that he just has to do to make

661
00:28:41,160 --> 00:28:46,240
Speaker 9: her comfortable. Okay, I don't think it's something I don't

662
00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:49,000
Speaker 9: think it's something we we get rid of our smiuse.

663
00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:52,840
Speaker 1: For Yeah, yeah, I agree, I agree. Thank you, Stephanie.

664
00:28:54,200 --> 00:28:56,400
Speaker 1: I have a good day. Like I'll be honest with you.

665
00:28:56,520 --> 00:29:00,280
Speaker 1: Like my someone just texted, what happened to being a gentleman? Well,

666
00:29:00,400 --> 00:29:03,640
Speaker 1: my mom taught me that, you know, basically, it's a

667
00:29:03,720 --> 00:29:06,520
Speaker 1: nice thing to do as and again just gets into

668
00:29:06,600 --> 00:29:08,840
Speaker 1: don't at me for gender roles and all this stuff.

669
00:29:08,960 --> 00:29:10,840
Speaker 1: But I was raised if I take you guys to lunch,

670
00:29:10,880 --> 00:29:13,080
Speaker 1: that I should, I should make the move to pay

671
00:29:13,120 --> 00:29:14,959
Speaker 1: for it. And I'm not doing anything with any of you.

672
00:29:15,160 --> 00:29:17,640
Speaker 1: It's just a nice thing to do, right like, and

673
00:29:17,680 --> 00:29:20,720
Speaker 1: I like doing it. And so whether there's a sexual

674
00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:22,400
Speaker 1: relationship or not, if I go to lunch with a

675
00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:25,200
Speaker 1: friend of mine who's a female, I buy lunch. And

676
00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:27,480
Speaker 1: if that's objectionable to somebody, fine, and I would I

677
00:29:27,480 --> 00:29:29,440
Speaker 1: would do it if I were married, I would still

678
00:29:29,480 --> 00:29:31,400
Speaker 1: buy you guys lunch or dinner if we went out,

679
00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:33,520
Speaker 1: because I think it's a nice thing to do, and

680
00:29:33,560 --> 00:29:35,280
Speaker 1: it was what I was taught and it has nothing

681
00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:37,640
Speaker 1: to do with sex. Yeah. I think that's the problem

682
00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:41,480
Speaker 1: is immediately when it comes to men and women and gestures,

683
00:29:41,720 --> 00:29:43,440
Speaker 1: we immediately jump to sex.

684
00:29:43,600 --> 00:29:49,440
Speaker 8: Why because y'all Nasty's entertainment report.

685
00:29:49,560 --> 00:29:50,760
Speaker 1: He is on the Freash Show.

686
00:29:51,200 --> 00:29:53,880
Speaker 4: Rep Pitt opened up in a very big way about

687
00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:57,120
Speaker 4: his past struggles with alcohol and how things really hit

688
00:29:57,200 --> 00:30:00,800
Speaker 4: rock bottom during his split from Angelina Jolie. During a

689
00:30:00,840 --> 00:30:04,280
Speaker 4: pretty rare podcast appearance on Armchair Expert, Brad said that

690
00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:07,360
Speaker 4: back in twenty sixteen, after the divorce started, he was

691
00:30:07,400 --> 00:30:09,800
Speaker 4: pretty much on his knees and realized it was time

692
00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:12,400
Speaker 4: to wake the f up. That's when he joined AA

693
00:30:12,520 --> 00:30:15,080
Speaker 4: and said walking into that first meeting was very intense,

694
00:30:15,240 --> 00:30:17,840
Speaker 4: but once he heard other guys being real and funny

695
00:30:17,880 --> 00:30:19,640
Speaker 4: and vulnerable, it actually.

696
00:30:19,360 --> 00:30:20,880
Speaker 3: Gave him permission to do the same.

