Speaker 1: I won't let my body. I'll be outwait everything that
Speaker 1: I'm made done. Won't spend my life trying to change.
Speaker 1: I'm learning love who I am again, strong, I feel free,
Speaker 1: I know every part of me.
Speaker 2: It's beautiful.
Speaker 1: And that will always out way if you feel it.
Speaker 1: But you all, she'll some love to the h I
Speaker 1: get that sage day and did you and die out way.
Speaker 2: Happy Saturday, outweigh.
Speaker 3: It's leanne here for a solo episode, or actually it's
Speaker 3: an entire series, and it's called The Truth About Your Fat.
Speaker 3: Now you might be wondering what is she talking about?
Speaker 3: And why are we talking about fat? But just hear
Speaker 3: me out. So nowadays fat has a bad rap. We
Speaker 3: hate it, we fear it, we name it, we blame it,
Speaker 3: we shame it. Some people will do whatever they can
Speaker 3: to destroy and eliminate its wrath from their lives. But
Speaker 3: whoever said that fat was ugly or something to be
Speaker 3: ashamed of? And whoever said that fat was a bad thing?
Speaker 3: And whoever said that fat was anything other.
Speaker 2: Than well fat?
Speaker 3: But since it is such a prevalent enemy in today's world,
Speaker 3: and yes I'm putting enemy in air quotes, but since
Speaker 3: it's not going away anytime soon, we might as well
Speaker 3: learn about it and hear about it and learn about
Speaker 3: its properties.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 3: In fact, if all we do is hate on fat
Speaker 3: and wish it away, we might miss out on its
Speaker 3: useful and downright cool characteristics. There's physiological, neurological, and psychological
Speaker 3: components of fat, but no one is talking about that
Speaker 3: side of things. And after all, it is this metabolically
Speaker 3: active substance that's part of our bodies, right, But most
Speaker 3: women don't know about that side of it, and when
Speaker 3: you think about it, we fear what we don't know. So,
Speaker 3: for example, I used to be super scared of going
Speaker 3: into the ocean. So besides the whole story that I had,
Speaker 3: you know, that my body was not meant to be
Speaker 3: seen in a bathing suit, and that my you know,
Speaker 3: it was a lot of my body image stuff really
Speaker 3: that contributed to that story of not going into the ocean.
Speaker 3: But I also had a story that I was downright
Speaker 3: afraid of the ocean.
Speaker 2: You know, things biting me or attacking.
Speaker 3: Me, or you know, sharks with laser beams and imaginary
Speaker 3: alligators in my mind most likely, but irrational fears, nonetheless,
Speaker 3: because none of the things I was afraid of actually
Speaker 3: happened to me, but in my mind it felt like
Speaker 3: they had. And like we've talked about before, your nervous
Speaker 3: system can't tell the difference between a real or an
Speaker 3: imagined experience. So one day a good friend of mine
Speaker 3: was like, hey, do you want to get over this fear?
Speaker 3: And I was like, yes, please, I mean I really
Speaker 3: wanted to. So he walked me out into the water,
Speaker 3: and I inevitably shrieked like this little girl every time
Speaker 3: seaweed grazed my feet, and you know, just further and
Speaker 3: grain my fears.
Speaker 2: So here's what he did. He picked up some seaweed.
Speaker 3: And he had me look at it, and he had
Speaker 3: me hold it and touch it and see it and
Speaker 3: feel and experience that it wasn't going to hurt me,
Speaker 3: but also to show my logical brain that this is
Speaker 3: what was grazing my feet and it wasn't a shark.
Speaker 3: And so as soon as I saw it and I
Speaker 3: faced it head on and I touched it, I was
Speaker 3: able to go in the ocean and now actually get
Speaker 3: in the water after thirty years of not. So I
Speaker 3: share this with you just to impress upon you that
Speaker 3: if you do have this kind of dysmorphic relationship with
Speaker 3: your body fat.
Speaker 2: As in, you know, the subcutaneous.
Speaker 3: Fat on your body and not nutritional fat, which is
Speaker 3: another topic on its own. I'm talking about the fat
Speaker 3: on your body. That's why I urge you to actually
Speaker 3: look at it and learn about it and discover what
Speaker 3: it is and really what it's not, and that way
Speaker 3: you can dispel the lies and actually learn what.
