1 00:00:19,720 --> 00:00:23,120 Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, Emily Abadi here coming to you from the 2 00:00:23,160 --> 00:00:26,840 Speaker 1: AG studio. You are listening to another installment of five 3 00:00:27,440 --> 00:00:30,720 Speaker 1: minutes Friday from Hurdle. I feel like it's been a 4 00:00:30,760 --> 00:00:34,120 Speaker 1: moment since I've sat down and candidly talked to you all. 5 00:00:34,159 --> 00:00:38,120 Speaker 1: Do you miss me? I hope your year is off 6 00:00:38,159 --> 00:00:41,240 Speaker 1: to a good start. I said this to a friend yesterday. 7 00:00:41,240 --> 00:00:43,440 Speaker 1: I feel like I have been holed up like in 8 00:00:43,479 --> 00:00:47,479 Speaker 1: my apartment, partly a little just anxious about all of 9 00:00:47,520 --> 00:00:50,960 Speaker 1: the things gestures loosely with COVID, and then partly because 10 00:00:51,000 --> 00:00:55,480 Speaker 1: I'm just working really hard to set a stellar foundation 11 00:00:55,760 --> 00:00:57,960 Speaker 1: for what it is I hope to build this year. 12 00:00:59,200 --> 00:01:02,920 Speaker 1: On that note of setting a stellar foundation, today I 13 00:01:02,960 --> 00:01:05,160 Speaker 1: want to talk to you about something that I haven't 14 00:01:05,240 --> 00:01:08,960 Speaker 1: been committed to. I would say arguably. I mean, with 15 00:01:09,880 --> 00:01:14,480 Speaker 1: the caveat of physical therapy, I haven't been committed to 16 00:01:14,520 --> 00:01:23,600 Speaker 1: this to this level since maybe like twenty sixteen. And that, 17 00:01:24,480 --> 00:01:27,960 Speaker 1: my dear hurdlers, is strength training. You know, it's so funny, 18 00:01:28,040 --> 00:01:31,200 Speaker 1: right identify as a runner and you'll hear runners say 19 00:01:31,240 --> 00:01:34,520 Speaker 1: all the time, like I am going to strength train 20 00:01:34,880 --> 00:01:37,240 Speaker 1: if I strength train and do single leg stuff and 21 00:01:37,280 --> 00:01:39,520 Speaker 1: think about balance, then I will be a better runner. 22 00:01:39,840 --> 00:01:42,240 Speaker 1: And because I have all of these lofty running goals 23 00:01:42,280 --> 00:01:44,440 Speaker 1: and I'm going to make it a priority. But like, 24 00:01:44,480 --> 00:01:46,760 Speaker 1: how many times have you or at least I mean, 25 00:01:46,800 --> 00:01:48,480 Speaker 1: I won't okay, I won't project on you, But how 26 00:01:48,480 --> 00:01:51,720 Speaker 1: many times have I told myself I am going to 27 00:01:51,720 --> 00:01:54,080 Speaker 1: do that, I'm going to make this priority, and yet 28 00:01:54,120 --> 00:01:57,680 Speaker 1: I do the bare minimum just so I can get by. 29 00:01:58,520 --> 00:01:58,840 Speaker 2: Well. 30 00:01:59,160 --> 00:02:02,320 Speaker 1: I finally, just after navigating injury this marathon season, that 31 00:02:02,400 --> 00:02:05,040 Speaker 1: I was going to commit to string training and to 32 00:02:05,320 --> 00:02:09,320 Speaker 1: act on that goal and make it something that really happened. 33 00:02:09,800 --> 00:02:13,120 Speaker 1: I took it to the next level and decided to 34 00:02:13,320 --> 00:02:15,880 Speaker 1: start working with a trainer, not one on one in 35 00:02:15,919 --> 00:02:17,959 Speaker 1: a physical setting here in New York, like inside of 36 00:02:18,000 --> 00:02:21,320 Speaker 1: an equinox, but rather via the Future app. I wrote 37 00:02:21,360 --> 00:02:23,840 Speaker 1: an article all about my experience. To read about it, 38 00:02:23,880 --> 00:02:25,800 Speaker 1: you can click on over to the show notes and 39 00:02:26,120 --> 00:02:29,560 Speaker 1: check out the link on GQ. But all this to say, 40 00:02:29,919 --> 00:02:32,720 Speaker 1: I decided to commit to working with a personal trainer 41 00:02:32,800 --> 00:02:35,320 Speaker 1: on an app that gives them to you on demand 42 00:02:35,320 --> 00:02:37,200 Speaker 1: for one hundred and fifty dollars a month, and by 43 00:02:37,280 --> 00:02:41,280 Speaker 1: doing that I put more skin in the game. Is 44 00:02:41,320 --> 00:02:44,440 Speaker 1: that the right saying here, I decided, okay, you want 45 00:02:44,480 --> 00:02:47,079 Speaker 1: to take this seriously. When you've tried to quote unquote 46 00:02:47,080 --> 00:02:49,640 Speaker 1: take this seriously in the past, it hasn't worked. So 47 00:02:49,720 --> 00:02:53,799 Speaker 1: what