697
00:30:21,320 --> 00:30:23,840
Speaker 4: Dax, by the way, the host of that is also

698
00:30:23,880 --> 00:30:26,239
Speaker 4: an AA and very open about it, and so it

699
00:30:26,280 --> 00:30:29,360
Speaker 4: was a wonderful conversation. In fact, he said those AA

700
00:30:29,400 --> 00:30:31,520
Speaker 4: meetings were something that he actually started to look forward

701
00:30:31,600 --> 00:30:33,800
Speaker 4: to and became a really special place for him.

702
00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:35,480
Speaker 3: Now he's in a much better place.

703
00:30:35,560 --> 00:30:39,280
Speaker 4: The divorce was finally settled last year after it felt

704
00:30:39,280 --> 00:30:40,240
Speaker 4: like eighty four years.

705
00:30:40,480 --> 00:30:41,040
Speaker 3: He's happy.

706
00:30:41,080 --> 00:30:44,560
Speaker 4: He's got a real beautiful girlfriend, Inez.

707
00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:46,440
Speaker 3: De Ramone I think is her name, and a new.

708
00:30:46,320 --> 00:30:48,960
Speaker 4: Movie f one dropping Friday, so he's in a better spot.

709
00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:51,960
Speaker 4: But good interview if you're looking for something to listen

710
00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:54,800
Speaker 4: to after you've listened to our show five times on

711
00:30:54,840 --> 00:30:57,880
Speaker 4: the app. Speaking of x's, Joe Jonas and ex wife

712
00:30:57,920 --> 00:31:00,640
Speaker 4: Sophie Turner were spotted walking together in New York. A

713
00:31:00,680 --> 00:31:03,160
Speaker 4: fan took a video of them seemingly having a really

714
00:31:03,200 --> 00:31:06,560
Speaker 4: friendly conversation without their daughter so it was just them,

715
00:31:06,600 --> 00:31:10,920
Speaker 4: posted it on TikTok. They finalized their divorce last September.

716
00:31:11,760 --> 00:31:15,000
Speaker 4: Martin Cove, best known for his show or the Show

717
00:31:15,040 --> 00:31:17,360
Speaker 4: I should say Cobra Kai, got kicked out of a

718
00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:22,480
Speaker 4: fan convention in Washington after allegedly biting his co star

719
00:31:22,960 --> 00:31:26,239
Speaker 4: Alisha Hannah Kim on the arm, which this is the

720
00:31:26,240 --> 00:31:28,440
Speaker 4: weirdest story of the day. When she yelled in pain,

721
00:31:28,880 --> 00:31:32,360
Speaker 4: he reportedly responded by kissing the bite area, and then

722
00:31:32,400 --> 00:31:35,920
Speaker 4: the whole very bizarre incident was serious enough that security

723
00:31:35,960 --> 00:31:39,160
Speaker 4: removed him from the convention floor. After Alicia and her

724
00:31:39,200 --> 00:31:41,200
Speaker 4: husband confronted him and we're like, yo, why are you

725
00:31:41,240 --> 00:31:42,000
Speaker 4: biting my wife?

726
00:31:42,240 --> 00:31:43,880
Speaker 3: And why are you kissing the wound?

727
00:31:44,560 --> 00:31:47,200
Speaker 4: And lastly, real quick, more ads are coming to your

728
00:31:47,240 --> 00:31:50,760
Speaker 4: AMC movies starting July first. AMC is adding a new

729
00:31:50,800 --> 00:31:54,080
Speaker 4: platinum spot aka and extra commercial right before the movie

730
00:31:54,120 --> 00:31:55,440
Speaker 4: starts as part of an AD deal.

731
00:31:56,320 --> 00:31:57,360
Speaker 3: And they say that.

732
00:31:57,520 --> 00:32:01,000
Speaker 4: This added revenue is vital for recovery after COVID without

733
00:32:01,080 --> 00:32:04,040
Speaker 4: hiking ticket prices. And I'm refreshed because it's a company

734
00:32:04,040 --> 00:32:05,040
Speaker 4: being honest, like.

735
00:32:05,040 --> 00:32:06,719
Speaker 3: Yo, we need the money. We got to add this.

736
00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:09,760
Speaker 4: And you know, people are still pissed, but they're going

737
00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:10,800
Speaker 4: to be pissed about anything.