Speaker 2: It takes to shift it if you want.
Speaker 3: To do that, both in your mind and on your body,
Speaker 3: because I promise you it's way more than an eat
Speaker 3: less move more conversation, like way way more.
Speaker 2: But it's also such a confusing topic.
Speaker 3: I mean, if you ask one hundred different people what
Speaker 3: the best way to you know, lose fat or lose
Speaker 3: weight is, you're going to get a hundred different answers,
Speaker 3: and most of them will definitely, you know, take you
Speaker 3: down that road of eat less move more, which a
Speaker 3: lot of times perpetuates the struggles with disordered eating and
Speaker 3: body dysmorphy and all of that if you don't have
Speaker 3: a healthy relationship with food. But they'll most likely take
Speaker 3: you down one of the avenues that you know, the
Speaker 3: fitness industry created, but in my opinion, that's old school
Speaker 3: thinking and if you're anything like me again, that's what
Speaker 3: created a lot of my own disordered patterns in the
Speaker 3: first place.
Speaker 2: Because what you eat and how you move is is.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's part of the equation, but it doesn't cover
Speaker 3: the whole picture. And so when it comes to your
Speaker 3: body and your health and yes, you're fat, there is
Speaker 3: a cause and then there are its effects. Okay, something's
Speaker 3: going on upstream, and then there's a result taking place downstream.
Speaker 3: And I truly believe, and science will back me up
Speaker 3: that your health, body and emotional struggles are simply effects
Speaker 3: of something going on higher up in your brain.
Speaker 2: And nervous system. Right.
Speaker 3: And when I talk about nervous system, what I really
Speaker 3: mean is that system of systems that dictates everything. Okay,
Speaker 3: And so in this series specifically, we're going to talk
Speaker 3: about a subject matter that really does baffle most women
Speaker 3: and causes more shame and sadness than any topic I've
Speaker 3: ever encountered, and it's your fat. We're going to talk
Speaker 3: about your fat. Let's get to the bottom of this
Speaker 3: conundrum and just distill the facts, Okay, because all of
Speaker 3: the conventional approaches are missing out on the most important
Speaker 3: factor like what is fat?
Speaker 1: Right?
Speaker 3: What kind of fat is it? And you'll hear what
Speaker 3: you'll know what I mean, you know when we go
Speaker 3: through this series, and.
Speaker 2: Why is it there? How did it get there? And
Speaker 2: is it serving a purpose? Right?
Speaker 3: Because sometimes on a brain and nervous system level, it's
Speaker 3: actually serving a purpose, which we'll talk about, and most importantly,
Speaker 3: like what is keeping it from going away? If it's
Speaker 3: causing something negative like maybe it's causing too much stress
Speaker 3: on your joints, or maybe it is restricting your muscles,
Speaker 3: or maybe it's keeping you in an unhealthy state. Right,
Speaker 3: And so that is a three dimensional conversation and a
Speaker 3: three dimensional you know question, because it's not just a
Speaker 3: body thing, and it's not just a mind thing, and
Speaker 3: it's not just a brain thing. It's really all three
Speaker 3: And if we don't get all of your three dimensional
Speaker 3: self playing on the same team, everything that you do
Speaker 3: to influence your situation will probably just create temporary change.
Speaker 2: And so you might be able to.
Speaker 3: Motivate yourself or willpower your way there and you'll see
Speaker 3: some temporary results, but you won't be able to create
Speaker 3: those permanent changes that you desire until you address the
Speaker 3: cause of the problem and really create true freedom and
Speaker 3: health for yourself, which which is really what you want.
