1 00:00:01,480 --> 00:00:01,880 Speaker 1: Hey, y'all. 2 00:00:01,960 --> 00:00:04,800 Speaker 2: Is Laurena Rosa with the latest with Laurena Rosa on 3 00:00:04,880 --> 00:00:07,880 Speaker 2: Black Effects and I cannot wait to see you guys 4 00:00:07,960 --> 00:00:11,440 Speaker 2: at the fourth Annual Black Effect Podcast Festival. 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This is where we do all 33 00:01:28,160 --> 00:01:31,960 Speaker 2: things pop culture, entertainment, news and all of the conversations 34 00:01:31,959 --> 00:01:32,680 Speaker 2: that shake the room. 35 00:01:32,720 --> 00:01:36,119 Speaker 3: Baby. So today joining me, we have Brandon. 36 00:01:36,440 --> 00:01:37,520 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna have me back. 37 00:01:38,360 --> 00:01:40,280 Speaker 2: So like before we get into our episodes here on 38 00:01:40,280 --> 00:01:42,880 Speaker 2: the Latest with Laurenosa, we always check in behind the 39 00:01:42,880 --> 00:01:48,480 Speaker 2: scenes of the grind and sometimes I don't do it 40 00:01:48,480 --> 00:01:50,000 Speaker 2: when I have guests on the show, but I mean 41 00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:52,680 Speaker 2: I should, right because I should want to know. 42 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:54,280 Speaker 3: Brendan, how are you doing. 43 00:01:54,800 --> 00:01:58,559 Speaker 1: I'm good, but the doctor said I'm not good. Okay, 44 00:01:58,640 --> 00:02:01,000 Speaker 1: what's wrong? My blo pressure is crazy? 45 00:02:01,120 --> 00:02:02,280 Speaker 3: Oh just your blood pressure. 46 00:02:02,440 --> 00:02:04,960 Speaker 1: No, baby, When doctors go blood pressure, they look at 47 00:02:04,960 --> 00:02:06,720 Speaker 1: me like, how are you still alive? 48 00:02:07,680 --> 00:02:09,320 Speaker 3: Well, what do you see your food with. 49 00:02:10,200 --> 00:02:11,400 Speaker 1: I don't think it's food because you know how to 50 00:02:11,440 --> 00:02:13,080 Speaker 1: bring a lot of my own food. My food is 51 00:02:13,200 --> 00:02:14,000 Speaker 1: relatively healthy. 52 00:02:14,040 --> 00:02:15,880 Speaker 2: I'm just glad it's only blood pressure. When you say 53 00:02:15,919 --> 00:02:17,120 Speaker 2: your doctors good. 54 00:02:17,639 --> 00:02:19,400 Speaker 1: Lack of sleep, I don't really sleep that much. That's 55 00:02:19,440 --> 00:02:20,079 Speaker 1: really what it is. 56 00:02:20,120 --> 00:02:23,400 Speaker 2: Well, our job doesn't really allow for I feel guilty 57 00:02:23,400 --> 00:02:25,440 Speaker 2: when I go to bed before ten o'clock. I feel 58 00:02:25,480 --> 00:02:27,440 Speaker 2: like I'm slacking at my job and at life when 59 00:02:27,480 --> 00:02:29,400 Speaker 2: I go to bed before ten o'clock night. Yo, I 60 00:02:29,560 --> 00:02:31,960 Speaker 2: be trying, but like, man, it'd be a good twelve 61 00:02:32,160 --> 00:02:34,880 Speaker 2: Last night, I went to bed at midnight and had 62 00:02:34,880 --> 00:02:37,080 Speaker 2: to be up at My first alarm is at like 63 00:02:37,120 --> 00:02:39,280 Speaker 2: three forty five, and then our second one is at 64 00:02:39,280 --> 00:02:39,920 Speaker 2: four oh five. 65 00:02:40,120 --> 00:02:41,560 Speaker 1: Yeah. He was like, if you were older, he would 66 00:02:41,560 --> 00:02:45,119 Speaker 1: not let you leave today. Like, so, I gotta stop stressing. 67 00:02:45,200 --> 00:02:48,000 Speaker 1: That's my goal for the upcoming weeks months. 68 00:02:48,000 --> 00:02:49,880 Speaker 3: And what are you stressed about? 69 00:02:50,120 --> 00:02:51,840 Speaker 1: I don't know. I think they get easier, Like, I 70 00:02:51,840 --> 00:02:54,160 Speaker 1: don't know. You see people's life that's like a little slower, 71 00:02:54,240 --> 00:02:57,040 Speaker 1: and are things gonna ever slow down and get yeah, 72 00:02:57,040 --> 00:02:58,320 Speaker 1: a little easier. 73 00:02:58,000 --> 00:02:58,960 Speaker 3: I know what you mean. 74 00:03:00,080 --> 00:03:02,360 Speaker 2: Like, I feel like I think that that's the thing 75 00:03:02,400 --> 00:03:04,920 Speaker 2: that's coming with like age, It's like we work in 76 00:03:04,960 --> 00:03:08,000 Speaker 2: a very fast faced industry, and I'm always trying to 77 00:03:08,000 --> 00:03:10,280 Speaker 2: figure out, like what does comfortability look like in that? 78 00:03:10,919 --> 00:03:13,160 Speaker 2: Like I mean, it's good to see other people who 79 00:03:13,240 --> 00:03:15,919 Speaker 2: have achieved a level of family and success or whatever. 