738
00:32:11,440 --> 00:32:12,920
Speaker 3: Just go a little later. It's all good.

739
00:32:12,960 --> 00:32:14,720
Speaker 4: By the way, if you miss any part of our show,

740
00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:17,160
Speaker 4: like I said, type the Fred Show on demand and

741
00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:20,600
Speaker 4: please set us as a preset on the iHeartRadio app.

742
00:32:20,360 --> 00:32:22,640
Speaker 1: Show Bis Shelley, good morning, h Hey, good morning. You

743
00:32:22,680 --> 00:32:24,560
Speaker 1: know it just reminds me of Calin. This reminds me

744
00:32:24,640 --> 00:32:27,040
Speaker 1: that topic from Stay Ago. By the way, if Military Mike,

745
00:32:27,080 --> 00:32:30,080
Speaker 1: Military Mike has gone for months on end right, Yeah,

746
00:32:30,120 --> 00:32:32,200
Speaker 1: and I've seen pictures of him when he's on top

747
00:32:32,200 --> 00:32:34,120
Speaker 1: secret missions, but he's really in Dubai with his shirt

748
00:32:34,160 --> 00:32:37,920
Speaker 1: off on his Instagram. If he were to go out

749
00:32:38,120 --> 00:32:41,480
Speaker 1: to dinner with a female soldier fellow soldier, he's in

750
00:32:41,520 --> 00:32:43,600
Speaker 1: the Navy, I mean, would you object to them?

751
00:32:44,080 --> 00:32:44,160
Speaker 7: No?

752
00:32:44,360 --> 00:32:46,760
Speaker 11: I mean it's happened before. He has female friends, I

753
00:32:46,840 --> 00:32:48,920
Speaker 11: have guy friends, but I will. I think it depends

754
00:32:48,920 --> 00:32:52,040
Speaker 11: on the person too, and sort of like past discretion.

755
00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:53,720
Speaker 11: It like if some of my exes had done that,

756
00:32:53,800 --> 00:32:55,440
Speaker 11: I would be like, excuse me, Oh.

757
00:32:55,360 --> 00:32:57,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, well there's context there, right, Like these guys have

758
00:32:57,760 --> 00:33:00,200
Speaker 1: been dishonest, or you've caught them in lives before, or

759
00:33:00,200 --> 00:33:02,720
Speaker 1: they have a history of infidelity. That's important.

760
00:33:03,040 --> 00:33:04,040
Speaker 3: It is, it is.

761
00:33:04,160 --> 00:33:05,719
Speaker 1: But this reminds me of when I was dating that

762
00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:07,600
Speaker 1: girl for a few weeks. Literally, we've been dating for

763
00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:09,720
Speaker 1: like six weeks, and Kaylen, you and I went to

764
00:33:09,760 --> 00:33:13,680
Speaker 1: the mall and that girl said that you and I

765
00:33:13,720 --> 00:33:19,240
Speaker 1: going shopping together was wildly inappropriate because that's girlfriend activity,

766
00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:23,280
Speaker 1: which maybe, but I don't necessarily mean. I don't think

767
00:33:23,320 --> 00:33:26,160
Speaker 1: there was any there was nothing sinister to that. What geeky,

768
00:33:27,600 --> 00:33:29,040
Speaker 1: you're giving me a disapproving look.

769
00:33:29,240 --> 00:33:35,480
Speaker 8: I'm just active listening like you strolling them all with Kaylin.

770
00:33:35,840 --> 00:33:37,920
Speaker 8: You gotta girl so we left work and went to

771
00:33:37,960 --> 00:33:38,320
Speaker 8: the mall.

772
00:33:39,760 --> 00:33:42,080
Speaker 1: Caylen has good fashioned sense, she I mean, you all do.

773
00:33:42,240 --> 00:33:44,600
Speaker 1: I would have done it with any Jason. I would

774
00:33:44,600 --> 00:33:45,360
Speaker 1: have done it with anyone.