Speaker 3: And of course I mean that you know, holistically, three dimensionally,
Speaker 3: and of course that's going to be relevant when we're
Speaker 3: talk talking about your subcutaneous fat and as you'll learn,
Speaker 3: fascia as well. And so you want to make sure
Speaker 3: that you're addressing the actual wiring in your brain that's
Speaker 3: keeping you stuck. Okay, And like I said before, and
Speaker 3: what I've found throughout my own trials and successes on
Speaker 3: my own body and the bodies of every single woman
Speaker 3: I've ever worked with the problem, and the solution is
Speaker 3: three dimensional, like we said, And until you address both
Speaker 3: the internal and external environments that are influencing your physical, mental,
Speaker 3: and emotional you know wiring, unfortunately, your fat isn't going
Speaker 3: to go anywhere in the long run, right, So what
Speaker 3: can be done about it? Well, we're going to open
Speaker 3: up this can of worms on today's podcast and really
Speaker 3: throughout this whole series. Okay, So this is part one,
Speaker 3: and so on this episode, I'm going to enlighten you
Speaker 3: on this magical tissue that we call fat and it's
Speaker 3: really cool relative fascia and in future episodes. We're going
Speaker 3: to be getting into some methods and philosophies that I
Speaker 3: feel will change the game for you when it comes
Speaker 3: to accepting your body and working with your body, and
Speaker 3: taking this topic of fat on your body and flipping
Speaker 3: it on its head so it doesn't own you or
Speaker 3: define you. So let's just go ahead and dive on in.
Speaker 3: So let's just go ahead and dive on in. But
Speaker 3: before we dive into the meat of it, I want
Speaker 3: to just give you a bit of context of how
Speaker 3: my big fat story went down for me and how
Speaker 3: I discovered everything I'm going to share with you, and
Speaker 3: really why it's relevant to you, as in, you know
Speaker 3: why you should care about your tissues, right and trust me,
Speaker 3: I used to say the same thing. I didn't care
Speaker 3: about any of this, right I was, you know, when
Speaker 3: I was at the height of my disorder, I was
Speaker 3: just chasing skinny or chasing lean or whatever. But after
Speaker 3: my surgery, the craziest things started happening. I shared a
Speaker 3: lot about what I'm about to talk about in the
Speaker 3: Learn from My Mistakes episode here on Outweigh, which we
Speaker 3: will link in the show notes. But because I wasn't
Speaker 3: taking care of my body, and like I said, I
Speaker 3: was just chasing skinny as I now call it, but
Speaker 3: you know, I was ignoring my true health. Yes, I
Speaker 3: had a lot of you know, psychological struggles with food
Speaker 3: in my body, but I ended up needing major spine
Speaker 3: surgery because I was super injured.
Speaker 2: But I kept trying to work through it.
Speaker 3: Right, Yeah, Like that's really how toxic my relationship with
Speaker 3: my body, you know, really manifested because like I said,
Speaker 3: I was really injured, but I was like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 3: if I stopped moving, if I stopped working out, I'm
Speaker 3: going to gain all this weight. Like it was a
Speaker 3: give and take that I didn't know how to get
Speaker 3: out of. But it's also what eventually woke me up
Speaker 3: to address it. And so I really am grateful that
Speaker 3: that happened. But just to give you some context, my
Speaker 3: surgery was a success, but I had a lot of
Speaker 3: neurological struggles after my surgery. And so the first thing
Speaker 3: I noticed is I just felt different, like I went
Speaker 3: under anesthesia and it's like the lights went out and
Speaker 3: when the lights came back on, I just kind of
Speaker 3: felt different. And I wasn't really always able to describe it,
Speaker 3: especially back then, but it was mental, like mentally I
Speaker 3: felt different. It was definitely physical. And the first physical
Speaker 3: thing I noticed that was from my pinky finger to
Speaker 3: my pinky toe on my left side, So that whole
Speaker 3: line on my left side from pinky to pinky, I
Speaker 3: just couldn't feel it as much as I could feel
Speaker 3: my right side.
Speaker 2: And so some people.
Speaker 3: Are like hyper sensitive and have pain after a major
Speaker 3: injury or surgery, but for me, it was almost like
Speaker 3: I was undersensitized and I had desensitization on that side
Speaker 3: of my body in terms of how well my muscles
Speaker 3: were firing and just how that side of my body moved.