80 00:03:16,400 --> 00:03:18,760 Speaker 2: But still I look at friends of mine who are 81 00:03:18,760 --> 00:03:21,760 Speaker 2: successful in other job lanes, and I'm like, yo, at 82 00:03:21,800 --> 00:03:24,880 Speaker 2: this age, they have kids, they're able to like everything's 83 00:03:24,880 --> 00:03:26,840 Speaker 2: like on a schedule. They take vacation at the same time, 84 00:03:26,960 --> 00:03:29,560 Speaker 2: they're home at the same time. They like I've thought 85 00:03:29,560 --> 00:03:31,480 Speaker 2: about that as well too, But I just can't imagine 86 00:03:31,520 --> 00:03:33,200 Speaker 2: my life any other way than doing what I'm doing 87 00:03:33,240 --> 00:03:35,280 Speaker 2: right now, because all of my passions are like things 88 00:03:35,360 --> 00:03:38,480 Speaker 2: that stretch me, and like I don't want not to 89 00:03:38,480 --> 00:03:40,120 Speaker 2: I don't want to say regular job because I don't 90 00:03:40,120 --> 00:03:43,240 Speaker 2: want to downplay anybody's job, but all of my passions require 91 00:03:43,320 --> 00:03:46,680 Speaker 2: a lot of a non traditional right, so I think 92 00:03:46,680 --> 00:03:48,720 Speaker 2: about that audience. I'm stressed about it, though, but I 93 00:03:48,760 --> 00:03:51,520 Speaker 2: do think about it because now I'm getting to the 94 00:03:51,520 --> 00:03:53,280 Speaker 2: point where I'm like, all right, in a good two years, 95 00:03:53,280 --> 00:03:56,440 Speaker 2: Like I want to start kids, and how do I 96 00:03:56,480 --> 00:03:58,680 Speaker 2: do homework with my kid, because. 97 00:03:58,480 --> 00:04:00,600 Speaker 1: When I was like early twenty is, you could just 98 00:04:00,640 --> 00:04:03,800 Speaker 1: like I feel like sleep is optional. I could drink 99 00:04:03,840 --> 00:04:06,080 Speaker 1: and wake up and go play basketball, and I get 100 00:04:06,160 --> 00:04:08,760 Speaker 1: like this. Things were just like differently with my body. 101 00:04:08,760 --> 00:04:11,640 Speaker 1: But now I guess sleep is not optional and eating 102 00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:14,800 Speaker 1: healthy is not optional and all the good things. So 103 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:16,880 Speaker 1: you gotta make sure you're taking care of yourself. 104 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:18,920 Speaker 2: I think it'll be good for people to hear this 105 00:04:18,960 --> 00:04:21,120 Speaker 2: because I think it's not even just an age thing too. 106 00:04:21,320 --> 00:04:24,320 Speaker 2: Think it's like a mental shift of your mindset of 107 00:04:24,400 --> 00:04:28,400 Speaker 2: going from survival to living life. Like that's something I 108 00:04:28,400 --> 00:04:31,000 Speaker 2: talk to myself about all the time, Like, Lauren, you're 109 00:04:31,040 --> 00:04:33,479 Speaker 2: so used to being in survival mode. It's okay to now, 110 00:04:33,560 --> 00:04:36,599 Speaker 2: like like you've survived girl, Like, it's okay to live now. 111 00:04:36,680 --> 00:04:38,800 Speaker 2: And what the setting that pace look like for you, 112 00:04:38,839 --> 00:04:40,919 Speaker 2: even though it's not traditional. I've had to talk myself 113 00:04:40,920 --> 00:04:41,480 Speaker 2: off the ledge. 114 00:04:41,960 --> 00:04:45,000 Speaker 1: Yeah. So besides that, you know, the focus is just 115 00:04:45,000 --> 00:04:46,880 Speaker 1: getting distressing. Get my mind right. 116 00:04:47,200 --> 00:04:49,680 Speaker 2: Well, I'm glad I could do therapy for you. All 117 00:04:49,760 --> 00:04:51,640 Speaker 2: niggas be neat and y'all be y'all. You mayn't be 118 00:04:51,720 --> 00:04:52,240 Speaker 2: neat to go. 119 00:04:52,120 --> 00:04:53,400 Speaker 3: See the lady. 120 00:04:54,400 --> 00:04:56,839 Speaker 2: So in this episode, guys, we're going to do another 121 00:04:57,279 --> 00:04:59,720 Speaker 2: on the Line with Laura Rosa, which is where we 122 00:04:59,720 --> 00:05:02,560 Speaker 2: bring pop culture and entertainment news literally on the phone 123 00:05:02,600 --> 00:05:04,839 Speaker 2: line and give you guys a chance to low riders 124 00:05:04,839 --> 00:05:07,720 Speaker 2: to talk to us about what you're hearing, what you're seeing, 125 00:05:07,960 --> 00:05:10,279 Speaker 2: and whatever our topic is of the day. Now, today 126 00:05:10,360 --> 00:05:12,360 Speaker 2: we are going to take it to a show on 127 00:05:12,520 --> 00:05:16,440 Speaker 2: Hulu that everybody is watching, Uh Paradise. 128 00:05:16,640 --> 00:05:18,400 Speaker 3: So Starlen K. Brown and his. 129 00:05:18,279 --> 00:05:22,440 Speaker 2: Wife Ryan Michelle Bath, they start in this show and 130 00:05:22,480 --> 00:05:24,520 Speaker 2: they also have a podcast where they sit down and 131 00:05:24,520 --> 00:05:26,600 Speaker 2: they you know, their podcast is called I Have a 132 00:05:26,600 --> 00:05:29,320 Speaker 2: Difference of Opinion, and they have differences of opinions a 133 00:05:29,360 --> 00:05:31,520 Speaker 2: lot and it gets very they get very eat it. 134 00:05:32,080 --> 00:05:34,640 Speaker 2: So we're talking about a scene that happened in the show. 135 00:05:35,920 --> 00:05:39,120 Speaker 1: Did I lie? Did I lie? Excuse me that she 136 00:05:39,320 --> 00:05:43,040 Speaker 1: is my therapist? Was I gonna say the jump up 137 00:05:43,120 --> 00:05:45,159 Speaker 1: that I hooked up with the one time? Because I 138 00:05:45,160 --> 00:05:48,719 Speaker 1: thought the scene that's exactly what Why would I do 139 00:05:48,760 --> 00:05:50,320 Speaker 1: that on the first time that they meet each other? 