775
00:33:46,800 --> 00:33:51,160
Speaker 3: Now, y'all in addressing room, right, I'm yes, he caught on.

776
00:33:51,280 --> 00:33:53,640
Speaker 3: She got onto my plan of taking shopping.

777
00:33:53,800 --> 00:33:56,360
Speaker 1: It was so weird because Caylen insisted that I was

778
00:33:56,400 --> 00:34:01,280
Speaker 1: trying on hats, that we go into the dressing room

779
00:34:01,280 --> 00:34:03,440
Speaker 1: and then I take all my clothes off, including my underwear.

780
00:34:03,800 --> 00:34:06,160
Speaker 1: She try on like it was weird, Like I'm trying

781
00:34:06,200 --> 00:34:08,120
Speaker 1: announce it. She's like, take off your underwear and I'm

782
00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:12,920
Speaker 1: like walking can trusted. It was so weird. You know,

783
00:34:13,160 --> 00:34:15,440
Speaker 1: I don't normally strip all the way. That's like socks too.

784
00:34:15,480 --> 00:34:17,759
Speaker 1: It was so strange. I don't want to do that

785
00:34:17,800 --> 00:34:19,920
Speaker 1: in the dressing room, and that's what she wanted me

786
00:34:19,920 --> 00:34:24,000
Speaker 1: to do. But anyway, grows mads. Do you have what

787
00:34:24,080 --> 00:34:27,120
Speaker 1: it takes to battle show biz? Shelley in the show

788
00:34:27,200 --> 00:34:29,439
Speaker 1: Biz Showdown and it's like, yeah, I know you're trying

789
00:34:29,440 --> 00:34:31,200
Speaker 1: on gloves, but take it all off.

790
00:34:31,200 --> 00:34:33,720
Speaker 3: You know, and yep, next thing, you know, you brown

791
00:34:34,040 --> 00:34:34,640
Speaker 3: right right.

792
00:34:34,680 --> 00:34:37,160
Speaker 1: It was so weird. It was really weird lady.

793
00:34:37,239 --> 00:34:39,520
Speaker 4: I can barely balance one man. The last thing I

794
00:34:39,560 --> 00:34:40,480
Speaker 4: need is more right.

795
00:34:41,080 --> 00:34:44,399
Speaker 1: Oh God. And people keep saying, well, the radio show

796
00:34:44,440 --> 00:34:45,160
Speaker 1: is not a good example.

797
00:34:45,239 --> 00:34:45,279
Speaker 10: No.

798
00:34:45,360 --> 00:34:48,000
Speaker 1: The only difference between this place and granted we might

799
00:34:48,040 --> 00:34:50,640
Speaker 1: have more chemistry than other teams, because that's part of

800
00:34:50,640 --> 00:34:52,120
Speaker 1: the deal, but the only difference between this and a

801
00:34:52,160 --> 00:34:55,480
Speaker 1: lot of other functioning teams of people who work together

802
00:34:55,480 --> 00:34:57,840
Speaker 1: and like each other is that you can hear it.

803
00:34:58,040 --> 00:34:59,839
Speaker 1: I mean they're parent driving to work right now, going

804
00:34:59,880 --> 00:35:02,080
Speaker 1: to and they like their co workers. They love their

805
00:35:02,120 --> 00:35:05,239
Speaker 1: co workers, yes, you know, like their family. But the

806
00:35:05,280 --> 00:35:09,120
Speaker 1: lines don't have to be crossed just because there's I

807
00:35:09,160 --> 00:35:11,160
Speaker 1: hate to say this, Calen, but if you were ugly,

808
00:35:11,719 --> 00:35:16,360
Speaker 1: this girl wouldn't have cared. Honestly, Honestly, I don't know.

809
00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:17,719
Speaker 1: You got to watch the ugly ones too.

810
00:35:20,600 --> 00:35:23,040
Speaker 3: Thanks for saying I'm not ugly, Well know, I just.