Speaker 3: But on the flip side of that, it's almost like
Speaker 3: I was given this gift because my body awareness was
Speaker 3: also hyper sensitive, Like I could feel everything on this
Speaker 3: new level, and that part of it wasn't just physical,
Speaker 3: like it was emotional energetically physically, I could just feel
Speaker 3: other people's emotions more too, not just my own. So
Speaker 3: it was it was quite the contradiction, you know, Like muscularly,
Speaker 3: I couldn't perform as well on my left side as
Speaker 3: I could on my right side. But on a sensitive
Speaker 3: level and a body awareness level, I had this whole
Speaker 3: new gift, so to speak, but I didn't call it
Speaker 3: a gift at the time.
Speaker 2: It was.
Speaker 3: It actually really scared me. You know, keep in mind,
Speaker 3: I was twenty five. I was scared nobody could help me,
Speaker 3: and because of what I was doing on a career level,
Speaker 3: I also felt like a fraud because back then, and
Speaker 3: you know, this feels like an alternate lifetime and alternate
Speaker 3: universe now, but I was supposed to be this you know,
Speaker 3: fitness expert on TV and in the media and all
Speaker 3: of that, and here I was figuring out what was
Speaker 3: going on with my own body in the background. And
Speaker 3: that's a whole other topic on its own, one that
Speaker 3: I touched on in the Learn for My Mistakes episode.
Speaker 3: But one of the main things I noticed, or one
Speaker 3: of the first things I noticed, i should say, was
Speaker 3: my fascia, which I'll tell you about in a moment.
Speaker 3: And the only reason I discovered fascia is because I
Speaker 3: was just playing around by massaging the left side.
Speaker 2: Of my body.
Speaker 3: Like I told you, I couldn't really feel the left
Speaker 3: side as much as I could feel my right side,
Speaker 3: so I was always trying to kind of wake it up,
Speaker 3: touching it and using tools like foam rollers and getting
Speaker 3: massages and dry brushing. I mean, you name it, I
Speaker 3: was doing it. If there was a gadget, I owned it.
Speaker 3: And I discovered that there was this area of my
Speaker 3: glutes where my glutes just pretty much weren't turning on,
Speaker 3: like they were not firing. And then I noticed that
Speaker 3: there was pockets of fat on my hips and my
Speaker 3: sacrum area, and that it was relational to where my
Speaker 3: glutes were not firing, Like it was almost fat pockets
Speaker 3: covering up my glutes, but it wasn't this normal subcutaneous fat.
Speaker 3: It felt very thick and sticky and fibrous, almost like
Speaker 3: it was casing or incasing my glutes, and in a
Speaker 3: ways it kind of felt like scar tissue. But I
Speaker 3: knew enough about the body to know that it was
Speaker 3: some sort of fascia.
Speaker 2: So I noticed that and it caused me to literally,
Speaker 2: I mean, this is fifteen years ago.
Speaker 3: I just started googling fascia and learning about it, and
Speaker 3: from there on out, I have been obsessed with fascia,
Speaker 3: or as my dorky self likes to say, I've been
Speaker 3: fascionated by it. In side note, just to give you
Speaker 3: an idea of how obsessed I am and have been
Speaker 3: obsessed with it and how much of a difference just
Speaker 3: knowing about fat and fascia has made on my life.
Speaker 3: I actually own fashionate dot com like I've had it
Speaker 3: for years because I always knew I was going to
Speaker 3: share my truths about it and ever since I discovered
Speaker 3: the connection between fat and fascia.
Speaker 2: You know, at first, it actually really made me mad.
Speaker 3: And it made me mad because I was like, why
Speaker 3: is the world not talking about this right? And obviously
Speaker 3: now I realize that being mad doesn't serve me and
Speaker 3: it doesn't serve you or anybody, but it was that
Speaker 3: much of a game changer for me, I should say,
Speaker 3: So I'm no longer mad about it, obviously, I just
Speaker 3: want the world to know about it. And really that's
Speaker 3: why we're here, and it is such a big topic.
Speaker 3: And unfortunately, most of the world in mainstream knowledge is
Speaker 3: not connecting the nervous system and fascia to your health.
Speaker 3: So if this podcast episode and see you even just
Speaker 3: helps a small pocket of the world understand what a
Speaker 3: big player fat and fascia are in your health journey,
Speaker 3: well that would honestly just make me really happy.
Speaker 2: So that's what the goal is.