140 00:05:50,560 --> 00:05:51,400 Speaker 1: Why would I do that? 141 00:05:51,440 --> 00:05:53,640 Speaker 3: It's called are you kidding? 142 00:05:57,560 --> 00:05:59,800 Speaker 1: Nobody should do that on the first time. 143 00:06:00,200 --> 00:06:02,680 Speaker 2: No, My point is is that it was it was 144 00:06:02,720 --> 00:06:10,080 Speaker 2: the jovial ness, I like you are. 145 00:06:10,400 --> 00:06:10,760 Speaker 3: Damn. 146 00:06:10,920 --> 00:06:15,839 Speaker 2: Why all right, now let's get on into this caller 147 00:06:16,240 --> 00:06:17,000 Speaker 2: on the line. 148 00:06:17,880 --> 00:06:19,200 Speaker 3: How you doing DJ? Also? 149 00:06:19,800 --> 00:06:22,400 Speaker 4: Yes, am I saying it right? Yep? 150 00:06:22,880 --> 00:06:25,960 Speaker 2: Alrighty? Well, Hi, welcome to on the line with Laura 151 00:06:26,000 --> 00:06:29,360 Speaker 2: de Rosa. Hi, I'm doing good. So you are one 152 00:06:29,400 --> 00:06:32,600 Speaker 2: of the low riders, one of the podcast listeners. How 153 00:06:32,600 --> 00:06:33,880 Speaker 2: long you been listening to us? 154 00:06:34,520 --> 00:06:36,560 Speaker 4: What was the okay? 155 00:06:36,720 --> 00:06:39,440 Speaker 2: All right, well, welcome on over. I'm glad you enjoying 156 00:06:39,480 --> 00:06:40,640 Speaker 2: the experience over here. 157 00:06:41,480 --> 00:06:42,880 Speaker 4: Thank you, Thank you so much. 158 00:06:43,440 --> 00:06:45,920 Speaker 3: So I know you got a chance to and Brandon's 159 00:06:45,920 --> 00:06:46,560 Speaker 3: here as well too. 160 00:06:46,760 --> 00:06:49,720 Speaker 1: Yes, nice to meet you. Oh yeah, I know. 161 00:06:49,680 --> 00:06:51,479 Speaker 2: You got a chance to check out the clip from 162 00:06:51,520 --> 00:06:54,440 Speaker 2: Paradise the podcast after we're sling K Brown and his wife. 163 00:06:54,480 --> 00:06:56,000 Speaker 2: We'll look up her name, but so I know you 164 00:06:56,080 --> 00:06:58,720 Speaker 2: got a chance to take a look at their commentary 165 00:06:58,839 --> 00:07:01,160 Speaker 2: and I want to expe ain't some of the background 166 00:07:01,200 --> 00:07:03,640 Speaker 2: to you just from the show sterlen K Brown and 167 00:07:03,720 --> 00:07:08,560 Speaker 2: his wife Ryan Michelle back. So Brandon, who's an avid 168 00:07:08,560 --> 00:07:11,160 Speaker 2: Paradise watcher, put me on to what was going down 169 00:07:11,200 --> 00:07:16,360 Speaker 2: and we had a very passion angry but good conversation 170 00:07:16,480 --> 00:07:18,840 Speaker 2: between our group at work about this. 171 00:07:18,920 --> 00:07:20,880 Speaker 3: So explain some of the background that led up to 172 00:07:20,920 --> 00:07:21,360 Speaker 3: this podcast. 173 00:07:21,440 --> 00:07:22,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, so do you watch a show at all? 174 00:07:23,280 --> 00:07:23,480 Speaker 4: No? 175 00:07:23,560 --> 00:07:25,920 Speaker 1: I don't, Okay, So just to add a little more 176 00:07:26,080 --> 00:07:29,280 Speaker 1: contexts to that clip. The main character, this is a spoiler. 177 00:07:28,800 --> 00:07:30,560 Speaker 3: By the way, for those who spoiler Alerk. 178 00:07:30,760 --> 00:07:33,480 Speaker 1: He found out he was under the impression his wife 179 00:07:33,480 --> 00:07:37,600 Speaker 1: had passed away, had relations with his therapists, somehow found 180 00:07:37,640 --> 00:07:39,560 Speaker 1: a way to bring his wife back in his life. 181 00:07:39,840 --> 00:07:42,040 Speaker 1: And there was a scene where he introduced his wife 182 00:07:42,040 --> 00:07:44,640 Speaker 1: to the therapist, had a little small talk and literally walked 183 00:07:44,640 --> 00:07:46,880 Speaker 1: away and I guess let them went on to do 184 00:07:46,920 --> 00:07:48,840 Speaker 1: something else, but they were still talking. So there was 185 00:07:48,880 --> 00:07:51,160 Speaker 1: a conversation online and whether he should have told his 186 00:07:51,240 --> 00:07:53,880 Speaker 1: wife at the time that he had had relationship with 187 00:07:53,920 --> 00:07:55,280 Speaker 1: that therapist. 188 00:07:55,480 --> 00:07:57,120 Speaker 2: So what do you think you think he should have 189 00:07:57,200 --> 00:07:59,080 Speaker 2: told his wife ahead of time? Because you heard in 190 00:07:59,080 --> 00:08:01,320 Speaker 2: the podcast atisod I want to say a listen, so 191 00:08:01,520 --> 00:08:05,360 Speaker 2: DJ also, do you think that Sterling K. Brown's character 192 00:08:05,520 --> 00:08:10,080 Speaker 2: was wrong for not telling his wife before she met 193 00:08:10,120 --> 00:08:11,440 Speaker 2: the therapist or. 194 00:08:11,480 --> 00:08:13,320 Speaker 1: During that time during that interaction. 