811
00:35:23,200 --> 00:35:25,120
Speaker 1: I think that was part of the problem, was, like

812
00:35:25,440 --> 00:35:28,040
Speaker 1: I honestly think if she didn't think you were attractive,

813
00:35:28,040 --> 00:35:30,600
Speaker 1: then she wouldn't have found you to have been a threat,

814
00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:32,840
Speaker 1: and then it would have been fine. So if you

815
00:35:32,840 --> 00:35:34,000
Speaker 1: could just be uglier, then.

816
00:35:34,400 --> 00:35:36,400
Speaker 3: Some mornings I am and we can hang out yeah.

817
00:35:37,160 --> 00:35:45,279
Speaker 1: Hey Morgan, Hey Morgan, welcome. Hi. Fun fact about you is? What?

818
00:35:45,280 --> 00:35:46,840
Speaker 1: What's a fun fact about you? Morgan?

819
00:35:49,320 --> 00:35:53,440
Speaker 7: I just found out I have long siblings? What?

820
00:35:54,360 --> 00:35:55,080
Speaker 1: Wow?

821
00:35:54,960 --> 00:35:55,319
Speaker 10: How do you?

822
00:35:55,440 --> 00:35:58,680
Speaker 1: How did you have six siblings that you didn't know about? Worker?

823
00:36:00,440 --> 00:36:02,960
Speaker 1: You know, my dad was around.

824
00:36:03,040 --> 00:36:04,360
Speaker 11: He was everywhere, honestly.

825
00:36:04,520 --> 00:36:07,560
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, well he certainly was everywhere.

826
00:36:07,120 --> 00:36:08,560
Speaker 10: In the state of Illinois.

827
00:36:08,719 --> 00:36:08,959
Speaker 7: Wow.

828
00:36:09,719 --> 00:36:14,160
Speaker 1: He was a busy guy. Okay, definitely was. Well. Congratulations,

829
00:36:14,200 --> 00:36:16,000
Speaker 1: I mean, are you happy about this discovery?

830
00:36:16,920 --> 00:36:17,120
Speaker 10: Yes?

831
00:36:17,200 --> 00:36:18,279
Speaker 5: I am great.

832
00:36:18,360 --> 00:36:22,759
Speaker 3: Cool siblings. Good, that's cute. Shout to dad.

833
00:36:22,920 --> 00:36:26,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, wow, thanks thanks for his contribution to that. All Right,

834
00:36:26,640 --> 00:36:29,400
Speaker 1: let's play the game. It's eleven hundred bucks. That's surprise, oney,

835
00:36:29,480 --> 00:36:32,440
Speaker 1: seventeen wins, sixty eight losses, thirteen straight wins for Shells,

836
00:36:32,440 --> 00:36:35,319
Speaker 1: five pop culture questions. Good luck, guys, Okay, good luck?

837
00:36:36,800 --> 00:36:40,800
Speaker 1: All right? Morgan? You ready? Yes? All right? Which team

838
00:36:41,000 --> 00:36:43,120
Speaker 1: won the NBA Finals in Game seven?

839
00:36:44,239 --> 00:36:44,839
Speaker 3: Oklahoma?

840
00:36:44,880 --> 00:36:50,279
Speaker 1: Found which black? Excuse me? Which Bodak Yellow rapper? I

841
00:36:50,280 --> 00:36:51,960
Speaker 1: don't know? I was heart for me to say. Announced

842
00:36:51,960 --> 00:36:54,480
Speaker 1: that her new album, am I The Drama is out

843
00:36:54,520 --> 00:36:59,320
Speaker 1: September nineteenth. Cardi B despite rumored relationship issues Katy Perry's

844
00:36:59,320 --> 00:37:04,840
Speaker 1: fiance was in Australia visiting her on tour Name her fiance.

845
00:37:07,400 --> 00:37:13,280
Speaker 1: Reality stars Ariono Maddox and Stassy Schroeder both have birthdays today.

846
00:37:13,280 --> 00:37:15,200
Speaker 1: Which reality show brought them to fame?

847
00:37:18,640 --> 00:37:20,680
Speaker 3: Three?