Speaker 3: And we're gonna do just that, and I'm going to
Speaker 3: tell you all about this magical world of fat and
Speaker 3: fascia and why it can be the game changer for
Speaker 3: you that you didn't even know you were looking for.
Speaker 3: And so we're going to talk about the specifics of
Speaker 3: fat and fascia and why you should care in just
Speaker 3: a moment. But first I wanted to share with you
Speaker 3: something that I wish somebody had told me when I
Speaker 3: was younger.
Speaker 2: I wish I had gotten this memo.
Speaker 3: When I was spending all of that time and energy
Speaker 3: harming my body just to you know, chase thin or
Speaker 3: chase skinny, like I said I was doing. And here's
Speaker 3: an analogy I use with my clients to drive my
Speaker 3: point home. So you know how whenever you get a
Speaker 3: first like you first get a new phone or a
Speaker 3: new gadget, you take really good care of it and
Speaker 3: you protect it like it's this sacred thing, right And
Speaker 3: I know for me, I like I would do my
Speaker 3: best to make sure that the screen didn't get a
Speaker 3: scratch on it, and that it was you know, safely
Speaker 3: out of harm's way of the bathtub or toilet, and
Speaker 3: that it was safely nestled in a protective case, you know,
Speaker 3: you know, just in case I dropped it, But then
Speaker 3: you know, inevitably that first drop would take place, you know,
Speaker 3: the one where you suddenly feel like you're in slow
Speaker 3: motion saying like no, as you see it falling to
Speaker 3: hit the floor, but you're not fast enough to be
Speaker 3: able to do anything about it, and you know your
Speaker 3: panic was probably unnecessary, and you know, you pick it
Speaker 3: up and realize like, okay, it got its first scratcher bruise,
Speaker 3: but it was gonna be fine.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 3: But for me, with every new phone I get, you know,
Speaker 3: the new novelty wears off little by little, right like
Speaker 3: the shiny new object loses it's just out of the
Speaker 3: box luster after so long, and other things become more
Speaker 3: of a priority than taking care of your phone. And
Speaker 3: so the days and the weeks and the months and
Speaker 3: sometimes years, if it makes it that far, they pass
Speaker 3: and life goes on. But then I don't know, if
Speaker 3: you remember back in the day, like they had those
Speaker 3: they would send out emails being like you can get
Speaker 3: a new phone, and so you'd get that in inevitable
Speaker 3: email from your cell phone company. And for me, like
Speaker 3: you know, letting me know, I'm I'm almost due for
Speaker 3: an upgrade. And you know again back when they had
Speaker 3: those upgrades and you would replace your phone every few years,
Speaker 3: and it worked like a charm for me, right, for me,
Speaker 3: it got me started like scanning the latest models and
Speaker 3: having daydreams about my future cell phone partner in crime and.
Speaker 2: You know, premeditating all the things we would do together.
Speaker 2: And I'm just kidding, but you know, why wouldn't I
Speaker 2: do that though?
Speaker 3: Because they were enticing me with this free upgrade.
Speaker 2: Why wouldn't I do that though? Because they were enticing
Speaker 2: me with this free upgrade.
Speaker 3: By this point, though, every time I would look down
Speaker 3: at my current phone, which was still probably in pretty
Speaker 3: good shape, I would notice the scratches or I would
Speaker 3: notice how banged up it was, or you know, bogged
Speaker 3: down or slower it had become. And of course, you
Speaker 3: know these are first world problems, right, but like roll
Speaker 3: with me for the sake of this analogy. But like
Speaker 3: when it happens, you start noticing, like, okay, it's slowing down,
Speaker 3: and at that point in time, you probably wish you had,
Speaker 3: you know, a faster, better, newer one. And for me,
Speaker 3: I would start dragging that thing around like it was
Speaker 3: a burden, you know, like secretly waiting for my upgrade
Speaker 3: to come through, or secretly hoping it would fall in
Speaker 3: the toilet so I could get a new one instead
Speaker 3: of the one I had, because you know, the honeymoon
Speaker 3: was over, right, and the thing I used to look
Speaker 3: at with googly eyes and take care of it like
Speaker 3: it was my firstborn child was officially a nuisance or
Speaker 3: an annoyance and something I couldn't wait to get rid
Speaker 3: of or replace, Okay, And the idea of being stuck
Speaker 3: with it, like that's not what I wanted, right, And
Speaker 3: I know this is a really hard knock life example
Speaker 3: that we're talking about here, but roll with me because
Speaker 3: we're all.