195 00:08:13,960 --> 00:08:17,480 Speaker 4: This is tough, but I honestly think he was You 196 00:08:17,560 --> 00:08:20,000 Speaker 4: build a better bond at home. By just being honest, 197 00:08:20,320 --> 00:08:23,840 Speaker 4: thank you, you won't lie. It uncovers so many things. People 198 00:08:23,880 --> 00:08:25,640 Speaker 4: start to feel like if you lie about a little, 199 00:08:25,640 --> 00:08:26,560 Speaker 4: you're lied about a lot. 200 00:08:26,800 --> 00:08:29,960 Speaker 1: Yes, but hell, what did he lie about? 201 00:08:31,760 --> 00:08:32,840 Speaker 4: Truth is also a lie? 202 00:08:33,360 --> 00:08:33,840 Speaker 3: Thank you? 203 00:08:34,400 --> 00:08:39,400 Speaker 1: Okay, So I feel like eventually that conversation would come up, 204 00:08:39,440 --> 00:08:41,360 Speaker 1: but right there in the spot, tell me how that 205 00:08:41,400 --> 00:08:43,080 Speaker 1: should go down, explain that to me. 206 00:08:43,640 --> 00:08:46,199 Speaker 4: Ohn just wanted to let you know this is not 207 00:08:46,320 --> 00:08:48,760 Speaker 4: the first time that this person and I have interacted. 208 00:08:49,320 --> 00:08:50,720 Speaker 4: I do want to let you know we do have 209 00:08:50,960 --> 00:08:52,800 Speaker 4: quote a little bit of history. 210 00:08:53,120 --> 00:08:57,520 Speaker 3: So how old are you? If you don't mind me, Yeah, 211 00:08:57,679 --> 00:08:58,400 Speaker 3: how old are your brand? 212 00:09:01,440 --> 00:09:04,160 Speaker 2: Because here's my thing right as a woman listening and 213 00:09:04,160 --> 00:09:06,880 Speaker 2: also as a woman that's been in this situation. Literally, 214 00:09:07,160 --> 00:09:10,079 Speaker 2: my mind instantly goes to, so you didn't tell me 215 00:09:10,160 --> 00:09:12,280 Speaker 2: Number one, you think I'm dumb? Because I know my 216 00:09:12,360 --> 00:09:14,800 Speaker 2: man in and out. I can tell just by y'all 217 00:09:14,800 --> 00:09:17,880 Speaker 2: interaction that there was more than anything at that moment. 218 00:09:18,120 --> 00:09:20,200 Speaker 2: I can literally see the way that you're breathing and 219 00:09:20,360 --> 00:09:23,520 Speaker 2: know your woman is really your woman for real, Like 220 00:09:23,600 --> 00:09:26,280 Speaker 2: I mean, no, you know you, the way you breathe, 221 00:09:26,320 --> 00:09:28,920 Speaker 2: the way you anything off. I'm gonna catch it. So 222 00:09:28,960 --> 00:09:32,000 Speaker 2: that's number one. So that's already slapping the face. Number two, 223 00:09:33,080 --> 00:09:35,679 Speaker 2: Why omit it like? It's it's here, it's happening. It's 224 00:09:35,679 --> 00:09:37,960 Speaker 2: not your fault that I'm here meeting this woman right like, 225 00:09:37,960 --> 00:09:39,719 Speaker 2: It's not like was it a private meetup or were 226 00:09:39,720 --> 00:09:40,040 Speaker 2: they just. 227 00:09:39,960 --> 00:09:41,360 Speaker 1: In a like a public setting. 228 00:09:41,520 --> 00:09:44,080 Speaker 2: We're in a public setting. You can't control the fact 229 00:09:44,080 --> 00:09:46,200 Speaker 2: that me and her ran into each other. But just 230 00:09:46,280 --> 00:09:49,240 Speaker 2: let me know exactly. I think the way that DJ 231 00:09:49,320 --> 00:09:52,199 Speaker 2: also explained to do it. If she's a sad or scorpio, 232 00:09:52,440 --> 00:09:54,400 Speaker 2: you might get a little craziness in the moment, But 233 00:09:54,760 --> 00:09:55,520 Speaker 2: I gotta give. 234 00:09:55,400 --> 00:09:58,840 Speaker 4: It to you that you tried, definitely, And my thing 235 00:09:58,880 --> 00:10:00,360 Speaker 4: is just removing the blind side. 236 00:10:01,040 --> 00:10:04,320 Speaker 2: Yes, because DJ and Brandon as men, how do you 237 00:10:04,320 --> 00:10:07,160 Speaker 2: guys feel about your woman ever having you blindsided on 238 00:10:07,200 --> 00:10:09,080 Speaker 2: something like that, like men that she slept with and 239 00:10:09,120 --> 00:10:11,120 Speaker 2: you guys being around them or being introduced to them. 240 00:10:11,520 --> 00:10:14,679 Speaker 4: No, my thing is this, and thank you, my thing 241 00:10:14,800 --> 00:10:18,079 Speaker 4: is this. That's it's not a selfless act because being 242 00:10:18,160 --> 00:10:21,360 Speaker 4: quite honest and transparent, I'm thinking of me in that situation. 243 00:10:21,440 --> 00:10:24,040 Speaker 4: I'm thinking to myself, I wouldn't want to be blindsided, 244 00:10:24,080 --> 00:10:26,360 Speaker 4: So let me go ahead and pay that respect forward 245 00:10:26,520 --> 00:10:29,360 Speaker 4: so that you know she understands that's how we operate. 246 00:10:29,640 --> 00:10:32,120 Speaker 4: So I'm going to remove the blind side. If it's 247 00:10:32,240 --> 00:10:35,200 Speaker 4: before or different time, there's no harm in being honest, 248 00:10:35,600 --> 00:10:37,880 Speaker 4: so that way that karma always comes back to me. 249 00:10:37,960 --> 00:10:40,559 Speaker 4: I'm just so wan to see basically, go ahead, Brendan. 