848
00:37:21,600 --> 00:37:24,920
Speaker 1: And which long running awards show famous for sliming people

849
00:37:25,120 --> 00:37:30,600
Speaker 1: aired on Sunday? And No, it's not the av Ens choice.

850
00:37:30,640 --> 00:37:33,040
Speaker 1: The word that's good. That's a four. That's really good.

851
00:37:33,600 --> 00:37:36,600
Speaker 1: That's really good. All right, here we go, bringing Shelley back.

852
00:37:38,560 --> 00:37:42,960
Speaker 1: Got to come back, come back, come back, come back?

853
00:37:45,760 --> 00:37:49,480
Speaker 1: How did she humbling? A four? Is discord of bee? Okay, right?

854
00:37:49,480 --> 00:37:49,920
Speaker 1: You ready?

855
00:37:50,200 --> 00:37:50,399
Speaker 3: Yeah?

856
00:37:50,560 --> 00:37:53,359
Speaker 1: All right? Which team won the NBA Finals in Game seven?

857
00:37:56,560 --> 00:37:58,480
Speaker 3: Oklahoma City three?

858
00:37:59,120 --> 00:38:00,960
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, you know the name of the team.

859
00:38:01,440 --> 00:38:01,640
Speaker 9: Yeah.

860
00:38:02,719 --> 00:38:04,839
Speaker 1: I think I would have accept because she said, oklobom mwack,

861
00:38:04,840 --> 00:38:08,279
Speaker 1: that's fair. Which Bodak Yellow rapper announced that her new

862
00:38:08,320 --> 00:38:11,960
Speaker 1: album am I The Drama is out September nineteenth.

863
00:38:11,480 --> 00:38:12,480
Speaker 3: Cardi B Yeah.

864
00:38:12,520 --> 00:38:15,759
Speaker 1: Despite rumored relationship issues, Katie Perry's fiance was spotted in

865
00:38:15,800 --> 00:38:19,640
Speaker 1: Australia visiting her on to her name her fiance or Yeah.

866
00:38:19,719 --> 00:38:23,920
Speaker 1: Reality stars Ariano Maddox and Stasy Schroeder both at birthdays today,

867
00:38:24,080 --> 00:38:29,200
Speaker 1: which reality show brought them to fame? Yeah, and which

868
00:38:29,239 --> 00:38:34,200
Speaker 1: long running awards show famous for sliming people aired on Sunday.

869
00:38:34,960 --> 00:38:36,320
Speaker 3: The Kid's Choice Award.

870
00:38:36,360 --> 00:38:39,440
Speaker 1: That's a five, and that is a win. Morgan, you

871
00:38:39,480 --> 00:38:42,080
Speaker 1: did a great job, you really did. But you're gonna

872
00:38:42,080 --> 00:38:43,560
Speaker 1: have to say, my name is Morgan. I got showed

873
00:38:43,640 --> 00:38:45,200
Speaker 1: up on a showdown and you know the rest.

874
00:38:46,280 --> 00:38:47,640
Speaker 3: Oh, my name is Marian.

875
00:38:47,680 --> 00:38:50,000
Speaker 7: I guys showed up on a showdown by Sobs Shelley.

876
00:38:50,760 --> 00:39:01,799
Speaker 12: Okay, and you, Morgan, can't hang with's a cat can't cash?

877
00:39:01,800 --> 00:39:03,280
Speaker 1: Shout out to Moran.

878
00:39:03,840 --> 00:39:11,399
Speaker 3: Ed cat Cat Cat Cat Cat boo. Wow, I could

879
00:39:11,440 --> 00:39:13,280
Speaker 3: have gone very impressied.