Speaker 2: A bit guilty of this when you think about it.
Speaker 3: Right, Maybe it's not your phone per se, but there's
Speaker 3: something in your life that you treat like gold. Maybe
Speaker 3: it's a friendship, Maybe it's a relationship when it's new
Speaker 3: and exciting, right, And of course at the at the
Speaker 3: beginning of anything, it gives you that, you know, the
Speaker 3: post purchase or post connection dopamine rash that feels oh
Speaker 3: so good in the moment, But just like any gadget
Speaker 3: or gizmo like you use it until it doesn't operate
Speaker 3: efficiently anymore, or there's.
Speaker 2: No more rev and it's engine. So think about that.
Speaker 3: And now let me ask you, how do you treat
Speaker 3: your body? And I don't just mean your arms and
Speaker 3: your legs and the hair on your head. I mean
Speaker 3: all of it, all the little bits and bobs that
Speaker 3: comprise this miraculous piece of machinery that we are all
Speaker 3: pretty dang fortunate to be able to test drive throughout
Speaker 3: our lifetime.
Speaker 2: So do you treat it like your old cell phone?
Speaker 1: Right?
Speaker 3: Do you treat it like you have another one waiting
Speaker 3: for you on standby or at the phone.
Speaker 2: Factory or Apple store?
Speaker 3: Do you love it and protect it and care for
Speaker 3: it as much as you would a brand new iPad
Speaker 3: or gulp, a brand new car. And the truth is,
Speaker 3: and I will be the first to admit this, I
Speaker 3: did not value my body. For most of my life.
Speaker 3: I heard about this idea of like, when you get older,
Speaker 3: you're gonna need to take care of your body, right,
Speaker 3: But for me, when I was younger, I was hearing
Speaker 3: the messages about getting skinny, like I said, like I
Speaker 3: was chasing skinny, and so yeah, I understand that at
Speaker 3: the ripe old age of forty, I'm not supposed to
Speaker 3: again again with air quotes know what goes on inside
Speaker 3: the mind of someone double my age that's simply trying
Speaker 3: to take care of their body.
Speaker 2: But I promise you I.
Speaker 3: Do, and up until about, you know, twelve fifteen years
Speaker 3: ago something like that, I couldn't have cared less about
Speaker 3: self care or taking care of my body, right because
Speaker 3: back in the day, just like any other twenty something
Speaker 3: woman who at the time, my biggest body concern was
Speaker 3: whether or not my muffin top was hanging over my
Speaker 3: jeans and if I.
Speaker 2: Could smooth it out with shapewear. Right thinking about my.
Speaker 3: You know, body as this miraculous machine that was very
Speaker 3: boring to me, or it just didn't resonate with me,
Speaker 3: I should say, And it wasn't as sexy as looking
Speaker 3: good in my skinny jeans or fitting into that cute little.
Speaker 2: Black dress because obviously.
Speaker 3: I didn't know what I didn't know, and I only
Speaker 3: knew what I knew. But my injury and surgery and
Speaker 3: then the subsequent after effects of my surgery completely changed
Speaker 3: the way I saw my body, and honestly, the bodies
Speaker 3: of the women that I worked with, and I started
Speaker 3: a journey that would force me to literally relearn things
Speaker 3: like how to crawl, then stand up and walk again,
Speaker 3: and then eventually run.
Speaker 2: But here's what I would say about it now.
Speaker 3: I used to completely neglect my body like it was
Speaker 3: my old, beaten down cell phone right before I was
Speaker 3: due for a new one, and I cared more about
Speaker 3: how it looked or what size it wore than how
Speaker 3: it felt, how it moved, or how long i'd actually
Speaker 3: be able to keep it in service right because I
Speaker 3: punished it and I restricted it, and I fought it
Speaker 3: every step of the way when it didn't perform to
Speaker 3: my liking or look how I wanted it to look.