250 00:10:40,840 --> 00:10:42,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, I was just saying, I feel like I was 251 00:10:42,360 --> 00:10:44,680 Speaker 1: in a similar situation where X and Mind would be 252 00:10:44,679 --> 00:10:47,680 Speaker 1: talking about, like we have conversations about our relationships. She's 253 00:10:47,720 --> 00:10:49,960 Speaker 1: mentioned the name before, and he was still school with 254 00:10:49,960 --> 00:10:51,800 Speaker 1: some of her friends and he had a common name, 255 00:10:51,880 --> 00:10:54,640 Speaker 1: so we run into him, introduce him. I didn't think 256 00:10:54,679 --> 00:10:57,040 Speaker 1: nothing of it when she said the name. That just 257 00:10:57,160 --> 00:10:59,079 Speaker 1: hit me like an hour into the park. Yes, I 258 00:10:59,120 --> 00:11:00,720 Speaker 1: guess I never asked about the inter racket. 259 00:11:02,360 --> 00:11:04,920 Speaker 3: Diddy hugger. 260 00:11:06,440 --> 00:11:10,160 Speaker 1: I mean, I guess like she didn't technically mention it, 261 00:11:10,240 --> 00:11:12,800 Speaker 1: but I was a little mad in the moment. 262 00:11:13,760 --> 00:11:16,880 Speaker 3: The moment though, Why what was your feeling in the moment, I. 263 00:11:16,880 --> 00:11:20,080 Speaker 1: Don't know in a way because I was like, oh, 264 00:11:20,559 --> 00:11:22,319 Speaker 1: I didn't even know I was gonna meet him and 265 00:11:22,360 --> 00:11:24,559 Speaker 1: run into him in this very moment, And. 266 00:11:24,559 --> 00:11:26,320 Speaker 4: I get that I totally understand that. 267 00:11:28,720 --> 00:11:30,600 Speaker 3: Have you ever been in a situation dejail? 268 00:11:30,760 --> 00:11:33,400 Speaker 4: Yes? So I did go to a party with I 269 00:11:33,440 --> 00:11:35,760 Speaker 4: meant her, I was working with a gentleman. He and 270 00:11:35,800 --> 00:11:38,480 Speaker 4: I became cool, and I'm telling my lady at the 271 00:11:38,520 --> 00:11:40,880 Speaker 4: time about him. Yo, I met this guy Rick at 272 00:11:40,880 --> 00:11:43,199 Speaker 4: the job, so on and so forth, my description of 273 00:11:43,280 --> 00:11:45,520 Speaker 4: him and everything. He invited us to a cookout. We 274 00:11:45,600 --> 00:11:48,480 Speaker 4: go to the cookout and she knows, you know, a 275 00:11:48,520 --> 00:11:51,400 Speaker 4: decent amount of people, so you know, someone there made 276 00:11:51,440 --> 00:11:53,880 Speaker 4: a reference to her, and Rick like, oh my god, 277 00:11:53,920 --> 00:11:55,840 Speaker 4: you guys to go back together. And I'm looking at 278 00:11:55,880 --> 00:11:58,439 Speaker 4: her and I'm looking at him, and he stepped off 279 00:11:58,520 --> 00:12:01,839 Speaker 4: right quick, and I just felt betrayed because wait a minute, 280 00:12:01,880 --> 00:12:03,880 Speaker 4: I was playing. One of his other guests there at 281 00:12:03,920 --> 00:12:05,360 Speaker 4: the cookout was like, oh my god, you guys took 282 00:12:05,400 --> 00:12:09,040 Speaker 4: him back together. So I'm thinking I'm introducing her to him. 283 00:12:09,600 --> 00:12:13,360 Speaker 1: Oh you know him, he met him at work, him. 284 00:12:13,200 --> 00:12:15,439 Speaker 3: At work on hype Like, yo, babe. 285 00:12:15,679 --> 00:12:18,080 Speaker 2: So now you're standing there with a low vibrational plate 286 00:12:18,120 --> 00:12:19,760 Speaker 2: at the cookout and the red cup in your hand, 287 00:12:19,800 --> 00:12:20,840 Speaker 2: and then what you're doing. 288 00:12:21,400 --> 00:12:23,280 Speaker 4: So the thing was, he put me on this spot 289 00:12:23,320 --> 00:12:25,960 Speaker 4: two thirty fifth in the city, so you know, her 290 00:12:25,960 --> 00:12:28,679 Speaker 4: birthday came around. I took hell there, thinking, you know, 291 00:12:28,840 --> 00:12:31,000 Speaker 4: so on and so forth, and like you say, a 292 00:12:31,040 --> 00:12:33,439 Speaker 4: woman knows some man. So I found something like, nah, 293 00:12:33,480 --> 00:12:35,280 Speaker 4: this had to have the next spot. I think, these 294 00:12:35,280 --> 00:12:38,040 Speaker 4: people playing in my face and I actually deteriorated. That's 295 00:12:38,040 --> 00:12:39,120 Speaker 4: the entire relationship. 296 00:12:39,520 --> 00:12:41,840 Speaker 1: Oh my god, he said, what's your relationship? 297 00:12:42,480 --> 00:12:46,520 Speaker 4: It deteriorated the entire relationship, Like you guys broke up after. 298 00:12:46,360 --> 00:12:48,840 Speaker 2: That because he started feeling played with. And that's the 299 00:12:48,960 --> 00:12:52,319 Speaker 2: issue right there. I think when men omit things, or 300 00:12:52,360 --> 00:12:55,280 Speaker 2: even women omit things you're thinking in the moment, I. 301 00:12:55,200 --> 00:12:56,480 Speaker 3: Just don't even feel like the hassle. 