880
00:39:13,280 --> 00:39:15,080
Speaker 1: I think it's the running around in ninety three degree

881
00:39:15,080 --> 00:39:17,840
Speaker 1: water that makes this. This makes it easy, strong lungs

882
00:39:17,880 --> 00:39:20,320
Speaker 1: on that one, but also makes me kind of stutter

883
00:39:20,320 --> 00:39:22,520
Speaker 1: because of the lack of oxygen. But anyway, Morgan, have

884
00:39:22,560 --> 00:39:26,839
Speaker 1: a great day. Hang on, thanks for listening. Hey, tell

885
00:39:26,840 --> 00:39:28,600
Speaker 1: all six of your siblings to listen to and now

886
00:39:28,719 --> 00:39:33,320
Speaker 1: maybe we'll have more listeners. Probably not, but try it. Okay, good, thanks,

887
00:39:33,320 --> 00:39:35,000
Speaker 1: look at that. If you discover a new family, let

888
00:39:35,080 --> 00:39:36,480
Speaker 1: him know they have to listen to the Friend Show.

889
00:39:37,440 --> 00:39:38,400
Speaker 1: How about that.

890
00:39:38,120 --> 00:39:40,400
Speaker 3: That's a loss. See what I'm saying. That's a softball team.

891
00:39:40,480 --> 00:39:41,200
Speaker 3: Like what are we doing?

892
00:39:41,360 --> 00:39:43,560
Speaker 1: Wow? I have more questions, maybe for later, but like

893
00:39:43,640 --> 00:39:45,880
Speaker 1: six from how many different you know? Like how busy

894
00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:46,399
Speaker 1: was dad?

895
00:39:46,920 --> 00:39:47,080
Speaker 5: You know?

896
00:39:47,120 --> 00:39:49,080
Speaker 1: How how prolific was his.

897
00:39:49,280 --> 00:39:51,400
Speaker 3: It's giving king complex? How many lunches?

898
00:39:51,440 --> 00:39:54,120
Speaker 1: Did he know? His dad's name? Elon is what I'd

899
00:39:54,160 --> 00:39:56,040
Speaker 1: like to know his dad's name?

900
00:39:56,360 --> 00:39:56,480
Speaker 12: Uh?

901
00:39:57,239 --> 00:40:01,320
Speaker 1: Nick Cannon? Yeah, I have a many questions, Shelley, excellent work.

902
00:40:01,920 --> 00:40:04,799
Speaker 1: One thousand, one hundred and fifty bucks. Tomorrow win number

903
00:40:04,760 --> 00:40:08,960
Speaker 1: oney eighteen and it's a huge number. And fourteen straight

904
00:40:09,000 --> 00:40:12,759
Speaker 1: win more bread show next. Wait, I wasn't ready. I

905
00:40:12,800 --> 00:40:15,120
Speaker 1: wasn't ready for that. I pushed the wrong button. I

906
00:40:15,120 --> 00:40:17,480
Speaker 1: wasn't ready. I was too busy going through your stats.

907
00:40:17,480 --> 00:40:19,239
Speaker 1: So there'll be more Fread show next. But there's more

908
00:40:19,280 --> 00:40:23,760
Speaker 1: Fread show now. No, no, not buy it. I surprise

909
00:40:23,880 --> 00:40:27,520
Speaker 1: myself with my mouse clicking. I shouldn't have done the

910
00:40:27,560 --> 00:40:29,440
Speaker 1: gorilla for so long because I'm really a little dizzy

911
00:40:29,440 --> 00:40:34,759
Speaker 1: to be. I think it's the dome Jason's they eat dome.

912
00:40:35,120 --> 00:40:36,719
Speaker 3: It'll do it every time.

913
00:40:37,040 --> 00:40:38,920
Speaker 1: Okay, Anyway, I was so impressed with the numbers I

914
00:40:38,920 --> 00:40:41,040
Speaker 1: just couldn't help myself. So we'll see you tomorrow. Have

915
00:40:41,080 --> 00:40:43,200
Speaker 1: a good day, okay, okay, good Now I'm going to

916
00:40:43,239 --> 00:40:44,799
Speaker 1: push the button and we'll do waiting by the phone.

917
00:40:44,800 --> 00:40:48,359
Speaker 1: Are you ready for More Fread Show next? Hopefully it

918
00:40:48,400 --> 00:40:53,600
Speaker 1: works again. I didn't do the other thing, so More

919
00:40:53,680 --> 00:40:54,680
Speaker 1: Fread Show Next