Speaker 3: And I starved it and then overstuffed it, and then
Speaker 3: pounded it to the pavement and over exerted it, and
Speaker 3: then got mad at it when it needed a break
Speaker 3: from all of my demands. But most important to note,
Speaker 3: I treated it like it was just a thing that
Speaker 3: I was stuck with or burdened by, or just putting
Speaker 3: up with for a little while until I could replace
Speaker 3: it with a newer model. But the reality eventually sunk
Speaker 3: into me that there was no newer model waiting for
Speaker 3: me in some.
Speaker 2: Factory, like this was it. This was the body that
Speaker 2: I had, This was the only one I got.
Speaker 3: And to be honest, because this podcast is all event
Speaker 3: about transparency, you know, this pissed me off for a
Speaker 3: long time, right.
Speaker 2: Like I was mad. I was so mad. I felt
Speaker 2: so frustrated.
Speaker 3: But I wasn't mad at the universe or the cards
Speaker 3: I got dealt. I realized I was mad at me.
Speaker 3: I was mad at my body for so many years.
Speaker 3: I was so mad at my body and myself for
Speaker 3: being someone who you know, quote unquote let her body
Speaker 3: become so quote unquote broken. And I keep using air
Speaker 3: quotes because this was actually how I talked to and
Speaker 3: talked about my body, like my body was broken and
Speaker 3: like I did something to deserve it all.
Speaker 2: And then the more.
Speaker 3: Mad I got at it, the less I deemed it
Speaker 3: worthy to get my love, attention and care.
Speaker 2: So I just brought on more.
Speaker 3: Punishment and restriction and abuse, and the cycle just continued.
Speaker 3: And in my cycle was like, Okay, treat it like crap,
Speaker 3: hate it some more, show it whose boss, and you know,
Speaker 3: punish it with diets and exercise restrict and then wash
Speaker 3: rents repeat. And so what I'm about to say might
Speaker 3: rub some people the wrong way that believe that self
Speaker 3: love is the.
Speaker 2: Air quotes miracle that will change your life. And I
Speaker 2: do believe self love is a massive part of the puzzle.
Speaker 2: Don't get me wrong. I talk about it all the time.
Speaker 3: But how can you truly love something like your body
Speaker 3: or someone like yourself that you don't even deem worthy
Speaker 3: of taking care of? And so here's my invitation for
Speaker 3: you as we get into this topic of fat and fascia.
Speaker 2: What if taking.
Speaker 3: Care of your body and your fat and fashia as
Speaker 3: you'll learn, and taking care of your health and taking
Speaker 3: care of yourself was the new self love?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 2: What if that was the verb form of self love?
Speaker 1: Right?
Speaker 3: What if taking care of your body and your health
Speaker 3: and yourself was the new self worth or self esteem
Speaker 3: like it was the verb form of it?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 3: And what if taking care of your body and your
Speaker 3: health and yourself was the new health plan?
Speaker 2: Right? Like what if your love for yourself could and would?
Speaker 3: I guarantee you it would skyrocket if you simply treated
Speaker 3: it more like a shiny new cell phone rather than
Speaker 3: gum on the bottom of your shoe. And again, I'll
Speaker 3: emphasize when I was younger, I didn't care about taking
Speaker 3: care of my body. I wanted to be skinny or
Speaker 3: lean or pretty or whatever words I was using at
Speaker 3: the time, and there was a major cost. Okay, I
Speaker 3: call it the cost of skinny. And there's another entire
Speaker 3: episode here on Outweigh dedicated to the cost of skinny,
Speaker 3: because I believe that every woman who gets caught up
Speaker 3: in the diet mentality or obsessively thinking about her weight
Speaker 3: has her own cost of skinny too. Check that out
Speaker 3: if you missed it. But here's what I say about
Speaker 3: it now. Okay, you don't have to be fifty five,
Speaker 3: sixty five, seventy five plus or deemed a senior citizen
Speaker 3: to start taking care of your body like it's the
Speaker 3: only one you've got.
Speaker 2: And you can.
Speaker 3: Still care about your gene size or your waistline, and
Speaker 3: you can still care how fast you run or how
Speaker 3: strong you are, and you can still desire to change
Speaker 3: the way your body.
Speaker 2: Looks, moves and feels.