302 00:12:56,800 --> 00:12:58,640 Speaker 2: I don't feel like having to explained this is probably 303 00:12:58,679 --> 00:13:00,680 Speaker 2: somebody you ain't even told that person about if y'allne 304 00:13:00,679 --> 00:13:02,520 Speaker 2: went through the who's who's or whatever, right, whatever the. 305 00:13:02,440 --> 00:13:03,040 Speaker 3: Case may be. 306 00:13:03,440 --> 00:13:05,720 Speaker 2: But it's like, think about the long term damage that 307 00:13:05,840 --> 00:13:08,400 Speaker 2: does to someone's mental Like if I'm thinking I can 308 00:13:08,440 --> 00:13:11,400 Speaker 2: trust you like you're supposed to, like relationships are supposed 309 00:13:11,440 --> 00:13:11,600 Speaker 2: to be. 310 00:13:11,720 --> 00:13:13,280 Speaker 3: Like if I close my. 311 00:13:13,280 --> 00:13:15,839 Speaker 2: Eyes and my ears right now and you take over 312 00:13:15,880 --> 00:13:18,200 Speaker 2: the wheel of my car, I know I'm gonna get 313 00:13:18,240 --> 00:13:18,720 Speaker 2: home safe. 314 00:13:18,920 --> 00:13:21,240 Speaker 3: I can't trust you. My eyes and my ears closed. 315 00:13:22,200 --> 00:13:23,280 Speaker 1: She knew y'all worked together. 316 00:13:23,880 --> 00:13:25,080 Speaker 4: Rick and I work together. 317 00:13:25,400 --> 00:13:27,280 Speaker 1: You know, I mean that your girl knew that y'all 318 00:13:27,280 --> 00:13:27,960 Speaker 1: two work together. 319 00:13:28,200 --> 00:13:30,440 Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm coming home, That's what I'm saying. I'm coming home. 320 00:13:30,480 --> 00:13:32,880 Speaker 4: And I'm like, yeah, I'm homie at the job. Rick, 321 00:13:33,160 --> 00:13:34,880 Speaker 4: you know told me about this spot. You know what 322 00:13:34,920 --> 00:13:36,960 Speaker 4: I'm saying, a place to e He put me on 323 00:13:37,160 --> 00:13:38,599 Speaker 4: thirty fifth in the city. 324 00:13:38,520 --> 00:13:39,280 Speaker 1: Was going over there. 325 00:13:39,520 --> 00:13:41,560 Speaker 2: She never said nothing, but when they walked in the 326 00:13:41,600 --> 00:13:43,439 Speaker 2: spot he said that, she was like, wait, how do 327 00:13:43,440 --> 00:13:45,240 Speaker 2: you know about this place? And she was putting the 328 00:13:45,280 --> 00:13:47,160 Speaker 2: puzzle together but never said anything. 329 00:13:47,480 --> 00:13:50,960 Speaker 4: Oh right, And she accepted the introduction as if it 330 00:13:51,000 --> 00:13:51,800 Speaker 4: was her first time. 331 00:13:52,880 --> 00:13:54,959 Speaker 3: Yeah, no, no, no, oh my god. 332 00:13:55,160 --> 00:13:57,720 Speaker 2: That I mean, I would already be pissed off. I 333 00:13:57,720 --> 00:14:01,320 Speaker 2: don't like nothing omitted at all ever. But you act 334 00:14:01,360 --> 00:14:03,160 Speaker 2: like you don't know the person. You might as well 335 00:14:03,280 --> 00:14:05,120 Speaker 2: leave with them. I'm causing to see you right then 336 00:14:05,160 --> 00:14:05,440 Speaker 2: and there. 337 00:14:06,040 --> 00:14:09,640 Speaker 1: So how long after the introduction did that person come 338 00:14:09,720 --> 00:14:11,640 Speaker 1: up and say, oh, y'all tore back together. That happened 339 00:14:11,679 --> 00:14:12,839 Speaker 1: in like simultaneously. 340 00:14:13,000 --> 00:14:14,120 Speaker 4: I was feel like too much. 341 00:14:14,520 --> 00:14:16,720 Speaker 2: Oh no, it wasn't too It was two months after 342 00:14:16,760 --> 00:14:18,920 Speaker 2: that that she told you or at that moment. 343 00:14:19,000 --> 00:14:21,880 Speaker 4: No, no, no, So I started a job in late March 344 00:14:21,960 --> 00:14:24,760 Speaker 4: and the cookout was a fourth of July cookout, So. 345 00:14:24,720 --> 00:14:27,400 Speaker 2: That incident happened two months after you started the job. 346 00:14:27,720 --> 00:14:29,640 Speaker 2: But that person who said to you, oh my god, 347 00:14:29,680 --> 00:14:31,800 Speaker 2: you guys are back together, that was right there in the. 348 00:14:31,760 --> 00:14:33,040 Speaker 1: Moment, right right. 349 00:14:33,400 --> 00:14:35,280 Speaker 2: And then how long did it take her to tell 350 00:14:35,320 --> 00:14:36,560 Speaker 2: you the truth about everything? 351 00:14:37,000 --> 00:14:39,040 Speaker 4: She didn't? Once that happened, I was like, wait, what 352 00:14:39,520 --> 00:14:41,320 Speaker 4: you could tell about a look on her face that 353 00:14:41,400 --> 00:14:43,320 Speaker 4: it was like, oh, y'all got a history. And the 354 00:14:43,400 --> 00:14:46,680 Speaker 4: thing is that Marjou her birthday was April is April eighteenth. 355 00:14:47,200 --> 00:14:49,560 Speaker 4: He put me on somewhere to take her for her birthday. 