can you do differently right now? And that act 48 00:02:54,400 --> 00:02:59,040 Speaker 1: right me telling myself that first and foremost, that's the 49 00:02:59,120 --> 00:03:03,119 Speaker 1: first step. Whether we're talking about strength training or we're 50 00:03:03,120 --> 00:03:07,120 Speaker 1: talking about drinking more water. When you want to make 51 00:03:07,160 --> 00:03:09,440 Speaker 1: a change, the first thing you need to do to 52 00:03:09,480 --> 00:03:12,800 Speaker 1: make that change is admit what your current circumstance is. 53 00:03:13,320 --> 00:03:15,440 Speaker 1: And that can be really challenging, right It can be 54 00:03:15,480 --> 00:03:18,200 Speaker 1: really challenging and tough to admit to yourself when you 55 00:03:18,240 --> 00:03:22,160 Speaker 1: maybe haven't done something as well as you had hoped 56 00:03:22,240 --> 00:03:26,480 Speaker 1: in the past. It's all about removing that judgment. If 57 00:03:26,480 --> 00:03:29,680 Speaker 1: you sit there and you get frustrated with yourself, that's 58 00:03:29,800 --> 00:03:34,200 Speaker 1: really not going to do you any good period end sentence, 59 00:03:34,639 --> 00:03:38,800 Speaker 1: exclamation point. So I want you to ask yourself, is 60 00:03:38,840 --> 00:03:41,760 Speaker 1: there something that you want to do right now that 61 00:03:41,840 --> 00:03:44,960 Speaker 1: you need to have a little bit more grace with 62 00:03:45,000 --> 00:03:49,920 Speaker 1: yourself over something that you need to give yourself a 63 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:53,360 Speaker 1: little extra love to go in the direction that you 64 00:03:53,440 --> 00:03:56,320 Speaker 1: know that you want to go in. I'm about a 65 00:03:56,400 --> 00:03:59,240 Speaker 1: month maybe six weeks into the strength training journey, and 66 00:03:59,280 --> 00:04:03,240 Speaker 1: if I had stopped myself before I started, right, if 67 00:04:03,280 --> 00:04:06,680 Speaker 1: I had gotten frustrated with myself about my lack of 68 00:04:06,720 --> 00:04:10,080 Speaker 1: dedication in the past and just believed that I was 69 00:04:10,160 --> 00:04:13,760 Speaker 1: never gonna be quote unquote good at this, then hey, 70 00:04:14,400 --> 00:04:17,359 Speaker 1: that wasn't going to do me any good. Six weeks in, 71 00:04:18,160 --> 00:04:21,600 Speaker 1: I'm really enjoying this, and I'm really proud of myself 72 00:04:21,640 --> 00:04:25,240 Speaker 1: for dedicating this time to a new skill, to a 73 00:04:25,320 --> 00:04:29,000 Speaker 1: new thing and seeing, you know what happens from here. 74 00:04:29,720 --> 00:04:33,440 Speaker 1: My prompt for you this week where in your life 75 00:04:33,480 --> 00:04:34,880 Speaker 1: do you need to get out of your own way? 76 00:04:35,640 --> 00:04:39,599 Speaker 2: What do you want? Where in your life do you 77 00:04:39,760 --> 00:04:43,120 Speaker 2: need to get out of your own way? And what 78 00:04:43,960 --> 00:04:47,279 Speaker 2: do you want? And now a listener question. 79 00:04:48,080 --> 00:04:51,400 Speaker 3: Hi, Emily, my name is Joey, and I've been listening 80 00:04:51,400 --> 00:04:56,160 Speaker 3: to Hurdle pretty much religiously since your Kirsty Godso episode 81 00:04:56,279 --> 00:05:00,559 Speaker 3: like over a year ago. And my question is, after 82 00:05:00,680 --> 00:05:04,040 Speaker 3: you have gone through a hurdle and you learn you 83 00:05:04,120 --> 00:05:06,599 Speaker 3: know some kind of lesson or something to keep you going, 84 00:05:07,400 --> 00:05:10,279 Speaker 3: what is your best advice on keeping that lesson and 85 00:05:10,360 --> 00:05:13,640 Speaker 3: keeping that hurdle in the forefront of your mind? So 86 00:05:13,680 --> 00:05:16,080 Speaker 3: that it's not just a one and done lesson, but 87 00:05:16,160 --> 00:05:19,880 Speaker 3: something that is really advising how you continue going through life, 88 00:05:19,920 --> 00:05:22,799 Speaker 3: so you don't really find yourself going through the same 89 00:05:22,920 --> 00:05:25,960 Speaker 3: problem or the same hurdle. Again, would love to hear 90 00:05:26,000 --> 00:05:26,920 Speaker 3: your insight. Thank you. 91 00:05:28,640 --> 00:05:31,640 Speaker 1: I love the name Joey for a girl. Just on 92 00:05:31,680 --> 00:05:35,560 Speaker 1: the record, Hi Joey, thanks for your question. So I'll 93 00:05:35,600 --> 00:05:38,320 Speaker 1: say this, just because you've been through one tough moment 94 00:05:38,440 --> 00:05:41,520 Speaker 1: doesn't necessarily mean that it makes the rest of the 95 00:05:41,520 --> 00:05:45,480 Speaker 1: difficult moments as you go on through your life less difficult. 