Speaker 3: But I invite you, in fact, I'm like strongly urging
Speaker 3: you to just do it from a place of self care,
Speaker 3: not self control or self discipline. And I can say
Speaker 3: with certainty that if you are indeed on a quest
Speaker 3: for self love, the road will be a heck of
Speaker 3: a lot bumpy, or if it's even possible, if you
Speaker 3: don't first pass through self acceptance and self care. And
Speaker 3: trust me, you are way more valuable than some shiny
Speaker 3: new cell phone. Like you deserve to have a body
Speaker 3: and a health that you take care of. And if
Speaker 3: you don't believe that that you deserve it and that
Speaker 3: you're worthy to have both, like when I say both,
Speaker 3: like to like your body and take care of it
Speaker 3: without sacrificing your happiness for your health or your health
Speaker 3: for your happiness, Well then I am so glad.
Speaker 2: That you are here listening to this podcast right now.
Speaker 3: And don't get me wrong, this body connection and body
Speaker 3: acceptance conversation is a big conversation, one that we can't
Speaker 3: possibly tackle in one episode alone. And that's why this
Speaker 3: is called The Truth About Your Fat Part one, because
Speaker 3: this is just the first layer. And if you know me,
Speaker 3: I'm a dorec And yes, I'm sure the pun was intended,
Speaker 3: but I also chose to name the series and start
Speaker 3: off this topic by talking about your fat.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I said it.
Speaker 3: We're going to be talking about your fat in a
Speaker 3: way that I can promise you you have never heard
Speaker 3: before and hopefully we'll never see your fat the same
Speaker 3: way again. So that's it for part one. And I
Speaker 3: purposely stopped here because we are going to get into
Speaker 3: the content. But that is the intent, and the intent
Speaker 3: is way more important than the content, to be honest,
Speaker 3: because again, if you do have a self critical or
Speaker 3: dysmorphic relationship with your body or your fat as in
Speaker 3: again the subcutaneous fat on your body, right, that's why
Speaker 3: I actually urge you to look at it and learn
Speaker 3: about it and discover what it is and what it's not,
Speaker 3: and that way you can dispel the lies and actually
Speaker 3: learn what it takes to shift it both in your
Speaker 3: mind and on your body. Because again I promise you
Speaker 3: it's way more than an eat less move more conversation, like,
Speaker 3: way way more okay, And that's really my invitation to you, Like,
Speaker 3: instead of focusing on what you're eating or what you're weighing,
Speaker 3: go on a big fat experiment, right because, as you'll learn,
Speaker 3: it is such a powerful way to connect to your
Speaker 3: body and truly heal your body image.
Speaker 2: And if all you do today.
Speaker 3: Is say hey, I'm done shaming and blaming something that
Speaker 3: I don't even know much about, and I'm ready to
Speaker 3: learn and ready to approach it differently, and I'm ready
Speaker 3: to end the battle I'm.
Speaker 2: In with my body.
Speaker 3: Then that would not only make me very happy, but
Speaker 3: you are going to love and yet so much out of.
Speaker 2: This entire series. So yeah, that's it for today, outweigh.
Speaker 3: I hope you got whatever you needed to hear today,
Speaker 3: and I hope this just opened your eyes to something
Speaker 3: that you might not have had them open to before.
Speaker 3: And if you liked what you heard today and you
Speaker 3: want to hear more about the process I teach my
Speaker 3: clients about rewiring your own brain, then head on over
Speaker 3: to stressless eeating dot com and sign up to watch
Speaker 3: the Stressless Eating Masterclass, where I'll walk you through the
Speaker 3: exact five step game plan my clients use to heal
Speaker 3: themselves from that all or nothing diet mentality for good,
Speaker 3: but without restricting themselves and punishing their bodies, and definitely
Speaker 3: without ever having to use words like macros, low carb
Speaker 3: or calorie burn. And so I've laid it all out
Speaker 3: there for you in five easy steps over at stressless
Speaker 3: eating dot com and if you liked today's episode, we
Speaker 3: will be back next week for more Outweigh, where we're
Speaker 3: going to get into part two of the True About
Speaker 3: Your Fat. So I'm Leahne Ellington and I will talk
Speaker 3: to you then