356 00:14:49,680 --> 00:14:53,040 Speaker 4: That was what kind of introduced me telling her about him, 357 00:14:53,520 --> 00:14:55,640 Speaker 4: Like oh, yeah, you know what I'm saying, god Rick, 358 00:14:56,040 --> 00:14:57,840 Speaker 4: She's like, where are you learning about this from you? 359 00:14:57,880 --> 00:15:00,800 Speaker 4: This ain't even about me at word, bro named Rick, 360 00:15:00,840 --> 00:15:01,720 Speaker 4: you know what I'm saying. This is the one I 361 00:15:01,760 --> 00:15:04,120 Speaker 4: was talking about. He cool, you know, he used to 362 00:15:04,280 --> 00:15:06,680 Speaker 4: do some work for me t in the city, and 363 00:15:06,760 --> 00:15:08,440 Speaker 4: he know all of these little spots And she was 364 00:15:08,480 --> 00:15:10,640 Speaker 4: like me t in the city, and when I started 365 00:15:10,880 --> 00:15:11,760 Speaker 4: saying yeah. 366 00:15:11,600 --> 00:15:12,880 Speaker 3: She definitely knew. 367 00:15:14,560 --> 00:15:17,120 Speaker 2: You gave her every out to be like, babe, I 368 00:15:17,120 --> 00:15:18,120 Speaker 2: gotta talk to you. 369 00:15:18,560 --> 00:15:21,920 Speaker 1: I gotta and mind you always about her by accident. 370 00:15:22,200 --> 00:15:24,200 Speaker 3: Did Rick ever tell you about any of his exes? 371 00:15:24,440 --> 00:15:26,400 Speaker 4: Not really, So how do you have to talk about 372 00:15:26,440 --> 00:15:29,280 Speaker 4: women in a lot? But he wouldn't name anyone in particular, 373 00:15:29,320 --> 00:15:30,440 Speaker 4: and so on and so forth. 374 00:15:30,320 --> 00:15:33,000 Speaker 1: Like so how deep were they to get? Like how 375 00:15:33,120 --> 00:15:34,440 Speaker 1: deep was their relationships together? 376 00:15:34,680 --> 00:15:37,280 Speaker 4: I never got into it. Once that happened, we just 377 00:15:37,360 --> 00:15:39,320 Speaker 4: kind of dissolved. She hit me for a little bit, 378 00:15:39,600 --> 00:15:41,360 Speaker 4: let me talk to you, and you know, I know, 379 00:15:41,480 --> 00:15:44,360 Speaker 4: a few calls, and then eventually we just phased out. 380 00:15:44,560 --> 00:15:45,600 Speaker 3: You gotta know your partner. 381 00:15:45,680 --> 00:15:47,720 Speaker 2: I'm not the person that you're going to just spring 382 00:15:47,760 --> 00:15:49,640 Speaker 2: that on right then and there because now the event 383 00:15:49,720 --> 00:15:51,800 Speaker 2: is over, Like now it's time to go home. 384 00:15:52,400 --> 00:15:53,120 Speaker 3: I am upset. 385 00:15:53,240 --> 00:15:55,240 Speaker 2: But it also depends on how you handle it too, 386 00:15:55,320 --> 00:15:58,240 Speaker 2: and your interaction with the person. Like if I don't 387 00:15:58,240 --> 00:15:59,720 Speaker 2: feel like you did anything that was out of line 388 00:15:59,800 --> 00:16:02,480 Speaker 2: or you and act weird, I probably can still remain 389 00:16:02,520 --> 00:16:04,000 Speaker 2: cool and we can carry on our night. But if 390 00:16:04,000 --> 00:16:06,600 Speaker 2: you act weird, if there's anything that's making me wonder, well, 391 00:16:06,600 --> 00:16:07,880 Speaker 2: why you like acting like that? 392 00:16:08,280 --> 00:16:09,840 Speaker 3: Then now my mind is wandering. 393 00:16:09,840 --> 00:16:11,400 Speaker 2: It's so many other things, and I'm not gonna be 394 00:16:11,400 --> 00:16:14,080 Speaker 2: able to compose my life, like my poker face ain't 395 00:16:14,080 --> 00:16:17,560 Speaker 2: that good. So but I think it's just the way 396 00:16:17,600 --> 00:16:20,720 Speaker 2: that I feel about things is as much as I 397 00:16:20,760 --> 00:16:22,840 Speaker 2: know to tell you, I'm gonna tell you. I feel like, 398 00:16:22,960 --> 00:16:25,360 Speaker 2: sometimes tell me, if you guys have been through this, 399 00:16:25,400 --> 00:16:27,160 Speaker 2: something might not be a big deal to you, or 400 00:16:27,320 --> 00:16:30,200 Speaker 2: maybe you briefly interacted with a person or briefly dated, 401 00:16:30,320 --> 00:16:32,240 Speaker 2: or maybe y'all DMed a little bit like nothing that 402 00:16:32,360 --> 00:16:34,520 Speaker 2: was worth it for real, and you don't mention that, 403 00:16:34,560 --> 00:16:37,920 Speaker 2: and then it comes back up and yeah, but I've 404 00:16:37,960 --> 00:16:41,040 Speaker 2: learned even stuff like that matters, especially if y'all are 405 00:16:41,040 --> 00:16:41,560 Speaker 2: working in the. 406 00:16:41,560 --> 00:16:43,280 Speaker 3: Same arenas or the same areas. 407 00:16:43,360 --> 00:16:45,960 Speaker 2: I just rather put everything out there because I want 408 00:16:45,960 --> 00:16:47,960 Speaker 2: to know everything, Like I don't want no surprises. 409 00:16:48,080 --> 00:16:51,320 Speaker 3: I have a very traumatic, you know X situation. 