96 00:05:45,839 --> 00:05:50,320 Speaker 1: What it does mean is that by getting through one 97 00:05:50,400 --> 00:05:53,800 Speaker 1: hurdle and living to tell the tale, as we all do, 98 00:05:54,440 --> 00:05:57,640 Speaker 1: we then have the opportunities, as you kind of reiterated 99 00:05:57,720 --> 00:06:01,120 Speaker 1: in your question, to implement what we learned from that 100 00:06:01,240 --> 00:06:05,320 Speaker 1: tough time going forward. Now when it comes to remembering 101 00:06:05,440 --> 00:06:10,279 Speaker 1: the lessons, I cannot reiterate this enough. It is so 102 00:06:10,279 --> 00:06:14,400 Speaker 1: so important to reflect on what's going on, even when 103 00:06:14,480 --> 00:06:18,600 Speaker 1: it's hard to reflect on, even when it hurts and 104 00:06:18,640 --> 00:06:21,880 Speaker 1: it's scary and it makes your stomach turn. Right when 105 00:06:21,960 --> 00:06:24,719 Speaker 1: you are going through a tough moment, a tool like 106 00:06:24,880 --> 00:06:31,240 Speaker 1: journaling can be absolutely critical to help you process everything 107 00:06:31,279 --> 00:06:34,599 Speaker 1: that's happening all around you. And maybe if you're not 108 00:06:35,080 --> 00:06:36,920 Speaker 1: the kind of person that loves to write things down 109 00:06:36,920 --> 00:06:39,440 Speaker 1: in a notebook, do something a little bit different. Then 110 00:06:39,680 --> 00:06:43,200 Speaker 1: maybe it's voice notes for yourself, Maybe it's you talking 111 00:06:43,240 --> 00:06:46,040 Speaker 1: to your phone just for you. Maybe it's writing in 112 00:06:46,080 --> 00:06:49,760 Speaker 1: a private online blog, whatever way you can get out 113 00:06:49,800 --> 00:06:52,320 Speaker 1: some of your feelings. It's going to be so helpful 114 00:06:52,360 --> 00:06:54,320 Speaker 1: for you to be able to look back on these 115 00:06:54,360 --> 00:06:58,920 Speaker 1: moments when maybe your perspective was shifted, all felt completely lost, 116 00:06:59,600 --> 00:07:03,840 Speaker 1: and know, being a little bit removed, that you have 117 00:07:03,960 --> 00:07:08,719 Speaker 1: the tools now to get through your deepest, darkest times. 118 00:07:09,400 --> 00:07:12,080 Speaker 1: Ask yourself during these moments and as you go forward, 119 00:07:12,360 --> 00:07:14,920 Speaker 1: what was it during that time that I was proud 120 00:07:14,920 --> 00:07:15,880 Speaker 1: of myself for doing? 121 00:07:16,240 --> 00:07:18,960 Speaker 2: What is one thing or two things, or maybe who 122 00:07:18,960 --> 00:07:22,000 Speaker 2: knows a handful of things that you would have done differently, 123 00:07:22,160 --> 00:07:24,400 Speaker 2: And don't approach that question with a lot of judgment, 124 00:07:24,920 --> 00:07:29,560 Speaker 2: And then how can you harness these skills going forward 125 00:07:30,000 --> 00:07:33,760 Speaker 2: to better show up to challenges as they continue to arise, 126 00:07:33,920 --> 00:07:38,160 Speaker 2: And trust me, they will hurdle moments. They happen for 127 00:07:38,240 --> 00:07:41,160 Speaker 2: all of us, but is up to us to show 128 00:07:41,280 --> 00:07:45,120 Speaker 2: up as they come, knowing that you can make it 129 00:07:45,560 --> 00:07:48,320 Speaker 2: to the other side. Also, one last thing to throw 130 00:07:48,360 --> 00:07:51,520 Speaker 2: into the mix here, remember that even when you feel alone, 131 00:07:52,080 --> 00:07:55,000 Speaker 2: you aren't alone. There's always going to be someone that 132 00:07:55,040 --> 00:07:56,800 Speaker 2: you can talk to about what is going on in 133 00:07:56,800 --> 00:07:59,239 Speaker 2: your life, whether it's a dear friend, a family member, 134 00:07:59,520 --> 00:08:02,720 Speaker 2: a therapy. Pissed, so chin up and keep pushing. 135 00:08:03,360 --> 00:08:06,040 Speaker 1: You've got this. That's it for this week. Make sure 136 00:08:06,040 --> 00:08:08,680 Speaker 1: you're following Hurdle Over at Hurdle podcast. I'm over at 137 00:08:08,680 --> 00:08:13,400 Speaker 1: Emily and Vadi another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.