410 00:16:52,000 --> 00:16:54,440 Speaker 2: So that was one of my rules, like be transparent 411 00:16:54,440 --> 00:16:56,520 Speaker 2: with me because it's hard to gain my trust once 412 00:16:56,520 --> 00:16:58,480 Speaker 2: I lose it, like it ruins the way I look 413 00:16:58,480 --> 00:16:59,560 Speaker 2: at you, in the way I respect you. 414 00:17:00,440 --> 00:17:02,280 Speaker 1: You were like, you were dealing with somebody, and then 415 00:17:02,440 --> 00:17:04,439 Speaker 1: you can find out they dealt with somebody you're clothes with. 416 00:17:04,640 --> 00:17:06,880 Speaker 2: Definitely somebody that has happened to me. You've been through 417 00:17:06,880 --> 00:17:09,560 Speaker 2: the experience of being in a public place, being with 418 00:17:09,640 --> 00:17:11,359 Speaker 2: your person and somebody walk up the they used to 419 00:17:11,359 --> 00:17:13,399 Speaker 2: deal with And I literally just by the way that 420 00:17:13,440 --> 00:17:15,800 Speaker 2: he introduced her, he introduced us, and it was a 421 00:17:15,800 --> 00:17:17,680 Speaker 2: little I gave a little side hug and she was like, yeah, 422 00:17:17,720 --> 00:17:18,520 Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, thank you. 423 00:17:18,760 --> 00:17:20,000 Speaker 3: She walked away. I said, so who that? 424 00:17:20,880 --> 00:17:23,040 Speaker 2: Because I knew I could just tell by how his 425 00:17:23,160 --> 00:17:25,480 Speaker 2: body language shifted and he was shipped. 426 00:17:25,560 --> 00:17:28,440 Speaker 4: But yeah, like that happened to you as a woman. 427 00:17:29,160 --> 00:17:32,040 Speaker 4: Do you know from introduction by the way we speak 428 00:17:32,119 --> 00:17:35,760 Speaker 4: or the way we introduce someone that there's some history there, Yeah. 429 00:17:35,640 --> 00:17:36,520 Speaker 3: One hundred percent. 430 00:17:36,880 --> 00:17:40,040 Speaker 2: I feel like men y'all will be trying to do 431 00:17:40,080 --> 00:17:43,440 Speaker 2: the right thing sometimes and still give it away, or 432 00:17:43,480 --> 00:17:45,919 Speaker 2: you're just not doing the right thing, like you're hiding something. 433 00:17:46,119 --> 00:17:50,200 Speaker 2: But either way, you can always tell, like your voice changes, 434 00:17:50,359 --> 00:17:51,760 Speaker 2: your body language changes. 435 00:17:52,280 --> 00:17:54,080 Speaker 3: And also if I've been with you, this. 436 00:17:54,119 --> 00:17:55,639 Speaker 2: Is not my first time where I'm with you and 437 00:17:55,680 --> 00:17:57,760 Speaker 2: you introduce me to someone of the opposite sex. 438 00:17:58,200 --> 00:18:00,040 Speaker 3: I can tell the difference like. 439 00:18:00,240 --> 00:18:03,720 Speaker 2: I can just tell Yeah, I can watch people's interaction 440 00:18:03,920 --> 00:18:06,360 Speaker 2: just in a you know, an interviewer from across the room. 441 00:18:06,359 --> 00:18:08,640 Speaker 2: But I also because of what I do for work, 442 00:18:08,680 --> 00:18:10,720 Speaker 2: I feel like I can read people's body language very 443 00:18:10,720 --> 00:18:13,159 Speaker 2: well in people's cues, like I can tell about how 444 00:18:13,200 --> 00:18:15,080 Speaker 2: you answer the phone that whoever on the other end 445 00:18:15,119 --> 00:18:16,320 Speaker 2: of the phone you didn't want to answer, you just 446 00:18:16,320 --> 00:18:17,440 Speaker 2: did it because I'm sitting right here. 447 00:18:17,960 --> 00:18:21,560 Speaker 4: Yes, yes, I can. I can definitely do that. The 448 00:18:21,720 --> 00:18:24,199 Speaker 4: energy of the call definitely leaks by the way you 449 00:18:24,240 --> 00:18:25,679 Speaker 4: communicate energy of the. 450 00:18:25,720 --> 00:18:27,600 Speaker 3: Call, or this would be the one, the energy of 451 00:18:27,640 --> 00:18:38,639 Speaker 3: the what this nigga want? No baby J I'd be like, 452 00:18:38,800 --> 00:18:39,640 Speaker 3: it's two am. 453 00:18:39,640 --> 00:18:43,840 Speaker 2: Call him back, Let's make sure he's okay. Yeah, all right, 454 00:18:44,080 --> 00:18:46,600 Speaker 2: thank you DJ. Also, we appreciate you for calling, you 455 00:18:46,760 --> 00:18:51,640 Speaker 2: for having me you okay, guys. So that has been 456 00:18:51,720 --> 00:18:54,320 Speaker 2: another episode of On the Line with Lauren L. Rosa, 457 00:18:54,720 --> 00:18:57,080 Speaker 2: which is, you know, where we bring all things pop 458 00:18:57,080 --> 00:19:00,439 Speaker 2: culture and entertainment, news and conversation to what the listeners 459 00:19:00,640 --> 00:19:02,960 Speaker 2: you want to talk to us about and what's actually 460 00:19:03,000 --> 00:19:05,639 Speaker 2: happening in real time. That we can also compare to 461 00:19:05,640 --> 00:19:08,680 Speaker 2: pop culture. Branded Here with us for another episode is fine, 462 00:19:08,680 --> 00:19:09,320 Speaker 2: and I feel like I'm. 463 00:19:09,240 --> 00:19:11,040 Speaker 1: Being painted in a better light this time around. 464 00:19:11,119 --> 00:19:13,040 Speaker 2: All right, y'all, so this has been another episode. I 465 00:19:13,119 --> 00:19:15,959 Speaker 2: tell you guys, every single episode, my low Riders. 466 00:19:16,000 --> 00:19:18,560 Speaker 3: I appreciate you guys for being here with me. 467 00:19:18,640 --> 00:19:21,040 Speaker 2: Y'all could be anywhere with any old body talking about 468 00:19:21,080 --> 00:19:22,680 Speaker 2: all these things, which y'all choose to be here. 469 00:19:23,000 --> 00:19:24,640 Speaker 3: I'll catch you in my next episode.